The Secret about Sex and Holiness

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  • @luiliquid
    @luiliquid 3 роки тому +1910

    This made me realize that sex before marriage is like communion before confession

  • @boberttorres4689
    @boberttorres4689 2 роки тому +1024

    Im only 19 and only want to share my person with one person. I pray I don’t stray off this path 🙏

    • @hailydove
      @hailydove 2 роки тому +64

      i’m 18 and staying strong! you aren’t alone

    • @mariasad6007
      @mariasad6007 2 роки тому +51

      Same here!
      I'm having doubts lately.
      Living in this world where divorce is becoming more and more common.
      I'm scared that it might happen to me too.
      I hope God will help me to get rid of these doubts and any other d I might have about my faith.

    • @kaylarose1081
      @kaylarose1081 2 роки тому +55

      It's SO worth it! My husband and I waited for each other and married in our late 20s. I had the exact mindset as you - that I only wanted to share myself with one person. Zero regrets and so glad we're each other's only. Keep on the path! You're off to a great start!

    • @mariasad6007
      @mariasad6007 2 роки тому +6

      @@Codeman113 I'm from Europe. I actually never knew that. I though marriage was "until death do us part".Thanks for your reply😁

    • @Codeman113
      @Codeman113 2 роки тому

      @@mariasad6007 pffft that’s technically attached to the old marriage law in the Old Testament, my pastor said when he got married they didn’t even say those words because it’s irrelevant

  • @Kathotokos
    @Kathotokos 3 роки тому +729

    Fr. Mike the Evangelist. The man is doing the the exact work that church needs be done. Future Catholics will be praying for his intercession one day.

    • @lvluxdelight
      @lvluxdelight 3 роки тому +13

      I agree 🙏❤️

    • @Ima_D._Plorable
      @Ima_D._Plorable 3 роки тому +24

      He may be too virtuous a priest to stay in the good graces of the church in its current state. May God protect his loyal servant.

    • @sheilatiu9325
      @sheilatiu9325 3 роки тому +1

      My thought for a long time now

    • @jocelynsmith4315
      @jocelynsmith4315 3 роки тому +15

      i was listening to his “bible in a year” podcast today and just thinking this.. “i wonder what Fr. mike will be the patron saint of” 😇

    • @Hamann9631
      @Hamann9631 2 роки тому +2

      Richard O'Brien. If Fr. Mike is righteous, he won't want to be anybody's false god.

  • @AnnaBelise
    @AnnaBelise 3 роки тому +797

    My mind is BLOWN. I went to a Catholic grade school, high school, & Christian college……and this is the first time I’m hearing this topic explained this way. Thank you for this video. 🙏🏽

    • @markbecker71
      @markbecker71 3 роки тому +11

      The evildoers in the church don't want you to know.

    • @sitka49
      @sitka49 3 роки тому +10

      Pretty sad isn't?

    • @user-kj1hz9yh2r
      @user-kj1hz9yh2r 3 роки тому +2

      Mark Becker 😐

    • @Thezombiekiller06
      @Thezombiekiller06 2 роки тому

      ​@@user-kj1hz9yh2r What? This is a well known fact

    • @sitka49
      @sitka49 2 роки тому

      "The secret about sex and holyness". The title alone should be enough to give you the answer, it's a oxymoron.

  • @simonscheib1778
    @simonscheib1778 3 роки тому +879

    My Fiance converted yesterday to Catholicism and we get married this Saturday 🙂 Feeling so grateful to God for His grace 🙏 I have to admit that I have struggled with sexual addictions most of my life and have fallen in and out of my faith. Through the persistent prayers of my mother I'm sure and God pulling me to want to be holy, I finally made a resolution that I wanted to do things properly. My Fiance( then girlfriend) was very supportive of my decision and although it hasn't been the easiest road with little falls here and there we have managed to keep ourselves from having sex. Looking forward to embracing married life with a real sense of love and growing in God's grace together.

    • @groblerful
      @groblerful 3 роки тому +18

      God bless you both.

    • @aknmo541
      @aknmo541 3 роки тому +25

      Oh Simon! What a beautiful testimony! God's blessings be upon your holy union. Let the praises ring! Congratulations!

    • @ekwyije1986
      @ekwyije1986 2 роки тому +9

      Good bless your marriage

    • @JulesSRo-pb2uc
      @JulesSRo-pb2uc 2 роки тому +10

      Is someone cutting onions...?
      That was beautiful!

    • @Eis4Electric
      @Eis4Electric 2 роки тому +9

      You did a very admirable thing. I wish you both many years of good health and happiness.

  • @MariaPullatt
    @MariaPullatt 3 роки тому +793

    As someone who used to be in conflict with the Church's take on sexuality, knowing and realizing that it's all just about Love (God's version) has given me a whole new level of clarity over...well, everything.

    • @wilhufftarkin8543
      @wilhufftarkin8543 3 роки тому +66

      I know exactly how you feel. When I started to take my faith seriously again, I had a completely wrong idea about the Church's teachings on sexuality. It seemed so negative. Over the last couple of years I realized that the Church's take is not only inherently positive, it is also much more about true love than secular society's view on sexuality.

    • @presuntomr
      @presuntomr 3 роки тому +3

      @@wilhufftarkin8543 can u recommend me something to know more about that?

    • @apricus3155
      @apricus3155 3 роки тому +3

      Wait, you're from Kerala? How fortuitous! Me too.

    • @PhoDieFro
      @PhoDieFro 3 роки тому +2

      I'm struggling. My girlfriend (a Christian who does not deliberately follow the faith) and I (somewhat devote Catholic) are struggling to find place to land on sex.

    • @francesgutierrez4124
      @francesgutierrez4124 2 роки тому +9

      @@PhoDieFro No offense . I'm not a good Catholic , because I don't practice my faith like I should . Have told this , I hope you don't take this as criticism . You say you are somewhat devote (to set apart for or give up to some purpose , activity , or person ; dedicate) I did no the meaning that's why I wrote it. Question: Where is God , in your plan to find a space for sex ? Just a suggestion , go to your parish or a Catholic Church and speak to a priest . The priest can give clarity on premarital sex or look it in The Catechism of the Catholic.
      🕊God bless you and guide 🕊 you

  • @Amadeus_2061
    @Amadeus_2061 Рік тому +86

    How much I regret that I didn't realize the value of our incredible religion when I was young. I only now realize the value of a GOOD teacher. Schools and parishes should appoint people like Father Mike to teach this stuff in a way that captures the glory of these teachings. A good teacher has the power to ingrain these jewels into children and to affect the trajectory of their lives.

