Hi Dan, your tone with your dad is quite wonderful. You firmly but kindly reassure him that all is well. He trusts you implicitly. And this trust is extremely important when you are so uncertain of what’s going on etc. Your dad reminds me soooooo much of my dad who has passed on. I’m a little displeased that I am unable to comment on some of your other videos because I like them a whole lot. But I understand that UA-cam has a reason for this. When I’m with your dad , it’s like visiting with my dad. Your family has my dads features and mannerisms. All of you are very patient with your dad. And this is the way it should be.
You can always comment on my videos. The fake posters don’t enable comments because people call them out as fake. If comments are off it’s likely a fake account.
Dan, I can assure you that 99% of us would not handle this as well as you. ❤️ My 89 YO mother does not have the kind of dementia as Dr. Ed, but she does tend to repeat herself lots and tell the same stories to me over and over. I used to get frustrated and say things like, “Yes, I know that because you’ve told me 3 times in the last half hour.” After seeing how beautifully and kindly you reply to your dad, I have turned around my behavior. THANKS for improving my relationship with my aging mom.
Aww bless you. One for realising a better way to communicate with your mum. And two for being there for her. It warms me heart to see families that truly care for one and other. Dan is truly a great role model. Wish u and your mum well.
Same here with my mama when she was still alive same stories over n over again with the same facial reaction n actuations exact words just like u i will tell her "u did told me that several tyms already,but my hubby always reminds me to just listen n he used to tell my mama this "mama what is it?tell me"my hubby was so patient than me,but i love my mama so much n i missed her that was 5yrs ago since she passed away. My advise to u,never get tired listening to ur mom,enjoy every moment while she's still with u❤Godbless
Yes. When I was in high school, I had to help my mom take care of my maternal grandmother. She lived to 94. Unfortunately, my mom died 2 years after her at only 55.
I'm a retired RN who has worked in many long term care settings. You are to be commended for the way you are taking care of your dad. It is not easy. You have the patience of a saint. God bless you for modeling for others how to respond to someone with memory problems.
It may be very difficult for Dad, but still he believes Dan❤ many stop talking at this stage, but Dan's persistence to engage him in conversation helping Dad to talk and walk❤❤❤ How I miss my Dad❤ if he was alive I would have tried my best to look after like Dan... Thank you Dan for these videos, they are really helping many kids and their Dads ...❤
Very difficult but he’s in absolutely the best circumstance available to him. What’s disturbing and frightening are the many people suffering from dementia who don’t have kids or whose kids aren’t willing to do what you do.
Gosh!!!! This shows how nice and respectful, and well mannered your dad is even in his time of confusion and memory challenges he doesn’t forget to be respectful, calm, and considerate!!! He is amazing! So much respect to you and your family!
My mother passed away of Dementia and Alzheimer's. See your videos warms my heart. It is so hard to handle their questions over and over. You are so calm...gotta love Dad
This video kinda got to me. 😢 So much confusion in his head, but yet he's always saying " Thank you " .He is such a jewel. Kind and always accepts your word. You're doing such a great job, I know this must be so hard. I just Bless you all. Hope you all enjoyed dinner dinner 😉 🥰
Your patience is incredible, Dan. No matter how frustrating his repetition is, you cope magnifiently, understanding that for Ed, each repeated saying or question is a new thought for him. Humbling to see.
Your Dad has a great sense of humour! He can chuckle at himself and he is so good natured. He is so loving. Always asking about others, asking if they are ok, asking if he can help? Wow, just wow!
Dan, over family went through this with our dad. He had Alzheimer’s for about 10 years but only the last 5 months was very difficult. He was a nice and gentle person except for the 4 months before he died. Then he was like the good person was gone and a totally mean person took his place. We never let it over take us into anger. We did say a lot of prayers. May you keep the dad with the kind and gentle soul until the end of his days.
Dementia that progresses slower is much more 'frustrating & cruel' than the faster progressing kind. My 98 yr old dad 's dementia went from 0 to 60 in less than two years. It was so quick that he never asked any difficult questions and thankfully we never had to answer any. Family members & close friends have died but we didn't have to address their deaths because he never has missed them. Dan, You have my admiration because your patience is truly a virtue.
How is he? My dad started showing signs in 2018, right now he can't even make a sentence, he can't walk nor feed himself. Sadly he doesn't remember anyone. I can't stand it, my old man is suffering 😢
@@bethsubira6393 He's in the last stage & has been completely bedfast for 18 mos... he doesn't remember his life nor beloved deceased wife nor us & he can't feed himself nor articulate anything only making an occasional word salad. His dementia first started right before Covid (he was driving & going to church twice a week until Mar-Apr 2020 but he couldn't balance his checkbook) and it quickly progressed beyond our or his primary dr's understanding. All his life my dad had OCD so this change was very noticeable. Though he doesn't know what he's doing he will occasionally curse at us doing personal hygiene. You are so right they are suffering & it IS hell on earth for them. My dad's lived a good long life & we've strived to keep him out of a nursing home but its hard as we're now in our mid to late 70's. Please don't take this the wrong way but I have told friends 'the more he loses the more it helps me lose him' and I know that won't be long. Sending prayers to you & objectively to everyone that has a loved one going through this.🙏
its really hard to acknowledge someone you look to for strength and protection was now in need of the very same from you. I broke down when I realized what was happening to my dad. So strong, was like a little child needing my help. I am grateful that I was able to but the reverse of roles really broke me. Many times the tears fell. Patience is a virtue which they need. Blessings to all who are willing to stand with their love ones during these challenging times. Take courage you all. It's a blessings to have them in spite of.
Dan does not have to address them either ,he chooses to tell his father ,the cold hard truth over and over ,every day ,it makes me cry ,😢to watch this ,,,the dad is so confused.
