The thing I hate the most is when people romanticize depression. This is serious mental illness and people with depression feel like shit, they aren't some kinky sexual objects.
Josue Lopez yet she was very good at describing depression. you cant say that someone without depression won't understand because a psychiatrist can sure as hell understand but they might not suffer from depression.
how i feel about depression because i have it "People think depression is sadness, crying or dressing in black. But people are wrong. Depression is the constant feeling of being numb. You wake up in the morning just to go back to bed again."
I an going into year 7 in September I have depression and anxiety, I am tired of trying to rebuild my life, I am tired of being judged and mocked by the thing we call society, I may seem happy on the outside but inside it's a whole nother story. I just need someone to go to and talk to when I'm feeling anxious or depressed. Here's a little tip: Don't let words bring you down and if they do build yourself back up before its to late. Dont leave it to lte to talk to someone like I did. 😭😭😭😭 Sticks and stones, Won't brake my bones. But words, Thats a wholenother story. 😭😀😭😀
I’m so messed up. My life, everything just miserable. Why do i need to pretend that im happy like put a fake smile everyday. I just want it to stop ☹️ inside me. There’s empty. Nothing. I feels nothing 😪
But for some people depression is actually sadness and crying... It all depends on the person and nobody should be put in a box. I know you just wanted to express your pain and I hope your doing better now
I can't go see a psychiatrist. I can't tell or show my parents that I'm depressed because they'd just brush it off and say it's just stress or I'm just sad. My sister just talks about depression like a joke or an excuse for being sad about something. I've been depressed for as long as I can remember, since I was a young child. I used to act sad, and my parents were concerned at why a young, healthy child would be sad, but I chose to start masking the depression with over-enthusiasm. I can't turn on what I've been in front of them and break their hearts knowing that both their children are dysfunctional failures. I don't want to hurt them like that.
I understand you. This is exactly how I felt for almost a decade now, and I am 18 right now. I don't think people, even those close to you will truly understand it. It is easy and almost convenient to say "you can get therapy" or " just be positive". Depression is not about it. I also don't want to burden my family like that, especially after mustering courage and telling them how I feel. I tried positivity and enthusiasm too and just, it is a constant cycle. It is a feeling inside me I can't fix, so I don't try to, not anymore. Learn to be comfortable with this feeling, I think that's the only way to stay somewhat "sane".
idk if anyone else had this but I have a voice in my head. It's weird because its *me* 'speaking' but its not *me* at the same time. It'll tell me all the bad things i did in the last hour for example if im near my crush, I'll walk away and the voice with start telling me things like 'you should have kept your hands down cause you looked like an idiot. He would never like an idiot.' idk... its weird
Same ! I thought no one else had that thing and that I was a freak... But sometimes it tries to protect me too, and I feel like that's the part of my personality I put out there. It's the part that the others see cause the real me is too weak
Ikr. They don’t know what it’s like. They don’t know until they actually are depressed. I was diagnosed with clinical depression. It sucks. I hate waking up and feeling like I shouldn’t have woken up. Like it’s useless. I’m hopeless. People tell me that i should just be happy. It’s not that easy. It makes me so mad when people say “ I feel depressed today” it annoys me
Agreed, getting help takes work, energy, and requires poking and prodding that is ridiculously uncomfortable and feels absolutely terrible. But that feeling eventually goes away, and I just try to remind myself that you get what you give, so the more energy you try to put in to get better, the better you'll feel later on. And it may take longer for some than others, I'm still on the path almost 2 years later with therapy and medication, but I'm miles ahead of where I started.
+simplycasperxp Very true! I still suffer from depression, anxiety, and ptsd, but I'm much better than I was last summer or the summer before that. I still have a long way to go and I'll be testing out a 3rd medication soon to help and I'm onto my 7th therapist, but I'm hoping things will continue to just get better.
I recently started a relationship with a girl that suffers from depression. At the beginning I didn't knew a tihng compared to what I know now. We started by long talks for many many days and even back then I noticed some aspects of our conversations didn't seem 100% right. But that was just the tip of the iceberg... Anyway... I completly love that girl. I inconditionally love that girl so much that it makes me afraid of not to be there for her if she needs me or if I do or say something I shouldn't. I know a lot about her by now and some other stuff I just have to deduce but I know there's more. It's been a roller coaster of emotions and I have also suffered quite a bit already. It's like if some aspects of my personality have changed for all the feelings and emotions this is bringing to my once stable and 'normal' life. I really want to be there for her even if from time to time I take a beating. Afterall I'm only human but it's hard. It's sooo hard sometimes. Most people just don't understand and end up going away. People give up easily on what they don't understand and can't control. If it takes some more dedication, patience, love and time people just give up on you. It's easier for them but hard on the person that sometimes just need someone to listen to them. A bit of their time and understanding! Again... I love this girl so much that I'm afraid (terrified sometimes) that she just decides to end our relation because it's something she can actually control and right now there isn't much she can. When she goes into that dark, cold and smelly place I don't know where she is, what she's doing or how she's actually feeling. That makes me feel anxious most of the day. Ok... Gonna end this now or I won't be able to stop. Thank you for the video Kat and for the all rest of you never give up. Be strong and confident. And happy.
I am in a similar situation. My ex boyfriend has depression, and he recently broke up with me to 'avoid messing me up'. I just love him and want to be with him and show him he's not alone, but he pushed me away and everything hurts. But I will not give up on him. I can't
I hope i find someone understanding of my situation i really hate being in relationships bcuz i think they cant understand me and will hurt me more so i push everyone away even if i liked 😔 hope she is doing ok ❤
Which sadly makes people who're actually living with anxiety and depression think that they're doing exactly that, or it makes you feel that everyone thinks of you that way
Mariubjalla Kata I totally agree.infact the lack of attention in a person's life can lead to an actual development of depression or personality disorders later on. different ppl need different amounts of attention in their lives and if someone is craving it so badly that they go to the length of lying about something as fucked up as having depression they sure need attention. What's important is that the attention we give is healthy and to the right amount. we should not let it define our relationship with that person and we should not let it control how we treat someone completely (to sum it up-know the limits when u give someone the attention that they crave)
This week my depression is overtaking me: When I wake up I wanna go to bed again and I can stay home (thanks to my mom, she‘s an angel), I feel ugly, stupid and useless, I literally live with my depression or more like - Depression lives with me... I have it now for almost 1-2 years. I‘m only 14 and that‘s why people just say to me: „stop making ‘depression‘ up, you don‘t know what that is, you’re too young. It‘s just an excuse that you don‘t have to do anything...“ I‘m sick of those people who think and say that, like c‘mon... respect people with mental disorders and help them and not make anything more worse.
I have depression and GAD, which have caused "disordered eating" and sleeping issues. I'm 99% likely to start anti-depressants and sleeping tablets this Tuesday, and I do part-time school. It truly is horrible, and I respect those that support people with depression or GAD or any other mental disorder, even though they have their own problems to deal with. I appreciate those kinds of people so much!
I suffer from depression and I want to tell you guys that medication is NOT the only way to handle your depression. For me exercise have helped me a lot. I've been going to the gym 3-4 times a week lifting heavy weights and I absolutely love it. I can't tell you how much it have helped me; I haven't had a "depression attack" for about 2 months since I started with regular exercise and for me that's a miracle. Iv'e always been a little bit scared of taking medication so for those of you who might share the same feelings or just simply want to try something new I strongly recommend doing some sort of exercise and being consistent(!) with it. Try it out even if you're on medication, you've got nothing to loose only to gain.
Hell yea! I'm in the same boat. Remember, with a healthy body comes a healthy mind. Remember to eat healthy and stick to working out tho :D And also get some hobbies and stuff to distract yourself from sad and depressing thoughts.
Miriam S There are so many variables involved your comment makes no sense. First off are you diagnosed with depression? How severe is it? Perhaps you are so used to depression it's become the new normal for you
trying to exercise or doing anything out of my comfort zone makes me even more depressed. when I start something new I'm very excited, yes, but then the days go by and I start to lose my motivation and start procrastinating, and that's when the guilt of not being able to finish anything or sticking with a routine gets me. I get very sad. I start to blame myself for every little thing I can't do or do wrong. I start to wonder why do I even try to be alive. really the only thing that has stopped me from completely giving up is my parents, so I wonder how my life is gonna be without them. but anyways I'm glad you found something that helps you cope with depression and go through your day, not many of us are this lucky. :)
Michaela Sherrard They're not.. they just stated that not everyone finds a way to recover through the same methods. Personally I can't combat my depression with exercise either, but this is the key for some people. Every person is different, which is exactly what he is saying.
Just one clear up: You cannot "get rid of depression". Depression is a mental disorder. You can cope with Depression, but you can't lose depression. Just as someone with schizophrenia cannot simply "get rid of schizophrenia". I have depression. However I am NOT depressed. It does not define me. I am more than my depression. I have accepted that it is apart of me & that I'm allowed to be happy. (It's okay to be depressed. Just don't let it define who you truely are. You deserve Happiness.)
+Hailey Finlayson this was such an unnecassary comment considering she even said previously that she doesnt suffer from it. meaning her knowledge is slightly limited. in some cases you can be freed from depression. BTW, if you have depression then you are depressed.... just like if you have asthma you are asthmatic.. As you said you just accept it and move on, but that doesnt mean you 'arent' depressed... you may have depressive episodes but the illness is still there even when youre happy.
Hailey Finlayson I have depression and I have my moment where I can be really really happy for maybe a day or so then I have my moments where I'm happy but I'm piss in between for example I could call my bf and get mad at him and and get off like nothing ever happened then I have my happy sad days where in the middle of the day and I see a group of people happy I would get sad ( I have a hard time making friends ) for the whole entire day then I'll come home and be happy then I have my sad mad day which are the worst because once I cuss someone out I cry right after then I have my completely sad days where no one can convince me out of it and these days are rare but still exist meaning i would be sad or depress for approximately 1 day 2 at most anything over I might just overdose because when I was dealing with that i overdose on sleeping pills because I couldn't handle it
Hailey Finlayson IF you have depression, you ARE depressed. You are contradicting yourself. You Can’t have it both ways. Go talk to a professional and they’ll tell you the same Thing.
Nicole Holland I’m sorry to hear you have depression. I’ve had it all my life. Part of it is that I lost my Girlfriend from breast cancer after 18 years. The other part of it is that it runs in my Family. Oh yeah, I think another main part of it is finding the right people to be Around. If there’s a spark about them, I feel pretty good. If there isn’t, I just feel Lonely. I mean it feels better than nothing to be around people that don’t have That’s spark, but it does not fulfill the emptiness I feel. Exercise, and just walking Helps a great deal. Getting older makes you feel bad too. You feel like you’ve Already fulfilled your dream of what you were mainly interested in, and what Is there left to do? Your best days are behind you, and you were depressed Then too. It’s very difficult to get up in the morning and exercise when you Feel depressed, but if you don’t do it, it gets worse as the day goes on.
honestly the video you made about depression and what it's like is perfectly done. some of my friends are finally understanding what i go through daily. i suffer from major depressive disorder and i don't feel like i can really share how i feel without someone telling me it'll pass or think happy thoughts or claiming that they have it worse when they have no idea. it's a never ending battle in your head. also thank you for not pretending to be depressed and being open to help others and make awareness on how serious it is.
What a powerfull message you gave is this videos, girl. I'm pretty sure you don't even imagine how much relief you gave to people. This videos feels like a hug. Thank you.
I can't believe I didn't notice this video until now! I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart about raising awareness around the people living with their depressed loved ones. My two family members have suffered from depression for many years and it can get really tough sometimes. You just feel tired and hopeless and after that you're feeling like a bad person because you have no power to be there for your loved ones. Today was one of those days, but seeing this video gave me a lot of comfort. Thank you thank you thank you!! You are a beautiful person.
both my parents know that i have depression, but they couldn’t care. They say I’m just overreacting and i should just snap out of it. They say I’m just being weak
Im living with my husband who have depression illness since he was young until now he is 67. He is strong man I have ever met. Im so proud of him and that what I always told him. Every single day ! It is hard, it come and go, all thing I can do to help him to stay strong : just be there for him anytime, anywhere. And never stop to telling him that how much I love him, And how much amazing he is ! Wish you guys all the best !
OBJAWY PL: zły nastrój brak czerpania przyjemności z rzeczy, które kiedyś ci ją dawały zmiany (brak) apetytu poczucie bezwartościowości lub winy zbyt dużo lub mało snu słaba koncentracja niepokój spadek energii myśli samobójcze.
+CallMeKat Zamieniłbym tylko "zbyt dużo lub mało snu" na "problemy ze snem", ponieważ są ludzie którzy potrzebują mniej lub więcej snu, nie mając przy tym depresji ;) a od siebie dodałbym jeszcze odcinanie się lub izolację od społeczeństwa i ogólnie zaniedbywanie relacji nawet z najbliższymi. Oczywiście nie we wszystkich przypadkach, bo niektórzy zręcznie ukrywają swoją chorobę i przybierają maskę normalności, ale często tak bywa. Poza tym chciałem dodać, że moim zdaniem to chyba pierwszy kanał na polskim YT zrobiony na tak dobrym poziomie, ubrany w ciekawą, estetyczną formę. Przyjemnie się słucha i ogląda :) Oby tak dalej!
zbyt duzo i zbyt malo snu jest bardzo trafne w tym przypadku, rok temu mi stwierdzono ta przypadlosc, raz jest lepiej raz gorzej, otaczanie sie znajomymi i zajmowanie sie roznymi rzeczami pomaga, ale wracajac do domu i wstajac rano z lozka jest dokladnie tak samo. probujesz zabijac czas śpiąc, zajmujesz sobie mysli zeby tylko poczuc sie lepiej. ogolem chujowo, ale jak bylo powiedziane w filmie wczesniej- wstajesz rano, idziesz spac wieczorem i codziennie masz nadzieje ze to przejdzie.
normalnym tez jest ze wyrzucamy te mysli z glowy, ze jednak nic nam nie jest a po pewnym czasie tak czy siak to wraca. jakbys gral sam ze soba w chowanego
+Mikołaj Jankowski Dokładnie tak! Robisz cos byleby nie myśleć bo zaraz przychodzi i jest najgorzej. Ten stan ciagnie sie przez dłuższy czas, a potem nagle wydaje sie, ze wszystko jest juz dobrze i w najmniej oczekiwanym momencie wraca. Błędne, zataczające sie kółko beznadziejnosci.