  • @LLopez993
    @LLopez993 9 місяців тому +64

    I got married 3 months ago, I can say that giving your body to your spouse is a completely different dimension. You can feel the blessing over the union of the man and the woman. Physically , emotionally and mentally we two became one. You receive sex as a gift and it is so freeing to be able to be with God at all times before, during and after the act. You do not have to choose between God or a man but be United as one ♥️🙏🏼✝️ . People, wait for your husband or your wife and keep your body to him or her even if you are not virgin at this moment, restart where you are and enter your path to heaven 💕💝

    • @Joanne499
      @Joanne499 3 місяці тому +5

      I so agree with you.

  • @whitneydriscoll6717
    @whitneydriscoll6717 3 роки тому +212

    Someone who is a Catholic single and has spent years trying to understand the Church's stance on sex, this video gives so much clarity. Thank you so much Fr. Mike!

  • @marktapia8327
    @marktapia8327 3 роки тому +218

    Sacrament in Greek means “mystery”. There is an element of mystery given to Christ as a means of his presence and influence in the Church. Fulton Sheen gave a speech saying sex is a mystery as it provides (as Christopher West says) the ecstasy of the love between the members of the Holy Trinity. Yes, sex is holy and Christ is present and influential in the act of marital intercourse. Also, God allows his creation to share in His creating powers. He creates, but lays the blueprints for it in the male and female reproductive systems as a gift for the spouses. That’s just mind blowing.

    • @NikeRunner210
      @NikeRunner210 3 роки тому +1

      Thanks for the information

    • @LoveToMix
      @LoveToMix 3 роки тому +1

      @@NikeRunner210 Lol great just name

    • @niceatrya3477
      @niceatrya3477 3 роки тому +4

      I think you mean the Latin word "sacramentum", which roughly translates to "an oath to the death" It was used by Roman soldiers to swear by oath they would carry out one's duties even to the point of death.

    • @marktapia8327
      @marktapia8327 3 роки тому

      @@niceatrya3477 Greek and Latin translations don’t always match, but yes, I see the analogy you’re describing.

    • @josephzammit8483
      @josephzammit8483 3 роки тому

      ua-cam.com/video/sY7BYbiHkPE/v-deo.html

  • @dennypoliquit2936
    @dennypoliquit2936 3 роки тому +291

    I'm blown away!! This is the real sex education. Not the ones they teach in schools now. Thank you Fr Mike!

    • @michelleharkness7549
      @michelleharkness7549 2 роки тому +3

      Greetings: amen 🙏 alleluia: ( fwiw) this presentation is outstanding, wonderful; again, this presentation is outstanding, thank you 🙏

    • @michelleharkness7549
      @michelleharkness7549 2 роки тому +3

      Greetings: amen 🙏 alleluia : special intention: Sacred Heart 💜 of Almighty Jesus Christ, I trust in You; Mother Immaculate ( BVM) , pray for us

    • @michelleharkness7549
      @michelleharkness7549 2 роки тому +2

      Greetings: amen 🙏 alleluia: honored Saint Michael McGivney, pray for us ; Esteemed Saint Maria Faustina , pray for us ; Revered Saint Padre Pio, pray for us

    • @cg02tx
      @cg02tx 10 місяців тому

      This isn’t really a sec education. Don’t get it misconstrued

    • @geoffcaflisch1352
      @geoffcaflisch1352 9 місяців тому +1

      Abstinence only education lead to elevated rates of pregnancy in many public school systems. The research is very solid.

  • @antonioborriello5287
    @antonioborriello5287 3 роки тому +343

    I absolutely, totally feel, "why didnt they tell me that before."
    This is wonderful, so beautiful.
    If i would of had this train of thought at, say, pre-teen/teen, i would of spent years with
    Such a better approa ch to this subject.
    I know i had to fall to learn and change, to be worthy of the these graces that have now been bestowed on me, but....i could of avoided so much sin and incorrect thinking. I could avoided so many offenses to Christ.
    This is an epiphany to me now. This makes so much sense. This just feels....right.
    Thank you God, for ringing me to this video. Thank you God for Father Mike and his abiliry to communicate.
    Thank you Father Mike for having the boldness to talk about this.

    • @marcbarrera2145
      @marcbarrera2145 3 роки тому +10

      Wow! What a wonderful response to such a beautiful video. I could not have said it better. Fr. Mike needs his own tv show. I believe now is a perfect time when there’s so much confusion in the world. He has a deliverance about him that can capture the world.

    • @LM-ix7pk
      @LM-ix7pk 3 роки тому +4

      @Denzil Pillay it is also sadly because we have poor teachers and bad leaders

    • @freddo6941
      @freddo6941 2 роки тому +3

      I'll raise my hand to that as well. I struggled with this subject so much in teens and 20s and regrefully did not have the right approach. I could not make sense of my natural kind of "guy thoughts" and the teaching of the Church where I was almost told to sort of just suppress it, which did not work at all. Now I understand what it is about. This makes so much sense.

    • @robertortiz-wilson1588
      @robertortiz-wilson1588 2 роки тому +1

      @@freddo6941 same. Hearing this confirmed by the Father was very good for me. I had to roughly come to most this conclusion on my own dealing with all the natural things you'd expect. I have a friend struggling right now so this video is very timely for me.

    • @freddo6941
      @freddo6941 2 роки тому +2

      @@robertortiz-wilson1588 absolutely. I realized this in my own life as well , but I wish I heard it articulated this way much sooner.
      Like anything, Satan can manipulate you. He can manipulate those natural desires and take you towards lust, hedonism and pornography. But these desires are not in conflict with God. Satan's way cheapens it. It's about a desire to share yourself in unity with another in a way that honors God through the sacraments. It's not that sex is bad, its that it is so amazing and holy, but using it the wrong way brings dishonor to the gift that God gave us.
      And wheather people realize it or not, they can see this play out in real life. Having sex carelessly leads to so many physical, emotional and mental hardships. Sex within holy matrimony is incredible and beautiful ,and leads to the best thing in life, the creation of new life. It's so obvious, yet so easy to miss and Father Mike explaines this better than anyone I've heard.

