I miss when body positivity was focused on disabled people. I feel like disabled people are getting stepped over once again to make way for middle class fat (usually) white women who want to force people to be attracted to them. I feel like some of the loudest voices in that community now are the most insecure.
Would you by chance know any group of body positivity who focus more over disability? As a chronically ill person I'm looking for place to exchange more on that matter 😅
@@aelysdromard516 I don't know a community per se, but there are many disabled or chronically ill creators on youtube who have a positive outlook on life and on themself. Regardless of what illness or disability they have specifically, I enjoy seeing their outlook on things and sometimes I even get ideas on how to make my life easier or more fun
Specially strech marks, i would never take ouy my shorts on the beach because i was so mortify by my bum that is full or stretch marks, now that i see it more often in social media, i can walk around in my bikini without feeling like shit
It can be really revealing! You never realize how uneven some people's bodies are if they only show usually their top half which looks the same as airbrushed underwear models. Seeing that the bottom doesn't necessarily look that way at all can give you a whole new perspective and ways of appreciating bodies, whether your own or others. To be a little blunt, we all know what what a body with large amounts fat all over looks like because you can see that through the clothes. Insecure thin people can and do cover up effectively.
I am one of these people- i have strech marks on my hips and on the inner side of my knees (yk..english isn't my Main language) and i kinda have dipped hips
@clowncarfire thank you! I sometimes really forget stuff or don't know how to describe them so i just write down what comes to my mind but thank you for telling me that
I mean, she did say that she was a past theatre nerd. . . Is it bad if i roll being able to perform theatrically and being able to sing together? Maybe it’s something about stage presence, I don’t know
Matt Mon yes well as someone who went to a school focused on performing arts, I can without a doubt tell you that most theatre kids really can’t sing. There’s quite a difference between theatre and broadway.
I’m obese and black but trying to lose weight not just for appearances but a longer and better life. Will I be skinny, maybe not but I want to be able to be active and not out of breathe. I’ve lost a lot of weight and proud of my process.
Keep going! My own process had stops and starts, lulls and then finally it was just my life. These videos continue to inspire me. No bs (and I don't mean the no bs a la that whitney thor woman lol!)
My sister has pcos and autism. She was having a hard time losing weight but when Pokémon go came out she had a reason to start walking around and slowly started spending more and more time outside playing and has now lost over 60 pounds and maintained her current weight since. It took a long time but she put in the work (also started working on her diet) and she managed to get down to a healthy weight and it even helped her menstrual cycle
I'm also autistic, and something literally nobody talks about is how we (autistic folks) are disproportionately financially preyed upon by HAES influencers. Many of us struggle to decode when someone is lying to us, we often have a deep intrinsic passion for social equity/justice, and have often co-occurring conditions that impact our hunger cues (such as interoceptive awareness dysfunction) making it very challenging to maintain normal eating habits or maintain a healthy weight. IMO, HAES influencers know we are "easily manipulated," and rely on vulnerable populations like us to fatten their pockets. Props to your sister for taking charge of her health - many of us autistic women especially suffer from varieties of eating disorders. I'm really happy to hear that she is doing well.
As a person of colour who has suffered from different forms of eating disorders (anorexia, buliam and now EDNOS) since I was 8, I would just like to say that eating disorders are more mental than it is physical. I have met too many people who were on both ends of the weight spectrum, very fat and very skinny, with eating disorders and they were never once happy with the way they looked. This woman is extremely offensive and have absolutely NO knowledge about eating disorders. Body positivity is for everyone.
It's called trying to find excuses to be fat and lazy. People will say "I have an eating disorder" and don't have one, and give those who do have one... a bad light..
I wouldn't say that most people are making up an eating disorder as excuse to be fat and lazy. Michelle has shown posts from Fat Activists acting food addiction coaches because they don't believe food addictions or food disordered eating (for surplus amounts) exists. Most people probably don't even realize their weight could stem from deeper issues than just over eating. Family food culture exists too. If your whole family is overweight, because your parents always ordered take out, never set portion limits, etc, it would be very easy for someone to grow up and think "oh, I can't lose weight. My family is just built like this". I'm not trying to excuse anything, just that morbid obesity can be a physical battle and a mental one too. Imo, it's importantly to discuss both issues so that we can better support someone on the road to get healthier (:
I always had a "model" type body, though I'm really short and ate a lot (always been very active), I never felt like a real "woman" kinda thing. I was however a self harmer for many many years. When I started getting help and explaining it to my family members I explained it a lot like a eatting disorder because both have to do with controlling something in your life. I also believe if I did have a weight issue I very well coulda had a ED instead.
6:55 As a physically disabled person that almost made me laugh. I suffer from cerebral palsy. The entire right side of my body has trouble sending signals from the brain to my muscles( my right calf muscle is nonexistent because of this) , bones in my pelvic area are fused together, my right leg is about two inches shorter than my left, my right foot is a full shoe size smaller than the left, even the muscles on the right side of my face have a hard time keeping up with the left. I admit a look pretty normal for the most part if people don't notice how I walk and if they do there's always the "Oh why are you limping! Did you get hurt?" comment , then I explain. I've yet to finding anyone on social media that looks like me and I'm ok with that because everyone with cp or any other disability looks different. What I'm not doing is demanding others post pictures of me because "beauty standards". I've had a very hard time with my body do to people like this because it reminds me that body positivity wasn't made for me and I just think that's kind of sad. It makes me feel worst as I'm also a cosplayer (love you Michelle) and struggle with my costumes as I need glasses and struggle walking in certain shoes. So I feel like I don't belong in the community. There needs to be more representation of just bodies period. Everyone, your body and you are valid. Just try your best to stay healthy and work with what you got. Rant over lol.
@hanna smith The body positive movement WAS made for YOU. Before it was taken over by haes and fa the ORIGINAL idea was for people with impairments or differences caused by illness, disability, accidents etc so amputees, birthmarks, burns, scars and stretchmarks. Things that could NOT be changed.
Body positivity was originally for people with physical impairments like yours, burn victims, genetic disorders, amputees etc until fat people took over the term. Now people only think of fat when anyone mentions body positivity. It's so wrong that they hijacked the term.
I dont understand how these fat positive "activists" out of everyone, pick John as a target. He's the sweetest and most respectful person out there like what exactly is there to attack on???? Lol
When I was overweight, I used the "black-women-should-be-curvy" slogan to justify my poor eating choices. Most of the minority women at my church complemented my new curves. However, I knew what I was doing to myself was wrong and nothing to flaunt. I lost almost 30 lbs, and feel great.
I feel that. it's like I used to be underweight, but now I understand that I need to focus on myself instead on how others view me. I've gained 10 healthy pounds and feel better than ever☺️
I'm not black myself, but I can imagine how harmful that idea must be to black women!! Partly the whole encouragement of being overweight of course, but also just in general regardless of size. A black woman who, regardless of weight, has a small butt or small hips or a flat chest must feel EXTRA bad because as a black woman she's "supposed" to be curvy (especially the butt, or at least that's the impression I've gotten as an outsider).
@@KreeZafi You made an excellent point! I felt insecure about my own body when I was overweight. I used a stereotype as a pacifier and could have offended someone. Now I exercise and make better diet choices. I still enjoy sweet and/or fatty foods, but my experience changed me physically and emotionally for the better.
@@Miscellaneous_master they are not land whales, they are human beeings with feelings, you really shouldn't make fun of people just because they are obese, otherwise you are no better than people like Rachel (was that her name?)
I am starting to think that there’s nothing Michelle can’t do she is just amazing does vocals had me shook 💕😊 also I am offended by the fact that you look so good in everything
thank you for mentioning burn victims!! honestly hearing her saying body positivity was only for obese women of colour INFURIATES me because i have severe scarring all over my body from a burns fire, but i’m white and also work out and take care of my body and am not fat. i definitely don’t fit normal beauty standards but that doesn’t mean i shouldn’t be allowed to identify with body positivity.
maybe she believes if she would be thin then she would be happy. and therefore everyone else should be happy if they are not fat. or she is delusional 🤷🏼♀️
She reminds me of that one weird kid in class who would always cry when they would lose at board games. She's the reason why my generation is called "the gold star" generation.
I am knock-kneed/pidgeon-toed (my knees point inward when my feet are parallel to each other), I've got hip dips, wonky teeth due to a genetic issue where my adult teeth came in around my baby teeth, and very fine hair that looks almost translucent in the light, making it appear as if I'm losing my hair. I spent years hating how I looked. But you know what? I wouldn't change how I look for the world. Oh wait... I guess I'm not allowed to embrace my imperfections because I have "thin privilege."
inglorious_Machina unfortunately i changed the way i walk because of crippling body dysmorphia 🤘😞🤘 but apparently thats fine because im thin so hating myself is expected
Thing is, I used to love body positivity because as a trans person, I worked hard to build a strong bond with my body and one way I did that was sculpting my body by working out and decorating my body through ink. Then in 2018 I went through hell with a massive infection that stripped me of all my new gains and brought me back to 0. I busted my ass to bounce back stronger and bigger (muscle mass wise). When I date, men tend to use me as fetish toy due to my transition and my body being ambiguous... so anyways, I thought as a nonconforming person body wise I could have community in body positivity but NOPE... since I am in fitness and "thin" (which I hate that word because it erases all my hard work at the gym), apparently I am the devil to them... especially since I look white due to my European heritage (but I am mix). Uhg. But now I found a true community through youtubers like Michelle, Swolenormous, Allan Roberts etc. Body positivity used to be about overcoming obstacles with your body and owning your body... now it purely celebrates obesity, something one can do things to improve it but choose not too... wtf.
And I’ve literally felt “left out” my whole LIFE as a skinny girl with lack of ass, heavier people who whine about how bad they’re treated really kill me bc for the most part NOBODYS naturally “perfect” and we all got something about us we can get talked down on for, so to be like “ like my body small bodies are accepted 😫” is selfish anddd ignorant ☺️
Yeah, I’ve always been made fun of for having a “flat ass” my butt got larger when I started working out, but I’ve been shamed a lot, even my by own mom for having such a “small ass” I have been called “wisdom tooth” so much. One guy straight up told me he thought I was gorgeous “until I turned around.” Also been told that I should have breast reduction surgery and take the fat from there and inject into my ass. I’m hella insecure about my butt still, but the body positive movement wants us to get out of “their space.” SMH
@@Raine-97 okay well fun fact about what that guy told you, bbls are one of the most dangerous plastic surgery procedures even to this day soooo... He's just ignorant and sexually frustrated
@@BonnieGruesome It’ll never happen, it’s human nature, we won’t undo billions of years of evolution. The best we can do is become comfortable with not being the best of the best
@@estebanslavidastic4382 I’m now an extra 10 pounds after having 3rd child & my body’s portions are definitely coke bottle now. When I was younger I was skin and bones (30 pounds less than I am now m, same height),I suppose I grew into my body “grown woman” body & shouldn’t have been worried about my hips being wider to begin with. We always want what we can’t have until we get it then it’s like…I wasn’t even missing out honestly.( I’m considerably classy so it’s not like people are getting to see these changes in my body fr anyway lol) I’ve also have been consistently working out 2x a week & getting my protein in to keep my back side as a like it👌🏽 lol
YES! The body positivity is very UN-positive, even to plus sized people? People only seem to uplift the hourglasses and pear shapes and the rest get so much hate (only 8% of women have hourglass) And how Meghan Trainor's song All About That Bass is problematic? And these associations of thinness with lack of curves and fatness with more curves And the subsequent association of thinness with being juvenile. I'm shocked at how far Tess Holliday has because people only seem to like insufficient people with hourglass or pear shape
Obese black woman here, currently 16.5 pounds down and counting since lockdown began. Just wanted to tell you how much I love your videos. You tell it like it is without being disrespectful and hurtful and I can't tell you how much of a breath of fresh air that is to me. Also love it when you do cosplay!!