This is the reality of Alzheimer's. I went through almost 10 years of this with my mom. It can be absolute torture for family members providing round-the-clock care (me!). These videos are heart-warming but I also know the stress these types of non-stop questions cause. I couldn't do it again. Family members who only occasionally see the afflicted person and barely contribute have no idea of the stress they're putting on the one doing the daily caregiving (or maybe they do and that's why they don't help much). Hang in there! You're doing great, Dan.
The ones that bearly care of him will anyways be there first to get their part of inheritance ... the irony of life and proof that laws cannot always comply with justice...
So hard for grandpa to re live every day. So hard for Dan as a son, Danielle as a wife. I think you all give grandpa the fullest dignity and respect possible. 👍🏻❤️hang in
Dan i know it must be tough on you guys to deal with on a day to day basis but I am happy that this sweet man is living with his family. His independence meant a lot to him and you can see the kind, thoughtfull man /provider he was. ❤
We recently took in a rescue German Shepherd. Shortly after we brought her home we lost 5 close family members, in as many months, and she hasn't left our sides. We tend to break down a different times, and she's always right there to give us the comfort we need. We may have rescued her, but she saved us. 💞 We hit the jackpot of awesome dogs the day we met our sweet Sadie Mae, and we couldn't possibly be more thankful for having her in our lives!
I know what u mean, soon after I lost my Dad, we got our Husky. Wasn't really looking for a pet, he just came into our lives and has been exactly what my family needed to begin healing. ❤I am sorry for your loss.
I love hearing that. I train service dogs for mostly Veterans for ptsd , depression , etc . We rescue from high kill shelters , saving a life on both ends of the leash ❤️ thank you for rescuing ❤️
I love hearing that. I train service dogs for mostly Veterans for ptsd , depression , etc . We rescue from high kill shelters , saving a life on both ends of the leash ❤️ thank you for rescuing ❤️
You know what I LOVE about Dan's dad... despite his memory challenges, he's still so pleasant and can he humerus at times. He's a breath of fresh air... because some folks in his situation have a lot of anger out burst 🙏🏽💖🦋
It’s got to break Dan heart to see his Dad go through this. He has so much patience and understanding. Dan and Danielle will be truly blessed for this. ❤
Dan I love your patience with grandpa. I have taken care of hundreds of seniors with Alzheimer’s, dementia or senility. It’s a tough job but you make it look so easy. I love being a caregiver
Indeed. I worked with people suffering from Korsakoff's amnesic syndrome. I remember a man, who forgot that his wife had died 7 years ago. Every morning I had to tell him that his wife has passed away. And every morning he was broken by that that news....for minutes.
Which is why it's insane when those who've never walked this road are critical. The toll it must take on caregivers is unimaginable. More so, when the caregivers are loved ones.
Good job Dan! Congrats on staying calm, repeating the What, When Why’s of the same concerns. Your Dad does feel safe, & trusts you. Whew, not an easy job! We’re here, we’re proud of you! ☮️💟☮️💟
Driving is usually the last form of independence seniors/elders relinquish. And its devastating. Think about all the independent things we do now- being taken away from us by the body's failures. Going through this with my mom right now. Appreciate you sharing your personal family life!
Hi Dan! I lost my Father back in April. He had dementia as well. I feel so blessed to have come across your channel a month ago. Your Dad reminds me so much of mine. It’s uncanny. Maybe it’s the times that they grew up in. Their mannerisms and cadence are similar. God bless you and your beautiful family. Tell Grandpa we love him here in Maryland!!! ❤❤❤
It's the times for sure. My dad had dementia too. Passed away at 86. Was ever so polite too. It was that generation. Most were complete and utter gentlemen. Their generation had good values.
@@Chacha355 Sorry to hear about your dad. Just a note that many healthcare workers would point out that not all patients from that generation were polite/gentlemen/gentleladies. Some are utterly vile. We have to be careful with singular anecdotes and falling victim to the Golden Age Fallacy.
@@griffincontracting Many healthcare workers are overworked, treat their patients terrible so can't blame the patients if they step out of character once in a while too
@@Chacha355 In those isolated instances, sure. However, I reject any suggestion that the misbehavior of healthcare workers (overstated in my opinion) is the SOLE (or even primary) cause of patients who are out of line, horrid, racist, rude, ignorant, non-compliant (with treatment), demanding, or cynical (such as yourself). There are a TON of ignorant people in the world, who are incapable of understanding the nuances of medicine or the specific healthcare issues they are experiencing, and they express their frustrations in anger. Tiny-minds, very upset that THEIR problems aren't being solved by what they perceive as an uncaring doctor. Never mind that they don't comply with treatment. Never mind that they never contributed to research, or gave two-shits about the disease/condition/disorder themselves, before it became a problem for THEM. The medical establishment should drop everything and focus exclusively on THEM. Enough of this vague, generalized, nebulous healthcare-hate.
Dan, you are earning the keys to heaven’s gate. There’s nothing more honorable than caring for your elderly parents. I hope my children do the same for me when it’s time. ❤
Come on, guys. Don't pick at J.Rob.5943 for showing a comment with love. He's shining positivity on their good deeds, don't necessarily needs to be literal, like the Bible. ❤
@@yoraray9998ppl are so gullible these days. I sense his frustration with his dad at moments when filming so I'm sure it's some ugliness going on when he's not filming. Dad seems to prefer Mark over Dan as well I've noticed.
I really hope my kids will NOT do that for me! I hope they will put me in a home, and have a happy life for themselves!!! What Dan and his family is doing is too hard, but off course admirable!
God bless you, Dan ( and Danielle). Andrew is learning through osmosis how to do this. He is experiencing care, devotion, honoring an elder, respect, responsibility, and love ( and much more). You are helping both your father and your son. We are truly the sandwich generation.
I think by watching your channel I'm preparing myself to deal with my mother. she just started showing signs of dementia and already I'm pulling my hair out. I can only pray to have the patience you have Dan.
