Well fyi here in the Netherlands it's called ASS Autisme Spectrum Syndrome. Personally I find this less triggering because it's not like adhd or odd. So no disorder but like Asperger's, Syndrome. Sensory issues with heat, same here, hate summers. But eye contact at first place? No problem here, I've been told I have a piercing look. This helps me to understand people. Micro expressions but that I learned through decades. Great vid. Greetings from Netherland
Spot on with all! My big brother and I have Asperger’s. He died at age 49, I’m 53f. We sweat so badly, we wore shorts and t shirts in the winter walking the dog or shovelling snow! Our youngest has it and I was able to know straight away. She went to a brilliant school that worked with her, she was 2 with the vocabulary of an adult. We worked hard at home with her, as well. She’s 24, graduated Uni with a full academic scholarship and is very outgoing! I’m NOT! My career picked me because of my “different wiring”. Very structured and routine but I learned to improvise easily when necessary. I despise certain textures and all tags come off immediately. Your hat is triggering me 😂
I absolutely hate it when it gets hot! I'm fine when its warm, but I'm like a human radiator anyway, I produce more sweat than the water from my shower when it's only 15°C!
My sister never made eye contact but one day I decided to try reaching out in a gentle way. Our family was highly telepathic so as we sat chatting at the kitchen table, in my mind I began saying “you are safe. All is well. Nothing can hurt you”. Slowly as we talked I saw her eyes move from my hair to my forehead and then for a few seconds she looked into my eyes. We were both around thirty. Neither of us could maintain this contact, the work and the hope involved, but that moment is alive in me to this day. I have a lot of neuro-diverse markers, but at 86 people now credit my eccentricities to my old age, leaving me wonderfully free of folk trying to fix me, tolerate me or exit me. Hurray!!
I wonder if there is a telepathic aspect to autism. Since day one, I've had a way of knowing what my wife was thinking...sometimes. but, I also can tell I'm coming up on a speed trap miles away.
@@pohldriver I have wondered myself if telepathy was involved in neuro diverse people. If such children are picking up the mental reality of folk around them, the contradiction between what is said and what is felt and thought - the spiritual self - could force a child to choose which communication to trust. I choose to believe WORDS and I shut out the senses that were telling me that another reality was in people. Only now am I able to risk knowing that words can’t always to be taken at face value. But I could hear God from age ten because He needed be to help me survive. This gift has remained with me and gets more distinct every day. I bet a lot of poor and desperate people have the same grace in their lives. “Blessed are the crushed in spirit because theirs is the kingdom of heaven”. Yep
At almost eighty years old, thanks to the internet, I realized I was an Aspie. What a liberating feeling it was. All those years of sound and light sensitivity, difficulties in social settings and the frustration with the million niceties of small talk that I tried to navigate at high speed. I’m neurodivergent! Not rude or inappropriate, but well-meaning, kind, socially awkward and neurodivergent! A life changer in self esteem. Thanks to channels like this one spreading the word.
@@donnahersey9813 bless you for sharing the joy, Donna! Whole lot of liberation going on all over the world as we earth folk begin to gab about our share of the light. Emerson said each of us has a ray of light so we can testify of that light. “I was blind but now I see!” In this dark time lights are going on. Whether it is starlight or a miner’s light in the cave of diamonds, this is the wealth that will save, heal, transform and endure! Hallelujah! ONWARD!!
I can't speak very well to another person, but I can write an eloquent letter fully explaining things that I find hard to explain directly through verbalizing my thoughts and feelings.
It's more the other way around for me about eye contact. It's not that I feel that I'm looking into someone's soul, it's more that they are looking into me and reading all my thoughts.
Whereas for me, I feel that looking at eyes too closely is like leering at people's genitals. That might sound a little strange. I think the reason I feel this way is that I had very bad eyesight as a child (it's still ratshit but I'm no longer close to legally blind, which is pretty much what I was as a small child). The attempts to improve the bad eyesight were traumatic (as in left me with PTSD) to say the least. So for me eyes are almost like genitals in that they can be violated in ways that are not a thousand miles removed from rape.
@@resourcedragonwow, we just can never know what another person’s childhood was like and how it affected their whole life! Thank you for sharing this insight.
For me it's both. I've always been uncomfortable with eye contact, and long before I found out I have autism, and long before I heard anyone else say "it's like looking into someone's soul/they're looking into yours," I felt that way. To me it feels like they're taking away my energy, like an energy vampire, whether they realize it or not.
This also happens to people suffering hypervigilance. Like people with ptsd or cptsd. Incredibly frustrating. I’ve also heard people with adhd complain about this feeling of being overwhelmed by noise and unable to focus.
Same here...its very hard to deal with as I get older.I stay away from people because I think they know there is something "wrong with me"..I want to reach out but I just cant..I'm not feeling it when I try...yet..I fear being alone ....sick and afraid if my partner passes.Its terrifying...but...I dont know any other way😏
All of it. Dang I am 56 years old and I am just now figuring out why I have always been "weird' 🙄 I appreciate this so much because I don't feel like I am the only person who has to deal with these things. I always had to smoke weed to be able to go to work and deal with people. I worked in land surveying my whole life and I thrived. Just one or two coworkers and in the woods most of the day doing math. I was blessed to have had a job that I loved and felt like I fit in.
You're not "weird", never have been "weird" and never will be "weird". You're you, quirky, likeable, and different to Neuro typicals. Celebrate those wonderful differences hunny 🎉
I am an Aspie. The last word of your post triggered me. Only me. Im not criticizing you at all. But reading the lovely message, i cringed at the end. Too much!!! (For me. Just me) i cannot stand emotionally charged remarks. For some reason i cannot deal with diminutive names either. I am weird. Don't take it away. 😊 @franceseyre2093
1: eye contact 1:36 2: love of routines and rituals 3:32 3: social issues 4:37 4: sensory overload 6:17 aka sensory processing disorder and body heat 5: communication issues 9:08 Yes to all the above including the excess heat. Thank you ❤
Yeah, I was diagnosed a few years ago and the eye contact, love for routine and rituals, social issues and sensory overlode is so true for me. Especially the spice part. Even the tiniest bit of spice is too much for me and I can only keep eye contact for a few seconds at a time.
All of the above apply to my grandson. He is a loving, gentle soul but struggles with anxiety if his routine changes. We are fortunate he is receiving assistance in high school. If there is too much noise around him his brain literally freezes and he is motionless for minutes at a time.
I've gotten used to it and I adapted by being so honest, as soon as I figure out I am wrong I admit that (if only to myself)... and I feel okay being awkward and embarrassed sometimes, because I know I didn't do anything wrong on purpose. Stay up buddies! It's hard to feel so strongly but it helps us make the right decision in the end 🎉
I just let whatever wants to come out, Come out and if they don't like it, they can get over it. I'm not like other people and I am so glad. Something seems to be wrong with the majority of neurotypicals
I often say the wrong thing. People that interact with me seem to automatically default to a hermenuetic of suspicion. I come across as a bit awkward. I also have a very dry and dark/sick sense of humour. Sometimes i get an internal voice that tells me no don't say that, this person will take it wrong, but i talk back and tell the voice not to worry. It will be cool. Invariably, the voice is right and i had no clue of the amount of shit that hit the fan. Lol A guy at church came up to me and said "God really likes your sense of humour" I said to him "that's cool, i wonder what God finds funny about dead jews?"
I received a late diagnosis only because of my wife’s training from her job. Upon learning this I sought out a professional diagnosis to make things official. I learned to deal with things in my own way and adjusted to these experiences. Some of these things have gotten harder as I’ve aged. Having downtime, lights off, and watching documentaries or learning some type of new knowledge are my routines. My job has absolutely been a nightmare but has helped to raise my personal threshold to deal with things much easier. Even though it’s too late for me to help myself out. Going forward it’s a massive benefit to have this knowledge about myself.
I'm finding things harder as I age too, the things I could tolerate and navigate when I was young are not an option now. I posted about this in an autism subreddit, and the responses were startling - it seems that for many of us, this is true - yet the literature denies it. For women, the general opinion was that the perimenopause really makes it worse, so it's enlightening to know it's not just happening to us. I suspect there is a hormonal aspect to it as our levels drop but lack the expertise to investigate.
Wow! You sound like me after a hard day in Logistics or Customer Service (not what you think, I basically work with customer so Sales can bring in more work). Not a call position.
My temperament is getting shorter as I juggle multiple issues, but expected to do order on a moments notice. My under-breath language is quite colorful.
i have not been diagnosed but i found you searching for the same characteristics i have and i have all of these qualities, i always run hot i sleep without a blanket, i dont like vegetables the taste get to me i hate spicy foods and alcohol. i dont like social interactions i have 0 friends i go home from work and play video games i dont like people. i follow the same routines every day and i hate deviating from my routines.
I have hypERthyroidism, which makes you run hot, or when I'm low on Vitamin D (bc of being hyper, you may have a harder time with certain vitamins going low 😢I will sweat. Been taking D supplements religiously, and the sweating is gone finally but not the heat. I know too much info. Oh, well. Best wishes.
I am a 71 year old Special Needs teacher with Aspergers Syndrome. I have learners from Reception to Grade 9 with every shade of "special" that you mentioned, and then some. I was so relieved when Aspergers was identified. I knew I was different, just didn't know why. Now i have the satisfaction of communicating with little ones and teens in a way that is appropriate for them. Keep up with your videos.There are still people, especially parents,who don't understand or won't believe that their child needs a different approach, not to be hidden away or labeled as " naughty" Well done!
My 45 year old son has Asperger's and lives with me, and he has all the characteristics you mentioned! He actually diagnosed himself when he was in his 20's by plugging in all of his "symptoms" on Google searches. He had me read the results, and I said, "That is you!!!". Now I know how to deal with him and we get along so much better. My sister, a counselor, says he hasn't been diagnosed by a professional so he may not have it!! I say live with my son for awhile and you will know!!!
Late diagnosed aspy. I'm sixty five, and I was diagnosed when I was sixty three. Still discovering things that are part of that. I had no idea that my watching of shows over and over is part of it! It just gives me such relief, it's relaxing and it makes me happy. Who knew... ❤ I trained myself to look into people's eyes. It's sometimes i'm almost too intense and I don't mean to be, but it was a masking skill that I taught myself.
You have saved my marriage my husband a very nice guy has this disorder I put up for 38 years now we are both 70 I found out that he is not responsible for the way he is now I realize my 35 yr old daughter has it and do not want to get married but the knowledge I have I am able to cope
My grandson and granddaughter are on the spectrum. My grandson has asperburger. He is high functioning ADHD his perspective is very different. He is fun to be around and we are learning about autism together. My granddaughter is level 2 ADHD OCD. She is a joy to be around. She and her brother help each other out. Their abilities meshed together could make one person because of their inabilities to function in certain areas. I enjoy your videos. They help me understand my grandkids better. Keep up the good work.
Thank you for this. It accurately describes my son who was diagnosed with Asperger’s in second grade. He still lives with me at 38 years old but holds a three day a week job and is now doing very well as long as he has limited contact with people, both strangers and family. Your eye contact talk has lead me to believe that I also have a mild form of Asperger’s. As a child I was very shy and could not look at people. I would hide my face in my arms. Also to this day, I’m 70 years old, I prefer to be alone with my books, each of which I’ve read hundreds of times. Thank you again for your understanding and accurate description of Asperger’s.
I worked with several children on the spectrum at a public school. Many students had trouble with eye contact. So I taught them to stare at the nose while talking with someone. It was a win-win. It help them stay engaged with the speaker and gave the apperance of looking me in the eye while talking. (Our social norm). They all became so good at using this method they did eventualy start looking into my eyes.👍
3:31 Before I was diagnosed, my wife asked me how I could watch the entire series of the same show over and over again. The only answer I had was, "I don't know."
