I'm an outgoing introvert. I startup conversations and enjoy some socializing when I'm put into that environment.. I'd just rather be alone, most of the time!❤
I just found out two weeks ago that I’m an introvert. I was forcing myself all these years into the mold that everybody thought I should be. When Covid came, I was living alone. I found out I liked my company better than anybody else’s. I was trying to fix what I thought was broken. Nice to know. I’m not broken. Thanks for all you do.
Bang on! I used to be an introvert who could be quite outgoing but I find that changing as I age. Now, at 75, I am most content with long periods of time on my own, with 4 beloved rescue cats for company. My worse nightmare is having to go into a seniors residence where sharing a room with a total stranger would be required!
Fellow introvert here, you nailed it! I can remember as a kid in school trying to work up the courage to raise my hand. After a lifetime of feeling like there was something wrong with myself, I have finally leaned into my introverted nature and it's so much better. Thank you for putting into words what all of us introverts feel. Great video. I wish the world understood that introverts are not aloof or "stuck up" both of which I have been called in my life. I just don't do small talk well. One on one with someone who wants to have a real conversation, I am great. Small talk is my kryptonite though!
I'm also finding it's more extreme for me as I age. In my twenties, I hada lot bigger battery. In my fifties, it's much smaller. Beautiful filming, too. So lovely and relaxing! 🤗
Yep. There is definitely a difference between being alone and lonely. I'm a "thinking" introvert. So, I can be surrounded by tonnes of people, sitting in a bar, pub, club, etc and if I don't need to interact or communicate for a bit, I can easily retreat into my head/imagination and recharge. Basically, quick charging. Also, the longer I'm alone the faster I recharge my battery and I can even overcharge my battery. Also, the smaller the group I'm with, the longer my battery lasts, as well. There is also a bonus to draining my battery quickly (especially if I'm overcharged), I sleep REALLY well that night.
Thanks for the "Bonus" point Adelina! I think my family and friends are starting to understand this about me. Acceptance of our differences is the key. ❤ for video!
I completely get where you are. I am right there, too. I am happy with myself as I am. Hopefully, some extraverts will hear this and finally understand. Your scenic walks are just so lovely.
My mom was an extrovert and didn't understand my introverted personality. At times, she thought I was suicidal. I was always reassuring her that was not my thoughts. Actually, at the time I didn't know of the 2 personalities. Thanks for sharing. 😊🍁🍂🙋♀️
I’m often asked, don’t you get lonely or bored being on your own every day? My reply is no, never! In my childhood I often spent many days alone as my sister who is 7 years older was hardly home. I learnt how to be content by myself. Your 5 things you described as an introvert is so me. Thank you for sharing! By the way I love the scenery and the water on the beach. Plus the music in the background, it’s so relaxing.
I get asked that often as well. I get asked, "Aren't you bored?" a lot. It's hard for me understand their perspective because I absolutely love my alone time, I cherish it. I don't understand how non-introverts literally need to be around others and doing things all the time, I find it absolutely exhausting and an invasion of my private time. I'm definitely an "Introvert Social Club" fan. lol 🦋
I was a D sized battery in my 20-40 yr age…then little by little I turned into a AAA size…which is where I remain..with the exception of my being with my kids..I can’t get enough of their company 😍
As an introvert myself, I totally agree with all your points, Adelina. Love these videos by the water and the lovely trail through the woods. I live in a city, so am living vicariously through your awesome scenery. ♥♥♥
A: It's me again. I forgot to point out how glorious it was to see the sun and marvel at all of the different colors of blue and grey on the beach and in the water. Thanks for giving us a glimpse.....
A: You absolutely nailed it on the head! I totally agree with point #6. One of my pet peeves is the discussion going around that introverts are more likely to develop dementia due to the lack of their interaction with other people. To that I say, piffffle.......
Adelina- when you used the term “outgoing introvert” it really struck me. A lot of people who know me probably believe that I’m an extrovert. In reality, I’m an introverted only child who is perfectly happy with my own company. Thank you for this perspective!
Spot on--and not just. good info for extroverts to know about us, but also a great reinforcement for us introverts. Too, often, we feel like we simply can't keep up simply because we can't be "on" all day, or jump from activity to activity like our extroverted friends. More than one big event in a day and I'm wiped out.
You just described my whole school experience and my working career. I also noticed working with extroverts that they were usually the ones who got the promotions and management positions. Because they were loud and the top people admired that more than the strong silent type.
I think we are finally being recognized for these traits, not flaws... traits lol. It's interesting that my kids don't deplete my energy either.. now that they're adults lol. i too wish i had understood myself as a young mom. I hope you're doing OK with all the rain you're getting 😊
Great analysis on introvertism. Your 3rd child is Sophie! She seems like an introvert too. Likes to give cameos but doesn't steal the show. I related to everything you said. I've lived alone for 13 years now, and I quite like it. As long as I have my dog or cat, I'll be just fine❤
As a fellow introvert, I prefer socially interacting with others like me. I don't exclude extroverts from my orbit. I'm just more comfortable with "bird of a feather".