The fat positivity movement is a result of our “participation prize” culture that coddles and rewards everyone, rather than just those who worked hardest and came out on top. They wanna feel special without having achieved anything and be coddled the way they are so they have no motivation to change or try harder 🤷🏼♀️
Things people in the body positivity movement have said that “disqualify” me from being body positive: - I’m not fat enough - I’m losing weight - I frequently Exercise - I’m white - Sometimes I struggle with my insecurities
This whole thing reminded me of the time I was kicked out from a FB Bodypositivity group because I was, quote, "a small fat" and the "infinifats" were being triggered by me being "thin passing". There's a whole circus going on with these terms within these communities, you should make a video on that! Btw thanks for all the funny videos, I watch them while I workout and it makes the whole experience less traumatic 😅
ok yes! I had a post rejected from a 'body posotive' facebook group where I was talking about body confidence and had pictures of myself in the post. A lot of other women were posting pictures of themselves in lingerie etc and we were all hyping each other up. I had a photo of myself in a bikini and it got rejected and I got feedback that it would trigger others. I was so confused, how do you call your self body posotive and reject someone when they ask for body confidence advice because their body is thin passing? like how are you not triggered by everyday people walking outside who are thin.
These groups sound like they need to be called horrible things because they deserve it. Their actions show they hate themselves and are ashamed of themselves so have to put down everyone around them just so they can feel better. Disgusting
this really is confusing me it's like you can only be obese to be body positive what about people who are thin but struggle with eating disorders where is the love for them if your going to accept people accept them if not just go ahead and continue to make fat your personality trait
haha yes! I'm an XL and have a hard time with some clothes and my bf is an extra small. I think at times he has a harder time. the one day he was like..uh..how do you feel that some clothes I fit into are kids clothes? lol. it's just how he is made. people just come in different sizes and that's ok. i do agree that overall health is important. I also think it's sad to put such emphasis on bodies outside of being healthy.
Not to mention they usually run out very quickly of that size. Whenever I go shopping it’s always sold out of my size. I’m disabled in a wheelchair so my size is really small since I have no muscles basically and the medicine makes it hard to gain weight so I have to often get the smallest size jeans but they’re always out of them I have to order online and most the time they won’t fit at all. I have scars and a horrible self body image and yet I don’t have a place in the body positivity movement. I was literally told “this isn’t the place for you” when I tried joining a Facebook group
I literally can never find pants that fit my waist because my waist is xxs/xs but my hips are M. So I always wear altered pants. Edit: Or skirts. mostly dresses and skirts.
ShutUpAeryn I commented on one of those posts saying “Torrid doesn’t have small sizes so they aren’t size inclusive” and they were like “it’s not the same thing” 🙄
Can I just say during a time where the ideal is slim thicc and big butts and boobs how self conscious flatter girls feel? Like body positivity should be for everyone because skinny girls are not seen as ideal either anymore.
Personally I like both. Curvy, thin, fit.. all are equally beautiful. I don't think lack of curves makes you less sexy, there are a lot of thin wen I find very attractive as well as fit and curvy women I find very attractive. I wish the world wasn't under the impression that there is only one body type at a time that is "in". So many times I've heard thin women get ridiculed being told they're "not real women" or "need to eat more" it's disgusting and so far from the truth.
I think people have to realise that there's someone for everyone. Like, fashion and trends come and go. People are attracted to all sorts of different things and we shouldn't try to please anyone but ourselves. Work with your strengths, work towards what you enjoy, because confidence is the sexiest thing, and just be you. In the end personality and mind trumps body
I’m thin but I still have always gotten shit for being insecure about my body. We grew up in a generation that is obsessed with big boobs and a butt, a flat tummy, tan skin, and no cellulite. So honestly it’s great seeing any and all body types online. It makes us adults who were unable to love their bodies as kids feel a lot better
A girl I knew in high school got crap for it too - people sometimes asked her if she was anorexic or if she ever ate. 😐 She was just someone who happened to have a jackrabbit metabolism.
@@rachelh9550 same. Kids would ask if I had an eating disorder. Actually a girl who didn’t like me started a rumor that she caught me throwing up in the bathroom after lunch. That shit was traumatizing
I’m just gonna say it - most of the obese people in the “body positive” movement just want to not feel guilty for being fat. That’s it. They want affirmation that being totally irresponsible with their health and eating habits is ok. It's like wanting praise for being lazy. XD
@Gbria Taylor I don't. :P I'm an ex-obese person, and I hate people who fat-shame. But I also know why this ideology appealed to me at the time. I was lazy and ignorant, and thought that my weight was due to bad genetics. While genetics does have something to do with it, I still had some say in the matter. I'll probably never be slim-slim due to my frame and issues, but I'm at least healthy, and that's all I care about. Some people probably don't realize that they're in control more than they think. Also, lots of people probably don't realize just how miserable their life will be if they don't get their weight in check. It's not about beauty, it's about health. I think of my overweight friends just as I do a friend who smokes. Meaning I still love them, I still think they're awesome and beautiful, etc. but I worry for their health, and really wish they'd wake up and realize their habits are killing them. So if there's a group over here telling those people whom I care about that naaah, they're fine. It's not their fault, and being 300 lbs is totally ok with zero negatives whatsoever, then ... yeah, I have a problem with that. The fat-positive movement is literally promoting death in that sense.
@Gbria Taylor I'll add, too, that I do actually agree with the fat acceptance people on the shaming front. No one should be made to feel inferior because of the way they look, and I fully agree that overweight people can still be pretty. So if they'd stop it there, I could get on board. But when they spout things like "Health at every size," it makes me angry, because it's a very dangerous lie they're telling people.
@Gbria Taylor The problem is that quite a few people in that movement think that even doctors are "fat phobic" if they bring up the patient's weight. There have been several articles of women demanding the choice to not be weighed, etc. Like I said, the "health at every size" part of it is the part most people following this channel take issue with, and the part I'm generalizing. But yeah, I agree people shouldn't throw personal insults for no reason. People are cruel and that sucks.
Body Positivity: *exists* People who are muscular, disabled, have birthmarks, skin discoloration, etc: I want to join! Fat positive "activists": Sorry, you can't sit with us
When you make negative statements towards one race it’s STILL RACIST!!! It doesn’t change if those comments come from a non white individual towards a white individual. I love how you see people as people I love how you see how toxic it is when people make statements like that. I love your channel!!
I just wanna take a second and say that I've been working my ass off exercising and changing to a healthier diet, I showed my friends my progress all happy and proud of myself. I was instantly told to "stop starving myself". I did try to say that my goal is not to lose weight but gain muscle and be stronger. I have only lost maybe 5 lbs but put on a bunch of muscle and did try to explain that to 0 avail. I commend anyone who is trying their hardest to be a healthier version of themselves and put in the work, good job everyone. :)
When my friends who were a little bit overweight came to me and said they lost weight, I was proud of them. I wasn’t proud when one of my friends was losing weight without doing anything, I am concerned, but when they worked for it I’m happy for them. Maybe you need to find better friends.
Me and my sister in law were just talking about body shaming pregnant women and smaller women too. Growing up I was tiny but had a big butt and I got made fun of it all the time, I developed boobs at like 16 out of nowhere and was accused of getting breast implants. I got older and started working out and was super in shape and got made fun of because I had muscles, then fast forward to now, I gained about 35lbs since then and actually feel so much better at 150 and still in shape and now I get accused of breast implants, fat transfer to my butt and told that I'm too thick for a white girl, or I'm thick for a white girl. It annoys me so much when people think just because someone is thin they don't get teased and the racial comments on body need to stop too. Oh no a black woman can't be thin, oh no a white girl can't be curvy and have hips and butt. Also pregnant women need to stop being shamed for not gaining a lot of weight, even though its been a few years sarah stage was a super fit pregnant women and people bashed her like crazy. That shouldn't happen because if she gained 60lbs while pregnant nobody would bat an eye. Body positivity has begun to be obese acceptance.
I've had Hashimoto's thyroditis since I was like 5 or 6. Have to take medication every morning to stay alive because my thyroid is so inactive it's practically not their. Never in my life have I been obese. Overweight, yes absolutely. It's always been hard to lose weight, even during high school when I played soccer and tennis, and had to take 2 trains in a bus to get to school. I'm 20, and only these past couple weeks have a started to lose a couple pounds because I'm on a diet. It's frustrating and scary to be young and unable to do what my friends can do, but it also annoys me when I see people saying to be happy with how I look...like no I know I can be doing more and I don't wanna settle. I may never look like an IG model but I at least want to know I've done my best to be healthy
Shit that's bad, I have it too but not as bad, when my symptoms showed gained weight fast I was severely lethargic, menstruation outta wack, one point above anemic got tested and now I take the hormone replacement therapy tablets
I agree- I don't have hashimoto but I did have partial thyroidectomy at 18. Always a chubby/obese kid (genetics, my sister is also obese, my great grandparents were too), managed to lose weight to healthy range and then boom, massive tumour and fast surgery. Since then all the weight came back even when I didnt change a thing, kept being active and ate healthy. 10 years past and I'm finally back to healthy weight range, 2 years of counting calories and workouts but it's always doable. You do you girl 🙌 whatever people say you shouldn't care, when anyone tells me similar stuff I just reply that I'm doing it for health and not for them 😊 keep it up!💜
Just saw this and... sorry girl, no! I am a big girl, no hiding that. I am trying to make healthier lifestyle choices, not hiding that either. Seeing "skinny" girls embrace their flaws is perhaps one of the most uplifting and positive things for me, as a bigger girl. Cause, if they can flaunt their flaws, heck if they are "skinny" or "ideal" and they have flaws, then shoot, why can't I be out here loving me too. Plus, as I continue trying to live healthier, and once this weight is gone - lord knows my stretch marks, saggy skin, and other issues aren't going anywhere just because the weight does - so it is nice to see people embrace that. It is encouraging. The whole body positivity movement is about embracing your body. You have a body? Good! You get to be positive about that body, and all of the amazing things it does for you, warts and all! No one should be excluded from body positivity, especially when there are so many bodies (skinny bodies, fit bodies, disabled bodies, fat bodies, etc.) and not a one of them is 100% perfect. The whole word "positivity" is about embracing different sizes, shapes, colors, of bodies and uplifting each other regardless of the "imperfections" a cis-het-white-dominated societal lens paints on them. The thing that really gets me is that attempting to exclude any group of people from "Body Positivity" is entirely antithetical to the idea of it. It continues to set up dichotomies of what is "good", what is "acceptable", what is "right" - putting a moral value on a particular subset of bodies. Isn't the whole idea to invalidate societal norms that some bodies are "good" bodies and some are "bad" bodies? But then you out here saying, no, skinny girls, you cannot have this because your body isn't the "right type" of body? Isn't that the same moralizing nonsense you want to destroy?Get out of here with that! I am all about marginalized groups having their spaces. Not everything belongs to everyone. That's why there is a label of "Fat Acceptance" that is distinct from "Body Positivity" - they are two different things. You want to embrace big, go ahead. You can do that in both of those areas. But one, belongs to everyone, one belongs to a distinct group. There are layers of intersectionality here, but to conflate them just alienates people and destroys positive action. TEDx Talk over. Thanks for letting me rant! haha
You have an awesome singing voice! Tbh it simply looks like a case of: "I'm crying bc I didn't got enough attention and with shit like this I will get it. Also: Thinner people suck, bc they are not fat. (And secretly I hate myself bc I'm fat and it's unfair, that I am not skinny.)"
