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  • @CraigsOverijse
    @CraigsOverijse 6 років тому +637

    I really think that the way Jasmine speaks to these folks is so gentle and none judgemental. Her home life has allowed her to be so compassionate to these people’s conditions and lives

    • @helenclayton8259
      @helenclayton8259 5 років тому +27

      Craig Famly agreed, people who are judgmental often have never been through it. No matter what the situation. We should all try harder to be more understanding.

    • @Luxebarbie
      @Luxebarbie 3 роки тому +1

      she's always lovely

  • @Alilliiii
    @Alilliiii 6 років тому +3413

    Olive recycling all those cans to give money to charity actually melted my heart.

    • @Offensive_Username
      @Offensive_Username 5 років тому +79

      For every can she cares about, 10 other citizen throw away their trash wrongly or illegally.

    • @Parnder
      @Parnder 5 років тому +28

      @@Offensive_Username better than nothing

    • @nachschreien9289
      @nachschreien9289 5 років тому +22

      I might've started to cry

    • @Peeges_
      @Peeges_ 5 років тому +50

      She is an absolute angel

    • @Raskolnikov32
      @Raskolnikov32 5 років тому +28

      @@Peeges_ Are you saying she's obtuse?

  • @terilooney
    @terilooney 6 років тому +1078

    Jasmine is one of those individuals who has allowed the difficulties she experienced make her better rather than bitter. Her compassion and patience shine through making her lovely face just glow....

    • @greenkitty82
      @greenkitty82 5 років тому +21

      Teri Looney yes absolutely and we all have a choice as to how we deal with difficulties. We can see them as opportunities to grow better to help others or consume us to be angry and miserable. It's all a choice. Being bitter about things doesn't help anyone and in order to find any happiness you have to let that burning coal go otherwise you'll always be miserable. It's great Jasmine has decided to help others with their hoarding problems so she's used her experience as an opportunity to serve. Fantastic.

    • @FacebookQueen
      @FacebookQueen 5 років тому +16

      I just love that she knows what it's like on a personal level and it shows and helps how she deals with others less judgment. Unlike others that might try to deal with situations like this

    • @krisamagus1
      @krisamagus1 5 років тому +6

      she is gorgeous.

    • @julesakers3051
      @julesakers3051 5 років тому +10

      Beautiful inside and out.

    • @McPoyleBros
      @McPoyleBros 5 років тому +3

      Tony Tweedy she grew up in this. I’m pretty sure she’s humbled and genuine

  • @frdriscoll1
    @frdriscoll1 5 років тому +384

    Janet was literally crying for help. She seemed like she was on her last straw and that if she didn’t get help, that would be it. Her depression was so real, you can feel it. It’s heartbreaking.

    • @finallyanaccount
      @finallyanaccount 3 роки тому +25

      I skipped through the video and only watched parts but my literal thought process is I've never seen an African Auntie look so sad in all my life. Usually the ones I know are so full of life.

    • @lemon1657
      @lemon1657 3 роки тому +24

      I know, it's so awful. Janet is super depressed and unable to talk or show love to her daughter. Her short hushed speech is heartbreaking. They haven't even mentioned the family photos showing 2 additional children. What happened to the family? It's good to clear the clutter but she needs real therapy to deal with her trauma but in her Nigerian language so she's comfortable to speak. It's all so impossible and devastating.

    • @animeti6694
      @animeti6694 3 роки тому +2

      @@finallyanaccount 😂😂😂they too joyful and judgemental to b sad

    • @daCubanaqt
      @daCubanaqt Рік тому +1

      @@lemon1657 I almost cried when they first introduced Janet. Her depression is so palpable. I too hope she got some therapy in her language.
      In the beginning of the video Jasmine said Janet lived there with Vicky and her brother. The brother probably didn’t want to be on camera and the other brother probably moved out.

  • @P3N1SLUVR
    @P3N1SLUVR 5 років тому +558

    Janet’s depression is so palpable it’s uncomfortable. She needs human touch she needs a hug or her hand held. I feel so much for her

    • @bridgettebianchi9315
      @bridgettebianchi9315 4 роки тому +24

      She needs medicine

    • @susansherlock7474
      @susansherlock7474 3 роки тому +15

      @@bridgettebianchi9315 not necessarily

    • @Diana-sb4yl
      @Diana-sb4yl 3 роки тому +30

      @@bridgettebianchi9315 humanity ,touch is medicine,unless u have lived with a hoarder it's a very difficult subject for others to understand,it's not just mental health issues,it's deep rooted psychological ,trauma induced, era of the great economic depression ,that affects old n young ppl esp older generation lived with so little ,it affects the working poor class mainly ... There's also another side of hoarding ...fear of abandonment,it affects all class , immaterial of status symbol.

    • @dancemonkeydance538
      @dancemonkeydance538 3 роки тому +26

      @@bridgettebianchi9315 she needs to go back to Nigeria where her heart really belongs. Obviously she never wanted to come to Britain but was made to for what ever reason.

    • @adevore1971
      @adevore1971 3 роки тому +23

      @Aurore Aurore obviously she should do all that, but ppl often have mental/emotional/psychological blocks getting in the way of even thinking clearly enough to begin ...

  • @fatcatfunnies6216
    @fatcatfunnies6216 6 років тому +1978

    The mother looks so depressed you can see it in her eyes. She looks so empty. And olive my heart really goes out to her. She never got married. Never got kids. And her hubby got killed in the war. I feel so bad for her. Breaks my heart.

    • @jeanninederoma2364
      @jeanninederoma2364 6 років тому +120

      I think the hoarding, the suitcases were meant originally to take all that stuff back to her country were they have nothing. She finally realize she will never go back.

    • @ipad123gameplays
      @ipad123gameplays 6 років тому +36

      I also think the mother looks sad because she is ashamed of her teeth. poor people, its hard when you are your own enemy , is an internal battle

    • @thrillhouse9329
      @thrillhouse9329 6 років тому +87

      @@boadicae3264 Very well said, and you're absolutely right. Her choice to not marry or spawn are just as valid as anyone else who instead decided to follow the Life Script (TM). Her hypothetical kids would likely have had her shoved in an old folks home where she'd have hated it. A person's value isn't measure by their marital and reproductive status.

    • @jazziehuggins7764
      @jazziehuggins7764 5 років тому +8

      @@jeanninederoma2364 thts a stretch ..if she wanted to go bck home she wouldn't have stayed.. She clearly came cause she wanted better... Thts just stereotyping.. Cuz I'm sure ages just using Them to store her things as she hoards

    • @raellskys4083
      @raellskys4083 5 років тому +16

      @@thrillhouse9329 not all families are like that Mr.Negativity,all of my grandparents died at home. Both of my grandmother's were taken care of by my family for YEARS until they passed away,by their CHILDREN and grandchildren. I know many families who care for their old ones AT HOME,within their family home where they're loved and are happiest until they pass, and are missed. And an uncle who died of cancer,was cared for at home too,so NO Mr.Negativity, you kinda triggered my family loyalty button here.😤😠👿😡 Th ones who do dump the old ones off,SHAME on them if they have th means to care for them and choose NOT to do th right thing. It's not convenient at all, NO WAY! But so what,my family managed our old folks even when they became completely bedridden,my one Gramy even had a stomach tube at th end!!

  • @Dinkyfish666
    @Dinkyfish666 6 років тому +756

    The level of Janet’s depression just broke my heart. I sincerely hope she’s managed to find a way out of it.

    • @Wakeupgrandowl
      @Wakeupgrandowl 5 років тому +51

      Right? She's so shut down you can feel the weight of depression on her body.

    • @jesscarroll1915
      @jesscarroll1915 5 років тому +27

      Shes drowning in her depression. You're right about the weight of it. I can feel it thru the screen

    • @monikakved5438
      @monikakved5438 4 роки тому +32

      @Derek Charette First of all it must be very hard for her. She's foreign shes African she probably misses her home misses her culture her own people lot's of time emigrants gets homesick and that makes then very depressed. I had that too. Especially if something else happens in life like maybe her husband left or died who knows. That just makes you fall even deeper. And pills don't always help some pills makes it worse had my own share with that. Worse is getting free psychological help is very hard in London again my own experience GPS would rather prescribe you hundreds of pills. Also mental illness is more common in black woman this is scientifically proven read about it. And for you to say this is awful. She is not pathetic!

    • @Beatles.lassie
      @Beatles.lassie 4 роки тому +36

      @Derek Charette depression isn't just having a bad day Janet has a very serious disorder. Look at the way she lives!? Faking it? Seriously? You need a reality check!!!!

    • @claireopolot5676
      @claireopolot5676 4 роки тому +2

      @@monikakved5438 I presume these studies of black women being more depressed were conducted in the UK.

