I don’t waste my time going in spaces that are this superficial…I go to events that are of my own culture and we don’t discriminate at all..anybody can party with us.
Believe it or not good old southern Texas cowboys , fat rednecks, Hispanics blaring Tejano & TON of black folks ALLLLLLLL party together on the beach of river (San Jacinto River) all around a massive bonfire with EVERYONE drunk every weekend here (outside Houston) - DURING COVID & BLM RIOTS. Most racists or Shallow people I ever met were in LA. VERY Wealthy people over 55 usually. Rednecks get a bad reputation because of movies but I have never witnessed a true racist redneck. Texans have married and lived with Hispanics since it was part of Mexico. Louisiana (I was born Cajun) have lived, worked, married, prayed with Creoles & black folks since Cajun immigrated to work the sugar cane fields together. I LOVE the South for that reason. It's the media and powers that be want to dredge up stuff that RICH folks did - the same rich people now are descendants of that are stoking the pot now! We got a sign on our porch it says "All good people welcome" 😊 Katrina we took every one as a community & they did the same for us after Harvey ❤ Good Americans were just that.
Yeah I’m tired of seeing this shit Fr!! I’m moving to La because it’s the only weather I can take in this country that’s in a fairly liberal area and I’m tired of these stories from influencers trying to convince me it’s all this low vibe energy!!! It seems like the crowd they’re surrounding themselves with.
If you skip the Hollywood nightclub and influencer bullshit, Los Angeles is beautiful. You can find amazing friends, hike the mountains, swim in the ocean, hit the beaches, there are beautiful churches and parks, fun activities, things to do, etc. When you get older, you’re not concerned about being the prettiest girl in the room. It’s freeing to be older honestly. It’s all perspective. I just hit my 30 years in California and I love it.
This is so true! I just moved to LA two years ago out of college and it’s amazing. I’m from Ohio so it’s crazy how much there is to do out here. Most of the people in this video are influencers so are attending those kinds of parties and have that kind of social circle. But LA is vast and there’s so many wonderful people and opportunities here. You just have to avoid the soul sucking places
The Hollywood clubs are insanely exploitative to young women. Attractive women are the product that these promoters are selling to older men under the guise of “bottle service”. These women are rarely paid aside from a free entry and a drink or two. Young girls are spending thousands of dollars a year on hair, nails, makeup, and cosmetic procedures to impress door guys and gross older men who don’t respect them. I can speak from experience cause I grew up in LA and frequented these establishments in my late teens/early 20s. I’m glad girls are finally talking about it
I grew up down there. An LA 10 is a girl under 18. It's not that you aren't hot enough you are too old. At 16 I got into every single club or party I wanted. Not in my early 20's though.
That is simply not true. I got into every club at 18 and I got into every club in my 20s. I still get into every club in my 30s if I’m not with my boyfriend. Lies lies lies. Born and raised LA and this is NOT true.
That girl who said fake beauty called it like it is. Imagine feeling superior enough to put other people down when your beauty isn’t even yours, it is fabricated. 🤡 beauty is great because you had to do absolutely nothing to get it, true physical beauty is the face card you were BORN with, anything else is like jlo being praised when it’s not even her vocals 💀
Idk why people hate Jennifer Lopez so much lmao She's a great performer. Leave her THE F*ck alone lol & I wouldn't assume they feel superior because they must have felt inferior in some way to get the work done. & Plastic surgery isn't instant therapy lol Some are depressed afterwards and still feel low self esteem in some way. Imagine thinking deeply about risking death because the way u were born just wasn't good enough lol They weren't born wanting to do that. They see TV, movies and people probably made hateful comments about them.
LA have beautiful girls, not all of them are fake, my neighbors daughter looks like she has had everything done, but I known her since she’s a baby and she’s all natural. The problem with the girl that said fake beauty, is that she’s never seen people from all over the world. Mixed people are so beautiful
What a difference your location makes. This is why I am such an advocate for moving if you're unhappy because you never know if you are actually unhappy or if you are just in the wrong place for you.
This!!! I was born and raised in Cali and I now live outta state, I am the happiest I have ever been in my life! Location definitely plays a huge part.
I’m a Southern California native and when I go out of state I always realize how cute I actually am in my ordinary state, just by how people look at me. It’s very interesting! I felt the most beautiful and had the easiest time dating when I lived in NY for a year! I think any woman who is born in Southern California/ LA/ OC especially if you are a black woman, should travel to just have different experiences in this way. This is a great conversation. Sending love to everyone! ♥️ You’re amazing and beautiful inside and out! ✨
Well said, I also agree.Yeah you can definitely have a better dating Out of state and internationally. I'm grateful that I spent my adolescents outside of california and then came back because I do have a different energy and it does attract men and women. I don't date but I do get offers But I don't pay attention to it mostly because people out here.They just like the idea of you but they can't handle the reality of you and what is required to be in your space. But to add to what you're saying.Certain states Appreciate different types of beauty in BWs Way more than california.
Hell yeah, LA county is racist asf! I grew up in the San Fernando Valley-El Camino High. Clubs, dating, shopping, nail shops, etc; all brutal all racist.
@@truthhurtsohwell05 …….Whites primarily, with a sprinkling of East Indian’s, some Latin’s, a few Asians. But, primarily Caucasians. Sadly, we all know the brothers aren’t necessarily feeling the sistah’s either in LA or the Pacific Northwest in general, so it gets rather tough to date, etc; but that’s a whole other topic for another day.
It’s so dangerous and the cons don’t outweigh the pros, plus I feel as there is not enough medical data on it yet for me to say I would feel safe getting one
I live in CA and I’ve never felt the need to keep up with the Trends . I think the people that fall for all the trends are people that are desperate to fit in certain friend groups. I could care less what people think. I go to the night clubs with little to no makeup and I still get an attention. Its all about confidence at that point. If you feel ugly people will catch on to the negative energy and stay away.
I live here too and I’ve always found that people from other places move here and they have a stereotype in their mind of what a “Californian” is…it’s fake. But they perpetuate that mythology. Real Californians are just regular people, living life.
I agree, I'm 39 and born in LA. Lived in the DMV from adolescence til grown, but been back in LA for one year shy of twenty years. It IS about confidence and magnetism to attract the right type of people in attention Without trying but the thing is about people in LA is many people try too hard...natives and implants. Maybe younger generations may struggle with that, but I could say for my age group and older.We find our own lane and we comfortable where we are. I have no pressure to look a certain way or anything.I simply just do me, and I still attract men and women when I'm ready. You could be the hottest chick or dude Have all the bells and whistles, but if you have no personality no confidence , no magnetism , and you have this aura of desperation about you It is easily detectable with the discerning eye In the Opposite sex isn't going to by into your hype. When you don't follow what everybody else is doing in LA That's when you attract the best People not scripted caricatures. You could be fine as hell , but if you have no confidence or personality, no substance and you thirsty you shooting yourself in the foot
@@Elena-sm2hv same here girl. Growing up with 6 siblings will humble and give you tough skin lol all you need is an amazing personality and confidence, that will have people gravitate towards you.
I think it’s important to understand these ranking systems are rooted in Eurocentric beauty standards. Colorism is HUGE in Los Angeles. So an LA 10 is basically a skinny white blonde blue eyed girl.
I don’t know what you’re talking about but in LA, it’s when you look like you work out and/or look edgy/ ethnically ambiguous. How well you style pieces together.
@@Sound7heWarCry then LA doesn't even have high standards if "ethnically ambigous" is considered attractive. Here in Europe you have to be white in order to even get attention.
Ladies- thin, blonde hair and blue eyes was "in" in the 80s. Then in the 90s it was "exotic". 2000s, anything goes depending on what Kardashians do. You are being influenced by outside sources, don't you see? Be your best self, and please offer the world more than your face. ❤
As a very thin, blonde girl with blue eyes, I get bullied at school. and I know that it is because people hate me for it. God made me the way that I am for a reason. And sometime i feel like i want to dye my hair, or wear tons of makeup, but in reality, I need to realize that everyone is given there own looks for a reason!
@@wiltdwxtch Hollywood culture is not LA Culture. You must not be from Cali or be a transplant gentrified woman. Ppl from LA dont even party in Hollywood 😂😂
It's a White people's country I'm glad they appreciate and admire their own race and people. I'm not White just in case you start playing race card again.
That "white Beauty" standard was set by the same fake celebs that criticize the rest of America. It's perfection standards regaurdless of race. Only Jewish people get promotions in the business world there too. What your seeing as "white" is NOT "Caucasian".
*some* guys will be mad for sure then blame feminism lmfao I had to edit that and emphasize that it's _some_ cuz they will definitely get mad that it's not all men grr I'll cause a war HAHAHA
Yeah I’m an American in France and it’s wayyyy different also older women are gorgeous and stylish here. In the films French woman don’t even have their hair brushed lol
I’m a skinny white girl in Oklahoma I’ve literally been told multiple times that I was too ugly to breathe and if they had to hear my voice or make eye contact that they were going to beat me like the dog that I am. It doesn’t matter how you look, it’s how much you fit their script. People who can find that much ugly in another person are usually not full people so they need someone to fit their ideas of how it should be so that they can become bored and throw them away as a flex.