I’m a chubby Latina girl from a heavyset family and I have pocs. I’ve been on a really frustrating weight loss journey and this video came to me at a moment I really needed it to keep trying to get healthy. Thank you! Sending love
I watched ObeseToBeast’s video on this aaaaand I completely agree with you both on this. I think this is jealousy at its finest. Cmon this is ridiculous. Everyone should love themselves and in order to truly do that, you need to be healthy.
This is just toxic jealousy. Sounds like the classic "It's not my fault it's this blah blah blah reason" but girl just be you and do what you're passionate about. Guess what makes you more attractive to people? CONFIDENCE! Being your true self is way more appealing especially in this day and age of influencers who pretend to be something they're not.
@This Nigerian Loves Drinking Garri You misunderstood. Hes 300 pounds and healthy. Thats all she said because of all his muscle. He has more muscle then fat (obviously). She never said he was fat.
I hate when they say "living in a marginalized body," like they had no control over the body they were given. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR OWN ACTIONS!
I appreciate how straight forward you are. I’m overweight and excuses are a huge problem. It doesn’t feel great to hear your opinions but, they are true. Keep being you and speaking your truth. They do strike a chord and people are just too scared to offend others. Honesty hurts sometimes but, honesty can also open your eyes!
Based on Raffela’s posts shown here, it makes me highly doubt that she’s lacking in engagement because of the way her body looks. I know many plus sized Instagram influencers who are also in the body positivity movement who have 100k active followers. Sounds like her jealousy is manifesting into gatekeeping and being angry at the wrong things. It’s not anyone else’s fault that you’re boring and uninteresting af, Raffela. That’s a you problem. 🤷🏻♀️
I have a thyroid problem and lost 60 pounds last year, been maintaining for 8 months now, I follow a diet that my nutritionist put together for me and do regular visits to an endocrinologist , along with regular blood tests plus I exercise at home every day. Never been healthier.
Recently stumbled across this channel and have been binge watching the content. I love the humor and love the personality. When she said that she didn’t want her business to be shared solely on her being a black business owner, I was like yes, thank you! Subscribe! I’m Native American and I’m proud of it but when that becomes my primary value instead of what I bring to the table as an individual, it becomes really cringey 😬. There should be room for individuality and growth but making everything about race discourages people to be better or even different. Keep doing what you’re doing!
I think people “give more recognition to the thin influencers" because it is fascinating to see that a apparently perfect person is suddenly not that "perfect" anymore and how Michelle said people enjoy seeing their insecurities represented in the media because they don't feel like they are the only person who has that. Edit: and they can "hide their fatness" because they have none
Where does the black women need to be heavier to be beautiful "trend" even come from? I heard you say it in a couple of other videos and I'm really confused, mostly because I'm not american to begin with.
I have no clue honestly! But it shows in the numbers. I got told quite a bit when I was bigger that black men wouldn’t want me if I was thin lol! Maybe that’s why we tend to keep eatin!
I think it's some heroic racism. Pandering to think you're fighting the whites! But just making us look like unhealthy babies. black people are just as capable of being HEALTHY and FIT as any other race as Michelle and many other SELF Made successful black people show. Even the slave owners from the past knew that black people were capable of being physically herculean, it's funny how the "anti racists" are basically saying all black women are/ should be fat and unhealthy LMAO
In the black community thicker women are more often appreciated and it’s typically the thick you see now. Big ass, with boobs and thighs and then if you don’t have that you are seen as less of a woman. Similar to other cultures although I think we just put more emphasis on the ass and hips. Example- baby got back by sir mix a lot. Overall you don’t want to be fat, just not “ stick thin”because it’s typically not attractive to urban audiences.
I honestly believe the trend came from our own black community. It's so common to see obesity n overweight bodies in the BC that when you divert purposefully or are naturally like that, the majority will shame you for their own insecurities n lack of health-consiousness. Prioritize yourself, your own health, n happiness! 💛
@@rovichi8297 And then when Covid hits black communities extra hard, everyone screams 'racism'. But while there might be economic hardships that black people go through specifically, it's fatness, heart disease and diabetes that are putting people at risk. It's so self-defeating.
I know the video is a year old but I really admired when Michelle said she wants people to enjoy and share her content not because of her skin color, but because they genuinely want to. We love her (even when she randomly decides to be a weird green skinned creature which happens sometimes lol)
Currently binging your content while I get my strength back after cancer. I know I'm 3 years late to the party, but when I tell you the snort I snorted at the red eyed dog scene! I had to stop the treadmill because I couldn't breath. 10/10 would recommend.😂😂😂😂
I have Cystic Fibrosis and had a double lung transplant. I used to be so sick and skinny. My body has transformed and changed so much since my transplant, but I'm healthy. I struggle daily with body dysmorphia and am trying really hard to lose a few pounds right now. But since I'm still not 'fat' I can't be proud of my body at all? I know a lot of other CF/transplant patients who are in the exact same shoes as me. People like her don't realize that they're not promoting body positivity at all. Ugh. P.S. you are amazing and have inspired my fitness and health journey so much! I binge your videos instead of food now 😂
John's adorable smiling face on the snake killed me. Also, why are we so soft these days? Since when is a legitimate question or critique "negative comments" and "hate". Every time someone disagrees with someone, they're spreading hate. Like no. Learn how to take feedback if you're gonna be a public figure.
I think these "Instagram vs reality" pictures are great because it just shows that not everything are as "perfect" as it might seem. Even though it is mostly girls bodies that are shown in these types of pictures there are a lot of scenarios where "Instagram vs reality" could be applied. I think it's a shame that a part of the body positive community comes of as so hateful and negative (in my opinion), instead of supporting one and other regardless of ones size. If one person wants to be lean, underweight, overweight or fit, and wants to be proud of that, let them. It's their life. Being mean about it never helps. Btw, love your channel! And your muscles are awesome. I would love to have some more myself but my mood is shifting between lazy, I don't care and I want to kick ass😂
yeah they can decide to be fat or remain fat but then they shouldn't complain about their decision, and complain that people don't "like" them because of the body they chose to maintain. For one, being likeable has nothing to do with size, I have "fat" friends who are extremely great people and incredible friends to hang out with. This woman in the video is lacking self-confidence and projects it into hating the group of people who are different from her - non-fat people. It's typical, you hate on the people you believe you cannot ever be like. It's jealousy. I know this, been there when I was overweight. You eventually have to get over it and get your arse up from the couch and do something about it.
I love that she still acknowledges that you can still be obese and still be beautiful without saying that’s it’s healthy. I love that she has her opinion without any hate to anybody. ♥️♥️♥️
What some of these women don't understand is that all of us- even models- are also critizied and no matter how our body looks it will never be perfect in society's eyes. One time, I was having what I thought to be a conversation with a person like this (she saw as if I was attacking her) because I didn't agree that the lack of bigger sizing could be solved if smaller people stopped buying overzise clothes. I said it was a fashion industry problem and that companies should be more diverse and they're the ones that need to make changes. After a while she told me I have an eating disorder because I explained to her I used to be chubby in HS. She told me that that was in my head and refused to compreend that tho I'm thin in USA/UK I'm not seen that way in my home country. This adding to her getting angry when I told her it was a struggle to find coats hat fit me (my top is xs-s and bottom L-m) because in her mind only people that look like her have trouble finding clothes that look good on their bodies. Because she didn't have anything else to say she told called me fatphobic and told me I would get blocked if I didn't stop hating...altought during the argument she was the only one hating on body fat+shapes (especially against underweight people). I find very ironic when they do hashtags on body positivity and then they´re the first ones shaming bodies and saying others have eating disorders when they're smaller or want/did lose fat. English is not my first language so....sorry if this is messy. xx
I am hugely insecure about the acne on my face. I'm in my 20s and have tried absolutely everything to get rid of it, and the next step I'm about to go on is roaccutane. My bad skin can make me really depressed about my appearance and stop me from going out, which is really sad because I know so many other people suffer from it too - but as a person of normal weight, but according to their logic, my insecurities can't be catered for in the body positivity movement... makes sense...
26 yrs old and my acne has been moving around my face. I have bad acne on my chin now 😭😭. I was told to avoid milk since I've been drinking alot of it lately
I’m 24 and just finished roaccutane late last year. It helped with my acne tremendously, which I’ve been struggling with acne for 12 years at least. The side effects are no joke, but ultimately was worth it for the results. I think you should do it (with doctor approval) and wish you the best of luck on your journey!! 💜
I got cystic at 20 and it exploded when i was 21. Got lucky enough that a few months of antibiotics and a single month of heavy steriods cleared a lot of it up. Still struggled with the acne for a few years after. I hated people telling me what I should do for it like use aloe. 🙄 I understand how you feel, I got very depressed and didn't want to leave my dorm. I hope roaccutane helps you.
did you try consulting a dermatologist who also understands nutrition? Bad skin can also partially come from digesting "wrong" food, and I don't mean junk food here, but just normal food can also cause a lot of issues. I have really bad skin from gluten, and from milk protein :( you may try to do some elimination diet to see if your skin problems respond to certain food groups. Eliminating gluten from my diet improved my skin issues a LOT.
