My heart breaks for the little girl that lost her innocence, something like this destroys the person we could have been and changes you forever. I'm so impressed with the strength you show here while telling your story, most of us would never be this strong. I just saw his LinkedIn and Twitter where he lists himself as a mentor. Absolutely disgusting. I'm so sorry this monster was ever in your life, and I pray no other child will ever suffer at his hands again. Be well girl, your path of healing is amazing.
This story is amazing and should be viral! The adults around her should have been more aware and caught on sooner! This is another circumstance of adults taking advantage of the situation and manipulating the child. Too many so-called Christians place far too much faith in their church leaders.
Two terms have saturated Social Media recently, 'Blow your mind' and it's related phrases (Mindblowing)...and 'Amazing'. In this case, is "Amazing": 1) Good? 2) WTF?
@@versetripn6631 In case this wasn’t a rhetorical question, I would say amazing meant WTF is wrong with people. And amazing that this sweet woman has had to deal with what happened to her as a child for most of her adult life. Kudos to her for her perseverance, seeking the help she needed to put this unfortunate experience where it should be.. in the past with the blame squarely where it should be.. with the bastard that did this to her.
I am a 67 yr old woman and your story is in fact my story also.. after watching your video I cried to think of all the young girls between my age and your age that have suffered the same detriments ....bless you for getting help and being honest about forgiveness... it is because as adults we try to be the " bigger person" but that happened to a child and and that child did not deserve that and I find it so much harder to forgive anyone or anything that hurts an innocent child .. stay strong in your faith and stay blessed ...
This took a lot of courage to share, but it is a message that should have millions of views. Too many people ignore those "little signs" that something is wrong, allowing abuse to continue. Too many victims are confused by the false sense of shame they feel to share what happened, or what is happening. These monsters dwell in that shadow of silence. Kudos for shining the light on him!
I just read your text under the video and I am shocked … how is it possible that he is still working in the same kind of position. It was the absolutely right thing to say his same. Honestly. I am thankful you shared your story. It was the first time in 2021 (!!!) I heard of grooming and it’s around for such a long long time… you are helping a lot of people by sharing your story! 🙇🏻♀️
As a licensed Counselor in the field of Alcohol and Drugs I have heard many cases where church leaders have molested children. The signs are there, but people don't see them. Thank you for posting and telling your story. As a survivor myself I admire you as a smart and insightful person. God bless you.
In a recent video you mentioned your story and I searched for this video. You’re so brave to share this. I’m so sorry for the trauma it may have caused, but using your story to help others is so kind of you. Sending hugs❤️
@@Jendoyle Ohmigosh your story is such a cautionary tale for us parents who have children in any children’s or youth ministries-to be super vigilant and not to blindly trust a leader in the community or church.
You are an incredible survivor. You have every right to your anger and I support your work here with yourself and the bravery of doing that work so publicly. Unfortunately, your story is not rare. And it’s brave people sharing their narrative, the details (to educate and help prevent), and the devastating emotional effects (to sensitize and illuminate). But even more powerful is witnessing YOUR power, strength, vulnerability and incredible resilience. As you walked through your memories and feeling, we get to witness your healing in real time! So powerful to own your own strength and healing. It’s easy to call this man a monster and view him as an anomaly, and pretend that threat of death as punishment would prevent this behavior. But the fact is, this toxic entitlement and sense of power is a part of our society and has been since the dawn of time. But every person who tells their inner-child’s story sheds light on this pattern and we come closer together to ending it. Bless you!!! I’ll be sending light to you on your incredible path and peace to your inner child. She is precious and pure and NO ONE can take that from her!
I can not believe that he is still serving in ministry in churches! Who knows what he has done to more children?! So evil. What is worse is that society lets men like him continue being around children!
I’m so sorry this happened to you but thank you for sharing as that has to be tough but knowing you could be helping someone else who may come across your story and it could save them. So manipulative and taking advantage of young kids-I believe schools and churches need to be discussing this with pre-teens and teens a lot more than they do now as I do not see any of this covered at my church or the middle school where I work.
You are so brave to be open about this and I am certain this video has helped other people because sadly these things are way too common and many of us have had similar experiences. I saw the picture you showed and I could almost feel your emotions in that picture... you were still just a baby yet and he had no right to put you in that situation, it broke my heart to see how awkward you looked.. It's incredible that as public as he was that it wasn't caught sooner by other adults at the church. Thank God for your friend that told. It probably felt like betrayal at the time but it was 100% the right thing to do. It's so important for the Victims to understand that they are NEVER at fault no matter what their own actions were. It might not feel like you are being groomed at the time but in hindsight the adult knew exactly what they were doing and every move they make is very calculated. Most children aren't even capable of understanding what is happening because their brains are simply not developed enough yet to even understand that they are being victimized. Children are naturally trusting of adults and adults should never take advantage of that. Thank you for making this video and I'd just like to add in that if this is happening to anyone out there or has happened, IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT and help is available!!💜💜💚💚
I've just watched your story on Unfiltered Stories. You are such an incredibly brave woman and I'm sure your gracious attitude and gentle humour has helped you and others. It makes my blood boil to think of a middle aged man abusing his position and abusing a child and even worse to then be reinstated in a church where potentially he could do the same again. You were 13! Well done for raising awareness. I'm glad you have been able to heal.
Thank you so much for sharing. This happened to me when I was 8 years old. I felt so dirty and confused and guilty. Like I did something to cause it. I'm so sorry this happened to you. It's horrible that he still works with church groups! Unbelievable, a convicted felon of rape +!!!!! I never had counseling because this happened in the early 60's and my parents never called the police. I am affected to this day. I am a Christian too, but I'm glad he's dead now, I won't lie. Again, thanks for sharing.
Thank you, your story has been so helpful. This is the first time I have heard anyone's story. It is so horrible this happened to you, I am so proud of you for sharing. Thank You!
