Yes! I met my husband at 38! I definitely grew up at 38 and now I'm getting married at 43 and I still hope to conceive a child! Your life truly happens whenever it happens! Keep wanting what you want. You will get it! ❤
@@Lola77971 I'm 37 & losing it 😒. However, I do keep my spirits up & continue to work/focus on me. Most days are better than others; this may sound horrible, but I think about all the married people I know, many are either struggling or miserable. This comforts me to know my single-ness isn't the worst thing in the world & its truly never too late 2 find ❤
@@Lola77971 don’t give up!!! I met my now husband at 33 and we got married last year. I was 35 and we are now trying for babies at 36. Life happens when it happens in the meantime enjoy ur life, travel if u like, save money if u can for a rainy day and continue to manifest whatever it is ur heart desires. He will come ❤️
Im a 37 year old single guy and in a similar situation as you. The aging process can be tough for sure, but there is a huge bright side that you are free to experience your desires for travel and self development. When you have a family, it is no longer about you. Everyone at my job is married with kids and they are all jealous of ME that I can live a life they only dream of. Go out and live that best life. Have a staycation..but then see the northern lights, see the pyramids, learn a new language, learn two new languages, learn how to sew or climb a rock wall. Simply explore all the avenues of life big and small that can bring you joy.
Steph...I pray the sweetest, happiest, purest love on you for the next 60+ years. A love that will make the last 38 years worth it 10fold. A love that is stable and strong and lasts the test of time. A love that you never have to question. I pray that everything your heart desires and everything your heart deserves finds you 💕
“To witness the physical results of your body changing but certain aspects of your life never changing” I totally empathize with your need to protect your peace. Soon as I get the coins to spend I will join your patron because I truly can relate. And everything that Steph has said can go to different categories of life not just romantic relationships. You can feel stagnant in your career, in your friendship groups and I feel like I’m getting hit at all sides. I feel like I haven’t reached my season of peace but I know I want it. But through these comments I find connection and that I’m not the only one going through these thoughts. So thank you for creating a platform where we can at least feel seen and have hope of ultimately loving ourselves a little more.
Thank you again for another great video. This one really resonated with me as well. I'm 35 turning 36 very soon. I always hoped that one day I would have a summer of love and someone to do things with. I grew tried of waiting a long time ago. I'm not married and I don't have any kids. It really bothers me when people tell me my time will come. I've been focusing on myself and doing the things I enjoy in life but it is very lonely. I'm noticing changes in my body as well. I work out and try to live a healthy lifestyle. I would just like to finally find someone that I can enjoy things with now. I feel like time is slipping faster than before. You mentioned seasons, I feel like it's never my season. If I speak my truth people take it as negativity but it's my experiences and lack of. Amongst my coworkers everyone is married or dating and I can't relate to any of it. I feel isolated. I try to think it's not the end of the world but it just hits you. Just last night I was in the doctor for a sprained foot which turned out to be a fracture. They casted me and gave me crutches. I have no one to help me or to call. I'm with my work bags and crutches in Manhattan where I work when I live an hour away in queens. I felt so alone to not have a partner or anyone to help me. Just me and my broken foot in the middle of a big city trying to get home. I wonder if this is how my life will be.
Same girl. Feel the same way. Literally shed a tear as I read this, as this is my story too. 🙏🏾 Praying you find the love, support and companionship that you so deserve ❤️
I loved your story times. They were so relatable for me as a “late bloomer.” I feel like most of the negative comments were definitely projections because lots of us have been in similar situations you’ve shared.
I get what you're saying Steph. But hear me out. I'm 39 and got married at 19. Divorced by 28 and have been in a few relationships, dated and had fwb's since my divorce. I promise the happiest I've ever been in my life is right now single, not even any Good morning texts. Everyone wants love but no one is healing. When you can truly be happy by yourself and give yourself the love you've always searched for, you're truly winning in life. I still haven't given up on my Divine Masculine, it's just real comfortable chilling in my own peace until God says it's time.
“Everyone wants love but no one is healing” ABSOLUTELY. Only after therapy I have been able to go towards men that respected me! I never did before this cause I had no self love. What you saying the entire world need to know it!
I'm on the slip and slide - 2022 went by super fast and under 3 months from 40. Ah! I feel like I'm racing to do as much as I can. 5 trips in the last 9 months. 3 more already planned. Totally feel you on the summer of love, couple trips, but yeah it's not happening so I'm doing the YOLO trips.
Oh Stephco glad to see you're back. Keep in mind that summer hasn't technically begun. That said, summer and the year are not over. Although I do understand feeling like it's not going to happen because, so far, it hasn't. You may still get what you so desire. Please don't write it off because it hasn't happened, yet. Things come to us, if it's meant, in the universe's time, not ours.
@@jbb8261 In no way was I saying she shouldn't go after what she wants. Where did I say that? If you listened to her video she's disappointed that her summer and year 2022 love hasn't happened. My point is summer's and the year are not over, it can still happen; there's 3 months of summer and 6 months of 2022. To your point, at the end of the day we don't have the final say in how things turn out. We have free will. Meaning, we can take the steps, as we should, to get what we so desire, but if it's meant to happen it will. If not it won't. That doesn't mean do nothing and expect something. Example: I can decide that I want to get to work early. I have the power/will to take the steps to make that happen e.g getting up early so that I can leave my house early. So I do! I, however, can't control the other variables like the train being late, a sick passenger on the train etc. I had the will and took the steps, but I didn't control how it turned out. That said. Stephco can do all she needs to do to get what she wants, again as she should, like using dating apps or whatever else needed, but what she can't control is the right guy showing interest, especially when there's an expiration date on when she'd like it to happen. The reality is it may or may not happen. Everything is 50/50, except death and taxes those are guaranteed.
@@jbb8261 Ironically, it's your advice that's the bad advice as far as I'm concerned. We do not control outcomes. Control is an illusion--I mean for somethings, yes-- but we never really have complete control. Live a little longer and you'll see. Also, your way of thinking about the world is not THEE way of thinking. The quotations you put around universe imply that you don't share that belief, but there's more than one path and more than one way, respectfully.
