In one of her tiktok's she says "when he begs you to have his baby and then leaves you once you get pregnant." So HE left you? you didn't leave him because you were abused???? HOW SWAY!?!?
That woman probably left out what she did to get him to the point of leaving her and called abuse in a Hail Mary attempt to deflect from her having to admit what she probably did to him. I highly doubt he left just because she was pregnant
@@rhyswheeler858 For all anyone knows, he was begging her for a baby because he was committed to the relationship and wanted to marry her. Then he found out she was cheating on him and is waiting for the baby to be born for a paternity test.
Woman: "My baby daddy left me, and another woman took him, i hate her..." Also woman: "He was abusive that's why i left him..." US : "So why did you make a baby with an abusive partner, and if he really is an abusive POS ... then why be jealous another girl is with him now ?" Woman : "o.O"
That my friend is commonly known as narcissistic personality disorder with a dash of borderline thrown in..home boy had a lucky escape unlike that poor unborn child.
I'd say the latter lmfao. If he was soooo abusive like she said,she wouldn't be trying so hard to get him back. Now she's just trying to ruin his life just because he's with someone else. Calling her petty is too generous
@@GabrielleTollersonyeah, she wasn't abused or she would have lead off with that instead of being a fall back victim. HER : Babe, I have a craving can you go to Taco Bell and get me some Nachos. Him: WTF time is It? 2am????? I gotta get up in 3 hours to go work I'm not going anywhere. Her: You Fucking Monster !!! How dare you, you don't love me, get the Fuck Out Now !!!
My mother and grand mother always told me when i was younger to never get with a woman with allot of tattoos and piercings and I'm sitting here watching your videos and thinking to myself that they couldn't have been more wrong...thanks for being human
Tattoos have nothing to do with the person's personality Tho Tattoos seem to be associated with bikers and gang s Alot of employers especially with front end jobs tend to steer away from employees having visible Tattoos What do you think ? Perhaps that's way people people are turned off
Don't judge a book by it's cover... it's the least i can tell.. Don't just beleive and take action just what the adults told u to do... Listen to your heart..ur heart is ur real parents...
Like you said, IF she was being abused, that was not what came through on her first post. She was shaming the new gf for being with someone that has a baby on the way with someone else. That's what I got out if it at least. You called her out and her response was the classic "he's the bad guy". Not what you first implied. It's too bad, feel for that baby and how she'll be with him and the new gf. Hopefully she doesn't use the baby to hurt anyone.
She's already trying to use the baby as a pawn in her childish games. So chances are, sadly, that she will almost certainly use the child to hurt the father..
@@mynameiselvispresleygirlsa5911 - You're absolutely right. However by putting your business out there on the internet just for clicks/likes, you're opening yourself up to this kind of criticism.. It comes with the territory
"We can just say whatever we want, expect people to believe us, and if anyone denies it, they get called pieces of shit and society backs them up." As a dad dealing with family court, this hits hard af.
Sydney Watson is really pretty and is a public figure why speaks out for men's rights too sometimes. She's given speeches at men's rights events. Most of her content is political or news stories though.
A) this is why i disagree with the "believe women" movement. Women are not intrinsically infallible or always fully honest just by dint of being a woman. Nor are men always liars just for being men. B) anyone who willingly (or accidentally) creates a child has some responsibility to that child. If the guy truly was abusing her, then she can get a restraining order if she chooses. If he just freaked out and ran off, then hes irresponsible. But i agree the girl's messaging on that point seemed inconsistent
I've come to the conclusion that when people complain about women being attacked for making allegations, what they really mean is that the woman isn't completely believed automatically. I think they're counting "let's see what the evidence says" and other non-committal statements as being accusatory. The sad thing is that they'll throw out how few allegations are proven false while ignoring that that percentage is only confirmed false. It's not like there are guys still sitting in prison despite the courts agreeing that an allegation was false. And then when you look at the actual number that percentage means, they're saying that it's okay that hundreds of men are fulfilling sentences for crimes they didn't commit.
i doubt he just "freaked out and left". She was probably abusive. Seeing her behavior tells me she was abusive. And her calling him the abuser is just a huge projection
@@GabrielleTollerson have you noticed on tiktok it's only women hitting men, dunno know why but there just way to many tiktok where is see women hitting their man
They hurt real victims and the falsely accused. In Australia a woman beat her self in an elevator after a argument with her boyfriend and called the cops on him, he went straight to jail and had to prove his case HIMSELF by showing the elevator and hallway footage. Oh and she was living in HIS apartment the whole time. Video is somewhere on UA-cam.
In Oregon, where I live, it is a "woman state". Meaning.. say whatever you want, and the district attorney will ruin a man (even if that man is not even from America). I have seen a man sent to prison for his skin color, another man sent to prison because a woman was mad at him for not wanting her so she made up a fake story, another man for asking his wife in front of their kids if she wanted to go to KFC for dinner (because, apparently.. eating actual food is a crime, who knew). I have seen far more issues as well. When it comes to the aftermath of such criminal enterprises against men, your life is done. PERIOD. Nobody will rent to you, nobody will give you work, nobody will listen to ANYTHING you say. I have seen people obviously innocent of crimes targeted for police stalking and abuse, targeted by parole officers with false claims, targeted for pretty much anything simply because of their criminal history REGARDLESS of validity. So, yea.. it may be a joke or funny or what the hell ever to some women out there, but I guarantee if they were on the end of the stick many men out here are on.. they would cry like hell make the world believe the entire state is full of terrorists for shoving them in prison. And, sadly.. unlike men, they would get listened to, coddled, and money tossed at them to help them in their plight. The men? yea.. what help. They are abused, told they deserve what they are getting, and pretty much left for dead.
I am born/raised and reside in Oregon and I agree with you. I can remember when their was no alimony in Oregon. In Oregon we even had what was called common law for couples. The legal system if you are a man and a lady accuses a man he is up shit creek if he cannot prove he is not guilty. One guy I know he went through a legal nightmare over some nasty accusations. He was smart he got an attorney, he fought the case, said hell no to a plea because he was innocent, and lost everything proving he was innocent. He was able to get her legally charged and on top of that finally clear his name. He had to basically start from scratch again and it has taken him a lot of work. Yet he did it and he is doing great now thankfully. He didn't come from money either he was/is a timber worker like the rest of his family. I don't wish what he went through on anyone yet he showed me and others its possible to get through a nightmare coming out of it stronger. Occasionally you see women get really pinched here yet not as often as men. Can you remember the case of the mother snd father who starved her child in Southern Oregon in I think it was Glendale? She basically was not feeding the baby, father was a dead beat didn't care, and they were both kicked out of the adult work scene. That was one horrible mess. Oregon has had some seriously scary women who have gotten time for nasty stuff you just never hear about it. Look up Diane Downs. Look up the two ladies who stoned the little man to death they did a crime documentary on that one on ID. Oregon is weird legally thats for sure.
Wow. Seems like you've had a front row seat to what happened to me. My wife made a new friend a few years ago. That friend got her strung out on meth and my wife stopped taking her meds for her bipolar. She's also borderline personality. I found out and told her she had to stop. She kept justifying using the meth. I threatened her with a 72 hour mental health evaluation if she didn't enter a treatment program. I told her to think it over and went for a bike ride. I got back to find the cops at my house. She had chosen another option that I had not foreseen. I was arrested for felony domestic battery. I spent 14 days in jail and had to take a plea deal to get out of jail or risk spending 45-60 days more in jail waiting for trial. I told the probation officer my story. Her answer was to include my 3 kids in a stay away protection order. I haven't had contact with my babies in over 3 years now because of it. I haven't seen my dog in over 3 years. I haven't been home or worn my clothes or driven my vehicles in 3 years. Someone else is driving my truck. The bitch that got my wife hooked on meth is. I was also targeted by probation. I was accused of being racist in open court. I lost everything. My whole life. It's as if my kids have died for me. But they are right where I left them. Only I can't contact them or go near them. Not even thru a third party. The kicker is that my wife is a public school teacher. 27 years she's been teaching. The last 5 years she's been on meth. Alot of meth. She exposed my kids to it. She also flunked all 3 out of school in the past 3 years and I couldn't do anything to help them. She has turned our lives upside down. I don't know how to recover from this. I was a contractor but I don't have money to reinstate my license or money to get a bond. I don't have my tools or my truck. I've been living day to day in hotels trying to meet my obligations to the court to complete my probation and not go to prison for 4 years. I couldn't get help from anyone. There are tons of resources and advocacy groups for women as victims of domestic abuse. There is nothing for a man who has been pushed out of his own life for trying to do the right thing for his family. I think about killing myself often. I loved my life until this happened. I'm so sad, lonely and resentful now that I can't stand myself. I don't know what to do. I miss my kids. I'm angry at them too for not standing up for me. I'm a good man. I know I was a good Dad. I had a great father. I know how to be one also. It was taken from me. I identify as a dad. I haven't been one for over 3 years. They should have just killed me because this is torture. I don't deserve this. My kids are going to suffer in life because of this. She's a teacher. She's supposed to know about healthy child development. She just doesn't care. Saving her own ass was more important to her then the well being of her own kids.
