One of the reason i dont want to have kids. I dont trust myself in being a caring and responsible mother that can affect my kid's childhood Edit : I thought people would find this edgy but wow didnt expect the understanding and supports. Thanks
weird 100% correct I told my parents to sent me to therapy and my parents said:What do you have depression for?Me in my mind: *Did you forgot your own fathers death mother?*
The sneakier thing got me hard. My parents beat the hell out of me as a child, now I'm older, I'm always afraid of getting caught for the most unimportant of things and I'm constantly hiding.
I'm so sorry... My mum was hit as a child and she's often very sneaky & can be self·obsessed. She's terrified of being "found out" so she didn't wind up being a really great parent though she truly meant well. It's just her fears from childhood affected her ability to be honest. Again, I'm so sorry for the stuff *you* went through & I hope you have help & a trustworthy friend/partner (my mum didn't have help cos "the olden days") • xoxo 💗
I swear I refuse to tell the truth unless it benefits me... My mom used to be like who ate my mints. I TELL THE TRUTH I GET BEATEN. I tell a lie I have a 50/50 chance telling the truth NEVER sounded like a good idea....MF be like yo did u pay the electricity...I be like yep..lol
If you're stressy and you know it clap your hands *clap clap* If you're stressy and you know it clap your hands *clap clap* If you're stressy and depressy and your life is kinda messy if you're stressy and depressy clap your hands *clap clap*
I was verbally abused from my mom as a child and I feel like that definitely affected my lifestyle now. Because I'm really insecure everytime I get out and I worry about being judged constantly.
Sorry you experienced that as a child. Being aware makes all the difference because you can work towards growing and being who you want to be despite your childhood. 💜
my parents: always compares me to my siblings, cousins, friends.. Gets mad for simply me being myself, gets mad for my university of choice... Gets mad whenever i try to open up to them and just laughs to my problems also my parents: *tell us if you have any problems*
Yep I don't consider them when they start rambling about how much I've grown up and how heartless I am now. Because I kept telling them that they contributed to that outcome and that we should work together to solve it, yet, they play the "we know it all better than you". So, keep doing it 👍🏽
@Soda King Wow... I am so sorry, I don't know what to say... I'm not good with helping people out when it comes to things like this... I just hope eventually everything turns out better for you.
I just realized that I'm not relationship material. I was sheltered. And people wonder why I crush on cartoons and comic book characters. They won't hurt me.
Parents: *talks about how my cousin is better at math than me, not giving me enough sleep, gives too much work/unnecessary activities to do, lets child solve their own problems and giving negative comments* Me: gets envious too easily, cranky, stressed out, afraid to open up to anybody, and is afraid of getting criticized Parents: "vIdEoGamEs"
My parents think I’m depressed because I don’t smile at everything Like for example We were at the shops and just walking, not saying anything then my parents turn to me and say “Why aren’t you smiling” Am I meant to smile at the ground? Imagine seeing someone just smiling at the ground when everything is silent
This is literally me. Apparently my default face looks depressed because people are always asking if I'm ok. My band director even talked with one of the people in my section and asked them to make sure I'm not depressed. Oof.
My face looks mean. It's just the way my face looks. Back in school, classmates were ok with it. Now at work, with adults, I get teased about it a lot. You'd think the adults would be more mature than teenagers but they are not.
I believe your parents just want to know that you're happy, and one of the best indicators of happiness is smiling. But, some people fail to realize that we are all different and everyone expresses their emotions in different ways.
Mine did that, he's really turned it around now in his old age, but most of his kids are disinterested in actually putting in the effort now that he's suddenly acting like a decent person. Too little too late.
Glad I'm not alone. I feel guilty for ignoring him most of my life but I'm used to it and it's weird to start talking to him because I've always been scared and avoided him my whole childhood
i have ADHD symptoms and i've been trying to talk to my parents about it and how it causes executive dysfunction but i'm being very brushed off because my parents see it as nothing but laziness and excuses :(
@@raekyomato2237 i already got disgnosed with adhd and my mom keeps saying im lazy and adhd can be conditioned and its just in the mind “ just dont think about it”
I’m 9 and this is happening. And if you say “Kids can’t be depressed, they don’t have bills to pay”,First of all, they might have toxic parents, bullies, etc, and second of all, W H A T D I D I S A Y.
My parents, especially my mom, usually decided what I should do when I was younger. Now that I'm a teen, I get really stressed. I can barely decide for my self and I always freak out because of simple things. Now, they kind of stopped. But they don't entirely support the things I wanna do. I wanted to join a special art class at my school, but all my mom said was "Are you really gonna join?". It's kinda tough. Now I'm doubting if I should even go to the tryouts. They expect me to be like my sister. And it's so damn tough.
Go to them tryouts. If you think this art class is something that would make you happy, go for it regardless of whether your parents approve. Parents don't always no beet. ❤️❤️
I actually get this; my mom was the same way, but now she has backed off a bit. Like you I want to take a class next year, chemistry, and she completely thinks I’m insane. This year I took two maths and I’m ( knock on wood) passing both, but she thought I would fail... I could tell. DO THE TRYOUTS!!! Just cause your mom thinks she knows doesn’t mean she does!! You know in yourself that you can do it! Don’t let anyone tell you what you can’t do. Going through life like that.. it isn’t pleasant. Don’t give up such a great opportunity! 😄
Oh dear! You make me think about my days in high-school. Those were the toughest years of my life so far. I’m 32 now, and life is so different, maybe I have adult problems but Things have changed. I had to rebelled in a way in my early twenties, but I learn to size the risks I take and now my parents respect and support me, they know I’ll be responsible. Even when we are different I learn to respect (most of the time) their ideas and what makes them happy... now having them in my life gives me the strength to follow my passion, to be myself, to pursue happiness. Make the best out of your choices, be kind to yourself imagine you are your own friend who needs some words of encouragement and learn to make mistakes! Don’t be hard on yourself.
Unknown stranger because we are horrible creatures who are full of lust and desire and only rlly care about ourselves without thinking about the harm to others. Well at least that’s what I know from experience with being abandoned by my mum, dad, stepdad, sisters, nan and all my “friends”
I had a father growing up but we were never and still aren't close. I see him every day and there's no feelings of hostility, but I've only ever been comfortable enough to utter a simple sentence to him or only talk about important things like what time an event is. My moms always been the one who I did EVERYTHING with. Its like my dad only existed economically. Talking to him is always awkward and we never have lengthy conversations. Sometimes he'll ask how Im doing and I'll say "ok" and that'll be the end of it
Same, but my father is a choleric that expects everything to be perfect and my parents often argue with eachother. He also often yells at my and my brother for small things, but fortunately he only visits us for the weekend and holidays. I didn't have a grandfather growing up, my first grandmother had two husbands, but she split with the first one (that's my fathers father, my grandmother often says that they behave similarly) and the other one died. My second grandmother's husband died too, the only male rolemodel I've had growing up was my brother, but I hated him up until last year, he was and still is weird, but he is also caring and compationate. I also have an uncle but he and my aunt live like 30 km away from here, and we visit them only on ocassion. Me and my father don't talk much, and as of now we just hate eachother for the things that happened in the recent past, but neither one of us wants to change. He just gets in a cycle of doing something stupid, like drinking with shitty neighbours whom he calls friends, he gets drunk, my parents argue, he leaves for work, life goes on, the weekend comes and it happens all over again almost every week. He doesn't see his own flaws and blames everything on others. And my parents can't even divorce because of money, paperwork and other stuff. I grew up mentaly healthy because it either got worse over the years of I just didn't notice, I'm just glad that I turned out fine. Sorry for this being so long.
@@kaet8333 Woah that's a lot. Sorry you're going thru that. I can relate to the parents arguing & divorce issue as well. My parents marriage is practically held together by tape, it's otherwise severely broken. They've threatened each other with divorce but there's that money problem like you said. Family can be difficult, but I think its important to keep in mind that anyone can be considered family, not just blood relatives
@Moon To be honest, my father is the only thing that is wrong with my family and my life in general. I have friends, I am healthy, I love the rest of my small family, we have money but he is providing the most to me and my mother, so even if they don't love eachother we at least can live good lives when he leaves. I only said how it is when he is around, but when he isn't our lives look normal. I know everything could be way worse, but that doesn't mean I can't ever talk about this topic. So, don't feel bad for me, everything is ok most of the time anyway.
This fits me as well, me and my dad don't really have anything in common or do anything together, except occasionally play board games on the weekends, it's me and my mom who usually do things together and it's her I prefer to do things with, like I always preferred her to teach me to drive, she took it seriously and actually taught me important things and almost talked about it constantly while driving, like giving tips on what to do and where certain things are located, my dad just sat there and only spoke a few seconds before I had to do something like stop at the stop sign or turn on the blinker, one little mistake I made he wouldn't stop joking about it and it drove me crazy and made me a little mad, I still don't have a drivers license, I have a learners permit, and I'm 22. Well, not the divorce thing, hope it gets better.
"Existed economically" you have to idea how much I relate to that, and everything else you said. Except in my case I don't tell my mom anything either lol. She tends to overreact to things.
