I hired a professional organizer to declutter my home. Here's what she did and how much it costs.
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- Опубліковано 26 гру 2022
- I'm sharing how much it costs to hire a professional organizer, trained by kon mari herself, to come to my home and help me decluttter. I'm also sharing what she did, the results of our 5 sessions, what I learned, and what I plan on doing next. This experience has been life changing for me and am looking forward to continue the journey.
Jessica from The Tidy up Girl
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Hi! WELCOME! Thanks for stopping by! My name is Jia. Hubby’s name is Charles. Our little ones are Zara (10) and Ava (8). If you need motivation on decluttering, cleaning, organizing and just getting it done, you are in the right place. This is Real life. Real messes. Real moments. And Real love. Did I mention, I love to shop. So tons of Shop with me’s, Costco hauls, and much more. Of course on a budget, because we live a debt free life. If you need help with that, we talk about that too! As a working mom, I share what works for us. I hope to inspire, encourage, and learn. Join me on this journey!
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You said it yourself. She was not just chucking stuff out. She was EDUCATING you! Good teachers and mentors are worth their weight in GOLD! I’m proud of you 🏆
I'm a professional house cleaner and organizer and I also declutter as well and I take my job seriously and yes it is a real job I'm so glad you reached out for help I help my clients with the work I do and it warms my heart so God Bless you and your family and I'm so proud of you
The comment she mentioned is just illogical on its own, in my opinion... it´s like saying "I can´t believe you hired a lawyer... just look up stuff on the internet and deal with it on your own" or "Just ask a friend to pull your tooth out, you don´t need a dentist"... that´s why there are so many different professions to choose from, because not everyone is an expert in everything and that´s extremely valuable, because by "trading" our gifts and services (in exchange for money), we save time and nerves.... that´s the way we actually help each other out, probabaly since the beginning of human life...
Yes it is a real job!! I just decluttered a lot in my home. It really helps with my mental health.
What made you decide to become a professional organizer? It is literally something that I have contemplated doing
@@cuzinangel2355 I love everything to be clean and neat and organized it really is a huge part of mental health in my opinion
@@cuzinangel2355 I also love the before and after
This inspires me!!! To the rude commenter, there’s a saying “A doctor who treats himself has a fool for a patient”. Getting a professional to help with any thing you’re not good at saves time, money and mental health. Your house looks awesome.
When I started decluttering, what was in my mind was how other people saw my house in its cluttered state and how they would see it in a decluttered state as an expression of me. But what I discovered was that the true joy in decluttering my space was how I felt in my house -- the joy and peace that an orderly and simplified environment would give me. Now I realize I can forget about how others see it. It's worth doing just for ME!
Exactly 💯
My sister was my professional declutterer. I got rid of 80% of my closet and do not regret it at all. I didn’t realize how much stress it is to live in a cluttered house. Kudos to you for going through with this!
Getting rid of clutter is like exiting a toxic relationship (friend or family)
You gave your children the gift of a lifetime. They will use these skills forever. Good job, mom!
Thank you for this video. I have the same mentality as you did. I need help but hoping I can do it little by little. Not ready to buy the big bucks
Same thoughts. 🤩
Literally changed the trajectory of the girls futures with learning responsibility, making a home, dealing with materialism, looking for resources, etc.
$1350.00 for 5 Sessions is Absolutely Amazing, especially when she’s teaching the whole family how to keep the home DECLUTTERED!!!! The way this helps your Mental Health is so well worth the investment!!! I wish that I had researched this years ago!! Thank you for sharing this!!! You seem so LIBERATED and HAPPY right now!!!!
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Sadly not everyone can afford that amount
@@MsVicki73 I don't know where she lives but it might be cheaper elsewhere. Where I live I would think someone would probably charge 15-20 hours. However, that person who decluttered also went to goodwill on behalf of the client. That's extra work as well. Plus any outside work she might do in preparing for her client.
It's worthwhile. I guess we are so busy we know when to buy something nice but we never know when to give it away.
That’s $33.75 and hour if it was 5 eight hour work days. Not bad.
What a wonderful gift for you and your family ❤. Children get overwhelmed easily and having a nice space will do wonders for their studies and health.
Pro Organizer here! Thank you for this video! It’s fact that the brain releases endorphins when you grab an item from where it’s supposed to be. “Everything has a place” and easily accessible 🎉
Maintenance tip: Once I got myself decluttered and organized, I setup a strategic maintenance routine to keep things tidy. 1) Every Sunday night I take a laundry basket around the house and collect anything that is out of place. I make a second route putting things away. Takes about 10 minutes. 2) On my main level, I have about 8 large drawers or banks of drawers, 12 cabinets, and 4 closets. Kids rooms are excluded. Each week I take 15 minutes and reorganize one of the cabinets, closets or banks of drawers. It doesn't take long since they are already organized. I cycle through all of them 2x a year and it keeps things as pristine as the day I finished my declutter. Good luck!!!
Thank you for your suggestions….🙏
It seems like 90% of my "cleaning up" is moving stuff from one place to where it actually belongs.
You must have a family of ten with all of that.
@@debbiemohekey1509 No, not really. It adds up fast. 2 bathrooms with a vanity = 4 banks of drawers & 2 cabinets. 1 small pantry closet, a linen closet, a small closet in a bathroom and a coat closet. 1 closet in my bedroom. Kitchen/laundry has 10 cabinets (including uppper & lower) total and 4 large drawers/banks of drawers.
@@dbrunsrtrom I wasn't thinking in-built cabinets so not a lot, no.
I'm 34. I legit teared up when you said if I can give my 30 year old self any advice, who you are and who you want to be is okay. You don't have to do all the things for all the people. Girl I needed that so much!