I’d like to recommend a video series called Dementia Caregiver. She is a board certifies geropsychologist named Dr Natali Edmonds. She helped me though much of my time caring for mother and aunt both of whom had dementia. She is knowledgeable, understanding and kind in her videos. I learned so much from her.
dementia is majorly caused by heavy metals in the brain..we all have them to some degree ..look into a safe gentle detox ..(from my research I'd suggest PBX zeolite detox spray) also research how the right vitamins can make a difference .. don't just take your doctor's opinion on the matter.. .Research everything..
When I watch your dad I'm struck by the reoccurring themes. Which are for his family his kids his x wife his brothers and sisters. And the other things that are important in life your wallet your car keys excetera excetera are all the things that we would all be concern to keep track of especially if we had a lifetime of caring for others and being responsible for others. I'm glad you're there to reassure him that all is well and he has done his job. And he is with family.
No matter the situation, Dan’s words always calm Granpa. And the way he looks at you Dan, is a search for reassurance and validation that all is well, and you always satisfy him. The love you both share is evident to us all and I can only wish you more grace of strength and vitality with our Granpa. Well done Dan. Many of us are learning from you! Thanks.
This was the most heartbreaking episode I've seen. But Dan you did a great job. I agree with others you have a lot of patience and compassion with your Dad.
The most heartbreaking scene was when he was looking for his brother Bill who died many years ago. He went outside to look for him and was calling for him outside. It was so sad. You can tell it hurt Dan's heart.
Dan, I love your patience with your dad..I love how he trusts you so much . I know it is tough but your doing an amazing job from what i see on these videos.
No matter how tough it gets, he still adapts every time and Dan still holds out patiently through every conversation. All those of us who have been through this know what that takes. Bless you.
Absolutely. It's certainly no easy ride. Not only having to listen to the repetitiveness but also to have to watch your loved one deteriorate in such a way. It happened to my mother so I feel for all of you.
As a nurse who talks to patients family on the phone on regular basis who have family members with dementia /Alzheimer’s who are going through something like this I always asked them to watch this channel and to share with other family members about this disease. Dan and family you all are doing great with grandpa. May God bless you all.
Even when he's frustrated, he is so polite. Pardon me, please, thank you, excuse me, just old school polite. Got the give his credit for still being reasonable.
Tell Doc I said I love him & he did a great job raising you guys. Now, Thank you 4 sharing. This is helping me through my loss of independence. I don't have dementia however I have been asked to surrender my keys due to a RX i'm on. Im only 50ish, so all I heard when they started talking abt my taking my keys was a monotone note.
dan? You don’t understand how much I love you for taking care of this special man you call your dad. I watch all your videos, it’s just so heartwarming. I was showing my dad these videos and it touched him too, I’m Scottish, my dads Irish. This hits home as my dad’s brother got dementia too. Thank you 🙏 💚
He must have worried about Mark at one point when you guys were young, even if he never vocalised it. It must be hard for Mark to hear him worry about him so often as well. It's a cruel disease. You guys are doing great ❤
DAN I kinda think that even though you take care of Dad a lot, he really does not know who you are. He just thinks that you just take care of him like a nurse would A very good nurse. Mary from Virginia.😢
God has blessed you with a loving father and have now given you the talent of patience to deal with your father in his time of need. Dan, you are blessed to have Ed❤
Dan your dad would be proud of the son he raised….. product of your upbringing, your parents influence and the way they raised you helped define the person you are. Keep leaning into it, love your channel and the perspective and awareness you bring to this disease. Stay strong.
I cannot begin to imagine how Ed feels when he is this confused. It is sad to watch. Dan, you have so much strength to deal with it and then to post so we can learn from your family. It means a lot to those of us who are invested in your videos. Thank you for sharing your experience
Yeah, I remember going through this with my grandfather. It's a challenge. I helped take care of my grandfather that had Alzheimer's. They get obsessed with certain thoughts and it's hard to redirect sometimes when they are in a whole mood and a half. Sometimes something triggers them, sometimes nothing triggers them. You just never know. It's a neverending battle. Lol. Only way to ease their frustration is explain what's going on, where they are at, and why. That seemed to work for my grandfather just like it works for your dad! Dan, you are an amazing son! You and your wife both do an amazing job at taking care of Pop! You do everything right which is the very reason he doesn't get agitated often! Keep up the good work! 👌👌👌
Beautifully handled! Had the same roundabout conversation with my beautiful dad, many times! I used to put large paper arrows on the floor so he knew the way to his room ❤
So much love and respect for your dad and for you and your family!!! You dad reminds me of some of the characteristics of Presindent Ronald Reagan. I remember reading some stories about him later in life after he was diagnosed with Alzheimers disease. Your dad's kindness and class shine through. The mighty human spirit is powerful!!! May heaven bless you all!!! ❤
No matter how many tricks his memory plays, Grandpa ALWAYS remains a loving father! It really is ingrained in his DNA. Thank you, Dan, for being so patient and loving with him! He really deserves to have the best care there is! And the way you are is definitely thanks to your Mum and Dad! They've done an amazing job! Really exemplary! ❤❤❤❤❤
I'm always touched by the empathy you demonstrate towards him in that it must be so frustrating to be in his shoes. But you reassure him and calm his fears. But nobody infantalizes him either ❤
Your way with Dad is incredible, Dan! Much admiration to you! And I've gotta say Koda seems to be increasing her watch on Dad. She's always kept an eye out, but it seems like she's more on duty in the last few weeks. Maybe she's worried because the floors being done?
And I have to mention to everyone that this can't be easy on Dan's wife either or his son. They deserve credit too for Grandpa's well being. God love each and everyone of you.
Tough moments Dan, but you manage well. I know it’s tough, challenging and at times can be overwhelming, but you handle these times with love, mercy and grace. God bless you and Danielle and the family. I pray for your continued strength.