Your honest and relatable and I hate that the trolls stop u from feeling free to share ..but protect your peace 1st b4 entertainment for us..I wish u all the love and fun and hope your heart's desires become reality..stay positive 🥰
For me, I've just decided to let go of all my expectations for my future. I don't try to predict the future through spirituality or religion. I've never been into astrology, manifestation etc. I just live my life. I focus on staying grounded and it's important for me to feel good within my body and mind. I say yes to new experiences and I throw myself into situations that are out of my comfort zone. That's what my parents did and they have been so so successful in their lives. Obviously, how we define "success" is subjective, but they are very happy and content and they're worldly. I think the planning, the wondering, the trying to control your future is really detrimental. Life leads you down paths you'd never expect but if you constantly have tunnel vision you might miss out on important experiences and life lessons. More often than not, it's when we let go of our expectations, that's when change starts to happen
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I have been into astrology all my life and gotten into Spirituality regarding manifesting 3 years ago. I'll always be an Astrology and Tarot deck nerd but the Manifesting,Conjuring,trying to predict and guess my outcomes thru Tarot is wearing then. I miss when I just hoped for shit and went on my way. Constantly worrying "When?" left me nowhere but disappointed when it didnt happen. I'm tired of the Stars and waiting on the slow ass Universe. I want real life again,lol.
@@TheLovelylove I completely get you! I fall into this trap of worrying "When?" as well. It usually happens when I feel crappy myself - haven't prioritised sleep, moved my body etc. A sort of hopelessness grips me and I worry whether I'll ever get the things I want in life. I feel stuck and then my mind starts to justify it by looking at all the reasons I feel this way. All the things I don't have. I really try my best to get out of the "I'm not there yet" mindset and remember there's only what I do today and where I am now. That's also why I disagree with Steph when she says she has all the 'evidence' (for lack of a better word) to say that things won't happen for her. Future projection tends to come from an emotional and not logical place. You can have as much evidence as you want but the truth is people are alone until they're not haha 😬 whether you're 20, 40 or 50. And then when you're in a relationship, you start looking back at your single life with a sense of nostalgia lol. We're never satisfied, not even when we get everything we want and that's why I try not to live in the future
I just wanna say that I can relate so much to all of your videos and honestly they make me feel like I am not crazy for feeling the way I do sometimes about things. I totally understand you wanting to keep your boundaries because people are judgemental but I hope you know there are some of us who are grateful to hear your stories and the lessons you learn from them! ❤️
I’m happy for you to be able to make a living off content creation. And I’ve also been through what you’ve been through of waiting your turn and it never happens. It gets me down but still we must live. So I’m glad you’re doing so.
I’ve been bingeing your videos lately (one of your new subscribers) and I love it here. I was trying to find a video with comments so I can say sis you are gorgeous. Skin, flawless. Melanin, poppin. Plus I love how authentic you are and you’re unafraid to be yourself. You are a normal woman and that’s okay. Seeing your videos remind me it’s okay to feel the things that I feel and have the experiences that I do because I am normal.
"Seeing your videos remind me it’s okay to feel the things that I feel and have the experiences that I do because I am normal." Yessss, to all this. That's what roped me in as well.
I just love your honesty. I haven't prayed in awhile so maybe God will listen to mines regarding your happiness, hopes and dreams. Stay true to yourself sis❤️
Fall romances are beautiful. I met my husband at 40 in November and we had a magical Christmas together. Since then we’ve had several “baecations” 😊. It can happen for you Steph ❤️
Love Working Moms! I hope curating maintains your peace and that Patreon remains a safe space for you to share what you like with us. Congrats on the move! I thought I’d found my person this year, and uh…yea, no. I’m done making plans outside of myself and will continue embracing this season. Fingers crossed that I don’t get distracted🤞🏾next year is my Jesus year.
I love your videos. I had no idea you were 38. Something you said stuck out to me. You briefly spoke about an abundance mindset in regards to your channel. Try taking that same mindset to your personal life. I think it might make a difference. ❤
Aww. I identify with you so much. I’m about 10 years younger than you but I too fed like a 13 year old girl waiting for a boy to ask me out to the dance 💔it’s actually so lonely lol. That being said- sis you are such a prize. I love your storytimes but I find it kind of puzzling that some guy hasn’t snatched you up already! Someone is truly missing out. Anyway good luck to the both of us!
Same!!😩.. 32 and feel like a high schooler, waiting for the experience of dating or just common life milestones. Being stuck mentally as time is passing. There is a level of loneliness that many don't understand. Good to know I'm not the only one dealing with this But also on other hand sad
I enjoyed your storytimes too. You made a lot of unseen women feel seen and heard. I also enjoyed the rawness of it. I can fully understand the hurt behind having people judge that realness/life experience. I kind of experienced the same thing where a post I made blew up. Nobody talks about how much the hate hurts. When people comment they're judging solely you and forgetting that they've also lived a life with possible worse outcomes but that doesn't matter. That doesn't matter when they're pointing fingers at you. It's been years ago and I STILL think about the comments I got on that post. Being online in general is traumatic but I appreciate you for sharing what you have and for choosing your well-being over anything.
Listening to you is like listening to a wise big sister. So much you speak on is spoken with so much understanding. I've felt like I've been stuck in a loop for years now, never feeling like it will be my season career wise or in love. And just breaking away from age related goals has freed up my mind and spirit so much. This video was needed. And happy to see you back 💛
Steph I'm so happy you chose your peace and stopped the storytimes, some people don't deserve your transparency. As soon as I financially can, I'll definitely sub to your patreon
Don't lose hope Steph! I met an amazing man last year in November, and everything is going so perfectly well for us. You can still meet someone this year and I am sending you positive vibes that you do because I know what it feels to want a partner to share your life with with all your being.
I was so glad to see that you uploaded. I love your content so please keep the videos coming. I find a lot of your stories to be very relatable and I'm sure there are plenty of other women who can also relate. I will be 34 this year and sometimes I too feel like I will never find my person.
Steph I am so sad that you feel that you have to sensor your YT content. I love your storytime videos...they're so raw and real. Some people just can't handle it, but I love it. Great video!!😉😊
@@InfinitegardenbyBethK I think the difference is I've been intentionally living since turning 40. Before that I was just reacting to life. Very different modes.