Really great video!! Very late in my life I"ve only just understood that I am an outgoing introvert. Wish I"d known earlier as I would often feel that there was something wrong with me when I would avoid too many social occasions, and feel drained afterwards. I'd feel as if something was wrong with me. Your video helps me to understand myself better, and be happy as I am.
You're exactly right. Being alone does not always equate to being lonely. It's been an experience being an introvert, wanting to be on my own, rather than being surrounded by people all the time has caused a lot of friction due to lack of understanding and respect. There are times when I like to be with folks but I also enjoy happily my alone time. And yes, its a shock to many as I'm outgoing, friendly and a "people person". But I do get rejuvenated during my alone time.
What a perfect description of introverts and the need for recharging. Thank you. Also, this desert dweller LOVES the sound of waves...I swear I can even smell the water.😊
I was a shy introvert through high school and am now an outgoing introvert. My adult daughter is also an outgoing introvert, but a little more outgoing than me. I understand your comment of only wanting one social interaction at the most on the weekend. I also work remotely full time. I have always sought out nature to rejuvenate me.
I love the expression social battery. For me it perfectly describes how I’ve felt my whole life. I have never felt lonely being alone but often have felt lonely in groups because I didn’t think I fit in especially as a child. I have learned over the years to be better at socializing and I do enjoy it but it does drain the battery as you put it.
Nicely put! I'm a 70 yo introvert who enjoys her own company. I find that while I enjoy connecting with others, I still need my quiet time to decompress and process my day. There are some excellent books out there on introverts, particularly Susan Cain's "The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking", and Marti Olsen Laney Psy.D. "THe Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World." Related are Elaine Aron's "The Highly Sensitive Person" (HSP), who are mostly introverts although there are HSP extroverts too. All of these books have helped me better understand myself. Thanks for your own perspective too.
I totally agree with everything you have said!! Im an outgoing introvert as well. Dont need fixing and very self motivated. I can appreciate what you are saying and very relatable. I dont understand why people feel the need to treat us introverts like projects that need fixing. We are excellent communicators and team players. As an introvert, we like balance and try to stay grounded and not have our energy depleted. There has to be a balance for anyone. I like the way you explained introverts! Very true!! You explained it very well!
💯 agreed Thank you for educating people on this topic. I’m 62 year old and I discovered that I’m an introvert just a couple of years ago. I didn’t know about this type of personality so my life was hard trying to push my self to do things that a don’t like just to please others because they think I’m “wrong”. I wish I had known this before, because now I’m really happy and I only explain my preferences and desires to those who respect me as I am. Greetings and wishing you the best from Puerto Rico. 🏖
I loved this video and it makes me want to know more about myself. I'm not sure how I'm wired, but I definitely like and need to be by myself for extended periods of time and generally don't feel comfortable in most extraverted situations. Thank you Adelina for this video 💝XX
Thanks for making this video. I am also an introvert and I do love spending time alone. Another point about introverts is that we prefer deep, meaningful conversations…preferably one on one conversations. As opposed to a group conversation talking about meaningless things like the weather. I just can’t get on board with small talk..I tune out. LOL. I agree that one social outing a week is enough for me…if there are 2 or more commitments on my calendar in a week I feel overwhelmed and miss “me” time. If I don’t have sufficient “me” time I don’t function well. I live alone in my own home with my little dog and I am as happy a as a clam. 🙂. Also, people assume “introversion” and “shyness” are the same. Not so!! I am not shy…I lead many meetings at work. But if I have nothing important or meaningful to say, I say nothing. Introverts think..and think hard..before we speak. Not always the case with extroverts. The world needs both. You are right..we don’t need fixing but we ARE often misunderstood.
The battery description is so helpful when explaining to others why I am not available day after day. Thank you for this. I recently ended a friendship due to a lack of understanding about my need for time alone. They took it too personally.
Great video and spot on! I’m recently retired and very happy to have my own company. I had a job which required lots of interaction and I can’t tell you how happy I am not to have that daily battery depletion. Thank you for the lovely and peaceful scenery 😊
You’ve described me perfectly. Thanks for this. Good to hear I’m not an oddball and being alone and happy is normal. I too am an outgoing introvert like you.
I love that park. I was just there staying at my friends next to the park on the first week of September. I can relate to being an introvert and that’s why I flourished working from home during the Covid time.
Hello! Thanks for helping me to clarify where I am on the spectrum of introvert to extrovert. I am an introvert by your definition and appreciate that I am NOT anti-social. I need a lot of "me" time as an artist and a writer. Maybe I found those places of creativity because they require private and quiet time to think. I have a part-time job that gives me what my social battery needs to charge. Yes to not being lonely, yes to not being broken and yes to being extroverted and friendly when I need to be.