I have watched "Clueless" the movie well over 400 times. It's messed up. I haven't watched it in a while, due to not living alone, but I'd like to. Watched it EVERY day for over a year and a half. I can quote "A Christmas Story" for any situation. No idea how many times I've watched it. To those with spouses- to me, watching those movies (and groundhogs day, grumpy old men and a Christmas vacation) are like snuggling up with your spouse in bed-assuming you love them. I know them, i love them, they just make me feel good!
@@Saltysteele as a child, my go-to was Empire Strikes Back, but only the Hoth scene. I loved the snow, Wampa, and AT-ATs. It drove my parents and sister nuts.
@@orderthruchaos oh, i also live that scene! I get lost in that scene imagining what it'd be like to be there! And the tauntauns and at-at's! I had a tauntaun toy, but my cousin had an at-at and he wouldn't let me play with it🥺 To be fair, i have a bit of an oppositional defiance issue, so i probably would have broken it doing what they were telling me not to do😛
I have family who get so mad at me because i *need* to know plans beforehand. Not knowing what to expect is anxiety inducing. And heaven help me if plans change... At nearly yhe age of 50, i was recently diagnosed as high functioning autistic.
Yes! At 56 I'm not diagnosed but I'm sure I am and this comment hit me hard. I always want to know what's going to happen next. I can't even look forward to things because I don't know exactly what's going to happen. I need a WhatsApp group with some friends and I always tell them exactly what I have planned for the day and then at the end of the day I tell them what I did and where the plans didn't go to plan. 😂 I've never thought of this as being part of ASD. ❤
I overheat on a daily basis. One work colleague named me the glazed donut! I’ve a bald head! 😊 Yeah, can’t stand hot weather and bright sun either. I’ve always bought tinted lens glasses as a result. My happy temp is around 10 degrees Celsius… Can’t abide noisy restaurants and supermarkets. Always go at unsociable times to avoid people and noise. I’ve definitely gotten worse as I’ve aged.
@@ian_occultist it’d be fun, helpful and interesting to have a few of us jump on a zoom call to discuss and contrast our symptoms. I’ve found talkin with no filter of shame embarrassment to be extremely liberating.
Same here but I need 20-24 degrees celsius to feel okay. And yeah, it gets worse with age. As a woman menopause plus autism plus ADHD is no fun at all.
Omg when you said about understanding hit the nail on the head!! My husband gets so mad I ALWAYS say “Huh” when he’s talking to me but then I’ll eventually answer and I’ve tried to explain I need to process the question and saying “Huh” gives me time. And the list of what to do and not knowing how to execute it also!!
I always describe the communication thing like I have a filing system in my brain, and I constantly have to search for the appropriate response, pull it out, and then say it out loud. It takes time and makes other people uncomfortable... so I just stay within my small circle or friends that understand and accept me ❤
Thank you for this. I don’t have autism but I do know people that are, and videos like these allow me to have better communication with them. This brings so much perspective. I wish that corporations showed videos like these at work because you would reach so many people
I wasn't diagnosed until I was 37, I'm now 54. It's an everyday struggle to 'keep it together ' and not go crazy. I also deal with depression, hypoglycemia, 24/7 ear ringing, etc. I have trouble with everything you talked about.
I'm hypoglosimic and have a ringing in my ear as well. I read once that some people can actually hear the noise from their own synaps firing, so I just tell myself that's what it is. Which would make sense?Because it seems to get louder when I have a lot going on.
Just don’t focus on the tinnitus. You will be able to forget most of the time that you have it. Plus, get your hearing tested by a doctoral level audiologist. You may be missing some of the higher frequencies. Regarding the depression, get a therapist. They may be able to help you. Sometimes one or more antidepressants can help. Regarding hypoglycemia, eat small meals frequently and stay away from sugary things. High protein and moderate fats are okay. Also you may benefit from hearing aids. Stat away from noisy environments. Go to an actual hearing specialist MD for thorough check of your auditory system.
I was diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome at the age of 19 and I experience the five symptoms mentioned in the videos and I’ve been suffering from it for over 30 years along with schizophrenia which I was born with and developed post traumatic stress disorder and dissociative identity disorder as a result of trauma and torture I’ve been through growing up
@@Geoplanetjane unfortunately no. I wish I did get help but my family is unwilling to help and I’m living at the homeless shelter for 9 and a half months now
My husband doesn’t do eye contact, closes his eyes when he thinks of his response of a request. He is warm all the time, he has weird OCD habits, same tv shows and same food, lives by routine. His communication skills are getting better through therapy, he doesn’t understand or know how to socialize. He can go on and on on a topic that is his on obsession (TV show or topic) and knows everything, and will go on and on without realizing the listener is unaware of the topic and isn’t interested. I’m his wingman; and help him navigate the social situations by changing or finding a link in the topic those he’s speaking to can relate to. And at times he is oblivious to the shift in conversation. His IQ is very high, and understands he is on the spectrum and his sensory processing is co-occurring with his communication skills. Together we are learning to communicate and co-exist in a harmonious way by open communication. (He’s not allowed to plug his ears anymore if I keep talking…he has to communicate by a sign or word to let me know he’s tapped out).
- Plug his ears? Totally understand your frustrations; mine said “oh well” at the worst moments and that used to set me off! We’ve been married 41 years and still have issues with communication. No way he’ll go to therapy; been there, he went twice I think and then wouldn’t go anymore. When we were first married our main arguments were about his intellect; he thought he was dumb and I thought he was a genius. Convinced him to take the MENSA test… I was correct. 😉
My son was diagnosed with ADHD at age 3 1/2 and Asperger's Syndrome in the third grade. He is now almost 33 and has struggled vocationally his whole life. His dad told him that I was just labelling him, that there was nothing wrong with him. He isn't working now and I support him financially 100% in his own apartment. I am totally stressed out, trying to figure out how to get him to progress in life.
I was married to my husband for several years before I found out he had Aspergers. It was a relief to finally understand that he actually had a diagnosis and wasn't just being difficult on purpose.
I have ADHD myself and I am wondering about my spouse re: Asperger's. Difficulty with communication. Social skills can be quite lacking. Eye contact is not his forte. So now, I am going to look for more info for the spouse of the person with spectrum disorder. Even if he's not, these skills may help me to approach certain things differently.
I forgot to mention that when talking I often say the wrong words and pause a lot. It's hard to think and talk at the same time. Sometimes I'll inadvertently try to say two words that mean the same thing and end mixing both of them up and saying a word that doesn't even exist!
This, I have been noticing this a LOT lately (&it’s been a BIG problem like it makes me want to just explode right on the spot like🤯) I notice that I’ll find two words that are sorta similar, but like within context it is totally not right because those two items are SO CLEARLY not the same ..for example if we are out somewhere and start talking about a car and then I go and say truck it’s like lol because okay sure they are both vehicles and you can drive both of them however again if we are out and talking, referring to a car meanwhile I go and say truck like lmao *facepalm🤦🏼♀️* because that is so clearly NOT THE RIGHT WORD TO SAY? I think my brain is like nah those are both drivable with gas so it’s like the same thing, you don’t need any other words, it’s a car, but actually no, no it’s not a car AT ALL WHATSOEVER like🤯🤯😭🤦🏼♀️😂
There is a name for this. A dear friend of mine had this since I knew her aged 15, and we all thought she was putting it on for attention, although it was very funny. We are both 78 now and she told me a couple of years ago that she found out she has a condition, I forget what it's called. Perhaps if you Google it you will find out.
I don’t know if this is true for any of you, but I can rewatch everything over and over again because I legit don’t recall most of it. or at least not well enough to ruin the fun of watching it again. My husband can recall everything he watched and I have no idea how!
Me, too. I'm smart and perceptive, but I mostly forget an episode by the next day. Books, too. I have come to realize I like "being there." I love being in the Antarctic in The Thing. I like being in Indiana Jones leathery jacket swinging a bull whip. Being in that seemy and gritty world of The Godfather. Being with Capt Picard on the Enterprise. Harlan County with Raylan Givens, and on and on. In the sand in Dune 1 and 2. So, I want to keep going backthere. Songs, too. I will listen over and over sometimes for days. I love The Struts song, 'Low Key in Love' and I'll be in the car driving wherever and play that song 5 or 6 times singing loud as I can. Over and over.
My son loves to watch things over and over, but he remembers the smallest detail. He'll remember every fact. He loves science, engineering, aerospace engineering and F1 and motorsport. We were told he'd never pass an exam due to Aspergers and severe dyslexia, but he is taking another three levels and intends to study engineering next year. He was kept out of the classroom until age 12. He was 6 yrs behind his peers and then the pandemic hit. Yet he's done amazingly, so proud of him for not using his learning disability as an excuse. Wish you the best
@@Pugsrus that’s inspiring and gives me a lot of hope for my son also who is 10 and is behind in school! (From being homeschooled) I hope he does well in engineering! Thats exactly what I think my son will do too.
@@kyleegarcia5569 I don't know where you live but the best decision we made was taking our son out of main stream school. We have a UTC that focus on engineering. It was the first time in a classroom. We dreaded that first day. We could not believe how happy and settled he was. He went on to take his Cambridge level 2 and 3 in engineering. He passed all his GCSE’S. Don't be scared to ask to repeat a year if needed. My son repeated his final year due to his learning disabilities and because of covid. Make sure you request a ECH plan from the local authority this will help him get extra support. This is important. Many children who have learning disabilities are allowed help with education up to age of 25 so it's worth requesting a ECH plan. Don't be put off. I know many children like ours with the right support and help they are taking their masters. Also if you live in the UK getting them on this ECH plan who help all the way round with getting grants at uni for equipment. There are some brilliant apps that really help my son 1,Grammarly Is amazing for anything grammer and general English. You can use it in any program. 2 ,Google One Note brilliant for dictation and taking notes in class. Also great if your child forgets direction and instructions from the teacher, they can record the whole lesson. It works brilliantly. He can then sit and learn at his own pace and do back up research on net and hitting the books because my son is a visual learner so it makes it easier. 3,Simplify Takes documents and cuts all the waffle out and pin points facts making it far easier to read documents. My son started at a UTC from year 9 and all his school work was based around engineering. They do there Cambridge level 2 in engineering while doing their GCSE’S. Obviously they have to do Maths,sciences and English and English literature. The other subjects are gone and replaced with engineering. If your child loves lego, trains, space and cars he'll definitely be at home. My son finally felt like he fitted in. I wish you luck I know how worrying it can be. My son printed out a plan and aimed for each goal. UCT was on that plan a teacher told him about it at 6 years old and he remembered it. If your son does apply for engineering college don't be put off if your child's behind. Many school don't thrive in main stream school. Once they get in environment that speaks to them it ignites their drive and learning so don't be put off from applying. All the best to you and your family.
Watching for my Grandson aka GrandAwesome who is so intelligent and has many signs of what you are speaking of. I love him n have seen something’s since he was very young. No one else will acknowledge this. I want him to be seen as exceptional as he is. I raised him since he was born until school and he is amazing.
I hope his school sees his abilities and his helping him learn and develop in his own style. You could also arrange to have him privately tested to document his strengths and abilities.
My son has Asperger’s (he’s 22). He has had issues with motion sickness his whole life. Planes, trains, automobiles…you name it. As a family we rarely went on road trips because he would get motion sick and would only tolerate it if we had the air conditioning cranked as high as possible. We tried everything….anti nausea medicine,wrist bands, making sure he doesn’t eat before the trip, etc. Right now I’m trying to teach him to drive. Sometimes it’s fine, other times (when there’s a lot of stop and start traffic) he will get overwhelmed and feel sick. Does anyone else relate to this?
