Can Depression Alter Your Brain Permanently? | AKA #15
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- Опубліковано 17 чер 2020
- Audience questions for Ask Kati Anything #15
1. I was wondering how to cope with grieving the loss of therapy and not seeing one's therapist again (assuming that one wouldn't be able to go back to therapy at least for a while)? There are times where a client might have to terminate for reasons outside of their control. I've struggled with the anxiety of...
2. I moved into college 7 weeks ago and have been full-on relapsing into anorexia since then. I have been telling my therapist about it, but I don't want to go back to recovery at the moment and I feel like I am just....
3. What would you say to your patients/clients if they came in and told you they felt like they were wasting your time? Here lately I feel like I’m...
4. Can depression alter your brain permanently? Even after a depressive episode is over it feels as if my mental capacity is not the same as it used to be. As though I've lost parts of myself along the way, and have become more...
5. I just wanted to know if seeing a male therapist after not having any kind of relationship with men, (because of trauma) therapeutic in itself? I know part of my therapy was to address my beliefs of how I see men/ how I view myself, and to work on healing from bullying that happened mostly from boys and grown men behaving inappropriately. While recalling my therapy sessions, I feel like it was a waste of ...
6. Hi Kati, recently I realized during therapy I was emotionally neglected since the age of 6. I know my parents did what they could with the knowledge/skills they had at the time. I struggle with feelings of guilt: how could I possibly think such horrible things about my...
7. If somebody is feeling like they don’t deserve help or feels extremely tired of trying to fight and therefore distances away from their therapist and maybe begins to miss appointments and calls, why does the therapist just have to allow that to...
8. Hey Kati! My therapist hasn't given me a diagnosis yet, and it makes me wonder if maybe I don't really have anything going on to be diagnosed. I don't know how to approach this topic with her either, I don't want to seem like my issues are ...
9. Huge struggle I have and I really hope this gets in the video!! How can I know if I'm really suicidal or just feel hopeless that day and not wanting to live?? When I have a bad day (anxiety, ED, depression etc) I think about...
10. Why does no one like shy people? And why do honest and kind people get exploited or ignored and those with a certain "ego" and the ability to sell and present themselves get rewarded?
11. What to do when you already had a lot of therapy and you would get along with yourself a lot better but you still are unable to get your life in order which then prevents you from finally breaking free of all the mental issues so you ...
12. Hi, I have been seeing a therapist and I feel like I overshare, and then when I am out of her office I regret everything I say.
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Timestamps everybody:
1. Coping with the loss of therapy and not seeing one's therapist again 2:37
2. I moved into college 7 weeks ago and have been full-on relapsing into anorexia since then. 11:33
3. What would you say to your patients/clients if they came in and told you they felt like they were wasting your time? 19:08
4. Can depression alter your brain permanently? 25:55
5. Seeing a male therapist after not having any kind of relationship with men 33:56
6. I was emotionally neglected since the age of 6. I struggle with feelings of guilt. 38:03
7. If somebody is feeling like they don’t deserve help or feels extremely tired of trying to fight and therefore distances away from their therapist and maybe begins to miss appointments and calls, why does the therapist just have to allow that to...
51:50
8. My therapist hasn't given me a diagnosis yet, maybe I don't have anything going on 58:26
9. How can I know if I'm really suicidal or just feel hopeless that day and not wanting to live? 1:00:50
10. Why does no one like shy people? 1:06:10
11. What to do when you already had a lot of therapy and you still are unable to get your life in order 1:10:10
12. Oversharing and regretting after therapy 1:13:34
Love you Katy ❤️
Thank youuuu!❤️
Micro. hello thank you for the questions and answers in timestamp I'm nikki to to add from uk I like to meet new people here on this channel and relate to people s health issues helps everyone 🙂
Thank you.
Thanks for taking the time to hook us up!!
You the MVP, Mirco. 👊
My 4 year-old daughter: Mom, we never know how the other person feels, right? Or do we?
