Chastity Advice that Actually Works

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  • @lukehebert8959
    @lukehebert8959 5 років тому +485

    I’m 15 and my parents are no longer together. I wanted to see a good model of marriage and I’ve seen y’alls videos and I feel so much better to know that loving marriages are possible. Thanks
    -Luke Hebert

    • @Православл
      @Православл 5 років тому +3

      Luke Hebert hi Luke! When r u going to do a video again? I haven’t seen u on Renee’s or Byzantine Catholics live-streams.

    • @lukehebert8959
      @lukehebert8959 5 років тому +4

      Православље Maxboy50 I have been going threw something’s in my home life. I’ll get started back soon enough. 😄 thanks for showing concern for me. I’ll pray for y’all 😁

    • @Православл
      @Православл 5 років тому +2

      Luke Hebert oh sorry about that. I hope everything works out. Look forward to seeing your videos.

    • @theothersideisjustashard3237
      @theothersideisjustashard3237 4 роки тому

      Luke Hebert avoid divorce...don’t get married !! It’s unnatural!

    • @mancipiachristi9032
      @mancipiachristi9032 2 роки тому +1

      Just remember marriage is not always a bed of roses. We are fallible creatures. husband and wife need to view each other as instructed by Christ and witnessed through Mary and Joseph the perfect example of a beautiful marriage.

  • @eduardog8201
    @eduardog8201 6 років тому +485

    Just went through a very hard temptation and started praying the rosary then this video pops up thanks guys :)
    Please pray for me

    • @Thatbeanbagchair
      @Thatbeanbagchair 5 років тому +2

      Eduardo G how are you doing?

    • @ilovepinkundies
      @ilovepinkundies 5 років тому +3

      Stay strong my G!!!

    • @manialord1699
      @manialord1699 4 роки тому

      Eduardo G is everyone here religious?

    • @wms72
      @wms72 4 роки тому +1

      Google Confraternity of Angelic Warfare, a ministry of the Dominican Order

    • @kaliek3781
      @kaliek3781 4 роки тому +1

      Andrew Watts: That is the point of this channel.....

  • @GinaBecker
    @GinaBecker 6 років тому +129

    That is one of the things that my husband said he loved and respected about me. I was not willing to compromise my values when it came to intimacy and other areas of my life. I had bowed to pressure and changed my values for other men I dated and found that 3 months in, I was no longer myself. I didnt marry those men.
    Once I discovered who I was and my relationship with God and learned to love who I was, God blessed me with a wonderful man. my husband and I will celebrate 11 yrs of marriage this year.

    • @teresacai7718
      @teresacai7718 5 років тому +4

      Gina Becker hi Gina, congratulations 🎉 and what you said is really encouraging, thanks for sharing🙏🏼 I think we should always have faith in God. Although in today’s dating culture it is difficult to find someone who agrees with our chastity values and still want to date you without having what they want, we should believe that if we obey the commandments God give us, He will grant us what’s beyond our imagination😇

    • @daniy8771
      @daniy8771 4 роки тому +2

      Thank you for sharing 🙏🏼 it's really encouraging

    • @Rahulsrivastava-tx3ds
      @Rahulsrivastava-tx3ds 3 роки тому

      It's feel great to wear chastity permanently wife

    • @Laotzu.Goldbug
      @Laotzu.Goldbug 2 роки тому +1

      Once you give it up to anyone, you have given it up in general. You don't get a magical do-over with each new guy.

  • @martin1b
    @martin1b 6 років тому +294

    Great video! My wife and I followed a similar formula and it works! May I suggest an addition to #5: End your date with prayer. We didn't always end with prayer but it cools things down at the end of a date and sets the focus where it belongs.

    • @RachelHS825
      @RachelHS825 6 років тому +12

      Bill Martin that’s such a great idea!

    • @eduardog8201
      @eduardog8201 6 років тому +13

      That's very good always keeping God as your focus beautiful

    • @jelenamiskic968
      @jelenamiskic968 6 років тому +11

      Agree. Also, go to daily mass together if you can, as well as, monthly confession!

    • @theresefrancis9283
      @theresefrancis9283 5 років тому +2

      That's a really cool idea. I'll start doing that!

    • @connornicholas8628
      @connornicholas8628 4 роки тому +9

      Where can I such a woman that would want to do that? Seriously, I need someone like that!

  • @J8n3eyr3
    @J8n3eyr3 6 років тому +413

    This needs to be played for youth groups. It is the least judgemental or preachy and most well balanced discussion of chastity that I have ever seen.

    • @GinaBecker
      @GinaBecker 6 років тому +10

      I agree very honest and down to earth. More like you older siblings giving advice.

    • @PatrickSteil
      @PatrickSteil 4 роки тому +6

      I am a youth pastor and I plan on it!!!!

  • @danielrivera3603
    @danielrivera3603 5 років тому +148

    1 week ago I deleted social media ( feels like its been forever haha) and started getting more involved in my church and reading the Bible. I will not let temptation win!

    • @markjones3213
      @markjones3213 4 роки тому +2

      Lol don’t forget to give them your hard earned money so the Vatican can make more income tax free “donations”

    • @martinrivera6770
      @martinrivera6770 2 роки тому +1

      Other than UA-cam for videos like these, I have been without all other forms of social media for over 2 years now. It feels liberating, I don’t miss it, and I’ve been able to produce richer relationships with like-minded people and strengthened my faith beyond anything I could ever imagine. Stay strong brother, it’s worth it!

