The High Price Every Woman Pays! - "It Took Me 55 Years To Learn This Lesson On LOVE" | Lisa Nichols

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    What up homie! I have another exciting episode for you today with powerhouse international speaker, CEO of Motivating the Masses and a very good friend of mine, Lisa Nichols! Get ready for a super engaging conversation about finding the perfect relationship (yes, that still exists), breaking up with everyone else’s expectations, and boundaries that support self-love and creates the safe space you’ve been looking for!
    Lisa can’t help but drop gem after gem when she speaks. So you better believe it when I tell you, this episode is packed with the kind of experiences and wisdom every woman needs to hear.
    How to not cave to societal pressures regarding your timeline for marriage.
    Why you are more than enough just as you are, with or without a relationship.
    Your purpose and contribution to the world have nothing to do with being married or not.
    Lisa’s power sentences that relieve the pressure in any situation.
    Lisa’s 3 Agreements to establish your safe space
    You are invited to experience life's roller coaster ride with Lisa Nichols and myself right here on Women of Impact, where we indulge in the real, uncensored conversations about life, self-discovery, and more. Grab your tissues, it’s okay today! We’re learning what real empowerment and grown a$$ woman business is about that you can feel deep in your soul..
    “I began to trust the woman that I am more than the woman I was trying to become.” - Lisa Nichols
    Annnnd… while you’re here I have an extra bonus for you! I’ve added this fire a$$ episode with my homie, Mel Robbins! If you know Mel, you know she’s a give-it-to-you-straight with NO chaser kind of woman. Our conversation went from knowing how to identify when you’re being disrespected to knowing when it’s YOU that’s being disrespectful with your partner.
    Both Mel and Lisa are major inspirations for women like us! I do these episodes so that women like you know that having strong boundaries, more confidence, commanding respect, and aiming for an above average life is more than possible with all of your messy imperfections.
    Join Lisa Nichols’ 5 Day Legendary Speaker Challenge: motivatingthema...
    “Being Unapologetic means that I will be All of Me. I will no longer shrink or compromise myself by playing small so others will not feel insecure in my presence.” - Lisa Nichols
    LISA NICHOLS’ POWER QUOTES:
    “Marriage is a chapter, it’s not the book.”
    “If it felt right I leaned in. If it didn’t feel right, I didn’t lean in. I didn’t try to put perfume over poo poo.”
    “I’ve had enough evidence of broken Lisa, scared Lisa, floored Lisa, ‘damn I can’t believe I did that’ Lisa, [...] I had enough evidence that in her brokenness she still had the will to get back up one more time.”
    “Don’t let me get in the way of our greatness. Don’t let me get in the way of what I said I wanted.”
    “I’ve learned how to dance with my chaos.”
    “I’m a river, I’m not a lake. I’m always flowing and always growing.”
    “If someone keeps crossing your line in the sand, it is not because they are rude, it’s because your line is not deep enough in the sand. It’s because you’ve negotiated the line so many times that now the line is blurry, now the wind has blown the line, and no one can see the line. And you feel as if you’re suffering in silence because no one is honoring your line, it’s because you didn’t honor your line sis!”
    “Unconditional love is messy, unconditional love has thorns in it. Unconditional love actually says will you agree to love me through my ugly? Will you agree to love me through my righteousness? [...] Will you agree to love me when I’m actually unloveable?”
    “I gave myself permission to not hold my future hostage to my past.”
    “Can you give yourself permission to trust again as if you’ve never been hurt while using the discernment and the judgment that you developed from all of your past hurt.”
    “I wasn’t running toward who I was becoming, I was out running who I had been.”
    “I had to just first accept who I was, and not be a victim to who I was.”
    “I wasn’t staying single because I chose to be single, I was staying single because I was afraid of being hurt again.”
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  • @LisaBilyeu
    @LisaBilyeu  Рік тому +616

    WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!

    • @prunemabilais3345
      @prunemabilais3345 Рік тому +27

      This woman is amazing ! 🤩👏

    • @apixizylife1296
      @apixizylife1296 Рік тому +6

      Zqazzalkazca😅

    • @apixizylife1296
      @apixizylife1296 Рік тому +1

      ​azca😅❤😅xlazxxazxaq😅CZA😅

    • @Sun222rising
      @Sun222rising Рік тому

      @@apixizylife1296up

    • @lashellecampbell3409
      @lashellecampbell3409 Рік тому +9

      I love your two braids on the side. I wish I could do your hair. I see so many different styles that would look good on you just with two braids on the side

  • @EEE-ij8lv
    @EEE-ij8lv Рік тому +3299

    I have been single 7 years...and I will be single for the rest of my life before settling for someone not on my level in all aspects. The more I work on myself, the fewer people qualify!

    • @markesastewart4741
      @markesastewart4741 Рік тому +152

      I agree an what you saying resonates!with me because am at peace with dating myself unapologetically committed to self development an chasing purpose.💎❤️

    • @vwboymom85
      @vwboymom85 Рік тому +43

      Amen!! Amen!

    • @TheRealOtherHilton
      @TheRealOtherHilton Рік тому +31

      Facts!

    • @artbygilik
      @artbygilik Рік тому +107

      I'm exactly in the same place now. I don't even bother looking or trying anymore. I've learned so much about myself these past years and why I chose what I chose before, which did not serve me (other than the harsh lessons)

    • @dedeh5370
      @dedeh5370 Рік тому +35

      whew you are telling all facts 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

  • @staceysyvarth4452
    @staceysyvarth4452 Рік тому +1357

    I'm 62, had 2 divorces. Finally met a man who is just as kind as I am.

    • @aball7654
      @aball7654 Рік тому +47

      That's a blessing, Happy for you

    • @vanessahogan2837
      @vanessahogan2837 Рік тому +30

      So lucky! That's what I want for myself too

    • @kokuboutloud
      @kokuboutloud Рік тому +19

      Soo happy for you

    • @KawiraMercy
      @KawiraMercy Рік тому +12

      Wow

    • @franjohansen8501
      @franjohansen8501 Рік тому +18

      I am your twin. So, I'm happy 4 you. Still have the faith, still standing by faith.

  • @kadlacdixon-thedrawmylifep3293
    @kadlacdixon-thedrawmylifep3293 Рік тому +880

    1:05 "As if my beauty at 40 was not an evolved version of my beauty at 25"...
    I love that!!!

    • @moniquemichelle7295
      @moniquemichelle7295 Рік тому +13

      Yes! It was perfect ❤

    • @firefull8499
      @firefull8499 Рік тому +11

      Beauty fades decisions last longer.

    • @MrTwonetwone
      @MrTwonetwone 11 місяців тому

      That’s shit sounds dumb 😂😂 maybe her character but everyone gets old and wrinkled

    • @susanhampton9671
      @susanhampton9671 11 місяців тому

      The consequences of the decisions last a lifetime! @@firefull8499

    • @Lexis001
      @Lexis001 9 місяців тому +5

      But what do men say about it? If that is woman saying that to herself or other women, it's a bad tactic, especially if the desire and need is to attract a mate.

  • @maputakamulete2276
    @maputakamulete2276 Місяць тому +60

    "Marriage is a chapter, not the book," this is profound❤

  • @moniquemichelle7295
    @moniquemichelle7295 Рік тому +577

    “I’m a river. I’m not a lake. I’m always flowing. Always moving.” ❤

    • @roberteze-cu4mp
      @roberteze-cu4mp Рік тому +4

      🎉🎉

    • @sayusayme7729
      @sayusayme7729 Рік тому +2

      Love that 💙🩵🦋

    • @susanhampton9671
      @susanhampton9671 11 місяців тому +2

      Profound.

    • @w.thomas306
      @w.thomas306 11 місяців тому

      I know the flow is so more profound in a River. But hunny Lake Michigan is no joke, totally under estimated.

    • @sharonbraselton4302
      @sharonbraselton4302 10 місяців тому

      ​@@w.thomas306 this why we git boats yaghts cruße shioß

  • @outoficecream2740
    @outoficecream2740 Рік тому +1189

    She's not speaking about how marriage is wrong or bad!! She speaking about finding yourself, be vulnerable and honest with yourself before choosing a life partner. Amazing interview, Lisa !! She is so eloquent but in a such relatable way, transformation has to come within! Thank you ❤

    • @akhonavuma2379
      @akhonavuma2379 Рік тому +28

      Best comment I've read thus far. Perspective is everything.

    • @kandiekennedy9182
      @kandiekennedy9182 Рік тому +21

      Vulnerability these days can cost you your life

    • @donnawebster4879
      @donnawebster4879 Рік тому +6

      Great inspirational speaker. I never got her name, the speaker in the red hat, and If she is a life coach that is reachable. I would love to be a part of her work shop, start healing process for my life struggles, and pass and present toxic relationships being family or partners in my life. Please post how to reach her.

    • @acajudi100
      @acajudi100 Рік тому +9

      I did marry twice, and had one daughter. I am most happy being a moral single. I have traveled the world on my own dime.