@@jimig399 what u should do is find a job in another state let them think u forgot about them. They will get even more comfortable. Get you a private detective 🕵️♂️. Get all the evidence you need to get your kids back. Buy u a house and new start. Don't be mad at your kids. They have A bound with their mom no one can take it away so she can put any lie in there head and they will believe it. Just do what u can to get them and don't try and discredit their mom. She will do that own her own. First thing first get the job in another state with good pay!
@dave hopkins why would you say such a thing? And to who are you responding? me? others? everyone?? People in this world do suffer wrongdoing such as described here. It is NOT always a fake story, either. Lastly, I see no reason to post something that seeks to shame someone for their skin color. Please do not do that again.
I am so happy I happened upon you! I wish my son had someone like you in his life! A woman with some plain true thoughts. My grandkids would be a lot happier and in a much better place emotionally! KEEP IT UP! My son is over seas working, I'm sending him this ! So he will know not every woman is crazy mean!!! Love you lady❤
As the victim of false allegations (TWICE), I can tell you that you hit the nail SQAURELY on the head when you said it can impact us hard...I have dropped out of dealing with women on ANY level beyond that which is required for almost 8 years now. I have some old female friends and, of course, deal with women professionally, but I refuse to date or be romantically/physically involved AT ALL. For example, I go to great lengths to NEVER be alone with a woman. The impact those accusations had on my life reverberates through EVERY facet...including financially! I paid over $150,000 in legal fees to stay out of prison and was a prisoner in my own life for 4 years (due to an OFP that granted her amazing power over my life and work). BUT... I feel like you touched on but missed the BIGGEST lover in this "game"...the kids. My sons (I have 2) both refuse to speak to their mother and go out of their way to avoid dealing with women in general. They've been irreparably damaged because their mother lied to try to hurt me (to cover her guilt from having an affair)...
Spot on, as usual. My ex from 11 years ago just posted a bunch of videos all over social media accusing me of being a predator/abuser since before we met. But just now started proclaiming it. If she knew 11 years ago why just now say anything about it? It seems this is often a way to derail the conversation when they are caught red-handed in a lie
What got me was that she was more worried about her childs father being with another woman than the fact that an abusive relationship was over and she and her child were free from an abusive situation. If he was so bad, why worry about him being with someone else, shouldn't the other woman's health be of more importance as you said?
Abudive means she tried to control and dominate him. he acted defiant and insubordinate. So she screamed at him for an hour and hit him multiple times. And then he hit her back once
Her when called out for being a toxic POS mother before even giving birth: "hE aBUsEd mE" What actually happened: he raised his voice a little cause she wouldn't allow him to talk during an argument or something and left him
It’s so mind boggling to me how people will say that they don’t care about their ex and what their ex does or that their ex was a horrible person but then make videos about them. If you really didn’t care about them, then you wouldn’t even think about them or let them upset you. You would be happy that they aren’t in your life anymore or if they were doing well, then you would be happy for them. Her baby daddy lives rent free in her head. His new girlfriend probably is nicer than her and that’s why he is dating a new woman. If he did abuse her though, I feel very sorry for his new girlfriend. It’s just a matter of time before he hurts her too.
Wrong site.......the men on this site have been thru the wringer. We have ALL been in relationships where the women were abusive liars. That man has moved on......she needs to grow up and move on too. Don't defend the stalker. The only reason she made that video is to chase the new girlfriend away. She probably blows up his cell and social media too. 🤨
@@quiriniagstevenson13 I like what you said about when it's over its over and they have no real estate in your mind or life. Your comment is well written and has great points thank you.
It's almost as if the guy wasn't as "abusive" as she's making him out to be and keeping things general and vague on purpose. Toxic masculinity involves physical aggression, toxic feminity involves manipulation
Sadly... what qualifies as "abuse" these days... is simply hearing "no" from someone. Something tells me this girl didn't leave him, but that he left her. Her original video comes across as petty and jealous. Not cute at all. Why would the other woman care about a child that isn't hers(other than him owning his responsibility)? But this is another reason why it's a bad idea to air "dirty laundry" on the internet. No one needs to know your business, and once you put it out there, they are going to have their own interpretations of what you put out. If she was abused, that sucks. But given her first video never addressed that... I am inclined to believe she made that up after being called out, as a sad attempt to save face after looking very petty, and very jealous.
My ex called me abusive because I liked to talk about difficult situations.... She rather just "not think about it." Please note, I'm only referring to negative situations--if everything was good, then we were good, but as soon as we had a disagreement (no matter how big or small), she'd disappear for weeks rather than talking it out to squash it. Then when she came back she'd act like nothing happened... I think the simplest, yet craziest example of this that made me realize I needed to dart was when we had a disagreement on what restaurant we were going to go to for dinner. Since she wanted to get take out and chill at home anyway, I said why can't we stop at each place and I'll still pay for both meals... She flipped out and blocked me for 2 weeks and said that I was difficult... Yea, I had to leave her because it seemed crazy to not be able to talk to my gf.
If he's truly abusive, why does she care if he's moved on? Why does him having a new girlfriend spark her to make a video about "I don't know if I'm happy or mad?" I get maybe warning the new girl to protect her safety if he REALLY is abusive but she just screams "I'm a jealous and insecure woman." I've never seen an abuse victim go on social media and taunt their abuser.
I agree when I first read what she wrote on her video about him made me think toxic. You don't just talk about your ex like that and not except people not to believe you or get suspicious or maybe confused. The way she worded it made me feel like she's the type of women who doesn't want a man, but doesn't want him to date someone else just because shes pregnant and that is a golden jewel that controls him when its not.
Control is the key word. She wants control. If he were really an abuser, she would avoid him. But noooo, she's blowing up his social media, probably his cell too. Trying to run off the new girlfriend. Basically stalking. Nope.....that woman is lying. He has moved on, and she doesn't want him free of her clutches. 🤨
As a man who had his baby mom damn near flip everyone I had at that time against me and some still hate me to this day based on her lies I really appreciate the way you approached this topic and that's the exact way the video came off as she was bitter about not having the man as a possession anymore. Thank you so much for everything you do and your strong will to stand for us.
The messed up thing is women can say things like this and men are not allowed to question it without being attacked for even being curious as to wether or not it's even true cause if you don't just blindly believe everything they say your a pos! That's messed up
I truly appreciate all your videos. As a Father who actually defeated/overcame Parental Alienation, it's refreshing to see Women who "get it". Keep going! Sometimes, all it takes is one voice.
I honestly don't know if what this woman said is true, Miss Roma. It looks and feels really sketchy to me, as an outside observer, and yet, I feel that you make great points. Please understand that I have watched false allegations happen to someone, and have been one of the people whose looked at the person wrongfully accused differently. That said, when the truth came out, though, I was positively livid with the accuser, and just cut ties wholesale from said accuser. Then the accused went back to them, and I screamed "This person almost landed you in prison, are you nuts!?" They still went to their accuser. I just let them do their thing because I saw I couldn't stop them. Truth wins out eventually. What the people choose to do with that truth is up to them.
If someone is actually able to make a false allegation to the police they are likely manipulative and abusive themselves. Just as women often go back to male abusers, I suspect men go back to female abusers. I'm not sure where to look off hand, but if you are serious about helping your friend, maybe talking to an abuse hotline or expert is necessary.
@@MrQuantumInc The story I told happened many years ago, and I did, by calling their parents after a particularly toxic episode involving the victim here. They were having suicidal thoughts after a particularly bad day with their depression, and I allowed a bit of my rage out in my words as I stopped their thoughts upon the desire leaving their lips. Then, the victim told me they were dating their abuser. That was when I snapped, turned towards them, and said what I initially posted at the top of my lungs, shaking in rage and frustration, because I literally refused to go to the tenth funeral of someone I cared for in three years, especially a person my own age at the time, and swore to do all in my power to prevent that from happening. I then confiscated all items they could use to cause self harm and had a friend call their parents with my phone. I told their parents "get this person help before I have another funeral full of people's pain on my conscience for not being able to help the mourners." A few months after this incident, the victim told me that I was a true friend and thanked me. To my knowledge, they still went to the abusive manipulator after I moved away. I agree with your statements. I purposely left out gender, because in my personal life experience, all unwarranted abuse, and especially sources of pain within one's very soul and core being, have neither gender nor excuse. Physical pain hurts temporarily. Pain of the Soul can cripple forever if left untreated, and can become a venomous poison if allowed to fester long enough. I myself struggle with that same poison, and have extracted most of it, but it has taken more than a full decade of diligence on my part to get where I am at, and it still rears its face. Please hear that I meant to illustrate my own experiences without giving specific data, for respect for all involved. I hope you have a wonderful day, and that you are given the chance to smile with all your heart. Please be safe and well.
