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Oh wow! So happy I could cry! It's so true that a man's gift maketh room for him. What u give, you give from ur heart. You deserve nothing but the best *Congrats 👍*
Tony Gaskins hHi Tony just subscribed. After giving birth to my second baby via C section last week. Baby still at the hospital for an extra three weeks. My husband cared for one for a full one day when we came home. Next day we argued badly and I ended up disrespecting him with words. I was wrong. He also disrespected me saying what kind of mother are you. He left the house because I asked him to leave. He never came back knowing no body will care for me since my family werre in other city for vacay. Now when I went to the hospital to go see the baby he doesn’t even talk to me. Is that a real man? I understand I insulted him with words but to leave me after a C section. If A man gets disrespected by his wife. No matter what the circumstances that is. Is it ok for them to leave? Is that a real man character?
assignment B If you disrespected him then asked him to leave you can’t expect him to act like it didn’t happen just because you are married. That probably broke his heart. If he’s a good man you have to work hard to get his respect and trust back. He probably doesn’t feel safe there anymore. If you don’t want to loose him for good you should probably seek some counsel together.
Amen, Queens are just soft and subtle. That's why you have to be careful being chosen. Everything that chooses you is not from GOD. Dont settle for peanuts.
If a man ever lets you get into a fight argument or even a phone call with another woman...he's sees you like trash! I absolutely agree with this message... he knows he's trash and that you don't respect yourself enough to leave him!
Never equate a strong, respectable confident, no nonsense woman with the "B"word, it's not a compliment. What a grown man loves is a Queen and she wont stoop to your level. 👸🏽🙌🏽
We are told to respect because we are driven by emotions that can be polarizing. Men are told to love because they usually don't use emotions. Using the different words shows that each is to sacrifice and die to their individual "nature"
Same here, mine was a boy...over 30 years. I filed for divorce. I look young for my age and he can pass for my father, but he is just an old "boy." LOL 😂
Cheeks Cheeks so very true. Whatever a guys done to make you feel that way, disrespecting you, cheating on you etc - they’re not worth it. It’s best just to leave.....turn your back and take a long slow walk without ever looking back.🤷🏼♀️👍🏽
Cheeks Cheeks I say the same thing. What would I look like fighting over a man? A man that cares about the person their with wouldn’t put a woman in that position in the first place🙄
LaVette you’re so right with that comment. When I was young - mid to late teenager young - my friends would be speaking to me about their guy cheating with x, y & z and how they were gonna kick their ass....and even at 14yrs old I would ask them why! WHY fight with a female over a guy and they would say “but they new he wasn’t single, they knew he was with me”, and my response even at such a young age was “but your guy also knew he was with you, the only difference is that ‘your guy’ is the only one out of the two of them that knew how he ‘allegedly’ felt about you. It was him who would tell you he loved you and how much he claimed to loved you and it was him who felt it, not her - the other female be it x, y or z....they didn’t feel his feelings for you and even if they were told or were around and saw him cuddling you, showing you & telling you he loved you etc....they didn’t feel any of those deep feelings that he claimed he felt for you’, so in being the one person who knows how much they love you because they’re in the relationship with you, it’s him who’s ass you should be kicking if you’re even considering doing anything other than taking a long slow casual walk so he gets a good chance to watch the best thing he ever had walk right out of his life, then it should be his ass....not hers! He knew his feelings for you and yours for him.....she didn’t so ultimately, as wrong, badly and disrespectfully they have both treated you....he’s the one who knows how much it will effect you and if he had any love for you he would never want to make a fool out of you, disrespect you or hurt you in the way he has. That’s my ‘truth’, my ‘belief’ and my ‘understanding’ of what it means to be in a relationship, so no matter how hurt I’ve been, I’ve simply just very calmly held my head high walked away and never listened or looked back, because I know my worth....I know the person I am and what I bring to the table in a relationship and although I don’t brag about it I do make sure that when going in to a relationship there are some fundamental ground rules before I will even think of getting seriously involved and the first is Equality of Respect - ‘ as much respect as I have for myself I will always give him and there is a clear expectation that it will be returned. I also need to know within my own mind that the guy has a high level of respect and love for himself because if he doesn’t then how can he possibly give those things to me. Also communication is key, without communication, be it deep and meaningful or simply letting me know what time he’ll be home or me calling to let him know I’m running late as I got held up at work - that’s basic respect so without that most basic level of communication what do we have 🤷🏼♀️ Nothing and therefore he is not worth any of my time or effort.💛🙏💛
That's why the king of Persia quickly dethroned queen Vashti and replaced by Esther because she publicly embarrassed him in front of all his party guests when she refused to come to him at his command. A man's ego is very fragile.
@ Stacey- 2-edge sword really. Every one is quick to say this about Queen Vashti. Research shows it was against ancient customs for a Queen to perform a dance act. King was drunk & wanted to show off. But it was for God's glory in the end 😔
I didnt respect my ex after I saw that he wasnt a leader. It wasnt on purpose but I found myself having screaming matches that were draining. Even now, if he makes a selfish decision concerning our son and I address it calmly, he instantly starts yelling. I felt very masculine in that relationship.
The Queen dropped jewels in her conversation and body language. I got from her to just be everything God has called you to be. The relationship gets in where it fits in. Always hold onto YOU! Be your own peace. Romance will fall into place. Thanks for sharing her with us.