  • @jonathanwolff9213
    @jonathanwolff9213 6 років тому +683

    I am probably a professional youtube watcher.

  • @organicmonica
    @organicmonica 6 років тому +656

    Don't forget that chastity is for married couples too! Why not add a part 2 to this video and talk about protecting marriages from flirting with others, adultery, etc.? I see marriages around me crumbling because of lack of chastity too. It's not just for the single.

    • @st.michaelthearchangel7774
      @st.michaelthearchangel7774 6 років тому +33

      I second her comment.

    • @rbrow039
      @rbrow039 6 років тому +18

      @@natsgrey7769 if a work lunch torpedoed your marriage..it wasn't very strong to begin with...

    • @gratiaacademy9191
      @gratiaacademy9191 6 років тому +12

      True. A video on Chastity In Holy Matrimony will be so beneficial and insightful

    • @definitelynotatroll
      @definitelynotatroll 6 років тому +2

      nats gray if your wife is freaking out because you are texting a female friend sometimes, or because you had a work lunch... she is already too far gone.

    • @rose4490
      @rose4490 5 років тому +13

      I'm single, but I don't really flirt, and to tell you the truth it's changed my life for the better! People don't get the wrong message when I choose not to speak that language.

  • @brigidwenner6847
    @brigidwenner6847 5 років тому +57

    I wanted to add on to the Tired of HALT: I struggle a lot with lust, and although it has become easier (with LOTS of prayer) to steer away from temptation when I'm awake, it gets really hard when I'm lying half-asleep in bed. I started praying a rosary as I was going to sleep, and have learned that I have to treat this time just like any other time in my life: no compromising, no leaving room for sin. As soon as my head hits the pillow, I'm praying, so that I don't give my thoughts time to wander.
    To clarify: you can't beat your desires into submission- trust me, I've tried. It's only by re-orienting yourself through prayer that you'll recieve the grace you need to put your desires in order. What I'm referring to is when you are capable of acting chastely, but choose to leave yourself just a little bit open to temptation. That's when you have to stand firm.
    Hope this helps anyone struggling with similar problems!

  • @clarklana05
    @clarklana05 6 років тому +209

    This is the first time I saw someone here in UA-cam do the Sign of the Cross and its so refreshing, thanks guys! 👍🏻👏🏻👋🏻😍🇵🇭

    • @GuadalupePicasso
      @GuadalupePicasso 5 років тому +2

      Dan right, because it’s a heresy to make the sign of the cross. Okay.

    • @InhabitantOfOddworld
      @InhabitantOfOddworld 5 років тому +3

      @Dan
      Begone, protestant heretic

    • @GuadalupePicasso
      @GuadalupePicasso 5 років тому +1

      Qwerty he’s just misguided. I don’t doubt that he never learned the scriptures growing up Catholic, as far too many churches fail to actually preach the gospel. But, this isn’t just a Catholic problem, but something that many Protestant churches certainly deal with.

  • @livingbeings
    @livingbeings 4 роки тому +48

    Congratulations. If you made it to this part of youtube then you are on the right track. No matter what you have been through, you are worth-while and strong. You can do it friends.

  • @analuciasequeiracastro9132
    @analuciasequeiracastro9132 6 років тому +73

    I knew Saint Teresa's advice of not making decisions during sad or anger times nor happy times. But I loved HALTS. 👍👍👍

  • @elliestretchprays7851
    @elliestretchprays7851 5 років тому +31

    Fruit of prayer.
    Chaste since 2001. Only by the grace of God

  • @amyneuman7473
    @amyneuman7473 6 років тому +115

    Wow. Great talk. You two are on fire for God! Your words, attitudes, how you say stuff makes virtue appealing and attainable. Not on our own as you said but through grace.
    I could really use some prayers.

    • @poetlover30
      @poetlover30 6 років тому

      I agree! You make chastity sound like "anyone can do this" thru grace of God of course :) Is there anything wrong with loving ur loofah?? Lol

  • @NoreenAquino
    @NoreenAquino 5 років тому +26

    Until that person is your spouse, they're still your sister/brother in Christ and someone else's spouse. So we're to not only honor them, but their future spouse as well in the event of an unfortunate break up.

  • @wishingonthemoon1
    @wishingonthemoon1 2 роки тому +13

    I’m so happy I don’t have sexual urges 😂 when I was a kid, I thought something was wrong with me. Now I’m 26 and realizing I fall under the asexual spectrum-and Lord am I happy about that! Married now and having the best sex of my life after waiting for my husband :)
    Thank you so much for sharing this and for being so candid. I wish more talks like this happened in the church, they’re so important for young people.
    IT IS A HUGE RED FLAG if they don’t want to include you in their family. If they don’t want to date in community. If they act like you’re a secret. Big big red flag.

  • @NoName-mb3cn
    @NoName-mb3cn 3 місяці тому +1

    Thank you guys so much for your video, and videos on this channel in general. You make them just so authentic and compassionate. You meet people where they are and give relevant thoughts and tips in regard to a situation, in this case Chastity. Especially the thought of my counterpart being my sibling in Christ being reawakened by you, it just helped me so much in the last weeks longing for a partner and thinking about just putting my sexual wants above their wellbeing. Thank you. May God our father bless you, protect your marriage, help this channel grow, and let you be a light for many more to come.

