I love her journalism so much. It’s so refreshing and she’s very open-minded. She seems to be fuelled by finding truth and solutions to pressing issues that aren’t being addressed much, which is what journalism should be. So much respect for you Iman!
It's nice to see someone with actual passion for helping men, il admit im a man who is lost , nothing for me out there, specially as a soldier, there's is things from the army for example i joined in 96 an im half cast and i was beat the shit out of every day, sent me to counciling because the higher ups could see i was having a bad time but they didn't know what was going on or pretended it didn't exist, half hour with a psycoligist type he said everything was confidential and next thing i know my section sgt had everything i said in front of him, 5/6 years of shit like this , beating cos my parents were rich, beatings cos i was half cast, then beatings for impressing in certain aspects of the job....couldnt tell anyone , i never fought back because i wanted to be a soldier an i wasnt a snitch ,didnt tell anyone apart from my best mate in rl, his take on things were this...he gave me an ecstasy pill an told me to talk to me the next day...it opened my eyes it popped that bubble i was in and in stead of taking shit i fought back and almost killed the main guy who was responsible, it was 5 years of pressure from him, I didn't sleep and anyone who came at me i beat them up...but that only works so long because the problem i had was they had friends in high places so I became the problem , its been 20 years and i wake up with the guy on top of me punching the crap out o me, the fear of dread never goes away, I should have killed him, the stuff he did the witnesses would have made sure , I prob couldnt stay in the army but he was the only fight iv ran from, he's a regimental sgt major now. I feel iv let countless people have had the same thing from him that let iv let them down😔
Bipolarbear 4873 I can in some small way relate to the feelings you shared. I’ve been through a fair bit myself. I have complex PTSD (not military related). I don’t have any solutions, but I wanted to show my support and my respect for you. As men, we are not always very good at that, and to be honest, we don’t really know how to do this kind of thing. It all tends to feel a bit awkward. But you had the balls to talk and be open. I couldn’t just walk away and say nothing. Otherwise you would never have known, that anyone actually gave a shit about what you have experienced.
I’m glad she’s talking about the male experience. In the age of feminism, which I’m absolutely on board with, we will never have equality if we ignore the experience of the other half of the population and see what drives men to act this way. We also have to approach this experience with an open mind and compassion and only by bringing men with us do we ever have a shot at equality.
As a man I could not agree more. Men are often painted with the same brush. I'm a father to four beautiful girls and pride myself to be the best man I can be and have made it my personal mission to be different from others.
Im intrigued to know what your on board with regarding feminism? Also we have equality, men and women are treating each other ok, not great, not terribly 🤷♂️
The big problems that we face in this age is everyone's definition of feminism. I feel some radical people have given true feminism a certain level of toxicity which is putting a lot of people off from engaging in any conversation in regards to feminism. I'm all up for feminism but when it's rationally discussed and when the aim is to have an equality of opportunity. We should not distort things in such a way to tip the favours into a single direction and puts one side above the other. Actually this isn't a feminist thing but it appears in all different types of causes. The way we discuss different issues has become so toxic that it is preventing actual proper rational discussion from taking place.
Thanks Russell for having this amazing journo on. As a mother of 5 boys I’m always interested in expanding my knowledge on masculinity from others - my boys are shy in coming forward - so it’s up to me to start the conversation and I hope this builds their confidence in speaking out.
camp griffo they’re not shy coming forward. They’d be more likely to open up to a man they trust and value and respect, get someone who they look up to and they’d spill faster than waterfalls.
I've had the same thoughts as her for a long time now and I'm so glad that someone is finally speaking up about it ... Plus crying shouldn't be taken as a non manly thing to do... Because that thought is just stupid
...depends about what one is crying...doesn't matter if women or man. Anyhow: showing it signals women that one is weak and can be manipulated emotionally. Therefore: nice try.
I'm sorry, but I feel like if someone wants to emotionally manipulate someone, they don't choose someone who cries, but rather just the person they want to manipulate. Also, there is probably no difference in how easy it is to manipulate someone, depending on if they are fine with crying or not. The people who are more desperate for an intimate relationship are.
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Outlast Pokemon I’d argue the opposite as those who cry understand and have a positive relationship with their emotions and can usually tell when said feelings are being manipulated it’s those who don’t cry and don’t have a positive understanding of emotion who are easily manipulated Therefore: nice try
If russell howard had a podcast I believe it could be as successful as joe rogans it would be a similar format except I think russell howard is a bit more approachable in interviews.
@@tayo5302 He's not licking people's asses. He's just a really positive and supportive guy. Respecting people's choices and trying to understand why they do the things they do, whitout prejudice. I think it's quite refreshing in this world full of dogmas and stigmas. But I get where you're coming from. In a podcast he would have more time to challenge and explore ideas.
@@thewhat531 That's what I'm sayin joe is good I like joes stuff do not get me wrong on that I'm not saying he will be better or he can do a better job I'm saying I can imagine if russell howard had a podcast with a similar format getting different people, diff backgrounds same as rogan, he would do a good job it would be on a similar level as rogan, rogan is a man's man dude bro with thousands of episodes but Russell howard has a different approach to interviews that I think would make it a success. Probably trying to explain wrong but you have to admit if he did have a show it would be a very good very well done show.
@@stuart8taylor Well millenial's not too bad, You can say someome is a millenial without being dismissive or disrespectful whilst the other one's just come from a place of hate.
@Little Normani Not really, that's just basically bullying, it's not gender specific. Toxic masculinity would suggest it's something only men do or is in fact a specific trait of masculinity which isn't really true.
I think the trouble is people are stupid. "Toxic masculinity" isn't the same as masculinity and isn't saying all masculinity is toxic, only the bottom feeders like Peers Morgan believe that. "Toxic masculinity" refers to the parts of masculinity that are bad, for instance "boys don't cry" etc Sadly those bottom feeders have managed to make many believe it's directed at all masculinity, which is isn't.