@@existentialhotdog5380 I was taught to see the beauty in everybody thank god. Most the men in the area I live don’t really see people as people unless they fit a certain criteria that I will NEVER be because I can see myself as a person who has autonomy. Even though it grinds my gears I couldn’t imagine not being able to be around someone just because they won’t drop everything they wanted or worked towards for me. They almost don’t know how to be around anyone different from them unless they can get laid or paid and then also have their ego stroked by still cutting them down the whole time. That’s just what happens when people are raised to believe they deserve more room than others in this world and also have the means to get even the smallest amount of power over others. It’s actually almost sad. I’ve felt hate before and it makes me physically sick, I can’t imagine carrying that around and feeling that every other time I look up in public.
That was difficult to read, im sorry for such ugly People to even have the audacity to adresse you when youre literally a gift from God. Youre created perfectly the way Hé intented. I would lire to send you a sincère hug May Allah swt give you all the blessings in this life and the here after. Xx
LA is one big movie set. How does NO ONE get this?? ITS THE HEART OF THE INDUSTRY. The rest of America IS GENUINE. Why do you think People like Elvis REFUSED TO LEAVE MEMPHIS? Kurt Russell ranch in Colorado or Blake Shelton living on a ranch in Oklahoma. FIFTY Cent in Houston...The girl who went to Europe could have found that in ANY OTHER AMERICAN CITY.
I went to LA about 2 years ago. I’m now living in the south, where everything is big lol. I am small here, but I was like I need to stop eating there. It’s more health conscious, which I like and it makes it easier to be super duper fit. The main thing is why do people of color keep going back to places that don’t want them. Those men in there have the same mindset. They see you as less than due to colorism.
Dark brown girl here not mixed 👋 my experience in LA was so different lol im in no way in my opinion a 10 lol but i do try to look good. But on my trip to LA i sure did feel like one. I even had an experience where the owner of a restaurant paid for my whole meal and my drinks 😂 my whole trip was good vibes. Maybe something was in the air that day because at the time i was living in the bay area and i sure felt like an ugly duckling there. Guys wouldn't even talk to brown girls in the san Francisco and bay area. Anyways just remember there will be people out there who will think you're beautiful no matter how many people say otherwise. It's just terrible that us women are so judged on our appearance so harshly 😭
Yeah I felt nothing but great vibes and high energy when I visited LA I want to move there! I just left SF and it was a DUMPSTER FIRE. Nothing but entitled nerds who weren’t even attractive 😭
I live in NYC. I got into everywhere. I am plain and older and overweight. We always got on the guest lists. If you have friends in finance and fashion and other fields, make sure that you ask to be placed on the guest list at clubs and venues. You need that. Meet the people that work in the clubs. That can work as well. It’s an inside secret. In fact, I became so spoiled, that if anyone wanted me to accomplish them to a club, I’d ask if they were on the guest list. This way you are never picked over. Some girls, super beautiful, would look 👀 shocked as I went in, after speaking to the doormen,bouncers, and I went right in, while when they spoke to the doormen/bouncers, they were told to wait. I was on the guest list.
@@religion-free I learned this when I was young, by the way. Anyway, there are LOTS of things that you personally don’t know, you see that now, right? Live and learn.
These women speaking on seeing yourself as God's creation --👀💖😘 WOW! Needed all of this baby! We are walking miracles and definitely gifts! *Get into it*
Read the Bible and understand your worth as a good woman. Greater than rubies. The Christian God uplifts women in comparison to most religions that see no worth in us. Mother Mary and Mary Magdalene are honored by Jesus and His followers. And no counting the endless wonderful female Saints.
All I hear is a bunch of girls insecurities coming out and caring too much about other girls who don't even know or care they exist. The fact that they don't love themselves already is making them cringe and their energy is so negative. These girls need to stop caring so much.
How is experiencing racism and colourism “insecurities”? A Black women, or any woman of color especially darker complexion not being allowed to get into an establishment because of their race or skin tone is racism and colourism. I mean yes it’s a club so it’s not the end of the world, but at the same time it’s a club? Like people are dancing, drinking, and trying to just have fun, why even discriminate against who can come in so long as they aren’t posing a danger to the ones inside? It’s dumb to tell someone that they don’t look good enough to get into an establishment of degeneracy and half nakedness, like why be so uppity 😂 It’s even dumber when it’s a strip club. Like I’m sorry, your skin is too dark to see women undress themselves and shake their fake tits 🤣
When people mention LA I think they are talking about Hollywood or West LA. Mainly where influencers and celebrities hangout. They are most definitely not talking bout Inglewood,south central, east LA or long Beach just to name a few cities.
I think the girl in the pink top with black hair is a beautiful looking girl has such healthy hair and a beautiful face. And lm a white Australian girl. So don’t worry about what other L A girls or uni people think. You are a beautiful girl.
In NY it’s naturally thick (small waist-big bottom), think a natural Jamaican or Dominican-type body shape. Our men don’t really like BBLs like that here and it’s because they can always tell since they grew up seeing so many naturally thick Caribbean girls here
@@zhamiragonzalez6925I believe the type of men you and the original commenter are talking about are two different kinds of men. I believe you are both right however the men you’re referring to are likely not a higher caliber of men. They tend to like thicker heavy bottomed women. I’m a heavy bottomed woman myself so this isn’t shade I’ve just always noticed it’s a certain type of men that chase after our body type a little more than other men.
Yes I’m from the DC/MD area. I’ve been to clubs in New York, DC and always got in any and everywhere. I moved to Miami in January of this year and was denied at a club in south beach and it was very humbling. But when I saw who the promoter was letting in I realized their standard of beauty is more shaped around plastic looking women. I suddenly didn’t feel so bad. I am also very happy I was raised in the DMV area where people are not as superficial.
Yeah everyone is “good looking” in LA because their “beauty” is FAKE! Nothing but plastic plastic plastic! If you think beauty only exists in LA, then you clearly haven’t met people that are naturally beautiful, they exist everywhere around the world. Maybe you should go out more.
This is not a generational thing, looks have literally also been a determinate in how people are treated, what quality of life they have, even if they are viewed as a fully recognized human being.
That’s so crazy because when I went to LA I felt so out of place. Like I felt like the ugly ducking walking amongst the ppl that live there. They all looked perfect to me and I had to remember that I was in the land of plastic surgery (nothing wrong with that so long as it doesn’t cause health issues) I felt so out of place.
This is so wild to me, because i live in on the coast of Australia and we go down to a cafe in thongs (pluggers, flip flops) & board shorts or a sundress or tights and a tank top, I've never seen anyone with a BBL. A bit of make-up, a butt built in the gym & lash extensions are way more common then $2000 hair, a boob job & Botox every month. There no "set" style , you want to go to the shops as a goth, a glamorous model, a gym fit or farmer no one will make you feel like you don't have the "look" to be in their shop, restaurant or cafe. They'll look at you weird when you come in off your head , or super loud and inconsiderate before giving two cents how you're dressed or how much work you've got done on your face.
Most of California, and a good portion of LA, is like that as well. LA as a whole is generally considered more casual/informal than NYC. As another commenter said, the video must be talking more about Hollywood and other upscale, high income, entertainment industry parts of LA. It's a large city and this video isn't representative of the entire place. I haven't seen a huge amount of LA nightlife, but I've been to some clubs and bars there, and clearly, I wasn't in the areas mentioned in the video because I never experienced anything like that. People there were mostly like people you would see anywhere else, dressed up in a way most people would dress up when going out. I never saw anyone get turned away based on appearance. If there's space and you aren't violent and you aren't too drunk, you get in. That being said, I'm from the suburbs 1 hour north of LA, so I don't actually live there. Maybe there are more areas like this in LA than I realize. I've just not heard that from LA natives (my parents are originally from there and many of my extended relatives still live there).
To the girl at the 4:08 minute mark: HELLO? She is a BEAUTICIAN selling you A SERVICE. Everything you mentioned how to do with your face meaning it's a service she offers. She did not suggest you get a bbl, a boob job, lose weight, or do something with your hair. Everything has to do with your face which means she's just trying to make her $$$
Lol it's sad girls are putting themselves through all this to be let in. These clubs are pathetic, thank god I'm over this. Why do yall file discrimination lawsuits rather than accepting this stupidness.
Personally I’m past the age of wanting to go out clubbing (and I was always more of a “chill lounge with wine and cheese” type of person lol), but these clubs definitely need a reminder that they’re not above the law. Racial discrimination is a big no-no, and every single person/entity needs a wake-up call that the 1964 Civil Rights Act applies to them if they want to play that game.
