IS THIS THE ANSWER TO GETTING PREGNANT? Varicocele Surgery
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- Опубліковано 2 жов 2024
- Today we go in to get some more answers about our infertility journey. Could this actually change everything?
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Hi! We are Phil and Alex! After leaving California in an RV, traveling full time, and helping our littlest with an open heart surgery, we've settled down in Tennessee. We found our homestead land and are learning each day how to live a more sustainable life. We are a family grown through the miracle of Adoption & Infertility Treatments. Our precious daughters are Kinsley Grace (6 years old), Callie Jo (4 years old), and Cassidy Drew (1). Our passion is to encourage families through infertility, adoption and building stronger healthier families. Thank you for tuning in! We hope you are encouraged!
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Phil, thank you for your transparency and for loving others so much that you share your experiences and journey. You are supported and loved! Praying for you!
It took 2 years to conceive our daughter. Severe endometriosis/PCOS for me and low motility for him. I had surgery and letrozole with home insemination to conceive. Thankfully, it worked 1st cycle after surgery/ with medication. Our daughter is almost 1 year and we are currently trying again. We would love prayers that the Lord grows our family in his timing. ❤️ love you guys!! Such an encouragement!
Praying for you
Wow sounds like my experience. Still trying to conecieve. What kind of home insementation did you use?
Praying for you and your family. My boyfriend of 4 years is going to start trying next year wish us luck because I'm worried I can't have kids
@@katjavestergaard489 Mosie baby
@@leweaver0428 ahh cool! Thanks :) Im doing something similar but with normal syringe off amazon. Did you use preeseed?
Phillip, I wanted to let you know we aren't here just for Alex, we are here supporting and cheering you on too! It takes so much bravery to be open and share with a community, I am so proud of you for digging in and doing the hard stuff in being vulnerable and going to the appointments. We are behind you supporting you.
100% ❤
My husband had varicocele surgery in 2016. Everything went fine, although the recovery was a little worse than we were expecting for the first couple of days. He said the most uncomfortable part was the air that they pump in to do the laparoscopic surgery. I can’t for sure say that it contributed to us getting pregnant, but I can say that all of his numbers had improved six months after the surgery!
Iop
Yes, the air they pumped in when I had my tubes clamped after my 2nd child, was the worst part of the recovery.
Please, did your libido and erection levels improve after the operation? Please, I want an operation, but I'm afraid.
Phillip, I don’t think I’ve seen you so terse and tense . Hugs.
PHIL:
There are NO "medical guarantees" EVER.
Ask those of us who fell through the cracks, and medical intervention didn't work.
JUST TRY, AND HOPE.
Trust that we are on your side.
I feel like Phil is experiencing everything Alex has already processed, accepted and then proceeded in faith. The only sure way it will to fail, is to do nothing at all. 💛
I’m so confused about their fear of the cost of this... they seem to be fully capable of dropping thousands and thousands on multiple rounds of IVF.... which can cost upwards of $15,000 per round. Fix the damn varicose veins in his testicles already lol. It’s such an easy decision. Yet it seems pretty clear he isn’t going to do it.
I don’t think he wants to do it. I’m not even sure he’s 100 with more IVF.
Philip you’re such a trooper; really respect your honesty and hope you find your answers to this particular procedure. We have 2 sons and would have loved more children but serious complications after the second birth meant no more pregnancies. We are so grateful and blessed with our boys who are all grown up now. : )
I think that Alex went through a lot to try to have a baby physically and mentally with the possibility that it might not work but she did it anyway and I think it is time for Phil to do this small operation that will cost way less than in-vitro for his family even if it might not work💕🌈🙏🏼
Yes
Judgy
@@kaypowell407 maybe It seems so but I just want them to have hope doing nothing is nothing
@@kaypowell407 Plus I am a huge fan of Phil and Alex I think they’re both absolutely wonderful people and I would be so lucky to have a friend or a family member like them they inspire me every day
@@kaypowell407 it is actually an opinion which people are allowed to have 😏
There are no guarantees in life. You cannot live in fear of the, "what if's" and unknowns. I'm pretty sure that your insurance didn't pay for the IVF procedures but you guys still went through with them because you wanted the chance to have angel's. I'm sure you are glad that you kept trying even though you had no certainty that it was going to work. You have tons of people saying prayers for you and your family. Rely on God to help you make the right decision. Much love to you all!
