shows you can't judge anyone based on how they seem outside...it hits hard. to anyone struggling with it, don't give up! we'll try to help you the best we can, through everything
Absolutely, your comment beautifully captures the essence of the video. It's a powerful reminder that appearances can be deceiving, and it's crucial to approach others with empathy and understanding. Together, we can create a more understanding and supportive community.💚💚
I'm depressed and some time ago I told my closest friends that when I smile or laugh then it's often because I'm nervous or feel bad and this is my reaction, and turns out that none of them noticed it before and they were sure that it just means that I'm in a good mood. It's really so important to tell your closest ones about it because they might simply not know. Everyone, take care
Thank you for sharing your experience, and it's brave of you to open up about your feelings. It's indeed crucial to communicate with those close to you, as sometimes, the signs of internal struggles aren't always visible. Please take care too!
Thank you. I tried to explain this to my therapist. Even showed him photo's of my smile when feeling depressed, but he didn't get it. How would anyone else. So I keep on smiling. It's OK, b because I know now I'm not the only one like this. Thank you😊
@@bettywindish8692 Good luck with your therapy, I hope that everything goes well! That's really weird tho that your therapist couldn't get it - I talked about this to my therapist as well and she told me that she completely understands it and smiling like this when depressed can happen if you just subconsciously believe that showing that you have issues can cause more problems then just smiling and pretending that everything's okay. But really, you aren't the only one with this problem, please don't think that you're weird in any way ❤ Mental issues absolutely suck but you can definitely overcome them, even if it's long and hard
Yeah I’m not telling anyone close to me bruh, I feel like it only makes things worse when I tell my mom (who I hate). I have no friends to tell & I don’t want any. I don’t even hide the fact that I hate living if im around other people. It could be a party or something where everyone is dancing & having fun but then there’s me with me just standing there lifeless, no one does anything that’s why I have no problem with revealing how I actually feel. Reason I hide it from close people is bc they will take me to like a councillor or somethin & I feel like I’m just being conditioned so they can control me, I was forced into having councillors back in hs & still I hid majority of things. I don’t want my life to get better, I want it to end
pysch2go you are actually stalking me i swear omg i was thinking about this exact thing today and how it relates to me. i’m tired of always being the smiling and bubbly friend when in reality I’m really struggling but I can’t seem to stop faking it… thankfully I’ve just started seeing a therapist so hopefully I’ll be ok 💗
Timestamps: Intro ☆ 0:00 ~ 0:18 - Smiling outside but feeling a fraud inside ~ 0:26 - Feeling doubtful of yourself ~ 0:36 - Hopelessness and Worthlessness ~ 0:45 - Not wanting to burden others ~ 0:57 - Feeling tired mentally and physically but scared to ask for help ~ 1:02 - Feeling disconnected and isolated ~ 1:20 Hope this helps :)
@@surajbadrinarayananyou do realize some people have parents that don't support us being anything other than happy so if they catch us listening to this they'll get beat right?
I lost a friend because she was suffering from depression and just couldn’t take it anymore. She was my only friend in school and helped me many times in my life. I still cry from the text she sent me before she passed away😢
This video really hits home. I've been on a journey with smiling depression for well over a decade. And there is a very specific feeling of emptiness to it, when you know you have loved ones around you, a good life, etc., but you still have this "wounded" feeling inside you. With time however, I've come to accept it more and more, and nowadays it makes me more empathetic towards other people, since I can relate to their suffering from my own experience. Stay strong, everyone ❤
Yeah that's pretty accurate; when I'm talking to people I'm all smiley, making jokes all the time and all that garbage while feeling absolutely awful on the inside, but when I'm not talking to anyone I look as if I've got a constant hangover while feeling even worse
That was what exactly happened to me for a very long time but now I'm getting better thanks to professional help and support, thank you so much for speaking about this struggle! Ik it would help a lot of people
It his hard when you tell people and they don't believe you or even say you're not depressed (enough) bc you're always so happy... It's especially hard when they were the only one you felt comfortable enough with to talk about it in the first place.
@@marlena. I'm sorry to hear that. Have you found any other sources of support or understanding in your journey? If not, maybe sharing this video with your people might be helpful to let them know about the variety of signs people with depression show. What do you think?
For about 2 months I’ve had this. Ever since I moved from Illinois to Delaware I quickly changed from extrovert to introvert and got hit by severe depression. For 1 month I would cry in my bed ever single night. Around 2 months ago I got hit by this *smiling depression* where I greet people at school and outside of school and my family with a smile while feeling depressed and wanting to go back to Illinois. It’s nice to know that I’m not alone in this and if you are battling this as well, keep up the good work and try to talk to someone about it!
Hellooo! This channel has really helped me and so many other people understand & come to terms with ourselves, I now get the help I didn’t know I needed! I have been struggling with Trichotillomania and dermatillomani for well over 6 years and I’m now 53 days clean! I haven’t seen many informative videos discussing that topic and before I even knew what Trichotillomania/dermatillomani was, I felt ashamed and I would absolutely love it if there could be a video talking about it❤️ have a great day/night and remember that you are valid!
So proud of you , and you should be proud of yourself 💚 you are valid 😊and worthy 😊 , my neice does this too (skin picking ) and not sure how to help her , any suggestions, would be appreciated 💚 I also have not seen much videos on this topic and would love to see more ... hope you have a wonderful day /night 💚 green is a healing colour I send you green healing energy and light 💚🍀🌳🌿🍀💚🌳🌿🍀🍀🍀💚🍀🍀🌿🌳💚
Let me be honest, a few months ago, I faced this exact same thing. I always smiled even when I didn't really feel like smiling, but deep down, I felt the opposite. I always wanted to cry over no reason, but something stressed me out to the point I got panic attacks then everyone around me started to realize that something was bothering me and started to help me to get over it. It was so unexpected, tho. My dad took me to places to make me feel relaxed, and it definitely helped me. So, for ppl who are going through this phase, I know how hard and sad you'd feel, and no answer could be found on the internet nor anywhere but within yourself. I k u always try to be optimistic and all, but it's fine to show that you are not ok at times. Cheer up!
You don't realise how lucky you are to have your dad by your side cause most of us either has no dad or a dad who is ashamed of you, just because you didn't pass the exam, at the very sight you appear Infront of him
My mind doesn't sender to dark thoughts... it's always there. Everyday I pretend that I xm fine because people don't care anymore. I've been told by my closest friends that they will listen if I need to talk.. ... when I start to try and express my true feelings they switch the subject or stop listening. So, I keep it all packed away inside and show everyone what they want to see.
10-15 years of living with smiling depression, almost exactly as described in the video. Met a new therapist who has been doing tonnes of self compassion work with me. "It's okay, to not be okay". "Hit a point of utter exhaustion from continuously wearing this mask". "On a journey and am starting to be okay again with just being myself, instead of the mask, and liking who I am now". ...All you need to add in is "Started properly/frequently going to the gym and getting regular exercise, and making it part of my routine for the last 6 months.. and feeling much more positive as a result", and I will start looking for cameras!
Hi... Im just here to thank u psych2go for these vidoes it really helps me alot and let me know that im not alone i really feel that u are with me and u always will u are one of my favourite channels. last year was really hard for me but when i saw one of ur videos i felt better and i kept watching them until today thank u so much i may sound silly for writing this for no reason but to me it means alot..❤❤❤ And i just want to say for the people like me and maybe worse.. You are not alone we all are with u and we all love u stay strong and god will always be there for u i wish u all the best❤❤❤
A Guru once said you must treat your anxiety and or depression like an old friend. You must not let them overwhelm you, rather, see them as someone who visits once in a while. This takes some of the pressure off of your wellbeing😊
@@susanhills8015That's unfortunate, as a person who has been depressed for a few years now. It's best to accept that they are a part of your life. Instead of suffering from them, learn to live with them.🤷♂️
This really shows that even the happy people can be sad on the inside and if you think that’s okay to toy with you may need to watch a few more of these videos and if you feel like this tell someone I needed to and it did help. You may be thinking I’m a twenty year old but I’m actually only 16…. I’ve dealt with this a lot but please acknowledge that people are here too help and make you feel okay.