When I read your title that “she did the unthinkable”, I thought maybe she owned up to her error and actually took responsibility for her behavior. IMO that would be far more unthinkable than a woman chucking out a lie of physical abuse.
Roma you are such an amazing woman, seriously it’s so awesome to see a woman standing up to point out the unfairness towards men in society which is just a given and totally accepted these days. Absolute Respect from the Manchester, UK. Please never try any suicide attempt again as the world would lose and amazing speaker giving a much needed perspective which will help so many lives.
Her: "Oh shit!? I'm being called out, hmmm oh I know, I'll say he "abused" me to defuse the argument. That way I won't look like the monster she thinks I am" Roma: Domestic abuse is very serious and I wish that on no one, however, I see you through your lie but I won't say it just in case it's true........(it's not) Me: hmmm Roma IQ is high, and yet, abuse is everyone's Achille's Heel.
@dave hopkins interesting, I'm not sure you understand. You said, "Roma abuse's children", like you have proof, I'll believe you if you have it. Any to share? (If not, then you're in the wrong section)
As a man who tries to walk the delicate line between men's rights awareness and supportive solidarity, I am blown away by the impressive candor, professional etiquette and charm you bring to these topics. You are an inspiration!
I really wanna know if she's posted anything about his abuse on like previous posts. This seems so out of nowhere. You have a good point on how she doesn't seem to be concerned with the fact that the new girl is with an abusive man. It shows that either she's lying or she has no regard for the other girls safety and only cares for owning the man.
I can't stop binge watching your videos!!! Roma you are incredible!!!!! Thank you for everything you are doing to help humanity gain some damn sense!!!!
You know, it's not often that you see good, even-minded people like yourself. I can't say I always agree with everything you say or the way you say it, but I do like that you say the same things in both sides of the gender line. You call out bad behavior whether it's from men or women, and you compliment good behavior the same. It's very refreshing. Thank you.
I feel it best to let someone just go with their stories because when it boils down, everyone is playing victim. But the ones talking shit are going to always know they're talking shit. Which is what keeps them so upset. And nothing need be done with them. We all know people can be crap regardless of their gender. Red flags are so important to learn. Prevention is always better than cure.
I really respect what you're doing. Especially your educated and literate responses, thank you for Englishing so everyone can understand! Very refreshing! Much love.
"he abused me, impregnated me, then left me for someone else... And it's her fault"... This is the vibe I'm getting off the OP, and honestly it sounds like misplaced blame at best... spiteful catty behaviour otherwise... Neither seems productive.
This is an excellent point. Thank you for making this video. The accountability just isn't there at all, and most people I would say can't even spot what you just pointed out.
I would have a hard time believing a woman who claims abuse after my ex claimed that when we would have a conversation, not even a raised voice, she claimed she felt uncomfortable, and that was her definition of abuse.
I really hope your testimonials and insights reach the ears and thoughts of those who work within the judicial system to help prevent further perversions of justice. Good work Roma 👏 👏 👏
Yeah, that gal is lying and playing the manipulation game. What if the possibility he's not the father because due to her demeanor and body language, she seems to sleep around if she doesn't get her way and lie about it. That "snap wrist" thing is actual proof of a liar and a cheater at life.
It looks like you kind of hit the nail on the head with the situation. It's very brilliant that you think things thoroughly and try to do what is right. You are appreciated.
I love that you call people out. Someone close to me was falsely accused of stuff out of spite. And now he's losing his life because of her false alligations
Just stumbled upon your channel and I absolutely love it. I really appreciate the work you're doing and I look forward to more of the content you provide.
You would think with a big component of the situation being abuse she would have mentioned that in the first video she posted.... I dislike calling a victim a liar but in this case, yeah it really does seem like she's full of it..
The issue here is the presumption of victimhood. When an accusation is made, if we assume victim status, and then dislike calling people a liar when they come forward with an accusation and no evidence, we offer a protection to all liars by giving out the free category of "victim." This is why our court system is innocent until proven guilty: every other system would create the opportunity for massive harm on nothing but an accusation. My general go to is if you have truly been deeply hurt, go to the authorities, not the internet to "win an argument."
Been on the receiving end of false allegations just like this in family court. It was fucked up then and still bothers me to this day that it was said and automatically believed without any proof or chance of rebuttal. Thanks for putting these videos out into the world.
Yeah, who knows what the whole situation is, but what I got from her first vid is that she's mad baby daddy got a new gf instead of staying with her, which to be fair she has a right to be upset about because it's crap to get a girl pregnant and then bounce. Of course there are situations where it's ultimately better for the kid for a parent to not be in the picture, i.e. an actual abusive guy or girl. But if SHE left HIM because he was in fact ABUSIVE, her video makes no sense.
Excellent analysis and commentary on the unstable state of current human relationships. I am fearful for how children are being raised, their being shown the disrespectful nature of the grownups that are their supposed role models. Sad to see the loss of family love, bonding, support, values and loyalty to a shared goal. Please keep telling it how it is as so many need to hear your dose of reality. Rare is the male who has not been falsely accused of some perceived wrongdoing, it is not forgotten and does affect our future relationships with the opposite sex. I was brought up to respect and value women and I am trying to still do so in spite of the state of current affairs.
Spot on yet again! Thank you for what you do 🙏 many real women don't call these childish girls out on their shit but instead encourage them and copy eachother trying to make these disgusting actions socially acceptable.
I understand your side and how it seems, but I can also see her side from a slightly different perspective at least from just the first portion of the video. She seems like she’s upset at the father for leaving, and that’s understandable seeing as he’s the father. And we don’t know the whole situation. I’m saying all of this as a guy. I just hate not seeing both peoples sides to the story. It feels unfair.
When looking at it again, I feel like I can agree with your comment. No doubt that there are women who get pregnant so that the man stays, but with this one clip where the pregnant woman is pointing out that the guy is with another girl and has the previous one pregnant is really the only evidence to be seen at face value. She might be showing it out of spite and, forbid, shows it as a form of regret that she wants to also point out to him. We will never know what happened in between these two events. All I can say for sure is that I'm glad to know that I am not missing out on anything with apps such as TikTok.
I can’t take this playground the world is these days… even if you stand up for yourself they will be then working on leaving you high and dry because the fear that you have boundaries means you might leave them… in the mean time creating a smear campaign about you behind you back so some how all the opportunities you used to have suddenly disappeared and and then when you end up struggling you’re a dead beat even though you only work do drink or do drugs and they get smashed regularly… As a example years ago, when I still felt safe enough to go out for a drink, she would go out four days in a row, stay out so late I was late for work each day for her to take over parenting… after those 4 days I think “fuck it, I’m having one night” and then she complains she doesn’t get to go out!?!?!?!??!? Trying to comprehend that is abusive enough without all the gaslighting. Because I have a daughter I luckily never have nothing to lose, but I’ve wished to be dead so many times
You see, I watched this and thought that maybe the baby mama was suffering from Stockholm Syndrome, then I looked at it again and realised that there is no way it could be, because someone suffering from Stockholm Syndrome can't identify that their partner is abusing them, they see it as their partners way of showing love, but the baby mama clearly stated that the baby daddy was "abusive" but as soon as she pulled that card she neglected her previous post, why would you be jealous of your abuser after "you left them". It astounds me how women can just clap their hands, point their fingers, cry wolf and get away with it. I say this while being a woman myself, and I am ashamed of the other women and girls that I see that think its okay to falsely accuse someone of something that can thoroughly ruin their lives. Even at my angriest and most emotional moments I would never disrespect or manipulate someone in such a manner
I don't think it's anyone's place to judge based on the emotions she's feeling. Like if she's got some weird stuff going on in her head space, especially if he was mentally and verbally abusive, jealousy over that isn't a hard emotional state to be in. I also don't think it's anyone's place to be calling people out on their social media posts about their significant other, because I think those posts should have less credence in general to any real situation. Like, someone is talking shit on social media, what else is new, why do we allow that venue to be used as a way to punish other humans? We really opened Pandora's box with this shit. Idk if you're right or wrong here, but I do know social media isn't the right venue for abuse and rape allegations because there's no consequences for false allegations and where social media will remove ANYTHING misinformation about covid, and anything else that offends the hard left sensitivity of it's userbase, they'll remove someone trying to defend themselves before they'll ever remove the content of the accuser. All I'm saying ladies, is take your accusations to the courts.