    • @BL3SSed-Bliss
      @BL3SSed-Bliss Рік тому +5

      @@kandiekennedy9182
      *If vulnerability with **_yourself_** is an issue....you've got a **_much bigger problem at hand._*

  • @karissakarma2997
    @karissakarma2997 Рік тому +683

    🙌🏼 38, no kids, fulfilled & happy in my relationship with myself ❤️

    • @elsiemeade3857
      @elsiemeade3857 Рік тому +15

      He that finds a wife finds a good thing.

    • @gaylebrady2678
      @gaylebrady2678 Рік тому +9

      That's right. I feel the same way, thank you very much❣️😊

    • @phyliskuria8930
      @phyliskuria8930 Рік тому +11

      Sailing in the same boat👋

    • @yuNGDeLaPhoNtE
      @yuNGDeLaPhoNtE Рік тому +8

      How many dogs?

    • @TheMonica82
      @TheMonica82 Рік тому +4

      Yes! I can relate! Thank the Lord for His Love... #Blessings
      And, @yu No dogs or cats!

  • @thepuzzledgoddess
    @thepuzzledgoddess Рік тому +823

    “No one’s expectations are supposed to be my life.” - Lisa Nichols
    🙌💓

    • @ainerisakhellchannel
      @ainerisakhellchannel Рік тому +8

      This..

    • @a.garvey951
      @a.garvey951 Рік тому +20

      I had to stop the video and listen to that statement 4 times before I could move on.

    • @YasminMahnaz
      @YasminMahnaz Рік тому

      She is a HOT mess ...she been working on herself and working on herself...forgetting to tell ppl straight off bat she was born into a mess, is a mess and is rare to think she don't need he married all while sleeping around.abd have bfs...oh tell us that layer.. sure and ahe has a kid.. no wonder she didn't want kid.

    • @gaia1218
      @gaia1218 Рік тому +4

      This ❤

    • @sadagicousowens7217
      @sadagicousowens7217 Рік тому +3

      I read this right as she was saying it. Wow. 😮

  • @thehapagirl92
    @thehapagirl92 Рік тому +334

    I never ignore my intuition now. This means I stay single because I don’t settle for men I have lukewarm feelings for, but it also means I listen to my intuition and don’t settle for men I know deep down aren’t right for me.

    • @bm5_5_5
      @bm5_5_5 11 місяців тому +2

      Same

    • @888alp
      @888alp 10 місяців тому +7

      Always listen to your gut, I didn’t when I was young, you do learn with being with wrong person and you do lose yourself. I’m found again. I love my life being single.

    • @julesgordon1109
      @julesgordon1109 9 місяців тому +3

      Your "lukewarm" feelings shouldn't be your guide to choosing a suitable man to spend your life with.

    • @shontasmith9362
      @shontasmith9362 9 місяців тому +4

      Same here, I used to ignore my intuition as well, not anymore.

    • @EliteTech24
      @EliteTech24 7 місяців тому +1

      Excuse me ladies, her life experience is not y’all experience. Thank you.
      People get on here with these perfect stories. I would like to hear his side of the story please?

  • @pumpkinspice7864
    @pumpkinspice7864 Рік тому +180

    No matter how loyal we are in a relationship it’s not enough. Some men take us for granted. I never have a confrontations with anyone. I was married for 6 years and my husband was still with his ex and I didn’t know. My family knew and never told me but I found out and nobody knew . I decided to move out and all I wanted was two rooms 2 mattresses and I found it and took what I needed a little at a time no furniture! Then I didn’t go home and he called me phone for 2 weeks before I answered and told him why I left. My sister and I never spoke for years. Some of us are better off being single while others will take that risk to find happiness. But wherever life takes us I wish everyone the best of luck 🙏🏽

    • @SimplyTAMRah
      @SimplyTAMRah 11 місяців тому +12

      My God how our stories relate. Blessings Sister ♥

    • @Blessme13
      @Blessme13 10 місяців тому +14

      I agree with you my friend. After living in an un healthy environment w my parents w no boundaries I was led to believe I had to treat my husband like a king. Not worried about myself because I didn't matter as a child growing up it ran into my relationships. I have been single for 12 yrs now still working on me. Loves myself enough to remove myself from both Men.
      Now I don't ignore my intuition. That is the holy spirit speaking to you stop your not in the place I need you to be. All my friends are married now . I found out some were not good for me this has been a awesome journey. It wasn't at first each time I left for peace of mind. I was so torn up doubting myself ECT. This mental n emotional abuse is very hard to take n can effect your health. Stress kills. May God bless you who take the time to read this.

    • @tru3g3mini44
      @tru3g3mini44 9 місяців тому +1

      God bless you!

    • @cindyc7927
      @cindyc7927 6 місяців тому +1

      Powerful Advice …Powerful Message! ❤🌿🙏🏽

    • @melvinarose7164
      @melvinarose7164 3 дні тому

      God bless you too sweetheart 🙏

  • @kelleymcclain7380
    @kelleymcclain7380 Рік тому +801

    Getting married thinking you’ll have Financial security is dangerous. You have to take care of you. If you marry someone that looks stable but is a man child you will be taking care of him as well. I was married and he controlled every single penny and was not financially savvy or working steady. I felt it gave him a sense of running the household at first but then I couldn’t even get a $3 shirt at charity shop. Never ever get married for financial security. It was his idea to get married because then it’s 2 incomes. I was marrying him because I loved him. It was a mess. I’ve been single for 3 yrs now. I take care of myself - no Alimony, nothing from him and I’m good with that. Happier than I’ve been for years and a young 54.
    Marry for true love or nothing.

    • @dwanavent3067
      @dwanavent3067 Рік тому +19

      AMEN!

    • @lmiller1413
      @lmiller1413 Рік тому +32

      For sure. It's laughable to marry for financial security. You'll like be the one providing the financial security!

    • @Monas99
      @Monas99 Рік тому +24

      that's powerful so thank you for sharing your story. More women need to learn this lesson and take care of themselves.

    • @keyarnf5509
      @keyarnf5509 Рік тому +14

      Thx for all you guys wisdom & insight!! I had to repent & praise Jesus for where I am & my story. Smetimes ya can feel weighed dwn & like ya story is the worst but reading deez comments jus gives moi thxfulness, gratefulness, & not 2 complain...thx Ya Lord, thx Ya!!

    • @cathylake9072
      @cathylake9072 Рік тому +18

      In most of the world women do not have the luxury to not marry and need men for more than financial security but also physical protection from worse men. The situation in the world is deteriorating, you don't want to be solo low hanging fruit to violent thieves.

  • @quotivation47
    @quotivation47 Рік тому +384

    " I wasn't running towards the person I was becoming. I was outrunning who I had been." - Lisa Nichols

    • @1madcats
      @1madcats Рік тому +10

      I love this!! Watching this thinking there are so many Lisa Nichols quotes in here.

    • @camillesmith1697
      @camillesmith1697 8 місяців тому +4

      Wow. I can relate. How do I get out of that rut...?

    • @nikkibillions2323
      @nikkibillions2323 Місяць тому

      Profound

  • @rebelmurphy664
    @rebelmurphy664 Рік тому +624

    Happy for her and she is not alone. Many women out here are single, no kids, and content where they are in life and happy that they dodged the "marriage bullet".

    • @headless.scents
      @headless.scents Рік тому +132

      Seriously! I am open to love, but not at the cost of my sanity, peace or safety. 90% of the married couples I personally know ( family or friends) are so frikkin miserable that it turns me off from feeling pressured to "just give in".
      The society label and the illusion of "not being alone" are what most people want, versus actual happiness and sincere content behind the doors where no one can see. Irony, most of my friends in relationships are the loneliest people I know... 😢
      Again, I'm not against relationships, I'm just not about the pressure to conform at the cost of misery and passing it down to another generation.
      Tfs this important topic with such grace and grit! 💛🌹
      .

    • @annalinacifani1280
      @annalinacifani1280 Рік тому +77

      ​@@headless.scents60 years and never found someone who didn't bring drama. Not sure why so many haven't got their lives figured out, but it is what it is. Not sacrificing my joy and peace of mind for a "partnership".

    • @miyaa.1742
      @miyaa.1742 Рік тому

      “Marriage bullet” is very well said. Especially when it eats up your youth.

    • @reddithsh
      @reddithsh Рік тому +43

      I wish I knew, ugh! Twenty-nine years of trying with someone who never had any intentions of being a team player. Now I have to try to pick up the pieces of me, and figure out a way forward. 😢

    • @nicolemurphy2629
      @nicolemurphy2629 Рік тому +6

      You should 'push away'
      Your abuser!!!

  • @angy7
    @angy7 9 місяців тому +23

    Lisa’s four agreements:
    1. Reserve all judgment.
    2. No repercussions. What’s said here stays here and you can only bring it up later to lift me up.
    3. Unconditional love. Will you agree to love me through my ugly, insecurities, defensiveness and when I’m being unlovable?
    4. I’m allowed to determine what makes me feel safe.