My daughter is a university graduate and now she teaches and supervises the staff providing services to Asperger’s and Autism clients. I am fascinated by her work and I am a retired psychiatric nurse. Your presentation has been excellent and I’m going to ensure that she sees you! Thank you so much!!👍🏻
Over sensory delay is so challenging, the reason i am feeling social anxious and needing my time to mentally prepare to leave the house. For example, one day, i will meet up with a friend , and going to the training and / or do groceries needs at least 1 or 2 days of recovering my quiet. I get mentally very exhausted if i have to do social tasks for more than one day, which i can feel physically drained and in need of more sleep. I have, on top of that, a tinnitus on both sides it made it even harder to me to socialise in big groups. If to many people talking at once, I'll leave and seek quiet. At the communication side, i don't want even to start because it will take a day or two to digest and requite the proper words. I always make this mistake because i know people expect to receive an immediate answer or thoughts and to 99% it is a 50:50 chance to cause trouble. So i got used to just listening and responding later via WhatsApp. If adhd meets spectrum a: if it colides i have periods of absolute dysfunction. B if it conspires i don't want to miss the good times of inspiration, it can takes months of good progress in what ever is interesting, then im in ghost mode.
I was diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome in 2003. It really does not effect me as much as people say it should. The trick is to stay away from everyone and do everything alone. Being self-reliant, independent, make no friends, and learn to do everything yourself and not hire, "professionals," goes a very long way in negating Aspergers Syndrome symptoms. My work around will work for everyone.
@@dannacollins2520 I am 70 years old with Aspergers. I make it my mission to fix things like my washing machine, etc. I also just upgraded my old to new smart phone. When it's a matter of lifting heavy things.....hire a handyman? Yes, the men 'preying' on you is a fact. It's as if they sense the vulnerability and zero in like a vulture. My main concern is lifts to minor surgical appoinments. I need some cataract surgery and have maybe two reluctant relatives to drive me there, wait, and drive me home.
@@indridcold8433 sometimes that’s what I do. Then I try to go out and be social and people take me the wrong way so then I don’t feel like being social again for a while. I’m too honest and straight forward for most people. I guess I’m attractive too cause many girls hate me and get jealous. 🤷🏻♀️
My friend has a son with autism. She has to drive 1 hour and 26 minutes Monday through Friday to take him to a special school that can help him. She has 2 other kids, cannot work, and the only reason they can even survive is because they live rent free in a family home in the middle of nowhere. I'd say this is one reason autism is seen as negative. She still loves her son more than the world, but she can't do things she used to or wants to.
Yes we were told by the education authority not to put a label on our son becausec it would affect his employment opportunities. What we didn't see was it was their attempt of cutting costs. The help our sons needed we've paid for . We were told he'd never pass a exam he is now taking three alevels all in science biology and chemistry physics in 35 weeks and then aerospace engineering degree.He is doing brilliantly.
Well it certainly doesn't sound fun and you hardly ever see or hear people talk about how positive it is. Perhaps parents could do something to get that message out to society in general so we can be more informed and understanding. I mean it - I'd like to see it differently, but have never heard any parent say, "Oh we're so excited! Little Johnny has Asperger's! Isn't that great?"
I believe that my husband of 30 years has undiagnosed aspergers. He meets all the criteria like routines, watching tv shows over and over again, and social problems. I accept these things because he is a wonderful man. He is extremely honest, very generous, and very intelligent.
I pretty much learned to speak by reading. It sounds weird because there were no audio books when I was a kid. But I would read books so often that I memorized them, and for words I didn't know, my brain would like click the words together (kind of like on that show Word World) when someone said the word I didn't now. And because I learned that, I had idea the meaning of many words until I heard it used in context. Shortly after I started reading, too, I started hoarding my classroom dictionary so I could look up words I didn't know from my books. One teacher just accepted that I hoarded her dictionary because I wanted to learn, so if she ever needed it, she just went to my desk and borrowed it. This was like 1989 or 1990. I still collect books to this day, including always keeping a couple dictionaries and thesauruses on hand. My daughter, on the other hand, didn't speak until she was almost 3, and she learned to speak socially by watching Peppa Pig, and though we live in California and have never left the US, she had a British accent for awhile. To this day, she also still has her own dialect ("should I" instead of "can I" and for a long time she used "prank" instead of "lie"). I had to translate for her in public when she was younger. Her very first form of communication came at almost 3 yrs old when I was desperately trying to get her to tell me if she was hungry or thirsty (she couldn't), so I put on an older sign language video (I'm trying to find the name of it, at the moment, I'll edit this comment when I do) and after watching it a couple times she finally realized that things had names and she was able to ask for stuff.
I think I have Asperger Syndrome my entire life and never realized it until watching videos. Eye contact when talking with someone, dislike of large crowds, extreme shyness when young, pica when a child, talking endlessly about one topic to someone who does not care, hate bright lights and loud noises, love to do alone hobbies like drawing and painting, love animals more than people, dislike people who are not logical, do not like other people's drama, every once in a while have meltdowns, ect. Other people pick up on my eccentricicities, and I don't think I am any different from them. My own daughter says she does not understand me. Maybe I should only have Asperger friends.
Even as a toddler, my son, diagnosed with Asperger's, has demanded eye contact with me. When I would be cleaning the house, cooking, washing dishes, he'd be telling me a story or imparting some information and would say, "Look at me when I'm talking to you!" This is something I never said to him. He's in his late 30s and still looks me right in the eyes when speaking.
Both me and my daughter have heat sensory issues. We run much hotter than anyone else in our family, and even often throughout winter, she and I both wear tank tops and shorts, especially if I have to be out in the yard working on something. My daughter often confuses hot and cold, as well, especially when she was young. Rather, I say "confuses" but I think that might be part of her brain wiring that tells her that cold is actually hot and vice-versa.
I'm 63 and you are right , damn it ! I never realized this . I have a sensory issue also ! I have no friends. I have a problem understanding what people are saying, I don't get jokes but go alone and would have to think about it to get it for a while. God help me plus I hate being alone too and suffer when my wife goes to work . I have become disabled and having a problem because nothing is the same. But as far as looking away I stare into people's eyes to understand them better. This whole thing is to overwhelming for me gotta go my friend.
I have a dear friend, my best friend in the world, JB, we are both 64. He drives me so crazy.... he takes my whimsical observations as an offence... he is a massive control freak. I am not able to say 'freak' to him because he has neurofibromatosis, which has disfigured his face on one side, he lost an eye, and he is very miserable about that, and takes instant offence at the slightest thing I say. I have been treading on eggshells around him for decades. He is totally absorbed in his own misery, and will not be cheered. I'm exhausted, and he refuses to even countenance the possibility he may be on the spectrum. There's so much more.... 😒
Dan !!! Fellow ASPIE Here ! Only accepted my ASPERGERS about 45 months ago or so ! For more than 7 years have been diagnosed by many people albeit never really accepted it ! Have it 100% albeit late in life accepted it and trying to get an official diagnosis ! Thanks for your videos have been very helpful in understanding, managing, playing, accepting and loving BEING AN ASPIE !
My dear grandson went undiagnosed Asperger’s due to parents in denial, but I got him into a private school and paid for it, to help get through high school. They had a special supervised study and test area for him and 30 other kids. He has all of the above issues, I knew by age 3 and parents refused to believe it. A few people were still cruel to him but much less than in public school. I fed him the same breakfast for 4 years …he wouldn’t eat lunch at school unless it could be done without anyone noticing. He had pop in mini muffin or squares of cheese anything discreet. I never criticized just accommodated. He became a good artist and quietly stocks grocery shelves for a living.
@MelissaGilliam People are so loud. On their phones, in the supermarket (let's not forget the crashing shopping trolley noises), their screaming kids........
Originally, I watched your videos to become a better assistant, worker, friend and family member to folks with ASD. You've helped me immensely to better help others ... and to understand myself. I have ADHD and have battled post concussion syndrome for the past three years. Ironically, my PCS symptoms present like some of the those you describe! Thank you for all you do to make this world a better place!
I am a 52 yo mom with a 22 yo son. Both of us are Aspies. Yes, the both of us seem to be our own heaters. We call it being quirky when talking about things amongst our family. I really appreciate this video. Thankyou for sharing the way we all feel!
I got diagnosed at 14 so it was like a weird opening for me, and at first i thought i was dying cuz i thought it was like cancer and i was so scared, but my sister's who's a nurse helped me understood much much better
@@Flopsi80 I live in TX, so the summers are torture. When I go out to walk my dog 4-5 times a day, I will have to take a shower to 1) cool off, and 2) to get the sweat off my body... because if it dries on my skin, it drives me nuts.
Sensory issues are also classic ADHD. I still take out all the tags from my shirts. I can’t handle socks with seams across the toes. I can not tolerate it at all. It actually is painful. I have so many socks but can only wear a handful of them.
You are the first person I've heard to mention "running hot". I have always had a constant temp of 99.6 and my son has also. Different activities or social situations will make me feel hot and I used to splash water on my face & neck. There was even a time when i would get hives around my neck. I have learned to regulate better and have gotten off of certain medications that didn't help. Thanks for your videos!
My youngest son was diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome when he was in high school. He was also with ADHD when he was about 5. This combination has many cross over behaviors. He was calmed by anything screen and absolutely loved to play video games. He’s an adult now . Still has his struggles but has a lot of self awareness to overcome the things you’ve described.
I am hot all the time and I don't sweat until my body is nearing shut down. Oh, and hungry. My hunger does not turn off, so I have to keep track of what and whether I have eaten.
Your channel is very enlightening and validating Dan. Thank you for sharing these symptoms. The communication issue is very common. Especially communicating emotions.
Dx asd Jan 2023. So frustrating as dealing w so much physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually and financially. So relate to all you shared. Thanks so much Dan. God Bless 💙🙏🏻🙏🏻💞💙👊
I literally die in the summer, winter is no problem, trying to recieve help to learn about my diagnosis, was diagnosed with ASD and ADHD, 2yrs ago, im 34 now, needing support because it's been a mess up to now, overloading constantly, today is a good day though
You CAN learn to look people in the eyes. It takes time but it still feels intense and a bit strange. A lot of the behaviour you can learn to work around. The sounds problem is definitely something I've never was able to deal with. It's still bothersome.
Headphones work well with me, Sony M5, and yes I learned how to mask eye contact whenever I’m around people I don’t feel safe with(when they’re talking to me) but I’ve been unmasking for the past month BADLY
@@EphemeralProductions tomorrow I have a conversation diagnosis with a psychiatrist, I already wrote a note in advance talking about my previous diagnosis and how I masked the eye contact and I was only left with (adhd,depression,social anxiety,learning difficulties, speech therapy) diagnosis, I’m unmasking all the way tomorrow, I’ll smoke a j definitely to get rid of my hyper activity and masking
@@Wyrm1701 Isn't some of this really just how individuals ARE??? Does everything have to be pigeonholed into a syndrome or diagnosis to be accommodated and recognized and given a day of the year or a month or awareness and funding and making someone special??? I'm not talking extremes, but "I'm overweight and get hot easy" shouldn't be all that.
Two of my 3 sons have it. 1 Asperger’s and the the other is Autism. Teach them to drive at night. Less stress and distractions. They are limited to what’s in the headlights. They are both great drivers. No accidents. Homeschooling also can be a huge help if needed. Remember we are all created to be individuals. It’s ok ✅
I am in a relationship (going on 15 years now) and I have always suspected that my significant other is on the spectrum. He would totally 100% deny this as he would see it as a "flaw". We are approaching our 80's. Everything you spoke about he has to one degree or another. I worked with someone who has Aspergers before I met him and so it was obvious to me that my SO was on the spectrum. Over the course of time I have found it is easier for both of us to accommodate his "quirks". (That means shopping at Wal-Mart before 7 am....eating at restaurants at off times...accepting that he prefers not to have eye contact when we talk, which actually isn't a lot.) He basically is a good person with a condition that he can't help, but that I can accept. 🤗 Thank you for the video.