Thank you so much for your insightful view of an introvert because it helped me to see why I much prefer and enjoy being alone instead of around others. I have a caregiver who comes into my home for 2 hours twice a week. I wish I didn't need the help because I'd rather be left alone. All this to say, I didn't know I was an introvert til you explained it. God bless.
As a child, I tended to be more extroverted. But in my teens and on into my adulthood, there came a big change in my life. My introverted self came out. I can start up conversations with strangers like at the store, but I do like to be on my own. I agree that people attempt to change me, calling me a snob. I don't like noisy situations and crowds. They really sap my energy. I am an AA battery and can easily be brought down to an AAA. It's funny that I like to travel and will come out of my comfort zone to do so on my own. But I get to choose what and when to do excursions Thank you for bringing this topic up. 😊
So True! I do not feel lonely … ! I do miss my husband … but at peace with his moving to Heaven and knowing I will be with him again soon! 🌈🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️❤️🇺🇸🇺🇸
You are right on in all your six comments. I’m going to show your video to my girlfriend right now in the hopes that this may help her understand me. thanks for doing this video.
I am an introvert and my oldest is one as well. I always was exhausted dealing with the school system with both my kids. I totally relate to a limited social battery and I have one of those. .Also, so many people need to demoralize introverts by making judgments based on their own needs and explain our behavior as selfish and/ or arrogant. I have put myself out there so many times only to have a three day migraine following an event just to avoid the judgements.
I love it when you take us to the ocean for a ❤ to ❤ chat! I'm an introvert and appreciated your thoughtful perceptions of what we experience. It's very helpful. 😊❤Have a good week Alina! 💐 Sue
Adelina, you are speaking my language!! So much of what you shared is exactly how I feel and have experienced!! I'm an outgoing introvert but really enjoy as much alone time as I can get! Love this video!!♥
What an awesome video!! So relaxing!! Thank you. I am not an outgoing introvert. I work 40 hours a week in a grocery store and am surrounded by and deal with people all day five days a week. I like most people and I like my job but it’s EXHAUSTING to say the least. Not sure how that happened but I’ve been doing it for 35 years. You are right though. We are not broken. Nor do we need fixing. Just a good stretch of alone time to charge the mental battery lol. I love how you used battery sizes to get your point across. Take care!! 🥰
First, amazing opening & closing views…so peaceful. 🥰 Second, all three of your kids!😂 I think you meant to say all three of us. Third…thank you for sharing what we introverts are all about. Finally, fourth, thank you for your usual positive, inclusive content! Love and hugs my friend.❤ P.S. One thing I will add, as an introvert, just as your kids do not drain your social battery, I have a few friends who also fall into the non-draining category. 😊
Perfectly said, perfectly made. I tried to come out of my shell and try to be what i thought was the preferred personality. 🙃 nope. I'm fine being the way God made me. Thank you for the walk around. You have such beautiful surroundings.
Happy belated Thanksgiving, Adelina !!! What a great topic and a substantive reflection. 🙏 -V PS Am DEFINITELY a "low battery, long recharger". I enjoy my own company wherever I am.😊
Another introvert here! Your social battery rang true for me. I run out of gas in short order when in a social setting and it takes a week or two to mentally charge up that battery again. ❤
Well put. Totally get this and nice to hear someone speaking on it. Challenging for me being an introvert in large open office environment sitting beside an extrovert😀
@@IceCreamCarla I see stress and drama as two separate things. For me drama is more between two or more people, stress can be both alone or with others. Different interpretation I guess. btw I think you're a super person Adelina!
Good points! Especially that we are not necessarily shy. I can strike up a conversation with most anyone and have been called "bubbly" so it confuses some when I say I'm an introvert. I enjoy brief small talk, but I don't want to go to most events and prefer being home alone MOST the time. :)
Thank you for the 5 Big ones. I don't know if it works this way but as my kids grew up and left our home, I have relished my time alone and enjoy going to plays ect on my own. Love the get togaehers love when they are done. Take care
Thank you for this interesting and very thoughtful video Adelina. I am also an introvert , as are my adult kids. You described it perfectly, Especially about being a team player. It was spot on. Love these kind of videos, you have such Good insight . Hugs to you and Sophie.😊
Great video. I really liked the battery metaphor. Robin is definitely a small battery introvert, except, like you, regarding the kids. I on the other hand am an extreme extrovert albeit with a small battery. I love interacting with people one-on-one or in big crowds. I love the spotlight but for short periods. Great for customer relations positons. We both agree it would be fun to run into you sometime, somewhere. Robin LOVES to cook. She uses more of your recipes than any of the other cooks she follows. All of yours have been quite good! Heck, I thougt a gnocchi was a lizard!
I think I am an introvert but only recently realized it. Since January I have been going to physical therapy and at home. Recently went to a wedding and was VERY uncomfortable with all the people. I did fine but left early and was quite happy to be back home. My friends ask me aren’t you going crazy at home? Nope, not at all.
