How to be a Man-An Orthodox Reflection

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  • @whoopitydo-da9530
    @whoopitydo-da9530 Рік тому +111

    Shyness coming from pride is the bitter pill I needed, thank you Father.

    • @owenswabi
      @owenswabi Рік тому +20

      Wasn’t that a wild and true insight?

    • @whoopitydo-da9530
      @whoopitydo-da9530 Рік тому +20

      ​@@owenswabi Absolutely, I see a lot of continuous self reflection in my future. May the lord guide me, and free me from myself.

    • @owenswabi
      @owenswabi Рік тому

      @@whoopitydo-da9530 Praying for you and please do the same for me

  • @MrCharlieC23
    @MrCharlieC23 Рік тому +105

    I needed this today Father, thank you.
    After losing my job in September and a tough few years I'm now trying to relaunch my business to support my family.
    Many days feel like a struggle but you hit the nail on the head with this one. "Get up and go to war!" My feelings don't matter. It's all about taking action and being a man.
    Please pray for me.
    Arsenios

    • @JesusTeAma033
      @JesusTeAma033 Рік тому +10

      May God strengthen you! Don't lose hope and be honest with your wife about your thoughts.

    • @MrCharlieC23
      @MrCharlieC23 10 місяців тому +1

      @@JesusTeAma033 thank you 🙏

  • @theangryslav9115
    @theangryslav9115 Рік тому +20

    I have came to the same conclussion, that my 'low confidence' in fact came out of my self importance. If i saw myself in humility, as nothing but dust, i wouldnt be so anxious to be in centre of attention or responsible for things.

    • @PohjanKarhu
      @PohjanKarhu Місяць тому

      As someone who grew up extremely shy, with social anxiety, but overcame it through years of acting/theater and jobs in social work, I would say it's not that simple.
      There are many factors.
      Pride can certainly be a part of it sometimes.
      But I would say self-centeredness instead of self-importance.
      If you beat a dog with a stick everytime it barks, it will learn to be quiet. But it will also fear to be beaten with a stick. Is that fear due to self-importance? No. The opposite. It has humility. And that humility is due to fear from having grown up being beaten everytime it barked.
      If you grow up being punished everytime you try to speak up, you will not be self-important. You will think that you have nothing to contribute, and that no one wants to listen to you. You're dust. You have extremely low self-esteem.
      The thing with shyness is that it makes us hyper-focused on ourselves. That can be seen as "pride", albeit it's more complex than that. Pride isn't really what low self-esteem is.
      Again, I would say it's self-centeredness more than anything. And that's how a kid survives in a hyper-critical household where they're beaten down everytime they speak; they focus on controlling themselves so that they won't get punished. Control their own tongue. Thus, self-centeredness.
      Not that all shy people come from abusive environments.
      But overall I would say it's self-focus, self-centeredness. Which is why in therapy when dealing with shyness you learn to focus your attention outward onto other people instead of inwards onto yourself.
      So to give yourself away in favor of putting yourself in service of other people.
      When you focus on connecting with other people, truly focusing outward, then shyness tends to go away.
      Yeah, you can call it self-importance. But that's only what it looks like on the surface. Self-importance requires high ego. High ego is not what you have when you've been beaten down all your life. Thus I say it's really self-centeredness. And you can be self-centered for many different reasons.

  • @MajorMustang1117
    @MajorMustang1117 Рік тому +37

    Thanks, Father.
    Pray for me. Orthodoxy, and my yearning to live the Orthodox life, has taught me (is teaching me) how much I need to grow.
    I thought I was a guy who had it all together.
    5 kids. Good job. Single income so my wife stays at home. And I pray with my family.
    Well.... through my change from Protestantism, and seeing I need to live a Christian life, I have seen that my emotions rule me. Specifically, my impatience and anger. I was never taught how to control your emotions. Just that some were good and some were bad.
    Thank you for this lesson, Father.
    Im turning 31 soon. And I'm learning quicker and quicker how little I understand. Christ, have mercy...