Omg she's just like me ❤ I feel the same. Us women are so focused on ourselves and our body's and the way men should treat us that most of us don't even care about what the guy thinks or how he feels or what he wants to say. Everyone is so quick to judge each other and I just want to have a deep conversation/ debate with someone and not be judged in the way either of us view things. I'm not sure if any of that made sense but it was like a weight off my chest 😅
What a "guy" feels is irrelevant and usually detrimental to his interests once considered. What he wants to say, too, is irrelevant. The only thing that matters to him is his willingness and ability to work until, and beyond, mortal exhaustion. On fulfilment and the pursuit of happiness, Women need something to live for whereas Men crave something to die for.
Of course a woman is the one to initiate conversation on masculinity even. I have wondered about modern masculinity and part of my therapy sessions has revolved around my perception of myself in that context, but I'm glad that someone is taking a better look at it. Will certainly be checking her videos out.
Hits the nail on the head. I've been saying this for years that we need to start listening to each other and start including everyone and not just women in feminism. We can't expect to treated equally as women without treating men equally.
A good thing I once read about feminism - can't remember the source and I must paraphrase - is that we must free half of humanity, that is, women, so we can free the other half. I am happy to discuss masculinity and to broaden what it means.
The problem isn't right or left, it's extreme views and jumping to conclusions without hearing what others have to say that's the problem, especially when most mainstream journalists have a fixed agenda they try to push rather than listen to understand. It's refreshing to be able to talk to people I disagree with so that we can understand each other and see if there's a problem underneath the assumptions because things are rarely simple. That's why people roll their eyes when people blame masculinity for people's greed and sadistic behaviour. Masculinity is essential and is irrelevant to bullying. I think the MeToo movement was a great idea but some women destroy innocent people's lives for money through court and it escalates into some radical feminism nonsense and puts people off having tough conversations. In summary, we need to stop blaming correlations and groups for individuals' behaviour.
So...left and right is the problem. That's exactly what makes people jump to conclusions. People blindly following their "team" like it's fucking football, not wanting to hear anthing else and snorting up the bullshit jounos produces about "the other team" like they're cocain addicts. Instead of giving people one of two boxes to jump in and blindly defend with their life, lets give them open questions and a good education where we teach them to form their own thoughts about everything every time.
@@woutervanr Good point, it's tribalism. Left used to mean open to change and right meant conserving tradition, so both should be necessary. Now left is being a 'snowflake' and right is being a nazi. It's not really but that's how it's portrayed when all you hear about is left vs right extremes, it's stupid. It's why I hate multiple-choice forms, there no option S, it's A or B.
@ I think I see your point, but that's like if I said 'some people are mean' then I'm blaming all humanity because I said 'people'. But I'm not blaming all people so I'm not blaming the group. I'm referring to individuals in the group. The reason I said some women is because I've not heard of any man suing a female for rape. Someone's bound to have at some time though.
Oh this is such an important topic. Men have been greatly misunderstood by women for ages. If women don’t know better they tend to gauge a man’s reactions by holding them against what a woman would do or say. This creates massive misunderstandings and a lot of hurt from both sides. The most important books you can read to better understand the other gender is anything by John Gray (Mars & Venus) and the e-book The Queen’s Code by Alison Armstrong. Or any youtube interview with Alison as well. These have helped me understand and appreciate my amazing men so much better, as well as appreciate myself and communicate my own needs that are going to be different than theirs are. This stuff needs to be taught in schools it would revolutionize our societies.
Studio Céleste John Gray’s (Mars and Venus), is pretty much the only self help book that I recommend. I understand men and women far better, for having read it. The moment I realised that he was point on, was when he was first talking about men and the thoughts that we have inside us. It felt like he was inside my head. Fantastically helpful book.
Hit the nail on the head. Dave Chappelle made a point about this many years ago in his stand-up gig - "Women got too much advice about men from other women. And they don't know what the fuck they're talking about."
@@natural91LC I totally agree most women are. However I wish more women would show their support in the media. Jordan Peterson was brutally attacked call shining a light on this issues.
natural91LC can confirm. It’s just that women with the... other opinion are much more outspoken online. And offline I guess, but I don’t have a social life so I don’t really know
Thank you. As a woman I have not joined the me too movement as I couldn’t say I had anything bad enough happen to me to say that I could really understand. I also want to understand that half of the human population. We are one tribe. We need to understand and work together.
I don't understand what you mean? Can you not empathise or feel sympathy for someone who has been raped? For instance if I was to tell you that at 16, a 24 year old man tried to sexually abuse me... Would you just say 'cant relate?'. Or could you understand that some men feel they have more rights to another person than they actually do? Genuinely curious here. (completely agree with the rest of your comment, we have to understand that we have differences and utilise them for the advantage of all of us together.)
Yet. It won't change anything. The death of feminism, is the only option. It will die out and MGTOW will strike the final death blow. That and artificial wombs and sex dolls. Game over for all women.
Love her series and her way of approaching topics like me too and modern masculinity. I wish more people could see that understanding isn't only sought through your own experiences. Iman seems to also be learning about being a woman in todays society through talking with men. I'm glad she got to be on this show to spread her balanced approach, let's hope it is adopted.
first time watching this, Ruseell howard is a really good host! keeping the vibe flowing and not awkward which most of the famous talk shows host lacks
Both men and women experience issues which need addressing. Some will have similarities, some will be unique. The trend I'm seeing, particularly with social media, is that both parties use said issues as an excuse to attack the other. Which solves nothing. It's good to see people like Iman Amrani opening up the conversation and I hope that will lead to more constructive conversations and get both sides working together. Good on her.
Finally someone who cares about men to have a mainstream platform. How many years has this conversation been going ? Better late than never. Well done!
I think both of you have misunderstood my comment. I didnt say men having a platform, i said someone who cares about men. Honestly, i could have worded that better. I said it in the context of mens feelings and needs. Its been brushed aside for so long to mention them, called misogynistic etc. Thats what i was getting at
I care abou men wtf are you on about. Plus you don't need to worry love no man is caring about you thats for sure i thought you were unequal in society oh wait women are full of shit.