I worked at an international insurance company in management. It was encouraged to give our employees an inferior review and a monetary penalty, for being "too quiet". Wish they could talk to you now 😂
Yes that’s me too. All of that. There’s a big crossover too with females with autism, as the female presentation differs from male autism presentation. I’ve called myself an introvert all my life but have only recently found out that I have autism (I’m in my 50s). Thank you for sharing ❤️
Adelina: Thanks for the lovely walk and interesting talk! You cerainly are an inde- pendent woman who has accomplished alot on your lonesome. That you are not lonely when you are alone is very admirable; I need people with me when hiking,etc. I really enjoy my Sundays with a crossword puzzle,listening to music or the radio! I absolutely need to be alone whle doing this, but I wouldn't like to dine alone in a restaurant or take a walk by the beautiful seashore with- out a companion! I guess it shows insecurity; but you are secure in your own skin and that is a good trait to possess! 😊 Cheers.Sandy TT h
@7:43 😆 you probably wanted to say "all three of us". I think I am mostly introvert too. But I do talk a lot lol. So maybe I am a mix of both intro and extro.
Thanks for the information. Always enjoy when you go to the beach. Soothing sounds of the waves and water. Hope you had a good Thanksgiving Day. How do you celebrate Thanksgiving? Have a great week.
I've never thought about it until utubers started talking about this recently. I don't care about the labeling, but I guess i'm an ambivert. I've lived alone for good 40 yrs now, doesn't bother me a bit, but have no problem slipping into a leadership role as I was our condo president for 7yrs. I solo RV as well. I don't seek solitude or socializing, whatever the situation presents itself I'm fine with. So I'm a swinging pendulum, oh well! 😂. 🍻
First thing your background is really pretty. I would be thankful for that,on your Thanksgiving. Now on other things. My last job I would have to work with other people at different times. Depending on the person I had to work with I like it. Some you bounce ideas off of and others they wanted you to do all the work. I liked working by myself, I could do things my way. Obviously there are rules and sometimes you had to do what the bosses wanted. I use to work with little kids and I liked talking to the parents and telling them funny stories about what their child did. Some told me they really liked that. I have a friend who wanted to go to an exhibit,so we went. Her brother came along. I tried to keep to keep up with him. It was a little hard because people go at different speeds. That is one reason I like to do things by myself. You hit on a lot of different topics, one of them was saying you had three kids. Well Sophie is one of your kids. Long time ago I told my dad that the cats I had were his grandkids. He didn't think that was funny. Well I think that is enough for now,stay the way you are.😊❤
I'm an outgoing introvert. I startup conversations and enjoy some socializing when I'm put into that environment.. I'd just rather be alone, most of the time!❤
I just found out two weeks ago that I’m an introvert. I was forcing myself all these years into the mold that everybody thought I should be. When Covid came, I was living alone. I found out I liked my company better than anybody else’s. I was trying to fix what I thought was broken. Nice to know. I’m not broken. Thanks for all you do.
Bang on! I used to be an introvert who could be quite outgoing but I find that changing as I age. Now, at 75, I am most content with long periods of time on my own, with 4 beloved rescue cats for company. My worse nightmare is having to go into a seniors residence where sharing a room with a total stranger would be required!
Fellow introvert here, you nailed it! I can remember as a kid in school trying to work up the courage to raise my hand. After a lifetime of feeling like there was something wrong with myself, I have finally leaned into my introverted nature and it's so much better. Thank you for putting into words what all of us introverts feel. Great video. I wish the world understood that introverts are not aloof or "stuck up" both of which I have been called in my life. I just don't do small talk well. One on one with someone who wants to have a real conversation, I am great. Small talk is my kryptonite though!
Well said! I've dealt with that as well 😊
“Yes” to all you have said! I love being by myself and my friends and family don’t understand this. Thanks for sharing this! 😊
I'm also finding it's more extreme for me as I age. In my twenties, I hada lot bigger battery. In my fifties, it's much smaller.
Beautiful filming, too. So lovely and relaxing! 🤗
Introverts are calling our private, battery-filling moments "down time". For us it is really our "up time".
Good point! 👍🏼😁
Yep. There is definitely a difference between being alone and lonely.
I'm a "thinking" introvert. So, I can be surrounded by tonnes of people, sitting in a bar, pub, club, etc and if I don't need to interact or communicate for a bit, I can easily retreat into my head/imagination and recharge. Basically, quick charging. Also, the longer I'm alone the faster I recharge my battery and I can even overcharge my battery.
Also, the smaller the group I'm with, the longer my battery lasts, as well.
There is also a bonus to draining my battery quickly (especially if I'm overcharged), I sleep REALLY well that night.
Great points 😁
Thanks for the "Bonus" point Adelina! I think my family and friends are starting to understand this about me. Acceptance of our differences is the key. ❤ for video!
You're so welcome!
