What I wish I knew before asking for a Divorce / Co-parenting / What to expect

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  • @jennifersmart-l3v
    @jennifersmart-l3v 15 днів тому +80

    This can’t be serious!! You’re still at 18.4k!! I am going to be shouting now “ you yes you reading this . Are you subscribe to the channel, did you like the video? Come on man let’s take her to a next level man”. I didn’t bother to shout ok

    • @kcoyclay
      @kcoyclay 15 днів тому +4

      You nuh! Is how people tan suh? They acting as if it’s a commitment. Why persons just watching and not signing up? Is suh dem hard wid dem subscribing finger? It must have rigamortus.

    • @trasiebanton7964
      @trasiebanton7964 15 днів тому +2

      I have subscribed. Thanks Jennifer. My heart goes out for this young lady. I think she needs to upload videos more often.

    • @jennifersmart-l3v
      @jennifersmart-l3v 15 днів тому +1

      @@kcoyclay don’t ??

    • @marciawynter5155
      @marciawynter5155 15 днів тому +1

      😂😂😂😂 yes I am subscribed !

    • @_Natalia24
      @_Natalia24 15 днів тому +2

      Just subscribed 🙈

  • @donnaromain7318
    @donnaromain7318 15 днів тому +30

    Jay, for someone who is young as you have so much knowledge, is smart and intelligent, you also have a loving heart. God bless you.

  • @karenlamont8312
    @karenlamont8312 15 днів тому +18

    That man wasn't all the way into you.Thank God for your deliverance.Girl you're blooming.Keep strong. You're thriving .

    • @pkd6327
      @pkd6327 15 днів тому +5

      She was alone in that marriage.

    • @mariedames3240
      @mariedames3240 15 днів тому +7

      I believe he thought he was in love with this young girl he realized he was not because he kept cheating and I'm curious is he just into young black women.

    • @hildaaybar9042
      @hildaaybar9042 15 днів тому +4

      Her ex husband was just weird,the way he acted when they were talking about separating, he was smiling,she is better off with out him, May God bless her & her little girl !

  • @shirleyjulal8869
    @shirleyjulal8869 15 днів тому +19

    Jay i agree with you. People just be spiteful and dont think of the child or children. Your knowledge is mature.

  • @jackiehart7293
    @jackiehart7293 15 днів тому +17

    Good advice young lady!! You are definitely beyond your years!! God got us👍🏽

  • @patriciarobinson5172
    @patriciarobinson5172 15 днів тому +17

    This is so helpful… actually great, mature talk … I’m proud of you 👏🏽 👏🏽🤗🤗

  • @charmainelowrie-davis4023
    @charmainelowrie-davis4023 15 днів тому +6

    Hi Jay! This is a well done video, so very informative. I'm happy you're able to reflect and learn from this experience. You are so right, I've heard from others that a divorce is like a death so there is a process of grief. I remember at the beginning, Tim did ask us to give you both some time to process what was happening and decide the way forward. I realize you were done, and as you said, you are highly emotional so may not have given yourself enough time to process everything before making a decision. At least you have learnt a lot from this experience and I hope this video will help many others who may face this type of decision. Please continue to lean and depend on God, give your life totally to Him and He WILL work everything out. You have really matured. God bless you and Neveah. I will not be one of those persons bashing Timothy. He made wrong decisions but God is still able to change and save him. Please continue to take the best care of Neveah and all the best as you coparent❤.❤❤🙏🏽

    • @animetycoon6419
      @animetycoon6419 14 днів тому +2

      I did watch it and I think that it should get lots of views because of the information being provided for free lol, you are a true trooper

  • @WendyRose876
    @WendyRose876 5 днів тому

    So proud of the woman you’re becoming everyday ❤ and I love this hair on you

  • @ShakinaRiley-v1j
    @ShakinaRiley-v1j 15 днів тому +13

    I believe in everything you said Jaye. Even though I'm happily married. But you're saying all the right things ❤❤

  • @ev830
    @ev830 15 днів тому +12

    Hi Jay...great content and no the video wasn't long. I was separated 3 years before we got divorced. My ex and I have a respectful relationship because we both very much love our children

  • @kayp7412
    @kayp7412 15 днів тому +10

    Kudos to you Jaye, you're handling this with so much maturity grace & professionalism inspite of everything ...proud of you girl 👋👋👋

  • @marlenehenry8961
    @marlenehenry8961 15 днів тому +4

    You are truly a smart and strong woman. The video wasn't long it was quite interesting and informative. May God continue to bless you and Nevie.