  • @StephaniDObSB
    @StephaniDObSB 3 роки тому +275

    I read somewhere that sex is for the married the way celebrating the Mass is for priests. Both are, in a sense, sacrilegious when offered by (unmarried/unordained), but a super beautiful thing when entered into by those with the right to do so.

    • @terrymunoztrujillo483
      @terrymunoztrujillo483 3 роки тому +4

      what about all the single young people?

    • @emilyrushmore9212
      @emilyrushmore9212 3 роки тому +7

      What an interesting and frankly, powerful perspective! The logic follows. Thanks for this comment.

    • @Ima_D._Plorable
      @Ima_D._Plorable 3 роки тому +9

      @@terrymunoztrujillo483 may they grow to learn and understand God. I’m glad I waited.

    • @wiafewaandra5061
      @wiafewaandra5061 3 роки тому +1

      @@terrymunoztrujillo483 ...who are really committed to each other??

    • @smorevids
      @smorevids 3 роки тому +8

      You don't *really* commit until you're married though.

  • @SheldonDsouza126
    @SheldonDsouza126 3 роки тому +511

    I think if we go out and proclaim the sanctity of marriage with the same vigour we go out proclaiming pro-life, all the work we do for pro-life will be so much more meaningful. Yes, Life begins at conception, but more so, life begins at the point of the sexual embrace. The sanctity of life is preserved, when the sanctity of marriage is preserved. Our silence on divorces, premarital sex, sex in general has led us to this stage where no one wants to listen to the advocacy of pro-life. That's my opinion.

    • @holyfariankido
      @holyfariankido 3 роки тому +7

      Couldn’t agree more @Sheldon.

    • @KM-ec2qv
      @KM-ec2qv 3 роки тому +21

      Civil divorce is often emblematic of underlying sin, but it is not in itself a sin (the sacrament of marriage extends beyond, which of course is why we can't divorce/remarry without a declaration of nullity--i.e., the "marriage" was never valid in the first place).
      I'm more troubled on the Church's silence on abuse--emotional, sexual, physical--in relationships and in marriage. Some priests can still waffle on calling out abuse as a sin and often push those being abused to stay even when in danger. It's a problem that needs to be addressed from the pulpit and in pre Cana.

    • @cyruslever586
      @cyruslever586 3 роки тому

      The catholic girls are the ones getting pregnant when they're teenagers making welfare babies because they aren't allowed to have birth control or abortions

    • @radmomthoughts3507
      @radmomthoughts3507 3 роки тому +22

      While I agree with the good points made by Sheldon and K.M. (gonna go ahead and ignore the hate coming from Cyrus), it's so much easier to criticize than to help. As someone who worked for a pro-life nonprofit, we sometimes had people reproach us with these sorts of arguments: why aren't you doing more to promote chastity, why aren't you focusing on helping unwed mothers, etc. It can be very disheartening to those who really are working hard to make the world a better place to hear "why aren't you doing more?" Instead, I would turn the question around and ask, "what are you doing? How are you reaching out to those being abused or teenagers believing lies about sex?" Sometimes all it takes is being an awesome guest speaker at a youth group, or writing to your pastor to ask about starting a ministry for abused spouses, asking if he will address it in his homily. Be the change you want to see in the Church!

    • @eduardohoover2127
      @eduardohoover2127 3 роки тому +3

      How does this work within the Holy Family? Mary and Joseph never did this.

  • @colleenlongua9752
    @colleenlongua9752 3 роки тому +42

    This is why abstinence before marriage is so important, great explanation!

  • @Dwchidwchi
    @Dwchidwchi 8 місяців тому +9

    I am jewish, but this video confirmed to me an important intuition about sex which I've always had, without realizing it fully. Thank you.

  • @h00sha
    @h00sha 3 роки тому +68

    25 years and counting, and this was the message that I never knew that I needed. Thanks Father!

  • @kenebbepena9831
    @kenebbepena9831 3 роки тому +790

    I'm getting married this Saturday, December 4, and this video makes me more excited💕

    • @ariannecayao1828
      @ariannecayao1828 3 роки тому +6

      eeeeeep congratulations!!!!!!

    • @victoriaezembu4509
      @victoriaezembu4509 3 роки тому +11

      Yayyyy congratulations🎊🎊
      I hope your marriage is everything you hope for it to be❤️

    • @angelalemos9811
      @angelalemos9811 3 роки тому +4

      praying for you

    • @Kristaholmes96
      @Kristaholmes96 3 роки тому +2

      Oh how fantastic! Love and blessings to you both!

    • @KHnoway460
      @KHnoway460 3 роки тому +2

      Congratulations! God bless you and your marriage!

  • @VictoriaDMunoz
    @VictoriaDMunoz Рік тому +128

    My boyfriend and I didn’t wait…it hurts to think about Godly love being absent from something that was so special and intimate. We’ve since stopped completely and for over a year now have been trying to actively avoid slipping up until we discern marriage. It’s been tough but I know it’s worth it.

    • @cheenouthao7112
      @cheenouthao7112 Рік тому +1

      I wasn’t able to fully understand everything father Mike said in the video. I am a new believer of god and still confused if se can have premarital sex or not. I heard many say we can’t, but some say that people have interpret this saying wrong…and that we can have premarital sex if we are in a committed relationship leading to marriage or if we are engaged. Please help!

    • @AdrianYork-y5v
      @AdrianYork-y5v Рік тому

      The church teachings has been very clear on this subject. No premarital sex no matter what. Sex is only between a married couple. @@cheenouthao7112

    • @VictoriaDMunoz
      @VictoriaDMunoz 11 місяців тому +17

      @@cheenouthao7112 you are not allowed to have sex outside of marriage. Ever. Even if you plan on marrying that person. A reason (if you need one) could be: what if that person dies before you two get married? Now you’ve had sex with someone that is not your spouse nor will ever be your spouse.
      It is hard but you must wait. Good luck and God bless ✝️

    • @kristycaminero4653
      @kristycaminero4653 7 місяців тому +1

      me too!