  • @jeepgirl9592
    @jeepgirl9592 6 років тому +830

    Omg! Poor sweet olive. She has carried a torch for her lost love for 70 years.

    • @billwilson5341
      @billwilson5341 5 років тому +26

      Olive reminded me of Miss. Havisham from Charles Dickens novel, Great Expectations - except that Olive was not "jilted".

    • @MHow-qc3ns
      @MHow-qc3ns 5 років тому +12

      @@billwilson5341: Good analogy. Dickens always hit life's psychological emotions head-on. Thanks for sharing that.

    • @tamara7301
      @tamara7301 4 роки тому +1

      💔💔

    • @nellrussellstarving_artist1215
      @nellrussellstarving_artist1215 3 роки тому +2

      @@billwilson5341 oh... Miss Havisham? With the rotten cake and all.... Wow that brought me back to 5th grade ...

  • @claritaduany6955
    @claritaduany6955 5 років тому +330

    Seeing Janet’s smile when her daughter was singing made my heart sing too. Pure joy. Hope they find a way out.

  • @emradford5173
    @emradford5173 4 роки тому +78

    Janet is so broken, you can see it in her eyes. I hope she finds her light again soon.

  • @illbeyourstumbleine
    @illbeyourstumbleine 5 років тому +282

    Olive is an example to never judge a book by it's cover. You find out she isn't some crazy old bad lady, but a very generous giving soul. A broken soul at that who lost the love of her life to a terrible war at 22 and never moved on from it. So she has lived her life alone from people and filled it with things to fill that hole instead. Since there is always something missing she gives money to show love as well. Literally feel my heartbreaking watching this story. One of the saddest I have ever heard.

    • @Fallingxleaves
      @Fallingxleaves 5 років тому +24

      It reminds me of a photo from Humans of New York. An old woman lost her soulmate, and before he died he told her to “take the love you have for me and spread it around” Olive is so generous and loving to others but unfortunately cannot show that same love to herself. All the best to her ..

    • @sarcasticallyrearranged
      @sarcasticallyrearranged 3 роки тому +2

      She's not kind or generous if she won't give the neighbors the quality of life they deserve. I can't imagine the smell and the vermin!

    • @DolceVita
      @DolceVita 3 роки тому +2

      SHes a real gem.,, im ashamed to say, she initially irritated me quite a bit because she wouldnt let people get in and clear stuff...but she's a really beautiful soul,.. stubborn, but beautiful!

    • @MissEddieBlueKawaiiKrafts
      @MissEddieBlueKawaiiKrafts 3 роки тому +3

      One of my subscribers is a hoarder, I don’t know how to help her... she sends me packages, she’d sent me 5 or 6 packages full of brand new craft supplies before I ever found out she was a hoarder. I don’t want to accept them anymore but she already knows my mailing address & I don’t want to insult her.. the first few packages were immaculate, you’d have no clue anything was wrong with her. The third last package had random things in it, 30 or so packages of fake money, like the kind kids play with.. as well as SO many children’s stickers & random things but like multiple of the same item, like all the same pack of stickers not different ones. 10 pairs of special nail clippers for trimming long fake nails (no she does not wear fake nails). Then a few months went by & she sent me another package, but this time when I opened it everything in the package was covered with little hairs!! & little white crumbs or specs?!?! 😭😭 I pulled out a few items before I noticed then screamed threw the item in my hand back into the box & kicked the box away 😭 my husband took the box out to shed to go through it & sanitize everything with Lysol & I ended up donating most of it. I’m a bit of an uncontrollable germaphobic & receiving that package really messed with my head. I actually stopped doing fan Mail videos because of it, it made me feel guilty (& nervous!) to accept things from people & I had never been that way in the past. The beads & things were in little resealable bags but even the little bags had “crumbs” & hairs in them 😭 oh so many hairs.. 😩😭 I feel SO guilty just saying all this 😣guilty that I told a few of my close friends, guilty that I accepted anything from the women, guilty I can’t be the friend she wants/needs. I swear I’m not trying to gossip about the poor lady, it’s just the situation had/has me shook .. I don’t understand why she keeps buying stuff? She hasn’t admitted to being a hoarder, I figured it out myself. She posted a few haul videos & I just couldn’t believe it, the background, the state of the house. So I put out some bait in a conversation (casually mentioning my craft room was “a mess”) she bit & I found out she cant get into/access at least one room where she lives. Shes in dept & I just found out she lives in a trailer. HOW CAN SHE SHOP THAT MUCH BUT LIVE IN A TRAILER?!?! She is in such a state but despite that she’s started posting “wish granting” videos!! Where you comment what you want & she sends it to you!! Thank god her channel is so tiny nobody has seen the videos!!! But that only depressed her more 🤦🏼‍♀️😒 I don’t know what to do to help her... all she wants to do is give yet she refuses to help herself.. anytime I reach out or am willing to be a friend she goes WAY overboard, like almost obsessive behaviour towards me. It’s very unsettling. I’m sure most people would have blocked her, but I worry if I did that it might be extremely harmful to her mental health. I have no idea what she’d do
      🥀🎶 all the lonely people, where do they all come from? All the lonely people, where do they all belong 🎶🥀

    • @MandyArtGames
      @MandyArtGames 3 роки тому +2

      @@MissEddieBlueKawaiiKrafts That's such a rough situation you're in. Don't feel guilty, that would freak anyone out. The person sounds like they need mental help. Maybe you could make mental awareness and mental health videos? You could give advice on keeping your hobbies organized and how to budget, not go overboard, maybe do a craft room tour, etc.

  • @carriekilmer5391
    @carriekilmer5391 6 років тому +1400

    What a lovely lady the hostess is so patient and kind. Best of luck to Olive.

    • @LuciaFiero
      @LuciaFiero 5 років тому +5

      How can one be a good hostess when you don't even make a place for your guests to sit? When you can't even access your stove to make tea?
      I guess all the hoarders watch this channel.

    • @jasminflower3814
      @jasminflower3814 5 років тому +97

      I think Carrie meant the TV Presenter.

    • @kimberlygarcia4194
      @kimberlygarcia4194 5 років тому +1

      N

    • @lulu5803
      @lulu5803 5 років тому +16

      @@LuciaFiero These poor people have a mental illness that they're getting help for.

    • @davinastanton3865
      @davinastanton3865 4 роки тому +19

      @@LuciaFiero
      Carrie meant the presenter. NOT the ladies in these houses.

  • @aliyamoon80
    @aliyamoon80 6 років тому +1236

    Depression is the beginning of hoarding disorder. There’s always a deep loss. Always.

    • @TracyD2
      @TracyD2 5 років тому +79

      aliyamoon80 It’s strange. I just realized I started to hoard after my sister was killed. 5 years ago. I finally opened my eyes and took a look around me.

    • @camillefulton7709
      @camillefulton7709 5 років тому +63

      YOU ARE RIGHT ON THE BALL, DEPRESSION ACCOMPANIES HOARDING. LOST MY BELOVED HUSBAND AFTER 4O YEARS.
      LIFE STOPPED HOARDING BEGAN.

    • @1985bjaycat
      @1985bjaycat 5 років тому +21

      @@TracyD2 I'm sorry about your sister. How traumatic and life changing.

    • @greenkitty82
      @greenkitty82 5 років тому +23

      Absolutely but to treat the depression the space needs to be cleared, help is needed, and also thinking of others happiness will bring you happiness. When we are depressed it's easy to just think of our own happiness and how bad you feel but when you think of others it will help eliminate those kind of feelings. But being cooped up in a hoarded house may be a comfort to the depressed person but it's the opposite that will reverse it.

    • @Lookatmeshine
      @Lookatmeshine 5 років тому +17

      I think hoarding behaviours start younger. For instance my friend used to collect empty crisp packets she found on the street and hide them under her bed and when she talks about her parents finding out and throwing them away you can tell she's still a bit heartbroken. I think it is the traumas that push it into the extreme levels required for diagnosis though.

  • @Phoenix-Vaughn
    @Phoenix-Vaughn 5 років тому +284

    Olive's story is so heartbreaking. She lost the love of her life and wanted 7 children with him. But she never loved again and never got to have those babies. 😢

    • @Kirmeins
      @Kirmeins 4 роки тому +24

      Oh, she may have never loved another man but she has a heart of gold. She is so full of love - there is such a gentleness about her she could be an awesome foster grandma to any child! Such a dear... I hope she is still doing great and has found away to clear out all that stuff to the point where she could go sit at that table her dad used to make her sit at and do homework. :) Such sweet memories deserve space!