"Why do you stay far away from others ?" "Why don't you try to be more social?" "You're just turning on youself, go talk to others!" "You're too much on your phone, it's just taking you away from us, taking away your time for nothing. You have to stop" "What? Oh i get it, it's mY fault. I ALWAYS am in the wrong with YOU." "Why didn't you introduced me to your friend?! Do I shame you?!" But then why did you always kept me at home, during vacations or just on normal days ? How do you want me to socialize just a little when i can't do it in real life? Why don't you ask yourself more seriously this question, just once in a lifetime? What do you expect from someone who has non social skills?
Parent: makes all the decisions, constantly reinforces that they know what's best for me and that I can't Me: constantly doubts my ability to make competent decisions and always questions myself Parent: why the hell are you so negative?? You don't have depression! You have no excuse!
Literally my parents. They judge every effing time and I hated them for that. They want me to do what's best and they'll never pay attention to my feelings. They still didn't know I've been suffering depression since Middle School. I'm in college and still didnt know.
My parents are very controllable over my decisions. I am very codependent. I cant make simple decisions without fear of failing or scolding. I think I have depression too.
Sorry to hear. :/ I was raised pretty codependent by my mom, too. Luckily I got out of the house last year. It wasn't a pretty situation, but I wish you the best of luck. All I gotta say is stand your ground. I wasn't willing to put up with the control and broke free out of that.
@@steveberg4332 You got to take that step to make a move. Living on your own is always a good start if you can afford the means to do so. Save up if you have to!
@@Psych2go Moving out would be the worst thing to do for someone who is not used to make decisions for himself. thats like the worst advice. lets say u moved to college dorm and u meet bad friends u cant make ur own decisions to not smoke, drink, do drugs with them because ur not used to saying no.
It's interesting how many traumatised people there are in the comments. It makes me really grateful for my stable childhood. I didn't always have happy times, but because of my stable environment I've managed to work through many of my problems and issues almost on my own. I still have issues like moderate abandonment issues, but I'm making great progress, and I'm already a relatively stable and happy person.
You say stable multiple times then slide the abandonment issue in there at a awkward section of your comment. I mean I’m not far off from this I am alive so I considered my childhood stable. I’ve been molding and shaping myself since right around 10 so I observed a lot during my childhood.
@@tylerc6559 I do have _slight_ abandonment issues, but they don't really affect me often. Everyone has some kind of problems/issues, even with a stable childhood, and as I said I didn't always have good times. I was excluded at school for several years because I had no social skilld and had almost no friends. Of course, that has an effect on an 11-year-old. But I'm a pretty happy person now. Not always, I have my down phases, but usually I'm fine.
my parents never let me make my own decisions. if i had a dallar for every time they manipulated me, made my decisions and made me feel bad for *_them_* i’d be able to move out
Parents:**punish me for small things as a child** Me:**feels like I can't do anything right and I'm bad at EVERYTHING** Me: "I'm sad" Parents: "You have no reason to be sad, stop being sad" Me: _wHy diDn'T i ThInK oF tHaT_
My childhood was very rough and very trumatic. Living with a single mom, who was old fashioned, loved to spank me daily until she died suddenly, 13 years ago. I'm a screwed adult, that's for sure.
I'm so sorry that happened to you. During my childhood,when my mom went to work,that's when my dad and his side of the family had the opportunity to beat and mock me for their sick entertainment. I had told my mom and then soon afterward she divorced him.
I guess I can consider myself to be somewhat, however, I'm one of the more _well-adjusted_ members of my family. Everyone else is either okay, illiterate, dumber than a box of rocks, and or still continue that cycle of unhealthy behaviors/relationships. I oft wonder why my parents were selfish and didn't give me away, as they were horrid parents.
"Children who got spanked may work harder to avoid being punished." it aLL MAKES SENSE NOW Okay but legit I still do that even if I know my parents won't spank me now
My mom used to force me to go to some of those math contests and i hated them. I told her that I don’t want to go and she yelled at me saying i have to. I remember crying a lot those times.
lol my parents did alot of these and i struggled so much as a child with feelings of insecurity and i had social anxiety although deep down i felt like i had this desire to be social. my true self has come with time and im so proud of myself because i had to get uncomfortable so many times to conquer these feelings
I've gotten so use to my parents yelling and fighting about each other it's become normal they hate each other but they stay with each other it's really sad;-;
yeah, like my parents are still together but they're pretty much on the verge of divorce and they said the reason they're still together is because of me? yes, being in a problematic and damaging household would definitely help me :]
My mom was a strict parent that made me scared to do things when I'm old enough to do so, she pretty much controlled my childhood. when I was younger i had to mature quicker & was very rebellious i used to be real shy but silly. I grew up to "those aren't your friends you will have fun when you get older" or "nope, no bf they only want one thing" saying that makes a teenager curious especially if they grew up ugly & started to look attractive later on. Tbh I wish I had a good connection & tell me good advice when I need them nope I had to learn on my own
Dude you hit me in the jugular. I've never felt this exposed before.. Made me shed a few tears because it's true what you said. Now I'm gonna punch a wall to feel manly again.
@@mcxopjesh Sometimes, in my case at least, you get yelled at for crying, so you stop, same thing for every negative emotion. So you put up a facade, but it doesn't work. Then you get depression, but you dont show it. Some parents are horrible
Some of these things work both ways : 1. If your parents were very lenient, you don't value rules. 2. If your parents didn't punish you, you start believing that you can do whatever you want and get away with it. There is no one correct way of parenting. You have to maintain a balance. You may never get the perfect balance, but an achievable good balance varies between individuals
And that is called neglect, my dear. So in other words, it's also toxic. Don't try to normalize these kinds of dynamics by saying there is no perfect parenting. No, there isn't, but there is good parenting. You don't have to be perfect. You have to care, try and reflect though.
@Matt T. Child abuse is not such a straightforward concept. Abuse doesn't necessarily have to be physical. If you raise your child to believe that they can get away with anything and they can do whatever the hell they want, it's also a kind of child abuse.
Pradeep Guragain parenting isn’t about a balance between punishing and rewarding. Its about guiding and empathizing with your kid to teach them morals by example.
Oh oh I got one! Me: Is upset about something and shows feelings about being upset. Mom: Tell me! Me: *Tells her* Mom: *Rushes me through the story* God, you’re such a complainer. You’re so dramatic. And now you’re gonna take it out on me at home. Me: What...no. When did I ever say that? I just- Mom: See, you got an attitude already! You need to stop being rude to me! *Proceeds to insist that absolutely everything I say is an insult to her for the rest of the day*. Also Mom: You never talk to me! You can tell me if you have any problems!
Ha I got a similar story from when I was 6! It was Easter. Everybody else is finding eggs better than me, and I'm getting more and more upset about it. My older sister asks what was wrong after the egg hunt, and I rush off on the verge of tears. I hid in a front yard bush crying for a solid 2 minutes before coming back inside. My mom runs into me, and I try to hide at the side of the couch, knowing she'd probably yell at me. My mom says "Honey, tell me what's wrong." I tell her how I was upset about finding the least eggs, and she yells at me to get over it, it's not a big deal. Ha, maybe one of her daughters finding the least eggs by a landslide wasn't much for her, but it was for me. And up to this day she tells me that I never tell her anything. Maybe if she didn't yell at me for every little significant thing, then maybe I could.
Sam LOTR-HP Same, I relate to this. Except mine was telling my step Mom about me grieving and missing loved ones that had passed away and then she just connects it to me over-fixating on things like celebrities, fictional characters and other things that didn’t connect at all to my grief other than just to drag me it felt.
When I was around 5 years old I was the only one in my class with divorced parents. By the time I reached 13 years old not having divorced parents was uncommon. I don’t think parents realize how much that can messed up a person especially if they get marry to another person who isn’t nice to you. Like I know you can’t know if you’re still going to be with your baby’s mother or father. But please don’t force your kid to live in a household with people that are full of crap. My mom choose her husband over me and my brother and forced us to live unhappy with her. If you really love your child let them be happy with or without you. Being in that situation can make you feel so damn lonely so make sure everyone sees this. Thank you! You are not alone.❤️
My parents divorced when I was very young but I value love over anything. Love and physical interaction makes me very happy. People think I don’t like hugs but I love them so much.
I remember I was around 6 when I found divorce papers in my moms car, they never got divorced but she till keeps them in case. She always says aloud “we don’t belong together.” But they look so happy in public, it just makes me have pity, I’ve wanted to move out since age 4, and my father isn’t that innocent he’s very... verbally abusing...
@@adamquinn4677 i don't agree to this. My mother went through this, and long story short, parents asked her too much, was stressed out, exausted, and car crash. She almost died. It seems like nothing, but that's why she has a lot of issues now. They also probably don't say everything they are going through, fearing people like you would judge them. We're literally on a video to help us, please be nicer.
