Loneliness Is a Trauma Symptom

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    Lots of people struggle to connect with other people, but for those of us who grew up with trauma, it seems to be an almost universal symptom.
    If this is you, you're not alone. And healing this sense of separateness from people is possible. Check out my full video on UA-cam.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 84

  • @lulumoon6942
    @lulumoon6942 2 місяці тому +34

    This symptom of trauma is something no therapy could yet address for me. SO grateful TRAUMA is getting the attention it deserves now! 🙏🕊️

  • @caroleminke6116
    @caroleminke6116 3 місяці тому +66

    It caused an attachment disorder that needs to be healed with healthy connections as well as self love through parenting our own inner child first before we try to care for others as in codependency

  • @Good-w7b8e
    @Good-w7b8e 2 місяці тому +13

    Very true. I have super great social skills which I developed after I grew up. I still have trouble connecting. It just does not feel safe.

  • @annetteariasjohnson1462
    @annetteariasjohnson1462 3 місяці тому +26

    ❤At a young age I always wondered what was wrong with my brain!Thank You for this😊🎉💐🙏💜💗

  • @msv9637
    @msv9637 3 місяці тому +34

    Become friends with yourself and let the other pieces fall together. There’s nothing wrong with not settling for unhealthy friendships/relationships.

  • @lifeisbannanas
    @lifeisbannanas 3 місяці тому +33

    I've given up on people. They're too much!

    • @UniqueGeekFreak
      @UniqueGeekFreak 2 місяці тому

      I have too. On the contrary in my experience, they are too little!
      I am too much according to them. I think they are utterly BORING!!!
      Good riddance!!

    • @LoveYah777
      @LoveYah777 Місяць тому

      Life is bananas? It is long, sweet and 🌞 sunshiny yellow!

  • @julrmyana
    @julrmyana 3 місяці тому +24

    I've always question myself "what's wrong with me, why it's always getting worse?" And you helped me a lot with understand who I am and why I've been through so
    Thank you

  • @gamma747
    @gamma747 3 місяці тому +19

    This. This right here. Even if you might not be neglected or abused per se--things can still happen randomly that hinder that ability.

  • @amandaddunn5694
    @amandaddunn5694 3 місяці тому +23

    Thank you, It makes me never feel good enough for anyone😔

    • @chanieweiss4288
      @chanieweiss4288 3 місяці тому +1

      @

    • @chanieweiss4288
      @chanieweiss4288 3 місяці тому +9

      @amandaddunn5694 What a shame, cuz whoever was abusive was the one who was not good enough.

  • @HipHopHoe707
    @HipHopHoe707 3 місяці тому +25

    Definitely true for me. Therapy helped me to learn how to emotionally connect with good people.

    • @cremebrulee4759
      @cremebrulee4759 3 місяці тому +4

      That's wonderful. I hope therapy can help me do that, too.

    • @franm.8343
      @franm.8343 2 місяці тому

      Did you use a particular type of therapy?

    • @HipHopHoe707
      @HipHopHoe707 2 місяці тому

      @@franm.8343 I looked for a therapist that was experienced in relationship trauma.

    • @Bxgdnnn
      @Bxgdnnn 2 місяці тому

      @@cremebrulee4759 same, hopefully it will help us

  • @MrLetmein2011
    @MrLetmein2011 3 місяці тому +11

    You understand this situation more than anyone I know Anna 🙏🏻❤️

  • @HeavenlyPresley-Tonya
    @HeavenlyPresley-Tonya 2 місяці тому +1

    This is SO true!!!!! Seeking Love with bad people but thinking I deserved the abuse with these men - I know now it came from longing for My Dad's Love I tried everything to belong with my family and was always degraded

  • @mcdijkhuizen941
    @mcdijkhuizen941 3 місяці тому +4

    I agree totally with what your saying....but i must say that now that im in my seventies its going better. Hoping that it goes better and better. I think it has to do with self acceptance. Im wishing you a happy day. Greetings from Marianne from the Netherlands

  • @Localtuff
    @Localtuff 3 місяці тому +14

    I’ve avoided people who should not be in my life and now I have nobody in it.

    • @chanieweiss4288
      @chanieweiss4288 3 місяці тому +3

      @Localtuff There are good, emotionally healthy people you can find and have in your life.

    • @Localtuff
      @Localtuff 3 місяці тому +2

      @ I have a problem trusting people and making friends.

    • @HandhalahHussainh
      @HandhalahHussainh Місяць тому +1

      You've set healthy boundaries for yourself. And it's ok not too have people around, it takes time. But you are never truly alone when so many people feel as you do. Start off small a pet can help or just visiting a local Cafe and treating yourself eventually those people will come in.

  • @Sweetlyfe
    @Sweetlyfe 3 місяці тому +6

    So true. Thank you Anna for your beautiful warmth, compassion and empathy you have obviously worked really hard to help heal yourself. Now you share all the knowledge and experience of what worked for you, with the rest of us. Your beautiful essence shines through and you help me to understand myself more. I’m in therapy just working on grief right now after the loss of the love of my life 3yrs ago from cancer. But my other stuff comes up too. Right now my newly diagnosed ADHD & Autism is holding me up from looking at and starting your Daily practice. Thank you so much for providing for free, so that it’s accessible to everyone around the world.