Jess S oh no Jess! I’m so sorry you feel like that :( I don’t know exactly how you feel but I do know acne sucks. I’m 15 and I’ve had bad cystic acne since 5th grade and would only go to school in full face makeup. I would get detentions and stuff because if it, but in my head it was worth it. I’m on accutane now, but I’m not sure what to do. Thank you for sharing your experience💕💕
“Fat activists” always always have to co-opt actual justice issues like lgbtq or black etc. because they want to disclude anyone who’s not specifically just overweight like they are- never mind someone having actual imperfections or issues. The fat movement isn’t the same as race or lgbt issues sorry.
So apparently I don’t deserve to be body positive towards myself even though I’ve struggled with an eating disorder and seeing my body in a positive way because I’m not fat or a person of color?
You are a person of color hon ; as you long that you are albino ; your have melanin in your skin ; also subsaharian African can be albino and colorless
This entire rant of hers came off as "I deserve more followers, you should give me more followers by posting me (let's be real this rant is all about her not other body positive influencers) on your instagram so I get engagement for the same posts you make". Literally an adult temper tantrum
I was bullied by a fat girl at school, responded and got called a bully (teachers assumed she was the victim because she was fat)... I am guessing she was banking on the same bias 😂
YOUR VOICE is amazing!! You’re right in saying that it doesn’t matter what the words are lol. Also, is Yoshi wearing a onesie? My dog, Deku, could never 😂
7:30 This is very important, especially on UA-cam. Unless you are going to be actively watching these UA-cam channels of African American people, please don't en masse sub to them. If they get a large number of subs but their subs don't watch their videos, it will hurt their channel because UA-cam will see their content as something the subs don't want to see and push out notifications for their videos less and less. Regarding Raffela Mancuso, she needs to grow up. Instagram models who look "perfect" showing their imperfections is the entire point of body acceptance. It's acknowledging that a vast majority of people do not align with beauty standards unless they hide their flaws or edit their pictures. Raffela took a positive cause and made it all about her. It's extremely selfish and reveals the extent of Raffela's entitlement to receiving positive affirmation from others.
Thank you so much for speaking facts on the thyroid excuse. I have thyroid issues (nerve damage in my back too) and yes, weight loss can be more difficult with thyroid issues but i make the effort to keep myself moving and keep myself at a reasonable weight
"In smaller bodies"! Lol NO. What are we, a hermit crab in a shell that will discard it once too big?! No!! Lol I will say we are more than our bodies but our bodies are apart of us, we are not "in" them lol. So as one should want to take CARE OF THEMSELVES, that means taking care of your body too and not just making excuses so you can settle for being unhealthy! Not "in" unhealthy they are unhealthy. Great singing by the way Michelle 👍🏾👍🏾😁
I started working out when quarantine started and today I was able to do 75 crunches in two minutes, it feels so good to see what my body can do and how it gets stronger and stronger the harder I work. After years of having issues with my body image this is what is making me love myself. Doing sports has done so much more for my mental health than any body positive Instagram post
I’m an XS in women’s (I’m 15) and my mom was buying clothes for me once because i couldn’t go, and am obese lady saw my mom buying some size 0-2 jeans and apparently, that’s not body positive? She stared at my mom and made her very uncomfortable and then walked up to her, pointed at the jeans, glared at my mom, and said, “have you heard of the body positive movement? You people might need it.” This woman was a complete stranger. All my mom was doing was buying jeans for me, which just happened to be size 0, because I’m young and thin and active. For context, my family is very healthy and active, and I’m not anorexic. Edit:grammar Edit: Ahhh, so i got diagnosed anorexic, but the point still stands :/
Wishing you a steady recovery ! Hopefully this question isn’t invasive but how did you not notice you’re eating disordered? Speaking as someone who struggles with anorexia and who’s been a part of many ED communities, Ik that anorexic people WANT to lose weight and control their eating behaviours, so it’s odd for me to see someone who wasn’t aware if their ED.
@@noname-dk3wi i have no idea! i asked my parents for therapy for my social anxiety. turns out I had undiagnosed aspergers and anorexia. I thought it was normal to starve yourself. Honestly I was 90 lbs and calling myself obese, i have no idea how my parents didn’t step in and arrange for hospitalization or something. I genuinely thought it was normal to not eat for a couple days. But I’m from a wealthy family in an upper middle class area so it’s not like. we didn’t have food to eat. I just starved myself because I genuinely needed to cope somehow with stress. anyways, sorry for my rant. hope this helped.
I think of a roommate who really looked underweight to most people and was given such a hard time by so many people for it that she routinely cried about her body. She certainly could use inclusion in the body positivity movement.
I mean wikipedia says it is, lol. It's supposed to include E V E R Y O N E who suffers...whether it's with an actual disability with the body or a warped perception of the body...or with an emotional struggle to accept the body. The people who say anything otherwise are just straight up being awful or are still ignorant to what the movement/community really IS. . .
I have a friend that can't absorb things into her blood stream very well (she can't absorb salt at all) and she's very insecure about her lack of weight. She has had surgeries and is on a tonne of medication. She will however never be able to not have to rely on insulin and vital nutrients being litterally injected (to rough a drip) once a week.
I understand that people in larger bodies want to feel loved, valued, and appreciated because every human should feel that way. However, telling someone they shouldn’t be apart of a community that I thought was supposed to be about self-love and health is terrible. When I was fresh in recovery and still very thin, I’d be crushed if someone told me to shut up because my desire to value myself and become healthy took up too much space. Loving yourself means taking care of yourself, but it doesn’t mean hurting others in the process.
I love your content! I've fat and thin and through it all I was told that I was unhealthy and struggling with body positivity. I only recently became happy with how I looked and felt and it happened when I starting eating healthy and working out daily
Lol, I feel attacked. That snake edit 😂
Lmao. It was a perfectly accurate comparison, snakes are cool and you're cool too.😂
That was so funny xD with the background music as well
Lol it was amazing! 🤟
Lol obestobeast. Youre to nice and kind to be a snake!!
Good kind of snek.☺️
I miss when body positivity was focused on disabled people. I feel like disabled people are getting stepped over once again to make way for middle class fat (usually) white women who want to force people to be attracted to them. I feel like some of the loudest voices in that community now are the most insecure.
I hadn't even thought about this, wow. Thank you for bringing it up!
Would you by chance know any group of body positivity who focus more over disability? As a chronically ill person I'm looking for place to exchange more on that matter 😅
SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE FATTIES IN THE BACK👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🗣
@@aelysdromard516 I don't know a community per se, but there are many disabled or chronically ill creators on youtube who have a positive outlook on life and on themself. Regardless of what illness or disability they have specifically, I enjoy seeing their outlook on things and sometimes I even get ideas on how to make my life easier or more fun
You are now my queen
Honestly, seeing skinny people with stretch marks, and dipped hips really helped me with my self image.
Same
Specially strech marks, i would never take ouy my shorts on the beach because i was so mortify by my bum that is full or stretch marks, now that i see it more often in social media, i can walk around in my bikini without feeling like shit
It can be really revealing! You never realize how uneven some people's bodies are if they only show usually their top half which looks the same as airbrushed underwear models. Seeing that the bottom doesn't necessarily look that way at all can give you a whole new perspective and ways of appreciating bodies, whether your own or others. To be a little blunt, we all know what what a body with large amounts fat all over looks like because you can see that through the clothes. Insecure thin people can and do cover up effectively.
I am one of these people- i have strech marks on my hips and on the inner side of my knees (yk..english isn't my Main language) and i kinda have dipped hips
@clowncarfire thank you! I sometimes really forget stuff or don't know how to describe them so i just write down what comes to my mind but thank you for telling me that
Yoshi: "I'm glad I kept this human. Never a dull moment."
That’s my favorite comment. Lol
@@oliviablackburn1113 thx😁👍
😂 True.
@@oliviablackburn1113 my exact thoughts 😂
How has this not been pinned! Best comment ever!!
"Thin people are taking up too much space in the body positivity movement"
I-
🤭
-rony
Can't
The jokes write themselves with these people, don't they?
Umm...🤨🤣😭
I’m offended that no is talking about how you killed those vocals in the intro.. 👏🏼 I love this cosplay!
I was going to comment off the bat how she had a great voice.
That's what u get from a past theater nerd 🤗🤗 ayeeeee she's so good I would like to she her in plays ♥️
THAT WAS SO GOOD
I loved it too! I'm really enjoying this channel!💖
Does she have a singing career and why not?
They're so entitled. God forbid that I as a thin woman make a body appreciation post. I will get attacked.
Dude I commented on a post on Instagram and was instantly attacked by a mob of angry fat positivity woman 😰 it was a nightmare
i feel this is an america thing, i swear to god.
Do it anyway. Flex on 'em
@@rscrocks3282 how the heck did they attack you? Stretching out their pork leg of an arm at you? What did they say?
@@verbon47 Unfortunately it is a worldwide issue.
Giirl, you've never mentioned that you can sing amazingly, I feel I can't trust you anymore after this >
I mean, she did say that she was a past theatre nerd. . . Is it bad if i roll being able to perform theatrically and being able to sing together? Maybe it’s something about stage presence, I don’t know
We have been bamboozled by her talents! :00
I've seen somewhere in youtube her singing US national anthem for a show/match, just WOW
I feel the same. . . and this offends me
Matt Mon yes well as someone who went to a school focused on performing arts, I can without a doubt tell you that most theatre kids really can’t sing. There’s quite a difference between theatre and broadway.
I’m obese and black but trying to lose weight not just for appearances but a longer and better life. Will I be skinny, maybe not but I want to be able to be active and not out of breathe. I’ve lost a lot of weight and proud of my process.
Just stay constant and never give up
You can do it. Keep going.
keep going queen
You got this!! By the way your profile picture is beautiful!!!
Keep going! My own process had stops and starts, lulls and then finally it was just my life. These videos continue to inspire me. No bs (and I don't mean the no bs a la that whitney thor woman lol!)
My sister has pcos and autism. She was having a hard time losing weight but when Pokémon go came out she had a reason to start walking around and slowly started spending more and more time outside playing and has now lost over 60 pounds and maintained her current weight since. It took a long time but she put in the work (also started working on her diet) and she managed to get down to a healthy weight and it even helped her menstrual cycle
How fantastic for your sister
I'm also autistic, and something literally nobody talks about is how we (autistic folks) are disproportionately financially preyed upon by HAES influencers. Many of us struggle to decode when someone is lying to us, we often have a deep intrinsic passion for social equity/justice, and have often co-occurring conditions that impact our hunger cues (such as interoceptive awareness dysfunction) making it very challenging to maintain normal eating habits or maintain a healthy weight. IMO, HAES influencers know we are "easily manipulated," and rely on vulnerable populations like us to fatten their pockets. Props to your sister for taking charge of her health - many of us autistic women especially suffer from varieties of eating disorders. I'm really happy to hear that she is doing well.