+Mikołaj Jankowski. Też mam depresję. Pokrótce: 1. Faktycznie to pierwszy mi znany kanał o poziomie adekwatnym do tematu. Propsy ! 2. Zgodzę się z przedmówcami odnośnie do tego, co piszą. 3. Mikołaj Jankowski - sam doszedłem po długim czasie do tego, że „uciekanie od problemu nie jest tym samym, co radzenie sobie z nim". Od momentu zrozumienia tej kwestii, jak i mojej/naszej przypadłości, przestałem tylko stale uciekać w różne zajęcia, aby nie myśleć o niczym, lecz zacząłem z tym walczyć na swój sposób (każdy w końcu znajdzie własny). Aktualnie jestem zdany tylko na Siebie i niestety jestem ostro kopany w d@#e i wystawiany na wręcz okropieństwa ze strony otaczających mnie ludzi. Ja już na chwilę obecną nie ufam nikomu, bo ludzie to w większości zdradliwe i fałszywe ścierwo a tym bardziej, gdy widzą, że mogą skorzystać/wykorzystać w jakikolwiek sposób, bo uczciwy, szczery i pomocny, to na pewno jakiś idiota lub kretyn... W każdym razie... Życzcie mi szczęścia, abym nie przegrał, jak i ja wam tego życzę, byście wygrali i nie polegli w bitwie bracia broni ! :)
Thank you for your video, you make some very prudent points. I suffer from depression and anxiety and when I finally realised that I needed medication my parents were extremely against it "You don't want to take that shit". If I'd listened to them I wouldn't be here to write this post today. There is no shame in taking medication for a medical condition, you wouldn't tell a diabetic not to take their insulin. You're doing a good service.
(I'm not really good in English, so sorry for any mistakes.)Thank you for this video. I think this is what I needed. I found the love of my life, I have many friends, I have good grades but I can't stop thinking about how shitty and usless I am.. I'm crying every night, I'm not happy at all. I don't know what is happening with me and I'm afraid that I can lose everything what I have. Everybody keeps telling me "don't worry, this is not healthy, you are making things worse by doing this", "just smile", " stop looking at everything from the negative side " or "stop crying, I feel bad when I see you like this" but how? I'm trying so hard, but I can't. I never thought that I can have depression, but when I saw all these symptoms... I never had so poor concentration, I never felt so restless and pretty much everything what you have mentioned in your video matches to my actual psychological state, so now I'm not so sure about that... So one more time, thank you, your video made me realize that maybe I can need some help.
I totally agree with you any Im not questioning youre feelings bc I feel the same way but I think a way of getting better is of trying to figure out what the problem is. You said you have a loving boyfriend and friends and good grades thats something good to begin with. Good grades mean good education which lead to much money so youre basically ensuring your financial future. keep up with the good work!! Also your friends. Having friends is the best thing. Talk to them be open. And dont be shy try to make them understand maybe they can even relate and help you solve those problems. Same goes with your boyfriend. He loves you he gives you strenght and warmth. What would he be without you what would your friends be without you what would your mom dad or siblings be without you. If you ever feel worthless think about how much they would miss you if you werent there anymore or just how sad it would make them so see you cry because they just want the best for you. You are not useless everyone is there for somerthing bc look who else would get the good grades if you werent there? Who else would look up to you bc they want to have just as good grades as you or who would your boyfriend love and cuddle with or even kiss if you were so useless and worthless. All the people surrounding you would be different if you werent there so youre important. And If you were so worthless I wouldnt even write that long as text to you and spending 10 minutes writing it. Everyone is needed and wanted. I am suffering with depression too the only difference is that my family is abusive and non acceptant my only good friends have left me and broke up contact with me and im left with fake friends who are just using me and a boy who I love and who i thought loved me too told me he doesnt love me he just pretended everything instead if telling me the truth.. Its been a long distance relationship. So this basically means im almost 18 and have never had contact with any male person in my area. Im at a new school and Its very hard to understand everything and I feel dumb and left out bc no one wants to explain the things I dont understand. There are 5 things that determine life in general. Love Friends Family Education and Self Purpose. I honestly dont have either of those 5 things. Im not in any way allowed to put you under my position but I would be so happy If I had a loving boyfriend some good friends a nice family and better grades wouldnt hurt me either. It would automatically make me feel better. Make me feel like I have an impact in others lives and a purpose. Youre one lucky candidate. Dont be to hard on yourself. Think of the many good things in life and not about the few bad things. I hope this helped. Greetings!
Angelika Don't worry about your written English. It's perfectly fine and understandable. You've even managed to write some flawless in a row. Don't know about you but as q person suffering from depression and different anxieties I personally do struggle with acknowledging strength/abilities/skills/sucess or talent. Doing something and being glad/proud or even happy about ones achievement can be hard for some people. I'm learning several languages out of interest and if I was able to form whole Texts as you do in English... I'd be more than just glad. So be proud about your written English skills :) No need for a disclaimer :) Look I'm German with several month experience abroad and I'm still doing mistakes. Especially with the mobile phone :)
applegreenviolet.....everything you have just said is bang on. I wouldn't mind if I had half the support she as. but of course anxiety & depression are bad no matter what net work you have in place. but must agree with you on the things you said.....if I had half of that support good friends a good partner and good grades my depression wouldn't be has bad. she is lucky to a point yes your so right. best wishes to ALL ON HERE. depression is bad & anxiety fighting both even today. life can be hard the struggle goes on. seen some crazy things in life, been to some rough places in life. im a pretty strong person. good and bad days just like all. all the best to you. Damon from U.K peace-out................
Thank you for everything you do! It’s so important that someone actually talks about things like that and letting people know what depression is and how hard to fight with that! I’m really glad i found your channel.
I just want to thank you. I have lived with someone with depression for the last year, and sometimes I just can't understand what the fuck is going on, if I'm being helpful, or of I'm acting like a child and not controlling myself in front of the other person. I can tell now what I might have been doing wrong, and you helpt me to see that. I can understand better this person now, and that is thanks to you. So... thank u
A lot of people, pretty much everyone in my current life left me because they couldn't handle me. I've been to multiple therapists and it doesn't work for me, personally taking doesn't help me and no one will ever understand that so they assume I don't accept help or am being stubborn. I have anxiety disorder and depression and haven't been able to sleep in the last few months and not only mentally but it's also taken a very negative toll on my body physically and I don't know what to really do anymore. I have no friends and when I try to make new friends they just leave me easily when i tell them my situation.
I suffer from depression and the video you made was very accurate. It was done exceptionally well too, so kudos to you! I look forward to watching your future videos.
Choruję na depresję i jestem wdzięczna, że stworzyłaś te filmiki. Zaskoczyło mnie, że udało ci się tak zwięźle ukazać czym ta choroba jest. Wspaniale, że masz w sobie tyle empatii i jesteś tak wyrozumiała:-) Gorąco pozdrawiam!:-*
nawet nie wiesz jak bardzo mi pomoglas kilkoma juz swoimi filmami..dziekuje..twoj spokojny glos i zapewnianie ze ludzie nie sa sami jest najlepsza kombinacja..
it would be nice to see a video like you did for depression (where you tried to show how it could be in their head and making a cinematic portrayal) for schizophrenia. I feel like that's also a very misunderstood one as well... would be nice to see a PSA mini film from you about that since I enjoy your productions
+CallMeKat haha but that's a movie.... that's not what I meant D: D: I meant a short like your depression one. and then you talk and say poetic stuffs and such and such D: D: but yes that is a good movie :D
+Tatiana Hansen schizophrenia is even more complicated and more "abstract". Healthy people can partially understand and feel like a person in depression, but for a short period of time. With schizophrenia there is no such analogy, that's why I think making a short video about this mental disorder is a hard and risky job.
+Vioner that is true...but it would be nice to see it attempted especially by a schizophrenic who shows what it is like for him/her since people have a very big misunderstanding about it and usually only know of the extreme stuff like on the news a guy kills a bunch of people and turns out he was suffering from schizophrenia things like that...and lots of people think that all schizophrenics are dumb and crazy and killers or potential killers that are on the verge at any moment to snap and kill....or we are disregarded and dismissed with our thoughts etc because we are crazy and "imagine things all the time" so there is also the side of not being taken seriously etc... it would just be nice to see people attempt to lessen the stigma for it. It is nice to see Mental Health video/movie things like this to help people understand it better since it usually isn't taken seriously...and I like the attention mental health stuff has been getting lately. I just feel like some of them are being left out at the moment D: that's all. would be a nice different thing to see since I've seen many in regards to depression and anxiety.
+Vioner but yeah schizophrenia can get pretty psychedelic D: and each trip is different for each rider. I would like to see productions for all of them it would be interesting to watch.
I found the depression video and the subsequent comments very therapeutic. I"m tired of people trying to get me not to feel depressed, or showing that they can't just sit and be with me through it. The pure reflection that shows that you understand what it's like, without trying to push for change, is exactly what made the video so potent. The more you can just hold space for connection without needing the depression to lift, the more you are giving space for new growth to come out of it. If a depressed person starts asking about what they can do and you have some insights about it, that can be really valuable, but just holding space for what comes out of it - showing that you can just be with them does a lot. A depressed person may have great resources, but feel like they don't have space to work things out. It's a breakdown of courage. Not being able to see feel the highest possibilities for oneself. It's an illness that's based around hopelessness. "Nothing I do can make things better and nothing good could ever happen to me." Having hope is deeply related to having awareness of our resources and to the courage to keep working with what we've got - chasing our dreams and remembering that they are possible; that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I felt very depressed when I started watching the other depression video. What I just wrote is my insides starting to wake back up and move.
*huge sigh* okay... I have to explain something. Depression is different for everyone. I have been on antidepressants all my life and still do not consider myself "cured", as you say, in any way. I have been in therapy all my life, before getting depression, and after I got it. Five years of seeing a professional and being medicated and I'm still depressed. There are times when I feel better, but they last for a week at most. And talking about depression is never easy. Depression for bipolar and normal depression are very different. I know because my mother is bipolar and I'm depressed. Her depressive episodes are a lot different from mine. Do not generalize depression and bipolar depression episodes. That being said. I like that you are trying to help people out it makes me happy to see people out there doing research. But please, Express that this isn't everyone's depression. Thanks.
living with a depressed family member (professionally diagnosed and on meds) and it makes me so sad seeing them like that knowing u are exactly the same
No, no I don't think that medication is always necessary! Really people are so different. Some manage to get better without, some need some medication! It's not a must in my opinion. Medication makes it sometimes worse...
+Toasty Moasty not always. Therapy is good as well. Unfortunately - most of the times you'll need medication. If you've cure depression without medicine or therapy - that means you did not have depression in the first place.
Kiara Roman Unfortunately, I know depression very well. Too well, I'd say. Trust me. If you've cured depression by eg taking vitamins - that was not depression.
Toasty Moasty I agree. Every person's brain works differently + if you read the effects anti-depressants have it says "this medication can cause depression". It makes me think "bruh what am I even taking this for."
Kat Napiorkowska I don't agree + you can't understand how others cope and deal with depression. I think maybe even you didn't understand all of it at some point. So please don't think that only meds can help. All people have different ways of coping. 😊
I personally suffer from depression and it's very very hard. I hope that one day people understand how this thing really works because I have lost a lot of friends because they didn't really understand the illness and said many mean things to me. thank you for video btw. ;)
Zdrowi ludzie najczęściej nas po prostu odrzucają. Nie próbują pomagać, nie próbują wspierać, nie próbują rozmawiać. Próbowałem psychologa. Chodziłem na spotkania grupowe i na te 1 na 1. Wszystkich okłamałem. Doszli do wniosku, że wszystko ze mną okej, choć miałem za sobą próby samobójcze i inne takie. Jak wyszedłem, tak zaraz wróciłem do siebie, zamknąłem się i zgasiłem światło. Chciałem popłakać, ale nie mogłem już nawet na siłę wycisnąć łzy z oka. To bywa dużo bardziej skomplikowane niż wydaje się być dla ludzi, którzy tego po prostu nie doświadczyli. Myślałem, że youtube pomoże. Zacząłem, fajnie, ciepłe przyjęcie, wszystko niby na plus. Nie mam ochoty. Nie uda się. Nie wyjdzie. Nie ma sensu. Wyrzuciłem gitarę, tablet graficzny, wszystko poszło na bok, zostało tylko szare życie z dnia na dzień. Nadchodzą święta, a ja nadal dzień w dzień słucham "Empty Rooms" i w sumie wszystko mi jedno. Poznałem kogoś, z kim naprawdę się dogadywałem. Bez znaczenia. I tak odejdzie. Wyrzucam. O naprawdę profesjonalną pomoc trudno, bo musi przecież do dziesiątego wystarczyć. Bez internetu pewnie dawno bym z balkonu wyskoczył. W internecie jest łatwiej. Łatwiej filtrować tematy rozmów, wstrzymać się od głupich wypowiedzi, ukrywać się, znaleźć nowych znajomych po odrzuceniu starych. Ale po co to wszystko? Po co romansować z internetem? Nie lepiej po prostu, najzwyczajniej się uwolnić? Nie lepiej byłoby nie marnować mieszkania, które może ktoś inny chciałby wynająć i lepiej wykorzystać? Nie zajmować komuś innemu miejsca pracy? Z dnia na dzień te myśli się umacniają w głowie. Zastępują pasje, ambicje, motywację. To tylko częściowy obraz życia w depresji. Trudno je ująć w komentarzu.
