@@dorothysmith7226 Are they loyal? You treat it kindly, take pity on it. The dog will love you back too People should be different, most are and have empathy or some emotion towards you, loyalty, care if they loose you. The narc doesn't, it cares about IT Nothing else, its you that follows IT. The point, stop and see what happens.
@@dorothysmith7226you sounds trauma bonded. Block and go NO CONTACT. if you leave the door open even a crack they will try and hoover for supply. They know which supply has healed and seen through the mask ❤
It took 6 dates and I knew I had a narcissist playing games. I told him what I expected from the relationship he said he wasn’t at that point. I then ended it stating we wanted different things. I walked away never contacted him it’s been three months. I had an experience with a narcissist about 6 years ago once you wrestle with these crocodiles they are easy to pick up on. I hate dealing with them they are full of crap and waist your time. They are really messed up psychologically I’m too old to deal with their nutty behavior.
Yes, if you don’t give them what they want . My ex. Narc was asking me to marry him I said I would be cursed by God if I do that .., that’s why I got discarded. My life would have been a living hell if I had married to that narc and have a baby . Omg, God protected me I am so grateful.
No, actually you protected yourself not God. You made a good decision and you should own that decision and not delegate it to someone else. If God was benevolent he wouldn’t have traumatised the children who go on to become the narcissists that plague our lives. I’m not convinced of religion but I am a humanist. It bothers me that a God who created all creatures can selectively impose narcissism on some of them. It makes me think that such a God is quite cruel. I don’t criticise your faith, I think I understand the comfort it gives some people but lets be candid your God allows some cruel things to happen.
@Sci-d9c Why would anyone want a DEMON to care about them? We don’t care what they think about us, THEY care what we think about them… They are the ones obsessed with their image and how they look to other people. Exposing them destroys their facade aka their fragile ego and ruins their reputation. When we look back, we realize we never needed them in the first place. They needed us and tricked us in to thinking it was the other way around. They can’t live without people, while we actually live our best lives once we get rid of them 💁♂️
I began watching and decided that I FINALLY don't care! I am the nemesis of all narcissists and I see them for what they are. I don't care anymore! I'm FREE! 😊
Some times mistakes can happen, you're not a God being who can see through them of who they are, there are plenty of people who did mistakes by judging them wrong, my friend did a lot of misunderstanding and confusion by judging people, because she had traumatic bond about past relationships
@rotemsalvatori7394 Haven't we all? 🙄 I never implied nor stated I was God. Whatever YOUR issues and weaknesses are, I am not responsible. If you don't like that I have overcome what still controls YOU, then you're pathetic. Don't come at me unless you're better equipped than this. I dont know you, and therefore, I will repeat... I DON'T CARE! Get over it already!! Move on! I guarantee you that your narcissist cares even less than I do! Accept it! Stop with the pity party,buck up and carry on!!
I agree, I've got stop watching this sort of stuff, it's helpful yet I've made my mind up too!! I too am free.... And I quote, from the Video Clip, Roses by Outkast, Take one good look at the past, and moving!! 😅
Sometimes I wonder how many people here actually dated the exact same person I did? LOL!! After she dumped me, I was utterly amazed by how many other people's stories seemed SO much like mine. It has helped me to see that while I did make some major mistakes, she was indeed doing all the things I felt she had been, despite the many signs she always had a (nearly convincing) answer for. I've learned many lessons from all this. Most of all, (1) ALWAYS trust your gut feelings, (2) enforcing boundaries is more important than setting them and (3) never hesitate to walk away once you know it isn't right for you, on any level. If you feel a need to investigate, you're already there, because trust has been damaged.
All of this. I knew that my ex was not right for me despite thinking he was for months. I knew he wasn't right for me when I realized that we had different boundaries when it comes to relationships. He seems to think it's fine to basically act like he's single even when he's in a relationship. That's not what I'm looking for. If he wants to keep his options open, he's free to do that but he's not going to keep me around while he does. He can be mad about it all he wants. He accused me of slandering him to his friends and family after I left him. He said, stop slandering me to my friends and family. I said, it's not slander if it's the truth. I'm only telling the truth about how you treated me but if that's what you want to tell yourself to make yourself feel better than go for it. He tried to Hoover me once and realized it wasn't going to work and now he's gone completely silent. I don't care anymore, I wanted him out of my life anyway. The way I see it, he's a cheater. It doesn't have to be physical. He seems to think it's okay to message other women inappropriately and spend time with them without me around and I'm just not having it. He can do what he wants but I don't have to put up with it.
I know, my EX told me she had lots of dudes roaming around, so I asked, how come you never settled, she said I’m waiting for the right one and that’s you, proposed to her she said yes, then the nightmare began… she’s still hovering Me, she’s playing the game, I’m playing it back, she made a narcissist. I think it’s time for us victims to fight back and not run away, because they will victimized another one then another one, we need to put an awareness on this issue!
After we met with his new supply she thought I was crazy because the things he was telling her about me . And she said OMg you are the sweetest and the smartest woman. He was triangulating me with her, but everything he told her was a lie. These narcs are pathological liars omg,
Thank you for sharing, it is healing to get help from God through others 🙏 Your comment really helped me today and will continue to carry me through life. ❤
@josiesaldana5402 God is definitely in the details. As the narcissist tried to convince us that EVIL was the dominate force in this world, God used our ordeals to guide us to a place (here) where we all have now found each other and we are comforted by the thought that GOOD still exist in the world. Our experiences are testimonies that will help many other people avoid the pitfalls and traps of narcissist. We all are bonding and relating through our pain. We are, without even knowing, foiling the plans of Satan and destroying every single narcissist which each story we share. They can no longer hide in the shadows because where ever light is present darkness must flee and cease to exist. 🙏
Exposed her, stopped reacting on her provocations, blocked her and went no contact. My reward? She’s done with me and have no use for me, is what she’s been telling her flying monkeys, so yeah 100% free 😁
Been there... But then they have the audacity to expect you to forgive them and move on like it never happened... Cause it was all your fault anyway..... 😅😂🥴
Yesss…mine actually tried to tell me that I can’t bring up issues in a manner that instill guilt or shame. To a point I get that. But, when they are blatantly disrespecting you in public with triangulation, and other forms of manipulation then that adult conversation is necessary…for normal people. They refuse to have those conversations or can’t have the conversation without shifting the blame…ugh!!! It never ends until you end it. It’s hard, but the only “fix” is to walk away from the slimy beings. I did, and after the initial set back all is good. Life is actually becoming worth it again. ❤️😃
My narc husband got extremely angry when I was leaving him. He said I would never find another man like him, and I yelled back, "That is what I am praying for!" He knocked me to the ground, but I finally got away from him/
I can say this is 100% accurate from experience. When I finally woke up to what I was dealing with after almost 16 yrs together (15 of those married to her), I laughed in her face, called her out for exactly what she is, she actually filed for divorce again for the second time but didn’t beg me to take her back like the first one. I completely withdrew from reacting to her or giving in to her demands and that’s when I got left alone… at least for a while. Come to find out she had a “boyfriend” almost a year prior. After she told on herself, she said she “loves” her new supply because “he’s weak, just listens to me and does whatever I tell him to” and went on to say “it’s empowering” and “I have all the power over him.” These people are truly sick, evil people.
Dang…She actually fessed up! How unusual. Typically they won’t give you that sort of satisfaction. She must’ve felt she was inflicting pain. Or, was seeking negative supply anticipating a negative reaction. Their selfish motives are predictable. So thankful for this community of people and their comments.
