Its just like Shera Seven said..." if you are a pretty woman you have to get out of the workforce". What that statement means is as long as youre pretty you will get hate left and right from both men and women. You will never have peace at work.
My mother once said to me “I never told u , u are beautiful, because I didn’t want u to be conceited “…. She just criticized me since my childhood, I ended up in hospital two times because of eating disorder I had for 10 years.
So sorry you experienced this. People don't talk about the jealousy that comes from family when you are attractive. Praying for constant healing for you
People treat you like you have no personality, or you are stupid. People will be shocked if you are intelligent. They will also be shocked if you're funny
100 it is bad to show you are intelligent they go as far as firing you and it is worse when they assume you are stupid you"ll be a punching bag to their inner struggles cause they believe a fool takes everything given even trash
This is so funny because at the very same time people will assume that pretty women are more sociable than unattractive ones. Boring personalities are not sociable, pick a side 😩
Im not mixed at all , I’m a black American with two fully black parents but I love your channel. I’m Rihanna’s color. Your workplace story reminded me of previous experiences. Years ago tumblr allowed nudity and There was a rumor I had nudes on tumblr LOL. I was accused of flirting with every man at my job. I was called “trouble”. It was disgusting. I remember we had a beautiful white blonde woman, she had blonde hair and brown eyes. She was stunning and tall. All the men would stare when she walked in. She was reported to HR for being a “distraction” and was fired, it was ridiculous.
Yes, this is crazy! In high school my first job….all the girls told the manager they didn’t want to work with me!! But I didn’t care bc I got the better schedule and better hours! I was skinny..tall and didn’t understand why girls were jealous!
At my new job, I came in a little popular because some of the men fancy me. But I mind my business, because I come here to work. But not even 2 weeks later, I start hearing rumors that I have an alcoholic husband and I am a crackhead. Apparently, I also come here to do nothing but look pretty for the men. Mind you, I wear the frumpy work uniform and I wear a face mask at all times. The rumors were coming from an older lady (she can be my mother) and one of the managers (who I shot down). I addressed the lady who was making up the rumors. She completely changed around the words and said that people misinterpreted her words. And as for the manager who made up things about me , I reported him. But guess what the higher-ups told me? “Oh, he just says things like that to people to try and make them feel more comfortable and make the employees feel like we’re a family. It’s harmless” It’s harmless to YOU, because you’re not the subject of these rumors. But it is damaging to MY reputation. Needless to say, I start a new job in 2 weeks - praise the lord.
Yep, can relate. When I was in contact with my in laws, I talked about how I was going through a rough patch with my mom. My jealous white sister in law automatically said it was because my mother was a drug addict and spread those rumors. She’s never met my mother!!😂😂😂 they will make up anything 😂😂😂
People way of dissing me is telling me I'm overdressed. My style is just full on glam. Where I live, people don't dress up or care about their appearance. I'm trying to figure out where I'm moving this year. I remember my sister and cousins, trying to shame me about my butt not being huge. When I lost weight, they said, I'm too skinny. I haven't seen those ppl in 7 years. 😂
I constantly get that! "Why are you so dressed up? We just going to xyz..." 🙄🤣🤣 they hate it when you continue rocking your heels and stylish outfits. Your story is very similar to mine. They try to shame you, punish you and make you feel bad for stepping out looking fabulous.
Yesss! Girls would always try to make me feel bad for dressing nicely! They'll something like, "Why are you so dressed up? You didn't have to do all that! Or you're doing too much!" And it wasn't like I was dressing scantily! I just like to dress nice!
Thank goodness for this channel. It confirms a lot of the things I've gone through in my life. Im an introvert, but women love to say I'm stuck up. It took me forever not to care. I know who I am. Dark Exotical are beautiful and I'm proud of it. Haters are going to hate. They need mental help and self esteem.
People never say I’m stuck up but probably Asian people are expected to be quieter. That’s just a way of trying to force you to socialize with them is my guess. Like “you’re rude” if you don’t talk to anyone who complains.
Also, I also realized that when you are pretty people especially those who haven’t seen an attractive woman will pin her as a mistress, sex worker, or a outright whore… I’ve had to this happen several times people automatically think you are promiscuous because you are pretty. It makes me not want to look cute anymore because of the labels I get by people who don’t know anything about me
Naah this happened to me once one random guy was wondering why I don't want to go to his place do clearly something weird asked him why would I want to and he said bc i'm pretty 😵💫 make it make sense🤢
And trust, if you dress down or even less than average it won't change. Jealousy is illogical and any male looking in your general direction can cause a female to spread rumours.
Perceive and tell themselves they're geniuses & the entire situation never even existed. They just got repetitively & ignorantly hype on their own petty. You gotta do it that much idk how they don't know how miserable they actually fn look. I don't need the extroversion views to feel complete. I complete myself by like ... completing. Myself
I have been diagnosed with mental illness, but your channel has brought me more freedom and understanding more than any medical person. I finally don’t feel alone. Wow. You are making miracles
Omg girl me too. I know this comment is old, but I'm begging you to consider you don't actually have any mental illness. I've been dx w BPD, depression, bipolar, ADHD, all of it. I've realized that I'm truly not mentally ill, I just had a rough childhood/experience w society AND a toxic mother. Once I started to piece it together I was able to put the blame where it belongs and I no longer feel mentally ill. I think this is the case for so many ppl. Wish you the best ❤
Also this is absolutely true about being offered a job at a lower budgeted job… I was a hostess and bartender and was offered a very high paying corporate job by an extremely attractive man in NYC. There is definitely a benefit and social advantage of being beautiful it can take you out of poverty… this is absolutely real
@@tiahnarodriguez3809 yea I never f/u because I don’t take job offers from random… but this was a very upscale restaurant in NYC, a steakhouse at that…I was not getting paid all that much…it was a good supplemental income for me…but most of the people that went there were wealthy in general
Right , some people are so desperate for a guy that they think it’s a privilege to be preyed upon. But yes, beauty can come in handy for networking situations .