I have listen to you long time! And I have always appriciated you and I loved the stories ❤ they are relateble (even as an east-african living In europe) So keep it up❤
But let me encourage you though - please don’t give up because it didn’t play out the way you hoped it would. I do understand. I was perfectly single too about your age…..until I wasn’t 😂 love can bowl you over at the most unexpected times 😍 even when you’d always been unlucky in love. I’m a witness it happens! And while I do get the desire for “young” love, baby lemme tell you, ain’t NOTHIN wrong with that grown woman love, either! I promise. Lotta times you have more money, more WISDOM, more stability, more maturity. A later love just might help you avoid a young divorce/life shattering breakup had it happened earlier. Sometimes (age) expectations can devastate us more than reality itself. It’ll happen when it’s supposed to, darlin. Let it flow. ❤️
You made the right decition by keeping more personal things on patron because we can’t stop people from having their opnions about us. But you can control how much you share. Life definitely come in seasons. And to get to a better season it takes self reflections, and making better decitions, not repeating same mistakes, maybe shifting your perspective, trying out new experiences, and that’s where growth comes in. Growing from last year, 2 years ago ect. That’s how you get to a new/better season. And that’s what life really is about 🌸.
All of those things you want could very well happen before you turn 40 years. 2 years seems like it’s around the corner but that’s also plenty of time for things to accelerate
That exactly when I found you, back in May, I somehow stumbled upon the pretty privilege video, and Ive been hooked ever since, I love listening to you talk, and watching your videos, your such a wonderful person. Glad I found you, and I’m looking forward to watching & listening to you on all your socials, as you go on through your life journey. 🥰
I love how you phrased the whole pouring into yourself so you can receive at the right time. I can relate. At the time I pursued this same idea, it was along the lines of giving myself what I seek, so I can I recognize it when it shows up. I think it's a great idea you're choosing a staycation. There's so much love cultivated when one chooses to give themself what they've been waiting to experience with another. Have a blast!
I missed you!! 🥺 Edit: You are one of the few people who articulates the disconnect between an aging body and mental age so well. I used to hate how I felt like a kid, but a year later I'm super grateful. None of the stress or major life changes that have aged other people have been relevant to my life so I guess that's why my disposition comes off as super young. People keep thinking I'm a Gen Z kid... 😂
Missed you girl! I’m following on patreon but still!! Thank you for sharing all of this, your absence is definitely felt but happy you’re moving into a new exciting phase in your life
they definitely don’t understand how it feels for it to never be our time. life is so unlucky. everybody at my job are in relationships & two of which have met on tinder. this dating game just isn’t for us lol. it’s nice to still be able to watch you! sending lots of love 🫶🏽
love your story times, they'll be missed. your articulation, conveyance, tonality and overall beauty are really showcased in them. excited for whatever's in store for Oh! Stephco
Not finished with the video yet but I want to tell you. I am married with 2 kids & a dog. I am also on a journey to date myself this summer. Staycations, Solo dates, lunches, shopping, new restaurants, hiking & brunchin with the girls. Just figuring out what brings me joy & excitement apart from my family. So you are not alone in that.
Don’t count anything out. You are living in abundance. 2022 is not over! Sending you loving high vibrations. Love your channel and loooovvvee your stories ❤️
I know this doesn’t make it better, but some of us out here encounter similar situations of « seasons that become eras » of rejection, but just in other aspects of life (friendships, worklife, etc.)
Giiiirl I found and followed you last month because of that pretty privilege video!!! Absolutely love your vibes and personality. Also umm yeah 2022 has been Rough!! You speaking on was so refreshing!! Please let the second half of the year bless us in ways we couldn’t image 🙌🏽✨
I also miss your story times, but I enjoy all of your content. Thank you for sharing what you feel comfortable sharing. It’s appreciated. PS. This year is giving me whiplash. It’s wizzing by like it’s on the Audubon.
I believe in prayer. Steph I pray on you that before the end of this year your Boaz will find you.....I am going to pray and fast like I did for myself and when it happens, please come back and find my comment. I wish the other believers join me and watch God work. When 2 or 3 are gathered He will bless. This vid brought me to tears because I truly know the pain of longing for something real and it just feels like it's not approved for you in your life time.
I've listened to many of your videos and can I just say: thank you. Thank you from the very bottom of my heart for putting into words exactly what many of us single women feel. Just, thank you. Your videos make me feel heard, seen and validated. Because so many people just don't GET it yet have the audacity to speak on things that they do NOT understand. There have been countless instances where you have eloquently put into words exactly how I feel. Thank you.
Thank you for being vulnerable and transparent. It isn't easy to say you desire love and are "disappointed" (that's how it sounds) that it hasn't happened. Also, it sounds like you are surrendering. I have so much to say about regarding this topic and things that I've discovered about myself. 😅 I too, have moved towards focusing on alignment and preparing myself for things to come... We are all rooting for you.
Welcome back, girlie. I’ve missed you so much (I follow you on Insta AND Tik-Tok).❤️❤️♥️ Post anything. I don’t care. Just post as often as you can. Please!!! P.s. I love these sit down vids of yours. Please post more. I seriously would be delirious with happiness if you were to meet your person this year - which can still happen. The year is halfway over, and a lot can happen. Last year, the second half of the year is the reason why my romantic life and aspirations went to shit, lol. A lot can happen in a few months. And with you traveling and going out more, you’re definitely more likely to make great connections! Rooting for you!🤩❤️ I relate to another video of yours. So, I’m much younger, early twenties, but I’ve already stopped wanting something that I feel is not real. I’ve never even been in a relationship at my big old age, and everyone around me is telling me I don’t really want to date and marry, it’s horrible anyways. Stay single. The romance I crave (one like a good old romance book/romantic comedy movie) is unrealistic. No one loves that deeply and sincerely. And then they ice the cake with - it’ll happen when it’s supposed, too. But what I’ve realized is that…. Sometimes it doesn’t happen and we have to be okay with that. I used to want marriage by my middle twenties. That’s no longer a dream. If I can’t have a healthy, pure connection with someone, I don’t want it. I don’t believe that’s something that’ll ever happen, so I’m out. Now, if all I wanted was casual sex (I was waiting for marriage, but I’ve given up on that, so I’m waiting for death), I would literally be in my season. But it really shows you how regardless of how attractive you are and everyone (men and women) tell you you are, men will always only see you as a walking vagina and nothing more. 😭 In times like these, I’m so glad I’ve never wanted kids. I would be gutted if I wanted children and see me getting older and older and have never, ever dating.