Everyone deserves respect. I don't do the name calling, especially not the N word. I'd never disrespect my man like that. It's not cute. When I see my sister(s) talk to their husbands like that I cringe. I'm like how could you talk to him like that, but at the same time why do they allow it. They'll do it in public, at a family function. Meanwhile I'm over here single, hoping and praying for a relationship so I can treat someone (a deserved someone) the way I've always want to be treated. 🤷🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️ I just don't get people.
@@foreverolly8864 I do. They don't do anything like what I think you're implying. My sisters are very transparent with me and have genuinely nice husbands. So it's not that, rather it's their personality.
They’re with insecure men, thats all. A respectable man that loves himself won’t allow anyone to disrespect him in private or public, especially the women they’re with.
I’m guilty of talking crazy out of insecurity or protecting myself if I was disrespected. I am learning that it’s not a good look and I’m learning to be quiet and do more listening than reacting. I can’t wait to get your book. It’s coming tomorrow and can’t wait to read it. Thank you and be blessed! I just finished watching the video. You pretty much described a relationship that I was in that was EXTREMELY toxic! His problems turned me into a completely different person. That person is forever blocked! Thank you and I made it!
I totally agree with you in this video Tony. Men deserve our respect but I’m glad you emphasized at the end that you’re not saying we should respect them while they treat us like a doormat. The best thing to do in those situations is to remain calm, cool, and collected like Mrs. Gaskins put it. Walk away! No man is worth us coming out of our character for. I’m a queen, there’s no time for that period! 💯
It took me a long time to realize that goes for all relationships. I will come out of my boots on behalf of children if I have to. But then I found that I can find another way 99.99 x out of 100!
I cursed my boyfriend last night for the first time in 3 years. He told me to leave, was in disbelieve and he left. Today we spoke and he said he only asks for respect and clear communication. This is the reason I am here
@@simnikiwemajiki8265 That's great you two were able to come back together and work through this issue. When a man feels disrespected his wall of defense goes up, and many times doesn't come down.
Speak to a man as a king from the position from the position of a queen, not the position of a slave ... but if he shows his lack of kingliness, depart and reset ... got it! Be blessed -- I made it!
I know I picked up the disrespectful behaviour from my Mother..she's 4'11" but uses her mouth as her weapon. Thank you Tony for breaking it down. Got to do better.
This is why my marriage failed and he cheated. I didn't respect him enough. I don't use profanities or the N word but I was a champion at reacting, shouting etc. My mother always told me walk away during my marriage. I didn't listen. Thank you Tony, I will do better next time.
Cheating is his fault not urs. No matter how u treat someone you dont cheat! You leave! Dont take that guilt only take fault for rhe things you've done !
Thank you because some of us suffer from being toxic. Now seeing it from a man point of view it has me thinking wow I was a toxic person and thought it was normal. So sad but when you know better you will do better. Your wife dropped 💎 last night. It was good actually seeing her. May GOD continue to Bless you and your family and thanks for showing us how a healthy marriage look. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I want to thank you for this difficult truth. It hurt. I needed this. I sooooooooo needed you to tell me aaaalllll of this. I'm crying 😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥 God bless you.
This was good Bro. Tony. I was a victim of disrespecting a man many years ago because this what I witnessed my big sisters did . I was always on a defense because I didn't know the difference of a grown boy and a grown man. Now after 7 years I know the difference. I continued to grow with these jewels you be dropping in the videos, live chats and courses. I had to Become Love Keep doing what you do. Be Blessed!!
Lol this video makes me laugh....the way you impersonate the woman on the fone...lol have seen this kinda of woman on fone ha ha but I wonder if the guy had done something gueniually untrustworthy...? How could you build up the trust...I mean what if you guy had been chatting to an ex. Would you class this as cheating...?
Selah!!!!! Tony done took me back 14 years ago when I was married, thank you God for deliverance, healing, self love, and learning how to remain cool, calm and collected.
Never change your energy for someone else. Had to tell my ex he seems to drain the energy out of me and he becomes angry because I left him! Boy bye 👋. Have your fun too Tony! Bless you 🙏 Be blessed i made it
Thank you. More and more clarity everytime I watch your video.... now I look back to my relationship, I see debris after a hurricane. Wish I knew this a decade ago...
Be blessed! I made it😊 Thank you Tony!! God lead me to this video. I brought “grown boy” experiences into my marriage. My husband is a REAL MAN!! If I don’t get it together he’ll be gone. I swear I didn’t mean no harm. 😥This video has blessed me Thank you again😁
“When I said it, I meant it!” Real man quote right there. Taking responsibility for your actions/words. Hardly see that these days. Another great video TG. 🔥
Tony why do you love us this much. What a lovely topic. And your wife is GORGEOUS! I just envied her confidence in herself. Literally drove me to tears
1st to listen video 👑❤You must RESPECT not only yourself but also your husband, ok QUEENS* 👑are very strong minded!!!Also let's not forget to get a copy of a WOMEN'S INFLUENCE is awesome!!!❤👑💃💃Be blessed Tribe family.
