I got mines full narcissistic collapse on video at arm's length with me calling out their BS on the spot. It's wild. They would make up obvious lies on the spot then immediately claim it was me who just said the lie and would run with that despite having a camera in their face recording everything.
@@thecustodian1023 YES... NOT CLEVER AT ALL... I distinctly remember agreeing to record one of these would be roundabout "conversations" that of course turned into a fight that THEY provoked... ALL. ON RECORD... NO ACCOUNTABILITY... Clowns...
Narcissists are really good at only leaving a trail of bread crumbs, while they hide that loaf of bread. But it doesn’t take long for you to find enough bread crumbs to make your own loaf of bread.
The no empathy part is the hardest. And yes they simple don´t and won´t understand you. In fact you as human are not important to them. You are only an object to use nothing more. They can´t love and will never love anyone.
The lies he wanted me to believe last year were so ridiculous. He screwed up and I caught him not being where he was supposed to be. I have never seen him so nervous in 31 years. Everything is an attack, EVERYTHING!!
Feeling misunderstood is constant ,but no contact allows peace of mind and reclaim your sanity! It’s their behaviour that causes confusion and nervous tension! Set yourself free by dropping them,that’s the change that will restore you!
The saddest thing is that they could actually go to a therapist, tell the actual truth and be diagnosed with npd- therefore recieving the actual help and support they need. Instead they choose to protect the lie or even just runaway to find a new place/victim to maintain their false-self.
The demons in them don't allow it.... it will take something major to get a Narcissist thru that small window... it's like their worst fear so it's very hard for them to say something is wrong with them in the first place... it's a catch 22
It took me 20 years of marriage to realize what a narcissist is. They lack the mirror neuron in their brain. The can display sympathy but cannot feel it with you. All of them have rehearsed replies, a canned speech, if you will. Zero empathy, made feel like the crazy one.
@@Billybunts that’s certainly true! It’s one of the many places where they get approbation and approval for their horrible behavior. And, by the way, they pay 💲 through the nose for that….
They only change for worse, honeymoons are shortr and shorter, disrespect is more open, more intense, and out self worth lower and lower. Please beautiful people, save yourselves, you really cannot help them. Supporting them will only make you suffer more.
She got spotted at a Memorial Day BBQ with the new supply she was sleeping with behind my back. The random guy who spotted her is cousins with the new supply and happened to be good friends with some of my close buddies from high school. He recognized her when we showed up together at a 4th of July BBQ my buddy was hosting a few weeks later. That's when it all came out. The devil woman thought she was going to get away with it and I'm slowly approaching the experience of satisfaction that she didn't. It's been a rough couple months but my gratitude is finally increasing.
Almost 33 months post narc, no contact. Had to move away. He will turn 66 this November. I know in my heart, and mind that he's slipping up, big time!!!
This is sooo true, I’ve experienced this all the way through my marriage but could never understand it, but listening to so many videos on this subject, I feel free and liberated. The final jigsaw has just been placed in the puzzle. I thank the Lord for allowing me to find people like yourselves to bring this information to me and others who are suffering. Thank you.
me too but i am always the issue, he kept me away from his family and he didn’t have any friends from his past which is a red flag to be a good liar you need a good memory, only he wasn’t as clever as me albeit it took me a while to learn that he was the demon he is
35 years in to a marriage with a covert Narc! So freeing to know this is what I have been going through. I was so confused for so long. Maybe a year before I discovered all this, I looked at him and said, “Something is wrong with you”. He was able to fool 4 marriage counselors. Then he would say, “You didn’t like the counselors because you didn’t like what they were telling you to do”. I wish I had known all this stuff at the time. Counseling would have looked very different and he might have been very uncomfortable. But doesn’t matter…these creatures don’t change. How did this become such an epidemic?
Yes 40 years in a marriage to a narc.Wondered what I was always doing wrong. Cheated constantly and twisted the truth when I became suspicious. I looked after everything while he used me like a maid.Even made comments about the way I cut the grass.( I politely told him to cut it himself next time.😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Some show themselves in the beginning in a veeery subtle way. It's easily mistaken as a joke, a comment they repeat every now and then, a phrase "they say it's theirs".... Something that catches your eye but you let it go because "it's nothing".
What gets to me is how when they make an account of my life how insanely twisted around everything is. The who, what, where when is there but it's all rearranged and or just so scrambled up that it is anything but the truth of my life.
Yes, one of mine blamed me for everything ... The explosion of the Hindenburg, WWI & WWII, the demise of people in Nazi concentration camps (I hadn't even been born yet). Sarcasm, but you get my drift. 🤦
Yes! And how they project on us, attacking then playing the victim. One of the lessons I've taken from the destruction is to try not to care what others are thinking. Difficult when they are around you daily and caught in that vortex of suspicion and fear of you.