Me: Well... Sometimes we can guess, but usually the other person should tell us. People should talk about this.
She: Ok. Right now I feel exhausted, excited but calm, happy and satisfied. What about you?
Me: /jaw dropped/
And here I go trying to journal every evening about how I felt that day! I guess all the work seems worth it.
Awwwww🥰
WOW
she knows herself better than i know myself hahaha
-"I don't know why they acting out blah blah"
- " You wanna know why? Cause of you"
I'm a happy woman after this one lol
I love this, Kati. You explain things so well, and while you may be on the other side of the screen talking to a faceless crowd of thousands, everything you say feels as though you're talking to each of us individually. Thank you for all that you do.
I am excited to hear your thoughts because I really fear it has altered my brain permanently
Admir Barucija I'm glad you are here again a friendly person and you are always here on kati s video s in the comments I am honestly a bit sad because I have depression and anxiety and that's why I come here to watch and listen to kati answer questions I just don't know why or can't understand why my question never gets though to be picked and answered on the podcast yet I still am a kati fan and still my favourite channel I'm sorry for rambling hope you been ok and things are ok for you in your country 👍🙂
I’m always grateful when you do a video where you allow your vulnerability to shine and vent, just let it all out and not hold back. Never have I thought any less of you or judged you in any way. If anything, I’ve felt a stronger connection to you because as well educated as you are in your field of expertise, you’re still just a human being finding your way like the rest of us. I also remember thinking, “Oh, I love that leopard print top she’s wearing.” Work it sista’! 🙌🏻🙏🏻❤️🦋
Ha, #3... Going down the grocery isle today: I am going the right direction and wearing my mask, but I apologized for having to pass someone going the wrong direction NOT wearing a mask. As I continued, I thought "why do I do that?!?!"... 5 minutes later, same scenario: "oh, sorry"... CRAP!!!
S M. I like the comments you write 🙂
ah, thanks, Nikki :) I used to try to wait until the end and just leave one comment, but I would forget what come to mind. So now, I just go ahead and comment while watching lol.
So true with long-term severe depression, which I have experienced. I did not feel better at all at first, but I kept trying, as I was able, to add good things back into my life. It took me a long time for it to make an improvement. But pain motivated me to try. I kept doing what my therapists said, forcing myself to be around people even at times I didn't want to, making new relationships, finding a purpose to work on. I failed to do it at times, but started again and again. And I still have struggles, bad coping skills to overcome. But I look at how far I have come. Maybe I can overcome a little bit more.
This podcast has been so helpful to me! It feels like a second therapy.
I've seen this somewhere once: Life (or recovery) is not a path and you don't just suddenly come to the end of that path and everything is perfect. It's a garden. And maybe somewhere in the corner there will always be this one little ugly thing and you're not sure how to get rid of it, but that's okay. You just have to remember how it used to look and how far you have already come.
Kati, I don't know if you'll see this, but I can't afford therapy, and some of the questions that you answer really hit close to home with things I've dealt with. One of the biggest things I've learned recently from you videos is that there are tons of people just like me. Feeling like I'm the only one going through some of these things has, I believe, caused me to over identify with them, and made it hard for me to move on. So thank you!
Thrilled to watch this and learn from you Kati, I hope you have a great day. Thank you for giving me an extra bit of hope and help emotionally this week
Thank you so so much for answering my question. It helped so much!
I hope you continue to make these pod casts! I think it would help if the title made it more clear that this video isn’t only bout one topic. I just want you to get more viewers so you never stop making these :)
Thank you Kati for taking the time to answer my question, it was very helpful 😊. I love the examples you used with the marbles, and the music notes, I understand it more now. How the brain works is amazing! I will keep trying to exercise those brain muscles!
Hey Kati,
I started watching your channel I think in April?