My entire life so far . I was a teacher and the female students hated me for no reason 😅 and everyone at the school knew my name and I didn't know any of theirs. It's either you randomly get popular from doing nothing or you get excluded from doing nothing 😂😂
@@MH-pj9qk exactly this is weird behavior talking about some “female students hated me for no reason” girl you probably was aggravating than a mf and you’re talking about young girls like this? just weird
I have a natural hourglass. This dsbw used to bully me hard at a previous job. She ended up paying to get a bbl done lol. Nothing wrong with that... but they never match the legs with the butt when they get those surgeries..
Most woman look fine but they don't see their own beauty so they hate. I wish the woman hating on each other would stop but I don't really see it. Woman tend to focus on things like pretty privilliage, people looking at you is not a privilliage. They just find new terms to lock ut woman from their midst like now they talk about pick me, sure can there be pick me that are to much for male validation sure but I don't know focus on community and make woman feel welcome and feel safe among other don't trash talk other woman. If they feelt more safe among woman they probably stop with the pick me behaviour. All this hate woman are doing to each other just empower men to have power when we should be more concerned about equality.
This also applies to parents of children who are good looking themselves aswell as have a beautiful partner. I myself experienced this in my last relationship. My ex was not the most attractive looking but he compensated with fitness and weight lifting. I am considered conventionally beautiful and his parents were let’s just say… let themselves go. They also did not have a close relationship (if you count his mom attempting to expire his dad through unhealthy eating knowing he has certain medical conditions) I also am aware when he and I were together his family were extremely jealous. Which I couldn’t comprehend. Like, wouldn’t you want your child to be happy and be happy with someone who makes them happy? Instead the relationship is triggering your insecurities? Like what?
I’ve definitely had my share of people trying to humble me. It’s super annoying. A lot of people tell me I am “boujee” or “high maintenance” for taking pride in my appearance. I also live in town where people dress down a lot. I feel like I don’t fit in.
Omg, the story of my life! I'm an introvert and I still have had to deal with this! Women are scared you're gonna somehow take their men just for existing! Or they're icing you out of the friend group! Men believe you're dumb or easy! It's crazy but I'm glad someone is talking about this!
I used to be a bartender and was told by the manager that I was making too much money. More than the other girls who were half naked at the job.. mind you I’m dressed modestly.. and was told that I has to stay behind the bar so that the customers would barely see me…this is absolutely true
I have a similar experience. I used to work as a shop assistant and a lot of customers gave me compliments in front of my boss (she's a woman) and she told me that it would be better if I worked in the back of the warehouse because my appearance was not suitable for the public. So I asked what was wrong with my appearance and she said I was scaring people. At the same time, I was the only reason why any people came to her store at all. So, of course, I quit.
@@tipswithgabb Yes, I wouldn't have been able to respect myself if I had stayed there. I believe that we should all be where we are wanted and loved, not where we are tolerated and bullied. And thank you for your empathy ♥️ It was frankly a bad experience. I was crying and my self-esteem was shattered (she told me that every customer and even my colleague says I'm ugly AF. Can you imagine? The confusion? I don't see anyone in the mirror who matches what she told me. I honestly didn't understand what was going on. I was nice and yet she hated me).
My heart just broke!!! Every single thing listed here I have experienced. This is how I know how bad people can make you feel. Knowing you all have been through the same bullshit makes me so sad. Please don’t allow other’s jealousy and nastiness get to you. Being beautiful doesn’t make you any less intelligent, sweet, capable, and strong as anyone else. Keep your heads held high. I regret allowing jealous woman to make me feel as all I had to offer were my looks.
I remember one time a colleague of mine pointing out my chest acne trying to humble me. All because a guy at work introduced me as the prettiest Angolan girl at work. That humbling technique did not dent my confidence not one bit.
I’ve experienced this for years now YEARS. Managers picking on me at the office said that I was pretty but not smart to another employee.. how unprofessional. Girls getting mad that I’m taking photos of myself, dirty looks from girls for no reason I’ve been physically assaulted by other women, fake friends, men trying to humble me, being used by people to get invited to social gatherings. Girls always thinking I want their man. Girls belittling me, insulting me comparing me. Over the top jokes It’s hell. Genuinely
Freeking relatable I now have developed social Anxiety and barely leave the house or speak to anyone due to things like that! Sometimes you say enough is enough but why should I have to isolate to protect myself 😢
had a white girl try to promote me to become a sex worker and start an onlyfans.. then proceeded to say she would never become a sex worker for reasons i forgot. the things theyll say to sabotage you is insane.
Heavy on the inadequate training at work! I was 15 days in at a new job, this older woman was refusing to train me, and whenever she taught me something, she wanted to make me look dumb in front of other co workers. I went home in tears every day 😢😢 On my resignation, I told them everything about the lack of training, she later got a warning, had attitude about it, then was fired
I’m introverted and I face backlash by women of all races they gang up together spread rumors and their supposed to be successful some of them are beautiful but they are malicious towards me … it can be troubling my faith and confidence keeps me grounded … I know what their goal is but I won’t stop being who I am
You know what it’s funny you say that….. I remember I was working a job at an eye doctors office and everyone that worked there was black right. I was a receptionist there and I remember the women that worked there would always make comments about me. Like they would say “oh why do you even put on makeup, why do you do your hair and nails?” “NOBDOY here cares about that!” You know? And I would be like 😂ok but you seem to care tho. I do it because I want to. I’m into that shit and I’m good at it too. I don’t pay somebody to do it for me. Then it was was this fine ass white man that would come to wash out windows once a week. He literally looked like heath ledger omg 😱 and he had the hair too. So anyways, he would always look at me and one day he started talking to me and then asked me out. Tell me why all the women got pissed. And I was like first of all, you claim to not even like white men right? So what you upset about? He’s not your type right? 😂 I was just so done ✅
I'm a dsbw but I had a non black friend that felt threatened by my looks and would try to humble me. This one time she was talking to a guy and I was just there, and she kept telling me to back off even though I wasn't saying anything lol. Whenever someone would compliment me, she would make a stank face. And I got approached twice at a party while she didn't, and I could tell she was angry but she was trying to hide it. When I was talking about my experience with a guy I ran into at a party, she brought up the fact that he ghosted me in a snarky way, only because she was jealous that she didn't find anyone at the party and she wanted to humble me. I got really angry and called her out and she apologized and tries to act all sweet around me now lol. I also had a black friend group and they would leave me out and ignore me sometimes, like I never truly fit in. One of the girls told me that I don't count as a black person since I "act white." And then all the girls turned on me over one mistake that I made. Thankfully I have another group of friends who are true friends and have shown no signs of jealousy or fakeness.
