Killer Comebacks to Narcissists’ Insults
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Are you tired of dealing with narcissists? Ready to stand up for yourself and give them the comebacks they deserve? In this video, we will show you the best killer comebacks to narcissists’ insults so you can confidently put them in their place. Stop getting pushed around by a narcissist and watch now to learn how to effectively shut down any condescending comment they make!
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Why would someone advice anyone to stay . It is hell living with one. Get out and never look back when you do.
When the empaths strikes back! 💪❤️😆
Louder! Stay strong! ❤
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Been slammed with derogatory name calling, lately. Really foul names. My response.. " considering the source and the truth and reasoning behind it... Sounds like a confession".. walk away
Stay strong! ❤
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Oooo I like this 👌
Have you ever heard of Tom MacDonald? He's an independent rapper that addresses real things. I'm a metalhead that doesn't like rap, but I like his music because he talks about real issues nobody else does. He's got a song called Names. He makes some good points when it comes to name calling. And he does it with style. Sticks and stones can break our bones or they can build our castles.
Make then repeat. So w h en you're called a name say huh and if they repeat it say what and they repeat it say what did you say abndvwatch yhe reaction do it often it work s like magic to get back at people being a holes intentionally
Silent treatment less said best said!
Louder! Stay strong! ❤
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I agree that I can't control how someone *decides* to feel about me.
Stay strong! ❤
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Truth. You can bend over backwards and they are still trouble makers. It's like the more attention we give them, it is bad for us because they will expect it all the time and they won't put anything into the relationship and when you realize everything is put on you, the red flag pops up.
I can't control their behavior.I can change the way I respond.I will not tolerate disrespect. A very well done analysis 👏 👍
It's all about locus of control. Internal and external ...
Control things around you vs control your self... You can only truly control what you do! 💪❤️🌎
Louder! Stay strong! ❤
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When they devalue people. I feel like saying to them. Remember: You're responsible for your behavior. I always struggle with how to respond. This video was very meaningful to me. Thank you.
I like to say "Im just thankful you found your happiness."
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I say something like…that’s your opinion to which you are entitled, however that does not make it the truth….then walk away.
Good one!
Your opinion of me is none of my buisness 😂
How about if they say it is not my opinion it is a fact . What would u respond to that ???
@@MamaVana3 maybe calmly say your thoughts are not fact then walk away?
@@MamaVana3 either ask them for proof it’s a fact or again say something like we are all entitled to believe what we want but that does not make it factual.
I would say "Grow up already!" to the narcissist!
A few years ago I started saying “sure!” in a dismissive “whatever you say” kind of way. This was before I realized the narcissistic traits I was dealing with but I was just at my wits end so I randomly started to falsely ‘agree’ with what my spouse was ridiculously and abusively saying. It made me feel better and when I just would constantly keep agreeing with whatever came out of his mouth he eventually shut down. My narcissistic child recently said “you’re a funny woman! “In a condescending and malicious way. My reply… “I am funny and I’m also fun.” I was just feeling total self love in the moment and you could literally watch her deflate. It was like the wind just got sucked out of her. The weirdest thing, was that it was almost like I had told her SHE wasn’t funny, just by turning her insult on its head and giving myself credit and acknowledging part of my personality. To anyone dealing with this stuff, don’t be afraid to literally flip whatever insult they’re saying on its head and watch the narc fall. Hope this helps some of you, it’s a freaking minefield to navigate!
It's different than what I did but I like what you did. I'd have to say you're probably a better person than I am. Give yourself credit for that because you deserve it.
Oh my lord..your experience with a narc spouse and child parallels mine except the narc is my wife and child is my 26 year old daughter. I like the way you defused the situation with a self affirming reflection. Just know you are not alone. Unfortunately. there are many of us, both men and women out here dealing with the realization of having a disordered spouse and their parental alienation of your children. Parental alienation is a HUGE sign of a narcissistic spouse. Their smear campaigns over years results in strained or alienated relationships with our children. Then having to deal with our children developing narcissistic traits learned from the narc spouse? It's indeed tragic and I understand completely what it's like. Be well..