@@f.frederickskitty2910 I do. I've been blamed for everything even what my brother does/did (some of his life failings have apparently been superimposed on my life now as well) and for everything that's apparently not even real as well. 😆
@@wayneelliott1180 That is what drives me nuts sometimes. They will literally make some idiotic claim on the spot then go with it claiming that it was me who said it. The wild part is they will do it while being recorded at point-blank range knowing full well they are being recorded and it will be used against them in court later. It's absolutely nuts.
@@f.frederickskitty2910You forgot a couple of things,her not winning the lottery,the flu virus,rain, Vietnam war,the price of groceries,,not buying her a new car you not giving birth to children,a volcano eruption,you not being her slave,you not being perfect,you not being able to print money She could've blamed you for all of that 😁🦨👎
His father passed away and not a single tear came out of his eyes instead he carried on like he didn't lose someone close to him and i also noticed how he never spoke anything about his childhood whenever i asked he will dodge it but will post a picture of his friend who dies or is celebrating something but when his father died not a single post on his profile but will gladly post someone else. Crazy
Me too, it’s ok they are so evil ,people like us don’t understand their way of thinking. I’m only understanding this now after 40 years of marriage,by watching these videos it all makes sense. Sad excuse of a human being.
Worst feeling is not her leaving it’s realizing how I walked into the relationship with my Head Held High heart with intent of Gold on to walk out the relationship with my head down and heart broken looking back at myself disappointed I ever let it get this far disappointed that when I had the opportunity to walk away I didn’t but Grateful to be out and finding myself again I was brought so low within myself I believed the things she said for awhile but how it’s so far from the truth they project how they feel about themselves into you don’t carry there burdens
Hey take it easy on yourself ,I’ve been married for 40 years to one of these pieces of s*** .I never understood what I had done wrong. Watching these videos ,it all makes sense. Give yourself a big hug and go on to enjoy your life.
I went toe to toe with the narcs in my family. It drove them nuts to the point they exposed themselves while being recorded at point blank multiple times. What got me was how many people who know them flat-out openly refuse to look at the recordings, and all other evidence, that proves that it's them, not me who is and has been lying to them about everything the whole time.
Naturally some people are higher on the scale than others. However they all eventually let out things that show you who they are. Of course eventually, during devaluation and discard it's as plain as day.
Yea and that’s the hardest part when they discard you. I couldn’t believe what was happening. Just knew for sure we had something special so I wasn’t accepting the discard and was in denial for years!! Over a decade, years! 🥹🤦♀️ so much back and forth and confusion. Then educating myself on narcissism in 2021 and it all made sense. Such a total blow!! Some days are better than others, but I’m doing it this time. We now have a 7 year old so it makes it a little more difficult, but just taking it day by day. Sometimes I still can’t believe what’s behind the mask. It’s so devastating because I could have sworn we had that special thing. Then I found out about other women he hid behind my back. Still don’t know the full stories of it all, but there’s a lot of loopholes and things don’t add up. He says these women were during our off times, but he’s also had them around for years so idk what’s real. Looking back to 2010, the signs were there, but I thought being a good person and showing love was enough to make people change and give you the same in return. I was so wrong!!! I remember he told me “I need you in my life” and he seemed so sincere. He was, but it was for his own gain. So many times he dropped me like a hot potato and didn’t think twice. Then would come back with a believable apology and it seemed so sincere. It would literally suck me back in so many times. It would be so good for at least a month, with the longest being 3 months. Then there goes that ugly side of him again. I could never figure out what was happening, but I got addicted to the highs and lows and that’s what I did for 13 years. Back and forth. It’s truly changed the core of who I am, I used to be happy and full of life. Now I have to force it out of me. Just taking it day by day and enjoying the small moments of happiness and vowing to never give up. Wow. This made me cry. I hope one day I get to experience true love. Until then, I’ll focus on loving myself.
It's the level of abuse that terrified me and I didn't expect but I will not react. I am not going to set myself on fire just so they can warm their hands while laughing at me.
He accused me of following him and ended up telling on himself. He went to Florida and took another woman with him. He slipped up and spilled the beans. Then he ended our 4 year relationship and I calmly walked away. He didn't expect that and he slammed the door behind me.
My experience of my ex gf feels like what it would be like to live with a murderer. No empathy, couldn’t care less about their actions and what they do to people, flick from nice to nasty at the flick of a switch. And leave a trail of pain and destruction in their wake. Wouldn’t wish my narc ex gf on my worst enemy
The worst thing is they can accuse it is all your fault, and after they will rage out at you over small thing, like flip switch can play caring and loving parents to your sister like nothing happened between us a moment ago -.-.
She washed a few pieces of laundry of laundry for me. She brought it back to me, but left it alongside the road about a quarter mile from my house. Lol, I think that was discard #2 She hooverd a few months later. I don't remember much devaluing just discards. 3 of them ,I'd had enough
3 months now of no contact on my part. she discarded me after 3.5 yrs. but she keeps sending e-mails (which go to my trash) I've blocked her everywhere. I feel so free and liberated.. she is out of my life...after viewing videos like lthis one I now really understand what she is trying to do. I'm done for good.