  • @juliephillips8381
    @juliephillips8381 3 роки тому +64

    Getting married in January, and this could not have come at a more perfect time. Thank you Fr. Mike for teaching this truth!

    • @veronicahwambui7303
      @veronicahwambui7303 3 роки тому +2

      Congratulations dear 💐💐🎉🎊 blessings on ur marriage 🌺🌹

  • @Laura-vc7er
    @Laura-vc7er 3 роки тому +138

    Framing sex in sacramental terms makes the teaching make sense.
    I wouldn’t walk into a confessional without having the preparation and completing my first Reconciliation. I wouldn’t eat the Eucharist without formation or First Communion.
    So I wouldn’t renew marriage vows via sex without first getting married.
    This is great!

  • @dvinemsr
    @dvinemsr 3 роки тому +23

    Thank you Fr Mike. Like most Catholics who did not know the holiness of sex I get frustrated that the Church never taught the Theology of the Body. Im blown by what you just revealed about the sanctufying grace and renewal of vows everytime I'm intimate with my spouse. Well, better late than never , so please , please Holy Church, teach this to the generations as they grow and go through Catechism. It's so important to hear all this as you are framing your thoughts when you are getting into your teenage years.

  • @VadeInSpiritu
    @VadeInSpiritu 3 роки тому +197

    That’s so cool he celebrated mass with his parents for their 50th anniversary and reaffirmed their vows with them

    • @josephzammit8483
      @josephzammit8483 3 роки тому

      ua-cam.com/video/sY7BYbiHkPE/v-deo.html

    • @jaybest1787
      @jaybest1787 3 роки тому +2

      Tell me about it. Absolutely beautiful

  • @galadethlaernis6266
    @galadethlaernis6266 3 роки тому +150

    And I'm married to a nonCatholic alcoholic.😔.. product of my grievous past life but over a decade have since had a great conversion... Deo gratias!
    I see now why Catholics are discouraged from marrying nonCatholics... such a great sermon!!!! God bless this dear holy priest!!! I wish I knew what he would say to someone like me.🙏🏼 I pray constantly & offer up for my husband... it's very difficult but all is offered up!🙏🏼

    • @nyakanyasko
      @nyakanyasko 3 роки тому +20

      St. Monica, pray for us! 🙏🙏🙏

    • @Toastedfroggy
      @Toastedfroggy 3 роки тому +11

      I am in the same boat. I married when I was agnostic and converted to the Catholic faith last year. My wife is a Protestant. I wonder what Fr Mike would say as well. I will pray for your husbands conversion!

    • @nyakanyasko
      @nyakanyasko 3 роки тому +14

      I don't know what Father Mike would say but I can tell you what my priest said: "Patience, love, prayer, patience, love, prayer, patience, love, prayer. God will win their hearts!"

    • @julih3773
      @julih3773 3 роки тому +18

      @@Toastedfroggy Fr Mike does address interfaith marriage during one of his videos. I found it very helpful, it’s worth searching out. I too married a non catholic but though the Grace of God my husband converted later in our marriage. Lots of private prayers & public example; when you live your faith authentically, it is impossible for those around you not to want what you have. Just keep growing in faith, your example will become irresistible!!

    • @sarahbillard86
      @sarahbillard86 3 роки тому +2

      stay strong ❤️😊

  • @rolex408
    @rolex408 2 роки тому +11

    This is beautiful. I civil married my wife 5 years ago and for x reasons we haven’t been able to do the sacrament. We had babies and it’s difficult to plan a wedding. But anyway, what I wanted to say is that I always felt like having sex with my wife meant something special and wasn’t just sex. It was love and just having her and being with her in an intimate way meant more than the act of sex. I could never put it in words but now I understand that I really feel like I am renewing my vows everything I’m with her.
    Thank you Fr. Mike. God bless us all.

  • @Avinathi
    @Avinathi 3 роки тому +392

    I am a practicing catholic. Being a 26 year old female I have never had sex cause I have always wanted to save sex for marriage. But society makes me feel like there is something wrong with me to be 26 and never had sex. It can really get to me sometimes cause everywhere around me is couples who go on dates and sleep with one another and It's almost as if the Sex determines if they have the chemistry and if the relationship will last.

    • @upendome887
      @upendome887 3 роки тому +75

      Hold on dear may mother Mary be your helper in this fight of purity i pray

    • @sandrass560
      @sandrass560 3 роки тому +47

      Keep standing on the word of God! Keep waiting. Yes, the pressure is high because the stakes are even higher. May the Lord Jesus keep you. Phillipians 1:4-6.

    • @gillmurphy6307
      @gillmurphy6307 3 роки тому +29

      Sex absolutely does not define a relationship.Yes it’s an important part of a marriage or long term relationship depending on what your religious stance is. As the saying goes, you do you. If it feels right for you to save until marriage then that’s what’s right. Don’t feel pressured by what ‘everyone else’ is doing. Or might not be doing, Remain true to yourself.

    • @joanborn8835
      @joanborn8835 3 роки тому +30

      Hold firm and pray to the Lord for the spouse God will send ! Don’t give in! You will be blessed! you have heroic virtue!!!

    • @cyruslever586
      @cyruslever586 3 роки тому +3

      There could be something wrong with you if you're not driven to have sex starting at puberty. It should be chemical and genetic motivation for sex is biological and to produce children. If you've been living over a decade with no sexual or reproductive drive you should probably see a doctor about it

  • @leekshikapinnamneni4835
    @leekshikapinnamneni4835 3 роки тому +147

    I think that’s why it’s called a conjugal act or something like that. Imagine this.
    I’m not married or even dating a future spouse yet, but I can just imagine this.
    You and your spouse go home and you say to each other “let’s renew our vows.”
    Such beautiful imagery.
    I’m even more committed to chastity now although I have been committed to wait until marriage since I was a teenager.