After 36 years i did everything you said. I disconnected everything from my husband. Ignore and ignore. Education is the key. It works as they hate it. Once you know the truth, it wont work anymore. They are gone because there is Notting there for them. There supply is taken away and give to yourself. What a beautiful gift to give to yourself.
It took me a long time to realize I was attracting these people into my life. Perhaps they can't help but be who they are BUT I can certainly change who I am and no longer allow such people in my life and I have done so. What a good feeling it is to take my power back and never ever allow another to use me. I am no longer a target...just somebody for these people avoid. May it be so for you as well!
@@ooooo18758predators prey on anyone who shows kindness and vulnerability because they view it as being weak. let them think that and come to you and prove them otherwise with boundaries, assertiveness, self respect, and taking your time.
@ooooo18758 They are constantly suffering in darkness so they attract to our light. We are the shiny new toy, the knight in shining armor or if female the Queen that will complete their kingdom. Then they consume all of our light and discard us. But because they can not produce their own light, they have to find another source of light. In the meantime we start to repair and slowly start shining again and that alerts them that it’s time to circle back and feed off the old light again… It’s very wicked when described in this manner right 🤷♂️ My aunt told me, if you were to remove their skin (costume) and get to actually see the DEMON you’ve been sleeping with and how hideous it really is you’d be frightened that you were trying to keep that thing in your life
They're done when you're done. I had a narc ex that came FIVE YEARS after the first time he left me for no reason. He left me and came back 4 times, till the day I told him "No hard feelings, but this is the end. This is it, no more". After that, he never came back. I kinda think they KNOW when you're truly done.
They ought to know if and when you're done. The planned their campaign of abuse and devaluing, and they would have factored in the likelihood of you losing patience or catching them out and even the possibility of you discarding them. So they already know the way they're going to try to falsely present the narrative around the breakup and they wlll always convince themselves that either they were victim to your abuse and discard and ready to hunt for sympathy or that of an amicable breakup because you "just weren't a good fit together", which sounds way healthier than the truth. My ex covert narc ended things horribly, but I just know that if we met in another 5 years she would swear blind that we just didn't have enough in common, rather than discussing her 7 years of manipulation and lies.
I BLOCKED this person, then when I got through this, I BLOCKED THAT NARCISSIST once again....on ALL of my social med. and my e-mail, also...BLOCK that Narcissist, is the ONLY way I can heal!
I blocked his message's section he was trying call me I didn't pick his call up ,we separated 9 months so far , I silent him in the air at public club .
Narcissists rarely move on and when and if they do, its usually because they found someone else to prey on however that won't stop them from contacting you even if it takes months or years, they'll find their way towards you
That is so true. They still keep trying you even when they have new supply. They need constant external validation. It must be hard to live like that but you can have a mental illness or even a personality disorder and still not treat people horribly. Sometimes I think that the way they treat people is a choice. Sure, they have a personality disorder because of some kind of trauma but at the end of the day, they're choosing to treat people the way they do.
@@babyhandgrenade4004 I agree with you wholeheartedly. They're cunning, they typically go after certain people as you've stated, usually go after confident successful empathetic kind natured introverted individuals. While it may feel nice to be thought of, never entertain them for their intentions are to their benefits. They may time to reach out and when they do it's only to see where they stand with you. As I've stated before they're cunning so if they see you have any feelings for them in any way, they will use that to advantage and fool you in the long run. Important to be firm and set healthy boundaries with these narcissists because clearly they rarely do themselves.
My Ex narcissist girl friend is crazy in the head and crazy in bed. After 5 weeks of dating I broke up with her and learned of her personality mental disorder. STAY AWAY from people with narcissist traits.
Is her name Brittany ?? That' was mine dated just under a year. 💯 Malignant Narcissist !! She nearly Destroyed my home and my life !! No Bull. 💯 PURE Malevolence
Why do men and women do this to a person? Why would they use a person and not have real feelings?? Why are they so nasty when you have given them all of you??
These are sick people. I have a neighbor like this, it took me almost a year to figure out what was going on. I want to thank you and you tube for all the identifying answers because I had no idea what a narcissist is, now I do, I was shocked to find out how fooled I was.🎉
tell me about it I’m not saying I was perfect but feels like a waste of 10 years having a kid with her which I love to bits just lied to so many people called the police. Got restraining order still not finished with the court case was begging me on a daily basis for another kid, even when we wasn’t getting on so much the last few years this is why I think she looked for a new supply ready and she looked to have a fight the one night to end everything and take me down for everything that she could and go around playing the victim acting like a sweet innocent girl
Answer: When your 100% done with them! That's how you know.... I lost count how many cycles I have gone through he last 2 out of three years as of today.... And they made it so easy for me to escape. I actually took this final discard as the kindest thing she has ever done for me. She presented me with the oppurtunity to realize she is only going to get worse. The cycle gt shorter and shorter. She actually took care of what my biggest need was.... For her to move on with her life;
When you are run down so far that you feel worthless they will do their cheating right in front of you and weaponize your insecurities and then go cold
I'm fairly sure my nex is done with me. He tried to be my friend after an explosive split, but then I blocked him, reported him to police and got the favourable outcome in family court. He's still on bail so only communication about the children in an app. I'm well and truly done and I think he knows that it would be pointless to try.
When my Ex NARC had me to come to his house for a ride and take him to get a part for his car,and I when went over there he called another woman to take him ,i tripped out in him got in my car i knew it was over because NARC dont want no one to Front them or flipped out on them,they like to get over on you or put up with there bullshit,he knew he couldn't handle me, Single Life is Beautiful ❤
So true that it depends on us. After finding out about his affair, he initially said he wanted to try to work on our relationship. But he was lying and keeping the mistress on the side still. Once I said I was done and filed for divorce, he said he was done too 😂 good riddance.
Very similar story here. The fact that they dont care and just move on, leaving behind a whole ass train wreck in the lives of their victims drives me crazy. Justice needs to be served to them right in front of their victims. But it NEVER happens that way. How do I get over this rumination and pain?
@@joe0633just thik about them, that they are never happy, they are trapped for life time with Allah's curse. Because they never find happiness as they never fall in love. So if you can not love someone , can you really be happy with them? It's not a co worker , when you are relationship you have to live and share bed without feelings. So think this way, they are never happy in themselves, and you know , your absence can't be met by anyone else in their life, because external validation doesn't work in their case. If you follow them you will find that they are angry upon you. That the prove they miss you
@@joe0633hey how are you doing today? I just saw your comment and I been wondering the same thing ! It sucks and this guy found a replacement for me and he started ghosting me all the time and now he has Ghosted me for over 3 weeks .I can't stand him. He has stonewalled me for months. It's insane ! I hope you're doing better today .I was just checking in .😊
Long as we are make ourselves available to them for whatever reason we will remain bonded to and trapped by them…. simply going no contact is not sufficient! They will find ways to weasel themselves back into your life and extract from you, your substance, energy, and goodness for their selfish desires……
Accountability & shame is real big for the ex narc, there’s no way the narc is coming back to me, bc I confronted the narc many times to take accountability & every time it was a problem. The last discard was it for the narc. I wouldn’t argue when they wanted me too, I totally went silent. It’s been over 8 months I’m sure the narc cheated & when I went silent it worked out perfectly for the narc
@raidenewalden4354 Self preservation is way more important. If you’ve already wasted time with them, why waste the remaining days of your life? You can’t fix yesterday, but you can enjoy TODAY, because tomorrow is not promised
This is 100% true- When this person is your child- it’s crippling ! After 20+ years of being a victim of the wrath I was genuinely at the end of my rope. I silently separated myself and lil by lil it occurred to her that I was no longer engaging AT ALL IN ANY OF IT! I secretly hoped she would notice the withdraw and second think her treatment of me and NO- that was my rude awakening, she was done! She no longer gives me the time of day on any level. I was always afraid of this, it’s the theory of negative attention is better than no attention at all. It’s a bitter sweet change, less drama but very sad!
