How to stop feeling sorry for yourself

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  • @Thewizardliz
    @Thewizardliz  Рік тому +12199

    My mom asked me to add:
    If you are in an abusive relationship whether it’s emotional or physical make sure you find a way to leave. Ask for help, tell someone you trust, save money to get out… it does not get better if they abused you once they will do it again and worse the second time. It takes lots of courage to leave and start over but you have to be strong and have faith. It’s better to have some uncomfortable months or years than have the risk of someone taking your life. They do not change, they only get worse because they see that they can get away with it. If I could get anything back in my life, I would have left when I saw the early signs of abuse.
    You will get trough this, situations like these create warriors. When you are brave enough to choose yourself, everything in life starts to open up for you.
    Lots of love and blessings 🙏🏻♥️♥️♥️

    • @katebabenco5361
      @katebabenco5361 Рік тому +103

      Thank you Liz!!! Truly appreciate you and your work!

    • @leilacateee
      @leilacateee Рік тому +45

      Thankyou Liz ❤️❤️❤️

    • @Purzify
      @Purzify Рік тому +47

      Thankyou for this video, although I haven't watched all of it yet, from a week ago I couldn't stop thinking about this embarrassing moment, thinking about my friends and others laughing at me, but then I realise they don't actually care and would have forget about it.

    • @flowegirl4512
      @flowegirl4512 Рік тому +13

      I love you Liz💕

    • @va1shnavii
      @va1shnavii Рік тому +31

      Well, I'm in the same situation like this. And idk its tough to get out. I'm at a point where I want to get out no matter what, cause it sucks, but part of me still loves him. And he claims that he won't do it again, but my heart refuses to take that validation. I somehow know that this time he is actually changing, but idk what is in me I just can't trust him anymore. So what should I do abt thatm

  • @gregorymasters5805
    @gregorymasters5805 Рік тому +8205

    I am a man and i find men’s self help videos sometimes very toxic. So i watch your videos and its amazing how good you are with this. Your advice always helps. Its like listening to elder very wise sister for me. Very therapeutic. Thank you for this.

    • @prnnp
      @prnnp Рік тому +255

      👏🏼👏🏼yeah some spit bs and call it wisdom

    • @pbj4142
      @pbj4142 Рік тому +413

      Awww I’m glad you guys can find a safe space here, we welcome you 💗💗💗

    • @nadineelseudy5835
      @nadineelseudy5835 Рік тому +126

      I love this

    • @virgo_baby7777
      @virgo_baby7777 Рік тому +121

      this makes me happy, good for u 💕

    • @skaio.5279
      @skaio.5279 Рік тому +33

      @@pbj4142 "we welcome you" LMFAO as if it's not just Liz making the videos bahahaha

  • @jadasugar22
    @jadasugar22 Рік тому +1167

    “Life is not for the weak” wow, that really hit me.

    • @anamikapa5534
      @anamikapa5534 Рік тому +1

      Me too

    • @judigemini178
      @judigemini178 Рік тому +31

      also, "either you get tough or let life make you tough" ...she's so on point

    • @unknowkdyh
      @unknowkdyh 5 місяців тому

      OMGGG

  • @SoVidushi
    @SoVidushi Рік тому +3520

    I wanted to give liz a hug when she said she would trade her looks for a happy childhood. Liz you're a force to be reckoned with.

    • @joyc9323
      @joyc9323 Рік тому +62

      Imagine having a bad childhood and facing rejection as an adult because you're not pretty.

    • @Am-mm6iz
      @Am-mm6iz Рік тому +11

      She deserves her beauty ❤

    • @Letthesoulshine717
      @Letthesoulshine717 Рік тому +38

      @@joyc9323 change your mindset and your face will change .. its about perception

    • @eve_ev
      @eve_ev Рік тому +7

      @@joyc9323 it's abt appearance at first because that's literally the 1st thing we notice, when we see sm1 but after we get to know them that's when we choose if we really want to be around them

    • @cherully.-ti5xp
      @cherully.-ti5xp Рік тому +2

      Did you watch the video…

  • @marissagorjizadeh
    @marissagorjizadeh Рік тому +1426

    As an arm amputee when you said "You have arm privilege" I DIED🤣🤣🤣

    • @SoVidushi
      @SoVidushi Рік тому +127

      this comment made me laugh (tho i prolly shouldn't have) so thanks for that, hope you have a wonderful day xx

    • @anaalvarado7871
      @anaalvarado7871 Рік тому +94

      But maybe you have 2 legs so you're still privileged🥰 you're alive, privilege! You are healthy, privilege!

    • @La_ilah_ila_Allah
      @La_ilah_ila_Allah Рік тому +1

      It’s not even that funny, settle down

    • @La_ilah_ila_Allah
      @La_ilah_ila_Allah Рік тому

      You very ungrateful. If you didn’t have not arms or legs you wouldn’t be laughing. Being ungrateful is very unattractive

    • @La_ilah_ila_Allah
      @La_ilah_ila_Allah Рік тому

      You commenting this shows you didn’t even listen to what she said and learn from it…

  • @gloriakim2616
    @gloriakim2616 Рік тому +1650

    "I would trade my beauty to not have mental scars"
    This hit me to my core. I hear this and I feel this so deeply.

    • @kinggojo30
      @kinggojo30 Рік тому +51

      You would think it's such a crazy thing for her to say because she's pretty as hell but in reality, women literally go through so much in this world it's not even funny. Allot of the prettiest girls I knew in school were raped as a youth but they all trot around like everything is alright, when in reality they're suffering.
      Ps. Stay strong

    • @KillerQueen-gx4vb
      @KillerQueen-gx4vb Рік тому

      @@kinggojo30 women who are not pretty can be raped too yknow. It’s not a pretty girl issue.

    • @kinggojo30
      @kinggojo30 Рік тому +8

      @@KillerQueen-gx4vb I know that. I was not trying to leave anyone out. I was merely responding to her point is all. I also was eluding to the fact that the people that smile the most be having some of the worst experiences in life but hide it so well that you would never think that.