Oh my goodness! I have had that happen to me..where they tell me I don't look like my race/heritage even though I most definitely do😂when I used to go to bars, random women would walk up to me glaring and wanting to fight for literally no reason
I think the biggest issue is that they are trying to fit in a box. 📦 Like, I blame hollywood for pushing the narrative of a standard of beauty. But I also think that they shouldn't try to fit into an image that's not attainable for them. Everyone is beautiful, but they have to create their own spaces and identify with their culture and push that image in their own lives. Not vicariously living through people hand-picked for a standard.
You made an excellent point yes I’m a singer and I’ve defiantly gotten the how dare you be comparable to Beyoncé or Rihanna…I have been told that I’m on that level of pretty before.. and people don’t like that in everyday life…they are like the agents in the matrix coming out of no where trying to humble you real quick
I had a dsbw decline a job offer for a position I was clearly qualified for. We had a great conversation and everything she said I was a good fit, etc then refused to let me go to the next round… It’s Gods protection at this point because the jealousy is real
I'm 40 years old and get bullied by my black american women. Foreign women, white, Asian, African, etc. women give me no problems. They love me, always complimenting me always telling me how beautiful I am.
I doubt the Asian thing. Highly doubt it. Unless u came across a sumi wrestler. Or ur like in the suburbs & like 3'1. No Asians messing with u. Stop telling stories. Imagine being this low on yourself.
Thank you. God bless you. I feel like I've found someone who understands. Men are so incredibly rude to me. Particularly older male cashiers who I assume are only rude because they know they have no chance with me. I have had to stop going many places because the staff was unnecessarily rude to me specifically. I have worked in the food service almost exclusively so I'm always incredibly nice to anyone who works with the public. It doesn't make a difference, middle aged men are still mean to me.
I don’t think I’m beautiful however I know others perceive me to be due to some comments made. But my experience tends to always go the same: initially everyone talks to me tells me I’m pretty etc. the guys talk to me a lot. Then I notice the girls stop stalking to me as much, don’t include me in anything etc. then I end up just keeping to myself. If I didn’t believe in God I would be so lonely rn.
These girls ganga I used to hang out told me don't dressup come in causal wear to graduation we are all going to be in same casual...then I enter the hall i saw them all dressedup with party/bridal wear and huge makeup...while me getting graduated with casuals they used and betrayed my whole college life
i deal with this every where i go . i get treated either extremely well or unnecessarily mean especially from women! I was literally scorching hot at the bus stop with my dog and the bus pulls up . From a distance i see the driver wave her hand back n forth through the window giving me the stop motion . i didn’t understand what she was trying to tell so i continued to get on the bus i been waiting for hours& its hot . The lady that was the bus driver told me it was “too full” and that i had to wait for the next bus but i got on anyway because my dog was literally panting . Mind you it was only me at the bus stop and one person got off. I feel like she thought she could target me but i didn’t go for that . once i got on , she started to complain more tb okay well “pay yo fair” while im holding my dog! but nevertheless i paid because i have no problem paying . She immediately was shut up and was looking stupid cause there was nothing to complain about .. so as we drive along to the next stops with the “too full” bus . She steady letting people on with NO problem!!! Not once did she tell them it was too full and that they had to wait , she made room for them. So in my head im like yeaaaa she was just trying to be low down towards me for no reason, she just didn’t want me on her bus it was never about it being too full , if she’s continuously letting groups of people on . i cant wait to get my own car because people see your beautiful and have a nice aura and try to find ways to punish you
I’ve noticed the extra pale get extra angry. I think is that they have to deep fry themselves every year, breaking down their skin and it will never be close to our complexions.
My boyfriend had a girl "best friend" who seemed to try to be my friend when we first started dating. One time we were out drinking together and she told me that i should break up with my boyfriend because I'm settling too young and every girl needs to be humbled by dating multiple different people. I told my boyfriend that his "friend" told me to break up with him. It has since come out that she is terribly jealous of my relationship because she deserves to settle down and start a life with a partner and it's not fair that i was able to just jump into a good relationship when I'm younger than her.
look at channels like "lorry hill" its basically tearing every single feature apart of attractive women, people will always find a way to discredit anyones beauty or attribute it to one thing and hold onto it im naturally skinny, dare i eat a salad infront of someone they will be sure to mention it🤣 like "this is why ur so skinny" liek ok
@Rabia Same!! People comment on my healthy work lunches like they’re shocked or maybe even uncomfortable? Like … yall it’s literally salad out of a bag 🤭
Imagine seeing a psychologist regularly & telling her about having these experiences and she invalidates you by saying thats not been her experience 😒 shes the modest, homely, minimalistic type. I am not. I am the always look good smell good & feel good smiles with everyone pretty girl. I irk other females so much & it has influenced how I view people in general. So trying to unpack that with someone who just does not understand is so uncomfortable & disheartening
I'm a 53 yr old hairdresser, a mother and grandmother and I've had younger clients pick at irrelevant "flaws" on my body eg a client told me once that my ankles are looking bad, meaning small.....I mean which woman wants big ankles! Lol. Another one "noticed" that my skin on my legs were dry. Yet another one noticed that I have a roll on my back. And countless other simple things like puffy eyes from allergies. Really!!!! I WONDER ARE THESE PEOPLE FOR REAL it's like they scrutinize me to put me down. My job is to uplift women, beautify and do what's best to build their self esteem and confidence but their job is to put other women down.