    • @Phoenix-Vaughn
      @Phoenix-Vaughn 4 роки тому

      @@Kirmeins I agree!! 👍

    • @rachelvillarim3279
      @rachelvillarim3279 4 роки тому

      @@Kirmeins i agree ☝🏻

    • @shirleypena4133
      @shirleypena4133 3 роки тому +1

      @Phoenix Rising Why do you find Olive's story "heartbreaking"? She has a BIG home in one of the nicest seaside towns in all of Great Britain, while the majority of her fellow, elderly, native Brits lives in a tiny, dreary flat in rundown areas of London. If she had truly wanted to be married and have a whooping 7 children, then rest assured she would have gotten married and done precisely that.

    • @Phoenix-Vaughn
      @Phoenix-Vaughn 3 роки тому +10

      @@shirleypena4133 You clearly place more importance on things and property. She never got over her first love and couldn't ever see herself with another man. Being a single woman in a big beautiful house doesn't make up for the loss of the most important person in your life. You can hoard as much wealth and objects as you want, but it will never take the place of the love of a family.

  • @missx6230
    @missx6230 3 роки тому +246

    Oh my gosh Victoria went to my school I didn’t know she was dealing with this with her mum. I really hope their home has turned around for Janets sake. Vicky was very nice student lovely kind and always had a smile. God bless them you shall overcome ❤️🕊✝️👑

    • @WomanOnTopOnline
      @WomanOnTopOnline 3 роки тому +7

      Random comment, but you have my old UA-cam username: ‘Miss X’. I had it for many years! Maybe 10-15 years.

    • @defitiongroup2733
      @defitiongroup2733 3 роки тому +3

      can u find out the name of her song please ?

    • @excursionsoflove5200
      @excursionsoflove5200 3 роки тому +5

      Such a sweet message
      Bless you

    • @calibcrockett
      @calibcrockett 3 роки тому +2

      @@defitiongroup2733 Yeah I wanna know what that song she was singing is called, she's got a great voice :O

    • @DocBree13
      @DocBree13 2 роки тому +1

      She seems like one of the sweetest, most positive people I’ve ever seen.

  • @MazzyMadness
    @MazzyMadness 6 років тому +413

    What a beautiful moment to see Victoria’s mother beam with pride at her singing

    • @jasminflower3814
      @jasminflower3814 5 років тому +12

      What do you mean by your comment marcela?

    • @giovanna722
      @giovanna722 5 років тому +4

      @ Maddie That was incredible. It's like a huge light went on.

    • @slantos2668
      @slantos2668 5 років тому +8

      it was beautiful; but something is very wrong there, once Victoria came into the room the mother refused to smile and put on a sour face for her. I wish she could break through and be loving with her daughter.

    • @nessa8259
      @nessa8259 5 років тому

      Maddie Milligan yes, really really beautiful

    • @MHow-qc3ns
      @MHow-qc3ns 5 років тому +5

      @@slantos2668; I believe that was her mother's way of retaining control. Her disapproval keeps her daughter off balance not knowing whether her actions and responses are met with approval or disapproval which creates floating anxiety. Keeping her daughter unhappy keeps the mother in control.

  • @wkm3868
    @wkm3868 6 років тому +778

    "Her English is limited" it's really not, her comprehension and speaking is really good! She's just quiet and withdrawn.

    • @cherryberry44
      @cherryberry44 5 років тому +37

      @Jake Dean yes you can. It's body language

    • @rubenluna4656
      @rubenluna4656 5 років тому +56

      Depression is a mental illness.

    • @carteradrianner
      @carteradrianner 5 років тому +4

      W KM I agree with you.

    • @MsFrevrysPoetry
      @MsFrevrysPoetry 5 років тому +45

      Exactly! Nigerians speaks fluent English. It is her illness that shuts her down.

    • @monikakved5438
      @monikakved5438 4 роки тому +6

      Illness and also Nigerians talk in their own dialect.

  • @chyt1200
    @chyt1200 6 років тому +674

    Olive is a person you can just sit and listen to for hours just a beautiful soul inside an out love when she's talking and her gumpy ways and words and she's so funny and just a heart of gold

    • @yabiyabi
      @yabiyabi 6 років тому +1

      Omg yes!! Olive is so precious!

    • @WobblesandBean
      @WobblesandBean 6 років тому +8

      I disagree. I understand she's got an illness, but she's trying to keep animals in that awful state, and there's just no excuse for that. It's actually a relief she never married and has no children, because to be forced to grow up in that environment is nothing short of child abuse. That poor cat needs to be removed from her care.
      Not only that, but when the cameras aren't pointed at her she turns extremely nasty, as the help she was offered can attest. I mean, she IS a baby boomer, after all. I'm just hesitant to believe that she's as saintly as she comes off in front of the camera, you know?

    • @afrarunduml1170
      @afrarunduml1170 5 років тому +35

      Obviously the cat is fine.
      Olive is not an animal horder. Just things. And the things doesn't bother Toby. He can go outside, and a pile of old news papers is a cosy bed for him. Not for an old lady, but for a cat, it is.

    • @YogaToSamadhi
      @YogaToSamadhi 5 років тому +2

      @@WobblesandBean I bet you are a vegan!

    • @arkaela1049
      @arkaela1049 5 років тому +19

      Wobbles and Bean you need to chill. the amount of animals who have no love and are physically tortured but you’re going to talk about how olive is basically an animal abuser? that is just not true. that cat has more love in its life then a lot of animals in “clean” homes do.

  • @rogerioribeiro3230
    @rogerioribeiro3230 4 роки тому +107

    I really think that the way Jasmine speaks to these folks is so gentle and none judgemental. Olive recycling all those cans to give money to charity actually melted my heart.

    • @Tavat
      @Tavat 3 роки тому +3

      Same.Beautiful and true people.

    • @kerstinbraun9102
      @kerstinbraun9102 Рік тому +2

      Melted my heart, too, and tears came out. Such a beautiful person. I suppose most hoarders are beautiful people in a very special way, but all the world can see is their wall of "useless" things and their "strange" ways.

  • @tocc
    @tocc 4 роки тому +78

    Jasmine is the true definition of beautiful inside and out

  • @jessa.4529
    @jessa.4529 6 років тому +274

    "We've lost a tin of tuna"-Olive. Such a dear. I love her. And the show host, such empathy

  • @Kparso01
    @Kparso01 6 років тому +1038

    That mom... i bet shes been through so much. You can just tell.

    • @spinningsage7727
      @spinningsage7727 6 років тому +60

      Kparso01 my heartfelt for her. having her bags packed to return to her home...just heartbreaking to imagine all those seeking refuge far from thier homeland♥️

    • @WobblesandBean
      @WobblesandBean 6 років тому +46

      Yes...it really hits you hard, doesn't it? Thank goodness that there are nations willing to shelter these people, who are terrified and fearing for their lives. They have no home to go back to anymore. It's gotta be so scary, living in a country where you don't even have a good command of the native language, all to provide your children the safety and prosperity you never had.

    • @59Smythe
      @59Smythe 5 років тому +90

      @@spinningsage7727 I feel the same. Her body language shows how hard it is for her to be touched, even by her children. What on earth happened to her? I wish her peace and a much brighter future.

    • @raquellofstedt9713
      @raquellofstedt9713 5 років тому +68

      And that smile when she hears her daughter sing. Beautiful!

    • @ysirk7253
      @ysirk7253 5 років тому +8

      when you can't get to what has hurt you... betrayed you. For some reason you hurt the ppl who are around. She's so torn and broken and she is making her daughter pay for her inability to cope. I feel for the woman because my grandmother does this to me and my mother. But my heart goes out to her daughter. Because I've seen my mother's heart ache when her mother is an ass. It's such a difficult and heart wrenching situation. My prayers go out to them all.

  • @ahoardersheart
    @ahoardersheart 6 років тому +578

    I am a hoarder a well. And I want to share with everyone that it sucks. The overwhelming anxiety you feel when letting go of an item can feel physically painful. I kid you not. We developed such an attachment to it: whether it’s attaching value, attaching memories, attaching self identity to the item. The pain/anxiety feels like you’re letting your first born child go. I’m not sure why we’re wired that way. But...I am ready to change...I am ready to “re-wire” my brain. I’m learning to replace the anxiety with joy. I’ll get there, Day by Day, Item by Item because I’m determined to heal from it.

    • @Illusionentochter
      @Illusionentochter 5 років тому +51

      I wish you good luck and a lot of strength on your way!

    • @povyi9394
      @povyi9394 5 років тому +2

      My 9 yr old daughter is a hoarder.

    • @jermiinus
      @jermiinus 5 років тому +27

      @@povyi9394 Are you planning on doing something about it as her mom? I hated it when my mom threw my things out without my permission when I was a kid. She would, however, only throw out (or give away) stuff I didn't use and had forgotten - it would be months later that I would figure out it was gone. However, as I have become older I understod why she did it and I'm really grateful for it.