@@linkgender This is something I never even considered and is really eye opening thank you for sharing your knowledge
That is nice to hear :)
In happy for sister
As a person of colour who has suffered from different forms of eating disorders (anorexia, buliam and now EDNOS) since I was 8, I would just like to say that eating disorders are more mental than it is physical. I have met too many people who were on both ends of the weight spectrum, very fat and very skinny, with eating disorders and they were never once happy with the way they looked. This woman is extremely offensive and have absolutely NO knowledge about eating disorders.
Body positivity is for everyone.
I'm on the autism spectrum.
It's called trying to find excuses to be fat and lazy. People will say "I have an eating disorder" and don't have one, and give those who do have one... a bad light..
I wouldn't say that most people are making up an eating disorder as excuse to be fat and lazy. Michelle has shown posts from Fat Activists acting food addiction coaches because they don't believe food addictions or food disordered eating (for surplus amounts) exists. Most people probably don't even realize their weight could stem from deeper issues than just over eating.
Family food culture exists too. If your whole family is overweight, because your parents always ordered take out, never set portion limits, etc, it would be very easy for someone to grow up and think "oh, I can't lose weight. My family is just built like this".
I'm not trying to excuse anything, just that morbid obesity can be a physical battle and a mental one too.
Imo, it's importantly to discuss both issues so that we can better support someone on the road to get healthier (:
Yes! I have and still suffer with bulimia, orthorexia and excessive exercise. I have been
I always had a "model" type body, though I'm really short and ate a lot (always been very active), I never felt like a real "woman" kinda thing. I was however a self harmer for many many years. When I started getting help and explaining it to my family members I explained it a lot like a eatting disorder because both have to do with controlling something in your life. I also believe if I did have a weight issue I very well coulda had a ED instead.
6:55 As a physically disabled person that almost made me laugh. I suffer from cerebral palsy. The entire right side of my body has trouble sending signals from the brain to my muscles( my right calf muscle is nonexistent because of this) , bones in my pelvic area are fused together, my right leg is about two inches shorter than my left, my right foot is a full shoe size smaller than the left, even the muscles on the right side of my face have a hard time keeping up with the left.
I admit a look pretty normal for the most part if people don't notice how I walk and if they do there's always the "Oh why are you limping! Did you get hurt?" comment , then I explain. I've yet to finding anyone on social media that looks like me and I'm ok with that because everyone with cp or any other disability looks different. What I'm not doing is demanding others post pictures of me because "beauty standards". I've had a very hard time with my body do to people like this because it reminds me that body positivity wasn't made for me and I just think that's kind of sad. It makes me feel worst as I'm also a cosplayer (love you Michelle) and struggle with my costumes as I need glasses and struggle walking in certain shoes. So I feel like I don't belong in the community. There needs to be more representation of just bodies period.
Everyone, your body and you are valid. Just try your best to stay healthy and work with what you got. Rant over lol.
It's so awesome that you cosplay, I hope you do amazing cosplays despite the difficulties!
@@readingdino711 That sounds rough.
@hanna smith The body positive movement WAS made for YOU.
Before it was taken over by haes and fa the ORIGINAL idea was for people with impairments or differences caused by illness, disability, accidents etc so amputees, birthmarks, burns, scars and stretchmarks. Things that could NOT be changed.
@@readingdino711 *hugs*
Body positivity was originally for people with physical impairments like yours, burn victims, genetic disorders, amputees etc until fat people took over the term. Now people only think of fat when anyone mentions body positivity. It's so wrong that they hijacked the term.
I dont understand how these fat positive "activists" out of everyone, pick John as a target. He's the sweetest and most respectful person out there like what exactly is there to attack on???? Lol
Bc he's nice. If they attacked Every day damn fitness he would eat them ALIVE
@@hodgrix Alan would DESTROY them
What exactly is there to attack him on? He had an opinion that was different than theirs. That’s all it takes in this world.
hodgrix I would absolutely love to see that! Every damn day fitness would kick their fat asses!
TheRealBandito is that how it works now? If someone talks about something that’s bad it’s OK that the bad people attack them?
When I was overweight, I used the "black-women-should-be-curvy" slogan to justify my poor eating choices. Most of the minority women at my church complemented my new curves. However, I knew what I was doing to myself was wrong and nothing to flaunt. I lost almost 30 lbs, and feel great.
I feel that. it's like I used to be underweight, but now I understand that I need to focus on myself instead on how others view me. I've gained 10 healthy pounds and feel better than ever☺️
@@caitlinclosz4350 That's awesome sauce! Good work.
I'm not black myself, but I can imagine how harmful that idea must be to black women!! Partly the whole encouragement of being overweight of course, but also just in general regardless of size. A black woman who, regardless of weight, has a small butt or small hips or a flat chest must feel EXTRA bad because as a black woman she's "supposed" to be curvy (especially the butt, or at least that's the impression I've gotten as an outsider).
@@KreeZafi You made an excellent point! I felt insecure about my own body when I was overweight. I used a stereotype as a pacifier and could have offended someone. Now I exercise and make better diet choices. I still enjoy sweet and/or fatty foods, but my experience changed me physically and emotionally for the better.
You lost 30 lbs! Girl you are a queen!!!!!👑
03:30 “Thin people are taking a lot of space (...)” - Oh the irony...
Please, these land whales are taking up all the space 🐋🐳
@@Miscellaneous_master they are not land whales, they are human beeings with feelings, you really shouldn't make fun of people just because they are obese, otherwise you are no better than people like Rachel (was that her name?)
@@missblueberry1033 They are land whales.
Y’all out here surprised at her killer vocals when her intro said past theater nerd? 😂 I knew she had it in her 🥺😍
Why a past theatre nerd? Why not anymore 😭
Our queen got mad vocals 😤👑
I am starting to think that there’s nothing Michelle can’t do she is just amazing does vocals had me shook 💕😊 also I am offended by the fact that you look so good in everything
Sameeee
FOR REAL 👌😭
I’m mad about it 😫😍
Truth!
Same! What an idol
thank you for mentioning burn victims!! honestly hearing her saying body positivity was only for obese women of colour INFURIATES me because i have severe scarring all over my body from a burns fire, but i’m white and also work out and take care of my body and am not fat. i definitely don’t fit normal beauty standards but that doesn’t mean i shouldn’t be allowed to identify with body positivity.
she's basically saying that no one can be insecure or self conscious about aaanythig on their body,, except fat people
Dont forget, people of color. Not any fat person. Just her... and people of color. Smh. Thats complete insanity. I just...ugh. No.
Of color😂
maybe she believes if she would be thin then she would be happy. and therefore everyone else should be happy if they are not fat. or she is delusional 🤷🏼♀️
She reminds me of that one weird kid in class who would always cry when they would lose at board games. She's the reason why my generation is called "the gold star" generation.
I am knock-kneed/pidgeon-toed (my knees point inward when my feet are parallel to each other), I've got hip dips, wonky teeth due to a genetic issue where my adult teeth came in around my baby teeth, and very fine hair that looks almost translucent in the light, making it appear as if I'm losing my hair. I spent years hating how I looked. But you know what? I wouldn't change how I look for the world.
Oh wait... I guess I'm not allowed to embrace my imperfections because I have "thin privilege."
My mother ALWAYS told me to fix the way I walk because it was embarrassing to her, but I physically can not.
inglorious_Machina unfortunately i changed the way i walk because of crippling body dysmorphia 🤘😞🤘 but apparently thats fine because im thin so hating myself is expected
@@ingloriousMachina my mother would just say really loudly in public places how cute it was. 😑
I love you
Obesetobeast has never done anything wrong in his life. He’s a pure bundle of sunshine
Idk why I read that as "pure puddle of sunshine"
@@sam81345 both work lol
Well this aged poorly
@@biancalauren4981 😄😄😄
@@biancalauren4981 it really did. I'm sad
Thing is, I used to love body positivity because as a trans person, I worked hard to build a strong bond with my body and one way I did that was sculpting my body by working out and decorating my body through ink. Then in 2018 I went through hell with a massive infection that stripped me of all my new gains and brought me back to 0. I busted my ass to bounce back stronger and bigger (muscle mass wise). When I date, men tend to use me as fetish toy due to my transition and my body being ambiguous... so anyways, I thought as a nonconforming person body wise I could have community in body positivity but NOPE... since I am in fitness and "thin" (which I hate that word because it erases all my hard work at the gym), apparently I am the devil to them... especially since I look white due to my European heritage (but I am mix). Uhg. But now I found a true community through youtubers like Michelle, Swolenormous, Allan Roberts etc.
Body positivity used to be about overcoming obstacles with your body and owning your body... now it purely celebrates obesity, something one can do things to improve it but choose not too... wtf.
“Body positivity is only for...”
Me: yeah, fat people 🙄
“People of color”
Me: wut
Marjorie same thing I said I’m confused
HHAHAHAH I know right like what the heck... so much for trying to be inclusive for everyone
Did you guys... watch the video?
Caitlin Closz sometimes its necessary 👁
corinthia Long no
And I’ve literally felt “left out” my whole LIFE as a skinny girl with lack of ass, heavier people who whine about how bad they’re treated really kill me bc for the most part NOBODYS naturally “perfect” and we all got something about us we can get talked down on for, so to be like “ like my body small bodies are accepted 😫” is selfish anddd ignorant ☺️
Yeah, I’ve always been made fun of for having a “flat ass” my butt got larger when I started working out, but I’ve been shamed a lot, even my by own mom for having such a “small ass” I have been called “wisdom tooth” so much. One guy straight up told me he thought I was gorgeous “until I turned around.” Also been told that I should have breast reduction surgery and take the fat from there and inject into my ass. I’m hella insecure about my butt still, but the body positive movement wants us to get out of “their space.” SMH
@@Raine-97 okay well fun fact about what that guy told you, bbls are one of the most dangerous plastic surgery procedures even to this day soooo... He's just ignorant and sexually frustrated
@@BonnieGruesome It’ll never happen, it’s human nature, we won’t undo billions of years of evolution. The best we can do is become comfortable with not being the best of the best
Girl hit those leg days and eat some protein! You got this!
@@estebanslavidastic4382 I’m now an extra 10 pounds after having 3rd child & my body’s portions are definitely coke bottle now. When I was younger I was skin and bones (30 pounds less than I am now m, same height),I suppose I grew into my body “grown woman” body & shouldn’t have been worried about my hips being wider to begin with. We always want what we can’t have until we get it then it’s like…I wasn’t even missing out honestly.( I’m considerably classy so it’s not like people are getting to see these changes in my body fr anyway lol) I’ve also have been consistently working out 2x a week & getting my protein in to keep my back side as a like it👌🏽 lol
I swear, ever since that All About That Bass song…
trueee
Freaking hate that song. Lol
For reallllll
Ikr😐
YES! The body positivity is very UN-positive, even to plus sized people? People only seem to uplift the hourglasses and pear shapes and the rest get so much hate (only 8% of women have hourglass)
And how Meghan Trainor's song All About That Bass is problematic?
