I had never heard of the term 'sexual arousal template'. That is, until I discovered my husband's 30 year addiction to porn and resulting PIED. We are working out our problems and he has quit porn, but I often wonder how long it will take for those old neural pathways (arousal to porn images) will fade and he can once again be attracted to me. He was (very intensely) attracted to me for the first 8 or 9 years of marriage--before internet porn came on the scene. It is heart breaking and soul crushing.
@@HusbandMaterial I was wondering if you’ve done anything about the need for platonic intimacy between men, and particularly how that helps men who struggle with unwanted SSA. Maybe that’s a niche topic, but for me, that’s been a huge part in curbing my unhealthy sexual urges for men. I think the lack of healthy, brotherly affection/intimacy in our culture and its “homosexualisation” has been highly detrimental to more sensitive, affectionate men like me, who don’t have the best outlets to get healthy intimacy needs met.
@@HusbandMaterial in short, one of the big concepts in Theology of the Body (TOB) is that God placed eros, the longing for union, in the heart of every human to draw us to him. But sin always offers us a counterfeit to tempt us away from fulfilling what we truly desire. In Reintegrative Therapy, we take a curious approach to arousal fantasies and compulsive behavior, helping the client discover the longings beneath the attractions. As we reprocess wounds that steered their longings off-course, longings to fulfill their God-given design and destiny tend to emerge. But of course, unwanted arousal may still be triggered, so we train them in mindful ways of dealing with it.
Great video, 99% of people would assume they are the same thing. Porn conditions people to be aroused to increasingly shocking material most often as they keep using it. So much so people are convinced these are sexual acts they actually desire! I do think people lose their attachment to the escalated porn they've become accustomed too though with abstinence from it. That is anecdotally shown online quite a bit.
I had never heard of the term 'sexual arousal template'. That is, until I discovered my husband's 30 year addiction to porn and resulting PIED. We are working out our problems and he has quit porn, but I often wonder how long it will take for those old neural pathways (arousal to porn images) will fade and he can once again be attracted to me. He was (very intensely) attracted to me for the first 8 or 9 years of marriage--before internet porn came on the scene. It is heart breaking and soul crushing.
Praying things get better .
This was one of the most profound discussions/lessons I have ever heard. Wow. This is amazing!
Awesome! There's more where that came from :)
@@HusbandMaterial I was wondering if you’ve done anything about the need for platonic intimacy between men, and particularly how that helps men who struggle with unwanted SSA. Maybe that’s a niche topic, but for me, that’s been a huge part in curbing my unhealthy sexual urges for men. I think the lack of healthy, brotherly affection/intimacy in our culture and its “homosexualisation” has been highly detrimental to more sensitive, affectionate men like me, who don’t have the best outlets to get healthy intimacy needs met.
@@temberharward Yes I have. My recent episode "The Beauty Of Brotherhood (Psalm 133)" is about this topic.
@@HusbandMaterial thank you! 🙏🏼
I pray this is the "why" we have been searching for.
This topic has a lot of overlap with OCD. Subtypes related to arousal in OCD includes HOCD and POCD.
If you notice a man and become aroused by that persons body, That still is same sex attraction even if it’s unwanted.. does it mean your gay? No.
Bingo! Fits right in with what we teach in Theology of the Body and how we observe things in Reintegrative Therapy.
I'm interested to hear more about that.
@@HusbandMaterial in short, one of the big concepts in Theology of the Body (TOB) is that God placed eros, the longing for union, in the heart of every human to draw us to him. But sin always offers us a counterfeit to tempt us away from fulfilling what we truly desire.
In Reintegrative Therapy, we take a curious approach to arousal fantasies and compulsive behavior, helping the client discover the longings beneath the attractions. As we reprocess wounds that steered their longings off-course, longings to fulfill their God-given design and destiny tend to emerge. But of course, unwanted arousal may still be triggered, so we train them in mindful ways of dealing with it.
@@PsychoBible Absolutely! Thank you for explaining
Great video, 99% of people would assume they are the same thing. Porn conditions people to be aroused to increasingly shocking material most often as they keep using it. So much so people are convinced these are sexual acts they actually desire! I do think people lose their attachment to the escalated porn they've become accustomed too though with abstinence from it. That is anecdotally shown online quite a bit.
Well said!
I agree with the premise of this video but its encased in religion and that's sad.