    • @sitka49
      @sitka49 3 роки тому

      In a biblical sense is what they use to say when people were cheating , it was always in the biblical sense

  • @juliestephens4195
    @juliestephens4195 Місяць тому +1

    Cradle Catholic here never heard this before - good to hear because I know connecting in this special way is like nothing else
    We wed on August 20, 1977 at St Rita Catholic Church in Ft Worth, Tx ❤ loving my husband 💖 we regularly enjoy afternoon delight 😘

  • @cleopetra87
    @cleopetra87 2 роки тому +22

    After 13 yrs of marriage I finally understand why I feel incomplete! Finding this video is a blessing 🙏 I pray God gives me a chance sometime in my life to actually experience a real marriage that involves the grace of God 🙏

  • @raymondhawk7320
    @raymondhawk7320 8 місяців тому

    Thank you, Ascension Press, and, Thank you, Fr. Mike!

  • @thinman8621
    @thinman8621 Рік тому +5

    Not a Catholic but listening to Fr. Mike I'm beginning to understand why some say the Catholic Church is the one true church. I had never heard anything like this.

  • @perenelleflamel3850
    @perenelleflamel3850 Місяць тому +1

    As someone who grew up in evangelical purity culture (and is no longer evangelical), this is such an interesting, and maybe even healing, teaching to hear. Resources on recovering from purity culture keep saying that sex is holy, but I feel like this teaching was always the missing puzzle piece for me: a sacramental view. Thanks Fr. Mike.

  • @tashaculus4582
    @tashaculus4582 2 роки тому +32

    My priest mentioned this during our pre marital counselling. Loved it! Sex is amazing when you wait for marriage. My husband and I waited 10 years. Best of luck everyone!

    • @hilariapreethivanathayaraj7520
      @hilariapreethivanathayaraj7520 Рік тому +2

      This is so inspiring!

    • @Kitiwake
      @Kitiwake 11 місяців тому

      Agreed, but you just don't absolutely know what's waiting there on your wedding night. Neither men or women.
      Otherwise, it's obvious that the church would discourage pre marital sex. Fornication is a total sin and the bi products of irregular sexual union are ultimately going to destroy people's lives.
      It's easy to have you life destroyed, in case you don't know.

    • @geoffcaflisch1352
      @geoffcaflisch1352 9 місяців тому

      Well, I am not in agreement. Sex between two people is a learning curve requiring open communication and time and lots of patience. The idea that it happens by magic and you move from chastity and fear of going to far to breathless bliss is a myth that lots of religions seem to embrace.

    • @tashaculus4582
      @tashaculus4582 9 місяців тому

      @geoffcaflisch1352 I never said sex was amazing the first time you do it.
      Yes, we had to go through awkward and even painful moments before it got great but the amazing part to me was that I only got to experience that with one person.
      So that is my definition of amazing sex!

    • @geoffcaflisch1352
      @geoffcaflisch1352 9 місяців тому

      Very few couples would or could wait ten years but honestly, they may not have sexual intercourse but they certainly engage in sexual behavior.

  • @stabatmater1908
    @stabatmater1908 3 роки тому +44

    Father left out a very important clarification:
    When in a state of grace...and NOT including contraception. Vital point that Catholics need to hear and understand.

    • @stabatmater1908
      @stabatmater1908 3 роки тому +4

      @Gracie of course- just needs to be said explicitly because otherwise people assume wanting only 2 kids whenever they are "ready" to have kids 3+ years into marriage is being fruitful.

    • @MC-lw8dh
      @MC-lw8dh 3 роки тому +3

      So is sex within a Catholic marriage but outside the state of grace licit?

    • @MillionthUsername
      @MillionthUsername 3 роки тому +5

      @@MC-lw8dh Yes, it is licit on account of it being a valid marriage. If anyone is not properly disposed to receive the grace of a sacrament - for whatever reason - then they won't receive it until they change and fix the problem; but this is a different issue from either the validity of the sacrament or the rights accruing to the receiver of the sacrament. The duties, obligations, and rights of marriage all remain even when/if a spouse is not in the state of grace.

    • @Maria9555
      @Maria9555 8 місяців тому

      What happen at menopause zero libido

  • @user-or1ye3iz6d
    @user-or1ye3iz6d 3 роки тому +75

    "... in a state of grace" is the most important part. I've been told that some spouses are doing abusive things during the act of sex. So even though they're married, I don't believe this particular type of behavior during sex are "in a state of grace". Important to keep in mind. 🙏

    • @janiscarter5879
      @janiscarter5879 3 роки тому +3

      Good point.

    • @eduardohoover2127
      @eduardohoover2127 3 роки тому +7

      If you're in Maryland you're in the state of grace because Mary is full of grace. Lol

    • @josephzammit8483
      @josephzammit8483 3 роки тому

      ua-cam.com/video/sY7BYbiHkPE/v-deo.html

    • @carlswindelliv2701
      @carlswindelliv2701 2 роки тому

      I am so glad GOD invented the rosary cuz how else are u gonna overcome masturbation

    • @lmr1049
      @lmr1049 2 роки тому +5

      I agree but what does “in a state of grace” mean? It probably excludes things like BDSM but what about certain sex positions or oral sex? Does anyone know more about this?

  • @mikemorris7160
    @mikemorris7160 3 роки тому +148

    I never knew this. But when you put this way, everything makes more sense.

  • @Eye_of_a_Texan
    @Eye_of_a_Texan 3 роки тому +19

    1:10 As converting former United Methodist, from memory:
    A sacrament is an outward sign of inward grace which was instituted by Christ.

    • @Eye_of_a_Texan
      @Eye_of_a_Texan 3 роки тому

      1:26 yay! My priest made it a point to drive that home too. Bless his heart.

  • @djl8085
    @djl8085 5 місяців тому +2

    Married 24 years, and this is incredibly helpful. Thank you and God bless 🙏🏻

  • @deathchicken4782
    @deathchicken4782 3 роки тому +49

    That was one of the most beautiful ways of explaining that. Those of us who are malformed or undereducated in the faith have no idea this way if thinking exists in the church. Thank you Father Mike for being such a great teacher. God bless you.