This is something difficult especially when no one around you knows because you are always 'cheerful and positive' I already helped a friend get out of depression but until today I didn't have the courage to ask for help
This relates to me on so many levels I always smile on the outside and am happy but on the inside I’m the most depressed out of everyone thank you for making this video this really helps me
Wow. I cant believe I’m seeing this for the first time! For years and years I realize my smiles have become forced, my excitement isn’t as natural and genuine as it once was. My closeness with my family has faded dramatically even though I am close with them. I didn’t know this whole time I’m actually depressed and didn’t even realize it until now. I can’t wait to see a therapist to go over this.
I have anxiety and ptsd, but seems like I’ve been struggling with smiling depression as well. Been seeing a therapist for bout 3 months. She’s helped me stop fighting my feelings
I struggle heavily with both major depression and Borderline Personality Disorder so I’m truly walking on a tightrope all the time. Things are getting bad again and my boyfriend saw through my stubborn walls and convinced me to get more help🫶 I go from feeling euphoric to the lowest of lows pretty quickly, and depression on top of BPD adds to the lows. I’m thankful to have the supports I have
This relates to me half of the time. I first heard of smiling depression when I searched up on the internet of mask up depression. When I told my friends about it, they say I’m fine and don’t have. But conflicted thoughts always happen in my head. I thought it’s because I’m an INFJ but now, I think about it, it’s probably more than that. I’m unable to go therapy so I have no way to find out whether if I really have smiling depression or not. The signs mostly happen when I need to interact with people. The most current situation I went through that makes me hopeless is doing one simple mistake, scolded by my school teacher for not taking the initiative to help others. Then I completely gave up to be (that kind of) leaders because I don’t think I’ll ever got chosen. Now I have one last session before it’s all over. I really hope it ends soon. There’s no chance um getting chosen but I still need to go. Basically, I was filling the void inside me by looking through all my texts, I almost look through everything when the school teacher caught me so I have to stop. I somehow started breaking down, I’m not sure why. Now I, just making up random things why I suddenly start to break down. I cried at the toilet for a while before going out feeling so hopeless knowing I’ll never get chosen. I don’t know why I’m still going tho 😢 Edit: does anyone go through something similar?
I love being mentally healthy and not relating to this whatsoever and definitely knowing for sure that I am happy and that I am 100% totally not lying to others and myself that I am happy. I am not happy
Smiling depression was how my deep crippling depression started 😔 I was always social, I did things all the time, people called me “happy pill” since I always was so happy I made people around me happy. But inside I was so sad, but I didn’t feel I could let anyone know. I was the happy girl, my parents happy perfect daughter, I couldn’t beak that illusion. Because I didn’t do anything and just lived with it I just got worse. I basically felt “used to it” My smiling depression started when I was 12… Today I’m 27, I’m extremely depressed, chronically, burnt out, to depressed to take care of myself, can’t work cuz of the burn out, diagnosed with adhd and autism. I really wish I’ve gotten help sooner… I’m working on it, but it really is a hard uphill battle. If you think you might be depressed please seek help! Talk to someone, you deserve to be happy.
I've been dealing with depression for a long time. Going on 5-6 years now. Usually I seem fine, I'm good at faking it or ignoring how I feel. I tried opening up about how I felt to my parents and it went terribly. My privacy was taken away from me and I was treated like I was made of glass. Therapy and medication has done little to help me. My parents definitely aren't helping either. They only seem to remember that I'm depressed when we're actually in the psychiatrist's office talking about my medication. Things have been bleak and they're only getting worse. One of the biggest hurdles for me is my confusion over what getting better means. Because I don't know what that would be like anymore. I honestly can't remember what it was like going to sleep at a normal time and not sleeping well into the afternoon (thank God for homeschooling). I don't remember what it was like to not feel tired all the time and so hopeless. I used to have aspirations and dreams, but now I can't escape my own hopelessness. I feel trapped where I am, and I really don't think I'll get out of here. Cause even if I get 'better', would I really stay 'better'? Or would it just be a momentary high that I'm bound to lose? I wouldn't be able to take that. Not again. At this point, I'm really just wondering how long I can go on like this. There's a limit, and it feels like it's right around the corner now.
Depression sucks, it also sucks when the people closest to you don’t understand it. Isolation sets in. For me my finances get bad then I don’t have money to get help….. sucks
I would suggest doing something very active about it. I had to do that when I fell into a depression, I went full blown discipline. Disciplined sleep, disciplined diet, gym regimen, all of it. You say you don’t remember the last time you went to bed and woke up at a decent time, start there. Start taking control of yourself, and you’ll find a foot hold to whatever better means.
I’ve dealt with depression for over 10 years now, I’m undiagnosed due to lack of resources but I’m able to go to a therapist in a few years. Nobody in my life has realized that I’m actually depressed and that’s not going to change because I already know how the people in my life react to people who reveled that they have depression
This video explains who I am exactly and it’s hard to put on a fake personality for family and friends and, I don’t want to reach for help because I feel like I will be made fun of or make everything awkward. Ty for letting me vent and I have not cried this much in over 1 year
I put a smile on everyday in hopes I can show other people I’m not depressed. I been really depressed for years, with times of happiness but they don’t last long. I will listen and be there for other people in hopes they don’t see my own emotional distress.
The bad thing is when I tell anyone about this they don't care. Learning to smile in front of people is something I taught myself when I was young, even when I didn't have any emotions myself. And now I have multiple personalities but I don't tell anyone, she is very good to me, much better than others. Every day talking to her makes me feel happier. Sometimes when I want to hurt myself, she stops me. It sounds strange, maybe some of you will think this is unrealistic and can't happen when there is a second personality but it's true and I love her very much.❤
Very informative video. I think 🤔 I've been dealing with this for 4+ years now because I was forced into early retirement due to chronic diseases 🤒 . And I frequently take naps to alleviate chronic pain and to dream of ways to escape the symptoms of not being quite feeling like " myself."
Same especially being a capricorn like me we can hide our true feelings really well it hurts to even think about it. You want someone to hear you but are afraid to open up about it. Then there is this part of you that keeps on fighting on a daily basis. Wanting all of it to be over for good.
You can't judge a book by its cover... I've dealt with depression for so long and my parents keep dismissing it with "your too young to be depressed." I need help
I feel like that, always trying to display a positive image (to make sure nobody critisize me about feeling bad) but struggling on the inside. I tried therapy, it didnt work and cost me a lot of money, won't probably try again and stay the way I am for the rest of my life
please can you speak on dyscalculia? It's a SLD and it's really unseen because they dismiss people who might have it by telling them to "try harder" since math is generally difficult.
@@Psych2go Sorry for the very late reply, UA-cam doesn't send any notifications :( I'm an italian highschool student (15y.o) and my mom is really against me getting tested for dyscalculia. How am I so sure that I might have it? I never knew why no matter how much I studied I was so terrible in math until my old math teacher (whose wife is a pedagogist) told me that I *was* dyscalculic and even explained me why (can't see certain mathematical symbols, can't read analog clock, can't tie shoes w/ the traditional method, can't remember seasons etc etc) he recommended me to immediately get tested for it to get a SLD certificate for accomodations. My mom doesn't want me to get tested even if I show severe signs of it because she claims that it can't be a thing and that I just need to work harder. What helps me in math tho is talking out loud the problems, drawing to visualize quantities, colors (to highlight symbols etc) and calculators. Hope this helps on speaking about dyscalculia if you want or can Psych2Go :) I really enjoy your videos, they helped me in understanding myself better than I did two years ago.