He blocked me on facebook and whatsap for no apparent reason. I deleted him because I am DONE! They are incredibly immature and no longer want anything to do with this game playing.
We had something very special. He knew how much I love them and that I only protect myself by leaving. I told him ge would never see me again, if he would not go into therapy. He did not care. He only asked for his stuff. I want only his nice side.
@@AlessandroMoreschi-i5q well, he could not have. I did not want anything from him. We had even some common friends and I was öike a Lottogewinn for him. He Kerosin tryinhvto get in touch abd I ignore him. He keeps talkung to people I know bit never says a wird about me. He is so typical NPD. And I feel bad for him that he cannot ffel real love. Not even for himself. I do not care if he is gay. We had such a great life together. Both of is. He lost ot all because I was the engine allways. My life Horst on great...no matter what
They will tone down the abuse a notch When You Seriously Confront Them over a legal Issue! I guarantee you that will work! It worked for me. But I am still under their control in other ways...
@@incognito595 "I am still under their control" LMAO. Spoiler alert: of you feel leaving the narc, you won't do better? Just leave and see how mircales will start flowing in.
thank you this , this explains everything ! i spotted her pattern , she’d come back , ‘heartbroken’ loving me soo much , missing me . But i realised she’d blend her lies with a lot of truth. I was hoovered and then told she was confused and needed time , said she was going out with friend & unavailable for the next 2 nights , she swapped the nights around but not the venue , i went there & she’s there with her boss and new supply and watched her squirm as i told him where she’d been the day before ! 😂havnt heard a thing since 😂
I don't know, it definitely seems like psychosis sometimes. They truly want you to invest all of your energy into them. I am truly finished with it. Thank you Anoushka, your advice is sound.
Hello, i block her phone, i don't see her the last week-end, for me it's all done, i don't care what she thinks!!!! i must protect myself, i still love her, i know she never change,she suffer a lot but i'am hopless for her-i suffer also to see her like this !!!!! so long Petra i wish you the best but i don't stand this situation anymore !!!!!
I recently ended a short relationship, that was a torture for me mentally and emotionally. I missed interaction all the time, and was attracted to this person a huge ammount. Something was off. Always some complication and it felt like manipulation. I had a huge anxiety, trust issues and even some paranoid thoughts. I never cheated, but left this person as I was not sure if I am a narcissist or they were living a double life. Im in hell today- few weeks later after a breakup, and unsure about the reality of stuff..
Excellent information. I am dealing with this very thing at the moment. I've gone no contact for 2 1/2 months now. So far no hoovering, which is fine with me, but I am still expecting it. I'm hoping they think I am done with them and they do the same to me. That would be terrific. Thank you for this video. 🤗🤗👍👍
Mahalo Anoushka, it’s been quite the journey 🤍🙏🏾 from discard to healing, this is the one question I needed answered. Forever grateful 🙋🏻♂️🙏🏾 If you ever get to Hawaiʻi, please let me know. You’ll have a seat at my table, along with my children I will show you the most beautiful places here..
We were together for six months. He just dropped me and pushed me away completely. Tells everyone else "We're working through some things". I was completely stunned. Deer-in-the-headlights-style, trying to work out what was going on. I knew about narcissim but had fallen so in love with his false persona that I couldn't quite take it in. That said, I naturally employed many of these no-emotion tactics to try and protect myself, i.e. not engaging in arguments and standing in my truth when he tries to gaslight me. Fast-forward a month and I can't wait to get away from him. He now barely speaks or stares at me in weird ways, like he's angry, scared, hates me or all three. I still get the odd crocodile tears scene but I just look at him as if to say: "You can't be seriously thinking I'm going to fall for that one". He is baffled. However, I'm stuck in his house now, because the discard was after he asked me to move in with him. I had given my notice on the flat and couldn't retract it. I don't think he was quite bargaining on me actually ending up living here, neither was I, but I'm hopefully getting out soon. He still wants to pretend we're together. Last week we went out with friends and after blanking me for most of the time behind closed doors he grabbed my hand really tight and gave me the "I'm so in love with you look". I pulled my hand away. How very, very sick he is. Countdown to freedom!
Tu for these videos. They are extremely helpful to me on my journey thru this on my way out of this hell ride. I thought it was me for years until recently but now I see her(my mother) for the narc she really is. This is really tough to navigate tho because I have to live with her for at least another year and a half. Cannot and will not leave my kids behind for the fear of one of them being her next target. When you said, you can’t be happy if you can’t be ur true authentic self….wow! I just told my daughter that the other day. For the time being, I’m just going limited contact, staying away from her as much as possible and keeping emotionally detached. Can’t wait till this is over because it’s literally exhausting. Peace and love to everyone going thru this ❤❤❤
I know. Very hard but … for your sake, distance yourself. Family for many is not who you are born to or marry but who sticks with you in your hardest times. ❤
It took 4 years and 2 cycles of disappear / reappear before I started to look closer and object to their behaviour. In other words I pulled the curtain back. I was completely oblivious to narcissism. Thank you for helping me to understand this crazy.
This is true - when you don’t feed them anymore negatively or positively they do get fed up - I am still in contact with mine but he is getting absolutely nothing from me anymore - I know how awful he is & every interaction end with me telling him this & he can’t cope because he NEEDS to be seen as being nice 🤯 that it! He is t nice & I know it so there’s no going back
My narc sister kept calling 911 on me. She's a cop and knew what to say. After the 3rd time she did it she got told to leave me alone. I finally got the police to see what she was doing. And realistically she got away with it. I would have been arrested for abuse of 911. I know she's stalking me on the internet and through flying monkeys
Exactly , he had drained me so much i could no longer see him. i had told him something feels off i need time alone to recharge. He replied "You are off of me is what it sounds like" Just strange. As it turns out he was juggling me with several other women one of whom he was engaged to and later even married while he had been seeing me. i later ended it for good but it was a true addiction for me so it has been a battle
Wow! Never heard such true words that totally resignation with me. I feel that when I'm done with my partner, he'll be done. He won't take accountability or self reflecti and try to learn and grow from whats he done. Its about him moving on to someone else he can get his needs met from
Oh, Anoushka, I would have Run Away a long Time Ago, but it's impossible, at least for now. I Desperately want to get away. I'm counting the days. But I don't know how soon...
You have to be done with them don’t let them back in. I have had a few dealing with overt and malignant narcissists but never a covert narcissist they are really hard to see. A friend of mine has turned out to be a covert narcissist and once you realise and think about all the red flags you ignored it’s time to walk away.
I am dealing with a narcissist problem, but I feel almost guilty, when I don't talk / answer back - when I limit the communication. Thanks to my strong willed nature, I can & I try to keep resisting this narcissist, as much as possible. I't's almost impossible to do things like this?
I hate to tell you all this, but after 50 friggin years, I am releasing one back into the wild for you all to deal with. So watch out! She is now armed with a new narrative about how the ex abused her by saying no. If she tells you she endured said abuse for north of 45 years, you might want to question her diligently because the reality is it endured that long because he was trying to fix things and it took that long for him to realize that nothing he does matters. It is impossible to have peace in your home with them present, there is NO peace until they are GONE.
