The complete lack of empathy and any emotion whatsoever other than anger is truly disturbing and seemingly inhuman. Narcissists would be better off dating robots
I offered my narc to marry a dog. Because a dog always is loyal, loving, caring, is always happy to see you, always wants to be with you, never complains, etc. A dog is seriously the best partner for their impossible needs
@Rocky Balboa exactly my thoughts, they don't know how to put the work in so how they gonna get love back lol I've recently got a puppy for my family and it's been so cathartic , I don't think he will ever try hoover me again to be honest, I've made it very clear what I think of him but if he does ill be ready with the fact that I get more love from my dog than I ever have from him ,
So true every word. This is what happened to me after 36 years together. As soon as i figured out everything that was happening in our relationship. Education is the key here. I was able to see everything for what it was really about. I could see the discard coming. 36 years wasted on a false pretence. It was never real all the years.
I offered my narc to marry a dog. Because a dog always is loyal, loving, caring, is always happy to see you, always wants to be with you, never complains, always listens, follows you everywhere, etc. A dog is seriously the best partner for their impossible needs
I wouldn't wish that on any animal. Long story, but he (covert narc) took our lab and lost her only 11 weeks after he move out. I got her back from a good samaritan that found her terrified on the highway. I told the ex narc when he took her that it wasn't about us but the dog as she is/was very loving. Well, he came to take her back after I told him I found her ( he raged at me about it as if it were my fault), she didn't want to go with him, but we got her together for him as at that time I thought he had ptsd, not npd. I really miss her (the dog that is) as his only goal was to use her as a pond and a way of hurting/ punishing me for any slight percieved offensive..well by now I'm sure you know what I mean. I haven't seen/ heard from either of them in almost 3 years now. I miss the dog, but have lost hope for her. He on the other hand he eternally hopeless and yes they (narcs) treat pets as supply as well. Sickening to say the least.
@@resilient8788 That is a sad story. I feel sorry for you and for the dog as well. Narcs have this “talent” to hurt others in multiple ways. First I also thought that my narc had ptsd. At least the second therapist told us that but I didnt believe him. My narc manipulated him telling how awfull her childhood was and he spoke to her only two times. After that we went to the third and last therapist. And when the truth slowly came out she didn’t wanted to continue the therapy. And we the victims all have our long stories. No day goes by without all these thoughts going through our minds processing somehow all the damage of the relationship. A relationship with a narc and to end it has a big impact on many aspects of life if not all. And the narc? They move on as if nothing ever happened.
@@chocolatecookie8571 Yes they do, and in his case the lies/ deception may die with him. I found out that he now has stage 4 cancer. There was a time that I was misdiagnosed with cancer while he was still living with me. When I told him, his immediate response with that stone cold glare was, " I suppose you're going to blame that on me too (too) being the gaslighting term). It's been 2.5+ years now no contact and he still somewhat haunts my mind as if the dog thing wasn't bad enough. He told everyone on his Facebook page before I blocked him and his new target that " someone stole his therapy dog" ( victim role play). Me to him before he took the dog, "please, fix the huge gap in the fence I asked you to fix". Nobody tells him what to do...ugg. He's an idiot, he wrote in his dwi program book ( oh ya, I got the double whammy there thinking he would change) that his biggest trigger was stupid people. Lol They put on such a false public image, but yet behind closed doors it's hell. I filed to have him evicted from my home and his squatter self still stayed 5 more months. He took advantage of the backlogs in the court system due to covid. Filing to evict him cost me a lot of money and apparently squatters have rights ( we weren't married thankfully). I guess others will believe what they want to believe even if they hear the truth. Still, I wish he would expose himself to others we both know for the monster he truly is. He premeditatedly smear campaigned me to the point that I was like, where did you even come up with that crap? I guess he needed to do what he does best to groom his current supply and others as how to and not to treat him. Their paroniod delusional minds run a muck as they (Narcs) live their entire lives as a lie, I guess that's their karma. I know that may sound horrible, but like I said, it all still somewhere torments my mind, all the reactive abuse, envy, blatant disrespect, projection, blame shifting, laziness where nothing was ever enough, withholding of money, affection, his self soothing with heavy drinking, cheating, job hopping, etc... Still, I have grown from that season in my life. I'm more self aware/ reflective, feel like I now have a PhD in narcissist abuse recovery (lol) , trusting of my instincts and stand up to my boundaries much more often. Forever changed. Sometimes we have to go through the fire to recieve what was meant for us to have down the road ( better) had we not gone through it, if that makes any sense. That's what I choose to believe anyway. We are victors not victims! Not everyone deserves a seat at my table of life and I'm okay with that as peace trumps drama any day. Thanks for sharing and listening.
