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КОМЕНТАРІ • 932

  • @divinitycat
    @divinitycat 6 місяців тому +977

    Stop. I am literally laying unmotivated and sad about how alone I feel AND THEN I SEE THIS NOTIFICATION wow I needed this.

    • @fra.c
      @fra.c 6 місяців тому +5

      same

    • @superstudentpk
      @superstudentpk 6 місяців тому +7

      You too?😭😭😭😭

    • @fifiella8710
      @fifiella8710 6 місяців тому +5

      I just searched exact videos like this today and then she posts this😮

    • @FirstName-xt1gk
      @FirstName-xt1gk 6 місяців тому +6

      We’re all together in this rn?🤝🏼

    • @fifiella8710
      @fifiella8710 6 місяців тому +1

      @@FirstName-xt1gkYeah😭😭😭

  • @Desrayyy_
    @Desrayyy_ 6 місяців тому +11

    I feel like the longer I wait, the bigger the blessing that I’ll get ❤

  • @kantirathore202
    @kantirathore202 6 місяців тому

    I want Tam to live on my shoulder as my fairy godmother, stopping me from making bad decisions. THAT'S THE DREAM

  • @ianreject
    @ianreject 6 місяців тому

    i was listening to what was i made for because i was sad. i saw this on my home page and pressed play. the song paused, the video started, and then the song started playing in the video 😭😭😭

  • @anovenuh5663
    @anovenuh5663 4 місяці тому

    Thanks! I needed to hear this😊

  • @Alexandraa.18
    @Alexandraa.18 6 місяців тому

    I love you. I love your energy, your perspective on things. I don't want to play the victim when I'm not ok, I'm searching for help and you are so helpful🫶🏼

  • @JN-br7sr
    @JN-br7sr 6 місяців тому

    PERFECTTT TIMINGG

  • @yeonjunnoonassole6453
    @yeonjunnoonassole6453 6 місяців тому

    I just unfollowed and removed my crush cuz he kept ghosting me and yesterday when I spoke to him first (again) he was like “what do you want?”. Honestly I’m so done lol but it kinda hurt so here I am watching this.

  • @Selfdevelopmentstuff_
    @Selfdevelopmentstuff_ 6 місяців тому

    9:17 I want to listen this

  • @SaraSARA-yn8ov
    @SaraSARA-yn8ov 3 місяці тому

    Thank you ❤️

  • @24JJRCREATIVITY24
    @24JJRCREATIVITY24 6 місяців тому +1

    I needed this very much 🤌

  • @elnax2827
    @elnax2827 2 місяці тому

    Thank u tam:)

  • @Jashanpreetkaur-l1l
    @Jashanpreetkaur-l1l 6 місяців тому +1

    Babe's back❤

  • @ItsSalmanbrooo
    @ItsSalmanbrooo 6 місяців тому

    Love you tam

  • @avareadss
    @avareadss 6 місяців тому +842

    I literally cried while watching this video- I just left a toxic friend group and am now alone in the school bathrooms half the time like a stereotypical teen movie. I watched this video and it made me shed a tear- Tam, you’ve given me hope and made me genuinely start to feel comfortable with being alone.

    • @tanvi.k.8
      @tanvi.k.8 6 місяців тому +53

      as someone who's been through the exact same situation - trust me, it gets better. you'll either find a lovely, energetically positive friend group, or you'll be content by yourself. much love

    • @sunvavachi
      @sunvavachi 6 місяців тому +20

      I've been there. It'll get better. Keep to yourself and work on you. Weight lifting kept me sane during a similar experience.

    • @bhavyasharma2255
      @bhavyasharma2255 6 місяців тому +8

      I m literally dealing w the same situation trust me it is just for good!

    • @nandini.y
      @nandini.y 6 місяців тому +5

      been there for a long time like this as i moved to so many schools, but trust me its for your good. maybe rn it doesnt feel right but it gets better, either u learn to do things by ur own and u have yourself or you will get good people later. hoping for positive things and love for you 💗

    • @ピンス
      @ピンス 6 місяців тому +4

      I spent half of my year alone too. 🫂🫂

  • @Troldmand-go3id
    @Troldmand-go3id 6 місяців тому +250

    Everything happens for a reason guys. Hard periods of loneliness (it can be positive for many btw) teaches you, that you only got yourself at the end of the day. Everything whats meant for you will find you, but you have to find and know yourself first, without other people influences.