My friend just the other day looked at me and said, “I feel you like you joke about serious issues you have to avoid telling me” I was floored. I sharply took a breath and unconvincingly responded saying, “nah I’m fine, really.” She just frowned and told me that I can always call her. Ugh I wanted to break down and cry in front of her, but I can’t cry. I mean I couldn’t if I wanted too. I’m so numb and mentally checked out. And it’s true I do make it to many social events. But it’s all an act. The hardest part of everyday is looking in the mirror and not appreciating nor caring about anything I see. It’s hard enough just to get out of bed. I don’t want to worry anyone with my issues. So I smile dammit. I’ll be smiling till death.
Bruh i have the same thing i have learned even opening doesn't help keep ya feelings inside yall and keep grinding. It may dull in the beginning but later on you can make your mind immune to these feelings.
i had similar experiences as this since 10 years ago. no one knew to direct me to professional help, they never detectaed anything wrong. i on the other hand go on living life, plastering a smile, until one day it all broke. i attempted the unthinkable 4 years ago. that was when i was formally diagnosed. fast forward to today, im in remission and helping others in similar situation as me as a peer supporter. please seek professional help if you believe you have depression!!!! before it is too late.
I have this type of depression. I wanna seek help but I'm afraid they'll make fun of me hence trust issues. I'm too tired of sharing the same shit to my best friend eventho I know she doesn't feel that way but can't help it. There hasn't been a day this year I haven't felt like ending myself. I have lost communication with my parents. I just returned back home from a week away from my parents and I felt the most free and happiest during that time. I almost forgot who I was and was smiling alot. But I had to come back to reality, so now I'm again in my most possibly the worst mental state. I literally have none to talk about it. I feel so numb and detached from everyone. I hope I disappear very soon wish I never wake up tmr
I remember when I met my old homeroom teacher a couple of years ago and as we chatted, I told him I'm currently in a clinic bc of my depression. He was a bit surprised and said: "You don't look depressed." I laughed. Well yeah. Not every depressed person looks it. Most I know are actually quite unassuming concerning that. Also. I think we shouldn't be angry just bc some ppl are ignorant to sth. My teacher saying this, didn't make him even a bit less kind. My therapist said sth really good a couple of weeks ago: "Not everyone has to understand." Being angry at someone bc they don't have the same priorities is so, so wrong. It doesn't automatically mean that they think it's not important.
A „friend“ (i‘m no longer friends with them) once told me, i‘m not depressed because i smile and laugh. I got diagnosed like a week before they said that to me.
It's very weird for me at least to see this vid posted on a channel that I'm subscribed to and to be honest I feel like this on the daily and idk why tho and I'm not sure if I should be concerned about it or not?😶😔 Anyways much love 🤟 and support to Psych2go
All my life, being among elderly people who I always have to respect or else I'm in danger of verbal abuse and so much more have cause me to always smile at anyone to show respect even when I'm in severe pain inside. I'm trying my best to quit smiling, because it's making me feel bad due to the fact that my even age mates always take advantage of me because I smile too much because they know I'm all nice to the extent that I will just smile even when the hurt me badly. It's really hard going through this every single day.
After watching this video, I started recognize that I have a depression smiling, this fake smile makes me feel tired! Thanks to Psych2Go, Love from VietNam 😊😊💕💕
The truth is that no one cares about depressed people, regardless of how much or little we show it, or even if we explicitly ask for help or not. So that’s why it’s best to keep this topic completely private.
If only my parents were like this, they tell me to tell them but when i even be honest in the slightest things get even worse. I straight up just tell people i hate life & want to die & they dont care, thats why i can be so honest around people who arnt close. I just want life to end, not get better
In SECOND GRADE we were taught to fake a smile. Lemme explain. On Wednesdays we would have a class called, “brain power”. It would be similar to meditation just a bit different. We would learn about how our brains react to different situations and meditate. They had three rules. Be kind, breathe in and out, be happy. They said our brains do not know the difference between a fake or natural smile. We as 7 year olds believed that. It caused us to say we were happy bc we’re smiling.(Even when we’re not)It went like that for sooo long causing us to get upset/sad/angry over small things. It’s sorta like smiling depression.
Hello! I know im a bit late but I need to get this out of my head. This is mostly to other people with similar experiences but im hoping I can find some peace of mind through this, even if I dont get through depression. That being said, to all the people smiling through the pain because you think your trauma is something small. Its not. Trauma is Trauma, no matter what the size is, no matter how much small you think it is, its still trauma. Its still gonna effect you heavily if not dealt with. Take example, me. In sixth and seventh grade, I was falsely accused of being racist. Most people would say that this is small, its just a bunch of 12-13 year olds being stupid, right? Well not to me, I was devastated when it continued into seventh grade and I was heavily traumatized from it. Even now im still so scared to make a mistake that can repeat this part of my life. Now in a new school, im friends with nearly everyone in my class. But no one understands what im going through, not even the people I consider to be my actual friends. The point im trying to make is that if your trauma is not dealt with, your going to get depressed. If you don’t open up and do something about your trauma, your going to face the consequences. I feel like smiling depression is the hardest type of depression to deal with, *your so used to smiling to the point where it hurts to smile, right?* So please, anyone dealing with any type of depression, Dont forget that people are their for you and your feelings are valid. So don’t be afraid to seek help and put a frown on your face, okay guys? But thats it from me and my trauma dumping! Sorry if I took too long to explain the point but thanks for reading. Hope you all have a good day/afternoon/night!
I don’t even know if I’m depressed. I’ve been depressed before, so depressed that everything was hard. I couldn’t talk to anyone and I couldn’t do anything. It hurt so much. Now, I genuinely enjoy life. I make people laugh and I laugh. I have things that I love doing like art and working. But sometimes I hate myself. I have thoughts of not being good enough. I rarely eat. I think about it daily. I don’t know what I have. Because I’m genuinely happy but then I still hate myself, I still rarely eat, I still think about it regularly. I’m so confused. I don’t know what’s wrong with me
now i know i’m this because when i asked a classmate who the class clown was and they said it was me but when i asked the most depressed one is they actually mentioned someone else and i only responded with “understandable”
I just kept saying I wore an emotional mask and the reason I’m always laughing and being funny is because I don’t want others to feel the way I do and for a split second the world is ok. I had no idea this was an actual thing that had a name. Ngl, it’s so exhausting, but showing how I really feel is almost worse. (I am on meds, doing therapy, and have been getting various different treatments. I just have refractory depression so nothing has worked so far. Doing the work, just waiting for some dang results lol)
Understand this a while ago I realized that someone with a personality disorder has been trying to get their way. They seemed to be using me as a scapegoat and have been trying to find ways to make me go into depression and more. According to the date on something I have kept. When I started going through certain things. These people jumped on that pain and drove into the ground.
You ever feel like your friends, who are clearly, outwardly, depressed, and going through some really hard times, need you to be the fun one, the happy one, the jokester who makes them smile and laugh? Even when you feel like you’re dying inside? But it doesn’t matter, because your problems are smaller, they don’t matter as much, or your friends won’t want to be around you or talk to you if you AREN’T the fun happy one who makes them all smile and laugh? But the moment you say goodbye, and turn around, your smile immediately melts off your face, and you’re back to just feeling empty and hopeless, and alone- and showing that on your face, until the next person passes by, until someone else might see you, and you’re forced to press that mask back on. ……..ya know what I mean?
100%! I have to do that at work all the time for customers. And at home, everyone is stressed out, so most of the time, when someone looks at me, I just smile, and sometimes it's more of a nervous smile. But when I'm alone in my room, my mind wanders, and then I criticize myself when nothing gets done. I never ask for help because I feel like it would be a burden, and I know what I have to do to make things better, if I can just get motivated enough to actually do something. Only I don't get things done. So I'm just stuck.