Before our divorce I wanted to know why he kept lying to me. Answer: Apparently I was not worth telling the truth to. I also wanted to know why he kept calling me a b*tch and a c*nt. Answer: Because, apparently, I am a b*tch and a c*nt. The absolute contempt that a narc has for his target is completely mind-blowing.
I love ur content on my recovery from my ex husband. My therapist confirmed for me that based off everything I’ve described about my experience thus far, my husband has all of the traits & I knew it. I have audios where all he does is guilt trip & turn blame on me
Post separation abuse, lol, its not enough they fuked with you 24/7 every moment you were with you, BUT they wanna throw you off balance at your new safe place as well.
He kept blaming me for being too negative whenever I brought up an issue I had, or said that I had a profound need for validation forgetting/ignoring that I'm training to be counsellor, lol and said to me "you're the one that opened your legs" during the 9 months we were in no contact, There are selfish neglectful people, their hearts are black holes that will bleed you dry.
What a vulgar thing to hear. Remember that comment came from a hurting person as hurting people hurt people ( not that that makes it okay or gives the pursuer a cart blanch pass to abuse. So sorry that you had to hear that. Take what he meant for bad and apply it to good. There are not enough needed connslers out there at this point that understand narcissist abuse. Many go to counseling to seek help and end up getting misunderstood and just feel more victimized / helpless. Hope you have a great day. Enjoy your holidays narc free as they have a tendency of ruining every special occasion and holiday imaginable...ugg. No longer your drama! We are victors not victims, whereas they never chage, grow or self reflect, but live their entire lives as a lie. There's their karma as that must truly suck.
Exactly， everything disappeared, it's a crime. He wants you to have ZERO. It doesn't matter that he got so much out of you, he still wants to destroy you. He actually told me to jump. He is a criminal and will face God one day.
Get a good lawyer if your ex tries the "quit my job so I can cry poverty" method of avoiding alimony and child support. Every state has standards that would impute his/her income at their historical earnings. Voluntary unemployment or underemployment is not a satisfactory reason to pay lower/no support. Don't go blind into a divorce with a narc!
Thank you. 😊 he's trying bc he's so superior to others, he thinks he can manipulate the system. Foolish. Got fired from a 191k job, after 20+ years. Playing victim and blaming ME for getting fired. Dumbass.
Mine started a fight with me yesterday on Christmas and tells me I have a anger problem but did he forget what he was saying to me to get that reaction and has to the nerve to call me crazy and all his exes are crazy as well no he is crazy
I have a question - on the one hand you (and other self-aware narcissists) describe all of these behaviors like they are premeditated and always ALWAYS meant to get them somewhere or get something for them from other people. On the other hand - you (and other self-aware narcissists) say that you have no idea that you do all of that. So here comes the question: HOW IS IT EVEN POSSIBLE NOT TO KNOW THAT YOU'RE DOING ALL OF THIS IF IT REQUIRES SO MUCH PLANNING AND PREMEDITATED ACTION? How?
The complete lack of empathy and any emotion whatsoever other than anger is truly disturbing and seemingly inhuman. Narcissists would be better off dating robots
I offered my narc to marry a dog. Because a dog always is loyal, loving, caring, is always happy to see you, always wants to be with you, never complains, etc.
A dog is seriously the best partner for their impossible needs
@@chocolatecookie8571ut they’d be too lazy to even take care of the dog and its needs. They’d view it as an inconvenience
@Rocky Balboa exactly my thoughts, they don't know how to put the work in so how they gonna get love back lol
I've recently got a puppy for my family and it's been so cathartic , I don't think he will ever try hoover me again to be honest, I've made it very clear what I think of him but if he does ill be ready with the fact that I get more love from my dog than I ever have from him ,
Haha definitely robots would be best, or even a blow up doll as they can't answer back xxx
Well Said.