  • @sandstorm1317
    @sandstorm1317 4 роки тому +9

    Thank you! This represents the exact opposite of what we see day to day. I'm now a divorced woman. How to practice charity when a person may think, why are you holding back. I think it's beautiful to wait rather we are young teens, adults or grown adults. Gives purity to a relationship. Gives that time to build a true foundation. Thanks for this!

  • @Delkolovr2
    @Delkolovr2 4 роки тому +38

    Wow,this was good!I'm a 27 yr old virgin female and single.. who has always known as a pre-teen that I was saving sex for marriage. I'm the fourth child in a family of 8 kids,my 3 older siblings are married and I'm getting the "You should meet this guy!" or 'I know this one guy!" I just refuse to date just because I'm single.Thank you for these great reminders!

    • @-SRM-
      @-SRM- Рік тому +1

      Have lived that for 2 years now and there's been such vast improvement in my life. Marry eventually? Sure. But having that time to grow spiritually, financially, and personally has been indispensable.

  • @anabarbalho6493
    @anabarbalho6493 3 роки тому +7

    this vid is SOOO GOOD and relatable. a couple months ago i deleted my instagram account and now i feel so much better, have the time i used to say i didint to dedicate to God and prayers. chasity is hard, but it worth it every second. thanks for the vid

  • @jaygon8656
    @jaygon8656 5 років тому +19

    Hey to all you fellow chaste, single young people! Blessings are in store for us! We'll make it!

  • @roseleneazevedo1737
    @roseleneazevedo1737 6 років тому +60

    Amazing. I am turning 45, and back when I was a teen the way of "Catholic" families used to be like women must remain virgin till wedding day but guys could do whatever they wanted with girls they wouldn't necessarily marry someday. That was not right and it is not what Catholicism says. What you say is the true Catholicism.

    • @rose4490
      @rose4490 6 років тому +37

      That's not about Catholicism. Guys should save their virginity as well as gals. The issue you are speaking to sounds, and seems to be more about culture, and double standards. Chastity is for everyone.

    • @Laotzu.Goldbug
      @Laotzu.Goldbug 2 роки тому +1

      The double standards are not cultural but biological. The consequences of sex are radically different for women than they are for men, and have been for the last few million years.

  • @websurfin9575
    @websurfin9575 3 роки тому +6

    These 2 Christian ROLE-MODELS are a blessing to many who will chose to head their words of Godly wisdom!

  • @tsvetomirtorozov7433
    @tsvetomirtorozov7433 2 роки тому +1

    'This person isn't yours until they are yours'. - Wonderfully said! It's also a wonderful way of drawing the red line.

  • @Phoenix_7568
    @Phoenix_7568 2 роки тому +1

    The way she looks at him 🥺❤️❤️❤️

  • @svetlananana9609
    @svetlananana9609 4 роки тому +6

    Thank you very much and God bless!
    I grew up in a non-religious household and environment and was taught that waiting until marriage is from other outdated centuries and for sectants.
    I am so glad it isn't! I am not an alien with my thoughts :) there are adequate people with rewarding experiences.
    I feel very welcomed and in a non judgemental atmosphere watching your video:) thank you for this
    In school I refused to go to bars, never drank alcohol or smoked and dressed modestly. At that time I did not know there's a word like modesty. It was very unusual in my surrounding and still I thankfully did not became an outcast because of this.
    I was popular in school, maybe because I did not show giggling interest in boys. They were even the more motivated trying to woo me, seeing I was unreachable
    I survived school without giving my body away. After graduation I learned that if you wait, infatuation with it's hormone storms will go away and you'll stand there wondering how this could change from the most intense feeling to irrelevant. I did not gave away what seemed sacred for me and worth more than play. I wanted to share myself wholly only with someone who loves me and whom I love.
    Sadly I did not stumbled across the word chastity until now. There was 2 engagements already and I lost my virginity with them. It is a plus that I waited for a man that proposed to me. Even though it was psychologically too early and a compromise that does not suit my soul or psychotype or whatever you name it.
    I am writing this so other people with similar experiences find a story to relate.
    You are not alone!
    And you can begin to live chaste anytime you decide to!
    Living chastely is for Marriage, is for singles and for couples who already had sex.
    I told my current boyfriend recently that I want to refrain from sexual activity. I was ready to let him go. If he wants to go, it would be better for both of us. And I wish him to be happy, if there is a place he's happier... Why hold on to him? It should be his free choice! Like it is my free choice to choose where my boundaries are and with what morals I want to live.
    He not only stayed in the relationship, but supports and admires me.
    Do you really want to be with someone that stays only as long as the sex is good? For me this is not 'being loved for who you are', but rather an agreement of co-habitation where it is your job to perform, else you are fired.
    And if it only was for performing in sex, but NO there are several other thingies summing up to the load of performance- pressure.
    In some way this is twisted. A day time job and an at-home job. One paid with money.
    Where can I relax and be myself without pressure to perform?
    Using each other, not seeing each others hearts, because we're too busy demanding "what we deserve". Deserving love...