  • @thattimestampguy
    @thattimestampguy Рік тому +80

    0:00 On Being an Orthodox Man
    0:20 Hello everyone ☦️👋🏻
    1:17 December 2023 Fr Mikhail has a parish he looks after, requiring a good portion his time and energies. (It’s a big responsibility to undertake, 🙏🏼 God is good)
    1:42 Share this video
    1:51 We have many examples of masculinity.
    2:04 “Toxic Masculinity.”
    2:22 weaknesses show personal points of improvement
    2:56 Prayer🙏🏼 Rest
    3:26 Making good choices.
    3:39
    5:53 We cannot be governed by our emotions.
    6:12 _Emotions/Feelings are not the locus of truth._
    6:41 The Devil was caste down, into The Kingdom of Death.
    7:06 Healthy Masculine Figures
    + Aragorn, _Lord of The Rings_
    8:37 Love, Self-Sacrifice, Self-Control.
    9:18 -Dating- Courtship
    + Respect
    + Honor
    + Mutual Love
    9:53 Take responsibility, don’t give in to self-pity or self-defeatism!
    - frustration for a couple minutes is understandable
    + but you have to get back up!
    10:50 - Bemoaning the cross. We have to endure.
    11:24 Ex. St Nektarios’ Hunger Strike, taking the trouble of younger men upon himself.
    12:21 St Joseph The Hesychast.
    + enduring
    + cross-bearing
    12:48 + set a schedule
    + just do it.
    13:08 + Go To Spiritual War
    13:24 Battling Attention Deficit Disorder [ADD]
    Pray 🙏🏼
    Read Gospel
    Read The Life of a Saint
    Man
    + Protect
    + Guide
    + Be Like Christ
    + Love ❤️ Of Family
    + Love ❤️ Of Neighbor
    14:50 Obedience
    15:14 Look for th
    + Virtue
    + Virtue in action
    16:38
    + Anger at wrongness is good
    + but Take Responsibility
    + Love the person
    17:20
    Icon
    Discipline ❤️
    Humility
    Obedience
    18:13
    Dishes
    Missus
    Love of Enemies
    18:43 Band of Brothers ☦️❤️ Cross Bearers
    18:55 You can improve! 🙂❤️☦️

    • @adamrosner7736
      @adamrosner7736 Рік тому +8

      Hey thattimestampguy - I just wanted to say I love your work

    • @thattimestampguy
      @thattimestampguy Рік тому +7

      @@adamrosner7736 Glory to God ☦️❤️

    • @jsjsjsjssjsjsj5913
      @jsjsjsjssjsjsj5913 Рік тому +3

      Thank you for the timestamps. God bless you and be with you brother!

  • @Bobthe0strich
    @Bobthe0strich Рік тому +16

    Like that Jocko Willink navy seal guy always says “Discipline equals freedom”

  • @RevDeaconMichael
    @RevDeaconMichael Рік тому +34

    Your blessing, Fr +
    Thank you for this great encouragement! "Go to War!" and that "we were not made for comfort" are wonderful reminders!

  • @aprilbrooks7114
    @aprilbrooks7114 Рік тому +16

    Very good message. As a Christian mother who tried to raise and influence my son, I told him so many of the things that you said in this message and he either refuted, ignored or just defied me. Now he has heard this message from you and he actually hears and appreciates it. God answers prayer. Hallelujah!

    • @MajorMustang1117
      @MajorMustang1117 Рік тому +2

      It's amazing how many of us men won't listen to our parents, but will listen to anybody else.
      I am happy he has listened to a good source instead of so many of the bad ones.

    • @aprilbrooks7114
      @aprilbrooks7114 Рік тому +1

      Amen! To God be the glory. All I want is to see my son live a life that glorifies God.

    • @aosseily
      @aosseily 6 місяців тому +1

      Im so sorry mom. We sons can be like that. I know my own sons are like that with me.

  • @Nikosmiserlis123
    @Nikosmiserlis123 Рік тому +10

    Την ευλογία σου πάτερ. Σωστά τα λόγια σου και ωραία τα παραδείγματα

  • @PaperParade
    @PaperParade Рік тому +14

    As a single woman hoping to marry, but coming up pretty short on opportunities, I appreciate this a lot. I hope you can also post something for us ladies as well 😊

  • @Athanasios_0
    @Athanasios_0 Рік тому +7

    nowadays we need more role models of masculinity , thanks for the video father.

  • @Anglo-GermanPatriot91842
    @Anglo-GermanPatriot91842 Місяць тому

    Thank you for these reflections 🙏

  • @Smordrone
    @Smordrone Рік тому +13

    Thanks for talking about this important topic Father. Masculinity is very necessary!

  • @keinortnirgends
    @keinortnirgends Рік тому +2

    Humbly I looked forward to learn from someone. Just about minute 3 and 'baaanng' out of nowhere I learned that I am not usually shy but 'to proud'. Wow. Great lesson for today. 😾

    • @living_orthodox
      @living_orthodox  Рік тому +2

      Well, you took personal offence…so ask yourself why. Listen carefully before committing to being offended. Glad it was helpful.

  • @ProtestantismLeftBehind
    @ProtestantismLeftBehind 2 місяці тому

    Ty Fr. for speaking the truth

  • @has25252
    @has25252 Рік тому +5

    Thank you, Father, for this word. Lord save me from my passions!
    One thing I remember from Aristotle - "Anybody can become angry-that is easy; but to be angry with the right person, and to the right degree, and at the right time, and for the right purpose, and in the right way-that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy."

  • @OratorVeritatis
    @OratorVeritatis Рік тому +2

    Father, this was eye-opening. I am a young catechumen with a baptism months overdue, and I've found myself on the edge of despair over these issues. I'll start tomorrow with solemn prayer. God bless you.

  • @ricardoarchangel28
    @ricardoarchangel28 Рік тому +6

    I would also recommend a book called: Path to Salvation by St Theophan the Recluse. Such a great book for a man, husband, and father to read.