That's me though on the other side, from a woman's side. I allowed cursing, demeaning behavior for many, and I mean many 10 plus years. He thinks everything should have been fine after I left and he decided to change. I pay close attention to see if I notice ANY of that behavior now & I check it! (Perhaps before I even need to be) I'm just not having it, if I'd have been smart like your wife & checked it earlier, it may have been different. The thing is some things cannot be forgotten. I don't do any butt kissing anymore, do not break my back and do EVERYTHING in this house anymore and I WILL NOT allow it! I did it all for years, even with a disabled son, running a business and carried the weight of the world on my shoulders. If I could go back. I'd have checked behavior early on in my relationship! I endured the pain instead, our entire home did if I'm honest. I'm so thankful to be to this place now of life coaching, listening to videos, reading books and adding growth to my life daily ! My daughter talks the way you spoke of your sister speaking also. I tell her, girl please know nobody gonna have that, not a good man!
This helped me to realize what my other half was pointing out to me....I received what he was saying to me in the wrong way and felt he was trying to change who I am. He mentioned something that came off as disrespectful to him, but I didn’t see it that way...however, now that I’ve listened to this, I have a clearer understanding and see that I was wrong. It’s really different when you’re with a grown man..dealt with a grown boy for 20 years🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️... Thanks for the golden nuggets TG👍🏽💯. Be blessed, I made it🙂
Tony, you are an exemplary godly man. Your drive, your spirit and your content is revolutionary and it is penetrating through this messy and chaotic world. I have faith that God is using you and men & women are being awakened. God’s purpose is being fulfilled. Thank you 🙏
My ex was like that. Cursing and shouting at anyone. When you dont respect yourself you can never respect anyone. I was firm with my response but when you were brought up with everyone shouting its really difficult to change unless you want change. So the opposite in my responses could show the embarrassment, but the habits that were so long unchecked must have been difficult for him. I knew that had to be over, because I refused to put up with it or go to that level. I could never speak to a man that way, he allows it and I respect him anymore. Men need to be firm but respectful. Likewise women be ladies and earn respect. You have to move on if it doesn't change. Cant go on giving chances.
You teach people how to treat you. You handled that situation with grace and respect. That's how you keep a healthy relationship growing. I was never for the calling out of names and all that. I just tend to withdraw. Shut down. Which isn't good either but I'm still doing the work on myself. Thanks again for the sage advice. Continued blessings.
"If a man let you get into an argument, fight, or even a call with another woman means he sees you like trash because he is trash" -Tony Gaskins, thank you for these memorable golden words wich should be known by any woman
This has been the best video so far!! It took me a few years to work on myself and realize I deserve a grown man. I've found him now, and these are the exact conversations we have now about respect and healthy relationships! Love your videos Tony!
Be blessed, I made it🙂"To respect is also to protect" brilliant! Women want protection from a man and men want respect which is also protection, you give what you get, I guess! This has totally transformed the way I think, thank you, bless you x
One thing I can say the one I deal with really respect me in that way . I’m always lifting him up no matter how petty he can be towards me. I’ve learned men totally think differently and your right men never forget what you do but expect you to forget everything they do smh
This is the first time I've seen or listened to you. I thank you for putting many things in prospective for me. You helped me to really understanding the man I want to keep in my life... He used to call me Queen but like you said because I had other things I was holding on to I brought it into this relationship. Thank God he hasn't given up on me or us. I seen where I was wrong & apologize to him because he is a King & how I see him. I'm showing him I am the Queen he seen & can wife one day. I will continue to watch your programs. Thank you for setting the record & helping us all to be better. God bless
Thank you very much! You open my eyes every day as I'm evolving into a grown woman. I used to be in a toxic addiction style relationship where we had mutual disrespect in so many different ways. The universe had to put me through so many things to make me understand that I had to leave before I finally did. Now I'm single, working on myself and healing. You're a true help and a medicine.
Be blessed!! I made it. What a breath of fresh air in your coaching about respect. It goes both ways. It saddens me when I see kings & queens going at one another disrespectfully. With all that is going on in the world now, relationships need to change across the board. Love is the key!! Love is the foundation!! Love heals and love forgives!! We need more love, patience, respect and communication in our relationships. May God continue to use you as a vessel of honor unto Him. Be safe and may you and your family stay healthy.
"Move from failure to failure without loosing enthusiasm" ... Similar to my favorite quote from Winston Churchill. Thank God for confirmation. Thank you Mr. Gaskins.
This was an excellent video with examples of how nasty disrespectful language makes a relationship fizzle out fast. People listen and learn and grow up.
Bro Tony thank you for your sense of humor while keeping it so real with the truth in this video today . God bless you and I always make it to the end of every video. Am learning all over again and being strength also . during this much needed time I got off due to this pandemic of the 19 virus. So am enjoying every bit of this hour video . always looking forward to what God puts on your heart to give us women.
It’s heavy out here with that 19’ going around. Every opportunity I can get a good laugh, I’m taking it and Tony always delivers while coming with the real. “He sees u like the lint from his draws that’s stuck in his booty hair” lol I’m weak. That’s hardcore but the truth is the truth. Love the book btw, on chapter 4.
Be Blessed! I made it. I also downloaded A Woman's Influence in Audible today and am looking forward to getting into it. CONGRATULATIONS🎉🎊 to you both on making the #1 Bestsellers list and I pray God's continuous BLESSINGS over you all and your family. You all definitely are "good ground". 🙏🏾💖
Tony Gaskins I am so glad I started actually WATCHING and LISTENING to your videos. If you want something different you have to do something different. Thank you. May God continue to bless you and your wife. Be Blessed 🙏🏼
Thank you Tony for the video and message! Be Blessed! I made it! We all need to treat each other as we want to be treated in life. What we see in our life is always a mirror of ourselves and we need to do the inner work to change for the better. We have the power to change what we do not like in our lives and stop feeding our ego and live in love!