  • @Aunt-Cookie
    @Aunt-Cookie 2 роки тому +3

    Quality video full of solid advice! (And not just about physical chastity but regarding the resistance of all forms of temptation.)
    I also appreciated that y'all stayed on topic, yet the dialogue didn't feel scripted or unnatural. thumbs up!

  • @kasiamalinowska7735
    @kasiamalinowska7735 6 років тому +33

    Incredibly wise, thanks for sharing, greetings from Poland!

  • @lefree9581
    @lefree9581 5 років тому +2

    Trusting God in my walk towards the vocation of marriage!!

  • @celiaescalante
    @celiaescalante 2 роки тому

    Finally, someone said it. Thank you! "My brother-in-Christ" for someone you are dating or engaged, too! I've been at church for a year. Two churches!!! Not one of them mentioned this. This is vital!!!

  • @boss56679
    @boss56679 2 роки тому +2

    This video has made me feel a lot better. I’ve been struggling with well let’s just say being a teenager and at one point I learned that something I was doing was wrong and I wanted to fix it. Little did I know, how LONG and difficult that process would be. I’ve heard many stories of people fighting the same battles as me. That just goes to show that it isn’t always gonna be easy, but God will always be with us no matter what. Thank you. God bless!

  • @yashivuvbolshomdomenakholm8274
    @yashivuvbolshomdomenakholm8274 2 роки тому

    Another great thing that chastity does is prove the trust of the relationship. Someone who cannot keep themselves chast while in the dating/engagement period, will have a very hard time staying dedicated to the marriage when they don't feel like they want to be in it. It's a great trust exercise (not that every person who stays chast before marriage doesn't cheat while in the marriage). But it's a real good indicator that the person you are dating has self control. I find people who have self control, have much more stable lives in general. Thank you so much for this video. I love how you prayerfully and calmly explain the importance of this virtue.

  • @southernbella8503
    @southernbella8503 6 років тому +5

    Y'all have such a beautiful, stunning marriage. Thank you for your wonderful example!

  • @heatherfeather1293
    @heatherfeather1293 5 років тому +55

    I'm just trying to find a good Catholic man in the first place!

    • @cristinap273
      @cristinap273 5 років тому +5

      @zadose that's too rare. Try a catholic or just a christian man who really shares your values. That's the most important thing

    • @starboardsculler9629
      @starboardsculler9629 4 роки тому +3

      God will provide!

    • @michaelibach9063
      @michaelibach9063 4 роки тому +9

      I’m just trying to find a good Catholic woman in the first place.

    • @saul5499
      @saul5499 4 роки тому

      I can said the same thing

    • @ammyself
      @ammyself 4 роки тому +3

      A person can't be definied whether he/she is a good person by what his/her religion is. Religion doesn't make one what he/she is!

  • @marthadelacruz8717
    @marthadelacruz8717 5 років тому +2

    Beautiful video. I wish I understood it before. I pray for my kids to understand the beautiful gift 🎁 chastity gives you when you marry the one 💝

  • @user-ru1ki
    @user-ru1ki 3 роки тому +4

    Gorgeous couple. It's so inspiring to see spouses being the best and true friends. Great talk. God bless you 🙏

  • @valeriesearles3000
    @valeriesearles3000 6 років тому +89

    Could you do more marriage/family related videos?

    • @valeriesearles3000
      @valeriesearles3000 6 років тому

      @@poetlover30 Sorry, but you definitely have me mistaken with someone else.

  • @josephbreeden4912
    @josephbreeden4912 3 роки тому +6

    In this day and age there is more lust than ever. Please pray for those of us who are struggling to overcome lust and that we may be instead filled with the Holy Spirit and overcome our temptations

  • @biancamacias7476
    @biancamacias7476 6 років тому +2

    Push you and push you until you’re in a moment of weakness...sooo relatable

  • @feaokautai7354
    @feaokautai7354 6 років тому +1

    Excellent COUPLE FOR TEACHING CATHOLICISM INTELLIGENCE ABOUT CHASTITY!! GREAT AMEN

  • @feaokautai7354
    @feaokautai7354 3 роки тому

    Absolutely, pray for GOD is LIGHT TO walk with you always. For you are hopelessly not knowing you & the other person intentions...etc. You are great couple for you pray pray pray pray pray pray pray pray ...for chastity is most precious for being the IMAGE OF GOD'S LOVE.

  • @cosdawg
    @cosdawg 3 роки тому +1

    I love these videos. Thank you for these great tools. I thank God for all of you at Ascension Press.
    I know when my wife and I were dating, we made sure never to “be alone.” Our parents always gave us some privacy, but we were in their homes while they were there. And we usually were in a living room or a very public part of the house. But I think the most effective tool for us was, if we were in the car alone, THE CAR NEEDED TO BE MOVING. My wife was much better than me, and it was tedious at times, but looking back after 16 years of marriage, six boys, and praise God, a baby girl on the way, I am so glad we did this. You are right, it is something we are so glad we did now, looking back in hindsight. I love sharing these videos with my nieces and nephews. Thanks so much and we are praying for you both.

  • @takforce06
    @takforce06 3 роки тому +4

    5:05 And here I thought I was the only one trading my smart phone in for an old school flip phone. I've used it for almost a year now and it has helped release me from the constant temptation of comparison and lust. I've also deactivated Facebook and use only UA-cam, which, I am trying to ween, as well. Great content.