  • @RAJ-zo8cu
    @RAJ-zo8cu Рік тому +23

    Would love to see a How to be a Woman video, for all our sisters

  • @Critical_Corey
    @Critical_Corey Рік тому +6

    Thank you so much for this father, I echo the sentiment of the others in the comments, that this was timely. May the Lord bless you and all your work! ☦

  • @krleonee
    @krleonee Рік тому +1

    Thank you, Father. Your advices are truly great, one more example of healthy masculinity can be found in Gladiator movie. Greetings from Serbia

  • @datshortsguy4744
    @datshortsguy4744 11 місяців тому +1

    I struggle with extreme shyness. In social situations I often lose the ability to have normal conversations, and my brain seems to shut off. Even when I do find the words I often, with new people, feel as if I am not myself and I’m sorta playing into what they might perceive me as.

    • @radicalgreek99
      @radicalgreek99 11 місяців тому +1

      You sound like you are more cautious around new people and interpret it as shyness. The best advice I can give you is just be yourself and listen to the new people, look at the way they present themselves to you. Just remember that they might be just like you in that moment.

  • @Kmd-yd7kr
    @Kmd-yd7kr Рік тому +1

    Thank you father, I am going through a moral dilemma personally and spiritually.

  • @dwrod24
    @dwrod24 7 місяців тому +1

    My last assignment is what the Father says, not my last Job… my last assignment …. I love it

  • @michael.manasian
    @michael.manasian Рік тому +4

    Brother! Thank you very much for this video where you share your Christian wisdom.
    You were right on point when you said that sometimes shyness can stem from a form of pride. This person is not humble; instead, he or she just cannot show anyone their weaknesses, and therefore they seek to withdraw from any conversation where they can be revealed. This is one of the scariest illnesses of the heart where a mortal sin is disguised as a great moral virtue.
    Moreover, you managed to stress how important it is for a Christian man to cultivate a self-sacrificial relationship with his loved ones, and I am doing my best to ingrain this Christ-like attitude in my identity.
    We should not be dependent on our emotional state, but rather focus on our duties to our loved ones, which is easier said than done.

  • @TheOrthodoxOnion
    @TheOrthodoxOnion Рік тому +3

    Bless Father! Thank you for this talk. Also, I see from the hats in the corner you are adjusting well to Albertan life😂

  • @nepsis33
    @nepsis33 6 місяців тому +1


    Thank for Father Michael.

  • @JRIPS45
    @JRIPS45 Рік тому +3

    I needed to hear this right now. Temperance is something I pray for all the time and struggle all the time with. Thank you for this video.

  • @GloryForever
    @GloryForever 17 днів тому

    We need a part 2!

    • @living_orthodox
      @living_orthodox  17 днів тому

      @@GloryForever coming up this week!

    • @GloryForever
      @GloryForever 17 днів тому

      @living_orthodox let's gooo!!!!!!! Thanks Father!

  • @mattmatvey
    @mattmatvey Рік тому +4

    Thank you Fr. Mikhail. This video was released at such a perfect time.

  • @RealBigDLil
    @RealBigDLil Рік тому +1

    Thank you Fr. Mikhail, I felt blessed listening to this. Now I’m more pushed.

  • @bisonvalplissken8501
    @bisonvalplissken8501 3 місяці тому

    I love this. Very well said! Thank you, Father!

  • @moldyapple1789
    @moldyapple1789 Рік тому +2

    no bugatti no cry.
    all jokes aside, this is the best video on this topic i have seen.

  • @JL-ke7sh
    @JL-ke7sh Рік тому +1

    Thank you, Father

  • @salvadortorres3740
    @salvadortorres3740 4 місяці тому

    Great video. Thank you.

  • @thebrotherofthunder
    @thebrotherofthunder Рік тому +2

    A man without discipline is nothing.
    Christ has risen, gentlemen.

  • @alibayer4290
    @alibayer4290 6 місяців тому +1

    This is such a useful video by all means, thank you Fr Mikhail. Truly thank you. I loved every single second of it. I am going to share this one with few friends 💪☦

  • @DCWoodWorking
    @DCWoodWorking Рік тому +2

    Perfectly well said. God bless!

  • @Nobody-wi3yr
    @Nobody-wi3yr Рік тому +4

    Standing against the way of the world is great. Keep in mind that we are to create as well. You can spend your life hunting demons and fighting wickedness without, only to find that your own house and community has fallen into ruin from within during your absence.
    Build where you are. Pray where you are. I think many should narrow their focus to the spheres of influence that God has put us over. Build a community that is an example of the right way to do things. To only stand in opposition of the "big-picture" evils is one way to be nullified and defined by what you stand against. Be strong and courageous in the Lord.

    • @living_orthodox
      @living_orthodox  Рік тому +2

      The point of the video is to get you working on yourself first. The other stuff will come.

    • @Nobody-wi3yr
      @Nobody-wi3yr Рік тому +3

      @@living_orthodox
      Amen. Nothing of what I said was meant to be in opposition to the message of your video. I fully agree with you.