+Mr0life Doskonale Cię rozumiem - pójście na terapie grupowe i do psychologa moim zdaniem nie jest dobrym początkiem na terapię. Na sam początek najlepiej jest mieć osobę, z którą mówi się w 100% szczerze i możesz ufać takiej osobie bezgranicznie. I tu właśnie jest ten najtrudniejszy punkt - znalezienie takiej osoby to w tych czasach prawdziwy cud. Bo powiedzmy szczerze - jakiej zdrowej osobie chciałoby się użerać z jakimś idiotą/idiotką, która płacze bez powodu i tylko jest przeszkodą do jego szczęścia? Nikt. Nikt - kto nie zna powodu tych reakcji, czyli wie, że płacz zawsze ma jakiś powód i nawet jeśli dla niego ten powód jest błahy to go nie ignoruje. Powiem szczerze - co do znajdywania tych wspaniałych ludzi to trzeba mieć ogromne szczęście. A co utrudnia to znajdywanie? Fakt, że ludzie z depresją udają szczęśliwych przed innymi. Ja do teraz tak mam - kiedy tylko z kimś rozmawiam, mam jakiś bliższy kontakt z człowiekiem automatycznie zakładam maskę osoby mega pozytywnej i optymistycznie nastawionej do życia. A to postępowanie jest złe, bo po pewnym czasie nawet nie wiesz czy jesteś tą osobą z depresją, czy może tylko pozytywnie nastawioną do życia osobą z gorszym okresem lub wymysłem. Tu jedna rada: Lepiej otworzyć się na ludzi i mówić o sowich problemach szczerze - wyśmieją Cię? Wtedy zawsze stosuję moje motto: "I co? Będę z tego powodu płakać? Że ludzie, których tępe mózgi nie są w stanie pojąć mojej osoby i mojego problemu śmieją się ze mnie? I DON'T CARE" - i idę do kolejnej osoby, którą w miarę mogę obdarzyć zaufaniem. To jest moja metoda na początki walki z depresją. Myślę, że każdy powinien znaleźć własną drogę, jednak wiem, że psychika niektórych jest słabsza i szybciej się poddaje lub po prostu nie mogą znaleźć własnego sposobu - właśnie dlatego to piszę - może jest jedna lub dwie osoby, którym ta metoda przypasuje i wyjdą z tego gówna. (Oczywiście po znalezieniu takiej osoby pójście do psychologa i psychiatry obowiązkowe - jak już Autorka filmiku wspomniała - depresja ma podstawy w chemicznych reakcjach zachodzących w organizmie i nawet jeśli znajdziecie taką osobę - choroba wróci, stwierdzisz, że Wasza relacja jest bez sensu i będziesz chciał/-ała to zakończyć - dlatego leczenie jest obowiązkowym punktem w tej drodze do szczęścia) Pozdrawiam i życzę udanych początków - później, jeśli się Nam uda, nawet nie pomyślimy, że takie rzeczy wypełniały całe Nasze życie. Wtedy to My będziemy tymi jednymi z niewielu osób, które będą rozumiały ludzi z depresją i to My będziemy im pomagać c;
+Mr0life odezwij sie do mnie, jade na tym samym wózku, robaczykiewicz@gmail.com, nastaw sie, ze nie ma tematów taboo, gadamy o wszystkim i o niczym, bedzie latwiej!
+Mr0life, +Twoja Podświadomość, +Emil Świeca - może warto byłoby pójść do dobrego lekarza?... A nie na terapie, które są bez sensu, jeśli depresja jest zaawansowana... Jeszcze trochę i przestaniecie wychodzić z domu, otwierać drzwi i odbierać telefony... Nie o to chodzi... Otworzyć się na ludzi? Oczywiście, tylko czy w takim stanie macie siłę to zrobić?
Czy też tak macie, że napiszecie coś... długiego, prosto z serca - czym chcecie sie podzielić, lecz nagle wyskakuje Wam lampka "na cholere to" i kasujecie wszystko, zamykając przeglądarke? Właśnie ja coś takiego przeżyłem - chcąc opisać swoja sytuację, wylewając swoje smutki i żale... tylko "po co".
depression is like someone had switchon you sadness foever.. you cant push it away or shut down mentally.. its not having abad day or a problem,, you could be in the happiest place you can think of.. but you would still feel a great deep saddnes in your heart for no reason .
great video, but you stress medication too much. It is definitely something that should be an option and it can help many people, but it doesn't help everyone. I've had my own time dealing with depression and have had friends go through it. I actually stopped being depressed the first time without medication, just with friends and family supporting me and helping me. I have a friend that took medication and it did not help her at all, at times it made it much worse...
People never seem to realize or mention how trial and error it can be to find the right medication. Or therapy for that matter. And how exhausting the process can be. Psych meds usually take up to a month to start working at full capacity, so you need to wait for that... Then if it's not working as intended you can't just stop taking it. You have to wean slowly off of it to be healthy and not suffer withdrawal symptoms (which SUCK.) Only to repeat the process until you finally find one that actually helps you function like you need to. Some people get lucky with it... Some not so much. Me personally, I have sought help on and off for 30 years and only NOW found a medication that helps with the symptoms I need it to without making me feel sick in exchange. I don't want to discourage people from getting help. Not at all! But sometimes I do wish people encouraging the medication route were more realistic about it.
I love people like you who just take the time to try to at least understand what its like for people with mood disorders. I rarely comment on things because of my anxiety n such, but i think it's very important that you know you are doing great things:)
May be you are in a situation where you should not be(what i mean is that may be it's time you should take ur own responsibilities and you are ignoring them) or you have some unsettled issues from ur past that are bothering you weridly!
kalpana ruhela I have a very rich I guess family my dad owns a bussines and my mom also works there I have a 2 story house and my rooms is a sweet and yes I've been bullyed a lot and to much in the past and it makes me said and I have not much emotions when I do I guess it mostly crying and I sit in my room so much so I can be left alone
Raleigh Hinton You know it , like you mentioned. You can write it down for yourself. Ask questions and answer them . It can help you understand yourself better! I hope you get over this phase. :)
Seeing this video gives such a good feeling. It is great to see people understanding the topic as good as you do and it is great to see this video having this many views. Thank you for putting in the time and work. To people reading this who feel that they suffer from depression: SHE IS RIGHT, GO SEE A DOCTOR. I started therapy 7 months ago and now moved from heavy depression to learning to enjoy the small things again. Can only get bettter from where you are now
I don't know if I'm depressed honestly. You made a list at the beginning and I relate to 5 of them. But during the day I act like a normal person, but if somebody says something in the least way offensive I take it to heart. Even if they don't mean it. But at night 4/7 times a week I cry myself to sleep. I'll list all my flaws from head to toe. I'll make myself feel horrible. And I would compare myself to other people. I haven't told anybody this but I'm afraid people will say I just want attention. Which has happened. Somebody please answer this. I need to know what's going on with me.
I relate so much to you i didnt Know if someone felt the same that I because i fundo myself always comparing to other people and if someone tells me or something good to me i stay happy but if a receive a bad or bad atitude i start question myself and i become very sad and thinking that I am not worth it
dziękuje ci za to co robisz, natrafiłem na twój kanał przypadkowo... ciesze się że uświadamiasz ludzi o tym... sam cierpię na depresję i wiem jak to jest.
Świetny film, jak i poprzedni. Przez depresję zawaliłem szkołę, straciłem piękny 7 letni związek, straciłem pracę. Ludzie nie bójcie się o tym mówić, im wcześniej tym lepiej, to samo nie minie :) Pozdrawiam serdecznie autorkę:)
feniksmati powyższy autor sam wspominał że nie chorował na depresje, a jak wspominała coś o tym że da sie to lekami wyleczyć (nie dooglądałem do końca) to jest w wielkim błędzie, gdyż to kiedyś i tak wróci. :)
That other video actually really made me realize that I’m not the only one living through this even though I might feel like no one understands my situation. Thank you, keep up your content. This is an important matter. Before I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety, I could never have believed it could be so hard to live. Having mental illnesses sucks.
Ty for intro disclaimer. You nailed it in your previous video re depression. It was so very accurate. I caught on that something wasn't right when I subscribed and saw your other videos with other types of illnesses. You couldn't be all types at once. But TY bc you understand and believe depression, anxiety, panic attacks are very REAL. I've been on many you tube searches trying to find something that helps me and yours was the 1st. Keep going on with it.
This video was so helpful, thank you so much for creating it. Not only has it helped me but thousands of others. I'm a young teenager and my Dad suffers from depression and is bipolar... Unfortunately I find it so hard living with someone who suffers from depression, yet I want to help, but it's so difficult. Not only is it hard for me, but for my whole family, especially my Mum. My Dad would say horrible things to her, it's quite frightening as a young girl... But any who, this video is great to share awareness as some people just have no clue.. thank you for doing this
Yes, living with a person who suffers from depression is one of the hardest thing ever. And it's true that they drag you down even if you are the happiest, positive person it affect you deeply. If you are constanly hearing complaining, somebody is crying all the time in your presence, don't talk at all or when you ask about something they just say "yes", "no", "i don't know" and leave the room, you start to think that there is something wrong with you as well. You ask yourself all the time "were they so unhappy with you? were they so disappointed with you that they get depression?". Sometimes i feel like everybody talks only about that depressed person but not about people around them. When my parent got depression i have to work twice as much as i used to to have for a living and then when i got home i heard "i'm not happy". WTF I work my ass off, i'm trying to keep you in the good mood after work even though i'm tired, I drive you from one doctor to another because you don't like any of them and you are still not f*** happy. That's is exhausting. And it's 100% true that they are ungratefull and they sometimes try to get you down with them because it somehow make them feel better. After 6 months of living with person who has this problem (i usually met her once a 2 weeks) i couldn't handle it anymore, i cut myself off completly, i didn't call this person although i called people who had constant contact with her. I felt guilty and selfish but being hooked on work, where i worked with positive energetic people helped me and this break was good for me. But for example my other parent that one who didn't suffer from depression alsno became a lot more introvertic, kind of sad, and he doesn't seem so intrested in different things as he used to be. I don't want to be rude or something but i think sometimes if you cant handle depression of somebody from your environment you have to be also a little bit selfish and take care of yourself, it's hard to give up on somebody.
Ya same with my mom.. my father suffers from depression since 30 yrs.. and visiting same psychiatrist since then.. he don't listen to anyone, he has only his problems n speaks abt them all the time. sometimes my mom feels like she will also get sick :(
it hurts the most when you do get comfortable and find trust in someone, only to have them abuse that at the end. that's probably what I would say I fear..knowing someone my entire life only to have them turn like the others too..i don’t know if I’m ready to go through that again.
idk if I suffered on depression or not. but sometimes, i feel so worst at night. but it didnt last tho. in the morning I'll be like okay, rise and shine ..
+Ade Putri it is, I live with depression, I am getting better. I feel better now and I'm so glad it's over. To be exact. You wake up every day with the head literally spinning you're always tired and your head always hurts. You cry for no reason and you have no idea what to do. You're angry at everything and everyone and you think that you'll be happier if you just ended you life. Feels like drowning
It's different for every person. I've lived with clinical depression (Major Depressive Disorder) for over ten years. It can grow to be a very normal feeling. For me it's generally not being exactly sad, but never being happy and not even remembering what that could feel like. Mostly just apathetic but wanting to feel something, anything more emotionally intense. Chronic physical pain, all the time, no break from that. A fogged mind in the morning and sometimes most of the day, feels like I'm high when I know I'm not. Not able to concentrate, not motivated to do anything that I wanted to do last week or even earlier that day. Feeling like I really want to accept the invitation to this party this weekend but I know I'm just gonna bail last minute because I won't get out of bed all day and I won't want to interact with anyone I don't know or anyone that might make me uncomfortable in the slightest bit. Forcing myself to eat even though I haven't had an appetite in a week and haven't really enjoyed food in months. And as a creative person who always wanted to make a living artistically, also as a college student, it is an extremely limiting condition that makes me feel worthless, stupid, unoriginal, uninspired, not talented, and like I'm the dumbest person and least motivated person in class. Which I know is not true but that's not what my late, half-assed assignments tell me and my teachers. Basically, it's a disease that sucks and makes you feel YOU like suck even though you don't when you're not depressed.
Thank you. Almost all of my friends are depressed and this video and I appreciate that you also helped people live with depressed people. My best friend said that she'd commit suicide several times and attempted once. All of my other friends are cutters, including my boyfriend. People always focus on the people with depression, and I've been looking for something I can relate to, even something like this. I don't have anyone to talk to about it because I tried to talk about it once and all of my friends got offended for some reason. I'm also in constant fear of losing my friends. They mean more than my family to me. Sometimes I feel almost all alone because I feel like no one is in the same situation and I feel like the only actual person on earth and I'm surrounded by zombies that won't spread the disease onto me. I'm just glad it's not as bad as actual depression.