I have a sign on my desk that says, “My brain has too many tabs open.” I also suffer decision fatigue. It’s not procrastination or hoarding,because I have bursts of energy where I can declutter and reorganize! So this video has been fascinating! God bless you!
If you haven’t been evaluated for ADHD I would highly recommend it. I relate HEAVILY to what you described + was diagnosed with Inattentive-Type ADHD at 21 years old. The research + literature on ADHD (+ most other diagnoses in the DSM-5) was mostly done on school aged boys with Hyperactive-Type. So in the past few years, many women have been able to pursue a diagnosis in adulthood.
I'm an organizer trying to get my business off the ground. This was sooo affirming that there are people who need what I do. I just need to connect with them.
Everything looks great!!!! Thanks for your transparency. You made a great decision to get the help you needed.
Love you ❤
Trust me, people need your services. Post in on all social media including FB market place
Where are you located?
Yes! I hired an organizer to help me with my master suite and it was worth every penny. It took me a few weeks to make the decision because I kept telling myself it wasn't worth the money and I could do it alone. NOPE! LOL. I absolutely could not do it lol. It was so daunting and overwhelming to try to do it alone. She not only helped me to declutter but also provided me with tools to stay organized and kind of help me change my mindset. Organizers are needed!
I have always hired organizers since my teen years because I get too overwhelmed with simply putting up loads of laundry. And I don't regret a minute of it or how much I spent. It's all worth it. I have so much peace and I'm more productive in other areas of my life. But unlike the rest of my family I was not born with the gift or even the ability to organize. But I just look at it as this giving someone an opportunity to make money just like someone gave me an opportunity to make money in an area I have a passion for.
I’m in my 70’s and wish I had started the decluttering process years ago when my kids were small. I’ve been watching Minimal Mom and have been through my house several times. Each time you will get rid of more and more. The peace I feel each day is unbelievable. Who knew! Bless you for sharing your story and helping others. I’m a new follower!❤️
Minimal mom is great! First time viewer here and loving it 🥰
Hi Nancy, I love your response, I also follow The Minimal Mom and have purchased her 15 minutes a day of Decluttering workbook, I love here peers too Cas with Clutter Bug, Dana with Dana K. White, they are all amazing would love to have either of them come help me in my house, so that I could feel peaceful, comfortable and relaxing in my own home!
I’m so glad to hear you are feeling better after several rounds of decluttering. I’m in the midst of my first major pass through, I believe it will be easier after the heavy lifting. So it was nice to read your post. 😀
Minimal Mom!!! Hurray!! Love her!!
I'm also a HUGE fan of the Minimal Mom and Clutterbug! Their combination of practical tools and positivity has helped me so much!
I'm older and I use to clean houses to make money. I'm retired and I'm thinking about starting up a business to do this. 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿
Its a really good business if you have the talent to do this. I too have a natural knack for organizations. I recently flew to my hometown to help a friend who was overwhelmed by years of clutter.
Yes, please do it, where are you cuz I need help in Fayetteville, NC
Would love to know how to find someone that does this in my area I live in Kingwood, Texas outside of Houston.
I'm so happy for you! Hoarding runs in my family. I saw it in my grandmother. I see it in my mother. I see the tendencies in myself - it's horrifying. I agree that "delayed decision making" is the root of my evil. This video has motivated me to do the hard work, which is making choices. Thank you.
Professional therapy would help you as well.
I agree with Linda. It's hard to overcome certain things by yourself
@@lindawhite4683 And ALL of us.
'delayed decision making' accurately describes ADHD and the organizational obstacles that pop up because of that, and talking about how that exponentially compounds on itself within your space was so relatable! Thank you for doing this!
I have always been an organizer but it wasn’t until I had to empty the home of my in-laws and parents after they passed away that I decided to pursue minimalism. It was such a huge job and besides the work involved it was emotionally distressing. I don’t want that task for my own children so I have minimized my home. I have been doing it for 5 years and I have made multiple passes through my house during those years. It is something you have to revisit over and over. But it is so worth it. I can clean my house so quickly! ❤
This is wonderful insight. I lost my husband in Dec. 2021 & I still haven't gone through his things (yup it's been a year) and I realize that I need HELP but it has to be with someone that has a Gift to do this as it is not as simple as just throwing things away . . I am not even sure how to seek help, like Jia said you need someone who "sees" you & makes you feel good and NOT judged!! I am going add this to my Goals & Prayer List for 2023. Thank you Jia foe being so open & transparent with your process!!! I have ideas for your Podcast
Great comment. My mom is a hoarder and I do not want to do that to my kids. I needed a video like this to get me started.
This is y it is so important to occasionally get rid, donate and monitor the things u purchase for your home. I confess, I luv knick knacks aka 🤣 dust collectors. I donated a box to a thrift store and they will see me again donating.
Same.
I am trying to clear my clutter to. It is so over whelming and sometimes I don't know where to start.
Paralyzed that's the exact word to describe how it feels with such a daunting task! I'm thrilled that you did this and then share it with all of us!
Decision paralysis is a real thing! Most people go through this. It just happens to affect women in American culture more because women (and those assigned into female social roles) are tasked with cleaning things up AND working. You are far from alone and it is never too late to ask for help.
I have terrible decision paralysis idk what happened to me but I never used to be like this, it’s actually pretty awful..!
@@awarren06 totally feel your response, I’m the same way I use to never be like this, and don’t know what happened to me after I hit my mid 40’s! IDK if having a new baby at 43 years old changed something in me or what! Not by any means saying having a unexpected healthy baby boy at that age wasn’t a beautiful blessing. But it dit seem to have an impact on my ways and abilities to do things.