    • @Offensive_Username
      @Offensive_Username 5 років тому +23

      If a 9 year old daughter is a hoarder, I would blame the parents. Teach your kids that materialism isn't _that_ important.

    • @hoonta0h687
      @hoonta0h687 5 років тому +2

      youre literally a joke.

  • @ruththomas1652
    @ruththomas1652 5 років тому +324

    My favorite part: Olive says, "We've lost a tin of tuna." Camera pans over to cat. Cat looks away. "Tuna? I don't know anything about a tin of tuna."

    • @liztrainer895
      @liztrainer895 3 роки тому +11

      He said this as he was licking his chops thinking that was delicious.

    • @donnabrasher3303
      @donnabrasher3303 3 роки тому +15

      If cats had opposable thumbs, they would master can openers and rule the world-😉

    • @ink3539
      @ink3539 3 роки тому +7

      @@donnabrasher3303 even without opposable thumbs, mine can still open the fridge and a friend had to babyproof her cupboards - cats are determined lmao

  • @susansherlock7474
    @susansherlock7474 3 роки тому +101

    Olive is filling in the spaces where her family used to be...

  • @wkm3868
    @wkm3868 6 років тому +466

    "The more time I spend with Olive, the more I realize just what an extraordinary life she lives" IM CRYING SO HARD

    • @Thecanadianwitch
      @Thecanadianwitch 5 років тому +6

      same

    • @nora4981
      @nora4981 4 роки тому +3

      Probably write this with a straight face and dry as Sahara eyes 😂

    • @idfk1123
      @idfk1123 4 роки тому +1

      Yup

    • @aprilsilvers381
      @aprilsilvers381 3 роки тому +1

      I would have to have a break to go by myself and cry for her before I could move on to help her. So I can only imagine what it is like for her

  • @Blessed849
    @Blessed849 6 років тому +231

    So amazing that Ms.Olive is so lucid at her age. She's got a heart of gold, see how she treats her cat and how charitable she is.

    • @Terri_MacKay
      @Terri_MacKay 5 років тому +7

      My Granny passed away last year at 97, and she was lucid and coherent until her last breath. In fact, despite being in hospice care, she was laughing and joking with us just a few hours before she passed away.
      I worked in a mall with a lot of older customers. I had many customers in their 80's and 90's who had absolutely no symptoms of dementia, who were very active, went hiking and swimming, went on a couple holidays a year. Meeting so many people like that started to make me feel positively young, and I'm in my 50's. 😁

  • @XWoodbineX
    @XWoodbineX 6 років тому +244

    Vicky's mum Jannet, has absolutely NO self esteem poor lady. You can just tell from her body language. She never looks up, never looks anyone in the eye. When people praise her, she has no emotion to it.
    She needs help to rebuild that badly, and help in believing in herself.
    I feel so sorry for. I have no idea what's happened in her past.

    • @lillianwilliams5510
      @lillianwilliams5510 5 років тому +6

      Olive is more aware of her situation and understands the need to change.
      She has lived like this for so long,alone.
      I wish they could move Olive and Janet and Vicki someplace else.
      Clean.out the house and then teach them how to keep it neat.
      Vicky has accepted her mother's hoarding.
      She will need serious help,to cope.
      Janet has severe mental disorder
      She has something, much more than. Depression.
      Janet acts like she is on medication that is making her almost catatonic
      I wish they could have cleared, Olives bed or made a place downstairs.
      Was there a follow up.
      What happened to Olive, Janet and vicki.

    • @billwilson5341
      @billwilson5341 5 років тому +6

      The "not looking anyone in the eye" may simply be cultural.

    • @DanieladeAzevedo
      @DanieladeAzevedo 4 роки тому

      @@billwilson5341 This is true, I live in South Africa and for cultral reasons looking and talking to someone with direct eye contact is considered rude by many especially the elders. I can not speak for other African countries but where I live this does apply.

    • @billwilson5341
      @billwilson5341 4 роки тому +1

      @@DanieladeAzevedo : Haitians are the same. I agree, it seems this is more with the elderly.

  • @sherrielocke9367
    @sherrielocke9367 5 років тому +50

    My mother is a hoarder, the challenge has been that every time I can get a cabinet or cupboard emptied out the room is full. It's been a 30 year nightmare. Bless you for helping these people

  • @WhoToldYouThatAtlanta
    @WhoToldYouThatAtlanta 4 роки тому +56

    This is so awesome that unlike other shows this woman is helping people heal from her own personal experience of hurt, this is an awesome act of humanity and love 💕 🙏🏽

  • @CoralineXVermin
    @CoralineXVermin 5 років тому +142

    “It’s amazing that we’ve both stood...”
    Olive looking at Toby “the three of us”
    I pray that someone loves me as much as she loves her cat

    • @godsgrasshopper272
      @godsgrasshopper272 5 років тому +1

      The cameraman.

    • @CoralineXVermin
      @CoralineXVermin 5 років тому +12

      Gods Grasshopper it’s very obvious that she meant Toby. She looked straight at him.

  • @victoriaf8571
    @victoriaf8571 6 років тому +322

    Olive only has Toby, I can understand her fear of losing things or forgetting

  • @hellybelle5
    @hellybelle5 6 років тому +633

    I love the woman presenting the program, as she can't understand it, but she knows how to speak to them. I'm a hoarder and have a friend who is going to help me, before it gets as bad as this.

    • @notimportant3914
      @notimportant3914 6 років тому +2

      Wow, that's great. My mom is a hoarder, she asked me to help her about a year ago.. when I went over one day to get started, she didn't want to start that day, and hasn't asked again... I don't want to be pushy but she's never going to want to "get started". And would never allow me to do it myself! Just be strong, follow through, and I'm sure you'll be happier for it. Cheers.

    • @ella-bt8hp
      @ella-bt8hp 6 років тому +2

      That's great you've got a friend who is wanting to help you out with it. I guess videos like this must show you the reality of where it will and can end up. I've always been fascinated by these programs I've had addiction problems in my life and it seems like the person hoarding is 100% addicted to hoarding there possessions. I'm glad it's being professionally regognised now a proper disorder so people can get the help they need. Much love to you. X

    • @ella-bt8hp
      @ella-bt8hp 6 років тому

      Sorry I meant to put much luck 🍀 to you and my predicted text changed it. Won't let me edit.

    • @courtneym143
      @courtneym143 6 років тому

      That's great you're getting help. You can do it. :)

    • @graceandpeace4414
      @graceandpeace4414 6 років тому

      Hellybelle bless you

  • @katlozbee
    @katlozbee 3 роки тому +131

    I’ve met olive many times, she’s a tough cookie and still collects bits

    • @sarcasticallyrearranged
      @sarcasticallyrearranged 3 роки тому +22

      Her obituary said that she died in 2018 and was 93 years old.
      I doubt that it's Olive that you're seeing, unless you're imagining things.

    • @katlozbee
      @katlozbee 3 роки тому +22

      @@sarcasticallyrearranged I’ve not seen her for few years , she was 92 , that’s sad , she used to visit a lady I used to care for so I saw her then

    • @sarcasticallyrearranged
      @sarcasticallyrearranged 3 роки тому +12

      Why would you say that you see her around then?

    • @JoannaTiller
      @JoannaTiller 3 роки тому +20

      @@sarcasticallyrearranged she's met her many times._.

    • @lydielouise6772
      @lydielouise6772 3 роки тому +14

      @@sarcasticallyrearranged loool is English difficult?? She’s met her not seeing her around 😏

  • @milels6917
    @milels6917 3 роки тому +170

    I’m so surprised how fit Olive is for her age she walks well and can climb over all those things

    • @capableofgreatness8804
      @capableofgreatness8804 3 роки тому +1

      lol, i was thinking that too

    • @r3alsenshi
      @r3alsenshi 3 роки тому +2

      My mom was like that too. I was always amazed by her strength.

    • @MrFuchew
      @MrFuchew 3 роки тому +13

      the hoard has made her mighty

    • @shirleypena4133
      @shirleypena4133 3 роки тому +3

      @@MrFuchew No, a complete lack of doing any actual WORK her whole life has spared her body of the wear and tear that happens to most women who live a REAL, NORMAL lifestyle.

    • @AL-fl4jk
      @AL-fl4jk 2 роки тому +2

      @@shirleypena4133 hey boomer also quick tip - if you’re gonna be a c@nt online, don’t use your real name and photo. 😁😁😁😁😁

  • @carolgage4569
    @carolgage4569 6 років тому +252

    Janet’s old photos show her smiling. She finds it hard to smile, now. 😕 Except when Vicky sang, then just briefly.