This is a very powerful video! The woman or women that you are describing I use to be her. Making no excuses but I had alot going on with me from young. However nobody should be talked to like that and if just so happens they do deserve it walk away and or leave the situation completely. Life is about energy. No need on wasting your energy on negativity. I'm no longer that woman, however I'm still working on me daily and I thank the Most High that I can!!🙋🏾♀️
I see respect as love because I believe out of respect for you people would not do something to hurt you, and if the person don't want to hurt you that in itself shoes love because love is not pain. Pain of all sorts, jealousy, hatred etc
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Thank you so much!!
Oh wow! So happy I could cry! It's so true that a man's gift maketh room for him. What u give, you give from ur heart. You deserve nothing but the best *Congrats 👍*
Tony Gaskins hHi Tony just subscribed. After giving birth to my second baby via C section last week. Baby still at the hospital for an extra three weeks. My husband cared for one for a full one day when we came home. Next day we argued badly and I ended up disrespecting him with words. I was wrong. He also disrespected me saying what kind of mother are you. He left the house because I asked him to leave. He never came back knowing no body will care for me since my family werre in other city for vacay. Now when I went to the hospital to go see the baby he doesn’t even talk to me. Is that a real man? I understand I insulted him with words but to leave me after a C section. If A man gets disrespected by his wife. No matter what the circumstances that is. Is it ok for them to leave? Is that a real man character?
assignment B If you disrespected him then asked him to leave you can’t expect him to act like it didn’t happen just because you are married. That probably broke his heart. If he’s a good man you have to work hard to get his respect and trust back. He probably doesn’t feel safe there anymore. If you don’t want to loose him for good you should probably seek some counsel together.
Hey dude i'm.subcribing to u your content is very poweful, i'm new , u got any books??
Self control always remain a lady..they can’t compete with silence...it makes them 🤔 think..
I I understand
To be dignified and sophisticated feels so good!
Salute Queen! Exactly
True 🤫
@@aneshrathomas AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT!YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! JUNE2021
Queens don't argue 💯
Queens walk away.
Feels good too👸
Amen, Queens are just soft and subtle. That's why you have to be careful being chosen. Everything that chooses you is not from GOD. Dont settle for peanuts.
A Queen will keep her crown, femininity, and will click her red bottoms and walk away and not argue.
Never disrespect yourself Ladies by fighting over a stinky, , sorry musty man...TG facts!!!
If a man ever lets you get into a fight argument or even a phone call with another woman...he's sees you like trash! I absolutely agree with this message... he knows he's trash and that you don't respect yourself enough to leave him!
Very true
Sometimes men manipulate what respect is for there own comfort when they guilty about something they did .
If a man disrespect himself by cheating and all of that he deserves to be yelled at.
Never equate a strong, respectable confident, no nonsense woman with the "B"word, it's not a compliment. What a grown man loves is a Queen and she wont stoop to your level. 👸🏽🙌🏽
This one's going on my profile picture!👍
We are told to respect because we are driven by emotions that can be polarizing. Men are told to love because they usually don't use emotions. Using the different words shows that each is to sacrifice and die to their individual "nature"
Wow that was beautifully said👏👏👏
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH! THAT'S IT! JUNE2021
Never thought of it this way
Absolutely! On point
Very insightful. Thank you
"Distraction designed as character." Come through Tony
When a man changes your character for the worse he is negative for you.
The ex used to demand respect from me , and yet he was extremely disrespectful towards me.
... and he probably said, he loved you. This is a very, very common constellation.
I was talking to him like a King, but it was not given in return. I agree 100%!! I should have checked behavior early.
Samantha Adkins me too.
@@potajonapotaje9158 it's a long road to travel, so hard and emotionally kills you!
Same here, mine was a boy...over 30 years. I filed for divorce. I look young for my age and he can pass for my father, but he is just an old "boy." LOL 😂
@@MyJubilation there's so many "grown boys" now!
Checked and walked away.
For any woman asking "why do we have to be the mature one" u need to really think about what u asking. Ur asking "why cant i react like a child"
Jess Pera Exactly
Yes like a two year old
But he gets to act like a child? Why?
Why can't he be the mature one?
@@vanaphill2454 acting like a child is not the prize preserving ur dignity and self respect as the queen that u are is the prize
NEVER WILL I FIGHT OVER A MAN !!!!!
