Warning: In this video, I pronounce Viola Davis's name completely wrong SEVERAL times. Also, just to be clear...I know putting yourself "out there" means you are fair game for reactions, commentary and analyzation. However, the amount of content created responding and reacting to me is overwhelming. And the amount of people online who seem to be fans of it because they feel the same way is disheartening. And, as I am not a celebrity, I have not committed a crime, and my youtube channel is very new, the amount of anit-me content seems excessive. So yeah, I know it's technically...fair, but that doesn't make it easier to accept.
I thoroughly enjoy your relationship videos. Please don’t stop sharing them! The folks critiquing have worse experiences but would never share. I’ve learned from your videos because I was a late bloomer too. Love your relationship story times!!
You’re 100% valid. Don’t mind me but I’m in the camp that says just because someone puts there personal life out there doesn’t mean we should now abuse them.
I think you hit the nail on the head……….You can not be somewhere “in the middle” regarding anything anymore be it politics……..religious views……….or content regarding dating and/or male female relationships. As a you tuber or on any other social media platform if you are not creating content that is either on the side of “the manosphere” or “all men are trash” then you kind of get lost in the void of interesting but not noteworthy content. The more extreme and voracious the commentary the more likes and/or views said content will receive. That said you are not being honest with yourself if you really think you are somewhere in the middle of the whole modern day “battle of the sexes” that is going on all over social media. Your content is definitely geared closer to the “men are trash” content than anything else. I personally don’t agree with most of the opinions expressed in your videos. Starting with this whole notion that somehow your life would be magically better if only you had “pretty privilege” has rubbed me up the wrong way to see the least. That said I think you are interesting and engaging which is probably the main reason why I subscribed and will continue to watch your videos. Not to bash you but to see how your mindset and content changes over time and will your perceptions about relationships change or will they get worse and become more jaded.
Tbh I’m a 17 year old male and I don’t relate to 90% of your content but I watch it anyways cause I find your videos entertaining and introspective, kind of like a wise older sister.
Same I’m a 21 year old Asian male but I love how transparent and open Steph is, she is one of the few people on this platform (or any platform) that talk about real social problems and trends, that deal with the real human experience.
Literally love you. I HATE how black women are limited. You look GREAT, your content is fantastic, and as someone in my late twenties who is dating I legit relate to all your feelings. I love that UA-cam brought you to me and you’re the right messenger for me! I also love with each new video the quality improves, background is changing? And you are giving looks. Please these haters need to relax
Hey I’m 53 and I can relate and share some crazy dating stories that could make you laugh and cry! I love your content Steph! Your delivery is funny, love your voice, your looks , and your wigs!!!!!💕🙏I wish you all the best! I will watch your videos no matter what you talk about lol 😆
Yeah, I really can't imagine why haters come after Steph. Jealousy, maybe? Boredom? People are strange. Not every creator's content will suit every viewer, but plenty of creators are out there. I wish when folks saw content that wasn't for them, they'd just keep moving. Their time would be better spent looking for other creators whose content is more to their taste than criticizing those whose isn't
It’s not that black women are limited.. anyone that puts up videos can have reactions to them.. I’ve seen many types of reaction videos from creators of all types
I hate this happened to you. It sucks. I am 40 and I am still trying to find myself. 😢 I get no grace from myself or anyone else. I admire your transparency. You are everything Stephco!!
Glad to see that I'm in good company. A friend of mine said that when she wears lipstick she looks like she has her life together but it couldn't be farther from the truth. I felt that.
At first I was disappointed to hear that there wouldn't be any more romantic storytimes, but after watching this, I understand, and agree. Your first responsibility is to protect yourself.
Even when you're trying not to be problematic, ppl will still find you to be problematic. Your content is refreshing/entertaining and it's truly appreciated over here
This is how Life is. No one idea or person will please everyone. Music, Religion, Politics....people do not agree 100% on anything. I know that I can literally be minding my own business & some people won't like it. We just grow a tougher skin as we age. Duh. Why do ppl still act upset that they get bad feedback? We also get Good feedback right? Why not just Focus on that?
@@ff2154 And why not just go about your business and not comment at all? If you don't agree, like, relate etc on the topic or how someone choose to live their lives and express themselves, why not just keep on scrolling and move on? I never understood going out my way to give someone any form of feedback or constructive criticism unless they asked me for it. Other than that I let them be. If someone responds to a negative comment it is because they wanted to, just like the person who had the desire to provide their meaningless 2 cents when no one asked them for it.
@@cosmicbeauty5682 I am commenting because I have an opinion and I feel like commenting on a Public Open Platform. Notice that my comment does not violate any YT commenter rules (no profanity, vulgarity, etc). You proved my point exactly 🤣😉You didn't like my comment. See how people don't agree with everyone? And yes, a Content Creator is asking for feedback or they wouldn't make their comments public (they would turn comments off). If a comment is problematic then it gets reported and removed. I welcome various feedback, as long as it is respectful. It is unrealistic in this world to expect ppl to only give you positive feedback. I just added another penny to the 2 cents I gave earlier 🤠
Girl fuck those people period! I’m 25 and cannot relate to 95 percent of this crap we call the internet but your content is an amazing, nurturing, safe place! I love your content! Reality will never be as wonderful as fantasy and that’s why people mad. Please look into having someone moderate your comments to get rid of destructive criticism.
I love this comment so much! Even celebrities don’t read comments. Have someone go through and remove the haters. I heard you can change your settings to block certain hateful words right off the bat! She’s making an impact that’s why they are targeting her. They are literally making money off of bashing her. Social media feeds off negatively and hate.
Wow! That was direct right out the gate! Love it! That opening line made me clutch my pearls! (that I'm not really wearing lol) - thanks for the giggle! 🤗
It's a shame there is no space for us, the awkward black woman, who hasn't found herself yet. Steph you had created that space. This was the place we could come to without feeling pressured to be anything but ourselves. This is the place you could come to to breathe a sigh of relief and forget about your worries in the world for a while because everyone here understood each other. I don't understand why we are so disrespected, but seeing how women respond to you on your own platform, and how quickly you gained a solid following, you do have an audience and people need spaces like this. I'm sorry you're going through this.
I’m so confused….people get mad when content creators are seen to be faking their lives and not being real and here we have someone being vulnerable and giving us her raw life experience and that’s still a problem?? So being real too is a problem ?🤦🏾♀️ I don’t even want to hear anything about her being “too real”🙄 What do you people want at all???🤯🤯😩
Yeah, I do not get some of these folks at all. It’s like they want content creators to not be too honest, especially when it comes to their personal life😒💯
Stephco. I am a black man and we love you and appreciate what you do. Thank you for your honesty and content that you create. You are putting out positivity in the world and inspiring other people to be honest with themselves. That honesty inspires others to self awareness and growth. Thank you and please be encouraged.
I hate how people try to do you!! You are so refreshingly yourself. I feel like so many people are hiding, and your restore my faith in vulnerability and authenticity.. Just your example of black femininity is so unique and necessary!! It's ok to have boundaries, but I adore your content.
ugh this makes me so sad. your pretty privilege video is the most relatable video on youtube for me and your storys make me feel so seen. i cant believe this era is over
I’ve watched that video and the one about approaching men like a million times. It feels like I’m listening to a friend or sister, something about steph is very comforting.
As a black woman in the uk (and soon to be in Australia) your voice is definitely needed. When i see your videos it uplifts my day and i always make sure to check them out. You're the voice for other black women who haven't found their voice yet on UA-cam. So please continue sharing and take time out for you and for your mental health 💖
I think your videos are great but as a casual subscriber, I totally understand if your Patreon folks or other more vested folks get the more vulnerable content. People are very brazenly critical online. Wishing you continued growth and success!
Its sad to see this happen but I figured it would come to this one day. I'm happy with what she shared with us for free and she probably the only youtuber I would pay for a patreon because I love to a fellow sis redefine outdated social conventions of black woman hood just by stating the obvious facts about society and by her being her authentic self.