If it's a scope it'll be so easy ! I'm sure you can pay on a payment plan so no sweat, and remember your wife has done the lion's share of the pain. I'm an OR nurse and trust me the Docs say it works...also those varicosities.need to go before you age you will more comfortable ✨🤗✨
"I'd love to naturally make a boy" while wearing his girls' sunglasses. Killed me 😆
As a fellow person with ADD, I find doctor's appointments overwhelming as well. It's a lot coming at you all at once. I find human interaction draining in general, but having but appointments amp that up....
And I thought I was the only one who found interacting draining..
Sounds more like anxiety or an introvert like me
We are on a totally different path but I absolutely love your family. In late 2019 I became pregnant with daughter number 4. We have 3 older daughters who were 20,17, and 12 after years of trying to conceive we were over the moon happy. Our Allisyn Jane was born 4/19/20 ver prematurely but was blowing the nicu staff away at how well she was doing then at a month old our sweet girl suddenly passed away. Devastated was a understatement. We are still in disbelief. I left the hospital that day determined to find out why? Why our baby? Why a baby so loved and so wanted? Why leave others here unwanted, unloved, abused and worse. I was 40 so old. Lol but was also left unable to have any more children. One day it hit us! Allisyn was here to show us that we are not complete, we have so much love to give. We called an adoption agency that same day. Due to covid we were told on 4/15 that it would be another couple of months before we could be a “waiting” family. Background checks were taking extra long. On 4/19/21 we received a call, to everyone’s surprise, all of our stuff came back! We were officially a waiting family!! Notice the dates. It was our sweet Allisyns 1st birthday. I just know our sweet angel had a hand in it. We are still a waiting family, waiting for a little angel to complete our family. I have no doubt that our angel will send us the perfect baby to complete our family. After 16 years together 2 biological kids for my husband and myself, 2 other daughters that are mine biologically but loved nonetheless by my husband, people think we are crazy for starting all over! I say, we are crazy not to. We have so much love to give and can’t wait for this next journey to begin.
What an amazing story. I am so invested and want to know what sweet child your Angel Allisyn sends you
Thank you💗💙 when we get the call, I will come back and update
Ok, please be gentle with me Phil and Alex UA-cam Family.
Phil, I think you maybe overthinking and over researching about this. You need to trust your gut feeling and what is best for your family. Pray and let God lead you on your on the path for this. Trust your gut feeling and trust what God says, please. I love you and your family like you are my family.
Currently praying and hoping for our first. My husband had varicocele repair earlier this year and I recently had surgery for stage 3 endometriosis. Thank you for sharing in your journey and for the encouragement you provide!
My husband and I struggled with infertility for 9 years. We had no answers except low sperm count/motility. My husband did the surgery. We wanted to avoid IVF, mainly due to cost. It was a success for us. We had two babies 20 months apart. The procedure was really easy for my husband. I'm a huge advocate for this procedure becuase it worked for us. Funny thing, our RE told us NOT to do it 😂.
My husband have an appointment next month bt we are worried
Glad to hear that you succeeded.
I think its funny how many reasons Phil can come up with to not have the surgery. They dont know IVF will work for sure but that never stopped them.
Even a c-section incision can be tender for a couple of years!
Without current to date information it sounds like Phil wanted to hear the procedure would be a very high percentage it would work. Yet Alex has gone through multi IVF procedures with not guaranteed results. I feel he should go through the procedure to increase the odds for future children.