    • @SubtleAnd
      @SubtleAnd 6 місяців тому +7

      You can say that a thousand times, being alone makes us re-discover our purpose in life even though it hurts sometimes.

    • @joannajfhf1322
      @joannajfhf1322 3 місяці тому +2

      I've never seen wiser comment. It really shifted my reality. Like reaaally. Tysm i hope every good thing in life finds you

  • @I_sing_hehe
    @I_sing_hehe 5 місяців тому +70

    Who's cutting onions?

  • @FutureFendiFsnista
    @FutureFendiFsnista 6 місяців тому +112

    "What was I made for" always makes me emotional. Having it play in the background along with this topic really hits deep. Thank you for a great video 💛

    • @iolanda04
      @iolanda04 2 місяці тому

      As I huge billie fan I can approve 🫶🏻

  • @mahichawla5725
    @mahichawla5725 6 місяців тому +408

    Literally clicked so quickly that my screen froze

    • @tamkaur
      @tamkaur  6 місяців тому +77

      😂😂

    • @ShiAnniii
      @ShiAnniii 6 місяців тому +7

      DAYUM 😮😂

    • @desibish
      @desibish 6 місяців тому

      @@tamkaur Tam, do you have telegram or something because I keep getting notifications from a non verified acc to converse with them about a request that i made,

  • @AddyIbbotson
    @AddyIbbotson 5 місяців тому +75

    Am I the only one that feels lonely rn even tho I have so many amazing friends and family ?

    • @jujuyun4796
      @jujuyun4796 3 місяці тому +7

      me too sometimes I just feel so disconnected with reality

    • @lazybooklover8167
      @lazybooklover8167 3 місяці тому +6

      Yes so true I have friends but I feel lonely like no one is here for me

    • @AddyIbbotson
      @AddyIbbotson 3 місяці тому +1

      @@lazybooklover8167 I hope it gets better for u🫶🏻🫶🏻, when I commented that, it was 2 months ago, and now I feel sm better!! I feel loved by the ppl in my life and I’m so grateful. I rlly hope u stop feeling this way, and I hope yk how amazing u are💕Have a great day

    • @elisa-louis
      @elisa-louis 2 місяці тому +2

      yep. i have amazing friends and have a supportive family. yet i feel so lonely and like im falling behind. all my friends have great relationships & i sometimes feel envious of them. sometimes i also realize that i tend to suffer in silence and i never share my burdens with my friends because i don’t want to overwhelm them. after watching this video it made me feel a lot better though. they’re my friends for a reason and i’ve realized that they’re there for me even when i don’t seek it out

    • @anushreedebnath704
      @anushreedebnath704 Місяць тому

      Same with me😅

  • @imvs1111
    @imvs1111 5 місяців тому +106

    It's nothing bad to be alone, but honestly it would be nice to have just one friend with whom I could go out and do girly things. I have never experienced such friendship and I would love to have a bestie like a sister 🎀

    • @carlaqueer
      @carlaqueer Місяць тому +3

      girl--I would've LOVED to be your friend but I'm sure you're probably a globe away, no one should ever feel lonely hope you found your soulsister

    • @dianed3978
      @dianed3978 Місяць тому +1

      I feel the same!!

    • @misseccentrica
      @misseccentrica Місяць тому +1

      Same here +1

    • @rishikashahi2187
      @rishikashahi2187 Місяць тому +2

      In the same stage, hopefully people like us can find each other and make each other feel more important❤