0:45 If your parents were highly strict, you may grow up to be co-dependent 1:15 If your parents have a broken marriage, it changes your romantic demands 1:51 If your parents micromanaged you, you’re more likely to develop depression 2:25 If your parents watched TV with you when you were a toddler instead of reading to you, it can suppress your communication skills 2:59 If you copied your parents a lot, you’re more likely to be open to other cultures 3:34 If you were spanked as a child, you may become sneakier as an adult 4:12 If your parents have a drug or alcohol addiction, you’re susceptible to be perfectionism 4:47 If you have a close relationship with your father, you’re more likely to enter healthier relationships
child me: can you help me fix my bike? dad dad: learn to do things on your own (he just didn't want to) child me: ok (crying) ... dad: you never get involved with us nor help us and never tell us about what you do, you just think on yourself me now: yeah, whatever
Same, only my scenario was: Dad: Oh I see someone gave you bruises. You’re grounded for three weeks, and you’re lucky I don’t beat your ass too. God, I can’t go hang out with the guys because of you. Mom: Learn to toughen up a bit *after breaking my foot at school because I landed on it wrong after someone pushed me down*. You’re so dramatic. Mom and Dad now: Why don’t you hang out with us? Me: *Leaves room to finish an important school assignment in peace in my bedroom* Both parents (loudly): Fine! No wonder you don’t have any friends, bitch.
acktually aintaddingup I’m a Hufflepuff who hasn’t snap, crackle, popped yet, Star Wars the Clone Wars practically raised me so I feel that killing others isn’t the Jedi way, and I also dream about the day when I’ll finally be free from them and their toxicity which I will never come back to. Plus, there’s been so many people who have hurt me that I had to become mature, and with that I know that just ignoring them is better than violence. That’s why my bullies eventually quit harassing me, I made it to where it was no longer fun for them to kick and push me around.
What about parents that give your older sibling a free ride through life because they want to, then complain about anything they had to do or give for you?
@Jon Jones Just turned 32 recently & STILL everynow & then watch Tom & Jerry or Spongebob. To temporarily revisit the innocent care-free happiness of past childhood days & laugh away some of life's pain & heaviness for a minute. 💙 No harm in that.
Parents: complain that I'm always at home and not going outside with friends Me: *going outside* Parents: teasing, making fun of me and complaining how I have going out so much lately -_-
@@Psych2go I realised that i have low self esteem because my mother always did stuff for me and to this day im still trying to learn and do things on my own like work but its not really easy im still hoping my mother helps me with it.
Me: Gets home feeling anxious, depressed, sad, worthless, physically and mentally exausted, clearly about to cry My mom: Well she didn't say "Hi" so I guess this is the best time to argue with her and call her rude
Lady Lynx THIS IS SO RELATABLE!!! Why do they always want you to say hi??? Like I can never take time to myself, no matter how I feel I have to engage in their stupid futile small talk otherwise I’m “ungrateful” or “disrespectful” or “a fucking retarded dick” like wtf!!
Nice Video!!! I think this video really helps the new parents because the parents in the present world are running behind making more money to buy happiness for their kids. In this rush, they do not have time or they are not aware that spending quality time with their kids and handling the kids emotional well being is so important that materialistic happiness. I feel the value of parents who give prime importance to kids emotions will have a better place in their kids mind when they grow up and thereby they become a better individual! .
Sadly, rents aren't paid with kids emotions tho.. Edit: I'm here sarcastic btw for those who think I actually wish that rents can just get paid with kids emotions.
Indeed. That's the goal of these videos. As much as they are meant for self knowledge, they are also intended for future generation parents to be mindful of their actions.
Lol. I always got grounded from the activities I started liking that were outdoors and started doing them less and less. Now I’m a gamer and hardly do shit as an adult.
i really am in the 7 example, "some children may adopt the habits of their parents, wich can manifest into depression, anxiety and feeling of worthlessness" yep, got it all, ty parents for sabotaging my adult life since my childhood
Salty Storm you are fine human being, it just means you will have to work harder to overcome your childhood. I had a narc mother and an emotionally distant father. I was severely messed up as a teenager. It took time and work, but I'm a pretty healthy human nowadays.
@@Vyom108 We have one here actually; ua-cam.com/video/K-cODu7WnJ0/v-deo.html Do you have a follow up suggestion for it? Do you personally suffer from OCD?
@@EchthelionII It can be! "OCD causes severe anxiety in those affected and involves both obsessions and compulsions that interfere with daily life. " - www.bbrfoundation.org/faq/frequently-asked-questions-about-ocd?gclid=EAIaIQobChMIkons46Ty4AIVziCtBh0Q8wYEEAAYASAAEgLH2vD_BwE
My dad was really abusive to me as a kid and, thank God, he hasn't been involved in my life in over a decade. He still has an effect on how I see guys, though. :/ He always has.
I hope you break free from that mindset soon. He only has an affect on you because you allow it. You're allowing the past to dictate your present and future. As soon as you practice self worth and know for a fact that he was in the wrong, you'll start to heal. Detach yourself from your father and his actions. Start to see the world through your current eyes, not the eyes of your abused childhood. As someone who's been through it, trust me, I know how the past can grip you and never let go. It'll take awhile to undo all the trauma, but it's worth it. With proper guidance and a good support system, you'll begin to see the good in men and in yourself. Take care of yourself, hun. You deserve love and happiness.
I feel that, Ms. Kitty. It definitely leaves a lasting effect. My dad used to beat me up when no one was home. I haven't seen him in over a decade. I have detached from him emotionally and don't feel any particular way about it anymore, but I am justifiably sceptical of men as a result. I was probably always a lesbian to begin with, but who knows how much abuse plays a role in the end?
diane cry-anne nguyen I am, sincerely, so sorry you had to go through that. :( I think such experiences, though, can teach you about what kind of parent you do not want to be, thus making you stronger.
4:12 That's also for neglect. If a child was neglected they would have to do a lot of things on their own and often don't get a chance to be a kid and mainly focus on basic neccaties.
I got into foster care at the age 3 then got out at age 12 and I never stayed in one home for long so now I don't have much feelings and don't trust many people now
My dad has low temper he usually snaps on my mom Once I accidentally snapped on my friend ;-; I was so guilty that now I just hide almost every emotion and keep a straight face Oof life
Im only 15 but i never realized how unstable my family is until now. The way they talked to me had made me used to it and they question why i am the way i am , dats tuff.
Parents:Divorced and Live with either of them Grandma:Bipolar and prefers my brother Grandmas boyfriend:Makes fun of me and says I need a diet Siblings:Gain more attention Me:Skinny,Closes off,Never has had a stable relationship in any form,Anxiety,Most likely going to develop bad habits
@@steveberg4332 lol wtf not sure if you're trolling but my message clearly went over your head. It was an indirect way of me saying "let's not be too pessimistic and just see what happens, it could turn out better than you expected". Either way I was expressing interest and curiosity, not "stalking". I take it that this was simply some silly misunderstanding.
@@leeshinmf I think @Steve Berg is trolling. Don't worry about it haha. You are a very supportive and caring individual. Do you have a topic you'd like us to do?
It's good to realize that you are the way you are a lot because the way you were raised because it gives you the opportunity to grow/change in the ways that can improve your quality of life. Another quick note is that most parents are doing the best that they can and are struggling from their own childhood. It can help to picture your parents as a child ❤️
My parents hardly read any stories to me as a kid but we watched tv together. perhaps that's why i'm bad at explaining and stutter alot..? sometimes mum would watch a gorey movie and i'd kinda run upstairs and hide. i still hate gore today, too scary for me.. and I wasn't spanked but i was beat up, even by siblings and school :
I'dont know about you but when I was young. More like 3 to 4 years old. My father used to let me watch some gorey stuff and horror. But now, I grew up being strong and a teen who's not afraid of things, which are scary. And it make me confident also. I think it's different based on the person. And let me add this, my parents spank me too when I was young but it made me a good person I was today and I'm grateful for that. Btw I'm a girl
"nothing gets done if i'm not here to do it and i'm unable to get anything done because nothing i do is never enough when responsibilities keep piling up and i will feel forever guilty" -my childhood
My father is an alcohol addict,he never layed a finger on me but I was the one taking care of the house.I never got help from them, they expected me to be a straight A student but never took the time to help me with that goal. Instead, I became independent and took care of myself. I still don't know what future holds for me but I still love my parents for making me the way i am today.
My childhood: Eeee yelling a lot, shyness, some normal times, bullying in school As I am teen now, I feel like I'm developing some shits like depression or anxiety. Also! Neurosis is really interesting disorder, but really underrated. Would you do some video about it?