(M, 36) Thanks for sharing your insights, hope I can share a bit even if it's not exactly the same as your story. Growing up, this kid from my neighborhood would often bully me; "You'RE UGLY!" "EWWW" "My mom said you got CHUNKY and FAT HAHAHAHAHA" (I did gain a bit of weight that summer, those Boboli breadsticks with some butter on them were my COPE) So I fully believed I was fat and ugly. "FAT! BLUBBER! SWEAT! GROSS!" At school, in the halls, he would continue this. It was very confusing. Having ADHD, I naively believed everything at face value while hyper fixating on negative comments due to rejection sensitivity/fear of abandonment/shame, I suspect. When hanging out in groups outside of school, he would often mock me, hit me, throw basketballs at the back of my head, and I would try to chase him down to fight back but he ran faster, while he ran laughing hysterically. It was strange, because I would get so many notes from girls asking me out, ever since 3rd grade. Every time I saw a note I felt disbelief, especially if it was from a popular or attractive girl; (before texting, we used to write on paper!) [From girls] "I really like you. Will you go out with me? Circle Yes or No.
What I don't get is why aren't they jealous of other attractive White or Latina women? Only mixed women? I don't even go around thinking about looks. I'm struggling with health problems and I don't need the drama. Dallas is the worst.
I haven't had so much comments that I would be ugly or something, well as a child in school but hey children say anything to bring you down and it was not necesserily for my looks. But I had hard time keeping jobs, I come to an understanding that people actually want me d34d. I did not understand the reason. I got so much attention when I was younger by boys, men so I understand that I looked in a certain way however I think it's more my body then my face. One man said my body is perfect but complained about my face, well I guess my face could look more appealing but I don't think it's ugly that is an overreach I look perfectly fine. Are there girls prettier then me yes but the other way around is also true. I'm now older don't get the same attention don't know why but I love it, it was to much. I just hope one day making money will be easier and if it's my looks that have been in my way I would rather have been less beautiful. It does not mean to much to me, but I guess it is like always unless you got it you envy because you think the grass is greener on the other side even if it is not true.
I just had to end a relationship bc not only was I getting little comments from him, I had to navigate too many comments from his god sister. Me cooking: oh she’s chefboyardeing.. her cooking: I know you don’t want none of this stew cause you don’t eat red meat, you be working out Me: yeah I love steak I just had bad leg problems in the past and for health reasons I stopped . Your diabetes would be managed if you lay off the pork. Go to an outside concert in Florida with a hair wrap and watch the humidity eat it up: Her: oh you wasn’t Sitting like that leaving the house Like Gtfoh. I got tired of nicely humbling ppl back
Honestly, as much as I don’t center men, I mostly only have some sort of friendship by or through the man I happen to be with. I still get women being uncomfortable with me, but they feel less threatened when I have a man. Like, I struggle so bad because especially at work, all the focus tends to be put on women/men obsessing over me, or completely ignoring me. There are specific men that are pretty much going to assist me, help me with anything I need. I get told things like, “oh yes go after his pension etc. “ I also have done all the work to get where I am in life and that automatically gets dismissed. The one thing that always get me is that, married/taken women compete with me over men. It’s totally weird. At the moment I’m single, and I notice they compete with me for attention from specific men or a man, that they know or believe is interested in me. Every time! It’s bizarre. You are going after him, because you feel he’s interested in me yet your in a relationship. It’s like they don’t want me to even have a relationship. They usually try to sabotage any potential with me and the guy. It’s like some people don’t want me to have anything. Literally these women may not have initially been interested in the man, but all because I’m around, or they know the man is into me…they actively begin to compete with me for that man’s attention in a very obvious way.
Thank you so much I feel so related to this video, I am 38 years old black woman dark skin. I do not look 38 so it is a blessing for me I have experience all sorts of jealousi from women of all ages and all differents ethnicities and social level who felt insecure. As men who are very mean because I refuse their advances. Now I am more careful, distance myself of negativity and drama, and focus on my goals and stay silence but keep aware
Its just like Shera Seven said..." if you are a pretty woman you have to get out of the workforce". What that statement means is as long as youre pretty you will get hate left and right from both men and women. You will never have peace at work.
Right. Pretty women should
Not be in jobs with basic betties 😮
I was just thinking this lately why I also wish to be my own boss
@@503ashkatchem4 yes we have to be our own bosses or else....
@@kylieking8163 💔💔💔💔💔💔
I felt this omg !!!!!!!!!
The constant humbling men try to do to beautiful women is insane.
fr talk about insecurity 🤦♀
OMG I developed so much insecurity from that!
My mother once said to me “I never told u , u are beautiful, because I didn’t want u to be conceited “…. She just criticized me since my childhood, I ended up in hospital two times because of eating disorder I had for 10 years.
🫂
I am so sorry 😔
wow that's terrible! I hope you break free from those chains of her unhealed wounds and create your own empowering narritiave 💖
@@tipswithgabb thank You 🤍
So sorry you experienced this. People don't talk about the jealousy that comes from family when you are attractive. Praying for constant healing for you
People treat you like you have no personality, or you are stupid. People will be shocked if you are intelligent. They will also be shocked if you're funny
Yes !!!!
100 it is bad to show you are intelligent they go as far as firing you and it is worse when they assume you are stupid you"ll be a punching bag to their inner struggles cause they believe a fool takes everything given even trash
Soooo true!!!
This is so funny because at the very same time people will assume that pretty women are more sociable than unattractive ones. Boring personalities are not sociable, pick a side 😩
Nice too. Combine all of it= they hate u w/ a fn passion. And u don't even know most of those folks name.
Im not mixed at all , I’m a black American with two fully black parents but I love your channel. I’m Rihanna’s color. Your workplace story reminded me of previous experiences. Years ago tumblr allowed nudity and There was a rumor I had nudes on tumblr LOL. I was accused of flirting with every man at my job. I was called “trouble”. It was disgusting. I remember we had a beautiful white blonde woman, she had blonde hair and brown eyes. She was stunning and tall. All the men would stare when she walked in. She was reported to HR for being a “distraction” and was fired, it was ridiculous.
😢🙏
They want you homeless and desperate.
A distraction? Wowwww literally jealousy
They are so envious I’m so sorry that happened to you and that lady.
Yes, this is crazy! In high school my first job….all the girls told the manager they didn’t want to work with me!! But I didn’t care bc I got the better schedule and better hours! I was skinny..tall and didn’t understand why girls were jealous!
At my new job, I came in a little popular because some of the men fancy me. But I mind my business, because I come here to work.