@@istj66360 Thanks for that. I wish I could say I react that way all the time but I do get sucked into the drama every now and then. I have found the biggest key to ALL of this though, is internally healing all the childhood wounding that we all have that caused me to attract people like this in my life in the first place. I react less and less from a more complete and whole state of being because what they say no longer has anywhere to land like it did before now that some of the wounding is healed. In my opinion, this is the only way to fully get out of this cycle sanely and that’s by doing a lot of inner healing so that I start attracting super healthy relationships that are a vibrational match to the new me. In the end (in my opinion), the core issue is an energetic one and once that starts getting addressed, things start shifting.
@@santoparfano1910 Thank you for your kind words. It definitely does help to read the comments of other peoples experiences, and gain insight into what might or might not work for strategies. This has definitely been a tough pill to swallow because mine hasn’t been years like this, although I now see very subtle red flags that I brushed under the carpet. The real toxicity actually started coming out when I started consistently doing some of these tactics like gray rocking and specifically that one. It was suddenly like I had discovered a completely different side to the person I had been with for many, many years that was just laying dormant. As soon as I started really testing the waters with some of these techniques, the hidden person that I feel has always been there, really came out. Take care of yourself as well and I hope your transition goes smoothly at whatever point in the journey you’re at.
I can't do this with my narcissistic dad; it only makes the abuse worse. He feels entitled. It is maddening!
OMG the Wizard of Oz comparison is so awesome and perfect! I AM OZ!!! Ligtning crashes 🤣 😂
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I wish I had these tools in 1992 or earlier! I may not have wasted so much of my life thinking that I wasn’t good enough! My husband looked at me when our child was 4 months old and he said, “ Look at you, who would want you!” 24 years later it still haunts me. Every time I look at him I think about him saying that to me. He has apologized cried and begged for forgiveness. He cheated on me for 4 years that I know about. I was a teacher and was afraid I couldn’t make it on my own. I was so beat down. I’m sure I made a huge mistake!
Jesus what an awful thing to say !! Apparently his stupid ass wanted you enough to create a child with you!!! I would love to see what the heck he looks like because unless his ass looks like Denzel Washington or Fabio, for that matter , he needs to shut the hell up !! I'm so sorry you had to endure that denigration after giving birth!! Stay strong 💪 ❤
Mine was totally unrealistic and impracticaĺ.Funny though,his mistresses turned out to be nothing special.😂
Other things that work:
"Here, let me write that down. Can you say that again?" (And then proceed to write down what they say, which makes them say a lot less, or even back track.)
"I will consider that."
"I can see how you think that, based on your perspective and value system."
"We seem to have different values."
"I'm not skilled enough to know how to talk to you in a productive way."
and walk away.
The worst thing you can do with a narcissistic person is acknowledge what they say has value. This advice panders to the piece of filth.
Stay strong! ❤
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She watched a few videos on NPD by uneducafed , self styled experts so she must know what she is talking about .
@@satsumamoon Yeah, have found that those with no personal experience with one think that you can actually have a reasonable conversation with them and talk things out. NO clue!
@@satsumamoon Truth! Have had psychologists suggest we can sit down and talk it out. You are obviously one who has had experience with a narcissist. I would recommend narcdaily. He has no qualifications except being a victim. All of us know better than anyone else. Keep stepping on. Sometimes forward, sometimes back. Doesn't matter. All steps are a step forward! 💝💝💝
Very hard to remember all of these, specially in the heat of the moment. After all, seldom we leave a relationship with a narc without some sort of PTSD! But great comebacks, for sure!
I agree. These are also good tips for still living with narcissists. And it works not just for insults, but also for narc's guilt-tripping and the narc acting pitiful, sad, or otherwise like a "victim" of the target.