I moved into a new place with my wife and 2 daughters and the woman across the hall asked my wife if the kids were all from same dad. This was in 1992 .But today It's so common. Hopefully people can put their children first
My wife and I split just after my son turned two because of martial issues arose. Now, I get told I "abandoned" my son for moving back to my hometown because her and her family wanted me to move out SO BADLY. And now I'm blocked on Facebook from even video chatting with my son. Haven't even gotten to see the little booger since October. Miss that little shit.
I feel the whole false claims are what contribute to a lot of the disbelief when a victim steps up. So thank you for calling it out when you see it, because imo there are a lot of victims out there who are either afraid of speaking out or who did and wernt believed, because of those who make false allegations.
Only only chest discomfort your channel and all I can say is just mad respect thank you for being well with you people in this world you are actual voice of reason and a lot of the things you say resent with me on a serious level
I'm glad even tho stuff didn't add up she never said she didn't experience abuse (as an actual victim it does scare me when ppl do say ppl don't) but instead said that the way she said things was bad explanation
Not specifically relevant to the video but I wanted to say thank you. You’re videos and commentary have really helped me pull myself out of a bad mindset. I was falsely accused of sexual harassment, nearing rape, by an ex girlfriend I’d left of my own volition. I lost the respect of all my peers and instructors and barely made it through my college in spite of the extreme stress through being ridiculed and ostracized for two years, four days a week five hours a day. I even came to the point where I’d convinced myself I was in the wrong, that maybe I had in fact done something wrong. And while I can’t obviously 100% prove my place in that narrative, I’m extremely grateful to my best friend who stuck with me, my family who supported me, the director of student conduct at my college who handled the situation fairly and expertly, and finally I’m grateful to people like you who have restored my faith in the prospect of a real, healthy relationship without constant fear of my entire life being destroyed.
It is so true that women can say whatever they want and effect a man’s wife I’ve had it happen to me no evidence and still got convicted I couldn’t even get a job at Walmart because of it I love this channel because you spread a lot of wisdom and insight thank you 🙏
I don't even have words for how validated if feel. This exact thing happened to me and I was treated like a villain and people made it out like I was a monster because I left a terrible toxic relationship. My ex started screaming from the roof tops s combination of that's my baby daddy I own him even if he's with you now it doesn't matter because when he comes home it will be to me then alternating with he's abusive he hit me on numerous occasions he even hit me in the stomach and tried to hurt the baby on purpose and the irony of the situation is in out entire telationship she's the only one who ever hit anyone at one point I even sat down with the girl I just started dating and told her with all the problems my ex is causing if u want to leave or if u don't feel safe around me I'd understand if u didn't wanna do this and at least she was a real one she pointed out if I really beat her up and all that shit why is she so obsessed with getting back with me.
You called her out, she got mad, felt stupid as hell and she knew she was wrong, but she don't wanna own up to it. You stood your ground and did your thing. Keep up the good work 👍🏾
Whether you nailed it or not you still are very smart intellectual. And I think that you worded it well and got all the information out there right for her to think about and others. Keep putting up the good fight and I appreciate what you do
Roma, you are right on ALL the time. I got accused of physical abuse to ex, to my son and sexual abuse to my 2 little girls. After almost 5 years in court, it was proved ex made it all up to alienate me from my kids lives. Guess who got full custody? ... yours truly. Thanks for your content that reveals the manipulation of some women.
I appreciate a lot of the common sense you put out into the world. I hope some of that trickles down and around and reaches my brother. Just another baby momma situation holding his child hostage under the guise of terrible dad and abused mother but us family members can see nothing but a confused, abused and under developed little girl under her care. There was an opportunity where she was going to loose her children and my brother got his daughter for 5 months and in that time just physically and emotionally this child was transformed into a much brighter soul but again, jealous the “hurt mother” was able to get the courts to have the child forced from his care and is now back where she was. It’s sad what society has done to empower terrible women and shît on the men.
You really are one extraordinary woman. Thank you, bringing your intelligence, humour, fair and rational mind, eloquence and Truth to us. I am a 48 year young woman and have been very aware and angered by these kind of manipulative women for over 20 years. If anything it is getting worse. Thank you for advocating and supporting all the good men out there.
Ive been falsely accused of abuse AND falsely accused of rape. Different women. Anyone who knows me knows not only would i do neither, but im incredibly protective of my loved ones. In some cases annoyingly so. It nearly destroyed me. I picked my crown up and put it on, hit the weights, and havent looked back since. Im the lucky one because too many men take their lives over these false allegations.
Had to deal with my husband's ex wife who he had two kids with. She was able to date multiple men but she wanted him in the closet to drain his bank account. As soon as we started dating she was mad and we got an apartment together and she said I had to leave when the kids come around. When I was pregnant she would call my unborn baby names and used the kids as weapons towards him. I absolutely agree with you
your baby bump tik tok was so cute, I hope your pregnancy is fun and we get to see you thrive through the next 9, congrats on the new edition to your family!
In one of her tiktok's she says "when he begs you to have his baby and then leaves you once you get pregnant." So HE left you? you didn't leave him because you were abused???? HOW SWAY!?!?
That woman probably left out what she did to get him to the point of leaving her and called abuse in a Hail Mary attempt to deflect from her having to admit what she probably did to him. I highly doubt he left just because she was pregnant
@@rhyswheeler858 You're making too much sense
@@rhyswheeler858 For all anyone knows, he was begging her for a baby because he was committed to the relationship and wanted to marry her. Then he found out she was cheating on him and is waiting for the baby to be born for a paternity test.
Good point...maybe SHE WAS the toxic one and he saw through the BS 🤔
@@rhyswheeler858 EXACTLY
Woman: "My baby daddy left me, and another woman took him, i hate her..."
Also woman: "He was abusive that's why i left him..."
US : "So why did you make a baby with an abusive partner, and if he really is an abusive POS ... then why be jealous another girl is with him now ?"
Woman : "o.O"
exactly
Checkmate
That my friend is commonly known as narcissistic personality disorder with a dash of borderline thrown in..home boy had a lucky escape unlike that poor unborn child.
"Because f..k logic, that's why!"
I always say that at least when you have one person telling you two different things you don't have to wonder who is lying.
if there were more men and women like you in this world there would be a lot more happy children
100% agree with this. People need to try harder to be better and Roma’s really helping set the example. Happy to be here.
That’s fact my dude
Yep
Facts man, 100%
Agreed
As a false allegation survivor you are spot on, family court was a nightmare
We have no idea of what abuse means to her. It could mean she got punched in the mouth or it could mean he didn't want to make a Taco Bell run at 2am.
Most likely the latter.
I'd say the latter lmfao. If he was soooo abusive like she said,she wouldn't be trying so hard to get him back. Now she's just trying to ruin his life just because he's with someone else. Calling her petty is too generous
@@GabrielleTollersonyeah, she wasn't abused or she would have lead off with that instead of being a fall back victim.
HER : Babe, I have a craving can you go to Taco Bell and get me some Nachos.
Him: WTF time is It? 2am?????
I gotta get up in 3 hours to go work I'm not going anywhere.
Her: You Fucking Monster !!! How dare you, you don't love me, get the Fuck Out Now !!!
“Calmly establishes boundaries”
Stop yelling at me.
They are liars.
It often means he was just honest with her and spoke to her as an adult.
My mother and grand mother always told me when i was younger to never get with a woman with allot of tattoos and piercings and I'm sitting here watching your videos and thinking to myself that they couldn't have been more wrong...thanks for being human
Tattoos have nothing to do with the person's personality
Tho Tattoos seem to be associated with bikers and gang s
Alot of employers especially with front end jobs tend to steer away from employees having visible Tattoos
What do you think ?
Perhaps that's way people people are turned off
Don't judge a book by it's cover... it's the least i can tell.. Don't just beleive and take action just what the adults told u to do... Listen to your heart..ur heart is ur real parents...
Just because she has good points doesnt mean she is good, she has NSFW content on her Patreon dude
@@updaet6870 true. This was written before i found that stuff out about her.
No. The rule still applies. This woman is an extreme exception, and that is why I believe that people can and do change
Like you said, IF she was being abused, that was not what came through on her first post. She was shaming the new gf for being with someone that has a baby on the way with someone else. That's what I got out if it at least. You called her out and her response was the classic "he's the bad guy". Not what you first implied. It's too bad, feel for that baby and how she'll be with him and the new gf. Hopefully she doesn't use the baby to hurt anyone.
