Thank you so much for watching!! For all my Projectors (and non-Sacral) parents and caregivers, how do you manage your energy and your parenting responsibilities?! 👇👇
I am a 4/6 splenic projector mom. I’m newly divorced, so now a single mom. I have 2 manifesting generator daughters. The youngest, I tried to homeschool for the last 2 years. I was always exhausted and frustrated. Her defined will always wore me down, one way or another. Now she’s in public school for the first time and loving it. I have my days to myself (I’m on disability and not working currently) to heal from all that I’ve been through recently. But my big take away from homeschool is routine! My daughter doesn’t succumb to my will for sure. But once she gets into a rhythm, she totally follows it. If there’s a rhythm to her day, we don’t battle during transitions, or clean up or bedtime. It’s all just a part of the rhythm of her life. It is a beautiful thing rhythm! rhythm is a projectors friend. I learned this through Waldorf education. I would highly recommend learning about rhythm through Waldorf for projector moms and dads.
i know you left this comment a long time ago but it’s so relatable. i homeschool my son with the waldorf method and i’m always struggling with burnout. i’m here to learn how to preserve my energy as a mom of four and your comment was the first thing i saw here. i know how valuable rhythm is but struggle to keep it with my adhd and blended family schedules. but your comment reminded me how important it is so i’m just going to keep striving for a strong rhythm for all of our wellbeing. thanks for the reminder.
I'm a 1/3 mental projector (head and ajna) with one splenic projector, 2 pure generators, and an emo generator and let me tell you....YES TO PICK YOUR BATTLES lmao. I'm their sole parent and I also am very isolated from my family so it can be very very hard day to day. As a 1/3, I'm constantly trying new things so I'm so thankful for this video! 🙏🏽 I personally find that having lots of activity options is very helpful, just like Krystle said. And making sure to take time for yourself. Reading, binging tv, whatever. You deserve nourishment and rest. Also, giving yourself some grace when it comes to household stuff. We can be really hard on ourselves as moms, especially single moms, but someone once told me something that began to change my mindset and take the pressure off: When your kids are older, they won't remember the messy kitchen, but they will remember how much fun they had with mom the day nothing got done! 😂 Pick and choose what's most important. Do the bare minimum some days. When I was younger, my mom was in an abuse relationship and she worked tirelessly to keep the house clean and my siblings and I cared for, but I don't remember how spotless anything was. I just remember her always sleeping (depression). At the end of the day, there's always going to be a mess, but our babies grow up FAST! So use what little energy you have focusing on what's most important to you and what fills your cup so you can keep pouring onto them. 💕
Thanks for making this video!!! I have two boys and am a single mom and I have a manifestor son with will power(5 Yrs old) and a generator son with all centers defined except the heart (4yrs old) they constantly need my attention and are consistently wanting my help and some days I feel like I'm dying. 😢 So glad I'm not alone. Just do my best is all I can. 🌷🌷🌷
This was so, so helpful. Thank you so much. I've used the love languages to understand myself a bit better in relationship, but I hadn't connected it to human design and being a projector or to being a mom. That's super helpful. I too have a mom that was and is always overextending herself, which is sich a sign of her love, but I noticed, becoming a first-time mom, I started doing the exact same thing. Hearing you talk about that helped me realize that. Thanks! ♥
I relate with this WHOLE VIDEO!!! It feels so good to hear my truth from someone else mouth, sometimes I have a hard time expressing this to people so I become burnout a lot just from not having anyone to help me.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience and making this content! I’m a projector, am 36 years old and really thinking deeply that I don’t want to have kids. And wondered if being a projector and needing to have more rest / peace for myself was a part of it 😅 I’m also a nurse practitioner and devote so much energy & care to my work that I need to recharge alone a lot.
Thank you so much for this! I’m feeling such a deep relief and connectedness knowing that I’m not alone in this and that choosing my battles is necessary for me to continue. I often feel guilty about saying yes.
I am a self projected projector, with a manifesting generator daughter and partner... I find that a blessing for energy purposes.. but i do struggle to keep up at times. My daughter is only 6 months, so.. i don't have much advice to offer as I am relatively new in this motherhood game. What has been helpful , is expressing my time for rest, and having her father take her on LONG hikes.. haha This momma limits out at a 9 mile hike.. I have learned to say.. I do not want to go! So.. my advice.. express your needs !