    • @starrynight5163
      @starrynight5163 Рік тому +2

      Same 🥺😭

    • @freaykbaron8580
      @freaykbaron8580 Рік тому +6

      she probably would never lol. If she didnt look the way she does, she wouldnt be having such a great life

  • @inarahshariff6796
    @inarahshariff6796 Рік тому +165

    Words can't describe how much respect i have for this woman

  • @sofiacardinali689
    @sofiacardinali689 Рік тому +597

    “The bad will never outweigh the good because my mindset is right”. so beautiful, thank you

    • @medhyaverma-cy4rx
      @medhyaverma-cy4rx 5 місяців тому

      I really believe in this now and it keeps me going through difficult situations every now and then. Thank u so much.

  • @hrishetarajkumari977
    @hrishetarajkumari977 Рік тому +3514

    I can't stop crying. I am dealing with so much high school drama that I don't even wanna deal with but listening to her say,"It happened, it happened, honey it's fine" was such a comfort. Thank you Liz. You mean a lot to me. I love you with all my heart. You're such an elder sister to me. Thank you.

    • @hrishetarajkumari977
      @hrishetarajkumari977 Рік тому +14

      @@snehasharma2096 hey hi! High school for sure is hard. Sure :) are u on IG?

    • @xoxoanshi
      @xoxoanshi Рік тому +26

      @@hrishetarajkumari977 omg you guys we can create our own community here and grow together.yay

    • @mathildawilliams5419
      @mathildawilliams5419 Рік тому +2

      That's a good idea 💡let's do that

    • @mathildawilliams5419
      @mathildawilliams5419 Рік тому

      @@hrishetarajkumari977yeah

    • @snehasharma2096
      @snehasharma2096 Рік тому +1

      @@xoxoanshi yes that will be soo amazing ...!

  • @aniketchakravarty2583
    @aniketchakravarty2583 Рік тому +2334

    another male viewer from india, so im an 18 yr old boy struggling with crippling depression and constant physical and mental abuse from my parents. Honestly i was sick of most male self improvement youtubers telling me 'oh just hit the gym and meditate bro', cuz even by doing all of that, i never understood why i still used to break down in tears during night and had to cry myself to sleep until the mental pain was finally gone.
    Going through all of the loneliness, abuse , confusion and self hatred alone i thought there was no point in having even a single ounce of hope for life anymore.
    But then thanks to my cousin, she recommended me your channel and i noticed that im finally starting to feel better day by day as i keep watching your vids. i hope one day i'll finally leave my parents' place and see a totally new version of life.
    Edit: So Its been a while since i'm on my healing journey and im here to acknowledge the fact that yes it still hurts a lot and its not an easy process at all. A lot of times you are going to find yourself reliving the whole traumatic scene in certain social situations and even end up crying with a combined feeling of frustration and extreme sudden hatred towards the abuser.
    But always remember that since you were strong enough to survive the damage, you're well damn strong enough to survive the recovery too.
    AND YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!

    • @Restricka
      @Restricka Рік тому +114

      I hope you get free too, you are worthy of all the love and happiness

    • @hordevran
      @hordevran Рік тому

      Follow Nofap which gives you motivation for anything you need and certainly stop watching these 'female self centered youtubers'. This is women's battle, they hate each other.

    • @khushboo4852
      @khushboo4852 Рік тому +79

      Best of luck brother I hope you get all the love that you deserve

    • @riannawalker5904
      @riannawalker5904 Рік тому +39

      You're amazing and I'm glad you're getting better🤍

    • @nainavaidya4337
      @nainavaidya4337 Рік тому +23

      All the best. I hope you feel better 🤍

  • @lovemaine0394
    @lovemaine0394 Рік тому +1214

    Out of all professional motivational speakers out there, you're the only one who really helps me a lot. Thank you, Queen!

  • @starlight10823
    @starlight10823 Рік тому +54

    This is the girl thats putting therapists out of business. Literally therapist of the century, love you liz x

  • @pennysmith00131
    @pennysmith00131 Рік тому +1171

    “Life is not for the weak” 🥵 that floored me. Such an empowering msg. I will never ever forget this.

    • @anskubansku5614
      @anskubansku5614 Рік тому +14

      Yeah we didn't came to this earth to become weak...

    • @ladyslick121
      @ladyslick121 Рік тому +1

      Lol - is that basic sentence what you’re floored by? Worried for you…yikes

    • @pennysmith00131
      @pennysmith00131 Рік тому +15

      @@ladyslick121 I’m trying to understand what could be the underlying drive to make a comment like this. What is it inside of you that would need say this? I was floored by that sentence. Sometimes it’s the most basic & simple sentences that can be the most profound & just click for the reader. My life has been extremely hard on & off and sometimes I’ve become really weak physically & mentally. Getting stuck in a victim mindset & negative thought loops.
      I’m now 5 yes into a spiritual awakening & working on myself and I’m much stronger and able to let go of victim thinking patterns. I loved how empowering “life is not for the weak” was because it made me feel grateful for all my challenges because I’m strong enough to move through them & learn & improve.
      Your comment made me feel defensive and like I need to explain myself… so thanks it’s good for me to feel realise that I still have a need to explain myself to others… everything’s a sign post & a mirror right!?
      My comment obviously triggered you to feel something, I hope you can identify what it was & then bring awareness to it. 💫 xx

    • @pamelaf2519
      @pamelaf2519 Рік тому +12

      @@ladyslick121 it’s funny because people like you who easily trivialize things are some of the most dissatisfied and unhappy people because they can’t appreciate anything. So ironically, probably anyone who sees your comment is more worried about you.
      Things don’t need to be over complicated and convoluted to be meaningful. Some of the most simple things in life can be the most profound and beautiful If you have the capacity to recognize and appreciate it.