  • @janefrancesmiriambianeyin5364
    @janefrancesmiriambianeyin5364 Рік тому +3

    Thanks, Fr. Mike. This is just so great! I have been married for years (17) and never knew this. Thank you, may God Almighty continue to bless you and the rest of the Ascension team.

  • @katietamborski1
    @katietamborski1 3 роки тому +213

    Thank you so much for this. I am a recovering sex and love addict, I am also becoming Catholic. This helped my perspective. 💛

    • @tbdr97
      @tbdr97 3 роки тому +3

      God's Blessings and welcome to this Our Glorious Catholic Faith. Stay blessed.

    • @millamaya
      @millamaya 3 роки тому +10

      Katie and Gail. I'm happy for you. God is and will give you lots of graces to live the way He wants you to live. God bless you both 🙏🏻❤️

    • @WILLIAMW39
      @WILLIAMW39 3 роки тому +1

      Just pray to the Lord to give you strenght to fight the will of fall into that addiction again. But like other addiction the best way to avoid being addicted it is no to prove it for the first time, for example the best way to avoid being addicted to alcool is never prove alcool in the first place, that same method works with all addictive things... the easy way is not give them a chance, deny, reject always etc. Because once fall in these things you will get your faith in God tested in order to save you from these vicious

    • @WILLIAMW39
      @WILLIAMW39 3 роки тому +3

      @@mynameisGail thanks for the comment, your life is completely opposite to mine because i had and still have many loving and caring from my parents also even if my parents were poor they try to give me what they could, so even when facing troubles I always could count on them and also with the people of the church and even when I face a big trial as adult I got help from people that I didnt know that care for me, actually I never faced a problem alone, God always send me a way to prevent that from happening, like i said in the comment or some people to help and when people did evil to me with some time we forget and be friends like never had happened, there are only one time when I have to face the trial alone and you would not like what happened...

    • @WILLIAMW39
      @WILLIAMW39 3 роки тому +2

      I mean I thought that I was facing alone but was not, God was with me but this time He let me try to solve by myself...

  • @kelechukwuanozyk7605
    @kelechukwuanozyk7605 3 роки тому +8

    Many years ago in Nigeria, I was taught that a sacrament is an outward sign of inward grace ordained by Jesus Christ by which we receive grace into our souls. It is similar to Father Mike initially statement

  • @joeferris6782
    @joeferris6782 2 роки тому +3

    I am Anglican and love this Friar. Such a great teacher.

  • @beemel5734
    @beemel5734 Рік тому

    I really appreciate how Fr. Mike isn't awkward or bashful when discussing delicate issues like this. Just very honest and to the point, without beating around the bush nor being crude. You don't have to decipher what exactly he's talking about, but you're not scandalized either.

  • @shannond.5942
    @shannond.5942 3 роки тому +18

    Thank you so much Fr. Mike, this is incredibly healing to hear. God is so good ❤️

  • @thecatholiccorner
    @thecatholiccorner 4 місяці тому +3

    I'm getting married next month (Saturday, Sept 21st). My fiancé and I unfortunately did not wait and have made many mistakes with our pasts. We started praying everyday together, and when we're together even kissing is limited and we mostly just hold hands or give hugs 😅 anyway, I'm excited to give myself COMPLETELY to him. There will be no shame, no guilt, no needing to go to confession after this beautiful act. It will be something new for him and I, and I'm hoping it will help us grow in faith and love with Christ!

  • @lifestlc
    @lifestlc День тому

    4:30 This just made me weep within my own heart for my marriage... God, help us...

  • @robertgregory1927
    @robertgregory1927 10 місяців тому +4

    Great message, raised Catholic and was never taught this. Father Mike, can you break it to my wife that I would like to renew my vows a few times a week! Married 30 years now.

  • @stephaniedeniese232
    @stephaniedeniese232 3 роки тому +12

    I really wish they taught us this in school!! Would make such a difference!

  • @amymargaretabigail
    @amymargaretabigail 3 роки тому +4

    Father Mike, you are a continual source of wonderful information and hope for this adult convert to the Catholic faith.

  • @donnakliegl6775
    @donnakliegl6775 2 роки тому +2

    It was difficult at times when I was single to be true to my beliefs but I had a wonderful sister and parents who were my support as well as my faith.
    I am so grateful I stayed true to God and did not give in to temptation.
    I'm married 43 years and so blessed and thankful I can look back and have no regrets.
    I saved myself for God and my husband.
    I will keep you in my prayers.
    Pray to the Blessed Mother for she will hear your prayers.
    God bless you

  • @danboy4568
    @danboy4568 3 роки тому +9

    Hi Fr, love your sessions. Just a quick answer to why nobody knows this about the teachings of the Church is because the teachers at schools don’t know themselves. I went to Catholic school for 13 years as did my wife and we have learnt more through people like yourself and many many others then what we learnt at school and now my kids are going so we are hoping to teach them and not rely on schools. Thanks so much for the time you take to post and explain, GOD BLESS YOU 🙏

  • @Mama2three-m3x
    @Mama2three-m3x 7 місяців тому +2

    I strongly encourage all to wait. My choice was taken and it makes me so sad I had every intention on waiting.

  • @nicolebautista9614
    @nicolebautista9614 3 роки тому +56

    I loved the video, thank you very much for giving this kind of information that changes lives. About a year ago I discovered the Theology of the Body thanks to Father Mike; and since then I started to study it and share it with my acquaintances. It is very important that the church talks more about these topics, so that people understand this kind of teachings and see them more as a gift; and definitely, if Father Mike writes a book about this, I would buy it from the first day; he explains the topics in such a simple but at the same time so understandable way. God bless you,
    From Mexico

  • @BobJP77
    @BobJP77 2 роки тому +3

    Thank you Fr. Mike. Your podcasts have helped me draw closer to God and Jesus as well as understanding my faith better.

  • @cj7girl280
    @cj7girl280 3 роки тому +29

    Father Mike please pray that I will soon meet and Marry a faithful practicing traditional Catholic man and then God will bless us with our own healthy children who grow up to love serve and worship the Lord!
    Thanks for the video.. God bless you!