Know where to place your focus. This is quite shallow. I love the point made about being beautiful as God made you so for the purpose He has made you for. Let’s be humble & thank Him, in all things.🙏
This shit is exhausting. I don’t even live in the states, I live in asia but I get it. Im overweight and I am not the beauty standard here. I’m most likely NOT the beauty standards in the US or Europe by the way these girls are talking about them too.
I'm sorry girl, I really hope you get the love you deserve. Beauty standards are stressful, so you just have to quit the game and be yourself. I'm sure you are beautiful!
The woman in 4:09 is sooooo beautiful 😍. I think the lady that did her eyebrows was just recommending shit for her to do because she may have been lowkey jealous of her beauty.imo
When I got my job I had the choice to be based in any of our West Coast bases including Seattle, Portland and Los Angeles. And as much as I had always dreamed of going to Los Angeles because of the beaches and the mountains and the weather, I actually voted against it simply due to the toxic culture out there. I already knew from jump that everyday was going to be a comparison to other people. And I'm someone that doesn't have any social media. Literally all I have is you tube. So I know how to shut it off and keep myself out of situation that I know will be harmful to my mental. But I knew I could not go out there and just live around all of that and eventually not be affected by it. So I chose Seattle in the end and I ended up loving it and I was so thankful for that. I never went to Los Angeles. I still go and visit but I could never live in such a culture. It's not even just comparing yourself physically it's also comparing yourself with all of your accolades everything is about who do you work with? Who have you worked with? What can you do for me? What can I gain from you etc etc. It's literally like an episode of Black mirror where everyone has a social credit score. No thank you.
It's interesting looking at this which seems like L.A.-white-USA beauty standards vs. Various beauty standards outside of L.A. in the USA and outside of the USA. 🤔
Only saw people with plastic surgery on tv until I went to LA. I was shocked! I couldn’t stop staring. It looks even weirder in real life. I’ve never seen a woman with a lot of surgery look good
I don’t find the women who fit white beauty standards attractive. I find them common. So I would just expect white men to disagree. But that doesn’t really make it true.
Common is objectively wrong as white people are the rarest people in the world, especially white people with blue/ green eyes and blonde/ red/ brown hair
40:49 So glad you included this!! A few days ago I was actually arguing with someone in the comments on one of your other videos who was judging another woman (in a video you included) who was preaching God’s word. She was saying Godly women shouldn’t wear makeup or jewelry & she was so serious and mean about it!
I work in the music industry and when I go to conferences you can tell across a room who is from LA and NY. They look very basic but especially on the men you can tell how much botox and threading is going on
I grew up in SoCal and then moved to SoDak (South Dakota) after freshmen year had started. And I remember my first day of school wearing what was style in Cali and the students could easily pick out the new girl and know where I'm from. Shortly after, rumors had started that I had had a nose job and other cosmetic surgeries. I laughed and told them that I was flattered that they felt my face was that flawless, but naw My Mom and Dad made that.
The community thing is true. I grew up a Black girl in a nearly all-white environment at school and in the city. No one was into me or asked me out, I was chunkier, especially in my thighs and butt and felt fat. I used to try to contract my lips in the mirror so they would look thinner. Then... I moved to a place with an African community and all of sudden, I was a hottie! Men stopped me in the street to tell me how beautiful I was, I was getting asked out left and right, women naturally commented on my beauty like it was obvious, etc. I finally got that it wasn't me, it was the environment. I wasn't beautiful to them but I was very beautiful to others. I kept that confidence when I moved back and now I just look to be around people who like me cause I like me!
I moved to florida and my coworker bullied me for having large breasts, she eventually got a breast augmentation herself.😂 Forget these losers they have no personhood and are lost.
Eastern European women are the most beautiful in the world. The personality standards are next level as well, those women are very capable unlike Western women
When sis broke down loving everything else and seeing beauty in everything else but you! That was my intro to self love. I tried to share that with a friend but she didn’t listen.
An LA 10 is having the hourglass, w/o lookin like u had surgeries for it. And have a youthful appearance w the urge to look older. If ur from the valley ykwim. Ik girls who barely entered freshman yr hs who would get in to clubs. The look here is just homogenized, so youre not ugly. You just dont look like Madison Beer in her old insta photos.
The reason why I don’t believe in surgeries is A. God created me so I’m beautiful B. Even if I gotten the surgery and got complimented, it’s not people complimenting the real me, it’s the post surgery me (which is sad and very sad) C. Who wants to look like everyone else, I swear LA girls all looks like madison beer at this point
Yeah it's not like this in New York at all but Florida is very plastic as well just more accepting of different styles but in New York you will get judged for looking too plastic. Also in some European cities like the Netherlands or Belgium everyone looks kind of the same where Americans pride on individuality Europeans try being a little more uniform.
It would never work. There would be a club full of drunk, fun and pretty women and men would neverrrr lower their prides or their egos to try and compete to get inside 😂 I’m sure you could tell them Margot Robbie was in there and they still wouldn’t take a chance on getting judged as harshly as we are even for a peek. They’d bitch and complain from outside though for sure.
@@lillustpotion it's about not caring, they can get in if they want who cares? It's not about flipping the script, it's about making clubs a place where people go to have fun..not compete for who is hotter.
One day none of this will matter. God created us wonderfully and fearfully. One day none of your beauty will be left and this is why we need to cultivate quality relationships, develop ourselves and if desired create beautiful families that will provide value to society.
I hope the pretty privilege NYC girl does not accept the humbling of her wrist band. that's just a mind eff you determine your own beauty, not someone else's preference
I will say one thing about discrimination and race in beauty standards in regards to the girl around 7:00 . I KNOW I am considered pretty. But if I act like nobody will notice, THEN NOBODY WILL NOTICE because of my energy. White women carry an energy that says 'you will prefer me BECAUSE I'm white'... even if they're mid. But the times where I have not given a FUCK and OWNED my beauty with NO SHAME or BOUNDARIES... white men start drooling. Own your culture, your spice, your attitude, where you're from. It's tantalizing compared to an entitled/whiny woman who think she is OWED attention just for the color of her skin. I know so many absolutely STUNNING black and brown women. We just need to OWN IT.
"White women carry an energy that says 'you will prefer me BECAUSE I'm white'... even if they're mid." ... this is THE TAKE. The girl who said "didn't want to pay my bill bc college girl stuff". No, it's not. It's white privilege.
@@notimportant123 I will be honest with you, that’s not white privilege. It’s an attitude. Many Latina women also have it since they KNOW they will rock your world. Honey, we have brown and black privilege. We are sexy, we are the divine feminine, we are divine mother, divine sex goddess, we are curvy with God’s fertility, we are deep and rich with God’s hand. Now carry THAT. Who WOULDN’T want to lockdown one of us, Melanated Queen. We are not oppressed baby. Remove those mental shackles. Be blessed and remember you are PREFERRED by god and any reasonable man will notice that.
Lol I owned it at a bachelorette party of all white women. I went out feeling like a hottest thing. One guy came To our table and shook hands with everyone but me. Flirted and ask if any of the other lady’s were single (besides the bride). I’m from predominantly black area, so it definitely humbled me and reminded me of when I first went away from college. I think it depends on where you are. The more Diverse an area is, the more likely your uniqueness and beauty is appreciated
everybody has culture. white men and men in general will f anything they can. they will lie about preferences and pit women against each other. i agree to own who you are but don’t center white men or men period in that equation. they say anything for 🐱 women know this in their core but feel a rush to be called spicy lmfao. every woman from every background has something unique to offer in terms of culture, physical appearance, attitude, etc but the woman who wins is the woman who believes that she deserves to. ❤
28:15 ok now walk around sans lashes, makeup, bundles, contouring etc. and with your natural hair and see who wanna hear about Jesus 😅😅😅😅😅😅 the European standard of beauty is doing what it does Sis
POC have to be twice as good for half the credit. Including looks. "Didn't want to pay my bill bc college girl stuff" no, it's not. It's white privilege. BTW Curious about the Persian/Armenian experience, since they constitute a huge population of LA and straddle whiteness (according to my google research). Kim K is Armenian for perspective
from what i’ve seen american persian and armenian women want for nothing 😂 they are imo even more privileged than your average white women on nearly every level but particularly financially
As long as you're feminine, can express yourselves as a woman, be yourself as women and feel comfortable and happy. These days are difficult but it doesn't have to be difficult. As women we love expressing are selfs, we enjoy sensuality because we are in tune with are bodies and have the abilities men don't have. I love Egyptian make up but i also go without makeup when i need to do my duty in life. I don't invole myself in men who don't want a woman to be a woman and criticise me for who i am. I don't have to care what men think about me and i don't have to care what women on makeup stands in department stores think about me without makeup. Yes, i have been disgraced by women in department stores early morning, just threw myself out of bed trying to find makeup for a important event, even racial discrimination from a black makeup stand, because i needed makeup for a black relative for Christmas and men who deliberately just rude to me because i didn't pass the good look examination. People need to give women a break from being so pleasing,vits not just are looks its everything pleasing.