Wow, your sharing of your experience was so impactful to me. I’m a sexual assault survivor and although I was 22 years old I was a very vulnerable, naïve and emotionally immature young woman. The perpetrator was my sister’s boyfriend who she ended up marrying and having a baby with. I had to see him at family gatherings and was treated as if it was somehow my fault that he broke in to my apartment on my first night there for many years. I questioned myself for a long time, wondering what I had done that may have contributed to it happening. I’m now a wiser 65 year old woman and know intellectually that it was not my fault but I still am affected by this rape to this day. I’m grateful that you shared your story and am so sorry this happened to you at such a tender age. Like you, I struggle with forgiveness of this man who never suffered any legal consequences for his misdeed. I finally realized many years after suffering through family gatherings that he attended that I could choose to not attend when he was there. And so began my healing which is ongoing. Love ❤️ and prayers to you 🦋
So yes, you as victim can absolutely follow thru with the current church he is involved in. As a pastor's wife, in a Methodist church, we have protocols we have to follow where adult volunteers are concerned. Our Safe sanctuary rules dictate that all volunteers go thru independent background checks and training to help us recognize inappropriate behavior/ grooming red flags. As a victim, you absolutely must call that church and push them to remove him from his position for the welfare of the young women in his grasp. He most likely has already groomed someone in this church.
I don't know if she has contacted but I went ahead and contacted the church he is at, we just went through this at our church and are working on making it a safer place. Kudos to your church for making it a priority!!
Narcissism at its greatest! You make it so clear why child sexual abuse will never stop. On the one had we (as a society) condemn these perpetrators, but on the other hand we hide and protect them because they are often members of families and communities that don’t want to be disrupted by outing them.
Never apologize. You don’t need to validate telling your truth. Tbh you should put his identity out there I know I would love to know, so this creep never is around children again. Thank you for your bravery.
So very true about the lifelong consequences. I am now officially a senior citizen and still aware of how this changed my life. I am absolutely a better person for having had this experience. I will say to you...I left the church eventually because as I deepened my relationship with God he led me right out of the totally dysfunctional church. Your story is a game changer and a life changer for so many. Thank you so much. 🙏💙
Jen, I am so thankful to hear you are still in relationship with the Lord, so many of these horrible predators ruin that for young people when they use the church to violate them. Thank you for sharing your story.
Thank you for sharing, I found you via Disney unboxing but it is so providential to see you also share this real important vulnerable videos! Its scary to see how things happen and it is hard to understand, and even if situations don't go all the way it is important to see how we might have been manipulated and lines crossed and wounds that are not seen since "nothing" happened. But there is shame and wounds even for just small things that we don't acknowledge and must likely cause trouble in other areas of our lives. We lose our self-esteem and confidence after letting it happen and then it just goes downhill. Again thanks for sharing and I am sorry for all you went through and thanks God for healing.
Thank you for this video. I'm struggling to come to terms with my child's abuse - your story gives me a lot of perspective. Thank you thank you thank you, and I'm so sorry this ever happened to you ❤️
I am so very sorry your family is going through this. I’m sure that every child is different, but I know that I was strongly against getting any counseling at the time. I was “fine” and didn’t need it. (That’s how I really felt). I didn’t want to talk to anybody about it. My brain just couldn’t comprehend the gravity of it. I do remember seeing counselors, but I don’t remember any of them being helpful. Knowing what I know now, counselors that specialize in trauma have been the most helpful (but it wasn’t until a few years ago that I was finally with the right counselors). I don’t know if that’s helpful at all, but I am praying for the road ahead for you and your child. ❤️
Wow that takes so much courage to do what you did! It is so hard as young girls to realize what is really being done to us and that we are an unwilling participant in it, but we don’t even realize that fact until we are struggling with our sanity way down the line. Bravo to you for sharing your story and I truly hope it helps so many people to look at the little things to see the big picture.
This has nothing to do with the very serious nature of the topic you're discussing in your video. But, I wanted to tell you, you have very unique eyes. They're very beautiful. Just like your spirit! Keep up your fine fight. Because it is making a difference, I'm sure Of it! You've managed to relate a very ugly topic in a most tactfully direct, straight forward way.
Your story reminds me of my own. Only my step dad was the perpetrator and my mother ended up brainwashed and sided with him. When you talked about feeling confused, I resonated with that so deeply! Actually I resonated with your entire story but still 🤭🫶
This bloke is evil. Clearly involved in church to get to children. You did his kids a favour, who knows he might have been touching them! I’m so sorry this happens to you and so glad you are sharing it because he’s dangerous!! I don’t believe he would have changed after jail. I’m a pastors daughter by the way. I’m so surprised you haven’t been put off by church. Please call this guy to court and name him. If his wife sees this comment… your a fool 🤦♀️ xx
Thank you for sharing your story. It was so hard to hear but so necessary because you matter and your story deserves to be heard. I was raped when I was 13 by a 35 year old man. He went to prison. When I was 32 I got a letter from the court informing me that he was released. I became agoraphobic. I had stuffed all those feelings away of that trauma and basically blocked it out of my mind… until I got that letter. I’m 38 now and finally am learning the impact that it had on my life and have been able to connect the dots as to why my relationship with sex had always been so unhealthy. I have a long way to go and I need to fine a therapist that specializes in this but I’m learning to work through something I pretended didn’t exist for 20 years. Thank you again.
When you were talking about the grooming process, it was eerily similar to what my psychopathic older brother did to me when I was a small child. He was between the ages of 14 and 18, I was between the ages of 6 and 10 when this happened. He absolutely knew what he was doing and he felt zero remorse. He has no capacity for empathy. When confronted by my parents he freely admitted to doing it and said he had to because my parents wouldn’t let him date.
You cannot be upset with yourself for your actions as a 12 year old looking back as an adult. I totally understand, this reminds me of a situation that happened to me that I always considered to be my fault as being an active participant, but after this video I am going to rethink this. My mother found out and was mad at me, so it was very confusing. Good for you staring your story! You are ok, you are wonderful and you deserve to forgive yourself for any guilt or embarrassment. ❤
Jen, I have JUST listened to your story. I hope that you will continue to stand up and fight against the idiot that hurt you. By standing up against him, the girls in the church will be safe and protected from him. Awe for his wife, she's an idiot too! Geeze! Thank you for sharing your story.
Sorry that you had to go thru this! I pray God will help you get thru this & get to the point of forgiveness. I had a sister that was taken advantage of by a church counselor. The church covered it up, sent him to a different church, where he again did the same. Several yrs later, church deacons from the church came to apologize to my sister & finally believed her.
This is so awful. These are the types of things that make me so scared to have my kids to youth groups or stuff in church where I can't see them. It's so so awful this happened. I'm so sorry.♥
What an amazing and strong woman you are. I hope and pray you one day do get to find closure for all of your suffering. The underlying truth to your story is that you were a child and he abused you in a variety of ways from an early age...as a child, your mind doesn't understand all of the implications of the wrongs being done to you in the way an adult/ mature mind does.