Thank you so much! 💕 My best friend has been suffered by depression. I was about 13 when it gets really hard and I often felt the things you just said. I felt she was not greateful or just don't like me because she don't cares about me. But I often had to realize that it was not herself hurting me or changing the way she was. It was her depression. I also didn't knew how to handle with her and her depression and the whole situation, but I totally agree with your tips. Just loving them how they are and try not to be hurt by the way they are, because they don't want to be or do something that hurts you. It's the depression that make them doing or being it. And also give yourself space to breathe. I also had to realize that it was not my fault that she had depression. Thanks a lot, and go on helping people with sharing your experience. Greetings from Germany😙
I enjoy (if enjoy is the right word) watching these videos, and it's inspired me to create some of my own. Talking and listening to people who care and understand is comforting. My ex hated when I spoke about depression, she called it a burden, and so I tried my best to keep it to myself or if I felt I needed to talk about it, I would dilute it heavily as to not continue being a burden. As sad as it is to know so many people go through this kind of thing, it's somewhat comforting to know you're not alone 🦋
Chylę czoła. Znam stany afektywne z autopsji, więc potwierdzam dużą trafność zarówno I., jak II. części. Trzymaj się ciepło i uśmiechajmy się jak najwięcej ;-) Niesamowite, że zechciałaś zająć się edukacją w tym zakresie. Dziękuję & thank you. Z czym się nie zgodzę: 1:16. Można mieć bardzo określony cel, marzenia, a gdyby przyjdzie dół - wszystko lub prawie bierze w łeb...Po ustąpieniu najgorszej depresji można sporo rzeczy ponaprawiać, ale nie zawsze i nie wszystkie.
Uwielbiam twoje filmy, podchodzisz do nich bardzo poważnie, a do tego wszystko się zgadza. Sama przechodziłam tą chorobę i mam aktualnie lekkie nawroty jednak często słyszę ,,ogarnij się" to nic nie pomaga. Dziękuję Ci za te filmy bo mogę pokazać je teraz bliskiej osobie, może będzie jej łatwiej :)
I wish I would have seen this video 3 weeks ago, my girlfriend left me because of her depression, its one of the hardest things to deal with, even as the partner without depression. I never truly understood our situation until now.
I think the best way to help someone who is depressed is evolving lots of people in the help process. Because of this: When one is getting "dragged down" the other "steps in". I normally would try to make my sister get out of bed and house, while my mother would try to make her seek help ... and my dog would be with her when she was self-isolated. When she got help we tried to make her keep with it till the end (it's not over yet). Finding a career also helped her a lot, even doe the "worst times" were after that. What never helped were her new relationships that usually would evaluate the families's actions towards her depression and always delayed her healing process. I remember saying to one them that "... her healing was not a sprint race, but an extreme marathon."
ugh... this made me cry... i have bipolar 2, severe depression, social anxiety disorder, sometimes get paranoia/panic attacks like fear of dying, fear of a ''monster'' abusing me, fear of being alone in dark, sometimes i feel close to attempt suicide, and maybe also adhd, but not sure since im not a doctor..... im gonna soon go see a psychiatrist... because im afraid to lose those very last few real friends i have, that really tried to help me (my parents never supported me)... i dont want to let them down again...
fsociety 122 No. You lost your bet because they were not. I month ago went to a specialist, and i was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, which is a lot more serious illness than being bipolar. 8-10% people with BPD end their life with suicide. A much bigger % are those, who try but survive. I thought i was bipolar, but its just one side illness that is common for BPD people. Theres a lot more to it, but i wont sink in detail, if youre interested, go search on google or youtube for clarity.
I suffer from depression since I was 11 and for me it was very very difficult to live with people in my age because I have always felt older than I actually am. And now it's the same old problem. I've say my best friends that I have depression and yes, at the first time they were very shocked bc I was always the "happiest" person of my Crew, but now, a few months after I told them, I know what the quote "Someone who never had depression will never understand you" means. I know they accept my depression but I think they do not know what it really means to have depression. They're always so angry and disappointed that I can't meet them today, that I can't go out and have fun so easily, that my thoughts and feelings don't go away when I smile.... I always try to explain it but they don't understand it and that makes me really really sad because I really love them.... Edit: I'm so sorry for my English.... I do not speak English so well
Pills are not the only way to go about depression. Yes, pills can help with the chemical imbalance in the brain, but depression is NOT only a bodily happening, that can be cured simply by treating the body with pills. Depression is very often accompanied by some kind of mental stress, e.g the inability/difficulty of coping with life changes (breakups, moving to new places, loss of a loved one, and many other reasons) Pills can help in the moment, but WON'T fix any trauma or mental baggage. For this reason I was never on pills when I was depressed, but I spent a lot of time with my psychologist. Considering that is not an option for everyone, pills can help ease some stress. But the mental symptoms need to be taken JUST as seriously as the physical symptoms.
saga01b yes true but i've had severe depression/anxiety and many other mental illnesses for over 3 years now and i've been to therapists for nearly 2 years and i have never been on meds. i'm just only getting worse no matter what i try to do, it doesnt help when your "friends" distance themselves away from you so they don't catch your negative aura. i think i need pills or i won't be here any longer
I had a good friend that suffers from depression. I struggled so much with him that I decided not to be his friend anymore. Even till this day I feel guilty and sometimes want to call him back. But its so true, its such a struggle with them, he never wanted to do anything.
+Martin Godinez No one could be cured if they don't want. It's sad, but sometimes there is no way to help some people. It's important to try to help and give them as good help as we can supply. But it not always depends on us if it could give any effect. It's not the reason to accuse ourselves.
This is a very important issue to address. Many people may not even realize they suffer from depression, or that they live with someone suffering from it. Great two videos, Kat. God bless.
I liked the previous video. But I had to stop just a few minutes into this one. Medication isn't for everyone. Putting people on drugs to alter them into something that fits the idea of "normal" isn't the answer. It may help some but not all. It's not 100%.
that should be tested usually a antidepressant and phsycologic treatment are the best treatment. but of course it depends on the person. >Putting people on drugs to alter them into something that fits the idea of "normal" isn't the answer.< if that drug helps you dealing with the day you should take it while in therapy. It's not something woodoo , it is something which can safe lives.
I never would have thought, that I would suffer on depression. It is something that I have never thought it would be. But I will stay strong, I will search for help, so can you. Let's stay together, you are not alone
it took my parents 8 years to realize i was actually depressed, despite my self-harm. They only understood it after suicide attempts and now they watch me 24/7 so... tell your parents young folks, they'll understand... eventually?
Świetny materiał, twój punkt widzenia jest bardzo dobry ;) Właściwie to każdy powinien go zobaczyć. Szkoda tylko że takich osób jak ty jest mało...każdy "goni" za swoim... Pozdrawiam :)
Ale naprawde Twoje filmy pomagają. Nie każda osoba wypowiada się na ten temat ponieważ większość wie a może domyśla się na czym ta choroba polega ale nikt nie potrafi się tak zagłębić w ten temat. Dziękuję że jesteś ;)
Even thought you never had depression, its amazing the way you retrated it with so much sensibility ! You are really talented and im pretty sure that your videos are going to help many people !
I'd say two big things I've experienced as someone with severe chronic depression that I hate are: 1. Never ever tell me how to feel. I know how I feel, and I know it's irrational. I don't need your input on that unless we've agreed to work on gentle nudges towards positivity. It's just patronizing. 2. I will see right through your false positivity because at a certain point I get tired of hearing it. You can only hear "things will get better" or "you'll be okay" so many times before it just feels hollow. When? When will this magical time come, because I've been unable to function and dealing with my brain acting like a hostile entity telling me things WON'T be okay for 30 years now. Yes, some of it takes effort on my part, but please understand how crippling this illness already is just to stay alive when asking me to try harder. Even if necessary, it's not easy, and trying isn't always a magical cure, either. Sometimes the meds and therapy don't work on the first, second, or even third try. That in itself gets exhausting. (Plus the way mental health facilities works involves getting passed around a lot, so starting from scratch with new people sucks.) 3. Depression does not discriminate. It is more than just feeling sad. It turns your body and brain actively against you to make you unable to function or enjoy anything anymore. It is an illness. Most people who suffer it chronically were born with it. Telling me to just "stop feeling sad" or "well of course you're depressed if you're not doing anything" is like accusing someone with any other serious illness they can't help having to just "suck it up and get better." It doesn't help, it just makes me feel guilty over something I never even wanted to have in the first place.
I actually went to a really difficult phase with one of my friend and i didn't know she was depressed, i didn't even know what was depression at this time... i tried to help, to ptotect her and carry her on my own and it just hurt me as i saw her so sad and desperate while i wasn't capable to do something for her because i didn't know what to do.. This video would have helped me a lot back then, now we both recovered and we are doing better, but i wish that some young people who are in the exact same situation as i were back then could find your video ! You said everything, and i think that my past self needed to hear that..
I loved your video! Depression is a very touchy subject and I hate when people talk of depression without actually knowing what is depression. I was expecting to see a video with you saying to not leave the person alone and your video really impressed me! I loved your idea to make a video recreating depression for us to realize and then make this video to explain how to handle it. It is difficult for the person with depression as it is difficult for the person who deals with people with depression. You need to know how to deal and respect. I really enjoyed your video and sorry my bad english cause I'm portuguese!
The thing I hate the most is when people romanticize depression. This is serious mental illness and people with depression feel like shit, they aren't some kinky sexual objects.
People romanticize depression? I've never heard of this?
+Alexza Alamo
For some people depression is sexy.
depression fetish? 0.0
+dddorota During my lowest moments suffering depression I myself romanticised it. Guilty
Imogen n if you have it then okay, its a way to cope with it. But if others who dont have it romanticise it its bad
Depression takes your hope away, reasons to live , drags you down. It is living hell.
you realy know about it !
Yes..
Then make it your goal to get to heaven
True
you just feel empty. not sure if you're sad, tired, or just not happy
Exactly, it's so exhausting
You can't understand what it feels like until you actually go through it…
have u?
+Ade Putri I have depression.... Moderate to severe actually
Josue Lopez yet she was very good at describing depression. you cant say that someone without depression won't understand because a psychiatrist can sure as hell understand but they might not suffer from depression.
i have depression. i very well know what she means.
Josue Lopez exactly
how i feel about depression because i have it
"People think depression is sadness, crying or dressing in black. But people are wrong. Depression is the constant feeling of being numb. You wake up in the morning just to go back to bed again."
Karina Marie fuck i fell that and im really tired trying 😭
I an going into year 7 in September I have depression and anxiety, I am tired of trying to rebuild my life, I am tired of being judged and mocked by the thing we call society, I may seem happy on the outside but inside it's a whole nother story.
I just need someone to go to and talk to when I'm feeling anxious or depressed.
Here's a little tip:
Don't let words bring you down and if they do build yourself back up before its to late.
Dont leave it to lte to talk to someone like I did.
😭😭😭😭
Sticks and stones,
Won't brake my bones.
But words,
Thats a wholenother story.
😭😀😭😀
I’m so messed up. My life, everything just miserable. Why do i need to pretend that im happy like put a fake smile everyday. I just want it to stop ☹️ inside me. There’s empty. Nothing. I feels nothing 😪
say it louder to all of those 12 year olds faking depression (not all of them obviously)
But for some people depression is actually sadness and crying... It all depends on the person and nobody should be put in a box. I know you just wanted to express your pain and I hope your doing better now
I can't go see a psychiatrist. I can't tell or show my parents that I'm depressed because they'd just brush it off and say it's just stress or I'm just sad. My sister just talks about depression like a joke or an excuse for being sad about something. I've been depressed for as long as I can remember, since I was a young child. I used to act sad, and my parents were concerned at why a young, healthy child would be sad, but I chose to start masking the depression with over-enthusiasm. I can't turn on what I've been in front of them and break their hearts knowing that both their children are dysfunctional failures. I don't want to hurt them like that.
+BananaPhone If you want them to take you mores seriously, take a bunch if depression-tests online and show them the results
rxseburst i completely feel you because i’m going through that. my friends and family taking it as a joke
Soraya G hate it . It’s not a joke ! If u want to „talk „ than we could text , I think I feel the same
rxseburst same :(
I understand you. This is exactly how I felt for almost a decade now, and I am 18 right now. I don't think people, even those close to you will truly understand it. It is easy and almost convenient to say "you can get therapy" or " just be positive". Depression is not about it. I also don't want to burden my family like that, especially after mustering courage and telling them how I feel. I tried positivity and enthusiasm too and just, it is a constant cycle. It is a feeling inside me I can't fix, so I don't try to, not anymore. Learn to be comfortable with this feeling, I think that's the only way to stay somewhat "sane".
I wish that my mum would watch this
Show her.
honestly
Same here
same. my parents don't believe in mental illness and just tell me that i need to "stop being miserable"
Angelistics bro don’t listen to your parents, stay strong
idk if anyone else had this but I have a voice in my head. It's weird because its *me* 'speaking' but its not *me* at the same time. It'll tell me all the bad things i did in the last hour for example if im near my crush, I'll walk away and the voice with start telling me things like 'you should have kept your hands down cause you looked like an idiot. He would never like an idiot.' idk... its weird
That's yourself
Thinking
I think it happens to almost everyone? Well, al least for me
***** Ok ill try it
Derpy RolePlays same here same same
Same ! I thought no one else had that thing and that I was a freak... But sometimes it tries to protect me too, and I feel like that's the part of my personality I put out there. It's the part that the others see cause the real me is too weak
That happens to me too, it's called 'negative thoughts'
I wish people knew what depression was actually like, it's not just sadness or a saying "I feel so depressed today" It's an illness
Ikr. They don’t know what it’s like. They don’t know until they actually are depressed. I was diagnosed with clinical depression. It sucks. I hate waking up and feeling like I shouldn’t have woken up. Like it’s useless. I’m hopeless. People tell me that i should just be happy. It’s not that easy. It makes me so mad when people say “ I feel depressed today” it annoys me
I wish my family could understand this 😭😭😭😭
I had all of the symptoms for more than 3 years yet mom says I'm just overreacting...