And these associations of thinness with lack of curves and fatness with more curves
And the subsequent association of thinness with being juvenile.
I'm shocked at how far Tess Holliday has because people only seem to like insufficient people with hourglass or pear shape
I"m offended that you can sing so well and nail every cosplay you do
Obese black woman here, currently 16.5 pounds down and counting since lockdown began. Just wanted to tell you how much I love your videos. You tell it like it is without being disrespectful and hurtful and I can't tell you how much of a breath of fresh air that is to me. Also love it when you do cosplay!!
Omfg YOU LOOK STUNNING IN THAT DRESS
Keep slaying
Red is HER patent.
YOUR CORELLA COSPLAY IS GOD TIER
Lol Corella. But true though. 😂 ❤️
Miss MountainDew oop XD
@IGotsSoMuchRhythm 😂
The fat positivity movement is a result of our “participation prize” culture that coddles and rewards everyone, rather than just those who worked hardest and came out on top. They wanna feel special without having achieved anything and be coddled the way they are so they have no motivation to change or try harder 🤷🏼♀️
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Things people in the body positivity movement have said that “disqualify” me from being body positive:
- I’m not fat enough
- I’m losing weight
- I frequently Exercise
- I’m white
- Sometimes I struggle with my insecurities
they’re projecting, forget them!
same, im overweight and made fun of sm and the body positive community tells me i’m privileged asf and am fatphobic like what lmfao
This whole thing reminded me of the time I was kicked out from a FB Bodypositivity group because I was, quote, "a small fat" and the "infinifats" were being triggered by me being "thin passing". There's a whole circus going on with these terms within these communities, you should make a video on that!
Btw thanks for all the funny videos, I watch them while I workout and it makes the whole experience less traumatic 😅
Wtf Lol I never knew about this crazy mess
ok yes! I had a post rejected from a 'body posotive' facebook group where I was talking about body confidence and had pictures of myself in the post. A lot of other women were posting pictures of themselves in lingerie etc and we were all hyping each other up. I had a photo of myself in a bikini and it got rejected and I got feedback that it would trigger others. I was so confused, how do you call your self body posotive and reject someone when they ask for body confidence advice because their body is thin passing? like how are you not triggered by everyday people walking outside who are thin.
Do these people actually call themselves "infinifat"? That sounds like something a 5 grade bully would call the fat kid from his classroom
These groups sound like they need to be called horrible things because they deserve it. Their actions show they hate themselves and are ashamed of themselves so have to put down everyone around them just so they can feel better. Disgusting
this really is confusing me it's like you can only be obese to be body positive what about people who are thin but struggle with eating disorders where is the love for them if your going to accept people accept them if not just go ahead and continue to make fat your personality trait
“I can’t take out my fat”. Maybe lose weight? I mean if she wants to be literal, she could have lipo
“Xl isn’t inclusive” neither is the xs-s that’s the smallest size some brands carry but you don’t hear us complaining.
Actually I hear many XS people complain about this. 😏
haha yes! I'm an XL and have a hard time with some clothes and my bf is an extra small. I think at times he has a harder time.
the one day he was like..uh..how do you feel that some clothes I fit into are kids clothes? lol. it's just how he is made.
people just come in different sizes and that's ok. i do agree that overall health is important. I also think it's sad to put such emphasis on bodies outside of being healthy.
Not to mention they usually run out very quickly of that size. Whenever I go shopping it’s always sold out of my size. I’m disabled in a wheelchair so my size is really small since I have no muscles basically and the medicine makes it hard to gain weight so I have to often get the smallest size jeans but they’re always out of them I have to order online and most the time they won’t fit at all. I have scars and a horrible self body image and yet I don’t have a place in the body positivity movement. I was literally told “this isn’t the place for you” when I tried joining a Facebook group
I literally can never find pants that fit my waist because my waist is xxs/xs but my hips are M. So I always wear altered pants. Edit: Or skirts. mostly dresses and skirts.
ShutUpAeryn I commented on one of those posts saying “Torrid doesn’t have small sizes so they aren’t size inclusive” and they were like “it’s not the same thing” 🙄
Can I just say during a time where the ideal is slim thicc and big butts and boobs how self conscious flatter girls feel? Like body positivity should be for everyone because skinny girls are not seen as ideal either anymore.
Yeah it kind of sucks growing up and getting made fun of for not having a curvy figure.
Personally I like both. Curvy, thin, fit.. all are equally beautiful. I don't think lack of curves makes you less sexy, there are a lot of thin wen I find very attractive as well as fit and curvy women I find very attractive. I wish the world wasn't under the impression that there is only one body type at a time that is "in". So many times I've heard thin women get ridiculed being told they're "not real women" or "need to eat more" it's disgusting and so far from the truth.
Skinny is always ideal ... Cut it
I think people have to realise that there's someone for everyone. Like, fashion and trends come and go. People are attracted to all sorts of different things and we shouldn't try to please anyone but ourselves. Work with your strengths, work towards what you enjoy, because confidence is the sexiest thing, and just be you. In the end personality and mind trumps body
Thank you 🙏!!!
I’m thin but I still have always gotten shit for being insecure about my body. We grew up in a generation that is obsessed with big boobs and a butt, a flat tummy, tan skin, and no cellulite.
So honestly it’s great seeing any and all body types online. It makes us adults who were unable to love their bodies as kids feel a lot better
A girl I knew in high school got crap for it too - people sometimes asked her if she was anorexic or if she ever ate. 😐 She was just someone who happened to have a jackrabbit metabolism.
@@rachelh9550 same. Kids would ask if I had an eating disorder. Actually a girl who didn’t like me started a rumor that she caught me throwing up in the bathroom after lunch. That shit was traumatizing
@@Kitticane 😑🤬😠
I’m offended that Yoshi doesn’t get enough credit for her acting skills, sis slays lol
I’m just gonna say it - most of the obese people in the “body positive” movement just want to not feel guilty for being fat. That’s it. They want affirmation that being totally irresponsible with their health and eating habits is ok.
It's like wanting praise for being lazy. XD
Helps them stay in complete denial
@Gbria Taylor I don't. :P I'm an ex-obese person, and I hate people who fat-shame. But I also know why this ideology appealed to me at the time.
I was lazy and ignorant, and thought that my weight was due to bad genetics. While genetics does have something to do with it, I still had some say in the matter. I'll probably never be slim-slim due to my frame and issues, but I'm at least healthy, and that's all I care about.
Some people probably don't realize that they're in control more than they think. Also, lots of people probably don't realize just how miserable their life will be if they don't get their weight in check.
It's not about beauty, it's about health. I think of my overweight friends just as I do a friend who smokes. Meaning I still love them, I still think they're awesome and beautiful, etc. but I worry for their health, and really wish they'd wake up and realize their habits are killing them.
So if there's a group over here telling those people whom I care about that naaah, they're fine. It's not their fault, and being 300 lbs is totally ok with zero negatives whatsoever, then ... yeah, I have a problem with that.
The fat-positive movement is literally promoting death in that sense.
@Gbria Taylor I'll add, too, that I do actually agree with the fat acceptance people on the shaming front. No one should be made to feel inferior because of the way they look, and I fully agree that overweight people can still be pretty.
So if they'd stop it there, I could get on board. But when they spout things like "Health at every size," it makes me angry, because it's a very dangerous lie they're telling people.
@Gbria Taylor The problem is that quite a few people in that movement think that even doctors are "fat phobic" if they bring up the patient's weight. There have been several articles of women demanding the choice to not be weighed, etc.
Like I said, the "health at every size" part of it is the part most people following this channel take issue with, and the part I'm generalizing.
But yeah, I agree people shouldn't throw personal insults for no reason. People are cruel and that sucks.
WINNER WINNER CHICKEN DINNER 🏆
Body Positivity: *exists*
People who are muscular, disabled, have birthmarks, skin discoloration, etc: I want to join!
Fat positive "activists": Sorry, you can't sit with us
All she speaks is FACTS. Who else loves watching her videos.
When you make negative statements towards one race it’s STILL RACIST!!! It doesn’t change if those comments come from a non white individual towards a white individual. I love how you see people as people I love how you see how toxic it is when people make statements like that. I love your channel!!
I just wanna take a second and say that I've been working my ass off exercising and changing to a healthier diet, I showed my friends my progress all happy and proud of myself. I was instantly told to "stop starving myself". I did try to say that my goal is not to lose weight but gain muscle and be stronger. I have only lost maybe 5 lbs but put on a bunch of muscle and did try to explain that to 0 avail.
I commend anyone who is trying their hardest to be a healthier version of themselves and put in the work, good job everyone. :)
When my friends who were a little bit overweight came to me and said they lost weight, I was proud of them. I wasn’t proud when one of my friends was losing weight without doing anything, I am concerned, but when they worked for it I’m happy for them. Maybe you need to find better friends.
@@omniomelet1472 I am proud of anyone who even makes a small life change! It's hard to change. Yeah, I know I need new friends
Me and my sister in law were just talking about body shaming pregnant women and smaller women too. Growing up I was tiny but had a big butt and I got made fun of it all the time, I developed boobs at like 16 out of nowhere and was accused of getting breast implants. I got older and started working out and was super in shape and got made fun of because I had muscles, then fast forward to now, I gained about 35lbs since then and actually feel so much better at 150 and still in shape and now I get accused of breast implants, fat transfer to my butt and told that I'm too thick for a white girl, or I'm thick for a white girl. It annoys me so much when people think just because someone is thin they don't get teased and the racial comments on body need to stop too. Oh no a black woman can't be thin, oh no a white girl can't be curvy and have hips and butt. Also pregnant women need to stop being shamed for not gaining a lot of weight, even though its been a few years sarah stage was a super fit pregnant women and people bashed her like crazy. That shouldn't happen because if she gained 60lbs while pregnant nobody would bat an eye. Body positivity has begun to be obese acceptance.
I've had Hashimoto's thyroditis since I was like 5 or 6. Have to take medication every morning to stay alive because my thyroid is so inactive it's practically not their. Never in my life have I been obese. Overweight, yes absolutely. It's always been hard to lose weight, even during high school when I played soccer and tennis, and had to take 2 trains in a bus to get to school. I'm 20, and only these past couple weeks have a started to lose a couple pounds because I'm on a diet. It's frustrating and scary to be young and unable to do what my friends can do, but it also annoys me when I see people saying to be happy with how I look...like no I know I can be doing more and I don't wanna settle. I may never look like an IG model but I at least want to know I've done my best to be healthy
Shit that's bad, I have it too but not as bad, when my symptoms showed gained weight fast I was severely lethargic, menstruation outta wack, one point above anemic got tested and now I take the hormone replacement therapy tablets
That is amazing ❤️️. Absolutely adore you.