    • @aishwaryasingh7230
      @aishwaryasingh7230 21 день тому

      Same 😭

  • @3bduuu
    @3bduuu 6 місяців тому +141

    You’re my safe space 🫂🥹

  • @bhavyasharma2255
    @bhavyasharma2255 6 місяців тому +83

    THE ELDER SISTER EVEREYBODY NEEDS

  • @Rosikaaaa_18
    @Rosikaaaa_18 6 місяців тому +64

    I needed this....just a divine timing ❤

  • @_ChonkyCat_
    @_ChonkyCat_ 6 місяців тому +243

    "to people in their twenties" meanwhile here I am, turning 33 in a month, 2 years ago I realised I have cptsd, so I'm literally only now figuring out who I am, what I want for myself, after a breakup, temporarily living at my mom's place, paying off old debts and basically isolated from the world and possibilities of meeting new people like a hermit. Guys, it's never too late to figure out your life and everyone has a different timeline, there's no expiry date on that. Thank you Tam for this video, it was much needed as recently I often have this thought that I'm wasting the best years of my life and I needed a reminder that in fact, I'm preparing for the best years of my life 💖

    • @MonikaDaddarwal
      @MonikaDaddarwal 6 місяців тому +5

      more power to you, you absolute amazing:)

    • @paigecombs6005
      @paigecombs6005 6 місяців тому +2

      yes there’s other lessons youve learned in your 20s though that others in their 20s haven’t. now’s your time for this one!

    • @andreinam5531
      @andreinam5531 6 місяців тому +5

      Exactly in the same boat as you. Thanks for helping me feel like I’m not alone ❤

    • @peachesandpoets
      @peachesandpoets 6 місяців тому +7

      37. Same here. Don't discount the arrested development from trauma. You were trying to keep yourself alive. Sending love.

    • @DiablaHikaru-Ness
      @DiablaHikaru-Ness 6 місяців тому +5

      33 here myself. I'd like to say it's not too late for us

  • @khushikoushik01
    @khushikoushik01 6 місяців тому +37

    I am just 17 years old and the thought of being alone, having no partner, being judged beacuse of some past mistakes.... i was feeling lonely and not understood by anyone.. cause of this i began overthinking too... really needed this at the time. THANK YOU ❤

  • @Mg_7even
    @Mg_7even 6 місяців тому +113

    Hi sis I'm a high school girl from India.... And i was feeling so depressed and lonely in class coz I seat alone and eat lunch alone
    I really needed it
    Thank you so much sis❤
    Love yaa!!

    • @avareadss
      @avareadss 6 місяців тому +10

      me too- if I saw u sitting alone I would definitely come say hi. You seem rlly sweet, i’m sorry we’re both alone; it’s not forever

    • @Luccccccccccci
      @Luccccccccccci 6 місяців тому +12

      Hi queen I know this message wasn't meant for me, but just remind you that diamonds weren't shaped in sunlight and gold, but in shadow and dirt. Yet they are the most treasured, most beautiful, most loved. This will be your destiny, and you may be lonely now, but that's because you are a sun surrounded by planets. Just because you are alone, doesn't mean you aren't needed or loved. Remember this❤

    • @dhayapooranee.s1401
      @dhayapooranee.s1401 6 місяців тому +1

      @@Luccccccccccci oh my that was good...

    • @Luccccccccccci
      @Luccccccccccci 6 місяців тому

      @@dhayapooranee.s1401 thank you🤍

    • @Keiron-pw6sl
      @Keiron-pw6sl 6 місяців тому

      ​@@avareadssI sometimes wish I was gone even when you try to talk to family your still alone I basically stay in my room everyday

  • @almedinvelic8313
    @almedinvelic8313 6 місяців тому +54

    Read this when you feel lonely, here're my summary notes:
    1. Being alone isn't a bad thing. It Can bring you so much joy.
    2. Don't use your past to define your present.
    3. You will always be there for you.
    4. Spend rather time with yourself than with people who push you down.
    5. Do it for your future self.
    6. Just because it's taking time, doesn't mean it's not gonna happen.
    7. Stop waiting for others! You're in control.
    8. Your happiness should never depend of other people's action.
    9. When there's silence, this is where you grow the most.
    10. Give yourself a tab on the back because you're not victimizing yourself by watching this video.
    11. Loneliness is a gift! Everything is happening for you, not against you.
    12. Remember this is only a phase.
    13. You're only starting your life.
    14. Remember how far you've come.
    15. How do you see yourself? Write id down!

  • @RougeBlisters
    @RougeBlisters 6 місяців тому +50

    Needed this. I left my fiancé of 5 years, my home, my friends and my town all in one weekend. It’s been so lonely but it’s amazing to be reminded it’s for my higher self. Thank you so much for everything you do, Tam!!