Nourhane Bnzw I know how you feel
my mother always says that n' my brothers w/: just get over it, just lay down the shit already
Yeah until she experience it herself
Yeah..they all just say you are overthinking too much... your to sensitive 😶😶
This is so sad, same.
It's funny. You think it's so easy to get help. It's not easy. It's not.
what up yea I know
Agreed, getting help takes work, energy, and requires poking and prodding that is ridiculously uncomfortable and feels absolutely terrible. But that feeling eventually goes away, and I just try to remind myself that you get what you give, so the more energy you try to put in to get better, the better you'll feel later on. And it may take longer for some than others, I'm still on the path almost 2 years later with therapy and medication, but I'm miles ahead of where I started.
+simplycasperxp Very true! I still suffer from depression, anxiety, and ptsd, but I'm much better than I was last summer or the summer before that. I still have a long way to go and I'll be testing out a 3rd medication soon to help and I'm onto my 7th therapist, but I'm hoping things will continue to just get better.
We can speak if u want cause I know how it feels :(
+Lin D same my parents will just nag at me.
I recently started a relationship with a girl that suffers from depression.
At the beginning I didn't knew a tihng compared to what I know now. We started by long talks for many many days and even back then I noticed some aspects of our conversations didn't seem 100% right. But that was just the tip of the iceberg...
Anyway... I completly love that girl. I inconditionally love that girl so much that it makes me afraid of not to be there for her if she needs me or if I do or say something I shouldn't.
I know a lot about her by now and some other stuff I just have to deduce but I know there's more.
It's been a roller coaster of emotions and I have also suffered quite a bit already. It's like if some aspects of my personality have changed for all the feelings and emotions this is bringing to my once stable and 'normal' life.
I really want to be there for her even if from time to time I take a beating. Afterall I'm only human but it's hard. It's sooo hard sometimes.
Most people just don't understand and end up going away. People give up easily on what they don't understand and can't control. If it takes some more dedication, patience, love and time people just give up on you. It's easier for them but hard on the person that sometimes just need someone to listen to them. A bit of their time and understanding!
Again... I love this girl so much that I'm afraid (terrified sometimes) that she just decides to end our relation because it's something she can actually control and right now there isn't much she can.
When she goes into that dark, cold and smelly place I don't know where she is, what she's doing or how she's actually feeling. That makes me feel anxious most of the day.
Ok... Gonna end this now or I won't be able to stop.
Thank you for the video Kat and for the all rest of you never give up. Be strong and confident. And happy.
Filipe Amado I hope everything Is good and she Is better now 💝Wish you the best 🌸
hows your relationship going now?
I am in a similar situation. My ex boyfriend has depression, and he recently broke up with me to 'avoid messing me up'. I just love him and want to be with him and show him he's not alone, but he pushed me away and everything hurts. But I will not give up on him. I can't
U seem like such a loving guy
I hope I'll find someone like u one day
I hope i find someone understanding of my situation i really hate being in relationships bcuz i think they cant understand me and will hurt me more so i push everyone away even if i liked 😔 hope she is doing ok ❤
A lot of people do have depression, but a lot of people lie because saying you're depressed gets you a lot of attention.
Which sadly makes people who're actually living with anxiety and depression think that they're doing exactly that, or it makes you feel that everyone thinks of you that way
If they feel so horrible to tell you that they have depression, just to seek your attention, they should get your attention, because they are NOT OK
I don't really get it if I'm really depressed or do I just want attention
Mariubjalla Kata I totally agree.infact the lack of attention in a person's life can lead to an actual development of depression or personality disorders later on. different ppl need different amounts of attention in their lives and if someone is craving it so badly that they go to the length of lying about something as fucked up as having depression they sure need attention. What's important is that the attention we give is healthy and to the right amount. we should not let it define our relationship with that person and we should not let it control how we treat someone completely (to sum it up-know the limits when u give someone the attention that they crave)
That is very much accurate
It blows my MIND that some people actually have never suffered with depression
SAMEE
yeah like, people can actually be happy ?!
This week my depression is overtaking me: When I wake up I wanna go to bed again and I can stay home (thanks to my mom, she‘s an angel), I feel ugly, stupid and useless, I literally live with my depression or more like - Depression lives with me...
I have it now for almost 1-2 years.
I‘m only 14 and that‘s why people just say to me: „stop making ‘depression‘ up, you don‘t know what that is, you’re too young. It‘s just an excuse that you don‘t have to do anything...“
I‘m sick of those people who think and say that, like c‘mon... respect people with mental disorders and help them and not make anything more worse.
Let's talk about it.You're not alone
Vika Cvetkova
I am. My parents work all day, and when I‘m sick I have to stay alone at home.
@@eliseheartless4636 maybe can i help you?
I have depression and GAD, which have caused "disordered eating" and sleeping issues. I'm 99% likely to start anti-depressants and sleeping tablets this Tuesday, and I do part-time school. It truly is horrible, and I respect those that support people with depression or GAD or any other mental disorder, even though they have their own problems to deal with. I appreciate those kinds of people so much!
how are you doing now? did the anti-depressants help you at all?
I suffer from depression and I want to tell you guys that medication is NOT the only way to handle your depression. For me exercise have helped me a lot. I've been going to the gym 3-4 times a week lifting heavy weights and I absolutely love it. I can't tell you how much it have helped me; I haven't had a "depression attack" for about 2 months since I started with regular exercise and for me that's a miracle. Iv'e always been a little bit scared of taking medication so for those of you who might share the same feelings or just simply want to try something new I strongly recommend doing some sort of exercise and being consistent(!) with it. Try it out even if you're on medication, you've got nothing to loose only to gain.
My partner has had depression for years and medication is the only answer for him. You do not know everyone's story or situation. DO NOT PRESUME TO!!
Hell yea! I'm in the same boat. Remember, with a healthy body comes a healthy mind. Remember to eat healthy and stick to working out tho :D And also get some hobbies and stuff to distract yourself from sad and depressing thoughts.
Miriam S There are so many variables involved your comment makes no sense.
First off are you diagnosed with depression? How severe is it?
Perhaps you are so used to depression it's become the new normal for you
trying to exercise or doing anything out of my comfort zone makes me even more depressed. when I start something new I'm very excited, yes, but then the days go by and I start to lose my motivation and start procrastinating, and that's when the guilt of not being able to finish anything or sticking with a routine gets me. I get very sad. I start to blame myself for every little thing I can't do or do wrong. I start to wonder why do I even try to be alive. really the only thing that has stopped me from completely giving up is my parents, so I wonder how my life is gonna be without them. but anyways I'm glad you found something that helps you cope with depression and go through your day, not many of us are this lucky. :)
Michaela Sherrard They're not.. they just stated that not everyone finds a way to recover through the same methods. Personally I can't combat my depression with exercise either, but this is the key for some people. Every person is different, which is exactly what he is saying.
Just one clear up: You cannot "get rid of depression". Depression is a mental disorder. You can cope with Depression, but you can't lose depression. Just as someone with schizophrenia cannot simply "get rid of schizophrenia".
I have depression. However I am NOT depressed. It does not define me. I am more than my depression. I have accepted that it is apart of me & that I'm allowed to be happy. (It's okay to be depressed. Just don't let it define who you truely are. You deserve Happiness.)
+Hailey Finlayson this was such an unnecassary comment considering she even said previously that she doesnt suffer from it. meaning her knowledge is slightly limited. in some cases you can be freed from depression. BTW, if you have depression then you are depressed.... just like if you have asthma you are asthmatic.. As you said you just accept it and move on, but that doesnt mean you 'arent' depressed... you may have depressive episodes but the illness is still there even when youre happy.
Hailey Finlayson I have depression and I have my moment where I can be really really happy for maybe a day or so then I have my moments where I'm happy but I'm piss in between for example I could call my bf and get mad at him and and get off like nothing ever happened then I have my happy sad days where in the middle of the day and I see a group of people happy I would get sad ( I have a hard time making friends ) for the whole entire day then I'll come home and be happy then I have my sad mad day which are the worst because once I cuss someone out I cry right after then I have my completely sad days where no one can convince me out of it and these days are rare but still exist meaning i would be sad or depress for approximately 1 day 2 at most anything over I might just overdose because when I was dealing with that i overdose on sleeping pills because I couldn't handle it
Hailey Finlayson
IF you have depression, you ARE depressed. You are contradicting yourself. You
Can’t have it both ways. Go talk to a professional and they’ll tell you the same
Thing.
Nicole Holland
I’m sorry to hear you have depression. I’ve had it all my life. Part of it is that I lost my
Girlfriend from breast cancer after 18 years. The other part of it is that it runs in my
Family. Oh yeah, I think another main part of it is finding the right people to be
Around. If there’s a spark about them, I feel pretty good. If there isn’t, I just feel
Lonely. I mean it feels better than nothing to be around people that don’t have
That’s spark, but it does not fulfill the emptiness I feel. Exercise, and just walking
Helps a great deal. Getting older makes you feel bad too. You feel like you’ve
Already fulfilled your dream of what you were mainly interested in, and what
Is there left to do? Your best days are behind you, and you were depressed
Then too. It’s very difficult to get up in the morning and exercise when you
Feel depressed, but if you don’t do it, it gets worse as the day goes on.
Jose Sanchez I'm sorry to hear that 😔
I'm crying to everything she said, it feels like someone truly understands
I literally started crying while watching this video
honestly the video you made about depression and what it's like is perfectly done. some of my friends are finally understanding what i go through daily. i suffer from major depressive disorder and i don't feel like i can really share how i feel without someone telling me it'll pass or think happy thoughts or claiming that they have it worse when they have no idea. it's a never ending battle in your head. also thank you for not pretending to be depressed and being open to help others and make awareness on how serious it is.
What a powerfull message you gave is this videos, girl. I'm pretty sure you don't even imagine how much relief you gave to people. This videos feels like a hug.
Thank you.
“You are not alone” couldn’t be further from the truth.
My mom just says I'm lazy. I know it's more than that. I'm exhausted, I want to sleep all the time, I've lost interest in everything I ever enjoyed.
I can't believe I didn't notice this video until now! I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart about raising awareness around the people living with their depressed loved ones.
My two family members have suffered from depression for many years and it can get really tough sometimes. You just feel tired and hopeless and after that you're feeling like a bad person because you have no power to be there for your loved ones. Today was one of those days, but seeing this video gave me a lot of comfort.
Thank you thank you thank you!! You are a beautiful person.
both my parents know that i have depression, but they couldn’t care.
They say I’m just overreacting and i should just snap out of it. They say I’m just being weak
Im living with my husband who have depression illness since he was young until now he is 67. He is strong man I have ever met. Im so proud of him and that what I always told him. Every single day !
It is hard, it come and go, all thing I can do to help him to stay strong : just be there for him anytime, anywhere. And never stop to telling him that how much I love him, And how much amazing he is !
Wish you guys all the best !
OBJAWY PL:
zły nastrój
brak czerpania przyjemności z rzeczy, które kiedyś ci ją dawały
zmiany (brak) apetytu
poczucie bezwartościowości lub winy
zbyt dużo lub mało snu
słaba koncentracja
niepokój
spadek energii
myśli samobójcze.
+CallMeKat Zamieniłbym tylko "zbyt dużo lub mało snu" na "problemy ze snem", ponieważ są ludzie którzy potrzebują mniej lub więcej snu, nie mając przy tym depresji ;) a od siebie dodałbym jeszcze odcinanie się lub izolację od społeczeństwa i ogólnie zaniedbywanie relacji nawet z najbliższymi. Oczywiście nie we wszystkich przypadkach, bo niektórzy zręcznie ukrywają swoją chorobę i przybierają maskę normalności, ale często tak bywa. Poza tym chciałem dodać, że moim zdaniem to chyba pierwszy kanał na polskim YT zrobiony na tak dobrym poziomie, ubrany w ciekawą, estetyczną formę. Przyjemnie się słucha i ogląda :) Oby tak dalej!
zbyt duzo i zbyt malo snu jest bardzo trafne w tym przypadku, rok temu mi stwierdzono ta przypadlosc, raz jest lepiej raz gorzej, otaczanie sie znajomymi i zajmowanie sie roznymi rzeczami pomaga, ale wracajac do domu i wstajac rano z lozka jest dokladnie tak samo. probujesz zabijac czas śpiąc, zajmujesz sobie mysli zeby tylko poczuc sie lepiej. ogolem chujowo, ale jak bylo powiedziane w filmie wczesniej- wstajesz rano, idziesz spac wieczorem i codziennie masz nadzieje ze to przejdzie.
normalnym tez jest ze wyrzucamy te mysli z glowy, ze jednak nic nam nie jest a po pewnym czasie tak czy siak to wraca. jakbys gral sam ze soba w chowanego
+Mikołaj Jankowski Dokładnie tak! Robisz cos byleby nie myśleć bo zaraz przychodzi i jest najgorzej. Ten stan ciagnie sie przez dłuższy czas, a potem nagle wydaje sie, ze wszystko jest juz dobrze i w najmniej oczekiwanym momencie wraca. Błędne, zataczające sie kółko beznadziejnosci.