    • @jayesparkle
      @jayesparkle  13 днів тому

      Thanks so much, I appreciate the kind words! 🙏🏾

  • @rosemariebrown3748
    @rosemariebrown3748 13 днів тому +1

    Blessings in the New Year darling. God is good all the time.

  • @valeriehughes7221
    @valeriehughes7221 15 днів тому +11

    Jaye don't worry everything will work out for you and your baby girl just keep the faith God is in control 🙏

  • @marvajoao278
    @marvajoao278 15 днів тому +5

    Oh man, Jay you have been through the fire and came through with wisdom & resilience ❤

  • @karenlamont8312
    @karenlamont8312 15 днів тому +6

    I love how you picked up the pieces with the help of God you're moving forward. Love you and you precious baby girl Nevi.

    • @jayesparkle
      @jayesparkle  13 днів тому +1

      Thanks so much, it hasn't been easy but I'm grateful for my strength ❤️

    • @normacoote9856
      @normacoote9856 11 днів тому

      So proud of you! You are going places!!! Proud of you…❤

  • @TheMav941
    @TheMav941 15 днів тому +7

    You’re such smart young lady. Wishing you all the best

  • @cathysturry3670
    @cathysturry3670 4 дні тому

    Very good advice I totally agree with you on all of this.

  • @AriAnnaMommyWorld
    @AriAnnaMommyWorld 11 днів тому

    Love and admire your maturity Jaye. The tips you gave are excellent and I hope those in need of it follows them.

    • @jayesparkle
      @jayesparkle  4 дні тому

      I appreciate your kind words. 🙏🏾

  • @amyrowe-smith2821
    @amyrowe-smith2821 15 днів тому +3

    Wise talk girl, don't give no reason to doubt you, stay on the right ❤

  • @vivenegordon1024
    @vivenegordon1024 14 днів тому +2

    God bless you Jay .God’s word is powerful. Ephesians 3:20 God is able to do the exceedingly, he is that God 🙏 amen 🙏 ❤. God is really good to you ❤

  • @minawilliams5552
    @minawilliams5552 15 днів тому +6

    Well done keep going you’re doing a fantastic job with your life and taking care of Nevea iam so proud of you for you ❤❤❤

  • @novelinperry4672
    @novelinperry4672 13 днів тому +1

    Happy New Year Jay and Nevaeh. Blessings for 2025 love you both.

    • @jayesparkle
      @jayesparkle  11 днів тому

      Thanks so much, wishing you a wonderful year too! ❤️

  • @ANIT421RAM
    @ANIT421RAM 15 днів тому +8

    I love your hair. It definitely suits you 😍

  • @cecileb.2207
    @cecileb.2207 15 днів тому +4

    Love the jacket and Christmas shirt! Adorable! ❄️❄️❄️

    • @jayesparkle
      @jayesparkle  13 днів тому +1

      ikr it’s so cute, right❤️

  • @helenebanks2467
    @helenebanks2467 15 днів тому +3

    Jaye you are extremely smart God bless and keep you in his loving care

  • @blessings7015
    @blessings7015 13 днів тому

    Jaye you always have a Nice Personality and you are a Strong woman.God is able to keep you from falling, And i am very proud of you.God Bless you and Baby Girl,And you are Truly amazing.

  • @jannetmorais9382
    @jannetmorais9382 11 днів тому

    You’re so on point Jaye

  • @nadinekerr6569
    @nadinekerr6569 15 днів тому +2

    Amen and Amen Jay real talk 🙏🏼 God bless you and your family just leave it to time for real I'm here enjoying your video always

    • @jayesparkle
      @jayesparkle  13 днів тому

      I agree, time heals everything!❤️

  • @yolandaarnold6046
    @yolandaarnold6046 15 днів тому +2

    You know Jaye, God has a reason for everything that happens in our lives. Listening to you first shows how mature you are. Like I said before, seems like you've been here before. Such a mature woman in a young body. Your story has given so many women and maybe men too, food for thought. Your videos offer so much necessary and helpful advice. This is your purpose in life. God has touched you in so many ways. You are favored by God and He is using you to help others. You are such a beautiful and intelligent woman with a wealth of knowledge. You're an amazing mother AND you were an amazing wife and those attributes are who you are. That can never be taken away. You're also very humorous which is also good. Although I personally can't benefit from this video, I can share it if needed. Be blessed Jordanne. ❤

  • @IreneGulliver
    @IreneGulliver 14 днів тому

    That’s a great equipment to acquire. Thanks.So sorry to hear that the weather is affecting you.Good advice,Jaye.based on your experience.