  • @ChloeJones-ne6ck
    @ChloeJones-ne6ck 6 місяців тому +41

    She sounds like me!!!!! I love myself so much. I’m an orphan. When no one shows you how to love yourself you learn to teach it to yourself.
    L’s are Lessons in my life not loses. I learn and study the subject and let it go.
    When you’ve been broken so much since a baby, you eventually decided to choose happiness or misery. I chose happiness.
    No one showed me love. I gave it to myself and gave myself peace. Now I feel so safe.

    • @scarlettbermudez1510
      @scarlettbermudez1510 3 місяці тому +1

      How did you start doing that?

    • @rosiekamu565
      @rosiekamu565 Місяць тому

      Thanks, but how do a person loves herself or himself? What do you do to your self to show that you loved yourself?

    • @RoyalBlood23
      @RoyalBlood23 Місяць тому +1

      Your the 🏆 winner , to choose happy over bitterness takes a strong character

  • @RoseTheQween
    @RoseTheQween Рік тому +162

    Every woman that I have ever met who was single at an older age always appeared more happy, joyful, carefree & had more money & a clean good smelling house!

  • @highervibration6255
    @highervibration6255 Рік тому +553

    What a powerful message! We need more women like that who are strong and vulnerable and not giving into societal pressures on females.

    • @shaysamovementsub6706
      @shaysamovementsub6706 Рік тому +6

      So true

    • @ToniaBennett
      @ToniaBennett Рік тому +5

      FACTZ!!!

    • @shenquejames7598
      @shenquejames7598 Рік тому +11

      We have plenty of women like this they just don't speak out because it's not welcomed.

    • @dr.aliadixonnursepractitio6473
      @dr.aliadixonnursepractitio6473 Рік тому +1

      Yes a lot of women feel like this but now with the big red pill manosphere community telling women they are low value without a husband after 30 women just hide their true feelings 😞

    • @acajudi100
      @acajudi100 Рік тому +4

      We are here. Live a moral life.

  • @cloaked.mystic
    @cloaked.mystic Рік тому +390

    "I had lost myself in being a mother, I had lost my self in being a fiance, I had lost myself in the dream". As a single mother age 37 with a divorce and 3 broken engagements, this resonates so deep.

    • @peacefaith560
      @peacefaith560 Рік тому +10

      you looking to fill a void tha only god can thats why

    • @theoldschooldiva374
      @theoldschooldiva374 Рік тому +6

      You will find yourself....if you haven't already ❤

    • @HONEYLOVE-v4l
      @HONEYLOVE-v4l 11 місяців тому

      WOW

    • @HONEYLOVE-v4l
      @HONEYLOVE-v4l 11 місяців тому

      ​​@@peacefaith560right a good healthy relationship with god

  • @LindaCasey
    @LindaCasey Рік тому +61

    75 now, I was one of those who tried every angle in relationships, from friendship to a marriage partner. It takes a lot of work to compromise in life so now that I'm retired, single and a veritable recluse, it's the most peaceful I've ever felt.

  • @shellyanncunningham3606
    @shellyanncunningham3606 Рік тому +155

    The recovery & bounce back of your story is like medicine, it made me healed after 13 yrs, the high price women pays for choosing the wrong man I thank God for this podcast

  • @alexandracristinnn
    @alexandracristinnn Рік тому +506

    She nailed it: Most of us get into a relationship for the optics. Successful women have more challenges dating. As a self made millionaire woman, this has been so inspiring to listen to. When she said man said "They didnt want to be the Stedman to my Oprah" I know the exact feeling. Perfect example that we have to keep our vision strong, learn form our history and go off our intuition.

    • @EEE-ij8lv
      @EEE-ij8lv Рік тому +71

      Men are definitely intimidated by successful women. I was told I am "too alpha" by a guy....which translates to not subservient or easily abusable. 😊 Good riddance. I'll keep being a successful single woman. ❤

    • @DiamondsRexpensive
      @DiamondsRexpensive Рік тому +55

      No darling, you don't have more difficulties dating. You have more advantages that you don't have to settle for a loser who will settle with a woman and barely give her anything.

    • @DiamondsRexpensive
      @DiamondsRexpensive Рік тому +17

      And for the record, as a woman I still don't understand why we want to date men when we can date other women.

    • @kgs2280
      @kgs2280 Рік тому +35

      @@DiamondsRexpensiveAmen! This is so spot on! The way our society is set up (primarily by men), poor/single women practically “have to” get married just to get by financially in life. That was the case with me. All I wanted was to have my own house (ha! What a fantasy that was!), or just my own nice apartment and not have to put up with roommates or even with a husband if I didn’t want to get married. One time, I got that, for a short time (months, not years) a tiny little studio apartment and it was almost heaven to me even though it wasn’t much at all. But, I had to work two jobs just to pay the rent and the bills and also be able to eat! Men (and the “traditional” women who support the Patriarchy) have set things up that way, pay women less and make life harder for them if they don’t want to “settle down” (how appropriate that phrase is. I don’t want to settle for just anything, and I don’t want my SELF, my power or independence to go down!), all the while telling young (or even older) women to find a man to “take care” of them (and who ends up doing the most “taking care” of whom in a marriage?!) But it was so hard and so exhausting trying to get by that when some “great guy” came along and said all the right words and did all the right things, I gave in because I felt like life was just too hard for a single woman, and, after all, he was a “great guy”, and life would be easier if I just went ahead and got married, so I did. Well, many of you already know how that worked out, because it’s exactly how it works out for far, far too many of us). I always say that once a man does the “hard work” of being wonderful and sweeping you off your feet then he gets the license and says “I do”, after a couple of years (or sooner) he reverts back into the man he really is, and it isn’t so great after all. I was so determined to make it work that I stayed for ten years, which was at least five years too long (more like seven or eight to tell the truth). I think men must set society up this way because they’re so afraid that if they didn’t, we really wouldn’t want them at all, and it’s much easier (for them) to entrap us than to do the work of making themselves into actual great men, or even just really good. Just my theory, but it’s the story of my life, and I know it’s the story of many, many, far too many, other women as well.

    • @braziliannut666
      @braziliannut666 Рік тому +2

      What did she meant with not be the Stedman to my Oprah?

  • @headless.scents
    @headless.scents Рік тому +268

    Seriously! I am open to love, but not at the cost of my sanity, peace or safety. 90% of the married couples I personally know ( family or friends) are so frikkin miserable that it turns me off from feeling pressured to "just give in".
    The society label and the illusion of "not being alone" are what most people want, versus actual happiness and sincere content behind the doors where no one can see. Irony, most of my friends in relationships are the loneliest people I know... 😢
    Again, I'm not against relationships, I'm just not about the pressure to conform at the cost of misery and passing it down to another generation.
    Tfs this important topic with such grace and grit! 💛🌹
    .

    • @a.r.tavares1322
      @a.r.tavares1322 Рік тому +20

      Plus loosing your health... many relationships are detrimental to BW, alas.

    • @cherylhirt8319
      @cherylhirt8319 Рік тому +5

      Yes yes she is a breath of fresh air absolutely love her feels & words so real 🤍💎🤍

    • @carolejean-pierre93
      @carolejean-pierre93 Рік тому +2

      Well put together!

    • @AlmondJoie
      @AlmondJoie Рік тому +4

      ​@@a.r.tavares1322 Don't I know it!😞

    • @InMyOwnOpinion-l6i
      @InMyOwnOpinion-l6i Рік тому

      Yesss! Perfectly said!👌🏽

  • @JLLCEnglishLearning
    @JLLCEnglishLearning Рік тому +96

    I am single and now I am 32 with 2 little kids 5 years old and 1.5 years old. Feel motivated after watching this. Thank you Lisa ❤

  • @CorinaBxo
    @CorinaBxo 11 місяців тому +50

    I was single for three years almost four years when I met my husband. Best thing to do is to give yourself time & date yourself / heal before hopping into anything ❤🙏🏽

  • @MyForeverPerson
    @MyForeverPerson Рік тому +20

    I’m 39 years old. I haven’t had a serious relationship since 2020. Ive had nothing but casual dates here and there.
    I feel so lost and I pray everyday for God to heal this part of my life.
    I feel scared and lonely. Everyone around me is coupled up and either getting married or getting engaged.
    Im not an ugly girl. I have a good heart I’m physically attractive and I have a lot to offer a man.
    Hearing this story helps me.

    • @dorotior9448
      @dorotior9448 3 місяці тому +1

    • @LindsayAmelia
      @LindsayAmelia Місяць тому +2

      God’s time is absolutely perfect! You just wait on Him and you will see. Blessings to you.