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Omggg the guilt tripping is REAL! And so is playing the victim 🤦♀️ I’m late to the party but I can definitely use these comebacks when dealing with snarky comments and insults. I’ve heard the nastiness my whole life and I am soooooo over it! I’ve been in therapy for over 25 years but JUST really realized that not only does my mother have mental health problems but she is def a full blown narcissist. At 51 years old I can finally see it so clearly. So I’m healing all over again. But I’m older and a bit wiser. I will not let anyone, and I mean ANYONE steal my peace or cause me stress. The family (including my mother and adult kids) have already been told. I will not hesitate to show you the door. 🤷♀️
@@aleigha9141 That's awesome! All the narcs I've known (including parents) are totally fine with my not being in their lives. The only one that was bothered was recent, but now ex, covert narc--who threatened me if I left. But I'm sure it's just that the narc's pride was hurt to lose an always-there object (me) and carried on as per usual with fooling relatives and coworkers, and continuing on with the constant maladaptive daydreaming and fantasizing without missing a beat.
Leaving narcs doesn't hurt their feelings; everyone is replaceable and disposable to the narcs.
My adult child is a narcissist. They love to insult me at the lowest level and devalue me. Any words of wisdom for this situation?
My daughter is too. I'm no contact but she's trying sooo hard to find out my number and address. Actually ran into her Sunday she saw us at the park and I had to call police. I'm sorry ur going thru this. My situation is tough I have custody of her baby. She's dragging me thru court and keeps threatening me by email
Living home? Out she goes, now
Thinking my oldest child is also
That is a difficult situation more than anyone's. I'm glad you are reaching out. Rebecca cares! You will see.
@@bettydoughtery3920 Exactly!!!
Do narcissists stop talking long enough to let you have a come back? My Narc interrupts and I do not get a statement out.
Soo true
Wonderful - one more weapon in my arsenal. One of my all time favorite sayings is: “WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK OF ME IS NONE OF MY BUSINESS!” (Louise Hay and/or Wayne Dyer.)
I need those comebacks because the Silent Treatment doesn’t work well. But often I have no chance to get in a word during the barrage of bull.
Wow...now you are telling the main truth! They attach to us because of our value! When we are successful and shine, they want to drag us down!
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Well done, I agree. I have sought out therapy on three occasions and no one is willing to help me. Luckily enough I have been strong enough to weather my storm now I have just estranged my relationship with my narcissistic sister. Her comments were brutal, demeaning, and unprovoked. I will not tolerate this level of disrespect. Nor this level of unprovoked craziness.
Thank you! ❤
It's difficult to find a good therapist.
People always say "just go to therapy" like it's so easy,
but then the good ones are totally booked up (because everybody is in therapy apparently!) or don't take your insurance or want to pass you off to a rookie. And there are a lot that either just don't "get you" or they need therapy themselves.
If I tried number 3 with my narc daughter she’d say don’t act like you care or condescend me.
#2 "I hear what you're saying."
I agree. Just hear it and you don't need to follow what they're saying.😁
Stay strong! ❤
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I agree with all of those except for the last one, “let’s aim to be respectful, if if you can’t be respectful then we’re not going to have conversations, and you can always get up and leave!”
I have never had success with this. The threat of leaving, mentioning leaving, showing any sign of trying to leave, amplifies the rage and defensiveness with the narcissist in my life.
Any time I realize the things need to calm down for both our sakes, or treatise the conversation isn’t going anywhere, and I try to create some distance, or create some space between us, she panics and becomes elicited in her rage. She will physically try to stop me, rip my shirt trying to stop me from leaving, slam the door on me as I’m walking out with my arms full, follow me to me car and threaten to call the police, stand behind my car, park behind my car before hand when she is showing up at a time where she knows I don’t want to see her or talk to her, she will follow me, threaten me, hit me, if leave unscathed she will blow up my phone, show up to my house, threaten to kill herself, cut herself, etc the list goes on.
Leaving it talking about leaving doesn’t end well with mine a lot of the time.
I’m finally to a place where I’ve created enough distance, where we don’t live together, I’ve given up on her changing, so I don’t put myself in situations where these things happened, but it’s been a long 3 years.