Young lady you’re such an incredible inspiration, thank you so much for sharing your story. If this helps just one child, than you’ve succeeded in shaping the life of someone, who did nothing wrong to deserve the emotional pain, left by a perpetrators wrong doing.
It's disgusting that the youth pastor did not go forward with having him step down from ministry and evaluate the situation better. This could have been stopped so much sooner. Please please please contact someone and demand that guy is watched in "ministry". You have this story, and if you can keep him from victimizing someone else you really should try. Our family realized this guy at our church was grooming some boys including trying to groom our kids. We followed that thing until he got frustrated and left our church. We made sure our pastor contacted the pastor at his new church to let him know what he d been doing(giving gifts to kids etc etc). You are obligated to follow through...
Such a crucial dynamic for people to become more aware of. It is so incidious and therefore so easy for people to blame the victim in these situations. It is Mind-F***ing on an unimaginable level and leaves the victim marked and vulnerable to future predators, and the pattern can be repeated well into adulthood. Without intervention it truly can devastate someones whole life. Thank you so much for having the incredible courage to share this. And your eyes are absolutely stunning!
Yes, let me say you are validated. Things that happen to us as children are not our fault. We are children and adults failed us, so many adults failed us. Sometimes it takes becoming a parent and wondering why we cringe at the thought of our daughter wanting to sleepover at a friends house. Or driving our kids to school because a bus wasn’t safe for us. Sometimes it’s going to counseling for a troubled marriage that our childhood trauma comes to light. Being a Christian myself, it angers me that not only is he lying but still in ministry. I understand God can change us, but only if we’re being honest. Being shady is not worthy to be in ministry. Church should be a safe place, I would be watching that guy like a Hawk, which then is stealing my focus on the service. I fully understand why even now, you want justice for yourself. I applaud you.
I completely understand I went through the same thing with my cousin, I’m glad you’re family believed you, I was 13 & he was 16, I told my mom & she didn’t believe me & from then on called me bad names & basically turned her back on me & told me she didn’t want me, but I’m better now & it made me a better mom with my daughter ❤❤
I'm so sorry this happened to you and I'm angry that your mom didn't believe you (that would only make things so much more difficult when you needed support the most!)
@@Jendoyle it did, but I like to think it made me a better mom & more aware of things, I have an amazing husband who understands & listens & never judge me & who is always there, so even though I went through that hell, I came out I like to think a better person & Iv been really blessed in life to have my husband ( he’s my everything), if you ever need me I’m here just holler, I love you sweetie…❤️❤️
I'm so glad you opened up about this , You are helping other's that , are or was in the same situation, as you Keep up your courage , and move ahead in your life, keep smiling And I hope you get other videos out soon, cause believe me this is a great one, God Bless, and Be With You.. 🙏
Thank you for sharing this difficult experience. It was very educational to me, who is naive to this topic. I fear for my grandchildren and these things are so good for me to know. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Bless you sweet lady.
Thank you for sharing your story! That must have been hard for you. As a mother of two girls who are now adults, I wish I would have heard you tell this story when they were young because I would have used your story to talk to my daughters about this subject. I never understood the different techniques these sickos used. you make it so easy to understand exactly what he was doing and why he was doing it. But I will definitely keep this story saved in my mind to use for my grandchildren and any other children that I feel the need to protect from anything like this happening to them. Also I now know what to look for in every day life to make sure I will see it if it is happening in front of me. Thank you so much I am sure you are saving alot of kids from your terrible fate.
Just want to say you are an amazing person. The reason I say that because you are so brave to tell your story and recognize how this came about I am halfway through this story my heart is broken, eyes field with tears but I'm so proud of you as a person, a woman, a human being and victim to tell your story and I pray that it helps millions millions of people. Thank you for being so brave to do this, thank you. You are an amazing person. It was the way you broke it down for us, It also helps me to explain to my daughters/children how it can happen to kids and they have not one clue what's going on. Again I said thank you
Thank you for sharing your story w/ such transparency! If you decide to make any more videos, please fix the sound problem b/c it was very distracting throughout the video. Thanks!
Thank you for having the courage to share your story. I’m sure this will help other victims as well. I’m so sorry this happened to you. Bless you ❤ PS you have the most beautiful eyes.
JEN IVE CAME ACROSS YOUR CHANNEL,YOU DEFINITELY 👍 TUCHED MY HEART THANKS FOR SHARING YOUR THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS ABOUT, HOW YOU WAS MUNSTER TUCHED AND TAKING ADVANTAGE OF A CHILD , CHILDREN ARE TOUGH TO TRUST
Thanks for post this, I haven't passed for that, but thanks because this video maube helped someone else. Don't give up! You're great, brave and powerful! This video proves how much you haved surpassed and how you shred it! Don't give up and good luck ❤
Amazing Gaming+ in FB brought me to your channel. Your strength is very inspiring. It just shows that pastors or priests are human, too. They are also sinners like regular people and we should be very careful in trusting who we allow to be part of our lives.
At our former church one of the Deacons was accused of fondling a pre-teen girl. He said - she said scenario. He went to prison. The church and his family held a mock funeral for him privately. He was listed as dead in an obituary type newspaper article.
😮 WOW ! Incredible 😢 Thank You for sharing your history about this grooming 😮 Im sure this will be helpful for other girls, boys & adults to be more aware to protect the youth . Gosh! 👼 BLESS YOU ❤
I wish more than anything for you to forgive yourself, forgive your child self for what you can see so plainly now, you were a child, there’s no way you could understand what was happening. You were groomed. Your trust was abused by someone who should have protected you. It wasn’t your fault, you did nothing wrong, you were taken advantage of. You’re so brave, braver than you even realise or give yourself credit for. I’m sure this video will resonate and hopefully help others who’ve been through this awful experience. Thank you 💕
This is so eery and familiar. At the age of 12(almost 13) I was groomed by a leader of a group called "Pathfinders" which is like boy and girl scouts. Anyway, this man would talk to me and my two friends about adult issues. There were definitely other signs that he was grooming me. I went on a camping trip with this person, a mom of another kid, and my 2 friends. My parents trusted this man, but when the abuse happened, he said "don't tell anyone, because you're beautiful "that was the most powerful phrase I've ever heard and affected me for the rest of my life. After it happened, my mom blamed me for what happened. As a parent, your job is to protect your children from abuse. When it happens, they shouldn't blame their child! I'm 43 now, and realize from therapy that this man affected me for the rest of my life. Thank you for your story.