My husband and son have Asperger’s, I’m on the autism spectrum and have ADHD ;) super empath girl on the opposite side of the Quadra of most typical autism spectrum individuals. My daughter seems to have the empath and ocd highly socially driven but hates spice, seams etc. my son had meltdowns like five times a day as a toddler over transitions, sensory issues, sounds etc. OT sensory work and visual therapy, early intervention, speech and an amazing preschool brought us to an amazing place. Also, being around and riding horses has helped since we live in an exurb near farmland. My husband and son are constantly hot: I love it since I’m cold when I sleep. Both of them need one less layer at all times. It’s a metabolism thing which is interesting. Metabolisms and guts especially since 90 percent of the body’s serotonin uptake inhibitors reside in our guts I think have to do with it. Also, brain power having bigger brains also runs the overall heater more since it’s burning calories and needs energy. Maybe? I’m a nurse too so I approach it all from a different stand point.
@@Geoplanetjane I’ve become a little bit of an Aspergers Google :). My father was intelligent and successful, but had melt downs and my sister had ocd and got very fixated and I started to see patterns in my friends too. My parents were both professionals and I honestly think in the technological revolution we where self selecting and since autism is a genetic developmental thing I mean there might be factors like food and lack of nutrients that make some of our characteristics more intense, but that’s also true of everyone else. I think that we bred ourselves for this in the name of success and progress. But; also I love people on the spectrum and I communicate better with them and understand them more than others ahah. So, like this is my tribe. Such gifts, so many struggles. All is well, just love and acceptance for however anyone shows up always. To human is to err but it’s also to be capable of brilliance and love… so.
You're so good at pinpointing the nuances of the autism experience. I would love it if you could do an ASD explainer video specifically geared towards family and friends. My family find it difficult to understand because I don't act like rain man. I would like to have something to show them, so I can unmask sometimes. I feel like I'm living a lie.
My brother was born in 1972 and still struggles with eye contact and social situations. I wish it was help when he was a kid. Now he is set in his ways.
I struggle with eye contact, have my routines which explains why I watch movies and shows I’m familiar with a lot and don’t always go the parties as they are very unfamiliar. I have also always struggled with socializing for all the same reasons. Sensory issues have been an issue so I like to see use noise canceling ear buds. I also hate the tags on shirts. Communication has always been a struggle for me.
I was reading a book a long time ago. I don’t remember the title. It said to look at the spot in the forehead right above the eyes. It looks to others like you are looking at their eyes when you are not. I did that for job interviews and such. Now it’s habit but I can never identify someone’s face. It’s just a blur in my head.
I am the same way about faces. I identify people by their build and hair and clothing. If they change their hair or something, I might not know them when I see them. When I watch movies or tv shows that have characters with similar coloring and body type, I cant keep up with the plot because I keep confusing the characters.
My daughter was diagnosed back at the age of 7 with PDDNOS”. Which was pervasive development disorder not of specific cause” now it’s all under the Autism umbrella. She had special help all throughout her schools years 1-12. Slow processing, adhd, executive function issues , social issues , memory issues. After graduating high school ( USA), she had a seizure, soo …neurologist did a brain scan and it turned out that she has “ gray matter hetetropia“ scattered in her brain. Her brain did not form correctly while in my womb. Some of the outside gray matter is on the inside of her brain . Gray matter in her frontal lobe, scattered at the ends of each anterior horn in her brain. Basically explains the slow processing, the memory issues and the executive function issues . I think all kids on spectrum need a brain scan right off the bat just to rule out any brain conditions that may be present causing some of the issues. I wish we had known this years ago .
Thank you for your insight. My grandson (age 18) is autistic and I often wonder how to help him without being offensive or intrusive. I would absolutely hate to make him feel he's being tolerated or needs to be fixed--he deserves better than that. So you gave me something to think abt--thank you❤
I relate with the feel of communication with other people being sometimes too fast. I wish I had a pause button to pause the world around me to give me time to digest what other people have said and to come up with my response. Sometimes just 10 seconds would be enough, sometimes 10 minutes if my response needs to be elaborate. That's why I strive communicating via email or writing comments/opinions/replies online. I have all the time I need before hitting the "send" button.
Man, I myself have Asperger’s, but am also a chronic Extrovert… I talk to people often, especially online as a gamer, but I also find it difficult to meet someone new who is not directly connected to my friends in some way. However, if I’m left completely alone, I tend to feel depressed due to being in said situation. It’s awkward both ways, but at least it’s bearable when I have someone to verbally chat with.
Thank you for sharing your experiences … my son has/does exactly the same thing. He is 32 now and I have often wondered if he could have Asperger’s. He communicates often online w/ other gamers and his local friends are the same since high school We can have very intelligent conversations and he works at my office (very small, independent setting) he is also very technically inclined. When he lived in his own apartment, he became so depressed and started drinking- we had to literally rescue him - the apartment was an absolute disaster- he has a small room in my house and he is absolutely content w/ the space - wears the same clothes etc. I wish you best of luck - thanks for sharing
Oh me too ! I run hot ! Oh it was so embarrassing in high school ! Air conditioners are imperative for me. I’ve grown accustomed to the noise of them and now it’s comforting as long as it’s not too loud.
Very Late Diagnosis Asperger's Syndrome... the diagnosis - it's both a blessing and a new challenge. Great to know why all my life I've behaved "inappropriately" in so many situations... self-loathing is a demon that's extremely hard to exorcize, when the memories come in a constant cycle to remind you what I prick you've been to so many people... all your freaking life. I've learned a certain level of masking, and behave in most situations, but as you'll know it leaves me drained, as if I'd worked a double shift, against the wind, uphill... on a starvation diet.
WOW! Gotta take a few to process all this info…Not only for myself (now a grandma of 17 beautiful people) but also for the male adults in our family AND some of the children whom I’ve suspected for some time…This is “powerful knowledge” I’ll get back to ya after I pass this onto my daughter for review…whew!!!
Yes, no filters, in or out. Sound conversations etc. People's presence overwhelming. The more the worse. Same for eye contact. Routines not so much. Clothes tags, too tight. No small talk.Too old for usefulness of diagnosis (68).
When I was young I was tested for autism and the doctor diagnosed it a negative. He suggested my parents seeing a psychiatrist may be of help, symptoms were extreme introvert, loved being alone with family cats and dogs and routines. Psychiatrist told them I'll outgrow it eventually. Still an introvert, can't stand noisy places and always decline parties or friend's gatherings etc., mainly due to when several people are talking I can't hear a thing even though nothing is wrong with my hearing. Frankly, I like my world very much, it's peaceful and when things gets tough to handle I just go for a long trips on my own. My husband is quite understanding so he leaves me alone.
I was diagnosed as an older adult. What a relief! When I was in my 30s I knew I was not typical and I got a LOT of social skills training. I have overcome many of the give away social behaviors, such as avoiding eye contact, putting my foot in my mouth. But I still deal with all of the emotional aspects. I have to spend the bulk of my time alone, doing the things I love, by myself. I still have to curl up in a ball and decompress from social situations, and painful interchanges can put me in isolation for days as I recover. I TOTALLY disagree with the removal of Asperger's as a diagnosis.
Then some of us just look way too much at peoples eyes , trying to read , follow and comprehend what that person is saying or more so , who they are as a persron ... some people with ASD can even behave almost like "people" are a special interest . (That still comes with a LOT of feeling worn out from it . and then need ya to have "no people time" like many other ASD folks need)
Autism Vs Aspergers: ua-cam.com/video/0bACSPzN1xY/v-deo.html
Great content 🎉🎉🎉
Well fyi here in the Netherlands it's called ASS Autisme Spectrum Syndrome. Personally I find this less triggering because it's not like adhd or odd. So no disorder but like Asperger's, Syndrome.
Sensory issues with heat, same here, hate summers. But eye contact at first place? No problem here, I've been told I have a piercing look. This helps me to understand people. Micro expressions but that I learned through decades.
Great vid.
Greetings from Netherland
Spot on with all! My big brother and I have Asperger’s. He died at age 49, I’m 53f. We sweat so badly, we wore shorts and t shirts in the winter walking the dog or shovelling snow! Our youngest has it and I was able to know straight away. She went to a brilliant school that worked with her, she was 2 with the vocabulary of an adult. We worked hard at home with her, as well. She’s 24, graduated Uni with a full academic scholarship and is very outgoing! I’m NOT! My career picked me because of my “different wiring”. Very structured and routine but I learned to improvise easily when necessary. I despise certain textures and all tags come off immediately. Your hat is triggering me 😂
I absolutely hate it when it gets hot! I'm fine when its warm, but I'm like a human radiator anyway, I produce more sweat than the water from my shower when it's only 15°C!
I feel so seen, as if someone actually understands me. Thank you for not letting me feel alone in thought.
My sister never made eye contact but one day I decided to try reaching out in a gentle way. Our family was highly telepathic so as we sat chatting at the kitchen table, in my mind I began saying “you are safe. All is well. Nothing can hurt you”. Slowly as we talked I saw her eyes move from my hair to my forehead and then for a few seconds she looked into my eyes. We were both around thirty. Neither of us could maintain this contact, the work and the hope involved, but that moment is alive in me to this day. I have a lot of neuro-diverse markers, but at 86 people now credit my eccentricities to my old age, leaving me wonderfully free of folk trying to fix me, tolerate me or exit me. Hurray!!
I wonder if there is a telepathic aspect to autism. Since day one, I've had a way of knowing what my wife was thinking...sometimes. but, I also can tell I'm coming up on a speed trap miles away.
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@@pohldriver I have wondered myself if telepathy was involved in neuro diverse people. If such children are picking up the mental reality of folk around them, the contradiction between what is said and what is felt and thought - the spiritual self - could force a child
to choose which communication to trust. I choose to believe WORDS and I shut out the senses that were telling me that another reality was in people. Only now am I able to risk knowing that words can’t always to be taken at face value. But I could hear God from age ten because He needed be to help me survive. This gift has remained with me and gets more distinct every day. I bet a lot of poor and desperate people have the same grace in their lives.
“Blessed are the crushed in spirit because theirs is the kingdom of heaven”. Yep
At almost eighty years old, thanks to the internet, I realized I was an Aspie. What a liberating feeling it was. All those years of sound and light sensitivity, difficulties in social settings and the frustration with the million niceties of small talk that I tried to navigate at high speed. I’m neurodivergent! Not rude or inappropriate, but well-meaning, kind, socially awkward and neurodivergent! A life changer in self esteem. Thanks to channels like this one spreading the word.
@@donnahersey9813 bless you for sharing the joy, Donna! Whole lot of liberation going on all over the world as we earth folk begin to gab about our share of the light. Emerson said each of us has a ray of light so we can testify of that light. “I was blind but now I see!” In this dark time lights are going on. Whether it is starlight or a miner’s light in the cave of diamonds, this is the wealth that will save, heal, transform and endure! Hallelujah! ONWARD!!
I can't speak very well to another person, but I can write an eloquent letter fully explaining things that I find hard to explain directly through verbalizing my thoughts and feelings.
That's me.
yes..same
Same
I can't thumbs you up enough!
I'm like that too.
It's more the other way around for me about eye contact. It's not that I feel that I'm looking into someone's soul, it's more that they are looking into me and reading all my thoughts.