Oh my goodness, the way I relate, the way I relate. I have also given up, I now know that what I wanted is unrealistic. The way this has affected my self esteem is gut trenching. Idk if you are religious but just like you im waiting to die and experience the pure love of God. Cause in my unrealistic fantasies about romance and soul mates, I realised that no one is perfect. That even if I did get a partner, they could very well cheat on me or something. Basically, life is just so different from the romance we have been indoctrinated with. However, God, Hes Forever. Some may call me weird or lonely or needing an excuse but hey, God is the only Being that is always extending His Hand and I think now its time I reach back.
I haven't even watched the video yet, but it makes me really sad that people are so negative that you don't even want to be as vulnerable and authentic anymore. I understand though. I rock with you either way girl!
I was just thinking about how I hadn't seen any of your stories in a while. I love your stories and vulnerability but also understand the need to protect oneself. Just sending positive vibes ✨
Your numerology video let me figure out I'm in a year 9 and why all these things weren't working out for me, mostly professionally. It all made sense. So keep sharing! We love you on UA-cam.
I understand. I’ve never made it past the 1st date with anyone 🤷🏾♀️😊 it’s really ok. I love my life but I do get caught in my thoughts a lot and have to speak against them. 🙏🏾 thanks for your videos
I always watch and never comment but had to comment because I felt seen when you mentioned Working Moms. I'm 31, fighting off baby fevers, and preparing myself to balance it all like Kate. I identify so much with the ladies on the show, it hits home too hard sometimes. I laughed so hard during that drunk park montage. I could be wrong but I see you as a less Machiavellian version of Slaone.
*Sloane*. Also, I wish they would have just written her character as child free throughout. She's clearly the childless boss babe friend, but alas, the show is called Working Moms.
You are amazing! Please keep posting. Please try your best to ignore the nay sayers and negative assholes that have tried to attack you and your content - there are so many of us that can fully relate to your experiences and you probably have no idea how reassuring and refreshing it has been to hear that someone else is experiencing the same kinds of things. You are truly doing a great thing - opening up conversations about what is actually happening and also, how people treat each other. It is the first step to analysing and reassessing certain attitudes and perceptions instead of blindly continuing to subscribe to harmful behaviours and tropes. I am glad to hear that you able to earn a good living from it too! I love when bravery is rewarded! That being said, more than anything, I really hope that all of your manifestations come to fruition, you are totally deserving. Looking forward to watching more of your content! xxx
Thanks for sharing. I can always relate a lot of your views and you bring up some good points. I always feel like you are positive without being fake about it. And it's nice hearing stories of other people's ups and downs and random life experiences, so that I can go "Oh yeah, other women have this happen and feel this way too, and life goes on".
Too bad the internet has to be like that. I loved your videos, still love em’. This year ain’t finished who knows what else will come along! Wish you all the best!
I'm disappointed that you can't share your stories because I loved hearing all about them, but I certainly understand why. The internet be having the audacity but never the gratitude. 🙄 I'm 28, definitely enjoy the way I look, like myself, am living authentically and for myself--- still not being properly cherished by an emotionally available man. 😂 I've been celibate coming up on 3 years now as well. So I HEAR YOU. FEEL YOU. SEE YOU. also you look gorgeous. You're one of those people that age is like...irrelevant? It makes sense your 38, but also you have a light youthful quality about you. Until you bring it up, I literally never consider your biological age. I found some suspicious hairs in the last month that looked like tinsel in certain lighting. My hairdresses pointed one out and said I had a silver strand. 😂 Kinda love that for me
It’s too bad that you’ve stopped sharing the story times, those are my favs of your videos. But I understand why you made that choice.
Same here. I loved her story times💔
Same here ❤️ it feels nice to have someone to relate too.
I am going to miss her story times. If anything, I will rewatch💪🏾😭‼️
I agree❤️❤️🥰
@@JulianSteve I was just thinking about that!!😂♥️
Yes! I met my husband at 38! I definitely grew up at 38 and now I'm getting married at 43 and I still hope to conceive a child! Your life truly happens whenever it happens! Keep wanting what you want. You will get it! ❤
This gives me hope. Im 32 and losing it 😔
@@Lola77971 I'm 37 & losing it 😒. However, I do keep my spirits up & continue to work/focus on me. Most days are better than others; this may sound horrible, but I think about all the married people I know, many are either struggling or miserable. This comforts me to know my single-ness isn't the worst thing in the world & its truly never too late 2 find ❤
@@Lola77971 don’t give up!!! I met my now husband at 33 and we got married last year. I was 35 and we are now trying for babies at 36. Life happens when it happens in the meantime enjoy ur life, travel if u like, save money if u can for a rainy day and continue to manifest whatever it is ur heart desires. He will come ❤️
@@Lola77971 There’s hope! I met my husband at 33, married at 34!
Yes! Wishing you the very best on your journey to motherhood 🌺
Im a 37 year old single guy and in a similar situation as you. The aging process can be tough for sure, but there is a huge bright side that you are free to experience your desires for travel and self development. When you have a family, it is no longer about you.
Everyone at my job is married with kids and they are all jealous of ME that I can live a life they only dream of. Go out and live that best life. Have a staycation..but then see the northern lights, see the pyramids, learn a new language, learn two new languages, learn how to sew or climb a rock wall. Simply explore all the avenues of life big and small that can bring you joy.
Steph...I pray the sweetest, happiest, purest love on you for the next 60+ years. A love that will make the last 38 years worth it 10fold. A love that is stable and strong and lasts the test of time. A love that you never have to question. I pray that everything your heart desires and everything your heart deserves finds you 💕
Love this.
Gosh, I love and wish this for her, too.
I love ❤️ this! I second your prayer request for her! Where 2 or 3 are gathered God is in the midst, so I pray that he answers your prayer 🙏🏾 for her.
I wish this for her so much ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
“To witness the physical results of your body changing but certain aspects of your life never changing” I totally empathize with your need to protect your peace. Soon as I get the coins to spend I will join your patron because I truly can relate. And everything that Steph has said can go to different categories of life not just romantic relationships. You can feel stagnant in your career, in your friendship groups and I feel like I’m getting hit at all sides. I feel like I haven’t reached my season of peace but I know I want it. But through these comments I find connection and that I’m not the only one going through these thoughts. So thank you for creating a platform where we can at least feel seen and have hope of ultimately loving ourselves a little more.