I have absolutely noticed the intolerance towards people who are still in the thick of their struggle speak about their hardships when it’s the hardest and most real for them but once they’ve made it people want to hear all about the hard difficult come up story it’s weird
You're so right. I got ditched by so many so called friends once they found partners and got established in careers. They no longer wanted to be around me because I am still finding my way. Often I'd helped these people during their worst times, when they'd been dumped or made unemployed or admitted they were alcoholic. I listened, cared about them supported and advised them. Once their lives improved they looked back on me with disdain. A lot of people seem to hate people who are struggling but like you said, they love to hear the struggle story once the person makes it.
Yeah I’ve noticed that too. I don’t know if it has to do with the details sounding too raw from someone who’s in the thick of it as opposed to someone who’s gotten past it. People get uncomfortable witnessing/hearing another person’s pain as they’re experiencing it, an unfortunately, may internalize it as the person “complaining” of “doing it to themselves” to make themselves feel more comfortable.
You do deserve better. But I don’t think you realize how cutting edge your content and internet presence is. Nobody I’ve come across is really doing what you’re doing. It’s so refreshing. Please don’t stop💓
I'm a fan of you. I understand and support you and I'm a black women. I appreciate having a black women I can relate to in personality, thoughts, and experiences. I appreciate your voice and you speaking up for things.
@@naturalelation1631 Okay, and why are you feeling the need to comment about my comment if you knew what was meant? Jog along. How about you simmer down yourself and mind your own.
YOU. ARE. AMAZING! I'm 51 and your dating stories have been and continue to be my dating stories. Everybody isn't for everybody. Your tribe is your tribe. Thank you for what you do... you heal! Don't let anybody in their negativity take that gift from you.
You mentioned intent vs impact.... And there's your focus. You intend to help by sharing your vulnerability and the impact is very much felt for what it is BUT those most impacted in a positive way may not be those that are comfortable sharing .... Which is why your voice, your delivery, your "you being you".... is so important. Evolve but don't change. Much Love Much Light Steph.
I remember seeing Fantasia on my TV screen auditioning for American idol and, not knowing her at all, for whatever reason, I wanted her to succeed so bad. With you, I feel the same way. I really want to see you succeed at whatever you want to accomplish in life. So I'll be here for the foreseeable future. I love your realness, your intellect, your humour, your talent. I wish you the best.
I've been married over 20 years and I love love your content. You are honest about your experiences and truly relatable. Please don't let the negative feedback dictate how you move forward. You have more supporters who love what you do, then that don't support you. Your popular, the haters are gonna hate. Let em. That's how you know your doing well. Keep doing you. It's genuine and authentic and that's what people are drawn to.
This saddens me because I feel like I had kind of lost interest in UA-cam save a few people prior to your coming on board. And you stick out because of your unique take and your refreshing candor. Having said that, you’re more than those stories for which you were critiqued, and I’m a huge proponent for protecting yourself, so if that’s what you have to do, I will keep watching whatever you do share! And am a happy patron! The world definitely devours vulnerability and honesty which is terrible, but it def wasn’t all for not
I absolutely love Lipglossssss. She did mention not feeling protected and asked who would uplift her. She is always praised for being so raw and validating but who is validating her? Her account was also deleted recently, not sure why. I think we still have a long way to go for dsbw of all ages to truly have a soft place to land when it comes to vulnerability. Another awesome video.
@@nancykerrigan Her main Tik Tok channel was deleted. It must have returned, but I don't know why they deleted it. She does speak about some harsh truths though. She is definitely adorable.
I saw that - love her content. She lost her account for some reason, even though she has never done anything wrong than state her opinion. I think some people don’t want you to succeed cause your not the norm and they reported her.
Steph..... You have to be authentic. Be you. Folks are literally just trying to feed the yt algorithm and make money off your name. You are well educated and we'll spoken. Folks love to HOTEP....don't let them stop your shine. Be YOU...
Thank you sis for sharing your story and the courage you have showed throughout your yt journey. As a 43 y/o father, your content is valuable to me for the emotional context that helps me understand the struggles my 20 and 18 y/o daughters go through as young women just starting out in life.
I found you on TikTok and they were calling you insecure. I feel like that is so unfair. Because your personality is not insecure. I feel like you deal with insecurities and you are also confident and strong for being vulnerable. You’re becoming a big sister to me because I’m learning so much from your videos 💗
Steph, your content is so necessary for so many people on this platform. It’s actually borderline sickening at the thought that people negatively pick it apart…I really hate people sometimes, if it’s not for them, then they keep scrolling- I promise it’s not that hard. There are a ton of people who benefit, learn, relate and appreciate you and especially your honesty & vulnerability. Suggestions for improvement are fine, but cruelty is never necessary. There are actual creators that are incredibly harmful on this platform that need to be picked apart yet they somehow thrive.
Maam pulled out that degree in education cause bay bay...I got schooled. I love how she went about this. I support this channel100%. Black Women are not encouraged to be vulnerable despite the performative campaign for us to deconstruct the strong black woman trope. I've seen these youtubers and they CLEARLY look like they trying to run off the fumes of your CLOUT. I'm glad you can help their mediocre channels.
And this is one of the reasons why I will not make a UA-cam channel because I’m not strong enough to take the bs ignorant people dish out. I truly believe hurt people hurt people. 😒 Btw I enjoy your content and totally understand where you’re coming from. 💜 PS- and bravo 👏🏾 to your mom/aunt for not going out to hunt these a-holes down because I take it personal as a mom when folks come for my children. It’s unacceptable and definitely not cool.
Same. The social media personality/influencer life seems tempting (self employment, potential to make alot of money) but I don't think i can do it. It seems exhausting. Dealing with negative feedback, the need to present in the most aesthetically pleasing way. Giving people what they want whatever that is. Tiresome.
Same here! I couldn’t do it- almost did and chose not to bc ppl are so vicious towards folks they don’t even know on the internet ESP. black content creators
I get where you're coming from. I will say you received a lot of subscribers in a short amount of time because of being vulnerable and relatable. I don't think most people watching you are doing it for amusement. However, those that can't relate will unfortunately many times pick you apart. Also, bw can be seen as punching bags for many. So do what makes you happy. It takes a lot to put yourself out there.
As a 22 year old young woman, I understand exactly how you feel. It’s hard not being accepted for who you are no matter what age you are. Continue being you! You just don’t know how much you’ve helped me get through one of the hardest periods of my life. Peace and love ❤
It seems like in these days people don’t appreciate a smart, thought provoking and intellectual content creator. It feel like some people are offended with your gift and ability to be critical that it’s easier for them to hate than to come to a honest and true realisation that what you share is honest and often time very truthful. You encourage them to think about their lives in a way that they have been denying. You are a gem, please don’t let them rob us of you.
This hair is everything! I really appreciate your willingness to be vulnerable and I hate that as a collective we respond to folks’ vulnerability with hardness and deliberate misunderstanding.
It seems like these reactors completely miss the point when it comes to your content. They (and their commentors) seem to take this position of "having your best interests 🥺" but its just moralizing BS and armchair psychoanalysis.
I don't think any of her videos required a reaction. The only possible video was the pretty privilege video. Majority of the reactions were self righteous people that wanted to use her as an example to substantiate their point. If the intention was to help her, a simple DM or comment would've done the trick. Or even an interview/video call.
I was just talking about this with my partner and friend! You really do have to be in some hierarchical group or position before your vulnerability is received compassionately or relatable/validating. Keep up the amazing nuanced content! Yeeeessss compassion fatigue and competing for the saddest story is real.
*Ageism, honestly as a fellow woman in her 30s I feel like we are expected to be established & accomplished. The way I see it, is you stick out because, you make people uncomfortable and you're suppose to make people uncomfortable. Stay with me lol, when they see you authentically being yourself, it's triggering to those who are in denial. Please keep going!*
The fact that a content creator with millions of followers chose to watch your video, record and edit a response video, publish it, and dialog with viewers shows how interesting and thought-provoking your content is. That's way too much time and energy being invested in you for that person to not be influenced by you to some degree. That's a fan and you send him/her some autographed memorabilia. In all seriousness, I'm terribly sorry this happened to you.