@@anoushkamarcin now I just have to act like I’m playing the game and bidding my time until my escape. I’m also doing limited contact and emotional detachment from everything w her(my mother). I can’t wait for the day when I leave n never look back. Ur amazing please keep educating people because ur so impactful to me so I know ur helping so many others. Peace love and blessings ❤️❤️❤️
7 signs of narcissism popped up on my feed. I said out loud “ you do all these things to me”!! My now ex wife went white as a sheet and she knew the game was up. At last I have some peace in my life. Heartbroken as I only see my kids 50% definitely not about her. Over a year on and she’s still shouting and raging at everyone.
My covert narcissist wife exposed herself by not taking care of me when I had food poison and walked away leaving me to drive myself to and from the hospital
You are spot on! I dealt with my sister after my dad passed. It was like all that she cared about was to make sure she got her share of the inheritance. She even made the statement that she always thought money would make her happy, but she still wasn't happy. Her attitude, snippiness and negativity seemed to even get worse. I finally had to go no contact because I couldn't stand the constant drama in her life. Couldn't do it anymore. Hard at first, but I am far better off now. ❤
Its sad and just annoying. So they carry all of this PAST shame and, from what I've experienced, and from my years of research, they do MORE thigs to bring on shame. You narcs could be loved so greatly...WE WANT TO LOVE YOU!!! But here you go with your unclever lies, patterns, useless roundabout arguments, and other related hurtful idiocy. No worries. Time's short, and for some of us, extremely valuable. Goodbye narcissist.
The narcissist can change but it's only if the Narcissist's is brought way down and humbled.They could come to the realization that they are not a little child and the other personality which thinks its grandiose superior perfect to all other people .Then they could get therapy and get mood /anxiety medicine..In a relationship with their former partner that relationship they had with you wont change though.Go no contact,leave them or divorce them.Slowly plan your exit.Dont tell them anything.Just discard them and don't say anything.They will get a dose of their own medicine They will get discarded. if you're married to one If you have kids get joint custody in a divorce but don't live in the house with them they will continue to abuse devalue,steal rage,some will cheat on you,lie, gaslight,manipulate blame,ignore your conversations,some will break the law, devalue,discard and disappear with no explanation.Empaths deserve respect and to be treated decent.People should be comfortable around their partner.Decent men and women deserve someone better and better treatment.There needs to be communication and mutual respect in any relationship for it to work.If your partner takes no interest in what you do,where you work or your friends and family then they are selfish and only care about themselves.♥️👍🙂 🎉
This elaboration is absolutely relevant to my current situation. Well versed, absolutely spot on !!!! Thank you for educating the masses … Sent from the UK
That's what it was like for me at the end. Their lies got so insane it was impossible to interact with them regarding anything. When it became obvious I was going to call them out every time they lied and hold them accountable they went from in-my-face attacks to they would crawl over a field of broken glass to avoid me. 🤣
You won't notice the lack of empathy in the beginning. But you may be able to notice that their excitement is self-contained. Even in the idealization phase you can pick up the fact that they are engaging more with the ideas in their mind than with you and the things you are saying.
And he is studying hypnotherapy 😂 can a narc be helping others with issues ? Unbelievable I always told him he has no empathy how he wants to do this job
They need the Supply to distract them from their own mind. They are like children that you find yourself trying to keep entertained. So much physical, mental and financial energy being vampired.. Gosh. At least let them have their own crap. Blinders have fallen off, just like their mask. 🎉
Lmao my narc is clever and calculated but past surface value he’s actually so dumb and young/unaware 😂 he’s always looked to me on how I see the world because I’m older by 4 years. The dude thinks he has power but all he has is money and influence and nothing past that, it’s pathetic 😂
My ex swore she was so nice and such a positive person yeah that was the mask but that isn’t who she is. She sits around with her daughter and discusses all her friends business with her mother. Why are u 27 years old and your mom talks to u about your adult friends and knows their business. The daughter is jealous of everyone that does better than her and she has panic attacks if she can’t compare herself to others it’s quite sickening. My exes nasty narc face that would come out was a vicious nasty devilish dark sneering eyes . It was really difficult to watch 😂 no she pretended to have empathy but it wasn’t real cause when I cry she would not show any emotion and it had to be her narrative and the way she felt. She couldn’t see someone else narrative or perception. Selfish is an understatement she never apologized or tried to se anything from my perspective. I left her standing where she was and I didn’t feel safe. She took zero accountability. At the end of our relationship I told her I had anxiety and she told me u never told me that before . I told her 80,000 times but they don’t listen and they are present. They are only present to their reality.
