Stress Relief for ENTJ and ESTJ
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- Опубліковано 15 вер 2024
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If you’re new to Geek Psychology, my name is Matt Sherman. People call me Sherman. I'm a personality type expert, life coach, hypnotist, author, podcaster, and course creator. I help mainly INFPs embrace their unique strengths and navigate life's challenges. Through practical strategies and deep insights, I aim to help people like you live a more fulfilling and authentic live where you can wake up and feel good about who you are and your impact on the world. Here's a little love for my ENTJ and ESTJ friends out there with a bit more stress than they need! As someone who leads with extraverted Thinking, I know you work with it, mold it, and use it to get things done, but sometimes you need to engage with your introverted Feeling too! If not, you're going to get strangely emotional and have this weak depressed little dude or dudette version inside you freaking out.
Telling yourself to just pick yourself up and keep going is not really the best approach to stress relief for ENTJ and ESTJ types! In this video I give a couple techniques you can use to build more rapport DAILY with your introverted Feeling inferior / aspirational function.
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I'm an ENTJ I am all powerful until I'm beat from all my own commands
I’ve hacked myself being an ENTJ into understanding that whenever I’m not being effective at work that means I need to rest. I NEED to, because otherwise I’m gonna make a mess out of my beloved work. Specially since quarentine this idea hit me harder, before that I just waited until my body was sick and the doctor told me to rest so I had no excuses...
Create your own safezone when you can confront your feelings and at the same time you can do somthing productive.
For me [ENTJ ] I go for a run , listen to motivational music and try to figure out what's going on with me. Using this technique, I get to my feelings. When you're done running, shut that door and you're good to go.
the only time im feeling bad is when im not working 😶 i just mostly try and reassure myself that i need rest to be able to function well , but still sometimes this wave of depression hits me on my off days cause it feels like a setback from my goals.
-ENTJ
Wow, i felt that too, i feel so guilty, its like, vacation or day off is the one that stresing me out, it should not,
Its so related.
Same
I feel same thing when i decide to have a normal weekend (also ENTJ)
Exactly, and it includes not reconnecting with friends or family, like, everything needs to be 100% about solving problems or getting a project going.
Turning off the phone and other connections with the outside for a few days works very well. ;-)
That’s awesome that you give yourself that time!
My ESTJ friend was talking about going camping. I think it’s gonna be great for him.
Raúl Sanz literally learned this in the past year. Also disconnecting from social media in general. I am only on Instagram now because of the results. I feel much better!!
Just went camping after being overworked for a while. No service all weekend, and I definitely unwound a bit. Would recommend.
Woah. Entj female here. I came here after disabling my Instagram. Disconnecting for a while helps a lot!
For me no Facebook, no Instagram, no Snapchat, no TikTok since years !
I'm an ENTJ and my twin sister is an INFP. I am sooooo lucky to have her. She's my emotional checker and just talking my feelings out to her help to me to recharge my week. ENTJ definitely need to adopt an INFP 😅
As an ENTJ - 100% agree with journaling, every few days analyse what keeps coming up, it will make your processes and progression frictionless. Even high performance athletes do this, so it is 100% worth giving a go. Secondly scheduling a weekly call with a therapist. See it like going to the gym but for your mind, if you do not train your body your body will become fat. Similarly if you do not exercise your mind, it too will become unhealthy.
I would say this sincerely, "Thank You.." I always knew i am an ENTJ but as a late 20s with a stable job, lately i feel a big burnout. I am stressed, but i don't know if i am stress enough to get myself a day off. I shut down emotions and i really don't know what to how to feel with things. I really want to stop but my mind is like not allowing me to stop and keep pushing myself forward and set the goal higher and higher everytime.
Thank you for this. i hope i get better soon and overcome with this burnout.
We ENTJ need a lot of rest, take care
Best of luck.
I recently am getting out of burnout. We need to be mindful of our inner child.