23:55 What you highlighted about constructive criticism versus destructive criticism was so clarifying for me. I really am going to now slow down and ask myself if certain criticism should be delivered in a certain way, or even to certain people. I thought I was already doing that, but I now realize I'm not doing it as much or as effectively as I could 😭
Some people are triggered by your stories because they were the antagonize in the story .. They know they treated people like that and it makes them feel called out
There are so many people like myself who love you. A lot of your backlash is misogynoir. The other is the truth you make people confront. I want to tell you to ignore the hate, learn to capitalize on it, and eventually everyone else will catch up but you have to honor your peace. I’m rooting for you💓
I don’t really leave comments but I want you to know how much I enjoy your content. As a 38yr old woman myself looking for love in all the wrong places I’ve dealt with similar circumstances. Not all woman our age are married or in committed relationships. I am dealing with life the best I can just as you are. You are real and raw and yourself which I admire. Hateful people will go out of their way to tear people down. I feel bad for them. But you do have an audience. I’m glad I’m apart of it.
I am so old I won't even mention it and I love you, your delivery and your content. I have waited a LONG time to hear a black woman's voice like your own. Keep it up. You are doing important work.
A lot of people wish they could be as vulnerable as you. And that’s the honest truth. Are you a water sign? I ask because SZA is a water sign and her CTRL album was extremely vulnerable. She talked about things that I (and plenty of other women) went through but were too ashamed to admit it. I say all that to say that your channel reminds me of the CTRL album. You’re taking control over your life, while being vulnerable … all the while accepting things for what it is and knowing that things will get better. SZA got LOTS of judgement for the lyrics on the album. But it was the truth! It was her truth! She was being herself and being vulnerable. If no one is vibe’n with you, they don’t have to watch. I know it’s easier said than done- but ignore them. Forget them. They don’t matter. 💕
Girl there is magic in being un-bothered. This is just one of the cons of being a creator. You know what you're trying give to your audience and just stay focused on that. Please reconsider, because I find it channel inspiring. When you got haters, you know you're doing it right. It's so stinking hard, but we can't let this world change us or change our purpose! Much love 😘
Yeeeees! I love that! “We can’t let this world change us or change our purpose!” Yes! This is so true! I’ll have to use this! Such a great piece of advice to give someone like her that has so much to give, in terms of sharing experiences that many of us go through. Many of us don’t have the courage to talk about our experiences, or we are too embarrassed or feeling too alone to speak about them at the least.
Steph I am 23 and I relate so much to your content and I love your vulnerability infact you have inspired me to make content that is vulnerable regardless of what people will have to say about it. I hope even with all the hate you are able to recognise how many people you have touched and inspired 💖💖💖
Omg!!! I live for your dating stories. I still go back and listen to your old ones. They are so raw and real... and it's honestly what we all deal with. I hate the fact that people think they have the right to tear down someone else for content or just to make themselves feel better. Without your dating stories this will change your channel so much for me because this is where I connected with you. However, I wish you peace & happiness in whatever route you take.
I feel like silent supporters are being punished. I don’t comment on every video and it’s like the loud naysayers are overshadowing those of us that like to hear about your experiences. I love your storytimes and wish that people didn’t have such negative emotions/reactions about things that you have decided to discuss.
I just wrote a comment expressing similar thoughts. I believe that usually the folks who need to see the content most are the least likely to comment. & that's unfortunate, bc she's responding based on feedback that isn't accurately reflecting her audience
While I get what you're saying, you must understand that she has to protect her mental/emotional wellbeing first and foremost. Your silent observation of her content can not do that, if hundreds (or possibly thousands?) of other people are picking her apart.
So true. There is a lot of silent support for her. But it must be a real heart dropping moment being faced with seeing nasty things about yourself online I could listen to her dating stories all day
WE LOVE YOU GIRL!! Protect yourself, your energy and your heart. Whatever is best for you to do whether it’s on UA-cam or off of UA-cam we will support you!! If no one else does I will support the decision you make for YOU! Stay blessed beautiful, smart, kind woman♥️🥰
Ma'am as fellow member of WOACA YOUR PAGE IS WHAT I NEVER KNEW I NEEDED. You hit on pains and topics that have been and are currently being dealt with by the quiet millions. I pray your channel flourishes beyond your wildest dreams. I love you and your vulnerability. Sending peace and good vibes 🙌🏾🤝🏾🫂
You are one of my top youtubers that I whatch every single video of. But I can imagina that your content is very much: the girls who get get, the girls who don't don't. If you haven't had the same experiences a lot of the things seem irrational. I I like to see you realize where you can improve and grow. It's a wakeup call for me that we aren't done learning at 30 especially if we didn't get to have a lot of the experiences other people did at a younger age.
I’m admittingly ignorant to a lot of the social inequalities that black women sadly face. When I heard you talk about the second point of why you’ll never be the next big hit Storytime teller on UA-cam, it really opened my eyes and broke my heart. I’m here for the content; all of it. I’m here to laugh and cry at the entertaining stories you tell (because you’re a damn good storyteller) but I inadvertently learn a lot about the black woman experience through your videos. I just wanted to say thank you. It’s a tremendously unfair and unjust system for Black women and I feel like your videos are really good at exposing that. As a Mexican woman, I grew up thinking that all minorities were equally socially disadvantaged but now I know that is not true.
Please don’t leave UA-cam or your platforms. You have no idea how powerful and impactful you are, Stephanie. You inspire me and so many of us on here and your voice is necessary. Thank you for sharing your vulnerability with us, even right now, because this video is quite vulnerable. I know it’s hard to do, but please try to focus on the positive comments, the consistent followers who validate you, and the good that comes your way. Again, I know that’s so hard to do, and it’s natural to gravitate towards the negative. But please, think about ways you can lean into the good part of your audience. Think of ways to created content that is geared toward the folks who support you. Because we want to see and hear you! ❤️ You can do this. You’re creative enough, honest enough, funny enough, gorgeous enough, hardworking enough, and strong enough. Yes ma’am, you are.
I love your vulnerability, ability to introspect, claim your mistakes(sometimes) and extend empathy to people even those who hurt you. Many people don't do this within themselves , not to talk of publicly. I suspect your content makes them uncomfortable in a world where many pretend to have dropped from their mother's womb fully formed and already wise. I may have to get my first patreon subscription after all.
Your content is unique, relatable, funny, attention crabbing, thought provoking, entertaining, witty, courageous, engaging, eye opening, soul stirring, conjures up introspection and retrospection in your viewers. I love the way you articulate yourself. You definitely have a wonderful way with words. Although i watch a lot of videos on UA-cam, I rarely ever watch any video over 10 min, except when it comes to you. I hope you do what’s in the best interest of yourself preservation but please know you’ve made a difference in many of your viewers lives.
I love your content but you have every right to put your vulnerable content behind a paywall. I’m not surprised by this because vulnerability leaves others with the idea to make videos that are not the nicest. I have seen it with my other faves. You deserve everything good steph. You really are a fresh breath of air for UA-cam.
I don't know how many of your videos have I watched today, and at first I wasn't going to comment, but I just had to. You're amazing, and you're doing a sterling job.
Firstly, you look so beautiful in this video and always. Secondly, you are absolutely brilliant and NEEDED. People are so delusional with themselves, they can't tolerate your authenticity. This channel has been one of my favorites of the past year, and I RARELY comment on videos. Please know that YOUR audience loves and appreciates your voice. Don't ever let them change you.
Love ❤️ your content. I’m 53 and still have crazy dating stories! And still not married! Ugh! Please keep whatever you choose to talk about coming. I’m here for it!
Steph, I appreciate your voice. Your vulnerability, transparency, growing pains, wisdom, disappointments, heartbreaks, candidness, storytelling, humor, self-discovery. I appreciate that you've obviously lived a very successful interesting life, and yet you choose to lead with vulnerable, sometimes less than flattering experiences that you've been through for the purpose of connecting and starting those conversations that are "embarrassing" or "we don't talk about that" with a wider platform. As many subscribers and viewers have already said, I find it refreshing. Everyone is always walking around with their carefully curated egos of what they do, what they have, who they're with, and it's increasingly more difficult and frustrating and lonely to feel like everyone is plugged into this video game that you don't want to play anymore. Life isn't about neat on paper, linear milestones where one size fits all and if you can't conform or perform adequately, you're a failure unworthy of love. I love that through UA-cam, I can see that there are people who are grappling with and enduring through their own hardships, some shared, others completely their own, AND IT'S OKAY! Pretending like we have it all together or that anyone actually knows what they're doing is bs. Your voice counts for three hundred of those voices that want to blend in and appear like everyone else. Thank you for being who you are and being *where you are* and having the courage to post that online💖💕
Steph please do you okay Those who support you will and you’ll find your tribe here Those who matter won’t mind and even if they have criticism for you, it’ll be constructive and have a better impact I love your content💕
You are very relatable. I really appreciate your platform and I’m probably older than your mother! 😊Keep doing the work you’re doing in a way that is safe for you. God bless you!