  • @feaokautai7354
    @feaokautai7354 6 років тому +1

    GREAT TEACHERS OF LIVING CHASTITY...KEEP ON SHARING YOUR EXCELLENCE KNOWLEDGE & PRACTICE TO ALL CATHOLIC YOUTH TO EXPERIENCE A GLIMPSE OF TRUE LOVE IS POSSIBLE TO PRACTISE FOR CHASTITY & CELIBACY.

  • @morganhubert6681
    @morganhubert6681 6 років тому +23

    Amazing video! I'm 20, and this is helpful advice. Thank you!!!

  • @Yt-wm1yd
    @Yt-wm1yd 6 років тому +36

    Can you make a video on marriage and natural family planning how to truly be in chastity once you are married

    • @lukak882
      @lukak882 3 роки тому

      Dont plan number of your family members

  • @rodrigodias4328
    @rodrigodias4328 5 років тому +3

    Thank you for this video.
    It's been about 6 months without Instagram, I realised it opened doors I couldnt close myself.
    But there's more work to be done.

  • @София-ш3ц1э
    @София-ш3ц1э 5 років тому +2

    Got rid of Snapchat a long time ago and it's probably one of the best decision I've ever made.

  • @caribaez5711
    @caribaez5711 6 років тому +3

    I love chastity talks a lot! That is where you can tell when someone really loves your soul! :-)

    • @mariadasgracasnovaes1062
      @mariadasgracasnovaes1062 5 років тому +1

      Obrigado pelo seu bom atendimento chastity a sua equipe é maravilhosa vc esta de parabéns maria das graças

  • @josealfaro5619
    @josealfaro5619 2 роки тому +1

    wow!!!! That's a POWERFULL advice for our youth. THANK YOU!!!!!!!

  • @rose4490
    @rose4490 6 років тому +11

    I wish ya'll, and these videos were around when I was young!

  • @ruthnoelmarie...9061
    @ruthnoelmarie...9061 3 роки тому +2

    God Speed to you both as well. I love y’all forever and ever. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

  • @st.michaelthearchangel7774
    @st.michaelthearchangel7774 6 років тому +2

    Wow, what a great video. I defiantly need prayer for my heart to be transformed to love others more.

  • @shawn445
    @shawn445 6 років тому +4

    Thank you for having this video today. I needed reminders of proper chastity

  • @FreedomandBaconHomestead
    @FreedomandBaconHomestead 6 років тому +7

    Good advice! God bless us all with self control to be able to give ourselves to another fully when appropriate!

  • @lgb5661
    @lgb5661 2 роки тому

    Thank you!!!! As usual, God sent this right when I needed to see it. I’m feeling guilt and shame because I keep falling in spite of what my brain and soul scream at me. You’ve made me realize it’s ok to trip and fall, and that I can do this with time and patience. God bless

    • @EricSmyth4Christ
      @EricSmyth4Christ Рік тому

      For a righteous man may fall seven times And rise again, But the wicked shall fall by calamity
      Proverbs 24:16

  • @ayesa1118
    @ayesa1118 2 роки тому

    In my life regular prayer is essential. Growing up I struggled with lust as a young man, with he usual consequences and spiritual hurt that comes from it, nothing unusual. I have being doing the morning prayer from the divine office for about 6 months an it is the most effective means of keeping me orientated towards God and my eyes away from temptation, that i have ever encountered in my whole life. Doing it really improves my self control. Really excellent resource for lay people that few use

  • @frankk.777
    @frankk.777 4 роки тому +1

    I loved the definition of chastity as the body following the soul or integration of the two.

  • @Mouse73
    @Mouse73 4 роки тому +1

    Thank you for helping me understand this better. I am starting this path by choice but I'm not religious, so I need to approach this a little differently.

  • @consistency-ei7yi
    @consistency-ei7yi 4 роки тому +2

    Thank you for the beautiful video, keep at it, these are very helpful

  • @peakperformancetrain
    @peakperformancetrain 6 років тому +1

    Hurrah!!! That was uplifting especially her last statement.

  • @singdancelady23
    @singdancelady23 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you so much for your ministry!!! My fiancé and I are getting married in two weeks and we've also been waiting until those vows. We're about y'all's age and it's so refreshing to see fellow Catholics live out their faith as well. It's so beautiful and freeing to have a relationship based in Christ an his church. I will now be binging your videos ;-) New subscriber attained!

  • @Linkfan007
    @Linkfan007 5 років тому +3

    Thank you both your wise words of advice. My bf and I have been intimate for 3.5 years and we are deciding to live more closer to God through living a chasted life before we get married. Its difficult since we've been so intimate for a while, but both your advice will help me see the truth and reason why we are doing this. Thank you both and God Bless. 🙏❤

    • @danhope77
      @danhope77 2 роки тому

      So you are trying to be sexless till you get married, but what about once you get married? In theory the church says no sex unless you want to conceive, so that means chastity for ever. Tough

    • @kenu995
      @kenu995 2 роки тому

      Purposely avoiding sex when you're married is also wrong. The whole point of marriage is to build a family. Chastity doesn't mean the exact same thing for married people as it does others. It means using your sexual desires in a loving, moderate way, not "this person is now my personal outlet for all my kinks and naughty thoughts".

    • @Linkfan007
      @Linkfan007 2 роки тому +2

      @@danhope77 we DO want to conceive, we just aren't ready for that yet. We arent married yet either. We both agreed we need to be making more $$$ in order to start our life together. Since money issues are apparently what a lot of couples divorce over. So I've heard/been told...