Thank you again for another great video. This one really resonated with me as well. I'm 35 turning 36 very soon. I always hoped that one day I would have a summer of love and someone to do things with. I grew tried of waiting a long time ago. I'm not married and I don't have any kids. It really bothers me when people tell me my time will come. I've been focusing on myself and doing the things I enjoy in life but it is very lonely.
I'm noticing changes in my body as well. I work out and try to live a healthy lifestyle. I would just like to finally find someone that I can enjoy things with now. I feel like time is slipping faster than before. You mentioned seasons, I feel like it's never my season. If I speak my truth people take it as negativity but it's my experiences and lack of.
Amongst my coworkers everyone is married or dating and I can't relate to any of it. I feel isolated. I try to think it's not the end of the world but it just hits you. Just last night I was in the doctor for a sprained foot which turned out to be a fracture. They casted me and gave me crutches. I have no one to help me or to call. I'm with my work bags and crutches in Manhattan where I work when I live an hour away in queens. I felt so alone to not have a partner or anyone to help me. Just me and my broken foot in the middle of a big city trying to get home. I wonder if this is how my life will be.
You're understood here 💓
@@cwilson586 Thank you ❤
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Same girl. Feel the same way. Literally shed a tear as I read this, as this is my story too. 🙏🏾 Praying you find the love, support and companionship that you so deserve ❤️
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You’re like the older sister I’ve never had yet always wanted. I’m so grateful for you, peace and blessings sis💛
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I loved your story times. They were so relatable for me as a “late bloomer.” I feel like most of the negative comments were definitely projections because lots of us have been in similar situations you’ve shared.
Gurl your story time is what will bring you money
I get what you're saying Steph. But hear me out. I'm 39 and got married at 19. Divorced by 28 and have been in a few relationships, dated and had fwb's since my divorce. I promise the happiest I've ever been in my life is right now single, not even any Good morning texts. Everyone wants love but no one is healing. When you can truly be happy by yourself and give yourself the love you've always searched for, you're truly winning in life. I still haven't given up on my Divine Masculine, it's just real comfortable chilling in my own peace until God says it's time.
“Everyone wants love but no one is healing” ABSOLUTELY. Only after therapy I have been able to go towards men that respected me! I never did before this cause I had no self love. What you saying the entire world need to know it!
THIIIIIIIIIIIIISSSSS
Your Story time will take you far. We’re all going through things when being Single.
I will never not be astounded by how relatable Steph is! ❤️
I'm on the slip and slide - 2022 went by super fast and under 3 months from 40. Ah! I feel like I'm racing to do as much as I can. 5 trips in the last 9 months. 3 more already planned. Totally feel you on the summer of love, couple trips, but yeah it's not happening so I'm doing the YOLO trips.
Sooo, do they take your passport at 40 or???
Yes!
Your Storytime is life. I will have to catch you on Patreon.
The patreon is lit. I love it.
Steph,you are so strong and beautiful.Your content is amazing and comforting.You're the internet's big sister.
Oh Stephco glad to see you're back. Keep in mind that summer hasn't technically begun. That said, summer and the year are not over. Although I do understand feeling like it's not going to happen because, so far, it hasn't. You may still get what you so desire. Please don't write it off because it hasn't happened, yet. Things come to us, if it's meant, in the universe's time, not ours.
@@jbb8261 In no way was I saying she shouldn't go after what she wants. Where did I say that? If you listened to her video she's disappointed that her summer and year 2022 love hasn't happened. My point is summer's and the year are not over, it can still happen; there's 3 months of summer and 6 months of 2022. To your point, at the end of the day we don't have the final say in how things turn out. We have free will. Meaning, we can take the steps, as we should, to get what we so desire, but if it's meant to happen it will. If not it won't. That doesn't mean do nothing and expect something. Example: I can decide that I want to get to work early. I have the power/will to take the steps to make that happen e.g getting up early so that I can leave my house early. So I do! I, however, can't control the other variables like the train being late, a sick passenger on the train etc. I had the will and took the steps, but I didn't control how it turned out. That said. Stephco can do all she needs to do to get what she wants, again as she should, like using dating apps or whatever else needed, but what she can't control is the right guy showing interest, especially when there's an expiration date on when she'd like it to happen. The reality is it may or may not happen. Everything is 50/50, except death and taxes those are guaranteed.
@@jbb8261 Ironically, it's your advice that's the bad advice as far as I'm concerned. We do not control outcomes. Control is an illusion--I mean for somethings, yes-- but we never really have complete control. Live a little longer and you'll see. Also, your way of thinking about the world is not THEE way of thinking. The quotations you put around universe imply that you don't share that belief, but there's more than one path and more than one way, respectfully.
Your honest and relatable and I hate that the trolls stop u from feeling free to share ..but protect your peace 1st b4 entertainment for us..I wish u all the love and fun and hope your heart's desires become reality..stay positive 🥰
The best thing a person can do is to stop out age limit on themselves. Doing this cause you so much unnecessary stress and depression.
For me, I've just decided to let go of all my expectations for my future. I don't try to predict the future through spirituality or religion. I've never been into astrology, manifestation etc. I just live my life. I focus on staying grounded and it's important for me to feel good within my body and mind. I say yes to new experiences and I throw myself into situations that are out of my comfort zone. That's what my parents did and they have been so so successful in their lives. Obviously, how we define "success" is subjective, but they are very happy and content and they're worldly. I think the planning, the wondering, the trying to control your future is really detrimental. Life leads you down paths you'd never expect but if you constantly have tunnel vision you might miss out on important experiences and life lessons. More often than not, it's when we let go of our expectations, that's when change starts to happen
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I have been into astrology all my life and gotten into Spirituality regarding manifesting 3 years ago. I'll always be an Astrology and Tarot deck nerd but the Manifesting,Conjuring,trying to predict and guess my outcomes thru Tarot is wearing then. I miss when I just hoped for shit and went on my way. Constantly worrying "When?" left me nowhere but disappointed when it didnt happen. I'm tired of the Stars and waiting on the slow ass Universe. I want real life again,lol.