You don't know the full story, either, though.
She's already trying to use the baby as a pawn in her childish games. So chances are, sadly, that she will almost certainly use the child to hurt the father..
@@mynameiselvispresleygirlsa5911 - You're absolutely right. However by putting your business out there on the internet just for clicks/likes, you're opening yourself up to this kind of criticism.. It comes with the territory
@@CaptnCrunch247 true. I would never blast my business like that
Where were you when i was in my toxic relationship, i needed this validation lol damn girl you logical, good shit
"We can just say whatever we want, expect people to believe us, and if anyone denies it, they get called pieces of shit and society backs them up."
As a dad dealing with family court, this hits hard af.
Are there any more women out there just as honest and beautiful as you? You are awesome!! Thank you!
Sydney Watson is really pretty and is a public figure why speaks out for men's rights too sometimes. She's given speeches at men's rights events. Most of her content is political or news stories though.
@Toren1156 what
Lol it's probably not even his baby
My girl is!
@Brad1980 Must be nice.
Been on the receiving end of false abuse claims in court, so can say your spot on with how the system is used for personal gain.
A) this is why i disagree with the "believe women" movement. Women are not intrinsically infallible or always fully honest just by dint of being a woman. Nor are men always liars just for being men.
B) anyone who willingly (or accidentally) creates a child has some responsibility to that child. If the guy truly was abusing her, then she can get a restraining order if she chooses. If he just freaked out and ran off, then hes irresponsible. But i agree the girl's messaging on that point seemed inconsistent
I've come to the conclusion that when people complain about women being attacked for making allegations, what they really mean is that the woman isn't completely believed automatically. I think they're counting "let's see what the evidence says" and other non-committal statements as being accusatory. The sad thing is that they'll throw out how few allegations are proven false while ignoring that that percentage is only confirmed false. It's not like there are guys still sitting in prison despite the courts agreeing that an allegation was false. And then when you look at the actual number that percentage means, they're saying that it's okay that hundreds of men are fulfilling sentences for crimes they didn't commit.
EXACTLY
i doubt he just "freaked out and left". She was probably abusive. Seeing her behavior tells me she was abusive. And her calling him the abuser is just a huge projection
@@GabrielleTollerson have you noticed on tiktok it's only women hitting men, dunno know why but there just way to many tiktok where is see women hitting their man
party wolf
Why do women never protest fake accusations? They hurt the real victims. The system needs to stop allowing this
They hurt real victims and the falsely accused. In Australia a woman beat her self in an elevator after a argument with her boyfriend and called the cops on him, he went straight to jail and had to prove his case HIMSELF by showing the elevator and hallway footage. Oh and she was living in HIS apartment the whole time. Video is somewhere on UA-cam.
In Oregon, where I live, it is a "woman state". Meaning.. say whatever you want, and the district attorney will ruin a man (even if that man is not even from America). I have seen a man sent to prison for his skin color, another man sent to prison because a woman was mad at him for not wanting her so she made up a fake story, another man for asking his wife in front of their kids if she wanted to go to KFC for dinner (because, apparently.. eating actual food is a crime, who knew). I have seen far more issues as well. When it comes to the aftermath of such criminal enterprises against men, your life is done. PERIOD. Nobody will rent to you, nobody will give you work, nobody will listen to ANYTHING you say. I have seen people obviously innocent of crimes targeted for police stalking and abuse, targeted by parole officers with false claims, targeted for pretty much anything simply because of their criminal history REGARDLESS of validity.
So, yea.. it may be a joke or funny or what the hell ever to some women out there, but I guarantee if they were on the end of the stick many men out here are on.. they would cry like hell make the world believe the entire state is full of terrorists for shoving them in prison. And, sadly.. unlike men, they would get listened to, coddled, and money tossed at them to help them in their plight. The men? yea.. what help. They are abused, told they deserve what they are getting, and pretty much left for dead.
I am born/raised and reside in Oregon and I agree with you. I can remember when their was no alimony in Oregon. In Oregon we even had what was called common law for couples. The legal system if you are a man and a lady accuses a man he is up shit creek if he cannot prove he is not guilty. One guy I know he went through a legal nightmare over some nasty accusations. He was smart he got an attorney, he fought the case, said hell no to a plea because he was innocent, and lost everything proving he was innocent. He was able to get her legally charged and on top of that finally clear his name. He had to basically start from scratch again and it has taken him a lot of work. Yet he did it and he is doing great now thankfully. He didn't come from money either he was/is a timber worker like the rest of his family. I don't wish what he went through on anyone yet he showed me and others its possible to get through a nightmare coming out of it stronger. Occasionally you see women get really pinched here yet not as often as men. Can you remember the case of the mother snd father who starved her child in Southern Oregon in I think it was Glendale? She basically was not feeding the baby, father was a dead beat didn't care, and they were both kicked out of the adult work scene. That was one horrible mess. Oregon has had some seriously scary women who have gotten time for nasty stuff you just never hear about it. Look up Diane Downs. Look up the two ladies who stoned the little man to death they did a crime documentary on that one on ID. Oregon is weird legally thats for sure.
Wow. Seems like you've had a front row seat to what happened to me. My wife made a new friend a few years ago. That friend got her strung out on meth and my wife stopped taking her meds for her bipolar. She's also borderline personality. I found out and told her she had to stop. She kept justifying using the meth. I threatened her with a 72 hour mental health evaluation if she didn't enter a treatment program. I told her to think it over and went for a bike ride. I got back to find the cops at my house. She had chosen another option that I had not foreseen. I was arrested for felony domestic battery. I spent 14 days in jail and had to take a plea deal to get out of jail or risk spending 45-60 days more in jail waiting for trial. I told the probation officer my story. Her answer was to include my 3 kids in a stay away protection order. I haven't had contact with my babies in over 3 years now because of it. I haven't seen my dog in over 3 years. I haven't been home or worn my clothes or driven my vehicles in 3 years. Someone else is driving my truck. The bitch that got my wife hooked on meth is. I was also targeted by probation. I was accused of being racist in open court. I lost everything. My whole life. It's as if my kids have died for me. But they are right where I left them. Only I can't contact them or go near them. Not even thru a third party. The kicker is that my wife is a public school teacher. 27 years she's been teaching. The last 5 years she's been on meth. Alot of meth. She exposed my kids to it. She also flunked all 3 out of school in the past 3 years and I couldn't do anything to help them. She has turned our lives upside down. I don't know how to recover from this. I was a contractor but I don't have money to reinstate my license or money to get a bond. I don't have my tools or my truck. I've been living day to day in hotels trying to meet my obligations to the court to complete my probation and not go to prison for 4 years. I couldn't get help from anyone. There are tons of resources and advocacy groups for women as victims of domestic abuse. There is nothing for a man who has been pushed out of his own life for trying to do the right thing for his family. I think about killing myself often. I loved my life until this happened. I'm so sad, lonely and resentful now that I can't stand myself. I don't know what to do. I miss my kids. I'm angry at them too for not standing up for me. I'm a good man. I know I was a good Dad. I had a great father. I know how to be one also. It was taken from me. I identify as a dad. I haven't been one for over 3 years. They should have just killed me because this is torture. I don't deserve this. My kids are going to suffer in life because of this. She's a teacher. She's supposed to know about healthy child development. She just doesn't care. Saving her own ass was more important to her then the well being of her own kids.
Bro I really need some details on that KFC story
@@jimig399 what u should do is find a job in another state let them think u forgot about them. They will get even more comfortable. Get you a private detective 🕵️♂️. Get all the evidence you need to get your kids back. Buy u a house and new start. Don't be mad at your kids. They have A bound with their mom no one can take it away so she can put any lie in there head and they will believe it. Just do what u can to get them and don't try and discredit their mom. She will do that own her own. First thing first get the job in another state with good pay!
@dave hopkins why would you say such a thing? And to who are you responding? me? others? everyone?? People in this world do suffer wrongdoing such as described here. It is NOT always a fake story, either. Lastly, I see no reason to post something that seeks to shame someone for their skin color. Please do not do that again.
I am so happy I happened upon you! I wish my son had someone like you in his life! A woman with some plain true thoughts. My grandkids would be a lot happier and in a much better place emotionally! KEEP IT UP! My son is over seas working, I'm sending him this ! So he will know not every woman is crazy mean!!! Love you lady❤
Not gonna lie. Lol that’s SFW-ish content post made me laugh out loud. Lol
I love your content all of it. Your amazing please keep up Gods work. Lol
As the victim of false allegations (TWICE), I can tell you that you hit the nail SQAURELY on the head when you said it can impact us hard...I have dropped out of dealing with women on ANY level beyond that which is required for almost 8 years now. I have some old female friends and, of course, deal with women professionally, but I refuse to date or be romantically/physically involved AT ALL. For example, I go to great lengths to NEVER be alone with a woman. The impact those accusations had on my life reverberates through EVERY facet...including financially! I paid over $150,000 in legal fees to stay out of prison and was a prisoner in my own life for 4 years (due to an OFP that granted her amazing power over my life and work).