It’s not that serious too many men out here for that . Say it again Tony and they petty
Cheeks Cheeks so very true. Whatever a guys done to make you feel that way, disrespecting you, cheating on you etc - they’re not worth it. It’s best just to leave.....turn your back and take a long slow walk without ever looking back.🤷🏼♀️👍🏽
Amen!!!! 🙌🙌🙌
Cheeks Cheeks I say the same thing. What would I look like fighting over a man? A man that cares about the person their with wouldn’t put a woman in that position in the first place🙄
LaVette you’re so right with that comment. When I was young - mid to late teenager young - my friends would be speaking to me about their guy cheating with x, y & z and how they were gonna kick their ass....and even at 14yrs old I would ask them why! WHY fight with a female over a guy and they would say “but they new he wasn’t single, they knew he was with me”, and my response even at such a young age was “but your guy also knew he was with you, the only difference is that ‘your guy’ is the only one out of the two of them that knew how he ‘allegedly’ felt about you. It was him who would tell you he loved you and how much he claimed to loved you and it was him who felt it, not her - the other female be it x, y or z....they didn’t feel his feelings for you and even if they were told or were around and saw him cuddling you, showing you & telling you he loved you etc....they didn’t feel any of those deep feelings that he claimed he felt for you’, so in being the one person who knows how much they love you because they’re in the relationship with you, it’s him who’s ass you should be kicking if you’re even considering doing anything other than taking a long slow casual walk so he gets a good chance to watch the best thing he ever had walk right out of his life, then it should be his ass....not hers! He knew his feelings for you and yours for him.....she didn’t so ultimately, as wrong, badly and disrespectfully they have both treated you....he’s the one who knows how much it will effect you and if he had any love for you he would never want to make a fool out of you, disrespect you or hurt you in the way he has. That’s my ‘truth’, my ‘belief’ and my ‘understanding’ of what it means to be in a relationship, so no matter how hurt I’ve been, I’ve simply just very calmly held my head high walked away and never listened or looked back, because I know my worth....I know the person I am and what I bring to the table in a relationship and although I don’t brag about it I do make sure that when going in to a relationship there are some fundamental ground rules before I will even think of getting seriously involved and the first is Equality of Respect - ‘ as much respect as I have for myself I will always give him and there is a clear expectation that it will be returned. I also need to know within my own mind that the guy has a high level of respect and love for himself because if he doesn’t then how can he possibly give those things to me. Also communication is key, without communication, be it deep and meaningful or simply letting me know what time he’ll be home or me calling to let him know I’m running late as I got held up at work - that’s basic respect so without that most basic level of communication what do we have 🤷🏼♀️ Nothing and therefore he is not worth any of my time or effort.💛🙏💛
That's why the king of Persia quickly dethroned queen Vashti and replaced by Esther because she publicly embarrassed him in front of all his party guests when she refused to come to him at his command. A man's ego is very fragile.
A word
@ Stacey- 2-edge sword really. Every one is quick to say this about Queen Vashti. Research shows it was against ancient customs for a Queen to perform a dance act. King was drunk & wanted to show off. But it was for God's glory in the end 😔
The Queen is not a dog to be called in front of his friends when he feels like it. She could be busy.
She said that to say to men have fragile egos not what y’all are talking about
"Respect for somebody else is first respecting yourself ! " 🙌
I didnt respect my ex after I saw that he wasnt a leader. It wasnt on purpose but I found myself having screaming matches that were draining. Even now, if he makes a selfish decision concerning our son and I address it calmly, he instantly starts yelling. I felt very masculine in that relationship.
The Queen dropped jewels in her conversation and body language. I got from her to just be everything God has called you to be. The relationship gets in where it fits in. Always hold onto YOU! Be your own peace. Romance will fall into place. Thanks for sharing her with us.
You got it
You don’t want to meet success with a failure attitude-Tony Gaskins •That spoke to me! Tony you have some of the best quotes!
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! JUNE2021
Everyone deserves respect. I don't do the name calling, especially not the N word. I'd never disrespect my man like that. It's not cute. When I see my sister(s) talk to their husbands like that I cringe. I'm like how could you talk to him like that, but at the same time why do they allow it. They'll do it in public, at a family function. Meanwhile I'm over here single, hoping and praying for a relationship so I can treat someone (a deserved someone) the way I've always want to be treated. 🤷🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️ I just don't get people.
TARLEASE02 maybe you don’t know what their husbands do you them behind closed doors
@@foreverolly8864 I do. They don't do anything like what I think you're implying. My sisters are very transparent with me and have genuinely nice husbands. So it's not that, rather it's their personality.
They’re with insecure men, thats all. A respectable man that loves himself won’t allow anyone to disrespect him in private or public, especially the women they’re with.
True
I’m guilty of talking crazy out of insecurity or protecting myself if I was disrespected. I am learning that it’s not a good look and I’m learning to be quiet and do more listening than reacting. I can’t wait to get your book. It’s coming tomorrow and can’t wait to read it. Thank you and be blessed! I just finished watching the video. You pretty much described a relationship that I was in that was EXTREMELY toxic! His problems turned me into a completely different person. That person is forever blocked! Thank you and I made it!
I totally agree with you in this video Tony. Men deserve our respect but I’m glad you emphasized at the end that you’re not saying we should respect them while they treat us like a doormat. The best thing to do in those situations is to remain calm, cool, and collected like Mrs. Gaskins put it. Walk away! No man is worth us coming out of our character for. I’m a queen, there’s no time for that period! 💯
Right
It took me a long time to realize that goes for all relationships. I will come out of my boots on behalf of children if I have to. But then I found that I can find another way 99.99 x out of 100!
Respect is given both ways
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! JUNE2021
Respect is just as vital as communication and consistency. Respect first starts with self!
I thought only ladies watch TGs videos :)
@Alicia Hope Alexander Amen Queen🙏👑
I cursed my boyfriend last night for the first time in 3 years. He told me to leave, was in disbelieve and he left. Today we spoke and he said he only asks for respect and clear communication. This is the reason I am here
@@simnikiwemajiki8265 That's great you two were able to come back together and work through this issue. When a man feels disrespected his wall of defense goes up, and many times doesn't come down.