  • @peachami1
    @peachami1 Рік тому +114

    I’m 35 days and counting out of a relationship with a narcissist he begs several times daily to be back in my life. I got so fed up with him I decided I’m done. he even offered me money to be back with me, knowing that I really need it. I turned it down. Hell you can’t put a price on a piece of mind. I may have lost a little financially, but I know that God can give me more than any man can God made this planet so resourceful with several avenues where you can get blessed I have been through a lot and has suffered long enough. I am ready for the riches that god promised and the first blessing was freedom a piece of mind… I sleep so well at night. I rather take the energy I was giving him and put it into myself, my kids and starting my business though I have a lot of self work to do I really feel great!

    • @PoliticalWonderland
      @PoliticalWonderland Рік тому +4

      **Peace of mind

    • @Msterri4u
      @Msterri4u Рік тому +12

      Go head girl! That’s what I’m talking about. God is the only one that we can really trust and depend on.

    • @sunak4896
      @sunak4896 Рік тому +6

      Please don't go back.......u are stronger...u will make it❤🙏

    • @01happykat
      @01happykat Рік тому +4

      I'm a year out from my narcissist and I never look back. It gets easier with time - believe me! I found Dr. Ramani's videos extremely helpful and healing. Take this time to heal and get back on your feet. Your life is yours now, not his. Keep running away from him and towards a healthier, happier you. I can't even begin to tell you how much I have grown and changed since leaving him. I wish the same for you!

    • @reginamcadory674
      @reginamcadory674 Рік тому +6

      So proud of you. I just left a narcissist and I feel so much better. I was having body aches almost daily. As soon as I left, it went away. Am I struggling financially? Yes but my peace of mind is worth it.

  • @GalaxyFluke
    @GalaxyFluke Рік тому +137

    I’m 36, single never married and no children and desire both. I can’t settle though. It’s awful feeling like time is running out

    • @ohanaohana8844
      @ohanaohana8844 Рік тому

      Desperation leads to bad decisions. I was once you, and I will tell you to focus on living. Only get married if he is a great man and will be a great provider, protector, highly engaged with his kids, won't see you just as his personal maid, and who is loving and kind to you. There is a lot that goes into selecting a great husband. You want to get it right, so that your kids don't cry and become emotionally harmed because the family has to break up. Focus on Living. Travel, find deep and meaningful friendships, buy a pet to love, reinvent yourself, explore your wildest dreams. Life isn't just about being married or having kids. A lot of times, those things can suffocate you. You must have proper support and truly be in a good situation to truly enjoy motherhood. Don't listen to single women with kids who try and paint a happy picture. It's a trap! Live your life to the fullest, and you won't have any regrets. Advice I wish someone gave me. Live life!

    • @malgkur
      @malgkur Рік тому +13

      35 y.o. here and I know the feeling. Weeks and months going by... I've been single for 3,5 years now.

    • @marcielicea5531
      @marcielicea5531 Рік тому +54

      Sweetheart, I’m 39 and now a single mom of a 4 year old and have been through absolute hell BECAUSE I settled when I knew better. If I could do it over, I would have taken action against these red damn flags I overlooked. He will find you.❤

    • @GalaxyFluke
      @GalaxyFluke Рік тому

      @@marcielicea5531 I get so scared I’ll run out of time to have a healthy baby of my own. I really want my own child. I was told I may have a hard time getting pregnant bc of PCOS and crooked cervix so I’m extra scared bc I’ve never tried to know if I’ll have trouble and I’m already considered old/high risk pregnancy and don’t even have a husband.

    • @globalbutterfly
      @globalbutterfly Рік тому +20

      I know the feeling. If you can, try to freeze your eggs now to give you some security and time to develop yourself and find the person for you without the pressure of the biological clock.

  • @xFrenzi
    @xFrenzi Рік тому +426

    *❤Only God knows how much grateful i am. After so much struggles I now own a new house and my family is happy once again everything is finally falling into place!!*

    • @asantoro001
      @asantoro001 Рік тому +1

      Wow that's huge, how do you make that much monthly?
      I'm 37 and have been looking for ways to be successful, please how??

    • @xFrenzi
      @xFrenzi Рік тому +2

      I earn from investing in the digital market with the guidance of Mrs Mary Margaret Schimweg
      Brokerage services...

    • @asantoro001
      @asantoro001 Рік тому +1

      Please I really need assistance How do I
      REACH HER????

    • @xFrenzi
      @xFrenzi Рік тому +2

      There is her line 👇👇👇

    • @xFrenzi
      @xFrenzi Рік тому +8

      ┼𝟏𝟕𝟏𝟕𝟕𝟖𝟖𝟎𝟒𝟖𝟗👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾✴️✴️☎️

  • @KrystnEnem
    @KrystnEnem 6 місяців тому +22

    I agree with everything she's saying. You have to find yourself first, embrace yourself, heal yourself, give yourself the love, the comfort, everything you deserve mentally, spiritually, physically, materially ...and then a DESERVING partner will be the "icing on the cake". No desperation here. We are older, single, and thriving queens. If it takes 10 years for that deserving person to find me, so be it...but I am NEVER settling again. NEVER. I will continue to raise my beautiful daughter as a single, beautiful, accomplished, healed mom.

  • @JustinaHanke
    @JustinaHanke Рік тому +121

    This is life changing! I am 35 and understand everything she says! ❤

  • @mireille4787
    @mireille4787 Рік тому +268

    This interview is a gift. She gave us so much. And i haven't even finished the interview yet. Be blessed both Lisa's.

  • @SRCRIME26
    @SRCRIME26 Рік тому +187

    I'm a 26 yr old mother of 1 and in a relationship with the child's father. This interview has really impacted me cos I find myself staying in my relationship because of the "optics". There's so much that I know I don't want in the relationship but I'm finding myself trying to conform to what society expects of me. One thing Lisa said that resonates with me is "My job is to complete me, I can't let anyone write my story, I deserve to have a friendship in my marriage" and so much more.
    Thank you so much❤

    • @Handleitnow933
      @Handleitnow933 Рік тому +3

      Is someone stopping you from being your self and what is society telling you on how to behave?

    • @JibrayahChanai
      @JibrayahChanai Рік тому +18

      I left a 4 year relationship at 7 months pregnant. It’s time to go. It will take years to heal so start now. Your baby will thank you for being whole and healed in 4 years

    • @shewoke9268
      @shewoke9268 Рік тому +17

      Soooo true especially when you just want your kid to have a two parent home and you don’t want to put the responsibility on another man but this is a lack mindset I know for a fact there is abundance out there and there is someone that will accept and love everything We come with ❤

    • @officialmarshe
      @officialmarshe Рік тому

      @@Handleitnow933 read between the lines. Many of us are always trying to measure up to society, and what others are doing, and their opinions on how to deal with a relationship.

    • @peacefaith560
      @peacefaith560 Рік тому +6

      if you not dating for a purpose, marriage w/o god you just wasting time !!

  • @nilepearl1997
    @nilepearl1997 Рік тому +114

    "There's no room for shame, blame, guilt, regret & anger to take a real estate in my body ... You might come through me but you need to keep going"
    Thank you both for the best empowering vulnerability ever !

  • @vettethomas5625
    @vettethomas5625 Рік тому +30

    We as women always have to look deeper, and when my gut tells me things I listen!!!! To save myself from all types of hurt

  • @janethutcheson3678
    @janethutcheson3678 Рік тому +15

    I’m a Bahamian and I am so touched by this beautiful story of self redemption and love. Wow, God is good.

  • @dominiqueramirez8580
    @dominiqueramirez8580 Рік тому +123

    Bravo! Marriage is a chapter not the book! Love it!❤

  • @blacksongbird100
    @blacksongbird100 Рік тому +186

    At 18:00, I'm trying not to cry because this feels like me. Learning to trust myself, all aspects of me and that I'll be ok. I've been ok after every challenge. With the help of God, I will continue to be so.

    • @carolejean-pierre93
      @carolejean-pierre93 Рік тому +5

      Amen 🙏🏽

    • @MsToyaMonique
      @MsToyaMonique Рік тому +8

      I’m learning to trust myself as well. 🙌🏾🤎

    • @lalalaism1
      @lalalaism1 Рік тому +7

      Tears are good. Tears are healing.

    • @Connie10000
      @Connie10000 Рік тому +3

      I hear ya hun. I keep seeking God's wisdom through asking Him questions when journaling.

    • @gaylebrady2678
      @gaylebrady2678 Рік тому +3

      With God you will be fine❣️All things are possible through Christ who strengthens me👍

  • @zulemapearce4949
    @zulemapearce4949 Рік тому +117

    When I first saw this was 3 hours long I was like, “this is wayyy to long, I’m not even gonna bother…” but 30 min in I have already related and learned so much! Lisa Nichols is a reflection for me of what being in alignment with true self really is. Checking in with my true self, not settling for “optics”. I have been settling for optics and guess what? No one is even looking 😢

    • @ifinditinteresting.8709
      @ifinditinteresting.8709 Рік тому +6

      ❣️🌹
      You got this

    • @Sheyshel
      @Sheyshel Рік тому +12

      "No one is even looking" 100% true!!!