She seems really cool and I was so surprised with the empowerment to the men thing too. I mean she is totally right. It's probably just a means of power dynamic that has made it difficult in the past to have men empowered over their bodies and in contact with partners. But as we all hope those times have gone or at least are changing. So it is definitely time to empower men as well. That's what I learned from this. Thanks Iman and Russell 👍🏻
The notion of bodily autonomy gets kicked out when overwhelmingly poor boys are regularly encouraged - or forced - to die on battlefields or in workplaces in order for the more valuable and prized to enjoy what life has to offer. On fulfilment and the pursuit of happiness, Women need something to live for whereas Men crave something to die for.
Shade and nuance is something that has been missing for so long I’m glad to see and I hope we can move past the binary. It is refreshing to see, I hope we can get to a place where honest debate can exist. Be great if we can move forward and see the world changing for the better.
The Original meaning of it is. But what it's been turned into isn't. You have to be extreamly explicit in what you mean by it, as yes it means you want *equality* but it's also been turned into a word for a group of people that means "we hate men for no reason whatsoever" and "we are better than them". Because these dickheads have used it for their fucked up movement which has made the word very unpopular because you don't want to be associated with that bullshit.
We need more people like her and maybe it is even more important today that she is a woman trying to take men seriously. Another thing I think we need to place more efforts towards is to fill the space that the ones that radicalise our society have right now, because they are clearly dangerous and don't want the best for "their" people.
I think men share too little about feelings and insecurities, but women share too much. Waaaaaay too much. I'd rather she taught women to hold back on the emotions and the sharing and all that instead of dragging men into her reality. But I'm a typical dude-bro. I would need years of therapy before I'd actually know anything about the subject. Was that too much?
The What!!? Alright maybe it’s just me but I’m not really concerned about whether a woman overshares I mean it’s their choice and I think it’s great that they’re able to freely express their emotions without the stigma of being sensitive, I myself am just learning how to truly express my feelings and point of views without caring about what other people think. We got to be confident in our emotions that’s all there is literally nothing to be ashamed out 🤷🏾♂️
@@AjBanjo We're not saying that no one is *allowed* to express their feelings as much as they want, we're saying that the oversharing of everything *can* become a destructive feedback loop. Like something minor happens to you, you go on twitter to complain, you get likes and reaffirmation, and so what was a small issue can takes on a bigger space in your mind because it teaches you that when you complain you get noticed. So then we get a culture of complaining simply to be acknowledged. Which is what we are seeing now. Psychologists have literally come out and published findings that we seem to haveentered a new generation of heightened narcissism, thanks to that exact social media feedback loop I'm describing. www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/201609/meet-the-real-narcissists-theyre-not-what-you-think That isn't healthy of constructive. There's a reason we have timeless sayings that allude to this, such as "Don't make a mountain out of a mole hill" Again, you are misunderstanding if you think I'm saying you *can't* express as much as you want, because I think you can, it's not for me to tell someone when to cry or how. What I am saying is that we as a *whole* need to encourage more self introspection of issues and emotions, because at the moment, right now, there is an overabundance of emotional outcry over the slightest issues online, and it's breeding an unhealthy culture of petty outbursts. It's basically a culture of mob emotion.
@@michaeldavey3187 Oh bless the internet. Thanks to you I am able to know that 19 hours ago, a total stranger told another total stranger that a cucumber/marrow stuck to a third total stranger's crotch was, in fact, a green dick. What a world we live in
Woman from a country where it's not done here. I prefer the practice to be forbidden on children. We can't yell "stop children gender mutilation" and then look the other way cause it's not a 3rd world country. Let it be a choice at least if it's something cosmetic. Personally, I prefer uncircumcised. It's as @Absolutely Ningen says, women in cultures where it's normal to do feel uncircumcised to be odd. While it's the opposite where it's not common practise. In general, that is. I didn't even know it was a thing until I learnt more about America.
I prefer uncircumcised, no need for his nob to be always hanging out lol... Plus it sensitive and should be protected, that's why the foreskin is there in the 1st place..
It shouldn't be forced, but sometimes it could be necessary. I had an uti at a young age and supposedly I needed to get circumcised (or something like that I can't remember).
Might surprise you but in my experience "men" is not really a homogeneous group. Very much not unlike "women". And like you cannot say there are problems facing "women" because of that, much the same is true for "men".. I happen to be male, but I don't think I am part of "men". Sometimes I'd like to be, sometimes I don't. I have the same problem with age, weight and nationality, so maybe it's just me. But when someone feels the need to speak out on my behalf, I get a bit itchy.
I'd be really pleased and surprised if women stopped imagining that they were so sophisticated and I am so simplistic that they could reduce me to a narrow definition... it's really very patronising. I would object less if I didn't know that they don't like it when I start copying their behaviour back at them.
@West Yorkshire gladiatorial games are a major part of masculinity for thousands of years and what's harmful is telling people they are toxic or childish for being who they are.
uhh are people really talking about the damaging effects of porn? i feel like she's gauged that the wrong way wrong. porn usage IS widely accepted and criticism of it is the countercultural opinion
Though by it's own definition, it doesn't. I'm not trying to pick on anyone identifying as a feminist here, but the common definition of feminism talks about achieving equality of the sexes through the advancement of the rights of women. And it has often, with varying degrees of validity, been framed as a struggle against men. There are some feminist thinkers that do see that equality requires advocacy for both sides, but they aren't featured much in the public conversation. At least I haven't heard much, if anything of them.
I agree with all of this and support it but I don’t like how she’s making the me too movement seem a bit like men can’t get involved like we’re pushing them away from the convo
The problem is the media and journalists. Us men do feel like we are being pushed away from the convo, but pretty much no average guy actually talks to women about it. Celebs, journalists and left wing politicians are pushing the rhetoric, not normal everyday women. The result of this is trump and bojo, because these people happen to align with the economically left parties. Is it 4 general elections that the tories have won now? You cant win elections with one gender, and in the end its only the poor being hurt 🤷♂️
Men can get involved noone is pushing men away then women in society who pick and choose and use and abuse, which 80% of the time leads to distress in men for long term risks we can feel upset confused or like we need to assert masculinity every waking morning of our life that's the issue. WE CAN NOT TRUST A WOMEN. Look at the statistics its more LIKILY you will be divorced and your assets will be takkken by a selfish women or she will cheat inevitably. Then so far as the man is concerned he is thrown out into the world with no hope, and a women with blanket and a warm house to sleep in. When society government and thr courts have literally been pussy whiped the last 70 or so years by women it's hardly surprising why men have toxic views on masculinity entrenched in them by TOXIC WOMEN. I think she NEEDS to go out and grill women's behaviour and get to the root of why women are soo shallow self centred and generally just mean.