  • @nanukabeshkenadze
    @nanukabeshkenadze Рік тому +947

    when my 4 years old brother had cancer I realized that literally nothing matters in this life but being healthy,I was going to oncology clinic very often and seeing these little kids without hair and without any hope killed me,most of us don’t realize that we are very privileged and some people would do anything to be in our skin,we should be grateful because of that
    P.s my brother beat cancer and now he is doing great❤️

  • @Wr-3985
    @Wr-3985 Рік тому +490

    Your mom seems like a very strong, beautiful woman, that raised an amazing daughter. I‘d really love to see a video of you both together, if you want to

  • @Crumpledpages
    @Crumpledpages Рік тому +104

    14:39 "It happened. It happened, honey it's fine. It happened. Okay." Thank you, Liz. That literally broke me. Every time I see one of her videos, there's a part of me that heals and feels emotions that were buried somewhere deep within.

  • @kinggojo30
    @kinggojo30 Рік тому +2172

    The pretty privilege point is so damn good because we as men were taught recently that women are living life on easy mode because they're pretty. When in reality you have women who get abused and cheated on but they are drop dead gorgeous. Also ones who suffer from depression and anxiety. Those things are not easy to deal with and I'm glad that I came across your channel to see a new/better side of things. Keep it up!

    • @kinggojo30
      @kinggojo30 Рік тому +48

      @The_Audacity @The_Audacity I respect your grind and come up and thank you for sharing this. Also, I feel like people get lost in making excuses. Some men nowadays will be talking about women like they didn't earn their spot in the pecking order. And that if they did then it MUST be because of some specific reason that they made it to the top. It can never be "well maybe they just worked harder than me". Their fragile male ego is going to get shattered knowing they got out worked by a woman and so they make up these scenarios that make no sense often.
      Because yes women have it hard. Allot of times harder than most men because on top of trying to look the prettiest on the outside and be respected in the workplace, they also have to work on their mental health. Most men are taught to suppress these emotions. It is far easier to run away and say fuck it but I respect women so much because they deal with so much shit emotionally and HEAD on. No running from it or bullshitting. Just real work. You're right though. God is definitely worth any and everything.

    • @kinggojo30
      @kinggojo30 Рік тому +14

      @The_Audacity I totally agree. As one, we can all conquer the world and I truly believe that. God bless you and yours as well.🙌🏿🙌🏿

    • @en2336
      @en2336 Рік тому +2

      So??? Ugly people deal with those things too and have even worse lives?? They can't just make thousands modeling a month and then hire a spiritual coach like Liz?? Smh beautiful people are so disconnected and cringe. And so are their followers

    • @UdoADHD
      @UdoADHD Рік тому

      Also you’re not pretty just because you’re female

    • @rrewwww
      @rrewwww Рік тому +42

      people like you give me hope in the opposite sex, thank you for being the way you are

  • @quengquymaiman8005
    @quengquymaiman8005 Рік тому +385

    "You thought you couldnt make it and you still made it, and you should be proud of youself" thank you Liz, your words are really special and powerful that touch ppl heart

    • @quengquymaiman8005
      @quengquymaiman8005 Рік тому +2

      -update:
      im in my lowest point right now bc art school is so tough to me, i feel like i have no passion anymore and i wanna quit cause i think i wont make it
      suddenly someone liked this comment and it reminds me of how i should keep studying, because in the future i will make it anyway cause that’s how i’ve been through million times in the past, thank u again Liz and random person who liked my comment

  • @annamayumpacan6179
    @annamayumpacan6179 Рік тому +16

    “If i don’t talk about myself like that, who’s gonna talk about me like that” YESSSSS GURL!! DEFINITELY!!!!!

  • @Sss-qw1qp
    @Sss-qw1qp Рік тому +21

    Sometimes im glad that i can speak&understand english, this is so helpful.

  • @nishi9178
    @nishi9178 Рік тому +309

    I heard this message during an Islamic lecture and wanted to share "If you woke up today with all the things you were grateful to God for yesterday, what would you wake up with today?". I realised I would've woken up with literally nothing at the time I heard that. It really helped me to truly be grateful about even the smallest of things.

    • @zineb4330
      @zineb4330 Рік тому +8

      we so proud to be muslims alhamdoulah

    • @bellswingu
      @bellswingu 17 годин тому

      liz herself is a Muslim ❤

  • @mafer_mv
    @mafer_mv Рік тому +1582

    5:55 - Focus on evolving yourself to get the privilege you want
    12:08 - Self pity is a waste of time
    12:48 - Self pity leads to more negative emotions
    13:14 - Self pity prevents you from dealing with your emotions
    13:56 - Self pity interferes with relationships
    14:12 - Self pity is a habit that you can change
    14:22 - Accept the situation for what it is and focus on what you have now
    14:57 - Volunteer to a worthy cause
    15:24 - Start something new and make it apart of your lifestyle
    16:05 - Look for the positive in every situation
    16:27 - Look at yourself from and outside perspective
    17:01 - Ask yourself what advice would I give a loved one about this situation
    17:05 - Treat yourself like someone you love deeply
    17:47 - Remind yourself of the times you were able to overcome tough situations
    18:25 - Make a list of people circumstances and situations that you love and are good
    18:44 - Write down things you are grateful for in a journal
    19:20 - Repeat to yourself what you are grateful for
    20:07 - Ask other people what they are grateful for
    20:26 - Teach your children to be grateful
    21:24

  • @soniadomaradzka3120
    @soniadomaradzka3120 Рік тому +35

    “Yes, bad things happen, but the bad does not outweigh the good, and it will never outweigh the good because my mindset is right” ❣️✨

  • @BellaBankes
    @BellaBankes Рік тому +50

    “your character shows on your face.”
    I understand what you mean totally. There are a lot of beautiful people with not-so-beautiful hearts, or who are very damaged. And like you’re pointing out, they’re often hated by others who don’t have strong self esteem simply because they’re beautiful on the outside, not knowing anything about them. Great points in this video 🤍

  • @doniadane3725
    @doniadane3725 Рік тому +843

    As an Iranian girl, who is currently living in iran, watching this gave me goosebumps thank you for being our voice. I am grateful that women like you exist to spread these important words.
    It has been hard living through isolation government is forcing on us and your videos always bring me peace ❤️❤️

  • @leilacateee
    @leilacateee Рік тому +129

    Screamingggggggg because I keep replaying all of Liz’s vids now I’m sooo happyyyy

  • @raealex8225
    @raealex8225 2 місяці тому +2

    After watching some of Liz’s videos, I wished I had a friend like her, after watching this video, I realized I want to be that friend for myself and those around me

  • @OtiliaGabriella
    @OtiliaGabriella Рік тому +10

    Women united are powerful… that’s so true, we can even see it in the Barbie movie

  • @axnagraea
    @axnagraea Рік тому +592

    i can’t say this ENOUGH. pretty girls have it ROUGH in this world and are always attacked for their confidence, i LOVE how you said your last video wouldn’t trigger a confident person… so true. don’t even remember you talking about yourself all high and mighty, only remember relating to stalkers, ending friendships, etc. YOU GO QUEEN!