But not even 2 weeks later, I start hearing rumors that I have an alcoholic husband and I am a crackhead. Apparently, I also come here to do nothing but look pretty for the men. Mind you, I wear the frumpy work uniform and I wear a face mask at all times.
The rumors were coming from an older lady (she can be my mother) and one of the managers (who I shot down).
I addressed the lady who was making up the rumors. She completely changed around the words and said that people misinterpreted her words.
And as for the manager who made up things about me , I reported him. But guess what the higher-ups told me?
“Oh, he just says things like that to people to try and make them feel more comfortable and make the employees feel like we’re a family. It’s harmless”
It’s harmless to YOU, because you’re not the subject of these rumors. But it is damaging to MY reputation.
Needless to say, I start a new job in 2 weeks - praise the lord.
omg! im not surprised at all
Yep, can relate. When I was in contact with my in laws, I talked about how I was going through a rough patch with my mom. My jealous white sister in law automatically said it was because my mother was a drug addict and spread those rumors. She’s never met my mother!!😂😂😂 they will make up anything 😂😂😂
Not surprising at all. Congrats on the new opportunity.
People way of dissing me is telling me I'm overdressed. My style is just full on glam. Where I live, people don't dress up or care about their appearance. I'm trying to figure out where I'm moving this year. I remember my sister and cousins, trying to shame me about my butt not being huge. When I lost weight, they said, I'm too skinny. I haven't seen those ppl in 7 years. 😂
Omg yes!
Ok I feel this…. Where I live people are the same way and I constantly get bullied for trying to look my best.
I constantly get that! "Why are you so dressed up? We just going to xyz..." 🙄🤣🤣 they hate it when you continue rocking your heels and stylish outfits. Your story is very similar to mine. They try to shame you, punish you and make you feel bad for stepping out looking fabulous.
Yesss! Girls would always try to make me feel bad for dressing nicely! They'll something like, "Why are you so dressed up? You didn't have to do all that! Or you're doing too much!" And it wasn't like I was dressing scantily! I just like to dress nice!
wow! I get that glam part, I did well in Miami for some time lots of fashionistas over there! NYC is cool too
Thank goodness for this channel. It confirms a lot of the things I've gone through in
my life. Im an introvert, but women love to say I'm stuck up. It took me forever not to care. I know who I am.
Dark Exotical are beautiful and I'm proud of it.
Haters are going to hate. They need mental help and self esteem.
Exactly !!!
amen to that last sentence!
People never say I’m stuck up but probably Asian people are expected to be quieter. That’s just a way of trying to force you to socialize with them is my guess. Like “you’re rude” if you don’t talk to anyone who complains.
Also, I also realized that when you are pretty people especially those who haven’t seen an attractive woman will pin her as a mistress, sex worker, or a outright whore… I’ve had to this happen several times people automatically think you are promiscuous because you are pretty. It makes me not want to look cute anymore because of the labels I get by people who don’t know anything about me
Literally!! Or they assume ur sleeping with whatever man is standing next to you
Naah this happened to me once one random guy was wondering why I don't want to go to his place do clearly something weird asked him why would I want to and he said bc i'm pretty 😵💫 make it make sense🤢
Me too I feel you. I posted a selfie one day completely covered up but just showing my shape /posing and some girl messaged me calling me a wh*re 😩🤣
And trust, if you dress down or even less than average it won't change. Jealousy is illogical and any male looking in your general direction can cause a female to spread rumours.
Yes same thing , i dont even eant to look cute
Yup, they will find the one thing that they perceive wrong with us and FOCUS on that!
Yes !
Facts 😅
Exactly!
Perceive and tell themselves they're geniuses & the entire situation never even existed. They just got repetitively & ignorantly hype on their own petty. You gotta do it that much idk how they don't know how miserable they actually fn look. I don't need the extroversion views to feel complete. I complete myself by like ... completing. Myself
I have been diagnosed with mental illness, but your channel has brought me more freedom and understanding more than any medical person. I finally don’t feel alone. Wow. You are making miracles
Wow that’s amazing 😻
Same dear
Omg girl me too. I know this comment is old, but I'm begging you to consider you don't actually have any mental illness. I've been dx w BPD, depression, bipolar, ADHD, all of it. I've realized that I'm truly not mentally ill, I just had a rough childhood/experience w society AND a toxic mother. Once I started to piece it together I was able to put the blame where it belongs and I no longer feel mentally ill. I think this is the case for so many ppl. Wish you the best ❤
Also this is absolutely true about being offered a job at a lower budgeted job… I was a hostess and bartender and was offered a very high paying corporate job by an extremely attractive man in NYC. There is definitely a benefit and social advantage of being beautiful it can take you out of poverty… this is absolutely real
@@tiahnarodriguez3809 yea I never f/u because I don’t take job offers from random… but this was a very upscale restaurant in NYC, a steakhouse at that…I was not getting paid all that much…it was a good supplemental income for me…but most of the people that went there were wealthy in general
Right , some people are so desperate for a guy that they think it’s a privilege to be preyed upon. But yes, beauty can come in handy for networking situations .
Omg yes ! I used to be a hostess at a steakhouse when I was in college 😂
My entire life so far . I was a teacher and the female students hated me for no reason 😅 and everyone at the school knew my name and I didn't know any of theirs. It's either you randomly get popular from doing nothing or you get excluded from doing nothing 😂😂
omg so true! 😂😂
Yup!!
“Everyone at the school knew my name” girl you’re a teacher? This is a weird comment
@@daisybun..😂😂 right
@@MH-pj9qk exactly this is weird behavior talking about some “female students hated me for no reason” girl you probably was aggravating than a mf and you’re talking about young girls like this? just weird
Girl the consistency is gonna have you at 50k in no time👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Yay! I hope so! Imagine MLS women being able to tell our stories in front of 50 thousand people 😮
I have a natural hourglass. This dsbw used to bully me hard at a previous job. She ended up paying to get a bbl done lol. Nothing wrong with that... but they never match the legs with the butt when they get those surgeries..
Omg I’m not surprised at all 😂
😂
This is so true!! Being punished for being pretty will make you feel guilty about it as well because people constantly hate u
Ive always gotten the most jealousy from other attractive women... never understood why.