I hope to see this b4 my demise. I lived unknowingly most of my adult life loving this man. When I got the discard, he kept denying anyone else was involved which I knew better. I caught him, that was my exit and no contact. Meanwhile, he ghosted everyone for a decade after that. I never wanted our children to think ill of their father so I never told them what I learned. He didn't meet his first and only grandson til he was ten. My bad, it slipped out last night that her father was a narcissist. My daughter treated me like I was lying. So yeah, it's way over time for this exposure. Wow, gullible me, never wanted to see him hurt. Just tired that I lived the kind of love that never goes away. I guess this is my punishment for thanking God for this union the whole time.
Man of integrity community loves him charming smooth talker. Married 43 yrs in this community 35 yrs they have seen the love bombing his attention oh he loves me so much! I divorced him and he introduces his new woman to our adult daughter and community 6 weeks of me moving out of the house
The narcissist is the narcissist. I don't want his job. Whose paying these people? "he won't explain himself" sounds pretty f'd up to me. Could you say that again?
I got emotionaly numb after I decided not to confront my narcissistic friend anymore and to keep everything for me. Never had something like this in my life before. When I'm thinking of her and her behavior, I literally have the feeling I need to vomit. Why it's happened that emotional numbness and what to do??? Thank's.
Run friend. You can get away. I escaped my narcissist BFF from work - it took years but I'm free. You'll find eventually that you were their friend but they were never yours. Hugs (you can do it). ❤
@@sabaidee5587 Once you detach - meaning you value your emotional stability and stop catering and reacting to others' emotions, the numbness fades. I was in a relationship where my emotions were used as weapons against me far too long. Once I took back control of my life (realizing my health was failing under the stress) and he realized I was choosing my needs, my values, my life, over his - he took off and shacked up with his new supply in a matter of a few weeks. Time does heal wounds and patience is indeed a virtue. You have to choose your needs first - no compromising for anyone who does not support or compliment your health and wellbeing.
After he cheated on me and I found out, he called me on my birthday and said “tomorrow is another day and maybe better” this was his way of apologising that he knows he hurt me and I will be fine by time.😂 mfucker, I blocked him everywhere he knew and still managed to call me. Why would you call if you notice u are being blocked. Well just to show you do what you want ignoring boundaries of others.
They are miserable as HELL and their misery LOVES your company.
When that happens and the mask falls off, it can be terrifying to see them for what they are….
I got mines full narcissistic collapse on video at arm's length with me calling out their BS on the spot. It's wild. They would make up obvious lies on the spot then immediately claim it was me who just said the lie and would run with that despite having a camera in their face recording everything.
Terrifying
@@thecustodian1023 YES... NOT CLEVER AT ALL... I distinctly remember agreeing to record one of these would be roundabout "conversations" that of course turned into a fight that THEY provoked... ALL. ON RECORD... NO ACCOUNTABILITY... Clowns...
Because they are finally showing their real emotions. Hate. Envy are bursting like fire and they can’t control it for too long.
@@thecustodian1023 They are so very good at deception and lying even when it’s obvious to others they are….🤮
Narcissists are really good at only leaving a trail of bread crumbs, while they hide that loaf of bread. But it doesn’t take long for you to find enough bread crumbs to make your own loaf of bread.
😂😂😂😂 frfr
And it's the Loaf of bread WE brought from the store for YEARS!
He just acted and looked completely insane like he was a completely different person
My wife's mask slipped during the discard. I had never met that woman before. It was startling.....
Ditto.....never knew a human being could act this way.....eyes were opened bigtime
@ezikier9881 Did you see the black eyes? It's real creepy.
The no empathy part is the hardest. And yes they simple don´t and won´t understand you. In fact you as human are not important to them. You are only an object to use nothing more. They can´t love and will never love anyone.
The lies he wanted me to believe last year were so ridiculous. He screwed up and I caught him not being where he was supposed to be. I have never seen him so nervous in 31 years. Everything is an attack, EVERYTHING!!
Been there and seen the story change direction as he’s caught out big time
They get a kick out of seeing you so hurt.
They enjoy your pain. ☹️
Totally! That smug smirk.
It makes them feel they matter. That they are relevant.
Yes! Yes! Yes!
Absolutely! My husband had the smirk as he was brutally discarding me after 12 years😈 So evil
She literally giggled when I would cry
When they know that you finally figured out their scam they run for the hills and disappear!
I had to giggle when you said “ they are human” then began wondering!!! 😂
Feeling misunderstood is constant ,but no contact allows peace of mind and reclaim your sanity! It’s their behaviour that causes confusion and nervous tension! Set yourself free by dropping them,that’s the change that will restore you!
"They cant detach in a healthy way" bars🎉
The saddest thing is that they could actually go to a therapist, tell the actual truth and be diagnosed with npd- therefore recieving the actual help and support they need.
Instead they choose to protect the lie or even just runaway to find a new place/victim to maintain their false-self.