    • @larae7922
      @larae7922 Рік тому +43

      same goes for people who have low self-esteem. Not all of the people who hate themselves envy pretty people at all. Not everyone is like that. Although I do struggle with insecurity I never get annoyed of confident people in fact I feel happy for them. The only reason I feel this way is due to my past, I'm still working on it to this day so hopefully I'll learn how to love myself.

    • @happydaysmile
      @happydaysmile Рік тому +2

      I agree with you

    • @dipset4016
      @dipset4016 Рік тому +24

      Ok let's not go too far...pretty girls don't have it ROUGH

    • @jupiter443
      @jupiter443 Рік тому +5

      @@larae7922 yes!! that is healthy!! you were fortunate enough to learn through experiences that you don’t have to be jealous and envious

    • @TOXBOXTV84
      @TOXBOXTV84 Рік тому +2

      Let’s not pretend that pretty privilege doesn’t exist

  • @MrSandManGiveMeADream
    @MrSandManGiveMeADream Рік тому +656

    as your male viewer, also living iran, i really appreciate and am thankful for the knowledge you given us liz. i know your channel is for female audience but it really helped me with my self steem and i sometimes wonder why is it not being taught to us more too. everyone deserves happiness, freedom, success and all the best and i wish it to you all. thank you for being our voice and support.
    Women, life, freedom.

    • @nobodyelse7911
      @nobodyelse7911 Рік тому +62

      I'm so happy people like you exist, praying for Iran

    • @MrSandManGiveMeADream
      @MrSandManGiveMeADream Рік тому +18

      @@nobodyelse7911 thank you! i appreciate that.
      tomorrow will be in our hands one day. and we are responsible for it. for a better future.

    • @nobodyelse7911
      @nobodyelse7911 Рік тому +19

      @@MrSandManGiveMeADream yess Iran will be for Iranians, what a beautiful place it is. Good luck to you and your family ❤️

    • @beky4685
      @beky4685 Рік тому +7

      Keep it up kingg

    • @yungmun4155
      @yungmun4155 Рік тому +17

      anyone can learn from these conversations, regardless of your gender. I hope things are well where you are and good luck on your journey!

  • @bushrarashid1598
    @bushrarashid1598 День тому

    It shows the kind of mother you had. So much respect for her for not staying in victim mode herself and showing you how to live. Mothers like that a blessing. You are very lucky.

  • @dianaisdelulu
    @dianaisdelulu 10 місяців тому +16

    this woman is the true queen. when I was watching the last video " why everyone is always obsessed with me" I saw soooo many comments saying: "yeah, it's easy for her to say, she's pretty". And I was just sitting and thinking why didn't they hear her words and decided to be feel sorry for themselves instead. And here I open this video and see the answer. Liz, you're amazing❤

    • @AnimosityIncarnate
      @AnimosityIncarnate 8 місяців тому

      Because they are correct...
      I largely did all of this stuff, actual change happened with me improving my looks.
      I've seen similar things happen with height, makeup, booty size or muscles.
      No matter how infectious that personality is, attraction gives you more opportunities to express it, which makes you more confident because of sheer number of experiences.
      It's basic social mirroring! Positive mirroring leads to confidence, negative leads to distress.
      The issue is always people taking one extreme or the other. You can listen to her words, improve and realize privilege, in a pretty way does help you so much in life.

  • @sophianiyifasha4793
    @sophianiyifasha4793 Рік тому +385

    How to stop feeling sorry for your self
    1. Volunteer for a worthy cuzz
    2. See the positive in any situation
    3. Be there for yourself , comfort yourself
    (How would you treat a love one who is going through what your going through)
    4. Have a gratitude journal 📓 and be grateful
    Thank you Liz ❤🙏

  • @negindream6948
    @negindream6948 Рік тому +163

    I’m from Iran… I’m grateful that you heard our voices
    Please Pray for us and pray for Islam🙏🏻

    • @99nura
      @99nura Рік тому +1

      Sending so much love ❤

    • @asmo450
      @asmo450 2 місяці тому

      This is a year late but I wish you the best❤

  • @galileagallardo4913
    @galileagallardo4913 Рік тому +117

    I really like how she told us to stop complaining abt pretty privilege cause she made me realize there’s other things to be thankful for

  • @antonia9310
    @antonia9310 Рік тому +20

    this woman literally changed my life

  • @feyla4814
    @feyla4814 Рік тому +97

    Honestly I’m at a point where I’m only watching this to stop feeling sorry for the people that missed out on me hope they’re coping well!

  • @melaniegrace7707
    @melaniegrace7707 Рік тому +243

    I love that you aren’t a people pleaser. As someone who people pleases as a trauma response it’s such an inspiration to me. You think you’re beautiful? Say it. You can observe how people react to you? Why on earth should you be called a narcissist for speaking the truth. I appreciate you so much for this and many other reasons.

  • @dayanahafeezah8862
    @dayanahafeezah8862 Рік тому +58

    This made me realize that self pity can be equal to being not grateful, because self pity is literally focusing on the bad things and the things I do not have. And Allah already mentioned in Quran (Surah Ibrahim, 14;7) "if you're grateful, I will increase you". Thank you for opening my mind, and I should stop self pity. I didn't realize how much damage it did to myself.

  • @ananyapandey830
    @ananyapandey830 2 місяці тому +2

    "You know why they always put women against each other? Because women united is way too powerful."
    Louder for the whole world to hear, Liz.