Yeah I know what you mean.
Whereas for me, I feel that looking at eyes too closely is like leering at people's genitals.
That might sound a little strange. I think the reason I feel this way is that I had very bad eyesight as a child (it's still ratshit but I'm no longer close to legally blind, which is pretty much what I was as a small child). The attempts to improve the bad eyesight were traumatic (as in left me with PTSD) to say the least. So for me eyes are almost like genitals in that they can be violated in ways that are not a thousand miles removed from rape.
@@resourcedragonwow, we just can never know what another person’s childhood was like and how it affected their whole life! Thank you for sharing this insight.
@@resourcedragon cheers for that mental image which is going to haunt me for the rest of the day lol
For me it's both. I've always been uncomfortable with eye contact, and long before I found out I have autism, and long before I heard anyone else say "it's like looking into someone's soul/they're looking into yours," I felt that way. To me it feels like they're taking away my energy, like an energy vampire, whether they realize it or not.
I told my husband recently - I hear EVERYTHING. It makes it sooo hard to focus on the conversation in front of me.
This also happens to people suffering hypervigilance. Like people with ptsd or cptsd. Incredibly frustrating. I’ve also heard people with adhd complain about this feeling of being overwhelmed by noise and unable to focus.
@@LillyJacob-l6r PTSD here, and yes, very much so.
I've spent 60 years thinking I'm weird and don't fit in with the world. Thank you for your videos.
Same here...its very hard to deal with as I get older.I stay away from people because I think they know there is something "wrong with me"..I want to reach out but I just cant..I'm not feeling it when I try...yet..I fear being alone ....sick and afraid if my partner passes.Its terrifying...but...I dont know any other way😏
All of it. Dang I am 56 years old and I am just now figuring out why I have always been "weird' 🙄 I appreciate this so much because I don't feel like I am the only person who has to deal with these things. I always had to smoke weed to be able to go to work and deal with people. I worked in land surveying my whole life and I thrived. Just one or two coworkers and in the woods most of the day doing math. I was blessed to have had a job that I loved and felt like I fit in.
You're not "weird", never have been "weird" and never will be "weird". You're you, quirky, likeable, and different to Neuro typicals. Celebrate those wonderful differences hunny 🎉
Yes. U lucky...career wise. I was out on an employment/ housing blacklist by a bunch of witches & warlocks. Hi, mommy Mary.
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I am weird, you are weird we are all weird. It's being a human. How boring would it be if we were all cookie cutters❤
I am an Aspie. The last word of your post triggered me. Only me. Im not criticizing you at all. But reading the lovely message, i cringed at the end. Too much!!! (For me. Just me) i cannot stand emotionally charged remarks. For some reason i cannot deal with diminutive names either. I am weird. Don't take it away. 😊 @franceseyre2093
1: eye contact 1:36
2: love of routines and rituals 3:32
3: social issues 4:37
4: sensory overload 6:17 aka sensory processing disorder and body heat
5: communication issues 9:08
Yes to all the above including the excess heat. Thank you ❤
Yeah, I was diagnosed a few years ago and the eye contact, love for routine and rituals, social issues and sensory overlode is so true for me. Especially the spice part. Even the tiniest bit of spice is too much for me and I can only keep eye contact for a few seconds at a time.
Yes. All of the above
@kamloopscruiser874 Thanks so much for the précis. Appreciate not having to go through the whole video ⭐️
Why I work from home!
All of the above apply to my grandson. He is a loving, gentle soul but struggles with anxiety if his routine changes. We are fortunate he is receiving assistance in high school. If there is too much noise around him his brain literally freezes and he is motionless for minutes at a time.
I say the wrong thing so often I find communication quite traumatic
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I've gotten used to it and I adapted by being so honest, as soon as I figure out I am wrong I admit that (if only to myself)... and I feel okay being awkward and embarrassed sometimes, because I know I didn't do anything wrong on purpose. Stay up buddies! It's hard to feel so strongly but it helps us make the right decision in the end 🎉
I just let whatever wants to come out, Come out and if they don't like it, they can get over it. I'm not like other people and I am so glad. Something seems to be wrong with the majority of neurotypicals
Same, people seem allergic to truth. 😳
I often say the wrong thing.
People that interact with me seem to automatically default to a hermenuetic of suspicion.
I come across as a bit awkward.
I also have a very dry and dark/sick sense of humour.
Sometimes i get an internal voice that tells me no don't say that, this person will take it wrong, but i talk back and tell the voice not to worry. It will be cool. Invariably, the voice is right and i had no clue of the amount of shit that hit the fan. Lol
A guy at church came up to me and said "God really likes your sense of humour"
I said to him "that's cool, i wonder what God finds funny about dead jews?"
I received a late diagnosis only because of my wife’s training from her job. Upon learning this I sought out a professional diagnosis to make things official. I learned to deal with things in my own way and adjusted to these experiences. Some of these things have gotten harder as I’ve aged. Having downtime, lights off, and watching documentaries or learning some type of new knowledge are my routines. My job has absolutely been a nightmare but has helped to raise my personal threshold to deal with things much easier. Even though it’s too late for me to help myself out. Going forward it’s a massive benefit to have this knowledge about myself.
I'm finding things harder as I age too, the things I could tolerate and navigate when I was young are not an option now.
I posted about this in an autism subreddit, and the responses were startling - it seems that for many of us, this is true - yet the literature denies it.
For women, the general opinion was that the perimenopause really makes it worse, so it's enlightening to know it's not just happening to us. I suspect there is a hormonal aspect to it as our levels drop but lack the expertise to investigate.
Wow! You sound like me after a hard day in Logistics or Customer Service (not what you think, I basically work with customer so Sales can bring in more work). Not a call position.
My temperament is getting shorter as I juggle multiple issues, but expected to do order on a moments notice. My under-breath language is quite colorful.
Thank you, Jason for explaining how you feel Post Autism diagnosis.
I get my results tomorrow... really needed to hear what you shared! ☺️🎉
U talk very fast!
i have not been diagnosed but i found you searching for the same characteristics i have and i have all of these qualities, i always run hot i sleep without a blanket, i dont like vegetables the taste get to me i hate spicy foods and alcohol. i dont like social interactions i have 0 friends i go home from work and play video games i dont like people. i follow the same routines every day and i hate deviating from my routines.
Mike sounds like one of my days & ways! 😊
No blankets here either. 😅
I have hypERthyroidism, which makes you run hot, or when I'm low on Vitamin D (bc of being hyper, you may have a harder time with certain vitamins going low 😢I will sweat. Been taking D supplements religiously, and the sweating is gone finally but not the heat. I know too much info. Oh, well. Best wishes.
Sometimes I have to change my shirt a few times during sleep. I wake up sopping wet. People really do suck.
I am a 71 year old Special Needs teacher with Aspergers Syndrome.
I have learners from Reception to Grade 9 with every shade of "special" that you mentioned, and then some.
I was so relieved when Aspergers was identified. I knew I was different, just didn't know why.
Now i have the satisfaction of communicating with little ones and teens in a way that is appropriate for them. Keep up with your videos.There are still people, especially parents,who don't understand or won't believe that their child needs a different approach, not to be hidden away or labeled as
" naughty" Well done!
My 45 year old son has Asperger's and lives with me, and he has all the characteristics you mentioned! He actually diagnosed himself when he was in his 20's by plugging in all of his "symptoms" on Google searches. He had me read the results, and I said, "That is you!!!". Now I know how to deal with him and we get along so much better. My sister, a counselor, says he hasn't been diagnosed by a professional so he may not have it!! I say live with my son for awhile and you will know!!!
Late diagnosed aspy. I'm sixty five, and I was diagnosed when I was sixty three. Still discovering things that are part of that. I had no idea that my watching of shows over and over is part of it! It just gives me such relief, it's relaxing and it makes me happy. Who knew... ❤
I trained myself to look into people's eyes. It's sometimes i'm almost too intense and I don't mean to be, but it was a masking skill that I taught myself.
You have saved my marriage my husband a very nice guy has this disorder I put up for 38 years now we are both 70 I found out that he is not responsible for the way he is now I realize my 35 yr old daughter has it and do not want to get married but the knowledge I have I am able to cope
My grandson and granddaughter are on the spectrum. My grandson has asperburger. He is high functioning ADHD his perspective is very different. He is fun to be around and we are learning about autism together. My granddaughter is level 2 ADHD OCD. She is a joy to be around. She and her brother help each other out. Their abilities meshed together could make one person because of their inabilities to function in certain areas. I enjoy your videos. They help me understand my grandkids better. Keep up the good work.
💞 I'm so happy for your grandson and granddaughter that they have such a good grandmother like you 💝
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I’m 80 and I just discovered I am autistic, have ADHD, and OCD. I will subscribe. This is a wonderful place to help me understand how my brain works!
Thank you for this. It accurately describes my son who was diagnosed with Asperger’s in second grade. He still lives with me at 38 years old but holds a three day a week job and is now doing very well as long as he has limited contact with people, both strangers and family. Your eye contact talk has lead me to believe that I also have a mild form of Asperger’s. As a child I was very shy and could not look at people. I would hide my face in my arms. Also to this day, I’m 70 years old, I prefer to be alone with my books, each of which I’ve read hundreds of times. Thank you again for your understanding and accurate description of Asperger’s.
I worked with several children on the spectrum at a public school.
Many students had trouble with eye contact. So I taught them to stare at the nose while talking with someone. It was a win-win. It help them stay engaged with the speaker and gave the apperance of looking me in the eye while talking. (Our social norm).
They all became so good at using this method they did eventualy start looking into my eyes.👍
3:31 Before I was diagnosed, my wife asked me how I could watch the entire series of the same show over and over again. The only answer I had was, "I don't know."
I do that too sometimes, mostly with books
I’ve done that too my whole life. With movies too. I can’t understand how people can watch a movie one time. I love to re-watch my favorite moments!
I have watched "Clueless" the movie well over 400 times. It's messed up. I haven't watched it in a while, due to not living alone, but I'd like to.
Watched it EVERY day for over a year and a half.
I can quote "A Christmas Story" for any situation. No idea how many times I've watched it.
To those with spouses- to me, watching those movies (and groundhogs day, grumpy old men and a Christmas vacation) are like snuggling up with your spouse in bed-assuming you love them.
I know them, i love them, they just make me feel good!
@@Saltysteele as a child, my go-to was Empire Strikes Back, but only the Hoth scene. I loved the snow, Wampa, and AT-ATs. It drove my parents and sister nuts.
@@orderthruchaos oh, i also live that scene!
I get lost in that scene imagining what it'd be like to be there! And the tauntauns and at-at's! I had a tauntaun toy, but my cousin had an at-at and he wouldn't let me play with it🥺
To be fair, i have a bit of an oppositional defiance issue, so i probably would have broken it doing what they were telling me not to do😛
I have family who get so mad at me because i *need* to know plans beforehand. Not knowing what to expect is anxiety inducing. And heaven help me if plans change... At nearly yhe age of 50, i was recently diagnosed as high functioning autistic.
You aren't alone hunny, don't let their ignorance get you down. ❤
Yes! At 56 I'm not diagnosed but I'm sure I am and this comment hit me hard. I always want to know what's going to happen next. I can't even look forward to things because I don't know exactly what's going to happen. I need a WhatsApp group with some friends and I always tell them exactly what I have planned for the day and then at the end of the day I tell them what I did and where the plans didn't go to plan. 😂 I've never thought of this as being part of ASD. ❤
*I'm in, not I need.
I overheat on a daily basis. One work colleague named me the glazed donut! I’ve a bald head! 😊
Yeah, can’t stand hot weather and bright sun either. I’ve always bought tinted lens glasses as a result.