And our poor child, I’ve had to give up on being his dad in many senses as she uses him as ammunition to get back at me and try to hurt me.
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Try the old, authority-figure standard: "I'm sorry you feel that way."
Agree. "Lets aim to be respectful in our conversation" is definitely a good one. They put us on a punishment and reward system and what do they want? What they get every time we acknowledge them. When they start becoming disrespectful, that's when it's on us to terminate the conversation until the agree to be more respectful. So definitely agreed.
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@@RebeccaZungEsq I do OK. I only had to deal with my narcissist for a month and a half. I just feel sorry for people who've had to deal with abuse like that longer. I feel sorry for those without means to fight back. I did. One thing I didn't know then that I know now is what a narcissist keeps on their phone and why they guard it like they do. If I would've known that, I would've just knocked her out, taken her phone and gone to the police with it. But I didn't and she's dead now. I lost a friend of 10+ years. I don't miss the monster she was at the end, but I miss the friend I once had even though she was probably never real in the first place.
I agree to all the comments. Actually I have used them all without even knowing that is what started baffling him about me. Cuz I was no longer gonna let him insult me, first I mirrored him , then I realized I didn’t feel good about hurting someone I loved when I knew their ill. Plus stepping down to his level didn’t make me any better. However ya when the end was near I was basically saying these comments cuz I had enough his words meant nothing. His actions showed more to me and that’s when I began to realize I need to live for myself now so I ended it and not like in Tht past where I said were done and the next say everything was back to normal. No this time I didn’t take his calls, avoided him or ignoring him when he followed me, blocked him on social media and started living my best life for me and of course my young adult children. And it was hard to walk away from someone I really was so much in love with but after five years of it and nothing being reciprocated I knew I had a better chance for him to see my worth if I left him and moved on and maybe down the road he will figure it out but today we talk as friends and had a fight about a past situation and then got mad and hung up on me so I thought oh well he still hasn’t changed and it is going on and year and almost a half since I ended us. Anyhow ya I took my power back almost immediately upon making the choice to not look back even though I did and only saw all the good stuff about us and it was hard I started working a inventory job that required my traveling every week and going to places throughout Nevada and all throughout California which I learned how big of a state Calif really is. Anyhow I somewhat isolated myself in the beginning but slowly as I was walking thru it I steady and slowly got better and today I have no regrets of anything not even him. I still love him but I understand he isn’t well. He isn’t a bad guy he just has deep rooted issues and hopefully one day he will get the chance to make a change and grow from it. Thanks for your informative videos. God Bless and Stay safe
I AGREE!!! This is how I am going to move forward and heal myself. I am valuable. I matter! Today I agree with this.
Thank you! ❤ Care to share what you like the most?
Same here
Divorcing a Narc after 29 years. Months ago she brought her HS Friend into visit and can't get her to leave. Lawyers tell me not to leave but I have been getting tag teamed on the silent treatment and disrespect for 6 months waiting for mediation to complete. Every once in awhile I break the silence because I am pissed with the level of disrespect at my expense. Neither one works and they are living in my house off my funds. I understand they are trying to get a reaction and believe me I've put up with a lot not reacting but every so often ....Final mediation is Monday and it doesn't look good. Half of everything is not enough for her and she has already said she wants a judge. Looks like I will be living in this hell another 6 months to a year until we can get a court date.
So sorry you are going through this. I am divorcing mine after 21 years. The legal system is so slow. Mine wants to decimate me. I had so much PTSD and anxiety. Document everything. You aren't alone. Many of us are going through the same thing.
How are things going for you know Tim? I hope you are free of them and in a better place!
The say the worst things. One thing I can't get over is my narcissistic ex telling me I have no womb after I miscarried our child.
Stay strong! ❤
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I just appreciate you sharing that that's what I meant by the thumbs up
My narc father used to go on and on and on about his "superior genes," conveniently neglecting to mention the angry, bitter, occasionally violent alcoholism that pervaded his entire birth family. I don't know if you still have contact with your ex, but if you do, and he ever pulls that crap about the miscarriage with you again, just remind him that it was clearly HIS DAMAGED DNA that caused the miscarriage. Because only crappy DNA could produce an AH like him.