I love that you addressed the ignorant comments. For people who are CEOs and operate at another level, they hire these tasks out because they realize that it is more valuable to have less stress and people who specialize in organization than to keep a few dollars in their pockets. I am learning this lesson. I have not learned it fully, but I struggled to with calling someone to clean my house. I am so busy working 3 jobs, being a single dad, and caretaker for my grandpa who lives with me that I am seriously looking to get someone. I do struggle with the "who" to bring in. Kudos to you for setting the example for us. In 2023, I am going to do it. Lift me up saints!!
Yes! Thank You for supporting us and see the value on what we do! Every professional organizer do it because they love it and realized is not something everybody is able to do for themself! Everyone is born with a gift and a talent but nit everyone take the courage to make it into a profession! Again THANK YOU All for supporting us! 🙏🏾🪴🙌🏽
At 65, you and your professional organizer taught me several things. I’ve been considering this for years. I’m very grateful that I found your channel. How completely true that you need to follow your path and passions and let those with other strengths help you be your best self. Your intelligence makes you worthy of making your own decisions. 🤗🎉🤗
Decision fatigue is a real thing. I’m super type-A and organized but sometimes i find myself struggling with the things that people find joyous (like picking out a birthday cake for myself) its like people that make decisions for others day in and day out often burn out. And people confuse it for neglect, but its not neglect its simply burn out!!!!! Hats off to you for sharing this!!!!
I am generally fairly tidy, but hearing you say that you want to teach your kids to trust their gut... This is amazing. And I still struggle to discard things that I received as gifts or that I know somebody else in my family thinks is important. It is such an important lesson to learn that you should keep what has meaning for you, not for some relative (no matter how close).
Sentimental gifts are hard for me, too. Something that really helped me was a tip to take a photo of the item so you can retain the memory while letting the actual item bless someone who will actually use it. It really is the thought that counts! : - )
You should have a session 2x per year. Once in the fall and once in the spring. You’re SO motivated and (if you’re like me) this may fade. She’s amazing and I’m so proud of you!
You are so inspiring! My Beau asked me what I wanted for Christmas and I told him housekeeping services. He made a snide comment about me not needing any help because I had a son that I should make clean more. I felt some type of way and called him out about it. I know my strengths and weaknesses and know I don't have the bandwidth to tackle all those small tedious tasks. After we talked, he apologized and supports getting me some help around the house. This video and your previous video has motivated me so much and I look forward to completing my own decluttering projects at home as well as finding a place for EVERYTHING!
GREAT JOB JIA! I look forward to Jia's Gems!!
I’m so glad you had the courage to say how you feel instead of sweeping it under the rug! Thanks for watching friend!
I tell my husband to stop playing old tapes. God is doing a new thing and making new sounds in our marriage. The tapes from his childhood, the sounds he used to hear as a child, the tape of his prerecorded “auto-responses” in order to deflect rather than deal with the issue. I used to get offended, but now I see it as an opportunity to turn the tapes off and allow God to show us a better way. A new sound. New responses. The only way tackle old challenges and is to start.
I’m glad it worked out, but just offering a perspective that your husband’s comments about your son being accountable around the house might still be valid.
This is one of the BEST videos that I’ve ever seen! I just turned 40 in October and you are 1000% right! The outlook on life hits very differently! You home is beautiful and you made the right decision! One of the signs of maturity is the ability to outsource and hire and ask for help! Keep growing and keep the videos coming!
Amen & amen Sis! 👏🏾
We lived with the agony of a giant mess in our basement after moving in and then having a flood that messed up the minimal organization that we had done. Finally, we worked with an organizer and now we are finally comfortable in our home. We share your joy at being organized!
I never write comments but this time I had to. Your video was exactly what I needed to hear. I’ve struggling with the same problem. It’s not that I’m lazy like some people might think. It’s just that I get overwhelmed. Thank you for making me feel I’m not the only one 😊
Jessica is doing the Lord's work! Not only was she helping you organize, but she was teaching you how to tackle clutter in the future because she included you in the process! I can see how happier you are, and your home should be a place of peace and relaxation. Definitely worth the money and your daughters' rooms are beautiful! When people say that you wasted your money on an organizer, some people will at a drop of a hat spend that much or more on a small Disney vacation! It's all about what makes you happy. Go to Disneyland? Then do it. Get your house clutter free makes you happy, then do it! Let's encourage one another. There's enough negativity in this world. ❤🙏
So well said!
🙏🏻 totally 💯👍
I agree very well said, however I have a husband that feels that spending the money going on a trip for the family, is better money spent than hiring someone to come in and help me declutter and organize my house, I feel disrespected of my feeling and needs for help in this area for my mental health. Not saying that I don’t love going on family vacations, but I’d also like to be able to go and not spend my time worrying about what I should be back home doing!
@@christamckee3997 I'm sorry your husband makes you feel that way. Talk to him about it. I hope he's open to hearing you out. My main love language is acts of service so I'd rather have someone help me organize my house than go on a Disney vacation. My husband knows that anything he can do to make my day-to-day life easier like washing dishes or clothes makes me feel more loved than a bouquet of flowers. It's helped us tremendously in our 27-year marriage when we know our love languages! 🥰
@@rayray91764 thank you for your response, funny I just ordered the book 5 love languages, for us to read got in the mail yesterday! I have to say though he works a very stressful job 5 days a week and he does help me on the weekends with no issues. My problem is he will not hold the kids accountable for helping with anything in the house, but still spoils them rotten, with material thinks and lavish vacations or going on vacations with their friends. I just feel like he doesn’t back me up in that regard, he’d rather do it himself then for them to have to do it.