We are created wonderfully and fearfully, ❤ God loves you and your precious in his eyes, I pray for everyone that felt less that they are filled Edith the holy spirit, true sense of acceptance and see their own beauty ❤️
The thirst for superficial validation is concerning These girl's thirst will never be satiated Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and the variety of beauty standards are fluid ... These superficial people are chasing ghosts of themselves... Beyond
@@legslikewhoais this black American who do it or the white people because I am shocked, ( sorry I am not from USA so if my question is offensive pls correct me)
I'm originally from OC and I didn't care about the clubs but it was more seeing other gals get boyfriends or husbands more easily than I did. I'm not overweight but I was very self conscious of my nose. It used to have a hump but once I moved to GA and got my nose done, I realized how hard I was on myself.
So last time I did my nails, the technician asked me with this snarky smile if I want my eye brows done too because they needed it. It felt like she was thinking of hers self as if she is a smart a** and will make me feel insecure. You can imagine that I never went back to her for nails anymore. I am not in LA. But people are more polite in America and I am spoilt.
Man fuck that 😂 ima still live my best life with a cleanse aura walking with my head held high. Stop going places where you’re not wanted period. The patriarchy is cooked anyways.
The girl who loves living in New York, this truly shows you how different people are. I find New York so disgusting and depressing and I’m obviously thinking of Manhattan cos that’s what people usually mean. Brooklyn is actually ok. But I prefer London or Chicago. London is a much more open city with relatively clean transportation system. Chicago has some of the best big city architecture I’ve ever seen, and its people have so much character.
I hate that this is such an accurate video. Ive never had an issues myself getting in, but I have been with friends and family who initially were told they would not be allowed to enter. The head-to-toe look over is REAL.
I live in SoCal and I just don't give a shit. I've been like that my whole life I like what I like and never cared about what was popular never cared to be like other girls. I'm all natural and always have guys asking for my number or trying to give me theirs. I'm not thin, don't wear makeup and have naturally curly hair. Guys have asked me at the grocery store, the gym, randomly complemented at Target and just out walking in Long Beach, I used to work in the oil and gas industry actually doing construction and those guys wouldn't leave me alone lol 😅 I was always like no thanks. I was asked out in middle school and high school never went out with anyone. I think I look like a potato with a frizzy ball of hair and somehow I'm married now. I just think im pretty chill and funny as f if im honest. I've always dressed to my style not society's current standard. I think the difference is that these girls are looking for a certain way of life.
22:48 I was born and raised in London and trust me I stick to the clothes I like. I buy a couple of pairs of the same shirt/jeans/dress that I like and wear them on rotation. 😅 I like those clothes, comfortable and last a long time. And i’ve seen a similar trend in my uni in central London.
I received so much attention in LA city and specially in Santa Barbara but it gave me this strange vibes I live in Chicago I prefer this city more chill but I’m in suburbs way more quiet and no drama
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First girl, I’m pretty sure they pick by who’s inside with the money. Who’s in there buying the most drinks that night. They’re trying to bring in people for them. Probably why some days you can get in and others you can’t. You’re just not the type they need that night. You’re beautiful, I don’t think it’s an attractiveness problem, just a type problem maybe.
21:00 this is the perfect example when guys are talking about recognizing fake beauty. Most think about certain aesthetics when they consider if someone had plastic surgery or is "fake" - blonde, tanned, big boobs, big butt, wears neon colors, has very colorful makeup and so on. As long as you have more modest style, people won't think you are fake even if you are.
So sad glad I am born and raised in NY and literally hosted NYC nightlife parties when I was young getting paid to come and given a section bottles etc just to show my face at a party. My younger years were amazing here in NY. I still go out here with my husband. We like natural baddies here who can just do a little something and are gorgeous! We also celebrate diversity here and have many beautiful women of all ethnicities. Growing up pretty in NY I’ve never felt that way, ever I get compliments still and I’m pushing 40.
I’m a southern Cali native & I was on the scene briefly before moving out the country. I went out with a group of girls & only one of my friends wasn’t able to get in, mind you we knew of the promoters. There was nothing we can do to get her in. Shortly after I moved to Europe & my whole world changed! Do not base your self esteem on one destination. Travel out
Because they have more ideal features..i live in Europe and everyone here has at least acceptable features. No big noses, downturned eyes, hairy faces etc
I don’t waste my time going in spaces that are this superficial…I go to events that are of my own culture and we don’t discriminate at all..anybody can party with us.
Exactly
Exactly they won’t be getting my money and I’m not begging to get in I’ll go where I get respect and celebrated
THIS!!!!
Believe it or not good old southern Texas cowboys , fat rednecks, Hispanics blaring Tejano & TON of black folks ALLLLLLLL party together on the beach of river (San Jacinto River) all around a massive bonfire with EVERYONE drunk every weekend here (outside Houston) - DURING COVID & BLM RIOTS. Most racists or Shallow people I ever met were in LA. VERY Wealthy people over 55 usually. Rednecks get a bad reputation because of movies but I have never witnessed a true racist redneck. Texans have married and lived with Hispanics since it was part of Mexico. Louisiana (I was born Cajun) have lived, worked, married, prayed with Creoles & black folks since Cajun immigrated to work the sugar cane fields together. I LOVE the South for that reason. It's the media and powers that be want to dredge up stuff that RICH folks did - the same rich people now are descendants of that are stoking the pot now! We got a sign on our porch it says "All good people welcome" 😊
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Yeah I’m tired of seeing this shit Fr!! I’m moving to La because it’s the only weather I can take in this country that’s in a fairly liberal area and I’m tired of these stories from influencers trying to convince me it’s all this low vibe energy!!! It seems like the crowd they’re surrounding themselves with.
If you skip the Hollywood nightclub and influencer bullshit, Los Angeles is beautiful. You can find amazing friends, hike the mountains, swim in the ocean, hit the beaches, there are beautiful churches and parks, fun activities, things to do, etc. When you get older, you’re not concerned about being the prettiest girl in the room. It’s freeing to be older honestly. It’s all perspective. I just hit my 30 years in California and I love it.
This is so true! I just moved to LA two years ago out of college and it’s amazing. I’m from Ohio so it’s crazy how much there is to do out here. Most of the people in this video are influencers so are attending those kinds of parties and have that kind of social circle. But LA is vast and there’s so many wonderful people and opportunities here. You just have to avoid the soul sucking places
@@lindsaysmith5474Ohio here. Congrats on your move! 🤎
Love your perspective.
well said l agree
The Hollywood clubs are insanely exploitative to young women. Attractive women are the product that these promoters are selling to older men under the guise of “bottle service”. These women are rarely paid aside from a free entry and a drink or two. Young girls are spending thousands of dollars a year on hair, nails, makeup, and cosmetic procedures to impress door guys and gross older men who don’t respect them. I can speak from experience cause I grew up in LA and frequented these establishments in my late teens/early 20s. I’m glad girls are finally talking about it
I grew up down there. An LA 10 is a girl under 18. It's not that you aren't hot enough you are too old. At 16 I got into every single club or party I wanted. Not in my early 20's though.
That's wild! What the legal club age there?
Wow! Believe it with all we're seeing in the news and have been told even before now about standards and practices in Hollywood. 👀🤔
@@Shelby-s2w 18 in some and 21 in others
That is simply not true. I got into every club at 18 and I got into every club in my 20s. I still get into every club in my 30s if I’m not with my boyfriend. Lies lies lies. Born and raised LA and this is NOT true.
Lol are people allowed to have different experiences?
That girl who said fake beauty called it like it is. Imagine feeling superior enough to put other people down when your beauty isn’t even yours, it is fabricated. 🤡 beauty is great because you had to do absolutely nothing to get it, true physical beauty is the face card you were BORN with, anything else is like jlo being praised when it’s not even her vocals 💀
Feigning possession of a commodity, no different than fake Balenciaga. (In case it wasn't clear, I am agreeing with you).
Very well spoken 🌻
Idk why people hate Jennifer Lopez so much lmao She's a great performer. Leave her THE F*ck alone lol & I wouldn't assume they feel superior because they must have felt inferior in some way to get the work done. & Plastic surgery isn't instant therapy lol Some are depressed afterwards and still feel low self esteem in some way. Imagine thinking deeply about risking death because the way u were born just wasn't good enough lol They weren't born wanting to do that. They see TV, movies and people probably made hateful comments about them.
Same with colour of your skin or financial class
LA have beautiful girls, not all of them are fake, my neighbors daughter looks like she has had everything done, but I known her since she’s a baby and she’s all natural. The problem with the girl that said fake beauty, is that she’s never seen people from all over the world. Mixed people are so beautiful
Nah my heart goes out to the friend that was sent home alone.