Or... " It s a shame you feel that way about yourself. At least you have the b **** to admit it. " " Not my circus, not my fleas"
Stay strong! ❤
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How about, “We should definitely discuss this later.” And then go “No contact”. Or if you’re forced to see them again then just keep kicking that can down the road. Don’t let them call the shots or timing. They don’t own or control you.
Narcissist hostage negotiator! 😂
Tired of being talked down to. Especially in front of my kids. I never would have thought she was a narcissist until I started looking into this. We have been together for 20 years. She’s a very sweet person until she doesn’t get her way. And she thinks everything is criticism. It really has caused me to close myself off. I actually avoid her as to avoid confrontation in my own home.
She’s stay at home mom, our kids are homeschooled and I work from home. So, it’s like we’re trapped in a prison together.
killer comebacks to narcissist's insults
1-i can't control how you feel about me
2-i hear what you're saying
3-everything is going to be ok
4-i agree with you
5-i understand
6-that's an interesting perspective
7-let's aim to be respectful with our conversations
Will they learn from it?
Rebecca - I find myself standing up for other victims of the Narcissistic person. For eg if another family member is targeted, who is breaking down infront of you, its hard not to ' attack as the best defense'.
These are some helpful tips. Thank you for taking the time to share them. However, I wanted to offer a different viewpoint with the "I agree" response. A Narcissist is a master manipulator and they can spot a superficial, contrived response. So, I would ONLY say "I agree..." when there is actually some part of their communication that you can actually agree upon. For example, they might say "You make me have to do everything" (even though you know this is not true in the slightest...it is just their exaggerated distortions). One could then perhaps reply "I agree...that you do a lot, but I do too. Let's not view the other as adversaries but work as a team, together, instead."
"THERE'S MORE TO THIS (YOUR) GAME THAN SHAME(ING)!!"
Matthew 7:2
For with what judgment you judge, you will be judged
I agree, awesome episode!!
So good 😊👏! Thank you !
Thanks again for posting and your pragmatic advice
Thank you for your advice and support Rebecca. ❤
Rebecca. The fire extinguisher
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Your videos are very helpful. I'm separating from my angry narcissist husband who is also a meth user and sex hook-up addict, and as an abused kid I have tried to avoid confrontation at all costs. It's very very hard to not give in.
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Wonderful video, as always; thank you.
The issue that I have with the logic of how you treat others is a direct reflection of how you view yourself...when applied to the narcissist through the lens of the Flying Monkeys. They would go on a witness stand and use that logic to defend them being a pillar of the community, a wonderful family member, friend, Mom, etc. And we stand alone because there are no witnesses (Or very few) to the abuse that we endure.
But applied correctly to the right people, this statement is Absolutely true.
It's so unfortunate and tragic the havoc that they wreak and the support that they falsely garner.
Have a great day.
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@RebeccaZungEsq I'm holding on, thank you, but I could really use your guidance.
It seems that Divorce Attorneys in CT call themselves High Conflict lawyers, but I know more about Female Covert Narcissism than they do, sadly.
Have a blessed day.