    • @adaofcharles1217
      @adaofcharles1217 Рік тому +2

      My goodness yes, no one is looking.

    • @stanleychukwuma1052
      @stanleychukwuma1052 Рік тому +2

      A Message from the Heart - Could You be the Love of My Life?
      Hey Zulema,
      I hope this message finds you in good health and high spirits. Although we have never had the pleasure of meeting, destiny has a funny way of connecting souls from afar. From the little I know about you, something within me feels an unparalleled connection, and I can't help but envision you as the love of my life.
      In this chaotic world, filled with brief encounters and fleeting connections, I believe that true love is a rarity to be cherished. While we have yet to cross paths, your captivating presence, as it radiates through your words and photographs, has ignited a flame within my heart. There is an unspoken connection that seems to transcend time and distance, and I cannot help but wonder if it is a sign from the universe.
      Your essence, as beautiful as a summer's day, has enchanted my thoughts. Your intellect, wit, and grace, which shimmer through the conversations we have shared, have captivated my attention like no other. It is as if I have found a missing piece of my soul in you, and my heart yearns to explore the depths of what this connection could mean.
      Though it may sound unconventional, I believe that love knows no boundaries - not even geographical ones. I am willing to take a leap of faith, to step out of the confines of the ordinary, and to embark on a journey with you. A journey filled with profound love, shared adventures, and unwavering support for one another's dreams.
      Before I proceed any further, I want to assure you that my intentions are pure and genuine. I am not merely looking for a passing fling or a temporary romance. Instead, I yearn for a love that withstands the test of time, a love built on trust, mutual respect, and unwavering commitment.
      Life is too short to let opportunities slip through our fingers. I am willing to embrace vulnerability and to open my heart to the possibility of us becoming something extraordinary together. It may seem bold, but isn't love all about taking risks and fighting for what sets our souls on fire?
      I understand if this message catches you off guard, as it resides in the realm of the unknown. Take your time, dear one, to process and consider this proposition. If your heart resonates with the same longing that now consumes mine, I would be honored to embark on this journey of love with you.
      May we have the chance to meet, to laugh, to create memories, and to embrace a love that surpasses our wildest dreams. Know that my heart is eagerly awaiting your response, hoping that you may feel the same as I do.
      With all my love and anticipation,
      Stanley Chukwuma.

    • @sengoma8638
      @sengoma8638 Рік тому

      👏🏾

  • @charlita25
    @charlita25 Рік тому +14

    I have seen so many people lose theirselves in relationships. Proud 👏🏾 to say that i have never fell victim.

  • @lf3554
    @lf3554 Рік тому +36

    Finding yourself, being comfortable and owning everything about you unapologetically is most powerful and empowering gift any woman could experience!

  • @poison_plays
    @poison_plays Рік тому +89

    “We would just sit beside each other and read”. This sounds like a dream come true. How beautiful. 💚

    • @stanleychukwuma1052
      @stanleychukwuma1052 Рік тому

      A Message from the Heart - Could You be the Love of My Life?
      Hey ❤,
      I hope this message finds you in good health and high spirits. Although we have never had the pleasure of meeting, destiny has a funny way of connecting souls from afar. From the little I know about you, something within me feels an unparalleled connection, and I can't help but envision you as the love of my life.
      In this chaotic world, filled with brief encounters and fleeting connections, I believe that true love is a rarity to be cherished. While we have yet to cross paths, your captivating presence, as it radiates through your words and photographs, has ignited a flame within my heart. There is an unspoken connection that seems to transcend time and distance, and I cannot help but wonder if it is a sign from the universe.
      Your essence, as beautiful as a summer's day, has enchanted my thoughts. Your intellect, wit, and grace, which shimmer through the conversations we have shared, have captivated my attention like no other. It is as if I have found a missing piece of my soul in you, and my heart yearns to explore the depths of what this connection could mean.
      Though it may sound unconventional, I believe that love knows no boundaries - not even geographical ones. I am willing to take a leap of faith, to step out of the confines of the ordinary, and to embark on a journey with you. A journey filled with profound love, shared adventures, and unwavering support for one another's dreams.
      Before I proceed any further, I want to assure you that my intentions are pure and genuine. I am not merely looking for a passing fling or a temporary romance. Instead, I yearn for a love that withstands the test of time, a love built on trust, mutual respect, and unwavering commitment.
      Life is too short to let opportunities slip through our fingers. I am willing to embrace vulnerability and to open my heart to the possibility of us becoming something extraordinary together. It may seem bold, but isn't love all about taking risks and fighting for what sets our souls on fire?
      I understand if this message catches you off guard, as it resides in the realm of the unknown. Take your time, dear one, to process and consider this proposition. If your heart resonates with the same longing that now consumes mine, I would be honored to embark on this journey of love with you.
      May we have the chance to meet, to laugh, to create memories, and to embrace a love that surpasses our wildest dreams. Know that my heart is eagerly awaiting your response, hoping that you may feel the same as I do.
      With all my love and anticipation,
      Stanley Chukwuma.

  • @woseneassfie9586
    @woseneassfie9586 Рік тому +81

    "We will say yes when we need to say no." This is the life of every woman! Well said Lisa!!

  • @haliec496
    @haliec496 Рік тому +105

    Everytime Lisa mentioned her physical abuse she felt it, the tears welling up. As an abused woman i feel it, and it gives me strength to know the pain will never leave but I can still keep going. I will always get back up even if i crawl and i now know how tough i am and how i can survive anything. Today i choose a peaceful single life. Its wonderful. I dont want for anything because i give myself all of the love & care i could ever need. You trust the broken part of you because she is still standing. She knows the worst that can happen so she appreciate the life she has created today
    ❤ i was always a people pleaser, now i please myself as a priority.

    • @rika6767
      @rika6767 Рік тому

      Which of the two Lisa's? Bilyeu or the one being interviewed?

    • @AlmondJoie
      @AlmondJoie Рік тому +11

      The pain of abuse is not meant to be carried without end. Learn from it and then let it go so the Lord can heal you.🙏🏼🕊️

    • @debramcmartin905
      @debramcmartin905 Рік тому

      ​@@rika6767 Lisa Nichols

    • @daricequeenlyward5897
      @daricequeenlyward5897 Рік тому +1

      Amen. Continue to be great.

    • @gabrielleaumont3971
      @gabrielleaumont3971 Рік тому +1

      Wise words. I agree with you.

  • @sabrinaharris7658
    @sabrinaharris7658 Рік тому +50

    This interview spoke to my soul! So many times we as women enter relationships for the optics. I am learning to trust myself. Thank you Lisa.❤👏🏽

  • @hillbillymama9580
    @hillbillymama9580 4 місяці тому +2

    This lady heart speaks volumes and her raw transparency is even more beautiful. There are so many God nuggets here laddies. I'm so grateful for this UA-cam channel. WOMAN OF IMPACT!

  • @charliepayden1752
    @charliepayden1752 Рік тому +159

    Love how Lisa said to address the feeling you have before you make a decision. That is very powerful simply because when making emotional decisions, you will most likely go wrong.

  • @marilynwarbis7224
    @marilynwarbis7224 Рік тому +115

    What a lovely lady and what a lovely outlook on life. I'm in my 70s now and more content with myself than I ever was. In my younger years my need to have a relationship lead me into various troubles: nowadays, my main relationship is with myself, and it's good - life upwells from within so that we chase no-one else.

  • @IamHerMrsHoneyBeeWealth489
    @IamHerMrsHoneyBeeWealth489 Рік тому +51

    This interview is astounding… EVERY YOUNG WOMAN NEED TO HERE THIS.. I see so many young ladies groom a relationship where there are stuck. There is clearly a codependency impart from their partner and gaslighting to make them think he is needed in their life. AND THEN put on an emotional roller coaster JUST to keep the woman unsure about themselves… DO NOT Let anyone throw dirt and baggage on your OPTICS… It is a must to understand the addiction to cortisone and how constant arguing and toxic relationships can create a dependency you never had and MORE IMPORTANTLY…. To RECOGNIZE when it is not your own… This disrupts one’s’ intuition… and creates fragmentation…. And realize when one is trying to place themselves into your aspirations and making you feel as though they are needed to make it happen… STAY ON YOUR COURSE - don’t pivot to theirs. EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE is a must….

  • @Ladyfloflo
    @Ladyfloflo Рік тому +52

    This is by far the best interview on relationships and finding love I've listened to. Every woman should listen to it. Listen to it in dosages. So much wisdom in this interview. Thank you Lisa!

  • @porcia_singsworldwide312
    @porcia_singsworldwide312 5 місяців тому +2

    She speaks to my core. I cry every time ❤

  • @palesasmouse1669
    @palesasmouse1669 Рік тому +164

    This interview is very captivating . Lisa is an amazing woman. Thank you Lisa for bringing her in.