Me too, i was that friend. Then I lost 50 pounds and told them all to f off ❤
I couldnt leave a friend behind like that
@@garyprater8139 me too! Id feel so terrible about it. A real friend would say “okay the club dont want my friend, then i dont want this club”
I would literally KMS (ropemaxx😍)
Real friends would have left with her. If she can’t come then WE are not going
What a difference your location makes. This is why I am such an advocate for moving if you're unhappy because you never know if you are actually unhappy or if you are just in the wrong place for you.
This!!! I was born and raised in Cali and I now live outta state, I am the happiest I have ever been in my life! Location definitely plays a huge part.
@@Anavaeebaee awww I love that you’ve found your happy place 💜✨
I’m a Southern California native and when I go out of state I always realize how cute I actually am in my ordinary state, just by how people look at me. It’s very interesting! I felt the most beautiful and had the easiest time dating when I lived in NY for a year! I think any woman who is born in Southern California/ LA/ OC especially if you are a black woman, should travel to just have different experiences in this way. This is a great conversation. Sending love to everyone! ♥️ You’re amazing and beautiful inside and out! ✨
Well said, I also agree.Yeah you can definitely have a better dating Out of state and internationally. I'm grateful that I spent my adolescents outside of california and then came back because I do have a different energy and it does attract men and women. I don't date but I do get offers But I don't pay attention to it mostly because people out here.They just like the idea of you but they can't handle the reality of you and what is required to be in your space. But to add to what you're saying.Certain states Appreciate different types of beauty in BWs Way more than california.
Hell yeah, LA county is racist asf! I grew up in the San Fernando Valley-El Camino High. Clubs, dating, shopping, nail shops, etc; all brutal all racist.
@@loveroflife8852 was most of the racism from brown or white people?
@@truthhurtsohwell05 …….Whites primarily, with a sprinkling of East Indian’s, some Latin’s, a few Asians. But, primarily Caucasians. Sadly, we all know the brothers aren’t necessarily feeling the sistah’s either in LA or the Pacific Northwest in general, so it gets rather tough to date, etc; but that’s a whole other topic for another day.
I met three of the best guys I ever dated in NYC. I married the third one ❤️ Cali girls should definitely travel elsewhere for real love.
You couldn’t pay me to get a BBL …. I don’t care if every woman did it- NEVER
Facts
It’s so dangerous and the cons don’t outweigh the pros, plus I feel as there is not enough medical data on it yet for me to say I would feel safe getting one
I’m with ya on that one.
I live in CA and I’ve never felt the need to keep up with the Trends . I think the people that fall for all the trends are people that are desperate to fit in certain friend groups. I could care less what people think. I go to the night clubs with little to no makeup and I still get an attention. Its all about confidence at that point. If you feel ugly people will catch on to the negative energy and stay away.
humble brag? lol
@@Elena-sm2hv 👏👏👏👏
I live here too and I’ve always found that people from other places move here and they have a stereotype in their mind of what a “Californian” is…it’s fake. But they perpetuate that mythology. Real Californians are just regular people, living life.
I agree, I'm 39 and born in LA. Lived in the DMV from adolescence til grown, but been back in LA for one year shy of twenty years. It IS about confidence and magnetism to attract the right type of people in attention Without trying but the thing is about people in LA is many people try too hard...natives and implants. Maybe younger generations may struggle with that, but I could say for my age group and older.We find our own lane and we comfortable where we are. I have no pressure to look a certain way or anything.I simply just do me, and I still attract men and women when I'm ready. You could be the hottest chick or dude Have all the bells and whistles, but if you have no personality no confidence , no magnetism , and you have this aura of desperation about you It is easily detectable with the discerning eye In the
Opposite sex isn't going to by into your hype. When you don't follow what everybody else is doing in LA That's when you attract the best People not scripted caricatures. You could be fine as hell , but if you have no confidence or personality, no substance and you thirsty you shooting yourself in the foot
@@Elena-sm2hv same here girl. Growing up with 6 siblings will humble and give you tough skin lol all you need is an amazing personality and confidence, that will have people gravitate towards you.
I think it’s important to understand these ranking systems are rooted in Eurocentric beauty standards.
Colorism is HUGE in Los Angeles.
So an LA 10 is basically a skinny white blonde blue eyed girl.
I believe it, I bet the Latinos are very much pushing it.
FEATURISM as well
No, sorry but that is everywhere. Not just blonde though, you can be brown haired and blue/ green eyed too. But everywhere white is rated higher
I don’t know what you’re talking about but in LA, it’s when you look like you work out and/or look edgy/ ethnically ambiguous. How well you style pieces together.
@@Sound7heWarCry then LA doesn't even have high standards if "ethnically ambigous" is considered attractive. Here in Europe you have to be white in order to even get attention.
Ladies- thin, blonde hair and blue eyes was "in" in the 80s. Then in the 90s it was "exotic". 2000s, anything goes depending on what Kardashians do. You are being influenced by outside sources, don't you see? Be your best self, and please offer the world more than your face. ❤
and the influencers don't even look like that naturally
As a very thin, blonde girl with blue eyes, I get bullied at school. and I know that it is because people hate me for it. God made me the way that I am for a reason. And sometime i feel like i want to dye my hair, or wear tons of makeup, but in reality, I need to realize that everyone is given there own looks for a reason!
I need yall to stop calling Hollywood culture, LA culture 😂
No where near from Cali and i agree 😭
Hollywood is literally in LA
@@wiltdwxtch Hollywood culture is not LA Culture. You must not be from Cali or be a transplant gentrified woman. Ppl from LA dont even party in Hollywood 😂😂
I think that’s why I was confused this whole video
La is more about race and gangs while Hollywood is more the elite and parties
Also LA is very “white” bauty. It’s all about body too. You cannot be fat in LA
It is the epitome of toxic whiteness
It's a White people's country I'm glad they appreciate and admire their own race and people. I'm not White just in case you start playing race card again.
@@EVA-ki5vwyou def are white😂😂😂 and you’re WRONG. LA is mostly Latino
LA is Hispanic. Just like Texas, New Mexico & Arizona. 😮
That "white Beauty" standard was set by the same fake celebs that criticize the rest of America. It's perfection standards regaurdless of race. Only Jewish people get promotions in the business world there too. What your seeing as "white" is NOT "Caucasian".
Imagine a lady working the door .. and only letting fine/ tall/rich guys into the club lmao NO NORMYS 😭💭
They couldn’t even begin to take!
Nobody is stopping women from opening their own clubs and doing that
*some* guys will be mad for sure then blame feminism lmfao
I had to edit that and emphasize that it's _some_ cuz they will definitely get mad that it's not all men grr I'll cause a war HAHAHA
That sounds like a great idea hold up😂
@@evaphillips2102
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That one girl who went from LA to France is amazing! She gets it.
Yeah I’m an American in France and it’s wayyyy different also older women are gorgeous and stylish here. In the films French woman don’t even have their hair brushed lol
I’m a skinny white girl in Oklahoma
I’ve literally been told multiple times that I was too ugly to breathe and if they had to hear my voice or make eye contact that they were going to beat me like the dog that I am. It doesn’t matter how you look, it’s how much you fit their script. People who can find that much ugly in another person are usually not full people so they need someone to fit their ideas of how it should be so that they can become bored and throw them away as a flex.
That level of hate sounds like "targeted individual'. The system or Satan trying to lower your energy
This sounds so awful! I hope you see the light and beauty in you. 🤍🤍🤍
@@existentialhotdog5380 I was taught to see the beauty in everybody thank god. Most the men in the area I live don’t really see people as people unless they fit a certain criteria that I will NEVER be because I can see myself as a person who has autonomy. Even though it grinds my gears I couldn’t imagine not being able to be around someone just because they won’t drop everything they wanted or worked towards for me. They almost don’t know how to be around anyone different from them unless they can get laid or paid and then also have their ego stroked by still cutting them down the whole time. That’s just what happens when people are raised to believe they deserve more room than others in this world and also have the means to get even the smallest amount of power over others. It’s actually almost sad. I’ve felt hate before and it makes me physically sick, I can’t imagine carrying that around and feeling that every other time I look up in public.
That was difficult to read, im sorry for such ugly People to even have the audacity to adresse you when youre literally a gift from God. Youre created perfectly the way Hé intented. I would lire to send you a sincère hug May Allah swt give you all the blessings in this life and the here after. Xx
Oklahoma girl here too! I feel you!!
LA is one big movie set. How does NO ONE get this?? ITS THE HEART OF THE INDUSTRY. The rest of America IS GENUINE. Why do you think People like Elvis REFUSED TO LEAVE MEMPHIS? Kurt Russell ranch in Colorado or Blake Shelton living on a ranch in Oklahoma. FIFTY Cent in Houston...The girl who went to Europe could have found that in ANY OTHER AMERICAN CITY.