I’m not diagnosed but I experience similar things. I don’t want to express my problems because I fear that I’m bothering them. So I just either smile or don’t express emotions most of the time. Everytime I look or do something I’m always criticizing myself and I have trouble loving myself. I wouldn’t say I’m depressed, just I lack self esteem.
Lately, every time I smile, even for a genuine reason, I immediately feel like I'm lying and pretending to be fine when really I'm not. Feels like I have this face with a smile on but underneath is a different face, the real one, that is just crying or frowning or smth
I have clinical depression and take meds. I also see a Therapist twice a month. Some weeks are hard. Even when you do everything you can to prevent it.
I have it i had it since i was 14, before that i was lonely child and then i just started pretending to be happy all the time for glims of actual happiness and some friendship, now I'm 17 and only start to open up to people that are really my friends not people that were fake nice in the past I called that state depression denial, at least I'm self awere and work on it but it's really eye opening to see tht it's an actual kind of depression
This is probably what is happening to me, i smile to friends, but i walk a lot faster than them, once my face is out of their sight i go back to the same bland expression. Problem is i have gone more than 50% of my life like this, so i dont onow any longer if im putting on a mask, or showing my true feelings.
That is deffinitly me. I'm at a point where i now can talk over my depression and i don't feel shame about it, but still have people around me telling me but you seem fine. Well i'm on a point where i just don't care anymore. I go to prison? Who cares. I drop down dead tomorrow? I don't mind. I'm not over depression, i'm just so depressed nothing bothers me anymore...
As someone who is suffering from this I agree because I just found out that my lifelong best friend just walked out of my life and I also had a crush on him
I'm at the point where i can't even hide it anymore. It's so tiring, I have no one to talk to. All my usual distraction don't entertain me anymore. I'm slowly losing myself again. I fought so hard to get away from this bottomless and never-ending pain but i right back to where i begin. I don't know if i can handle this anymore.
This is literally me. I grew up in a household were showing any kind of emotion besides hapiness was frowned upon nad even punished at times. A narcissistic mother and an absent father who left the moment he found out I was concieved really messed with my emotions and self confidence. Not having a childhood and providing for a family of 6 at 17 really doesnt help either. Ive had to hide behind a smile for decades and I can attest as to how draining it really can be.
This is what I have immensely. I am under 11 yrs old. I have told no one and my parents think that I am happy. I really am not. Sometimes I forget about it but then I feel the same way. My younger sister is the main cause but when I tell her to stop and that it makes me depressed, she gets mad and continues. No one knows about this nor would believe me because of how long and well I hid it. I am a smart kid but I feel like it is a curse. Expectations are always so high for me and I literally do work books for grade 6 and 7 when I'm in grade 5. If I do something wrong everyone's like 😮. But when they do something wrong 🥱, they don't care and I hate it. I just want to be normal.
“I'm only laughing on the outside. My smile is just skin deep. If you could see inside, I'm really crying. You might join me for a weep.” -Joker (Batman 1989)
This has been me majority of my life, but my brain always temporarily erases everything if someone asks or i try to talk about the reasons for why im like that. So could never get out of it and just learned better ways to hide it so nobody asks. I can see it in others tho and help them which does give some joy because then i know i atleast bring something good to the world 😊
My inside quote is laugh so you don’t cry. I definitely think I have smiling depression or some variety. I have very severe anxiety. Any advice for someone who is very anxious and not comfortable or able to attend therapy and is a teenager but wants to improve themself and wellbeing.
If possible, keep the lines of communication open with those around you. If you ever feel overwhelmed, reaching out to a mental health professional, even for a brief consultation, could provide valuable insights tailored to your unique situation.
@@Psych2go thank you. My high school provides free mental health discussion sessions even for seniors. I might give it a try even, tho it scares me very much. Thanks for responding ❤️
I don't look okay or anything but I smile a lot with depression. It used to be intentional. Smiling through the pain will help and I've seen them say smiling will make you feel better and stuff but now I can't even control it and will just smile like a psycho.
After watching many, many of your videos, I've come to the conclusion that I AM alone, no matter how many times I've been told otherwise. I'm completely and utterly broken in every way, shape and form, but for all the wrong reasons. Turns out that my case is FAR too different from the majority. Everything surrounding my mental state is wrong, nothing has any reason to be the way it is, but it is that way and there is nothing we can do about it. I'm too young. It's been too long. I can't deal with this anymore. Goodbye.
Going through same thing. I'm pretty nuch forced to hide my depression otherwise I get abused, physically or mentally by anyone. If I show I am depressed, I got no chance in fighting back against them because I am only 1 person against like 100s of people.
i had a big situation where many people in my life "left", and my friends never even knew until i finally said something and finally let them know what happened. they never even could've guessed that something so fucked up happened because they wouldn't have expected someone to have been able to withstand the burden like i did.
So what's the difference between 'smiling depression' and things like self-doubt, which everyone feels once in a while. Sometimes more, sometimes less.
I walk towards the door. Put my hand on the door handle. Take a deep breath. Then I say, It’s showtime.” Open the door. Lock it. Then the smile goes on my face. Fake it ‘til you make it. Sometimes you never make it.
I hit myself, cut myself and find mental peace in being un-alive and no one but psychiatrist knows. It's really difficult because everyone expects me to be the go-to person but I don't think they truly appreciate the toll it takes.
We need a bit of help with the title. What do you recommend would suit this video?
I think its ok the way it is
Same
It’s nice the way it is :)
Okie dokie :)
The title is already fitting 😊
shows you can't judge anyone based on how they seem outside...it hits hard. to anyone struggling with it, don't give up! we'll try to help you the best we can, through everything
Absolutely, your comment beautifully captures the essence of the video. It's a powerful reminder that appearances can be deceiving, and it's crucial to approach others with empathy and understanding. Together, we can create a more understanding and supportive community.💚💚
thanks!❤
That made me honestly smile (it is also one out of ten reasons I watch this channel)
I’ve been struggling for years and people only make it worse for me
But I’m to ugly for help
I'm depressed and some time ago I told my closest friends that when I smile or laugh then it's often because I'm nervous or feel bad and this is my reaction, and turns out that none of them noticed it before and they were sure that it just means that I'm in a good mood. It's really so important to tell your closest ones about it because they might simply not know. Everyone, take care
Thank you for sharing your experience, and it's brave of you to open up about your feelings. It's indeed crucial to communicate with those close to you, as sometimes, the signs of internal struggles aren't always visible. Please take care too!
@@Psych2go Thank you!
Thank you. I tried to explain this to my therapist. Even showed him photo's of my smile when feeling depressed, but he didn't get it. How would anyone else. So I keep on smiling. It's OK, b because I know now I'm not the only one like this. Thank you😊
@@bettywindish8692 Good luck with your therapy, I hope that everything goes well! That's really weird tho that your therapist couldn't get it - I talked about this to my therapist as well and she told me that she completely understands it and smiling like this when depressed can happen if you just subconsciously believe that showing that you have issues can cause more problems then just smiling and pretending that everything's okay. But really, you aren't the only one with this problem, please don't think that you're weird in any way ❤ Mental issues absolutely suck but you can definitely overcome them, even if it's long and hard
Yeah I’m not telling anyone close to me bruh, I feel like it only makes things worse when I tell my mom (who I hate). I have no friends to tell & I don’t want any. I don’t even hide the fact that I hate living if im around other people. It could be a party or something where everyone is dancing & having fun but then there’s me with me just standing there lifeless, no one does anything that’s why I have no problem with revealing how I actually feel. Reason I hide it from close people is bc they will take me to like a councillor or somethin & I feel like I’m just being conditioned so they can control me, I was forced into having councillors back in hs & still I hid majority of things. I don’t want my life to get better, I want it to end
Are you good at recognizing when your friends are depressed?
sweet potatoes
pysch2go you are actually stalking me i swear omg i was thinking about this exact thing today and how it relates to me.
i’m tired of always being the smiling and bubbly friend when in reality I’m really struggling but I can’t seem to stop faking it… thankfully I’ve just started seeing a therapist so hopefully I’ll be ok 💗
Kind off
Yes
I am that friend
Timestamps:
Intro ☆ 0:00 ~ 0:18
- Smiling outside but feeling a fraud inside ~ 0:26
- Feeling doubtful of yourself ~ 0:36
- Hopelessness and Worthlessness ~ 0:45
- Not wanting to burden others ~ 0:57
- Feeling tired mentally and physically but scared to ask for help ~ 1:02
- Feeling disconnected and isolated ~ 1:20
Hope this helps :)
Omg ppl don't have attention span for a 3 min long video lmao
@@surajbadrinarayananor they were just looking for something specific
@rainy-day- they could have watched the whole video. It's only 3 minutes long
@@surajbadrinarayanan okay ill admit mine sucks lol
@@surajbadrinarayananyou do realize some people have parents that don't support us being anything other than happy so if they catch us listening to this they'll get beat right?
