How I OVERCAME My Biggest INSECURITY

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  • Опубліковано 15 лис 2024

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  • @AshtoneTV
    @AshtoneTV 2 роки тому +36

    What an intense story. This is the reality for many men who lose their hair, it can be quite a challenge. That there is a channel like Harry's is something very necessary in the world

  • @codyoslin6594
    @codyoslin6594 2 роки тому +38

    It's crazy that the guys who are loosing hair and are apprehensive about shaving their heads look better without hair rather than having a full head of hair.

  • @DarEdits451
    @DarEdits451 Рік тому +2

    This is the video that changed my life and made me buzz my hair. Every word this guy said is what I was going through. From covering it up to not doing certain things that would ruin the comb over.

  • @andyjcoop
    @andyjcoop 2 роки тому +18

    Your interviewing skills are getting super sharp Harry, great show.

  • @foxhound13
    @foxhound13 2 роки тому +26

    I remember before shaving my head how terrified I was. And when I mentally said goodbye to my hair and cut it off I did feel a lot better after that.

  • @justincase2271
    @justincase2271 2 роки тому +5

    One who didn’t went through that process of losing their hair can not understand what we are going through. The amount of insecurities, anxiety, and even depression is huge. Daily life becomes a huge struggle and at one point maybe even impossible. I’m glad that at one point I pulled the trigger and shaved my head. Calling it a game changer is an understatement.

  • @HASSAN-ws5go
    @HASSAN-ws5go 2 роки тому +16

    I just want to say thank you from the bottom of my heart .and finding your channel at the time i was struggling with hair loss at a young age (19) made me have so much anxiety and selfhate to the point that i avoided gatherings and stayed at my room qll the time .
    but today i said no more of this hiding and shaved it all off and i was surprised by how good it felt and i massaged my friends about it and most of them said it looks good or they didn't care .
    i cant thank you enough man finding your channel helped me more than anything ♥️
    and I'll be following your grooming tips to get the best resaualts thank u man

    • @Baldcafe
      @Baldcafe  2 роки тому +10

      And truly from the bottom of my heart having been there myself it is my absolute pleasure to have helped you on your journey to uncover the courage and confidence that was there just waiting to be found 🙏 wish you the very best going forward brother.

  • @dayumboydayum8461
    @dayumboydayum8461 2 роки тому +6

    This was a great interview. Connected to this story so much.

  • @user-tn5vm9fr9f
    @user-tn5vm9fr9f Рік тому +1

    I never envisioned myself going bald and I don’t think people realize what a struggle it can be.

  • @user-fv5hb4iq3u
    @user-fv5hb4iq3u 2 роки тому +6

    Story of every balding guy! I can relate to every bit of it

  • @JaimeMesChiens
    @JaimeMesChiens 2 роки тому +3

    This channel is so important.
    I’m a woman and I really did not realise how difficult hair loss is for many men. Probably most.
    I don’t know what Tom means about the fibres. Can someone explain that a bit to me? Thanks

    • @saloumasaleck3697
      @saloumasaleck3697 Рік тому

      It’s some powders you put on ur head to give ur hairs more density

  • @pacco3429
    @pacco3429 2 роки тому +9

    I got to 30 without anyone noticing my hair loss but I was thinning for maybe 7-8 years. Barber finally made a joke I was gonna have to shave it soon and I became obsessed. 2 mirrors, photos, would only watch myself on facetime etc. I then shaved my head because I’d changed jobs and realised no one would know me with hair anyway. I felt so much better instantly and it came as a shock to my family, however, most agree I look the same but just without hair 😅. My 2 year old didn’t say anything for a week! I wasted years worrying and wish I’d been braver at 25 and taken the plunge to avoid all the worry. If you’re at all worried shave your head. Accept your head shape, accept the worst case scenario, it will most likely grow back for a while and you won’t fear baldness anymore. Thank you baldcafe