@@TheLovelylove I completely get you! I fall into this trap of worrying "When?" as well. It usually happens when I feel crappy myself - haven't prioritised sleep, moved my body etc. A sort of hopelessness grips me and I worry whether I'll ever get the things I want in life. I feel stuck and then my mind starts to justify it by looking at all the reasons I feel this way. All the things I don't have. I really try my best to get out of the "I'm not there yet" mindset and remember there's only what I do today and where I am now. That's also why I disagree with Steph when she says she has all the 'evidence' (for lack of a better word) to say that things won't happen for her. Future projection tends to come from an emotional and not logical place. You can have as much evidence as you want but the truth is people are alone until they're not haha 😬 whether you're 20, 40 or 50. And then when you're in a relationship, you start looking back at your single life with a sense of nostalgia lol. We're never satisfied, not even when we get everything we want and that's why I try not to live in the future
I just wanna say that I can relate so much to all of your videos and honestly they make me feel like I am not crazy for feeling the way I do sometimes about things. I totally understand you wanting to keep your boundaries because people are judgemental but I hope you know there are some of us who are grateful to hear your stories and the lessons you learn from them! ❤️
I’m happy for you to be able to make a living off content creation. And I’ve also been through what you’ve been through of waiting your turn and it never happens. It gets me down but still we must live. So I’m glad you’re doing so.
I felt 40 was just the beginning. I felt like a brand new confident and content human being
I’ve been bingeing your videos lately (one of your new subscribers) and I love it here. I was trying to find a video with comments so I can say sis you are gorgeous. Skin, flawless. Melanin, poppin. Plus I love how authentic you are and you’re unafraid to be yourself. You are a normal woman and that’s okay. Seeing your videos remind me it’s okay to feel the things that I feel and have the experiences that I do because I am normal.
"Seeing your videos remind me it’s okay to feel the things that I feel and have the experiences that I do because I am normal."
Yessss, to all this. That's what roped me in as well.
I just love your honesty. I haven't prayed in awhile so maybe God will listen to mines regarding your happiness, hopes and dreams. Stay true to yourself sis❤️
Fall romances are beautiful. I met my husband at 40 in November and we had a magical Christmas together. Since then we’ve had several “baecations” 😊. It can happen for you Steph ❤️
Love Working Moms! I hope curating maintains your peace and that Patreon remains a safe space for you to share what you like with us. Congrats on the move! I thought I’d found my person this year, and uh…yea, no. I’m done making plans outside of myself and will continue embracing this season. Fingers crossed that I don’t get distracted🤞🏾next year is my Jesus year.
I love your videos. I had no idea you were 38.
Something you said stuck out to me. You briefly spoke about an abundance mindset in regards to your channel. Try taking that same mindset to your personal life. I think it might make a difference. ❤
Been commenting this on her videos for a while
Aww. I identify with you so much. I’m about 10 years younger than you but I too fed like a 13 year old girl waiting for a boy to ask me out to the dance 💔it’s actually so lonely lol. That being said- sis you are such a prize. I love your storytimes but I find it kind of puzzling that some guy hasn’t snatched you up already! Someone is truly missing out. Anyway good luck to the both of us!
Same!!😩.. 32 and feel like a high schooler, waiting for the experience of dating or just common life milestones. Being stuck mentally as time is passing. There is a level of loneliness that many don't understand. Good to know I'm not the only one dealing with this But also on other hand sad
My spirit sister has comeback and I'm here for her beautiful energy whenever she feels like blessing us with it.
I enjoyed your storytimes too. You made a lot of unseen women feel seen and heard. I also enjoyed the rawness of it. I can fully understand the hurt behind having people judge that realness/life experience. I kind of experienced the same thing where a post I made blew up. Nobody talks about how much the hate hurts. When people comment they're judging solely you and forgetting that they've also lived a life with possible worse outcomes but that doesn't matter. That doesn't matter when they're pointing fingers at you. It's been years ago and I STILL think about the comments I got on that post. Being online in general is traumatic but I appreciate you for sharing what you have and for choosing your well-being over anything.
Congrats on nearly 70k subs. How is puppers? Comfort content is great. Pumpkin dress looks gorgeous on you.
I really hope you bring back story time every now and then. I love and appreciate the realness and vulnerability!!
Listening to you is like listening to a wise big sister. So much you speak on is spoken with so much understanding. I've felt like I've been stuck in a loop for years now, never feeling like it will be my season career wise or in love. And just breaking away from age related goals has freed up my mind and spirit so much. This video was needed. And happy to see you back 💛
Steph I'm so happy you chose your peace and stopped the storytimes, some people don't deserve your transparency. As soon as I financially can, I'll definitely sub to your patreon
Don't lose hope Steph! I met an amazing man last year in November, and everything is going so perfectly well for us. You can still meet someone this year and I am sending you positive vibes that you do because I know what it feels to want a partner to share your life with with all your being.
I’m so happy for you❤️
I was so glad to see that you uploaded. I love your content so please keep the videos coming. I find a lot of your stories to be very relatable and I'm sure there are plenty of other women who can also relate. I will be 34 this year and sometimes I too feel like I will never find my person.
The day this women gets a man which I pray it will happen to her, we all shall be invited to this wedding!!!!
I’m rooting for her I think she’s awesome I love all her videos
It will happen for her, I find it hard to believe otherwise!
@@raqui174 I'm rooting for her too. I hope she finds the good man she's looking for.
IKR all her UA-cam subscribers should be invited to her wedding.
Getting married is the easy part. Keeping a marriage alive and sustainable is toughest part.
Steph I am so sad that you feel that you have to sensor your YT content. I love your storytime videos...they're so raw and real. Some people just can't handle it, but I love it. Great video!!😉😊
Story times were my favorite.
Oh man I wish you didn't have to filter out anything. This is why I love you. Your authenticity is the best part. And I miss story times 😭
I'm 42. I feel life got so much better after 40...I'm convinced it's a mindset.
Fully agree!
@@InfinitegardenbyBethK I think the difference is I've been intentionally living since turning 40. Before that I was just reacting to life. Very different modes.
Same!
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@@atruthseeker79 Interesting! Would you mind explaining“intentional living?
Summer hasn’t even started!! Anything can happen. Hope you get everything you wish for.
Yes I hope her season come. And I hope the her and the guy fall in love at first sight.