Phil! Love ya and love Alex… but I’m a gal who has had tears in every single one of my births (3) total… and it hurts still! With alllll love and compassion , take one for the team man 😅😅🤣🤣 … no but in all seriousness I’m joking! Do whatever you feel is best for you and you wifey 💕🙈😆😁
Just to say as a nurse that I have seen many women have an op to correct this. In the UK it is called Fentons Op. Love to you
Your an awesome husband for doing your part Phil ❤️
Hi from México! I love to see your family growing and how it works for you, it's a light of hope for so many, unfortunately it's not the same history for all of us, my road has reached a dead end cause my only option is IVF and we don't have the resources for it, so... for me, i just have to understand that "no" it's an answer too and that God knows why things are the way they are... anyways i'll continue following you and your lovely family... huge hugs for every one of you!!
Hey Alex, there is a UA-camr called Lucy Eades (the Eades family). She just had her 6th child and she has always donated breast milk. She just found out she has cancer and ironically the first time in her infant raising years doesn’t have any stored milk and no friends who have any. When I heard you talking about you donating milk I thought I’d reach out and tell you Lucy’s story on the slim chance you could help 🤷♀️. Worth a mention.
Yes !! I watch her too wonderful idea 💡
@@susangantzler7786 Alex and Lucy are both amazing girls. Even if Alex can’t help she might have a link in that community that can help?
Her new little one has special needs that she has kept private but she has mentioned that he more then any of her other babies needs the milk. My heart breaks for her.
I have had my children, and am past child bearing age. However, soon after my daughter was born, a fibroid tumor caused me to have to have a hysterectomy. Secondary infertility is no fun, I can tell you that. I would have liked to have one more child, but it was not to be. So, I understand what you both are going through. All my love.
I think that if you don't have the surgery, then you will always wonder. I know that there is fear in doing this, for many reasons. Just remember that your amazing wife has been through the medical ringer, and could be the encouragement that you need. I highly recommend joining a group regarding this (many online). They're a godsend... just you are for us! God bless you!
Phillip I don't know you guys or anything and it's certainly none of my business at all but I do sense a bit of not really wanting to from you!! Mostly....just pray!!! It's great that you do have 3 beautiful children!!!!!! Take care each of you and Stay safe!!!
I think there are a lot more unknowns - you just have to jump in, and see and feel your dreams come true now.
I am WAY past my childbearing years, to say the least! But I’ve been a subscriber for quite some time, and I’m here to cheer you guys on! I’m praying for you, and wishing you all the best in your journey to grow your family!! ❤️
Thank you Wendy!
Philip, man up. Alex has been through SO MUCH pain and agony to grow your family. Come ON!!
I could get pregnant very quickly but kept miscarrying then had a baby son with potters syndrome who died at six weeks old. Then we had a daughter but i had emergency surgery and had to have emergency hysterectomy at her birth so that stopped me or else i would of tried again. We disnt adopt as it had to be thought through and i had thyroid cancer and daughter had a medical condition which was full on day and night with no help from outsiders. So we didnt adopt as i wantes to survive to be there for iur daughter growing up and i was. Good luck but you have a lovely family now and sometimes its wize to think about what you have got and enjoy!
It took 5 years so conceive our first baby. Baby boy born May 2020 (conceived via PICSI). Now pregnant with baby #2 (FET) due March 2022. Please pray for a healthy delivery as my first was emergency csection. Thank you! Your channel makes me feel not so alone with all the decisions Ive had to make in my fertility journey.
I am 49 and a have had three beautiful baby boys . One of which started his new journey at College in Athens, TN . I hope and pray I get through the next fews weeks emotionally for I am having a full hysterectomy. I really am sad . No more babies for this mom.
My mother had a third baby at 45 . So go can provide !!!!! God bless you all !
You might not know if this will work, but you will know if you have it done. No matter which way it goes, you gave it your all. You cant put a price on growing your family if thats what you want! Blessings and all the best!