    • @CrappyChildhoodFairy
      @CrappyChildhoodFairy  3 місяці тому +1

      Thank you so much for your kind words towards Anna! Enjoy the Daily Practice!
      Nika@TeamFairy

  • @kathleendrake6500
    @kathleendrake6500 3 місяці тому +6

    This Simply States and explains why Child Trauma keeps us from loving connections, friends, and family. Parents who love and guide children connect children to living life and the world. We get disconnected from Parent Neglect and Abuse.

    • @MissyQ12345
      @MissyQ12345 2 місяці тому +1

      I think it means I never learned how to be a real person. I feel like I don’t really exist. I let my sister block me by telling everyone she doesn’t like me. Then they don’t like me. I don’t understand. I’m not a bad person, just a lonely old soul who doesn’t know how to be.

  • @mfarrell2992
    @mfarrell2992 3 місяці тому +6

    Thank you, Anna. That explains a LOT....sooo true.🥺

  • @Healingisliving
    @Healingisliving 3 місяці тому +8

    Most definitely 💯

  • @psykmeistr
    @psykmeistr 2 місяці тому +1

    Love you Anna! This is the best explanation of childhood PTSD I've seen.

  • @corinneyaworski-mh9uc
    @corinneyaworski-mh9uc 2 місяці тому +1

    So true. I have a therapist but Anna is so right. I always get a lot when i write down fears and resentments..I am surprised at this CPTSD and how true this illness is

  • @annekathleen4498
    @annekathleen4498 2 місяці тому +1

    I found it emotionally draining to be with people for too long. Friends were only around when they wanted something. I now at the grand old age of 68 have distanced myself from them. Even family. I have a few friends but don't feel really connected and have noticed I'm guarded with them. I've accepted it as just the way it is. Considering what my childhood was I'm doing great. I love this channel I just wish I'd found it earlier 🎉❤

  • @LisaImhoff-v8q
    @LisaImhoff-v8q 2 місяці тому +2

    OK this explains my life!

  • @reneeantwi-boasiako3974
    @reneeantwi-boasiako3974 3 місяці тому +7

    Love this definition ❤

  • @TeaRose9
    @TeaRose9 3 місяці тому +2

    This explains everything make sense of the traumas people experience as I see in many people the trauma bonds and loneliness when they aren’t in a relationship.

  • @RobRowan-l2p
    @RobRowan-l2p Місяць тому

    Wow Anna,
    That perfectly describes me...
    I have felt this way all my life.
    Im 60 years old.
    If it wasn't for The Special woman in my life guiding me and helping me.
    Thats the love I've been SEARCHING for my whole life.
    Thank you S....y
    I love you for ever.♾️❤

  • @veroortega2479
    @veroortega2479 3 місяці тому +15

    😢 I struggle to connect with people

    • @CrappyChildhoodFairy
      @CrappyChildhoodFairy  3 місяці тому +1

      Glad you are here. Check out the description section (below video). Anna shared links to courses that can help you.
      Nika@TeamFairy

  • @collin0276
    @collin0276 2 місяці тому +1

    So true. I needed to hear this today. Thank you.

  • @morgansheridanNM
    @morgansheridanNM 3 місяці тому +3

    My family early on was happy, but going to school where I was bullied & excluded during my dad's terminal illness is when things shifted. The abuse isn't always centered in the family, to cause complex PTSD.

    • @chanieweiss4288
      @chanieweiss4288 3 місяці тому +3

      @MorganSheridan Wow. I'm sorry for your loss of long ago. Having friends would have made such a difference. Teachers have potential to make the difference, if they're willing to learn how.

    • @morgansheridanNM
      @morgansheridanNM 3 місяці тому +2

      @chanieweiss4288 My teachers allowed the bullying to go on because they rationalized if the focus was on me, the "more vulnerable kids" would be protected. I was just as vulnerable, just as young, just as fragile.

  • @iw9338
    @iw9338 Місяць тому

    So true 😮 doing IFS and somatic therapy 😅. Thanks Anna❤

  • @AlexEs63
    @AlexEs63 2 місяці тому

    Grateful for this information. It's hard work everyday...but your messages help us along. 🎉

  • @nikiepunt8631
    @nikiepunt8631 2 місяці тому +2

    I should feel lonely, because im alone a lot, but i dont.. i feel this web even without me playing a big part in it...
    I have a few friends, its enough..

    • @elizabethy2912
      @elizabethy2912 2 місяці тому

      I'm coming to terms with this, right now.