    • @living_orthodox
      @living_orthodox  Рік тому +3

      @@Nobody-wi3yr I know :). I should clarify I plan to do a talk about the importance of working and trying to build something, such as communities, better temples etc. you’re right that we must take physical actions towards a better life as well

    • @Nobody-wi3yr
      @Nobody-wi3yr Рік тому +5

      @@living_orthodox
      I got really into big-picture, national politics for a while. Year after year, I found that I would cheer on my "team" and felt good when things went my way. But lately I've realized that all that became a distraction. I hadn't done anything with myself or cultivated the things God put right in front of me to manage. I had become just as weak and useless as the leftist "soy-people" I despised. My paradigm was recently shaken. And I'm seeing the effects of the void my absence in my local life has left. I am thankful for your video, because it echos a lot of the things we should be focusing on.

  • @TranslatedAssumption
    @TranslatedAssumption 11 місяців тому

    Thank you for the Bible recommendation, I had never heard of that specific one. Please pray for my repentance.

  • @AwesomeWholesome
    @AwesomeWholesome Рік тому +1

    Fr. Mikhail, thank you so much for this video. It helps me immensely. God bless you and your family.

  • @tonybowman9612
    @tonybowman9612 Рік тому +1

    Thank you Father!
    Timely message in the struggle 👍

  • @whitediver45
    @whitediver45 Рік тому +1

    Hallelujah ! And amen brother.

  • @OrthoBro14
    @OrthoBro14 5 місяців тому

    PLEASE DO PART 2 THIS WAS GOLD!!!!

  • @user-ig2ru7nx5b
    @user-ig2ru7nx5b Рік тому +1

    This was very helpful and practical Father, thank you.

    • @living_orthodox
      @living_orthodox  Рік тому +1

      I am glad it helped! I am working on a serious of four manly virtues that you may like!

    • @user-ig2ru7nx5b
      @user-ig2ru7nx5b Рік тому

      @@living_orthodox looking forward to it

  • @anthonyrstrawbridge
    @anthonyrstrawbridge Рік тому

    Fearlessness can be slippery the Emotion of fear requires great wisdom snd deep understanding of Subject matter.

  • @Alex-gx5mb
    @Alex-gx5mb Рік тому +2

    This is a great talk. May the Lord bless you and your family

  • @presabranca
    @presabranca 11 місяців тому +1

    Thank you for the video.

  • @Steve-Duh-Rino
    @Steve-Duh-Rino Рік тому +2

    Glad I found your channel

  • @joachimgajda1806
    @joachimgajda1806 7 місяців тому

    Thank you very much.

  • @TM-yw8bu
    @TM-yw8bu 8 місяців тому

    This video message is incredible. Thank you

  • @yourneighbour3309
    @yourneighbour3309 Рік тому +1

    thank you father!!☦️💙

  • @tmd003
    @tmd003 Рік тому

    Thank you father, please continue posting, your videos are amazing and are really needed by me right now🙏

  • @felixdelgado1893
    @felixdelgado1893 Рік тому +1

    Needed this. Thank you 🙏🏽

  • @starrunner9611
    @starrunner9611 Рік тому +1

    Love it - thanks!

  • @brightonfoster2288
    @brightonfoster2288 Рік тому

    Wow. I went into this thinking it would be just like any other video, but I am pleasantly surprised. This has everything one could possibly say about what it really means to be a man. Thank you✝️

    • @living_orthodox
      @living_orthodox  Рік тому +1

      I am glad it could help! Christ is the prime example of how we men ought to be ☦️

  • @costa2628
    @costa2628 Рік тому

    Thank you Father for that great video!

  • @spence0238
    @spence0238 11 місяців тому

    Definitely needed this. Thank you

  • @borislavborisov82
    @borislavborisov82 Рік тому

    Thank you For. Michael! I needed this video and the advices in it. God bless you! 🙏

  • @ChileVerdeDavid
    @ChileVerdeDavid 11 місяців тому

    Wow this was just what I needed to hear. Seriously.

  • @ivicaatanasovski
    @ivicaatanasovski Рік тому

    What a great video for men!

  • @maxtroy
    @maxtroy Рік тому

    Wow. Thank you.

  • @randallgoulet1550
    @randallgoulet1550 Рік тому +1

    Such a valuable video

  • @samgough309
    @samgough309 Рік тому

    your advise is good, well said Thank you

  • @Воєводаруський
    @Воєводаруський 6 місяців тому +1

    Christ is risen. Thank you, father

  • @user-tx4vc4vg2z
    @user-tx4vc4vg2z Рік тому

    Very inspiring video, thank you Fr.

  • @MrGb1965
    @MrGb1965 Рік тому

    Helpful. Thank you.

  • @OrthoAutist
    @OrthoAutist Рік тому

    Thank Fr some very practical advice!