  • @j0nnyism
    @j0nnyism 2 роки тому +7

    I think hairloss is a process of grief. I think one grieves for the person they were. Accepting that person has gone and moving ahead is a hard thing to do

  • @Njnetsman
    @Njnetsman 2 роки тому +13

    This guy looks like he could be baldcafes brother

  • @r12004rewy
    @r12004rewy 2 роки тому +4

    Looks so much better, so suits you. Since going from a 2---1---0---skull shaver and on Wednesday using a razor for the first time absolutely love it and actually got addicted to being bald, loving the shine on the head using Harry's tips. Smile to myself when I see the reflection of lights on my head.

    • @kd67876
      @kd67876 2 роки тому +1

      Just started a razor on Saturday (it's now thursday). Years ago I grew a beard because I hated shaving, now i love shaving my head. Smh lol

  • @rafaeashraf605
    @rafaeashraf605 2 роки тому +6

    this prbly goes down as one of the best interviews. Been bald for a couple years now and its not an easy thing to come to terms with. Tom's a good lad, hope he's living his life and doin his thing.

    • @tomalvis8868
      @tomalvis8868 2 роки тому +1

      Thanks man! life has improved in every single way possible since shaving the head! All thanks to baldcafe 💯

  • @rexlex1736
    @rexlex1736 2 роки тому +5

    Tumblr has hundreds of great photos of men who have shaved their heads due to ongoing hair loss. The guys are happy with their new look and look terrific.

    • @babyhoho6745
      @babyhoho6745 2 роки тому +2

      Lmao dude none are happy about losing their hair and shaving it off. It’s just the last resort

    • @mysteryuser7062
      @mysteryuser7062 2 роки тому +2

      @@babyhoho6745 A lot are pretty happy once they do shave it off though, because hiding it was so stressful

  • @BigBalthazarr
    @BigBalthazarr 2 роки тому +3

    I know everyone struggles with the hair loss phase but this bloke was lucky to have a girlfriend, trying dealing with it when you have been single for many years.

  • @CaptainUnusual
    @CaptainUnusual 2 роки тому +2

    It's amazing how many of these guys have wives and girlfriends who love them and don't seem to care about their hair and yet they're still so affected by going bald. I mean I know it still sucks but as a single dude with a full head of hair, count your blessings fellas.

  • @shyman99
    @shyman99 2 роки тому +4

    Looks amazing

  • @andygraham5094
    @andygraham5094 2 роки тому +5

    2 dudes having a chat

  • @StephenIC
    @StephenIC 2 роки тому +3

    Great interview

  • @Metallicainjection
    @Metallicainjection 2 роки тому +2

    Those headphones really obstruct the view of their head full of thicc baldness. He looks phenomenal without hair. 👌

  • @doctorpurp6801
    @doctorpurp6801 2 роки тому +3

    Where does everyone send their videos and everything or does he find em? Been watching for a couple days and finally decided to go through with it tomorrow(I work out in the sun and want a weekend to get some sun on it) after dealing with it for 7 years. But love this channel and the videos and if anyone can send em I’d love to!

    • @Baldcafe
      @Baldcafe  2 роки тому +2

      Please do mate, feel free to film your moment of taking the leap and then get in touch via email below. Baldcafe (at) outlook (dot) com 👍 we can chat there. Enjoy it!

    • @doctorpurp6801
      @doctorpurp6801 2 роки тому +2

      Thank you so much man! Love what you and everyone else is doin here

  • @wael4070
    @wael4070 2 роки тому +1

    Your long time twin?
    That was a great interview

  • @gk_knight
    @gk_knight 2 роки тому +4

    Tom lucky escape from hair systems in Germany mate. I did them for 3-4 years and you’re just replacing one self concern for another. Problems with colouring, glue, and costs. I finally got rid of it earlier this year and now shave my head too. Hair systems come with tons of issues and worries. I feel way more confident now with a shaved head than I ever did with hair system. And I feel WAY MORE free. Stuff like swimming and sunshine is not easy with hair systems either.