I've noticed that you've been talking about going back to therapy since the first episode I watched...you're always so hard on us, your viewers...do we need to start giving you the same tough love?
I had to abruptly end therapy due to a lack of money. It was very difficult, even after several years. Glad this question was answered. Thanks Kati.
I really needed to hear your answer to #6, Kati! It made me recognize some things that I have felt all my life may have more to do with how I was raised than I previously thought. Thank you ❤
Yes!! Making a drink and coming back to sit and enjoy this. Highlight of my Thursday night's thank you Kati 😊
This is the highlight of my thursday!! THANK YOU💜
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Cody newman .completely agree with your comment I love this channel and these podcasts
Oh my gawd.
Who read my mind?
How did you know I needed to hear some of this?
Hmmmm.....me thinks me should listen for my wind down time before bed tonight.
Thank you Kati for this video and for your work! I learn so much from you!
Hi Kati! Thanks for your podcasts. Love listening to them. From, a fellow therapist!
I loooved that video , this one really hits the difference ❤️❤️❤️❤️you always make amazing video but this one was amazing
"I don't know why my 10 yr old.....Wanna know why? Because of you!!!" Hahahaha 🤦♀️
S M. hello I'm glad to see you are here again on kati s podcast always good to have a firmiler name hope your ok and things are ok for you where your from 🙂
@@nikkimckay860 hi Nikki :) I'm from N.C.
@@SusieQ78 nice thanks for telling me where you are from and to let you know I'm from the uk 🙂
reading the comments to see who will point that out. I LOLed when she said that!
Ahh its so nice to just be in the presence of the positive mental mindset exuded by this podcast. By which I mean, the specific questions dont even seem to matter, its the way you talk about them. Lots of super-relatable ideas pop up. "Vulnerability hangover" is a great name for something I experience a lot after social situations. I once described it to my therapist as (apologies for the clumsy misuse of a condition name) "late-night regret tourettes". Other things induce some spontaneous (relief/release?) tears like "no you won't give [a child] depression" (I spend a lot of time with my nephew since his dad/my brother died). Aanyhow, thankyou 😁
love these podcasts :) the questions are always so good!
Omg thank you for the emotional neglect question and I appreciate your tangents!!
I got so happy when I read the question about emotional neglect. I've always wanted to ask you that, Kati. Long story short I've been neglected my whole life, since I can remember(even tho I cannot remember a lot of my childhood).I'm not very good at regulating my emotions, everytime I got into an argument in the family or when they say shitty or shady stuff and ends up in an argument, I cannot help but cry, because it's too much, and I felt so weak. The thing is that I'm going to therapy, and my therapist, the first time that I complaint or said that I was angry about how my childhood was, she said that I should understand where my parents were coming from and now that she's realizing how their shit affects me and has told me that I should learn to...control my emotions and don't let their shit affect me which I'm actually doing it but onestly I just wanted some validation. Is that okay or she's right?
My bf has been with me for a year and has seen how the dynamic in my family has affected me almost every day and the most valuable thing that he has said (just makes me cry when I think about it) is : " You don't deserve this, that's not right, nobody should had to deal with that" and it's been the most validating thing ever.
Honestly when you talk about toxic parents, and when you said and stand up for those who were abused or neglected, and how they didn't deserve that shit I always cry and maybe heal a little (I hope so), I hope doesnt sound weird but everytime you talk about that it just feels like I'm having a tinny bit of the kind of a therapy session I need.
My poor bf has to listen to me everytime a question in your podcast gets me but he loves it, or at least that what he says.