Woooooooow. I was shocked and disgusted by the amount of skinfolk of the same sex that just decided to bad mouth you for your experiences, which are super relatable, is mind blowing to me. It’s clear that they do not watch you or understand women going through what you and I go through. There’s just no grace for us. I really relate to your content as a darker skinned black woman in her mid 30’s that is also still single. I appreciate your vulnerability and understand if you decide to stop. (Writing and watching at the same time)
This is one of the reasons that makes me shy away from being a content creator. Great video (as always) and you’ve added a lot of nuance. Love your content and hope you leep creating (but not at the expense of your well-being)! 💕
It's the history of how black women have been seen and how black women want others to see them. It's that other black women can affect other black women's image and if that other black women is not someone you can relate to it may be upsetting so they drag you.
Internet culture these days is sooo frustrating it's like - be honest, but not too honest. I'm not looking for inspiration, I'm looking for TRUE honestly and that's why I love your channel. Lot's of those reaction videos are likely a sea of projections. I know I've gone to bat on your behalf in these comments because some people really don't see how growth is JOURNEY for ALL of us. Including their lil judgmental selves. Sorry you experience this.
I found you from your first viral video about Pretty Privilege and I knew right away that you were different. I love your content! You often say things I wish I was brave enough to say. I saw one of those negative reaction videos and I can see how that person, coming from that point of view could read your content that way, but they totally missed your context and meaning. I am 40 years old, unmarried and without children and I also really wanted those things. I know your pain and vulnerability well. Unfortunately, there are a lot of people who just won't get it. I agree that your age, gender and ethnicity makes you an easy target...and it's not fair. Please, know your honesty and vulnerability has helped me more than you know. Keep your head up and know you are loved and valued by many near and far! 💜❤💜
I have been battling with deciding how much of myself to share and this video has helped me with that. Thank you for sharing yourself, we do need to share ourselves to overcome the monolith we have been defined by. I really appreciate the way you analyse your own experiences with so much insight, objectivity and yes vulnerability. I also see it as a way to document for yourself and your loved ones what it was like to be you in your own words. Bravo for doing it😘
Please let this serve as another sign that you are NEEDED. It would be a sad day for me to see that you have decided to no longer create content. I know myself and so many others (especially black women) relate to you so much. I truly believe the best is yet to come for you!
Steph I truly and genuinely love you and your content. Your vulnerability is refreshing and needed. When I watch your videos I feel like I am talking/listening to my UA-cam bestie. It would bum me out if you decided to walk away from UA-cam, but I understand that there are some people in the world who want to dim your light. I stand with you and I'm so grateful that I found your channel 💛
Proud of you Steph. It’s always easier to shoot the messenger than to hold the king accountable. All of human life is based on social hierarchies. The norm is enforced. The second someone points out how the norm hurts those it puts down, that’s the only time people get angry about it. Keep making them angry Queen. Don’t let them silence you. 💜👏🏽✨
steph, i parasocially love you, girl! you are absolutely the only youtuber in my virtual proximity who i match with in demographic and shared experience. the insights from “conversations” you have with us are ones ive JUST started to grow into having with my IRL friends. your vulnerability enriches my online experience and i relate more than i can say. i check for your content regularly and i see you, truly. thank you, girl. 💛✨🙌🏾
I cannot imagine being picked apart for being truly open and vulnerable with my viewers. I'm so sorry that you're facing this. Like you said, it's fair, but still disheartening. I hope you find some comfort in the kind words shared in these comments. I wish you all the best
Firstly girl you are the UA-camr you thought you were to me and many of us. Your channel and content is elite 👌🏾. I subscribed after watching one of your videos, you’re truthful, Insightful, intellectual and Hilarious. Never stop making content because we love this space that you’ve created❤. I’m going to miss your dating story times but I get it protect your peace girl!. Love from London, routing for you from across the pond. 💕
I’m so sorry to hear about these negative reaction videos Steph. You have kept me company through my first few months after divorce. Please protect yourself, I will still be here no matter what. Love you!
I like your content just the way it is. I’m 22 years old and I feel like your channel/videos is INCREDIBLY REFRESHING!! It’s real and honest & I like that!
Love your channel!! Like others...I hate that this has happened to you. I'm older than you and still vulnerable. We are authentically human and trying to survive by keeping our heads above water....NO MATTER WHAT AGE. Until some can literally walk in my shoes...people should keep their judgements to themselves. You just keep keeping on ..💯
Keep doing what you doing... you’re rising through the ranks. I love how hard you love and it makes a person like me (someone who’s very emotionally... stiff) want to go towards being more vulnerable. I think for some your initial stories were so heavy and jarring that it was easier to be upset than compassionate. As I’ve consumed more of your content I got the quirk in you, and though the stories have me clenching my jaw at times I’m not sad for you; just hopeful you’ll get the love that’ll overfill you🤞🏾👍🏾
Oh girl i done learned the hard way not to search my name on YT or anywhere else. I also have learned the hard way not to watch negative content/reaction videos of content creators I’m subscribed too. I enjoy being vulnerable and loving content creators and don’t want that ruined by anyone.
Warning: In this video, I pronounce Viola Davis's name completely wrong SEVERAL times. Also, just to be clear...I know putting yourself "out there" means you are fair game for reactions, commentary and analyzation. However, the amount of content created responding and reacting to me is overwhelming. And the amount of people online who seem to be fans of it because they feel the same way is disheartening. And, as I am not a celebrity, I have not committed a crime, and my youtube channel is very new, the amount of anit-me content seems excessive. So yeah, I know it's technically...fair, but that doesn't make it easier to accept.
I thoroughly enjoy your relationship videos. Please don’t stop sharing them! The folks critiquing have worse experiences but would never share. I’ve learned from your videos because I was a late bloomer too. Love your relationship story times!!
You’re 100% valid. Don’t mind me but I’m in the camp that says just because someone puts there personal life out there doesn’t mean we should now abuse them.
Thankfully when I search your name on UA-cam I only see your videos for like the first 15, with this video being the top one
Please don’t stop being true to you. I’m afraid to do UA-cam but I’m becoming stronger each day. You’re the mould, sweet girl!!!💕
I think you hit the nail on the head……….You can not be somewhere “in the middle” regarding anything anymore be it politics……..religious views……….or content regarding dating and/or male female relationships. As a you tuber or on any other social media platform if you are not creating content that is either on the side of “the manosphere” or “all men are trash” then you kind of get lost in the void of interesting but not noteworthy content.
The more extreme and voracious the commentary the more likes and/or views said content will receive.
That said you are not being honest with yourself if you really think you are somewhere in the middle of the whole modern day “battle of the sexes” that is going on all over social media. Your content is definitely geared closer to the “men are trash” content than anything else.
I personally don’t agree with most of the opinions expressed in your videos. Starting with this whole notion that somehow your life would be magically better if only you had “pretty privilege” has rubbed me up the wrong way to see the least.
That said I think you are interesting and engaging which is probably the main reason why I subscribed and will continue to watch your videos. Not to bash you but to see how your mindset and content changes over time and will your perceptions about relationships change or will they get worse and become more jaded.
Tbh I’m a 17 year old male and I don’t relate to 90% of your content but I watch it anyways cause I find your videos entertaining and introspective, kind of like a wise older sister.
Same I’m a 21 year old Asian male but I love how transparent and open Steph is, she is one of the few people on this platform (or any platform) that talk about real social problems and trends, that deal with the real human experience.