+Mikołaj Jankowski. Też mam depresję. Pokrótce:
1. Faktycznie to pierwszy mi znany kanał o poziomie adekwatnym do tematu. Propsy !
2. Zgodzę się z przedmówcami odnośnie do tego, co piszą.
3. Mikołaj Jankowski - sam doszedłem po długim czasie do tego, że „uciekanie od problemu nie jest tym samym, co radzenie sobie z nim". Od momentu zrozumienia tej kwestii, jak i mojej/naszej przypadłości, przestałem tylko stale uciekać w różne zajęcia, aby nie myśleć o niczym, lecz zacząłem z tym walczyć na swój sposób (każdy w końcu znajdzie własny). Aktualnie jestem zdany tylko na Siebie i niestety jestem ostro kopany w d@#e i wystawiany na wręcz okropieństwa ze strony otaczających mnie ludzi. Ja już na chwilę obecną nie ufam nikomu, bo ludzie to w większości zdradliwe i fałszywe ścierwo a tym bardziej, gdy widzą, że mogą skorzystać/wykorzystać w jakikolwiek sposób, bo uczciwy, szczery i pomocny, to na pewno jakiś idiota lub kretyn... W każdym razie... Życzcie mi szczęścia, abym nie przegrał, jak i ja wam tego życzę, byście wygrali i nie polegli w bitwie bracia broni ! :)
Thank you for your video, you make some very prudent points. I suffer from depression and anxiety and when I finally realised that I needed medication my parents were extremely against it "You don't want to take that shit". If I'd listened to them I wouldn't be here to write this post today. There is no shame in taking medication for a medical condition, you wouldn't tell a diabetic not to take their insulin. You're doing a good service.
(I'm not really good in English, so sorry for any mistakes.)Thank you for this video. I think this is what I needed. I found the love of my life, I have many friends, I have good grades but I can't stop thinking about how shitty and usless I am.. I'm crying every night, I'm not happy at all. I don't know what is happening with me and I'm afraid that I can lose everything what I have. Everybody keeps telling me "don't worry, this is not healthy, you are making things worse by doing this", "just smile", " stop looking at everything from the negative side " or "stop crying, I feel bad when I see you like this" but how? I'm trying so hard, but I can't. I never thought that I can have depression, but when I saw all these symptoms... I never had so poor concentration, I never felt so restless and pretty much everything what you have mentioned in your video matches to my actual psychological state, so now I'm not so sure about that... So one more time, thank you, your video made me realize that maybe I can need some help.
I totally agree with you any Im not questioning youre feelings bc I feel the same way but I think a way of getting better is of trying to figure out what the problem is. You said you have a loving boyfriend and friends and good grades thats something good to begin with. Good grades mean good education which lead to much money so youre basically ensuring your financial future. keep up with the good work!! Also your friends. Having friends is the best thing. Talk to them be open. And dont be shy try to make them understand maybe they can even relate and help you solve those problems. Same goes with your boyfriend. He loves you he gives you strenght and warmth. What would he be without you what would your friends be without you what would your mom dad or siblings be without you. If you ever feel worthless think about how much they would miss you if you werent there anymore or just how sad it would make them so see you cry because they just want the best for you. You are not useless everyone is there for somerthing bc look who else would get the good grades if you werent there? Who else would look up to you bc they want to have just as good grades as you or who would your boyfriend love and cuddle with or even kiss if you were so useless and worthless. All the people surrounding you would be different if you werent there so youre important. And If you were so worthless I wouldnt even write that long as text to you and spending 10 minutes writing it. Everyone is needed and wanted. I am suffering with depression too the only difference is that my family is abusive and non acceptant my only good friends have left me and broke up contact with me and im left with fake friends who are just using me and a boy who I love and who i thought loved me too told me he doesnt love me he just pretended everything instead if telling me the truth.. Its been a long distance relationship. So this basically means im almost 18 and have never had contact with any male person in my area. Im at a new school and Its very hard to understand everything and I feel dumb and left out bc no one wants to explain the things I dont understand. There are 5 things that determine life in general. Love Friends Family Education and Self Purpose. I honestly dont have either of those 5 things. Im not in any way allowed to put you under my position but I would be so happy If I had a loving boyfriend some good friends a nice family and better grades wouldnt hurt me either. It would automatically make me feel better. Make me feel like I have an impact in others lives and a purpose. Youre one lucky candidate. Dont be to hard on yourself. Think of the many good things in life and not about the few bad things. I hope this helped. Greetings!
+applegreenviolet its your* in the first sentence oh my gosh embarassing also sorry if there are any more mistakes
Angelika Don't worry about your written English. It's perfectly fine and understandable. You've even managed to write some flawless in a row.
Don't know about you but as q person suffering from depression and different anxieties I personally do struggle with acknowledging strength/abilities/skills/sucess or talent. Doing something and being glad/proud or even happy about ones achievement can be hard for some people.
I'm learning several languages out of interest and if I was able to form whole Texts as you do in English... I'd be more than just glad.
So be proud about your written English skills :) No need for a disclaimer :)
Look I'm German with several month experience abroad and I'm still doing mistakes. Especially with the mobile phone :)
Angelika first of all same * on some level * second of all you English is fabulous
applegreenviolet.....everything you have just said is bang on. I wouldn't mind if I had half the support she as. but of course anxiety & depression are bad no matter what net work you have in place. but must agree with you on the things you said.....if I had half of that support good friends a good partner and good grades my depression wouldn't be has bad. she is lucky to a point yes your so right. best wishes to ALL ON HERE. depression is bad & anxiety fighting both even today. life can be hard the struggle goes on. seen some crazy things in life, been to some rough places in life. im a pretty strong person. good and bad days just like all. all the best to you. Damon from U.K peace-out................
Thank you for everything you do!
It’s so important that someone actually talks about things like that and letting people know what depression is and how hard to fight with that!
I’m really glad i found your channel.
I just want to thank you. I have lived with someone with depression for the last year, and sometimes I just can't understand what the fuck is going on, if I'm being helpful, or of I'm acting like a child and not controlling myself in front of the other person. I can tell now what I might have been doing wrong, and you helpt me to see that. I can understand better this person now, and that is thanks to you.
So... thank u
suffered with this mental illness for years and I would not wish it on my worst enemy.
A lot of people, pretty much everyone in my current life left me because they couldn't handle me. I've been to multiple therapists and it doesn't work for me, personally taking doesn't help me and no one will ever understand that so they assume I don't accept help or am being stubborn. I have anxiety disorder and depression and haven't been able to sleep in the last few months and not only mentally but it's also taken a very negative toll on my body physically and I don't know what to really do anymore. I have no friends and when I try to make new friends they just leave me easily when i tell them my situation.
***** Yes I am.
@Max Robert Hey, how are you doing?
I suffer from depression and the video you made was very accurate.
It was done exceptionally well too, so kudos to you!
I look forward to watching your future videos.
Choruję na depresję i jestem wdzięczna, że stworzyłaś te filmiki. Zaskoczyło mnie, że udało ci się tak zwięźle ukazać czym ta choroba jest. Wspaniale, że masz w sobie tyle empatii i jesteś tak wyrozumiała:-) Gorąco pozdrawiam!:-*
My girlfriend has bipolar depression.
This really helps. Thank you
Rewelacyjny film i dziękuję że wkładasz pracę w tworzenie napisów. ;)
nawet nie wiesz jak bardzo mi pomoglas kilkoma juz swoimi filmami..dziekuje..twoj spokojny glos i zapewnianie ze ludzie nie sa sami jest najlepsza kombinacja..
it would be nice to see a video like you did for depression (where you tried to show how it could be in their head and making a cinematic portrayal) for schizophrenia. I feel like that's also a very misunderstood one as well... would be nice to see a PSA mini film from you about that since I enjoy your productions
Might happen one day, though I think 'a Beautiful Mind' is a pretty good representation. ;)
+CallMeKat haha but that's a movie....
that's not what I meant D: D: I meant a short like your depression one. and then you talk and say poetic stuffs and such and such D: D: but yes that is a good movie :D
+Tatiana Hansen schizophrenia is even more complicated and more "abstract". Healthy people can partially understand and feel like a person in depression, but for a short period of time. With schizophrenia there is no such analogy, that's why I think making a short video about this mental disorder is a hard and risky job.
+Vioner that is true...but it would be nice to see it attempted especially by a schizophrenic who shows what it is like for him/her
since people have a very big misunderstanding about it and usually only know of the extreme stuff like on the news a guy kills a bunch of people and turns out he was suffering from schizophrenia things like that...and lots of people think that all schizophrenics are dumb and crazy and killers or potential killers that are on the verge at any moment to snap and kill....or we are disregarded and dismissed with our thoughts etc because we are crazy and "imagine things all the time" so there is also the side of not being taken seriously etc...
it would just be nice to see people attempt to lessen the stigma for it. It is nice to see Mental Health video/movie things like this to help people understand it better since it usually isn't taken seriously...and I like the attention mental health stuff has been getting lately. I just feel like some of them are being left out at the moment D: that's all. would be a nice different thing to see since I've seen many in regards to depression and anxiety.
+Vioner but yeah schizophrenia can get pretty psychedelic D: and each trip is different for each rider. I would like to see productions for all of them it would be interesting to watch.
lol i cried because this is exactly me. thank you so much. you were the only human who seemed to have understood what I feel every second
I suffer every day, every hour, every minute...
There's no way to change this... Is like a punish... I don´t know....
Depression hurts me always...
same,😔
I know it's been 2 years since you wrote this but stay strong
Same. I hate it . I want to sleep. I never get free.
stay strong champ
Me 2oo😔
I found the depression video and the subsequent comments very therapeutic. I"m tired of people trying to get me not to feel depressed, or showing that they can't just sit and be with me through it. The pure reflection that shows that you understand what it's like, without trying to push for change, is exactly what made the video so potent. The more you can just hold space for connection without needing the depression to lift, the more you are giving space for new growth to come out of it. If a depressed person starts asking about what they can do and you have some insights about it, that can be really valuable, but just holding space for what comes out of it - showing that you can just be with them does a lot. A depressed person may have great resources, but feel like they don't have space to work things out. It's a breakdown of courage. Not being able to see feel the highest possibilities for oneself. It's an illness that's based around hopelessness. "Nothing I do can make things better and nothing good could ever happen to me." Having hope is deeply related to having awareness of our resources and to the courage to keep working with what we've got - chasing our dreams and remembering that they are possible; that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I felt very depressed when I started watching the other depression video. What I just wrote is my insides starting to wake back up and move.
*huge sigh* okay... I have to explain something. Depression is different for everyone. I have been on antidepressants all my life and still do not consider myself "cured", as you say, in any way. I have been in therapy all my life, before getting depression, and after I got it. Five years of seeing a professional and being medicated and I'm still depressed. There are times when I feel better, but they last for a week at most. And talking about depression is never easy. Depression for bipolar and normal depression are very different. I know because my mother is bipolar and I'm depressed. Her depressive episodes are a lot different from mine. Do not generalize depression and bipolar depression episodes.
That being said. I like that you are trying to help people out it makes me happy to see people out there doing research. But please, Express that this isn't everyone's depression. Thanks.
living with a depressed family member (professionally diagnosed and on meds) and it makes me so sad seeing them like that knowing u are exactly the same
No, no I don't think that medication is always necessary! Really people are so different. Some manage to get better without, some need some medication! It's not a must in my opinion. Medication makes it sometimes worse...
+Toasty Moasty not always. Therapy is good as well. Unfortunately - most of the times you'll need medication. If you've cure depression without medicine or therapy - that means you did not have depression in the first place.
+Kat Napiorkowska That is not true. I agree with toasty moasty. Please do not speak on something that you have no idea is like.
Kiara Roman Unfortunately, I know depression very well. Too well, I'd say. Trust me. If you've cured depression by eg taking vitamins - that was not depression.
Toasty Moasty I agree. Every person's brain works differently + if you read the effects anti-depressants have it says "this medication can cause depression". It makes me think "bruh what am I even taking this for."
Kat Napiorkowska I don't agree + you can't understand how others cope and deal with depression. I think maybe even you didn't understand all of it at some point. So please don't think that only meds can help. All people have different ways of coping. 😊
I personally suffer from depression and it's very very hard. I hope that one day people understand how this thing really works because I have lost a lot of friends because they didn't really understand the illness and said many mean things to me. thank you for video btw. ;)
Zdrowi ludzie najczęściej nas po prostu odrzucają. Nie próbują pomagać, nie próbują wspierać, nie próbują rozmawiać. Próbowałem psychologa. Chodziłem na spotkania grupowe i na te 1 na 1. Wszystkich okłamałem. Doszli do wniosku, że wszystko ze mną okej, choć miałem za sobą próby samobójcze i inne takie. Jak wyszedłem, tak zaraz wróciłem do siebie, zamknąłem się i zgasiłem światło. Chciałem popłakać, ale nie mogłem już nawet na siłę wycisnąć łzy z oka. To bywa dużo bardziej skomplikowane niż wydaje się być dla ludzi, którzy tego po prostu nie doświadczyli. Myślałem, że youtube pomoże. Zacząłem, fajnie, ciepłe przyjęcie, wszystko niby na plus. Nie mam ochoty. Nie uda się. Nie wyjdzie. Nie ma sensu. Wyrzuciłem gitarę, tablet graficzny, wszystko poszło na bok, zostało tylko szare życie z dnia na dzień. Nadchodzą święta, a ja nadal dzień w dzień słucham "Empty Rooms" i w sumie wszystko mi jedno. Poznałem kogoś, z kim naprawdę się dogadywałem. Bez znaczenia. I tak odejdzie. Wyrzucam. O naprawdę profesjonalną pomoc trudno, bo musi przecież do dziesiątego wystarczyć. Bez internetu pewnie dawno bym z balkonu wyskoczył. W internecie jest łatwiej. Łatwiej filtrować tematy rozmów, wstrzymać się od głupich wypowiedzi, ukrywać się, znaleźć nowych znajomych po odrzuceniu starych. Ale po co to wszystko? Po co romansować z internetem? Nie lepiej po prostu, najzwyczajniej się uwolnić? Nie lepiej byłoby nie marnować mieszkania, które może ktoś inny chciałby wynająć i lepiej wykorzystać? Nie zajmować komuś innemu miejsca pracy? Z dnia na dzień te myśli się umacniają w głowie. Zastępują pasje, ambicje, motywację. To tylko częściowy obraz życia w depresji. Trudno je ująć w komentarzu.