Thankyou soooo much for what you do, you're such an inspiration, you're amazing, ly💞💞
Sorry for my grammar or smt, my English is not my first language🤭
I'm sorry you've had to go through that and it's great that you're able to see their faults, however hard that may have been and may still be. It's great to hear you've found someone to care for you in your boyfriend, he sounds like a great guy and the fact he is willing to listen and provide support where needed is great, you do deserve that however much you may not think it yourself. I hope your future is brighter than the darkness of your past. Good luck getting to a better place in life, it may well take time, the fact you're seeing a therapist is amazing and is a step a lot of people can't bring themselves to take so congratulations there. Keep up the hard work to find a better place in your life, I'm sure you're doing great so far (by the way your grammar was great) :)
@@Kiminaminam Awe, thank you very much for that response, I...think you will never now how much that meant, I really appreciate it, have a wonderful day! I really hope you're doing great💞
I feel completely called out by question 3 ...hate it here 😂😂🙈
SAME! :p
@@kaydeebug24 💔 lolol kinda got a throat punch on that one ngl 🥺😂
It is scary. Because it is just so unknown...love watching your videos. I'm a therapist so I learn a ton from you!
Yessss! I'm early, uh, i feel like I should say something valuable. Uh, if anyone needs to hear this, you are not worthless, or unlovable, and I don't care if you are the worst person in the world, you still deserve kindness.
Ahh this is so sweet....back at you all the kindness 💕
Hi Kati. Your voice is so soothing. I'm having a mini panic attack and feeling very emotional at work ATM and I'm just listening to talk. The people around me have no idea. Thank you.
Childhood emotional neglect has affected me terribly. I struggled with an eating disorder for many years. I have permanent depression, anxiety, and agoraphobia. I don't have friends and I've never been in a relationship. I've always longed for a loving mom. I'm 34 but I act like I'm much younger. I think I'm quite damaged.
Hi Sally, you may be damaged, but you're not unlovable or less worthy of love and affection than others. I'm 30 and quite damaged as well, but I'm slowly improving through therapy. It's hard to love ourselves when it feels like noone else does, but you deserve to feel whole and wonderful.
Thank you for doing these!
I LOVE these! ❤️
Q6 hit really close to home.
Thanks for asking it, thanks for answering
Being a classically trained musician who has been through trauma, I absolutely love the sheet music comparison for question #4.
Good job 👏🏽 Kati!!
Another awesome AKA!
perfect! just in time for my 3 hour drive to drop off a commission 💓
The explanation for sinapsis with the marbles is the most incredible thing ever 😂
I LOVE how you described epigenetics ♥️
After 3 years I decided to quit and my therapist threatened to inform my boss about my mental problems if I won't stay in therapy... I still wonder if stopping all contact with her abruptly was a good thing to do. I feel better now, but I don't trust my decisions. Thank you for sacrificing your time to speak about these things!
Thank you so much for these answers. Got some new ideas.
I wish you were my therapist.
Related to to question 5: Having been on and off antidepressants myself, I'm concerned about long-term effects of SSRIs on the brain. The first psychiatrist I've been to said that I will probably have to be on antidepressants for the rest of my life. A few years later another psychiatrist advised me to stay on antidepressants for at least two years. After looking into the research I found out, that clinical studies for antidepressants usually only have a timeframe of 6-8 weeks. There's even a meta-study showing that patients without medication in the long-term seem to do better than those on medication. Other studies show that St. john's wort has a comparable effect as antidepressants.
AAA you answered my question?!?! Thankyou!!! I get what you are saying within the answer (q7) but its not something Im doing purposely and dint notice it was happening until my therapist mentioned it? I understand your answer, it just kinda put me in a weird position because I don't know how to stop pushing her away when I don't know how Im doing it? I love you and your videos and thankyou again for answering!!!
omg cant wait for your book about trauma!!!
Re. inner changes vs. outer changes (your life on paper):
Having a boatload of difficulty in transferring my inner changes to my actual life.
It's very possible to change greatly inside, but certain symptoms still holding you back. Not that it's perfect inside, but a lot better in general, especially with certain things.