Happy New Year! I usually don’t comment but I just wanted you to know that when you started talking about questioning your kids decisions I was hit by a lightning bolt! I do this all the time and I can tell you that I never realized I was teaching them to not trust their own decisions. What a life changing realization! Thank you! ❤
I paused the video on that spot to leave a comment but Im piggybacking off of yours- my son is SO good at just being like "nope, I wont use that" without any of the hangups that I've always had about things. I've learned a lot from him! It helps that I've given him a life where he's not worried about scarcity- if a sweatshirt's not comfortable and you don't want to wear it, he's never NEEDED to hang onto it in case like, the zipper on his good sweatshirt breaks. Breaking out of that "I NEED TO HANG ONTO EVERYTHING" mindset is so hard!
What a small world, I actually used to know Jessica! Over a decade ago I used to go to church small groups at her house. I remember being in awe of how perfectly clean, organized, and stylish her house was so I am not surprised that she is such an awesome professional organizer!
What country,where can we find her?
Where is she located?
Wow! I am so proud of you for hiring yourself an organizer. I can’t tell you how much I enjoyed your transparency with this topic. This is the first time I have watched your channel and felt like I was with you the whole way while you were describing your feelings and challenges. You have a gift of sharing in a way that I have not seen anywhere. Thank you so much! Wish I could be more like you.
I love that your dad came over to help, that's so sweet!! When my husband and I got married my dad came over soooo many times to help put together furniture, putting together our garden shed, moving in boxes. I'll never forget that kind of love 💕
I am a 42 year mom of four kids and this speaks to me so much. I am on my decluttering journey now. And I just gained my grandparents clutter with their house. Thanks for this video.😊😊😊
I FELT SO SEEN! Clutter is my worst enemy in my small home and with a teen and toddler. This encouraged me so much and allowed me to have permission to hire professionals when my mind and body can longer manage it all.
A few things I’ve learned through my own trial and error:
Don’t buy replacements for more than 1 extra use (Costco is great but leads to disorganization for me)
Don’t sit down and don’t change clothes when you set your mind to a task
Have a routine goal each day (eg: unload dishwasher in the morning, tidy up the kitchen while you make coffee & breakfast)
Be present in every room for at least 2 minutes and you’ll find dozens of things to tidy up
Make a bucket full of general cleaning supplies: a duster, microfiber cloth, dusting spray, multi-surface cleaning solution, windex, Clorox wipes, whatever will make it easier for you to grab and go when you want to do a quick tidy up
Every 3 months (mark your calendar for reminders!!), go through every cabinet, drawer, and closet. Donate/throw away unused or expired things. Also change your razor and toothbrush heads, fridge water and air filters, and in home air filters
Change your loofa every month
I’m sure there’s more but my brain is losing focus 😂
I'm 47, and that is so true about turning 40. Now that I am getting closer to 50, I speak up for myself way more, something I have not always done prior to 40. The house looks great, so glad you reached out for help ❤
I am not a professional organizer, but I have helped friends organize their homes. I love it, and it is one of my strengths. I am proud of you and your family, Jia!
Three words you said in this video hit me like a ton of bricks, “delayed decision making”. I’ve wondered through my house and that is what it is cluttered with. This video was and is so inspiring. Thank you so much for YOU and your honesty ❤❤❤
Recently, I decided to get professional help after becoming so anxious over the last couple years, but didn't know what to do, I was burnt out and overwhelmed and felt useless - no hope anywhere any more. So I got help: no, I didn't go to therapy, I hired LINDA. She came for four days and changed my life, which made my home change. too! Now I and my family understand how being considerate and organized has brought us back to enjoying our. home and each other. Linda was a blessing, not "just a cleaning person". Thank you for speaking up about giving respect and not underestimating the Declutter Professionals who can teach us new skills and bring us back to seeing the sunshine again.
I’m so glad you made this. I’m in my early 30s and I have come to realize when I need help to get someone skilled in that area. We (as in mothers, women and wife’s) have to realize that we don’t have too and shouldn’t have to do it all. There is NO shame in that.
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Well said
Yes♥️So true!
And you know, at no point in history has there ever been so many possessions in each of our homes. Our great-grandmothers did not have to shuffle and trip over possessions and even the most skilled organizer can only organize so many objects in a home. Get the help and feel the peace
I totally agree!
Have her back for 5 more sessions, she's really helping you. Not only with the motivation but I see your confidence in making the hard choices. 😘🥰😍🤩 you can have her come twice a year
Yes. The money she saves on not over shopping will easily cover it. Maybe just one more coaching session in a few months.
I’m so glad I found your channel! My mom is coming over to help me tomorrow cause I texted her and said I’m overwhelmed with all my stuff in my house. This was very inspirational!
You should be SO proud of yourself! This was a huge and difficult job, and you made thousands of decisions. You recognized how the clutter was affecting your mental health, and although you didn't say it, I know you know it was affecting your family. I think your take on doing what your strength is is spot on. I'm terrible at math and business but great at organization and creativity. Isn't that proof that there's a power in the universe greater than ourselves? What if everyone was good at growing food, but nobody knew how to cook? Loved your video!!!
Thank you for this video! I'm a professional organizer and also a KonMari Consultant- you validated our profession and showed the true value. I'm so happy you were able to have a life-changing experience by clearing the clutter.
Thank you for sharing the term, “decision fatigue,” it helped me to give a name for what I call my current situation which I previously called “a series of unmade decisions.” As an educator, I make so many decisions from moment to moment at work, that it has been easier to put things off.
I'm just a stay at home mom to 5 girls and I loved hearing that term. It's why I get so annoyed when my husband asks me what we want for dinner. "IDK ASK THE KIDS!" 😄
I'm stumbling across this while halfway through my own sessions with a Konmari organizer, and it's encouraging! I mean, I'm a single 32 y/o with roommates, so I've got a very different apartment space, but I've known for a very long time that organizing is not my strong suit LOL. I definitely have a lot of things, but my real struggle is that I have sentimental feelings about nearly every belonging and I'm just trying to get my room to a place with quieter emotions!