The demons in them don't allow it.... it will take something major to get a Narcissist thru that small window... it's like their worst fear so it's very hard for them to say something is wrong with them in the first place... it's a catch 22
Exactly! Sad and shameful!
It took me 20 years of marriage to realize what a narcissist is. They lack the mirror neuron in their brain. The can display sympathy but cannot feel it with you. All of them have rehearsed replies, a canned speech, if you will. Zero empathy, made feel like the crazy one.
Na they just wrap the therapist around their finger aswel
@@Billybunts that’s certainly true! It’s one of the many places where they get approbation and approval for their horrible behavior. And, by the way, they pay 💲 through the nose for that….
Your content is just as addictive as the narcissist 😂
😂😂😂
I agree! Now, I'm addicted to her.😅
They only change for worse, honeymoons are shortr and shorter, disrespect is more open, more intense, and out self worth lower and lower.
Please beautiful people, save yourselves, you really cannot help them. Supporting them will only make you suffer more.
She got spotted at a Memorial Day BBQ with the new supply she was sleeping with behind my back. The random guy who spotted her is cousins with the new supply and happened to be good friends with some of my close buddies from high school. He recognized her when we showed up together at a 4th of July BBQ my buddy was hosting a few weeks later. That's when it all came out. The devil woman thought she was going to get away with it and I'm slowly approaching the experience of satisfaction that she didn't. It's been a rough couple months but my gratitude is finally increasing.
Almost 33 months post narc, no contact. Had to move away. He will turn 66 this November. I know in my heart, and mind that he's slipping up, big time!!!
What's making you think that? Can you sense it?
Hahahaha treat yourself to lovely bunch of flowers and be thankful you escaped.
They over mirror alot.
This is sooo true, I’ve experienced this all the way through my marriage but could never understand it, but listening to so many videos on this subject, I feel free and liberated. The final jigsaw has just been placed in the puzzle. I thank the Lord for allowing me to find people like yourselves to bring this information to me and others who are suffering. Thank you.
Yes, thanks to people like her!
me too but i am always the issue, he kept me away from his family and he didn’t have any friends from his past which is a red flag
to be a good liar you need a good memory, only he wasn’t as clever as me albeit it took me a while to learn that he was the demon he is
35 years in to a marriage with a covert Narc! So freeing to know this is what I have been going through. I was so confused for so long. Maybe a year before I discovered all this, I looked at him and said, “Something is wrong with you”. He was able to fool 4 marriage counselors. Then he would say, “You didn’t like the counselors because you didn’t like what they were telling you to do”. I wish I had known all this stuff at the time. Counseling would have looked very different and he might have been very uncomfortable. But doesn’t matter…these creatures don’t change. How did this become such an epidemic?
Finally today I was able because of God and His servant to accept what I went through. Praying for others in this trap.
Yes 40 years in a marriage to a narc.Wondered what I was always doing wrong.
Cheated constantly and twisted the truth when I became suspicious.
I looked after everything while he used me like a maid.Even made comments about the way I cut the grass.( I politely told him to cut it himself next time.😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Knowing these people takes time. It’s painful, but going through their hell.. pays off in time. Leave then look time will pay u back! 🙏🏽
Some show themselves in the beginning in a veeery subtle way. It's easily mistaken as a joke, a comment they repeat every now and then, a phrase "they say it's theirs".... Something that catches your eye but you let it go because "it's nothing".
What gets to me is how when they make an account of my life how insanely twisted around everything is. The who, what, where when is there but it's all rearranged and or just so scrambled up that it is anything but the truth of my life.
Yes, one of mine blamed me for everything ... The explosion of the Hindenburg, WWI & WWII, the demise of people in Nazi concentration camps (I hadn't even been born yet). Sarcasm, but you get my drift. 🤦
Yes! And how they project on us, attacking then playing the victim. One of the lessons I've taken from the destruction is to try not to care what others are thinking. Difficult when they are around you daily and caught in that vortex of suspicion and fear of you.
@@f.frederickskitty2910 I do. I've been blamed for everything even what my brother does/did (some of his life failings have apparently been superimposed on my life now as well) and for everything that's apparently not even real as well. 😆
@@wayneelliott1180 That is what drives me nuts sometimes. They will literally make some idiotic claim on the spot then go with it claiming that it was me who said it.
The wild part is they will do it while being recorded at point-blank range knowing full well they are being recorded and it will be used against them in court later. It's absolutely nuts.
@@f.frederickskitty2910You forgot a couple of things,her not winning the lottery,the flu virus,rain, Vietnam war,the price of groceries,,not buying her a new car you not giving birth to children,a volcano eruption,you not being her slave,you not being perfect,you not being able to print money She could've blamed you for all of that 😁🦨👎
His father passed away and not a single tear came out of his eyes instead he carried on like he didn't lose someone close to him and i also noticed how he never spoke anything about his childhood whenever i asked he will dodge it but will post a picture of his friend who dies or is celebrating something but when his father died not a single post on his profile but will gladly post someone else. Crazy
His father probably hurt him in some way. Narcissists are made. Who made him a narc?