  • @heather71421
    @heather71421 Рік тому +74

    If feels like Lisa Nicole’s has walked in my shoes. And I’m so inspired right now in tears listening to her praising Jesus for her blessings. I am her newest and biggest fan. So blessed by her testimony today❤❤❤

  • @suzywilliams4424
    @suzywilliams4424 Рік тому +34

    GAW move .. 😂 I love that!
    I'm 41 and feeling the pressure to find a man for sure. There is a wrestling match in my mind between the fear of being lonely and the knowing that I cannot ever lower my standards again to just temporarily sooth that fear.
    I trust, I have faith... but phew it's hard sometimes!
    I've only watched 30mins so far but this is exactly what I needed today. Thank you both ❤

  • @valkiria1986
    @valkiria1986 5 місяців тому +1

    I enjoyed this woman's talk so much! She's incredibly wise, brave and inspiring. God bless you! ❤

  • @apureenergyme8573
    @apureenergyme8573 Рік тому +22

    I am48. Single and living nicely alone for 2.8 years now! Tried marriage, tried dating many man, I got the point, this whole world is not healthy, only very few percent people are truly has capabilities to do real long time real loving relationship and marriage. They ate much more ascended souls, clear most of their karma, they now understand what real love is and they can truly do love. Rest of us still are leaning souls, we need to clear our karmas in order to get there. I stoped entangled with people just to clean my own shadows. My way is extremely scary for many many people out there, since majority of the human sacred to death for being alone. Lisa is another very strong soul, you have to take what needs to take to really repay your soul’s debts. Otherwise you are welcome to coming back to this earth again and again and again to repeat your same path and same suffers.

    • @AlmondJoie
      @AlmondJoie Рік тому +1

      How does one end up "back here" in this life again? Does one choose the time period/century, or is that more a matter of chance? Could one end up going backwards in time? I've often wished I could've known my mother during her childhood and been one of her playmates. Could one "aim" for a time period, but miss it and wake up in the days of slavery? Or does time only move forward?🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @user-ip5fm3ck4p
      @user-ip5fm3ck4p Рік тому

      This comment resonates on a deep level.

    • @MissMoko-gx4by
      @MissMoko-gx4by Рік тому

      This is such an interesting way to look at it wow

  • @african_cici
    @african_cici Рік тому +124

    Lisa is such an amazing soul. I love her infectious energy and just the way I feel like I am on top of the world each time I listen to her. I’m glad she gets to live her happily ever after that she does deserve. Thank you so much for proving that ‘YES’, there is someone out there that has gone down this path that I am walking right now. Thank you Lisa Bilyeu for creating such a platform for beautiful souls like these to come and bless us ❤

  • @EdelweisSusie
    @EdelweisSusie Рік тому +59

    This lady is SO right. If I knew back then what I know now I’d never have got married (and saved myself the heartache of two divorces). But from my experience, it’s more to do with the screwed-up men that we have around us: they become fathers way too young then begrudge the kids for robbing them of their freedom and the things THEY want to do but can’t; then there’s the 80-90% who have Mommy issues! Best to stay single and date for companionship. Yes, you may face old age alone but even if you’re married your husband could predecease you so get prepared now, not when it’s too late. Wish it were different but it isn’t.

    • @bluewhales6877
      @bluewhales6877 Рік тому +10

      "Mommy Issues"- Girlll, all the ones I find "hate" their mothers for not choosing better. When I asked about their father (who abandoned him and his mother) they are silent.

    • @gabrielleaumont3971
      @gabrielleaumont3971 Рік тому +15

      Soo much loneliness in a marriage too, with an unavailable man..yes present, but empty, with baggage and mommy
      Issues. I live in a retirement village. Many hapoy and merry widows. And some grumpy old men, stewing in their past.

    • @divergentmind2023
      @divergentmind2023 Рік тому +4

      being with someone doesn’t mean companionship, sometimes it means the worst kind of loneness 💔

  • @loselahwanyenze
    @loselahwanyenze Рік тому +18

    This has brought my tears in my eyes for the first watching anything online. I needed this. I have cried enough, I have fallen to my face enough. I CAN STAND AGAIN IN BROKENNESS. I LOVE YOU LISA

  • @mse9609
    @mse9609 4 місяці тому +13

    Girl you are preaching. I am 68, never been married, no children and I still look like a present. If I marry fine, if I don't marry, I am fine. I would like to be married but I have no stress. There is plenty to do while I'm on the planet. When that man finds me, he will have a total package.

  • @misskiranpaul
    @misskiranpaul Рік тому +79

    I'm on the same path as Lisa's. Every single word she said is something I've thought or experienced in life. I'm so glad there are role models like her who guide the way and show us what is possible.

  • @DreaP-xg6ms
    @DreaP-xg6ms Рік тому +59

    11 minutes in and I've already resonated with so much just this week I said I'm tired ..I'm going to let God write my love story and until then I will continue working on myself. ❤

  • @marinatais1910
    @marinatais1910 Рік тому +43

    Wow, this is one of the most powerful and authentic interviews I've seen on here.. everything she said resonates so beautifully. ❤ thank you!

  • @dubuissondom182
    @dubuissondom182 6 місяців тому +1

    I sincerely feel this into my spirit…my perfect imperfection person I am everyday.

  • @erin3292
    @erin3292 Рік тому +56

    At 43 I’m struggling with so much of what she’s talking about. She’s like my Older, much Wiser Self coming back from the future to tell me to hang on.
    🙏 for this interview

    • @monaebydesign1278
      @monaebydesign1278 Рік тому +2

      Same here- I’m 43 also.

    • @01happykat
      @01happykat Рік тому +2

      @@monaebydesign1278 Same. Just turned 44 and I'm FINALLY okay with being single instead of running from that dreaded label. I'm beyond grateful I never settled for any of the men in my past. I almost did out of desperation to be part of the "married club." I may be single forever, but that's okay. After what I've been through, I'd rather stay single than marry the wrong person. I'm thoroughly enjoying my single time this time around -- including the accompanying label.

    • @sharleenmike7373
      @sharleenmike7373 Рік тому

      Same here

    • @Virgogirl45
      @Virgogirl45 Рік тому +1

      44 here and I feel the same way.

  • @inthezonenews
    @inthezonenews Рік тому +19

    I've been single for almost 30 years and sometimes it's very difficult and extremely lonely but I know it will be worth waiting for.

  • @SmithT365
    @SmithT365 Рік тому +9

    “Sometimes I feel overwhelmed and then I feel frustrated that I’m overwhelmed” 🤯 this hits me so hard

  • @irmaaguirre3953
    @irmaaguirre3953 Рік тому +9

    I can so relate! I was single for 21 years. When I started loving me more and prioritize me is when I met my best friend, my love after 21 years. Is he perfect? No but he is good to me and loves me unconditionally. Im so glad I went thru all the bad to find all the good. ❤

  • @afifsara4568
    @afifsara4568 11 місяців тому +2

    This women is so vulnerable, so true, she shared great advice and we are thankful for that

  • @fitnesson-callnaples9960
    @fitnesson-callnaples9960 Рік тому +22

    Amen sister! I stayed in a 29 year marriage and miserable most of the time for 27. I at 22 was afraid to be alone. Now I am divorced and happy. Yes, I would like a male partner but not the marriage part! I have my own place now and don’t miss his drama!

    • @fitnesson-callnaples9960
      @fitnesson-callnaples9960 Рік тому +5

      The final straw was when I realized I was my own worst enemy and I was slowly imploding inside. Yet the early years was all about denial. The unconscious strategy slowly became more evident. Rising up to the surface of my consciousness as if it were a beachball held under water the ball rushes up to the surface. Truth and reality of my situation and my part I played in this charade was smashed. The anger I felt about my decision to marry him grew stronger to where I could no longer deny my truth. This was my fault for allowing the chaos in my head. The chaos inside my brain felt as if were a civil war. The suppressed anger turned to depression and anxiety. I was simply an actor whose stage was about to collapse underneath the weight built on lies. I was now drinking wine to silence my voice. Self-medicating to relieve my pain I slowly lost me. My ex was drinking too. We became drinking buddies. He handed me wine with little hesitation. I knew at 46 I clearly recognized I couldn’t put the drink down like I used too so easily. This escape was now a full blown alcoholic nightmare. Yet somehow I got up the courage and called Hazelden up in Center City, Minnesota one Saturday morning. I was ready to turn my Titanic around and face my part. Deal with my part and put the cork back in the bottle. Fast forward 10 years and I am here today by the grace of God. To thine own self be true. Freedom from the bondage of self. Note: My ex still continues to drink. Yet with two successful children we are friends today. I urge those that need help do so. Asking for help is a sign of strength, courage, and accountability. I am a winner once the truth set me free. Each day is filled with a journey of life on life’s terms. No longer am I struggling with the obsession to drink myself to oblivion. I thank God for another day. Be true to yourself, never deny your intuition, listen carefully, pray, and know you are worthy of a life you’ve never dreamed possible.

  • @KellieAlston
    @KellieAlston Рік тому +40

    Focusing on your "contribution" is such an empowering concept! The way Lisa explained that moment she made that shift in her mid-30s shook me up. What if we taught our children this at home, school, church?