That’s a hard question….as I often wonder “what would have kept me safe?” It for sure would have been helpful for me to fully comprehend and understand what was REALLY going on, but at what age is it appropriate to explain all of that to children? The grooming process started for me at age 11-12. I don’t know if this is the right or wrong answer, but I remember seeing a movie on TV (maybe a Lifetime movie) around age 14 and it had a coach and an inappropriate relationship with a student…..now this was already after everything happened with me…..but there were alot of similarities between my story and the movie…..it just helped to make things click in my brain. Maybe if you can find a movie like that to watch together and then talk about it with them afterwards?
My name is Hope Caren Schieck this is my cousin I am so sorry this happened to you. I love my cousin but this is the first time i heard this side of the story i heard his side. My heart hurts for you. Again i am truly sorry this happened to you
I understand.. my best friend and neighbor growing up.. her dad would make passes at me.. only when He had been drinking. I never told my parents.. I was 13..
Oh I’m so sorry you had to go through that! So many young girls get manipulated into this from someone they trust without even knowing. Young girls need to be aware, but goodness it seems so hard to trust anyone….
I admire you so much for having the courage to put your story out there...from the few videos I've seen of yours your have grown into a beautiful woman..I hope you are able to be able to have your day in court and have closure that you so much deserve..please remember you are important you are worth it and you can make it out on top...you will be in prayer and keep telling your story..it will help so many people know what signs to look for that may be affecting their child or a member of their family. Stay strong.
I have been watching the summer wells case the last 5 months. It’s unbelievable how much I have in common with that beautiful child, RIP Summer wells, leslye
Great video, I've seen the child molestation in churches... unfortunately, most churches don't have a clue on how to vet their team leaders... As far as I'm concerned, if they allow people to watch our children without obtaining a psychological profile on the applicants, they are truly clueless... I ended up having a psychological profile done by my ex-wifes psychiatrist on her after she tried committing suicide and then I watched our church beg me to let her back into the children's ministry... Unfortunately, she was not the only female sex offender that was being allowed to work with the kids. So... without explaining everything to them, I just said No! So we ended up divorced and she moved into another church where she could continue her secret obsession with children... I found out about it, went to her new pastor and was blown off. Any good psychiatrist can vet the team leaders but a lot of churches don't understand the manipulative people that will say anything to get themselves closer to your children. The sweeter they act, the more you should worry...
I just became a victim my ex boyfriend who I'm not going to name sexually assaulted me over the course of 8 months and I didn't come forward because he brainwashed me into believing that no one would believe me and that is actually not the first time that I became a victim of sexual assault I actually became a victim 2 other times and the whole time I felt trapped and I know all you guys are going to ask me why I didn't leave the relationship when it just started happening. I was groomed and when you are being groomed you don't understand it well enough to leave when you are in that situation. I'm telling this story to let everyone know that you are not alone.
“Uncle” Vince was a family friend. After he fondled me I was able to convince my parents that I didn’t want to spend time with him. Unfortunately they never questioned why. My weight gain is a form of protection I think
I've often thought about, is there a "training manual " ? Like you mentioned. And I came to the conclusion that what we are seeing is the nature or M.O. (method of operation) of the demonic spirit that animates these monsters hearts and minds. This particular spirit operates the same in ALL of these perpetrators!! This makes perfect sense to me.
Thank you for sharing your story. I think society and view of sex and women as something to care, not to assault - it all has a long journey ahead, obviously people lack care and tender relationships
Thank you for your story. You are me.. same story just mine was a 37 yo female and I was 15. Groomed me for a year. Now im 43 and it has come home to roost. I am upset and angry. Thank you I know I am not alone.
Jen, you are such a brave young lady. I’m so sorry you had to live that horrible abuse in your life. Listening to your story, I still see a lot of sadness in your expressions. Know that your are a beautiful human being and I’m so glad you have God in your life. Don’t ever lose faith in man or God. God will help you get thru this in time. No, you won’t ever forget this but maybe you can put this on a back burner and not allow it to control your future. There is so much of goodness in life for you to grab a hold of. Take things slowly and give it a chance. God bless you. 🙏🙏🙏🤎
What an important subject. I was 3 or 4. My best friend's grandfather invited me to his RV for some candy. 20 years later, I married a spouse abuser. Related?
Thank you for sharing you're story, it is realy helpfull! And thanks for the book recomondation!! I'm going to read it right noe, and hopefully learn more about what happend to me... Thank you for your curage 🤗🤗🤗
Forgiveness only makes sense if the person takes 100 percent responsibility for what they did and all the damage it has done. Don’t feel obligated to forgive someone who doesn’t take responsibility, it’s not yours it’s his… beyond the grave. Some people never forgive and that’s totally fine.
I don’t know about that…….I think that unforgiveness somehow keeps me imprisoned (not the other person) and as hard as it is, it is something I want to continue moving towards.
@@Jendoyle I respect that and wish you the best on your healing journey. What ever keeps you down, you should let go, I get it. Thank you for being so brave and sharing this in the first place.
My heart breaks for the little girl that lost her innocence, something like this destroys the person we could have been and changes you forever. I'm so impressed with the strength you show here while telling your story, most of us would never be this strong. I just saw his LinkedIn and Twitter where he lists himself as a mentor. Absolutely disgusting. I'm so sorry this monster was ever in your life, and I pray no other child will ever suffer at his hands again. Be well girl, your path of healing is amazing.
A mentor? That’s wrong.
This story is amazing and should be viral! The adults around her should have been more aware and caught on sooner! This is another circumstance of adults taking advantage of the situation and manipulating the child. Too many so-called Christians place far too much faith in their church leaders.
Two terms have saturated Social Media recently, 'Blow your mind' and it's related phrases (Mindblowing)...and 'Amazing'.
In this case, is "Amazing":
1) Good?
2) WTF?
@@versetripn6631 In case this wasn’t a rhetorical question, I would say amazing meant WTF is wrong with people. And amazing that this sweet woman has had to deal with what happened to her as a child for most of her adult life. Kudos to her for her perseverance, seeking the help she needed to put this unfortunate experience where it should be.. in the past with the blame squarely where it should be.. with the bastard that did this to her.
I am a 67 yr old woman and your story is in fact my story also.. after watching your video I cried to think of all the young girls between my age and your age that have suffered the same detriments ....bless you for getting help and being honest about forgiveness... it is because as adults we try to be the " bigger person" but that happened to a child and and that child did not deserve that and I find it so much harder to forgive anyone or anything that hurts an innocent child .. stay strong in your faith and stay blessed ...