  • @TaurineFiend
    @TaurineFiend 9 місяців тому

    This is tough, cuz I’m not a masculine guy really, I notice my countless flaws and I just go “Man, I’ll never be able to do anything about these.” Very frustrating cycle

    • @living_orthodox
      @living_orthodox  9 місяців тому +4

      Except you can! That’s the good news. The fact you are seeing your flaws is a good thing. It’s a gift. Just pick one thing. One small thing and work on that. Measure yourself against the words of Christ in the gospel and the lives of saints. If you start with focusing on one small flaw, like procrastination, and work on taking immediate action on something like taking out the trash or doing dishes, that can be a good first step.

  • @elizabethpapalia5227
    @elizabethpapalia5227 Рік тому +3

    Father Michael do you have advice for women? I really appreciate this video.

  • @crimsonhawk4912
    @crimsonhawk4912 Рік тому +4

    The devil is the prime example of what not to date. A person who has no compassion and is emotionally driven

    • @living_orthodox
      @living_orthodox  Рік тому +4

      And a prime example of who we don’t want to be either.

  • @starstray4326
    @starstray4326 Рік тому

    Thanks for your video bro, Idk what plan God has for me

  • @Aaron-xn7dg
    @Aaron-xn7dg Рік тому +1

    Hello Father, could you possibly do a video on Christian Monasticism?

  • @Wyocaster
    @Wyocaster Рік тому +2

    Do you have a video specifically about dealing with ADHD? I was recently diagnosed with it and i have been struggling my whole life with it. I have a horrible time with emotional dysregulation due to it and frustration from everything else that comes from it.

    • @living_orthodox
      @living_orthodox  Рік тому +2

      For you dear brother, I’ll make one. It’ll take some time and research but it’ll be worth it.

    • @Wyocaster
      @Wyocaster Рік тому +2

      @@living_orthodox thank you so much! As long as my priest allows it, I'm going to start my journey into becoming a catechumen after the holidays, im so excited!

    • @Wyocaster
      @Wyocaster Рік тому +2

      ​@living_orthodox I've started my journey into orthodoxy! Catechism classes don't start until summer but my priest told me I'm basically starting the process by going to church regularly. Thank you for everything you do Father!

    • @living_orthodox
      @living_orthodox  Рік тому +2

      @@Wyocaster glory to God! May He keep and protect you!

  • @robscovell5951
    @robscovell5951 9 місяців тому

    Father, please can I make a couple of requests for future videos? The first is in response to your reply to my question about people living in non-Orthodox cultures: overcoming the perception among Protestants that Orthodoxy is "Foreign" or "Weird". I have friends who are Protestant who think like this. The second video request is how to move towards a life of discipline if you have ADD. This is something I struggle with.

    • @living_orthodox
      @living_orthodox  9 місяців тому

      Great ideas! One of them could also be a topic for Fr John and I to tackle :)

  • @radicalgreek99
    @radicalgreek99 11 місяців тому

    Awesome

  • @Idontkown12
    @Idontkown12 5 місяців тому

    @LivingOrthodox Hey Father Im late to the party but could u make a video on.
    When to fight to fight back and when to not.

  • @aaronlat
    @aaronlat Рік тому +1

    what is the song in the start

  • @DJ-Lionel
    @DJ-Lionel 3 місяці тому

    What is the opening chant in the beginning of the video?

  • @FailingAtFarmChores
    @FailingAtFarmChores 2 місяці тому

    The cut shot of Trudeau when talking about weakness....

  • @JeffreySchwinghammer
    @JeffreySchwinghammer 5 місяців тому

    What does it look like exactly to rebuke your emotions?

  • @charlesnunno8377
    @charlesnunno8377 9 місяців тому +1

    Shyness was effectively BEATEN INTO ME by the CRUELTIES of my Roman Catholic upbringing combined with the CRUEL social conditioning of living in a "Multicultural Society" where everyone else's most petty and pathetic "FEELINGS" come first. I don't think I will ever forgive "Christianity" for CRUSHING ME DOWN into "shyness." I was not and never was originally and naturally "shy." I was the little kid who would rush up and sit on anyone's lap and start happily and warmly talking to him. Growing up and realizing the duplicity of the adults KNOCKED THAT OUT OF ME. I can never forgive this. I am not shy. But I am a reserved person, after much INTENSE HUMILIATION which I feel was intensely undue.

    • @charlesnunno8377
      @charlesnunno8377 9 місяців тому

      That's very difficult for me because I have TWO basic problems which I see as a contradiction. I used to attend a Russian Orthodox Church. I stand at the back silently like a Vampire. I like it. That's fine for me. I observed silently all the beautiful but completely veiled women. They seemed as goddesses to me. BUT I am cognizant enough to KNOW that it is ONLY really their ethnic bubble of non-atheistic ignorance that PROTECTS and PRESERVES them, and unlike many well-meaning and ...I SAY "good" Russian men there, I am cognizant enough to KNOW that my MEREST PRESENCE there IS a VIOLATION ( or would be if I was any other kind of guy in any other situation ) of that sanctity, that MATERIAL sanctity which is being accidentally preserved though the whole system wants to turn them into cheap whores if they could. ( Meanwhile, converting is interpreted as "fake" by all and sundry, both by those who HATE YOU, and by your own people...and rightly so....though I am no fake, and am likely the most quietly sincere person in the room, in any room, in any group. ) But that is not how groups work. Group membership in any clan, is always either ( as in Leftism or Christianity ) a propositional thing ( think all the implicit hatreds of politics ) or it is a hereditary thing. ( As in a tribe. ) @Desertfox21