Prayers for quick treatment and healing
Me and my husband have struggled for five years with growing our family. We have one loving daughter after five loses and have had another loss since having her. It’s now been a year since we conceived and it just feels never ending. You guys bring me so much hope that god has a plan for everyone ✨
Would like to mention, do you think if you don’t do this procedure you will regret it in five years time? Because five years into our journey, I now regret not pushing for more tests after two years of infertility. It’s a lot harder here in the UK because our health system has such long waiting times and restrictions, often wonder if we were in the US if we would be able to find out answers more easily x
I had a grade 3 varicocele. Couldn’t get my wife preg for 2.5 years and had to do in vitro. Had my nut fixed with micro surgical varicocelectomy. She got preg 4 mos later. . .
Hey guys!! We r in a waiting phase of our journey as I need surgery before next transfer. Dec 16 the the big day for that. I had a miscarriage in April n two failed transfer. My husband is healthy in the fertility aspect. We have our son that's 2 from our first IVF success. Please pray for our journey that God has a plan for our family and we will be fruitful n multiple. 🙏💙
I hope the surgery is successful. I was going to do ivf and the doctor said no, as he thought it would negatively affect his success stats. I wanted to fight it but my hubby gave up. It was all on me as the male fertility test was so positive that the specialist told him he could impregnate lumber.
Never had kids and my hubby died 13 years ago. My family now is 8 parrots and an old dog and cat. Not the same but I love them all.
Hugs.
Hi! from Louisiana, I totally agree with you Phil, just continue to pray to Christ Jesus Our Lord, and leave in the Mighty Hands Of Our Heavenly Father AMEN.
We years in to TTC. Lost a few along the way at various points. Apparently my anatomy is absolutely fine and as far as they can tell, so is my husband's. Waiting on an antibody test on the swimmers next month.
The Dr said he thinks it due to my age (40 next June) to just hold hope and keep trying.
Prayers for peace, trust and hope are our biggest need at this stage. Obviously, a successful pregnancy too!
Love you guys xx thanks for being so candid
I’m here as always! As soon as I see your videos posted I fly over to UA-cam cuz seeing you guys makes me happy. Love and respect 💛💛💛
It's so easy for some to reproduce, and for others it just isnt...alot of big decisions and heartache. My hubby has varicocele and he doesnt want to do the surgery, I decided Im open to IVF but its super expensive and no insurance to cover it. Im at a loss here. Pray for us.
My husband did it we have a daughter today good luck
Did you feel any improvement in his libido after surgery ?
At least Phil is trying to grow is family in any way possible. Some men don't wanna go through fertility treatment.
If I may, it seems that Phil kinda-sorta doesn't want another baby but a.) loves Alex and b.) either doesn't feel super comfortable sharing that or gets steamrolled every time he does...? I don't know. It's hard when one party is super gung-ho and one isn't.
I am doing adoption. I am in my 50s and I want one more chance.
Love your family! 🥰
You have 3 beautiful girls you guys are awesome parents. Whatever you two decide you will always have that. I will always follow your journey prayers for Whatever you guys decide 🙏
There are so many interlacing factors affecting your (both of you) fertility and it is all about probability. It sounds like having the procedure can increase your chances without making things worse. There are no certainties in life, you know this. Who would you thought that a virus from China would create a world-wide pandemic? I have my fingers crossed for you all!
Good luck and god bless you with your journey, Philip
The "don't know" phase is the hardest part, but honestly isn't that the true definition of having faith. Continue to have faith that something positive will come out of the surgery if you do decide to do it. My husband just had the surgery 2 months ago (healed totally fine), so we are in that 10 month window of full recovery in order to see success rates, and you're right, we don't know if it worked or if it will work, but we had faith to move forward with it the unknown. And just like everything else with infertility, the expense is not fun - just being real, unfortunately insurance only covered a small portion of the fee, so out of pocket (in Florida) was about $2500 (+ anesthesia fee of $500) - hope this helps with your decision making process, God bless 🙌 and just know that with whatever you decide, you'll make the right decision.