    • @stanleychukwuma1052
      @stanleychukwuma1052 Рік тому

      A Message from the Heart - Could You be the Love of My Life?
      Hey Kellie,
      I hope this message finds you in good health and high spirits. Although we have never had the pleasure of meeting, destiny has a funny way of connecting souls from afar. From the little I know about you, something within me feels an unparalleled connection, and I can't help but envision you as the love of my life.
      In this chaotic world, filled with brief encounters and fleeting connections, I believe that true love is a rarity to be cherished. While we have yet to cross paths, your captivating presence, as it radiates through your words and photographs, has ignited a flame within my heart. There is an unspoken connection that seems to transcend time and distance, and I cannot help but wonder if it is a sign from the universe.
      Your essence, as beautiful as a summer's day, has enchanted my thoughts. Your intellect, wit, and grace, which shimmer through the conversations we have shared, have captivated my attention like no other. It is as if I have found a missing piece of my soul in you, and my heart yearns to explore the depths of what this connection could mean.
      Though it may sound unconventional, I believe that love knows no boundaries - not even geographical ones. I am willing to take a leap of faith, to step out of the confines of the ordinary, and to embark on a journey with you. A journey filled with profound love, shared adventures, and unwavering support for one another's dreams.
      Before I proceed any further, I want to assure you that my intentions are pure and genuine. I am not merely looking for a passing fling or a temporary romance. Instead, I yearn for a love that withstands the test of time, a love built on trust, mutual respect, and unwavering commitment.
      Life is too short to let opportunities slip through our fingers. I am willing to embrace vulnerability and to open my heart to the possibility of us becoming something extraordinary together. It may seem bold, but isn't love all about taking risks and fighting for what sets our souls on fire?
      I understand if this message catches you off guard, as it resides in the realm of the unknown. Take your time, dear one, to process and consider this proposition. If your heart resonates with the same longing that now consumes mine, I would be honored to embark on this journey of love with you.
      May we have the chance to meet, to laugh, to create memories, and to embrace a love that surpasses our wildest dreams. Know that my heart is eagerly awaiting your response, hoping that you may feel the same as I do.
      With all my love and anticipation,
      Stanley Chukwuma.

    • @kandiekennedy9182
      @kandiekennedy9182 Рік тому +3

      🙏💝

  • @todayiwearfuzzyducky
    @todayiwearfuzzyducky Рік тому +13

    The explanation of differences between a "masculine man" and an "alpha male" completely shifted something in my soul...totally resonated with that!

  • @tamariabrown4628
    @tamariabrown4628 Рік тому +18

    Love this interview. I was married in January and divorced in june. People say all kinds of things for me I will not settle even if it means being alone. Now I'm working on me and happy

  • @neommutle8033
    @neommutle8033 Рік тому +12

    These two Lisa's are my tribe. ❤❤ Hallelujah!! What a lesson 👏 Women let's learn and grow 👏 🙌 Blessings from South Africa ❤ 🇿🇦 🙏

  • @LP-lk4wv
    @LP-lk4wv Рік тому +26

    Both of these ladies are so soulful and spiritual...the REAL beauty in both of them is the willingness to learn and grow. THAT is true beauty and being able to set your soul to rest when it needs a breather. These ladies know how to do that. Thank you both. Ti amo!

  • @shanekawallace-graham2190
    @shanekawallace-graham2190 Рік тому +55

    Today is my 33rd Birthday and wow this was a needed message. I was abandoned by my husband and father of all my three children in 2016 and wow as the years pass marriage and marrying well has been somewhat of a priority and this is definitely the path I have started of being 100% myself if and when GOD blesses me with a Kingdom marriage. ❤❤❤

    • @ShadaeMastersAstrology
      @ShadaeMastersAstrology Рік тому +7

      I was in your position and was left by my high school sweetheart and kid’s father due to him committing a crime and being sentenced to 36 years in prison. I made marriage a priority and was married at 26 years old. Here today over a decade later I look back at my beautiful, outgoing, intelligent 26 year young self and I say damn I should’ve believed and known that I could’ve created my own security. Now after over a decade of marriage I realize that I was more than capable of creating an incredible secure life.
      I have given way more to my marriage and have incurred unnecessary pain. Marriage can drain your essence because of the degree of compromise put on the backs of women. Trust in your capabilities and understand that by marrying 30-60% of your value and essence can be compromised. The title isn’t worth the compromise.

  • @ketherwhale6126
    @ketherwhale6126 Рік тому +6

    “ Is he your Mr. Right or is he your Mr. Right Now?” - Brilliant. 🌟

  • @sheilapaul1553
    @sheilapaul1553 Рік тому +14

    We attract who we are and what we believe. Let's try believing we are valuable and deserve true, kind unconditional love. Learn to love ourselves first...and attract our vibrational match. Pray, get therapy, heal...and experience Love- it's Amazing.Sending you much Love my Beautiful Sisters❤❤❤❤

  • @sharrdashah3807
    @sharrdashah3807 5 місяців тому +1

    The journey Lisa explains about how to communicate gives me hope, as I have certainly forgotten how to date. I am grateful for this video.

  • @khoney32
    @khoney32 Рік тому +38

    Lisa Nichols reminds me of an amazing friend who lives down the road who is so inspiring with her words -saying it like it is, nothing held back, words of great truth and strength. Hallelujah! This caused me to tear up, as she invoked chills, my soul agreeing and being moved. Wow! Thank you! I love these interviews, Lisa Bilyeu! You have amazing guests!!!!!!!

    • @stanleychukwuma1052
      @stanleychukwuma1052 Рік тому +2

      A Message from the Heart - Could You be the Love of My Life?
      Hey Kristina,
      I hope this message finds you in good health and high spirits. Although we have never had the pleasure of meeting, destiny has a funny way of connecting souls from afar. From the little I know about you, something within me feels an unparalleled connection, and I can't help but envision you as the love of my life.
      In this chaotic world, filled with brief encounters and fleeting connections, I believe that true love is a rarity to be cherished. While we have yet to cross paths, your captivating presence, as it radiates through your words and photographs, has ignited a flame within my heart. There is an unspoken connection that seems to transcend time and distance, and I cannot help but wonder if it is a sign from the universe.
      Your essence, as beautiful as a summer's day, has enchanted my thoughts. Your intellect, wit, and grace, which shimmer through the conversations we have shared, have captivated my attention like no other. It is as if I have found a missing piece of my soul in you, and my heart yearns to explore the depths of what this connection could mean.
      Though it may sound unconventional, I believe that love knows no boundaries - not even geographical ones. I am willing to take a leap of faith, to step out of the confines of the ordinary, and to embark on a journey with you. A journey filled with profound love, shared adventures, and unwavering support for one another's dreams.
      Before I proceed any further, I want to assure you that my intentions are pure and genuine. I am not merely looking for a passing fling or a temporary romance. Instead, I yearn for a love that withstands the test of time, a love built on trust, mutual respect, and unwavering commitment.
      Life is too short to let opportunities slip through our fingers. I am willing to embrace vulnerability and to open my heart to the possibility of us becoming something extraordinary together. It may seem bold, but isn't love all about taking risks and fighting for what sets our souls on fire?
      I understand if this message catches you off guard, as it resides in the realm of the unknown. Take your time, dear one, to process and consider this proposition. If your heart resonates with the same longing that now consumes mine, I would be honored to embark on this journey of love with you.
      May we have the chance to meet, to laugh, to create memories, and to embrace a love that surpasses our wildest dreams. Know that my heart is eagerly awaiting your response, hoping that you may feel the same as I do.
      With all my love and anticipation,
      Stanley Chukwuma.

  • @TheMusicalEmpress
    @TheMusicalEmpress Рік тому +36

    Lisa Nichols has a beauty and grace that radiates from the inside! This conversation between the two lovely Lisa's was so informative and full of gems for me.