    • @catherinem421
      @catherinem421 5 років тому +41

      Janet's case touched me so deep. I feel so much for her. I cried when she saw Victoria singing. I really hope she gets help from a mental health professional. The one shown here didn't seem qualified to handle the severity of Janet's condition.

    • @SQUELCH-zj7il
      @SQUELCH-zj7il 4 роки тому +6

      @@catherinem421 I agree, the councillor seemed a bit tame for her.

    • @l.michelle3497
      @l.michelle3497 3 роки тому +2

      I was a huge and genuine smile though.
      The effect of that will help change at a cellular level for months and even years to come.
      It takes a bit of processing , when you've been stuck, but that moment really will make a difference for more than just the time of the expression 💓

  • @gaslitworldf.melissab2897
    @gaslitworldf.melissab2897 5 років тому +707

    Seems like more than Depression with the Nigerian family. I really wonder. She's nearly catatonic. There must be trauma. Where is the rest of her family? The story must be there, some at least. Certainly, her childhood is a big question mark.

    • @luisparga5707
      @luisparga5707 5 років тому +2

      GaslitWorld f. Melissa B

    • @jamaicanbeauty8120
      @jamaicanbeauty8120 5 років тому +48

      @Annette Thomas People ask where is the family? Sometimes the family is met with so much resistance that they have to back off and love from a distance to protect their own mental health. You can't help everyone and I would try but I would not subject my kids to this. If we just simply throw their stuff away, y'all are the same people that would say that it's cruel and not good for them. Be realistic people

    • @jeaniejbutler4911
      @jeaniejbutler4911 5 років тому +43

      plus if you throw away their items it wont be long till its filled again with new items...they have to do it on their terms...sad but true.

    • @levibrown5783
      @levibrown5783 5 років тому +8

      This almost made me cry

    • @MHow-qc3ns
      @MHow-qc3ns 5 років тому +51

      @Thornback: Easier said than done. Depression will put you into a catatonic state. Moving is impossible. It feels as if you are under anesthesia and for all intents and purposes, you are.

  • @gigieyre
    @gigieyre 5 років тому +181

    Jasmine is such a wonderful person. I'm so glad that she is the presenter. She can relate to each person and she knows the depth of their feelings. Hoarding is such a sad illness. It separates families living in the same house. I hope Vickie can make her own way. She seems so well adjusted despite her upbringing.

    • @publicserviceannouncement4777
      @publicserviceannouncement4777 4 роки тому +5

      "It separates families living in the same house..." well said

    • @MsZeus49
      @MsZeus49 3 роки тому +2

      My parents loved to “collect” ....
      I helped them numerous times....
      The one thing that always bothered me was the amount of money spent on unused stuff and the time accumulating it all.
      God bless Jasmine!

  • @assajventress3204
    @assajventress3204 4 роки тому +116

    Olives sweetheart never died, because in her mind, she's still the loyal girl waiting back home for her soulmate to come back from the wars. For 70 years. Every can recycled, funds donated, is her supporting her man fight the good fight and keeping him safe, and alive.
    In Olives mind, 1932 never ended. 😥

  • @carriecoleman2195
    @carriecoleman2195 4 роки тому +18

    I seriously started crying when I saw the look on Janets face when she saw Vicki singing. It was the only time she actually looked engaged, and she was absolutely beaming with pride. She loves her daughter so much, I think she’s just far too distraught with her own trauma and sadness to show it very much. I hope nothing but the best for those beautiful souls - they both deserve so much more than the lot they’ve been given.

  • @viviane_casella
    @viviane_casella 5 років тому +82

    I'm crying!!! The mum's smile when she entered that room and her daughter was singing. She lighten up. I think many of these people are profoundly lonely and lost, when they receive a helping hand a kind ear, they begin to shed off the weight of their sorrow.

    • @catherinem421
      @catherinem421 5 років тому +8

      I agree with everything except lonely. She isn't lonely, (well, she might be..) what she has is severe depression. So severe she is quite unresponsive. I was so surprised at how she still had access to her stove and it was clean. That shows she hasn't lost the will to live, but she is so deep in it. I feel so much for her.

  • @snowpawzvideos
    @snowpawzvideos 5 років тому +207

    can we just talk about how pure Toby is for a second

    • @TheSilentStan
      @TheSilentStan 4 роки тому +29

      He was like a little guide for her throughout the whole thing, standing by her, no judgement...just love and companionship.

    • @ink3539
      @ink3539 3 роки тому +1

      @@TheSilentStan Yesss, and I love how she cares about him

    • @debtrethewey-tervree9928
      @debtrethewey-tervree9928 3 роки тому +2

      Yes! They're each others Only. A pets love is unconditional because they could care less about what mood you're in or how you look or how unattractive you might think you look when you're sick or how you are mentally (depressed, sick, etc.) &/or physically. They just want to be with by your side no matter what ❤

  • @jkl799
    @jkl799 6 років тому +211

    Finally.. A person that is trying to help the reason behind the hording. Nicely done. Hugs

  • @prittygirl411
    @prittygirl411 5 років тому +82

    @36:50 I fell in love with Olive when she corrected Jasmine, "3 of us!"

    • @Dearmylove_i
      @Dearmylove_i 3 роки тому +8

      Yes, that got to me too. ♥️

    • @abie3723
      @abie3723 3 роки тому

      Ooouuu how lovely

  • @LuxPepetua
    @LuxPepetua 4 роки тому +151

    Why is it that the English version of "reality-Tv" is so heartwarming and real, and the American version is just drama…?

    • @spincity850
      @spincity850 4 роки тому +34

      because Americans love drama, all their TV has to be full of stupid sound effects and arguments.

    • @friendenthusiasm8337
      @friendenthusiasm8337 3 роки тому +2

      you nailed it....so true

    • @Stonk5331
      @Stonk5331 3 роки тому

      DUUUUUUUUUUUUUUH

    • @sarcasticallyrearranged
      @sarcasticallyrearranged 3 роки тому +9

      None of the people are about to be evicted /taken their children away /have the city threatening to condemn the property which is why the American program is much more frantic.

    • @aileenmoore7503
      @aileenmoore7503 3 роки тому +5

      They are made for a very different audience.

  • @evcotter08
    @evcotter08 6 років тому +1687

    No one should ever feel bad talking to a cat. They understand so much more than many give them credit for

    • @TayMont217
      @TayMont217 5 років тому +55

      evcotter08 I’m 25 and I talked to my cat. Today the little furrball woke me up at 4 am in the morning demanding to be fed, so I fed him and I been awake since then watching this and more and talking to him how upset I am that it’s my day off and I should be sleeping in but no he magically disturbed my peace and my sleep

    • @TheDENTAGE
      @TheDENTAGE 5 років тому +7

      nothing like a chatty pussy

    • @Offensive_Username
      @Offensive_Username 5 років тому +8

      evcotter08 = crazy cat person

    • @snoopyandmuffmuffin5358
      @snoopyandmuffmuffin5358 5 років тому +19

      I talk to my dogs!

    • @LuciaFiero
      @LuciaFiero 5 років тому +37

      Right, the reason people will think she's insane is because she talks to her cat... Not because of the insane mess she lives in.

  • @nonamerocks2807
    @nonamerocks2807 6 років тому +606

    UR way of helping hoarders is 100% better then the American circus, excuse me t.v. Show that aims on embarrassing and an invasion of the hoarders home. This is much better, offer off camera counsel and empty the hoard, sort it and he.p them not publicity shame them, ai4 the very dirtiest of personal dark pits for the thrill of the American viewing public. Well done Young Lady!! Plus your own Mimi’s on your. Show with no shame or embarrassing unnecessary moments. Again, We’ll Done!

    • @LuciaFiero
      @LuciaFiero 5 років тому +37

      They didn't help Olive at all. Just rearranged deck chairs on the titanic. Come back in a year, that tent will be filled and all the space she cleared from her house into the tent will be filled, too.

    • @jasminflower3814
      @jasminflower3814 5 років тому +14

      What a shame they didn't keep helping poor old Olive.

    • @geoffdearth7360
      @geoffdearth7360 5 років тому +2

      Yes America the Terrible. We'll Done!

    • @darienford860
      @darienford860 5 років тому +9

      That's your opinion I think you misunderstanding mocking versus being upfront that the person has a problem. But in the US you are at risk of losing your home if the hoarding is this bad, it becomes a biohazard. You're just trying to find a way to shit on America

    • @darienford860
      @darienford860 5 років тому +7

      @@geoffdearth7360 "we'll" ?

  • @emilyroberts3832
    @emilyroberts3832 5 років тому +287

    "July 1998..."
    "It's all right"
    "It's not all right!"
    "Yeah it is!"
    "It's fifteen years out of date!"

    • @tns9802
      @tns9802 5 років тому +13

      Emily Roberts “ Its just sugar....