50 Cent is from New York.
@@helenatubeshe means he could live in LA but chooses not to.
As a girl in Ohio I can tell you makeup, filler, hair extensions and lashes are definitely the norm here.
@@IAmEmber I live in Dallas & Houston. It's the norm here but you DON'T have to. Those girls just look high maintenance.
@@helenatube I know where he is from. He chooses to live in Houston.
I went to LA about 2 years ago. I’m now living in the south, where everything is big lol. I am small here, but I was like I need to stop eating there. It’s more health conscious, which I like and it makes it easier to be super duper fit.
The main thing is why do people of color keep going back to places that don’t want them. Those men in there have the same mindset. They see you as less than due to colorism.
Dark brown girl here not mixed 👋 my experience in LA was so different lol im in no way in my opinion a 10 lol but i do try to look good. But on my trip to LA i sure did feel like one. I even had an experience where the owner of a restaurant paid for my whole meal and my drinks 😂 my whole trip was good vibes. Maybe something was in the air that day because at the time i was living in the bay area and i sure felt like an ugly duckling there. Guys wouldn't even talk to brown girls in the san Francisco and bay area. Anyways just remember there will be people out there who will think you're beautiful no matter how many people say otherwise. It's just terrible that us women are so judged on our appearance so harshly 😭
very positive message
Yeah I felt nothing but great vibes and high energy when I visited LA I want to move there! I just left SF and it was a DUMPSTER FIRE. Nothing but entitled nerds who weren’t even attractive 😭
OFC the bay is racist it's just fugly white people and the asians desperately chasing after them
damn us nerds catching strays
I live in NYC. I got into everywhere. I am plain and older and overweight. We always got on the guest lists.
If you have friends in finance and fashion and other fields, make sure that you ask to be placed on the guest list at clubs and venues. You need that. Meet the people that work in the clubs. That can work as well.
It’s an inside secret. In fact, I became so spoiled, that if anyone wanted me to accomplish them to a club, I’d ask if they were on the guest list. This way you are never picked over. Some girls, super beautiful, would look 👀 shocked as I went in, after speaking to the doormen,bouncers, and I went right in, while when they spoke to the doormen/bouncers, they were told to wait.
I was on the guest list.
I didn't know that
elders also go to
clubs? thought it
was a younin thing
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I learned this when I was young, by the way. Anyway, there are LOTS of things that you personally don’t know, you see that now, right?
Live and learn.
These women speaking on seeing yourself as God's creation --👀💖😘 WOW! Needed all of this baby! We are walking miracles and definitely gifts! *Get into it*
Amen ❤
Read the Bible and understand your worth as a good woman. Greater than rubies. The Christian God uplifts women in comparison to most religions that see no worth in us. Mother Mary and Mary Magdalene are honored by Jesus and His followers. And no counting the endless wonderful female Saints.
Clubs are dumb; the real parties are outside the club 💅🏻💅🏻
All I hear is a bunch of girls insecurities coming out and caring too much about other girls who don't even know or care they exist. The fact that they don't love themselves already is making them cringe and their energy is so negative. These girls need to stop caring so much.
For real for real
Yup
lmao "the problem isn't society, just love yourself, you insecure idiot." reinforcing behaviour yikes.
Agreed.
How is experiencing racism and colourism “insecurities”? A Black women, or any woman of color especially darker complexion not being allowed to get into an establishment because of their race or skin tone is racism and colourism. I mean yes it’s a club so it’s not the end of the world, but at the same time it’s a club? Like people are dancing, drinking, and trying to just have fun, why even discriminate against who can come in so long as they aren’t posing a danger to the ones inside? It’s dumb to tell someone that they don’t look good enough to get into an establishment of degeneracy and half nakedness, like why be so uppity 😂 It’s even dumber when it’s a strip club. Like I’m sorry, your skin is too dark to see women undress themselves and shake their fake tits 🤣
When people mention LA I think they are talking about Hollywood or West LA. Mainly where influencers and celebrities hangout. They are most definitely not talking bout Inglewood,south central, east LA or long Beach just to name a few cities.
Where the real parties is at… & people don’t act like snobs we all just wanna get lit.
I think the girl in the pink top with black hair is a beautiful looking girl has such healthy hair and a beautiful face. And lm a white Australian girl. So don’t worry about what other L A girls or uni people think. You are a beautiful girl.
Underage and mixed is the standard in that society. Any age and mixed or white Hispanic in Miami. Passing/ light Hispanic in Texas. Slim in New York.
In NY it’s naturally thick (small waist-big bottom), think a natural Jamaican or Dominican-type body shape. Our men don’t really like BBLs like that here and it’s because they can always tell since they grew up seeing so many naturally thick Caribbean girls here
Lol. Majority of those girls have bbls. L m a o. And the vast vast majority of men cannot tell the difference. And some women really cant either
@@zhamiragonzalez6925 they like skinny in NY. They really don't hype over thick girls over here unless it's black people
Hmm this is not accurate in my experience and I’m from NY
@@zhamiragonzalez6925I believe the type of men you and the original commenter are talking about are two different kinds of men. I believe you are both right however the men you’re referring to are likely not a higher caliber of men. They tend to like thicker heavy bottomed women. I’m a heavy bottomed woman myself so this isn’t shade I’ve just always noticed it’s a certain type of men that chase after our body type a little more than other men.
Yes I’m from the DC/MD area. I’ve been to clubs in New York, DC and always got in any and everywhere. I moved to Miami in January of this year and was denied at a club in south beach and it was very humbling. But when I saw who the promoter was letting in I realized their standard of beauty is more shaped around plastic looking women. I suddenly didn’t feel so bad. I am also very happy I was raised in the DMV area where people are not as superficial.
LA is a beautiful oriented city and everyone is extremely good looking. Honestly, LA will make you think everywhere else is ugly. It’s not joke
They sound superficial and inauthentic to me 👎
Not real LA.
It's because of THE INDUSTRY.
Yeah everyone is “good looking” in LA because their “beauty” is FAKE! Nothing but plastic plastic plastic! If you think beauty only exists in LA, then you clearly haven’t met people that are naturally beautiful, they exist everywhere around the world. Maybe you should go out more.
If your self worth depends on getting into a club, you've already lost.
This generation is so shallow and superficial. Why does look matter...😂
it's a humans thing, not a generational thing. It's how the human brain works.
Looks have and will always matter, maybe a little bit less in the past but let’s not act like this is something that just started.
@@inesf9508 The human brain is also capable of being introspective about how we treat others based on the way they look.
Looks have always mattered
This is not a generational thing, looks have literally also been a determinate in how people are treated, what quality of life they have, even if they are viewed as a fully recognized human being.
That’s so crazy because when I went to LA I felt so out of place. Like I felt like the ugly ducking walking amongst the ppl that live there. They all looked perfect to me and I had to remember that I was in the land of plastic surgery (nothing wrong with that so long as it doesn’t cause health issues) I felt so out of place.
This is so wild to me, because i live in on the coast of Australia and we go down to a cafe in thongs (pluggers, flip flops) & board shorts or a sundress or tights and a tank top, I've never seen anyone with a BBL.
A bit of make-up, a butt built in the gym & lash extensions are way more common then $2000 hair, a boob job & Botox every month.
There no "set" style , you want to go to the shops as a goth, a glamorous model, a gym fit or farmer no one will make you feel like you don't have the "look" to be in their shop, restaurant or cafe. They'll look at you weird when you come in off your head , or super loud and inconsiderate before giving two cents how you're dressed or how much work you've got done on your face.
Same in Louisiana
Most of California, and a good portion of LA, is like that as well. LA as a whole is generally considered more casual/informal than NYC. As another commenter said, the video must be talking more about Hollywood and other upscale, high income, entertainment industry parts of LA. It's a large city and this video isn't representative of the entire place.
I haven't seen a huge amount of LA nightlife, but I've been to some clubs and bars there, and clearly, I wasn't in the areas mentioned in the video because I never experienced anything like that. People there were mostly like people you would see anywhere else, dressed up in a way most people would dress up when going out. I never saw anyone get turned away based on appearance. If there's space and you aren't violent and you aren't too drunk, you get in.
That being said, I'm from the suburbs 1 hour north of LA, so I don't actually live there. Maybe there are more areas like this in LA than I realize. I've just not heard that from LA natives (my parents are originally from there and many of my extended relatives still live there).
Sounds like a great place for me!
Not being desirable is a blessing
How so? Just curious
Also I still don’t understand how some people want to live in LA where there’s other states that are not as toxic and expensive.
Whoa, the club stories are just insane, omg.
To the girl at the 4:08 minute mark: HELLO? She is a BEAUTICIAN selling you A SERVICE. Everything you mentioned how to do with your face meaning it's a service she offers. She did not suggest you get a bbl, a boob job, lose weight, or do something with your hair. Everything has to do with your face which means she's just trying to make her $$$
right. she HUSTLING.
stop making it about
you 🙄 it's not about
you, she just jobbing
But how do we know she pitches to all of her clients? Or which ones she is choosing not to?