    • @letticiamutama6860
      @letticiamutama6860 6 місяців тому +3

      I remember this was me 3-4 years ago.

    • @m_shadyy777
      @m_shadyy777 5 місяців тому +1

      wow ur so strong ❤

    • @diyuxo
      @diyuxo 4 місяці тому

      how are you now???

    • @lin3378
      @lin3378 3 місяці тому

    • @Rajveerkaur34
      @Rajveerkaur34 2 місяці тому

      More and more power to you girl!💙

  • @Marwonderful
    @Marwonderful 29 днів тому +9

    Felt so alone today and this really helped. I have been single and living on my own all year but today made me feel incredibly sad that I still don't have someone that aligns with me but I know that this is a part of the journey and finding someone is not all life is about. I took myself to the Farmers market today, bought myself flowers, went thrifting, watched my favorite shows, cooked food, and read a lot. I know I can do this even in those moments of extreme quiet when that scary loneliness creeps in. trying to rmr Loneliness can be a blessing and room for self development.

  • @riddhimachauhan308
    @riddhimachauhan308 6 місяців тому +34

    the way i manifested a ''watch this when'' video from you a few days ago and u actually uploaded it. u have no clue how much i needed this. thanks for such comforting videos tam!

  • @sradhanjalirai7951
    @sradhanjalirai7951 3 місяці тому +9

    Leaving this comment here , so that i can look back at how much progress ive made on loving myself and my own company

  • @luturquoise3365
    @luturquoise3365 2 місяці тому +21

    this video feels like a big sis hug

  • @sid_28
    @sid_28 6 місяців тому +20

    I read most of the comments and that people are sad and lonely. And for them, i'll say it will get better, it always does. But today, i'm so so grateful that i'm happy.. I have felt lonely in past but rn i have myself and some of the best people. I actually lost a very healthy friendship 2weeks ago but bcs of tam i have put it in past and is healing very fast! ❤ I just wanted to express my gratitude and gratefulness for the happy moments i have in life today❤ Even though i'm so sick today and haven't been productive this week, i'm still happy and grateful❤

  • @CourtneyNoble
    @CourtneyNoble 6 місяців тому +22

    this video made me emotional. i understand myself, i learn from my past, my experiences, my intentions and how i seek to change my mindset, my lifestyle, how i treat myself with self-love, with the motivation to move on and work through our pains and struggles. we have the power to change our lives by accepting ourselves for who we are.

  • @missaxsi
    @missaxsi 6 місяців тому +10

    This got me hugging and apologizing to myself for the shit I put myself through this week 💔 I’ve been on a self love journey for the past couple of months and this week has been rough and I acted like a hurt little child and that was coming from a place of trauma and insecurity and I dont blame her for showing up every once in a while she’s been through a lot and expecting her to heal completely with a few months of inner work would be unfair. I’ll be there for her forever. Thanks Tam.❤

  • @AlyssaDyadenko
    @AlyssaDyadenko 2 місяці тому +15

    This video made me cry, ugly cry. I really needed this. Ever since my breakup, I have been feeling so alone and like my life is falling apart. This was such a comfort. I stopped and took a moment to appreciate all of the things I already achieved, all the progress I have made. Ive been good with being alone in the past, but this loneliness is even stronger now and more intense, which only means my life will become even BETTER than in the past. If you're reading this, you are not alone in being alone. Lets all take this period of our life to become the most strongest version of ourselves

  • @daisysunflowerr
    @daisysunflowerr 6 місяців тому +14

    I was just watching your video on "feeling sad" one and than you posted this you're always at the right time ❤❤

  • @mehakTaj07
    @mehakTaj07 6 місяців тому +2

    What is her qualification just curious, btw love youuuu tam❤.

  • @MamaSwole
    @MamaSwole 6 місяців тому +4

    how do her videos always perfectly align with my life!!

  • @kzjxjdi
    @kzjxjdi 6 місяців тому +11

    omg literally perfect timing 😭 I had just broken up with one of my friends, I thought I was feeling fine with it, but today I was sitting in a class with 2 popular girls who were talking about their friends, it reminded me that I still hadn’t “fit in” and that i never will anywhere, this video popped up right after school today and Im feeling so much more at peace right now.

