The SELFISHNESS of narcissists is alarming

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  • Опубліковано 19 жов 2024
  • They are so self-absorbed it’s astounding #narcissist #narcissism #narcissistic
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  • @rockybalboa4593
    @rockybalboa4593 Рік тому +24

    They hate to be inconvenienced in any way

    • @entrthedragon
      @entrthedragon Рік тому +1

      For sure. They want to be first in line. Served first in a restaurant. Wait in traffic. Hate being lost. Flip everyone off in a car. Have to drive. Be a back seat driver. Know the perfect way to go. Yell at Alexa and call her stupid because it didn’t understand her. On and on and on.

  • @ghdodo
    @ghdodo Рік тому +6

    Absolutely horrible horrible creatures!

  • @timothyrday1390
    @timothyrday1390 Рік тому +23

    Their self-absorption is so ingrained and pervasive that it's difficult to recognize as mere selfishness at first. It takes some time to peel back the layers of the onion and understand just how slanted and one-directional their entire mentality really is.

    • @michaelgpartridge2384
      @michaelgpartridge2384 Рік тому +2

      It is so deeply imbedded that you cannot decipher it immediately, almost never. Once you know, you are left wondering how in heaven’s name can this behavior ever be forgiven...

    • @annaburns2865
      @annaburns2865 Рік тому +1

      I have to agree. When my dad left and my mom played the victim, I didn’t blame her, because in that instance she was the victim. But when I became the victim, I wasn’t allowed to be the victim. That was HER role. That’s why I am unhappy that I stood by her the whole time she was a victim. I had no idea that she would not return the favor.

  • @will_Iam61
    @will_Iam61 Рік тому +11

    Yep, when I was struggling to deal with grief from a death, I was getting no support from my spouse and when I verbalized that I felt like I was getting no support, the response was one I will never forget. "I don't support you?" I don't support you?" "If that's true I will just pack and you'll never see me again." "Now, are you sure I don't support you?" - I was feeling so crushed and emotional I lied and apologized for saying that. These people are truly heartless.

    • @michaelgpartridge2384
      @michaelgpartridge2384 Рік тому +4

      Good god, brother, that is horrific. These women who rage like schoolyard bullies behind closed doors, it is harrowing as hell. Get the fuck away, my ex did this shit every day for 17 years. I was completely trapped until she de-homed me at my most trusting moment. I wish you the very best, man.

  • @romaaeropetov5434
    @romaaeropetov5434 Рік тому +11

    Long story short - go NO contact

  • @TonyTruthRx
    @TonyTruthRx Рік тому +4

    Yea and I don’t think they even care.

  • @user-cz8gi2om3n
    @user-cz8gi2om3n Рік тому +8

    The first thing my narc ex said when I called her out for cheating on me was "I can't believe this is happening, this doesn't happen to me." I shit you not.

  • @JacobCarlson-uq1my
    @JacobCarlson-uq1my 10 місяців тому +1

    I have experienced this before and I agree it is very bizarre sickening behavior,i almost wonder if that person has psychopathy .

  • @dyoung2739
    @dyoung2739 Рік тому +6

    💯‼️A narcissist expects the🌍to completely🛑until their issue is resolved. During the pandemic,when he got covid,everything had to stop but not even an “are you ok?” when I got covid from him.

  • @oneofthegoodonesok
    @oneofthegoodonesok Рік тому +9

    Absolutely Dani. I was actually involved in a car crash a few years back and the guy who hit my car was threatening me to call the cops on me for apparently drink driving. I only had just finished work. He was found out to be lying and has to pay the insurance company as it went to a tribunal hearing. They really don't care about anyone or anything unless it benefits them and them only. Also some are pretty bad at lying I have noticed.

    • @NickAm01
      @NickAm01 Рік тому

      Hope they sentenced him to life in Rura Penthe.

  • @irenehamilton2981
    @irenehamilton2981 Рік тому +1

    Facts I had a procedure done on my spine seem like he didn't even care selfish ass

  • @bradmcewen
    @bradmcewen Рік тому +9

    Having met my "narcissism discovery point" at a grief group, attempting a friendship turned manipulator relationship i can tell you this. If the remark is made that they can't relate to anyone there, except you....well, there is your tell tell sign of things to come.

  • @sinjinmonsoon9055
    @sinjinmonsoon9055 Рік тому +4

    My narc sister loves to yell out ' get over it ' but if you say that back.