    • @amayakhler1551
      @amayakhler1551 5 років тому +55

      If you listen closely, you can hear Gordon Ramsay yelling in the distance.

    • @marquisdehoto1638
      @marquisdehoto1638 4 роки тому +15

      I guess if you lived during the war you see things diffrently xD

    • @mobutter2879
      @mobutter2879 3 роки тому +4

      You know she smells too.. her little coat is filthy. How does she eat? If she doesn’t have a kitchen? I would be afraid of rats.. she can’t even see the ground.

    • @WomanOnTopOnline
      @WomanOnTopOnline 3 роки тому

      @@mobutter2879 I noticed her coat was filthy too. They mentioned in the programme that she gets her food from a community centre and she showers somewhere locally too.

  • @carmenm.478
    @carmenm.478 4 роки тому +33

    I feel most for the young lady. She's been forced to endure her mother's depression.

  • @Weeviltime
    @Weeviltime 5 років тому +53

    Janets so depressed it’s absolutely heart breaking and she radiates much sadness i can almost feel how much pain shes in i hope shes doing better and is getting the help she needs

  • @nicole_toast
    @nicole_toast 6 років тому +255

    I feel so moved by this. They really did put so much patience and understanding for these people unlike the other hoarding shows you see.
    Here you can see they genuinely care and respect them yet work in a positive way to help them get through it. In other shows you see the hosts almost bully the hoarder into letting go of their things (albeit every situation is different so I can’t say it happens all the time).
    I feel like despite the way the show goes about being patient with the hoarders, in the long run they’re ultimately better off mentally, emotionally and physically. Even if it is the longer, and harder path to take. The time they put in is not wasted and I’m glad to see this being dealt with in a healthy way. I truly hope things are well for the family as well as Olive, they deserve to feel happy and have a space they can feel unburdened by.

    • @nightmare035
      @nightmare035 5 років тому +7

      I put this on to judge people on my high horse.
      I actually cried.

    • @gloria7324
      @gloria7324 5 років тому +3

      Yes exactly. In the American hoarder shows, they try to do a cleanup in like, 2-7 days. And they offer about a year's worth of hoarder-geared counseling afterward. But, the way they handle it seems to be another big trauma for most of the "clients". In this one, they spent MONTHS helping them, giving them space, being respectful while encouraging.

    • @MHow-qc3ns
      @MHow-qc3ns 5 років тому +4

      @@gloria7324: In the American Hoarder series, the clean up is urgent. Either the person is on the brink of homelessness, financial disaster, on the brink of losing their life because of disease caused by the hoard, or on the brink of losing their family or a particular member of the family like a child or husband or wife.
      In the English Hoarder series, you are dealing with the reason for the intervention -- the hoard itself and the effect it has on the hoarder or the family. There is no urgency here just the concern for the hoarder.
      Both series on both sides of the Pond are very interesting as well as heartrending.

  • @nopeimnotsorry9472
    @nopeimnotsorry9472 6 років тому +154

    Janet seems like she’s in extreme emotional pain.

  • @grayskindablue
    @grayskindablue 5 років тому +38

    “It’s Victoria’s song!” and that massive smile really melted my heart. She was clearly so, so deep into depression, and it was like her daughters beautiful voice broke that dark veil. I hope they’re both doing so well today. And Olive’s story broke my heart, she’s clearly so, so lonely. And never grieved. I know hoarding is a serious condition, but a lot of hoarding shows have really rude people- being disrespectful to everyone around you isn’t part of having a serious condition. These people were both resistant and frustrating at times, but not flat-out disrespectful. It was really different to see people so genuinely just. Struggling. And slowly opening up and letting people in and getting better. It was really a good watch. And huge props to this lovely woman, Jasmine, who took her and her mother’s struggle into a way to help others.

  • @queenofbudgies8334
    @queenofbudgies8334 3 роки тому +24

    Olive is a gem there is little people left in the world with a pure heart like that

  • @Te3time
    @Te3time 5 років тому +49

    Janet is the saddest person I've ever seen it was so touching when she saw her daughter sing I hope she is doing better now

  • @TheLmack8
    @TheLmack8 5 років тому +221

    Thank you for doing this. I am ashamed how the US hoarding program(s) handle this subject. The extreme editing, the shame, the addition of unneeded drama and judgement is disgusting.

    • @NikiOglesbyVargas
      @NikiOglesbyVargas 5 років тому +6

      Well don't watch our U.S. TV shows then.

    • @lolasmom5816
      @lolasmom5816 5 років тому +15

      Which show ended with clean houses and which didnt?

    • @ledgrowlabs442
      @ledgrowlabs442 4 роки тому

      I love them both vomit illnesses R horrible especially when u can't take care of your self hope they get help that all that matters there's people willing to help some never get the help more help is needed always for reasons for a chance an a change

    • @Kubulek17
      @Kubulek17 4 роки тому +17

      @@lolasmom5816 show me their houses 6 months later and we’ll see who actually succeeded. The ones with a brand new hoard or the ones who kept their hoard at the reduced level.

    • @liztrainer895
      @liztrainer895 3 роки тому +5

      The main reason is so they won’t loose the home .

  • @ElanTee
    @ElanTee 6 років тому +83

    Jasmine deserves a medal. She's an angel!

  • @pinkgoth6
    @pinkgoth6 6 років тому +458

    the real hero here is toby

    • @piperalice
      @piperalice 5 років тому +38

      Have you noticed that Toby is very similar to the cat she was holding in the picture of her with her parents (which must have been taken around the 1950's)

    • @catherinem421
      @catherinem421 5 років тому +8

      I was also taken aback by how much the looks of cats had changed since then (evolution).

    • @marzidayzirhonavand3743
      @marzidayzirhonavand3743 5 років тому +19

      He's even more human in that understanding way than those trying to help, SUPER SMART KITTY, you rule my world as ALL AnimaliA do... Blessings to you all...

    • @Meira750
      @Meira750 5 років тому +10

      A marvellous cat!

    • @chrisberry7712
      @chrisberry7712 4 роки тому +5

      Absolutely! Cats stay where they know they are loved, and Olive’s got the biggest heart!

  • @katarinakitanovic9217
    @katarinakitanovic9217 4 роки тому +19

    Cried at the end, I just love it how Jasmine is not pushing people over their boundaries at once, but gives them time to adjust and takes them step by step towards a better life.

  • @melaniehowe2179
    @melaniehowe2179 5 років тому +59

    I love this show. Its real and honest. There isn't always a happy ending and grand reveals. However the fact that olive could get into a room she hadn't seen since 1996 is absolutely amazing!! I really hope they can get the stairs cleaned up and safe for her.
    Victoria is probably one of the most beautiful poised loving people I've ever seen. Even with everything shes been through she is kind and loving and cares very much for her mother.
    Thank you for this show and also sharing your own experiences. I'm sure it's not easy to talk about. My mother was also a hoarder and I've never talked about it. It's always been a huge family secret :-(

  • @jadelee6555
    @jadelee6555 5 років тому +285

    That Nigerian lady is clearly homesick. These cases make me feel so sorry for all the individuals involved :(

    • @junsimmer7388
      @junsimmer7388 5 років тому +17

      True.
      If her daughter could help her back to Nigeria. She get back on track

    • @rockstarofredondo
      @rockstarofredondo 5 років тому +15

      Exactly, she needs to go back to her homeland and her family should go with her. I think they would all be happier.

    • @chriskatt
      @chriskatt 5 років тому +55

      @@rockstarofredondo no that's not an good idea. If the mom wants back home she should go. But to say her kids to go with her won't work out. They are used to the way they live in the UK. It would be traumatic for them to go back. They would get depressed in Nigeria as their mom got depressed in the UK.
      I speak from my own experience. My family and I moved from one country to an other when I was 6. My grandmother wants back and us to go with her. Because she thinks if she goes back everything will be as good as 17 years ago. She lives in the memory. I couldn't imagine to live there where I'm from. Starting from the language to overall style of living or to leave all people I know here and start new somewhere I don't want to.
      So if the mother is so homesick she should go. But her children should have a chance to decide to go with her or not. They still could help her when she moves back eg sending money.

    • @rockstarofredondo
      @rockstarofredondo 5 років тому +5

      Chriska T The family should be kept together. That’s where this depression is rooted. The family is fractured.

    • @thtpeacechic
      @thtpeacechic 5 років тому +24

      rockstarofredondo as a mother, I would never want my daughter to have that responsibility of keep me happy.

  • @purpleflametarot39
    @purpleflametarot39 5 років тому +105

    You're a wonderful person Jasmine. So much compassion. Sadly missing in the world today. Thank you and blessings to you.