I can relate to the 8th question, my therapist said that I know better whether I have depression or not so we just work on the symptoms which makes sense but still is frustrating
It's handy to have a shortcut phrase to tell people that are close to you when you don't want to turn an innocent "what's up?" into a therapy-level "overshare". Code for " it's this whole big thing but I'm working on it with a professional, thanks for your concern" (hmm, or maybe I should just say *that*?)
Hi Kati! I asked question #3 and very much appreciate your response! It’s odd because every assumption you made is true... I thought you’d like an answer also :) thanks so much for everything you do! ❤️
Hi! Could you tell me where you asked? Is there a specific post or place where we should post questions? Is it on Facebook, Instagram...? Thanks a lot!!
Hey you yes you Reading this just remember that you’re beautiful and you cannot ever let anyone define how do you see yourself because how you see yourself is how other people should see you and if you see yourself as beautiful you’re beautiful if you see yourself is ugly you need to change your thought because that’s not true everyone is beautiful in their own skin and you shouldn’t have to change it for no one
i see myself as an emperor of the world. how about this?
Then u are
Grieving the loss of therapy is a fascinating concept.
Hi Kati, love your videos... I've watched hundreds and they've helped me a lot.
Random comment....that kid who you said was son of therapist who apologized to mother....I worry about Parentification, Adultified Child problems. Which proletarian class people (me) suffer from tremendously. I know too well. No "childhood" causes worthlessness, inferiority, depression......
spinach feta wrap is SO good...my pre-celiac diagnosed self misses it :(
Thank you
Yeah I didnt have closure with my therapist this last time. She basically told her secretary I was taking a break but I didnt say I wanted to take a break at all. It's so frustrating
Looking forward to read about transgenerational trauma! I sometimes feel like my family is a drama soap, a lineage of women with an abusive past. Quite sad, but I clearly fear to have children myself...
In response to the emotional neglect question. I have been working through this at the moment too. After watching previous Kati’s video I bought the emotionally absent mother and found that it didn’t fit my circumstances. I recently found a book running on empty by Jonice Webb. It is specifically about emotional neglect
I feel lonely and don't see much point in living and nobody knows that because noone talks to me for weeks on end
I was thinking about what you said about musical notes and epigenetics. I visualized it as we all hear a musical note and that note is always the same pitch or frequency. But what if the note that should be played as a soothing pan flute sounds instead like an obnoxiously loud bagpipe in our head? It's still the same note but did our DNA get altered so the wrong instrument is heard? What brought this to mind is that I've read that people with perfect pitch can recognize for example a note played on a violin but may have trouble recognizing the same note in a human voice.
Hi everyone, I think that Kati might have a video or directions on this somewhere, but where can we go to ask the questions that she answers on these podcasts?
Thank you for the videos Kati! I have only recently started watching them, but out of the few I’ve seen they are amazing and super relatable!
Hello everyone and evening from uk I'm here and as always watching and listening to every answer to every question you give kati. Nice to see a new ask kati anything podcast I wasn't sure if I'd end up missing this glad I didn't please hopefully soon I would like to get my question though to kati.its still helpful hearing everyone s questions.Keep staying safe people around the world 😊❤
Hi Nikki, good to hear from you.
@@SusieQ78 thank you it's nice hearing from you aswell good you are always here in the comments I'm honestly shy in person and in comment s more even I don't know anyone glad to have you here every time on these podcast s you stay safe take care S M 🙂
@@SusieQ78 thank you it's always nice to see you in the comments and have a friendly person I know here hearing from you is good as I am a shy person in the comments more when I don't know anyone so good talking to you take care and stay safe 🙂
Clicked to hear answer to question 4.. But number 3 really blew me away! I've been doing this to myself lately while thinking about needing help to afford rent.. I'm like "others need it more..." Therefore in my head I must not deserve it. But question 3 really makes me think, I have needs too and by ignoring my needs I'm not helping anyone.