Welcome! :)
I love this! ❤
Literally love you. I HATE how black women are limited. You look GREAT, your content is fantastic, and as someone in my late twenties who is dating I legit relate to all your feelings. I love that UA-cam brought you to me and you’re the right messenger for me! I also love with each new video the quality improves, background is changing? And you are giving looks. Please these haters need to relax
Hey I’m 53 and I can relate and share some crazy dating stories that could make you laugh and cry! I love your content Steph! Your delivery is funny, love your voice, your looks , and your wigs!!!!!💕🙏I wish you all the best! I will watch your videos no matter what you talk about lol 😆
Yeah, I really can't imagine why haters come after Steph. Jealousy, maybe? Boredom? People are strange. Not every creator's content will suit every viewer, but plenty of creators are out there. I wish when folks saw content that wasn't for them, they'd just keep moving. Their time would be better spent looking for other creators whose content is more to their taste than criticizing those whose isn't
It’s not that black women are limited.. anyone that puts up videos can have reactions to them.. I’ve seen many types of reaction videos from creators of all types
@@scarletsletter4466 unfortunately there is so much hate in this world that being cruel has become a personality trait
I love too!
I hate this happened to you. It sucks. I am 40 and I am still trying to find myself. 😢 I get no grace from myself or anyone else. I admire your transparency. You are everything Stephco!!
I am 39 and still trying to find myself as well. Lord I wish to get that together this year. I admire Stephco as well.
I am 41, same
It is never too late to find yourself!!
Girl, 50 in a few months and I still don't know what I wanna be when I grow up 🥴
Glad to see that I'm in good company. A friend of mine said that when she wears lipstick she looks like she has her life together but it couldn't be farther from the truth. I felt that.
Off topic butttt - you’ve been serving looks lately honey 🍯 💅🏾 💁🏾♀️
I second this statement
Yes she has! She looks amazing
I agree-she looks good here!
Right?!? I say this every video!
Yes!
At first I was disappointed to hear that there wouldn't be any more romantic storytimes, but after watching this, I understand, and agree. Your first responsibility is to protect yourself.
Even when you're trying not to be problematic, ppl will still find you to be problematic. Your content is refreshing/entertaining and it's truly appreciated over here
AMEN 🙏🏾
That's because everyone has their own idea of what problematic is
This is how Life is. No one idea or person will please everyone. Music, Religion, Politics....people do not agree 100% on anything. I know that I can literally be minding my own business & some people won't like it. We just grow a tougher skin as we age. Duh. Why do ppl still act upset that they get bad feedback? We also get Good feedback right? Why not just Focus on that?
@@ff2154 And why not just go about your business and not comment at all? If you don't agree, like, relate etc on the topic or how someone choose to live their lives and express themselves, why not just keep on scrolling and move on?
I never understood going out my way to give someone any form of feedback or constructive criticism unless they asked me for it. Other than that I let them be.
If someone responds to a negative comment it is because they wanted to, just like the person who had the desire to provide their meaningless 2 cents when no one asked them for it.
@@cosmicbeauty5682 I am commenting because I have an opinion and I feel like commenting on a Public Open Platform. Notice that my comment does not violate any YT commenter rules (no profanity, vulgarity, etc). You proved my point exactly 🤣😉You didn't like my comment. See how people don't agree with everyone? And yes, a Content Creator is asking for feedback or they wouldn't make their comments public (they would turn comments off). If a comment is problematic then it gets reported and removed. I welcome various feedback, as long as it is respectful. It is unrealistic in this world to expect ppl to only give you positive feedback. I just added another penny to the 2 cents I gave earlier 🤠
Girl fuck those people period! I’m 25 and cannot relate to 95 percent of this crap we call the internet but your content is an amazing, nurturing, safe place! I love your content! Reality will never be as wonderful as fantasy and that’s why people mad. Please look into having someone moderate your comments to get rid of destructive criticism.
I agree with you💯%‼️
Same. As someone who is the same age, I also find comfort in Steph's content.
It’s fuck them forever !
I love this comment so much! Even celebrities don’t read comments. Have someone go through and remove the haters. I heard you can change your settings to block certain hateful words right off the bat! She’s making an impact that’s why they are targeting her. They are literally making money off of bashing her. Social media feeds off negatively and hate.
Wow! That was direct right out the gate! Love it! That opening line made me clutch my pearls! (that I'm not really wearing lol) - thanks for the giggle! 🤗
It's a shame there is no space for us, the awkward black woman, who hasn't found herself yet. Steph you had created that space. This was the place we could come to without feeling pressured to be anything but ourselves. This is the place you could come to to breathe a sigh of relief and forget about your worries in the world for a while because everyone here understood each other. I don't understand why we are so disrespected, but seeing how women respond to you on your own platform, and how quickly you gained a solid following, you do have an audience and people need spaces like this. I'm sorry you're going through this.
I’m so confused….people get mad when content creators are seen to be faking their lives and not being real and here we have someone being vulnerable and giving us her raw life experience and that’s still a problem??
So being real too is a problem ?🤦🏾♀️
I don’t even want to hear anything about her being “too real”🙄
What do you people want at all???🤯🤯😩
Yeah, I do not get some of these folks at all. It’s like they want content creators to not be too honest, especially when it comes to their personal life😒💯
my thoughts EXACTLY!
Because people thrive on drama and consider real people boring.
People want to complain
It’s only a problem if you’re a Black woman. People really hate Black women talking or simply existing in any way that’s not subservient.
It's so nice that you have relatives who support you so well and fully.
Yeah, that's really great!
This part I was in awe like wait ya mama AND ya aunty watch your videos and support them. How wonderful.
I have seen that when black women show their weakness, vulnerability and pain points sometimes they’re viewed as drama queens or as a nuisance.
The sad thing is that most of the hateful reaction videos are from black women
Yes this is so true. I even felt like a burden for being vulnerable.
But now I speak my mind and ppl just gonna have to cope.😅
Facts
@@aworte3266 really?
As a dark skinned woman who’ve has several similar experiences as you, please continue to make content!!! 💗💗💗
*had
Steph- Thank you for sharing your vulnerability. Social media can be a cesspool of negativity at times. You are a rarity.
Stephco. I am a black man and we love you and appreciate what you do. Thank you for your honesty and content that you create. You are putting out positivity in the world and inspiring other people to be honest with themselves. That honesty inspires others to self awareness and growth. Thank you and please be encouraged.
I hate how people try to do you!! You are so refreshingly yourself. I feel like so many people are hiding, and your restore my faith in vulnerability and authenticity.. Just your example of black femininity is so unique and necessary!! It's ok to have boundaries, but I adore your content.
ugh this makes me so sad. your pretty privilege video is the most relatable video on youtube for me and your storys make me feel so seen. i cant believe this era is over
I’ve watched that video and the one about approaching men like a million times. It feels like I’m listening to a friend or sister, something about steph is very comforting.
RIGHT. in the black cosplay community you'll only be big if you lightskin OR dark but with very thin features on your face. Ppl are hypocrites.
As a black woman in the uk (and soon to be in Australia) your voice is definitely needed. When i see your videos it uplifts my day and i always make sure to check them out. You're the voice for other black women who haven't found their voice yet on UA-cam. So please continue sharing and take time out for you and for your mental health 💖
I think your videos are great but as a casual subscriber, I totally understand if your Patreon folks or other more vested folks get the more vulnerable content. People are very brazenly critical online. Wishing you continued growth and success!
Its sad to see this happen but I figured it would come to this one day. I'm happy with what she shared with us for free and she probably the only youtuber I would pay for a patreon because I love to a fellow sis redefine outdated social conventions of black woman hood just by stating the obvious facts about society and by her being her authentic self.
I have absolutely noticed the intolerance towards people who are still in the thick of their struggle speak about their hardships when it’s the hardest and most real for them but once they’ve made it people want to hear all about the hard difficult come up story it’s weird
Wow you put into words something I hadn't explicitly thought of but definitely have seen. It's another form of toxic positivity
You're so right. I got ditched by so many so called friends once they found partners and got established in careers. They no longer wanted to be around me because I am still finding my way. Often I'd helped these people during their worst times, when they'd been dumped or made unemployed or admitted they were alcoholic. I listened, cared about them supported and advised them. Once their lives improved they looked back on me with disdain. A lot of people seem to hate people who are struggling but like you said, they love to hear the struggle story once the person makes it.