    • @charlesnunno8377
      @charlesnunno8377 9 місяців тому

      @Desertfox21 The problem with Christianity ( my problem ultimately) is that it simply ( like communism ) does not "WORK" for everyone outside of what I would call a "Christian Caliphate." Christianity only WORKS for the lowest peasant ( like me ) when the Emperor is Christian. Period. When the ruling power, class, dominant ethos of a culture and secular mandated religion is Orthodox Christian. Outside of THAT, you have two types of Christianity: the "nice" happy small spoiled 4 child or less families who go on vacations, date normally, go to school normally. AND THEN you have people like me, from a LARGE 14 + baby impoverished family, humiliated by "immigrants" in my own country, made to go to church up to twice a week, made to pray the rosary every day at a religious school.....and totally Obstructed from the one girl I ever loved. Or ever will, and will never ever see again......in an environment where EVEN THE LOWEST sub-scum gets that normal chance in life, due to not having to suffer for your Faith. That's MY problem: some suffer, some benefit. That does NOT WORK for me. It should be ALL SUFFER, all BENEFIT. If I suffer and some other creep does not....there should be some benefit for my virtue. There WASN'T. There never was. And I have to accept that. Though I be sympathetic to the Orthodox personally.....I've been crushed enough to GET IT, to know, that conversion, would only bring new rocks to lift, not fewer, and in a society without total Christian Ummah, total DOMINATION by the Christian......I wouldn't get one crumb off the table in the end. Others would benefit. I won't. And I've always already been crushed into the lowest gutter for the benefit of the parasitic who sneer upon me.

    • @charlesnunno8377
      @charlesnunno8377 9 місяців тому

      @Desertfox21 haha. Oh. I've played that game before. But for me to keep doing that WOULD BE DISHONEST. "ohhhh. Look at me, ohhhh I'm sooooo PRIDEFUL." Yes. I know that's what you want to hear. I know that's what everyone wants to hear. I've said that line before when Christians have tested me. And I know it works like a charm to confess to "Pride." It's the easiest thing in the book to do. I know. I'm done with that dishonesty. In reality it is the PRIDE of others, unmerited and unearned, that CRUSHED me first at a VERY YOUNG AGE. I've been watching and learning ever since. And I've basically come to the conclusion that the "Check your White Privilege" thing that "progressives" do today is just the New Version of "checking your sins." Well, I spent maybe 14 years of my life going to confession and being abused, learning the catechism and being Obstructed: and eventually it OCCURRED to me that everyone else was ENJOYING LIFE. While I was stuck being honorable. That's a PROBLEM for me because it is MOST UNFAIR. If you have ever been BESTED and manipulated by a psychopath you would know what I am talking about. If you want TRUE HUMILITY in all things it would be Ignosticism in all things. True humility would be too say, "Not only do I not know anything, but the things I do know, may not mean that much."
      To a suffering man, the true normal humility is Ignosticism. Not atheism nor agnosticism. Just Ignosticism.

    • @living_orthodox
      @living_orthodox  9 місяців тому +2

      Be sure that you don’t become the same monster. Because that is the path you’re on. Pride is ugly and the fact that you can’t take accountability for yourself is telling. You’re not a man. Just a boy who refuses to grow up. You’re also using a fallacy called equivocation to set up another. The “white privilege” thing isn’t the same as “check your pride.” Pride is the path to ignorance, humility makes one receptive and adaptive. You’re just an overgrown crybaby if you’re going to allow the hurts of the past to shape you in the present. Either rise above it or don’t. The fact you haven’t healed, clearly from how you went on a self-pitying rant, is proof you can’t do it alone. It’s clearly not going well.
      What pathetic self pity with what you said in regards to women. American culture has turned you into a pathetic simp, who can’t stop abusing himself and crying about his poor circumstances. They’re of your own making. Look in the mirror. That’s the enemy you have to subdue first.
      You’re not crushed anymore. You’ve just decided to not get back up on your feet. I didn’t have an easy childhood either. I was abused a lot and went through things that hurt me too. I decided it wasn’t worth it to kill myself daily with sulking and whining about it. Time to man up.
      Lastly, if Christianity doesn’t “work” like communism, how come its outlasted communism by thousands of years and rose out of it intact? You’re a few IQ points to short to argue on this; and the level of Dunning Kruger, and demonic pride is astounding. Go cry elsewhere or contact me and get some help. Either way, no one is going to feel sorry for you. You clearly have capitalized on that yourself. You’re truly so ignorant, you think you can judge everyone else who you perceive as “better off”. You’re a narcissist and you’re the problem in all these things because you can’t put aside your self pity to actually take action. No one in their right mind would marry such a pathetic and angry “man”. That girl you loved? You didn’t love her and it’s obvious she clearly dodged a bullet. You obstructed yourself. Get a life.
      I hope reading this sobers you up. You’re not beyond saving, but clearly you can’t do this on your own. If you could, you would’ve done it already.