So true every word.
This is what happened to me after 36 years together.
As soon as i figured out everything that was happening in our relationship.
Education is the key here.
I was able to see everything for what it was really about.
I could see the discard coming.
36 years wasted on a false pretence.
It was never real all the years.
He said “why does everyone always leave.” I found that comment so odd…does he not know why???
I offered my narc to marry a dog. Because a dog always is loyal, loving, caring, is always happy to see you, always wants to be with you, never complains, always listens, follows you everywhere, etc.
A dog is seriously the best partner for their impossible needs
LOL
Yeah, but who will bring negativity after?
I wouldn't wish that on any animal. Long story, but he (covert narc) took our lab and lost her only 11 weeks after he move out. I got her back from a good samaritan that found her terrified on the highway. I told the ex narc when he took her that it wasn't about us but the dog as she is/was very loving. Well, he came to take her back after I told him I found her ( he raged at me about it as if it were my fault), she didn't want to go with him, but we got her together for him as at that time I thought he had ptsd, not npd. I really miss her (the dog that is) as his only goal was to use her as a pond and a way of hurting/ punishing me for any slight percieved offensive..well by now I'm sure you know what I mean. I haven't seen/ heard from either of them in almost 3 years now. I miss the dog, but have lost hope for her. He on the other hand he eternally hopeless and yes they (narcs) treat pets as supply as well. Sickening to say the least.
@@resilient8788 That is a sad story. I feel sorry for you and for the dog as well. Narcs have this “talent” to hurt others in multiple ways.
First I also thought that my narc had ptsd. At least the second therapist told us that but I didnt believe him. My narc manipulated him telling how awfull her childhood was and he spoke to her only two times. After that we went to the third and last therapist. And when the truth slowly came out she didn’t wanted to continue the therapy.
And we the victims all have our long stories. No day goes by without all these thoughts going through our minds processing somehow all the damage of the relationship. A relationship with a narc and to end it has a big impact on many aspects of life if not all. And the narc? They move on as if nothing ever happened.
@@chocolatecookie8571 Yes they do, and in his case the lies/ deception may die with him. I found out that he now has stage 4 cancer.
There was a time that I was misdiagnosed with cancer while he was still living with me. When I told him, his immediate response with that stone cold glare was, " I suppose you're going to blame that on me too (too) being the gaslighting term).
It's been 2.5+ years now no contact and he still somewhat haunts my mind as if the dog thing wasn't bad enough. He told everyone on his Facebook page before I blocked him and his new target that " someone stole his therapy dog" ( victim role play). Me to him before he took the dog, "please, fix the huge gap in the fence I asked you to fix". Nobody tells him what to do...ugg. He's an idiot, he wrote in his dwi program book ( oh ya, I got the double whammy there thinking he would change) that his biggest trigger was stupid people. Lol
They put on such a false public image, but yet behind closed doors it's hell. I filed to have him evicted from my home and his squatter self still stayed 5 more months. He took advantage of the backlogs in the court system due to covid. Filing to evict him cost me a lot of money and apparently squatters have rights ( we weren't married thankfully).
I guess others will believe what they want to believe even if they hear the truth. Still, I wish he would expose himself to others we both know for the monster he truly is. He premeditatedly smear campaigned me to the point that I was like, where did you even come up with that crap?
I guess he needed to do what he does best to groom his current supply and others as how to and not to treat him. Their paroniod delusional minds run a muck as they (Narcs) live their entire lives as a lie, I guess that's their karma. I know that may sound horrible, but like I said, it all still somewhere torments my mind, all the reactive abuse, envy, blatant disrespect, projection, blame shifting, laziness where nothing was ever enough, withholding of money, affection, his self soothing with heavy drinking, cheating, job hopping, etc...
Still, I have grown from that season in my life. I'm more self aware/ reflective, feel like I now have a PhD in narcissist abuse recovery (lol) , trusting of my instincts and stand up to my boundaries much more often. Forever changed. Sometimes we have to go through the fire to recieve what was meant for us to have down the road ( better) had we not gone through it, if that makes any sense. That's what I choose to believe anyway. We are victors not victims!