    • @jm6495
      @jm6495 3 роки тому +2

      God bless you 🙏

  • @balancingfromtheyin-sideou9180
    @balancingfromtheyin-sideou9180 2 роки тому +2

    I've been married for 17 yrs , but we've only married in the church for the last 3 of those years - our anniversary is coming up this weekend - this is so enlightening

  • @vuhoang7109
    @vuhoang7109 3 роки тому +67

    Thanks so much for this invaluable info you've shared, Fr. Mike! I wished this was being shared publicly in schools when we were young. This is actually more intuitive, friendlier version than the one public schools teaches kids about sex. This is how it should be taught from the get-go as a solid foundation for the youth to avoid them from sinning into their adults lives. I'll definitely share this clip to more people out there. God bless. 🙏

    • @mariemunzar6474
      @mariemunzar6474 3 роки тому +6

      Yeah, just over 10 years ago I was learning sex ed at a public school. The whole focus seemed to be, "have sex, but be aware you are putting yourself at risk" and the class was advocating for things like birth control and condoms, etc. It was basically like a scare tactic. Rather than like a class telling you what sex actually is or what sex is actually for.

    • @vuhoang7109
      @vuhoang7109 3 роки тому +1

      @@mariemunzar6474 yes, little that I know til now that majority of public schools, if not, all, are being manipulated by the Dems regimen, unfortunately. Hurting the mass of population out there with the sinful guidance. May God bless us and have Mercy on us all...

  • @o0iamandrea0o
    @o0iamandrea0o 9 місяців тому

    This is the first time I've ever heard what feels like an honest and plain explanation on this topic.

  • @melissamcadams9145
    @melissamcadams9145 3 роки тому +5

    Wish more spoke about this, it may would change some marriages... I have been married since 1995, and I see the moment as a way to continue your unity and love. Thank you for sharing this!! Great job!!!

  • @ribbit1964
    @ribbit1964 9 місяців тому

    Another home run Fr Mike! Thanks!
    God continue to bless you, your Priesthood and your ministry!

  • @jenniferzinai4783
    @jenniferzinai4783 3 роки тому +23

    This will be the first video I will show my non-Catholic boyfriend before discussing marriage ❤️

    • @ElizabethDMadison
      @ElizabethDMadison 3 роки тому +17

      Please marry a Catholic, you can be the "domestic Church" in a much fuller way and can both bear witness to the same Faith to your children which is far more effective for handing on the Faith.

    • @LWNightmareSheriff
      @LWNightmareSheriff 8 місяців тому

      Dont marry a non-Catholic, please. You need a Catholic man who can lead you.

  • @mimilion6072
    @mimilion6072 Рік тому +1

    WoW!! Wonderful!! This must be taught in Catholic schools Exactly like this !!! Thank you

  • @taeharte7501
    @taeharte7501 3 роки тому +12

    So true!!! We are married for 23 years now and still it's always a grace to appreciate each other so deeply!

  • @ruthortega5822
    @ruthortega5822 11 місяців тому

    This is absolutely incredible, Father Mike, and also so beautiful to know and hear. All these years of my life, I have not heard it explained like this. Truly an eye opener. Thank you for being you!

  • @Zodapopzzx
    @Zodapopzzx 10 місяців тому +4

    Hey my name is Rebecca and I need prayer for healing for me and my family.

  • @apraworks
    @apraworks 3 роки тому +2

    God bless you Fr Mike. You are the best Catholic teacher that I have!

  • @chelsea7755
    @chelsea7755 2 роки тому +6

    This was interesting to listen to as someone with totally opposite views. I don't believe in any religion and I believe in sex before marriage (absolute for me), living together before marriage etc.
    But to be able to listen to someone express a different opinion in this manner was greatly informative. I hope it helps me understand a little bit more about where others come from.

    • @Grokford
      @Grokford 2 роки тому

      I appreciate your curiosity but this is actually just one of many views on sex in Christianity, I personally reject most of what he’s said.
      Though obviously in that case it is also beneficial that I learn as well.
      But sex is one of the most controversial things in general apart for religion and politics so it’s not surprising that people disagree.

  • @josainnecamilleri3894
    @josainnecamilleri3894 3 роки тому +1

    Fr Mike, I've been married for 32 years and never heard these words before. Thank you

  • @isly100
    @isly100 3 роки тому +37

    Díficil encontrar a alguien que entienda el sexo de esta manera, pero gracias padre Mike.👍🙏

  • @jessybwalya2565
    @jessybwalya2565 9 місяців тому

    Am Adventist and I approve this message,for us marriage, tithe and Sabbath are holy. This is a profound understanding of the sacrement of marriage,sex is a form of worship and must not be abused .

  • @catherinebaker6638
    @catherinebaker6638 3 роки тому +3

    Great! Wish there were a Pre- Pre-Cana for couples contemplating marriage. I've seen so many couples go overboard with weekend bachelorette parties, numerous showers, lavish receptions... only to end up divorced a few years later. I attended a lecture on the sacraments at the International Institute of Culture, a true gem in Philly. Matrimony & Holy Orders were paired. Basically, those two sacraments are for the other. A priest is to help his parishioners get to heaven just spouses are to do. If I had had known that prior to getting married, I wouldn't be divorced now.

  • @jessicagoodwin3683
    @jessicagoodwin3683 8 місяців тому

    This is fascinating and really helps me grapple with why sexual activity outside of marriage (and even certain activities within) can be a problem. If sex is understood as a renewal of the marital sacrament then any activity outside of that should be understood as abuse or misuse of a sacrament. That really helps me nail down why this is so important

  • @katekhan4581
    @katekhan4581 3 роки тому +3

    I love your enthusiasm, and your love for God is obvious.

  • @wallacesmallwood1465
    @wallacesmallwood1465 9 місяців тому

    You make sense . I’m not Catholic but, many friends are . Still I love the Ceremony of the Church . Been fascinated for Years . God is Amazing . ❤️❤️

  • @kittana911
    @kittana911 3 роки тому +3

    Thank you for existing, creating this UA-cam channel and translating the Lord’s teachings into understandable real world practice.