Because they see you as a threat or more attractive than them
They deffo insecure and know you're prettier than them
Most woman look fine but they don't see their own beauty so they hate. I wish the woman hating on each other would stop but I don't really see it. Woman tend to focus on things like pretty privilliage, people looking at you is not a privilliage. They just find new terms to lock ut woman from their midst like now they talk about pick me, sure can there be pick me that are to much for male validation sure but I don't know focus on community and make woman feel welcome and feel safe among other don't trash talk other woman. If they feelt more safe among woman they probably stop with the pick me behaviour. All this hate woman are doing to each other just empower men to have power when we should be more concerned about equality.
@@silversilver0 That's what I figured
Why do they need to be jealous if they’re attractive too? Do they just not know they are?
This also applies to parents of children who are good looking themselves aswell as have a beautiful partner. I myself experienced this in my last relationship. My ex was not the most attractive looking but he compensated with fitness and weight lifting. I am considered conventionally beautiful and his parents were let’s just say… let themselves go. They also did not have a close relationship (if you count his mom attempting to expire his dad through unhealthy eating knowing he has certain medical conditions)
I also am aware when he and I were together his family were extremely jealous. Which I couldn’t comprehend. Like, wouldn’t you want your child to be happy and be happy with someone who makes them happy? Instead the relationship is triggering your insecurities? Like what?
Yes I’ve seen that dynamic with mothers and daughters as well
Misery loves company. Some people are just that damaged inside.
I’ve definitely had my share of people trying to humble me. It’s super annoying. A lot of people tell me I am “boujee” or “high maintenance” for taking pride in my appearance. I also live in town where people dress down a lot. I feel like I don’t fit in.
Omg, the story of my life! I'm an introvert and I still have had to deal with this! Women are scared you're gonna somehow take their men just for existing! Or they're icing you out of the friend group! Men believe you're dumb or easy! It's crazy but I'm glad someone is talking about this!
Yes i dont get close with ny sister cus i get that vibe from her
I used to be a bartender and was told by the manager that I was making too much money. More than the other girls who were half naked at the job.. mind you I’m dressed modestly.. and was told that I has to stay behind the bar so that the customers would barely see me…this is absolutely true
I have a similar experience. I used to work as a shop assistant and a lot of customers gave me compliments in front of my boss (she's a woman) and she told me that it would be better if I worked in the back of the warehouse because my appearance was not suitable for the public. So I asked what was wrong with my appearance and she said I was scaring people. At the same time, I was the only reason why any people came to her store at all. So, of course, I quit.
@@beautifulextraterrestrial wow that's awful!! good thing you left!
@@tipswithgabb Yes, I wouldn't have been able to respect myself if I had stayed there.
I believe that we should all be where we are wanted and loved, not where we are tolerated and bullied.
And thank you for your empathy ♥️
It was frankly a bad experience. I was crying and my self-esteem was shattered (she told me that every customer and even my colleague says I'm ugly AF. Can you imagine? The confusion? I don't see anyone in the mirror who matches what she told me. I honestly didn't understand what was going on. I was nice and yet she hated me).
@@beautifulextraterrestrial 'scaring'... Lol that's intimidation...
This, the part where they make up stuff about you. I can’t stand bitter, jealous people.
You're literally on a roll today. Thank you beauty! 🌹
yes! i'm trying to get my youtube bags 💼 💰
@@ExoticalsUnited😄😄👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 Get them! 🌹
A lot of people often try to point out if I’m wearing certain clothes or makeup
lol I can relate
My heart just broke!!! Every single thing listed here I have experienced. This is how I know how bad people can make you feel. Knowing you all have been through the same bullshit makes me so sad. Please don’t allow other’s jealousy and nastiness get to you. Being beautiful doesn’t make you any less intelligent, sweet, capable, and strong as anyone else. Keep your heads held high. I regret allowing jealous woman to make me feel as all I had to offer were my looks.
I remember one time a colleague of mine pointing out my chest acne trying to humble me. All because a guy at work introduced me as the prettiest Angolan girl at work. That humbling technique did not dent my confidence not one bit.
Wow
Oh my goodness I'm Angolan!
@@joyceadena Oi fofa 👋🇦🇴
These are so eye opening, never had the words to understand my experiences until these videos
My thoughts exactly!
They’ll say oh no don’t tell her she’s pretty she already knows she is it will just make her head bigger
I hear this all the time. I model (,hella locally) and am still reminded how much of a threat I am 😂😂😂
Very common
That or she clearly doesn't know bro. Sniffles. Hoes so real 😭. Idk "boys will be boys"
I’ve experienced this for years now YEARS. Managers picking on me at the office said that I was pretty but not smart to another employee.. how unprofessional. Girls getting mad that I’m taking photos of myself, dirty looks from girls for no reason I’ve been physically assaulted by other women, fake friends, men trying to humble me, being used by people to get invited to social gatherings. Girls always thinking I want their man. Girls belittling me, insulting me comparing me. Over the top jokes It’s hell. Genuinely
Freeking relatable I now have developed social Anxiety and barely leave the house or speak to anyone due to things like that! Sometimes you say enough is enough but why should I have to isolate to protect myself 😢
had a white girl try to promote me to become a sex worker and start an onlyfans.. then proceeded to say she would never become a sex worker for reasons i forgot. the things theyll say to sabotage you is insane.
Heavy on the inadequate training at work! I was 15 days in at a new job, this older woman was refusing to train me, and whenever she taught me something, she wanted to make me look dumb in front of other co workers.
I went home in tears every day 😢😢
On my resignation, I told them everything about the lack of training, she later got a warning, had attitude about it, then was fired
i love this channel so much ❤
Thank you !