  • @ManicMaidenASMR
    @ManicMaidenASMR Рік тому +1089

    Girl I saw your last video and rolled my eyes at all the negativity. All the insecure people were just projecting their jealousy onto you calling your confidence “narcissistic” LMAO. I enjoy your videos they motivate me to actually do something about my situation instead of crying about it and getting triggered when someone else is doing well. You’re an amazing role model don’t let these losers get to you 💕

  • @mehditate
    @mehditate Рік тому +231

    Awareness is key in this process Liz. People get triggered, but don't know why, like reaaallly why. I know this is out of left field, but life hit me pretty hard. I used to live in Miami being around street violence, guns, death, and I even used to eat $3 a day, 25 cents noodles, expired toast and canned campbell tomato soup. I survived the Boston Marathon Bombing which was a few feet away and I saw all the blood the people screaming and I was alone at 18. I also used to live in a room with no kitchen, trash bag as a window and bugs crawling on me at night. I also took boxing to protect myself and learned how to defend against bigger threats. Now I live in a cabin in the north of Sweden where I go down to a lake to breathe and heal my past and I post on UA-cam to help others who need it the most. I just uploaded a video on my reset routine and looking to upload a mini documentary next week. I hope this helps someone reading 💜

    • @MrandMrsMastURpeace
      @MrandMrsMastURpeace Рік тому +7

      Love the name. And thank you for sharing your story. Powerful.

    • @mehditate
      @mehditate Рік тому +4

      @@MrandMrsMastURpeace thank youuu 🙏🏽

    • @dearlantsov
      @dearlantsov Рік тому +1

      happy for you man, you survived all that...it's truly incredible. hope the everything goes beautifully for you always!

    • @mehditate
      @mehditate Рік тому

      @@dearlantsov thank you 🙏🏽 I appreciate you

  • @Diana-kr9bj
    @Diana-kr9bj Рік тому +330

    i am Ukrainian so i can relate to your refugee situation. Thank you Liz for your videos, they really help me and inspire that even though hope is not here for me i know that its still out there and i can achieve things you achieved

    • @dyuraselplay6926
      @dyuraselplay6926 Рік тому +11

      Она тоже мне помогает как с жизнью, так и с улучшением моего английского, ахаха. Крутая девушка

    • @MMM-gr6us
      @MMM-gr6us Рік тому +4

      @@dyuraselplay6926 и мне

  • @su-desu
    @su-desu Рік тому +38

    Literally every video she posts is life changing

  • @smy693
    @smy693 Рік тому +397

    As an Iranian here, I do appreciate your support of us, Iranian women are creating a new history. Thank you, Liz, I love your videos and really get obsessed with them. Please be our voice.

    • @Zouhra07
      @Zouhra07 Рік тому +12

      Sending virtual hugs to all the women at Iran from Spain 🫶🏽

    • @smy693
      @smy693 Рік тому +8

      @@Zouhra07 lots of love from Iran to you

    • @heyheyhey9741
      @heyheyhey9741 Рік тому +2

      hey is it better if you live there

    • @aylinarkan199
      @aylinarkan199 Рік тому +4

      as a woman, i stand with you and iranian women

    • @ibtissam_652
      @ibtissam_652 Рік тому +6

      Biig hug and love to iranian women from MOROCCO

  • @honiarmy4853
    @honiarmy4853 9 місяців тому +3

    oh my i am Iranian and i see this video after one year and it makes me cry because of the end part... you are such amazing person🤍

  • @mak2488
    @mak2488 Рік тому +33

    I found myself criticizing your videos. Days and weeks went by and they kept being suggested to me.
    Since I kept feeling miserable and stuck, I decided to keep watching.
    Then I realized the voice that was criticizing, was my mothers. As much as I thought I was my own person and not like my mom, lo and behold every single criticism that was deliberately preventing me from being open minded and progressing, sounded EXACTLY like her when she would criticize me and others.
    Which is even MORE reason to heed your advice and wisdom. This is a next level way of living life, that you’re sharing with us. I am so so grateful for it.

  • @saramcdonnell3631
    @saramcdonnell3631 Рік тому +181

    Layed in bed depressed crying all day. I really needed this ❤️

  • @FavouriteGalaxia
    @FavouriteGalaxia Рік тому +357

    I'm a 22 yr old girl from Spain, with a very fucked up home situation since I was born and stuff. I was feeling awful and with my power and listening to you, such a divine speach, my life has changed drastically in less than a week.
    I send you lots of love of you and your family, I'm so grateful i can hear and see another day for being able to listen to you. ❤️

    • @Koko70816
      @Koko70816 Рік тому +2

      She’s amazing!!❤

    • @paulacaroline9464
      @paulacaroline9464 Рік тому +4

      I believe that you'll figure everything out. Keep going and believe in yourself and your inner power.

    • @FavouriteGalaxia
      @FavouriteGalaxia Рік тому +2

      @@paulacaroline9464 what a powerful message, saved me today!
      Thank you so much, i send you lots of love, gratitude and abundance ❤️

    • @kelseyylittlee
      @kelseyylittlee Рік тому +3

      “you may be born into a burning home, but you don’t have to live in a burning home”

    • @albertiljevic3972
      @albertiljevic3972 Рік тому +1

      samee i am so grateful too

  • @LeahUndead
    @LeahUndead Рік тому +67

    "Life is not for the weak". I've been thinking the same most of my life and for that I felt like I am not made for this world. That I am one of those defective products of the universe who slipped through the quality check. But now that I think about all the sh*t that I went through, I am still here. Others have quit for less. Wanted to quit so many times myself too, but I am still here so I am slowly but surely starting to belive that some higher power saw my strength, my true powers and my potential and therefore planted me here because they knew I am an unbeatable. And the hardships are making me even stronger. I can and I will make it. Thank you Liz for your videos, you are the first 'life coach' who has truly hit home with me and you make me see things from different perspectives. Blessings to you ❤ And never give up guys!