This video brought tears as you gave us permission to not do everything without help like the women who raised us. Thank you.
I am a naturally neat and organized person so I don’t know why this video was recommended to me 😂 BUT I cried while watching it. You are changing your girls’ lives for sure. I say that as a child of very messy parents who ended up marrying a hoarder. We are divorced now, my mental health couldn’t take it. Like you said, like any addiction or struggle, you cannot tell them to just clean up. This is for sure a form or side effect of anxiety, depression, OCD, ADHD- and there is help. It may not seem
like being messy or unorganized is a big deal, but it absolutely can be a HUGE deal. You and your family are beautiful, btw 😊
@ofthegirl, hello, I just wanted to say I love your response here, I have always myself been or was expected to be a neat and organized person growing up as a child my mother expected my sister and I to do all the cleaning and up keep of the home, so I carried that expectation into my adult life,but did not put it on my kids to do. However, now in my older years (49yrs old) I don’t know what has happened to me, I suffer tremendously with anxiety, depression, OCD and ADD, and have physical mobility issues that affects my ability to do the things I used to be able to do in My Home. My husband, grew up in an unorganized messy home because his mother was one that I think thought that spending time and doing things with her children was more important than worrying about the house being organized and clean, so my husband has that same thought process and thinks I hold myself prisoner to the maintenance and duties of what the house looks like and that has now carried over to my children, so I fight a losing battle with the entire family! I can’t get them to realize that it effects my mental health tremendously when the house is a disaster, and makes me feel so disrespected by them not considering my feelings about it. But what do you do, I’m only one person and yes I’m a stay at home mom but it’s still so overwhelming that I can’t find the courage and motivation to do anything about it! I wish I had the guts to say okay my dear family since you all don’t want to help me with what I need in the house to feel at peace, then I’m just going to hire someone to come in and do it for me. So for the long post, guess your response just struck my feelings and I needed to vent. Lol
@@christamckee3997 by all means, vent! I have struggled with anxiety and ADHD so growing up with messy parents was tough. I never felt like I had a good place to study and concentrate and nobody understand that my surroundings made it so hard. Then I married a hoarder. I was at home with 4 little kids and I went into such a depression fighting the clutter alllll the time! My ex was a great dad and a good guy, so it feels bad to say that I just couldn’t stay and support him through the hoarding. But my mental health was suffering so bad. I tried all kinds of medication but most of it made me feel numb and I started to resent that I was the one looking for help when I want the one hoarding! It’s just one of those things where people will only get help when THEY want it. I’m 49 too and all of my kids are adults now, 3 of them are so neat and clean and won’t even visit their dad :( But one shows the same tendencies as him and it worries me. I think outside help is a great idea.
Why did you marry a hoarder? Genuine curiosity here.
@@spirituallysafe MOST people don't reveal all their quirks up front when dating, and even if they do, issues that later become insurmountable don't feel that way when you're falling in love. Sometimes we simply don't know how something will affect us until we're in it longterm. Also, she said "My ex was a great dad and a good guy."
@@ofthegirl As a naturally messy and disorganized person, I've only recently acquired enough organizing skills to understand how depleting and jangly it is to live in chaotic environments. I totally get how living in a true hoarder situation (*especially* while raising 4 young kids!) would be bad enough for your mental health that you truly needed to leave.
Good for you for taking care of yourself and modeling good self-care and boundaries for your kids. Your ability to recognize your ex's strengths in spite of his issues is lovely.❤
For a couple of years I have wanted to have someone clean my house but I havent done it because I need to clean and declutter first..maybe bulldoze first. I can do this! Thanks for sharing. It makes the rest of us feel less ashamed about our own messes and weaknesses.
I cleaned for a living for years and I loved going in and helping people organize and tackle one room at a time. Just hire someone who has that same heart and you will get there! Good luck.
I wish I had started there 30 years ago!
Organize/decluttered = less cleaning
I did that 2 days ago. If I can be honest you will never be ready. Just set a day pay the initial deep clean. It was worth every penny. It won’t be perfect the first time but each time after will be better. They will clean and help you. No matter how bad you think your home is they have seen worse.
I love how you evaluate yourself so candidly and talk about how you see your strengths and weaknesses it’s so refreshing in this space
This showed up in my feed & I so needed this. Being "A" type, not being able to declutter and making delayed decisions is destroying my mental health. Thanks for your transparency & the wisdom you imparted at the end of your video. Cheers to making 2023 the year when things will happen!! It's never too late to make a change! God bless!!! 🙏🏽
I just found your channel last night and the thing I love most about your channel and house so far is that it's real life. Your house isn't instagram perfect that reminds me of a museum where kids can't make messes. Your house is real life. Your kids are allowed to be themselves and play and to make messes. Even though you got to the point where you needed help, you aren't afraid to admit it because at some point, we all need help. That's life. Your channel isn't fake life, you don't pretend it's all perfect and I love this because I believe even if we don't want to admit it, this is how ours lives are too. I'm so happy you were able to find help and relieve all that extra stress because I know how good it feels to declutter my house and get rid of everything extra. I'm not a minimalist, but it's so nice to just say bye bye to things we don't need and have that extra space.
I just ran across your channel…and guess what? I love you!!!! You have such a lovely home and glad you found it again. I just swept and mopped my kitchen and dining room yesterday and just doing that made me fill so good! I will pass a little saying on to you that my mom always said and you said it several time….”There is a place for everything and everything in its place !” Maybe you might want to make a plaque for every room with this saying to remind yourself of this everyday! If not every room than the ones you need to remind yourself every time something is put in that room!!! Look forward to next time….❤FromTX Good luck!