  • @susanandfamilycookingtv
    @susanandfamilycookingtv 15 днів тому +2

    That is true,alot of people go into divorce, without thinking first what is really the meaning of divorce and what goes with divorce.They forget to think also of the kids,if divorce is okay for the kids and if divorce is the only option.Have done alot of videos about divorce and marriage counseling 🙏🏾🥰Try watch the videos 🥰 Big hug to cutie Nevi 🥰 beautiful family 🥰

  • @murielmclean684
    @murielmclean684 15 днів тому +2

    Hi Jaye and Neveah big up yuh selves. Good Advice to Parènts who are going through similar situations .Blessings Girl ❤❤❤❤👍👍👍👍🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲

  • @Shenayrose
    @Shenayrose 15 днів тому +1

    One of the smartest young lady I know
    Your maturity and growth is unmatched
    Blessings Affi flow Jaye God and God alone …
    You’re a superwoman 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾❤

  • @cynthiathompson6830
    @cynthiathompson6830 15 днів тому +7

    Jay I agreed with you

  • @Limitlesskkz2022
    @Limitlesskkz2022 15 днів тому +8

    Jaye you are NOT in your 20s. No way‼️ You are so mature. Nuff blessings ❤️🇯🇲

  • @Marelva100
    @Marelva100 15 днів тому +18

    Jordan I’m really proud of you. You are wise beyond your years.

  • @Marelva100
    @Marelva100 15 днів тому +7

    I’m loving the hair Jaye

    • @pameliaphillips993
      @pameliaphillips993 15 днів тому +1

      Well said Jaye so proud of you of how mature,smart,intelligent you're; love ,LOVE the way that you're handling your divorce. Girl you're young and this whole matter are just valid lessons for you going forward.My next Jamaican youtuber base in USA Alicia Kim that I follow recently went through divorce and she handled herself smartly just like you.Good luck to you Jaye and your sweet,smart dsughter Nevi🇯🇲🇯🇲❤❤👏👏Good luck to you also in future studies📚📚

    • @sandratomlinson2633
      @sandratomlinson2633 15 днів тому +1

      Am so proud of you Jaye very interesting video blessings to you and Neveah ❤❤❤❤

    • @normacoote9856
      @normacoote9856 11 днів тому

      Video is not too long…

  • @nickeshaallwood431
    @nickeshaallwood431 15 днів тому +1

    Aww! Jay I'm loving those hairstyle you have been sporting they look so good on you girl

  • @cecileb.2207
    @cecileb.2207 15 днів тому +4

    Love your heart! 🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️

  • @marlynmorgan3658
    @marlynmorgan3658 15 днів тому +1

    Very informative! Good job Jaye! 👍😊

    • @jayesparkle
      @jayesparkle  15 днів тому +2

      Thanks so much, I'm glad you found it helpful! 😊

  • @georgetucker6376
    @georgetucker6376 15 днів тому +4

    Good afternoon!! Job well done!! That smile look good on you❤❤😂😂

  • @tardiatomlinson
    @tardiatomlinson 15 днів тому +3

    Hey hey hey, jaye you are looking lovely. And no, the video is not too long😅I always enjoy watching 😊❤keep up the good work and blessings to you and baby girl ❤😊

  • @mureenporter9981
    @mureenporter9981 15 днів тому +2

    Jaye you have your facts right and you are honest.❤

  • @jennifersmart-l3v
    @jennifersmart-l3v 15 днів тому +3

    Hello!! Hello! Thanks for bringing me into your life. Thanks for sharing. Sound advice in regards to vengeance 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

  • @karenlamont8312
    @karenlamont8312 15 днів тому +1

    Looking so nice and renewed .Shine ,girl Shine.