I can't imagine what it would be like to have to learn for the first time every day that I don't have a car, a driver's license or a house anymore. To have to relearn every single day where I live, that my brother is now dead, etc. etc. The emotions of it must be so difficult for him and yet he always stays sweet, respectful and tries to be helpful. What an amazing man he is.
From this interaction, you can see what a good man your father is and how that definitely got passed on to you. Wish everyone had as much patience with those with memory issues.💕
I have 2 things to say. 1) Dan you're such a patient and loving son. 2) I want to just hug your Dad. Hugs may not bring all he's looking for, but it's soothing sometimes. 💖
They're not touchy feely. I don't think Grandpa would welcome it. They are very loving but not physically affectionate. They were/ are a family of mostly sons/ men after all
@@camillebanks3676 Oh I agree... My dad's family is that way My moms is totally the opposite lol We give a hug and kiss to everyone before leaving so I get it sweetheart
Koko is a special dog and an extra comfort for you to know such a loyal protective family member like Koko is watching your Dad. From my personal experience with my Mom, it's predictable the work on the floors that has a to be done creates extra confusion for your Dad. I'm looking forward to see how your Dad transitions from the removal of this stress after the work is complete.
You are so patient and kind. My Dad had dementia also but was still the kind wonderful man he had always been. You Dad is so adorable and so very lucky he has you guys to take care of him.
Your doing a phenomenal job caring for your beloved father. I know it gets frustrating at times. When that happens try to put yourself in his place of confusion. Then you will have more patience. May God Bless You and Yours for being so kind and caring. in Jesus name. Amen
Dan, this broke my heart. Thank you so much for sharing him with us. And for bringing awareness. And thank you and Danielle for being so patient with him. He is such a wonderful soul and he gets to stay at time with his family, which is best. This was a tough one to watch....
Dan, please know you are helping so many people that are faced with this same problem. These are great lessons on lovingly helping your loved one with patience and care. I am sure it's hard on your dad trying to figure things out and the way you and the family patiently help him is a gift from God. Keep up the great work, others are praying with you for your dad and also strength for you and the family.
Hi Dan, your tone with your dad is quite wonderful. You firmly but kindly reassure him that all is well. He trusts you implicitly. And this trust is extremely important when you are so uncertain of what’s going on etc. Your dad reminds me soooooo much of my dad who has passed on. I’m a little displeased that I am unable to comment on some of your other videos because I like them a whole lot. But I understand that UA-cam has a reason for this. When I’m with your dad , it’s like visiting with my dad. Your family has my dads features and mannerisms. All of you are very patient with your dad. And this is the way it should be.
You can always comment on my videos. The fake posters don’t enable comments because people call them out as fake. If comments are off it’s likely a fake account.
@dsalnorcal1434 one fake has farm after your name.
@@cdmc965 I know. Lots and lots of fakes out there.
@@ILovePortugal-l9risn’t it crazy. I mean make your own content instead of stealing our Grandpa 😂😂😂
@@emmajane9403😂😅
Dan, I can assure you that 99% of us would not handle this as well as you. ❤️ My 89 YO mother does not have the kind of dementia as Dr. Ed, but she does tend to repeat herself lots and tell the same stories to me over and over. I used to get frustrated and say things like, “Yes, I know that because you’ve told me 3 times in the last half hour.” After seeing how beautifully and kindly you reply to your dad, I have turned around my behavior. THANKS for improving my relationship with my aging mom.
Aww bless you. One for realising a better way to communicate with your mum. And two for being there for her. It warms me heart to see families that truly care for one and other. Dan is truly a great role model. Wish u and your mum well.
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Dan tell your Dad to have a little talk with Jesus Amen❤😍👍🙏tell him Jesus loves U AndI do to👍❤️
Same here with my mama when she was still alive same stories over n over again with the same facial reaction n actuations exact words just like u i will tell her "u did told me that several tyms already,but my hubby always reminds me to just listen n he used to tell my mama this "mama what is it?tell me"my hubby was so patient than me,but i love my mama so much n i missed her that was 5yrs ago since she passed away.
My advise to u,never get tired listening to ur mom,enjoy every moment while she's still with u❤Godbless
Yes. When I was in high school, I had to help my mom take care of my maternal grandmother. She lived to 94. Unfortunately, my mom died 2 years after her at only 55.
I'm a retired RN who has worked in many long term care settings. You are to be commended for the way you are taking care of your dad. It is not easy. You have the patience of a saint. God bless you for modeling for others how to respond to someone with memory problems.
'amen ' to that !
At least he’s not agitated… still calm..
God bless him
Your dad was exceptionally intelligent! Still is! Even with this later stage Alzheimer’s he carries himself with such class. What a wonderful man!
Yes he does!! What a sweet man ❤
Even intelligent, gracefull people can change completely as a person because of Alzheimer though.
@@spinwaus yep it can make them aggressive. Its a s.o.b.
It may be very difficult for Dad, but still he believes Dan❤ many stop talking at this stage, but Dan's persistence to engage him in conversation helping Dad to talk and walk❤❤❤ How I miss my Dad❤ if he was alive I would have tried my best to look after like Dan... Thank you Dan for these videos, they are really helping many kids and their Dads ...❤
He is a legend , a real true gentleman .
Very difficult but he’s in absolutely the best circumstance available to him. What’s disturbing and frightening are the many people suffering from dementia who don’t have kids or whose kids aren’t willing to do what you do.
Your dad has the best manners, and so considerate throughout his confusion. It’s so sweet.
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Very true ,he has a lot respect and great manners
Dan's patience is incredible, full respect for that. But dad is an amazing father, absolutely devoted to the welfare of his kids. What a dad!!!!
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Awesome family.❤️. Lots of Love
Dan, you are a great dad and always respectful to your Dad.
YES! Like father, like son.
Grandpa Ed is so cute!
I wish I still have my dad.