Goals are empty if you don’t fulfill your child’s needs, as well 😊
I come back to this ever so often to be shocked at how accurate this is, and how consistently efficient I'm at failing to implement the advice given.
Really lucky to find this channel. I'm a ENTJ & my gf is INFP and she helps me with my introverted problems even though I don't fully understand how I should feel.
I m an ENTJ and what u said in the beginning is so true, u did describe the feeling precisely especially the "hole " i feel it in my chest when i m down, but once i m there it is so hard to regain my balance again.. But thank u you re video made me feel better
Walking, guided relaxation, yoga, massage, chatting with a friend, BJJ and chess are stress relief for me.
Thank you sir for the sage advice. I was just speaking with my best friend (also an ENTJ) about this and stumbled across your video. Subscribed.
The intro was spot on, thank you. For other ENTJ best way to listen what he is saying speed it up to 1.25x or even 1.50x. You're welcome. Greetings from Ibiza.
Thanks. 2x all content. It’s more efficient.
I'm an ENTJ
I do raise the bar high in my expectations
When I don't achieve a goal in the time I want to achieve it, I become super hard on myself that's the problem I have been having.
Scrolling the comments and I noticed this.
A practice that helped me was to determine an acceptable range of success. If you are consistently hitting your benchmark, it's probably not challenging enough and will also lack fulfillment.
When you set a target, recognize that it's fairly ambitious. Also in hind sight, train yourself to have multiple ways of perceiving what you achieved such as;
Phenomenal, 105% of goal
Perfect, 100% of goal
Acceptable, 85% of goal
Needs Adjustment, 85% or below
Hope this helps!
Change your username!
Being a teenager I recently started to get depressed for nothing. Even though I achieve what I wanted to I am not satisfied but proud of achieving. And sometimes I divert my anger to the people around me for silly reasons. I feel like my old self has been taken away from me. But then I remind myself who am I and what are my purposes that I have set in this world go go for the day.
Now after graduating high school the university decisions are getting me. Why are we like this always wanting the best and the greatest in life :)
When you said introverted intuition I saw the "attack" word coming . I freeze to death when I find myself in this situation especially when out of touch with my introverted intuition. I m more mature so I would use my extroversion very carefully in situation even if I ramble a lot on almost everything . Thank you for the video it was surprisingly accurate and healing. Good job. I happen to be a entj btw.
Thank you ^^ happy to help where I can
10 seconds in:
Oh we just gonna GO RIGHT FOR THE GUT EH?
Okay so.
Write a list of what is important. Check in to be sure we are upholding that list.
Journal, to track what things make you feel what way.
What a short list.
Lemme try that..
It’s all out of love.
Chill it is actually good for you
@@Marses970 it was meant to be humorous.
@@diy_cat9817 I found it rather funny, M D might not be an ExTJ.
@@cottoncandy1860 who knows lol
As an ESTJ, the best stress release thing I did for myself recently was breaking up with an ENTJ. The moment he was released, the stress I felt was released with him. :)
OMG when ESTJ against me ( ENTJ) it's very difficult to deal with - they keep silent and not response anything, now I know why, I may give them too much pressure
omg my first youtube comment! sometimes when i achive my goals i feel "something wrong" now i understand that i have zest and murky energy. I occasionally joural. it help to clear my mind. and maybe sport can help u too. I will think about my values, thank u for video.i thought it was a depression, but i'm just an entj hehehe
ENTJ here. Been looking through the comments for some good tips but it looks like i know as much as anyone else here about how to relax=))) I was hoping fore something simple, quick and effective... If it helps, here's what i do: I plan everything in such was that i keep the work going at the required speed (with deadlines and all), but make sure i can sneak in my needs when i can afford or need them. For example, when i try to do more and better as usual on a project, but i feel like my body or mental state is in serious danger of collapsing i make myself sole those problems just as if they would be a more urgent and more important project. I do now i can't put myself in too much danger because then i won't be able to do everything else i have to and want to do. Sometimes i do get really close of doing way too much my head and body can handle. It just gets out of hand. I enter that robotic state of serious work and i forget to do even the most basic things, such as drinking some water or eating for once in a day:)) It's only then a problem is secured when i come out of that hypnotic state and realize it's already the next day (me starting working the second i woke up). But truth is, when i am like that i do usually pretty effective work and i like that. After a few moths of this (especially when exams are closing in, like now) i am drained an depressed, my mind and body both just so damn fragile and all i need is 2 days off at best. If i do sit around doing nothing more than 2 days i'm actually twice as bad:))) Look at me rambling around here. Sorry, i think i just needed to get all this off my chest, there's really no one who'd listen. Thanks for the video
As ENTJ i practice 15 min yoga and 5 min meditation
You accurately picked the wall behind you to catch our attention and feel like home :D
For me as an ESTJ what you described about the hole, the constant question of the why is so true. Thanks for this video! I have just started Journaling. And I feel music helps me connect to my introverted feeling!