BUT...
I feel like you touched on but missed the BIGGEST lover in this "game"...the kids. My sons (I have 2) both refuse to speak to their mother and go out of their way to avoid dealing with women in general. They've been irreparably damaged because their mother lied to try to hurt me (to cover her guilt from having an affair)...
Kings, Stop setting yourself up, This guy will end up wishing he spent $1 on a condom
But the real loser will be the kid.
Absolutely true.
Hey c'mon, don't bring the baby into they didn't do nothin'
The kid might be a strong giga chad that will grow up as a better person then the kid's mother and i really wish him the best. He didnt deserve this
@@filo8197 hopefully the child comes out better. I hope they don’t go through the trauma this shit causes. Poor baby.
Loser? For what?
It's "the real victim" not "the real loser"
Spot on, as usual. My ex from 11 years ago just posted a bunch of videos all over social media accusing me of being a predator/abuser since before we met. But just now started proclaiming it. If she knew 11 years ago why just now say anything about it? It seems this is often a way to derail the conversation when they are caught red-handed in a lie
What got me was that she was more worried about her childs father being with another woman than the fact that an abusive relationship was over and she and her child were free from an abusive situation. If he was so bad, why worry about him being with someone else, shouldn't the other woman's health be of more importance as you said?
Abudive means she tried to control and dominate him. he acted defiant and insubordinate. So she screamed at him for an hour and hit him multiple times. And then he hit her back once
exactly
@@anitabonghit2758 YEP!!
I think it's possible she didn't care one way or the other and she was just hoping it would make for a viral video.
because she is lying
Her when called out for being a toxic POS mother before even giving birth: "hE aBUsEd mE"
What actually happened: he raised his voice a little cause she wouldn't allow him to talk during an argument or something and left him
It’s so mind boggling to me how people will say that they don’t care about their ex and what their ex does or that their ex was a horrible person but then make videos about them. If you really didn’t care about them, then you wouldn’t even think about them or let them upset you. You would be happy that they aren’t in your life anymore or if they were doing well, then you would be happy for them. Her baby daddy lives rent free in her head. His new girlfriend probably is nicer than her and that’s why he is dating a new woman. If he did abuse her though, I feel very sorry for his new girlfriend. It’s just a matter of time before he hurts her too.
Wrong site.......the men on this site have been thru the wringer. We have ALL been in relationships where the women were abusive liars. That man has moved on......she needs to grow up and move on too. Don't defend the stalker. The only reason she made that video is to chase the new girlfriend away. She probably blows up his cell and social media too. 🤨
@@commanderbracey7501 Thank you for your comment. I understand that. That is why I said “If.” I never said that he abused her.
@@quiriniagstevenson13 fair enough 👌
@@quiriniagstevenson13 I like what you said about when it's over its over and they have no real estate in your mind or life. Your comment is well written and has great points thank you.
It's almost as if the guy wasn't as "abusive" as she's making him out to be and keeping things general and vague on purpose. Toxic masculinity involves physical aggression, toxic feminity involves manipulation
Sadly... what qualifies as "abuse" these days... is simply hearing "no" from someone. Something tells me this girl didn't leave him, but that he left her. Her original video comes across as petty and jealous. Not cute at all. Why would the other woman care about a child that isn't hers(other than him owning his responsibility)? But this is another reason why it's a bad idea to air "dirty laundry" on the internet. No one needs to know your business, and once you put it out there, they are going to have their own interpretations of what you put out. If she was abused, that sucks. But given her first video never addressed that... I am inclined to believe she made that up after being called out, as a sad attempt to save face after looking very petty, and very jealous.
Yea true story not giving people what they want is abuse these days
My ex called me abusive because I liked to talk about difficult situations.... She rather just "not think about it." Please note, I'm only referring to negative situations--if everything was good, then we were good, but as soon as we had a disagreement (no matter how big or small), she'd disappear for weeks rather than talking it out to squash it. Then when she came back she'd act like nothing happened... I think the simplest, yet craziest example of this that made me realize I needed to dart was when we had a disagreement on what restaurant we were going to go to for dinner. Since she wanted to get take out and chill at home anyway, I said why can't we stop at each place and I'll still pay for both meals... She flipped out and blocked me for 2 weeks and said that I was difficult... Yea, I had to leave her because it seemed crazy to not be able to talk to my gf.
@@apathy11303 sounds like she left to cheat and then came running right back when things got hard at her other relationship.
@@roboteen More than possible... Either that or she really is just bipolar... I'm thinking it was probably a little of both.
@@roboteen Probably. Glad I got out
The one person that disliked gott offended that shes defending men
It was the Becky.
@@dreytonstrickland6302 lol you know it!! It’s been up 12 minutes as I started watching it.
@@dreytonstrickland6302 T H E B E C K Y S A R E W A T C H I N G
😆😆😆😆😆 Fact's.
It's twelve dislikes now. I wonder if some people subscribe to her just to dislike her videos
If he's truly abusive, why does she care if he's moved on? Why does him having a new girlfriend spark her to make a video about "I don't know if I'm happy or mad?" I get maybe warning the new girl to protect her safety if he REALLY is abusive but she just screams "I'm a jealous and insecure woman." I've never seen an abuse victim go on social media and taunt their abuser.
I agree when I first read what she wrote on her video about him made me think toxic. You don't just talk about your ex like that and not except people not to believe you or get suspicious or maybe confused. The way she worded it made me feel like she's the type of women who doesn't want a man, but doesn't want him to date someone else just because shes pregnant and that is a golden jewel that controls him when its not.
Control is the key word. She wants control. If he were really an abuser, she would avoid him. But noooo, she's blowing up his social media, probably his cell too. Trying to run off the new girlfriend. Basically stalking. Nope.....that woman is lying. He has moved on, and she doesn't want him free of her clutches. 🤨
@@commanderbracey7501 I agree with you.
As a man who had his baby mom damn near flip everyone I had at that time against me and some still hate me to this day based on her lies I really appreciate the way you approached this topic and that's the exact way the video came off as she was bitter about not having the man as a possession anymore. Thank you so much for everything you do and your strong will to stand for us.
The messed up thing is women can say things like this and men are not allowed to question it without being attacked for even being curious as to wether or not it's even true cause if you don't just blindly believe everything they say your a pos! That's messed up
It's called Gynocentrism. It's the normal state of our species
And if you attack their position with logic, they get even more bent out of shape.
exactly.
@@TimothyWelty YEP LOL
I truly appreciate all your videos. As a Father who actually defeated/overcame Parental Alienation, it's refreshing to see Women who "get it". Keep going! Sometimes, all it takes is one voice.
I honestly don't know if what this woman said is true, Miss Roma. It looks and feels really sketchy to me, as an outside observer, and yet, I feel that you make great points.
Please understand that I have watched false allegations happen to someone, and have been one of the people whose looked at the person wrongfully accused differently. That said, when the truth came out, though, I was positively livid with the accuser, and just cut ties wholesale from said accuser. Then the accused went back to them, and I screamed "This person almost landed you in prison, are you nuts!?" They still went to their accuser. I just let them do their thing because I saw I couldn't stop them.
Truth wins out eventually. What the people choose to do with that truth is up to them.
Exactly agreed 100% 👍
If someone is actually able to make a false allegation to the police they are likely manipulative and abusive themselves. Just as women often go back to male abusers, I suspect men go back to female abusers. I'm not sure where to look off hand, but if you are serious about helping your friend, maybe talking to an abuse hotline or expert is necessary.
@@MrQuantumInc The story I told happened many years ago, and I did, by calling their parents after a particularly toxic episode involving the victim here.
They were having suicidal thoughts after a particularly bad day with their depression, and I allowed a bit of my rage out in my words as I stopped their thoughts upon the desire leaving their lips. Then, the victim told me they were dating their abuser. That was when I snapped, turned towards them, and said what I initially posted at the top of my lungs, shaking in rage and frustration, because I literally refused to go to the tenth funeral of someone I cared for in three years, especially a person my own age at the time, and swore to do all in my power to prevent that from happening. I then confiscated all items they could use to cause self harm and had a friend call their parents with my phone. I told their parents "get this person help before I have another funeral full of people's pain on my conscience for not being able to help the mourners."
A few months after this incident, the victim told me that I was a true friend and thanked me.