  • @ClaireMildon-y5o
    @ClaireMildon-y5o 3 місяці тому +3

    Yes I agree it is robbery

  • @christine4269
    @christine4269 2 місяці тому +1

    Can this be a series on what we can do now? 😍

    • @CrappyChildhoodFairy
      @CrappyChildhoodFairy  2 місяці тому

      Isolation is a theme I often cover here on UA-cam. I also offer an online course -- a 30 day program called Connection Bootcamp. You may want to check it out: bit.ly/CCF_Connection

  • @karenmackay4289
    @karenmackay4289 3 місяці тому +2

    This is such a good and useful video. It's the loss of self and understanding of emotions and so direction and goals in life because of abuse that i also find terrifying and unbearable. But then there's the fear of being myself because of the attacks on that self and so the need to shut down. How to sort this out?

    • @CrappyChildhoodFairy
      @CrappyChildhoodFairy  3 місяці тому

      The Daily Practice is a great way to process fears and resentment. If you’re interested, you can try it for free here: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
      Nika@TeamFairy

  • @mons.6721
    @mons.6721 3 місяці тому

    This is definitely an issue in my life.

  • @1mollymom
    @1mollymom 4 дні тому

    This. So much.

  • @onetuliptree
    @onetuliptree 3 місяці тому +2

    Yes

  • @angelawilhoit7474
    @angelawilhoit7474 3 місяці тому +1

    Amen 🙏

  • @TheBebelass
    @TheBebelass 2 дні тому

    I prefer to keep my childhood behind closed doors
    bolted and locked.

  • @2bNot
    @2bNot 2 місяці тому

    One person at a time and even then..the garden and creatures are a better deal.

  • @katc6823
    @katc6823 2 місяці тому

    Thank you

    • @CrappyChildhoodFairy
      @CrappyChildhoodFairy  2 місяці тому

      Thank you for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy

  • @terryfelkins912
    @terryfelkins912 2 місяці тому

    I’m still being traumatized ! Awful!

  • @monielpowell6086
    @monielpowell6086 3 місяці тому

    💕🙏💕🙏💕🙏💕🙏💕

  • @lovefaith1794
    @lovefaith1794 3 місяці тому +2

    💯💯💯💯

  • @Msheather19771
    @Msheather19771 3 місяці тому

    🎯

  • @sonial.burton2315
    @sonial.burton2315 3 місяці тому +4

    What do you do to heal this?

    • @CrappyChildhoodFairy
      @CrappyChildhoodFairy  3 місяці тому

      Daily Practice (a free course) can be a good first step. It can help with getting regulated: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
      If you want to go further, Anna has a whole course on connecting with others, Connection Bootcamp: bit.ly/CCF_Connection
      Nika@TeamFairy

  • @michellemcauley2315
    @michellemcauley2315 3 місяці тому +1

    Wow, too much on target. I feel uncomfortable labeling my issues PTSD though. But this is too on the money😢

    • @annekathleen4498
      @annekathleen4498 2 місяці тому +2

      Strangely I found it reassuring. I always thought I was crazy

    • @michellemcauley2315
      @michellemcauley2315 2 місяці тому +1

      @annekathleen4498 es, I know that feeling too

  • @marijkevv11
    @marijkevv11 3 місяці тому +3

    Sad but .. can the brain heal?

  • @Pravduh
    @Pravduh 3 місяці тому +1

    Can EMDR help heal C-PTSD?

  • @JamesOrr-v5g
    @JamesOrr-v5g 2 місяці тому

    whats the solution?

    • @CrappyChildhoodFairy
      @CrappyChildhoodFairy  2 місяці тому

      Daily Practice (a free course) can be a good first step. If you want to go deeper, Anna has a whole course on Healing Childhood PTSD.
      Free Daily Practice: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
      Healing CPTSD course: bit.ly/CCF_HCPTSD
      Nika@TeamFairy

  • @ExoticTerrain
    @ExoticTerrain 3 місяці тому +2

    Spiraling sense the election! Please help!

    • @caroleminke6116
      @caroleminke6116 3 місяці тому +3

      Go inner… breathe, listen to meditations or try a sleep channel plz ❤ I listen to Thomas who founded Get Sleepy every night to fall asleep. No more panic attacks or hyper vigilance now. I allow my body to feel the emotions as I breathe through them & they pass. If you develop an inner parent then you’ll be OK

    • @cremebrulee4759
      @cremebrulee4759 3 місяці тому +4

      I keep myself from doing that by focusing on what I have control of in my life. I try to stay in the moment and not worry about the things I fear that haven't happened yet. I try not to create negative energy. There is enough of that already. There is a wonderful book by a woman named Byron Katie. It is called "Loving What Is". She teaches that we should accept reality. That doesn't mean that we have to like it or agree with it, but we must accept it because it is a fact. Getting overly upset because things shouldn't be this way or something similar doesn't solve the issue. It just upsets us and saps our energy. We can fight against the things we disagree with without all of the emotion. When we fight without emotion, we are stronger because emotion puts us in a weakened state. We are more powerful when we come from a place of acceptance. I hope that makes sense, and I hope that something I said helps you.

  • @daveelliott2629
    @daveelliott2629 2 місяці тому

    Gosh growing up we had non of this bullshit but today it never ends ..............

  • @Veganism_is_death-vh2un
    @Veganism_is_death-vh2un 3 місяці тому +1

    This whats wrong with me