  • @lilyremae2490
    @lilyremae2490 Рік тому +9

    She's more than an advisor, she's the real woman who have been through the worst and she tries to help us not to face those things , she's a pure angel , i thank God for introducing me to her ❤️ ilysm Mama Liz❤

  • @miamacfarlane2854
    @miamacfarlane2854 Рік тому +20

    Your Mom sounds like such a wonderful woman. She's like a hero.

  • @astrokid9636
    @astrokid9636 Рік тому +221

    You're literally saving me from an abusive relationship. Im so traumatised, damaged. But im focusing on healing process. Thank you liz you gave me hope.

    • @Moonstonee212
      @Moonstonee212 Рік тому +3

      Did you left?

    • @jemmaros1888
      @jemmaros1888 Рік тому +8

      i hope you’re doing better now 💗

    • @ayybibi
      @ayybibi Рік тому +4

      oh girl im really hope you’re doing okay 🫶🏽

    • @KN-hg2nv
      @KN-hg2nv Рік тому

      please plan an exit strategy if you haven't. if you have believe me healing is hard but it's worth it ❤️❤️❤️ good luck

  • @kpopmyblood
    @kpopmyblood Місяць тому +1

    I'm in tears literally in tears , i watched almost a lot of her videos and i generally don't prefers to comment over anyone's video unless it seems valuable to me , i genuinely in love with her , here I'm washing my dishes listening to her and I'm even able to feel her positivity ❤ it's pure ❤

  • @PorshiaVonne
    @PorshiaVonne Рік тому +3

    I loved that “everyone is obsessed with me” video 📝

  • @haniaazam5818
    @haniaazam5818 Рік тому +13

    You’ve helped me more then ANYONE

  • @oyinosikoya
    @oyinosikoya Рік тому +24

    The way my confidence has skyrocketed after being introduced to your videos omg.. literally have no time for mediocrity in my life. I am the best and I deserve the best

  • @thefairytalewicth
    @thefairytalewicth Рік тому +5

    This hited me so hard, I'm watching this rn with literally no money, and after a mental breakdown. This video gives me the strange to fight

  • @kirtu9035
    @kirtu9035 Рік тому +88

    i love her so much
    i bet if she and andrew tate were in an argument he would end up crying lmfao-

    • @_.Max.i.mus._
      @_.Max.i.mus._ Рік тому +18

      Bro i would pay to see that

    • @cathychats
      @cathychats Рік тому +2

      I think they are on the same spectrum. Liz is not a crazy feminist

  • @lex7938
    @lex7938 Рік тому +197

    Your moms story is so touching and so humbling. Your mom is literally a superwoman and so are you. Thank you for sharing this story today Liz and consistently giving us new perspectives to think about!

  • @Leena02
    @Leena02 Рік тому +142

    Hi Liz, hope you’re doing well..
    Silent viewer here. I’d like to let you know that you’re my mentor, I always think that you are a blessing from God and I am incredibly thankful for the knowledge and advice that you give to us. Please know that you’ve been a huge help after God. And I always say this: no one will ever abuse you more than you abuse yourself. If you know your value, run away don’t stay.
    Thank you Liz..

  • @parisamosadegh5872
    @parisamosadegh5872 5 місяців тому +2

    Liz, I’m an Iranian girl and now that I watched the end of this video, I became so emotional that you talked about Mahsa Amini and spread the word about women’s rights. A lot of people were killed and arrested in this crisis simply because of the minimum rights.
    Thank you so much for your contribution in this❤

  • @janep1347
    @janep1347 10 місяців тому +3

    I remember when her video was recommended to me for the first time, and I dismissed it and thought to myself “yea yea, another pretty girl giving average people advice”. I was so so triggered just by looking at her.
    Fast forward a year later, I stumbled across her video again. But this time, I actually wanted to hear what she has to say. I was drawn to her. I didn’t feel jealous, didn’t put her in a box, I was genuinely interested in hearing what she had to say. And I realized how much I agree with her. I was blown away, and thinking like wow she is saying exactly what I mean.
    You what changed in that one year? My awareness. My confidence grew because I was working on myself. I became proud of my achievements and successfully defeated depression I was struggling with for years. I was ready to hear her message without getting triggered. Her videos only helped me progress on my journey even further away. Mindset is everything.

  • @gena7129
    @gena7129 Рік тому +483

    You're really such a strong, brave and well-spoken woman. As a 19 year old girl struggling with severe weed abuse directly correlated to my ADHD and social anxiety, your videos have been an absolute godsend in what feels like the darkest times of my life. Thank u for creating this channel

    • @rubym6258
      @rubym6258 Рік тому +18

      why do you sound like me? I’m a 20 year old girl w/ a weed addiction + I have ADHD & social anxiety 😂😂😂😂😂😂LOL

    • @laurareaf7984
      @laurareaf7984 Рік тому +5

      @ruby Same here, but I decided to go sober of weed 5 days ago and I already feel better and more in control of my life. Before, every day was ruled and centred about the next time I was gonna smoke. It’s not easy but at the same time it is if you make the decision and take it seriously. I’ve had to consciously stop myself even if i really wanted to smoke. I’m doing all this for myself and for the better version of me that is so proud I’m doing this. I’m not doing this alone but with a friend who was in a similar situation. I swear it impacts our mental health so much, even more if we have a history of conditions. It’s not easy to admit you are addicted to it and that’s the first step, so congratulations!! 6 days ago I wouldn’t dare to admit it. If you’re looking for encouragement to quit, here it is. Ask for help if you need it and do it with someone else if you can!! I’m doing it and I’m no different than you, so you can do it too!! I wish you the best. You’re not alone ❤️❤️

    • @laurareaf7984
      @laurareaf7984 Рік тому +2

      @@rubym6258 my previous comment was also for u ❤️

    • @rubym6258
      @rubym6258 Рік тому +2

      @@laurareaf7984 wow thank you, I definitely needed to hear this! I can totally relate with every day being centered around the next time I smoke. Its stressful because i feel myself go into a panic every time i think about running out. It’s so easy to want to be numb & just stay in my comfort zone but Ive been knowing it’s not going to help me progress, i just haven’t been able to officially stop! you’re right it’s for the sake of bettering ourselves, this is my sign to stop for good!