    • @charlesnunno8377
      @charlesnunno8377 9 місяців тому

      I did some sincere thinking over whether this was even worth replying too, because it reveals so much. In fact I'm thinking of doing a psychological study of religious behavior patterns to be published some day. I think I will screenshot this reply because it is an interesting case study. Much like observing the gorillas in the wild a man can learn a lot just from coming up close to the wild animals and studying them. I see myself as a bit of a Tarzan in this way: I lived with them: so I get them. A famous Jewish philosopher once remarked that in order to get along with a child who has a delusion that he is a chicken you have "enter into his world and become a chicken too." I did in my previous commentary only said "maybe." As if I was considering a possibility. A possibility I have long pondered on when it comes to the duplicity of religions. But do not misunderstand me: I am not saying that it doesn't matter. Religion is a powerful POWERFUL "technology." Just like a Gun. An atheist without a gun, is less powerful than a man with a Gun...with a God. I get that. But I also can't help but notice the repeated parallels in manipulative head-games in different milieu's. I suspect that there are levels of people and different religions naturally fit those levels. As a perfect glove fits a hand. Let's start with a few observations and perform a few tests: "You’re just an overgrown crybaby." Question: Would you dare say this to a Black Man? This is the ultimate question no one would ask. But we all know the answer. The answer is "No." Why? Well. One intuitive theory I might have is that "Christians are Cowards." I have observed this many times. There is a very different standard by which you will talk to a Western Man without any power in his own polity vs. how you speak to power-groups that have a certain sociological control over you. Hence, my sneaking suspicion of cowardice. Let's take another one: " You’re not a man. Just a boy who refuses to grow up." You are not much more than 10 years older than me maybe less. I have observed often than the Orthodox like too get people to "confess their sins" in public, in conversation ( as in the New Testament ) and I know that to pass "their test" I must "give them something." Meaning, I must first say something "BAD" about myself even if completely fictional in order to gain "TRUST." A public confession. I have often wondered as to the utility of this. Since, if the person is insincere, the group leadership gains something, and if sincere, the group itself gains something. Very clever of St. Paul indeed. I don't deny the intense CUNNING of Christianity in every respect. Indeed, I have nothing but admiration for the cunning, though the "child" in me still hopes it is more than that, because like a child, I actually do still have a commitment to TRUTH. Something I have observed with just cynicism, "Men" lack in order to survive. I get that too. I'm not knocking it. This appears to confirm my theory that religions ( which last about a thousand years or so before changing ) basically are designed to "fit a people" in evolutionary terms. Ideologies ( like Communism ) last between 70 and 150 years because these are pyramid schemes that are State-Based rather than Civilization-Based. Another Question: Why do so many Eastern Europeans have the issue of their women turning to prostitution when they come to Western lands? My theory is that Eastern European men are more "ARROGANT" which alienates your women from you. So they seek out "softer" Western Men who they see as "easier to deal with." And conversations are usually a cover for this, whether from East to West or from West to East for opposite reasons. I also can't help but notice the seeming incongruence between ethnic groups that are permitted to be more arrogant, preaching humility and against pride, to people who are not permitted any pride, and do not make a point of trying to psycho-analyze the silent type as "Shy." This is precisely why I said "maybe." Originally. That this is all just a psychological trick as Julian the Apostate might have intuited. Lawyers, Salesmen, Surgeons and Clergy all tend to attract the psychopathic traits. This might be necessary. Or / and, it might also be a way to hide from "hard work" without the protection of religion? Again. These are just things I am pondering. Anyway. That is where I am coming from. Maybe the likes of Wells and "Khan" were not incorrect ( the man/boy comparisons ) that Man has not changed much since the time of the Homo Erectus. Scratch the humble, and they pound the Chest just like Old Red-Eye in the old Jack London novel "Before Adam." You are right about ONE THING, I am not "crushed" anymore and I am doing financially quite well. But I was horribly crushed once, and I felt quite parasitized upon. By religion. I can't shake the memory. Like Tarzan I return to observe the jungle with clearer eyes than the "city folk" who have never been in the jungle. @@living_orthodox

  • @joeskill4663
    @joeskill4663 Рік тому +1

    Based talk that I needed to here,, instead of ,” no your not lazy papa does not think that of you” Yada, yada, yada…🤷‍♂️😄

  • @monte9084
    @monte9084 Рік тому

    4:04? wdym Holy apostles convent? are you referring to their New Testament translation? or lives of the saints?

    • @monte9084
      @monte9084 Рік тому +1

      oh lmao just watched it and like a minute later you told us :) haha. i should watch entire vid before commenting. either way Mother Mariam is an absolute legend. I LOVE HER!!

  • @arsenya.7298
    @arsenya.7298 Рік тому +1

    this is an important message for young men. Christianity is seen as very effeminate in the west.