    • @Baldcafe
      @Baldcafe  2 роки тому +2

      Glad to hear you are in a good place with it now mate 👍

    • @gk_knight
      @gk_knight 2 роки тому +1

      @@Baldcafe thanks mate - keep up the great work on the channel. I love it. Half tempted to come on for an interview myself sometime haha

    • @shredder9536
      @shredder9536 2 роки тому

      What is systems? Like a transplant

    • @gk_knight
      @gk_knight 2 роки тому

      @@shredder9536 no it’s basically a very modern stylish toupee that they glue to your head.

  • @MattEff01
    @MattEff01 2 роки тому

    Great video Harry enjoying the caravan interview - you should come to Scotland 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

  • @simonjbrand
    @simonjbrand 2 роки тому +1

    Mate - if you read this, I would say there's something harder for guys who don't have other males in their family with balding. It makes it a slightly more bitter pill to swallow, so recognise this and give your self an additional pat on the back for this 👌

  • @Hydroy
    @Hydroy 2 роки тому +2

    I’m bout to just cut my shit off smh

  • @TheMaldoc
    @TheMaldoc 2 роки тому +1

    good job

  • @bluemidnight5926
    @bluemidnight5926 2 роки тому +1

    Wow man. He said his dad and brothers all had full thick hair. That must feel so unfair. The same thing happened with my father. His dad died with a full head of thick gray hair, but my father and most of his brothers are totally bald. He only has one sibling who got to keep his hair into his old age, but even he was eventually struck with the bald gene.
    I personally haven't had any genetic pattern hairloss, and I'm well into my 30's now, but I have a ton of hairloss from injuries to the scalp, and it sucks a lot. I even had a barber wipe out a ton of hair to one side of my head because he used an old set of clippers that pulled instead of cut. I thought I'd been saved from the baldness visiting me, and fate just gave me a big old nope.

    • @PrinterJamOnToast
      @PrinterJamOnToast 2 роки тому +1

      Baldness is more determined by your mother's side. If your mother's father is bald then there is about a 70% chance that you will be too.

    • @bluemidnight5926
      @bluemidnight5926 2 роки тому +1

      @@PrinterJamOnToast I see ppl saying this is a myth, but from what I seen in my own family, that makes some kinda sense tbh. That really sucks though.

    • @coolcatbaron
      @coolcatbaron 2 роки тому

      @@PrinterJamOnToast while reading your comment I looked at the shelve where the pic of my grandpa is who looked with a smug face at me. It was a pic taken when my mother was still young and he already had a receeded hairline back then in his late 20s.

    • @BasedOut100mil
      @BasedOut100mil 2 роки тому +1

      @@PrinterJamOnToast Stop perpetuating this myth

  • @maxponder3684
    @maxponder3684 2 роки тому +1

    I’m 23 and have a bad receding hairline and don’t know what to do with it anymore, I can’t grow a beard and I work in the public so I’m to scared to shave it off just in case it looks bad or people make comments on it as the people I see every day know me so may make comments. It’s got to the point now I haven’t posted a picture of myself without a hat on for 2yrs now or unless I’ve managed to hide it a bit in the photo and think my face looks to young to have a shaven head as well and I think I have a mole or two on the top of my head as well which is a worry as well for if I do shave it

    • @rogerspacebucks450
      @rogerspacebucks450 2 роки тому +2

      It's not just one particular thing that makes you look old (like gray hair). I remember going through Army basic training, and nobody looked older because of the lack of hair. Just go for it, and shave it. If you don't like it, just grow it back.

    • @BasedOut100mil
      @BasedOut100mil 2 роки тому +1

      You can try finasteride, minoxidil, and microneedling if you wanna make an effort to save it.