My happy temp is around 10 degrees Celsius…
Can’t abide noisy restaurants and supermarkets. Always go at unsociable times to avoid people and noise. I’ve definitely gotten worse as I’ve aged.
@@endlessrage4062 PLEASE SOMEONE MAKE A VIDEO ABOUT THESE THINGS GETTING WORSE WITH AGE!! I'm sick of neurotypical doctors' opinions !!!
Right!??
@@ian_occultist it’d be fun, helpful and interesting to have a few of us jump on a zoom call to discuss and contrast our symptoms. I’ve found talkin with no filter of shame embarrassment to be extremely liberating.
Oh my God trying to eat in a room where a bunch of other people are also eating is like the worst
Same here but I need 20-24 degrees celsius to feel okay.
And yeah, it gets worse with age. As a woman menopause plus autism plus ADHD is no fun at all.
So many people are figuring this out at an older age. Very interesting video. Thanks
Omg when you said about understanding hit the nail on the head!! My husband gets so mad I ALWAYS say “Huh” when he’s talking to me but then I’ll eventually answer and I’ve tried to explain I need to process the question and saying “Huh” gives me time. And the list of what to do and not knowing how to execute it also!!
I always describe the communication thing like I have a filing system in my brain, and I constantly have to search for the appropriate response, pull it out, and then say it out loud. It takes time and makes other people uncomfortable... so I just stay within my small circle or friends that understand and accept me ❤
Like a cherry picker in your brain, picking the correct response!!
Thank you for this. I don’t have autism but I do know people that are, and videos like these allow me to have better communication with them. This brings so much perspective. I wish that corporations showed videos like these at work because you would reach so many people
Bless you for being you 💙
Excellent suggestion!
I wasn't diagnosed until I was 37, I'm now 54. It's an everyday struggle to 'keep it together ' and not go crazy. I also deal with depression, hypoglycemia, 24/7 ear ringing, etc. I have trouble with everything you talked about.
I'm hypoglosimic and have a ringing in my ear as well. I read once that some people can actually hear the noise from their own synaps firing, so I just tell myself that's what it is. Which would make sense?Because it seems to get louder when I have a lot going on.
Just don’t focus on the tinnitus. You will be able to forget most of the time that you have it. Plus, get your hearing tested by a doctoral level audiologist. You may be missing some of the higher frequencies. Regarding the depression, get a therapist. They may be able to help you. Sometimes one or more antidepressants can help. Regarding hypoglycemia, eat small meals frequently and stay away from sugary things. High protein and moderate fats are okay. Also you may benefit from hearing aids. Stat away from noisy environments. Go to an actual hearing specialist MD for thorough check of your auditory system.
@@Razorokcyes, it becomes noticeably stronger when you are stressed. Just don’t focus on it. It will recede in importance if you do that.
I’ve never been diagnosed but I’m all but SURE i have Asperger’s. All the signs are there to me, when I think about my life and behavior and how I am.
I was diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome at the age of 19 and I experience the five symptoms mentioned in the videos and I’ve been suffering from it for over 30 years along with schizophrenia which I was born with and developed post traumatic stress disorder and dissociative identity disorder as a result of trauma and torture I’ve been through growing up
Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).
That's a lot friend, you have very strong will to survive so much! I wish you peace and healing. 🙏🕊️
So sorry. Are you getting help to unravel all of these entanglements?
@@Geoplanetjane unfortunately no. I wish I did get help but my family is unwilling to help and I’m living at the homeless shelter for 9 and a half months now
You should wright a book like I did. Hope you have been journaling. Hope your week goes well.
My husband doesn’t do eye contact, closes his eyes when he thinks of his response of a request. He is warm all the time, he has weird OCD habits, same tv shows and same food, lives by routine. His communication skills are getting better through therapy, he doesn’t understand or know how to socialize. He can go on and on on a topic that is his on obsession (TV show or topic) and knows everything, and will go on and on without realizing the listener is unaware of the topic and isn’t interested. I’m his wingman; and help him navigate the social situations by changing or finding a link in the topic those he’s speaking to can relate to. And at times he is oblivious to the shift in conversation. His IQ is very high, and understands he is on the spectrum and his sensory processing is co-occurring with his communication skills. Together we are learning to communicate and co-exist in a harmonious way by open communication. (He’s not allowed to plug his ears anymore if I keep talking…he has to communicate by a sign or word to let me know he’s tapped out).
He's lucky to have you! Someone that's so understanding and patient and loving!
- Plug his ears? Totally understand your frustrations; mine said “oh well” at the worst moments and that used to set me off! We’ve been married 41 years and still have issues with communication. No way he’ll go to therapy; been there, he went twice I think and then wouldn’t go anymore. When we were first married our main arguments were about his intellect; he thought he was dumb and I thought he was a genius. Convinced him to take the MENSA test… I was correct. 😉
That is absolutely beautiful!!
Wow, you are truly an angel. I say this with complete sincerity. 💫
@@dinkc64Yes, women who stay with these men are often called “Saints”. Look up the article “Cassandra and the Aspie”. Wonderful synopsis.
My son was diagnosed with ADHD at age 3 1/2 and Asperger's Syndrome in the third grade. He is now almost 33 and has struggled vocationally his whole life. His dad told him that I was just labelling him, that there was nothing wrong with him. He isn't working now and I support him financially 100% in his own apartment. I am totally stressed out, trying to figure out how to get him to progress in life.
Help him get an aptitude test. So you and he knows what things are suitable for him. Johnson O’Connor Foundation. What does HE want to do?
Stop paying, you are enabling him imo
He might qualify for disability through social security. I’d look into it
It takes a long time to get SSDI but it is worth persueing.
I think you're me. I could have written this exactly, except for the official diagnoses part.
My body temp is 97.5 and I get hot and sweat if I sweep the floor !
Very interesting! Never thought that might be connected also. Thank you, truly, for a new idea.
I was married to my husband for several years before I found out he had Aspergers. It was a relief to finally understand that he actually had a diagnosis and wasn't just being difficult on purpose.
I have ADHD myself and I am wondering about my spouse re: Asperger's. Difficulty with communication. Social skills can be quite lacking. Eye contact is not his forte. So now, I am going to look for more info for the spouse of the person with spectrum disorder. Even if he's not, these skills may help me to approach certain things differently.
I forgot to mention that when talking I often say the wrong words and pause a lot. It's hard to think and talk at the same time. Sometimes I'll inadvertently try to say two words that mean the same thing and end mixing both of them up and saying a word that doesn't even exist!
This, I have been noticing this a LOT lately (&it’s been a BIG problem like it makes me want to just explode right on the spot like🤯) I notice that I’ll find two words that are sorta similar, but like within context it is totally not right because those two items are SO CLEARLY not the same ..for example if we are out somewhere and start talking about a car and then I go and say truck it’s like lol because okay sure they are both vehicles and you can drive both of them however again if we are out and talking, referring to a car meanwhile I go and say truck like lmao *facepalm🤦🏼♀️* because that is so clearly NOT THE RIGHT WORD TO SAY? I think my brain is like nah those are both drivable with gas so it’s like the same thing, you don’t need any other words, it’s a car, but actually no, no it’s not a car AT ALL WHATSOEVER like🤯🤯😭🤦🏼♀️😂
There is a name for this. A dear friend of mine had this since I knew her aged 15, and we all thought she was putting it on for attention, although it was very funny. We are both 78 now and she told me a couple of years ago that she found out she has a condition, I forget what it's called. Perhaps if you Google it you will find out.
Aspergers Syndrome describes a set of traits and abilities very perfectly. I know because I have it.
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@@Slasherations On fire! 😎
I don’t know if this is true for any of you, but I can rewatch everything over and over again because I legit don’t recall most of it. or at least not well enough to ruin the fun of watching it again. My husband can recall everything he watched and I have no idea how!
I often rewind shows and still forget what happened.
Me, too. I'm smart and perceptive, but I mostly forget an episode by the next day. Books, too. I have come to realize I like "being there." I love being in the Antarctic in The Thing. I like being in Indiana Jones leathery jacket swinging a bull whip. Being in that seemy and gritty world of The Godfather. Being with Capt Picard on the Enterprise. Harlan County with Raylan Givens, and on and on. In the sand in Dune 1 and 2. So, I want to keep going backthere. Songs, too. I will listen over and over sometimes for days. I love The Struts song, 'Low Key in Love' and I'll be in the car driving wherever and play that song 5 or 6 times singing loud as I can. Over and over.
My son loves to watch things over and over, but he remembers the smallest detail. He'll remember every fact. He loves science, engineering, aerospace engineering and F1 and motorsport. We were told he'd never pass an exam due to Aspergers and severe dyslexia, but he is taking another three levels and intends to study engineering next year. He was kept out of the classroom until age 12. He was 6 yrs behind his peers and then the pandemic hit. Yet he's done amazingly, so proud of him for not using his learning disability as an excuse. Wish you the best
@@Pugsrus that’s inspiring and gives me a lot of hope for my son also who is 10 and is behind in school! (From being homeschooled) I hope he does well in engineering! Thats exactly what I think my son will do too.
@@kyleegarcia5569 I don't know where you live but the best decision we made was taking our son out of main stream school. We have a UTC that focus on engineering. It was the first time in a classroom. We dreaded that first day. We could not believe how happy and settled he was. He went on to take his Cambridge level 2 and 3 in engineering. He passed all his GCSE’S. Don't be scared to ask to repeat a year if needed. My son repeated his final year due to his learning disabilities and because of covid. Make sure you request a ECH plan from the local authority this will help him get extra support. This is important. Many children who have learning disabilities are allowed help with education up to age of 25 so it's worth requesting a ECH plan. Don't be put off.
I know many children like ours with the right support and help they are taking their masters.
Also if you live in the UK getting them on this ECH plan who help all the way round with getting grants at uni for equipment.
There are some brilliant apps that really help my son
1,Grammarly
Is amazing for anything grammer and general English. You can use it in any program.
2 ,Google One Note brilliant for dictation and taking notes in class. Also great if your child forgets direction and instructions from the teacher, they can record the whole lesson. It works brilliantly. He can then sit and learn at his own pace and do back up research on net and hitting the books because my son is a visual learner so it makes it easier.
3,Simplify
Takes documents and cuts all the waffle out and pin points facts making it far easier to read documents.
My son started at a UTC from year 9 and all his school work was based around engineering. They do there Cambridge level 2 in engineering while doing their GCSE’S. Obviously they have to do Maths,sciences and English and English literature. The other subjects are gone and replaced with engineering.
If your child loves lego, trains, space and cars he'll definitely be at home. My son finally felt like he fitted in.
I wish you luck I know how worrying it can be. My son printed out a plan and aimed for each goal. UCT was on that plan a teacher told him about it at 6 years old and he remembered it.
If your son does apply for engineering college don't be put off if your child's behind. Many school don't thrive in main stream school. Once they get in environment that speaks to them it ignites their drive and learning so don't be put off from applying.
All the best to you and your family.
Watching for my Grandson aka GrandAwesome who is so intelligent and has many signs of what you are speaking of. I love him n have seen something’s since he was very young. No one else will acknowledge this. I want him to be seen as exceptional as he is. I raised him since he was born until school and he is amazing.
I hope his school sees his abilities and his helping him learn and develop in his own style. You could also arrange to have him privately tested to document his strengths and abilities.
My son has Asperger’s (he’s 22). He has had issues with motion sickness his whole life. Planes, trains, automobiles…you name it. As a family we rarely went on road trips because he would get motion sick and would only tolerate it if we had the air conditioning cranked as high as possible. We tried everything….anti nausea medicine,wrist bands, making sure he doesn’t eat before the trip, etc. Right now I’m trying to teach him to drive. Sometimes it’s fine, other times (when there’s a lot of stop and start traffic) he will get overwhelmed and feel sick. Does anyone else relate to this?