So I need to pump my weak Fi function through dialogue with myself or reflection, which is best spent every day in the diary. In it, make comparisons with yourself yesterday in order to understand motives, perspectives and values.
The most important thing in this work is to determine your values, to determine about 5-10 important and 3 main ones, among which first of all should be those things that give motivation to fulfill them during the day. Stress can arise from the feeling that you are not moving in your own direction, that is, you do not satisfy your own values, the Fi function is actively trying to report on this.
Personally, I would search the Internet for more ways to pump Fi and determine own values, but basically this recommendations will be enough. Thank you, Matt Sherman and other commentators.
I journal all the time; I journaled right before I found this video.
ENTJ here. Def not gonna journal however I garden n mess with houseplants n I film my journey. Plants calm me down, nature gives me peace, destresses and distracts from obsessive thoughts by focusing on the plants.
Re:Journal - I believe it. It’s good for ya though ^^
I’m glad you found your way through plants though!
God bless you, that's all I got to say - entj
It was useful for me to write down a diary on my instagram stories, I edit them to be private (I added my secondary account in close friends). I write them every night and they are helpful to keep in track with my emotions, my chores and life experiences, Oh and you can add photos too!
ESTJ here.. The struggle is real. I frustrate myself daily but can't do anything about it, because it's just how I'm wired.
I snap out of that stress by being mean to myself basically. I remind myself of why I'm doing what I'm doing. Pressure is a privilege.
I have felt very unmotivated, empty and doubtful of myself for the last past YEARS! I have had a lot of setbacks with failures and unfinished tasks which worsened my confidence in achieving anything..
I have never tuned into myself the way you mentioned in your video..i am set in trying it! Thanks for the video!
You got this! Take action. Small wins first. Self-care and progress will get you there.
Same here. Even i have been struggling to get my confidence back which i know is ao much there in me. But it is supressed
Thank you thank you thank you, entj.
What I do to unwind....I have to plan for it lol, completely break away and do nothing and think things through
ENTJ - I am thinking about the people that doesn't get stressed in the same situations and look at the situation through their lens. I see people with low standards as role models, because they don´t care if they don´t make it, that is an achievment for an ENTJ (that have made me stronger and less stressed)! I also zoom out and rationalize the situation, like "is this important for me to survive"? And "If I knew I (or a loved one) would die next week, would this be something to care about"? When it comes to work, of course the answer is no. There is almost nothing to care about more than your health and your loved ones.
Great video, if they stop doing and doing and chill . ENTP here, best friend ESTJ
Having messy siblings in the house is causing burnout for me and it's been so much of a struggle to get everything done or make them get it done that when i get back to my room I'm too tired and then i feel ashamed it looks untidy and that i forgot to eat 3 meals a day or bathe at the right time or change out of my pajamas. I just want everyone else to take a week long vacation so i can deep clean the entire freaking house and get back to a healthy lifestyle for myself because now my personal health is tanking and I'm getting freaking knots in my neck from stress and.... omg too much to text, i need a vacation from my family or a better job to get my own house. I hate everything and everyone right now...😭
Yeah I think you need some alone time to refresh!!
dude you're fucking underrated, amazing advice
Interesting hearing an INFPs take on ENTJs. I’m INTP, my best friend is INFP and I fall hardest romantically for female ENTJs
My go to is to go fishing and talk out loud about whatever is going on inside.