Your dad can be persistent and your tone stays calm. You are a great example of love and compassion. Coco is doing her part. Dogs are incredible. 🫶🏾
Gosh!!!! This shows how nice and respectful, and well mannered your dad is even in his time of confusion and memory challenges he doesn’t forget to be respectful, calm, and considerate!!! He is amazing! So much respect to you and your family!
Absolutely! I second that!
Your dad is so sweet ❤ and you are so kind , do you have any videos of your dad before his memory loss ?
My mother passed away of Dementia and Alzheimer's. See your videos warms my heart. It is so hard to handle their questions over and over. You are so calm...gotta love Dad
What do you mean she passed away of dementia? It doesn’t kill you like cancer or something. Or do you mean she had an accident as a result of it? 🤔
Gotta love Dan also. ❤❤🎉
Respect. Wish I was as patient with my mom.
@@bw3903and me with my dad.
Agreed, it can be exhausting. But when they’re gone, you wish you could hear one more question.
This video kinda got to me. 😢 So much confusion in his head, but yet he's always saying " Thank you " .He is such a jewel. Kind and always accepts your word. You're doing such a great job, I know this must be so hard. I just Bless you all.
Hope you all enjoyed dinner dinner 😉 🥰
Your patience is incredible, Dan. No matter how frustrating his repetition is, you cope magnifiently, understanding that for Ed, each repeated saying or question is a new thought for him. Humbling to see.
Your Dad has a great sense of humour! He can chuckle at himself and he is so good natured. He is so loving. Always asking about others, asking if they are ok, asking if he can help? Wow, just wow!
I would probably lose my mind answering the same questions over and over again. Dan, his family and Mark deserve medals.
You wouldnt believe me. Compassion grows when you live with this everyday. Its tiring but its worth it to keep them as calm as possible.
For real Dan deserves a medal
Coco is so awesome and Grandpa remembered Andrew ❤.
I'm struck by what a compassionate, loving, and respectful family your father raised. He is reflected so well in your lives. Much love to you all.
Dan your dad would be so proud of the son he raised. You care about him the same way he cares about his family. Not all super heros wear capes!
He IS so proud of the son he raised! He is so proud of all his kids!
Dad loves the doggie ❤
More patience....God bless you Dan....
Very true
Y'all give it up for CoCo!🐕
She knows Grandpa needs protecting!👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Dan, over family went through this with our dad. He had Alzheimer’s for about 10 years but only the last 5 months was very difficult. He was a nice and gentle person except for the 4 months before he died. Then he was like the good person was gone and a totally mean person took his place. We never let it over take us into anger. We did say a lot of prayers. May you keep the dad with the kind and gentle soul until the end of his days.
AMEN!!
Dan, take a bow and another bow. Your love and dedication to your dad touches me deeply. You are teaching many people great things. Blessings!
That was a tough one Dan. Your dad seems very respectful and kind, like you.
I love Dad whenever He says “Pardon Me”…
Dementia that progresses slower is much more 'frustrating & cruel' than the faster progressing kind. My 98 yr old dad 's dementia went from 0 to 60 in less than two years. It was so quick that he never asked any difficult questions and thankfully we never had to answer any. Family members & close friends have died but we didn't have to address their deaths because he never has missed them. Dan, You have my admiration because your patience is truly a virtue.
How is he? My dad started showing signs in 2018, right now he can't even make a sentence, he can't walk nor feed himself. Sadly he doesn't remember anyone. I can't stand it, my old man is suffering 😢
@bethsubira6393 ❤😭
Prayers for you and your family I know it's hard
@@bethsubira6393 He's in the last stage & has been completely bedfast for 18 mos... he doesn't remember his life nor beloved deceased wife nor us & he can't feed himself nor articulate anything only making an occasional word salad. His dementia first started right before Covid (he was driving & going to church twice a week until Mar-Apr 2020 but he couldn't balance his checkbook) and it quickly progressed beyond our or his primary dr's understanding. All his life my dad had OCD so this change was very noticeable. Though he doesn't know what he's doing he will occasionally curse at us doing personal hygiene. You are so right they are suffering & it IS hell on earth for them. My dad's lived a good long life & we've strived to keep him out of a nursing home but its hard as we're now in our mid to late 70's. Please don't take this the wrong way but I have told friends 'the more he loses the more it helps me lose him' and I know that won't be long. Sending prayers to you & objectively to everyone that has a loved one going through this.🙏
its really hard to acknowledge someone you look to for strength and protection was now in need of the very same from you. I broke down when I realized what was happening to my dad. So strong, was like a little child needing my help. I am grateful that I was able to but the reverse of roles really broke me. Many times the tears fell. Patience is a virtue which they need. Blessings to all who are willing to stand with their love ones during these challenging times. Take courage you all. It's a blessings to have them in spite of.
Dan does not have to address them either ,he chooses to tell his father ,the cold hard truth over and over ,every day ,it makes me cry ,😢to watch this ,,,the dad is so confused.
These are the hardest ones to watch. The patience from Dan is admirable. Edit: also amazing that Ed is old enough to see his children retire.
This is the reality of Alzheimer's. I went through almost 10 years of this with my mom. It can be absolute torture for family members providing round-the-clock care (me!). These videos are heart-warming but I also know the stress these types of non-stop questions cause. I couldn't do it again. Family members who only occasionally see the afflicted person and barely contribute have no idea of the stress they're putting on the one doing the daily caregiving (or maybe they do and that's why they don't help much). Hang in there! You're doing great, Dan.
The ones that bearly care of him will anyways be there first to get their part of inheritance ... the irony of life and proof that laws cannot always comply with justice...
I think that's epilepsy.@____________________________51
(I think that's Diabetes.) @@ajrwilde14
I heard and saw a video of a doctor whose husband was very advanced Alzheimer’s and she cured him with coconut oil in his food.
Your Dad has such beautiful manners and respect eventhough he's struggling with his mind ❤
So hard for grandpa to re live every day. So hard for Dan as a son, Danielle as a wife. I think you all give grandpa the fullest dignity and respect possible. 👍🏻❤️hang in
The family loves, respect grandpa.