This took a lot of courage to share, but it is a message that should have millions of views. Too many people ignore those "little signs" that something is wrong, allowing abuse to continue. Too many victims are confused by the false sense of shame they feel to share what happened, or what is happening. These monsters dwell in that shadow of silence. Kudos for shining the light on him!
I just read your text under the video and I am shocked … how is it possible that he is still working in the same kind of position. It was the absolutely right thing to say his same. Honestly. I am thankful you shared your story. It was the first time in 2021 (!!!) I heard of grooming and it’s around for such a long long time… you are helping a lot of people by sharing your story! 🙇🏻♀️
As a licensed Counselor in the field of Alcohol and Drugs I have heard many cases where church leaders have molested children. The signs are there, but people don't see them. Thank you for posting and telling your story. As a survivor myself I admire you as a smart and insightful person. God bless you.
Thanks Jerilyn!
Thanks for sharing your story. It's important that we all understand ...
Heartbreaking. And can we all agree that adults and children exchanging "friendly backrubs" is completely insane?
In a recent video you mentioned your story and I searched for this video. You’re so brave to share this. I’m so sorry for the trauma it may have caused, but using your story to help others is so kind of you. Sending hugs❤️
Thank you so much Michele. 🥰
@@Jendoyle Ohmigosh your story is such a cautionary tale for us parents who have children in any children’s or youth ministries-to be super vigilant and not to blindly trust a leader in the community or church.
You are an incredible survivor. You have every right to your anger and I support your work here with yourself and the bravery of doing that work so publicly. Unfortunately, your story is not rare. And it’s brave people sharing their narrative, the details (to educate and help prevent), and the devastating emotional effects (to sensitize and illuminate). But even more powerful is witnessing YOUR power, strength, vulnerability and incredible resilience. As you walked through your memories and feeling, we get to witness your healing in real time! So powerful to own your own strength and healing. It’s easy to call this man a monster and view him as an anomaly, and pretend that threat of death as punishment would prevent this behavior. But the fact is, this toxic entitlement and sense of power is a part of our society and has been since the dawn of time. But every person who tells their inner-child’s story sheds light on this pattern and we come closer together to ending it. Bless you!!! I’ll be sending light to you on your incredible path and peace to your inner child. She is precious and pure and NO ONE can take that from her!
So brave of you to share this in a public way. ❤️
I can not believe that he is still serving in ministry in churches! Who knows what he has done to more children?! So evil. What is worse is that society lets men like him continue being around children!
I’m so sorry this happened to you but thank you for sharing as that has to be tough but knowing you could be helping someone else who may come across your story and it could save them. So manipulative and taking advantage of young kids-I believe schools and churches need to be discussing this with pre-teens and teens a lot more than they do now as I do not see any of this covered at my church or the middle school where I work.
Very brave to share this difficult part of your life. It will help others.
Absolutely shocking that the family asked the church to help with the bail money! I hope the church refused. So sorry you had to go through this.
You are so brave to be open about this and I am certain this video has helped other people because sadly these things are way too common and many of us have had similar experiences. I saw the picture you showed and I could almost feel your emotions in that picture... you were still just a baby yet and he had no right to put you in that situation, it broke my heart to see how awkward you looked.. It's incredible that as public as he was that it wasn't caught sooner by other adults at the church. Thank God for your friend that told. It probably felt like betrayal at the time but it was 100% the right thing to do.
It's so important for the Victims to understand that they are NEVER at fault no matter what their own actions were. It might not feel like you are being groomed at the time but in hindsight the adult knew exactly what they were doing and every move they make is very calculated. Most children aren't even capable of understanding what is happening because their brains are simply not developed enough yet to even understand that they are being victimized. Children are naturally trusting of adults and adults should never take advantage of that. Thank you for making this video and I'd just like to add in that if this is happening to anyone out there or has happened, IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT and help is available!!💜💜💚💚
I've just watched your story on Unfiltered Stories. You are such an incredibly brave woman and I'm sure your gracious attitude and gentle humour has helped you and others. It makes my blood boil to think of a middle aged man abusing his position and abusing a child and even worse to then be reinstated in a church where potentially he could do the same again. You were 13! Well done for raising awareness. I'm glad you have been able to heal.
Thank you so much for sharing. This happened to me when I was 8 years old. I felt so dirty and confused and guilty. Like I did something to cause it. I'm so sorry this happened to you. It's horrible that he still works with church groups! Unbelievable, a convicted felon of rape +!!!!! I never had counseling because this happened in the early 60's and my parents never called the police. I am affected to this day. I am a Christian too, but I'm glad he's dead now, I won't lie. Again, thanks for sharing.
Thank you, your story has been so helpful. This is the first time I have heard anyone's story. It is so horrible this happened to you, I am so proud of you for sharing. Thank You!
Wow, your sharing of your experience was so impactful to me. I’m a sexual assault survivor and although I was 22 years old I was a very vulnerable, naïve and emotionally immature young woman. The perpetrator was my sister’s boyfriend who she ended up marrying and having a baby with. I had to see him at family gatherings and was treated as if it was somehow my fault that he broke in to my apartment on my first night there for many years. I questioned myself for a long time, wondering what I had done that may have contributed to it happening. I’m now a wiser 65 year old woman and know intellectually that it was not my fault but I still am affected by this rape to this day. I’m grateful that you shared your story and am so sorry this happened to you at such a tender age. Like you, I struggle with forgiveness of this man who never suffered any legal consequences for his misdeed. I finally realized many years after suffering through family gatherings that he attended that I could choose to not attend when he was there. And so began my healing which is ongoing. Love ❤️ and prayers to you 🦋
Thank you for sharing your story and being so honest- teens and parents need to hear this
So yes, you as victim can absolutely follow thru with the current church he is involved in. As a pastor's wife, in a Methodist church, we have protocols we have to follow where adult volunteers are concerned. Our Safe sanctuary rules dictate that all volunteers go thru independent background checks and training to help us recognize inappropriate behavior/ grooming red flags. As a victim, you absolutely must call that church and push them to remove him from his position for the welfare of the young women in his grasp. He most likely has already groomed someone in this church.
Seriously!!! I mean to not call in my eyes is a crime in itself... if you can tell thousands of people on UA-cam then you can deff make that call
I don't know if she has contacted but I went ahead and contacted the church he is at, we just went through this at our church and are working on making it a safer place. Kudos to your church for making it a priority!!
Narcissism at its greatest!
You make it so clear why child sexual abuse will never stop. On the one had we (as a society) condemn these perpetrators, but on the other hand we hide and protect them because they are often members of families and communities that don’t want to be disrupted by outing them.