  • @lovinggoodness
    @lovinggoodness 6 місяців тому +8

    Tam ILY so much you're like my sister that always gives me the best advices ❤

  • @itx.twilightt
    @itx.twilightt 6 місяців тому +3

    Hey Tam! This video, is my reality, especially the fact 6:36-6:49. Last year, when I was a 7th former, I was in my toxic girl era, like I would literally overthink the dumbest things, I'd procrastinate things, I used to be an attention-seeker, I used to chase people for their attention and love and what not! But now, after a year, when I'm an 8th former, I'VE COMPLETELY CHANGED! I'm the opposite now, I love myself so much that I don't need anyone now, I enjoy my own company and honestly, it's been MONTHS since I've overthink ANYTHING! Like I don't even remember the last time I over-thought ANYTHING!
    (Credit goes to you, girl! THANK YOU!!)
    ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
    ~EsHaL💖

  • @444.dishaa
    @444.dishaa 5 місяців тому +11

    I was feeling alone today but instead of staying in bawling my eyes out about it i went out with my own self

  • @a_proud_hijabi_girl
    @a_proud_hijabi_girl 6 місяців тому +8

    This video is actually very comforting❤️

  • @maellejoha
    @maellejoha 5 місяців тому +2

    I have a question, when you talk about loneliness not being a destination but more of a transition,
    does it count if I have been alone and didn't really have friends since i was a child? .. Im worrying that this might never come and that I am missing out connections. I am 21, isn't it the time you meet great friends? or before that?
    I wish i would find people who I can bond with. I like nature, i wish i could go camping, hiking with friends. Talking about everything.

  • @faizaahmed9784
    @faizaahmed9784 6 місяців тому +5

    1. Busy, why not me?
    2. Loneliness is only your believe
    3. Loneliness - absence of yourself
    5. Future Version wishing how good it gets. It was necessary. Waiting time was necessary . You have them in future.
    6. People you seek out seeking you out too
    7. You can't stop waiting for stop feeling lonely. You are the one who control ur feelings. It's a journey to find them
    8. Maybe you are meant to be lonely. Your happiness shouldn't depend on others action
    9. 11:48 moments of silence - is the thing.
    10. 14:43 you clicked on this video. ⭐ Awareness ⭐
    11 15:46 loneliness is a gift 🎁 i was isolated for a bigger reason.
    They left bcuz of your growth 📈
    12 17:08 loneliness= transition
    13. 18:15 stressing about future. You are just starting to live your life 💝
    14 19:58 imperfect ≠ failing
    15. How do you see urself

  • @jesscoleman7812
    @jesscoleman7812 6 місяців тому +6

    I am 28 years old and I took a massive change last year by removing friends who I have been friends with for 10 + in my life who know longer align with me. I am currently in transition period and it feels so good and I have never felt so much peace and I am so excited to have done all of this before I am 30.

  • @AlexaPalinkas
    @AlexaPalinkas 5 місяців тому +4

    omg I was literally crying at the beginning of the video, but then I didn't realize when I started to feel calmer than ever

  • @prathanasundas5612
    @prathanasundas5612 4 місяці тому +3

    After watching this I came to know that I always kept others before me, I was so shy that if others did anything bad to me I would not act on it that made them control "my" life I don't want it that way, from now on I would like to keep a promise to myself that I would keep myself before anybody else and appreciate only my loved ones, I am going to speak for myself, and I will try to do things out of my comfort zone ,it's my life one day everybody is gonna die anyways why not do ur best and die. Thanks to you Tam after watching your videos I always feel that I am the best version of myself, whenever my energy goes down and I need motivation I will always look up to you. I have never commented my heart out in any social media platform this is my first and I think I did the right thing ❤

  • @popliticallyyours
    @popliticallyyours 6 місяців тому +8

    The "living in one of your answered prayers" resonated with me the most.