I'm still a child, but I think it's going pretty...bad. I'm really socially awkward and shy and have a toxic friend and I think I have anxiety or depression. I've watched a lot of Psych2Go videos and other videos about depression/anxiety and I think I do.
everything will get better ok :(( just hold on trust me, been there done that :(( when you grew up as an adult you will leave other things behind and work towards your happiness
my parents never showed any affection nor they were loving (still aren't) ,,, im in my early teen years and its hard for me to be affectionate and caring towards people because i don't really know how all that stuff works :')
you're childhood reflects the adult u become. ..I was 3 years old when my biological father beat me up😢..I do remember it..TRUMA is what u remember..now I'm an adult I'm riddled with OCD.ANXIETY.DEPRESSION ,HEALTH ISSUES CONSTANTLY.HEALTH ANXIETY(HYPOCHONDRIA)..tendencies to think about suicide😢.but on the flip side of things..it actually made me strong person...because although I battlee with these demons😈..I hide it well and try to live a "NORMALLIFE"...I'VE RAISED MY 2 BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTERS..ALWAYS WORKED..AND TRY TO LIVE EACH DAY BEST I CAN..BLESS U ALL💕
Oh, honey, I hope you're seeking therapy. Hiding your pain will only make it worse, trust me. You deserve to be truly happy. For your sake and the sake of your daughters, please seek help. Your kids WILL pick up on your anxiety and depression. Kids are way more sensitive to that kind of thing than adults.
when you grow up overworked stressed-out, my mom stressed me out enough to make me cry in the bathroom and when i told her she didn't care true story actually yeah im fine
The question now is: How do I change? I´m grateful for lots of things my family gave me but there are also lots fo things I wish I could get rid of. Everything I dislike about my personality has a lot to do with them. I´m afraid of having children one day cause I may make the same mistakes.
me: *is crying* Parents:... Me:*still crying* Parents:”Why are you crying?” Me:”oh it’s just my contacts” Parents:”yeah okay then pass the salt” Me:*passes salt* Yeah salt is more important :(
During my childhood, when I cry they don’t even bother asking, they just stare ,,and ignore.. Right now I’m 21 , and I don’t like to cry it brings the same bad feelings,
Same, I'm like an introverted extrovert. It's weird, but I've grown to deal with it. Where as my brother wasn't read to as much as me, and he barely started getting better at talking at the age six. it's been three to four years now, as he's nine. He can talk just fine, but he's got an accent that nobody else in my family has, nor the people he's around daily. For a large period of time, he only read non fiction, whie I only read fiction. He reads a lot of the books I read at his age now, and I continue to hate most non fiction books.
that one parent that gossips to their friends on everything "bad" you do but you were only stressed out from how confusing and toxic they are
YES
Litteraly my mom
This is my best friends mom...that alchoholic bi*ch
My mother though.
Your pfp goes well with the situation. I hate how that can happen
One of the reason i dont want to have kids. I dont trust myself in being a caring and responsible mother that can affect my kid's childhood
Edit : I thought people would find this edgy but wow didnt expect the understanding and supports. Thanks
a normal fangirl 💯
One of the many reasons for me 😂
But the fact that you have that kind of insight and compassion shows that you definitely have potential (:
Same
Me too ☹️
Me: **has clear signs of mental illness**
My parents: is this laziness?
weird same
Me: tells doctor every time I see them for a year
Doctor: have you tried eating more vegetables
weird I feel that
Absolutely. Insanely accurate
weird 100% correct I told my parents to sent me to therapy and my parents said:What do you have depression for?Me in my mind: *Did you forgot your own fathers death mother?*
The sneakier thing got me hard. My parents beat the hell out of me as a child, now I'm older, I'm always afraid of getting caught for the most unimportant of things and I'm constantly hiding.
I'm so sorry... My mum was hit as a child and she's often very sneaky & can be self·obsessed. She's terrified of being "found out" so she didn't wind up being a really great parent though she truly meant well. It's just her fears from childhood affected her ability to be honest.
Again, I'm so sorry for the stuff *you* went through & I hope you have help & a trustworthy friend/partner (my mum didn't have help cos "the olden days") • xoxo 💗
I swear I refuse to tell the truth unless it benefits me... My mom used to be like who ate my mints. I TELL THE TRUTH I GET BEATEN. I tell a lie I have a 50/50 chance telling the truth NEVER sounded like a good idea....MF be like yo did u pay the electricity...I be like yep..lol
@@vanayekelley My thing isn't even lying, but I literally hide when I perceive no threat.
I literally lie about the dumbest shit like why
Thank you for this comment.
9. Parents who always compare you to your siblings
Savage Bulbasaur yes😔 it’s really sad tbh bc my sister was an bad example for me
“Wow, you’re just like *insert family member who failed at life here*” oh...
9b. Parents who compare you to unrelated children (especially the ones they know you don't/didn't like).
Or in my case, my cousins.
Look into narcissistic parents
So who else is a damaged kid and you know it
If you're stressy and you know it clap your hands
*clap clap*
If you're stressy and you know it clap your hands
*clap clap*
If you're stressy and depressy and your life is kinda messy if you're stressy and depressy clap your hands
*clap clap*
Pretty much every person in some way or another
I am
Damaged but Jesus heals and he is healing me ♡♡♡
I feel bipolar in a way idk
I was verbally abused from my mom as a child and I feel like that definitely affected my lifestyle now. Because I'm really insecure everytime I get out and I worry about being judged constantly.
I didn't know there was others.
Sorry you experienced that as a child. Being aware makes all the difference because you can work towards growing and being who you want to be despite your childhood. 💜
my mother verbally abused me to my teen years i hated how i look and didnt follow my dreams of being a actor or dancer as i felt to ugly.
@@kimaria91 It's never too late! Pray about it.
Same. Now I’m an over-thinker/over analyzer on the simplest thing.
my parents: always compares me to my siblings, cousins, friends.. Gets mad for simply me being myself, gets mad for my university of choice... Gets mad whenever i try to open up to them and just laughs to my problems
also my parents: *tell us if you have any problems*
True
I feel you...
ω expensive girl ω me too
I don't openly trust them when they tell me to talk to them about anything that I need
Yep
I don't consider them when they start rambling about how much I've grown up and how heartless I am now.
Because I kept telling them that they contributed to that outcome and that we should work together to solve it, yet, they play the "we know it all better than you". So, keep doing it 👍🏽
“You never talk to me anymore!”
**talks**
“You’re giving me a headache, be quiet or go upstairs”
-_-
@Soda King Wow... I am so sorry, I don't know what to say... I'm not good with helping people out when it comes to things like this... I just hope eventually everything turns out better for you.
Upstairs?
Yeah,BRUH
They want me to talk and then shut me-
Exactly.
My mom will always say "why don't you talk to the family?" When I talk:"shut up you sound stupid"
"Go sit down somewhere"
I just realized that I'm not relationship material. I was sheltered. And people wonder why I crush on cartoons and comic book characters. They won't hurt me.
I understand, my life is the same!
That's the truest thing I've ever heard!
That doesn't mean yuo're not relationship material. That means you might have some extra work to do, and that's perfectly okay.
Okay most relatable thing in the comment section
Same here bro
Parents: *talks about how my cousin is better at math than me, not giving me enough sleep, gives too much work/unnecessary activities to do, lets child solve their own problems and giving negative comments*
Me: gets envious too easily, cranky, stressed out, afraid to open up to anybody, and is afraid of getting criticized
Parents: "vIdEoGamEs"
Parents: "iT's BeCaUsE oF tHaT PhOnE!"
i can relate it
嫌いGlítçhy I feel you bro :(
@@staecycruz5023 :(
Parents: pHonE
Telling your child to be more social will make them became antisocial.
Exactly, because so much pressure is on you. My mom said to be less shy, and now I’m shy.
Dear Evan Hansen? 😳
Oh no another one with the gacha virus!
Yep!
They do not even allow you to socialize 😒
My parents think I’m depressed because I don’t smile at everything
Like for example
We were at the shops and just walking, not saying anything then my parents turn to me and say
“Why aren’t you smiling”
Am I meant to smile at the ground?
Imagine seeing someone just smiling at the ground when everything is silent
Why parents or any older relatives are like this? My grandma do this too. My mom sometimes do this too
This is literally me. Apparently my default face looks depressed because people are always asking if I'm ok. My band director even talked with one of the people in my section and asked them to make sure I'm not depressed. Oof.
My face looks mean. It's just the way my face looks. Back in school, classmates were ok with it. Now at work, with adults, I get teased about it a lot. You'd think the adults would be more mature than teenagers but they are not.
I know right they get mad at me when I tell them the truth and make shit up, they also blame my friends for my attitude 😢
I believe your parents just want to know that you're happy, and one of the best indicators of happiness is smiling. But, some people fail to realize that we are all different and everyone expresses their emotions in different ways.
I’ve watched tv my whole life.
*_I learned English that way, anybody else?_*
Me
with music too
GTA SA in my case
Star Wars the Clone Wars practically raised me, my dude; I feel. Also books, because a library was the only place I could find peace and acceptance.
No habla englais
Mom: Do this thing!
Me: I don't know how-
Mom: You're older, you should know by now!
Also Mom: *never tought me how to do the thing*
Yep i dont even know how to boil water..... And im 12
@@Gremlinlikesfrogs oh hey we're the same age noice
Exams in a nutshell
*same*
o m g
my mom does the same
if you have a close relationship with your father your more likely to enter healthier relationships...
well im screwed
We're both screwed.
Welcome to the Forever Alone Squad I guess.. :v
@@nonexistentuser3420 be screwed together :D!!!
I'm screwed too T_T
You and me both.
Don't we all
Dad: *yells at everybody because of his problem*
Also dad: why don't you talk to me anymore?
That's literally my dad.
Mine did that, he's really turned it around now in his old age, but most of his kids are disinterested in actually putting in the effort now that he's suddenly acting like a decent person. Too little too late.
Glad I'm not alone. I feel guilty for ignoring him most of my life but I'm used to it and it's weird to start talking to him because I've always been scared and avoided him my whole childhood
EXACTLY
This is my dad
Me: a lot of mental problems
My parents: that’s definitely laziness
i have ADHD symptoms and i've been trying to talk to my parents about it and how it causes executive dysfunction but i'm being very brushed off because my parents see it as nothing but laziness and excuses :(
@@raekyomato2237 i already got disgnosed with adhd and my mom keeps saying im lazy and adhd can be conditioned and its just in the mind “ just dont think about it”
I think my childhood has just crushed me and left me broken.