I don't blame you for being scared at all !!! . I feel extremely sorry for people in the USA at the moment whom are doing all the right things in the face of the pandemic .... staying inside, being extremely vigilant, clean and not going out when they feel icky. I was screaming at my tv screen this afternoon at trumps totaly selfish and stupid statement about testing, how it shows more cases that they should just test less because it looks better on paper, just no consideration for human life. I could feel my stomach lurch it's scary enough living on the other side of the planet and watching things play out over there let alone living there. statements like that worry me . I really really hope the future presidant has more compassion and consideration. My heart goes out to you all. "Kia kaha" be strong ❤❤❤ from New Zealand
I have a social worker :). With her, I'm much less afraid of uncertain things happening in my life and not being able to deal with them because I know we will deal with it.
Hi Kati...
You asked if any of us know or have heard of studies/ information on brain stuff...how depression may affect it etc.....have you ever heard of Dr. Daniel Amen? I found him doing a TED talk and began to listen to his videos on UA-cam. Incredibly intelligent with much to learn. Perhaps you could look his content up? I do believe is lives in California but has 5 or 6 clinics nation wide.
Hey Kati, I’m not sure if you’ve really delved into it or not, but I’d really like to see a video on passive suicide ideation. I’ve been passively suicidal since age 12-13. I’ve been in and out of therapy, on and off medication (currently on), exercise, eat relatively healthy, have a good long-term relationship, have good friends/family yet still...I’m always passively suicidal no matter what I do. Just feel like I’m wandering aimlessly through life with no purpose 🤷🏻♀️I do have moments of happiness but it always reverts back to a sad/hopeless feeling in the end. Idk I’d be curious to see your thoughts on this as I don’t feel like it’s talked about as often as being actively suicidal. Sorry for the rambling, and thank you for the videos!
JASMIN LEE CORI-Emotionally Absent Mother
I like listening at 1.75 to get through quicker. I do that with other channels too. Most can not be timesed two.
Am I the only person that actually enjoys journaling? I like when my therapist gives me journal homework, granted, I have kept a journal off and on throughout my entire life. I really enjoy the process of just thought vomiting 🤮 and seeing where it goes.
Everyone's different. In my family growing up, boundaries were a major issue, and there was no privacy. It really wasn't safe to keep a journal, or to otherwise express yourself in writing. Other family members would find it, read it, report to the parent, and the writer would be triangulated and confronted about whatever it was they wrote. So, despite having privacy now, I still find myself hitting some really major blocks in journaling because of it.
crimsontuba1 Same. I fear it being found and read even now as an adult who lives alone.
@@ashley-8612 Which is so silly! It's like. Here is all this evidence against the thought that it's going to be stolen, found, or read, but we still can't shake the paranoia!
crimsontuba1 There have been a few times I’ve written all of my thoughts just to get them out, read it, then tore up the paper and threw it away. I wish I didn’t feel the need to do it that way but it does help some.
The point of depression is to change your brain permanently
Hey Kati In the diagnosis of bipolar does sleeping the normal 8-9 hours a day and then taking a nap at some point during the day count as over sleeping
Yay :)
Trauma & Executive Function. I have serious loss of everyday executive function & memory.
All the therapists I have seen never answered when I asked about a diagnosis, even after me saying I would like to know
19:59, Saint Kati moment.
I never get notifications for the community tab 😭 I'm always like a day late lmao
I wonder if you could talk more about emotional neglect and everyone’s experience being validated in a family where abuse didn’t occur? A past therapist brought up the idea that I was emotionally neglected several times and I’m struggling with it. My parents were very loving and went to a lot of effort to spend time with us one on one, even though we had six kids. I can see times in my life where I needed something and they weren’t there for me in that exact moment the way I needed, especially as I became a teenager and felt we didn’t understand each other as well, but there wasn’t a sense of I couldn’t talk to them or being afraid of them. There hasn’t been any great trauma in my life, so it makes me uncomfortable to blame them for my depression and anxiety when I can point to just as many times when they reached out to help me as times when I felt alone. And it that was emotional neglect, how is any parent supposed to raise a child? None of us can have the exact perfect response and never let life get in the way of being “perfect” even if they only have one kid.