I have listen to you long time! And I have always appriciated you and I loved the stories ❤ they are relateble (even as an east-african living In europe) So keep it up❤
But let me encourage you though - please don’t give up because it didn’t play out the way you hoped it would. I do understand. I was perfectly single too about your age…..until I wasn’t 😂 love can bowl you over at the most unexpected times 😍 even when you’d always been unlucky in love. I’m a witness it happens! And while I do get the desire for “young” love, baby lemme tell you, ain’t NOTHIN wrong with that grown woman love, either! I promise. Lotta times you have more money, more WISDOM, more stability, more maturity. A later love just might help you avoid a young divorce/life shattering breakup had it happened earlier. Sometimes (age) expectations can devastate us more than reality itself. It’ll happen when it’s supposed to, darlin. Let it flow. ❤️
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You made the right decition by keeping more personal things on patron because we can’t stop people from having their opnions about us. But you can control how much you share.
Life definitely come in seasons. And to get to a better season it takes self reflections, and making better decitions, not repeating same mistakes, maybe shifting your perspective, trying out new experiences, and that’s where growth comes in. Growing from last year, 2 years ago ect. That’s how you get to a new/better season. And that’s what life really is about 🌸.
All of those things you want could very well happen before you turn 40 years. 2 years seems like it’s around the corner but that’s also plenty of time for things to accelerate
i hope the best for her & i know things could change instantly
That exactly when I found you, back in May, I somehow stumbled upon the pretty privilege video, and Ive been hooked ever since, I love listening to you talk, and watching your videos, your such a wonderful person. Glad I found you, and I’m looking forward to watching & listening to you on all your socials, as you go on through your life journey. 🥰
I love how you phrased the whole pouring into yourself so you can receive at the right time.
I can relate.
At the time I pursued this same idea, it was along the lines of giving myself what I seek, so I can I recognize it when it shows up.
I think it's a great idea you're choosing a staycation. There's so much love cultivated when one chooses to give themself what they've been waiting to experience with another.
Have a blast!
Please don’t worry about pleasing everyone, it’s impossible. Your story times are awesome.
I missed you!! 🥺 Edit: You are one of the few people who articulates the disconnect between an aging body and mental age so well. I used to hate how I felt like a kid, but a year later I'm super grateful. None of the stress or major life changes that have aged other people have been relevant to my life so I guess that's why my disposition comes off as super young. People keep thinking I'm a Gen Z kid... 😂
Missed you girl! I’m following on patreon but still!! Thank you for sharing all of this, your absence is definitely felt but happy you’re moving into a new exciting phase in your life
I really love your channel you so authentic you keep me going I Wishes videos were longer but I know you have a real life love you so much girly
they definitely don’t understand how it feels for it to never be our time. life is so unlucky. everybody at my job are in relationships & two of which have met on tinder. this dating game just isn’t for us lol. it’s nice to still be able to watch you! sending lots of love 🫶🏽
love your story times, they'll be missed. your articulation, conveyance, tonality and overall beauty are really showcased in them. excited for whatever's in store for Oh! Stephco
Girl! Summers not even here yet, no need to right it off so soon. HTX is the perfect place for a staycation!
While i missed you so much, i am so happy that you’re starving the haters.
Not finished with the video yet but I want to tell you. I am married with 2 kids & a dog. I am also on a journey to date myself this summer. Staycations, Solo dates, lunches, shopping, new restaurants, hiking & brunchin with the girls. Just figuring out what brings me joy & excitement apart from my family. So you are not alone in that.
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But it's different.
I appreciate when married people let us singles know the struggle isn't over even when there isn't major problems with their spouse or kids.
I was gonna write something mean but Good for you,I guess,lol.
@@TheLovelylove i was gone insult her lmaoooo because how oblivious and insensitive can you be? read the damn room
I too loved your story time and sadden that you feel this is no longer a safe space to do so.
Don’t count anything out. You are living in abundance. 2022 is not over! Sending you loving high vibrations. Love your channel and loooovvvee your stories ❤️
Busted, I did subscribe after the Pretty Privilege video lol now I've watched almost all of them lol
I know this doesn’t make it better, but some of us out here encounter similar situations of « seasons that become eras » of rejection, but just in other aspects of life (friendships, worklife, etc.)
It can still be your season!! Rooting for you!! Summer love on the way! 💛
Giiiirl I found and followed you last month because of that pretty privilege video!!! Absolutely love your vibes and personality. Also umm yeah 2022 has been Rough!! You speaking on was so refreshing!! Please let the second half of the year bless us in ways we couldn’t image 🙌🏽✨
I also miss your story times, but I enjoy all of your content. Thank you for sharing what you feel comfortable sharing. It’s appreciated.
PS. This year is giving me whiplash. It’s wizzing by like it’s on the Audubon.
"When Forbes magazine reached out..." Steph!!! 💕🌻❤️👏🏽 Congrats on all your success!
I believe in prayer. Steph I pray on you that before the end of this year your Boaz will find you.....I am going to pray and fast like I did for myself and when it happens, please come back and find my comment. I wish the other believers join me and watch God work. When 2 or 3 are gathered He will bless. This vid brought me to tears because I truly know the pain of longing for something real and it just feels like it's not approved for you in your life time.
I've listened to many of your videos and can I just say: thank you. Thank you from the very bottom of my heart for putting into words exactly what many of us single women feel. Just, thank you. Your videos make me feel heard, seen and validated. Because so many people just don't GET it yet have the audacity to speak on things that they do NOT understand. There have been countless instances where you have eloquently put into words exactly how I feel. Thank you.
Thank you for being vulnerable and transparent. It isn't easy to say you desire love and are "disappointed" (that's how it sounds) that it hasn't happened. Also, it sounds like you are surrendering. I have so much to say about regarding this topic and things that I've discovered about myself. 😅 I too, have moved towards focusing on alignment and preparing myself for things to come... We are all rooting for you.
Thanks for the word. I am with you with a lot of what you said ( also being 38 and single). 💖💖💖💖
I love your story time vids and appreciate them! But, maintaining your peace and safety supersedes everything. I love Working Moms too!
Welcome back, girlie. I’ve missed you so much (I follow you on Insta AND Tik-Tok).❤️❤️♥️ Post anything. I don’t care. Just post as often as you can. Please!!!