I have a 5 yr old daughter, and i am a projector parent with Asperger's. Spelnic root defined center, and i have no sense of inner authority, or assertive control of my personal life and adult responsibilities, or stuggle to observe the inner voice that only speaks once.
I have to pick my battles, or else! I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard, “she’s got you wrapped around her fingers”…🤯. I am a single mom, 6/2 projector. I am in almost a constant state of burnout. No one understands that. But I know my daughter better than anyone and I know my parenting style is not ideal, but it’s what I can manage without going over the edge. My worst inner critique is that my daughter is 7 years old and I struggle with the day to day interaction. I can’t tell you how horrible this makes me feel. I am just not interested in playing…
Single parents are the true heroes. I struggle often even WITH the helping hands. I’m so sorry you have to deal with those comments - unless someone is in your shoes they really have no clue, so I hope you don’t take those to heart. ❤️ Your daughter is lucky to have a loving and aware mama who knows their limits too. You are doing amazing!
I’m right here with you!! I’m a 4/6 projector, single mom of an 11yo pure generator daughter and I have always had SUCH a hard time getting myself to play with her when she has the most energy to burn. And I also feel bad coz all she wants to do is spend time with me and often I just have to request we stay home and do something chill. So, you’re not alone. Sending lots of love and support thru the ether 🙂❤️
I am finding I am crashing and burning out every 3-4 months - when I'm burned out all I want to do is rest. It has finally dawned on me that it could be a combination of being a projector / highly sensitive and parent and I am simply burning out from being a mother. I am also highly sensitive and an older mother. I think it all mounts up.There is nothing medically wrong with me - If I pushed I could find a label for myself such as chronic fatigue syndrome but I would rather manage it as a projector.
Self projected projector 3/5 can you do a video on relationships. My ex used to always be upset that I needed rest or a nap... I'm curious how you and your husband find a balance in this. Thanks!
I am a 2/4 splenic projector mum of a manifestor/ Generator 4/6 3 year old boy. I dont have enough Energy so I pick my battles and sometimes I have been judged by my family on the way I negotiate with my son. My parents raised me with a very strong discipline/ obedience so being flexible Is not their way Lol ! Thankyou for your wonderful explanation !
You are so welcome! ❤️ I see that so often, the judgment that comes with differing parenting styles especially between generations. I’m sorry you have to deal with that! I’ve also experienced this as well 🥺
Hi! I have two boys ages one and three, my screen name is weird because I’m using my son‘s iPad lol, since learning that I’m a projector and a stay at home mom having them as a handful especially because both of them are MG.!😅 I am learning to give myself breaks throughout the day when I need it, I’ve been clear to my fiancé about what I need so that I can pour from a filled cup and I’ve given up on the idea that I need to be super mom, like you were just saying in in your video, Which is such a relief because I basically basically don’t push myself after 3 PM I have energy in the morning so that’s when I’ll prep clean do whatever I, my authority says let’s do
Thank you so much for this! I was really looking for more information about parenting as a projector. My daughter is a generator and has a lot of energy. Our thing is painting and drawing too. I recently had a baby boy he's a manifestor and my daughter is really struggling to share me with this baby. I'm thinking her love language might be quality time too. How did you find out about your daughters love language? ❤️
You are so welcome! ❤️ For my daughters love language, I kind of just assessed this based on how she expressed her love most with us (out of the 5 different love languages). For example: She’s also very verbal about when she loves someone and sometimes asks “do you love me?” (words of affirmation) - so these are what I see also being the next in line to QT. Though I can see QT as standing out: She’s always wanting to be with the people she cares about the most, and can get upset if people do things without her. Here’s a great article with some of the common signs: www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/the-5-love-languages-explained/
Hi Joelle!! 😘 In my experience, it’s been a total mix. I’ve actually seen lots of families with a mix of Types (most common instance), and others such as in our cases where the family is all one type. I like to think there’s some mystical explanation, partly around what we chose to learn and experience in our lifetimes, etc.