Never apologize. You don’t need to validate telling your truth. Tbh you should put his identity out there I know I would love to know, so this creep never is around children again. Thank you for your bravery.
So very true about the lifelong consequences. I am now officially a senior citizen and still aware of how this changed my life. I am absolutely a better person for having had this experience. I will say to you...I left the church eventually because as I deepened my relationship with God he led me right out of the totally dysfunctional church. Your story is a game changer and a life changer for so many. Thank you so much. 🙏💙
Your eyes are just wow!!! And your story very helpful. I'm so angry this happened to you but happy to see you are strong and will help others! ♡
Jen, I am so thankful to hear you are still in relationship with the Lord, so many of these horrible predators ruin that for young people when they use the church to violate them. Thank you for sharing your story.
Grooming doesn’t just happen with children or young men/women teenagers: it happens to adult too.
Thank you for sharing, I found you via Disney unboxing but it is so providential to see you also share this real important vulnerable videos! Its scary to see how things happen and it is hard to understand, and even if situations don't go all the way it is important to see how we might have been manipulated and lines crossed and wounds that are not seen since "nothing" happened. But there is shame and wounds even for just small things that we don't acknowledge and must likely cause trouble in other areas of our lives. We lose our self-esteem and confidence after letting it happen and then it just goes downhill. Again thanks for sharing and I am sorry for all you went through and thanks God for healing.
Thank you for this video. I'm struggling to come to terms with my child's abuse - your story gives me a lot of perspective. Thank you thank you thank you, and I'm so sorry this ever happened to you ❤️
I am so very sorry your family is going through this. I’m sure that every child is different, but I know that I was strongly against getting any counseling at the time. I was “fine” and didn’t need it. (That’s how I really felt). I didn’t want to talk to anybody about it. My brain just couldn’t comprehend the gravity of it. I do remember seeing counselors, but I don’t remember any of them being helpful. Knowing what I know now, counselors that specialize in trauma have been the most helpful (but it wasn’t until a few years ago that I was finally with the right counselors). I don’t know if that’s helpful at all, but I am praying for the road ahead for you and your child. ❤️
Wow that takes so much courage to do what you did! It is so hard as young girls to realize what is really being done to us and that we are an unwilling participant in it, but we don’t even realize that fact until we are struggling with our sanity way down the line. Bravo to you for sharing your story and I truly hope it helps so many people to look at the little things to see the big picture.
And thank you for your willingness to share the process he used. I plan on sharing this with my two female youth leaders very soon.
This has nothing to do with the very serious nature of the topic you're discussing in your video. But, I wanted to tell you, you have very unique eyes. They're very beautiful. Just like your spirit! Keep up your fine fight. Because it is making a difference, I'm sure
Of it! You've managed to relate a very ugly topic in a most tactfully direct, straight forward way.
Thank you so much for the kind words. It means alot!
Thank you! This is my story and your emotions reflect how I feel and it was so validating to see & hear your story. ❤
Your story reminds me of my own. Only my step dad was the perpetrator and my mother ended up brainwashed and sided with him. When you talked about feeling confused, I resonated with that so deeply! Actually I resonated with your entire story but still 🤭🫶
This bloke is evil. Clearly involved in church to get to children. You did his kids a favour, who knows he might have been touching them! I’m so sorry this happens to you and so glad you are sharing it because he’s dangerous!! I don’t believe he would have changed after jail. I’m a pastors daughter by the way. I’m so surprised you haven’t been put off by church. Please call this guy to court and name him. If his wife sees this comment… your a fool 🤦♀️ xx
He deserved a lot more than 10 years in prison.
Thank you for sharing your story. It was so hard to hear but so necessary because you matter and your story deserves to be heard.
I was raped when I was 13 by a 35 year old man. He went to prison. When I was 32 I got a letter from the court informing me that he was released. I became agoraphobic. I had stuffed all those feelings away of that trauma and basically blocked it out of my mind… until I got that letter. I’m 38 now and finally am learning the impact that it had on my life and have been able to connect the dots as to why my relationship with sex had always been so unhealthy. I have a long way to go and I need to fine a therapist that specializes in this but I’m learning to work through something I pretended didn’t exist for 20 years. Thank you again.
Yes, I totally get it. I had no clue how many things in my life were still being effected by things that happened so long ago.
Very good topic. Thank you for sharing your story with us.
I can relate.
When you were talking about the grooming process, it was eerily similar to what my psychopathic older brother did to me when I was a small child. He was between the ages of 14 and 18, I was between the ages of 6 and 10 when this happened. He absolutely knew what he was doing and he felt zero remorse. He has no capacity for empathy. When confronted by my parents he freely admitted to doing it and said he had to because my parents wouldn’t let him date.
You cannot be upset with yourself for your actions as a 12 year old looking back as an adult. I totally understand, this reminds me of a situation that happened to me that I always considered to be my fault as being an active participant, but after this video I am going to rethink this. My mother found out and was mad at me, so it was very confusing. Good for you staring your story! You are ok, you are wonderful and you deserve to forgive yourself for any guilt or embarrassment. ❤
Jen, I have JUST listened to your story. I hope that you will continue to stand up and fight against the idiot that hurt you. By standing up against him, the girls in the church will be safe and protected from him. Awe for his wife, she's an idiot too! Geeze! Thank you for sharing your story.
Sorry that you had to go thru this! I pray God will help you get thru this & get to the point of forgiveness. I had a sister that was taken advantage of by a church counselor. The church covered it up, sent him to a different church, where he again did the same. Several yrs later, church deacons from the church came to apologize to my sister & finally believed her.
My little sister was groomed starting at age 12. When she told our parents, they didn't believe her, because "he was such a nice family man".
This is so awful. These are the types of things that make me so scared to have my kids to youth groups or stuff in church where I can't see them. It's so so awful this happened. I'm so sorry.♥
What an amazing and strong woman you are. I hope and pray you one day do get to find closure for all of your suffering. The underlying truth to your story is that you were a child and he abused you in a variety of ways from an early age...as a child, your mind doesn't understand all of the implications of the wrongs being done to you in the way an adult/ mature mind does.
Young lady you’re such an incredible inspiration, thank you so much for sharing your story. If this helps just one child, than you’ve succeeded in shaping the life of someone, who did nothing wrong to deserve the emotional pain, left by a perpetrators wrong doing.