Yeah I’ve noticed that too. I don’t know if it has to do with the details sounding too raw from someone who’s in the thick of it as opposed to someone who’s gotten past it. People get uncomfortable witnessing/hearing another person’s pain as they’re experiencing it, an unfortunately, may internalize it as the person “complaining” of “doing it to themselves” to make themselves feel more comfortable.
Everyone has haters. Even the nicest and kindest, and least confrontational videos get hate. I want you to keep going.
this is such a true comment!
You do deserve better. But I don’t think you realize how cutting edge your content and internet presence is. Nobody I’ve come across is really doing what you’re doing. It’s so refreshing. Please don’t stop💓
PERIOD.
Because she’s honest and admitting things that people probably feel but are too ashamed to voice it. She’s a gem 💕
I second🙌🏾Phuleeeeaase don't stop.
I'm a fan of you. I understand and support you and I'm a black women. I appreciate having a black women I can relate to in personality, thoughts, and experiences. I appreciate your voice and you speaking up for things.
Woman- women is plural, meaning more than one.
@@temeka4288 ok, grammar police/spell check monitor... simmer down, sweetie 😏... We all knew what she meant. 🙂
@@naturalelation1631 Okay, and why are you feeling the need to comment about my comment if you knew what was meant? Jog along. How about you simmer down yourself and mind your own.
YOU. ARE. AMAZING! I'm 51 and your dating stories have been and continue to be my dating stories. Everybody isn't for everybody. Your tribe is your tribe. Thank you for what you do... you heal! Don't let anybody in their negativity take that gift from you.
You mentioned intent vs impact.... And there's your focus. You intend to help by sharing your vulnerability and the impact is very much felt for what it is BUT those most impacted in a positive way may not be those that are comfortable sharing .... Which is why your voice, your delivery, your "you being you".... is so important. Evolve but don't change. Much Love Much Light Steph.
I'm so sad that you aren't able to be vulnerable like you began this youtube channel doing. I'm a fan of your content and I'm a fan of you.
I remember seeing Fantasia on my TV screen auditioning for American idol and, not knowing her at all, for whatever reason, I wanted her to succeed so bad. With you, I feel the same way. I really want to see you succeed at whatever you want to accomplish in life. So I'll be here for the foreseeable future. I love your realness, your intellect, your humour, your talent. I wish you the best.
I've been married over 20 years and I love love your content. You are honest about your experiences and truly relatable. Please don't let the negative feedback dictate how you move forward. You have more supporters who love what you do, then that don't support you. Your popular, the haters are gonna hate. Let em. That's how you know your doing well. Keep doing you. It's genuine and authentic and that's what people are drawn to.
This saddens me because I feel like I had kind of lost interest in UA-cam save a few people prior to your coming on board. And you stick out because of your unique take and your refreshing candor. Having said that, you’re more than those stories for which you were critiqued, and I’m a huge proponent for protecting yourself, so if that’s what you have to do, I will keep watching whatever you do share! And am a happy patron! The world definitely devours vulnerability and honesty which is terrible, but it def wasn’t all for not
I absolutely love Lipglossssss. She did mention not feeling protected and asked who would uplift her. She is always praised for being so raw and validating but who is validating her? Her account was also deleted recently, not sure why. I think we still have a long way to go for dsbw of all ages to truly have a soft place to land when it comes to vulnerability. Another awesome video.
I saw one of her videos and she's adorable! Can you explain which account of hers is deleted because she still has her YT and IG as far as I know.
@@nancykerrigan Her main Tik Tok channel was deleted. It must have returned, but I don't know why they deleted it. She does speak about some harsh truths though. She is definitely adorable.
I love her too she is amazing
@@nancykerrigan ua-cam.com/video/LWUQiJuXqiI/v-deo.html
I saw that - love her content. She lost her account for some reason, even though she has never done anything wrong than state her opinion. I think some people don’t want you to succeed cause your not the norm and they reported her.
Steph..... You have to be authentic. Be you. Folks are literally just trying to feed the yt algorithm and make money off your name.
You are well educated and we'll spoken. Folks love to HOTEP....don't let them stop your shine. Be YOU...
Thank you sis for sharing your story and the courage you have showed throughout your yt journey. As a 43 y/o father, your content is valuable to me for the emotional context that helps me understand the struggles my 20 and 18 y/o daughters go through as young women just starting out in life.
I found you on TikTok and they were calling you insecure. I feel like that is so unfair. Because your personality is not insecure. I feel like you deal with insecurities and you are also confident and strong for being vulnerable. You’re becoming a big sister to me because I’m learning so much from your videos 💗
Steph, your content is so necessary for so many people on this platform. It’s actually borderline sickening at the thought that people negatively pick it apart…I really hate people sometimes, if it’s not for them, then they keep scrolling- I promise it’s not that hard. There are a ton of people who benefit, learn, relate and appreciate you and especially your honesty & vulnerability. Suggestions for improvement are fine, but cruelty is never necessary. There are actual creators that are incredibly harmful on this platform that need to be picked apart yet they somehow thrive.
Exactly. Well said👏🏾‼️
Maam pulled out that degree in education cause bay bay...I got schooled. I love how she went about this. I support this channel100%. Black Women are not encouraged to be vulnerable despite the performative campaign for us to deconstruct the strong black woman trope. I've seen these youtubers and they CLEARLY look like they trying to run off the fumes of your CLOUT. I'm glad you can help their mediocre channels.
And this is one of the reasons why I will not make a UA-cam channel because I’m not strong enough to take the bs ignorant people dish out. I truly believe hurt people hurt people. 😒 Btw I enjoy your content and totally understand where you’re coming from. 💜
PS- and bravo 👏🏾 to your mom/aunt for not going out to hunt these a-holes down because I take it personal as a mom when folks come for my children. It’s unacceptable and definitely not cool.
Same. The social media personality/influencer life seems tempting (self employment, potential to make alot of money) but I don't think i can do it. It seems exhausting. Dealing with negative feedback, the need to present in the most aesthetically pleasing way. Giving people what they want whatever that is. Tiresome.
Facts. Screw the haters🤷🏾♂️‼️
@@nancykerrigan exactly why I am hesitant
Hmmm. You're generous. Some people are just a-holes. That's why they hurt other people.
Same here! I couldn’t do it- almost did and chose not to bc ppl are so vicious towards folks they don’t even know on the internet ESP. black content creators
I get where you're coming from. I will say you received a lot of subscribers in a short amount of time because of being vulnerable and relatable. I don't think most people watching you are doing it for amusement. However, those that can't relate will unfortunately many times pick you apart. Also, bw can be seen as punching bags for many. So do what makes you happy. It takes a lot to put yourself out there.
As a 22 year old young woman, I understand exactly how you feel. It’s hard not being accepted for who you are no matter what age you are. Continue being you! You just don’t know how much you’ve helped me get through one of the hardest periods of my life. Peace and love ❤
It seems like in these days people don’t appreciate a smart, thought provoking and intellectual content creator. It feel like some people are offended with your gift and ability to be critical that it’s easier for them to hate than to come to a honest and true realisation that what you share is honest and often time very truthful. You encourage them to think about their lives in a way that they have been denying. You are a gem, please don’t let them rob us of you.
Dang that's true!
This hair is everything! I really appreciate your willingness to be vulnerable and I hate that as a collective we respond to folks’ vulnerability with hardness and deliberate misunderstanding.
Your skin is glowing and that lip color is gorgeous on you!
I love the lip color she chose today too
It seems like these reactors completely miss the point when it comes to your content. They (and their commentors) seem to take this position of "having your best interests 🥺" but its just moralizing BS and armchair psychoanalysis.
I don't think any of her videos required a reaction. The only possible video was the pretty privilege video. Majority of the reactions were self righteous people that wanted to use her as an example to substantiate their point.
If the intention was to help her, a simple DM or comment would've done the trick. Or even an interview/video call.
I was just talking about this with my partner and friend! You really do have to be in some hierarchical group or position before your vulnerability is received compassionately or relatable/validating. Keep up the amazing nuanced content! Yeeeessss compassion fatigue and competing for the saddest story is real.