Ive been around people with high narcissistic traits. My mother was my 1st. The narcissist that took me down to nothing left inside of me, I went through a spiritual awakening. I had to feel to heal all of my past trauma alone. They still seek me out but now I'm strong and aware. Now they run. But the covert is relentless. Very persistent wanting to cycle me again. Even with his new supply. But now I think he has given up. I manipulate, gaslight and stonewall him. I love it. So empowering.
My ex girlfriend/narc, monkey branched to another relationship literally a couple of days after discarding.. She left me on May 27th of this year... She unfriended me on facebook.. And blocked my number.. We bumped into each other a couple of weeks ago.. I didn't show any resentment or anger and kept my composure.. She asked me if her stuff was still in my vehicle, I told her yes it was, she claims that my belongings are in her closet, as she had this smirk on her face, I believe she was trying to test me to see, how I'd react.. But I remained cool.. So she gets all her stuff out of my trunk, so I thought.. Made it home.. Looked inside my trunk to grab some shoes, and noticed she left her coffee mug, with her name on it.. I'm so confused, why she left that there..
You are still lucky buddy, my ex got into a talking stage with somebody else behind my back while we were still together then discarded me cold-hearted after she closed the deal with the new supply, 😂
They do things like this to mess with and stay in your head. Creating confusion is their way of maintaining control and since you kept your composure this was her way to assure herself that she still had the power to rattle you. Also, they use tactics like this to test the waters and as a pretext for a potential hoover. Don't fall for it. Mail it the coffee mug to her and keep the receipt (so you can send her a copy). Then completely cut off all access to yourself. You have to be ruthless with these types of people.
😢 Phew! So it's up to me? You really frightened me with that heading. At present, I couldn't BEAR the thought of never seeing her again 😭😭😭😭😭 I intend to pop into her little place as often as I think she will tolerate it (which is rarely, as far as I can assess) to just say 'Hello' at least. Life is DARKNESS without at least that much to look forward to.
I exposed him and put him into a state of narcissistic mortification so I would be surprised if he contacted me again. Nonetheless, I have a nagging feeling that he may try to contact me again.
My narc moved out of our home where I was stuck paying the rent and all the bills , while I was asking her to come back home and fix things. She expected me to be ignored , used the silent treatment on me , and ghosted me every single night , but the asked me to pay her rent were she was staying. I noticed right then and there because it’s always about what I can do for her , but she never gave anything back to the relationship. Nothing. No affection , no intimacy, no sex. Nothing , but she did sneak behind my back and spoke to other guys , met other guys when I wasn’t around , while telling everyone what kind of monster I was. All while I did everything for her.
@@gma729 damn bro and that’s the worst kind of narc. I hope you get away from her and find someone to actually be happy with. I know I’m keeping the door open to find someone but I’m not looking to hard either
My ex narc wanted me to marry him, was with him for 5 years. We broke up and he immediately got new supply, married her. I snooped his FB and saw a pic of he and I which was odd as he never put up pics of us. So, he has started playing games with his wife. 🙄. Glad he is out of my life and 1400 miles away.
I've been in no contact with her for 10 days now. She has not reached out to me. When we were together 10 days ago, she did ask me if she could keep my spare set of keys for my house and vehicles. This leaves me a little confused as to if she is done with me completely? She does have 3 - 5 other males in her life now that she bothers with.
I was able to get two of them to leave me alone. They don't text me, email me, nor just try to randomly show up. It took a few years. But I did lose my mother and sister in the process. They hang out with her still. THe most hurtful thing I've ever experienced.
After 5 years together went on a holiday, it was very noticeable she didn't want to be there as she was busy texting people. Upon our return her attitude was gaslighting me so I decided to leave her and finally walked out yes!!! Freedom!! She is done!!!! Funny thing is that I left her cause she was having affair with her young neighbour who is almost half her age and till now she probably thinks I dont know🤭🤭 I just wish the neighbour good luck cause she is getting several men into her home while he goes to work🤣🤣 So she is 100% done and truly now after 2 months zero contact life is so beautiful without her🙏
They are never done with you. It's you that needs to be done with them.
Absolutely!
Amen
So basically they are done with you when you are done with them.
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LoL
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Look at it as they did you a favor. They have a severe mental illness that was hidden from you becuz you feel in love with yourself.
@@emmamonroe3311 Very true, Emma ❤️🩹
YES 🙌🏽
The narcissist being done with us is the ultimate DREAM COME TRUE. 😄 This empath has set herself fee and doesn’t give a hoot anymore.
its nice to come to this point, when you just stop caring all together.
When they drain you dry and there’s nothing left. That’s when you know they’re 100% done
You will gain it back and keep it!
I’m broke but I’m free!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 6 figures GONE but I’m FREEEEEE!!!!😁😁😁
At 4:00 she says the answer: They ignore you. This happen when they realize they can't get anything from you.
MVP
@davedsilva drop the victim mentality.
And be free.
Life is too short to cry over spilled milk.
keep feeding a stray dog and it will keep coming back, stop feeding it and it will go beg off somebody else
But do u want to starve a stray dog??
@@dorothysmith7226 Are they loyal?
You treat it kindly, take pity on it.
The dog will love you back too
People should be different, most are and have empathy or some emotion towards you, loyalty, care if they loose you.
The narc doesn't, it cares about IT
Nothing else, its you that follows IT.
The point, stop and see what happens.
@@dorothysmith7226you sounds trauma bonded. Block and go NO CONTACT. if you leave the door open even a crack they will try and hoover for supply. They know which supply has healed and seen through the mask ❤
Dogs will give you unconditional love and loyalty.
Lol😂..
It took 6 dates and I knew I had a narcissist playing games. I told him what I expected from the relationship he said he wasn’t at that point. I then ended it stating we wanted different things. I walked away never contacted him it’s been three months. I had an experience with a narcissist about 6 years ago once you wrestle with these crocodiles they are easy to pick up on. I hate dealing with them they are full of crap and waist your time. They are really messed up psychologically I’m too old to deal with their nutty behavior.
It’s true they do waste your time and take your energy … better to move forward and not look back nothing will change
Try 'waste' 😉
wasted time ✓✓✓ 🎶
4th date and no sex I'd be gone
So you're now trauma bonded and look like damaged, don't focus on your expectations, it's look like you're the narcissists
Yes, if you don’t give them what they want . My ex. Narc was asking me to marry him I said I would be cursed by God if I do that .., that’s why I got discarded. My life would have been a living hell if I had married to that narc and have a baby . Omg, God protected me I am so grateful.
Yes your life would have been a challenging and not your own and it would have been harder to escape. You had guardian angels looking after you
No, actually you protected yourself not God. You made a good decision and you should own that decision and not delegate it to someone else. If God was benevolent he wouldn’t have traumatised the children who go on to become the narcissists that plague our lives. I’m not convinced of religion but I am a humanist. It bothers me that a God who created all creatures can selectively impose narcissism on some of them. It makes me think that such a God is quite cruel. I don’t criticise your faith, I think I understand the comfort it gives some people but lets be candid your God allows some cruel things to happen.
The narc tried to have a baby with me as well early on in the relationship. Good thing we didn’t let them trap us!
@Trueblue222 you don't even know Him
he didnt protect me and it is a living hell.
And im divorced with kids
When you stop believing their BS and you see who they really are and they know it
Not if you value yourself and you know they don’t give a F about you! However, If you love the game and the pain stay.
@Sci-d9c Why would anyone want a DEMON to care about them? We don’t care what they think about us, THEY care what we think about them…
They are the ones obsessed with their image and how they look to other people. Exposing them destroys their facade aka their fragile ego and ruins their reputation.