Dan i know it must be tough on you guys to deal with on a day to day basis but I am happy that this sweet man is living with his family. His independence meant a lot to him and you can see the kind, thoughtfull man /provider he was. ❤
We recently took in a rescue German Shepherd. Shortly after we brought her home we lost 5 close family members, in as many months, and she hasn't left our sides. We tend to break down a different times, and she's always right there to give us the comfort we need.
We may have rescued her, but she saved us. 💞 We hit the jackpot of awesome dogs the day we met our sweet Sadie Mae, and we couldn't possibly be more thankful for having her in our lives!
I know what u mean, soon after I lost my Dad, we got our Husky. Wasn't really looking for a pet, he just came into our lives and has been exactly what my family needed to begin healing. ❤I am sorry for your loss.
Sorry for your loss. Happy you found each other.
Sorry to hear about your loss of beloved family members. Glad you found your furever fur baby.
I love hearing that. I train service dogs for mostly Veterans for ptsd , depression , etc . We rescue from high kill shelters , saving a life on both ends of the leash ❤️ thank you for rescuing ❤️
I love hearing that. I train service dogs for mostly Veterans for ptsd , depression , etc . We rescue from high kill shelters , saving a life on both ends of the leash ❤️ thank you for rescuing ❤️
I always say having kids is like playing the lotto...your dad won the lottery ❤wishing you all continuous blessings
You know what I LOVE about Dan's dad... despite his memory challenges, he's still so pleasant and can he humerus at times. He's a breath of fresh air... because some folks in his situation have a lot of anger out burst 🙏🏽💖🦋
It’s got to break Dan heart to see his Dad go through this. He has so much patience and understanding. Dan and Danielle will be truly blessed for this. ❤
Kind of.
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Dan I love your patience with grandpa. I have taken care of hundreds of seniors with Alzheimer’s, dementia or senility. It’s a tough job but you make it look so easy. I love being a caregiver
Indeed. I worked with people suffering from Korsakoff's amnesic syndrome. I remember a man, who forgot that his wife had died 7 years ago. Every morning I had to tell him that his wife has passed away. And every morning he was broken by that that news....for minutes.
He honestly DOES make it look easy! We can all learn a bit from Dan's caregiving skills.
Which is why it's insane when those who've never walked this road are critical. The toll it must take on caregivers is unimaginable. More so, when the caregivers are loved ones.
The lawyer is an expert in relating the crucial information,
and the son does it with tremendous care and sensitivity.
Like magic.
@@ilonahesseling4821that’s why they say that you shouldn’t remind someone that their spouse, etc. has passed away.
Good job Dan! Congrats on staying calm, repeating the What, When Why’s of the same concerns.
Your Dad does feel safe, & trusts you. Whew, not an easy job! We’re here, we’re proud of you! ☮️💟☮️💟
Just imagine, its frustrating for you. Times that by ten for him! God bless his soul ❤
Driving is usually the last form of independence seniors/elders relinquish. And its devastating. Think about all the independent things we do now- being taken away from us by the body's failures. Going through this with my mom right now. Appreciate you sharing your personal family life!
Hi Dan! I lost my Father back in April. He had dementia as well. I feel so blessed to have come across your channel a month ago. Your Dad reminds me so much of mine. It’s uncanny. Maybe it’s the times that they grew up in. Their mannerisms and cadence are similar. God bless you and your beautiful family. Tell Grandpa we love him here in Maryland!!! ❤❤❤
It's the times for sure. My dad had dementia too. Passed away at 86. Was ever so polite too. It was that generation. Most were complete and utter gentlemen. Their generation had good values.
@@Chacha355 Sorry to hear about your dad. Just a note that many healthcare workers would point out that not all patients from that generation were polite/gentlemen/gentleladies. Some are utterly vile. We have to be careful with singular anecdotes and falling victim to the Golden Age Fallacy.
@@Chacha355The next generation of grown child care givers will be shouting "Mom can you turn that Classic Rock music down"??
@@griffincontracting
Many healthcare workers are overworked, treat their patients terrible so can't blame the patients if they step out of character once in a while too
@@Chacha355 In those isolated instances, sure. However, I reject any suggestion that the misbehavior of healthcare workers (overstated in my opinion) is the SOLE (or even primary) cause of patients who are out of line, horrid, racist, rude, ignorant, non-compliant (with treatment), demanding, or cynical (such as yourself).
There are a TON of ignorant people in the world, who are incapable of understanding the nuances of medicine or the specific healthcare issues they are experiencing, and they express their frustrations in anger. Tiny-minds, very upset that THEIR problems aren't being solved by what they perceive as an uncaring doctor. Never mind that they don't comply with treatment. Never mind that they never contributed to research, or gave two-shits about the disease/condition/disorder themselves, before it became a problem for THEM. The medical establishment should drop everything and focus exclusively on THEM.
Enough of this vague, generalized, nebulous healthcare-hate.
Dan, you are earning the keys to heaven’s gate. There’s nothing more honorable than caring for your elderly parents. I hope my children do the same for me when it’s time. ❤
That's for Jesus to decide
What he's doing is great, but from I remember, good deeds aren't what get you into heaven.
Come on, guys. Don't pick at J.Rob.5943 for showing a comment with love. He's shining positivity on their good deeds, don't necessarily needs to be literal, like the Bible. ❤
@@yoraray9998ppl are so gullible these days. I sense his frustration with his dad at moments when filming so I'm sure it's some ugliness going on when he's not filming. Dad seems to prefer Mark over Dan as well I've noticed.
I really hope my kids will NOT do that for me! I hope they will put me in a home, and have a happy life for themselves!!! What Dan and his family is doing is too hard, but off course admirable!
God bless you, Dan ( and Danielle). Andrew is learning through osmosis how to do this. He is experiencing care, devotion, honoring an elder, respect, responsibility, and love ( and much more). You are helping both your father and your son. We are truly the sandwich generation.