Speak to a man as a king from the position from the position of a queen, not the position of a slave ... but if he shows his lack of kingliness, depart and reset ... got it! Be blessed -- I made it!
“Respect is also to protect.” TG
I know I picked up the disrespectful behaviour from my Mother..she's 4'11" but uses her mouth as her weapon. Thank you Tony for breaking it down. Got to do better.
This is why my marriage failed and he cheated. I didn't respect him enough. I don't use profanities or the N word but I was a champion at reacting, shouting etc. My mother always told me walk away during my marriage. I didn't listen. Thank you Tony, I will do better next time.
Cheating is his fault not urs. No matter how u treat someone you dont cheat! You leave! Dont take that guilt only take fault for rhe things you've done !
“You don’t want to meet success with a failure attitude” Amen 🙏🏽
Thank you because some of us suffer from being toxic. Now seeing it from a man point of view it has me thinking wow I was a toxic person and thought it was normal. So sad but when you know better you will do better. Your wife dropped 💎 last night. It was good actually seeing her. May GOD continue to Bless you and your family and thanks for showing us how a healthy marriage look. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Blessed Brown Beautiful 𝚈𝚘𝚞 𝚊𝚛𝚎 𝚜𝚘 𝚛𝚒𝚐𝚑𝚝! 𝙸 𝚜𝚑𝚊𝚛𝚎 𝚝𝚑𝚊𝚢 𝚎𝚡𝚙𝚎𝚛𝚒𝚎𝚗𝚌𝚎 𝚠𝚒𝚝𝚑 𝚢𝚘𝚞. 𝙸𝚟𝚎 𝚠𝚒𝚝𝚗𝚎𝚜𝚜𝚎𝚍 𝙷𝙾𝚁𝚁𝙸𝙱𝙻𝙴 𝚎𝚡𝚊𝚖𝚙𝚕𝚎𝚜 𝚘𝚏 𝚛𝚎𝚕𝚊𝚝𝚒𝚘𝚗𝚜𝚑𝚒𝚙𝚜 𝚊𝚕𝚕 𝚘𝚏 𝚖𝚢 𝚕𝚒𝚏𝚎 𝚝𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚖𝚊𝚍𝚎 𝚖𝚎 𝚏𝚎𝚎𝚕 𝚕𝚒𝚔𝚎 𝚘𝚝 𝚠𝚊𝚜 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚗𝚘𝚛𝚖. 𝙽𝚘𝚠 𝚝𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝙸 𝚔𝚗𝚘𝚠 𝚋𝚎𝚝𝚝𝚎𝚛, 𝙸𝚖 𝚜𝚝𝚛𝚒𝚟𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚝𝚘 𝚍𝚘/𝚋𝚎 𝚋𝚎𝚝𝚝𝚎𝚛! 𝙱𝚛𝚎𝚊𝚔𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚌𝚢𝚌𝚕𝚎 𝚜𝚝𝚊𝚛𝚝𝚜 𝚑𝚎𝚛𝚎!
I realized that about myself too!! It's hard work to change those toxic habits that I grew seeing the women in my life have.
Nicole Smith Exactly but it is up to us to break the cycle. We got this. Step one acknowledgment. May GOD Bless and I wish you the best❤️🙏🏾
I want to thank you for this difficult truth. It hurt. I needed this. I sooooooooo needed you to tell me aaaalllll of this. I'm crying 😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥 God bless you.
This was good Bro. Tony. I was a victim of disrespecting a man many years ago because this what I witnessed my big sisters did . I was always on a defense because I didn't know the difference of a grown boy and a grown man. Now after 7 years I know the difference. I continued to grow with these jewels you be dropping in the videos, live chats and courses. I had to Become Love Keep doing what you do. Be Blessed!!
This use to be me, I’m still not ready for a relationship, still healing and growing. Be blessed I made it!
When Tony said "Look here don't you eva in yo life." he sound like my daddy. my daddy don't play!!!
"Look here," and "You here me?" I love it!
Hi tiff👋❤
loveinautumn 39 heyyyy
Respect is not being a floor mat. 🙌
Reporting for class!
That reminds me of the story from the Bible of Abigail and Nabal. To respect is to protect ✊🏾
I'm on chapter 5, just stopped to watch this video. I also caught the video with your wife last night & the earlier one yesterday!
Lol this video makes me laugh....the way you impersonate the woman on the fone...lol have seen this kinda of woman on fone ha ha but I wonder if the guy had done something gueniually untrustworthy...? How could you build up the trust...I mean what if you guy had been chatting to an ex. Would you class this as cheating...?
I love and appreciate the way he is fair on both sides, male and female alike.
I’m working on not looking at money when evaluating a man. I used that to define character and that is so wrong. Learning from you every day!!!!
Yes!! I love his saying that character is your currency! ❤️
Selah!!!!! Tony done took me back 14 years ago when I was married, thank you God for deliverance, healing, self love, and learning how to remain cool, calm and collected.
Happy Wednesday Blessed Tribe👋🏼👋🏼👋🏼👋🏼🧡 (Be blessed I made it)
Caramel Kissez I want to commend you for what you do on the lives streams.
May God’s blessings continue to overtake you.