When we look back, we realize we never needed them in the first place. They needed us and tricked us in to thinking it was the other way around.
They can’t live without people, while we actually live our best lives once we get rid of them 💁♂️
Yup
They are done when you cut off all supply. They need to find another host to drain supply from.
Just let them go. There is nothing to love when it comes to them. Just think about it.
I began watching and decided that I FINALLY don't care! I am the nemesis of all narcissists and I see them for what they are. I don't care anymore! I'm FREE! 😊
Some times mistakes can happen, you're not a God being who can see through them of who they are, there are plenty of people who did mistakes by judging them wrong, my friend did a lot of misunderstanding and confusion by judging people, because she had traumatic bond about past relationships
@rotemsalvatori7394 Haven't we all? 🙄 I never implied nor stated I was God. Whatever YOUR issues and weaknesses are, I am not responsible. If you don't like that I have overcome what still controls YOU, then you're pathetic. Don't come at me unless you're better equipped than this. I dont know you, and therefore, I will repeat... I DON'T CARE! Get over it already!! Move on! I guarantee you that your narcissist cares even less than I do! Accept it! Stop with the pity party,buck up and carry on!!
I'm working on it
@@R73949narcs are incredibly predictable once you know the moves. They're not very clever they're like automatons...
I agree, I've got stop watching this sort of stuff, it's helpful yet I've made my mind up too!!
I too am free....
And I quote, from the Video Clip, Roses by Outkast, Take one good look at the past, and moving!! 😅
Sometimes I wonder how many people here actually dated the exact same person I did? LOL!!
After she dumped me, I was utterly amazed by how many other people's stories seemed SO much like mine. It has helped me to see that while I did make some major mistakes, she was indeed doing all the things I felt she had been, despite the many signs she always had a (nearly convincing) answer for.
I've learned many lessons from all this. Most of all,
(1) ALWAYS trust your gut feelings,
(2) enforcing boundaries is more important than setting them and
(3) never hesitate to walk away once you know it isn't right for you, on any level. If you feel a need to investigate, you're already there, because trust has been damaged.
So true, once you start to investigate you are already there, because trust has been damaged .
Well said ! 👍
All of this. I knew that my ex was not right for me despite thinking he was for months. I knew he wasn't right for me when I realized that we had different boundaries when it comes to relationships. He seems to think it's fine to basically act like he's single even when he's in a relationship. That's not what I'm looking for. If he wants to keep his options open, he's free to do that but he's not going to keep me around while he does. He can be mad about it all he wants. He accused me of slandering him to his friends and family after I left him. He said, stop slandering me to my friends and family. I said, it's not slander if it's the truth. I'm only telling the truth about how you treated me but if that's what you want to tell yourself to make yourself feel better than go for it. He tried to Hoover me once and realized it wasn't going to work and now he's gone completely silent. I don't care anymore, I wanted him out of my life anyway. The way I see it, he's a cheater. It doesn't have to be physical. He seems to think it's okay to message other women inappropriately and spend time with them without me around and I'm just not having it. He can do what he wants but I don't have to put up with it.
Trust has been damaged and this is the reason people do a lot of dates and never find the one, because they're trauma boned
I know, my EX told me she had lots of dudes roaming around, so I asked, how come you never settled, she said I’m waiting for the right one and that’s you, proposed to her she said yes, then the nightmare began… she’s still hovering Me, she’s playing the game, I’m playing it back, she made a narcissist. I think it’s time for us victims to fight back and not run away, because they will victimized another one then another one, we need to put an awareness on this issue!
@@BLACKNOY0979 if she will going to victimized someone else than don't worry the universe is watching everything, they'll get their brutal karmas
After we met with his new supply she thought I was crazy because the things he was telling her about me . And she said OMg you are the sweetest and the smartest woman. He was triangulating me with her, but everything he told her was a lie. These narcs are pathological liars omg,
Thank you for sharing, it is healing to get help from God through others 🙏 Your comment really helped me today and will continue to carry me through life. ❤
@@josiesaldana5402 oh, thank u we are winning trust me
@josiesaldana5402 God is definitely in the details. As the narcissist tried to convince us that EVIL was the dominate force in this world, God used our ordeals to guide us to a place (here) where we all have now found each other and we are comforted by the thought that GOOD still exist in the world. Our experiences are testimonies that will help many other people avoid the pitfalls and traps of narcissist. We all are bonding and relating through our pain. We are, without even knowing, foiling the plans of Satan and destroying every single narcissist which each story we share.
They can no longer hide in the shadows because where ever light is present darkness must flee and cease to exist. 🙏
Exposed her, stopped reacting on her provocations, blocked her and went no contact. My reward? She’s done with me and have no use for me, is what she’s been telling her flying monkeys, so yeah 100% free 😁
When you catch them cheating and they know they can’t talk themselves out of it.
Happened to me
Been there... But then they have the audacity to expect you to forgive them and move on like it never happened... Cause it was all your fault anyway..... 😅😂🥴
When you won't take anymore crap they are done.
Yesss…mine actually tried to tell me that I can’t bring up issues in a manner that instill guilt or shame. To a point I get that. But, when they are blatantly disrespecting you in public with triangulation, and other forms of manipulation then that adult conversation is necessary…for normal people. They refuse to have those conversations or can’t have the conversation without shifting the blame…ugh!!! It never ends until you end it. It’s hard, but the only “fix” is to walk away from the slimy beings. I did, and after the initial set back all is good. Life is actually becoming worth it again. ❤️😃
Yep When they know you know.
Exactly.
I don't know if that's the trath or rather the narcissist likes to tell themselves that they are done to spare the feelings of ultimate rejection.
My narc husband got extremely angry when I was leaving him. He said I would never find another man like him, and I yelled back, "That is what I am praying for!" He knocked me to the ground, but I finally got away from him/
I can say this is 100% accurate from experience. When I finally woke up to what I was dealing with after almost 16 yrs together (15 of those married to her), I laughed in her face, called her out for exactly what she is, she actually filed for divorce again for the second time but didn’t beg me to take her back like the first one. I completely withdrew from reacting to her or giving in to her demands and that’s when I got left alone… at least for a while. Come to find out she had a “boyfriend” almost a year prior. After she told on herself, she said she “loves” her new supply because “he’s weak, just listens to me and does whatever I tell him to” and went on to say “it’s empowering” and “I have all the power over him.” These people are truly sick, evil people.
@@wameezyfind à Good woman son !
Dang…She actually fessed up! How unusual. Typically they won’t give you that sort of satisfaction. She must’ve felt she was inflicting pain. Or, was seeking negative supply anticipating a negative reaction. Their selfish motives are predictable. So thankful for this community of people and their comments.
After 36 years i did everything you said.
I disconnected everything from my husband.
Ignore and ignore.
Education is the key.
It works as they hate it.
Once you know the truth, it wont work anymore.
They are gone because there is Notting there for them.
There supply is taken away and give to yourself.
What a beautiful gift to give to yourself.
It took me a long time to realize I was attracting these people into my life. Perhaps they can't help but be who they are BUT I can certainly change who I am and no longer allow such people in my life and I have done so. What a good feeling it is to take my power back and never ever allow another to use me. I am no longer a target...just somebody for these people avoid. May it be so for you as well!
How can we not become a target for them. How do they get attracted to us and target us .
@@ooooo18758predators prey on anyone who shows kindness and vulnerability because they view it as being weak. let them think that and come to you and prove them otherwise with boundaries, assertiveness, self respect, and taking your time.
@ooooo18758 They are constantly suffering in darkness so they attract to our light. We are the shiny new toy, the knight in shining armor or if female the Queen that will complete their kingdom.