  • @sandycarat
    @sandycarat 6 місяців тому +10

    2 days I talked to the universe, saying how lonely I recently feel and that I need help and a sign that I am not lonely and I saw this video. I feel really grateful for these amazing advices, I actually love myself, however I think that I forgot about it and that's why I feel like this. Now I won't see loneliness as something full of sadness and if I do, I am going to rewatch this video even thousand times

  • @promilamardy7821
    @promilamardy7821 6 місяців тому +16

    Her timing is unmatched ❤

  • @IamRandd
    @IamRandd 5 місяців тому +4

    طبيعي اني دمعت؟ 🥹 يا الله هالحكي اشقدّه مطمئن ومُريح ومنطقي🥹🩷🩷 شكراً من قلبي وممتنة لوجودك🫶🏽

    • @rosemary5989
      @rosemary5989 4 місяці тому

      مرحبا ❤😊

    • @sodojin4127
      @sodojin4127 2 місяці тому

      عندك انستا؟❤​@@rosemary5989

  • @drishtii8434
    @drishtii8434 6 місяців тому +1

    Tam! All I wanna say is THANK YOU SO MUCH!!! This came up at the right time❤ Love from India 🇮🇳💕

  • @fra.c
    @fra.c 6 місяців тому +12

    i literally needed this right now

  • @deethigandhi
    @deethigandhi 2 місяці тому +3

    I just wanna thank you with all my heart Tam❤
    This video saved me today and in the insidious toxicity outside, I found myself-inside.
    It reminded me of how I always have 'me', and that it's imperative that I show up for myself, and give myself that strength, love, comfort, support and compassion.
    In the dark storm of tears, I could bring the rainbow to light...
    Your words alleviated my gruesome loneliness and made me appreciate the greatness of the moment as it was, as blissful peace. I could fill the void, and find and befriend my inner self.
    Thank you!
    Lots of loveee,
    Deethi ♡

  • @ashwitha222
    @ashwitha222 24 дні тому +1

    this sucks, I'm crying so bad trying to figure everything out. I cannot only this videos give me hopes on living as the best version of myself

  • @333nepttune
    @333nepttune 6 місяців тому +15

    divine timing so real

  • @anvitayadav1201
    @anvitayadav1201 6 місяців тому +8

    the timing is so perfect tam! Love you!

  • @Xx.-_.-_-.
    @Xx.-_.-_-. 6 місяців тому +1

    *PLEASE ADD CHAPTERS BACK TAM!!!*

  • @nikcageorgianova7433
    @nikcageorgianova7433 6 місяців тому +4

    Thank you so much for this video, I was thinking for a long time, that there is something wrong with me, when I realized that I am not anyone favorite... I am just an option when someone can't... And now, I am trying to see myself as my favorite, thanks to your videos 🥰

  • @Maria-em4oz
    @Maria-em4oz 3 місяці тому +1

    16:21 “I was isolated for a bigger purpose”

  • @chandanasahukar9775
    @chandanasahukar9775 6 місяців тому +23

    Tam, I'm literally 31 years old and I learn SO much from you. Thank you my love. I am rooting for you! 🥰

    • @JessicaGarcia-v6b
      @JessicaGarcia-v6b 6 місяців тому

      Same!

    • @lalisherwell3207
      @lalisherwell3207 6 місяців тому

      am turning 30 this year too and feel like am only just learning the tools to live my best life now >.< :)

  • @D0408lol
    @D0408lol 6 місяців тому +4

    I actually started taking care of myself & spend time with myself thanks to you! Tam you truly changed my life. Thank you so much & sending love to you❤

  • @adoreimani
    @adoreimani 5 місяців тому +3

    being 15 an already being lonley an had an experience ALREADY about friends an just being cute an happy on my own because im loving my own vibe atm friends or not i like just staying an keeping to myself. Ily tam

  • @janemargaretmceachin6398
    @janemargaretmceachin6398 Місяць тому +2

    I just started a new job that I really wanted, but I'm really struggling with loneliness- and I don't really understand why. I'm having a lot harder time adjusting than I thought I would. I'm still new, so of course they're not going to know me well enough yet to truly "see me". I'm a firm believer that things always get better, especially with a self-aware and self-loving mindset. Be gentle on myself. I'm leaving this comment here so I can come back in a few months and see how much things changed. I'm wishing everyone else the best on their journeys as well!