    • @jayesparkle
      @jayesparkle  15 днів тому +1

      I appreciate you, I'm trying😊

  • @TraceyNelson-e4q
    @TraceyNelson-e4q 10 днів тому

    Hi Jaye ❤ these are some very useful information thanks.

    • @jayesparkle
      @jayesparkle  10 днів тому

      I'm glad it's helpful, you're welcome!💕

  • @traceymckay3286
    @traceymckay3286 13 днів тому

    Love the new hair.Looks good on you.Gteat info for person who will be in such situation.

  • @brendabryan5150
    @brendabryan5150 15 днів тому +1

    You did well Jay very informative.

    • @jayesparkle
      @jayesparkle  15 днів тому +1

      Thank you so much, I'm glad you found it helpful 😊

  • @valeriehughes7221
    @valeriehughes7221 15 днів тому +3

    Jaye everything you are saying is on point

  • @IngridWint
    @IngridWint 15 днів тому +2

    Hi Jaye this is my first time commenting but i always like your vlogs. I find your vlogs clean entertaining and healthy you are a class act keep doing you🎉.

    • @jayesparkle
      @jayesparkle  4 дні тому

      Thanks so much, I’m glad you enjoy them! 🥰

  • @sansiascott2722
    @sansiascott2722 11 днів тому

    Well said Jay

  • @siebergirl23
    @siebergirl23 15 днів тому +5

    Moving away with the child is considered kidnapping in most, if not all the states. Jaye, you’re correct

  • @gailm.4324
    @gailm.4324 15 днів тому +7

    Jaye you are still very young….with regards to you not wanting spousal support…etc…I hope you at least discuss it with a professional….as we live we learn….i pray for peace and happiness for you and Nevi💕💕💕🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

    • @goldgirl8771
      @goldgirl8771 15 днів тому +2

      She should have taken it bank it and buy a house later

    • @goldgirl8771
      @goldgirl8771 15 днів тому +2

      He is very disrespectful

    • @gailm.4324
      @gailm.4324 15 днів тому

      @@goldgirl8771 my sister is like Jaye… I am different… but I do hope… she rely on professionals to make certain decisions… just like there are things she is finding out..she could have done differently in the divorce proceedings… it’s good to arm yourself with professional information…

    • @jayesparkle
      @jayesparkle  15 днів тому +2

      Absolutely hun , have to use professionals to guide us through it

  • @soniaabrahams2091
    @soniaabrahams2091 14 днів тому +2

    Jay your hair is looking great

  • @Grace4DA
    @Grace4DA 15 днів тому +1

    Great advice ❤

  • @rubyparris8456
    @rubyparris8456 15 днів тому +1

    Jaye you are well knowledgeable for your age. Kudos to you and much blessings 🙏🙏🙏❤❤

  • @maxinesimmonds5085
    @maxinesimmonds5085 15 днів тому +1

    Strong young lady u talk ✔️💯 love ur vlogs 🙏❤️

  • @charmainebennett2226
    @charmainebennett2226 15 днів тому +3

    Hey hey hey proud of you girl

  • @sadie4289
    @sadie4289 15 днів тому +2

    Thanks hun.

  • @VeroniqueBeckford-Scott
    @VeroniqueBeckford-Scott 15 днів тому +1

    Great job Jaye

  • @sharonalphonso1058
    @sharonalphonso1058 14 днів тому

    Amen Jay!tell them.

  • @c.G7133
    @c.G7133 16 днів тому +1

    It's good to see you again ❤

    • @jayesparkle
      @jayesparkle  15 днів тому +1

      Thank you so much for stopping by! ❤️

  • @marciamiller5392
    @marciamiller5392 15 днів тому +2

    Love your hair. ❤

  • @ingareid8680
    @ingareid8680 15 днів тому +1

    I pray that God's blessings overflow in your life as you celebrate another year of His goodness and faithfulness.

  • @clairehall8518
    @clairehall8518 15 днів тому +13

    Well said and very good advice. However just be careful and have a very keen eye on him you left him, it's a shock to him, he played the fool with her passport, if he sees you getting on with life and he sees you are doing well you don't need him he will try to make life uneasy for you. Like I am not going to pick her up and seeing her. Be careful. Good on you for choosing to tell the people out there. Please do not feel guilty you gave him several chances and when you came out about what he did he did not show any remorse. He thought you would not leave him he just wanted to cheat and keep you as well.