Energetically your house feels so much more calm & happy, I’m so glad you highlighted a huge issue, we are not our stuff, our house is our sanctuary! Enjoy it Jia ❤
Keep it up!
I can't thank you. Something you said released me from Guilt. I. I own a thrift shop and I have a personal problem with clutter. But one of my volunteers is A wonderful organizer. However I would be exhausted everyday she helped me. And you gave me the answer I had Decision fatigue. I Felt like my head would explode if I had to make one more decision on what went where. I'm so relieved to find out that that's not unusual with certain people. Love your video And even at my advanced age of 76 you have helped me. Thank you and God-bless.
Omg!!! I'm 33 and so much resonates with me as far as your experience with your thirties... "survival mode"... YES!! I feel that! I'm glad you feel that with a few more years you've learned so much about who you are, what you're really good at, and how to be a good wife and mother. All things I'm struggling with. Living with so much clutter and two kids myself. Everything everywhere. Paralyzed in the mess. I love this video because it gave me hope 😭😆 thanks for sharing your own chaos with the world!
Good for you! We as women need to help each other, not tear each other down. Thank you for sharing your struggles. We can learn from your content. Keep up the good work. Love and light to you and your family.
I can’t even begin to tell you how much I relate to this video. Your before house is mine right now. I am a busy full time nurse, going through grad school, mom of two boys 9 and 7, and a husband who works overnight shift work. To tell you time is not on our side is an understatement and free time is rare and when we have off days we just want to spend them with the kids. BUT, so much stuff has piled up over the years and I feel exactly like how you described, paralyzed and overwhelmed by decisions. I feel like where do I start and I am in the same boat you were in with needing to separate the boys and give them their own space since they share a room now. I want to do what you did and hire someone because I honestly think having a neutral party come in and see a space and what it could be is much better but we just don’t have the money right now. But seeing your video gives me so much encouragement because it makes me feel like it can be done and if I just tackle it one room at a time I can do it and allowing myself the 4 hr increments like you guys did makes me feel like on my off days I can dedicate a solid 4 hours and the rest of the day is family time. Thank you so much for sharing this and being so transparent because it makes me feel like I am not alone in this struggle. Very inspiring video and look forward to seeing more of your future videos.
I really loved this video. I think it takes incredible strength to recognise where you need help and ask for it. Not everyone has a group of friends that would want to invest time in helping someone declutter their house. Full kudos to you for engaging a professional. The completed task so far probably wouldn't have been as effective or could have created tensions between you and friends if they had helped you. I know when my sister has helped me with decluttering, I totally hate it. She is far more cut throat and ruthless than me, and I feel like I am being judged. I am a bit of a hoarder and one of my goals this year (2023) is to declutter more and have spaces in my home beautifully organised so that I can easily find things. Some areas are and some aren't, but I have a long way to go with systemising or making things easy to find. There is nothing worse than getting frustrated, let alone wasting time, not being able to find the thing 😀
Thank you for showing You with the good bits and the areas for growth. It is refreshing and your positivity and joy for what this decluttering did was a joy to watch.
Loved this and look forward to hearing Gia's gems (it think that's what you said). I am new to your channel. Thank you again for what you shared. 🙏💕
The fact that organizing lifts our mood is awesome. Sometimes I forget what I own and while decluttering, I find things from deep inside the cupboard , it feels like a lot of love returned.
I love this. I have absolutely no issue going into someone else’s space and being quick and effective in helping clean and organize. Going into my own? I’m so paralyzed and exhausted moment one. This was wonderful to watch though. Your girls’ excitement seemed encouraging too. Their happiness in the space is as important and deserved as ours is. I often have to remind myself of that when I’m discouraged by my home- my entire family deserves this clean and stress free space just as much as I do. It helps some.
It all looks great Jia! I think it was money well spent for your sanity. You should hire Jessica to help you with the rest of the house when you can afford it.
Fun fact: I turned 40 in June, 1999 and had our third baby in November, 1999. That was 23 years ago!
Amaaazing. I did reset for my 3 girl friends closets - their wardrobe and they came back to me months later how it magically changed their lives. I did it for them while just visiting their home and allowing me to do closet hangout time with them, defining for them clarity and yes konmari was a movement for me… life changing, 6 years later I mastered it with input of other styles and also thinking and understanding why, reconnecting 6th sense, trust and clarity. Everyone should let me to hang out in their closet ❤ anxiety free chilling experience. I know I am so great at it. I just worked on recreating my personal space to another dimension in 2022, life changing really, konmari the way you are existing… tailored to your passion and inspiration and relaxation and creation… so you know to love yourself… ❤
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As a newly certified organizational specislist, THANK YOU, for giving us credit for our profession. I am so proud of you, your family, your spaces, and for showing the real and that it can become a reality! Just as someone would pay a fitness trainer, nutrition coach, a housecleaner...we all need a little help sometimes! God gifts us in many different ways to bless each other. 🎉
Hello, first time here on this channel! THANK YOU so much for sharing this. I think that hiring a professional to help here was a great move. It’s kind of like hiring a personal training to help kick start a health journey, no shame in that game either. Just wanted to say that your smile 😀 is just sunshine, and you radiate positively, as we need that and here for it! Thank you! 😊
I am so happy to hear this success story! It really hit home when you spoke about everyone having their strengths and weaknesses. And it’s OK to lean on someone who has the strength to your weakness. The two things I am terrible at is deep cleaning and decorating. I can do a quick tidy all day long but please don’t ask me to deep clean. I’ve been thinking about hiring a decorator not for anything fancy-schmancy but just to give my space peace. If that makes sense? I am also very excited to hear about Gia’s gems I love it when you “minister” I love listening to that so thank you for being an inspiring and positive presence on UA-cam!