Then they consume all of our light and discard us. But because they can not produce their own light, they have to find another source of light. In the meantime we start to repair and slowly start shining again and that alerts them that it’s time to circle back and feed off the old light again…
It’s very wicked when described in this manner right 🤷♂️
My aunt told me, if you were to remove their skin (costume) and get to actually see the DEMON you’ve been sleeping with and how hideous it really is you’d be frightened that you were trying to keep that thing in your life
Thank you all my last week has been crazy this community has been my strength thanks
Mine too...... ❤
They're done when you're done. I had a narc ex that came FIVE YEARS after the first time he left me for no reason. He left me and came back 4 times, till the day I told him "No hard feelings, but this is the end. This is it, no more". After that, he never came back. I kinda think they KNOW when you're truly done.
They ought to know if and when you're done. The planned their campaign of abuse and devaluing, and they would have factored in the likelihood of you losing patience or catching them out and even the possibility of you discarding them. So they already know the way they're going to try to falsely present the narrative around the breakup and they wlll always convince themselves that either they were victim to your abuse and discard and ready to hunt for sympathy or that of an amicable breakup because you "just weren't a good fit together", which sounds way healthier than the truth. My ex covert narc ended things horribly, but I just know that if we met in another 5 years she would swear blind that we just didn't have enough in common, rather than discussing her 7 years of manipulation and lies.
I BLOCKED this person, then when I got through this, I BLOCKED THAT NARCISSIST once again....on ALL of my social med. and my e-mail, also...BLOCK that Narcissist, is the ONLY way I can heal!
@@0annonymous WHAT are you talking about? Probate? What does THAT have to do with anything?
I blocked his message's section he was trying call me I didn't pick his call up ,we separated 9 months so far , I silent him in the air at public club .
Delete your SM. change email. 😑
Yes
Change your phone number
Narcissists rarely move on and when and if they do, its usually because they found someone else to prey on however that won't stop them from contacting you even if it takes months or years, they'll find their way towards you
That is so true. They still keep trying you even when they have new supply. They need constant external validation. It must be hard to live like that but you can have a mental illness or even a personality disorder and still not treat people horribly. Sometimes I think that the way they treat people is a choice. Sure, they have a personality disorder because of some kind of trauma but at the end of the day, they're choosing to treat people the way they do.
@@babyhandgrenade4004 I agree with you wholeheartedly. They're cunning, they typically go after certain people as you've stated, usually go after confident successful empathetic kind natured introverted individuals. While it may feel nice to be thought of, never entertain them for their intentions are to their benefits. They may time to reach out and when they do it's only to see where they stand with you. As I've stated before they're cunning so if they see you have any feelings for them in any way, they will use that to advantage and fool you in the long run. Important to be firm and set healthy boundaries with these narcissists because clearly they rarely do themselves.
very true, its been twelve years and he is still not done.
@@happycare6999 I'd bet, truly a curse ever crossed paths with these people however in the midst of everything, we learn so much about ourselves
@HistrionicPersonalityDisorder1 true
I say this with no regrets, I am so done with the narc!
My Ex narcissist girl friend is crazy in the head and crazy in bed. After 5 weeks of dating I broke up with her and learned of her personality mental disorder. STAY AWAY from people with narcissist traits.
So you're superficial and just wanted to get la*d
In all actuality these people are demonically possessed. 👿 (Whether you care to believe this or NOT!)
Most people have some narc traits.
Is her name Brittany ?? That' was mine dated just under a year. 💯 Malignant Narcissist !! She nearly Destroyed my home and my life !! No Bull. 💯 PURE Malevolence
Why do men and women do this to a person? Why would they use a person and not have real feelings?? Why are they so nasty when you have given them all of you??
Sick people
Cause their narcissistic
These are sick people. I have a neighbor like this, it took me almost a year to figure out what was going on. I want to thank you and you tube for all the identifying answers because I had no idea what a narcissist is, now I do, I was shocked to find out how fooled I was.🎉
Démons 😈 live inside of them.
tell me about it I’m not saying I was perfect but feels like a waste of 10 years having a kid with her which I love to bits just lied to so many people called the police. Got restraining order still not finished with the court case was begging me on a daily basis for another kid, even when we wasn’t getting on so much the last few years this is why I think she looked for a new supply ready and she looked to have a fight the one night to end everything and take me down for everything that she could and go around playing the victim acting like a sweet innocent girl
Answer: When your 100% done with them!
That's how you know.... I lost count how many cycles I have gone through he last 2 out of three years as of today....
And they made it so easy for me to escape.
I actually took this final discard as the kindest thing she has ever done for me.
She presented me with the oppurtunity to realize she is only going to get worse.
The cycle gt shorter and shorter.
She actually took care of what my biggest need was....
For her to move on with her life;
Do appreciate your feed..as someone who is ‘getting over’ a narcissist. 😉
Thank you … glad the content is helping you recover from this experience
Go no contact.. make sure their therapist and your attorney are aware of the situation!!
When you are run down so far that you feel worthless they will do their cheating right in front of you and weaponize your insecurities and then go cold
Evil personified
Why wait for that to happen... I ran for the hills once I knew what I was dealing with.
I am glad that he is done with me!!😅😅
I stopped giving him anything and blocked him everywhere, simple 😂
Same here... 😅
I'm fairly sure my nex is done with me. He tried to be my friend after an explosive split, but then I blocked him, reported him to police and got the favourable outcome in family court. He's still on bail so only communication about the children in an app. I'm well and truly done and I think he knows that it would be pointless to try.
Very true. They require an endless source of supply and will suck the life out of you. I had to ghost her for my own sanity.
Ghosting is what narcissistic does first
Makes sense, bearing in mind they always live vicariously.
Always!!
When my Ex NARC had me to come to his house for a ride and take him to get a part for his car,and I when went over there he called another woman to take him ,i tripped out in him got in my car i knew it was over because NARC dont want no one to Front them or flipped out on them,they like to get over on you or put up with there bullshit,he knew he couldn't handle me, Single Life is Beautiful ❤
So true that it depends on us. After finding out about his affair, he initially said he wanted to try to work on our relationship. But he was lying and keeping the mistress on the side still. Once I said I was done and filed for divorce, he said he was done too 😂 good riddance.
Snap. Same old story.😮
Keep us posted on the progress
Very similar story here. The fact that they dont care and just move on, leaving behind a whole ass train wreck in the lives of their victims drives me crazy. Justice needs to be served to them right in front of their victims. But it NEVER happens that way. How do I get over this rumination and pain?
@@joe0633just thik about them, that they are never happy, they are trapped for life time with Allah's curse. Because they never find happiness as they never fall in love. So if you can not love someone , can you really be happy with them? It's not a co worker , when you are relationship you have to live and share bed without feelings. So think this way, they are never happy in themselves, and you know , your absence can't be met by anyone else in their life, because external validation doesn't work in their case. If you follow them you will find that they are angry upon you. That the prove they miss you
@@joe0633hey how are you doing today? I just saw your comment and I been wondering the same thing ! It sucks and this guy found a replacement for me and he started ghosting me all the time and now he has Ghosted me for over 3 weeks .I can't stand him. He has stonewalled me for months. It's insane ! I hope you're doing better today .I was just checking in .😊
Long as we are make ourselves available to them for whatever reason we will remain bonded to and trapped by them…. simply going no contact is not sufficient!
They will find ways to weasel themselves back into your life and extract from you, your substance, energy, and goodness for their selfish desires……
They will find ways but this is where you have to block them on every move … you have to protect yourself
@@anoushkamarcin Thank you, Anoushka! You are so right! ❌ them!!!!