@@motherp5291 Thanks 🧡 I appreciate you as well for supporting the Gaskins family being in the tribe. God bless you🙏🏽🙏🏽
Happy Wednesday to u also
Love grows from respect.
Good afternoon Bigbro Tony& Blessed Tribe Last night Live Chat was a blessing with Sheri Gaskins.
"Let me talk proper for ya'll " 🤣🤣 I really enjoyed the live last night!! Be blessed, I made it !
Never change your energy for someone else. Had to tell my ex he seems to drain the energy out of me and he becomes angry because I left him! Boy bye 👋.
Have your fun too Tony! Bless you 🙏 Be blessed i made it
Thank you. More and more clarity everytime I watch your video.... now I look back to my relationship, I see debris after a hurricane. Wish I knew this a decade ago...
"You don't want to meet success with a failure attitude." 💌
Be blessed I made it! Thank you! I came out of a toxic relationship, marriage, and what can I say other than-- God grant me Grace.
Be blessed! I made it😊
Thank you Tony!! God lead me to this video. I brought “grown boy” experiences into my marriage. My husband is a REAL MAN!! If I don’t get it together he’ll be gone. I swear I didn’t mean no harm. 😥This video has blessed me Thank you again😁
“When I said it, I meant it!” Real man quote right there. Taking responsibility for your actions/words. Hardly see that these days. Another great video TG. 🔥
"The lint in his drawers that's stuck in his booty hair." 🤣🤣🤣 I needed oxygen when Tony said that!!!
I know and the sad thing is they say how much they love us but just using us, cause love would not want to hurt us.
Tony why do you love us this much. What a lovely topic. And your wife is GORGEOUS! I just envied her confidence in herself. Literally drove me to tears
1st to listen video 👑❤You must RESPECT not only yourself but also your husband, ok QUEENS* 👑are very strong minded!!!Also let's not forget to get a copy of a WOMEN'S INFLUENCE is awesome!!!❤👑💃💃Be blessed Tribe family.
Amen Tony, I know that’s right!!! I love when you said “I don’t argue. I said what I said and I meant it.”
The Queen diffused the situation...
He said me walking away was disrespectful. And you right rather than act out; I'd rather walk away and leave you to deal with you.
That's me though on the other side, from a woman's side. I allowed cursing, demeaning behavior for many, and I mean many 10 plus years. He thinks everything should have been fine after I left and he decided to change. I pay close attention to see if I notice ANY of that behavior now & I check it! (Perhaps before I even need to be) I'm just not having it, if I'd have been smart like your wife & checked it earlier, it may have been different. The thing is some things cannot be forgotten. I don't do any butt kissing anymore, do not break my back and do EVERYTHING in this house anymore and I WILL NOT allow it! I did it all for years, even with a disabled son, running a business and carried the weight of the world on my shoulders. If I could go back. I'd have checked behavior early on in my relationship! I endured the pain instead, our entire home did if I'm honest. I'm so thankful to be to this place now of life coaching, listening to videos, reading books and adding growth to my life daily ! My daughter talks the way you spoke of your sister speaking also. I tell her, girl please know nobody gonna have that, not a good man!
This helped me to realize what my other half was pointing out to me....I received what he was saying to me in the wrong way and felt he was trying to change who I am. He mentioned something that came off as disrespectful to him, but I didn’t see it that way...however, now that I’ve listened to this, I have a clearer understanding and see that I was wrong. It’s really different when you’re with a grown man..dealt with a grown boy for 20 years🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️... Thanks for the golden nuggets TG👍🏽💯. Be blessed, I made it🙂
Wow - treat every man like a king because you are a queen.... thank you
Tony, you are an exemplary godly man. Your drive, your spirit and your content is revolutionary and it is penetrating through this messy and chaotic world. I have faith that God is using you and men & women are being awakened. God’s purpose is being fulfilled.
Thank you 🙏
Call me by my name nothing else period .... I’ve heard ppl use those negative words in relationships I’ve never like that .
You know what baffles me. When these women fight over these men they say with the man. While he stays with the other women.
Right
My ex was like that. Cursing and shouting at anyone. When you dont respect yourself you can never respect anyone. I was firm with my response but when you were brought up with everyone shouting its really difficult to change unless you want change. So the opposite in my responses could show the embarrassment, but the habits that were so long unchecked must have been difficult for him. I knew that had to be over, because I refused to put up with it or go to that level. I could never speak to a man that way, he allows it and I respect him anymore. Men need to be firm but respectful. Likewise women be ladies and earn respect. You have to move on if it doesn't change. Cant go on giving chances.
I'm starting "A woman's influence!" I'm soooooo excited.
Be blessed - I made it !
"A distraction, disguised as Destiny"
Whoa!😳 Preach Tony..
Love from Australia 🇦🇺 ❤️
You teach people how to treat you. You handled that situation with grace and respect. That's how you keep a healthy relationship growing. I was never for the calling out of names and all that. I just tend to withdraw. Shut down. Which isn't good either but I'm still doing the work on myself. Thanks again for the sage advice. Continued blessings.
Tony you are telling the truth about everything you say in this video. God Bless you and your family.
I received my book yesterday and started reading it and couldn’t put it down. Love your videos and I’m loving your book!!
"If a man let you get into an argument, fight, or even a call with another woman means he sees you like trash because he is trash" -Tony Gaskins, thank you for these memorable golden words wich should be known by any woman
This has been the best video so far!! It took me a few years to work on myself and realize I deserve a grown man. I've found him now, and these are the exact conversations we have now about respect and healthy relationships! Love your videos Tony!