Well there has been a trend in recent years of certain men being told they're not allowed to have an opinion as they're a 'white heterosexual male' (for example). Also with phrases such as 'mansplaining' or 'toxic masculinity' thrown around it doesn't feel like it's a safe enviroment for certain men to have an opinion. I'm not saying minority groups aren't deserving of a voice btw, I'm just saying it's more than likely that 'reasonable' men are probably opting out of the conversation as it seems the smart thing to do. Unfortunately this doesn't help anyone of course, with people just keeping quiet and if anything retreating further which is all well and good until an election comes round and they all get to vote. I actually think the media is to blame more than anything, constantly stirring things up in the name of ratings and in general most people are usually fairly reasonable. Having said that, I guess the best way to find out if you're pushing men away from the conversation is to ask them. Seems like a good start point.
No, she didn't. She just stumbled a bit and broke of that sentence to start a new one.. I was just feeling a bit threatened, apparently. She seems nice, bit chatty, but nice.
That'd be great if you did something like she's doing, interviewing loads of women from different backgrounds giving them all a microphone to offer new viewpoints
This has always confused me about heterosexuals and main stream society (for lack of a better term). I talk to all my friends and even family about sex and or porn freely if the topic happens to come up and in a very straight forward manner its not something we feel the need to be embarrassed to talk about as its a very natural part of human life. Besides we are all adults aren't we? As for masculinity oh boy did I have a personal fight with that for many many years, all I will say about that is Generations of men with way to much influence in society have skewed what the concept of what true society should be and its disheartening ...
I feel the balls analogy was weak. Men don't have conversations about balls like women do about their tits because men's balls are not the subject of a social beauty standard. Now if he said abs or pecs, there would be more of a comparison.
Honestly don't know what's allowed anymore. Are we supposed to formally ask a woman if we can kiss her before we lean in. If we ask we're unsexy losers and if we don't we're predators committing assault. It's a weird time.
I love her journalism so much. It’s so refreshing and she’s very open-minded. She seems to be fuelled by finding truth and solutions to pressing issues that aren’t being addressed much, which is what journalism should be. So much respect for you Iman!
It's nice to see someone with actual passion for helping men, il admit im a man who is lost , nothing for me out there, specially as a soldier, there's is things from the army for example i joined in 96 an im half cast and i was beat the shit out of every day, sent me to counciling because the higher ups could see i was having a bad time but they didn't know what was going on or pretended it didn't exist, half hour with a psycoligist type he said everything was confidential and next thing i know my section sgt had everything i said in front of him, 5/6 years of shit like this , beating cos my parents were rich, beatings cos i was half cast, then beatings for impressing in certain aspects of the job....couldnt tell anyone , i never fought back because i wanted to be a soldier an i wasnt a snitch ,didnt tell anyone apart from my best mate in rl, his take on things were this...he gave me an ecstasy pill an told me to talk to me the next day...it opened my eyes it popped that bubble i was in and in stead of taking shit i fought back and almost killed the main guy who was responsible, it was 5 years of pressure from him, I didn't sleep and anyone who came at me i beat them up...but that only works so long because the problem i had was they had friends in high places so I became the problem , its been 20 years and i wake up with the guy on top of me punching the crap out o me, the fear of dread never goes away, I should have killed him, the stuff he did
the witnesses would have made sure , I prob couldnt stay in the army but he was the only fight iv ran from, he's a regimental sgt major now.
I feel iv let countless people have had the same thing from him that let iv let them down😔
Bipolarbear 4873 I respect you for being so open about what you have experienced.
Thank you for sharing.
@@TheSnowdogsShorts i dunno how to reply cos anything i say makes me feel silly, so il just say thanks for being positive ☺
Bipolarbear 4873 I can in some small way relate to the feelings you shared. I’ve been through a fair bit myself. I have complex PTSD (not military related).
I don’t have any solutions, but I wanted to show my support and my respect for you.
As men, we are not always very good at that, and to be honest, we don’t really know how to do this kind of thing. It all tends to feel a bit awkward.
But you had the balls to talk and be open.
I couldn’t just walk away and say nothing. Otherwise you would never have known, that anyone actually gave a shit about what you have experienced.
@@BipoIarbear helping men?? She just trying to make men think and act like woman. How the hell is that equality
I’m glad she’s talking about the male experience. In the age of feminism, which I’m absolutely on board with, we will never have equality if we ignore the experience of the other half of the population and see what drives men to act this way. We also have to approach this experience with an open mind and compassion and only by bringing men with us do we ever have a shot at equality.
As a man I could not agree more.
Men are often painted with the same brush. I'm a father to four beautiful girls and pride myself to be the best man I can be and have made it my personal mission to be different from others.
The problem is, men seem to ignore themselves and eachother. If says alot that it took a woman to jump-start this project.
Im intrigued to know what your on board with regarding feminism? Also we have equality, men and women are treating each other ok, not great, not terribly 🤷♂️
The big problems that we face in this age is everyone's definition of feminism. I feel some radical people have given true feminism a certain level of toxicity which is putting a lot of people off from engaging in any conversation in regards to feminism.
I'm all up for feminism but when it's rationally discussed and when the aim is to have an equality of opportunity. We should not distort things in such a way to tip the favours into a single direction and puts one side above the other.
Actually this isn't a feminist thing but it appears in all different types of causes. The way we discuss different issues has become so toxic that it is preventing actual proper rational discussion from taking place.
I agree but I also believe that you can focus on women's issues or men’s issues individually. Doesn't make you any less of a feminist
Thanks Russell for having this amazing journo on. As a mother of 5 boys I’m always interested in expanding my knowledge on masculinity from others - my boys are shy in coming forward - so it’s up to me to start the conversation and I hope this builds their confidence in speaking out.
camp griffo they’re not shy coming forward. They’d be more likely to open up to a man they trust and value and respect, get someone who they look up to and they’d spill faster than waterfalls.