I completely get where you are. I am right there, too. I am happy with myself as I am. Hopefully, some extraverts will hear this and finally understand. Your scenic walks are just so lovely.
My mom was an extrovert and didn't understand my introverted personality. At times, she thought I was suicidal. I was always reassuring her that was not my thoughts. Actually, at the time I didn't know of the 2 personalities. Thanks for sharing. 😊🍁🍂🙋♀️
I’m often asked, don’t you get lonely or bored being on your own every day?
My reply is no, never! In my childhood I often spent many days alone as my sister who is 7 years older was hardly home. I learnt how to be content by myself. Your 5 things you described as an introvert is so me. Thank you for sharing! By the way I love the scenery and the water on the beach. Plus the music in the background, it’s so relaxing.
I get asked that often as well. I get asked, "Aren't you bored?" a lot. It's hard for me understand their perspective because I absolutely love my alone time, I cherish it. I don't understand how non-introverts literally need to be around others and doing things all the time, I find it absolutely exhausting and an invasion of my private time. I'm definitely an "Introvert Social Club" fan. lol 🦋
@@AnnAndNala 👍👍
I was a D sized battery in my 20-40 yr age…then little by little I turned into a AAA size…which is where I remain..with the exception of my being with my kids..I can’t get enough of their company 😍
As an introvert myself, I totally agree with all your points, Adelina. Love these videos by the water and the lovely trail through the woods. I live in a city, so am living vicariously through your awesome scenery. ♥♥♥
A: It's me again. I forgot to point out how glorious it was to see the sun and marvel at all of the different colors of blue and grey on the beach and in the water. Thanks for giving us a glimpse.....
I can see why and appreciate where you live. It is so grounding and peaceful and rejuvenating to the soul!
A: You absolutely nailed it on the head! I totally agree with point #6. One of my pet peeves is the discussion going around that introverts are more likely to develop dementia due to the lack of their interaction with other people. To that I say, piffffle.......
I think we introverts have deep relationships that keep us healthy. We just only need one or two not lots 😊
Amen Sister!!!! I have always enjoyed being alone. But I have never felt lonely! Being around a large group of people sucks the life out of me. 😊
Bang on. Happiness is contentment, regardless of what others perceive as our wants and needs.
Adelina- when you used the term “outgoing introvert” it really struck me. A lot of people who know me probably believe that I’m an extrovert. In reality, I’m an introverted only child who is perfectly happy with my own company. Thank you for this perspective!
Absolutely loved and appreciated this. You described me perfectly, bang on. I like how you ended this saying, “We are ALL perfectly made. ❤️🇨🇦
Spot on--and not just. good info for extroverts to know about us, but also a great reinforcement for us introverts. Too, often, we feel like we simply can't keep up simply because we can't be "on" all day, or jump from activity to activity like our extroverted friends. More than one big event in a day and I'm wiped out.
You just described my whole school experience and my working career. I also noticed working with extroverts that they were usually the ones who got the promotions and management positions. Because they were loud and the top people admired that more than the strong silent type.
I think we are finally being recognized for these traits, not flaws... traits lol. It's interesting that my kids don't deplete my energy either.. now that they're adults lol. i too wish i had understood myself as a young mom.
I hope you're doing OK with all the rain you're getting 😊
Great analysis on introvertism. Your 3rd child is Sophie! She seems like an introvert too. Likes to give cameos but doesn't steal the show. I related to everything you said. I've lived alone for 13 years now, and I quite like it. As long as I have my dog or cat, I'll be just fine❤
Yes! Thats what my brain must have meant by 3 kids! lol.
You nailed it! EXACTLY how us introverts feel. I, too, wish I had known this when my kids were in school and as a young Mom.
As a fellow introvert, I prefer socially interacting with others like me. I don't exclude extroverts from my orbit. I'm just more comfortable with "bird of a feather".
I'm the same 😊
Really great video!! Very late in my life I"ve only just understood that I am an outgoing introvert. Wish I"d known earlier as I would often feel that there was something wrong with me when I would avoid too many social occasions, and feel drained afterwards. I'd feel as if something was wrong with me. Your video helps me to understand myself better, and be happy as I am.
You're exactly right. Being alone does not always equate to being lonely. It's been an experience being an introvert, wanting to be on my own, rather than being surrounded by people all the time has caused a lot of friction due to lack of understanding and respect. There are times when I like to be with folks but I also enjoy happily my alone time. And yes, its a shock to many as I'm outgoing, friendly and a "people person". But I do get rejuvenated during my alone time.
The 3 of us! Is what you wanted to say🙃! Great explanation!
Social Introvert here too🙋🏼♀️! Completely relate to everything you said!!!
What a perfect description of introverts and the need for recharging. Thank you. Also, this desert dweller LOVES the sound of waves...I swear I can even smell the water.😊
Glad you enjoyed it!
I was a shy introvert through high school and am now an outgoing introvert. My adult daughter is also an outgoing introvert, but a little more outgoing than me. I understand your comment of only wanting one social interaction at the most on the weekend. I also work remotely full time. I have always sought out nature to rejuvenate me.