  • @magvs_mæstro216
    @magvs_mæstro216 Рік тому +7

    It's like a mind F.
    ::56k modem noise::
    All the energy we've invested towards these "individuals" smdh. I think I will stick with monk mode.

  • @thecatlikeprincess
    @thecatlikeprincess Рік тому +3

    So true. When my mom had been hurt in a car accident I was helping her, keeping her company and asking how she was. Then when I go sick with serious breathing issues she never came to see me and would only ask if we bumped into each other.
    Another example (I have too many!) was when she was hurt by someone and she poured out her heart to me about how they were so mean but when it's me she doesn't even give me a minute and switches the subject.
    I'm so glad I see her for who she is now.

  • @itmeiamtheproblemitsme
    @itmeiamtheproblemitsme Рік тому +1

    Narcicists hate that you are happy and they envy and are jelas of your personality. They hate it coz they feel miserable and can't feel okay like you. So yeah they hate you. This just describes my people I know. I just realized that I am sorrounded by them.

  • @johnmaurer2035
    @johnmaurer2035 Рік тому +7

    Unless you've got something that they want, or you can do them some kind of favour, they don't wanna know.
    Find yourself in the hospital, and see how many visits you get.

    • @lauraoliver525
      @lauraoliver525 Рік тому

      Exactly! I recently had a massive heart attack, and he dumped me off at the hospital and didn't come visit me. Then a month later, while I'm still recovering, he tells me I need to get back to work. We don't live together and he doesn't pay my bills. We had discussed living together, but that was his excuse to not commit because I wasn't working, though he makes 115k a year and barely pays any bills or even child support for his children (not with me). Also he constantly says that because he's on blood pressure meds that his heart problems are way worse than mine though I'm the one who had a heart attack and has heart damage 🙉.

    • @johnmaurer2035
      @johnmaurer2035 Рік тому +2

      @lauraoliver525 Think we both know, what caused your heart problems.

    • @lauraoliver525
      @lauraoliver525 Рік тому

      @@johnmaurer2035 Exactly! Thanks.

  • @vvvvel
    @vvvvel Рік тому +3

    When the Narcissist doesn't give a shit about you, the way to push back is to act like a Narcissist...!☕

  • @annaburns2865
    @annaburns2865 Рік тому +1

    Yes! This is my first sign that I knew something was wrong was my mom. She expected me to bend over backwards for her and treat her like a victim even though my world was falling apart and she didn’t give a sh##. That’s why victimization is so wrong. Yes my dad did wrong to her. But she did wrk g to me. She never cared when I was in trouble or had difficulty in my marriage. It makes me sick that I stood by her during my parents divorce. I never thought that she would betray me. I always thought that she was the one that taught me honestly and loyalty, but now I know that I was fortunate enough to learn them in spite of her. And I no longer have to be loyal to her if she is going to be a hypocrite.

  • @rigelb9025
    @rigelb9025 11 місяців тому +1

    If I may, I would rephrase that title as : 'The selfishness of narcissists, is to be expected'.

  • @bogartchichi
    @bogartchichi 9 місяців тому

    Sorry I watch all your videos and forget to press the thumbs up button, hope you keep the videos coming.

  • @rupinderh01
    @rupinderh01 4 місяці тому

    2:00 when you are sick

  • @OlBlueshound
    @OlBlueshound 5 місяців тому

    Sounds like you knew my ex really well.

  • @peterknyk1942
    @peterknyk1942 Рік тому +3

    Unconscionable behavior!

  • @aliceroberts1980
    @aliceroberts1980 Рік тому +6

    Yes you an inconvenience. They can’t be bothered with you and your problems. I mean I actually had a black and white. He doesn’t even care is or pretender to anymore not only that they will take pleasure in your bad lucky or if something happens to you you look at them and their smirking it’s funny

    • @cyndigooch1162
      @cyndigooch1162 Рік тому +1

      @aliceroberts1980 That's exactly right and my recently deceased so-called mother, who lived in another country, seemed to enjoy the misfortune of others, yet people are wondering why I'm not that upset about her death!
      I didn't have much contact with her for years anyway, for various reasons, and I'll never forget her saying that she couldn't wait until I'm 60 years old the last time I did speak to her. She could've at least kept her delight at my aging to herself, BUT that's not how narcissistic individuals operate. 🙁

  • @Rahel8811
    @Rahel8811 8 місяців тому

    Amen!