This operation worked with my cousin and now he and his wife have a handsome 3 year old son , it took them 1 year to get pregnant after this surgery .
Best of luck on your journey!
I may have missed something...but don't you still have frozen embryos?
Never been so early 🥳🤯😱 hoping everything works out well 💕
This sounds like a bunch of Hooey Phillip! NONE of the procedures you do...or rather Alex does to HER body are guaranteed, and they cost a lot, and cost her personally a lot, but you guys do them. This sounds like its super promising and so what if it takes some months after. If it means you have a better chance of natural pregnancy, you could have many kids in the years to come from this.
Exactly. The percentage odds with IVF wasn’t that great either. I guess he’s just scared. But watching that clip was slightly annoying..,you want more children and now HE has a chance to do something big to help that. This is response? As I say. Guess he’s just scared. And it’s his body so he get to decide. Bt gosh, this clip was. 👎🏾
Love watching you channel……I’ve watched you for many years!
It’s currently nearly half past eleven in the evening here in the UK, and was so excited to see you had put a video up.
Sending love to you all from Scotland, United Kingdom 🏴 🇬🇧
Praying for you and your family. Love you guys ❤️🙏
Hubby and I have been married for 6 years and have been praying for a baby since day one! Prayers for everything moving forward!!
You are an amazing husband and father Phillip.
Are you sure Phil feeling "scarred" from so many appointments is not a reluctance of even wanting to pursue IVF again?
Every time you do IVF, there’s no guarantee either. Just sayin 😉
I have no idea the cost breakdown either but if it’s comparable to IVF, I’d say go for it… praying it helps!
I see the hesitancy in your behavior. All of the procedures Alex has endured, none of them came with guarantee. She has been willing to go above and beyond with incredible faith to grow your family. It's your turn! Take the chance! Stop worrying about the cost, yes I know it matters, but God provides!
Funny they can spend on many other things people would have done without. This is the second you tube family talking about money this week one was medication that was needed for their daughter who has arthritis and the next day covered. And here we go again maybe the addition could have waited .. you tubers seem to think because they reach so many as it is the job they choose they are some how entitled.. two vlogs I will no longer follow no lost to them but people heads up life is hard.
My dr(just yesterday) referred me to a fertility clinic for egg retrieval. Im in my later 30s and she feels its the best way to ensure fertility when I meet my future husband.
I'm nervous, anxious and scared.
I hope its in G-D plan for me to become a mom naturally.
Really? Really really .. do you have ANY idea how a c section incision can be uncomfortable for a long long time!
If i were you guys, I would definitely do this surgery! it could lead to getting pregnant naturally, which would save you a lot of money from not having to do IVF.
She is pressuring him
Captions available please and the both of you are very brave and very strong 🥰😍❤💕♥️
My hubby had this surgery and now he has four children !
I am planing for surgery. Could you please confirm did you see any decrease of libido in him after surgery?
Love you guys! Currently going through IVF. I have had three failed transfers. I just had a hysteroscopy and polyp removal. I will be doing my next transfer in December. Please pray that we become hopeful. With all of our failed transfers it’s hard to be optimistic.
We are also in in the process of IVF. We had 2 failed transfers this summer. Just transferred for the third time a few days ago and we're praying that this one will be our miracle. Praying your next transfer is a success!
Can you explain why some of your videos have CC and others don’t ? Is it more work (when editing) to involve CC? ? I’m genuinely curious 🤨?
Captions are controlled from your screen. When watching click the 3 dots on the top right and turn your captions on. ❤️
Phil you totally rocked the sun glasses!
I say you should try. Pray and pray and try.
Pray that everything good well for your Phil ❤️🌈
My son has varicosele surgery at 17. Regardless of fertility the surgery might relieve other symptoms of discomfort related to the enlarged vein. Our insurance covered with no issue.