*Ageism, honestly as a fellow woman in her 30s I feel like we are expected to be established & accomplished. The way I see it, is you stick out because, you make people uncomfortable and you're suppose to make people uncomfortable. Stay with me lol, when they see you authentically being yourself, it's triggering to those who are in denial. Please keep going!*
The fact that a content creator with millions of followers chose to watch your video, record and edit a response video, publish it, and dialog with viewers shows how interesting and thought-provoking your content is. That's way too much time and energy being invested in you for that person to not be influenced by you to some degree. That's a fan and you send him/her some autographed memorabilia. In all seriousness, I'm terribly sorry this happened to you.
23:55 What you highlighted about constructive criticism versus destructive criticism was so clarifying for me. I really am going to now slow down and ask myself if certain criticism should be delivered in a certain way, or even to certain people. I thought I was already doing that, but I now realize I'm not doing it as much or as effectively as I could 😭
I always look forward to your videos. thank you for being you. stay awesome.
Some people are triggered by your stories because they were the antagonize in the story ..
They know they treated people like that and it makes them feel called out
There are so many people like myself who love you. A lot of your backlash is misogynoir. The other is the truth you make people confront. I want to tell you to ignore the hate, learn to capitalize on it, and eventually everyone else will catch up but you have to honor your peace. I’m rooting for you💓
I don’t really leave comments but I want you to know how much I enjoy your content. As a 38yr old woman myself looking for love in all the wrong places I’ve dealt with similar circumstances. Not all woman our age are married or in committed relationships. I am dealing with life the best I can just as you are.
You are real and raw and yourself which I admire. Hateful people will go out of their way to tear people down. I feel bad for them. But you do have an audience. I’m glad I’m apart of it.
I am so old I won't even mention it and I love you, your delivery and your content. I have waited a LONG time to hear a black woman's voice like your own. Keep it up. You are doing important work.
A lot of people wish they could be as vulnerable as you. And that’s the honest truth. Are you a water sign? I ask because SZA is a water sign and her CTRL album was extremely vulnerable. She talked about things that I (and plenty of other women) went through but were too ashamed to admit it. I say all that to say that your channel reminds me of the CTRL album. You’re taking control over your life, while being vulnerable … all the while accepting things for what it is and knowing that things will get better. SZA got LOTS of judgement for the lyrics on the album. But it was the truth! It was her truth! She was being herself and being vulnerable. If no one is vibe’n with you, they don’t have to watch. I know it’s easier said than done- but ignore them. Forget them. They don’t matter. 💕
Yea she's a pisces
Dang, I thought SZA was an Ares! I guess Pisces makes more sense
@@alyset.3083 no lol Sza is a scorpio. Steph is a pisces
@@cutecurlypuffs112 that makes even more sense😂😂
@@cutecurlypuffs112 Spa’s moon is in Pisces! Ironically
Girl there is magic in being un-bothered. This is just one of the cons of being a creator. You know what you're trying give to your audience and just stay focused on that. Please reconsider, because I find it channel inspiring. When you got haters, you know you're doing it right.
It's so stinking hard, but we can't let this world change us or change our purpose! Much love 😘
Yeeeees! I love that! “We can’t let this world change us or change our purpose!” Yes! This is so true! I’ll have to use this! Such a great piece of advice to give someone like her that has so much to give, in terms of sharing experiences that many of us go through. Many of us don’t have the courage to talk about our experiences, or we are too embarrassed or feeling too alone to speak about them at the least.
Steph I am 23 and I relate so much to your content and I love your vulnerability infact you have inspired me to make content that is vulnerable regardless of what people will have to say about it. I hope even with all the hate you are able to recognise how many people you have touched and inspired 💖💖💖
Omg!!! I live for your dating stories. I still go back and listen to your old ones. They are so raw and real... and it's honestly what we all deal with.
I hate the fact that people think they have the right to tear down someone else for content or just to make themselves feel better.
Without your dating stories this will change your channel so much for me because this is where I connected with you.
However, I wish you peace & happiness in whatever route you take.
I hope you mom/aunt tells you this background and look is on POINT 🎯
I feel like silent supporters are being punished. I don’t comment on every video and it’s like the loud naysayers are overshadowing those of us that like to hear about your experiences. I love your storytimes and wish that people didn’t have such negative emotions/reactions about things that you have decided to discuss.
I agree
I just wrote a comment expressing similar thoughts. I believe that usually the folks who need to see the content most are the least likely to comment. & that's unfortunate, bc she's responding based on feedback that isn't accurately reflecting her audience
While I get what you're saying, you must understand that she has to protect her mental/emotional wellbeing first and foremost. Your silent observation of her content can not do that, if hundreds (or possibly thousands?) of other people are picking her apart.
So true. There is a lot of silent support for her. But it must be a real heart dropping moment being faced with seeing nasty things about yourself online
I could listen to her dating stories all day
100 agree it bothers by soul they are coming for her for being WHAT WE NEED right now
WE LOVE YOU GIRL!! Protect yourself, your energy and your heart. Whatever is best for you to do whether it’s on UA-cam or off of UA-cam we will support you!! If no one else does I will support the decision you make for YOU! Stay blessed beautiful, smart, kind woman♥️🥰
Ma'am as fellow member of WOACA
YOUR PAGE IS WHAT I NEVER KNEW I NEEDED. You hit on pains and topics that have been and are currently being dealt with by the quiet millions. I pray your channel flourishes beyond your wildest dreams. I love you and your vulnerability. Sending peace and good vibes 🙌🏾🤝🏾🫂
Sis, this hair is 😍😍😍‼️‼️omg! Gorg! Period‼️
Hey Stephcolytes-) 🤗Happy Sunday-)
I love hearing your perceptive! The world needs your words and stories. Thank you.
The face is giving, the hair is giving...just everything about your look is gorg
People ruin everything, your content is so refreshing and necessary. I hate that people do these things to you and your videos...
You are one of my top youtubers that I whatch every single video of. But I can imagina that your content is very much: the girls who get get, the girls who don't don't. If you haven't had the same experiences a lot of the things seem irrational. I I like to see you realize where you can improve and grow. It's a wakeup call for me that we aren't done learning at 30 especially if we didn't get to have a lot of the experiences other people did at a younger age.
You look good in all hair styles! Thank you for being vulnerable, it’s refreshing.
I’m admittingly ignorant to a lot of the social inequalities that black women sadly face. When I heard you talk about the second point of why you’ll never be the next big hit Storytime teller on UA-cam, it really opened my eyes and broke my heart.
I’m here for the content; all of it. I’m here to laugh and cry at the entertaining stories you tell (because you’re a damn good storyteller) but I inadvertently learn a lot about the black woman experience through your videos. I just wanted to say thank you. It’s a tremendously unfair and unjust system for Black women and I feel like your videos are really good at exposing that. As a Mexican woman, I grew up thinking that all minorities were equally socially disadvantaged but now I know that is not true.
Please don’t leave UA-cam or your platforms. You have no idea how powerful and impactful you are, Stephanie. You inspire me and so many of us on here and your voice is necessary. Thank you for sharing your vulnerability with us, even right now, because this video is quite vulnerable. I know it’s hard to do, but please try to focus on the positive comments, the consistent followers who validate you, and the good that comes your way. Again, I know that’s so hard to do, and it’s natural to gravitate towards the negative. But please, think about ways you can lean into the good part of your audience. Think of ways to created content that is geared toward the folks who support you. Because we want to see and hear you! ❤️ You can do this. You’re creative enough, honest enough, funny enough, gorgeous enough, hardworking enough, and strong enough. Yes ma’am, you are.
Yes! I totally agree!♥️
I love your vulnerability, ability to introspect, claim your mistakes(sometimes) and extend empathy to people even those who hurt you. Many people don't do this within themselves , not to talk of publicly. I suspect your content makes them uncomfortable in a world where many pretend to have dropped from their mother's womb fully formed and already wise. I may have to get my first patreon subscription after all.
Your content is unique, relatable, funny, attention crabbing, thought provoking, entertaining, witty, courageous, engaging, eye opening, soul stirring, conjures up introspection and retrospection in your viewers. I love the way you articulate yourself. You definitely have a wonderful way with words. Although i watch a lot of videos on UA-cam, I rarely ever watch any video over 10 min, except when it comes to you. I hope you do what’s in the best interest of yourself preservation but please know you’ve made a difference in many of your viewers lives.