    • @jayesparkle
      @jayesparkle  15 днів тому +10

      You know the thing is I’ll have peace knowing i did my best, So for now I’ll just continue to do my part I only have control over myself . My priority is to make sure Nevy sees me not settling for any less than I deserve . Lol started out late but better late than never

    • @clairehall8518
      @clairehall8518 15 днів тому

      @jayesparkle you are handling the divorce with maturity and knowledge continue with what you are doing. Perfect advice. Extremely nice to share with others. Nevi is extremely happy with you and in most divorces it's the mother who is stable and is there for the kids 100 percent of time. I am proud of you I read the messages when people were saying go back to Jamaica etc. that's surely not the best move. When you move perhaps ask nevi do you like the room etc. Regarding the move to apartment or house, write down pros and cons, yes house have garden to maintain and you may have to pay but it's the same for a gated community house you have to pay monthly maintenance etc. Noise level and neighbors and the schools and being with the ethnicity

    • @clairehall8518
      @clairehall8518 15 днів тому

      Exactly better late than never. You are a perfect example of how to deal with what you have gone through your mom and family and friends should be proud of you I am sorry that you have to go through this situation at a young age, it's just as bad for older people. I saw cracks from very begining you continued to act maturity. You did the right thing, and with God and family and true friends in your life will continue to build you up and can rest in your pillow that you are doing the right thing. I am not a you tuber I am over fifty and tend to be motherly over you and nevi. Continue with what you are doing. Your relationship between you and your daughter reminds me of what mysrkfcand daughter has before passing away at 19;years old.​@@jayesparkle

  • @taneishawilson8995
    @taneishawilson8995 15 днів тому +1

    I remember i commented not to leave the house until you speak with a lawyer I've been through a divorce here so i know .

  • @dahliafoster6576
    @dahliafoster6576 15 днів тому +1

    Good advice. Also, if you move with the child, apart from the law, that child might blame/resent you for the separation from the other parent.

  • @Resilientqueen-c1b
    @Resilientqueen-c1b 15 днів тому +4

    Your hair is beautiful ❤️

  • @ronabrown9917
    @ronabrown9917 15 днів тому +1

    My first comment, and please support her by watching the commercial also, that's one of the way she can make some money from yutube. Thanks all.

  • @marciabrown8330
    @marciabrown8330 15 днів тому +1

    Time is the master ❤❤

  • @Resilientqueen-c1b
    @Resilientqueen-c1b 15 днів тому +3

    Was very interesting.

  • @sugardiamond.
    @sugardiamond. 15 днів тому +1

    Hi Jordanne 💜💜💜 Blessings

  • @tracey-anntreadwell4709
    @tracey-anntreadwell4709 12 днів тому

    For real, girl! God and time! Sit back and watch Father God work.🙌🏾🙏🏾

  • @paulinebowen4681
    @paulinebowen4681 15 днів тому +2

    He doesn’t seem like he is too interested you can get alimony for a while you don’t have to keep getting it you have to think if you’re working and you get sick or you’re child how are the bills going to pay you are still young and you have a lot to learn don’t forget he was a lot older than you don’t give too much of advantage make sure you get child support for that child don’t act because you are working you can do everything that is child also daycare is expensive food clothing trips why should be covering everything it takes two to tango don’t let pride get in your way take it from a older person that been there wishing you all the best for you and daughter ❤

    • @jayesparkle
      @jayesparkle  15 днів тому

      I have faith it will all work out for her best interest everybody’s playing their part for her ❤️

  • @sharonclarke5371
    @sharonclarke5371 15 днів тому +4

    Don't ever think about the cheater the decision was made when they cheated.

    • @jayesparkle
      @jayesparkle  15 днів тому +2

      I know Im just an empath so its hard sometimes

    • @shirleyjulal8869
      @shirleyjulal8869 15 днів тому +1

      ​@jayesparkle Jaye everyone does wrong, at weight your situation and deal how you want or need to.. .Your advice is spot on.