Thank you for this video (❁´◡`❁). I am 4/1 Splenic Projector single mom with defined ego center. My daughter 6yo, 1/3 Splenic Projector, undefined ego center. There's only two of us in the city we are living in, and because of the pandemic I have been 7x24 mom for 2years. After watching this video, I understand why I feel overwhelmed by my situation, and even craving for 'me' time. We have a good relationship, though. And I explained to her too that I need my own time to do the things that I want to do, to keep myself in positive vibration. She learned reiki on her early 6yo, and she listened along with me the videos I watched on UA-cam (astrology, energy, etc) so she understand a bit about energy, planets etc....and it becomes easier for me to share thoughts with her. I always told her that I am consistent with my words, so crying or being ridiculous in negotiation won't help at all. When we both burns out in argument, we would both cry and ask understanding from each other... Lol... Thank you :)
I too am a 4/6 splenic projector mom. I’m newly divorced, so now a single mom. I have 2 manifesting generator daughters. The youngest, I tried to homeschool for the last 2 years. I was always exhausted and frustrated. Her defined will always wore me down, one way or another. Now she’s in public school for the first time and loving it. I have my days to myself (I’m on disability and not working currently) to heal from all that I’ve been through recently. But my big take away from homeschool is routine! My daughter doesn’t succumb to my will for sure. But once she gets into a rhythm, she totally follows it. If there’s a rhythm to her day, we don’t battle during transitions, or clean up or bedtime. It’s all just a part of the rhythm of her life. It is a beautiful thing rhythm! rhythm is a projectors friend. I learned this through Waldorf education. I would highly recommend learning about rhythm through Waldorf for projector moms and dads.
Thank you so much for watching!! For all my Projectors (and non-Sacral) parents and caregivers, how do you manage your energy and your parenting responsibilities?! 👇👇
I am a 4/6 splenic projector mom. I’m newly divorced, so now a single mom. I have 2 manifesting generator daughters. The youngest, I tried to homeschool for the last 2 years. I was always exhausted and frustrated. Her defined will always wore me down, one way or another. Now she’s in public school for the first time and loving it. I have my days to myself (I’m on disability and not working currently) to heal from all that I’ve been through recently. But my big take away from homeschool is routine! My daughter doesn’t succumb to my will for sure. But once she gets into a rhythm, she totally follows it. If there’s a rhythm to her day, we don’t battle during transitions, or clean up or bedtime. It’s all just a part of the rhythm of her life. It is a beautiful thing rhythm! rhythm is a projectors friend. I learned this through Waldorf education. I would highly recommend learning about rhythm through Waldorf for projector moms and dads.
Ohhh thanks for this! Do you have any books on it? Or recommend readings?
Two MG daughters sounds like a lot!
Brilliant tip, many thanks!
i know you left this comment a long time ago but it’s so relatable. i homeschool my son with the waldorf method and i’m always struggling with burnout. i’m here to learn how to preserve my energy as a mom of four and your comment was the first thing i saw here. i know how valuable rhythm is but struggle to keep it with my adhd and blended family schedules. but your comment reminded me how important it is so i’m just going to keep striving for a strong rhythm for all of our wellbeing. thanks for the reminder.
I'm a 1/3 mental projector (head and ajna) with one splenic projector, 2 pure generators, and an emo generator and let me tell you....YES TO PICK YOUR BATTLES lmao. I'm their sole parent and I also am very isolated from my family so it can be very very hard day to day. As a 1/3, I'm constantly trying new things so I'm so thankful for this video! 🙏🏽 I personally find that having lots of activity options is very helpful, just like Krystle said. And making sure to take time for yourself. Reading, binging tv, whatever. You deserve nourishment and rest. Also, giving yourself some grace when it comes to household stuff. We can be really hard on ourselves as moms, especially single moms, but someone once told me something that began to change my mindset and take the pressure off: When your kids are older, they won't remember the messy kitchen, but they will remember how much fun they had with mom the day nothing got done! 😂 Pick and choose what's most important. Do the bare minimum some days. When I was younger, my mom was in an abuse relationship and she worked tirelessly to keep the house clean and my siblings and I cared for, but I don't remember how spotless anything was. I just remember her always sleeping (depression). At the end of the day, there's always going to be a mess, but our babies grow up FAST! So use what little energy you have focusing on what's most important to you and what fills your cup so you can keep pouring onto them. 💕
Thank you so much for sharing this ❤❤❤
Thanks for making this video!!!