Yup same for a lot of us I’m sure
@@redditsource1972 Amen to that. 😔
I’m sorry. Remember, the future is in your hands. You can do it.
U can't change the past but u could create the future bro/sis 🙏❤
I’m 9 and this is happening. And if you say “Kids can’t be depressed, they don’t have bills to pay”,First of all, they might have toxic parents, bullies, etc, and second of all, W H A T D I D I S A Y.
My parents, especially my mom, usually decided what I should do when I was younger. Now that I'm a teen, I get really stressed. I can barely decide for my self and I always freak out because of simple things. Now, they kind of stopped. But they don't entirely support the things I wanna do. I wanted to join a special art class at my school, but all my mom said was "Are you really gonna join?". It's kinda tough. Now I'm doubting if I should even go to the tryouts. They expect me to be like my sister. And it's so damn tough.
Go to them tryouts. If you think this art class is something that would make you happy, go for it regardless of whether your parents approve. Parents don't always no beet. ❤️❤️
Go to the tryouts you'll regret not doing it if you don't. Just don't let any hobby/extracurricular affect your grades.
I actually get this; my mom was the same way, but now she has backed off a bit. Like you I want to take a class next year, chemistry, and she completely thinks I’m insane. This year I took two maths and I’m ( knock on wood) passing both, but she thought I would fail... I could tell. DO THE TRYOUTS!!! Just cause your mom thinks she knows doesn’t mean she does!! You know in yourself that you can do it! Don’t let anyone tell you what you can’t do. Going through life like that.. it isn’t pleasant. Don’t give up such a great opportunity! 😄
Oh dear! You make me think about my days in high-school. Those were the toughest years of my life so far. I’m 32 now, and life is so different, maybe I have adult problems but Things have changed. I had to rebelled in a way in my early twenties, but I learn to size the risks I take and now my parents respect and support me, they know I’ll be responsible. Even when we are different I learn to respect (most of the time) their ideas and what makes them happy... now having them in my life gives me the strength to follow my passion, to be myself, to pursue happiness. Make the best out of your choices, be kind to yourself imagine you are your own friend who needs some words of encouragement and learn to make mistakes! Don’t be hard on yourself.
Same. Omg. They make my life seems confusing af
Mom: Why are you so shy all the time?
Me: *finally is confident with something*
Mom: What makes you so confident?
r/2meirl4meirl
V e n t u r d o s u s
What makes her so dumb? (Sorry)
Me: *tries something new and tries to be confident*
Parents: *makes fun of me and says it’s weird for me to do this*
Me: *insecure and stops doing it*
I feel this
WHAT?!AM I SUPPOSED TO BE EMOTIONLESS!?
So my parents sabotaged my life from the get go?
Elise Duarte I had a very painful childhood......My parent and aunt ruin my life.......Manipulators are everywhere......
@@lilac624 I feel you. I'm sorry for what you had to go through and hope you're in a better place now.
Why cant humans just get along and help eachother?
Unknown stranger because we are horrible creatures who are full of lust and desire and only rlly care about ourselves without thinking about the harm to others. Well at least that’s what I know from experience with being abandoned by my mum, dad, stepdad, sisters, nan and all my “friends”
Pretty much in some cases u intentionally
I had a father growing up but we were never and still aren't close. I see him every day and there's no feelings of hostility, but I've only ever been comfortable enough to utter a simple sentence to him or only talk about important things like what time an event is. My moms always been the one who I did EVERYTHING with. Its like my dad only existed economically. Talking to him is always awkward and we never have lengthy conversations. Sometimes he'll ask how Im doing and I'll say "ok" and that'll be the end of it
Same, but my father is a choleric that expects everything to be perfect and my parents often argue with eachother. He also often yells at my and my brother for small things, but fortunately he only visits us for the weekend and holidays. I didn't have a grandfather growing up, my first grandmother had two husbands, but she split with the first one (that's my fathers father, my grandmother often says that they behave similarly) and the other one died. My second grandmother's husband died too, the only male rolemodel I've had growing up was my brother, but I hated him up until last year, he was and still is weird, but he is also caring and compationate. I also have an uncle but he and my aunt live like 30 km away from here, and we visit them only on ocassion. Me and my father don't talk much, and as of now we just hate eachother for the things that happened in the recent past, but neither one of us wants to change. He just gets in a cycle of doing something stupid, like drinking with shitty neighbours whom he calls friends, he gets drunk, my parents argue, he leaves for work, life goes on, the weekend comes and it happens all over again almost every week. He doesn't see his own flaws and blames everything on others. And my parents can't even divorce because of money, paperwork and other stuff. I grew up mentaly healthy because it either got worse over the years of I just didn't notice, I'm just glad that I turned out fine.
Sorry for this being so long.
@@kaet8333 Woah that's a lot. Sorry you're going thru that. I can relate to the parents arguing & divorce issue as well. My parents marriage is practically held together by tape, it's otherwise severely broken. They've threatened each other with divorce but there's that money problem like you said. Family can be difficult, but I think its important to keep in mind that anyone can be considered family, not just blood relatives
@Moon To be honest, my father is the only thing that is wrong with my family and my life in general. I have friends, I am healthy, I love the rest of my small family, we have money but he is providing the most to me and my mother, so even if they don't love eachother we at least can live good lives when he leaves. I only said how it is when he is around, but when he isn't our lives look normal. I know everything could be way worse, but that doesn't mean I can't ever talk about this topic. So, don't feel bad for me, everything is ok most of the time anyway.
This fits me as well, me and my dad don't really have anything in common or do anything together, except occasionally play board games on the weekends, it's me and my mom who usually do things together and it's her I prefer to do things with, like I always preferred her to teach me to drive, she took it seriously and actually taught me important things and almost talked about it constantly while driving, like giving tips on what to do and where certain things are located, my dad just sat there and only spoke a few seconds before I had to do something like stop at the stop sign or turn on the blinker, one little mistake I made he wouldn't stop joking about it and it drove me crazy and made me a little mad, I still don't have a drivers license, I have a learners permit, and I'm 22. Well, not the divorce thing, hope it gets better.
"Existed economically" you have to idea how much I relate to that, and everything else you said. Except in my case I don't tell my mom anything either lol. She tends to overreact to things.
Oh that’s why I can’t bring myself to leave the house and socialize. Guess being kept away from people does that.
Yep
"Why do you stay far away from others ?"
"Why don't you try to be more social?"
"You're just turning on youself, go talk to others!"
"You're too much on your phone, it's just taking you away from us, taking away your time for nothing. You have to stop"
"What? Oh i get it, it's mY fault. I ALWAYS am in the wrong with YOU."
"Why didn't you introduced me to your friend?! Do I shame you?!"
But then why did you always kept me at home, during vacations or just on normal days ?
How do you want me to socialize just a little when i can't do it in real life?
Why don't you ask yourself more seriously this question, just once in a lifetime?
What do you expect from someone who has non social skills?
I used to be like that, you can get over your shyness and social anxiety in a few short years.
There's steps you can take
Parent: makes all the decisions, constantly reinforces that they know what's best for me and that I can't
Me: constantly doubts my ability to make competent decisions and always questions myself
Parent: why the hell are you so negative?? You don't have depression! You have no excuse!
Laura Kramer literally my dad. I love him to death but goddamn
Litteraly my mom
Literally me rn
Literally my parents. They judge every effing time and I hated them for that. They want me to do what's best and they'll never pay attention to my feelings. They still didn't know I've been suffering depression since Middle School. I'm in college and still didnt know.
Oh my gosh, this to a freaking T!
My parents are very controllable over my decisions. I am very codependent. I cant make simple decisions without fear of failing or scolding. I think I have depression too.
Sorry to hear. :/ I was raised pretty codependent by my mom, too. Luckily I got out of the house last year. It wasn't a pretty situation, but I wish you the best of luck. All I gotta say is stand your ground. I wasn't willing to put up with the control and broke free out of that.
@@Psych2go How do u overcome it and learn to be dependent then? Please share.
@@steveberg4332 You got to take that step to make a move. Living on your own is always a good start if you can afford the means to do so. Save up if you have to!
@@Psych2go Moving out would be the worst thing to do for someone who is not used to make decisions for himself. thats like the worst advice. lets say u moved to college dorm and u meet bad friends u cant make ur own decisions to not smoke, drink, do drugs with them because ur not used to saying no.
Steve Berg Well relying on someone else to make those important decisions like finding your own place only enables and encourages codependency.
mom: "*belittles me*"
also mom: "tell me if you have any problems"
It's interesting how many traumatised people there are in the comments. It makes me really grateful for my stable childhood. I didn't always have happy times, but because of my stable environment I've managed to work through many of my problems and issues almost on my own. I still have issues like moderate abandonment issues, but I'm making great progress, and I'm already a relatively stable and happy person.
Sounds like you had a great upbringing and strong mentality! :)
You say stable multiple times then slide the abandonment issue in there at a awkward section of your comment. I mean I’m not far off from this I am alive so I considered my childhood stable. I’ve been molding and shaping myself since right around 10 so I observed a lot during my childhood.
@@tylerc6559 I do have _slight_ abandonment issues, but they don't really affect me often. Everyone has some kind of problems/issues, even with a stable childhood, and as I said I didn't always have good times. I was excluded at school for several years because I had no social skilld and had almost no friends. Of course, that has an effect on an 11-year-old. But I'm a pretty happy person now. Not always, I have my down phases, but usually I'm fine.