+Mr0life
Doskonale Cię rozumiem - pójście na terapie grupowe i do psychologa moim zdaniem nie jest dobrym początkiem na terapię. Na sam początek najlepiej jest mieć osobę, z którą mówi się w 100% szczerze i możesz ufać takiej osobie bezgranicznie. I tu właśnie jest ten najtrudniejszy punkt - znalezienie takiej osoby to w tych czasach prawdziwy cud. Bo powiedzmy szczerze - jakiej zdrowej osobie chciałoby się użerać z jakimś idiotą/idiotką, która płacze bez powodu i tylko jest przeszkodą do jego szczęścia? Nikt. Nikt - kto nie zna powodu tych reakcji, czyli wie, że płacz zawsze ma jakiś powód i nawet jeśli dla niego ten powód jest błahy to go nie ignoruje.
Powiem szczerze - co do znajdywania tych wspaniałych ludzi to trzeba mieć ogromne szczęście. A co utrudnia to znajdywanie? Fakt, że ludzie z depresją udają szczęśliwych przed innymi. Ja do teraz tak mam - kiedy tylko z kimś rozmawiam, mam jakiś bliższy kontakt z człowiekiem automatycznie zakładam maskę osoby mega pozytywnej i optymistycznie nastawionej do życia. A to postępowanie jest złe, bo po pewnym czasie nawet nie wiesz czy jesteś tą osobą z depresją, czy może tylko pozytywnie nastawioną do życia osobą z gorszym okresem lub wymysłem.
Tu jedna rada: Lepiej otworzyć się na ludzi i mówić o sowich problemach szczerze - wyśmieją Cię? Wtedy zawsze stosuję moje motto: "I co? Będę z tego powodu płakać? Że ludzie, których tępe mózgi nie są w stanie pojąć mojej osoby i mojego problemu śmieją się ze mnie? I DON'T CARE" - i idę do kolejnej osoby, którą w miarę mogę obdarzyć zaufaniem.
To jest moja metoda na początki walki z depresją. Myślę, że każdy powinien znaleźć własną drogę, jednak wiem, że psychika niektórych jest słabsza i szybciej się poddaje lub po prostu nie mogą znaleźć własnego sposobu - właśnie dlatego to piszę - może jest jedna lub dwie osoby, którym ta metoda przypasuje i wyjdą z tego gówna.
(Oczywiście po znalezieniu takiej osoby pójście do psychologa i psychiatry obowiązkowe - jak już Autorka filmiku wspomniała - depresja ma podstawy w chemicznych reakcjach zachodzących w organizmie i nawet jeśli znajdziecie taką osobę - choroba wróci, stwierdzisz, że Wasza relacja jest bez sensu i będziesz chciał/-ała to zakończyć - dlatego leczenie jest obowiązkowym punktem w tej drodze do szczęścia)
Pozdrawiam i życzę udanych początków - później, jeśli się Nam uda, nawet nie pomyślimy, że takie rzeczy wypełniały całe Nasze życie. Wtedy to My będziemy tymi jednymi z niewielu osób, które będą rozumiały ludzi z depresją i to My będziemy im pomagać c;
+Mr0life odezwij sie do mnie, jade na tym samym wózku, robaczykiewicz@gmail.com, nastaw sie, ze nie ma tematów taboo, gadamy o wszystkim i o niczym, bedzie latwiej!
+Mr0life, +Twoja Podświadomość, +Emil Świeca - może warto byłoby pójść do dobrego lekarza?... A nie na terapie, które są bez sensu, jeśli depresja jest zaawansowana... Jeszcze trochę i przestaniecie wychodzić z domu, otwierać drzwi i odbierać telefony... Nie o to chodzi... Otworzyć się na ludzi? Oczywiście, tylko czy w takim stanie macie siłę to zrobić?
Czy też tak macie, że napiszecie coś... długiego, prosto z serca - czym chcecie sie podzielić, lecz nagle wyskakuje Wam lampka "na cholere to" i kasujecie wszystko, zamykając przeglądarke?
Właśnie ja coś takiego przeżyłem - chcąc opisać swoja sytuację, wylewając swoje smutki i żale... tylko "po co".
depression is like someone had switchon you sadness foever.. you cant push it away or shut down mentally.. its not having abad day or a problem,, you could be in the happiest place you can think of.. but you would still feel a great deep saddnes in your heart for no reason .
great video, but you stress medication too much. It is definitely something that should be an option and it can help many people, but it doesn't help everyone. I've had my own time dealing with depression and have had friends go through it. I actually stopped being depressed the first time without medication, just with friends and family supporting me and helping me. I have a friend that took medication and it did not help her at all, at times it made it much worse...
RainAngel111 exactly
Ask your doctor about ketamine lol
that should be tested usually a antidepressant and phsycologic treatment are the best treatment. but of course it depends on the person
How? She said one sentence in the beginning and used medication as an anecdote to see a doctor.
People never seem to realize or mention how trial and error it can be to find the right medication. Or therapy for that matter. And how exhausting the process can be. Psych meds usually take up to a month to start working at full capacity, so you need to wait for that... Then if it's not working as intended you can't just stop taking it. You have to wean slowly off of it to be healthy and not suffer withdrawal symptoms (which SUCK.) Only to repeat the process until you finally find one that actually helps you function like you need to. Some people get lucky with it... Some not so much. Me personally, I have sought help on and off for 30 years and only NOW found a medication that helps with the symptoms I need it to without making me feel sick in exchange.
I don't want to discourage people from getting help. Not at all! But sometimes I do wish people encouraging the medication route were more realistic about it.
I love people like you who just take the time to try to at least understand what its like for people with mood disorders. I rarely comment on things because of my anxiety n such, but i think it's very important that you know you are doing great things:)
I never know why I'm depressed and also ways is I have the best family ever and still feel bad:(
May be you are in a situation where you should not be(what i mean is that may be it's time you should take ur own responsibilities and you are ignoring them) or you have some unsettled issues from ur past that are bothering you weridly!
kalpana ruhela I have a very rich I guess family my dad owns a bussines and my mom also works there I have a 2 story house and my rooms is a sweet and yes I've been bullyed a lot and to much in the past and it makes me said and I have not much emotions when I do I guess it mostly crying and I sit in my room so much so I can be left alone
Raleigh Hinton You know it , like you mentioned. You can write it down for yourself. Ask questions and answer them . It can help you understand yourself better!
I hope you get over this phase. :)
kalpana ruhela what? What did I just do?
I meant to say a journal !
Seeing this video gives such a good feeling. It is great to see people understanding the topic as good as you do and it is great to see this video having this many views. Thank you for putting in the time and work. To people reading this who feel that they suffer from depression: SHE IS RIGHT, GO SEE A DOCTOR. I started therapy 7 months ago and now moved from heavy depression to learning to enjoy the small things again. Can only get bettter from where you are now
I don't know if I'm depressed honestly. You made a list at the beginning and I relate to 5 of them. But during the day I act like a normal person, but if somebody says something in the least way offensive I take it to heart. Even if they don't mean it. But at night 4/7 times a week I cry myself to sleep. I'll list all my flaws from head to toe. I'll make myself feel horrible. And I would compare myself to other people. I haven't told anybody this but I'm afraid people will say I just want attention. Which has happened. Somebody please answer this. I need to know what's going on with me.
Macky Moore I would say, it depends. Do you find meaning in your sadness?
+Anón Imo yea:/
Macky Moore I can relate :\
i fell the same, people dont take you seriously and when you cancel on events or dont turn up, they get angry at you and end up not being your friend
I relate so much to you i didnt Know if someone felt the same that I because i fundo myself always comparing to other people and if someone tells me or something good to me i stay happy but if a receive a bad or bad atitude i start question myself and i become very sad and thinking that I am not worth it
dziękuje ci za to co robisz, natrafiłem na twój kanał przypadkowo... ciesze się że uświadamiasz ludzi o tym... sam cierpię na depresję i wiem jak to jest.
Świetny film, jak i poprzedni. Przez depresję zawaliłem szkołę, straciłem piękny 7 letni związek, straciłem pracę. Ludzie nie bójcie się o tym mówić, im wcześniej tym lepiej, to samo nie minie :)
Pozdrawiam serdecznie autorkę:)
+Van Den I co leki pomogły?
+feniksmati kurwa mać, zrozum że lekami to sie możesz wyleczyć z gorączki, NIE Z DEPRESJI.
+GANDALF Spokojnie biały czarodzieju nie denerwuj się. Podzielam twoją opinię, tylko chciałbym się dowiedzieć jak było w przypadku powyższego autora.
feniksmati powyższy autor sam wspominał że nie chorował na depresje, a jak wspominała coś o tym że da sie to lekami wyleczyć (nie dooglądałem do końca) to jest w wielkim błędzie, gdyż to kiedyś i tak wróci. :)
+GANDALF Chodziło mi o pana Van Dena (sensie autor komentarza) :)
That other video actually really made me realize that I’m not the only one living through this even though I might feel like no one understands my situation. Thank you, keep up your content. This is an important matter. Before I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety, I could never have believed it could be so hard to live. Having mental illnesses sucks.
To uczucie, kiedy ogląda się film praktycznie o sobie - niesamowite i głębokie.
Ty for intro disclaimer. You nailed it in your previous video re depression. It was so very accurate. I caught on that something wasn't right when I subscribed and saw your other videos with other types of illnesses. You couldn't be all types at once. But TY bc you understand and believe depression, anxiety, panic attacks are very REAL. I've been on many you tube searches trying to find something that helps me and yours was the 1st. Keep going on with it.
Go through it and you'll know what hell looks like for sure!
This video was so helpful, thank you so much for creating it. Not only has it helped me but thousands of others. I'm a young teenager and my Dad suffers from depression and is bipolar... Unfortunately I find it so hard living with someone who suffers from depression, yet I want to help, but it's so difficult. Not only is it hard for me, but for my whole family, especially my Mum. My Dad would say horrible things to her, it's quite frightening as a young girl... But any who, this video is great to share awareness as some people just have no clue.. thank you for doing this
Depresja niestety nawraca w najmniej spodziewanych momentach...
+Nat Lie oj zgadzam się, niestety
+Nat Lie niestety,....i każdy kolejny nawrót jest najczęściej cięższy od poprzedniego. Na szczęście można nauczyć się sobie z tym wszystkim radzić
Its 2020 and I'm just now discovering you. You've been able to describe my issues better than most therapists I've seen. Thank you
Yes, living with a person who suffers from depression is one of the hardest thing ever. And it's true that they drag you down even if you are the happiest, positive person it affect you deeply. If you are constanly hearing complaining, somebody is crying all the time in your presence, don't talk at all or when you ask about something they just say "yes", "no", "i don't know" and leave the room, you start to think that there is something wrong with you as well. You ask yourself all the time "were they so unhappy with you? were they so disappointed with you that they get depression?". Sometimes i feel like everybody talks only about that depressed person but not about people around them. When my parent got depression i have to work twice as much as i used to to have for a living and then when i got home i heard "i'm not happy". WTF I work my ass off, i'm trying to keep you in the good mood after work even though i'm tired, I drive you from one doctor to another because you don't like any of them and you are still not f*** happy. That's is exhausting. And it's 100% true that they are ungratefull and they sometimes try to get you down with them because it somehow make them feel better. After 6 months of living with person who has this problem (i usually met her once a 2 weeks) i couldn't handle it anymore, i cut myself off completly, i didn't call this person although i called people who had constant contact with her. I felt guilty and selfish but being hooked on work, where i worked with positive energetic people helped me and this break was good for me. But for example my other parent that one who didn't suffer from depression alsno became a lot more introvertic, kind of sad, and he doesn't seem so intrested in different things as he used to be. I don't want to be rude or something but i think sometimes if you cant handle depression of somebody from your environment you have to be also a little bit selfish and take care of yourself, it's hard to give up on somebody.
This is me right now. I'm so exhausted I just feel I can't help anymore it's bringing me down daily.
Ya same with my mom.. my father suffers from depression since 30 yrs.. and visiting same psychiatrist since then.. he don't listen to anyone, he has only his problems n speaks abt them all the time. sometimes my mom feels like she will also get sick :(
same
You are a selfish person!!!
it hurts the most when you do get comfortable and find trust in someone, only to have them abuse that at the end. that's probably what I would say I fear..knowing someone my entire life only to have them turn like the others too..i don’t know if I’m ready to go through that again.
idk if I suffered on depression or not. but sometimes, i feel so worst at night. but it didnt last tho. in the morning I'll be like okay, rise and shine ..
+o.o o.o what was it like being depressed?