    • @Linkfan007
      @Linkfan007 2 роки тому +2

      @@kenu995 Obviosly when we are married we will be engaging intimately for conceiving and for eachother. It's been hard, but since we arent married yet, it's been hard to COMPLETELY avoid intimacy with eachother. We havent been dishonest with eachother and are committed as well.

    • @kenu995
      @kenu995 2 роки тому +1

      @@Linkfan007 good to hear you're still together, I'm in the same boat as far as marriage and finances. It's hard.

  • @mikeb0607
    @mikeb0607 4 роки тому +1

    Great video! Seriously! As a guy that recently embarked on this journey, I appreciate it. I am not necessarily religious, but I try to live a life based on spiritual principles. "Using others for pleasure" Yikes! Never looked at it from that angle, but yeah, I can see it! This video was empowering for me. Thanks

  • @3817tuamigo
    @3817tuamigo 5 років тому +1

    Love it. Chastity is a LIFESTYLE. Often thought when I was dating that if I just found that one thing/rule I could stay chaste but it’s really a mindset supported by healthy, solid boundaries. Like living healthy physically it’s not just about eating the right kale or whatever. It’s so many things that you integrate into your everyday life. The number one thing of course be integrated with and in fact lead by is God and His love.

  • @nathanoppy
    @nathanoppy Рік тому

    Praying the rosary daily helps with purity in my life

  • @kristentate4613
    @kristentate4613 Рік тому +1

    Very good video. Fits all ages and situations. A message from God for sure ❤️

  • @ruthnoelmarie...9061
    @ruthnoelmarie...9061 3 роки тому +2

    Thanks for the prayers as I extend mine to you all @Ascension Presents :)

  • @Michellekdoria
    @Michellekdoria 5 років тому

    Oh my ! this was soooo good! Im also a christian and this is the first time I hear great ways towards Chastity. Thank you guys so much!

  • @jeradjones9528
    @jeradjones9528 3 роки тому

    Congratulations To The Blessed People out there That God doesn't curse This part of their humanity Like This couple here. They got To have each other And Be on Good Terms With God about It. As for Some of us We Receive Condemnation Before God And Live lonely Until we rebel with our Bodies Against God's Will in This Rejection of him.

  • @mykllvillas1
    @mykllvillas1 2 роки тому +1

    The sacraments of the Holy Eucharist and Penance and the Holy Rosary helped me me heal my sexual addiction and save me from sexual sin. Still in the process here, so I need your prayers. Everytime I reach that part of the litany where we say, "Virgin most chaste, Virgin most pure," I feel almost as if the virtues of the Blessed Mother brushes off us. We become a little bit more like Jesus everytime we commune with Him in the Mass. Recent revert here, BTW.

  • @tomasanthonymusic2972
    @tomasanthonymusic2972 6 років тому +20

    In a squeaky breathless voice: "CHHHAAASSTTICCLLESS" im dead. I love the innocent minds of kids.

  • @KnowledgeRobotMan
    @KnowledgeRobotMan 6 років тому +2

    My advice for chastity is by fasting and prayer if you are not married. If married diet and self sacrifice will burn up that desire. Todays food are high in protein and foods can contribute to testosterone products and all that hormones need an outlet if those passions are ignited it will burn you inside and your heart will commit sin even though you are under chastity your constantly will be fixated elsewhere . In todays over sexualized society dress to impress / tv / social media very tempting.
    I recommend :
    1 Prayers ask god for guidance ( fill your self with spirit )
    2 Be of service to people / family
    3 Fasting very important if you want to break down lust internally
    4 let go of anger , jealousy , excessive talking and envy as this will stress your system and some might find comfort in the form of sexual release to comfort them which another viscous cycle.
    5 Eat protein based on your activity if you working at a desk job excess protein is not good .
    6 Be Humble.
    7 For men avoid much of the internet or social media. :)

  • @amypola5903
    @amypola5903 4 роки тому +2

    To the extent that we allow God to satisfy that ache, is to the extent we won't use people.

  • @veronikalah2718
    @veronikalah2718 4 роки тому +5

    Finding a compatible partner is one thing, which is quite hard. Finding a compatible partner who also wants to wait.. well that will probably never happen to me :D

    • @michaelpryor78
      @michaelpryor78 3 роки тому +3

      It doesn't sound like someone who doesn't want to wait would be a compatible partner for you in the first place
      We exist. My advice would be to give any wholesome guy who asks you out at least one date, even if you don't think you two will be a match for whatever reason. You never know. A friend of my family was rejected by his wife multiple times when he was initially trying to ask her out. She didn't think she liked him, but eventually gave him a shot. They've been married for over ten years now and have four kids.

  • @joannebywaters4154
    @joannebywaters4154 4 роки тому +1

    Holy clear, so very helpful & encouraging!!!🙏

  • @patrickjade9349
    @patrickjade9349 6 років тому +9

    Hey, I want to bring up something you said so briefly about it being a red flag when someone isn't dating in community. You said it really quick and didn't flesh this out.
    I got a buddy that was dating this girl and he would intentionally do that; deep down I knew that that wouldn't produce good fruits and that they wouldn't ever be together as long as that existed. They broke up as I knew would happen yet I don't know how to broach the topic with him.
    If you guys were looking for future video topics and needs, this would totally be fertile soil, at least for me. Occasionally I find myself wanting space to develop a one on one relationship in a rather rigid way when it comes to dating; and yes it doesnt bare good fruits.
    Anyway, just some thoughts! Great video + thanks!