I’m introverted and I face backlash by women of all races they gang up together spread rumors and their supposed to be successful some of them are beautiful but they are malicious towards me … it can be troubling my faith and confidence keeps me grounded … I know what their goal is but I won’t stop being who I am
You know what it’s funny you say that….. I remember I was working a job at an eye doctors office and everyone that worked there was black right. I was a receptionist there and I remember the women that worked there would always make comments about me. Like they would say “oh why do you even put on makeup, why do you do your hair and nails?” “NOBDOY here cares about that!” You know? And I would be like 😂ok but you seem to care tho. I do it because I want to. I’m into that shit and I’m good at it too. I don’t pay somebody to do it for me. Then it was was this fine ass white man that would come to wash out windows once a week. He literally looked like heath ledger omg 😱 and he had the hair too. So anyways, he would always look at me and one day he started talking to me and then asked me out. Tell me why all the women got pissed. And I was like first of all, you claim to not even like white men right? So what you upset about? He’s not your type right? 😂 I was just so done ✅
I'm a dsbw but I had a non black friend that felt threatened by my looks and would try to humble me. This one time she was talking to a guy and I was just there, and she kept telling me to back off even though I wasn't saying anything lol. Whenever someone would compliment me, she would make a stank face. And I got approached twice at a party while she didn't, and I could tell she was angry but she was trying to hide it. When I was talking about my experience with a guy I ran into at a party, she brought up the fact that he ghosted me in a snarky way, only because she was jealous that she didn't find anyone at the party and she wanted to humble me. I got really angry and called her out and she apologized and tries to act all sweet around me now lol.
I also had a black friend group and they would leave me out and ignore me sometimes, like I never truly fit in. One of the girls told me that I don't count as a black person since I "act white." And then all the girls turned on me over one mistake that I made. Thankfully I have another group of friends who are true friends and have shown no signs of jealousy or fakeness.
Wow
Oh my goodness! I have had that happen to me..where they tell me I don't look like my race/heritage even though I most definitely do😂when I used to go to bars, random women would walk up to me glaring and wanting to fight for literally no reason
I think the biggest issue is that they are trying to fit in a box. 📦
Like, I blame hollywood for pushing the narrative of a standard of beauty. But I also think that they shouldn't try to fit into an image that's not attainable for them. Everyone is beautiful, but they have to create their own spaces and identify with their culture and push that image in their own lives. Not vicariously living through people hand-picked for a standard.
You made an excellent point yes I’m a singer and I’ve defiantly gotten the how dare you be comparable to Beyoncé or Rihanna…I have been told that I’m on that level of pretty before.. and people don’t like that in everyday life…they are like the agents in the matrix coming out of no where trying to humble you real quick
Exactly .
I had a dsbw decline a job offer for a position I was clearly qualified for. We had a great conversation and everything she said I was a good fit, etc then refused to let me go to the next round…
It’s Gods protection at this point because the jealousy is real
I'm 40 years old and get bullied by my black american women. Foreign women, white, Asian, African, etc. women give me no problems. They love me, always complimenting me always telling me how beautiful I am.
I doubt the Asian thing. Highly doubt it. Unless u came across a sumi wrestler. Or ur like in the suburbs & like 3'1. No Asians messing with u. Stop telling stories. Imagine being this low on yourself.
Thank you. God bless you. I feel like I've found someone who understands. Men are so incredibly rude to me. Particularly older male cashiers who I assume are only rude because they know they have no chance with me. I have had to stop going many places because the staff was unnecessarily rude to me specifically. I have worked in the food service almost exclusively so I'm always incredibly nice to anyone who works with the public. It doesn't make a difference, middle aged men are still mean to me.
I don’t think I’m beautiful however I know others perceive me to be due to some comments made. But my experience tends to always go the same: initially everyone talks to me tells me I’m pretty etc. the guys talk to me a lot. Then I notice the girls stop stalking to me as much, don’t include me in anything etc. then I end up just keeping to myself. If I didn’t believe in God I would be so lonely rn.
These girls ganga I used to hang out told me don't dressup come in causal wear to graduation we are all going to be in same casual...then I enter the hall i saw them all dressedup with party/bridal wear and huge makeup...while me getting graduated with casuals they used and betrayed my whole college life
Better to be without friends than with frienemies.
i deal with this every where i go . i get treated either extremely well or unnecessarily mean especially from women! I was literally scorching hot at the bus stop with my dog and the bus pulls up . From a distance i see the driver wave her hand back n forth through the window giving me the stop motion . i didn’t understand what she was trying to tell so i continued to get on the bus i been waiting for hours& its hot . The lady that was the bus driver told me it was “too full” and that i had to wait for the next bus but i got on anyway because my dog was literally panting . Mind you it was only me at the bus stop and one person got off. I feel like she thought she could target me but i didn’t go for that . once i got on , she started to complain more tb okay well “pay yo fair” while im holding my dog! but nevertheless i paid because i have no problem paying . She immediately was shut up and was looking stupid cause there was nothing to complain about .. so as we drive along to the next stops with the “too full” bus . She steady letting people on with NO problem!!! Not once did she tell them it was too full and that they had to wait , she made room for them. So in my head im like yeaaaa she was just trying to be low down towards me for no reason, she just didn’t want me on her bus it was never about it being too full , if she’s continuously letting groups of people on . i cant wait to get my own car because people see your beautiful and have a nice aura and try to find ways to punish you
It's extra horrible when it comes from your own family.
I had a horrific experience with a bar tender at this restaurant in Palm Beach. I think it was a class and looks thing. She was pale btw. 😂
Yeah I’m not surprised at all
I’ve noticed the extra pale get extra angry. I think is that they have to deep fry themselves every year, breaking down their skin and it will never be close to our complexions.
Omg I have had this happen more than a couple times at the work place, regarding good performance.
My boyfriend had a girl "best friend" who seemed to try to be my friend when we first started dating. One time we were out drinking together and she told me that i should break up with my boyfriend because I'm settling too young and every girl needs to be humbled by dating multiple different people. I told my boyfriend that his "friend" told me to break up with him. It has since come out that she is terribly jealous of my relationship because she deserves to settle down and start a life with a partner and it's not fair that i was able to just jump into a good relationship when I'm younger than her.
Dusty men can’t match you unless you swiped right!
😂😂😂😂
look at channels like "lorry hill" its basically tearing every single feature apart of attractive women, people will always find a way to discredit anyones beauty or attribute it to one thing and hold onto it
im naturally skinny, dare i eat a salad infront of someone they will be sure to mention it🤣 like "this is why ur so skinny" liek ok
Yup! I’m a lori hill Stan !
@Rabia Same!! People comment on my healthy work lunches like they’re shocked or maybe even uncomfortable? Like … yall it’s literally salad out of a bag 🤭
I met her in real life! I coached her son. She is so sweet and reserved!