I love the expression social battery. For me it perfectly describes how I’ve felt my whole life. I have never felt lonely being alone but often have felt lonely in groups because I didn’t think I fit in especially as a child. I have learned over the years to be better at socializing and I do enjoy it but it does drain the battery as you put it.
Nicely put! I'm a 70 yo introvert who enjoys her own company. I find that while I enjoy connecting with others, I still need my quiet time to decompress and process my day. There are some excellent books out there on introverts, particularly Susan Cain's "The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking", and Marti Olsen Laney Psy.D. "THe Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World." Related are Elaine Aron's "The Highly Sensitive Person" (HSP), who are mostly introverts although there are HSP extroverts too. All of these books have helped me better understand myself. Thanks for your own perspective too.
I totally agree with everything you have said!! Im an outgoing introvert as well. Dont need fixing and very self motivated. I can appreciate what you are saying and very relatable. I dont understand why people feel the need to treat us introverts like projects that need fixing. We are excellent communicators and team players. As an introvert, we like balance and try to stay grounded and not have our energy depleted. There has to be a balance for anyone. I like the way you explained introverts! Very true!! You explained it very well!
💯 agreed
Thank you for educating people on this topic.
I’m 62 year old and I discovered that I’m an introvert just a couple of years ago. I didn’t know about this type of personality so my life was hard trying to push my self to do things that a don’t like just to please others because they think I’m “wrong”. I wish I had known this before, because now I’m really happy and I only explain my preferences and desires to those who respect me as I am.
Greetings and wishing you the best from Puerto Rico. 🏖
I loved this video and it makes me want to know more about myself.
I'm not sure how I'm wired, but I definitely like and need to be by myself for extended periods of time and generally don't feel comfortable in most extraverted situations.
Thank you Adelina for this video 💝XX
Thanks for making this video. I am also an introvert and I do love spending time alone. Another point about introverts is that we prefer deep, meaningful conversations…preferably one on one conversations. As opposed to a group conversation talking about meaningless things like the weather. I just can’t get on board with small talk..I tune out. LOL. I agree that one social outing a week is enough for me…if there are 2 or more commitments on my calendar in a week I feel overwhelmed and miss “me” time. If I don’t have sufficient “me” time I don’t function well. I live alone in my own home with my little dog and I am as happy a as a clam. 🙂. Also, people assume “introversion” and “shyness” are the same. Not so!! I am not shy…I lead many meetings at work. But if I have nothing important or meaningful to say, I say nothing. Introverts think..and think hard..before we speak. Not always the case with extroverts. The world needs both. You are right..we don’t need fixing but we ARE often misunderstood.
I totally agree about the deep conversations vs small talk!
The battery description is so helpful when explaining to others why I am not available day after day. Thank you for this. I recently ended a friendship due to a lack of understanding about my need for time alone. They took it too personally.
I'm sorry you went through that. ❤️
Great video and spot on! I’m recently retired and very happy to have my own company. I had a job which required lots of interaction and I can’t tell you how happy I am not to have that daily battery depletion. Thank you for the lovely and peaceful scenery 😊
You’ve described me perfectly. Thanks for this. Good to hear I’m not an oddball and being alone and happy is normal. I too am an outgoing introvert like you.
You are so welcome!
I love that park. I was just there staying at my friends next to the park on the first week of September. I can relate to being an introvert and that’s why I flourished working from home during the Covid time.
Hello! Thanks for helping me to clarify where I am on the spectrum of introvert to extrovert. I am an introvert by your definition and appreciate that I am NOT anti-social. I need a lot of "me" time as an artist and a writer. Maybe I found those places of creativity because they require private and quiet time to think. I have a part-time job that gives me what my social battery needs to charge. Yes to not being lonely, yes to not being broken and yes to being extroverted and friendly when I need to be.
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Thank you so much for your insightful view of an introvert because it helped me to see why I much prefer and enjoy being alone instead of around others. I have a caregiver who comes into my home for 2 hours twice a week. I wish I didn't need the help because I'd rather be left alone. All this to say, I didn't know I was an introvert til you explained it. God bless.
You're so welcome!
you are a great thinker and seems like a very good person
Bring me back to the place I was before. Help me to understand the more
As a child, I tended to be more extroverted. But in my teens and on into my adulthood, there came a big change in my life. My introverted self came out. I can start up conversations with strangers like at the store, but I do like to be on my own. I agree that people attempt to change me, calling me a snob. I don't like noisy situations and crowds. They really sap my energy. I am an AA battery and can easily be brought down to an AAA. It's funny that I like to travel and will come out of my comfort zone to do so on my own. But I get to choose what and when to do excursions
Thank you for bringing this topic up. 😊
I can totally relate 😁👍🏼
So True! I do not feel lonely … ! I do miss my husband … but at peace with his moving to Heaven and knowing I will be with him again soon! 🌈🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️❤️🇺🇸🇺🇸
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Thiss!! I absolutely agree! ❤
I hope you and Sophie are doing well Adelina! 😅😌✅🤌🏾🫶🏾💯
You too! 😊
You are right on in all your six comments. I’m going to show your video to my girlfriend right now in the hopes that this may help her understand me. thanks for doing this video.