  • @AveryBalliet
    @AveryBalliet 6 місяців тому +4

    Wow this came at the perfect time! Thank you for articulating realistic perspectives of loneliness, I have been having a tough time trying to find ways to soothe & coach myself through this period of my life! Being someone in their 30's and finding myself without friends or a partner has made me acutely aware of my loneliness but I know it is just a season, not a permanency.

  • @Raeasyouknow
    @Raeasyouknow 2 місяці тому +1

    I actually wanna leave my friend group because they‘re really toxic and i dont feel comfortable around them. The actual reason i still am with them is that 1. im scared of being lonely and i wouldnt know what to do alone in School breaks… and 2. i dont know how to quit the friendship. This Video kinda helped me with my Situation

  • @nadiaparveen7710
    @nadiaparveen7710 5 місяців тому +2

    I noticed a calmer energy in you with this specific video message ❤

  • @effienominal
    @effienominal 6 місяців тому +1

    this is all false
    i love to be alone
    it's a need, often
    i still experience loneliness
    loneliness is NOT simply "a negative perspective on being alone"
    we have literal needs for empathy and compassion and relationships
    we are a social species
    your whole psychosocial emotional system goes haywire if you aren't getting enough of it
    and that isn't solved by simply "changing your perspective"
    claiming it can be is dangerous
    you could convince people that they are the problem and that simply choosing to not be lonely will solve this
    it won't
    they could end up feeling guilty about a perceived inability to make the choice you're suggesting
    if you're severely lonely and this is your coping strategy and you're happy with it, keep it up
    but some people are isolated victims of abuse with actually zero supportive relationships and you're telling them that's fine. it's not fine. they need connections. and being positive about spending time alone isn't going to fix that.

  • @siyamalhotra2702
    @siyamalhotra2702 6 місяців тому +2

    Still waiting for when you reach 1 million subs fr (you're a gem, Tam, you have no idea how much you have helped me)

  • @jashodharabhose619
    @jashodharabhose619 6 місяців тому +4

    Thanks,Tam. Watching this is 2024 and I love myself. I have a long path to cover but I love my growth. I do not seek external validation because I know at the end of the day I love myself fully knowing how I have evolved. I will pray for everything I get. I get it all. I am grateful.

  • @Maryam-it5gl
    @Maryam-it5gl 6 місяців тому +2

    Impeccable timing, 💗from Sri lanka,

  • @melissacarreno6475
    @melissacarreno6475 6 місяців тому +3

    Thank you so much for making this video! I'm going through a huge transition in my life and loneliness is something I've been struggling with. You're amazing and inspiring me to be the best version of myself💓

  • @fleur_abbott
    @fleur_abbott 5 місяців тому +1

    13:10 well that's the reason I got so alone cause my standards for friendships were so high....and now I think I just should've let my standards and my perfectionist side went down a little

  • @alexaistrying
    @alexaistrying 6 місяців тому +15

    "What was I made for?" such a perfect song for this ahhh!! I wish this came out last year when i was at my peak loneliest, but better late than never. And as a 20 year old going on 21, 13 is *chef's kiss* tysm!!

  • @darshana8783
    @darshana8783 3 місяці тому +1

    The way i cried after watching this video.... I love you girl... I really wanna meet you one day... And i will one day...

  • @enhaa0920
    @enhaa0920 6 місяців тому +5

    just when I needed this the most, thank you♥

  • @Adiva-xy8ol
    @Adiva-xy8ol 6 місяців тому +2

    Tam pleaseease make a video on "How to overcome PERFECTIONISM"... Really need it.