It's disgusting that the youth pastor did not go forward with having him step down from ministry and evaluate the situation better. This could have been stopped so much sooner. Please please please contact someone and demand that guy is watched in "ministry". You have this story, and if you can keep him from victimizing someone else you really should try. Our family realized this guy at our church was grooming some boys including trying to groom our kids. We followed that thing until he got frustrated and left our church. We made sure our pastor contacted the pastor at his new church to let him know what he d been doing(giving gifts to kids etc etc). You are obligated to follow through...
Such a crucial dynamic for people to become more aware of. It is so incidious and therefore so easy for people to blame the victim in these situations. It is Mind-F***ing on an unimaginable level and leaves the victim marked and vulnerable to future predators, and the pattern can be repeated well into adulthood. Without intervention it truly can devastate someones whole life. Thank you so much for having the incredible courage to share this. And your eyes are absolutely stunning!
Yes, let me say you are validated. Things that happen to us as children are not our fault. We are children and adults failed us, so many adults failed us. Sometimes it takes becoming a parent and wondering why we cringe at the thought of our daughter wanting to sleepover at a friends house. Or driving our kids to school because a bus wasn’t safe for us. Sometimes it’s going to counseling for a troubled marriage that our childhood trauma comes to light. Being a Christian myself, it angers me that not only is he lying but still in ministry. I understand God can change us, but only if we’re being honest. Being shady is not worthy to be in ministry. Church should be a safe place, I would be watching that guy like a Hawk, which then is stealing my focus on the service. I fully understand why even now, you want justice for yourself. I applaud you.
I completely understand I went through the same thing with my cousin, I’m glad you’re family believed you, I was 13 & he was 16, I told my mom & she didn’t believe me & from then on called me bad names & basically turned her back on me & told me she didn’t want me, but I’m better now & it made me a better mom with my daughter ❤❤
I'm so sorry this happened to you and I'm angry that your mom didn't believe you (that would only make things so much more difficult when you needed support the most!)
@@Jendoyle it did, but I like to think it made me a better mom & more aware of things, I have an amazing husband who understands & listens & never judge me & who is always there, so even though I went through that hell, I came out I like to think a better person & Iv been really blessed in life to have my husband ( he’s my everything), if you ever need me I’m here just holler, I love you sweetie…❤️❤️
I'm so glad you opened up about this , You are helping other's that , are or was in the same situation, as you Keep up your courage , and move ahead in your life, keep smiling And I hope you get other videos out soon, cause believe me this is a great one, God Bless, and Be With You.. 🙏
Thank you!
Thank you for sharing this difficult experience. It was very educational to me, who is naive to this topic. I fear for my grandchildren and these things are so good for me to know. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Bless you sweet lady.
Thank you for sharing your story! That must have been hard for you. As a mother of two girls who are now adults, I wish I would have heard you tell this story when they were young because I would have used your story to talk to my daughters about this subject. I never understood the different techniques these sickos used. you make it so easy to understand exactly what he was doing and why he was doing it. But I will definitely keep this story saved in my mind to use for my grandchildren and any other children that I feel the need to protect from anything like this happening to them. Also I now know what to look for in every day life to make sure I will see it if it is happening in front of me. Thank you so much I am sure you are saving alot of kids from your terrible fate.
Just want to say you are an amazing person. The reason I say that because you are so brave to tell your story and recognize how this came about I am halfway through this story my heart is broken, eyes field with tears but I'm so proud of you as a person, a woman, a human being and victim to tell your story and I pray that it helps millions millions of people. Thank you for being so brave to do this, thank you. You are an amazing person. It was the way you broke it down for us, It also helps me to explain to my daughters/children how it can happen to kids and they have not one clue what's going on. Again I said thank you
Thank you for sharing your story w/ such transparency! If you decide to make any more videos, please fix the sound problem b/c it was very distracting throughout the video. Thanks!
Thank you for having the courage to share your story. I’m sure this will help other victims as well. I’m so sorry this happened to you. Bless you ❤ PS you have the most beautiful eyes.
JEN IVE CAME ACROSS YOUR CHANNEL,YOU DEFINITELY 👍 TUCHED MY HEART THANKS FOR SHARING YOUR THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS ABOUT, HOW YOU WAS MUNSTER TUCHED AND TAKING ADVANTAGE OF A CHILD , CHILDREN ARE TOUGH TO TRUST
I admire your courage and strength. I hope you continue to heal.
Thanks for post this, I haven't passed for that, but thanks because this video maube helped someone else. Don't give up! You're great, brave and powerful! This video proves how much you haved surpassed and how you shred it! Don't give up and good luck ❤
Thank you for sharing your story... I can relate for many reasons... By Gods Grace my family was able to get through it...
Amazing Gaming+ in FB brought me to your channel. Your strength is very inspiring. It just shows that pastors or priests are human, too. They are also sinners like regular people and we should be very careful in trusting who we allow to be part of our lives.
At our former church one of the Deacons was accused of fondling a pre-teen girl. He said - she said scenario. He went to prison. The church and his family held a mock funeral for him privately. He was listed as dead in an obituary type newspaper article.
😮 WOW ! Incredible 😢 Thank You for sharing your history about this grooming 😮 Im sure this will be helpful for other girls, boys & adults to be more aware to protect the youth . Gosh! 👼 BLESS YOU ❤
I wish more than anything for you to forgive yourself, forgive your child self for what you can see so plainly now, you were a child, there’s no way you could understand what was happening. You were groomed. Your trust was abused by someone who should have protected you. It wasn’t your fault, you did nothing wrong, you were taken advantage of.
You’re so brave, braver than you even realise or give yourself credit for.
I’m sure this video will resonate and hopefully help others who’ve been through this awful experience. Thank you 💕
Don't ever let you're children babysit or sleep over anyones house ever.
This no one should be hugging them getting them to sit on them no touch of any kind no private time no one can be trusted when it comes to kids
This is so eery and familiar. At the age of 12(almost 13) I was groomed by a leader of a group called "Pathfinders" which is like boy and girl scouts. Anyway, this man would talk to me and my two friends about adult issues. There were definitely other signs that he was grooming me. I went on a camping trip with this person, a mom of another kid, and my 2 friends. My parents trusted this man, but when the abuse happened, he said "don't tell anyone, because you're beautiful "that was the most powerful phrase I've ever heard and affected me for the rest of my life. After it happened, my mom blamed me for what happened. As a parent, your job is to protect your children from abuse. When it happens, they shouldn't blame their child!
I'm 43 now, and realize from therapy that this man affected me for the rest of my life. Thank you for your story.