I lost a friend because she was suffering from depression and just couldn’t take it anymore. She was my only friend in school and helped me many times in my life. I still cry from the text she sent me before she passed away😢
May her soul rest in peace 🤍
oh no honey i’m so sorry i hope she is finally at peace and you are ok 🙁🙁
I can't imagine how devastating it must have been for you. I'm truly sorry for the loss of your friend.Take care of yourself. 💔😢
oh noooo! i'm so sorry, i hope that her soul rests well in peace!
I’m so sorry. May she and her soul rest in peace 💜
This video really hits home. I've been on a journey with smiling depression for well over a decade. And there is a very specific feeling of emptiness to it, when you know you have loved ones around you, a good life, etc., but you still have this "wounded" feeling inside you. With time however, I've come to accept it more and more, and nowadays it makes me more empathetic towards other people, since I can relate to their suffering from my own experience. Stay strong, everyone ❤
This definitely describes me. Laughing on the outside, helping others, but hating myself and my life ☹️😟
Same
Yeah that's pretty accurate; when I'm talking to people I'm all smiley, making jokes all the time and all that garbage while feeling absolutely awful on the inside, but when I'm not talking to anyone I look as if I've got a constant hangover while feeling even worse
That’s EXACTLY it!
Same here. When out with people I try to be as positive as I could. Deep down I'm pretty F'd up
@@zelfsilverwolfsame
I think this might be me lol
Hey psych2go! I finally got therapy!🎉
I’ll still watch you, you give good advice!
Congrats!!
Sometimes, there really is a dark truth hiding behind that smile and seemingly happy life. But never lose hope.
This makes a lot of sense , thank you for talking about important subjects like these.❤
Glad it could help! We posted it in our community section too.
That was what exactly happened to me for a very long time but now I'm getting better thanks to professional help and support, thank you so much for speaking about this struggle! Ik it would help a lot of people
It his hard when you tell people and they don't believe you or even say you're not depressed (enough) bc you're always so happy... It's especially hard when they were the only one you felt comfortable enough with to talk about it in the first place.
@@marlena. I'm sorry to hear that. Have you found any other sources of support or understanding in your journey? If not, maybe sharing this video with your people might be helpful to let them know about the variety of signs people with depression show. What do you think?
For about 2 months I’ve had this. Ever since I moved from Illinois to Delaware I quickly changed from extrovert to introvert and got hit by severe depression. For 1 month I would cry in my bed ever single night. Around 2 months ago I got hit by this *smiling depression* where I greet people at school and outside of school and my family with a smile while feeling depressed and wanting to go back to Illinois. It’s nice to know that I’m not alone in this and if you are battling this as well, keep up the good work and try to talk to someone about it!
Forgot to mention that I became suicidal shortly after I moved into my house in Delaware
Hellooo! This channel has really helped me and so many other people understand & come to terms with ourselves, I now get the help I didn’t know I needed! I have been struggling with Trichotillomania and dermatillomani for well over 6 years and I’m now 53 days clean! I haven’t seen many informative videos discussing that topic and before I even knew what Trichotillomania/dermatillomani was, I felt ashamed and I would absolutely love it if there could be a video talking about it❤️ have a great day/night and remember that you are valid!
So proud of you , and you should be proud of yourself 💚 you are valid 😊and worthy 😊
, my neice does this too (skin picking ) and not sure how to help her , any suggestions, would be appreciated 💚 I also have not seen much videos on this topic and would love to see more ... hope you have a wonderful day /night 💚 green is a healing colour I send you green healing energy and light 💚🍀🌳🌿🍀💚🌳🌿🍀🍀🍀💚🍀🍀🌿🌳💚
Let me be honest, a few months ago, I faced this exact same thing. I always smiled even when I didn't really feel like smiling, but deep down, I felt the opposite. I always wanted to cry over no reason, but something stressed me out to the point I got panic attacks then everyone around me started to realize that something was bothering me and started to help me to get over it. It was so unexpected, tho. My dad took me to places to make me feel relaxed, and it definitely helped me. So, for ppl who are going through this phase, I know how hard and sad you'd feel, and no answer could be found on the internet nor anywhere but within yourself. I k u always try to be optimistic and all, but it's fine to show that you are not ok at times. Cheer up!
I agree. I’ve been there too but you just have to keep on going even if it’s extremely hard, because you do have a future and things will get better ❤
You don't realise how lucky you are to have your dad by your side cause most of us either has no dad or a dad who is ashamed of you, just because you didn't pass the exam, at the very sight you appear Infront of him
@sansabhushrestha7623 yeah ikr. I'm really grateful for every nice ppl around me. Oh and Journaling could be of much help!
Atleast you guys have PPL to listen
For my case no one even cares how I am doing 😢🙃🙃
I love this video as a psychology student it helps me gain more knowledge on this topic ❤
My mind doesn't sender to dark thoughts... it's always there. Everyday I pretend that I xm fine because people don't care anymore. I've been told by my closest friends that they will listen if I need to talk.. ... when I start to try and express my true feelings they switch the subject or stop listening. So, I keep it all packed away inside and show everyone what they want to see.
10-15 years of living with smiling depression, almost exactly as described in the video.
Met a new therapist who has been doing tonnes of self compassion work with me.
"It's okay, to not be okay".
"Hit a point of utter exhaustion from continuously wearing this mask".
"On a journey and am starting to be okay again with just being myself, instead of the mask, and liking who I am now".
...All you need to add in is "Started properly/frequently going to the gym and getting regular exercise, and making it part of my routine for the last 6 months.. and feeling much more positive as a result", and I will start looking for cameras!
Hi...
Im just here to thank u psych2go for these vidoes it really helps me alot and let me know that im not alone i really feel that u are with me and u always will u are one of my favourite channels. last year was really hard for me but when i saw one of ur videos i felt better and i kept watching them until today thank u so much i may sound silly for writing this for no reason but to me it means alot..❤❤❤
And i just want to say for the people like me and maybe worse..
You are not alone we all are with u and we all love u stay strong and god will always be there for u i wish u all the best❤❤❤
Thank u so much for reading my comment ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Depression isn't a little thing some people just ignore it or people don't easily know when someone is depressed so this video really helped
A Guru once said you must treat your anxiety and or depression like an old friend. You must not let them overwhelm you, rather, see them as someone who visits once in a while. This takes some of the pressure off of your wellbeing😊
It emphasizes the importance of creating distance and not letting these feelings define one's entire identity. That's a thoughtful perspective.
I wish I could! Trouble is I dont get visits, they've moved in 😱
@@susanhills8015That's unfortunate, as a person who has been depressed for a few years now. It's best to accept that they are a part of your life. Instead of suffering from them, learn to live with them.🤷♂️
This really shows that even the happy people can be sad on the inside and if you think that’s okay to toy with you may need to watch a few more of these videos and if you feel like this tell someone I needed to and it did help. You may be thinking I’m a twenty year old but I’m actually only 16…. I’ve dealt with this a lot but please acknowledge that people are here too help and make you feel okay.