Accountability & shame is real big for the ex narc, there’s no way the narc is coming back to me, bc I confronted the narc many times to take accountability & every time it was a problem. The last discard was it for the narc. I wouldn’t argue when they wanted me too, I totally went silent. It’s been over 8 months I’m sure the narc cheated & when I went silent it worked out perfectly for the narc
Yes … I love your positivity 💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽
It is hard . To leave someone you spent years of your precious time .
@raidenewalden4354 Self preservation is way more important. If you’ve already wasted time with them, why waste the remaining days of your life?
You can’t fix yesterday, but you can enjoy TODAY, because tomorrow is not promised
7:24 is the best! Still keep your guard up, because everyone is in the harem garage.
Even after you escape.
This is 100% true- When this person is your child- it’s crippling ! After 20+ years of being a victim of the wrath I was genuinely at the end of my rope. I silently separated myself and lil by lil it occurred to her that I was no longer engaging AT ALL IN ANY OF IT! I secretly hoped she would notice the withdraw and second think her treatment of me and NO- that was my rude awakening, she was done! She no longer gives me the time of day on any level. I was always afraid of this, it’s the theory of negative attention is better than no attention at all. It’s a bitter sweet change, less drama but very sad!
Got rid of mine by telling the truth
"It is never enough" truth!
He blocked me on facebook and whatsap for no apparent reason.
I deleted him because I am DONE!
They are incredibly immature and no longer want anything to do with this game playing.
Thanks for this educational message. God bless. ❤
We had something very special. He knew how much I love them and that I only protect myself by leaving.
I told him ge would never see me again, if he would not go into therapy. He did not care. He only asked for his stuff. I want only his nice side.
He doesn't have a nice side, sweetheart. He lied to you
@@AlessandroMoreschi-i5q well, he could not have. I did not want anything from him. We had even some common friends and I was öike a Lottogewinn for him. He Kerosin tryinhvto get in touch abd I ignore him. He keeps talkung to people I know bit never says a wird about me. He is so typical NPD. And I feel bad for him that he cannot ffel real love. Not even for himself. I do not care if he is gay. We had such a great life together. Both of is. He lost ot all because I was the engine allways. My life Horst on great...no matter what
When they divorce you, or when you tell them they are a narc😂
They will tone down the abuse a notch When You Seriously Confront Them over a legal Issue! I guarantee you that will work! It worked for me. But I am still under their control in other ways...
YES! He filed after I ghosted him for fourteen years. Praying it goes through soon.
@@incognito595 "I am still under their control" LMAO.
Spoiler alert: of you feel leaving the narc, you won't do better? Just leave and see how mircales will start flowing in.
thank you this , this explains everything ! i spotted her pattern , she’d come back , ‘heartbroken’ loving me soo much , missing me . But i realised she’d blend her lies with a lot of truth. I was hoovered and then told she was confused and needed time , said she was going out with friend & unavailable for the next 2 nights , she swapped the nights around but not the venue , i went there & she’s there with her boss and new supply and watched her squirm as i told him where she’d been the day before ! 😂havnt heard a thing since 😂
I don't know, it definitely seems like psychosis sometimes. They truly want you to invest all of your energy into them. I am truly finished with it. Thank you Anoushka, your advice is sound.
Hello, i block her phone, i don't see her the last week-end, for me it's all done, i don't care what she thinks!!!! i must protect myself, i still love her, i know she never change,she suffer a lot but i'am hopless for her-i suffer also to see her like this !!!!! so long Petra i wish you the best but i don't stand this situation anymore !!!!!
I recently ended a short relationship, that was a torture for me mentally and emotionally. I missed interaction all the time, and was attracted to this person a huge ammount. Something was off. Always some complication and it felt like manipulation. I had a huge anxiety, trust issues and even some paranoid thoughts. I never cheated, but left this person as I was not sure if I am a narcissist or they were living a double life. Im in hell today- few weeks later after a breakup, and unsure about the reality of stuff..
It's what they do- they wanna make you lose your mind as it gives them more control bc ur weak ATP nothing wrong with you - it's them ❤
Excellent information. I am dealing with this very thing at the moment. I've gone no contact for 2 1/2 months now. So far no hoovering, which is fine with me, but I am still expecting it. I'm hoping they think I am done with them and they do the same to me. That would be terrific. Thank you for this video. 🤗🤗👍👍
Mahalo Anoushka, it’s been quite the journey 🤍🙏🏾 from discard to healing, this is the one question I needed answered. Forever grateful 🙋🏻♂️🙏🏾
If you ever get to Hawaiʻi, please let me know. You’ll have a seat at my table, along with my children I will show you the most beautiful places here..
I would think that the day a narcissist is done with you would be a day for celebration.
Free at last from a self gloried creep. Hallelujah.
Amen.
It is a two-way street. They leave. Just move on, don't be a victim
Celebrate .and say he's gone and I think that's GOOD.
THANK GOD. .
We were together for six months. He just dropped me and pushed me away completely. Tells everyone else "We're working through some things". I was completely stunned. Deer-in-the-headlights-style, trying to work out what was going on. I knew about narcissim but had fallen so in love with his false persona that I couldn't quite take it in. That said, I naturally employed many of these no-emotion tactics to try and protect myself, i.e. not engaging in arguments and standing in my truth when he tries to gaslight me. Fast-forward a month and I can't wait to get away from him. He now barely speaks or stares at me in weird ways, like he's angry, scared, hates me or all three. I still get the odd crocodile tears scene but I just look at him as if to say: "You can't be seriously thinking I'm going to fall for that one". He is baffled. However, I'm stuck in his house now, because the discard was after he asked me to move in with him. I had given my notice on the flat and couldn't retract it. I don't think he was quite bargaining on me actually ending up living here, neither was I, but I'm hopefully getting out soon. He still wants to pretend we're together. Last week we went out with friends and after blanking me for most of the time behind closed doors he grabbed my hand really tight and gave me the "I'm so in love with you look". I pulled my hand away. How very, very sick he is. Countdown to freedom!
2:13 starts
Tu for these videos. They are extremely helpful to me on my journey thru this on my way out of this hell ride. I thought it was me for years until recently but now I see her(my mother) for the narc she really is. This is really tough to navigate tho because I have to live with her for at least another year and a half. Cannot and will not leave my kids behind for the fear of one of them being her next target. When you said, you can’t be happy if you can’t be ur true authentic self….wow! I just told my daughter that the other day. For the time being, I’m just going limited contact, staying away from her as much as possible and keeping emotionally detached. Can’t wait till this is over because it’s literally exhausting. Peace and love to everyone going thru this ❤❤❤
It's just so hard when it's your family .
Or spouse
I know. Very hard but … for your sake, distance yourself. Family for many is not who you are born to or marry but who sticks with you in your hardest times. ❤
I've been done and it feels so darn good. !!!!!!
It took 4 years and 2 cycles of disappear / reappear before I started to look closer and object to their behaviour. In other words I pulled the curtain back. I was completely oblivious to narcissism. Thank you for helping me to understand this crazy.
same... 4 years.. 2 and a half years of which was all bad
Run please we care for your well being
This is true - when you don’t feed them anymore negatively or positively they do get fed up - I am still in contact with mine but he is getting absolutely nothing from me anymore - I know how awful he is & every interaction end with me telling him this & he can’t cope because he NEEDS to be seen as being nice 🤯 that it! He is t nice & I know it so there’s no going back
I'm a victim of a narcissist countless times but now I'm aware she better steer me well clear
My narc sister kept calling 911 on me. She's a cop and knew what to say. After the 3rd time she did it she got told to leave me alone. I finally got the police to see what she was doing. And realistically she got away with it. I would have been arrested for abuse of 911. I know she's stalking me on the internet and through flying monkeys
Why was she calling the police on you? Argument? Physical? You stole her shirt?