I agree- I don't have hashimoto but I did have partial thyroidectomy at 18. Always a chubby/obese kid (genetics, my sister is also obese, my great grandparents were too), managed to lose weight to healthy range and then boom, massive tumour and fast surgery. Since then all the weight came back even when I didnt change a thing, kept being active and ate healthy.
10 years past and I'm finally back to healthy weight range, 2 years of counting calories and workouts but it's always doable.
You do you girl 🙌 whatever people say you shouldn't care, when anyone tells me similar stuff I just reply that I'm doing it for health and not for them 😊 keep it up!💜
Just saw this and... sorry girl, no! I am a big girl, no hiding that. I am trying to make healthier lifestyle choices, not hiding that either.
Seeing "skinny" girls embrace their flaws is perhaps one of the most uplifting and positive things for me, as a bigger girl. Cause, if they can flaunt their flaws, heck if they are "skinny" or "ideal" and they have flaws, then shoot, why can't I be out here loving me too. Plus, as I continue trying to live healthier, and once this weight is gone - lord knows my stretch marks, saggy skin, and other issues aren't going anywhere just because the weight does - so it is nice to see people embrace that. It is encouraging. The whole body positivity movement is about embracing your body. You have a body? Good! You get to be positive about that body, and all of the amazing things it does for you, warts and all! No one should be excluded from body positivity, especially when there are so many bodies (skinny bodies, fit bodies, disabled bodies, fat bodies, etc.) and not a one of them is 100% perfect. The whole word "positivity" is about embracing different sizes, shapes, colors, of bodies and uplifting each other regardless of the "imperfections" a cis-het-white-dominated societal lens paints on them.
The thing that really gets me is that attempting to exclude any group of people from "Body Positivity" is entirely antithetical to the idea of it. It continues to set up dichotomies of what is "good", what is "acceptable", what is "right" - putting a moral value on a particular subset of bodies. Isn't the whole idea to invalidate societal norms that some bodies are "good" bodies and some are "bad" bodies? But then you out here saying, no, skinny girls, you cannot have this because your body isn't the "right type" of body? Isn't that the same moralizing nonsense you want to destroy?Get out of here with that!
I am all about marginalized groups having their spaces. Not everything belongs to everyone. That's why there is a label of "Fat Acceptance" that is distinct from "Body Positivity" - they are two different things. You want to embrace big, go ahead. You can do that in both of those areas. But one, belongs to everyone, one belongs to a distinct group. There are layers of intersectionality here, but to conflate them just alienates people and destroys positive action.
TEDx Talk over. Thanks for letting me rant! haha
You have an awesome singing voice!
Tbh it simply looks like a case of: "I'm crying bc I didn't got enough attention and with shit like this I will get it. Also: Thinner people suck, bc they are not fat. (And secretly I hate myself bc I'm fat and it's unfair, that I am not skinny.)"
Hot DAMN that singing voice!!
Also that's a lot of words for "I'm fat and jealous of skinny women."
I’m a chubby Latina girl from a heavyset family and I have pocs. I’ve been on a really frustrating weight loss journey and this video came to me at a moment I really needed it to keep trying to get healthy. Thank you! Sending love
I watched ObeseToBeast’s video on this aaaaand I completely agree with you both on this. I think this is jealousy at its finest. Cmon this is ridiculous. Everyone should love themselves and in order to truly do that, you need to be healthy.
This is just toxic jealousy. Sounds like the classic "It's not my fault it's this blah blah blah reason" but girl just be you and do what you're passionate about. Guess what makes you more attractive to people? CONFIDENCE! Being your true self is way more appealing especially in this day and age of influencers who pretend to be something they're not.
I can name someone who’s almost 300lb and (I believe he is) healthy:
Dwayne Johnson
Injecting illegal dangerous chemicals into your body is not healthy.
@This Nigerian Loves Drinking Garri
You misunderstood. Hes 300 pounds and healthy. Thats all she said because of all his muscle. He has more muscle then fat (obviously). She never said he was fat.
It depends on his percent of body fat because people need a certain percentage of body fat to be healthy.
Lol, my nephew is 280 lbs and a healthy weight... he's 7 feet tall and a weight lifter. He's kinda thin. 🤣
I hate when they say "living in a marginalized body," like they had no control over the body they were given. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR OWN ACTIONS!
I'm a big girl and I'm happy when seemingly "perfect" looking people show these photos. It's more proof that what we're admiring IS NOT REAL!
I appreciate how straight forward you are. I’m overweight and excuses are a huge problem. It doesn’t feel great to hear your opinions but, they are true. Keep being you and speaking your truth. They do strike a chord and people are just too scared to offend others. Honesty hurts sometimes but, honesty can also open your eyes!
GURL! YOUR VOICE! MUWAH! You should sing more Disney songs! Beautiful!
Michelle: I need to go get these puppies
Yoshi: 😡 who dees “other puppies” you speak of?!?!
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Body positivity is knowing your worth at every size. Not justifying you staying in an unhealthy state.
Based on Raffela’s posts shown here, it makes me highly doubt that she’s lacking in engagement because of the way her body looks. I know many plus sized Instagram influencers who are also in the body positivity movement who have 100k active followers. Sounds like her jealousy is manifesting into gatekeeping and being angry at the wrong things. It’s not anyone else’s fault that you’re boring and uninteresting af, Raffela. That’s a you problem. 🤷🏻♀️
I have a thyroid problem and lost 60 pounds last year, been maintaining for 8 months now, I follow a diet that my nutritionist put together for me and do regular visits to an endocrinologist , along with regular blood tests plus I exercise at home every day. Never been healthier.
so happy for you :)
This is wonderful, you should be so proud, it's by no means easy!
Recently stumbled across this channel and have been binge watching the content. I love the humor and love the personality. When she said that she didn’t want her business to be shared solely on her being a black business owner, I was like yes, thank you! Subscribe! I’m Native American and I’m proud of it but when that becomes my primary value instead of what I bring to the table as an individual, it becomes really cringey 😬. There should be room for individuality and growth but making everything about race discourages people to be better or even different. Keep doing what you’re doing!
I think people “give more recognition to the thin influencers" because it is fascinating to see that a apparently perfect person is suddenly not that "perfect" anymore and how Michelle said people enjoy seeing their insecurities represented in the media because they don't feel like they are the only person who has that.
Edit: and they can "hide their fatness" because they have none
Where does the black women need to be heavier to be beautiful "trend" even come from? I heard you say it in a couple of other videos and I'm really confused, mostly because I'm not american to begin with.
I have no clue honestly! But it shows in the numbers. I got told quite a bit when I was bigger that black men wouldn’t want me if I was thin lol! Maybe that’s why we tend to keep eatin!
I think it's some heroic racism. Pandering to think you're fighting the whites! But just making us look like unhealthy babies. black people are just as capable of being HEALTHY and FIT as any other race as Michelle and many other SELF Made successful black people show. Even the slave owners from the past knew that black people were capable of being physically herculean, it's funny how the "anti racists" are basically saying all black women are/ should be fat and unhealthy LMAO
In the black community thicker women are more often appreciated and it’s typically the thick you see now. Big ass, with boobs and thighs and then if you don’t have that you are seen as less of a woman. Similar to other cultures although I think we just put more emphasis on the ass and hips. Example- baby got back by sir mix a lot. Overall you don’t want to be fat, just not “ stick thin”because it’s typically not attractive to urban audiences.
I honestly believe the trend came from our own black community. It's so common to see obesity n overweight bodies in the BC that when you divert purposefully or are naturally like that, the majority will shame you for their own insecurities n lack of health-consiousness. Prioritize yourself, your own health, n happiness! 💛
@@rovichi8297 And then when Covid hits black communities extra hard, everyone screams 'racism'. But while there might be economic hardships that black people go through specifically, it's fatness, heart disease and diabetes that are putting people at risk. It's so self-defeating.
Now I know what was missing in my life:
A black attractive Cruella D
Im offended that i dont have a voice as good as yours
I am with you.
I'm offended that Michelle is beautiful, smart, funny, and a good singer 😩
I know the video is a year old but I really admired when Michelle said she wants people to enjoy and share her content not because of her skin color, but because they genuinely want to. We love her (even when she randomly decides to be a weird green skinned creature which happens sometimes lol)
This is "body positivity" not "fat positivity"... everyone's bodies are differents, and we all have different complexes to worry about.
At this point the only person who hasn't talked about Adele's weightloss is Adele
Currently binging your content while I get my strength back after cancer. I know I'm 3 years late to the party, but when I tell you the snort I snorted at the red eyed dog scene! I had to stop the treadmill because I couldn't breath. 10/10 would recommend.😂😂😂😂
I was gonna dress up as Darcey for Halloween at this point I want to get fit and dress up as Michelle.
Good idea :)
I HAVE NEVER EVER EVER BEEN THAT EARLY OMG IDK WHAT TO SAY I LOVE YOU GIRL
*shows an adorable pic of ObeseToBeast smiling* "EVIIIIIIIILLLL"
I have Cystic Fibrosis and had a double lung transplant. I used to be so sick and skinny. My body has transformed and changed so much since my transplant, but I'm healthy. I struggle daily with body dysmorphia and am trying really hard to lose a few pounds right now. But since I'm still not 'fat' I can't be proud of my body at all? I know a lot of other CF/transplant patients who are in the exact same shoes as me. People like her don't realize that they're not promoting body positivity at all. Ugh.
P.S. you are amazing and have inspired my fitness and health journey so much! I binge your videos instead of food now 😂
OH MY GOD I'M SO HAPPY YOU'RE DOING BETTER
Don’t listen to those haters as long as you care for your body Inside and out
I am body positive...
I’m positive that I need to lose weight.
I see what you're trying to do and unfortunately, it's not going to work.
@@brandonneilsta.teresa3494 what do you mean
Saaaaame! I love my body. And because I love my body I know I need to change it and become healthy. Which for me means losing weight 😊
When you said you were a ex theatre kid you weren’t kidding, you have a great voice
John's adorable smiling face on the snake killed me.
Also, why are we so soft these days? Since when is a legitimate question or critique "negative comments" and "hate". Every time someone disagrees with someone, they're spreading hate. Like no. Learn how to take feedback if you're gonna be a public figure.
I think these "Instagram vs reality" pictures are great because it just shows that not everything are as "perfect" as it might seem. Even though it is mostly girls bodies that are shown in these types of pictures there are a lot of scenarios where "Instagram vs reality" could be applied.
I think it's a shame that a part of the body positive community comes of as so hateful and negative (in my opinion), instead of supporting one and other regardless of ones size. If one person wants to be lean, underweight, overweight or fit, and wants to be proud of that, let them. It's their life. Being mean about it never helps.