This is something difficult especially when no one around you knows because you are always 'cheerful and positive' I already helped a friend get out of depression but until today I didn't have the courage to ask for help
This relates to me on so many levels I always smile on the outside and am happy but on the inside I’m the most depressed out of everyone thank you for making this video this really helps me
Wow. I cant believe I’m seeing this for the first time! For years and years I realize my smiles have become forced, my excitement isn’t as natural and genuine as it once was. My closeness with my family has faded dramatically even though I am close with them.
I didn’t know this whole time I’m actually depressed and didn’t even realize it until now. I can’t wait to see a therapist to go over this.
I have anxiety and ptsd, but seems like I’ve been struggling with smiling depression as well. Been seeing a therapist for bout 3 months. She’s helped me stop fighting my feelings
I struggle heavily with both major depression and Borderline Personality Disorder so I’m truly walking on a tightrope all the time. Things are getting bad again and my boyfriend saw through my stubborn walls and convinced me to get more help🫶 I go from feeling euphoric to the lowest of lows pretty quickly, and depression on top of BPD adds to the lows. I’m thankful to have the supports I have
This relates to me half of the time. I first heard of smiling depression when I searched up on the internet of mask up depression. When I told my friends about it, they say I’m fine and don’t have. But conflicted thoughts always happen in my head. I thought it’s because I’m an INFJ but now, I think about it, it’s probably more than that. I’m unable to go therapy so I have no way to find out whether if I really have smiling depression or not. The signs mostly happen when I need to interact with people.
The most current situation I went through that makes me hopeless is doing one simple mistake, scolded by my school teacher for not taking the initiative to help others. Then I completely gave up to be (that kind of) leaders because I don’t think I’ll ever got chosen. Now I have one last session before it’s all over. I really hope it ends soon. There’s no chance um getting chosen but I still need to go. Basically, I was filling the void inside me by looking through all my texts, I almost look through everything when the school teacher caught me so I have to stop. I somehow started breaking down, I’m not sure why. Now I, just making up random things why I suddenly start to break down. I cried at the toilet for a while before going out feeling so hopeless knowing I’ll never get chosen. I don’t know why I’m still going tho 😢
Edit: does anyone go through something similar?
I also feel the same way as you do, though I only break down a couple times when I can’t hold it back anymore and I don’t even have a reason to cry.
@@BanhBa0 :(
I love being mentally healthy and not relating to this whatsoever and definitely knowing for sure that I am happy and that I am 100% totally not lying to others and myself that I am happy.
I am not happy
Hah happy happy is fake
Thank you for bringing awareness to this unnoticed depression
This makes me understand a lot about myself. I always people listen, but never really hear me. Thank you for this video!
You're so welcome!
Smiling depression was how my deep crippling depression started 😔
I was always social, I did things all the time, people called me “happy pill” since I always was so happy I made people around me happy.
But inside I was so sad, but I didn’t feel I could let anyone know.
I was the happy girl, my parents happy perfect daughter, I couldn’t beak that illusion.
Because I didn’t do anything and just lived with it I just got worse. I basically felt “used to it”
My smiling depression started when I was 12…
Today I’m 27, I’m extremely depressed, chronically, burnt out, to depressed to take care of myself, can’t work cuz of the burn out, diagnosed with adhd and autism.
I really wish I’ve gotten help sooner…
I’m working on it, but it really is a hard uphill battle.
If you think you might be depressed please seek help!
Talk to someone, you deserve to be happy.
They say to be joyful make others joyful but it didn’t work
@@imaant578 Basically yes :/
I've been dealing with depression for a long time. Going on 5-6 years now. Usually I seem fine, I'm good at faking it or ignoring how I feel. I tried opening up about how I felt to my parents and it went terribly. My privacy was taken away from me and I was treated like I was made of glass. Therapy and medication has done little to help me. My parents definitely aren't helping either. They only seem to remember that I'm depressed when we're actually in the psychiatrist's office talking about my medication.
Things have been bleak and they're only getting worse. One of the biggest hurdles for me is my confusion over what getting better means. Because I don't know what that would be like anymore. I honestly can't remember what it was like going to sleep at a normal time and not sleeping well into the afternoon (thank God for homeschooling). I don't remember what it was like to not feel tired all the time and so hopeless. I used to have aspirations and dreams, but now I can't escape my own hopelessness. I feel trapped where I am, and I really don't think I'll get out of here. Cause even if I get 'better', would I really stay 'better'? Or would it just be a momentary high that I'm bound to lose? I wouldn't be able to take that. Not again. At this point, I'm really just wondering how long I can go on like this. There's a limit, and it feels like it's right around the corner now.
I’m sure you’ll get better😊
You will get better ❤
Those words are so inspiring. I hope you find the light out off that place. Thank you for telling your story it will help many.
Depression sucks, it also sucks when the people closest to you don’t understand it. Isolation sets in. For me my finances get bad then I don’t have money to get help….. sucks
I would suggest doing something very active about it. I had to do that when I fell into a depression, I went full blown discipline. Disciplined sleep, disciplined diet, gym regimen, all of it. You say you don’t remember the last time you went to bed and woke up at a decent time, start there. Start taking control of yourself, and you’ll find a foot hold to whatever better means.
I’ve dealt with depression for over 10 years now, I’m undiagnosed due to lack of resources but I’m able to go to a therapist in a few years. Nobody in my life has realized that I’m actually depressed and that’s not going to change because I already know how the people in my life react to people who reveled that they have depression
This video explains who I am exactly and it’s hard to put on a fake personality for family and friends and, I don’t want to reach for help because I feel like I will be made fun of or make everything awkward. Ty for letting me vent and I have not cried this much in over 1 year
It’s mentally exhausting, it’s really hard to believe that some people don’t understand what that is
It's hard going through depression everyday feel's the same so thank you for making this video🙁
I put a smile on everyday in hopes I can show other people I’m not depressed. I been really depressed for years, with times of happiness but they don’t last long. I will listen and be there for other people in hopes they don’t see my own emotional distress.
Happiness is usually fake joy is not but what does joy feel like
The bad thing is when I tell anyone about this they don't care. Learning to smile in front of people is something I taught myself when I was young, even when I didn't have any emotions myself. And now I have multiple personalities but I don't tell anyone, she is very good to me, much better than others. Every day talking to her makes me feel happier. Sometimes when I want to hurt myself, she stops me. It sounds strange, maybe some of you will think this is unrealistic and can't happen when there is a second personality but it's true and I love her very much.❤
Very informative video. I think 🤔 I've been dealing with this for 4+ years now because I was forced into early retirement due to chronic diseases 🤒 . And I frequently take naps to alleviate chronic pain and to dream of ways to escape the symptoms of not being quite feeling like " myself."
Love you Psych2go
Thanks for all these videos
Where's Amanda gone these days?
She's still here. We are working on some projects behind the scenes :)
the saddest people always try their hardest to make people happy because they know what it's like to feel absolutely worthless - Robbin Williams
I can hide it really well. I smile all the time, even when im not even happy or at school.
Same especially being a capricorn like me we can hide our true feelings really well it hurts to even think about it. You want someone to hear you but are afraid to open up about it. Then there is this part of you that keeps on fighting on a daily basis. Wanting all of it to be over for good.
Exactly im a taurus btw
@@deem.2468 I hope were able to find the one that were able to open up to one day.
I dont even try to hide it, people are just that gullible.
Ive been caught lying so much & still i lie my way out with ease
You can't judge a book by its cover... I've dealt with depression for so long and my parents keep dismissing it with "your too young to be depressed." I need help
I feel like that, always trying to display a positive image (to make sure nobody critisize me about feeling bad) but struggling on the inside. I tried therapy, it didnt work and cost me a lot of money, won't probably try again and stay the way I am for the rest of my life
please can you speak on dyscalculia? It's a SLD and it's really unseen because they dismiss people who might have it by telling them to "try harder" since math is generally difficult.