With oversharing in therapy, I really wonder how to deal with oversharing with other people because you were oversharing in therapy. When you got so used to overstepping your boundaries with your therapist that you now just overshare things because it got your new norm.
Even though I have the bell marked, I still never get the ‘ask your questions’ post until nearly a day later when over 100 have already been submitted, and I’m just casually scrolling through my feed. I have several other channels where I get notified of their uploads, but never for their posts.
Anybody else have the same, or figured out a way to fix it?
Ok so I pulled the look of shame face when you mentioned lying, i hadn't given it a second thought until now, I've had no face to face since mid march due to coronavirus lockdown (like everyone else) and give my weighins over the phone, haven't attended any bloods, you mentioning lying has made me realise that it's going to be rather uncomfortable having face to face again, i can see i've wasted my own time (i hadn't thought of it that way because actually i felt like i was achieving because I could just fall back into my comfort) but she really is going to feel like I've let her down and wasted her time over these months, anyone else in this situation? Not sure if I should own up before I see her or quit the therapy :/
Hi Kati u are completely unbelievable ur my ultumate favorite psychologist.ur so cool and understand8ng.i have a simple simple question how come when i want to get back to normal i always hit a snag and i feel very anxiety and my depression begons 8ts a constant corkscrew up and down cycle every single day. Kati please help me what fo i do. Im sad and diwn for do many multitude of reasons i can explain step by step but in the end it has always a sad ending.Kati pleade help me what to do im so overwhelmed.
Question 7 still really gets me. I know there are a lot of barriers in mental health and it can be really hard and I feel so much for all the people who can't do it and give up. I really wish I could help those who fall through the cracks of mental health.
14:20 "all they do is obsess and count and urge and manipulate"
obsession with counting can't be enjoyable or it can't be enjoyable because it's obsession and not a freedom? i'm just trying to understand* that abstract sentence... is there maybe also throwing up? then the answer's clearly no. but. what if someone do enjoy it and thinking, while reading this, "what a naivety".
oh my. it called emetophilia. it exists. god why...
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* irritating bliss makes you head hurt, yet you enjoying it even if it not gets you anywhere. symptom of which disorders can it be? or it's just simply boredom? or i just like to feel stupid. and show it off. something narcissistic, perhaps.
31:30 Amazing description of that epigenetic thing. Just like our psyche, looking for whatever it likes. And finds it!
32:10 That's interesting "drastic" thought. Aren't we just a products of our genes and surroundings (and thoughts/feelings apparently too, which are products of our surrounding, and can change our genes and... i think i'll stop). Maybe in the future people could make genetically modified children, with no predispositions to enlarged amygdala and that kind of things. Would be interesting to look at the result. Maybe even drastically interesting.
52:40 There's no judgement in therapy, because judgement covered by, lets say, facade of professionalism/pc/niceness is not judgement. Do i have misaligned understanding of words, am i on the spectrum, why it seems hypocritical to me? More i live, more i understand those weirdos who downshifting themselves from 1st world countries because people are "honest" out there.
Seriously, is there researches (with statistics!) which explains in what ways those things (like being nice) are more important than being honest?
Moving suck. I would have only moved twice. Once for my education/training and a second time for work. That's it. Online communication does not make it easier or better than when we had older forms of distance communication.
Hi Kati! What can we do during this pandemic to prevent PTSD occurring after this pandemic ends?
I was told that after 10 years with ED, recovery isn't possible. It will never completely go away. Is it true?
"Brain Magic" reminded me of "Strange Magic" and now it's suck in my head 😂😂
The ELO song? Cause that's a great song
DNA is like the operating system and Epigenetics is like a program running on that O.S. The O.S. can be fine but the Program can be bugged so it causes problems for the whole system. My parents were Emotionally neglectful, Dad worked all the time and was never around and my Mom wasn't ok because she had been abused by her parents.