Even neighbours will punish you for being beautiful by making up rumours. It’s painful the destruction that jealousy causes.
Imagine seeing a psychologist regularly & telling her about having these experiences and she invalidates you by saying thats not been her experience 😒
shes the modest, homely, minimalistic type. I am not. I am the always look good smell good & feel good smiles with everyone pretty girl. I irk other females so much & it has influenced how I view people in general. So trying to unpack that with someone who just does not understand is so uncomfortable & disheartening
My son is 11 and he is going through this only with his black family.
I'm a 53 yr old hairdresser, a mother and grandmother and I've had younger clients pick at irrelevant "flaws" on my body eg a client told me once that my ankles are looking bad, meaning small.....I mean which woman wants big ankles! Lol.
Another one "noticed" that my skin on my legs were dry. Yet another one noticed that I have a roll on my back. And countless other simple things like puffy eyes from allergies. Really!!!! I WONDER ARE THESE PEOPLE FOR REAL it's like they scrutinize me to put me down.
My job is to uplift women, beautify and do what's best to build their self esteem and confidence but their job is to put other women down.
We've had all the same experiences, just replace that one with snow with rain. 😅
I think you covered just about everything , good video 😊
I was waiting outside at work and it was cold and raining. Let me tell you my co-workers in their cars just sat up there.
I tell them don’t hate, appreciate.. I hve no personality.😂
You're on point throughout.
Thank you. Keep going 💕
(M, 36) Thanks for sharing your insights, hope I can share a bit even if it's not exactly the same as your story.
Growing up, this kid from my neighborhood would often bully me;
"You'RE UGLY!"
"EWWW"
"My mom said you got CHUNKY and FAT HAHAHAHAHA"
(I did gain a bit of weight that summer, those Boboli breadsticks with some butter on them were my COPE)
So I fully believed I was fat and ugly.
"FAT! BLUBBER! SWEAT! GROSS!"
At school, in the halls, he would continue this. It was very confusing. Having ADHD, I naively believed everything at face value while hyper fixating on negative comments due to rejection sensitivity/fear of abandonment/shame, I suspect. When hanging out in groups outside of school, he would often mock me, hit me, throw basketballs at the back of my head, and I would try to chase him down to fight back but he ran faster, while he ran laughing hysterically.
It was strange, because I would get so many notes from girls asking me out, ever since 3rd grade. Every time I saw a note I felt disbelief, especially if it was from a popular or attractive girl; (before texting, we used to write on paper!)
[From girls]
"I really like you. Will you go out with me? Circle Yes or No.
That’s horrible - let me guess. Your bully was fat and ugly?
What I don't get is why aren't they jealous of other attractive White or Latina women? Only mixed women? I don't even go around thinking about looks. I'm struggling with health problems and I don't need the drama. Dallas is the worst.
These videos are lit ❤
Yes, I have experienced this.
Happens w men too.
I believe it, but this is a woman centered space so I focus on women’s issues
@@ExoticalsUnited I understand, I’ve always have a strong inclination towards my feminine side.
Thank you for responding
I wondered if men have the same jealous tendencies towards each other
Malena was a true story
Oh wow
I haven't had so much comments that I would be ugly or something, well as a child in school but hey children say anything to bring you down and it was not necesserily for my looks. But I had hard time keeping jobs, I come to an understanding that people actually want me d34d. I did not understand the reason. I got so much attention when I was younger by boys, men so I understand that I looked in a certain way however I think it's more my body then my face. One man said my body is perfect but complained about my face, well I guess my face could look more appealing but I don't think it's ugly that is an overreach I look perfectly fine. Are there girls prettier then me yes but the other way around is also true. I'm now older don't get the same attention don't know why but I love it, it was to much. I just hope one day making money will be easier and if it's my looks that have been in my way I would rather have been less beautiful. It does not mean to much to me, but I guess it is like always unless you got it you envy because you think the grass is greener on the other side even if it is not true.
3:13 I have that happen to me. Like is it bad to love the way you look?
I just had to end a relationship bc not only was I getting little comments from him, I had to navigate too many comments from his god sister. Me cooking: oh she’s chefboyardeing..
her cooking: I know you don’t want none of this stew cause you don’t eat red meat, you be working out
Me: yeah I love steak I just had bad leg problems in the past and for health reasons I stopped . Your diabetes would be managed if you lay off the pork.
Go to an outside concert in Florida with a hair wrap and watch the humidity eat it up:
Her: oh you wasn’t Sitting like that leaving the house
Like Gtfoh. I got tired of nicely humbling ppl back
How would you advise to deal with people like this?
what does mls stand for? I’m new here lol
Mixed race/lightskin
Honestly, as much as I don’t center men, I mostly only have some sort of friendship by or through the man I happen to be with. I still get women being uncomfortable with me, but they feel less threatened when I have a man. Like, I struggle so bad because especially at work, all the focus tends to be put on women/men obsessing over me, or completely ignoring me. There are specific men that are pretty much going to assist me, help me with anything I need. I get told things like, “oh yes go after his pension etc. “ I also have done all the work to get where I am in life and that automatically gets dismissed. The one thing that always get me is that, married/taken women compete with me over men. It’s totally weird. At the moment I’m single, and I notice they compete with me for attention from specific men or a man, that they know or believe is interested in me. Every time! It’s bizarre. You are going after him, because you feel he’s interested in me yet your in a relationship. It’s like they don’t want me to even have a relationship. They usually try to sabotage any potential with me and the guy. It’s like some people don’t want me to have anything. Literally these women may not have initially been interested in the man, but all because I’m around, or they know the man is into me…they actively begin to compete with me for that man’s attention in a very obvious way.
All my life even family members
ikr like godforbid your pretty lol
No, if we like you then we tease you,
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Thank you so much
I feel so related to this video, I am 38 years old black woman dark skin.
I do not look 38 so it is a blessing for me
I have experience all sorts of jealousi from women of all ages and all differents ethnicities and social level who felt insecure.
As men who are very mean because I refuse their advances.
Now I am more careful, distance myself of negativity and drama, and focus on my goals and stay silence but keep aware