    • @rubym6258
      @rubym6258 Рік тому

      @@laurareaf7984 I wish you the best on your journey to! I unfortunately can’t do this with someone else as that someone else use to be my ex lol but either way im doing it. Thanks for the encouragement

  • @tttttg5486
    @tttttg5486 Рік тому +12

    Girl you don't know how much I wanted you to post today I really needed it thank you

  • @lydia8271
    @lydia8271 Рік тому +2

    This video opened my eyes.

  • @orwahs6275
    @orwahs6275 Рік тому +19

    I cried really hard when you mentioned about iran. I as a iranian i feel great full for being able to live somewhere i can be safe for i pray for iran every day and for my land to be free i love you so much liz . Youre really a big motivation for me youre the biggest grace and power for women or people that watch you thank you. Thank you for being always kind and helpful even to the people that don’t appreciate you

  • @bayanalnsr1790
    @bayanalnsr1790 Рік тому +4

    I got inspired from that title , we should start normalizing being this proud of ourselves,we (women) have been raised to be humble , don't get so praggy about your beauty, success, life
    It's time to stop that and be aware of what society have been feeding us from the start

  • @mahimae6925
    @mahimae6925 Рік тому +387

    Hey liz, I'm from Iran and I have been a fan of all your videos for a long time. it's so great to see how the person I look up to is supporting me and my people. I'm so thankful of you for spreading awareness about what's going on in my country 💞 and for helping us through our journey of getting our simple human rights. It's really painful and hard but as you say; life is not for the weak. #mahsaAmini

    • @amyfard
      @amyfard Рік тому +8

      خداروشکر یک هموطن هست که ویدیو های لیز رو ببینه 🥲💗

    • @Elena-vs4gl
      @Elena-vs4gl Рік тому +3

      @@amyfard منم هستم

    • @jazzmine9673
      @jazzmine9673 Рік тому +2

      @@amyfard و من نیز 🎉

    • @Lul253.
      @Lul253. Рік тому +1

      Jzhina amini forever a kurdish girl !!!!

    • @pratibhasethia6605
      @pratibhasethia6605 Рік тому

      More more power to you.. support from India 🙏🏾

  • @literally-nobody
    @literally-nobody Рік тому +10

    I STARTED LISTENING TO HER AND I AM ABSOLUTELY OBSESSED

  • @mariiaraudina4717
    @mariiaraudina4717 Рік тому +93

    Your family story touches me very much, as I am Ukrainian refugee now, I am living in another country;
    my bf, father, granny, friends are so far from me… but I cannot just suffer. I need to do my best to help myself, my younger sister and my mom. War - is the worst thing! Thank you for this video.

    • @Mina-hn3ms
      @Mina-hn3ms Рік тому +6

      So sorry for what you and your people are living, hope you will able to come back home soon

    • @jenandilber4433
      @jenandilber4433 Рік тому +2

      So sorry for what ur living, But I prefer to live in another country than to live in my own country, because in Syria there are no necessities for life, there is no work, there is no electricity, there is not enough water, I hope that one day inshallah I'll travel to another country and complete my studies and dreams

  • @arlet101
    @arlet101 Рік тому +108

    Liz can you do a video on how to stop being such a lazy person that wastes their time on bs instead of meaningful work? I don't know why I do this to myself but I need some tough love because I am wasting my time, failing at school, and not nourishing my relationships because I would rather spend hours on my phone hearing music, watching funny videos, and just watching my life go by and it causes me so much stress and yet I do nothing to change it

    • @shorna646
      @shorna646 Рік тому +3

      yea same here!

    • @shwetasingh7039
      @shwetasingh7039 Рік тому +13

      Try to take a social media detox, try to be strong willed, make a goal to stay away from media phone for 30 days and just focus on study work exercise, you need to be hard on yourself

    • @wafwawel
      @wafwawel Рік тому +4

      she already talked abt it get out of your comfort zone

    • @misshoneynevercame4832
      @misshoneynevercame4832 Рік тому +5

      Uninstall social media apps

    • @krisbz
      @krisbz Рік тому +5

      That sounds like possible executive dysfunction. Or dopamine overload. A dopamine detox might help restore your dopamine levels to baseline so you're not constantly craving reward.

  • @jazzmine9673
    @jazzmine9673 Рік тому +140

    as an iranian girl i just wanted to thank you so much for your support and kindness we really appreciate your effort to advocate your time to inform people and specially women . women should be heard all around the world thank you for being our voice ❤❤❤❤❤❤

    • @houdael6428
      @houdael6428 Рік тому

      Is liz iranian ??

    • @jazzmine9673
      @jazzmine9673 Рік тому

      @@houdael6428 I don't think so but I dunno !!

    • @sophiabaninajjar1423
      @sophiabaninajjar1423 Рік тому +1

      @@houdael6428 some site said shes Belgian

    • @se.i.4393
      @se.i.4393 Рік тому

      @@sophiabaninajjar1423 I don't think there are Belgian refugees, I live in Belgium for so long we hadn't war, maybe she came to belgium?

    • @windws7137
      @windws7137 Рік тому +5

      @@se.i.4393 bruh. Liz said they fled from the war (Middle East) to Belgium. Honestly I'm jealous of you guys, I'm from Ukraine and eager to get outta here too

  • @sheenapajonar2713
    @sheenapajonar2713 Рік тому +18

    This is so true. Insecurities will always project to some people. They will always be triggered when other people are confident about themselves. While listening to ur last video it was very relatable and feels like mirroring my own confidence and motivated me more. While the comments are full of insecure people thinking she was delusional. Like i hope you all heal. I hope people will see their own worth and beauty.

  • @heyitsmariasilvia
    @heyitsmariasilvia Рік тому +5

    “Life is not for the weak”, I'm impressed

  • @tsundoku97
    @tsundoku97 Рік тому +6

    I’m going to write “Life is not for the weak” on a paper and tape it next to my mirror. This is the time where I change everything.