Oh, great sense of humour! 😂 I agree fully and is identical with my experiences, shortly and before that... Just making a rehursal and I'm really happy for doing everything right from nature & exp. Thank you very much ❤🎉
This one about "miscommunication" can be tricky...but THE GOAL is to divert/dodge THEIR "shots" RIGHT??🤔🤔🤔Ever seen Enemy of the State w/Will Smith & Gene Hackman? It is a VERY educational movie...it taught me to USE WHAT YOU HAVE BEEN ATTACKED WITH AGAINST that person(s) WHEN NECESSARY...some things I've said are 1) "that's A/ONE perspective." DISMISSING THEM...2) "You have the right to feel/think what you feel/ think." NOTTT owning it. 3) "Those 'WORDS' are COMING FROM YOUR BRAIN OUT OF YOUR MOUTH." (THAT DOES NOT MAKE IT TRUE/YOU ARE BEING HEARD 》you can say this or not)." 》This one you HAVE TO SAY IT WITH A COMPLETE "FACTUAL" (like reporting the news) CONFIDENT CALM-TONE...OR IT CAN BACKFIRE. 4) REPEAT WORD-BY-WORD WHAT THEY JUST SAID LIKE THIS, "WHAT I am HEARING YOU SAY IS...." W/a calm-tone...THIS IS WHERE THEY USUALLY "TAKE THE BAIT" BY FEELING "EMPOWERED", BUT YOU JUST TRAPPED THEM INNN THEIR OWN-WORDS BY NOTTT "OWNING" WHAT THEY SAID...PUSHING IT BACK ON THEM...THEY CAN BE A-BIT TAKEN-BACK FOR A SEC...THEN, YOU KNOWWWWW YOU HAVE THE CONTROL+POWER OF THE CONVO...🤔THEN, FOLLOWED BY COMPLETE 1000% SILENCE. ALLOW THEM TO "MARINATE" IN THAT "SPACE" THEY CREATED...THEN, they'll HAVE TO SAY SOMETHING...THEY CANNOT STAY QUIET...You can add "YOU ARE BEING HEARD." & LEAVE IT AT THAT. They possibly can just try to laugh or blow it off. 5) "SOUNDS LIKE A 'YOU-PROBLEM...YOU HAVE-A-PROBLEM...(you can add "NOT MY PROBLEM." If you want)." State it with CONFIDENCE. I've found that at LEAST 1 of the above STUMPS them. I've also found testing them all out to find what "works for you." Every person is different...especially narcs..."
Thank you Rebecca..
All the little professional tricks:)
Your videos are very helpful thankyou
I AGREE U R A VERY TALENTED COMMUNICATOR! FINALLY, I LEFT WANTING TO SEE AND HEAR MORE FROM UR CHANNEL!
I am not giving out respect where it is not deserved. I am not stroking egos. I am done with that. They can spend the rest of our time trying to figure me out for a change!!
Beautifully well put.
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Thanks A LOT, REBECCA! You've helped me get away and escape from the N.' traps. Now, watching your videos keeps me even stronger! All the best to You and Your precious staff. 💪💪💪💪
I have no problem with humbling myself,
James 4:10 & 12
Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and He will lift you up.
There is one Lawgiver,
who is able to save and to destroy, Who are you
to judge another?
Oh that last one, I REALLY need to start saying that. Thank you.
Proud of you! You got this ❤
AWESOME TIPS !!! I really love this ❤❤❤❤❤
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I did laugh out loud when you said that’s an interesting perspective 💯
Stay strong! ❤
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You were targeted for your high value!!! ❤️💪
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Louder! Stay strong! ❤
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You're so smart & cared & kind...Great phrases for comebacks... that's an interesting perspective...I agree...
Stay strong! ❤
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I was talking with my mom. When my dad the narcissist interrupted us. I told her to tell him that the adults were talking he needed to shut up
I agree and I have used some of your suggestions on a narcissist
My favorite in the last days of my marriage was, "There, there, now you don't feel better about yourself! " It would shut my Ex down every time. Wouldn't recommend for someone that is dealing with a malignant narc or one that is already in a narcissistic rage.
Along with "o look! Damage control! Gotta cover those a*** , save face, somehow."
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Thank you, I have learned so much from you after years of nasty jibes & accusations. Its getting very close to being the Truth Teller but I know my truth will cut to the quick & do not want to be "that person".. A recent come back has been " Its a shame you feel a bit down/angry/depressed, hope things improve for you" Seems to work, its all gone quiet. Stay strong lovelies.
I agree on all your sugestions.
You’re absolutely right!!
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I agree, that's an interesting perspective. I hear you that we have a little different opinion on that, and it's ok. I can't control how you feel about me. Everything is going to be ok.( Love this new language.)