Now he recover or not
Have faith.
We tried 8yrs and then had varicasiel op and got pregnant 3 months later with our boy.
Just do it! There are no guarantees in life. What happened to your faith?
Good luck Phil
We try for our first baby since 7,5 years. I have a rare genetic condition and an unicornuate uterus. My husband had this surgery 4 years ago and it didn’t help us. We did 3 rounds of IUI, 2 rounds of natural cycle IVF and all if them failed. We changed the clinic a year ago and did genetic testing on 11 blastocysts, 3 are healthy. I lost two of them after 6 weeks…
One little miracle is left. Oh, let that be our rainbow-baby!
Ok, so the surgery has up to a 50% chance of being successful. So that gives you a 50% chance at being able to conceive naturally. If you don't have the surgery you will have 0% chance of conceiving naturally. This is one of those situations where you don't know if you don't try.
Love both of you guys and your openness on this journey! We are currently trying to get doctors to order test and evaluate what is causing our infertility since we've now ruled out male factor. For us it's been a battle to get seen and have anything really done even though we are on year 9 of ttc naturally and many hiccups and moves along the way meaning starting over. But praying that 2022 is the year that brings us a little one! Hopefully you get answers soon on what's the best steps for you and excited to see what the new year will bring your family!
I haven't heard any talk about hormone levels, but maybe I missed it. Have them check your hormone levels. If your testosterone is low or the ratio of testosterone to estradiol is off, taking anastrozole may be a cheaper and easier option.
We have two wonderful kiddos, one through IUI and one through IVF. It was a long hard road that, if I am honest, has left a lot of scars on my heart. My younger one is 5 years old and I still struggle with the fact that we have decided to be done growing our family. Most days I am content, but some days are really, really hard even now. Thank you for sharing your story and bringing light to what is often a dark and lonely journey.
We just started ttc baby number one. I’m not young, I have some trials that make it more difficult, but not impossible. I am praying that even though we know delivery would be more difficult, potentially, that a healthy pregnancy is ahead of us. We are hoping for just one or two children.
how is your pain now
I am the type that sometimes I need encouragement from my family friends and my pastor and his wife and the preacher and his wife that have been in revival with us on the days we have revival and we are so blessed
My son had that surgery when he was a child. I was told not only is it a good idea to do it so he can have children one day but if he didn't do it his chance of prostate cancer would be very high. So that was our selling decision. Prayers for you.
Three children ,a new house,, Happy family. What do you want another baby...? .no no relax...because you don"t think an adoption, it's better!
It took us 5 years and 2 rounds of clomid to get pregnant with our 1st. Lots of prayers and amazing OBGYN
I think you are awesome to be willing to go through this surgery to help grow your family!
Please try anything and everything,
but i do understand your caution
with the financial side of it.
🙏 💞🍼💖🍼💞🙏
So you sponsored a families IVF, but are worried about the cost of this surgery? Just curious, no hate. love ya
Phill I will pray for you daily. You are an incredible dad. I can’t wait to see you walking along holding the next child’s hand.
Ive done growing my family by 29 years but am here to support all you guys that are struggling to grow your own families my heart goes out to you all and god bless you all
We had a vericocele situation as well and we were told it might not matter of we fixed it. But we had one child amd wanted to have more very badly. Well we did have the surgery and now baby number five just turned one lol. And now residual pain. However the vericocele did come back.
Varicocele come back how many years later 🤔
@@KHANGENISYS I would say by year three there was significant growth and now my husband has to manage the pain again. But he says it was totally worth it for the fertility. We were pregnant with my second child within a few months.
Nothing in life is guarenteed. Just do it. Trust in the Lord.
After almost 5 years of trying and on 7 cycles of Hormones - we are awaiting our arrival of our daughter - due date 12/3 but praying she comes this week! Our first child.
God is good! Prayers for a safe delivery for you and your baby girl.