    • @tonibauer2949
      @tonibauer2949 5 років тому +6

      Purple Flame Tarot there is actually a great deal of compassion out there. I am an older person with health issues and find it is true. My 93 year old mother, who was still very with it mentally, while being in almost constant pain, died this July. There were so many people who showed her compassion in almost every facet of her life. I try hard to extend that same compassion to others, to the greatest extent I can.

  • @VampirelaPR
    @VampirelaPR 6 років тому +107

    After the death of my brother, my mother has become a hoarder. She is still in denial after 10 years. Its easy to go down that path. I caught it early on me and dealt with it.

    • @Eeee-xl4xb
      @Eeee-xl4xb 6 років тому +1

      Aw ):

    • @catherinem421
      @catherinem421 5 років тому +4

      Loss is so hard already. If you can, see if you can get her to speak with a mental health professional. That will do the most good. Hoarding is just a symptom of a deeper issue.

  • @WillowJordan1979
    @WillowJordan1979 4 роки тому +40

    It's so wholesome that the host actually appreciates Olive so much and gives her credit for her good deeds.

  • @freedomgrrrl5707
    @freedomgrrrl5707 4 роки тому +33

    The smile on the moms face as she saw her daughter singing .it was instant connection .she even reached out for a hug .the daughter hugged jasmine first ..natural...it set the mom a bit back in her she'll it's like she saw her younger joy to n her daughter

  • @StCloud-ns7vt
    @StCloud-ns7vt 5 років тому +57

    Jasmine's empathy for Janet and her daughter warms my heart. Bring Jasmine to the US! :)

  • @Thelizzyrose13
    @Thelizzyrose13 6 років тому +769

    This motivates me to be extra clean

    • @Offensive_Username
      @Offensive_Username 5 років тому +18

      Being a clean freak is the other extreme.

    • @yashashdave123
      @yashashdave123 5 років тому +16

      Thats a mental issue too ! Just enjoy and keep regular clean ! Thats it !

    • @speerrituall1
      @speerrituall1 5 років тому +3

      This is a mental illness.

    • @FloydLUVpaco
      @FloydLUVpaco 5 років тому +32

      I agree with you, every time I’m being lazy to clean up a little I binge watch these videos and immediately clean my room inside out top to bottom. I’ve gotten rid of 3/4 of my closet and 75% of my room decor. Clutter is painfully annoying to me now

    • @bettyjohnson4875
      @bettyjohnson4875 5 років тому +15

      Yes! I'm bagging stuff now that I don't need and giving it away or going in the trash! I refuse to hoard!

  • @mamamarianovits9029
    @mamamarianovits9029 5 років тому +79

    Oh Vicky, what a sweet, loving daughter. Her mother ought to feel so proud of her....and thankful.!!

    • @happyhorse1028
      @happyhorse1028 4 роки тому +8

      Mama Marianovits her mother is lucky to have such a lovely daughter.

    • @ena8540
      @ena8540 3 роки тому +3

      Very true

  • @annabrown4731
    @annabrown4731 5 років тому +62

    the presenter is so patient with Olive wow

  • @itszenbaby
    @itszenbaby 3 роки тому +13

    I can really relate to Vicky and Janet’s situation. My ma is a first generation immigrant from the Philippines who has suffered with depression for the last 17 years. In my childhood we would have family and friends over for gatherings and celebrations. Now because of all the clutter from hoarding, we haven’t had family and friends over in years. No one comes to my house. It is quite embarrassing. I do my best to help and provide for my ma and younger siblings but it is difficult to be consistent. My childhood was cut short because of my ma’s depression and hoarding. Im so glad this lady is helping people with their problems.

  • @mrsboxcar
    @mrsboxcar 6 років тому +119

    My husband's whole family are hoarders. They kept everything. To remove clothes from the house, I have to sneak them to Good Will or take scissors to them. I have to throw old food in the woods so that it doesn't end up back in the fridge. It is absolute hell living with a hoarder. I've also noticed they also have additive personalities like gambling, smoking and drinking. They are inventive in their hidey-holes and it can be frustrating to live a normal clean existence.

    • @Mambo.Canibal
      @Mambo.Canibal 5 років тому +10

      So youre dumping garbage in the woods

    • @thatevilchicken
      @thatevilchicken 5 років тому +1

      mrsboxcar just leave him? Fuck that lol

    • @chasedbyvvolves9256
      @chasedbyvvolves9256 5 років тому +23

      @@Mambo.Canibal if it's organic material, there's no real harm. it will rot down and feed the plants around it, or a lucky critter will find it.

    • @catherinem421
      @catherinem421 5 років тому +11

      Your doing that isn't getting to the root of the problem, and when they realize what you've done, it will make it worse for them. Get them proper help by speaking with a mental health professional. Hoarding, depression, and addiction are symptoms of deeper underlying issues.

    • @tonibauer2949
      @tonibauer2949 5 років тому +15

      It would be great if these people could accept psychological help, but they are unlikely to unless threatened with loss of a home. I commend you for your efforts, though I know it is unappreciated. You may need to let it go sometime. Best wishes and blessings to you.

  • @morganstarchild3103
    @morganstarchild3103 6 років тому +101

    Why can't the community help build a easy to sort recycling unit for olive in her garden I think it's what they call a yard, but that'd keep her home inside clear and still be able to recycle and do what makes her happy to give to charity and raise money for the homeless she's amazing.
    It broke my heart when the daughter started crying when they were talking about her room being clean and her mom just dead ass staring off into space, empty eyes, flat responses and her body language and overall attitude just is very very sad. I seriously hope she got herself together and has a good relationship with her daughter bc if not that's the tragedy, I hope that she continues to stay cleared up. Blessed be

    • @faithrada
      @faithrada 5 років тому +25

      Unfortunately... the more room you give a hoarder... the more they will just fill those spaces up.

    • @LuciaFiero
      @LuciaFiero 5 років тому +2

      @@faithrada Why can't she just stop recycling until she has made space for recycling within her own house? She could make that house s recycling center if she would just part with all the useless crap she won't let go of...

    • @eavening4149
      @eavening4149 5 років тому +15

      She's flat because of depression...the mother seems to have an extreme case. I hope she's able to overcome this.

    • @catherinem421
      @catherinem421 5 років тому +9

      Yes, Janet's depression is extreme. If you haven't experienced it you wouldn't understand. When they were in Victoria's room and she wasn't happy, she was showing apathy. When she made the decision to get ride of the suitcases with stuff, it wasn't a 'breakthrough', it was cause the was upset and fed up.
      I think many people would benefit from maybe taking psychology classes, because many of you are lacking empathy.

  • @PuffyWuzHere
    @PuffyWuzHere 6 років тому +229

    My parents are mild hoarders and it is so extremely stressful, when I try to clean out the house they get very upset with me

    • @victoriatube159
      @victoriatube159 6 років тому

      I know the pain it took me 3 months to get rid of one blender when my dad had 4

    • @shannonleeann5643
      @shannonleeann5643 6 років тому +1

      It's a control thing. You cleaning makes them lose control of what they have. Best of luck

    • @ahoardersheart
      @ahoardersheart 6 років тому

      DeathNoteKiraluver they will get upset at you...because the extreme anxiety of letting the item go can be so overbearing. You actually feel physical pain...and you don’t know how to explain it but you feel attacked by your loved one. You feel a betrayal...even though you are coming from a good place to help...it feels like the person is trying to hurt you purposely. Does it sound silly, yes it does. We’re just wired differently, but I’m currently learning to “re-wire” my mind because I don’t want to hoard anymore.

    • @CraigsOverijse
      @CraigsOverijse 6 років тому

      DeathNoteKiraluver indeed it leads to conflict it has some meaning to them even if you can’t understand it, so maybe try and see if you can stop judging them as bad and like Jasmine has done help them do it themselves rather than feeling you need to do it for them

    • @ShraddaNiche
      @ShraddaNiche 6 років тому +1

      I know, I try to help my mom with a bag of magazines from 1994 and she insists there is an article she wants to read in each book. I have no patience like this wonderful woman. she is very good.

  • @frankwoodward9914
    @frankwoodward9914 4 роки тому +35

    that young girl is a real sweet heart and I hope she has a good life from now on and i hope ollve makes it

  • @gknee3
    @gknee3 5 років тому +16

    I really like how compassionate Jasmine was in this episode!

  • @spinningsage7727
    @spinningsage7727 6 років тому +219

    I want an update on Olive♥️
    she is so lovely. I hope she is able to enjoy her home

    • @darlyretardis
      @darlyretardis 5 років тому +1

      www.theargus.co.uk/news/14372796.bullies-at-sheltered-housing-leave-pensioner-in-tears/?ref=ar

    • @xJuliettex
      @xJuliettex 5 років тому +20

      @@darlyretardis that's awful. She's a lovely lady

    • @giovanna722
      @giovanna722 5 років тому +21

      Someone's most likely jealous of her popularity. There's always a bad apple, etc.