To my knowledge, they still went to the abusive manipulator after I moved away. I agree with your statements.
I purposely left out gender, because in my personal life experience, all unwarranted abuse, and especially sources of pain within one's very soul and core being, have neither gender nor excuse. Physical pain hurts temporarily. Pain of the Soul can cripple forever if left untreated, and can become a venomous poison if allowed to fester long enough. I myself struggle with that same poison, and have extracted most of it, but it has taken more than a full decade of diligence on my part to get where I am at, and it still rears its face.
Please hear that I meant to illustrate my own experiences without giving specific data, for respect for all involved.
I hope you have a wonderful day, and that you are given the chance to smile with all your heart. Please be safe and well.
I know of someone that was falsely accused, All the accuser got was a police caution. If a male had done that he would have been in court.
This is why I ALWAYS follow innocent until proven guilty. I won't be another cog in a machine that ruins someone's life over an accusation.
When I read your title that “she did the unthinkable”, I thought maybe she owned up to her error and actually took responsibility for her behavior. IMO that would be far more unthinkable than a woman chucking out a lie of physical abuse.
Roma you are such an amazing woman, seriously it’s so awesome to see a woman standing up to point out the unfairness towards men in society which is just a given and totally accepted these days.
Absolute Respect from the Manchester, UK. Please never try any suicide attempt again as the world would lose and amazing speaker giving a much needed perspective which will help so many lives.
Even after your past abusive relationship your never become a toxice feminist.... I really really Respect you
I appreciate how Chloe made a second video. This falls under the category of
- You do not know what really goes on behind the green door.
Shi, thanks Roma. You're the only woman I know that actively thinks about us men instead of simply shitting on us like everybody else.
Her: "Oh shit!? I'm being called out, hmmm oh I know, I'll say he "abused" me to defuse the argument. That way I won't look like the monster she thinks I am"
Roma: Domestic abuse is very serious and I wish that on no one, however, I see you through your lie but I won't say it just in case it's true........(it's not)
Me: hmmm Roma IQ is high, and yet, abuse is everyone's Achille's Heel.
@dave hopkins excuse me but you're in the wrong comment section. The "I'm a shit starter" section is not here, go away before someone gets upset.
@dave hopkins interesting, I'm not sure you understand. You said, "Roma abuse's children", like you have proof, I'll believe you if you have it. Any to share? (If not, then you're in the wrong section)
@@PJ92586 woah, what the hell happened here?
@@HowToArter NVM, someone came at me with a negative reply but they removed it so this is why it looks like I'm talking to no one
As a man who tries to walk the delicate line between men's rights awareness and supportive solidarity, I am blown away by the impressive candor, professional etiquette and charm you bring to these topics. You are an inspiration!
I really wanna know if she's posted anything about his abuse on like previous posts. This seems so out of nowhere. You have a good point on how she doesn't seem to be concerned with the fact that the new girl is with an abusive man. It shows that either she's lying or she has no regard for the other girls safety and only cares for owning the man.
I can't stop binge watching your videos!!! Roma you are incredible!!!!! Thank you for everything you are doing to help humanity gain some damn sense!!!!
You know, it's not often that you see good, even-minded people like yourself. I can't say I always agree with everything you say or the way you say it, but I do like that you say the same things in both sides of the gender line. You call out bad behavior whether it's from men or women, and you compliment good behavior the same. It's very refreshing. Thank you.
As a BD who’s BM’s whole family philosophy was “if you’re pregnant, you’re married” this video hit my soul on a whole different level. Thank you!
I feel it best to let someone just go with their stories because when it boils down, everyone is playing victim. But the ones talking shit are going to always know they're talking shit. Which is what keeps them so upset. And nothing need be done with them. We all know people can be crap regardless of their gender. Red flags are so important to learn. Prevention is always better than cure.
I really respect what you're doing. Especially your educated and literate responses, thank you for Englishing so everyone can understand! Very refreshing! Much love.
"he abused me, impregnated me, then left me for someone else... And it's her fault"... This is the vibe I'm getting off the OP, and honestly it sounds like misplaced blame at best... spiteful catty behaviour otherwise... Neither seems productive.
This is an excellent point. Thank you for making this video. The accountability just isn't there at all, and most people I would say can't even spot what you just pointed out.
I would have a hard time believing a woman who claims abuse after my ex claimed that when we would have a conversation, not even a raised voice, she claimed she felt uncomfortable, and that was her definition of abuse.
If feeling "uncomfortable" were really a type of abuse, then every man should claim it after every relationship or every conversation with a woman.
I really hope your testimonials and insights reach the ears and thoughts of those who work within the judicial system to help prevent further perversions of justice. Good work Roma 👏 👏 👏
Yeah, that gal is lying and playing the manipulation game. What if the possibility he's not the father because due to her demeanor and body language, she seems to sleep around if she doesn't get her way and lie about it. That "snap wrist" thing is actual proof of a liar and a cheater at life.
It looks like you kind of hit the nail on the head with the situation. It's very brilliant that you think things thoroughly and try to do what is right. You are appreciated.
I love that you call people out. Someone close to me was falsely accused of stuff out of spite. And now he's losing his life because of her false alligations
Yo this woman/channel is the future! Honestly this lady spiting facts in every video. You are truly great!!!
Just stumbled upon your channel and I absolutely love it. I really appreciate the work you're doing and I look forward to more of the content you provide.
You are quite literally the best happy medium I've found on these kinds of topics. Thanks for being yourself.
You would think with a big component of the situation being abuse she would have mentioned that in the first video she posted.... I dislike calling a victim a liar but in this case, yeah it really does seem like she's full of it..
The issue here is the presumption of victimhood. When an accusation is made, if we assume victim status, and then dislike calling people a liar when they come forward with an accusation and no evidence, we offer a protection to all liars by giving out the free category of "victim."
This is why our court system is innocent until proven guilty: every other system would create the opportunity for massive harm on nothing but an accusation.
My general go to is if you have truly been deeply hurt, go to the authorities, not the internet to "win an argument."
Been on the receiving end of false allegations just like this in family court. It was fucked up then and still bothers me to this day that it was said and automatically believed without any proof or chance of rebuttal.
Thanks for putting these videos out into the world.
this whole thing just sounds like "i wanna call him deadbeat so no one wants him and i can get what i want out of the situation."
I have so much respect for you. You're so fair. Your perspective is so refreshing.
Yeah, who knows what the whole situation is, but what I got from her first vid is that she's mad baby daddy got a new gf instead of staying with her, which to be fair she has a right to be upset about because it's crap to get a girl pregnant and then bounce. Of course there are situations where it's ultimately better for the kid for a parent to not be in the picture, i.e. an actual abusive guy or girl. But if SHE left HIM because he was in fact ABUSIVE, her video makes no sense.
Excellent analysis and commentary on the unstable state of current human relationships. I am fearful for how children are being raised, their being shown the disrespectful nature of the grownups that are their supposed role models. Sad to see the loss of family love, bonding, support, values and loyalty to a shared goal. Please keep telling it how it is as so many need to hear your dose of reality. Rare is the male who has not been falsely accused of some perceived wrongdoing, it is not forgotten and does affect our future relationships with the opposite sex. I was brought up to respect and value women and I am trying to still do so in spite of the state of current affairs.
Alot of women aren't good liars cuz they don't get called out on their lies so they never develope the skill
Spot on yet again! Thank you for what you do 🙏 many real women don't call these childish girls out on their shit but instead encourage them and copy eachother trying to make these disgusting actions socially acceptable.
I understand your side and how it seems, but I can also see her side from a slightly different perspective at least from just the first portion of the video. She seems like she’s upset at the father for leaving, and that’s understandable seeing as he’s the father. And we don’t know the whole situation. I’m saying all of this as a guy. I just hate not seeing both peoples sides to the story. It feels unfair.
When looking at it again, I feel like I can agree with your comment. No doubt that there are women who get pregnant so that the man stays, but with this one clip where the pregnant woman is pointing out that the guy is with another girl and has the previous one pregnant is really the only evidence to be seen at face value. She might be showing it out of spite and, forbid, shows it as a form of regret that she wants to also point out to him. We will never know what happened in between these two events. All I can say for sure is that I'm glad to know that I am not missing out on anything with apps such as TikTok.
@@NikkiCaswell Tik tok sounds like a cesspit
I can’t take this playground the world is these days… even if you stand up for yourself they will be then working on leaving you high and dry because the fear that you have boundaries means you might leave them… in the mean time creating a smear campaign about you behind you back so some how all the opportunities you used to have suddenly disappeared and and then when you end up struggling you’re a dead beat even though you only work do drink or do drugs and they get smashed regularly…
As a example years ago, when I still felt safe enough to go out for a drink, she would go out four days in a row, stay out so late I was late for work each day for her to take over parenting… after those 4 days I think “fuck it, I’m having one night” and then she complains she doesn’t get to go out!?!?!?!??!? Trying to comprehend that is abusive enough without all the gaslighting.