  • @VanessaRodriguez-pk6th
    @VanessaRodriguez-pk6th Рік тому +58

    I stood up for my friend when these girls were talking bad about him. I can say that you were a huge influence in me doing so. I am now proud of myself and thankful for you Liz

  • @akosuakoranteng3327
    @akosuakoranteng3327 Рік тому +7

    The idea to volunteer for a cause as an antidote to depression is actually so on point and backed by clinical studies! Multiple studies have shown that volunteering for a charitable cause can lower levels of depression - great advice

  • @maimanababiker2734
    @maimanababiker2734 Рік тому +204

    I'm Muslim..... 🌸 I'm very Grateful for what you've said about our religion.... Your follower from Sudan 🇸🇩, grateful for the beautiful energy that you give , it's the first time for me commenting on your videos . Love 🌸

  • @myoung4720
    @myoung4720 Рік тому +14

    Liz is an icon, she's a legend & she is the moment

  • @Primrose345
    @Primrose345 Рік тому +31

    I can’t even imagine being against you. You’re a light in the darkness. I literally wish that if I had someone like Liz to scold me back then! The people who hate Liz, in reality hate the reality their trying to hide for so long. It takes courage to accept that & it’s not everyone’s cup of tea! love Liz🌟

  • @karenvelasquez1714
    @karenvelasquez1714 23 дні тому

    I'm the youngest in our family. And all of them have this strong personality and talks very harsh, even when they encourage, they use harsh words.
    Watching you is like adding a sister in my life. I knew I have a different mindset from them.
    Thank you, Liz. Praying for your health and life. God bless you, Liz.

  • @boopbap7798
    @boopbap7798 Рік тому +17

    thank you so much for speaking of the Mahsa Amini situation, im a 14 year old half Iranian girl who lives safely in Arabia but it hurts me to know that I can not fight with my sisters back home. we love you and thank you for your wonderful work ❤️

  • @officialgift495
    @officialgift495 Рік тому +11

    Self pity does more harm than good, in terms of self development, it is not worth it to be enslaved to your past experiences and mistakes. Focus on self growth and empowerment, you'll eventually get thru it. Blessed weekend y'all.

  • @AJRTOV
    @AJRTOV 5 місяців тому +3

    I'm a man and I hate watching men self care bc they are SO toxic and like Liz is like such a sweetheart and I love her videos she has help me a lot fr

  • @tiarnabananaz
    @tiarnabananaz Рік тому +117

    Also it’s ok to cuddle and validate yourself when you feel down because toxic positively is just as bad as self pity! Just try not to let yourself drown in self pity because it can really take over your life and make it 100% worse like Liz stated. You are worth it.

  • @crybbcassie93
    @crybbcassie93 Рік тому +183

    Nobody is ugly. People just do not love yourself at the same level as people who make them look ugly inside.
    Thank you for your work, Liz. You make my life better.

    • @clara-in6ku
      @clara-in6ku Рік тому +2

      @@rulingstone123 what is the definition of ugly? why do we call people “ugly”, “ugly” doesn’t exist, only societal standards do. No one is ever ugly. There’s nothing wrong with being ugly but no one is ever ugly.

  • @Nerotheraccoon
    @Nerotheraccoon Рік тому +4

    The part where you explained "if I had a good child hood I would trade being pretty..." that hit hard!

  • @user-qt6dr5gs1f
    @user-qt6dr5gs1f Рік тому +3

    “Life is not for the weak” wow, that really hit me.. Words can't describe how much respect i have for this woman.

  • @user-hy9ws7dj5b
    @user-hy9ws7dj5b Рік тому +1

    Liz will probably be an amazing mother☺️

  • @MissEcstatic
    @MissEcstatic Рік тому +46

    You’re such a queen. I remember watching your last video and just thinking who wouldn’t wanna be obsessed with you. You have the confidence and energy that uplifts people. It’s only valid. Keep doing you! Maybe some people think it’s self absorbed to think that way but that’s a humble healthy ego to put ourselves first and people who actually have done inner work will understand this

  • @MrandMrsMastURpeace
    @MrandMrsMastURpeace Рік тому +40

    You betta preach girl!! Continue shining your light into this world and living out your greatness. Those that are for you know your intentions and those that aren't, they just aren't. Not everyone will like you and that's ok. Keep walking into your God given destiny. He will align it all up for you.
    And that's for EVERYONE out there reading this message. YOU ARE POWERFUL, YOU ARE WORTHY, YOU ARE ENOUGH. ❤️ Blessings and joy to all!

  • @Shaantibihh
    @Shaantibihh Рік тому +21

    I really appreciate how straight forward you are instead of beating around the bush like a lot of other self help UA-camrs. Thank you!

  • @user-blueeyes.
    @user-blueeyes. 7 місяців тому +1

    I wasn't triggered at all, I was calm and interested in what did you say!

  • @carmenkami1735
    @carmenkami1735 Рік тому +42

    Damn, Liz, this was exactly what I needed to hear. I am at a low point right now and I was trapped in the self-pity trap for a few hours. Thank you so much for always telling the truth

  • @violetlovestarot
    @violetlovestarot Рік тому +3

    You are right! We complain too much and do not even notice how much energy we lose comparing ourselves to others. Instead, we need to be grateful for what we have and use that to benefit ourselves.

  • @driftingmachines11
    @driftingmachines11 Рік тому +1

    your story sounds like an amazing novel i read NOT WITHOUT MY DAUGHTER

  • @rezataghizadeh-qz9wm
    @rezataghizadeh-qz9wm 2 місяці тому +1

    I'm from Iran liz. Thanks for your support.❤ Not just women's situation also men's is so hard and suffocating. Thank you so much for your support again ❤

  • @mahfuzarahman9097
    @mahfuzarahman9097 Рік тому +20

    I saw you everyday. You're just a real mirror of life. who don't sugarcoat things. you don't motivate, you just scold us to stop going through negative things. a big appreciation for you. Love you with all of my heart.

  • @TysonMichael77
    @TysonMichael77 Рік тому +3

    Either you get tough, or life makes you tough. Very true!!