Could you elaborate a bit on what your experience has been like?
@@Psych2go
Sorry for the very late reply, UA-cam doesn't send any notifications :(
I'm an italian highschool student (15y.o) and my mom is really against me getting tested for dyscalculia. How am I so sure that I might have it? I never knew why no matter how much I studied I was so terrible in math until my old math teacher (whose wife is a pedagogist) told me that I *was* dyscalculic and even explained me why (can't see certain mathematical symbols, can't read analog clock, can't tie shoes w/ the traditional method, can't remember seasons etc etc) he recommended me to immediately get tested for it to get a SLD certificate for accomodations. My mom doesn't want me to get tested even if I show severe signs of it because she claims that it can't be a thing and that I just need to work harder. What helps me in math tho is talking out loud the problems, drawing to visualize quantities, colors (to highlight symbols etc) and calculators.
Hope this helps on speaking about dyscalculia if you want or can Psych2Go :) I really enjoy your videos, they helped me in understanding myself better than I did two years ago.
My friend just the other day looked at me and said, “I feel you like you joke about serious issues you have to avoid telling me” I was floored. I sharply took a breath and unconvincingly responded saying, “nah I’m fine, really.” She just frowned and told me that I can always call her. Ugh I wanted to break down and cry in front of her, but I can’t cry. I mean I couldn’t if I wanted too. I’m so numb and mentally checked out. And it’s true I do make it to many social events. But it’s all an act. The hardest part of everyday is looking in the mirror and not appreciating nor caring about anything I see. It’s hard enough just to get out of bed. I don’t want to worry anyone with my issues. So I smile dammit. I’ll be smiling till death.
Bruh i have the same thing i have learned even opening doesn't help keep ya feelings inside yall and keep grinding.
It may dull in the beginning but later on you can make your mind immune to these feelings.
when someone point out you look like a happy person
and feel a bit sadness and wonder what that means
i had similar experiences as this since 10 years ago. no one knew to direct me to professional help, they never detectaed anything wrong. i on the other hand go on living life, plastering a smile, until one day it all broke. i attempted the unthinkable 4 years ago. that was when i was formally diagnosed. fast forward to today, im in remission and helping others in similar situation as me as a peer supporter. please seek professional help if you believe you have depression!!!! before it is too late.
I smile all the time and i have mental health issues, sometimes i have sauceicidal thoughts, and i have anxiety and trust issues.
Almost every video ive watched from this channel... really makes me think i need to try therapy. Idk how every one of these can seem so relatable lol
I have this type of depression. I wanna seek help but I'm afraid they'll make fun of me hence trust issues. I'm too tired of sharing the same shit to my best friend eventho I know she doesn't feel that way but can't help it. There hasn't been a day this year I haven't felt like ending myself. I have lost communication with my parents. I just returned back home from a week away from my parents and I felt the most free and happiest during that time. I almost forgot who I was and was smiling alot. But I had to come back to reality, so now I'm again in my most possibly the worst mental state. I literally have none to talk about it. I feel so numb and detached from everyone. I hope I disappear very soon wish I never wake up tmr
You just summoned up my life in the first part of the story
I remember when I met my old homeroom teacher a couple of years ago and as we chatted, I told him I'm currently in a clinic bc of my depression. He was a bit surprised and said: "You don't look depressed." I laughed. Well yeah. Not every depressed person looks it. Most I know are actually quite unassuming concerning that.
Also. I think we shouldn't be angry just bc some ppl are ignorant to sth. My teacher saying this, didn't make him even a bit less kind. My therapist said sth really good a couple of weeks ago: "Not everyone has to understand." Being angry at someone bc they don't have the same priorities is so, so wrong. It doesn't automatically mean that they think it's not important.
A „friend“ (i‘m no longer friends with them) once told me, i‘m not depressed because i smile and laugh. I got diagnosed like a week before they said that to me.
It's very weird for me at least to see this vid posted on a channel that I'm subscribed to and to be honest I feel like this on the daily and idk why tho and I'm not sure if I should be concerned about it or not?😶😔 Anyways much love 🤟 and support to Psych2go
All my life, being among elderly people who I always have to respect or else I'm in danger of verbal abuse and so much more have cause me to always smile at anyone to show respect even when I'm in severe pain inside. I'm trying my best to quit smiling, because it's making me feel bad due to the fact that my even age mates always take advantage of me because I smile too much because they know I'm all nice to the extent that I will just smile even when the hurt me badly. It's really hard going through this every single day.
After watching this video, I started recognize that I have a depression smiling, this fake smile makes me feel tired! Thanks to Psych2Go, Love from VietNam 😊😊💕💕
I've always had a bit of a sense of humor, but when my mom died when I was 14, I started smiling and laughing a lot more.
The truth is that no one cares about depressed people, regardless of how much or little we show it, or even if we explicitly ask for help or not. So that’s why it’s best to keep this topic completely private.
I feel the same way
If only my parents were like this, they tell me to tell them but when i even be honest in the slightest things get even worse. I straight up just tell people i hate life & want to die & they dont care, thats why i can be so honest around people who arnt close.
I just want life to end, not get better
This was me as a teenager. What fixed me. Drugs and one good year after. Mirtazapine. Won't fix everyone but it did for me.
In SECOND GRADE we were taught to fake a smile. Lemme explain. On Wednesdays we would have a class called, “brain power”. It would be similar to meditation just a bit different. We would learn about how our brains react to different situations and meditate. They had three rules. Be kind, breathe in and out, be happy. They said our brains do not know the difference between a fake or natural smile. We as 7 year olds believed that. It caused us to say we were happy bc we’re smiling.(Even when we’re not)It went like that for sooo long causing us to get upset/sad/angry over small things. It’s sorta like smiling depression.
Hello! I know im a bit late but I need to get this out of my head. This is mostly to other people with similar experiences but im hoping I can find some peace of mind through this, even if I dont get through depression.
That being said, to all the people smiling through the pain because you think your trauma is something small. Its not. Trauma is Trauma, no matter what the size is, no matter how much small you think it is, its still trauma. Its still gonna effect you heavily if not dealt with.
Take example, me. In sixth and seventh grade, I was falsely accused of being racist. Most people would say that this is small, its just a bunch of 12-13 year olds being stupid, right? Well not to me, I was devastated when it continued into seventh grade and I was heavily traumatized from it. Even now im still so scared to make a mistake that can repeat this part of my life.
Now in a new school, im friends with nearly everyone in my class. But no one understands what im going through, not even the people I consider to be my actual friends.
The point im trying to make is that if your trauma is not dealt with, your going to get depressed. If you don’t open up and do something about your trauma, your going to face the consequences. I feel like smiling depression is the hardest type of depression to deal with, *your so used to smiling to the point where it hurts to smile, right?* So please, anyone dealing with any type of depression, Dont forget that people are their for you and your feelings are valid. So don’t be afraid to seek help and put a frown on your face, okay guys?
But thats it from me and my trauma dumping! Sorry if I took too long to explain the point but thanks for reading. Hope you all have a good day/afternoon/night!
I don’t even know if I’m depressed. I’ve been depressed before, so depressed that everything was hard. I couldn’t talk to anyone and I couldn’t do anything. It hurt so much. Now, I genuinely enjoy life. I make people laugh and I laugh. I have things that I love doing like art and working. But sometimes I hate myself. I have thoughts of not being good enough. I rarely eat. I think about it daily. I don’t know what I have. Because I’m genuinely happy but then I still hate myself, I still rarely eat, I still think about it regularly. I’m so confused. I don’t know what’s wrong with me
My co-worker a few days ago said “You don’t smile much do you?”. That was rough to hear but it’s true. I guess I don’t hide it very well.