    • @Emma-te6mi
      @Emma-te6mi 5 років тому +3

      Wow, whoever wrote that card is such a piece of shit

    • @friedrice2604
      @friedrice2604 5 років тому +12

      Omg that was so cruel, someone should have send another letter with the people who do like and appreciate her I’m 100% that the letter would have been full with lots of people

  • @girlyblue24
    @girlyblue24 5 років тому +64

    most famous hoarder saying.."i don't hoard, i keep things that can be used later."

    • @lauras3666
      @lauras3666 3 роки тому

      Yeah for the rats to nest in

  • @Dana-koc
    @Dana-koc 5 років тому +27

    I'm not a hoarder but I can imagine how anxious they must feel when a stranger digs around in their belongings....

  • @QualifiedClean
    @QualifiedClean 4 роки тому +26

    Olives home is like a time machine - the higher up the house and the closer you get to the walls, the further back in time you go, all the way back to happier times ❤️

  • @carolynbridgeman5981
    @carolynbridgeman5981 3 роки тому +17

    Seeing Janet finally smile so big at her daughter just brought tears to my eyes. That poor woman has been so sad. It was so wonderful to see her smile.

  • @ynchenable
    @ynchenable 6 років тому +234

    Victoria is a very sweet daughter.

    • @pigeon51
      @pigeon51 3 роки тому +3

      Her mother seems like a hard woman to love.

    • @youttt27
      @youttt27 3 роки тому

      She seemed like a fantastic girl!Respnsible loving ans caring...

  • @chantalturcotte4410
    @chantalturcotte4410 6 років тому +25

    I like that Jasmine is very understanding et non judgemental

  • @MSNOLLY1
    @MSNOLLY1 5 років тому +49

    The mother needs some serious help . Her depression is so heavy thru the screen .

  • @shelbisikorski2509
    @shelbisikorski2509 4 роки тому +26

    I waited the whole episode to see Janet smile and it was well worth it!

  • @marielg9143
    @marielg9143 4 роки тому +18

    i'm a hoarder my family makes fun of me it's been 30 yrs since I've had visitors I have been doing what I can and the rest keeps fluffing out. I can relate to a lot of the hoarder videos, I'm not video worthy and i do not want to become video worthy. The discussions help me in mess and the doing is stifled. I understand. Reaching out always comes down to a catatonic state. So thank you right now I'm ready to burst I can see my floor and no dead animals but It's all going slower than faster. I don't want to die with all this crap. I'm the only one who cares about it so it's time to watch a little more and thank myself for the reminders of how I don't want to end up like. LIFE IS TOO SHORT. Thanks for the great ideas and videos and I know things will be better it's just stuff.

    • @naomisherred166
      @naomisherred166 4 роки тому +1

      Aw bless you - how are you doing now? Sounds like you've done so well 😊

    • @simmypop
      @simmypop 3 роки тому +1

      🙏🏽💞

    • @sylviemorgan9770
      @sylviemorgan9770 3 роки тому +1

      Take your time,you will be fine

    • @ea7109
      @ea7109 3 роки тому +1

      🧡🧡🧡

  • @faeriehearthwitch6185
    @faeriehearthwitch6185 5 років тому +17

    This is so heartbreaking. Both "Hoarders" are so dear and I wish I could take away all the stuff and fill their homes with love and confidence. Such a caring hostess. Fabulous.

  • @mrsflyingfox
    @mrsflyingfox 6 років тому +60

    Olive is such a precious and giving lady!

  • @scoutthespaniel978
    @scoutthespaniel978 6 років тому +99

    I feel that Janet is such a sad and lonely person. I bet something traumatic happened to her as a child. her eyes look so sad.

  • @Irene-gq4jr
    @Irene-gq4jr 5 років тому +36

    The biggest irony that most hoarders never seem to grasp is that all of this stuff they are saving, for reasons that might once have been valid but are no longer, is more than they could ever use and will be turfed into landfill within a few weeks of their death. I could cry for the misery they bring upon themselves and everyone else around them.

    • @j.pjotrovskiy5956
      @j.pjotrovskiy5956 3 роки тому +9

      This is so true.... Unfortunatly..i couldn't have said it better. And I'm ging through this at the moment... My parent recently passed away and his loss hurts me so much, but it hurts me too, to go through the stuff and throw out all the stuff that he sorted out so precisely and kept in the house. It feels like my mourning process is on hold because of all the decluttering i have to do. It feels like an ungoing process or neverending story..😢

    • @islanddweller3674
      @islanddweller3674 3 роки тому +2

      WHat misery? You clearly have no idea what this is about. Thei hoard is their identity Stop being so patronising

    • @freden9234
      @freden9234 8 місяців тому

      As the wife of a hoarder, I feel that misery every day. My husband refuses to acknowledge that anything is wrong and lashes out when I do something as simple as throwing out mouse riddled cookies stashed in plastic bags in the basement. It’s exhausting, deeply painful and has effectively brought our marriage to an end. I think the heartbreak of those who love and live with someone with hoarding issues is widely unrecognized.

  • @wndmountain
    @wndmountain 5 років тому +3

    Stumbled upon this show. It is nice to see the empathy and compassion of Jasmine Harman. She brings out the human side of these folks, helping us to understand, not to judge.

  • @Raskolnikov32
    @Raskolnikov32 5 років тому +68

    It's like they feel that every item has a soul, even a manky old dishcloth. And they are like the protectors of the souls.

    • @teresahaines6811
      @teresahaines6811 3 роки тому +1

      You do form attachments to items, it's why spring cleaning became a thing

    • @susancrawford5927
      @susancrawford5927 3 роки тому +1

      @@teresahaines6811 Spring cleaning refers to cleaning only, not getting rid of things.

    • @patiencevirtue3932
      @patiencevirtue3932 3 роки тому

      It's TRUE.

    • @Raskolnikov32
      @Raskolnikov32 3 роки тому

      @emi logane I'll take being cheesy over being rude.

  • @ComplicatedCupcake
    @ComplicatedCupcake 5 років тому +27

    incredibly touching...well done Jasmine. My heart goes out to Janet, Victoria, and Olive.

  • @quadq6598
    @quadq6598 5 років тому +50

    I talk to my dog literally all day long .
    Olive - what a lady.

    • @aheimdahl5201
      @aheimdahl5201 4 роки тому +4

      I talk to my Cat all day too...I don't care what Folks think 🧡😸🧡

    • @happyhorse1028
      @happyhorse1028 4 роки тому +1

      QuadQ doesn’t everyone?

  • @rachelhudson4662
    @rachelhudson4662 5 років тому +24

    Victoria is so much like my daughter. She is such a blessing to mothers with issues.

  • @benny3198
    @benny3198 5 років тому +14

    That enormous beaming smile on Janet when she saw her singing!!!!!! 😭 she has an amazing smile too I really hope they’re all doing well, but I hope Janet smiles so much more these days

  • @cosmopolitanwonder9675
    @cosmopolitanwonder9675 5 років тому +255

    Janet hasn’t got limited English she just speaks with a Nigerian accent.

    • @mobutter2879
      @mobutter2879 3 роки тому +9

      She scares me..like she would stab you in your sleep.

    • @nessaduh8033
      @nessaduh8033 3 роки тому +21

      @@mobutter2879 What a stupid and insensitive thing to say. She's depressed, she's obviously not gonna pretend to be happy when she's not.

    • @zoraxye4325
      @zoraxye4325 3 роки тому +5

      @@mobutter2879 Moronic comment.

    • @SweetUareDesi
      @SweetUareDesi 3 роки тому

      @@mobutter2879 Thts indifference

  • @Gnormous
    @Gnormous 5 років тому +15

    Olive was so sweet with her little cat, it made me upset with how kind she seems.

  • @trishayamada807
    @trishayamada807 6 років тому +30

    I hope Olive has a few clutter free years where she can live happily with Toby and the thought that her parents wouldn’t be ashamed of her. She’s a kind soul. 💗⭐️

    • @gloria7324
      @gloria7324 5 років тому +2

      I really want her to get her home tidy so she can be comfortable and use the kitchen table and chairs she used growing up with her loving parents. While sharing a tuna snack-time with Toby. And that she gets to use her Navy sheets again and dress up fancy with her dresses and hat again.

  • @ashleywilson5523
    @ashleywilson5523 4 роки тому +45

    I love olive, "15 years out of date" "it will be ok, it's only sugar" 🤣

  • @susannemac2800
    @susannemac2800 4 роки тому +2

    Janet has the most beautiful smile, the scene in the recording studio, was utterly beautiful. Jasmine is a beautiful soul, no judgement or agenda, just real compassion and understanding. What an uplifting show. .