    • @Baldcafe
      @Baldcafe  2 роки тому

      Both good feedback below. I would add that if you really think about it you have equal evidence that it could also turn out looking much better than you though, nobody says anything because your hair has no impact on their own lives and you can get back to living life not controlled in any way by you hair and self worth that is attached to it 👍

    • @kabaczek8332
      @kabaczek8332 2 роки тому +1

      ​@Roger Spacebucks From my observations, the things that makes you looks younger/older is primarly gardrobe, skincare and how fit you are. There are two men in my family, one is like 63 and the second around 53. I would anytime say that the first one is younger - even that he is bald and the second one no, he even have black hair. But the younger man is so oldfashioned, both mentally and in style, also stoop-shouldered.

    • @jwill9877
      @jwill9877 2 роки тому

      Either shave it or buzz it down to a low level and see how you like it. Even it's buzzed to a very low level and people can tell you are balding it still looks good because it says you have accepted it and you don't care.

  • @richardevans7035
    @richardevans7035 2 роки тому

    my father in law did the same to me at Christmas over the table and said I got a monkeys bum coming on top, I could have died that day with embassrment, also thought this bloke looks a spit of ex Leeds United player Danny mills

  • @lasdj1848
    @lasdj1848 2 роки тому

    hey dude did you think of getting smp?

  • @kyleswanepoel8039
    @kyleswanepoel8039 2 роки тому +3

    All these guys at least have a beard . I can’t even grow a beard 😂😂😂

    • @rossdownie4441
      @rossdownie4441 2 роки тому +8

      Just get buff and look like hitman! 😂

    • @kyleswanepoel8039
      @kyleswanepoel8039 2 роки тому +7

      @@rossdownie4441 😂😂 actually great idea

    • @nelzelpher7158
      @nelzelpher7158 Рік тому

      @@rossdownie4441 Pull an Agent 47, fuck it.

  • @commandingprompt4776
    @commandingprompt4776 2 роки тому +1

    Yeet that hair bro. Don't need it.

  • @BestAudiovisualTricks
    @BestAudiovisualTricks 2 роки тому +1

    Here’s me going bald: ua-cam.com/video/UKwloU_nTgI/v-deo.html

  • @nikoskpr
    @nikoskpr 2 роки тому

    You look alike..!!

  • @malepatternbaldness5718
    @malepatternbaldness5718 2 роки тому +3

    Imagine a young man without hair, imagine a bird without feathers...

    • @bluemidnight5926
      @bluemidnight5926 2 роки тому +3

      Honestly, there's a profound beauty to certain bald people. It's just like anything else, it depends on how you play it.

    • @shyman99
      @shyman99 2 роки тому +1

      Imagine a UA-cam where we don't have advertisers hiding behind generic screen names trying to degrade men so they can pimp their products. Thankfully most men have confidence nowadays that they cannot be manipulated by the dregs of society. Your sorry ass would be canned of this channel if I had control of it.

    • @fran8275
      @fran8275 2 роки тому +24

      Imagine a man without insecurities about something that he cant control...

    • @liormuche5624
      @liormuche5624 2 роки тому +1

      @@fran8275 nailed it!

    • @fran8275
      @fran8275 2 роки тому

      @HopesUp by spending money

  • @bubblewrapvillain
    @bubblewrapvillain 2 роки тому

    You haven't overcome it. Keep it real brother.

    • @Baldcafe
      @Baldcafe  2 роки тому +1

      Explain it to me then brother 👍

    • @bubblewrapvillain
      @bubblewrapvillain 2 роки тому +2

      @@Baldcafe you are obsessed about it enough to have dedicated an entire channel about it. Hairloss is sad, but life is more than just that. You try to cope with it by having other balding guys giving you asspats for your situation. I hope you find peace with your hair situation.

    • @jonrixbus
      @jonrixbus 2 роки тому +2

      @@bubblewrapvillain At first I thought the same as you @marcel, but I think he's genuinely happy to help people struggling with balding. And he has really started a movement of self acceptance imho