I hope it helps 😊.
I agree as I am the only one I know that liked the isolation of Covid. Didn’t bother me at all and my mind is always busy without social contact.
I am an introvert and my oldest is one as well. I always was exhausted dealing with the school system with both my kids. I totally relate to a limited social battery and I have one of those. .Also, so many people need to demoralize introverts by making judgments based on their own needs and explain our behavior as selfish and/ or arrogant. I have put myself out there so many times only to have a three day migraine following an event just to avoid the judgements.
I love it when you take us to the ocean for a ❤ to ❤ chat! I'm an introvert and appreciated your thoughtful perceptions of what we experience. It's very helpful. 😊❤Have a good week Alina! 💐 Sue
You are so welcome!
Adelina, you are speaking my language!! So much of what you shared is exactly how I feel and have experienced!! I'm an outgoing introvert but really enjoy as much alone time as I can get! Love this video!!♥
What an awesome video!! So relaxing!! Thank you. I am not an outgoing introvert. I work 40 hours a week in a grocery store and am surrounded by and deal with people all day five days a week. I like most people and I like my job but it’s EXHAUSTING to say the least. Not sure how that happened but I’ve been doing it for 35 years. You are right though. We are not broken. Nor do we need fixing. Just a good stretch of alone time to charge the mental battery lol. I love how you used battery sizes to get your point across. Take care!! 🥰
First, amazing opening & closing views…so peaceful. 🥰 Second, all three of your kids!😂 I think you meant to say all three of us. Third…thank you for sharing what we introverts are all about. Finally, fourth, thank you for your usual positive, inclusive content! Love and hugs my friend.❤
P.S. One thing I will add, as an introvert, just as your kids do not drain your social battery, I have a few friends who also fall into the non-draining category. 😊
Thanks Zia. Yes those few treasured friends. ❤️
Thank you for sharing your awareness It means a lot 🙏 Yes absolutely. Introverts are team players We do like our a long time alone rhyme
Absolutely!!
@@myBIGtinyhouselife thank you soo much
You are so right I love being alone.
What a gorgeous setting for a talk😊
Perfectly said, perfectly made.
I tried to come out of my shell and try to be what i thought was the preferred personality. 🙃 nope. I'm fine being the way God made me.
Thank you for the walk around. You have such beautiful surroundings.
Thanks for sharing!!
Happy belated Thanksgiving, Adelina !!! What a great topic and a substantive reflection. 🙏 -V PS Am DEFINITELY a "low battery, long recharger". I enjoy my own company wherever I am.😊
I also wish the world would understand these things. You're accurate on every point! Great video. Thanks so much Adelina. ❤
You're so welcome!
Another introvert here! Your social battery rang true for me. I run out of gas in short order when in a social setting and it takes a week or two to mentally charge up that battery again. ❤
Well put. Totally get this and nice to hear someone speaking on it. Challenging for me being an introvert in large open office environment sitting beside an extrovert😀
Oh me too! Thats why I love working from home 😁
Your 3rd child is Sophie lol...cats are the epitome of what an introvert is 😂
I agree mostly with all 5, I'll add Stress... I don't handle it well. Thank you for sharing this, ❤❤❤to you!
Yes! I think introverts try to avoid drama, whereas extroverts love drama!
@@IceCreamCarla I see stress and drama as two separate things. For me drama is more between two or more people, stress can be both alone or with others. Different interpretation I guess. btw I think you're a super person Adelina!
Yepp! All spot on!
Good points! Especially that we are not necessarily shy. I can strike up a conversation with most anyone and have been called "bubbly" so it confuses some when I say I'm an introvert. I enjoy brief small talk, but I don't want to go to most events and prefer being home alone MOST the time. :)
Same here 😁👍🏼
I too am an introvert along with my children and husband lol . I loved this video very well said ❤
Thank you! 🤗
@@myBIGtinyhouselife you are welcome 😊
Thank you for the 5 Big ones. I don't know if it works this way but as my kids grew up and left our home, I have relished my time alone and enjoy going to plays ect on my own. Love the get togaehers love when they are done. Take care
That is awesome!😊
WOW. that was great way to put it together. But there is a lot more. God bless you 🙏🏾🤗🐈
So much more 😊❤️
Thank you for this interesting and very thoughtful video Adelina.
I am also an introvert , as are my adult kids. You described it perfectly,
Especially about being a team player. It was spot on. Love these kind of videos, you have such
Good insight .
Hugs to you and Sophie.😊
Thanks 😊
Great video. I really liked the battery metaphor. Robin is definitely a small battery introvert, except, like you, regarding the kids.