Dan he looks so sad when you tell him he doesnt have a car anymore, you are an amazing son taking care of him, God bless you.
Leave the man alone and let him believe that he still owns a car and works ,and has money,,for his sake ,and have compassion for your father,😢
AMEN!!
I bow to your patience Dan.. your a wonderful son... I hope you know that
Dan you have my respect and admiration. Handled beautifully and with a gracious level of patience. The redirect finally stuck😊❤
It's those attorney skills that serve him very well in this circumstance. He knows how to project his voice in a courtroom and how to persuade people.
I think by watching your channel I'm preparing myself to deal with my mother. she just started showing signs of dementia and already I'm pulling my hair out. I can only pray to have the patience you have Dan.
I’d like to recommend a video series called Dementia Caregiver. She is a board certifies geropsychologist named Dr Natali Edmonds. She helped me though much of my time caring for mother and aunt both of whom had dementia. She is knowledgeable, understanding and kind in her videos. I learned so much from her.
Yes, praying to God to give me patience as well. My Mum has been diagnosed with depression and onset of dementia 😞
I'm so sorry! 😢
dementia is majorly caused by heavy metals in the brain..we all have them to some degree ..look into a safe gentle detox ..(from my research I'd suggest PBX zeolite detox spray)
also research how the right vitamins can make a difference .. don't just take your doctor's opinion on the matter.. .Research everything..
When I watch your dad I'm struck by the reoccurring themes. Which are for his family his kids his x wife his brothers and sisters. And the other things that are important in life your wallet your car keys excetera excetera are all the things that we would all be concern to keep track of especially if we had a lifetime of caring for others and being responsible for others. I'm glad you're there to reassure him that all is well and he has done his job. And he is with family.
Darlin Dan, you handled this as well as anyone could. This one brought me to absolute huge crocodile tears 😭.
What a wonderful family. Thanks for sharing your lives with us. ❤
Respect to you, sir for your amazing patience. I am almost 76 and hoping to have someone talk to me the way you do your dad when the time comes.
No matter the situation, Dan’s words always calm Granpa. And the way he looks at you Dan, is a search for reassurance and validation that all is well, and you always satisfy him. The love you both share is evident to us all and I can only wish you more grace of strength and vitality with our Granpa. Well done Dan. Many of us are learning from you! Thanks.
German Shepards are amazing dogs. Great protectors of their Family. Love that she's always near him.🧡😊
This was the most heartbreaking episode I've seen. But Dan you did a great job. I agree with others you have a lot of patience and compassion with your Dad.
Yeah? This one didn't seem nearly as touching as the ones where he's asking about his ex-wife or his brother that passed away years ago...
The most heartbreaking scene was when he was looking for his brother Bill who died many years ago. He went outside to look for him and was calling for him outside. It was so sad. You can tell it hurt Dan's heart.
He's always asking about his car though how is this any different than the rest of them
Dan, I love your patience with your dad..I love how he trusts you so much . I know it is tough but your doing an amazing job from what i see on these videos.
You are 💯 million times better than I think I could be. God sees your good deeds.❤
No matter how tough it gets, he still adapts every time and Dan still holds out patiently through every conversation. All those of us who have been through this know what that takes. Bless you.
Absolutely. It's certainly no easy ride. Not only having to listen to the repetitiveness but also to have to watch your loved one deteriorate in such a way. It happened to my mother so I feel for all of you.
Grandpa is so special, I'm glad he has you
As a nurse who talks to patients family on the phone on regular basis who have family members with dementia /Alzheimer’s who are going through something like this I always asked them to watch this channel and to share with other family members about this disease. Dan and family you all are doing great with grandpa. May God bless you all.
So great to see such a great son. He’s so cute. Has to be difficult. I love the dog staying by dad!!!
Thank you for taking amazing care of your father. He's a delight ❤
The walks, the animals n the daily recap adds to his stability also with the touch of family's...love.
Much love grandpa❤💯🇹🇹.
You handled it perfectly!! ❤
Even when he's frustrated, he is so polite. Pardon me, please, thank you, excuse me, just old school polite. Got the give his credit for still being reasonable.
Tell Doc I said I love him & he did a great job raising you guys. Now, Thank you 4 sharing. This is helping me through my loss of independence. I don't have dementia however I have been asked to surrender my keys due to a RX i'm on. Im only 50ish, so all I heard when they started talking abt my taking my keys was a monotone note.
dan? You don’t understand how much I love you for taking care of this special man you call your dad. I watch all your videos, it’s just so heartwarming. I was showing my dad these videos and it touched him too, I’m Scottish, my dads Irish. This hits home as my dad’s brother got dementia too. Thank you 🙏 💚
He must have worried about Mark at one point when you guys were young, even if he never vocalised it. It must be hard for Mark to hear him worry about him so often as well. It's a cruel disease. You guys are doing great ❤
Mark was in a bad mudslide when he was 19. It took him one year to recuperate - Ed and Joanne were emotionally impacted by it.
DAN I kinda think that even though you take care of Dad a lot, he really does not know who you are. He just thinks that you just take care of him like a nurse would
A very good nurse. Mary from Virginia.😢
@@marymercado5253 it's clear that Ed knows him a great deal of the time.
God has blessed you with a loving father and have now given you the talent of patience to deal with your father in his time of need. Dan, you are blessed to have Ed❤
You are amazing with how you deal with your dad. I know it's hard but thank all for sharing this 💜
Hi Dan, you are so sweet and loving with your father. God will bless you richly.
You did great Dan ❤
Dan your dad would be proud of the son he raised….. product of your upbringing, your parents influence and the way they raised you helped define the person you are. Keep leaning into it, love your channel and the perspective and awareness you bring to this disease. Stay strong.
Dan, so proud of you. I know this is difficult. (My dad passed almost 8 years ago) God bless you.