Solar Wind
Well understanding yourself is winning half the battle the other half comes from going through life’s obstacles and learning the material!
I would kill for that tbh..
my parents never let me make my own decisions. if i had a dallar for every time they manipulated me, made my decisions and made me feel bad for *_them_* i’d be able to move out
Same.
Same
Yeah
Yup
Parents:**punish me for small things as a child**
Me:**feels like I can't do anything right and I'm bad at EVERYTHING**
Me: "I'm sad"
Parents: "You have no reason to be sad, stop being sad"
Me: _wHy diDn'T i ThInK oF tHaT_
Better: "Stop crying NOW or I'll beat you so you'll have a reason to cry!"
just be happy stoopid
tolvajkergetok I got that one a lot and they wonder why I don’t tell them much
@crystal eunoia relatable
Let me hug you :((( we are the same
Mother: You can’t do anything right! Look at your sister she can do it!
Me: Insecure and depressed
Mother: Why are you acting like this! Grow up!
Really! Parents are overrated
That's Emotional Abuse
@@wherearewe6412 yep..
My mum 2😂💔
Same....
That whole 'you make your own future' thing is something I hope sticks with me when I make decisions.
Definitely! Stick firmly to what you believe in. What decisions are you currently making? Mind sharing?
Parents: you don’t how to express yourself with us
Me: I open up with them
Them: I don’t want to hear you anymore
My childhood was very rough and very trumatic. Living with a single mom, who was old fashioned, loved to spank me daily until she died suddenly, 13 years ago. I'm a screwed adult, that's for sure.
I'm so sorry that happened to you. During my childhood,when my mom went to work,that's when my dad and his side of the family had the opportunity to beat and mock me for their sick entertainment. I had told my mom and then soon afterward she divorced him.
@@angelicgalaxy4534 woah.... your mom make the right decision.
@@zaimzainal6635 Yep. She's a great mother.
Please. You're strong. Hold on. You'll see light one day. Give it a chance.
I guess I can consider myself to be somewhat, however, I'm one of the more _well-adjusted_ members of my family.
Everyone else is either okay, illiterate, dumber than a box of rocks, and or still continue that cycle of unhealthy behaviors/relationships.
I oft wonder why my parents were selfish and didn't give me away, as they were horrid parents.
"Children who got spanked may work harder to avoid being punished." it aLL MAKES SENSE NOW
Okay but legit I still do that even if I know my parents won't spank me now
Angela Genel that’s conditioning, my dude
I do the opposite.
Oooooohhhhhhhhh
same, im always afraid of getting low grades (sorry if i write wrong)
Avoid negative consequences and feel they will ensue if you don’t work hard enough.
My mom used to force me to go to some of those math contests and i hated them. I told her that I don’t want to go and she yelled at me saying i have to. I remember crying a lot those times.
3. If your parents micromanage you, you are more likely to develop depression
lol my parents did alot of these and i struggled so much as a child with feelings of insecurity and i had social anxiety although deep down i felt like i had this desire to be social. my true self has come with time and im so proud of myself because i had to get uncomfortable so many times to conquer these feelings
Honestly, the having SAD but knowing deep down you'd like to be social is really me.
Still though, I'm glad you're making progress!
Happy for u ✨I Developed the same exact feelings too, and still learning how to get uncomfortable
I feel you
I've gotten so use to my parents yelling and fighting about each other it's become normal they hate each other but they stay with each other it's really sad;-;
Its like when other people are like "my parents had a fight"
Im like
"First time?"
@@senza4591 nah most of my mates parents never have fights and their like omg my parents went on dates and im jus like👁👄👁
yeah, like my parents are still together but they're pretty much on the verge of divorce and they said the reason they're still together is because of me? yes, being in a problematic and damaging household would definitely help me :]
My mom was a strict parent that made me scared to do things when I'm old enough to do so, she pretty much controlled my childhood. when I was younger i had to mature quicker & was very rebellious i used to be real shy but silly. I grew up to "those aren't your friends you will have fun when you get older" or "nope, no bf they only want one thing" saying that makes a teenager curious especially if they grew up ugly & started to look attractive later on. Tbh I wish I had a good connection & tell me good advice when I need them nope I had to learn on my own
Damn that’s sounds like something my mother went through,but her parents were more religious. As the saying goes (beating the Bible in u)
Fucking same except for the bf part
The animation made me see childhood trauma with a little bit more kindness and empathy.
Thanks animator!
The sad part is, I been through all this like a checklist
Same, that's why this video almost made me cry
Yup same here it sucks
Dude you hit me in the jugular. I've never felt this exposed before..
Made me shed a few tears because it's true what you said. Now I'm gonna punch a wall to feel manly again.
Prob a joke but
You're a human
Humans cry
Be fair to your body
Crying is human, nothings wrong with you x
@@nikkiellery759 no i did cry lol
@@gabbyweber4074 gooood
Feel better?
@@gabbyweber4074 crying is more manly then suppression. It's human, withholding emotion to put up a facade is inhuman.
@@mcxopjesh Sometimes, in my case at least, you get yelled at for crying, so you stop, same thing for every negative emotion. So you put up a facade, but it doesn't work. Then you get depression, but you dont show it. Some parents are horrible
Some of these things work both ways :
1. If your parents were very lenient, you don't value rules.
2. If your parents didn't punish you, you start believing that you can do whatever you want and get away with it.
There is no one correct way of parenting. You have to maintain a balance. You may never get the perfect balance, but an achievable good balance varies between individuals
And that is called neglect, my dear.
So in other words, it's also toxic.
Don't try to normalize these kinds of dynamics by saying there is no perfect parenting.
No, there isn't, but there is good parenting.
You don't have to be perfect. You have to care, try and reflect though.
Yeah, my little sister downloaded something without permission and when I told her my dad could get in trouble for it, she just said I DON’T CARE
@Matt T. Child abuse is not such a straightforward concept. Abuse doesn't necessarily have to be physical. If you raise your child to believe that they can get away with anything and they can do whatever the hell they want, it's also a kind of child abuse.
Pradeep Guragain parenting isn’t about a balance between punishing and rewarding. Its about guiding and empathizing with your kid to teach them morals by example.
Wise words.
Oh oh I got one!
Me: Is upset about something and shows feelings about being upset.
Mom: Tell me!
Me: *Tells her*
Mom: *Rushes me through the story* God, you’re such a complainer. You’re so dramatic. And now you’re gonna take it out on me at home.
Me: What...no. When did I ever say that? I just-
Mom: See, you got an attitude already! You need to stop being rude to me! *Proceeds to insist that absolutely everything I say is an insult to her for the rest of the day*.
Also Mom: You never talk to me! You can tell me if you have any problems!
Ha I got a similar story from when I was 6!
It was Easter. Everybody else is finding eggs better than me, and I'm getting more and more upset about it. My older sister asks what was wrong after the egg hunt, and I rush off on the verge of tears. I hid in a front yard bush crying for a solid 2 minutes before coming back inside. My mom runs into me, and I try to hide at the side of the couch, knowing she'd probably yell at me. My mom says "Honey, tell me what's wrong." I tell her how I was upset about finding the least eggs, and she yells at me to get over it, it's not a big deal. Ha, maybe one of her daughters finding the least eggs by a landslide wasn't much for her, but it was for me.
And up to this day she tells me that I never tell her anything. Maybe if she didn't yell at me for every little significant thing, then maybe I could.
@@therandomfuzz3164 it's the same thing with my mom
Sam LOTR-HP Same, I relate to this. Except mine was telling my step Mom about me grieving and missing loved ones that had passed away and then she just connects it to me over-fixating on things like celebrities, fictional characters and other things that didn’t connect at all to my grief other than just to drag me it felt.
Relatable
@@therandomfuzz3164 Its the same thing with my mom!
Why do i watch these videos when i know that i will cry at the end
Same
I'm crying rn
TenebrisHG BAHAHAHA THATS NOT OKAY 💀💀💀
@TenebrisHG 🤣🤣🤣🤣
No just you, moron.
9: Whether or not you remember what MySpace is.
What's Myspace do you mean rplace
What is that?
@@dgamer1760 Its like the 2000s facebook
@@beanie9918 Its like the 2000s facebook
Why do i keep seeing you
When I was around 5 years old I was the only one in my class with divorced parents. By the time I reached 13 years old not having divorced parents was uncommon. I don’t think parents realize how much that can messed up a person especially if they get marry to another person who isn’t nice to you. Like I know you can’t know if you’re still going to be with your baby’s mother or father. But please don’t force your kid to live in a household with people that are full of crap. My mom choose her husband over me and my brother and forced us to live unhappy with her. If you really love your child let them be happy with or without you. Being in that situation can make you feel so damn lonely so make sure everyone sees this. Thank you! You are not alone.❤️
My parents divorced when I was very young but I value love over anything.
Love and physical interaction makes me very happy.
People think I don’t like hugs but I love them so much.
Damani Campbell Love doesn’t mean having a boyfriend. Love makes you care about others. It includes romantic and platonic relationships.
I remember I was around 6 when I found divorce papers in my moms car, they never got divorced but she till keeps them in case. She always says aloud “we don’t belong together.” But they look so happy in public, it just makes me have pity, I’ve wanted to move out since age 4, and my father isn’t that innocent he’s very... verbally abusing...