Absolutely! You should go for it! You deserve it!
@@MarriageMotherhood I second that I love to listen to you minister! And testify about how we can minister!
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WOW! You opened my eyes to something I never realized about my cousin (who's like a sister to me). . . .she can do quick tidying but sucked at deep cleaning. I always thought she was just lazy and/or didn't have her priorities straight. Something about your comment "aha-ed" me. Today, I understand she isn't lazy or has misplaced priorities. Deep cleaning is not her strength, it's her weakness and that's perfectly ok! Thanks, AnneMarieRenee!!!💖💖💖
As a Professional Organizer, I’m soooo happy to see and feel your experience! Sooo proud of you ❤️! Your organizer is simply amazing!
My daughter loves to organize and has turned it into a part time job. She loves the process, the end result, but most especially helping others feel good. It’s a skill. A gift.
You are a huge inspiration! The organizer is much more than just a person who takes things away like your friends would do. She walks you thru the process of letting go and grieving the time you spent with each item. So moving forward you have the skills to not only keep your home organized but being confident in making decisions faster and letting go. Friends cannot teach you that by simply taking your things away…
I'm honestly surprised at the cost! I was anticipating significantly more! I do my best for things to have a home and purging regularly before big gift days. I so appreciate your honesty and realness that you don't see in a lot of similar videos.
It's really nice to see someone realizing that all that 'stuff' just isn't necessary. AND realizing that decluttering and making tidy, clean, and organized spaces for kids is just as much of a de-stressor for the kids as it is for an adult. Physical chaos makes mental chaos, and I know my daughter was always happier and less stressed when her space was clean and tidy and put together.
Amazing!! I have hoarding tendencies for two reasons: I'm very sentimental, and my mom would have me keep certain things "just in case" (mostly business-casual clothes that I didn't even like). So when I wanted to get rid of something, mom would say "but you might need that for a presentation or church" and when she wanted to get rid of something (like too-small clothes) I would say "but that's my favorite shirt that I used to wear every Easter." So I ended up with a lot of things I didn't need! It is so exciting and inspiring to be invited into your journey!
I also need to say that you are so beautiful inside and out and I really admire how you love your family and value the gifts God has given each of us! Praise God!
Watching this gives me so much motivation!! You got rid of so much and did such a great job!!! Wooooh that dining room!! 👏🏻 I’m amazed for sure- also you ARE a strong woman for asking for help 🎉 👏🏻
Party people 💃😜
Thanks for watching!
I AM SO PROUD OF YOU!!! Organization is NOT easy. Many times when I watched your videos I genuinely felt so badly for you because I could see the struggle. I have a very hard time with clutter - I can't have a cluttered space. This being said, I not a professional organizer. I have often times moved things out of my line of sight never to be found again 😂 I am glad that you were strong enough to reach out for help. This was actually a form of self-care that you did for yourself. You did your best and in the end, you sought help when you were ready and that's what matters. 😊
Brilliant.. your house looks fantastic! Well done for getting help.
I have been doing whole house declutters since Jan 2017, when my (now) ex moved out. I found the house overwhelming for years with kids, job, marriage etc..
The first year (2017) was separating our 17yrs of life together. I packed 90 boxes of his stuff. He still has to pick up 50. In 2018 I decluttered my stuff, my kids and my joint stuff and the kids stuff with them.
In 2019 I did the attic, garden shed and the house a 2nd time. And organised memory stuff (except digital photos)
I haven't done any declutter since 2019.... this year i will do another whole house declutter... I can't wait. I also need to donate and sell stuff.
Keep going... you seem to have the "declutter bug" which is so great!
"It is not to late to do whatever it is that you want to do."
I'm in my 30s but really needed to hear that today. Thank you.
My friends don't have the energy time nor expertise to be this detailed to organize. They're all my age, tired etc. Wow this is amazing! I love this idea because paying for the hour is motivation to focus and push through it. I've been trying to go through toys little by little and my gosh. So overwhelming. I have 4 kids, 3 are girls so my youngest daughter has a massive toy collection that has just become overwhelming.
Excellent point.
😬VERWHELMED....been there
If you think well it took x many years for it to get like this, its going to take time for it to be shrunk again, I find that helps. We want it sorted because it grows without noticing and then one day we trip over this mountain and say "where did you come from" 🤣. And our lives get more complications and distractions and the last thing we need is to be hampered by STUFF. So just keep chipping away at it, I've had several goes at multiple areas of the house and I'm still not done. I'm definitely eager for that day where I'm on to the maintenance phase. But each clear out is a victory.
This was an extremely relatable video!! The overwhelm is so stressful. When we moved for my husband's job, the relocation benefit included a professional organizer and it was SO AMAZING. I never would've been able to pack up and move the house without her first helping me unload so much stuff. (My husband had already moved out for the job so I was on my own for the actual packing and moving. 😭)
Your kids play-hiding in the closet 😭is SO CUTE! What a fun & informative video. As someone who does professional cleaning & organizational help, I find it SO important for everyone to take a step back from their judgment of others' spaces. Everyone has something they wish to change in their home system. Compassion goes so very far! ☺♥
I can’t begin to tell you all of the gems I got from this video. But the one that spoke to me was it’s never too late to start the thing you’ve been putting off. Amen. I’m right there. Congratulations!!! There is nothing better than a decluttered living space. ❤
Decluttering is hard, but the more you do it the easier it gets. It also makes you think twice before you start bringing a bunch of unnecessary stuff back into your house, or before you spend money on that impulse item. I’m glad you were able to achieve this level of order in your home. I know you must be breathing a lot easier now. 😊❤️
I must laugh at myself 🤣 When I'm at Target or Burlington, do I really need extra towels or bedsheet sets.....That mean more laundry to do. How many wall mirrors do I own? I ordered a set of 4 chairs from Amazon....did I need that🤭
First-time viewer, new subscriber. God knew I needed to see this. After finally looking into hiring a professional organizer, I began to question whether that process would be even more painful than continuing to plod along (rather fruitlessly, if I’m being honest) on my own. Thank you so very much for your honesty and insight. And for pointing out that God has given us ALL gifts to share-and that there should be NO shame in letting others share their gifts with us.