I could care less about it. I’m being the narcissist now and he can’t even handle it!
That's messed up. Youll pay dearly for that
I was like that for a while, I had a lot of anger. And I became bitter, but payback didn’t make me happy.
Exactly , he had drained me so much i could no longer see him. i had told him something feels off i need time alone to recharge. He replied "You are off of me is what it sounds like" Just strange. As it turns out he was juggling me with several other women one of whom he was engaged to and later even married while he had been seeing me. i later ended it for good but it was a true addiction for me so it has been a battle
Wow! Never heard such true words that totally resignation with me. I feel that when I'm done with my partner, he'll be done. He won't take accountability or self reflecti and try to learn and grow from whats he done. Its about him moving on to someone else he can get his needs met from
They are done with you when you demand that they apologize
Oh, Anoushka, I would have Run Away a long Time Ago, but it's impossible, at least for now. I Desperately want to get away. I'm counting the days. But I don't know how soon...
Run while u can..
You have to be done with them don’t let them back in. I have had a few dealing with overt and malignant narcissists but never a covert narcissist they are really hard to see. A friend of mine has turned out to be a covert narcissist and once you realise and think about all the red flags you ignored it’s time to walk away.
I am dealing with a narcissist problem, but I feel almost guilty, when I don't talk / answer back - when I limit the communication. Thanks to my strong willed nature, I can & I try to keep resisting this narcissist, as much as possible. I't's almost impossible to do things like this?
I hate to tell you all this, but after 50 friggin years, I am releasing one back into the wild for you all to deal with. So watch out! She is now armed with a new narrative about how the ex abused her by saying no. If she tells you she endured said abuse for north of 45 years, you might want to question her diligently because the reality is it endured that long because he was trying to fix things and it took that long for him to realize that nothing he does matters. It is impossible to have peace in your home with them present, there is NO peace until they are GONE.
Ive been around people with high narcissistic traits. My mother was my 1st. The narcissist that took me down to nothing left inside of me, I went through a spiritual awakening. I had to feel to heal all of my past trauma alone. They still seek me out but now I'm strong and aware. Now they run. But the covert is relentless. Very persistent wanting to cycle me again. Even with his new supply. But now I think he has given up. I manipulate, gaslight and stonewall him. I love it. So empowering.
Brillant and really well explained.
Enjoy your life be happy in your own company. ❤
Blocked 🚫 and door 🚪 closed! 10/10 the cycle is closed! Don’t need to hear anymore lies I know everything I am a higher priestess!
Det ved jeg godt Anouska ,de kan aldrig få nok de ved ha mere men min dør er lukket. God aften Anouska og god weekend 😉
My ex girlfriend/narc, monkey branched to another relationship literally a couple of days after discarding.. She left me on May 27th of this year... She unfriended me on facebook.. And blocked my number.. We bumped into each other a couple of weeks ago.. I didn't show any resentment or anger and kept my composure.. She asked me if her stuff was still in my vehicle, I told her yes it was, she claims that my belongings are in her closet, as she had this smirk on her face, I believe she was trying to test me to see, how I'd react.. But I remained cool.. So she gets all her stuff out of my trunk, so I thought.. Made it home.. Looked inside my trunk to grab some shoes, and noticed she left her coffee mug, with her name on it.. I'm so confused, why she left that there..
Long distance hoovering probably. Trying to get or stay in your head,be strong,friend!!❤
Wait do you live in BC?
You are still lucky buddy, my ex got into a talking stage with somebody else behind my back while we were still together then discarded me cold-hearted after she closed the deal with the new supply, 😂
@@rielrelacion7566 Same here.
They do things like this to mess with and stay in your head. Creating confusion is their way of maintaining control and since you kept your composure this was her way to assure herself that she still had the power to rattle you. Also, they use tactics like this to test the waters and as a pretext for a potential hoover. Don't fall for it. Mail it the coffee mug to her and keep the receipt (so you can send her a copy). Then completely cut off all access to yourself. You have to be ruthless with these types of people.
😢 Phew! So it's up to me? You really frightened me with that heading.
At present, I couldn't BEAR the thought of never seeing her again 😭😭😭😭😭
I intend to pop into her little place as often as I think she will tolerate it (which is rarely, as far as I can assess) to just say 'Hello' at least.
Life is DARKNESS without at least that much to look forward to.
Yes it's never enough, but it still hurts...so much.
That was great, I have never heard it like that before. WELL DONE +
I allowed him back twice. Last time I cut him off for 10 months, only reachable possible my mail. But he does not write😳
I saw the thumbnail title and my first reaction was - "Oh, 'Forever' is nice."
Thank you for the information. GOD Bless.
This is my exact situation right now.
I exposed him and put him into a state of narcissistic mortification so I would be surprised if he contacted me again. Nonetheless, I have a nagging feeling that he may try to contact me again.
My narc moved out of our home where I was stuck paying the rent and all the bills , while I was asking her to come back home and fix things. She expected me to be ignored , used the silent treatment on me , and ghosted me every single night , but the asked me to pay her rent were she was staying. I noticed right then and there because it’s always about what I can do for her , but she never gave anything back to the relationship. Nothing. No affection , no intimacy, no sex. Nothing , but she did sneak behind my back and spoke to other guys , met other guys when I wasn’t around , while telling everyone what kind of monster I was. All while I did everything for her.
Thar was me Bro. And even worse my Demon X gf is a Malignant Narcissist. 💯 MALEVOLENT !! / EVIL
@@gma729 damn bro and that’s the worst kind of narc. I hope you get away from her and find someone to actually be happy with. I know I’m keeping the door open to find someone but I’m not looking to hard either
My ex narc wanted me to marry him, was with him for 5 years. We broke up and he immediately got new supply, married her. I snooped his FB and saw a pic of he and I which was odd as he never put up pics of us. So, he has started playing games with his wife. 🙄. Glad he is out of my life and 1400 miles away.
100 percent done
Non molestation order is the answer. Amen 🙏🏻
you dont care!End of story!Live your best like because they will be watching
Let's hope so, im already thinking of starting a football club of all the exes that contacted me 😂😂😂
They need you stuck onn stupid....
I've been in no contact with her for 10 days now. She has not reached out to me. When we were together 10 days ago, she did ask me if she could keep my spare set of keys for my house and vehicles. This leaves me a little confused as to if she is done with me completely? She does have 3 - 5 other males in her life now that she bothers with.
I was able to get two of them to leave me alone. They don't text me, email me, nor just try to randomly show up. It took a few years. But I did lose my mother and sister in the process. They hang out with her still. THe most hurtful thing I've ever experienced.
i am so done with this narc
I know mine is done. I got sick and the last word I said was I have nothing left.
😢😢
Sorry to hear that. I sincerely hope that you are better now.
@@live_with_grace thank you
After 5 years together went on a holiday, it was very noticeable she didn't want to be there as she was busy texting people. Upon our return her attitude was gaslighting me so I decided to leave her and finally walked out yes!!! Freedom!! She is done!!!! Funny thing is that I left her cause she was having affair with her young neighbour who is almost half her age and till now she probably thinks I dont know🤭🤭 I just wish the neighbour good luck cause she is getting several men into her home while he goes to work🤣🤣 So she is 100% done and truly now after 2 months zero contact life is so beautiful without her🙏
Great notes🎉