My daughter is a university graduate and now she teaches and supervises the staff providing services to Asperger’s and Autism clients. I am fascinated by her work and I am a retired psychiatric nurse. Your presentation has been excellent and I’m going to ensure that she sees you! Thank you so much!!👍🏻
I'm 37 and was just diagnosed 2 months ago
I've watched your channel for a while now and found it very helpful to understand myself
Over sensory delay is so challenging, the reason i am feeling social anxious and needing my time to mentally prepare to leave the house. For example, one day, i will meet up with a friend , and going to the training and / or do groceries needs at least 1 or 2 days of recovering my quiet. I get mentally very exhausted if i have to do social tasks for more than one day, which i can feel physically drained and in need of more sleep. I have, on top of that, a tinnitus on both sides it made it even harder to me to socialise in big groups. If to many people talking at once, I'll leave and seek quiet.
At the communication side, i don't want even to start because it will take a day or two to digest and requite the proper words. I always make this mistake because i know people expect to receive an immediate answer or thoughts and to 99% it is a 50:50 chance to cause trouble. So i got used to just listening and responding later via WhatsApp.
If adhd meets spectrum a: if it colides i have periods of absolute dysfunction. B if it conspires i don't want to miss the good times of inspiration, it can takes months of good progress in what ever is interesting, then im in ghost mode.
In no way do I mean to be disrespectful, but I’ve no idea what you are saying in the 2nd paragraph, and barely understood the first!
It's been a relief to discover last month that it's Aspergers/ASD.
I was diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome in 2003. It really does not effect me as much as people say it should. The trick is to stay away from everyone and do everything alone. Being self-reliant, independent, make no friends, and learn to do everything yourself and not hire, "professionals," goes a very long way in negating Aspergers Syndrome symptoms. My work around will work for everyone.
What if you were a woman and couldn't fix anything a d have men preying constantly even though you're an elder?
Yes, it helps you cope, but are you not lonely. Want to have a day trip somewhere.
@@dannacollins2520 I am 70 years old with Aspergers. I make it my mission to fix things like my washing machine, etc. I also just upgraded my old to new smart phone. When it's a matter of lifting heavy things.....hire a handyman? Yes, the men 'preying' on you is a fact. It's as if they sense the vulnerability and zero in like a vulture. My main concern is lifts to minor surgical appoinments. I need some cataract surgery and have maybe two reluctant relatives to drive me there, wait, and drive me home.
@@indridcold8433 sometimes that’s what I do. Then I try to go out and be social and people take me the wrong way so then I don’t feel like being social again for a while. I’m too honest and straight forward for most people. I guess I’m attractive too cause many girls hate me and get jealous. 🤷🏻♀️
@@dannacollins2520 figure out how to fix things.
The worst thing that was done was to to consider autism to be a negative thing. With that comes stereotypes that it is difficult to get rid off.
My friend has a son with autism. She has to drive 1 hour and 26 minutes Monday through Friday to take him to a special school that can help him. She has 2 other kids, cannot work, and the only reason they can even survive is because they live rent free in a family home in the middle of nowhere. I'd say this is one reason autism is seen as negative. She still loves her son more than the world, but she can't do things she used to or wants to.
Yes we were told by the education authority not to put a label on our son becausec it would affect his employment opportunities. What we didn't see was it was their attempt of cutting costs. The help our sons needed we've paid for . We were told he'd never pass a exam he is now taking three alevels all in science biology and chemistry physics in 35 weeks and then aerospace engineering degree.He is doing brilliantly.
Well it certainly doesn't sound fun and you hardly ever see or hear people talk about how positive it is. Perhaps parents could do something to get that message out to society in general so we can be more informed and understanding. I mean it - I'd like to see it differently, but have never heard any parent say, "Oh we're so excited! Little Johnny has Asperger's! Isn't that great?"
@@Pugsrus Good to hear. We need to hear more of these stories, because to outsiders, it sounds like a nightmare.
I've consideted it a gift my
whole life. I learned to work
around sensory issues.
I believe that my husband of 30 years has undiagnosed aspergers. He meets all the criteria like routines, watching tv shows over and over again, and social problems. I accept these things because he is a wonderful man. He is extremely honest, very generous, and very intelligent.
I pretty much learned to speak by reading. It sounds weird because there were no audio books when I was a kid. But I would read books so often that I memorized them, and for words I didn't know, my brain would like click the words together (kind of like on that show Word World) when someone said the word I didn't now. And because I learned that, I had idea the meaning of many words until I heard it used in context. Shortly after I started reading, too, I started hoarding my classroom dictionary so I could look up words I didn't know from my books. One teacher just accepted that I hoarded her dictionary because I wanted to learn, so if she ever needed it, she just went to my desk and borrowed it. This was like 1989 or 1990. I still collect books to this day, including always keeping a couple dictionaries and thesauruses on hand.
My daughter, on the other hand, didn't speak until she was almost 3, and she learned to speak socially by watching Peppa Pig, and though we live in California and have never left the US, she had a British accent for awhile. To this day, she also still has her own dialect ("should I" instead of "can I" and for a long time she used "prank" instead of "lie"). I had to translate for her in public when she was younger. Her very first form of communication came at almost 3 yrs old when I was desperately trying to get her to tell me if she was hungry or thirsty (she couldn't), so I put on an older sign language video (I'm trying to find the name of it, at the moment, I'll edit this comment when I do) and after watching it a couple times she finally realized that things had names and she was able to ask for stuff.
I think I have Asperger Syndrome my entire life and never realized
it until watching videos. Eye
contact when talking with someone, dislike of large crowds, extreme shyness when young, pica when a child, talking endlessly about one topic to someone who does not care, hate bright lights and loud noises, love to do alone hobbies like drawing and painting, love animals more than people, dislike people who are not logical, do not like other people's drama, every once in a while have meltdowns, ect. Other people pick up on my eccentricicities, and I don't think I am any different from them. My own daughter says she does not understand me. Maybe I should only have Asperger friends.
I understand you. Sounds like you are describing myself.
Even as a toddler, my son, diagnosed with Asperger's, has demanded eye contact with me. When I would be cleaning the house, cooking, washing dishes, he'd be telling me a story or imparting some information and would say, "Look at me when I'm talking to you!" This is something I never said to him. He's in his late 30s and still looks me right in the eyes when speaking.
I've always had to make direct eye contact. I've even won in stare down with my cats. I'm also female.
Both me and my daughter have heat sensory issues. We run much hotter than anyone else in our family, and even often throughout winter, she and I both wear tank tops and shorts, especially if I have to be out in the yard working on something. My daughter often confuses hot and cold, as well, especially when she was young. Rather, I say "confuses" but I think that might be part of her brain wiring that tells her that cold is actually hot and vice-versa.
100% on the multiple conversation issues. Cannot at all focus. So far, everything describes me actually.
RIGHT!?
And it’s even worse when you have comorbid ADHD.
You are right about 2013. I have one son diagnosed with Asperger’s and one son with Autism . Both are also gifted .
I'm 63 and you are right , damn it ! I never realized this . I have a sensory issue also ! I have no friends. I have a problem understanding what people are saying, I don't get jokes but go alone and would have to think about it to get it for a while. God help me plus I hate being alone too and suffer when my wife goes to work . I have become disabled and having a problem because nothing is the same. But as far as looking away I stare into people's eyes to understand them better. This whole thing is to overwhelming for me gotta go my friend.
I have a dear friend, my best friend in the world, JB, we are both 64. He drives me so crazy.... he takes my whimsical observations as an offence... he is a massive control freak. I am not able to say 'freak' to him because he has neurofibromatosis, which has disfigured his face on one side, he lost an eye, and he is very miserable about that, and takes instant offence at the slightest thing I say. I have been treading on eggshells around him for decades. He is totally absorbed in his own misery, and will not be cheered. I'm exhausted, and he refuses to even countenance the possibility he may be on the spectrum. There's so much more.... 😒
Dan !!! Fellow ASPIE Here ! Only accepted my ASPERGERS about 45 months ago or so ! For more than 7 years have been diagnosed by many people albeit never really accepted it ! Have it 100% albeit late in life accepted it and trying to get an official diagnosis ! Thanks for your videos have been very helpful in understanding, managing, playing, accepting and loving BEING AN ASPIE !
PS: LOVE YOUR PYRAMID TATSS !
When I watch videos like this, it describes me almost perfectly.
My dear grandson went undiagnosed Asperger’s due to parents in denial, but I got him into a private school and paid for it, to help get through high school. They had a special supervised study and test area for him and 30 other kids. He has all of the above issues, I knew by age 3 and parents refused to believe it. A few people were still cruel to him but much less than in public school. I fed him the same breakfast for 4 years …he wouldn’t eat lunch at school unless it could be done without anyone noticing. He had pop in mini muffin or squares of cheese anything discreet. I never criticized just accommodated. He became a good artist and quietly stocks grocery shelves for a living.
You’re a good Grammie ❤
Speaking of sensory issues with sounds, I used to wish I could turn off my hearing at will. It was that bad.
I use headphones 😊
@@turtleanton6539 I had headphones too.
@MelissaGilliam People are so loud. On their phones, in the supermarket (let's not forget the crashing shopping trolley noises), their screaming kids........
Originally, I watched your videos to become a better assistant, worker, friend and family member to folks with ASD. You've helped me immensely to better help others ... and to understand myself. I have ADHD and have battled post concussion syndrome for the past three years. Ironically, my PCS symptoms present like some of the those you describe! Thank you for all you do to make this world a better place!
Team sweaty here!
Lol what?
Right here with you 🥵
I am a 52 yo mom with a 22 yo son. Both of us are Aspies. Yes, the both of us seem to be our own heaters. We call it being quirky when talking about things amongst our family. I really appreciate this video. Thankyou for sharing the way we all feel!
I got diagnosed at 14 so it was like a weird opening for me, and at first i thought i was dying cuz i thought it was like cancer and i was so scared, but my sister's who's a nurse helped me understood much much better
< Thank you so much for the comment! So happy you had support x
9:01 OMG, me too!! And I HATE sweating, especially on my face!
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It feels disgusting, like being dirty. And on hot days it feels like my skin burns.
@@Flopsi80 I live in TX, so the summers are torture. When I go out to walk my dog 4-5 times a day, I will have to take a shower to 1) cool off, and 2) to get the sweat off my body... because if it dries on my skin, it drives me nuts.
Sensory issues are also classic ADHD. I still take out all the tags from my shirts. I can’t handle socks with seams across the toes. I can not tolerate it at all. It actually is painful. I have so many socks but can only wear a handful of them.
Same here. It didn’t bother me so much when I was younger, but the older I get the more I sense the irritation.
You are the first person I've heard to mention "running hot". I have always had a constant temp of 99.6 and my son has also. Different activities or social situations will make me feel hot and I used to splash water on my face & neck. There was even a time when i would get hives around my neck. I have learned to regulate better and have gotten off of certain medications that didn't help. Thanks for your videos!
I am a huge fan of the big bold CCs, thank you 🙏
Thank you ❤️
My youngest son was diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome when he was in high school. He was also with ADHD when he was about 5. This combination has many cross over behaviors. He was calmed by anything screen and absolutely loved to play video games. He’s an adult now . Still has his struggles but has a lot of self awareness to overcome the things you’ve described.
I am hot all the time and I don't sweat until my body is nearing shut down. Oh, and hungry. My hunger does not turn off, so I have to keep track of what and whether I have eaten.