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised” is a verse from the Bible, Proverbs 31:30
Lol it's sad girls are putting themselves through all this to be let in. These clubs are pathetic, thank god I'm over this. Why do yall file discrimination lawsuits rather than accepting this stupidness.
Personally I’m past the age of wanting to go out clubbing (and I was always more of a “chill lounge with wine and cheese” type of person lol), but these clubs definitely need a reminder that they’re not above the law. Racial discrimination is a big no-no, and every single person/entity needs a wake-up call that the 1964 Civil Rights Act applies to them if they want to play that game.
Know where to place your focus. This is quite shallow. I love the point made about being beautiful as God made you so for the purpose He has made you for. Let’s be humble & thank Him, in all things.🙏
This shit is exhausting. I don’t even live in the states, I live in asia but I get it. Im overweight and I am not the beauty standard here. I’m most likely NOT the beauty standards in the US or Europe by the way these girls are talking about them too.
Yeah, this shit is sick😞
I'm sorry girl, I really hope you get the love you deserve. Beauty standards are stressful, so you just have to quit the game and be yourself. I'm sure you are beautiful!
The woman in 4:09 is sooooo beautiful 😍. I think the lady that did her eyebrows was just recommending shit for her to do because she may have been lowkey jealous of her beauty.imo
When I got my job I had the choice to be based in any of our West Coast bases including Seattle, Portland and Los Angeles. And as much as I had always dreamed of going to Los Angeles because of the beaches and the mountains and the weather, I actually voted against it simply due to the toxic culture out there. I already knew from jump that everyday was going to be a comparison to other people. And I'm someone that doesn't have any social media. Literally all I have is you tube. So I know how to shut it off and keep myself out of situation that I know will be harmful to my mental. But I knew I could not go out there and just live around all of that and eventually not be affected by it. So I chose Seattle in the end and I ended up loving it and I was so thankful for that. I never went to Los Angeles. I still go and visit but I could never live in such a culture. It's not even just comparing yourself physically it's also comparing yourself with all of your accolades everything is about who do you work with? Who have you worked with? What can you do for me? What can I gain from you etc etc. It's literally like an episode of Black mirror where everyone has a social credit score. No thank you.
It's interesting looking at this which seems like L.A.-white-USA beauty standards vs. Various beauty standards outside of L.A. in the USA and outside of the USA. 🤔
You DO realize LA is 85percent Hispanic & 15percent Jewish. What you assume are "white" standards are NOT set by Caucasians.
Only saw people with plastic surgery on tv until I went to LA. I was shocked! I couldn’t stop staring. It looks even weirder in real life. I’ve never seen a woman with a lot of surgery look good
I don’t find the women who fit white beauty standards attractive. I find them common. So I would just expect white men to disagree. But that doesn’t really make it true.
Common is objectively wrong as white people are the rarest people in the world, especially white people with blue/ green eyes and blonde/ red/ brown hair
40:49 So glad you included this!! A few days ago I was actually arguing with someone in the comments on one of your other videos who was judging another woman (in a video you included) who was preaching God’s word. She was saying Godly women shouldn’t wear makeup or jewelry & she was so serious and mean about it!
In all seriousness, sis in the red hoodie at 32:00 is on some serious knowledge. I think she truly got the message. ❤🗣🧿✨️
LA is very superficial lived there for years
I work in the music industry and when I go to conferences you can tell across a room who is from LA and NY. They look very basic but especially on the men you can tell how much botox and threading is going on
I grew up in SoCal and then moved to SoDak (South Dakota) after freshmen year had started. And I remember my first day of school wearing what was style in Cali and the students could easily pick out the new girl and know where I'm from. Shortly after, rumors had started that I had had a nose job and other cosmetic surgeries. I laughed and told them that I was flattered that they felt my face was that flawless, but naw My Mom and Dad made that.
That girl that loves New York
Wow I am so happy you found your perfect place to live (: like that's so pure
The community thing is true. I grew up a Black girl in a nearly all-white environment at school and in the city. No one was into me or asked me out, I was chunkier, especially in my thighs and butt and felt fat. I used to try to contract my lips in the mirror so they would look thinner. Then... I moved to a place with an African community and all of sudden, I was a hottie! Men stopped me in the street to tell me how beautiful I was, I was getting asked out left and right, women naturally commented on my beauty like it was obvious, etc. I finally got that it wasn't me, it was the environment. I wasn't beautiful to them but I was very beautiful to others. I kept that confidence when I moved back and now I just look to be around people who like me cause I like me!
The girl at 13mins testimony is really insightful! I appreciate it immensely.
I moved to florida and my coworker bullied me for having large breasts, she eventually got a breast augmentation herself.😂 Forget these losers they have no personhood and are lost.
Ooooh chicky moving to Europe is in for an eye opener. Eastern European beauty standards are next level.
Eastern European women are the most beautiful in the world. The personality standards are next level as well, those women are very capable unlike Western women
I'm so glad I don't subject myself to this type experience
When sis broke down loving everything else and seeing beauty in everything else but you! That was my intro to self love. I tried to share that with a friend but she didn’t listen.
An LA 10 is having the hourglass, w/o lookin like u had surgeries for it. And have a youthful appearance w the urge to look older. If ur from the valley ykwim. Ik girls who barely entered freshman yr hs who would get in to clubs. The look here is just homogenized, so youre not ugly. You just dont look like Madison Beer in her old insta photos.
The reason why I don’t believe in surgeries is A. God created me so I’m beautiful B. Even if I gotten the surgery and got complimented, it’s not people complimenting the real me, it’s the post surgery me (which is sad and very sad) C. Who wants to look like everyone else, I swear LA girls all looks like madison beer at this point
Yeah it's not like this in New York at all but Florida is very plastic as well just more accepting of different styles but in New York you will get judged for looking too plastic. Also in some European cities like the Netherlands or Belgium everyone looks kind of the same where Americans pride on individuality Europeans try being a little more uniform.
Women should go into owning clubs and all these institutions so all these woukd reduuce.
It would never work. There would be a club full of drunk, fun and pretty women and men would neverrrr lower their prides or their egos to try and compete to get inside 😂 I’m sure you could tell them Margot Robbie was in there and they still wouldn’t take a chance on getting judged as harshly as we are even for a peek. They’d bitch and complain from outside though for sure.
@@lillustpotion it's about not caring, they can get in if they want who cares? It's not about flipping the script, it's about making clubs a place where people go to have fun..not compete for who is hotter.
How shallow 😂😂. A human being is so much more than this. Sad.
BEWARE: Video claims to be about Toxic LA Beauty standards but then it turns into a proselytizing God fest...
God loves you the way you are❤
This Amen! 🙏✝️
One day none of this will matter. God created us wonderfully and fearfully. One day none of your beauty will be left and this is why we need to cultivate quality relationships, develop ourselves and if desired create beautiful families that will provide value to society.
I hope the pretty privilege NYC girl does not accept the humbling of her wrist band. that's just a mind eff
you determine your own beauty, not someone else's preference
I will say one thing about discrimination and race in beauty standards in regards to the girl around 7:00 . I KNOW I am considered pretty. But if I act like nobody will notice, THEN NOBODY WILL NOTICE because of my energy. White women carry an energy that says 'you will prefer me BECAUSE I'm white'... even if they're mid. But the times where I have not given a FUCK and OWNED my beauty with NO SHAME or BOUNDARIES... white men start drooling. Own your culture, your spice, your attitude, where you're from. It's tantalizing compared to an entitled/whiny woman who think she is OWED attention just for the color of her skin.
I know so many absolutely STUNNING black and brown women. We just need to OWN IT.
"White women carry an energy that says 'you will prefer me BECAUSE I'm white'... even if they're mid." ... this is THE TAKE. The girl who said "didn't want to pay my bill bc college girl stuff". No, it's not. It's white privilege.
@@notimportant123 I will be honest with you, that’s not white privilege. It’s an attitude. Many Latina women also have it since they KNOW they will rock your world.
Honey, we have brown and black privilege. We are sexy, we are the divine feminine, we are divine mother, divine sex goddess, we are curvy with God’s fertility, we are deep and rich with God’s hand.
Now carry THAT. Who WOULDN’T want to lockdown one of us, Melanated Queen.
We are not oppressed baby. Remove those mental shackles.
Be blessed and remember you are PREFERRED by god and any reasonable man will notice that.
Lol I owned it at a bachelorette party of all white women. I went out feeling like a hottest thing. One guy came To our table and shook hands with everyone but me. Flirted and ask if any of the other lady’s were single (besides the bride). I’m from predominantly black area, so it definitely humbled me and reminded me of when I first went away from college.