I've had the same thoughts as her for a long time now and I'm so glad that someone is finally speaking up about it ... Plus crying shouldn't be taken as a non manly thing to do... Because that thought is just stupid
...depends about what one is crying...doesn't matter if women or man. Anyhow: showing it signals women that one is weak and can be manipulated emotionally.
Therefore: nice try.
Outlast Pokemon Dumbass
I'm sorry, but I feel like if someone wants to emotionally manipulate someone, they don't choose someone who cries, but rather just the person they want to manipulate. Also, there is probably no difference in how easy it is to manipulate someone, depending on if they are fine with crying or not. The people who are more desperate for an intimate relationship are.
Outlast Pokemon I’d argue the opposite as those who cry understand and have a positive relationship with their emotions and can usually tell when said feelings are being manipulated it’s those who don’t cry and don’t have a positive understanding of emotion who are easily manipulated
Therefore: nice try
Crying is unmanly. Do not get tricked by the scum that tries to weaken you.
If russell howard had a podcast I believe it could be as successful as joe rogans it would be a similar format except I think russell howard is a bit more approachable in interviews.
@@tayo5302 He's not licking people's asses. He's just a really positive and supportive guy. Respecting people's choices and trying to understand why they do the things they do, whitout prejudice.
I think it's quite refreshing in this world full of dogmas and stigmas.
But I get where you're coming from. In a podcast he would have more time to challenge and explore ideas.
Russell howard wont do as good as joe rogan your delusion
chris sim I don't see it. Joe Rogan talks about the stuff normal guys talk about. I like Russell but he's not a real bro like Joe.
@@thewhat531 That's what I'm sayin joe is good I like joes stuff do not get me wrong on that I'm not saying he will be better or he can do a better job I'm saying I can imagine if russell howard had a podcast with a similar format getting different people, diff backgrounds same as rogan, he would do a good job it would be on a similar level as rogan, rogan is a man's man dude bro with thousands of episodes but Russell howard has a different approach to interviews that I think would make it a success. Probably trying to explain wrong but you have to admit if he did have a show it would be a very good very well done show.
@Lemon Aids no problem that's your personal opinion. Mind this is a comment thread not some sort of campaign............
Thank you for choosing to not use the term 'toxic masculinity' it is one of those no win statements that closes down the conversation.
It's got to be right up there with 'snowflake' and 'boomer' in it's ability to immediately shut down any discussion.
And millenial
@@stuart8taylor Well millenial's not too bad, You can say someome is a millenial without being dismissive or disrespectful whilst the other one's just come from a place of hate.
@Little Normani Not really, that's just basically bullying, it's not gender specific. Toxic masculinity would suggest it's something only men do or is in fact a specific trait of masculinity which isn't really true.
I think the trouble is people are stupid.
"Toxic masculinity" isn't the same as masculinity and isn't saying all masculinity is toxic, only the bottom feeders like Peers Morgan believe that.
"Toxic masculinity" refers to the parts of masculinity that are bad, for instance "boys don't cry" etc
Sadly those bottom feeders have managed to make many believe it's directed at all masculinity, which is isn't.
Omg she's just like me ❤ I feel the same. Us women are so focused on ourselves and our body's and the way men should treat us that most of us don't even care about what the guy thinks or how he feels or what he wants to say. Everyone is so quick to judge each other and I just want to have a deep conversation/ debate with someone and not be judged in the way either of us view things. I'm not sure if any of that made sense but it was like a weight off my chest 😅
What a "guy" feels is irrelevant and usually detrimental to his interests once considered. What he wants to say, too, is irrelevant. The only thing that matters to him is his willingness and ability to work until, and beyond, mortal exhaustion.
On fulfilment and the pursuit of happiness, Women need something to live for whereas Men crave something to die for.
@@tahbit I think I found a communist 👆
@@tahbit Totally agree! Im sure others agree with you too. You should find a island somewhere to live and get better.
Of course a woman is the one to initiate conversation on masculinity even.
I have wondered about modern masculinity and part of my therapy sessions has revolved around my perception of myself in that context, but I'm glad that someone is taking a better look at it.
Will certainly be checking her videos out.
@Slow Stealth as I said, that's only part of it sir. Sometimes you need a little direction in the current context of the world. Therapy has helped.
Slow Stealth Allah doesn’t exist.
Slow Stealth Then let him strike me down! Oh wait...
Kinda has to be though, as guys are labelled as Men's Rights Activists and shouted down
Hits the nail on the head. I've been saying this for years that we need to start listening to each other and start including everyone and not just women in feminism. We can't expect to treated equally as women without treating men equally.
Feminism has includes men's issues for a while now.
Haha, what strand of feminism is this? 😂😂
A good thing I once read about feminism - can't remember the source and I must paraphrase - is that we must free half of humanity, that is, women, so we can free the other half.
I am happy to discuss masculinity and to broaden what it means.
@@hampsonmealey The strand that most of us are in.
@@Genevieve1023 I know
i love iman so much. every one of her articles are such good reads
I wish more people thought like her. I'm absolutely exhausted with the way we're all constantly shouting at each other.
The problem isn't right or left, it's extreme views and jumping to conclusions without hearing what others have to say that's the problem, especially when most mainstream journalists have a fixed agenda they try to push rather than listen to understand. It's refreshing to be able to talk to people I disagree with so that we can understand each other and see if there's a problem underneath the assumptions because things are rarely simple. That's why people roll their eyes when people blame masculinity for people's greed and sadistic behaviour. Masculinity is essential and is irrelevant to bullying. I think the MeToo movement was a great idea but some women destroy innocent people's lives for money through court and it escalates into some radical feminism nonsense and puts people off having tough conversations. In summary, we need to stop blaming correlations and groups for individuals' behaviour.
So...left and right is the problem. That's exactly what makes people jump to conclusions. People blindly following their "team" like it's fucking football, not wanting to hear anthing else and snorting up the bullshit jounos produces about "the other team" like they're cocain addicts. Instead of giving people one of two boxes to jump in and blindly defend with their life, lets give them open questions and a good education where we teach them to form their own thoughts about everything every time.