Btw, love your channel! And your muscles are awesome. I would love to have some more myself but my mood is shifting between lazy, I don't care and I want to kick ass😂
yeah they can decide to be fat or remain fat but then they shouldn't complain about their decision, and complain that people don't "like" them because of the body they chose to maintain. For one, being likeable has nothing to do with size, I have "fat" friends who are extremely great people and incredible friends to hang out with. This woman in the video is lacking self-confidence and projects it into hating the group of people who are different from her - non-fat people. It's typical, you hate on the people you believe you cannot ever be like. It's jealousy. I know this, been there when I was overweight. You eventually have to get over it and get your arse up from the couch and do something about it.
I love that she still acknowledges that you can still be obese and still be beautiful without saying that’s it’s healthy. I love that she has her opinion without any hate to anybody. ♥️♥️♥️
What some of these women don't understand is that all of us- even models- are also critizied and no matter how our body looks it will never be perfect in society's eyes. One time, I was having what I thought to be a conversation with a person like this (she saw as if I was attacking her) because I didn't agree that the lack of bigger sizing could be solved if smaller people stopped buying overzise clothes. I said it was a fashion industry problem and that companies should be more diverse and they're the ones that need to make changes. After a while she told me I have an eating disorder because I explained to her I used to be chubby in HS. She told me that that was in my head and refused to compreend that tho I'm thin in USA/UK I'm not seen that way in my home country. This adding to her getting angry when I told her it was a struggle to find coats hat fit me (my top is xs-s and bottom L-m) because in her mind only people that look like her have trouble finding clothes that look good on their bodies. Because she didn't have anything else to say she told called me fatphobic and told me I would get blocked if I didn't stop hating...altought during the argument she was the only one hating on body fat+shapes (especially against underweight people). I find very ironic when they do hashtags on body positivity and then they´re the first ones shaming bodies and saying others have eating disorders when they're smaller or want/did lose fat. English is not my first language so....sorry if this is messy. xx
I am hugely insecure about the acne on my face. I'm in my 20s and have tried absolutely everything to get rid of it, and the next step I'm about to go on is roaccutane. My bad skin can make me really depressed about my appearance and stop me from going out, which is really sad because I know so many other people suffer from it too - but as a person of normal weight, but according to their logic, my insecurities can't be catered for in the body positivity movement... makes sense...
26 yrs old and my acne has been moving around my face. I have bad acne on my chin now 😭😭. I was told to avoid milk since I've been drinking alot of it lately
I’m 24 and just finished roaccutane late last year. It helped with my acne tremendously, which I’ve been struggling with acne for 12 years at least. The side effects are no joke, but ultimately was worth it for the results. I think you should do it (with doctor approval) and wish you the best of luck on your journey!! 💜
I got cystic at 20 and it exploded when i was 21. Got lucky enough that a few months of antibiotics and a single month of heavy steriods cleared a lot of it up. Still struggled with the acne for a few years after. I hated people telling me what I should do for it like use aloe. 🙄 I understand how you feel, I got very depressed and didn't want to leave my dorm. I hope roaccutane helps you.
did you try consulting a dermatologist who also understands nutrition? Bad skin can also partially come from digesting "wrong" food, and I don't mean junk food here, but just normal food can also cause a lot of issues. I have really bad skin from gluten, and from milk protein :( you may try to do some elimination diet to see if your skin problems respond to certain food groups. Eliminating gluten from my diet improved my skin issues a LOT.
Jess S oh no Jess! I’m so sorry you feel like that :( I don’t know exactly how you feel but I do know acne sucks. I’m 15 and I’ve had bad cystic acne since 5th grade and would only go to school in full face makeup. I would get detentions and stuff because if it, but in my head it was worth it. I’m on accutane now, but I’m not sure what to do. Thank you for sharing your experience💕💕
“Fat activists” always always have to co-opt actual justice issues like lgbtq or black etc. because they want to disclude anyone who’s not specifically just overweight like they are- never mind someone having actual imperfections or issues. The fat movement isn’t the same as race or lgbt issues sorry.
So apparently I don’t deserve to be body positive towards myself even though I’ve struggled with an eating disorder and seeing my body in a positive way because I’m not fat or a person of color?
You are a person of color hon ; as you long that you are albino ; your have melanin in your skin ; also subsaharian African can be albino and colorless
This entire rant of hers came off as "I deserve more followers, you should give me more followers by posting me (let's be real this rant is all about her not other body positive influencers) on your instagram so I get engagement for the same posts you make". Literally an adult temper tantrum
I was bullied by a fat girl at school, responded and got called a bully (teachers assumed she was the victim because she was fat)... I am guessing she was banking on the same bias 😂
Same this girl would bully me because I was skinny, short but my legs were long compared to the rest of my body and she would just hate me for that.
When I was slender, I didn’t get compliments on my body. No one really gave a damn. I was just trying to get visible abs on my abdomen.
YOUR VOICE is amazing!! You’re right in saying that it doesn’t matter what the words are lol.
Also, is Yoshi wearing a onesie? My dog, Deku, could never 😂
Your doggie is called Deku😂😂😂
I love the name for you puppy. My youngest puppy is named Luffy :3
If your dog isn’t green im suing
You named him deku🤭that's cute
@@blackberry3604 🤣
Michelle, just how gorgeous can you be! So inspiring, just the type of smart, Level headed and beautiful people I need on my weight loss journey
Reading these Instagram posts it's literally a girl ranting why she doesn't get any followers but others do
7:30 This is very important, especially on UA-cam. Unless you are going to be actively watching these UA-cam channels of African American people, please don't en masse sub to them. If they get a large number of subs but their subs don't watch their videos, it will hurt their channel because UA-cam will see their content as something the subs don't want to see and push out notifications for their videos less and less.
Regarding Raffela Mancuso, she needs to grow up. Instagram models who look "perfect" showing their imperfections is the entire point of body acceptance. It's acknowledging that a vast majority of people do not align with beauty standards unless they hide their flaws or edit their pictures. Raffela took a positive cause and made it all about her. It's extremely selfish and reveals the extent of Raffela's entitlement to receiving positive affirmation from others.
Thank you so much for speaking facts on the thyroid excuse. I have thyroid issues (nerve damage in my back too) and yes, weight loss can be more difficult with thyroid issues but i make the effort to keep myself moving and keep myself at a reasonable weight
"In smaller bodies"! Lol NO. What are we, a hermit crab in a shell that will discard it once too big?! No!! Lol I will say we are more than our bodies but our bodies are apart of us, we are not "in" them lol. So as one should want to take CARE OF THEMSELVES, that means taking care of your body too and not just making excuses so you can settle for being unhealthy! Not "in" unhealthy they are unhealthy. Great singing by the way Michelle 👍🏾👍🏾😁
I started working out when quarantine started and today I was able to do 75 crunches in two minutes, it feels so good to see what my body can do and how it gets stronger and stronger the harder I work. After years of having issues with my body image this is what is making me love myself.
Doing sports has done so much more for my mental health than any body positive Instagram post
I’m an XS in women’s (I’m 15) and my mom was buying clothes for me once because i couldn’t go, and am obese lady saw my mom buying some size 0-2 jeans and apparently, that’s not body positive? She stared at my mom and made her very uncomfortable and then walked up to her, pointed at the jeans, glared at my mom, and said, “have you heard of the body positive movement? You people might need it.” This woman was a complete stranger. All my mom was doing was buying jeans for me, which just happened to be size 0, because I’m young and thin and active. For context, my family is very healthy and active, and I’m not anorexic.
Edit:grammar
Edit: Ahhh, so i got diagnosed anorexic, but the point still stands :/
Wtf is wrong with people
Blessings as you recover. And yes, that's crazy what happened to your mom, but mostly, I wish you well in your journey toward health.
@@lisahannah3175 i’m not in recovery yet, but maybe someday lol :P
Wishing you a steady recovery !
Hopefully this question isn’t invasive but how did you not notice you’re eating disordered? Speaking as someone who struggles with anorexia and who’s been a part of many ED communities, Ik that anorexic people WANT to lose weight and control their eating behaviours, so it’s odd for me to see someone who wasn’t aware if their ED.
@@noname-dk3wi i have no idea! i asked my parents for therapy for my social anxiety. turns out I had undiagnosed aspergers and anorexia. I thought it was normal to starve yourself. Honestly I was 90 lbs and calling myself obese, i have no idea how my parents didn’t step in and arrange for hospitalization or something. I genuinely thought it was normal to not eat for a couple days. But I’m from a wealthy family in an upper middle class area so it’s not like. we didn’t have food to eat. I just starved myself because I genuinely needed to cope somehow with stress. anyways, sorry for my rant. hope this helped.
MICHELLE PLEASE PLEASE COSPLAY AN AVATAR THE LAST AIRBENDER CHARACTER PREFERABLY TOPH SHE REMINDS ME OF YOU
It would be so cool if she had an avatar the last air bender week where she dresses as Toph, Katara, the Kioshi warriors and Azula 👉🏾👈🏾
Chino Cee I agree
dude I know its not exactly loa but Korra would be amazing with those muscles!
fern pdc right right
Even before mentioning men, what about thin women with body image issues? Is body positivity not for the underweight women?
I think of a roommate who really looked underweight to most people and was given such a hard time by so many people for it that she routinely cried about her body. She certainly could use inclusion in the body positivity movement.
I mean wikipedia says it is, lol. It's supposed to include E V E R Y O N E who suffers...whether it's with an actual disability with the body or a warped perception of the body...or with an emotional struggle to accept the body. The people who say anything otherwise are just straight up being awful or are still ignorant to what the movement/community really IS. . .
Well, obviously no, can you not read? This random heavier lady on the internet says it's only for fat poc so it therefore must be true, smh
I have a friend that can't absorb things into her blood stream very well (she can't absorb salt at all) and she's very insecure about her lack of weight. She has had surgeries and is on a tonne of medication. She will however never be able to not have to rely on insulin and vital nutrients being litterally injected (to rough a drip) once a week.
She's super insecure about it
I literally paused the video and take a walk around my room after the "body positivity is for fat people of colour". I mean, JESUS
I understand that people in larger bodies want to feel loved, valued, and appreciated because every human should feel that way. However, telling someone they shouldn’t be apart of a community that I thought was supposed to be about self-love and health is terrible. When I was fresh in recovery and still very thin, I’d be crushed if someone told me to shut up because my desire to value myself and become healthy took up too much space. Loving yourself means taking care of yourself, but it doesn’t mean hurting others in the process.
I wish I could like this comment more than once. I love it!
Wow she can sing, she’s beautiful, she’s strong, and she’s intelligent
Michelle you keep surprising me
I love your content! I've fat and thin and through it all I was told that I was unhealthy and struggling with body positivity. I only recently became happy with how I looked and felt and it happened when I starting eating healthy and working out daily
Too many thin people representing body positivity? Can I offer you front row seats at the oppression olympics