I agree this is how I am going to move forward
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Thank u Ms. Zung🌹
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Great advice
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Its about how you respond ~ the relationship was too fast but I kept my guard up he kept wanting me to let my guard down ~ i just kept watch behavior cause he would change always
I AAGREEE!
I AGGGRRREEEEEEEE!!!
Holy 😮 sh*t line by line I just embedded near all of these in a back and forth email with the ex nonstop demeaning n devaluing me. The last reply I sent after watching this. Her reply was 3 words "unbelievable" "Shut up"
Man I would love to forward you the email chain. It clearly depicts no matter how notttt backhanded nice I was her volleys would make the devil cry....until....the last one when I used all that. First time ever I seen that.
Well done :)
I always became dismissive and it would drive them crazy. He would bring up things from many years ago from time to time involving a certain person. It was like he was trying to get me on his side but I’d respond with “who cares?” to shut it down. He would gaslight by asking questions he didn’t know the answer to not because he actually wanted to know but to try and make me feel dumb and doubt myself. Funny part was when I very much knew the answer. It didn’t matter he argued anyway when I told him to look in my book. Standing your ground and remaining calm really gets them up in a roar.
Animals come to mind they don't like being treated poorly either (LOVE)
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I've hear it all before...I agree. At the same time I think everyone at some point in time needs a basic philosophy to follow and to talk to a psychologist because they know that something is wrong and recognize the need for a way to fix it. But how many people actually do that?
wow and thanks!
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I AGREE.. have saved this!!
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What if the narcissist is your older adult sister,and has been picking at me from a very young age,some advice would be most welcome. I went no contact and will probably stay that way to be honest,I deserve to be happy.
I like how you call it "killer comebacks". It's killer diller. I'm old school too. I need to buy your book and check out your free stuff too.
Maybe try this. Just say No. My Narcissist goes nuts! I love making her go off. Funny they never learn, it's a hamster wheel they get on. Different words yet my one word remains, and she goes off like clockwork. I just don't care to bother saying anything else except No and filling police reports against them for DUI, Disturbing the Peace, etc. Building a case for a restraining order. I work or her elderly mother with dementia, not her. She shows up unexpectedly to harass. What she says, wow. Leaves me phone messages. So sad we have people in this world who cannot tolerate the word NO and continue to harass. Luckily I've already dealt with her kind in the form of my Mother whom I had no choice but to cut off (I miss her). Yet this one is an overt narcissist, grandiose, etc. Much easier. So glad there are nice, calm, educated people like you are here to help. God bless you
The ultimate comeback I have used:
When they call you all kind of insults, just say to them,
"I realize that you are calling me everything that you already are"
How do they respond to this?
@annika17867 I admit that saying this come back line to them makes the narcissist short circuit . . . They lose it . . . It is like the ultimate blow.
They just can't perceive that anyone could disrespect them like that.
That shows how high and mighty they think they are. . . And it tells them that you will not be their door mat anymore and you simply did it by sending their own cruel words straight back at them.
They expect that we just bow our heads and take their abuse and show them respect while they smash away at our identity as a person.
When you say this come back line to them it paralyzes them . . . Makes them confused . . . And it restores your self respect.
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I agree! 🙌
My fave was when he blamed me for the reason no one would date him. He let me know that after a few dates they looked him up on CCAP and dumped him.
My response( completely straight faced) Im sorry your hitting me and subsequent abuse charge has made it hard for you to date
Agree thanks 😊
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I agree Rebecca
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I totally agree
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@Rebecca Zung Your ongoing education about narcissistic people. It helps me greatly. I've learned the best thing for me is basically listen to them and don't participate in their conversations and 99% of they just stop. Thanks a lot
I agree
I agree. I just wish I would have heard all of this when I was with a narcissist. I went through he_ _
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I agree.100%
I AGREE!
I agree❤
I Agree!!!
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give it up becky
Is it possible to have 5 relationship in a row 3 were friends, all narcissists. I even questioned myself.