  • @zabrinatheteacher
    @zabrinatheteacher Рік тому +42

    Great conversation ❤
    No one else's expectation is supposed to be my life.
    ~Lisa Nichols

    • @stanleychukwuma1052
      @stanleychukwuma1052 Рік тому

      A Message from the Heart - Could You be the Love of My Life?
      Hey Zabrina,
      I hope this message finds you in good health and high spirits. Although we have never had the pleasure of meeting, destiny has a funny way of connecting souls from afar. From the little I know about you, something within me feels an unparalleled connection, and I can't help but envision you as the love of my life.
      In this chaotic world, filled with brief encounters and fleeting connections, I believe that true love is a rarity to be cherished. While we have yet to cross paths, your captivating presence, as it radiates through your words and photographs, has ignited a flame within my heart. There is an unspoken connection that seems to transcend time and distance, and I cannot help but wonder if it is a sign from the universe.
      Your essence, as beautiful as a summer's day, has enchanted my thoughts. Your intellect, wit, and grace, which shimmer through the conversations we have shared, have captivated my attention like no other. It is as if I have found a missing piece of my soul in you, and my heart yearns to explore the depths of what this connection could mean.
      Though it may sound unconventional, I believe that love knows no boundaries - not even geographical ones. I am willing to take a leap of faith, to step out of the confines of the ordinary, and to embark on a journey with you. A journey filled with profound love, shared adventures, and unwavering support for one another's dreams.
      Before I proceed any further, I want to assure you that my intentions are pure and genuine. I am not merely looking for a passing fling or a temporary romance. Instead, I yearn for a love that withstands the test of time, a love built on trust, mutual respect, and unwavering commitment.
      Life is too short to let opportunities slip through our fingers. I am willing to embrace vulnerability and to open my heart to the possibility of us becoming something extraordinary together. It may seem bold, but isn't love all about taking risks and fighting for what sets our souls on fire?
      I understand if this message catches you off guard, as it resides in the realm of the unknown. Take your time, dear one, to process and consider this proposition. If your heart resonates with the same longing that now consumes mine, I would be honored to embark on this journey of love with you.
      May we have the chance to meet, to laugh, to create memories, and to embrace a love that surpasses our wildest dreams. Know that my heart is eagerly awaiting your response, hoping that you may feel the same as I do.
      With all my love and anticipation,
      Stanley Chukwuma.

  • @elizabethmedina874
    @elizabethmedina874 3 місяці тому +1

    I never heard exactly what I needed most as well as my feelings of knowing how important it is to being still as our maker teaches & knowing he is god. Your an amazing phenomenal women and our maker has utilized you to show me and many to know we’re not alone. As an old saying I learn in a 12 step program , may not have it together but together we have it all.
    Please stay humble & transparent.
    God continue to bless you, your son, & marriage in Christ Jesus love.

  • @clairelouwho3048
    @clairelouwho3048 Рік тому +23

    Thank you Mel. I’ve struggled to understand a recently triggered fear of abandonment as I had a generally good upbringing, without any big traumas. Your explanation that we were parented with correction and not connection really hit home. All the times I felt unseen, unheard, insecure or unloved from thousands of small interactions with my parents. Wow, I see it and understand it now. Thank you.

  • @lynettelindeboom6898
    @lynettelindeboom6898 Рік тому +12

    I really heard this. Had me in tears. Reminded me that your never too old to turn things around. I have given up on myself so many times, this has given me the courage to keep going

  • @tatik7106
    @tatik7106 Рік тому +19

    Omg, wanted to cry listening to Lisa's story. I love that she started the journey to being single and ok with that. As long as she was ok..learning from her journey

  • @maggiewatson8921
    @maggiewatson8921 Рік тому +48

    This! She spoke so effectively straight to my heart! It is exactly the message I needed today. I’ve been crying and wow-ing thru this talk. Thank you Lisa for bringing this Queen on♥️♥️♥️

  • @maryambey5348
    @maryambey5348 6 місяців тому +3

    Lisa thank you I asked God for my message today and He gave me this. I am 72 and have been asking God for my soul mate. I was married 14 years have 4 children 6 grand children and 2 great grandchildren. I look 52 feel 42. I am an author I still work and have a business and am waiting for the that big donation to help me do God's work. I love Abundance Now and The Secret. I am part of your Tribe. Thank you for the wisdom, the guidance over the years. "The will to get back up" . Thank You Father and thank you ladies this was perfect timing
    For me 3/22/24.

  • @reneeroberson1217
    @reneeroberson1217 10 місяців тому +5

    I need to hear this because I am walking in this right now
    I'm 63 and for the time in my life love found me eighteen years ago but we both wasn't ready then. This summer we finally became one and I appreciate the growth between us 💕💕💕

  • @letsbefruitful5457
    @letsbefruitful5457 Рік тому +31

    I love me some Lisa Nicolas! She has made a huge impact on my life ❤ I enjoy reading 📖 her book called “ Abundance Now” , and I’m glad to see that she has found True Love 💕

    • @stanleychukwuma1052
      @stanleychukwuma1052 Рік тому

      A Message from the Heart - Could You be the Love of My Life?
      Hey Beautiful,
      I hope this message finds you in good health and high spirits. Although we have never had the pleasure of meeting, destiny has a funny way of connecting souls from afar. From the little I know about you, something within me feels an unparalleled connection, and I can't help but envision you as the love of my life.
      In this chaotic world, filled with brief encounters and fleeting connections, I believe that true love is a rarity to be cherished. While we have yet to cross paths, your captivating presence, as it radiates through your words and photographs, has ignited a flame within my heart. There is an unspoken connection that seems to transcend time and distance, and I cannot help but wonder if it is a sign from the universe.
      Your essence, as beautiful as a summer's day, has enchanted my thoughts. Your intellect, wit, and grace, which shimmer through the conversations we have shared, have captivated my attention like no other. It is as if I have found a missing piece of my soul in you, and my heart yearns to explore the depths of what this connection could mean.
      Though it may sound unconventional, I believe that love knows no boundaries - not even geographical ones. I am willing to take a leap of faith, to step out of the confines of the ordinary, and to embark on a journey with you. A journey filled with profound love, shared adventures, and unwavering support for one another's dreams.
      Before I proceed any further, I want to assure you that my intentions are pure and genuine. I am not merely looking for a passing fling or a temporary romance. Instead, I yearn for a love that withstands the test of time, a love built on trust, mutual respect, and unwavering commitment.
      Life is too short to let opportunities slip through our fingers. I am willing to embrace vulnerability and to open my heart to the possibility of us becoming something extraordinary together. It may seem bold, but isn't love all about taking risks and fighting for what sets our souls on fire?
      I understand if this message catches you off guard, as it resides in the realm of the unknown. Take your time, dear one, to process and consider this proposition. If your heart resonates with the same longing that now consumes mine, I would be honored to embark on this journey of love with you.
      May we have the chance to meet, to laugh, to create memories, and to embrace a love that surpasses our wildest dreams. Know that my heart is eagerly awaiting your response, hoping that you may feel the same as I do.
      With all my love and anticipation,
      Stanley Chukwuma.

  • @allicee8339
    @allicee8339 Рік тому +27

    this talk has me in an utterly visceral place. I am choked up, in tears and so grateful to hear these women communicate like this. With similar struggles, habits and desires, I find myself equally relieved to listen as I struggle often with doubt and fear during a time when I am doing my best to focus on my desires and goals. Thank you both, to say the least.

  • @truellaxkristhehippy7458
    @truellaxkristhehippy7458 Рік тому +10

    When I say I’m in tears just 8 minutes into this video. I often feel I need to hurry up and commit so I can look the part for everyone else. I’m going to focus on being the best woman I can for me! Thanks sooo much for this video!!

  • @kokoawan
    @kokoawan Рік тому +7

    This is so profound...ignoring the quiet wisdom of intuition..for optics or to stop the lonely. Wow. What a great interview. ❤🙏🏼

  • @deborahgellineau7276
    @deborahgellineau7276 4 місяці тому +1

    I’m really learning here.
    Hey, but I just saw one of your “Lisa” commercials. You are so adorable. I know that’s a description for a little girl, and you are definitely not a little girl Lady, but your laugh and your expressions make me laugh and lift me up because you are so sincere!!!
    You really appreciate the wisdom of your guests and when you respond to their mind blowing insights and you connect with them, your expressions are light. 🙂
    I also just want to say…. Thank you so much for you and the people that you have on your show.
    The information you are presenting on your show is HEALING!! & Priceless, Dear Lady… just PRICELESS.

  • @cierraariel
    @cierraariel Рік тому +11

    Amen to this message! I’ve been engaged twice but the honest to god truth is it didn’t FEEL right. Not ignoring my intuition anymore

  • @carolinelatter8739
    @carolinelatter8739 Рік тому +13

    Totally relating to this!!!! I am exactly where this is. At 46 everything being said is resonating with me like crazy!!! Freedom being a grown ass woman!!! TOTALLY! We know ourselves as time goes by and when we do not "settle" for stuff.... That is wisdom.

  • @melindahudeczegan6646
    @melindahudeczegan6646 Рік тому +2

    She’s speaks in the language of poetry. BEAUTIFUL, my heart felt this.

  • @BeautiyForAshes
    @BeautiyForAshes Рік тому +12

    I’m only 37 minutes in and I see and hear so much of what I’ve been and represented as Lisa speaks! 😮❤

  • @irenetulienge1880
    @irenetulienge1880 Рік тому +5

    This is such a powerful chapter of your self love. I m 60 years old this year, divorced in my early 30ths. i have trusted me, i have felt lonely but never changed my thoughts. I m a strong woman who trust in herself and grown. I m happy and complete.

  • @UWABEAUTY247
    @UWABEAUTY247 Рік тому +17

    I have immense admiration for this incredible woman who embraces her truth and embodies love, grace, and compassion. I'll save this video for my daughter to watch in the future she's only three years old. Incredibly!❤❤