THIS! "...there should be NO shame in letting others share their gifts with us." Well said. : - )
I never watch 30 min + videos but you engaged me emotionally (and then spiritually) through the whole thing. Good for you for walking this journey! 2022 was definitely survival mode for me so I felt you.
I’m in love with the changes! She was worth every penny!! Can’t wait to see your master bedroom reorganized.
Oh my goodness! You sound like me! I can crunch numbers, make budgets, see trends, etc. so much so that I have my own bookkeeping company. Seeing a mess in my home absolutely paralyzes me. It’s like I don’t know what to do, where to start, nothing. I’ve been wanting to hire a housekeeper just to keep up with the things I can’t keep up with, but really I need a professional organizer. My dh hasn’t wanted to have someone come into our home to help. He keeps saying we can do it ourselves. I’m going to show him your two videos and hope for the best! From another 40yo to another, Thank you!!
I’m only 20 and do a lot of cleaning/cooking/organizing already for my family. I love this video because it encourages me to try and find what my strengths are and bless someone who has it as their weakness. Also to not feel like I have to be perfect at all these things and get help when I need it. God bless you and your family 💜
I truly appreciate your transparency and vulnerability! This has helped me know that I am NOT alone in my struggle and that it is ok to need & ask for help. 💜
Women did everything under the roof of their homes. We put on ourselves the pressure that I ought to know / do all this myself. It is such a relief to hear you say that each one is blessed with some talent and not all talents and to accept it. And to let people do our house and the world will be better place. Huge relief ! Thanks for saying it in words. I needed to hear it today.
Your home looks really clean and organized 👌. My Grandma was a house cleaner and would clean ppls homes who couldn't do it. She did this in retirement. So my cleaning skills come from her. Looks really nice!!! Joan ❤❤❤
I am so proud of you & happy!! I’m a gutter by nature. 61 y/o retired ICU RN for 30 yrs. So “high & tight” is my mantra. Girl!!! Your video brought me so much joy!! You hiring a professional organizer was gold!! You have your strengths & she has hers and you are so smart to self actualize that! Happy 40!! I promise age is a blessing & each year I learn something new.
40 is GREAT! i'm now 65 and yes, at 40, you know YOU! Good for you for listening to YOUR heart and mind and recognizing your strengths/gifts and weaknesses/other's gifts. Asking for help is a strength. Loved this video!
You were preaching throughout this video!!! Although I have enjoyed your "declutter with me" videos over the years, having someone come alongside you to address the MINDSET is ssoo invaluable! Like you said, it starts with how we shop! Thank you so much for the reminder that we don't have you be good at everything. Excel in your area, and allow someone to apply their strengths to help you! You mom, aunt, etc, probably can't run Excel spreadsheets like you can! 😆💪🏾
Sis! You deserve this reset. She was well worth the cost & peace of mind. I JUST said to a friend this is my year of “finish the things”. This video was so on time. Thanks for sharing & being a light for others. 💛
I'm proud of you!! That was an investment into not only you, but your family as well. I had a friend tell me in 2022 that hiring someone to help you aids you in freeing up some of your time and saves some of your sanity!!! Thank you so much for sharing this with us!! Drop those Gems!!!❤❤❤❤
Obviously this profession is needed....Ppl need ppl and if giving assistance to someone to declutter their home helps bring them peace of mind.....then bring it on!
There is so much Psychology in someone that can help people declutter. You have to deal with other people's emotions to their stuff. Organizing is more technical than people realize. I have a strong issue with throwing stuff out. I symbolize things, papers, clothes, toys it makes it harder to just throw away. Having someone with me who can help will be amazing.
Exactly accurate!! ❤
I'm late to the game (watching this). I came across your video at a moment that I'm tackling my house. I'm a single Mom of five.. I honestly was just about to play a playlist so I can stay motivated. To my surprise your video was just sitting in front of me. I just wanted to say thank you for posting it. Not only did it provide useful information, it showed me that I'm not alone. It encouraged me to focus on my strengths and not my weaknesses. It motivated me to respect the process. I cannot afford the help but in truth my method of cleaning is the same. So, once again thank you for your positivity, transparency and encouragement. Now I'm getting to work, one room at a time, decluttering and hopefully finding a good playlist. GOD bless you
Thank you so much for making this! It’s showing us that it’s okay to ask for help and to even pay for it. In a world where mental health is struggling, we have to show that it’s okay to ask for help. ❤
You go, girl! Good on you for knowing your strengths and weaknesses and getting help when you need it. We all have something we're good and not good at. Instead of burning yourself out, you hired someone to come help you, and now you have a calmer, stress free home 🙏
I love what you said about letting your weaknesses define you or your strengths. That was really eye opening. This is my first time watching one of your videos, and I think you are an amazing communicator. And when you talked about all of us using our gifts to help others, that was spot on. I’m excited to watch more of your videos. Thanks for sharing your experience!
True about the 40s . You know yourself , been thru the growth years.
All valid reasons - getting help was a great Christmas gift to the whole family 💕. Thanks for sharing
You said it many times “I am so happy!” What you are doing for yourself and your family is wonderful and will pay dividends in the future: experiencing greater enjoyment in every day life and having more energy to focus on using your personal talents for things that bring you satisfaction and joy!