I have two boys and am a single mom and I have a manifestor son with will power(5 Yrs old) and a generator son with all centers defined except the heart (4yrs old) they constantly need my attention and are consistently wanting my help and some days I feel like I'm dying. 😢 So glad I'm not alone. Just do my best is all I can. 🌷🌷🌷
I'm a 3/5 splenic projector and they are emotional authority🙈😂😂
This was so, so helpful. Thank you so much. I've used the love languages to understand myself a bit better in relationship, but I hadn't connected it to human design and being a projector or to being a mom. That's super helpful. I too have a mom that was and is always overextending herself, which is sich a sign of her love, but I noticed, becoming a first-time mom, I started doing the exact same thing. Hearing you talk about that helped me realize that. Thanks! ♥
I relate with this WHOLE VIDEO!!! It feels so good to hear my truth from someone else mouth, sometimes I have a hard time expressing this to people so I become burnout a lot just from not having anyone to help me.
WOW! Needed this so much thank you
Thank you so much for sharing your experience and making this content! I’m a projector, am 36 years old and really thinking deeply that I don’t want to have kids. And wondered if being a projector and needing to have more rest / peace for myself was a part of it 😅 I’m also a nurse practitioner and devote so much energy & care to my work that I need to recharge alone a lot.
Thank you so much for this! I’m feeling such a deep relief and connectedness knowing that I’m not alone in this and that choosing my battles is necessary for me to continue. I often feel guilty about saying yes.
I am a self projected projector, with a manifesting generator daughter and partner... I find that a blessing for energy purposes.. but i do struggle to keep up at times. My daughter is only 6 months, so.. i don't have much advice to offer as I am relatively new in this motherhood game. What has been helpful , is expressing my time for rest, and having her father take her on LONG hikes.. haha This momma limits out at a 9 mile hike.. I have learned to say.. I do not want to go! So.. my advice.. express your needs !
Helll yes!! Expressing your needs is SO important. And not feeling guilty for needing help ❤️
I have a 5 yr old daughter, and i am a projector parent with Asperger's. Spelnic root defined center, and i have no sense of inner authority, or assertive control of my personal life and adult responsibilities, or stuggle to observe the inner voice that only speaks once.
I have to pick my battles, or else! I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard, “she’s got you wrapped around her fingers”…🤯. I am a single mom, 6/2 projector. I am in almost a constant state of burnout. No one understands that. But I know my daughter better than anyone and I know my parenting style is not ideal, but it’s what I can manage without going over the edge. My worst inner critique is that my daughter is 7 years old and I struggle with the day to day interaction. I can’t tell you how horrible this makes me feel. I am just not interested in playing…
Also, I just wanted to say THANK YOU for this. I definitely feel better and even validated that I am a good parent!
Single parents are the true heroes. I struggle often even WITH the helping hands. I’m so sorry you have to deal with those comments - unless someone is in your shoes they really have no clue, so I hope you don’t take those to heart. ❤️
Your daughter is lucky to have a loving and aware mama who knows their limits too. You are doing amazing!
Oh my heck…I’m not even a single parent and this is me to a “T”. Thank you for sharing, 🙏🏼and may you be blessed with the energy you need. 💜
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I’m right here with you!! I’m a 4/6 projector, single mom of an 11yo pure generator daughter and I have always had SUCH a hard time getting myself to play with her when she has the most energy to burn. And I also feel bad coz all she wants to do is spend time with me and often I just have to request we stay home and do something chill. So, you’re not alone. Sending lots of love and support thru the ether 🙂❤️
I am finding I am crashing and burning out every 3-4 months - when I'm burned out all I want to do is rest. It has finally dawned on me that it could be a combination of being a projector / highly sensitive and parent and I am simply burning out from being a mother. I am also highly sensitive and an older mother. I think it all mounts up.There is nothing medically wrong with me - If I pushed I could find a label for myself such as chronic fatigue syndrome but I would rather manage it as a projector.