Sincerely....thank you for swearing. I'm NOT being sarcastic. It makes us feel REAL and heard and genuinely in pain. I find the problem with 'therapy' is that it sometimes feels airy-fairy, self indulgent and vain and that impeeds growth. I think it becomes sterile and intellectualized and we don't process and feel because of that.
Part two...I'm verbose today! The shy question. I looked into this once for myself. I read somewhere that there is a biological reason for this. Imagine thousands of years ago tribes had to ostracize anyone who was different because of disease. If someone was different that could mean that they carried an infection that could be spread to the tribe. So they needed to be not welcomed into the tribe for survival reasons. And this is still a part of a subconscious modern day social behavior. I don't remember where I read that.
I'll research it again.
Cardi B LOL 54:25
Hi Kati, since I came across your UA-cam channel I find myself wondering: Don't you ever worry that some of your patients are watching videos you upload? I know everything you talk about and the advice you give are things you really and truly believe in, but I'm sure there are situations or people you'd advice otherwise (as my psychologist (or all of you therapists) love to say: "It depends..." )
For example, let's say one of your patients might watch a video and think: "wait a moment, I know now what my therapist's advice about this would be... I don't think I'll talk with her about it so we won't spend any time of our session!" or "I know now what my therapist gonna say about it, and I don't like her approach at all, I better avoid talking about this with her!" and you can miss some of the crucial things going on with them this way.
And what if one of your patients will rush to diagnose themselves with this or that mental issues based on the content in your channel?
Also, I know that it's important that you help your patients figure out what's going on in there life when it is sometimes really difficult for them to put words into their struggle, but sometimes it's better to help them figure out thing by themselves, and through your videos the might be exposed to some of the thing going on without being emotionally prepared for this.
what I'm trying to say is, that if they see your videos, you don't fully control and aware of what they know about their therapy, about your relationships with them, and about your personal life (you recently talked in one pf your videos about how you deal with COVID-19, and I for a fact know that if you were my therapist, there is no way I would be able to treat you the same way I used to after seeing how much you struggle).
It's also kind of violates the special (maybe even mental) place of therapy... does that make any sense to you? 🙃
I would love to hear how you handle these issues (and if this isn't an issue for you' i would love to hear why)!
(p.s: sorry it came out a bit long😅... and sorry for my very incoherent English...! feel free to correct me!)
I can't deal with life anymore.I did my best and I failed miserably. At 46 I wish not to make it to 47.Enough already! There's only so much a man can take.
I have no idea what you've been through but it must have been awful if it makes you feel this way. I hope you find hope. I know your life is worth living.
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How does anyone ever not have the means to end their life? The world is dangerous. You have to take dozens of actions each day to keep things from killing you, and all those actions are optional. At any point, you could decide to skip looking both ways before crossing a street. At any point, you could try water bath canning chicken and risk botulism. Having the means to end your life should be considered the first stage, even before idly fantasizing, not part of the last and most scary stage.
I once had a therapist tell me I was wasting a valuable time slot.
WHAT?
Melissa I was having a really hard time talking about things, I always went in with the intention of talking about them but would get really choked up when I tried, which seemed to annoy her. I asked if I could try writing them down or talking to her on the phone because I just couldn’t seem to get it out face to face; she said that was a popular time slot and was too valuable for things like that and basically “dumped” me from being a patient. It really wasn’t a terrible loss though, I always felt so anxious and judged with her; it wasn’t doing me any good.
Melissa on an unrelated note, I really like your animations 😄
@@ashley-8612 Yikes, I'm so sorry she was so awful to you! Hope you found someone who was more understanding.
Natasha I did, thank you 😊
Sometimes I fell lonely coz yo know why
Unusual to hear you swear more than on your Kati Morton channel.
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Brain Magic😂🤣