Keep showing up as yourself Steph! I love and appreciate you! 💛
I love your content but you have every right to put your vulnerable content behind a paywall. I’m not surprised by this because vulnerability leaves others with the idea to make videos that are not the nicest. I have seen it with my other faves. You deserve everything good steph. You really are a fresh breath of air for UA-cam.
I don't know how many of your videos have I watched today, and at first I wasn't going to comment, but I just had to. You're amazing, and you're doing a sterling job.
Firstly, you look so beautiful in this video and always. Secondly, you are absolutely brilliant and NEEDED. People are so delusional with themselves, they can't tolerate your authenticity. This channel has been one of my favorites of the past year, and I RARELY comment on videos. Please know that YOUR audience loves and appreciates your voice. Don't ever let them change you.
Love ❤️ your content. I’m 53 and still have crazy dating stories! And still not married! Ugh! Please keep whatever you choose to talk about coming. I’m here for it!
Girl, you're sooooo relatable. I hate that people see your content and spew nothing but vitriol so they can gain clicks off your name.
Steph, I appreciate your voice. Your vulnerability, transparency, growing pains, wisdom, disappointments, heartbreaks, candidness, storytelling, humor, self-discovery. I appreciate that you've obviously lived a very successful interesting life, and yet you choose to lead with vulnerable, sometimes less than flattering experiences that you've been through for the purpose of connecting and starting those conversations that are "embarrassing" or "we don't talk about that" with a wider platform. As many subscribers and viewers have already said, I find it refreshing. Everyone is always walking around with their carefully curated egos of what they do, what they have, who they're with, and it's increasingly more difficult and frustrating and lonely to feel like everyone is plugged into this video game that you don't want to play anymore. Life isn't about neat on paper, linear milestones where one size fits all and if you can't conform or perform adequately, you're a failure unworthy of love. I love that through UA-cam, I can see that there are people who are grappling with and enduring through their own hardships, some shared, others completely their own, AND IT'S OKAY! Pretending like we have it all together or that anyone actually knows what they're doing is bs. Your voice counts for three hundred of those voices that want to blend in and appear like everyone else. Thank you for being who you are and being *where you are* and having the courage to post that online💖💕
Steph please do you okay
Those who support you will and you’ll find your tribe here
Those who matter won’t mind and even if they have criticism for you, it’ll be constructive and have a better impact
I love your content💕
You are very relatable. I really appreciate your platform and I’m probably older than your mother! 😊Keep doing the work you’re doing in a way that is safe for you. God bless you!
Girl, your content is absolutely phenomenal. Absolutely accurate.
Woooooooow. I was shocked and disgusted by the amount of skinfolk of the same sex that just decided to bad mouth you for your experiences, which are super relatable, is mind blowing to me. It’s clear that they do not watch you or understand women going through what you and I go through. There’s just no grace for us.
I really relate to your content as a darker skinned black woman in her mid 30’s that is also still single. I appreciate your vulnerability and understand if you decide to stop. (Writing and watching at the same time)
you're my fave youtuber and i'm super appreciative of your vulnerability. pls don't change!
This is one of the reasons that makes me shy away from being a content creator. Great video (as always) and you’ve added a lot of nuance. Love your content and hope you leep creating (but not at the expense of your well-being)! 💕
It's the history of how black women have been seen and how black women want others to see them. It's that other black women can affect other black women's image and if that other black women is not someone you can relate to it may be upsetting so they drag you.
💯. We are our own worst enemy sometimes
I swear I just love your channel. And I wish you the most success. You are one of the most well spoken, well thought out individuals on UA-cam
Internet culture these days is sooo frustrating it's like - be honest, but not too honest. I'm not looking for inspiration, I'm looking for TRUE honestly and that's why I love your channel. Lot's of those reaction videos are likely a sea of projections. I know I've gone to bat on your behalf in these comments because some people really don't see how growth is JOURNEY for ALL of us. Including their lil judgmental selves. Sorry you experience this.
I found you from your first viral video about Pretty Privilege and I knew right away that you were different. I love your content! You often say things I wish I was brave enough to say. I saw one of those negative reaction videos and I can see how that person, coming from that point of view could read your content that way, but they totally missed your context and meaning. I am 40 years old, unmarried and without children and I also really wanted those things. I know your pain and vulnerability well. Unfortunately, there are a lot of people who just won't get it. I agree that your age, gender and ethnicity makes you an easy target...and it's not fair. Please, know your honesty and vulnerability has helped me more than you know. Keep your head up and know you are loved and valued by many near and far! 💜❤💜
I'm sorry you are going thru this. Sending you love and hugs. 💜
I have been battling with deciding how much of myself to share and this video has helped me with that. Thank you for sharing yourself, we do need to share ourselves to overcome the monolith we have been defined by. I really appreciate the way you analyse your own experiences with so much insight, objectivity and yes vulnerability. I also see it as a way to document for yourself and your loved ones what it was like to be you in your own words. Bravo for doing it😘
Please let this serve as another sign that you are NEEDED. It would be a sad day for me to see that you have decided to no longer create content. I know myself and so many others (especially black women) relate to you so much. I truly believe the best is yet to come for you!
Steph I truly and genuinely love you and your content. Your vulnerability is refreshing and needed. When I watch your videos I feel like I am talking/listening to my UA-cam bestie. It would bum me out if you decided to walk away from UA-cam, but I understand that there are some people in the world who want to dim your light. I stand with you and I'm so grateful that I found your channel 💛
Proud of you Steph. It’s always easier to shoot the messenger than to hold the king accountable. All of human life is based on social hierarchies. The norm is enforced. The second someone points out how the norm hurts those it puts down, that’s the only time people get angry about it. Keep making them angry Queen. Don’t let them silence you. 💜👏🏽✨
steph, i parasocially love you, girl! you are absolutely the only youtuber in my virtual proximity who i match with in demographic and shared experience. the insights from “conversations” you have with us are ones ive JUST started to grow into having with my IRL friends. your vulnerability enriches my online experience and i relate more than i can say. i check for your content regularly and i see you, truly. thank you, girl. 💛✨🙌🏾
I cannot imagine being picked apart for being truly open and vulnerable with my viewers. I'm so sorry that you're facing this. Like you said, it's fair, but still disheartening. I hope you find some comfort in the kind words shared in these comments. I wish you all the best
Firstly girl you are the UA-camr you thought you were to me and many of us. Your channel and content is elite 👌🏾. I subscribed after watching one of your videos, you’re truthful, Insightful, intellectual and Hilarious. Never stop making content because we love this space that you’ve created❤. I’m going to miss your dating story times but I get it protect your peace girl!.
Love from London, routing for you from across the pond. 💕
I’m so sorry to hear about these negative reaction videos Steph. You have kept me company through my first few months after divorce. Please protect yourself, I will still be here no matter what. Love you!
I like your content just the way it is. I’m 22 years old and I feel like your channel/videos is INCREDIBLY REFRESHING!! It’s real and honest & I like that!
Love your channel!! Like others...I hate that this has happened to you. I'm older than you and still vulnerable. We are authentically human and trying to survive by keeping our heads above water....NO MATTER WHAT AGE. Until some can literally walk in my shoes...people should keep their judgements to themselves. You just keep keeping on ..💯
your self awareness and way of dealing with issues is truly unique and inspiring
Well Im your age and you are definitely voicing all the ish that goes on in my head so Im a fan, period.
Keep doing what you doing... you’re rising through the ranks. I love how hard you love and it makes a person like me (someone who’s very emotionally... stiff) want to go towards being more vulnerable. I think for some your initial stories were so heavy and jarring that it was easier to be upset than compassionate. As I’ve consumed more of your content I got the quirk in you, and though the stories have me clenching my jaw at times I’m not sad for you; just hopeful you’ll get the love that’ll overfill you🤞🏾👍🏾
Oh girl i done learned the hard way not to search my name on YT or anywhere else. I also have learned the hard way not to watch negative content/reaction videos of content creators I’m subscribed too. I enjoy being vulnerable and loving content creators and don’t want that ruined by anyone.