@ It would be, yes. That's why I said SOME women.
@@woutervanr Good point, it's tribalism. Left used to mean open to change and right meant conserving tradition, so both should be necessary. Now left is being a 'snowflake' and right is being a nazi. It's not really but that's how it's portrayed when all you hear about is left vs right extremes, it's stupid. It's why I hate multiple-choice forms, there no option S, it's A or B.
@ I think I see your point, but that's like if I said 'some people are mean' then I'm blaming all humanity because I said 'people'. But I'm not blaming all people so I'm not blaming the group. I'm referring to individuals in the group. The reason I said some women is because I've not heard of any man suing a female for rape. Someone's bound to have at some time though.
You are spot on Dan.
This is amazing. I've low key been waiting for this kind of discussion. Going to watch modern masculinity right now
Oh this is such an important topic. Men have been greatly misunderstood by women for ages. If women don’t know better they tend to gauge a man’s reactions by holding them against what a woman would do or say. This creates massive misunderstandings and a lot of hurt from both sides.
The most important books you can read to better understand the other gender is anything by John Gray (Mars & Venus) and the e-book The Queen’s Code by Alison Armstrong.
Or any youtube interview with Alison as well.
These have helped me understand and appreciate my amazing men so much better, as well as appreciate myself and communicate my own needs that are going to be different than theirs are.
This stuff needs to be taught in schools it would revolutionize our societies.
Studio Céleste John Gray’s (Mars and Venus), is pretty much the only self help book that I recommend.
I understand men and women far better, for having read it.
The moment I realised that he was point on, was when he was first talking about men and the thoughts that we have inside us. It felt like he was inside my head.
Fantastically helpful book.
Hit the nail on the head. Dave Chappelle made a point about this many years ago in his stand-up gig - "Women got too much advice about men from other women. And they don't know what the fuck they're talking about."
Protect her she is a unicorn.
most women thin exactly like her. trust me I'm a woman .
@@natural91LC I totally agree most women are.
However I wish more women would show their support in the media.
Jordan Peterson was brutally attacked call shining a light on this issues.
natural91LC can confirm. It’s just that women with the... other opinion are much more outspoken online. And offline I guess, but I don’t have a social life so I don’t really know
Medhat faris don't think Peterson is a good example
@@lindai6988 I think he is great example for this subject, even though I disagree with him on many things.
A story that definitely needs too be told
Thank you. As a woman I have not joined the me too movement as I couldn’t say I had anything bad enough happen to me to say that I could really understand. I also want to understand that half of the human population. We are one tribe. We need to understand and work together.
I don't understand what you mean? Can you not empathise or feel sympathy for someone who has been raped? For instance if I was to tell you that at 16, a 24 year old man tried to sexually abuse me... Would you just say 'cant relate?'. Or could you understand that some men feel they have more rights to another person than they actually do? Genuinely curious here. (completely agree with the rest of your comment, we have to understand that we have differences and utilise them for the advantage of all of us together.)
Love her laugh
Hilarious and interesting interview 🙂😂 good to be open and talk about this kind of thing.
Yet. It won't change anything. The death of feminism, is the only option. It will die out and MGTOW will strike the final death blow. That and artificial wombs and sex dolls. Game over for all women.
Really interesting guest!
Love this chat guys! Appreciate the balance and then sanity!
Love her series and her way of approaching topics like me too and modern masculinity. I wish more people could see that understanding isn't only sought through your own experiences. Iman seems to also be learning about being a woman in todays society through talking with men. I'm glad she got to be on this show to spread her balanced approach, let's hope it is adopted.
first time watching this, Ruseell howard is a really good host! keeping the vibe flowing and not awkward
which most of the famous talk shows host lacks
I'm glad she made her series. It finally felt like people in the media with some sort of power acknowledged and are educating people about it.
Such a refreshing take on journalism
Both men and women experience issues which need addressing. Some will have similarities, some will be unique. The trend I'm seeing, particularly with social media, is that both parties use said issues as an excuse to attack the other. Which solves nothing. It's good to see people like Iman Amrani opening up the conversation and I hope that will lead to more constructive conversations and get both sides working together. Good on her.
Iman's laugh makes her so crushable. XD :)
Can’t get enough of Iman.
Finally someone who cares about men to have a mainstream platform. How many years has this conversation been going ? Better late than never. Well done!
There's plenty of men with large mainstream platforms. Why don't you all care about eachother.
I think both of you have misunderstood my comment. I didnt say men having a platform, i said someone who cares about men. Honestly, i could have worded that better. I said it in the context of mens feelings and needs. Its been brushed aside for so long to mention them, called misogynistic etc. Thats what i was getting at
Bettina Andt?
I care abou men wtf are you on about. Plus you don't need to worry love no man is caring about you thats for sure i thought you were unequal in society oh wait women are full of shit.
@Blood Do you have any evidence to support that statement?
She seems really cool and I was so surprised with the empowerment to the men thing too. I mean she is totally right. It's probably just a means of power dynamic that has made it difficult in the past to have men empowered over their bodies and in contact with partners. But as we all hope those times have gone or at least are changing. So it is definitely time to empower men as well. That's what I learned from this. Thanks Iman and Russell 👍🏻
The notion of bodily autonomy gets kicked out when overwhelmingly poor boys are regularly encouraged - or forced - to die on battlefields or in workplaces in order for the more valuable and prized to enjoy what life has to offer.
On fulfilment and the pursuit of happiness, Women need something to live for whereas Men crave something to die for.
Love the chair
I know its irrelevant but i find it so funny how much she is trying to touch the floor but cant
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
We think alike
Need to remove the porn magazine hidden underneath.
I love her laugh 😂
I'm sending this to my sons! Thanks heaps.😎
I didn't know Russel Howard was like this, for some reason I had him down as one of the right on types. He has gone up in my estimate.
Pray tell, what is a "right on type"?