  • @JasonGeorgiouGaming
    @JasonGeorgiouGaming 11 місяців тому

    Father, bless! Thanks for your teachings!
    I have a question. When you said "it is effeminate to do what you want, as you feel?"
    How is it effeminate? I do not understand the term. That is not suitable for women neither.

  • @jocosobe
    @jocosobe Рік тому +1

    I think many men strive to be strong through fleshly attempts which is the very cause they experience failure and shame in this area bc they can't see when their flesh is operating, it's a weakness, a blind spot which the devil uses to create division between man and women.
    I think many men, as also Paul said, recognize that they want to do what's right and be successful in walking in/carrying out the visions and revelations that God shows them about godly manhood, but cannot carry it out as they recognize that the flesh often takes over in their very attempt to walk in their manhood (walk in the spirit) leading to shame as the devil targets their weakest points, usually lust and lack of self control. And the womens response is usually offense and unforgiveness. We as men and women need to help each other and educate ourselves about what scripture says about the gender roles and attributes of men and women according to scripture to better discern our behaviors in everyday life. However I think God is more concerced about how we respond when we fail to accomplish this, bc we are called to be >bearing with one another

  • @theangryslav9115
    @theangryslav9115 Рік тому +2

    Father, you look like CBum the bodybuilder. The resemblence is uncanny. Cbum if he became Orthodox.

  • @TheAnbyrley
    @TheAnbyrley Рік тому

    I dont see any book names or links as such in the description :-/

    • @living_orthodox
      @living_orthodox  Рік тому

      I did include links to books that played a role in making this video.

  • @benjaminmcvay9864
    @benjaminmcvay9864 Рік тому

    🙏

  • @jessejamesiakovos
    @jessejamesiakovos Рік тому +1

    ☦💪

  • @Kris_413
    @Kris_413 7 місяців тому

    2:15 Wow, did not know the person was a woman.

  • @TriddlerDD
    @TriddlerDD Рік тому

    Good advice.. just saying not much has made me feel as old as when you said you have struggled on somethinga for many years.... Heheh

  • @voievod9260
    @voievod9260 Рік тому +1

    I am afraid I won't be able to protect my family if it comes down to physical force. Im a small guy.

  • @tomg.6881
    @tomg.6881 Рік тому

    What do you mean by, rebuke your passions? Thanks

  • @laurencescrenci1460
    @laurencescrenci1460 10 місяців тому

    Father please pray for me so I can become a better man and be attracted to a woman of God

  • @uknownwarrior
    @uknownwarrior Рік тому

    I can't find the verse where Jesus rebukes the deep feelings

    • @living_orthodox
      @living_orthodox  Рік тому

      King James used different wording. Remember, translation isn’t an exact science. The original Greek describes it as rebuking His feelings.

  • @starstray4326
    @starstray4326 Рік тому

    Can you seriously answer this? My question is this. You said in this video no man should worry so much about finances with courting especially. You also said no man should take too long with marriage. Forgive me if I took this out of context I tried verbatim. I’m 23 almost 24 and I work extremely hard. I’m an airplane mechanic and getting my pilots license as well as getting my IA for inspecting for more money. It seems to me I have to be financially ready but I only make 22 an hour since I’m still a beginner. I feel as the line of man must be a provider and man must not be greedy is so thin that it is not clear. I live very modest it’s not my fault houses and land is abysmal. Not saying it out frustration just I’m so confused. Would I as a young man be less “marriage material” if I worked so hard on making sure a wife doesn’t need to work?

    • @shema9172
      @shema9172 Рік тому

      You don’t have to follow everything in the vid, there is nothing wrong with what you do.

    • @starstray4326
      @starstray4326 Рік тому

      @@shema9172 I just don’t know the fine line between doing too much where it’s considered greed. Unfortunately spiritual fathers are so rare and I don’t have one

    • @living_orthodox
      @living_orthodox  Рік тому +4

      I think you’re misunderstanding what I am saying. I am not saying that hard work isn’t important. I am saying that your success as man, as a good man doesn’t hinge on how much money you make. You have to remember that something can happen and you can one day be out of a job, you have to be able to have a solid foundation as man and not base it on material goods.
      You could get sick, injured, your company can go out of business etc. build your foundation on rock. Not sand.

    • @living_orthodox
      @living_orthodox  Рік тому +1

      See my answer. It’s really important to listen to context.

    • @starstray4326
      @starstray4326 Рік тому +3

      @@living_orthodox you’re absolutely right. That’s even more daunting. No matter what I have to trust God since I’m human. However you cleared it up for me thank you.

  • @voievod9260
    @voievod9260 Рік тому +3

    Father Mikhail, how are you surviving the lgbt scourge on the Canadian society without being in jail for "hate speech" 😂.
    Thankfully I live in Romania and the madness here is low compared to the west.

  • @ruthjustdancer3635
    @ruthjustdancer3635 Місяць тому

    Could I find a woman version?

    • @living_orthodox
      @living_orthodox  Місяць тому +1

      @@ruthjustdancer3635 it’s coming! My wife will be doing a video on the matter.