I think it depends on where you are. The more Diverse an area is, the more likely your uniqueness and beauty is appreciated
everybody has culture. white men and men in general will f anything they can. they will lie about preferences and pit women against each other. i agree to own who you are but don’t center white men or men period in that equation. they say anything for 🐱 women know this in their core but feel a rush to be called spicy lmfao. every woman from every background has something unique to offer in terms of culture, physical appearance, attitude, etc but the woman who wins is the woman who believes that she deserves to. ❤
Why are you after white men? If you loved yourself you'd be after your own men..you are jelly of white women because you are after their men
Wow! This is exactly what I needed. Beautiful message ❤
28:15 ok now walk around sans lashes, makeup, bundles, contouring etc. and with your natural hair and see who wanna hear about Jesus 😅😅😅😅😅😅 the European standard of beauty is doing what it does Sis
A lot of us do that.
Facts. Her hairline was annoying me lol but she is pretty though
Hi, just curious, what do you mean by the European standard of beauty is doing what it does?
beauty is a tool to get more privileges I see nothing wrong with that
That's what we are meant to use our beauty for as women. Let her cook.
POC have to be twice as good for half the credit. Including looks. "Didn't want to pay my bill bc college girl stuff" no, it's not. It's white privilege. BTW Curious about the Persian/Armenian experience, since they constitute a huge population of LA and straddle whiteness (according to my google research). Kim K is Armenian for perspective
from what i’ve seen american persian and armenian women want for nothing 😂 they are imo even more privileged than your average white women on nearly every level but particularly financially
As long as you're feminine, can express yourselves as a woman, be yourself as women and feel comfortable and happy. These days are difficult but it doesn't have to be difficult. As women we love expressing are selfs, we enjoy sensuality because we are in tune with are bodies and have the abilities men don't have. I love Egyptian make up but i also go without makeup when i need to do my duty in life. I don't invole myself in men who don't want a woman to be a woman and criticise me for who i am. I don't have to care what men think about me and i don't have to care what women on makeup stands in department stores think about me without makeup. Yes, i have been disgraced by women in department stores early morning, just threw myself out of bed trying to find makeup for a important event, even racial discrimination from a black makeup stand, because i needed makeup for a black relative for Christmas and men who deliberately just rude to me because i didn't pass the good look examination. People need to give women a break from being so pleasing,vits not just are looks its everything pleasing.
We are created wonderfully and fearfully, ❤ God loves you and your precious in his eyes, I pray for everyone that felt less that they are filled Edith the holy spirit, true sense of acceptance and see their own beauty ❤️
Wanting to get a nose job is NOT colonialism.
Jesus.
The thirst for superficial validation is concerning
These girl's thirst will never be satiated
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and the variety of beauty standards are fluid ...
These superficial people are chasing ghosts of themselves...
Beyond
In NYC.. in 2013 graduating high school, you could tell who was stylish and trendy now it’s uniform everywhere
I was feelin like what used to be different is now everybody’s go to to be acceptable idk if that’s jus me
it's the same way in FL
You mean Miami? Because in Florida it’s not really like LA.. like at all
Really? Florida? Wow
They’re definitely on the paper bag test out there too.
You meant Miami and it’s very superficial and vein 😐
@@legslikewhoais this black American who do it or the white people because I am shocked, ( sorry I am not from USA so if my question is offensive pls correct me)
I'm originally from OC and I didn't care about the clubs but it was more seeing other gals get boyfriends or husbands more easily than I did. I'm not overweight but I was very self conscious of my nose. It used to have a hump but once I moved to GA and got my nose done, I realized how hard I was on myself.
So last time I did my nails, the technician asked me with this snarky smile if I want my eye brows done too because they needed it. It felt like she was thinking of hers self as if she is a smart a** and will make me feel insecure. You can imagine that I never went back to her for nails anymore. I am not in LA. But people are more polite in America and I am spoilt.
21:15 "They don't make 'em like you these days".... "Umm yes they do!" 😅😂😂
Man fuck that 😂 ima still live my best life with a cleanse aura walking with my head held high. Stop going places where you’re not wanted period. The patriarchy is cooked anyways.
The second half gets very religious fyi
Thx for the warning! Lmao
The girl who loves living in New York, this truly shows you how different people are. I find New York so disgusting and depressing and I’m obviously thinking of Manhattan cos that’s what people usually mean. Brooklyn is actually ok. But I prefer London or Chicago. London is a much more open city with relatively clean transportation system. Chicago has some of the best big city architecture I’ve ever seen, and its people have so much character.
I hate that this is such an accurate video. Ive never had an issues myself getting in, but I have been with friends and family who initially were told they would not be allowed to enter. The head-to-toe look over is REAL.
I live in SoCal and I just don't give a shit. I've been like that my whole life I like what I like and never cared about what was popular never cared to be like other girls. I'm all natural and always have guys asking for my number or trying to give me theirs. I'm not thin, don't wear makeup and have naturally curly hair. Guys have asked me at the grocery store, the gym, randomly complemented at Target and just out walking in Long Beach, I used to work in the oil and gas industry actually doing construction and those guys wouldn't leave me alone lol 😅 I was always like no thanks. I was asked out in middle school and high school never went out with anyone. I think I look like a potato with a frizzy ball of hair and somehow I'm married now. I just think im pretty chill and funny as f if im honest. I've always dressed to my style not society's current standard. I think the difference is that these girls are looking for a certain way of life.
Exactly. There is so much more to SoCal than overpriced nightclubs filled with shallow, toxic people. These ladies need to shift their priorities.
22:48 I was born and raised in London and trust me I stick to the clothes I like. I buy a couple of pairs of the same shirt/jeans/dress that I like and wear them on rotation. 😅 I like those clothes, comfortable and last a long time. And i’ve seen a similar trend in my uni in central London.
I received so much attention in LA city and specially in Santa Barbara but it gave me this strange vibes I live in Chicago I prefer this city more chill but I’m in suburbs way more quiet and no drama
Santa Barbara is not LA, not even same county. Ventura county, its a beach city going into the vinyards. *LA Native* 😅
@@beebeeguest omg sorry for being ignorant 😂 but still loved LA and the attention I received there ❤️
Jesus will give you a new you! Jeaus will transform you. Confess him to be your Lord and saviour and you and your household shall be saved. Jeaus is the truth the way and the life, and no one comes to the father except through him! He came to free the captives of this world. Choose Jesus over all. Hallelujah! Praise the Lord Jesus!!!
Amen!🙏✝️
Isaiah 55:8-9
New International Version
8 “For my thoughts are not your thoughts,
neither are your ways my ways,”
declares the Lord.
9 “As the heavens are higher than the earth,
so are my ways higher than your ways
and my thoughts than your thoughts.
First girl, I’m pretty sure they pick by who’s inside with the money. Who’s in there buying the most drinks that night. They’re trying to bring in people for them. Probably why some days you can get in and others you can’t. You’re just not the type they need that night. You’re beautiful, I don’t think it’s an attractiveness problem, just a type problem maybe.
21:00 this is the perfect example when guys are talking about recognizing fake beauty. Most think about certain aesthetics when they consider if someone had plastic surgery or is "fake" - blonde, tanned, big boobs, big butt, wears neon colors, has very colorful makeup and so on. As long as you have more modest style, people won't think you are fake even if you are.
So sad glad I am born and raised in NY and literally hosted NYC nightlife parties when I was young getting paid to come and given a section bottles etc just to show my face at a party. My younger years were amazing here in NY. I still go out here with my husband. We like natural baddies here who can just do a little something and are gorgeous! We also celebrate diversity here and have many beautiful women of all ethnicities. Growing up pretty in NY I’ve never felt that way, ever I get compliments still and I’m pushing 40.
I'm always staring at the hair lines on the wigs 😅
In la, bc I barely wear makeup, men non stop told me I was beautiful. Try it. It’s quite unusual for them
LA is it's own little bubble. Ho an hour north and you might as well be in Missouri
Why waste your time of these fake af, vain places. Im 100% certain i will get into places that are my interests an/or meant for people of my culture.
Is that a little girl singing at 3:01 or her choice of background music?
Honestly I actually never experienced this in LA. LA has always been good to me.
I’m a southern Cali native & I was on the scene briefly before moving out the country. I went out with a group of girls & only one of my friends wasn’t able to get in, mind you we knew of the promoters. There was nothing we can do to get her in. Shortly after I moved to Europe & my whole world changed! Do not base your self esteem on one destination. Travel out
uk girls liveeee by filler and makeup im so confused now outside in the suburbs ofc they dont care about filler and everyone looks regular..
Humbling to whom? Lol this is crazy!
Right!!!! I was listening to that story like wtf 😂😂😂
This is a much needed conversation. I didn’t really think white women experienced a lot of pressure to have certain features
Because they have more ideal features..i live in Europe and everyone here has at least acceptable features. No big noses, downturned eyes, hairy faces etc
@SilverGreenEyes18 slow down there adolf