Sort of like politically correct I suppose. But more staying in line on fashionable left wing thinking and never straying out of it
@10:56 Russel reenacting being born.
the fact when taking about me too the male victim's are ignored almost all the time is a problem
My life has improved since I've been listening to Jordon Peterson, Dan Pena and Alexander Grace. Good look to you all
Soo excited to see you soon in Germany 😊
Shade and nuance is something that has been missing for so long I’m glad to see and I hope we can move past the binary. It is refreshing to see, I hope we can get to a place where honest debate can exist. Be great if we can move forward and see the world changing for the better.
First for literally everything
I was second
I'm sorry to hear that. I've heard edging can help to increase endurance and prolong the experience.
le heck I have aids
I don’t think you got the joke. Also I heard that only using the tip can allow for a quick finish
feminism is for everyone 🙌
J H it’s clearly not. Hint, it’s in the name
Feminism has disregarded men as if they do not exist.
The Original meaning of it is. But what it's been turned into isn't. You have to be extreamly explicit in what you mean by it, as yes it means you want *equality* but it's also been turned into a word for a group of people that means "we hate men for no reason whatsoever" and "we are better than them". Because these dickheads have used it for their fucked up movement which has made the word very unpopular because you don't want to be associated with that bullshit.
DFandV they have their sex toys now 🤣
J H Yes it’s for everyone! 💖
And the subtitles inform us: "Please welcome ... A Man, I'm Ronnie!" 😂🤣😂
🤣Well that's unfortunate. UA-cam...do better
This lady gives me hope.
We need more people like her and maybe it is even more important today that she is a woman trying to take men seriously. Another thing I think we need to place more efforts towards is to fill the space that the ones that radicalise our society have right now, because they are clearly dangerous and don't want the best for "their" people.
thanks, Iman! you rock!
She’s so attractive
Lots of respect for her and the series
Fantastic guest
I think men share too little about feelings and insecurities, but women share too much. Waaaaaay too much. I'd rather she taught women to hold back on the emotions and the sharing and all that instead of dragging men into her reality. But I'm a typical dude-bro. I would need years of therapy before I'd actually know anything about the subject. Was that too much?
I agree with you, some moderation in how much we express our emotions is just as important.
You should be able to share as much or as little emotion a you want. There’s no need to limit anyone’s feelings
AJ Banjo I disagree. I think women's oversharing and their constant poking and prodding is holding many men, like me, back from participating.
The What!!? Alright maybe it’s just me but I’m not really concerned about whether a woman overshares I mean it’s their choice and I think it’s great that they’re able to freely express their emotions without the stigma of being sensitive, I myself am just learning how to truly express my feelings and point of views without caring about what other people think. We got to be confident in our emotions that’s all there is literally nothing to be ashamed out 🤷🏾♂️
@@AjBanjo We're not saying that no one is *allowed* to express their feelings as much as they want, we're saying that the oversharing of everything *can* become a destructive feedback loop. Like something minor happens to you, you go on twitter to complain, you get likes and reaffirmation, and so what was a small issue can takes on a bigger space in your mind because it teaches you that when you complain you get noticed. So then we get a culture of complaining simply to be acknowledged. Which is what we are seeing now.
Psychologists have literally come out and published findings that we seem to haveentered a new generation of heightened narcissism, thanks to that exact social media feedback loop I'm describing. www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/201609/meet-the-real-narcissists-theyre-not-what-you-think
That isn't healthy of constructive. There's a reason we have timeless sayings that allude to this, such as "Don't make a mountain out of a mole hill"
Again, you are misunderstanding if you think I'm saying you *can't* express as much as you want, because I think you can, it's not for me to tell someone when to cry or how. What I am saying is that we as a *whole* need to encourage more self introspection of issues and emotions, because at the moment, right now, there is an overabundance of emotional outcry over the slightest issues online, and it's breeding an unhealthy culture of petty outbursts. It's basically a culture of mob emotion.
Well she has an appropriate name for this article😄
Can we talk about the guy with a cucumber as a dong? Anyone?
Edit: thanks for the upvotes, kind strangers!
Pumpkin surely?
From the start? That was a marrow, not a cucumber
😂😂😂
Nah bruv itsa green dick
@@michaeldavey3187 Oh bless the internet. Thanks to you I am able to know that 19 hours ago, a total stranger told another total stranger that a cucumber/marrow stuck to a third total stranger's crotch was, in fact, a green dick. What a world we live in
now lets get a male journalist to examine femininity
This woman is doing gods work ah
@@boby8boby839 ok boomer
Excellent
She is so pretty. 😍
So ladies, what do you prefer, circumcised or uncircumcised?
Some men seem to be circumcised but are not.
Also: this violent act against children had to stop.
fucking hell, im asking women a simple question but get hounded with politics.
Woman from a country where it's not done here. I prefer the practice to be forbidden on children. We can't yell "stop children gender mutilation" and then look the other way cause it's not a 3rd world country. Let it be a choice at least if it's something cosmetic. Personally, I prefer uncircumcised. It's as @Absolutely Ningen says, women in cultures where it's normal to do feel uncircumcised to be odd. While it's the opposite where it's not common practise. In general, that is. I didn't even know it was a thing until I learnt more about America.
I prefer uncircumcised, no need for his nob to be always hanging out lol... Plus it sensitive and should be protected, that's why the foreskin is there in the 1st place..
It shouldn't be forced, but sometimes it could be necessary. I had an uti at a young age and supposedly I needed to get circumcised (or something like that I can't remember).
She seems lovely
4:34 conflating perfection to feminism
I think she meant men are trying to present the 'perfect' answer they're assuming she wants when she asks questions
A small counterweight against our gynocentric society. Very good.
Might surprise you but in my experience "men" is not really a homogeneous group. Very much not unlike "women".
And like you cannot say there are problems facing "women" because of that, much the same is true for "men"..
I happen to be male, but I don't think I am part of "men". Sometimes I'd like to be, sometimes I don't.
I have the same problem with age, weight and nationality, so maybe it's just me.
But when someone feels the need to speak out on my behalf, I get a bit itchy.
I'd be really pleased and surprised if women stopped imagining that they were so sophisticated and I am so simplistic that they could reduce me to a narrow definition... it's really very patronising.