I only started realising after 22 years and then I awakened slowly and saw how many red lights I had ignored since day one!!!
Me too, it’s ok they are so evil ,people like us don’t understand their way of thinking.
I’m only understanding this now after 40 years of marriage,by watching these videos it all makes sense.
Sad excuse of a human being.
This is exactly what I needed been tough beating the trauma bond
Worst feeling is not her leaving it’s realizing how I walked into the relationship with my Head Held High heart with intent of Gold on to walk out the relationship with my head down and heart broken looking back at myself disappointed I ever let it get this far disappointed that when I had the opportunity to walk away I didn’t but Grateful to be out and finding myself again I was brought so low within myself I believed the things she said for awhile but how it’s so far from the truth they project how they feel about themselves into you don’t carry there burdens
Hey take it easy on yourself ,I’ve been married for 40 years to one of these pieces of s*** .I never understood what I had done wrong.
Watching these videos ,it all makes sense. Give yourself a big hug and go on to enjoy your life.
I went toe to toe with the narcs in my family. It drove them nuts to the point they exposed themselves while being recorded at point blank multiple times.
What got me was how many people who know them flat-out openly refuse to look at the recordings, and all other evidence, that proves that it's them, not me who is and has been lying to them about everything the whole time.
It's really crazy...
I finally left her after 4 long years!
Good for you
Naturally some people are higher on the scale than others. However they all eventually let out things that show you who they are. Of course eventually, during devaluation and discard it's as plain as day.
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Yea and that’s the hardest part when they discard you. I couldn’t believe what was happening. Just knew for sure we had something special so I wasn’t accepting the discard and was in denial for years!! Over a decade, years! 🥹🤦♀️ so much back and forth and confusion. Then educating myself on narcissism in 2021 and it all made sense. Such a total blow!! Some days are better than others, but I’m doing it this time. We now have a 7 year old so it makes it a little more difficult, but just taking it day by day. Sometimes I still can’t believe what’s behind the mask. It’s so devastating because I could have sworn we had that special thing. Then I found out about other women he hid behind my back. Still don’t know the full stories of it all, but there’s a lot of loopholes and things don’t add up. He says these women were during our off times, but he’s also had them around for years so idk what’s real. Looking back to 2010, the signs were there, but I thought being a good person and showing love was enough to make people change and give you the same in return. I was so wrong!!! I remember he told me “I need you in my life” and he seemed so sincere. He was, but it was for his own gain. So many times he dropped me like a hot potato and didn’t think twice. Then would come back with a believable apology and it seemed so sincere. It would literally suck me back in so many times. It would be so good for at least a month, with the longest being 3 months. Then there goes that ugly side of him again. I could never figure out what was happening, but I got addicted to the highs and lows and that’s what I did for 13 years. Back and forth. It’s truly changed the core of who I am, I used to be happy and full of life. Now I have to force it out of me. Just taking it day by day and enjoying the small moments of happiness and vowing to never give up. Wow. This made me cry. I hope one day I get to experience true love. Until then, I’ll focus on loving myself.
Calling out the narcissist is empowering when you see their true nature
they're full of excuses everytime!!! esp the covert narcissist always the victim, or they use DARVO
It's the level of abuse that terrified me and I didn't expect but I will not react. I am not going to set myself on fire just so they can warm their hands while laughing at me.
I have been smeared- no reaction. Judgment is so impaired! Mistakes and errors they make but they claim to be so great at xyz. Eternal victim!
This is to the book exactly what happened to me!
He accused me of following him and ended up telling on himself. He went to Florida and took another woman with him. He slipped up and spilled the beans. Then he ended our 4 year relationship and I calmly walked away. He didn't expect that and he slammed the door behind me.
Please tell me he never came back or that you never went back?
My experience of my ex gf feels like what it would be like to live with a murderer. No empathy, couldn’t care less about their actions and what they do to people, flick from nice to nasty at the flick of a switch. And leave a trail of pain and destruction in their wake. Wouldn’t wish my narc ex gf on my worst enemy
Yep, that’s the way they work
The worst thing is they can accuse it is all your fault, and after they will rage out at you over small thing, like flip switch can play caring and loving parents to your sister like nothing happened between us a moment ago -.-.
She washed a few pieces of laundry of laundry for me. She brought it back to me, but left it alongside the road about a quarter mile from my house. Lol, I think that was discard #2 She hooverd a few months later.
I don't remember much devaluing just discards. 3 of them ,I'd had enough
3 months now of no contact on my part. she discarded me after 3.5 yrs. but she keeps sending e-mails (which go to my trash) I've blocked her everywhere. I feel so free and liberated.. she is out of my life...after viewing videos like lthis one I now really understand what she is trying to do. I'm done for good.