P.s. I love these sit down vids of yours. Please post more. I seriously would be delirious with happiness if you were to meet your person this year - which can still happen. The year is halfway over, and a lot can happen. Last year, the second half of the year is the reason why my romantic life and aspirations went to shit, lol. A lot can happen in a few months. And with you traveling and going out more, you’re definitely more likely to make great connections! Rooting for you!🤩❤️
I relate to another video of yours.
So, I’m much younger, early twenties, but I’ve already stopped wanting something that I feel is not real. I’ve never even been in a relationship at my big old age, and everyone around me is telling me I don’t really want to date and marry, it’s horrible anyways. Stay single. The romance I crave (one like a good old romance book/romantic comedy movie) is unrealistic. No one loves that deeply and sincerely. And then they ice the cake with - it’ll happen when it’s supposed, too. But what I’ve realized is that…. Sometimes it doesn’t happen and we have to be okay with that.
I used to want marriage by my middle twenties. That’s no longer a dream. If I can’t have a healthy, pure connection with someone, I don’t want it. I don’t believe that’s something that’ll ever happen, so I’m out. Now, if all I wanted was casual sex (I was waiting for marriage, but I’ve given up on that, so I’m waiting for death), I would literally be in my season. But it really shows you how regardless of how attractive you are and everyone (men and women) tell you you are, men will always only see you as a walking vagina and nothing more. 😭
In times like these, I’m so glad I’ve never wanted kids. I would be gutted if I wanted children and see me getting older and older and have never, ever dating.
Oh my goodness, the way I relate, the way I relate. I have also given up, I now know that what I wanted is unrealistic. The way this has affected my self esteem is gut trenching. Idk if you are religious but just like you im waiting to die and experience the pure love of God. Cause in my unrealistic fantasies about romance and soul mates, I realised that no one is perfect. That even if I did get a partner, they could very well cheat on me or something. Basically, life is just so different from the romance we have been indoctrinated with. However, God, Hes Forever. Some may call me weird or lonely or needing an excuse but hey, God is the only Being that is always extending His Hand and I think now its time I reach back.
You deserve the best of everything. God will bless 🙌you keep holding on
Sending you good/high vibrations my good sis. Your season is already here, just move like you gave it
Have*
I haven't even watched the video yet, but it makes me really sad that people are so negative that you don't even want to be as vulnerable and authentic anymore. I understand though. I rock with you either way girl!
Thank you for that last part. I needed to hear that. You are amazing
Hey Steph your year isn't over just yet 🤞🏾😉
I was just thinking about how I hadn't seen any of your stories in a while. I love your stories and vulnerability but also understand the need to protect oneself. Just sending positive vibes ✨
girl, you could still have a mid- summers love ❤......just keep living and things will work out in the time intended. 🙌🏽
Your numerology video let me figure out I'm in a year 9 and why all these things weren't working out for me, mostly professionally. It all made sense. So keep sharing! We love you on UA-cam.
Thank you!! I get so excited when I see you've posted. You vocalize so much of what I feel.
I understand. I’ve never made it past the 1st date with anyone 🤷🏾♀️😊 it’s really ok. I love my life but I do get caught in my thoughts a lot and have to speak against them. 🙏🏾 thanks for your videos
I really love your honesty and vulnerability
i keep looking at you and i am like damn i wish you swing the other way too because you are soooo STUNNING.......!!!!!!
Love being on your Patreon! All the videos are so entertaining!
I always watch and never comment but had to comment because I felt seen when you mentioned Working Moms. I'm 31, fighting off baby fevers, and preparing myself to balance it all like Kate. I identify so much with the ladies on the show, it hits home too hard sometimes. I laughed so hard during that drunk park montage.
I could be wrong but I see you as a less Machiavellian version of Slaone.
*Sloane*. Also, I wish they would have just written her character as child free throughout. She's clearly the childless boss babe friend, but alas, the show is called Working Moms.
I feel like we have the same life but I’m 35… like your really sis to me… I love your honesty… ❤️❤️❤️🙏🏾
"It's great to hear good stories, but nothing is guaranteed." -- Those really are words to live by.
Steph 😡 how dare you go a month without posting.
I missed you 🥺.
You are amazing! Please keep posting. Please try your best to ignore the nay sayers and negative assholes that have tried to attack you and your content - there are so many of us that can fully relate to your experiences and you probably have no idea how reassuring and refreshing it has been to hear that someone else is experiencing the same kinds of things. You are truly doing a great thing - opening up conversations about what is actually happening and also, how people treat each other. It is the first step to analysing and reassessing certain attitudes and perceptions instead of blindly continuing to subscribe to harmful behaviours and tropes. I am glad to hear that you able to earn a good living from it too! I love when bravery is rewarded! That being said, more than anything, I really hope that all of your manifestations come to fruition, you are totally deserving. Looking forward to watching more of your content! xxx
I just love the sound of your voice, I can listen to you talk about anything!
You looked absolutely stunning in the mustard dressed. 100% perfect.
Been watching your old stories over and over again, praying you would be back!!! Miss you 🥰
Thanks for sharing. I can always relate a lot of your views and you bring up some good points. I always feel like you are positive without being fake about it. And it's nice hearing stories of other people's ups and downs and random life experiences, so that I can go "Oh yeah, other women have this happen and feel this way too, and life goes on".
Too bad the internet has to be like that. I loved your videos, still love em’. This year ain’t finished who knows what else will come along! Wish you all the best!
I'm disappointed that you can't share your stories because I loved hearing all about them, but I certainly understand why. The internet be having the audacity but never the gratitude. 🙄
I'm 28, definitely enjoy the way I look, like myself, am living authentically and for myself--- still not being properly cherished by an emotionally available man. 😂 I've been celibate coming up on 3 years now as well.
So I HEAR YOU. FEEL YOU. SEE YOU.
also you look gorgeous. You're one of those people that age is like...irrelevant? It makes sense your 38, but also you have a light youthful quality about you. Until you bring it up, I literally never consider your biological age.
I found some suspicious hairs in the last month that looked like tinsel in certain lighting. My hairdresses pointed one out and said I had a silver strand. 😂 Kinda love that for me
I’m pulling for you Stephco! I love what you’re doing on your platform. I don’t see a patreon option.
You’re so relatable and I truly like you’re one to ones
I love your story times and hope for more in the near future.
Love u so much, great to see you again! I am here learning with you ❤️
This video reminded me to sign up for your Patreon lol the drought I experience when you don't youtube post SIS!