Wow he was so tricky!! I listen to these stories to protect my daughters. Do you have any tips on keeping them safe?
That’s a hard question….as I often wonder “what would have kept me safe?” It for sure would have been helpful for me to fully comprehend and understand what was REALLY going on, but at what age is it appropriate to explain all of that to children? The grooming process started for me at age 11-12. I don’t know if this is the right or wrong answer, but I remember seeing a movie on TV (maybe a Lifetime movie) around age 14 and it had a coach and an inappropriate relationship with a student…..now this was already after everything happened with me…..but there were alot of similarities between my story and the movie…..it just helped to make things click in my brain. Maybe if you can find a movie like that to watch together and then talk about it with them afterwards?
My name is Hope Caren Schieck this is my cousin I am so sorry this happened to you. I love my cousin but this is the first time i heard this side of the story i heard his side. My heart hurts for you. Again i am truly sorry this happened to you
I’m so sorry this happened to you and I hope your healing. I just found this story today and it breaks my heart that this happened to you.
I understand.. my best friend and neighbor growing up.. her dad would make passes at me.. only when He had been drinking. I never told my parents.. I was 13..
I'm so sorry
Thank you for being brave and speaking out because this sick society is after the kids..
Oh I’m so sorry you had to go through that! So many young girls get manipulated into this from someone they trust without even knowing.
Young girls need to be aware, but goodness it seems so hard to trust anyone….
I admire you so much for having the courage to put your story out there...from the few videos I've seen of yours your have grown into a beautiful woman..I hope you are able to be able to have your day in court and have closure that you so much deserve..please remember you are important you are worth it and you can make it out on top...you will be in prayer and keep telling your story..it will help so many people know what signs to look for that may be affecting their child or a member of their family. Stay strong.
I have been watching the summer wells case the last 5 months. It’s unbelievable how much I have in common with that beautiful child, RIP Summer wells, leslye
You are really just the best person ever. I cannot thank you enough for this.
Great video, I've seen the child molestation in churches... unfortunately, most churches don't have a clue on how to vet their team leaders... As far as I'm concerned, if they allow people to watch our children without obtaining a psychological profile on the applicants, they are truly clueless... I ended up having a psychological profile done by my ex-wifes psychiatrist on her after she tried committing suicide and then I watched our church beg me to let her back into the children's ministry... Unfortunately, she was not the only female sex offender that was being allowed to work with the kids. So... without explaining everything to them, I just said No! So we ended up divorced and she moved into another church where she could continue her secret obsession with children... I found out about it, went to her new pastor and was blown off. Any good psychiatrist can vet the team leaders but a lot of churches don't understand the manipulative people that will say anything to get themselves closer to your children. The sweeter they act, the more you should worry...
I am so sorry! And thank you for educating us
I have to say off topic - your eyes are so beautiful
Thank you so much!
I am so proud of you! Thank you for sharing your story.
I just became a victim my ex boyfriend who I'm not going to name sexually assaulted me over the course of 8 months and I didn't come forward because he brainwashed me into believing that no one would believe me and that is actually not the first time that I became a victim of sexual assault I actually became a victim 2 other times and the whole time I felt trapped and I know all you guys are going to ask me why I didn't leave the relationship when it just started happening. I was groomed and when you are being groomed you don't understand it well enough to leave when you are in that situation. I'm telling this story to let everyone know that you are not alone.
“Uncle” Vince was a family friend. After he fondled me I was able to convince my parents that I didn’t want to spend time with him. Unfortunately they never questioned why.
My weight gain is a form of protection I think
I've often thought about, is there a "training manual " ?
Like you mentioned. And I came to the conclusion that what we are seeing is the nature or M.O.
(method of operation) of the demonic spirit that animates these monsters hearts and minds. This particular spirit operates the same in ALL of these perpetrators!! This makes perfect sense to me.
Thank you. I don’t even know where to start the healing.
Thank you for sharing your story. I think society and view of sex and women as something to care, not to assault - it all has a long journey ahead, obviously people lack care and tender relationships
I can't believe I never saw your story. Thank you for sharing your story it helps so much to know we are not alone and we can thrive ❤💖♥.
one common denominator in a lot of these stories (THE CHURCH ).
Thank you for your story. You are me.. same story just mine was a 37 yo female and I was 15. Groomed me for a year. Now im 43 and it has come home to roost. I am upset and angry. Thank you I know I am not alone.
I am so sorry
nothing but respect and love you're a brave young lady
Thank you Peter 🥰
Thank you for sharing your story. It is very powerful.
Thank you for sharing your story. ❤️
Jen, you are such a brave young lady. I’m so sorry you had to live that horrible abuse in your life. Listening to your story, I still see a lot of sadness in your expressions. Know that your are a beautiful human being and I’m so glad you have God in your life. Don’t ever lose faith in man or God. God will help you get thru this in time. No, you won’t ever forget this but maybe you can put this on a back burner and not allow it to control your future. There is so much of goodness in life for you to grab a hold of. Take things slowly and give it a chance. God bless you. 🙏🙏🙏🤎
What an important subject. I was 3 or 4. My best friend's grandfather invited me to his RV for some candy. 20 years later, I married a spouse abuser. Related?
Oh, I'm so very sorry. Trauma certainly does wreck the way our brain works.
God bless you with exponential amounts of healing and love ❤️
Thank you for sharing this.
Thank you for sharing you're story, it is realy helpfull! And thanks for the book recomondation!! I'm going to read it right noe, and hopefully learn more about what happend to me... Thank you for your curage 🤗🤗🤗
Forgiveness only makes sense if the person takes 100 percent responsibility for what they did and all the damage it has done. Don’t feel obligated to forgive someone who doesn’t take responsibility, it’s not yours it’s his… beyond the grave. Some people never forgive and that’s totally fine.
I don’t know about that…….I think that unforgiveness somehow keeps me imprisoned (not the other person) and as hard as it is, it is something I want to continue moving towards.
@@Jendoyle I respect that and wish you the best on your healing journey. What ever keeps you down, you should let go, I get it. Thank you for being so brave and sharing this in the first place.
Thank you u precious spirit for sharing it has been kept secret for a long time
Where was your parents? I’m mad at your parents for not protecting you.
Tell Tell Tell Thanks for putting this out there...btw byour eyes are beautiful. Bless you sweetheart
Thank you for share in your story I have learnt a lot from your scam videos I was scamed not a nice experience keep posting your great videos .
Thank you for sharing your story.