God these videos explain everything you didn’t understand before .Have a good life❤❤❤❤
Thanks again Anoushka 💛🙏🏾
It clicked w me and I appreciate u and all the information u r giving. Thank you so much ❤❤❤
You are so welcome 🤗
@@anoushkamarcin now I just have to act like I’m playing the game and bidding my time until my escape. I’m also doing limited contact and emotional detachment from everything w her(my mother). I can’t wait for the day when I leave n never look back. Ur amazing please keep educating people because ur so impactful to me so I know ur helping so many others. Peace love and blessings ❤️❤️❤️
HAHAHAHHAHA loved the part where you questioned their humanity💀
7 signs of narcissism popped up on my feed. I said out loud “ you do all these things to me”!! My now ex wife went white as a sheet and she knew the game was up. At last I have some peace in my life. Heartbroken as I only see my kids 50% definitely not about her. Over a year on and she’s still shouting and raging at everyone.
Thank you for your true spirit.😃💜
My covert narcissist wife exposed herself by not taking care of me when I had food poison and walked away leaving me to drive myself to and from the hospital
Same mines left me while I had Covid but when she had it I took off work for a month to take care of her til she got well again…
Wow that’s bad
God bless you Anoushka
Very good one.
Many thanks 😊
They are soo too complicated by complicating it all!! Complicated individuals and lives...
You are spot on! I dealt with my sister after my dad passed. It was like all that she cared about was to make sure she got her share of the inheritance. She even made the statement that she always thought money would make her happy, but she still wasn't happy. Her attitude, snippiness and negativity seemed to even get worse. I finally had to go no contact because I couldn't stand the constant drama in her life. Couldn't do it anymore. Hard at first, but I am far better off now. ❤
Thanks for this educational subject. This helps me choose the right path and manifest a healthy and meaningful relationship. God bless. ❤
They have a crazy perceptions and can't see any further closed mind
Ana, you do a lovely job I really appreciate your videos they’re so helpful. Thank you
Everyone reveals there selves eventually some sooner some later, we all will reveal are selves I don't care what anyone says. True blue!!!!
I love hearing these thank you so much
Brilliant!!!!
Thank you so much. I appreciate you for providing insight on this subject. Please continue.
Its sad and just annoying. So they carry all of this PAST shame and, from what I've experienced, and from my years of research, they do MORE thigs to bring on shame. You narcs could be loved so greatly...WE WANT TO LOVE YOU!!! But here you go with your unclever lies, patterns, useless roundabout arguments, and other related hurtful idiocy. No worries. Time's short, and for some of us, extremely valuable. Goodbye narcissist.
Thank God he’s gone ,enjoy your life and never look back .
2 1/2 years I have decided enough.
I said to her...I am not going to be less to make you happy
i been seeing thru it from the start thing i didnt see was how deep it runs how insane it is how sick she is, i am gone now
You have a wonderful opinion. Actually you hit on key points. Excellent content.
Thank you so much for your programs. They have opened .my eyes!
I freakin love everything you say. It’s speaking to me in exactly what I am going through
Yes they do my last conversation I had he told me thru the grapevine what he did.
The narcissist can change but it's only if the Narcissist's is brought way down and humbled.They could come to the realization that they are not a little child and the other personality which thinks its grandiose superior perfect to all other people .Then they could get therapy and get mood /anxiety medicine..In a relationship with their former partner that relationship they had with you wont change though.Go no contact,leave them or divorce them.Slowly plan your exit.Dont tell them anything.Just discard them and don't say anything.They will get a dose of their own medicine They will get discarded. if you're married to one If you have kids get joint custody in a divorce but don't live in the house with them they will continue to abuse devalue,steal rage,some will cheat on you,lie, gaslight,manipulate blame,ignore your conversations,some will break the law, devalue,discard and disappear with no explanation.Empaths deserve respect and to be treated decent.People should be comfortable around their partner.Decent men and women deserve someone better and better treatment.There needs to be communication and mutual respect in any relationship for it to work.If your partner takes no interest in what you do,where you work or your friends and family then they are selfish and only care about themselves.♥️👍🙂
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Wise woman! Thank you for your insightful content!
They like drama and attention , that s all
He wasn’t even surprised this was the only thing he didn’t deny
This elaboration is absolutely relevant to my current situation.
Well versed, absolutely spot on !!!!
Thank you for educating the masses …
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Thank you.
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Thank you 😊
Your good Madam. I never thought this but very very true
That's what it was like for me at the end. Their lies got so insane it was impossible to interact with them regarding anything.
When it became obvious I was going to call them out every time they lied and hold them accountable they went from in-my-face attacks to they would crawl over a field of broken glass to avoid me. 🤣
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True their lies don't make sense
You speak truth. Thank you!
God Bless you!! Amazing videos and you are sooo knowledgeable. I have been in 2 narcissistic relationships and learned a lot from online videos!