Sounds standard grow up and deal with life and then look back your being dramatic
@@adamquinn4677 i don't agree to this. My mother went through this, and long story short, parents asked her too much, was stressed out, exausted, and car crash. She almost died. It seems like nothing, but that's why she has a lot of issues now.
They also probably don't say everything they are going through, fearing people like you would judge them.
We're literally on a video to help us, please be nicer.
@@-randomuser-4897 in order for one to think one must be offensive i forget everyone offended bye everything
0:45 If your parents were highly strict, you may grow up to be co-dependent
1:15 If your parents have a broken marriage, it changes your romantic demands
1:51 If your parents micromanaged you, you’re more likely to develop depression
2:25 If your parents watched TV with you when you were a toddler instead of reading to you, it can suppress your communication skills
2:59 If you copied your parents a lot, you’re more likely to be open to other cultures
3:34 If you were spanked as a child, you may become sneakier as an adult
4:12 If your parents have a drug or alcohol addiction, you’re susceptible to be perfectionism
4:47 If you have a close relationship with your father, you’re more likely to enter healthier relationships
child me: can you help me fix my bike? dad
dad: learn to do things on your own (he just didn't want to)
child me: ok (crying)
...
dad: you never get involved with us nor help us and never tell us about what you do, you just think on yourself
me now: yeah, whatever
Same here 😔
Same, only my scenario was:
Dad: Oh I see someone gave you bruises. You’re grounded for three weeks, and you’re lucky I don’t beat your ass too. God, I can’t go hang out with the guys because of you.
Mom: Learn to toughen up a bit *after breaking my foot at school because I landed on it wrong after someone pushed me down*. You’re so dramatic.
Mom and Dad now: Why don’t you hang out with us?
Me: *Leaves room to finish an important school assignment in peace in my bedroom*
Both parents (loudly): Fine! No wonder you don’t have any friends, bitch.
Newton's third law
acktually aintaddingup I’m a Hufflepuff who hasn’t snap, crackle, popped yet, Star Wars the Clone Wars practically raised me so I feel that killing others isn’t the Jedi way, and I also dream about the day when I’ll finally be free from them and their toxicity which I will never come back to. Plus, there’s been so many people who have hurt me that I had to become mature, and with that I know that just ignoring them is better than violence. That’s why my bullies eventually quit harassing me, I made it to where it was no longer fun for them to kick and push me around.
Too real
What about parents that give your older sibling a free ride through life because they want to, then complain about anything they had to do or give for you?
Both my older sister's got their first cars for free and my oldest sister even got help paying for college... I didn't get any help
@Jon Jones So? My older sister still watches it, a big part of the fanbase is adults. Always has been. Many adults still watch kids cartoons.
@Jon Jones Just turned 32 recently & STILL everynow & then watch Tom & Jerry or Spongebob. To temporarily revisit the innocent care-free happiness of past childhood days & laugh away some of life's pain & heaviness for a minute. 💙 No harm in that.
@NCR Trooper I'm the youngest and I still go through emotional abuse- its not always like that
Parents: complain that I'm always at home and not going outside with friends
Me: *going outside*
Parents: teasing, making fun of me and complaining how I have going out so much lately -_-
Lol
Lmao same XD
Fuken same
Wow. I thought I was just going crazy. Apparently this is a thing other people deal with too
When you're just not allowed to hang out with people, and not just for a determined time :
(So yeah, quarantine doesn't change anything for me)
My childhood abuse turned me into Agent 47 from Hitman. I'm sneaky af.
Same tho
Pelvis Wrestley same
My childhood abuse made me non empathetic towards most people.
Congrats :D
I don't know what mine gave/gives me to be honest/ don't know how to get "profit" out of it :/
My question that i have been asking myself my whole life has been answerd . Thank you !
What did you come to discovered?
@@Psych2go I realised that i have low self esteem because my mother always did stuff for me and to this day im still trying to learn and do things on my own like work but its not really easy im still hoping my mother helps me with it.
Why do I watch these?
It just makes me more depressed.
Bruh how is that even possible? O-o
@@eriya181 m a d
Probably because you want to feel to be understood.
And they answered you, "We just want you to be the best version of yourself, it's for ur own good sake,trust me , Parents know best"
Asian parents?
Hnin Oo Wai hispanic, black, asian get beat the worse
No wonder i’m all screwed up :/
Just wait till someone says you cant blame your upbringing smh
I blame myself for a reason. So, I don’t make people upset-
I got spanked as a kid so no wonder I'm dumb af
Me: Gets home feeling anxious, depressed, sad, worthless, physically and mentally exausted, clearly about to cry
My mom: Well she didn't say "Hi" so I guess this is the best time to argue with her and call her rude
I felt that
Lol...smh
Gahh I hate how relatable that is
RELATABLE MOMENT
Lady Lynx THIS IS SO RELATABLE!!! Why do they always want you to say hi??? Like I can never take time to myself, no matter how I feel I have to engage in their stupid futile small talk otherwise I’m “ungrateful” or “disrespectful” or “a fucking retarded dick” like wtf!!
Nice Video!!!
I think this video really helps the new parents because the parents in the present world are running behind making more money to buy happiness for their kids. In this rush, they do not have time or they are not aware that spending quality time with their kids and handling the kids emotional well being is so important that materialistic happiness. I feel the value of parents who give prime importance to kids emotions will have a better place in their kids mind when they grow up and thereby they become a better individual! .
This is so true!!!
Sadly, rents aren't paid with kids emotions tho..
Edit: I'm here sarcastic btw for those who think I actually wish that rents can just get paid with kids emotions.
I have Micro Manage parents
@@markusgrace8069 Love the term lol. Parenting 101 is like running a business.
Indeed. That's the goal of these videos. As much as they are meant for self knowledge, they are also intended for future generation parents to be mindful of their actions.
What's a dad?
Heck, what is a mom?
Are they some kind sport equipment or something?
Relatable
So you're saying you grew up without parents?
@@vminisfuckingreal998 yes
@@jilliancrawford7577 then who raised you
@@zaraqabq3203 grandmother
Mom: *Spanks me for being bad*
Me: *S N E A K 1 0 0*
Dat MMO XP Farming Strat
Same. I snuck right to her face without her ever finding out.
Sameeeee
💀😭 why is this me
dad: go outside! you're always on your devices!
me: **goes outside**
dad: you're not doing anything productive! go inside and do your homework
Parents: You never go outside! When we were your age that's all we ever did!
Me: Can I go outside?
Parents: No! You will get kidnapped! Its not safe!
fucking same lmao, It's like they think electronics give cancer and that kids are supposed to work all the time in their spare time
@@madisonotken1310 doooood I relateeeee
Lol. I always got grounded from the activities I started liking that were outdoors and started doing them less and less. Now I’m a gamer and hardly do shit as an adult.
@@foottoast4235 yea and be the parents slaves
i really am in the 7 example, "some children may adopt the habits of their parents, wich can manifest into depression, anxiety and feeling of worthlessness" yep, got it all, ty parents for sabotaging my adult life since my childhood
My parents did all of these and now I’m just a shit human being I guess
Salty Storm you are fine human being, it just means you will have to work harder to overcome your childhood. I had a narc mother and an emotionally distant father. I was severely messed up as a teenager. It took time and work, but I'm a pretty healthy human nowadays.
No .....your NOT...I went through Unbelievable abuse ....like you have no Idea......there has to be an answer....it is God.
Frank Esposito are you gatekeeping or are you being inspirational????? Sorry i honestly can’t tell
Same here
Relatable
I am so glad you made a Video about this. Thank you Psych2go
The Video is awesome
Np! Thanks for watching! Do you guys have a follow up topic that you'd like to see?
Psych2Go
Could you please make video on OCD , nd really love your videos it helps us a lot . Please keep being such mature nd supportive , thank you
@@Vyom108 We have one here actually; ua-cam.com/video/K-cODu7WnJ0/v-deo.html Do you have a follow up suggestion for it? Do you personally suffer from OCD?
Is OCD really a problem?
@@EchthelionII It can be! "OCD causes severe anxiety in those affected and involves both obsessions and compulsions that interfere with daily life. " - www.bbrfoundation.org/faq/frequently-asked-questions-about-ocd?gclid=EAIaIQobChMIkons46Ty4AIVziCtBh0Q8wYEEAAYASAAEgLH2vD_BwE
My dad was really abusive to me as a kid and, thank God, he hasn't been involved in my life in over a decade. He still has an effect on how I see guys, though. :/ He always has.
I hope you break free from that mindset soon. He only has an affect on you because you allow it. You're allowing the past to dictate your present and future. As soon as you practice self worth and know for a fact that he was in the wrong, you'll start to heal. Detach yourself from your father and his actions. Start to see the world through your current eyes, not the eyes of your abused childhood. As someone who's been through it, trust me, I know how the past can grip you and never let go. It'll take awhile to undo all the trauma, but it's worth it. With proper guidance and a good support system, you'll begin to see the good in men and in yourself. Take care of yourself, hun. You deserve love and happiness.