Be Blessed. I made it! Another great video as always! It has become a habit for me to watch 1 may be 2 Tony Gaskins videos a day
@Stephanie..Me too!
Be blessed, I made it🙂"To respect is also to protect" brilliant! Women want protection from a man and men want respect which is also protection, you give what you get, I guess! This has totally transformed the way I think, thank you, bless you x
One thing I can say the one I deal with really respect me in that way . I’m always lifting him up no matter how petty he can be towards me. I’ve learned men totally think differently and your right men never forget what you do but expect you to forget everything they do smh
Run from the decoys and distractions, he is not your destiny🔥🔥🔥
This is the first time I've seen or listened to you. I thank you for putting many things in prospective for me. You helped me to really understanding the man I want to keep in my life... He used to call me Queen but like you said because I had other things I was holding on to I brought it into this relationship. Thank God he hasn't given up on me or us. I seen where I was wrong & apologize to him because he is a King & how I see him. I'm showing him I am the Queen he seen & can wife one day. I will continue to watch your programs. Thank you for setting the record & helping us all to be better. God bless
I’m still waiting on my 📚 I hope it’s today can’t wait
Cheeks Cheeks me too
🙌🏾TRANSPARENCY🙌🏾 HEALS ... OMG, the CLARIFICATION ON RESPECT!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Thank you very much! You open my eyes every day as I'm evolving into a grown woman.
I used to be in a toxic addiction style relationship where we had mutual disrespect in so many different ways. The universe had to put me through so many things to make me understand that I had to leave before I finally did. Now I'm single, working on myself and healing.
You're a true help and a medicine.
Be blessed!! I made it. What a breath of fresh air in your coaching about respect. It goes both ways. It saddens me when I see kings & queens going at one another disrespectfully. With all that is going on in the world now, relationships need to change across the board. Love is the key!! Love is the foundation!! Love heals and love forgives!! We need more love, patience, respect and communication in our relationships. May God continue to use you as a vessel of honor unto Him. Be safe and may you and your family stay healthy.
Last night Live was wonderful.Thank you again for dedicating your time to us it is very appreciated.
"Move from failure to failure without loosing enthusiasm" ... Similar to my favorite quote from Winston Churchill. Thank God for confirmation. Thank you Mr. Gaskins.
"You don't want to meet success with a failure's attitude". Tony is constantly dropping jewels of knowledge for success in love and life🙌🏾
Tony Gaskins is so theatrical! I love it. Keep it coming with the scenarios because, these are the very examples few CARE to SHARE!
I loved watching Mrs,Gaskins last night. Can’t wait for a coaching session from her.
Just order mine... Coming on Friday... Excited, saw the live... Blessed me!
Be blessed. I made it. You’re knowledge is much appreciated.
This was an excellent video with examples of how nasty disrespectful language makes a relationship fizzle out fast. People listen and learn and grow up.
Bro Tony thank you for your sense of humor while keeping it so real with the truth in this video today . God bless you and I always make it to the end of every video. Am learning all over again and being strength also . during this much needed time I got off due to this pandemic of the 19 virus. So am enjoying every bit of this hour video . always looking forward to what God puts on your heart to give us women.
It’s heavy out here with that 19’ going around. Every opportunity I can get a good laugh, I’m taking it and Tony always delivers while coming with the real. “He sees u like the lint from his draws that’s stuck in his booty hair” lol I’m weak. That’s hardcore but the truth is the truth. Love the book btw, on chapter 4.
Be blessed I made it. May the Lord bless you real good and your family. You are what we need in these days and times words from on High.
Be Bless I made it!!! Thank you so much for the love you have for us!!!!
Be Blessed! I made it. I also downloaded A Woman's Influence in Audible today and am looking forward to getting into it. CONGRATULATIONS🎉🎊 to you both on making the #1 Bestsellers list and I pray God's continuous BLESSINGS over you all and your family. You all definitely are "good ground". 🙏🏾💖
Be blessed I made it! 🙏🏻
Be Blessed I Made It
Be blessed, I'm growing better every day 👸🏾👸🏾👸🏾
Tony Gaskins I am so glad I started actually WATCHING and LISTENING to your videos. If you want something different you have to do something different. Thank you. May God continue to bless you and your wife. Be Blessed 🙏🏼
Thank you Tony for the video and message! Be Blessed! I made it! We all need to treat each other as we want to be treated in life. What we see in our life is always a mirror of ourselves and we need to do the inner work to change for the better. We have the power to change what we do not like in our lives and stop feeding our ego and live in love!
Be blessed, I made it. Thank you again 🙂
This is a very powerful video! The woman or women that you are describing I use to be her. Making no excuses but I had alot going on with me from young. However nobody should be talked to like that and if just so happens they do deserve it walk away and or leave the situation completely. Life is about energy. No need on wasting your energy on negativity. I'm no longer that woman, however I'm still working on me daily and I thank the Most High that I can!!🙋🏾♀️
#1 Seller on Amazon right now!!! A Woman's Influence. It is a must-read! Be Blessed I made it!
I see respect as love because I believe out of respect for you people would not do something to hurt you, and if the person don't want to hurt you that in itself shoes love because love is not pain. Pain of all sorts, jealousy, hatred etc