Nej de ændre sig aldrig det ved du Anouska så jeg er helt enig med dig hvad du siger. Så ha en fantastisk aften 😉👌
You won't notice the lack of empathy in the beginning. But you may be able to notice that their excitement is self-contained. Even in the idealization phase you can pick up the fact that they are engaging more with the ideas in their mind than with you and the things you are saying.
You nailed it! ❤
Spot on.
Thank you so much 🧡
And he is studying hypnotherapy 😂 can a narc be helping others with issues ? Unbelievable I always told him he has no empathy how he wants to do this job
Unbelievable
They need the Supply to distract them from their own mind. They are like children that you find yourself trying to keep entertained. So much physical, mental and financial energy being vampired.. Gosh. At least let them have their own crap. Blinders have fallen off, just like their mask. 🎉
Lmao my narc is clever and calculated but past surface value he’s actually so dumb and young/unaware 😂 he’s always looked to me on how I see the world because I’m older by 4 years. The dude thinks he has power but all he has is money and influence and nothing past that, it’s pathetic 😂
My ex swore she was so nice and such a positive person yeah that was the mask but that isn’t who she is. She sits around with her daughter and discusses all her friends business with her mother. Why are u 27 years old and your mom talks to u about your adult friends and knows their business. The daughter is jealous of everyone that does better than her and she has panic attacks if she can’t compare herself to others it’s quite sickening. My exes nasty narc face that would come out was a vicious nasty devilish dark sneering eyes . It was really difficult to watch 😂 no she pretended to have empathy but it wasn’t real cause when I cry she would not show any emotion and it had to be her narrative and the way she felt. She couldn’t see someone else narrative or perception. Selfish is an understatement she never apologized or tried to se anything from my perspective. I left her standing where she was and I didn’t feel safe. She took zero accountability. At the end of our relationship I told her I had anxiety and she told me u never told me that before . I told her 80,000 times but they don’t listen and they are present. They are only present to their reality.
my parents have no empathy all fakeness lol
I hope to see this b4 my demise. I lived unknowingly most of my adult life loving this man. When I got the discard, he kept denying anyone else was involved which I knew better. I caught him, that was my exit and no contact. Meanwhile, he ghosted everyone for a decade after that. I never wanted our children to think ill of their father so I never told them what I learned. He didn't meet his first and only grandson til he was ten. My bad, it slipped out last night that her father was a narcissist. My daughter treated me like I was lying. So yeah, it's way over time for this exposure. Wow, gullible me, never wanted to see him hurt. Just tired that I lived the kind of love that never goes away. I guess this is my punishment for thanking God for this union the whole time.
It's not your job to continue to protect his secrets.
No ,you were trying to protect your children .Don’t be hard on yourself .❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Man of integrity community loves him charming smooth talker. Married 43 yrs in this community 35 yrs they have seen the love bombing his attention oh he loves me so much! I divorced him and he introduces his new woman to our adult daughter and community 6 weeks of me moving out of the house
Are they able to feel empathy to their close family members? Like parents?
NOPE
I'd prefer that they kept their masks on forever, actually! 😬🧟
ONE HUNDRED PERCENT !
The narcissist is the narcissist. I don't want his job. Whose paying these people? "he won't explain himself" sounds pretty f'd up to me. Could you say that again?
I thought he had so much potential but he has no follow through
I wanna leave but she lives next to me. Can't because the harassment starts.
Take care and just ignore
I got emotionaly numb after I decided not to confront my narcissistic friend anymore and to keep everything for me. Never had something like this in my life before. When I'm thinking of her and her behavior, I literally have the feeling I need to vomit.
Why it's happened that emotional numbness and what to do???
Thank's.
Run friend. You can get away. I escaped my narcissist BFF from work - it took years but I'm free. You'll find eventually that you were their friend but they were never yours. Hugs (you can do it). ❤
@@f.frederickskitty2910 Thank you. But what to do with the numbness?
@@sabaidee5587 Once you detach - meaning you value your emotional stability and stop catering and reacting to others' emotions, the numbness fades. I was in a relationship where my emotions were used as weapons against me far too long. Once I took back control of my life (realizing my health was failing under the stress) and he realized I was choosing my needs, my values, my life, over his - he took off and shacked up with his new supply in a matter of a few weeks. Time does heal wounds and patience is indeed a virtue. You have to choose your needs first - no compromising for anyone who does not support or compliment your health and wellbeing.
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A person in my life grew more philanthropic with age..😂
So as to hide something..
100%
After he cheated on me and I found out, he called me on my birthday and said “tomorrow is another day and maybe better” this was his way of apologising that he knows he hurt me and I will be fine by time.😂 mfucker, I blocked him everywhere he knew and still managed to call me. Why would you call if you notice u are being blocked. Well just to show you do what you want ignoring boundaries of others.
Where is the video?
I seen my ex boyfriend mask came off and he got no soul now l know why back and forth l knows the pattern 😊