Because I have a daughter I luckily never have nothing to lose, but I’ve wished to be dead so many times
You see, I watched this and thought that maybe the baby mama was suffering from Stockholm Syndrome, then I looked at it again and realised that there is no way it could be, because someone suffering from Stockholm Syndrome can't identify that their partner is abusing them, they see it as their partners way of showing love, but the baby mama clearly stated that the baby daddy was "abusive" but as soon as she pulled that card she neglected her previous post, why would you be jealous of your abuser after "you left them". It astounds me how women can just clap their hands, point their fingers, cry wolf and get away with it. I say this while being a woman myself, and I am ashamed of the other women and girls that I see that think its okay to falsely accuse someone of something that can thoroughly ruin their lives. Even at my angriest and most emotional moments I would never disrespect or manipulate someone in such a manner
@Ryan yo that's a good point
They actually can tell that they're being abused(not in every case).
Girl You rock! I love your videos, thanks for being one of the few to stand up for the mans side too!!!!
I don't think it's anyone's place to judge based on the emotions she's feeling. Like if she's got some weird stuff going on in her head space, especially if he was mentally and verbally abusive, jealousy over that isn't a hard emotional state to be in. I also don't think it's anyone's place to be calling people out on their social media posts about their significant other, because I think those posts should have less credence in general to any real situation. Like, someone is talking shit on social media, what else is new, why do we allow that venue to be used as a way to punish other humans? We really opened Pandora's box with this shit. Idk if you're right or wrong here, but I do know social media isn't the right venue for abuse and rape allegations because there's no consequences for false allegations and where social media will remove ANYTHING misinformation about covid, and anything else that offends the hard left sensitivity of it's userbase, they'll remove someone trying to defend themselves before they'll ever remove the content of the accuser.
All I'm saying ladies, is take your accusations to the courts.
It would have to be proven in the court, at least in my country.
I freakin love this woman!!!! Im tired of other females bs too. Yees gurl dont stop making these video.
You speak very intelligently roma so maybe she just doesn't understand what you mean. Or maybe she's a liar or both.
I moved into a new place with my wife and 2 daughters and the woman across the hall asked my wife if the kids were all from same dad. This was in 1992 .But today It's so common. Hopefully people can put their children first
Your analysis of this pregnant seems logical and reasonable.
My wife and I split just after my son turned two because of martial issues arose. Now, I get told I "abandoned" my son for moving back to my hometown because her and her family wanted me to move out SO BADLY. And now I'm blocked on Facebook from even video chatting with my son.
Haven't even gotten to see the little booger since October. Miss that little shit.
I don't think some who respect themselves would date a man with a pregnant woman on the side. So both of you need help.
I feel the whole false claims are what contribute to a lot of the disbelief when a victim steps up. So thank you for calling it out when you see it, because imo there are a lot of victims out there who are either afraid of speaking out or who did and wernt believed, because of those who make false allegations.
Only only chest discomfort your channel and all I can say is just mad respect thank you for being well with you people in this world you are actual voice of reason and a lot of the things you say resent with me on a serious level
I'm glad even tho stuff didn't add up she never said she didn't experience abuse (as an actual victim it does scare me when ppl do say ppl don't) but instead said that the way she said things was bad explanation
Thank you for this video. I went through my 2 years of family courts, lawyers....I wish I'd have seen your videos then. Keep up the excellent work!
There’s sometimes I don’t like your videos (a few topics we don’t see eye to eye on)
Sometimes that I do,
You spoke a lot of truth in this one 💜
Not specifically relevant to the video but I wanted to say thank you. You’re videos and commentary have really helped me pull myself out of a bad mindset. I was falsely accused of sexual harassment, nearing rape, by an ex girlfriend I’d left of my own volition. I lost the respect of all my peers and instructors and barely made it through my college in spite of the extreme stress through being ridiculed and ostracized for two years, four days a week five hours a day. I even came to the point where I’d convinced myself I was in the wrong, that maybe I had in fact done something wrong. And while I can’t obviously 100% prove my place in that narrative, I’m extremely grateful to my best friend who stuck with me, my family who supported me, the director of student conduct at my college who handled the situation fairly and expertly, and finally I’m grateful to people like you who have restored my faith in the prospect of a real, healthy relationship without constant fear of my entire life being destroyed.
It is so true that women can say whatever they want and effect a man’s wife I’ve had it happen to me no evidence and still got convicted I couldn’t even get a job at Walmart because of it I love this channel because you spread a lot of wisdom and insight thank you 🙏
I don't even have words for how validated if feel. This exact thing happened to me and I was treated like a villain and people made it out like I was a monster because I left a terrible toxic relationship. My ex started screaming from the roof tops s combination of that's my baby daddy I own him even if he's with you now it doesn't matter because when he comes home it will be to me then alternating with he's abusive he hit me on numerous occasions he even hit me in the stomach and tried to hurt the baby on purpose and the irony of the situation is in out entire telationship she's the only one who ever hit anyone at one point I even sat down with the girl I just started dating and told her with all the problems my ex is causing if u want to leave or if u don't feel safe around me I'd understand if u didn't wanna do this and at least she was a real one she pointed out if I really beat her up and all that shit why is she so obsessed with getting back with me.
You called her out, she got mad, felt stupid as hell and she knew she was wrong, but she don't wanna own up to it. You stood your ground and did your thing. Keep up the good work 👍🏾
Dammit Roma, just destroying these people with hard facts, and real logic, gotta say, I love these videos
You are wise beyond your years my dear. Keep it up!, you have restored my faith in humankind 🙂
You called it right, her response was a sympathy plea and didn't align with the tone of the original video.
Whether you nailed it or not you still are very smart intellectual. And I think that you worded it well and got all the information out there right for her to think about and others. Keep putting up the good fight and I appreciate what you do
Ran into an old friend. He's mid 30's and HE LOVES YOU TOO!!
Feels so darn good to hear some common sense!!! Greetings from Sweden 🇸🇪😀🌸
I've yet to see you get anything twisted. In fact I'm willing to bet you're 100% spot on.... again.
Outstanding. So perceptive. Just enough sarcasm to make me laugh. Your smile is electric. And, you did the video without the goulash lips!
Roma, you are right on ALL the time. I got accused of physical abuse to ex, to my son and sexual abuse to my 2 little girls. After almost 5 years in court, it was proved ex made it all up to alienate me from my kids lives. Guess who got full custody? ... yours truly. Thanks for your content that reveals the manipulation of some women.
I appreciate a lot of the common sense you put out into the world. I hope some of that trickles down and around and reaches my brother. Just another baby momma situation holding his child hostage under the guise of terrible dad and abused mother but us family members can see nothing but a confused, abused and under developed little girl under her care. There was an opportunity where she was going to loose her children and my brother got his daughter for 5 months and in that time just physically and emotionally this child was transformed into a much brighter soul but again, jealous the “hurt mother” was able to get the courts to have the child forced from his care and is now back where she was. It’s sad what society has done to empower terrible women and shît on the men.
You really are one extraordinary woman. Thank you, bringing your intelligence, humour, fair and rational mind, eloquence and Truth to us. I am a 48 year young woman and have been very aware and angered by these kind of manipulative women for over 20 years. If anything it is getting worse. Thank you for advocating and supporting all the good men out there.
Ive been falsely accused of abuse AND falsely accused of rape. Different women. Anyone who knows me knows not only would i do neither, but im incredibly protective of my loved ones. In some cases annoyingly so. It nearly destroyed me. I picked my crown up and put it on, hit the weights, and havent looked back since. Im the lucky one because too many men take their lives over these false allegations.
Had to deal with my husband's ex wife who he had two kids with. She was able to date multiple men but she wanted him in the closet to drain his bank account. As soon as we started dating she was mad and we got an apartment together and she said I had to leave when the kids come around. When I was pregnant she would call my unborn baby names and used the kids as weapons towards him. I absolutely agree with you
Thanks for standing up for us guys
Well spoken, you are a swordsman with your words😎👍
This Vlog is Fuc kin' Golden. Thank You Roma for seeing our perspective.
"Pttttthanks" I quote this on the daily. And I'm thankful for it
You are the hero we need; not the one we deserve.
your baby bump tik tok was so cute, I hope your pregnancy is fun and we get to see you thrive through the next 9, congrats on the new edition to your family!
This is very important for more good women to step up like this.🖤