  • @mariedames3240
    @mariedames3240 15 днів тому +2

    No matter how good you co-parent it is always hard on the child❤

  • @andriacampbell3604
    @andriacampbell3604 15 днів тому +1

    Well said Jaye...❤

  • @brendabryan5150
    @brendabryan5150 15 днів тому +1

    But Jay question what if you have to move to somewhere for safety

    • @jayesparkle
      @jayesparkle  14 днів тому

      many resources are available for vulnerable persons

  • @charmainebennett2226
    @charmainebennett2226 15 днів тому +2

    Loving heart ❤️

  • @karenlamont8312
    @karenlamont8312 15 днів тому +1

    I love your hair, what color is it?

  • @amari2714
    @amari2714 15 днів тому +7

    Girl, i don't want to say anything, but u look much better and young from I left your husband

  • @blossombrown2546
    @blossombrown2546 15 днів тому +1

    Very good information

  • @ANIT421RAM
    @ANIT421RAM 15 днів тому +2

    Jaye, my darling ♥️ I'd like to wish you and your family an amazingly blessed and favoured New Year.
    I'm blown away with your level of confidence, common sense, level- headedness, and maturity. I'm thankful that God is in the mix of all that has been happening 🙏🏼 🙌. It's true knowledge is key and it's for our own good to be able to allow wisdom to prevail.
    I also agree that SAME should be used when it comes to children. So we'll down on having a set routine for Neveah.
    Thank you for sharing, and you were very tactful. Bless you for that.
    I learnt quite a lot from this video.
    You're a marvellous mom and home maker. I wish you all the very best as you get prepared for your next chapter....home searching and moving.
    Much love and God bless you 💖 😊 🙏🏼 ❤️

  • @genuinecathy2947
    @genuinecathy2947 15 днів тому +2

    Your marriage had some red flags. One of which was the moment he told you that Nevi would know when she was 18 years old. That is a giant red flag.

  • @cynthiathompson6830
    @cynthiathompson6830 15 днів тому +1

    Amen

  • @sweetbrown2256
    @sweetbrown2256 15 днів тому +2

    🙏🏿🙏🏿

  • @jestinabrown9072
    @jestinabrown9072 15 днів тому +1

    Hey honey remember with everything you do seek God, you are smart and wise.

  • @sharonalphonso1058
    @sharonalphonso1058 14 днів тому +1

    Jay did u ever visit an ENT doctor? Sounds like u have a sinus problem. U always sound stuffy. You really should go or is it allergies?

  • @JulianRichards5825
    @JulianRichards5825 15 днів тому

    Looking beautiful ❤❤

  • @jannetmorais9382
    @jannetmorais9382 11 днів тому +1

    Jaye now you need a battery starter. They come together in one unit

    • @jayesparkle
      @jayesparkle  10 днів тому

      Omg thanks I never thought of getting one ❤️

    • @jannetmorais9382
      @jannetmorais9382 10 днів тому

      Yes they are selling at a discount on Amazon

  • @marvaroberts9307
    @marvaroberts9307 15 днів тому

    Hi jay😇🙏❤

  • @vernabrown7369
    @vernabrown7369 15 днів тому +4

    Where l live and America the Cheater loose house Your daughter need accomadation the cheater needs to provide for Neve

  • @pearlinejackson3932
    @pearlinejackson3932 14 днів тому

    Hey beautiful ❤❤

  • @Resilientqueen-c1b
    @Resilientqueen-c1b 15 днів тому

    That's very nice ❤❤❤❤

  • @Heritha-ju7pn
    @Heritha-ju7pn 15 днів тому +3

    Please watch the ads guys ❤

  • @stacyannhibbert9929
    @stacyannhibbert9929 15 днів тому

  • @collettereynolds9944
    @collettereynolds9944 15 днів тому

    Heyyy

  • @chocolatechip8170
    @chocolatechip8170 15 днів тому

    A my girl jaye sweet soh. Love love the hair hon looks really nice. All the best for 2025 and beyond ❤❤❤❤ kiss nevi for me.

    • @jayesparkle
      @jayesparkle  13 днів тому +1

      lol I’m trying hun❤️😊 thanks hun wishing you a wonderful new year too

  • @nadinekerr6569
    @nadinekerr6569 15 днів тому

    Your welcome bye yes the video is long but I watch until the end