Grandpa ..you now have a butler.a driver .. a cook and a maid enjoy your lovely retirement you deserve all be blessed Ed..you are special
Dan has got the patience of a saint. I don't think that I could stay so calm when repeating things over and over again.
Imagine what happens behind closed doors
I cannot begin to imagine how Ed feels when he is this confused. It is sad to watch. Dan, you have so much strength to deal with it and then to post so we can learn from your family. It means a lot to those of us who are invested in your videos. Thank you for sharing your experience
I would cry . That's what I probably would do 😢
The patience Dan and Danielle have is INCREDIBLE ❤
Yeah, I remember going through this with my grandfather. It's a challenge. I helped take care of my grandfather that had Alzheimer's. They get obsessed with certain thoughts and it's hard to redirect sometimes when they are in a whole mood and a half. Sometimes something triggers them, sometimes nothing triggers them. You just never know. It's a neverending battle. Lol. Only way to ease their frustration is explain what's going on, where they are at, and why. That seemed to work for my grandfather just like it works for your dad!
Dan, you are an amazing son! You and your wife both do an amazing job at taking care of Pop! You do everything right which is the very reason he doesn't get agitated often! Keep up the good work! 👌👌👌
Beautifully handled! Had the same roundabout conversation with my beautiful dad, many times! I used to put large paper arrows on the floor so he knew the way to his room ❤
Good job staying calm and redirecting him. I know it takes a lot of patience and isn't always easy.
The dog is very smart and sweet and knows to watch over grandpa…
Sometimes dogs do the same thing with children ❤
Love this channel. Warms my heart. Real family ❤
No matter how confused he gets, he's still always so polite. This man is a treasure
So much love and respect for your dad and for you and your family!!! You dad reminds me of some of the characteristics of Presindent Ronald Reagan. I remember reading some stories about him later in life after he was diagnosed with Alzheimers disease.
Your dad's kindness and class shine through. The mighty human spirit is powerful!!!
May heaven bless you all!!! ❤
It's the way you keep calling him 'Dad' for me ❤
Absolutely beautiful to the ear!
No matter how many tricks his memory plays, Grandpa ALWAYS remains a loving father! It really is ingrained in his DNA. Thank you, Dan, for being so patient and loving with him! He really deserves to have the best care there is! And the way you are is definitely thanks to your Mum and Dad! They've done an amazing job! Really exemplary! ❤❤❤❤❤
I'm always touched by the empathy you demonstrate towards him in that it must be so frustrating to be in his shoes. But you reassure him and calm his fears. But nobody infantalizes him either ❤
Your way with Dad is incredible, Dan! Much admiration to you! And I've gotta say Koda seems to be increasing her watch on Dad. She's always kept an eye out, but it seems like she's more on duty in the last few weeks. Maybe she's worried because the floors being done?
And I have to mention to everyone that this can't be easy on Dan's wife either or his son. They deserve credit too for Grandpa's well being. God love each and everyone of you.
Your patience with your Dad is so beautiful and exemplary ❤
I can’t get over your wonderful patience. It would drive me nuts
So difficult but very sweet . Family is everything and just thanks.
How patient and gentle you are with your father is amazing! Thank you for being you❤ Mad respect!
Dan. God will bless you for all this.
Tough moments Dan, but you manage well. I know it’s tough, challenging and at times can be overwhelming, but you handle these times with love, mercy and grace. God bless you and Danielle and the family. I pray for your continued strength.
I can't imagine what it would be like to have to learn for the first time every day that I don't have a car, a driver's license or a house anymore. To have to relearn every single day where I live, that my brother is now dead, etc. etc. The emotions of it must be so difficult for him and yet he always stays sweet, respectful and tries to be helpful. What an amazing man he is.
From this interaction, you can see what a good man your father is and how that definitely got passed on to you. Wish everyone had as much patience with those with memory issues.💕
I have 2 things to say. 1) Dan you're such a patient and loving son.
2) I want to just hug your Dad.
Hugs may not bring all he's looking for, but it's soothing sometimes. 💖
So sweet!! From what I understand is that gpa isn't a hugger and doesn't really enjoy it lol
They're not touchy feely. I don't think Grandpa would welcome it. They are very loving but not physically affectionate. They were/ are a family of mostly sons/ men after all
Ok, thanks everyone, but I guess my heart just goes out to him. That's all.
@@camillebanks3676 Oh I agree... My dad's family is that way My moms is totally the opposite lol We give a hug and kiss to everyone before leaving so I get it sweetheart
Koko is a special dog and an extra comfort for you to know such a loyal protective family member like Koko is watching your Dad.
From my personal experience with my Mom, it's predictable the work on the floors that has a to be done creates extra confusion for your Dad. I'm looking forward to see how your Dad transitions from the removal of this stress after the work is complete.
You are so patient and kind. My Dad had dementia also but was still the kind wonderful man he had always been. You Dad is so adorable and so very lucky he has you guys to take care of him.
Wow… what patience!!!💯👍❤️Respect
Your doing a phenomenal job caring for your beloved father.
I know it gets frustrating at times.
When that happens try to put yourself in his place of confusion.
Then you will have more patience.
May God Bless You and Yours for being so kind and caring.
in Jesus name. Amen
Dan, this broke my heart. Thank you so much for sharing him with us. And for bringing awareness. And thank you and Danielle for being so patient with him. He is such a wonderful soul and he gets to stay at time with his family, which is best. This was a tough one to watch....
Dogs know their job! You and Danielle are great examples of patience and compassion ❤
"I know dang well I drove to the grocery store yesterday." Such a relentless disesase. Bless you all.
You're a good son Dan. God bless you, and your father!!
Dan, please know you are helping so many people that are faced with this same problem. These are great lessons on lovingly helping your loved one with patience and care. I am sure it's hard on your dad trying to figure things out and the way you and the family patiently help him is a gift from God. Keep up the great work, others are praying with you for your dad and also strength for you and the family.