    • @poetlover30
      @poetlover30 6 років тому +3

      Actually, I agree- It's fine that you go out with him in the beginning a few times while getting to know him... Yet, after awhile... Come on... you're gonna want to be alone & insisting on this group thing is going to get old really quick

    • @_Keith_
      @_Keith_ 5 років тому +2

      Yeah, I don't mean to sound overly blunt or inconsiderate, but honestly for me, if a woman insisted on never being alone with me that would be such a red flag it just about feels like a deal breaker. If you're going to pursue marriage, I think it makes sense to pursue nonsexual intimacy. Platonic intimacy is precisely how you come to deeply know a person and share a meaningful relationship with them. Yes, some of that can, and probably should, include a broader social context, as with family time, but if you avoid being alone together, that strikes me as a real problem. ..Just sharing my thoughts, hoping to help.

  • @shakeiteasy4539
    @shakeiteasy4539 6 років тому +4

    Is it really worth your soul? - Very good question on all things before actions.. Nice to find your channel. I am a sinner but just wanted to share that after finding Traditional Catholic, it feels like i have been straighten out.. Felt revelation.. Seeing modern Catholics, wearing almost naked inside the church pains me but what i learned is to pray for others. Prayers and fasting works together too.. This is perfect for all the lonely teens. You just have to wait for your blessings. There’s a reason why do nit have it yet..

    • @matheusf.alpoin3489
      @matheusf.alpoin3489 6 років тому +1

      Shake It Easy I know how it is to discover the beauty of our faith, but calling ourselves "traditional" kind of sets us apart from rhe rest of the Church, as if we were better and more correct than the others.
      Stay Roman Catholic, and that will truly be enough.

    • @shakeiteasy4539
      @shakeiteasy4539 6 років тому

      Matheus Alpoin I didn’t mean brag or to to start a discussion but like any other poem, i just need to give them credit. On what happened to me. Like i said, no words but the moment i stepped in, it felt revelation, unfolded truths. I am born and raised as a Novus ordo, attended Novus ordo school, then about 7 years ago, bible study with protestants.. I was asked to church with them every sunday because as per them, its just the same but i didnt go.. I was so proud with pride, always judging immodest women like I am greater than them until I knew Traditional which i have never heard of before (talking about Traditional. I kept on going to Novus ordo until my car is taken and was forced to walk and find this Traditional church. I used to deny and ashamed of faith until now. I hope you understand me crediting them.

  • @elvinrivera3392
    @elvinrivera3392 5 років тому +1

    GodMary&Jesús BLESS you,Im so glad of been Catholic,from PR!!!!

  • @davidus9702
    @davidus9702 4 роки тому +1

    Thank you for the beautiful prayer, God bless!

  • @rachelowhonda2913
    @rachelowhonda2913 4 роки тому

    Number 3 is really important, it is difficult already you need some on the same page with you. Thank you

  • @LeoMarkP
    @LeoMarkP 6 років тому +1

    Wow that was really good! You guys inspire me so much! The things you guys teach are so practical and spiritual at the same time. Thank you for all the insight! Praise God for you two!!

  • @ashleyhunter9140
    @ashleyhunter9140 5 років тому +4

    I wish someone had told me this ten years ago. My husband and I recently converted to Catholicism, and a big reason was because we want to teach this to our boys. We made it out of the fire, into the frying pan, and out through confession. 😌

  • @user-fy2ox9ep9t
    @user-fy2ox9ep9t 6 років тому +1

    I am not a religious nor I am married nor I have taken the vows in public. I am an heterosexual attracted to women and women are attracted to me but with God's grace all challenges can be harnessed , so I am living chastely with the help from the Bread of Life.

  • @notoriousmigz2427
    @notoriousmigz2427 2 роки тому

    Honestly these videos are great and I've just gotten into the role of accountability bro as one of my really good mates went on a first date. I recommended this channel and the dating advice from Jackie as a guide and I recommended for the sake of purity that sane tip of not staying alone together beyond a certain time.

  • @MusicIsLife155
    @MusicIsLife155 6 років тому +1

    This is wonderful. Thank you both so much for taking the time to do this. I know so many people need to hear this, including myself.

  • @hernanandcatherinetorres3642
    @hernanandcatherinetorres3642 6 років тому +10

    I like this but I always found it really hard to find people like this. All the Catholics I knew growing up were definitely not practicing this or if they were they were super socially awkward. Found it really hard to find these “cool” Catholics with these morals. Wish that could be changed. I’m sure that is somewhat the point of this channel.

    • @MrBatesford
      @MrBatesford 6 років тому +1

      Hernan and Catherine Torres so relatable!

  • @Corum-yf9hw
    @Corum-yf9hw 7 місяців тому

    Q1
    (January, February, March)
    Q2
    (April, May, June)
    Q3
    (July August, September)
    Q4
    (October, November, December)

  • @martagorska7345
    @martagorska7345 4 роки тому +1

    You two are so beautiful

  • @patriceforde5654
    @patriceforde5654 6 років тому +1

    Very sound advice. Thanks Jackie and Bobby!❤

  • @angelaseminara2864
    @angelaseminara2864 6 років тому +1

    This video is amazing, I just deleted Snapchat because of this!