  • @josephayala1511
    @josephayala1511 Рік тому +1

    The explanation of the sacrament of marriage is absolutely beautiful

    • @FrankD23
      @FrankD23 Рік тому

      This is very wrong.. He said nothing about procreation which is the main goal of sex if not the only one.. This might be one of the most Dangerous Sermons i've ever heard.

  • @andygoodbred6516
    @andygoodbred6516 3 роки тому +3

    Wow. Thank you, Father Mike. You introduce some awesome reframing of concepts that rejuvenates the mind and soul.

  • @charlesluk9251
    @charlesluk9251 8 місяців тому

    Thanks!

  • @ceciliacasares9937
    @ceciliacasares9937 3 роки тому +3

    amazing! why aren't we teaching this to our kids? I know now that when me and my husband have a kid I am going to tell him or her this. thank you so much father Mike. God bless you

  • @josephinerimmer6888
    @josephinerimmer6888 Рік тому +1

    I’ve always known that no sex In marriage can result in an annulment rather than divorce but I’ve never heard it explained like this. Thanks Fr Mike!

  • @nancysandoval772
    @nancysandoval772 3 роки тому +69

    Father, thank you for this because nowadays our culture endorses sex out of marriage....so many people have lots of sex partners never asking themselves the reason for their sexuality.

    • @terrymunoztrujillo483
      @terrymunoztrujillo483 3 роки тому +1

      it's human nature, not culture. Sex can be for pleasure only.

    • @cyruslever586
      @cyruslever586 3 роки тому +3

      Because nature.

    • @carlswindelliv2701
      @carlswindelliv2701 2 роки тому

      @@terrymunoztrujillo483 yeah well it's more than just human nature!!!!!!!! More like human nature that wants to be rebellious towards the holy spirit!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • @carlswindelliv2701
      @carlswindelliv2701 2 роки тому +3

      @@terrymunoztrujillo483 that's also incorrect that sex is for pleasure only just so u Kno in the catechism of the Catholic church they condemn masturbation

    • @TheNoisePolluter
      @TheNoisePolluter 2 роки тому

      @@terrymunoztrujillo483 Wrong. Father Mike's lecture just went way over your head.

  • @rosycross3438
    @rosycross3438 4 місяці тому

    Father, the Joy of being in the Lord is radiating from you. God bless! +

  • @IONov990
    @IONov990 3 роки тому +6

    I am happy for this video. People often think sex is dirty. I wish more Christians had a sex positive attitude. It is easy to think everyone outside the church is enjoying great sex. Maybe seeing sex as holy would encourage people to save sex for marriage.

  • @magdalenemedia777
    @magdalenemedia777 9 місяців тому

    I have never heard the term " sexual embrace" . This is a perfect expression for physical love making ...
    Grace is the divine Consciousness we enter any space with - reflecting the Divine 💜♾️ Thank you !

  • @jdglock9114
    @jdglock9114 3 роки тому +5

    Who knew?
    Fr. Mike, this is gives sex the reverent awe it deserves.
    No wonder sex outside of marriage is wrong. No wonder other behaviors that are self centered gratifications, are so bad for us. Such actions are an empty counterfeit.
    Lord forgive us. 🙏🏻

  • @marcosfeliciano6017
    @marcosfeliciano6017 8 місяців тому

    I read your "Made for love" book, and reinforced many ideas I learned and experienced before. We are called to holyness, and we all are sinners, saved by Christ. GBY

  • @laurism12
    @laurism12 3 роки тому +3

    best thing I've heard all year, great video

  • @702flower
    @702flower 2 роки тому +2

    Yes. Amen.🙏
    The Sacraments make us holy & keep us holy.

  • @youtubecharlie1
    @youtubecharlie1 3 роки тому +14

    Everyone, married or not, should read Three to Get Married by Venerable Fulton Sheen.

  • @taylorcole7837
    @taylorcole7837 2 роки тому +1

    Even as someone who belongs to another religion, The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, I love that you are a person who is trying grow in Christ and lead others to him. Someday God will clarify all the semantic differences between us, and I think it'll turn out ok lol.

  • @kathleenmcgrealmitchell4386
    @kathleenmcgrealmitchell4386 3 роки тому +3

    Fr. Mike, you are such a gift to Christ and his Church. Thank you!

  • @odinakajulian7474
    @odinakajulian7474 Рік тому +1

    Thank you Fr Mike. Remain blessed for wonderful lecture

  • @ShaeZamm
    @ShaeZamm 3 роки тому +11

    I'm not married, but agree with this. Lovemaking is such a spiritual act.

    • @sitka49
      @sitka49 3 роки тому +3

      It's fun too !

    • @dominickbundy6429
      @dominickbundy6429 3 роки тому +1

      Right , lovemaking is love making, but would that only be reserved for married couples? What about same sex couples. Should they not seek lovemaking with someone they love of the same gender? Just asking that’s all

    • @ShaeZamm
      @ShaeZamm 3 роки тому +2

      @@dominickbundy6429 From my perspective, yes that definitely includes same sex; divine masculine and divine feminine.

  • @joannbergdoll8286
    @joannbergdoll8286 Рік тому

    Why am I just hearing about this now? Fr. Mike, please make this talk available to all priests!!!! I would have lived my life very differently had I understood this so many years ago.

  • @nicholasmargagliano1833
    @nicholasmargagliano1833 3 роки тому +13

    “How to get holy through good sex” 🤣🤣
    On a serious note, this was a very applicable and excellent video. Thank you father and thank you ascension presents

  • @victorallen9831
    @victorallen9831 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you, Fr. Mike!!! Everyone needs to know this.

  • @tarablytarafied936
    @tarablytarafied936 3 роки тому +4

    Loved it being explained this way!

  • @MsBodsey
    @MsBodsey 3 роки тому +2

    Incredibly well proclaimed! Thank you, Fr. Mike!!

  • @MarvelousMichigan
    @MarvelousMichigan Рік тому +11

    I am 69 years old and wish I would have known this during my 44 year marriage. So beautiful!

    • @dan69052
      @dan69052 Рік тому

      knowledge shall set you free

    • @FrankD23
      @FrankD23 Рік тому +1

      It's not true.... Sex is an occasion of sin.. Jesus wants us to have a spirit of penance and to crucify our flesh in order to sanctify ourselver..