Not everyone deserves a seat at my table of life and I'm okay with that as peace trumps drama any day.
Thanks for sharing and listening.
Before our divorce I wanted to know why he kept lying to me. Answer: Apparently I was not worth telling the truth to. I also wanted to know why he kept calling me a b*tch and a c*nt. Answer: Because, apparently, I am a b*tch and a c*nt. The absolute contempt that a narc has for his target is completely mind-blowing.
I love ur content on my recovery from my ex husband. My therapist confirmed for me that based off everything I’ve described about my experience thus far, my husband has all of the traits & I knew it. I have audios where all he does is guilt trip & turn blame on me
I literally had a visceral response to this video. He has done EXACTLY EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THESE "TRICKS"!! gag worthy
I was going to say the exact same thing.
Lol when they assign the job to you of being there for them as their friend again like they're entitled to access to you however they dictate
THIS!!!!💣💥💯
Post separation abuse, lol, its not enough they fuked with you 24/7 every moment you were with you, BUT they wanna throw you off balance at your new safe place as well.
Abuse recovery ua-cam.com/video/4yZBXOYEoq0/v-deo.html :D
He kept blaming me for being too negative whenever I brought up an issue I had, or said that I had a profound need for validation forgetting/ignoring that I'm training to be counsellor, lol and said to me "you're the one that opened your legs" during the 9 months we were in no contact,
There are selfish neglectful people, their hearts are black holes that will bleed you dry.
Narcs will blame you for everything ua-cam.com/video/nCgGLadvIYI/v-deo.html here's a video about it
What a vulgar thing to hear.
Remember that comment came from a hurting person as hurting people hurt people ( not that that makes it okay or gives the pursuer a cart blanch pass to abuse.
So sorry that you had to hear that. Take what he meant for bad and apply it to good.
There are not enough needed connslers out there at this point that understand narcissist abuse. Many go to counseling to seek help and end up getting misunderstood and just feel more victimized / helpless.
Hope you have a great day. Enjoy your holidays narc free as they have a tendency of ruining every special occasion and holiday imaginable...ugg.
No longer your drama!
We are victors not victims, whereas they never chage, grow or self reflect, but live their entire lives as a lie.
There's their karma as that must truly suck.
They always say where negative but they are negative.
Hahaha. He isolated me so much. Who can he go smear campaign against me? I'll be divorced soon, whatever Mr narc
Exactly， everything disappeared, it's a crime. He wants you to have ZERO. It doesn't matter that he got so much out of you, he still wants to destroy you. He actually told me to jump. He is a criminal and will face God one day.
Get a good lawyer if your ex tries the "quit my job so I can cry poverty" method of avoiding alimony and child support. Every state has standards that would impute his/her income at their historical earnings. Voluntary unemployment or underemployment is not a satisfactory reason to pay lower/no support. Don't go blind into a divorce with a narc!
Thank you. 😊 he's trying bc he's so superior to others, he thinks he can manipulate the system. Foolish. Got fired from a 191k job, after 20+ years. Playing victim and blaming ME for getting fired. Dumbass.
Mine started a fight with me yesterday on Christmas and tells me I have a anger problem but did he forget what he was saying to me to get that reaction and has to the nerve to call me crazy and all his exes are crazy as well no he is crazy
The Projection is unbelievable isn’t it?? Truly mind blowing when ur accused of everything they do!! 🙄🙄
I felt all of these that you talked about before and still am hearing and seeing all of this stuff after we've been split up.
I have a question - on the one hand you (and other self-aware narcissists) describe all of these behaviors like they are premeditated and always ALWAYS meant to get them somewhere or get something for them from other people. On the other hand - you (and other self-aware narcissists) say that you have no idea that you do all of that. So here comes the question: HOW IS IT EVEN POSSIBLE NOT TO KNOW THAT YOU'RE DOING ALL OF THIS IF IT REQUIRES SO MUCH PLANNING AND PREMEDITATED ACTION? How?
is there a way to play this so leaving won't play into his martyrdom narrative?
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Dam what the hell doesn't come out😂