  • @Taquinqua
    @Taquinqua 2 роки тому

    Oop I was actually looking for advice on how to use chastity cages but that’s interesting good luck y’all

  • @Seethi_C
    @Seethi_C 6 років тому +41

    Can you do a video on how to find someone who is on the same page as you in terms of faith? All these videos are great, but also kind of pointless if you can’t find anybody.

    • @Anthony-vx6cs
      @Anthony-vx6cs 6 років тому +17

      I think I might be in the same boat as you right now!
      I was raised Catholic and am in my third year of college now, but am still single... Understandably so, this stirred something within me - when will I meet the one I will spend the rest of my life with?
      I am sure many Catholic youths can relate to this sentiment. We probably desire the same things; a wonderful spouse, a beautiful house, the white picket fence, children, etc, etc, etc - we lament to ourselves regularly, that if we only had that one person by our side we would begin to feel happy. That once “the right” person waltzes into our lives we will begin the journey that is a just relationship. In our heads, it would seem that all anyone really needs is a companion of the opposite sex, whom we feel attracted to in one way or another.
      As Catholics, we might be taken aback by this and respond: “I’m certainly not only in it for the pleasure and looks! I want to connect with someone emotionally, and work with a companion to pursue noble ends!” If that is you then you are certainly ahead of the game, however there is more to it than that.
      If we are not at peace with ourselves as single individuals, we will not be happy or at peace in a relationship with another human being.
      You see, there are reasons that we feel unsatisfied with where we are as single people. Our unhappiness with our own lack of romantic relationships is simply a manifestation of whatever the deeper issues we have with ourselves are. These are the issues that we must explore and heal if we ever hope to be capable of fully loving another human being as we are called to do in the sacrament of marriage. The summation of this point can be realized more holistically through the ponderence of this very common line: “How can we expect to be capable of showing love to others, if we are incapable of showing love to ourselves?”
      This should not be misinterpreted to mean that we should accept ourselves as permanent mantle pieces, incapable of change; rather, we should seek to become better through pursuing God in every aspect we can possibly fathom, and so, learn to love ourselves as God’s own, on a never ending journey to become more like Him.
      For me, I have realized the glaring issue in my life is a lack of Chastity. I had never truly been exposed to the idea before a month ago, when I accidently stumbled across Jason Evert’s video on “How to Save Your Marriage Before You’ve Met Your Spouse” (THANKS BE TO GOD I DID!).
      On top of that I realized that while I do go to Church every week, participate somewhat actively with the Church on campus, and seek to be friendly and kind to others in public; the most intimate areas in my life are more corrupt than I ever realized. I did not even bring my Bible to school when I moved in… I never developed habits of prayer… I never truly committed to live purely in all aspects of my life - including the things I watched and listened to on the internet… These terrible habits many of us have, or lack of good habits, cannot be expected to blow away or develop (in the case of the good habits) as soon as we meet “the one.” NO, we must resolve to become better through our own free will and intellect.
      I’ve realized that there is SO MUCH I need to begin to work on with myself as an individual before I can even pretend to be ready to treat my future wife with the love and respect She deserves to be treated with. I’ve resolved, as I hope you will to, to die to myself in the hope of a better future; to pursue God in all areas of my life, until He truly cements Himself as the one greatest pleasure I have on this earth. It is only then that we can truly open ourselves to give and receive the love of our future mates, and thank God for helping us to realize that.

    • @nursejennyk40
      @nursejennyk40 6 років тому +1

      Seethi C if you wanted to meet someone who liked a certain sports team you would go to a sports bar right so if you were trying to meet someone religious i would try talking to more people at your church

    • @HelenaElenahelena
      @HelenaElenahelena 6 років тому +1

      Me and my husband meet at prayer group so best is look within the church groups,hope it helps

    • @shyaka-8774
      @shyaka-8774 6 років тому +3

      I must admit that I gotta same issue of hw to find that same exact person who will fully understand me & so be on same page.
      But I realized won't be easy either so I decided to take it to the rosary

    • @cristinap273
      @cristinap273 5 років тому +1

      @@Anthony-vx6cs Beautiful. I relate a lot

  • @ramblingrob14
    @ramblingrob14 4 роки тому +6

    “If you right hand causes you to sin cut it off” matthew

  • @2007winne
    @2007winne 2 місяці тому

    Thank you for such practical advise

  • @marcusmariemoylan
    @marcusmariemoylan 5 років тому +3

    Please keep me in your prayers !

  • @mkznan5963
    @mkznan5963 6 років тому +1

    Amen! thank you so much for addressing this topic

  • @SevenDeMagnus
    @SevenDeMagnus 6 років тому +1

    I'd love to be friends with Jackie and Bob coz' I know they will be true friends, who will help save my soul. Pray that in 2019, I'll be in that good place- bet God:-)
    God bless, Proverbs 31

  • @dielloarias
    @dielloarias 5 років тому

    Thank you so much for this enlighting content. God bless you all and take you on the path of eternal joy and salvation!

  • @David-lv3ve
    @David-lv3ve 3 роки тому +2

    Hugs for you guys 🥰