I would object less if I didn't know that they don't like it when I start copying their behaviour back at them.
Quick example of toxic masculinity:
Iman - What would you like on my body?
Me - Uuuh... Myself?
She would be the ideal girlfriend
carefull, shes a hero
Is this the new series
Awh man
I love the chair 😁😁😁
The main thing affecting men is liVARpool will win the league
You know liverpool would still be on top of the league without VAR.
Let it go. Your time is over. Let go of the salt
@West Yorkshire gladiatorial games are a major part of masculinity for thousands of years and what's harmful is telling people they are toxic or childish for being who they are.
what did they say about circumcision?
uhh are people really talking about the damaging effects of porn? i feel like she's gauged that the wrong way wrong. porn usage IS widely accepted and criticism of it is the countercultural opinion
Real Feminism favours women as well as men.
Though by it's own definition, it doesn't.
I'm not trying to pick on anyone identifying as a feminist here,
but the common definition of feminism talks about achieving equality of the sexes through the advancement of the rights of women.
And it has often, with varying degrees of validity, been framed as a struggle against men.
There are some feminist thinkers that do see that equality requires advocacy for both sides, but they aren't featured much in the public conversation.
At least I haven't heard much, if anything of them.
Hate to be that guy...but she's incredibly attractive.
I agree with all of this and support it but I don’t like how she’s making the me too movement seem a bit like men can’t get involved like we’re pushing them away from the convo
Alot of people are pushing men away from the movement because they dont belive that men can be affected by things
@@user-mq8tn9vy3m yeh sadly it's gotten to that when it was intended as a way to expose sexual assault and abuse
The problem is the media and journalists. Us men do feel like we are being pushed away from the convo, but pretty much no average guy actually talks to women about it. Celebs, journalists and left wing politicians are pushing the rhetoric, not normal everyday women. The result of this is trump and bojo, because these people happen to align with the economically left parties. Is it 4 general elections that the tories have won now? You cant win elections with one gender, and in the end its only the poor being hurt 🤷♂️
Men can get involved noone is pushing men away then women in society who pick and choose and use and abuse, which 80% of the time leads to distress in men for long term risks we can feel upset confused or like we need to assert masculinity every waking morning of our life that's the issue. WE CAN NOT TRUST A WOMEN. Look at the statistics its more LIKILY you will be divorced and your assets will be takkken by a selfish women or she will cheat inevitably. Then so far as the man is concerned he is thrown out into the world with no hope, and a women with blanket and a warm house to sleep in. When society government and thr courts have literally been pussy whiped the last 70 or so years by women it's hardly surprising why men have toxic views on masculinity entrenched in them by TOXIC WOMEN. I think she NEEDS to go out and grill women's behaviour and get to the root of why women are soo shallow self centred and generally just mean.
Well there has been a trend in recent years of certain men being told they're not allowed to have an opinion as they're a 'white heterosexual male' (for example). Also with phrases such as 'mansplaining' or 'toxic masculinity' thrown around it doesn't feel like it's a safe enviroment for certain men to have an opinion.
I'm not saying minority groups aren't deserving of a voice btw, I'm just saying it's more than likely that 'reasonable' men are probably opting out of the conversation as it seems the smart thing to do. Unfortunately this doesn't help anyone of course, with people just keeping quiet and if anything retreating further which is all well and good until an election comes round and they all get to vote.
I actually think the media is to blame more than anything, constantly stirring things up in the name of ratings and in general most people are usually fairly reasonable. Having said that, I guess the best way to find out if you're pushing men away from the conversation is to ask them. Seems like a good start point.
More talking heads Q:Too busy having to pretending who we are A: instead of being who we are
Hi
@2:10 did she actually say "you people" about "men"?
No, she didn't. She just stumbled a bit and broke of that sentence to start a new one.. I was just feeling a bit threatened, apparently.
She seems nice, bit chatty, but nice.
@@Ludifant are you having a conversation with yourself?
I like her and her opinions but the damage is done I think
But trying to bring the subject to light is a good thing I guess
Let’s have a genuine conversation, but I’ve already decided the outcome.
I think as a man I should cover a story on feminism as I know so much about it
That'd be great if you did something like she's doing, interviewing loads of women from different backgrounds giving them all a microphone to offer new viewpoints
@@rozajura9613 you have an excellent point
Business is all about risk management.
Metoo made young women high risk.
Its that simple.
Is Iman Amrani special in the US or the internet?
It's on the guardian UA-cam page.
Russ can't keep straight face.
She is beautiful.
Says the guy who tattooed him self lmfao! Seriously
Watch the video with him in it then to have a shred of context, seriously
This has always confused me about heterosexuals and main stream society (for lack of a better term). I talk to all my friends and even family about sex and or porn freely if the topic happens to come up and in a very straight forward manner its not something we feel the need to be embarrassed to talk about as its a very natural part of human life. Besides we are all adults aren't we? As for masculinity oh boy did I have a personal fight with that for many many years, all I will say about that is Generations of men with way to much influence in society have skewed what the concept of what true society should be and its disheartening ...
A woman listening to a man? Yeaahh right!
D Double E I seeeee youuu
I'm soo early
It’s great to see this on the left
Mike Nunyabizness the patronising left back at it again
xMickuel indeed
Mike Nunyabizness 😂😂😂 oh the irony of this comment
On your left!
3:50 facs
Can someone summarise what’s going on? I’m not sure I’m understanding what the main point is. (Man btw)
4:59 - most women have bad things 2 say about women 😇😂
first 100!!
Talking about masculinity and the whole comment comments sections gone gay 🤣🤣🤣 she's right to talk on the subject were the fook are all the men ffs
I feel the balls analogy was weak. Men don't have conversations about balls like women do about their tits because men's balls are not the subject of a social beauty standard. Now if he said abs or pecs, there would be more of a comparison.
D DOUBLE E
Honestly don't know what's allowed anymore. Are we supposed to formally ask a woman if we can kiss her before we lean in. If we ask we're unsexy losers and if we don't we're predators committing assault. It's a weird time.
Shag that me.. sorry is that out of contexts
For once it's not all about victimised women, this is needed
Oh god no not me too