I have ADHD but I feel like you totally just explained so many things about me 😂
Thank you for your definition and explanation of the disorder. I would like to learn more. God bless and keep you!
Your channel is very enlightening and validating Dan. Thank you for sharing these symptoms. The communication issue is very common. Especially communicating emotions.
Dx asd Jan 2023. So frustrating as dealing w so much physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually and financially. So relate to all you shared. Thanks so much Dan. God Bless 💙🙏🏻🙏🏻💞💙👊
I literally die in the summer, winter is no problem, trying to recieve help to learn about my diagnosis, was diagnosed with ASD and ADHD, 2yrs ago, im 34 now, needing support because it's been a mess up to now, overloading constantly, today is a good day though
You CAN learn to look people in the eyes. It takes time but it still feels intense and a bit strange. A lot of the behaviour you can learn to work around. The sounds problem is definitely something I've never was able to deal with. It's still bothersome.
I use headphones
Headphones work well with me, Sony M5, and yes I learned how to mask eye contact whenever I’m around people I don’t feel safe with(when they’re talking to me) but I’ve been unmasking for the past month BADLY
yeah, I put on airpods. :)
I do it but it’s never felt 100% natural or comfortable. It’s hard to remember to look away often enough, which I know is what’s expected.
@@EphemeralProductions tomorrow I have a conversation diagnosis with a psychiatrist, I already wrote a note in advance talking about my previous diagnosis and how I masked the eye contact and I was only left with (adhd,depression,social anxiety,learning difficulties, speech therapy) diagnosis, I’m unmasking all the way tomorrow, I’ll smoke a j definitely to get rid of my hyper activity and masking
I had always thought my "running hot" was something genetic because it's almost constant, but this makes a lot of sense
Same here. Granted I'm rather overweight, but I also tend to run rather hot and sweat quite easily.
@@Wyrm1701 Isn't some of this really just how individuals ARE??? Does everything have to be pigeonholed into a syndrome or diagnosis to be accommodated and recognized and given a day of the year or a month or awareness and funding and making someone special??? I'm not talking extremes, but "I'm overweight and get hot easy" shouldn't be all that.
If I get seriously overheated, my immune system collapses. So, just don’t get overheated.
@@Wyrm1701 being obese complicates getting overheated. Do what you can to shed some pounds. That will help you stay cooler.
Two of my 3 sons have it. 1 Asperger’s and the the other is Autism. Teach them to drive at night. Less stress and distractions. They are limited to what’s in the headlights. They are both great drivers. No accidents. Homeschooling also can be a huge help if needed. Remember we are all created to be individuals. It’s ok ✅
I am in a relationship (going on 15 years now) and I have always suspected that my significant other is on the spectrum. He would totally 100% deny this as he would see it as a "flaw". We are approaching our 80's. Everything you spoke about he has to one degree or another. I worked with someone who has Aspergers before I met him and so it was obvious to me that my SO was on the spectrum. Over the course of time I have found it is easier for both of us to accommodate his "quirks". (That means shopping at Wal-Mart before 7 am....eating at restaurants at off times...accepting that he prefers not to have eye contact when we talk, which actually isn't a lot.) He basically is a good person with a condition that he can't help, but that I can accept. 🤗 Thank you for the video.
Surely sensory processing disorder is co morbid with CPTSD? Love your vids
Kudos to you for recognizing the heat issue and accommodating yourself! I’m still trying to learn how to do that or take a break when I get hot.
My husband and son have Asperger’s, I’m on the autism spectrum and have ADHD ;) super empath girl on the opposite side of the Quadra of most typical autism spectrum individuals. My daughter seems to have the empath and ocd highly socially driven but hates spice, seams etc. my son had meltdowns like five times a day as a toddler over transitions, sensory issues, sounds etc. OT sensory work and visual therapy, early intervention, speech and an amazing preschool brought us to an amazing place. Also, being around and riding horses has helped since we live in an exurb near farmland. My husband and son are constantly hot: I love it since I’m cold when I sleep. Both of them need one less layer at all times. It’s a metabolism thing which is interesting. Metabolisms and guts especially since 90 percent of the body’s serotonin uptake inhibitors reside in our guts I think have to do with it. Also, brain power having bigger brains also runs the overall heater more since it’s burning calories and needs energy. Maybe? I’m a nurse too so I approach it all from a different stand point.
Yes. You have the right idea.
@@Geoplanetjane I’ve become a little bit of an Aspergers Google :). My father was intelligent and successful, but had melt downs and my sister had ocd and got very fixated and I started to see patterns in my friends too. My parents were both professionals and I honestly think in the technological revolution we where self selecting and since autism is a genetic developmental thing I mean there might be factors like food and lack of nutrients that make some of our characteristics more intense, but that’s also true of everyone else. I think that we bred ourselves for this in the name of success and progress. But; also I love people on the spectrum and I communicate better with them and understand them more than others ahah. So, like this is my tribe. Such gifts, so many struggles. All is well, just love and acceptance for however anyone shows up always. To human is to err but it’s also to be capable of brilliance and love… so.
You're so good at pinpointing the nuances of the autism experience. I would love it if you could do an ASD explainer video specifically geared towards family and friends. My family find it difficult to understand because I don't act like rain man. I would like to have something to show them, so I can unmask sometimes. I feel like I'm living a lie.
Thank you so much for the comment! Yea!! Good idea I will do!
Yeah I relate to a lot of this. Though can you do a video on women having autism spectrum disorder and adhd? I swear I am a combination too somehow.
My brother was born in 1972 and still struggles with eye contact and social situations. I wish it was help when he was a kid. Now he is set in his ways.
Help? Not sure that is possible.
I struggle with eye contact, have my routines which explains why I watch movies and shows I’m familiar with a lot and don’t always go the parties as they are very unfamiliar. I have also always struggled with socializing for all the same reasons. Sensory issues have been an issue so I like to see use noise canceling ear buds. I also hate the tags on shirts. Communication has always been a struggle for me.
I’m sending this to my sister for her adult son. This video explains so much about the way he is. Too bad we didn’t know this stuff years ago
I was reading a book a long time ago. I don’t remember the title. It said to look at the spot in the forehead right above the eyes. It looks to others like you are looking at their eyes when you are not. I did that for job interviews and such. Now it’s habit but I can never identify someone’s face. It’s just a blur in my head.
I am the same way about faces. I identify people by their build and hair and clothing. If they change their hair or something, I might not know them when I see them. When I watch movies or tv shows that have characters with similar coloring and body type, I cant keep up with the plot because I keep confusing the characters.
My daughter was diagnosed back at the age of 7 with PDDNOS”. Which was pervasive development disorder not of specific cause” now it’s all under the Autism umbrella. She had special help all throughout her schools years 1-12. Slow processing, adhd, executive function issues , social issues , memory issues. After graduating high school ( USA), she had a seizure, soo …neurologist did a brain scan and it turned out that she has “ gray matter hetetropia“ scattered in her brain. Her brain did not form correctly while in my womb. Some of the outside gray matter is on the inside of her brain . Gray matter in her frontal lobe, scattered at the ends of each anterior horn in her brain. Basically explains the slow processing, the memory issues and the executive function issues . I think all kids on spectrum need a brain scan right off the bat just to rule out any brain conditions that may be present causing some of the issues. I wish we had known this years ago .
I keep saying my personal temperature gauge is wonky. I’m either way too hot, or, like today, at 109 F I was under a blanket.
I have a range of 3 degrees I'm comfortable at. Anything else I'm too hot or too cold. My thermostat has been broken since I was 11ish
Thank you for your insight. My grandson (age 18) is autistic and I often wonder how to help him without being offensive or intrusive. I would absolutely hate to make him feel he's being tolerated or needs to be fixed--he deserves better than that. So you gave me something to think abt--thank you❤
I was in 11th grade was people started telling me to make eye contact, and smile.
I relate with the feel of communication with other people being sometimes too fast. I wish I had a pause button to pause the world around me to give me time to digest what other people have said and to come up with my response. Sometimes just 10 seconds would be enough, sometimes 10 minutes if my response needs to be elaborate. That's why I strive communicating via email or writing comments/opinions/replies online. I have all the time I need before hitting the "send" button.
You got me constantly, but most with the body heat ...
THIS is awesome!!! My family has ASD. It is most definitely hereditary in my family. Thank you for this video!!!
Man, I myself have Asperger’s, but am also a chronic Extrovert… I talk to people often, especially online as a gamer, but I also find it difficult to meet someone new who is not directly connected to my friends in some way. However, if I’m left completely alone, I tend to feel depressed due to being in said situation. It’s awkward both ways, but at least it’s bearable when I have someone to verbally chat with.
Thank you for sharing your experiences … my son has/does exactly the same thing. He is 32 now and I have often wondered if he could have Asperger’s. He communicates often online w/ other gamers and his local friends are the same since high school We can have very intelligent conversations and he works at my office (very small, independent setting) he is also very technically inclined. When he lived in his own apartment, he became so depressed and started drinking- we had to literally rescue him - the apartment was an absolute disaster- he has a small room in my house and he is absolutely content w/ the space - wears the same clothes etc.
I wish you best of luck - thanks for sharing
Oh me too ! I run hot ! Oh it was so embarrassing in high school ! Air conditioners are imperative for me. I’ve grown accustomed to the noise of them and now it’s comforting as long as it’s not too loud.
Very Late Diagnosis Asperger's Syndrome... the diagnosis - it's both a blessing and a new challenge.
Great to know why all my life I've behaved "inappropriately" in so many situations... self-loathing is a demon that's extremely hard to exorcize, when the memories come in a constant cycle to remind you what I prick you've been to so many people... all your freaking life.
I've learned a certain level of masking, and behave in most situations, but as you'll know it leaves me drained, as if I'd worked a double shift, against the wind, uphill... on a starvation diet.
Good to have you here!! Thank you so much for the comment!
WOW! Gotta take a few to process all this info…Not only for myself (now a grandma of 17 beautiful people) but also for the male adults in our family AND some of the children whom I’ve suspected for some time…This is “powerful knowledge” I’ll get back to ya after I pass this onto my daughter for review…whew!!!
Yes, no filters, in or out. Sound conversations etc. People's presence overwhelming. The more the worse. Same for eye contact. Routines not so much. Clothes tags, too tight. No small talk.Too old for usefulness of diagnosis (68).
When I was young I was tested for autism and the doctor diagnosed it a negative. He suggested my parents seeing a psychiatrist may be of help, symptoms were extreme introvert, loved being alone with family cats and dogs and routines. Psychiatrist told them I'll outgrow it eventually. Still an introvert, can't stand noisy places and always decline parties or friend's gatherings etc., mainly due to when several people are talking I can't hear a thing even though nothing is wrong with my hearing. Frankly, I like my world very much, it's peaceful and when things gets tough to handle I just go for a long trips on my own. My husband is quite understanding so he leaves me alone.
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I was diagnosed as an older adult. What a relief! When I was in my 30s I knew I was not typical and I got a LOT of social skills training. I have overcome many of the give away social behaviors, such as avoiding eye contact, putting my foot in my mouth. But I still deal with all of the emotional aspects. I have to spend the bulk of my time alone, doing the things I love, by myself. I still have to curl up in a ball and decompress from social situations, and painful interchanges can put me in isolation for days as I recover. I TOTALLY disagree with the removal of Asperger's as a diagnosis.
Then some of us just look way too much at peoples eyes , trying to read , follow and comprehend what that person is saying or more so , who they are as a persron ... some people with ASD can even behave almost like "people" are a special interest . (That still comes with a LOT of feeling worn out from it . and then need ya to have "no people time" like many other ASD folks need)
Ty for bringing many instances to my attention ❤