  • @nailsatyerplace
    @nailsatyerplace 6 місяців тому +3

    Literally needed this Tam!!! Ive been single now, almost a year after break up - raised my standards a lot but feels a bit lonely kus my future mans havent found me yet 😂❤

  • @Random-mw9xd
    @Random-mw9xd 3 місяці тому +1

    Thankyou Tam, exactly what I needed for the period of my life I am going through right now 💞

  • @Babydolem
    @Babydolem 6 місяців тому +2

    This video made me excited about living life again, thank you

  • @maahibabhulkar16
    @maahibabhulkar16 6 місяців тому +6

    Tam You have literally changed my life...❤️ Thank you so much 🫶🫶 Thank you so much Universe for recommending Tam's Videos.. Lots of Love🫶❤️

  • @lusungugondwe3536
    @lusungugondwe3536 6 місяців тому +7

    Divine timing Tam ❤

  • @Anushka78003
    @Anushka78003 6 місяців тому +1

    First comment🥺... And how do you post videos on the right time... 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @DipankshiSaluria
    @DipankshiSaluria 6 місяців тому +3

    i cry while watching ur video - today i feel of low,wasted my time ,insecure,and feel like im not their were i want to be but when u said im feeling live for first time and still growing and that im just a teenage and its ok to do things worng its my firts time to try somthing new and every thing is for my better ----- thank u tam sis i wish u get more love , happens,success in ur life

  • @aryadude5494
    @aryadude5494 6 місяців тому +1

    Right when I needed you..Thank you so much for this💞💞..... its 2am and I was kinda becoming nihilistic

  • @swatidavid6396
    @swatidavid6396 6 місяців тому +4

    This video feels like a hug, thank you!

  • @houdatrabelsi6280
    @houdatrabelsi6280 6 місяців тому +1

    Love you Tam❤ I hope you become my friend

  • @munazzafateen7785
    @munazzafateen7785 6 місяців тому +3

    I was writing a letter to my younger self who went through so many heartbreak and was lonely her whole teenage but i was struggling what to write and how to comfort her and then i saw this notification, i am crying right now this is what i needed the most thank u so much for this and i love u sooo much ❤

  • @APat24
    @APat24 6 місяців тому +3

    I am requesting u again to share ur content in hindi language also. Your content can really help indian Moms and Aunts to take their life in their hands and heal themselves from all the mysoginy

  • @tejaswipradhan5065
    @tejaswipradhan5065 6 місяців тому +1

    I m your biggest fan tam.. you are my inspiration ❤❤

  • @anushka28777
    @anushka28777 6 місяців тому +3

    omg the timing i just had a heartwrenching breakdown an hour ago idk how i am still alive and you......thankyou tam iloveyousomuch😭😭😭😭
    its because of you i have reached this level where i wanna live for myself if not anyone but for me to live for my dream self I'm yet to be thankyou tam you're saving a life

    • @superstudentpk
      @superstudentpk 6 місяців тому

      Hey… just hang in there please. You will get out of this tunnel sooner than you imagine ❤

  • @camilalondono6975
    @camilalondono6975 6 місяців тому +1

    I really want to hug you so much just by watching this video... I'm 21 and listening to fact 13 made me feel better, I wasn't sad rn but when this video came out I was just wondering what to do because I'm not talking to anyone and I'm alone in my room hahaha thank you so much! Greetings from Colombia

  • @christinanassar3
    @christinanassar3 6 місяців тому +3

    i needed this soo muchh , thankyou tam💕

  • @siya4200
    @siya4200 6 місяців тому +1

    The background music 'what was i made for' really lifts up my mood. Ly Tam ❤

  • @khadijabelkhodja7915
    @khadijabelkhodja7915 6 місяців тому +4

    This video comes in the right time

  • @MAITRIV.
    @MAITRIV. 6 місяців тому +9

    This helped me release everything i was holding back,i knew i really loved myself thank you💗

  • @manijike
    @manijike 6 місяців тому +2

    Thank you.
    I have been moving frequently between different countries in the past few years and it has been great, it did a huge impact on my professional life and self growth. However, it has been socially difficult at times. It is hard to make friends with this lifestyle. I could not count how many times I felt the weakness of loneliness and I thought about reaching out to my ex-friends because I knew they would reconnect with me but I always would remind myself the reason why I moved on from them. I am so glad I never slipped and only kept these ideas in my thoughts. I did not have standards when I was younger, it was a huge lesson, I met all kinds of people and some of them taught me why I shouldn't be friends with just anyone. I'm fine alone, I travelled alone a lot. I learned to talk with my family, I used to never talk about my life with them, I would look for strangers to tell about myself. It was not easy to open up to family, but it surprised me that they were actually supportive even thought I never in my life would have thought they would be.