I on the other hand am an extreme extrovert albeit with a small battery. I love interacting with people one-on-one or in big crowds. I love the spotlight but for short periods. Great for customer relations positons.
We both agree it would be fun to run into you sometime, somewhere. Robin LOVES to cook. She uses more of your recipes than any of the other cooks she follows. All of yours have been quite good! Heck, I thougt a gnocchi was a lizard!
Awww thanks! I'd love to run into you guys tii 😁.
Well said. Explains things about myself I didn’t realize. Thanks.😊
Thanks 😊
I think I am an introvert but only recently realized it. Since January I have been going to physical therapy and at home. Recently went to a wedding and was VERY uncomfortable with all the people. I did fine but left early and was quite happy to be back home. My friends ask me aren’t you going crazy at home? Nope, not at all.
Thank you so much Adelina for making this video.💖
I worked at an international insurance company in management. It was encouraged to give our employees an inferior review and a monetary penalty, for being "too quiet". Wish they could talk to you now 😂
Yes that’s me too. All of that. There’s a big crossover too with females with autism, as the female presentation differs from male autism presentation. I’ve called myself an introvert all my life but have only recently found out that I have autism (I’m in my 50s). Thank you for sharing ❤️
Doesnt mean we dont need others. We love people!
Yes we do. Especially our people (my kids and close friends( 😊
I think I’m one of those fortunate introverts in that I don’t care what the world thinks. 😊
Adelina: Thanks for the lovely walk and
interesting talk! You cerainly are an inde-
pendent woman who has accomplished
alot on your lonesome. That you are not
lonely when you are alone is very admirable;
I need people with me when hiking,etc. I
really enjoy my Sundays with a crossword
puzzle,listening to music or the radio! I
absolutely need to be alone whle doing this,
but I wouldn't like to dine alone in a restaurant
or take a walk by the beautiful seashore with-
out a companion! I guess it shows insecurity;
but you are secure in your own skin and that
is a good trait to possess! 😊 Cheers.Sandy
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I don't think it's insecurity. It's just your preference and comfort zone. Nothing wrong with that at all! 😊❤️
Wow, a third child Adalina? Shocked me. Glad you left that in. Lol
Hahahaha!!!
So true! Thank you!
Hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving weekend!
Beautiful scenery!!
It really is!
Amen sister.
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I understand what you are saying i don't like crowd i like to be alone i enjoy my company a book and a cup of tea is good enough for me.
Me too 😊
@7:43 😆 you probably wanted to say "all three of us". I think I am mostly introvert too. But I do talk a lot lol. So maybe I am a mix of both intro and extro.
Thanks for the information. Always enjoy when you go to the beach. Soothing sounds of the waves and water. Hope you had a good Thanksgiving Day. How do you celebrate Thanksgiving? Have a great week.
Thanks for watching. It was a quiet day because the kids are in Alberta but that's ok with me 😊
: ) WELL DONE ans shared indeed ! ! ! Belated Hoppy Thanksgiving : ) ALL the BEST and Cheers ! ! ! ! : )
Same to you!
Thank you
You're welcome
Thank you. Well said ❤
Thanks for watching!
I've never thought about it until utubers started talking about this recently. I don't care about the labeling, but I guess i'm an ambivert. I've lived alone for good 40 yrs now, doesn't bother me a bit, but have no problem slipping into a leadership role as I was our condo president for 7yrs. I solo RV as well. I don't seek solitude or socializing, whatever the situation presents itself I'm fine with. So I'm a swinging pendulum, oh well! 😂. 🍻
First thing your background is really pretty. I would be thankful for that,on your Thanksgiving. Now on other things. My last job I would have to work with other people at different times. Depending on the person I had to work with I like it. Some you bounce ideas off of and others they wanted you to do all the work. I liked working by myself, I could do things my way. Obviously there are rules and sometimes you had to do what the bosses wanted. I use to work with little kids and I liked talking to the parents and telling them funny stories about what their child did. Some told me they really liked that. I have a friend who wanted to go to an exhibit,so we went. Her brother came along. I tried to keep to keep up with him. It was a little hard because people go at different speeds. That is one reason I like to do things by myself. You hit on a lot of different topics, one of them was saying you had three kids. Well Sophie is one of your kids. Long time ago I told my dad that the cats I had were his grandkids. He didn't think that was funny. Well I think that is enough for now,stay the way you are.😊❤
I think of Sophie as my baby for sure! 😊❤️🐈
we should form an "outgoing introverts" club - like you my social battery is not large - but unlike you even my family can wear me out sometimes 🙂
Exactly
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Excellent!
Thank you! Cheers!
Beautiful! ❤️
Thank you! 😊
I think my husband might be a n introvert! Thanks to video I understand him a. Bit better. 😊
You're welcome 😊
Social battery - my daughter refers to her social budget 😂
That's a good analogy too. 😁