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Yes, finally, another depression video! Thank you for your videos all these years Psych2Go, really been helping me through these tough times
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now i know i’m this because when i asked a classmate who the class clown was and they said it was me but when i asked the most depressed one is they actually mentioned someone else and i only responded with “understandable”
I'm crying when watching this ...... Well praise to God I can smile and making jokes 😁❤️
HELLO!! Love your videos! They are so helpful!! ❤❤❤❤
I just kept saying I wore an emotional mask and the reason I’m always laughing and being funny is because I don’t want others to feel the way I do and for a split second the world is ok. I had no idea this was an actual thing that had a name. Ngl, it’s so exhausting, but showing how I really feel is almost worse.
(I am on meds, doing therapy, and have been getting various different treatments. I just have refractory depression so nothing has worked so far. Doing the work, just waiting for some dang results lol)
Understand this a while ago I realized that someone with a personality disorder has been trying to get their way. They seemed to be using me as a scapegoat and have been trying to find ways to make me go into depression and more. According to the date on something I have kept. When I started going through certain things. These people jumped on that pain and drove into the ground.
You ever feel like your friends, who are clearly, outwardly, depressed, and going through some really hard times, need you to be the fun one, the happy one, the jokester who makes them smile and laugh? Even when you feel like you’re dying inside? But it doesn’t matter, because your problems are smaller, they don’t matter as much, or your friends won’t want to be around you or talk to you if you AREN’T the fun happy one who makes them all smile and laugh? But the moment you say goodbye, and turn around, your smile immediately melts off your face, and you’re back to just feeling empty and hopeless, and alone- and showing that on your face, until the next person passes by, until someone else might see you, and you’re forced to press that mask back on. ……..ya know what I mean?
100%! I have to do that at work all the time for customers. And at home, everyone is stressed out, so most of the time, when someone looks at me, I just smile, and sometimes it's more of a nervous smile. But when I'm alone in my room, my mind wanders, and then I criticize myself when nothing gets done. I never ask for help because I feel like it would be a burden, and I know what I have to do to make things better, if I can just get motivated enough to actually do something. Only I don't get things done. So I'm just stuck.
I’m not diagnosed but I experience similar things. I don’t want to express my problems because I fear that I’m bothering them. So I just either smile or don’t express emotions most of the time. Everytime I look or do something I’m always criticizing myself and I have trouble loving myself. I wouldn’t say I’m depressed, just I lack self esteem.
Very wholesome and informative vid!
Lately, every time I smile, even for a genuine reason, I immediately feel like I'm lying and pretending to be fine when really I'm not. Feels like I have this face with a smile on but underneath is a different face, the real one, that is just crying or frowning or smth
I love these videos so much. But i think i'd be cool if u had more detailed ones that go into these subjects.
I have clinical depression and take meds. I also see a Therapist twice a month. Some weeks are hard. Even when you do everything you can to prevent it.
I have it i had it since i was 14, before that i was lonely child and then i just started pretending to be happy all the time for glims of actual happiness and some friendship, now I'm 17 and only start to open up to people that are really my friends not people that were fake nice in the past I called that state depression denial, at least I'm self awere and work on it but it's really eye opening to see tht it's an actual kind of depression
That has to be the worst kind of depression because no one knows what is really going on in their brain.
This is probably what is happening to me, i smile to friends, but i walk a lot faster than them, once my face is out of their sight i go back to the same bland expression.
Problem is i have gone more than 50% of my life like this, so i dont onow any longer if im putting on a mask, or showing my true feelings.
That is deffinitly me. I'm at a point where i now can talk over my depression and i don't feel shame about it, but still have people around me telling me but you seem fine. Well i'm on a point where i just don't care anymore. I go to prison? Who cares. I drop down dead tomorrow? I don't mind. I'm not over depression, i'm just so depressed nothing bothers me anymore...
As someone who is suffering from this I agree because I just found out that my lifelong best friend just walked out of my life and I also had a crush on him
I'm at the point where i can't even hide it anymore. It's so tiring, I have no one to talk to. All my usual distraction don't entertain me anymore. I'm slowly losing myself again. I fought so hard to get away from this bottomless and never-ending pain but i right back to where i begin. I don't know if i can handle this anymore.
What happened? What's bothering you?
I had this for many years until i couldn't hide it anymore.
This is literally me. I grew up in a household were showing any kind of emotion besides hapiness was frowned upon nad even punished at times. A narcissistic mother and an absent father who left the moment he found out I was concieved really messed with my emotions and self confidence.
Not having a childhood and providing for a family of 6 at 17 really doesnt help either. Ive had to hide behind a smile for decades and I can attest as to how draining it really can be.
This is what I have immensely. I am under 11 yrs old. I have told no one and my parents think that I am happy. I really am not. Sometimes I forget about it but then I feel the same way. My younger sister is the main cause but when I tell her to stop and that it makes me depressed, she gets mad and continues. No one knows about this nor would believe me because of how long and well I hid it. I am a smart kid but I feel like it is a curse. Expectations are always so high for me and I literally do work books for grade 6 and 7 when I'm in grade 5. If I do something wrong everyone's like 😮. But when they do something wrong 🥱, they don't care and I hate it. I just want to be normal.
At school, everything is better for me. It helps. But when I get back, it starts again.
I thought I was alone! this is exactly the way I feel! I didn’t even know smiling depression existed!
“I'm only laughing on the outside. My smile is just skin deep. If you could see inside, I'm really crying. You might join me for a weep.” -Joker (Batman 1989)
I would love to go to therapy, but it's not really affordable for everyone, and also for certain kinds of problems no just any therapist can do
This has been me majority of my life, but my brain always temporarily erases everything if someone asks or i try to talk about the reasons for why im like that. So could never get out of it and just learned better ways to hide it so nobody asks. I can see it in others tho and help them which does give some joy because then i know i atleast bring something good to the world 😊
My inside quote is laugh so you don’t cry. I definitely think I have smiling depression or some variety. I have very severe anxiety. Any advice for someone who is very anxious and not comfortable or able to attend therapy and is a teenager but wants to improve themself and wellbeing.
If possible, keep the lines of communication open with those around you. If you ever feel overwhelmed, reaching out to a mental health professional, even for a brief consultation, could provide valuable insights tailored to your unique situation.
@@Psych2go thank you. My high school provides free mental health discussion sessions even for seniors. I might give it a try even, tho it scares me very much. Thanks for responding ❤️
I don't look okay or anything but I smile a lot with depression. It used to be intentional. Smiling through the pain will help and I've seen them say smiling will make you feel better and stuff but now I can't even control it and will just smile like a psycho.
After watching many, many of your videos, I've come to the conclusion that I AM alone, no matter how many times I've been told otherwise. I'm completely and utterly broken in every way, shape and form, but for all the wrong reasons. Turns out that my case is FAR too different from the majority. Everything surrounding my mental state is wrong, nothing has any reason to be the way it is, but it is that way and there is nothing we can do about it. I'm too young. It's been too long. I can't deal with this anymore. Goodbye.
Going through same thing. I'm pretty nuch forced to hide my depression otherwise I get abused, physically or mentally by anyone.
If I show I am depressed, I got no chance in fighting back against them because I am only 1 person against like 100s of people.
i had a big situation where many people in my life "left", and my friends never even knew until i finally said something and finally let them know what happened. they never even could've guessed that something so fucked up happened because they wouldn't have expected someone to have been able to withstand the burden like i did.
So what's the difference between 'smiling depression' and things like self-doubt, which everyone feels once in a while. Sometimes more, sometimes less.
I walk towards the door. Put my hand on the door handle. Take a deep breath. Then I say, It’s showtime.” Open the door. Lock it. Then the smile goes on my face.
Fake it ‘til you make it. Sometimes you never make it.
I hit myself, cut myself and find mental peace in being un-alive and no one but psychiatrist knows. It's really difficult because everyone expects me to be the go-to person but I don't think they truly appreciate the toll it takes.