Haha, thanks for this video. ❤
What about an extended and refreshing drug binge with your ENTP friends? There is no point in trying to manage a bunch of ENTPs, so you can just lean back and enjoy the ride. You could of course also go hiking with your more healthy friends.
i like your way in explaining .. super persuasive >....
ENFP here
I've been trying journaling for a few days now. Still conveniently forgetting some days. I still find it hard not to suddenly make it a day planner and write down all the things I'm doing the next day. Hahaha. Trying to incorporate more assessments based on feelings - along the lines of "did my actions today feel right"?
I imagine it’s rough! But take it as slow as it needs to be. Idk if it’d feel wrong to you, but I plot my functions in a diamond shape with Fi on top, Ne to the left, Si to the right, and Te at the bottom. I then have a rough estimate of “how Fi was I today”. I connect the dots to each. I look at it every day.
You could do this with core emotional groupings in whatever fitting shape... or a line.
I’d use these examples.
1. Uncomfortable (boredom, unease)
2. Fear (worry, anxiety)
3. Hurt (unloved, abandoned)
4. Anger (irritation, rage)
5. Frustration (being held back, hinderance)
6. Disappointment (let down)
7. Guilt (regret)
8. Inadequacy
9. Overload (overwhelm, depression)
10. Lonely (separation)
Just roughly plot it. They give you signs of things you can take Te steps to change as well... which can’t fully be capsulated in this reply :P
Very informative, please make more entj vids
Write in a journal?? Who wants to stop to do that? -ENTJ Female
Exactly
Getting back into flow is following your moon sign basically. I suppose I'll hit on that soon.
Yeah that’s out of my domain. You should talk about it!
All righty, will do.
My moon sign is Sagittarius and I am ESTJ type 6.. I am driving to the Yukon today for the foraging seasons... I am curious of knowing my values ...
Thanks
ENTJ who score infps
I am an INFP and because of financial reasons my family has to live under my mother in laws roof who is an ESTJ! And I would LOVE to seek your advice on how to deal with their “unhealthy” or my opposite functions. We butt heads a few times and then sometimes it just blows up. She never says anything positive never a sorry for something she did wrong. I try to apply Jesus’s teachings to how to handle living with her but I also know there are things that I can and have learned from her but she pushes the right INFP buttons and I can only take so much. Help!
Her house so her rules, if you being an INFP got you into a financial situation I highly recommend following her advice for a while until you are financially stable again
5? And incredibly important? 5 ??
thank u for advice :) it was great video. you r handsome though
Psycho geek how are you ? .. I would love to have more ESTJ video of yours ... Or suggestions ? No rush ..
Me too! I want to make videos for all the types. Just don’t have much time and only a few types actually get good views/shares/feedback.
I have several on the channel. I’m sure if you search “ESTJ Geek Psychology” they’ll show up. Also looking for “introverted Sensing” and “extraverted Thinking” should help.
I really need to talk to you i can do what you are doing however i can’t think i have clear goal everytime as any ENTJ every thing attracts his attention runs after it
I have question could make crazy brain storming
Dose zodiac attract on what you just said
I don’t know anything about astrology. Sorry! Talk to Occult of Personality :P
Stress relief mostly relates back to the 4th house, Moon, and Cancer archetypes in astrology, also Libra in the sense of the peace aspect. Which aspect are you inquiring about in particular?
Actually not zodiac it self but their is common theams between people in zodiac sign which is making sense about linking that under logical and theoretical way
@@mohammadkanaan711 I'm glad this has resonated with you and am happy to assist anyone on their journey to self-discovery however I can.