+Ade Putri it's like drowning in your own sadness
+Where's Waldo thats sound terrible and sad 😕😩😰
+Ade Putri it is, I live with depression, I am getting better. I feel better now and I'm so glad it's over. To be exact. You wake up every day with the head literally spinning you're always tired and your head always hurts. You cry for no reason and you have no idea what to do. You're angry at everything and everyone and you think that you'll be happier if you just ended you life. Feels like drowning
It's different for every person. I've lived with clinical depression (Major Depressive Disorder) for over ten years. It can grow to be a very normal feeling. For me it's generally not being exactly sad, but never being happy and not even remembering what that could feel like. Mostly just apathetic but wanting to feel something, anything more emotionally intense. Chronic physical pain, all the time, no break from that. A fogged mind in the morning and sometimes most of the day, feels like I'm high when I know I'm not. Not able to concentrate, not motivated to do anything that I wanted to do last week or even earlier that day. Feeling like I really want to accept the invitation to this party this weekend but I know I'm just gonna bail last minute because I won't get out of bed all day and I won't want to interact with anyone I don't know or anyone that might make me uncomfortable in the slightest bit. Forcing myself to eat even though I haven't had an appetite in a week and haven't really enjoyed food in months. And as a creative person who always wanted to make a living artistically, also as a college student, it is an extremely limiting condition that makes me feel worthless, stupid, unoriginal, uninspired, not talented, and like I'm the dumbest person and least motivated person in class. Which I know is not true but that's not what my late, half-assed assignments tell me and my teachers. Basically, it's a disease that sucks and makes you feel YOU like suck even though you don't when you're not depressed.
Thank you. Almost all of my friends are depressed and this video and I appreciate that you also helped people live with depressed people. My best friend said that she'd commit suicide several times and attempted once. All of my other friends are cutters, including my boyfriend. People always focus on the people with depression, and I've been looking for something I can relate to, even something like this. I don't have anyone to talk to about it because I tried to talk about it once and all of my friends got offended for some reason. I'm also in constant fear of losing my friends. They mean more than my family to me. Sometimes I feel almost all alone because I feel like no one is in the same situation and I feel like the only actual person on earth and I'm surrounded by zombies that won't spread the disease onto me. I'm just glad it's not as bad as actual depression.
I have bipolar 2 very depression for 14 years. Depression is not a joke, trust me.
Thank you so much! 💕
My best friend has been suffered by depression. I was about 13 when it gets really hard and I often felt the things you just said.
I felt she was not greateful or just don't like me because she don't cares about me. But I often had to realize that it was not herself hurting me or changing the way she was. It was her depression. I also didn't knew how to handle with her and her depression and the whole situation, but I totally agree with your tips.
Just loving them how they are and try not to be hurt by the way they are, because they don't want to be or do something that hurts you. It's the depression that make them doing or being it.
And also give yourself space to breathe.
I also had to realize that it was not my fault that she had depression.
Thanks a lot, and go on helping people with sharing your experience.
Greetings from Germany😙
The first video was good. This one doesn't feel like a follow-up.
I enjoy (if enjoy is the right word) watching these videos, and it's inspired me to create some of my own. Talking and listening to people who care and understand is comforting. My ex hated when I spoke about depression, she called it a burden, and so I tried my best to keep it to myself or if I felt I needed to talk about it, I would dilute it heavily as to not continue being a burden. As sad as it is to know so many people go through this kind of thing, it's somewhat comforting to know you're not alone 🦋
Chylę czoła. Znam stany afektywne z autopsji, więc potwierdzam dużą trafność zarówno I., jak II. części.
Trzymaj się ciepło i uśmiechajmy się jak najwięcej ;-)
Niesamowite, że zechciałaś zająć się edukacją w tym zakresie. Dziękuję & thank you.
Z czym się nie zgodzę: 1:16. Można mieć bardzo określony cel, marzenia, a gdyby przyjdzie dół - wszystko lub prawie bierze w łeb...Po ustąpieniu najgorszej depresji można sporo rzeczy ponaprawiać, ale nie zawsze i nie wszystkie.
Uwielbiam twoje filmy, podchodzisz do nich bardzo poważnie, a do tego wszystko się zgadza. Sama przechodziłam tą chorobę i mam aktualnie lekkie nawroty jednak często słyszę ,,ogarnij się" to nic nie pomaga. Dziękuję Ci za te filmy bo mogę pokazać je teraz bliskiej osobie, może będzie jej łatwiej :)
I wish I would have seen this video 3 weeks ago, my girlfriend left me because of her depression, its one of the hardest things to deal with, even as the partner without depression. I never truly understood our situation until now.
I think the best way to help someone who is depressed is evolving lots of people in the help process. Because of this: When one is getting "dragged down" the other "steps in".
I normally would try to make my sister get out of bed and house, while my mother would try to make her seek help ... and my dog would be with her when she was self-isolated.
When she got help we tried to make her keep with it till the end (it's not over yet). Finding a career also helped her a lot, even doe the "worst times" were after that.
What never helped were her new relationships that usually would evaluate the families's actions towards her depression and always delayed her healing process. I remember saying to one them that "... her healing was not a sprint race, but an extreme marathon."
ugh... this made me cry... i have bipolar 2, severe depression, social anxiety disorder, sometimes get paranoia/panic attacks like fear of dying, fear of a ''monster'' abusing me, fear of being alone in dark, sometimes i feel close to attempt suicide, and maybe also adhd, but not sure since im not a doctor..... im gonna soon go see a psychiatrist... because im afraid to lose those very last few real friends i have, that really tried to help me (my parents never supported me)... i dont want to let them down again...
fsociety 122 No. You lost your bet because they were not. I month ago went to a specialist, and i was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, which is a lot more serious illness than being bipolar. 8-10% people with BPD end their life with suicide. A much bigger % are those, who try but survive. I thought i was bipolar, but its just one side illness that is common for BPD people. Theres a lot more to it, but i wont sink in detail, if youre interested, go search on google or youtube for clarity.
I suffer from depression since I was 11 and for me it was very very difficult to live with people in my age because I have always felt older than I actually am. And now it's the same old problem. I've say my best friends that I have depression and yes, at the first time they were very shocked bc I was always the "happiest" person of my Crew, but now, a few months after I told them, I know what the quote "Someone who never had depression will never understand you" means. I know they accept my depression but I think they do not know what it really means to have depression. They're always so angry and disappointed that I can't meet them today, that I can't go out and have fun so easily, that my thoughts and feelings don't go away when I smile....
I always try to explain it but they don't understand it and that makes me really really sad because I really love them....
Edit: I'm so sorry for my English.... I do not speak English so well
Pills are not the only way to go about depression. Yes, pills can help with the chemical imbalance in the brain, but depression is NOT only a bodily happening, that can be cured simply by treating the body with pills. Depression is very often accompanied by some kind of mental stress, e.g the inability/difficulty of coping with life changes (breakups, moving to new places, loss of a loved one, and many other reasons) Pills can help in the moment, but WON'T fix any trauma or mental baggage. For this reason I was never on pills when I was depressed, but I spent a lot of time with my psychologist.
Considering that is not an option for everyone, pills can help ease some stress. But the mental symptoms need to be taken JUST as seriously as the physical symptoms.
Unless if the depression is only caused by a chemical imbalance. Then pills are fine.
saga01b yes true but i've had severe depression/anxiety and many other mental illnesses for over 3 years now and i've been to therapists for nearly 2 years and i have never been on meds. i'm just only getting worse no matter what i try to do, it doesnt help when your "friends" distance themselves away from you so they don't catch your negative aura. i think i need pills or i won't be here any longer
SAGA KAPNA well said
Thank you for your videos.
They helped me a lot in trying to explain what it feels like to be depressed to friends and family.
I had a good friend that suffers from depression. I struggled so much with him that I decided not to be his friend anymore. Even till this day I feel guilty and sometimes want to call him back. But its so true, its such a struggle with them, he never wanted to do anything.
+Martin Godinez No one could be cured if they don't want. It's sad, but sometimes there is no way to help some people. It's important to try to help and give them as good help as we can supply. But it not always depends on us if it could give any effect. It's not the reason to accuse ourselves.
+Wiktor Nowak you need to be patient with him, you leaving him is just more weight on their shoulders
+Kasai the Fire Mage Of course, We're obligated to try as best we can, but if there is absolutely no perspective we need to protect ourselves.
I would suggest contacting him & telling him that you understand the space he needs and whenever he needs you he can contact you.
+Layla Lilac I sometimes think about it.
This is a very important issue to address. Many people may not even realize they suffer from depression, or that they live with someone suffering from it. Great two videos, Kat. God bless.
I feel depressed but my mom say that i was lazy for staying at my room all day, and say that how can a person living a life like me.
My mum suffers from depression and this video is the most helpful advice, Thankyou
I liked the previous video. But I had to stop just a few minutes into this one. Medication isn't for everyone. Putting people on drugs to alter them into something that fits the idea of "normal" isn't the answer. It may help some but not all. It's not 100%.
that should be tested usually a antidepressant and phsycologic treatment are the best treatment. but of course it depends on the person.
>Putting people on drugs to alter them into something that fits the idea of "normal" isn't the answer.< if that drug helps you dealing with the day you should take it while in therapy. It's not something woodoo , it is something which can safe lives.
Meds can help to keep someone stable but it needs to e combined with some sort of talking therapy too to make real progress.
I never would have thought, that I would suffer on depression. It is something that I have never thought it would be. But I will stay strong, I will search for help, so can you. Let's stay together, you are not alone
it took my parents 8 years to realize i was actually depressed, despite my self-harm. They only understood it after suicide attempts and now they watch me 24/7 so... tell your parents young folks, they'll understand... eventually?
This is one of the toughest things on my guilty conscious: imagining what it’s truly like having to live with me...
Świetny materiał, twój punkt widzenia jest bardzo dobry ;) Właściwie to każdy powinien go zobaczyć. Szkoda tylko że takich osób jak ty jest mało...każdy "goni" za swoim... Pozdrawiam :)
To co robisz jest wspaniałe. Dzięki tym materiałom, niektórzy ludzie zrozumieją to, czego ci cierpiący na depresje nie są w stanie powiedzieć. Jak ja.
2 weaks, is like 4 years :/
Ale naprawde Twoje filmy pomagają. Nie każda osoba wypowiada się na ten temat ponieważ większość wie a może domyśla się na czym ta choroba polega ale nikt nie potrafi się tak zagłębić w ten temat. Dziękuję że jesteś ;)
If I'm talking, nobody is listening to me.
But if I'm quiet, everyone wants to know whats going on.
Even thought you never had depression, its amazing the way you retrated it with so much sensibility ! You are really talented and im pretty sure that your videos are going to help many people !
Some people aren't strong enough to stay with someone with depression. This is how my 4 year relationship ended. Just wanted to write it here
I'd say two big things I've experienced as someone with severe chronic depression that I hate are:
1. Never ever tell me how to feel. I know how I feel, and I know it's irrational. I don't need your input on that unless we've agreed to work on gentle nudges towards positivity. It's just patronizing.
2. I will see right through your false positivity because at a certain point I get tired of hearing it. You can only hear "things will get better" or "you'll be okay" so many times before it just feels hollow. When? When will this magical time come, because I've been unable to function and dealing with my brain acting like a hostile entity telling me things WON'T be okay for 30 years now. Yes, some of it takes effort on my part, but please understand how crippling this illness already is just to stay alive when asking me to try harder. Even if necessary, it's not easy, and trying isn't always a magical cure, either. Sometimes the meds and therapy don't work on the first, second, or even third try. That in itself gets exhausting. (Plus the way mental health facilities works involves getting passed around a lot, so starting from scratch with new people sucks.)
3. Depression does not discriminate. It is more than just feeling sad. It turns your body and brain actively against you to make you unable to function or enjoy anything anymore. It is an illness. Most people who suffer it chronically were born with it. Telling me to just "stop feeling sad" or "well of course you're depressed if you're not doing anything" is like accusing someone with any other serious illness they can't help having to just "suck it up and get better." It doesn't help, it just makes me feel guilty over something I never even wanted to have in the first place.
brakuje tylko cześć misie :( Reszta jak zwykle genialna :)
No przecież jest
+Mrs Gosik Ale powiedzianego po polsku. Jest tylko napisane a po angielsku jest inaczej
I swear you seem so understanding and a good hearted person!
Twój angielski jest świetny !
+Oskar k dzięki ;)
+CallMeKat Myślałem ze nie jesteś Polką jestem pod wrażeniem twojego angielskiego :)
+Oskar k podpinam się :) idzie Ci lepiej niż z POLSKIM :D
+Natalia Brzegowy hah, dzięki, ja muszę się jeszcze rozgadać i upłynnić, ale mam nadzieję, że będzie tylko lepiej.
+CallMeKat i masz akcent niesamowity! głupie pytanie ale jakoś specjalnie się nad nim skupiałeś czy po prostu jesteś tak zdolna?
I actually went to a really difficult phase with one of my friend and i didn't know she was depressed, i didn't even know what was depression at this time... i tried to help, to ptotect her and carry her on my own and it just hurt me as i saw her so sad and desperate while i wasn't capable to do something for her because i didn't know what to do..
This video would have helped me a lot back then, now we both recovered and we are doing better, but i wish that some young people who are in the exact same situation as i were back then could find your video ! You said everything, and i think that my past self needed to hear that..
uwielbiam sluchac Twojego angielskiego, cudowny filmik
I loved your video! Depression is a very touchy subject and I hate when people talk of depression without actually knowing what is depression. I was expecting to see a video with you saying to not leave the person alone and your video really impressed me! I loved your idea to make a video recreating depression for us to realize and then make this video to explain how to handle it. It is difficult for the person with depression as it is difficult for the person who deals with people with depression. You need to know how to deal and respect. I really enjoyed your video and sorry my bad english cause I'm portuguese!