Midnight Sonnet Thank you, so much. ❤️❤️ I needed that. :)
I feel that, Ms. Kitty. It definitely leaves a lasting effect. My dad used to beat me up when no one was home. I haven't seen him in over a decade. I have detached from him emotionally and don't feel any particular way about it anymore, but I am justifiably sceptical of men as a result. I was probably always a lesbian to begin with, but who knows how much abuse plays a role in the end?
diane cry-anne nguyen I am, sincerely, so sorry you had to go through that. :(
I think such experiences, though, can teach you about what kind of parent you do not want to be, thus making you stronger.
4:12 That's also for neglect. If a child was neglected they would have to do a lot of things on their own and often don't get a chance to be a kid and mainly focus on basic neccaties.
I'm genuinely so glad my parents gave me a good childhood. I love them both, they're amazing!
Same! I was blessed with a good family.
You are lucky pall, if im going to have kids i need to study psychology a lot, to do not repeat the same scenario that I experienced
Good for you. I wish had the same as yours.
Yo gimme your parents for a bit maybe I can see how it’s supposed to look like
I got into foster care at the age 3 then got out at age 12 and I never stayed in one home for long so now I don't have much feelings and don't trust many people now
If we ever meet I'd be a person I'd have hope you could trust
UA-cam and Psych2Go cares more about me than I care about myself.
If you need to talk to me I’m here, idk how we would but if you do I’m absolutely here for you and anyone like you.
@@jacobymatt1767 Hey, thanks! But this comment was a year ago, and i'm doing fine now. :)
@Michealemily. orChris to him, maybe, but to me, n o
My dad has low temper he usually snaps on my mom
Once I accidentally snapped on my friend ;-; I was so guilty that now I just hide almost every emotion and keep a straight face
Oof life
Same here lol
I don't show any emotion
Same I get mixed feelings from him
me:Ok,it's time to take a nap
Psych2Go: *posts new video*
me:Ok,it's time to wake up
Lol.
Im only 15 but i never realized how unstable my family is until now. The way they talked to me had made me used to it and they question why i am the way i am , dats tuff.
My parents micromanage ALLLLLL THE TIIIIIIMMMEEEE
Casey Cobb Same but my manager micro manages me at work too 😢.
I really like the art in this video! Especially all of the different color palettes
Glad you love it! Karen F, puts a lot of effort in this :)
Parents:Divorced and Live with either of them
Grandma:Bipolar and prefers my brother
Grandmas boyfriend:Makes fun of me and says I need a diet
Siblings:Gain more attention
Me:Skinny,Closes off,Never has had a stable relationship in any form,Anxiety,Most likely going to develop bad habits
Welp my childhood sucks so let's see
Meet back here in another 10 years or so and give us that life update !
@@leeshinmf No. U stalker find something better to do in ur life other than feeding off peoples negativity
Steve Berg
What the fck is your problem, you’re the only one negative here
@@steveberg4332 lol wtf not sure if you're trolling but my message clearly went over your head. It was an indirect way of me saying "let's not be too pessimistic and just see what happens, it could turn out better than you expected". Either way I was expressing interest and curiosity, not "stalking". I take it that this was simply some silly misunderstanding.
@@leeshinmf I think @Steve Berg is trolling. Don't worry about it haha. You are a very supportive and caring individual. Do you have a topic you'd like us to do?
2:15 this is how my parents are they will make me cry (I get rlly sensitive so...) and then they r like r u ok and I just hate that
It's good to realize that you are the way you are a lot because the way you were raised because it gives you the opportunity to grow/change in the ways that can improve your quality of life.
Another quick note is that most parents are doing the best that they can and are struggling from their own childhood. It can help to picture your parents as a child ❤️
My parents hardly read any stories to me as a kid but we watched tv together. perhaps that's why i'm bad at explaining and stutter alot..? sometimes mum would watch a gorey movie and i'd kinda run upstairs and hide. i still hate gore today, too scary for me..
and I wasn't spanked but i was beat up, even by siblings and school :
I can relate to the stuttering
I can relate to the bad explaining and stuttering
I'dont know about you but when I was young. More like 3 to 4 years old. My father used to let me watch some gorey stuff and horror. But now, I grew up being strong and a teen who's not afraid of things, which are scary. And it make me confident also. I think it's different based on the person. And let me add this, my parents spank me too when I was young but it made me a good person I was today and I'm grateful for that.
Btw I'm a girl
Dad : blamed me for wasting his time playing with me
Me older doesn’t like spending time with him:
Dad: why does she ignore me :(
"nothing gets done if i'm not here to do it and i'm unable to get anything done because nothing i do is never enough when responsibilities keep piling up and i will feel forever guilty"
-my childhood
I waited 5 minutes to hear “if your parents were never at home...” but I didn’t
Melissa 1403 im so sorry.
Melissa 1403 I guess that goes more into the category of abandonment
1. yes
2. Yes
3. Yes
4. Yes
5. No
6. Yes
7. No
8. No
9. Parents who always compare you to your siblings Yes
Total: 6/9
that's a lot
Im sorry D;
Aside from the very obvious problem...
6/9
69
nice
Nice
That number though
My father is an alcohol addict,he never layed a finger on me but I was the one taking care of the house.I never got help from them, they expected me to be a straight A student but never took the time to help me with that goal.
Instead, I became independent and took care of myself.
I still don't know what future holds for me but I still love my parents for making me the way i am today.
Wow it’s crazy how accurate this is. I’m a major perfectionist and I had an alcoholic parent. I’ve always been told I have an old soul.
My childhood:
Eeee yelling a lot, shyness, some normal times, bullying in school
As I am teen now, I feel like I'm developing some shits like depression or anxiety.
Also! Neurosis is really interesting disorder, but really underrated. Would you do some video about it?
I'm still a child, but I think it's going pretty...bad. I'm really socially awkward and shy and have a toxic friend and I think I have anxiety or depression. I've watched a lot of Psych2Go videos and other videos about depression/anxiety and I think I do.
@@duckcorp4541 Aww :( Sending virtual hug!
@@sayo_xp2936 Thank you
everything will get better ok :(( just hold on trust me, been there done that :(( when you grew up as an adult you will leave other things behind and work towards your happiness
my parents never showed any affection nor they were loving (still aren't) ,,, im in my early teen years and its hard for me to be affectionate and caring towards people because i don't really know how all that stuff works :')
you're childhood reflects the adult u become. ..I was 3 years old when my biological father beat me up😢..I do remember it..TRUMA is what u remember..now I'm an adult I'm riddled with OCD.ANXIETY.DEPRESSION ,HEALTH ISSUES CONSTANTLY.HEALTH ANXIETY(HYPOCHONDRIA)..tendencies to think about suicide😢.but on the flip side of things..it actually made me strong person...because although I battlee with these demons😈..I hide it well and try to live a "NORMALLIFE"...I'VE RAISED MY 2 BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTERS..ALWAYS WORKED..AND TRY TO LIVE EACH DAY BEST I CAN..BLESS U ALL💕
But you really write like a child tho
Oh, honey, I hope you're seeking therapy. Hiding your pain will only make it worse, trust me. You deserve to be truly happy. For your sake and the sake of your daughters, please seek help. Your kids WILL pick up on your anxiety and depression. Kids are way more sensitive to that kind of thing than adults.
@@sickle7291 sorry what are u meaning?
@@MidnightSonnet thankyou beautiful person..I do struggle but I'm strong so I carry on the best I can ..💕
Parents may think being strict with kids is teaching them discipline,
No, you are teaching them how to lie on the spot.
When the comments understands you more than your parents :’)
My mom: **screams in my face and hits me everywhere**
Me: 😭
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My mom: oH tHaT waS dIscIplInE
Bad parenting, am i right?
“i did it because i love you”
That's why I have poor communication skills :(
when you grow up overworked stressed-out, my mom stressed me out enough to make me cry in the bathroom and when i told her she didn't care true story actually
yeah im fine
I was spanked as I kid, and now I know why I’m so sneaky 😂
The question now is: How do I change? I´m grateful for lots of things my family gave me but there are also lots fo things I wish I could get rid of.
Everything I dislike about my personality has a lot to do with them.
I´m afraid of having children one day cause I may make the same mistakes.
me: *is crying*
Parents:...
Me:*still crying*
Parents:”Why are you crying?”
Me:”oh it’s just my contacts”
Parents:”yeah okay then pass the salt”
Me:*passes salt*
Yeah salt is more important :(
During my childhood, when I cry they don’t even bother asking, they just stare ,,and ignore..
Right now I’m 21 , and I don’t like to cry it brings the same bad feelings,
Ha, jokes on you, my mom read to me all the time and I still have terrible social skills
@@aasuna385 I guess...? I love reading and I'm one of the best readers in my school (not a very high bar)
I think you took this to literally
Ha jokes on you! your mother raised you right and u still failed...
Same. Well, I can now express myself completely fine when writing, but my social skills are incredibly low. It sucks.
Same, I'm like an introverted extrovert. It's weird, but I've grown to deal with it. Where as my brother wasn't read to as much as me, and he barely started getting better at talking at the age six. it's been three to four years now, as he's nine. He can talk just fine, but he's got an accent that nobody else in my family has, nor the people he's around daily. For a large period of time, he only read non fiction, whie I only read fiction. He reads a lot of the books I read at his age now, and I continue to hate most non fiction books.
@@strider9116 Why are u telling us ur life story we don't give a fuck.