Self projected projector 3/5 can you do a video on relationships. My ex used to always be upset that I needed rest or a nap... I'm curious how you and your husband find a balance in this. Thanks!
It's bizarre that another human would get mad that you're asking for rest.
I'm a 3/5 splenic authority projector also. Naps are amazing
I am a 2/4 splenic projector mum of a manifestor/ Generator 4/6 3 year old boy. I dont have enough Energy so I pick my battles and sometimes I have been judged by my family on the way I negotiate with my son. My parents raised me with a very strong discipline/ obedience so being flexible Is not their way Lol ! Thankyou for your wonderful explanation !
You are so welcome! ❤️ I see that so often, the judgment that comes with differing parenting styles especially between generations. I’m sorry you have to deal with that! I’ve also experienced this as well 🥺
Hi! I have two boys ages one and three, my screen name is weird because I’m using my son‘s iPad lol, since learning that I’m a projector and a stay at home mom having them as a handful especially because both of them are MG.!😅 I am learning to give myself breaks throughout the day when I need it, I’ve been clear to my fiancé about what I need so that I can pour from a filled cup and I’ve given up on the idea that I need to be super mom, like you were just saying in in your video, Which is such a relief because I basically basically don’t push myself after 3 PM I have energy in the morning so that’s when I’ll prep clean do whatever I, my authority says let’s do
Thank you so much for this! I was really looking for more information about parenting as a projector. My daughter is a generator and has a lot of energy. Our thing is painting and drawing too. I recently had a baby boy he's a manifestor and my daughter is really struggling to share me with this baby. I'm thinking her love language might be quality time too.
How did you find out about your daughters love language? ❤️
You are so welcome! ❤️ For my daughters love language, I kind of just assessed this based on how she expressed her love most with us (out of the 5 different love languages).
For example: She’s also very verbal about when she loves someone and sometimes asks “do you love me?” (words of affirmation) - so these are what I see also being the next in line to QT.
Though I can see QT as standing out: She’s always wanting to be with the people she cares about the most, and can get upset if people do things without her.
Here’s a great article with some of the common signs: www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/the-5-love-languages-explained/
Needed this video 😆
Your daughter is wonderful. I have 5 kids and non are projectors :D
Oh wow! You must be super mom! I made need tips from you hehe 👏👏
6/2 spleen projector single mom and LOST completely
Thank you Krystle!! Yes this sounds about right. My husband and I take turns with her, he is a Projector as well.
You’re so welcome Kierrah! We’re definitely fortunate to have that helping hand! 🙏❤️
Hey Krystle!
Hi Joelle!! 😘 In my experience, it’s been a total mix. I’ve actually seen lots of families with a mix of Types (most common instance), and others such as in our cases where the family is all one type. I like to think there’s some mystical explanation, partly around what we chose to learn and experience in our lifetimes, etc.
We are two projector parents and child one is a generator and child two a manifestor.. so total mix. It really depends on when they are born ❤️🙏🏼😊
Thank you for this video (❁´◡`❁).
I am 4/1 Splenic Projector single mom with defined ego center.
My daughter 6yo, 1/3 Splenic Projector, undefined ego center.
There's only two of us in the city we are living in, and because of the pandemic I have been 7x24 mom for 2years.
After watching this video, I understand why I feel overwhelmed by my situation, and even craving for 'me' time.
We have a good relationship, though. And I explained to her too that I need my own time to do the things that I want to do, to keep myself in positive vibration.
She learned reiki on her early 6yo, and she listened along with me the videos I watched on UA-cam (astrology, energy, etc) so she understand a bit about energy, planets etc....and it becomes easier for me to share thoughts with her.
I always told her that I am consistent with my words, so crying or being ridiculous in negotiation won't help at all.
When we both burns out in argument, we would both cry and ask understanding from each other... Lol...
Thank you :)
I too am a 4/6 splenic projector mom. I’m newly divorced, so now a single mom. I have 2 manifesting generator daughters. The youngest, I tried to homeschool for the last 2 years. I was always exhausted and frustrated. Her defined will always wore me down, one way or another. Now she’s in public school for the first time and loving it. I have my days to myself (I’m on disability and not working currently) to heal from all that I’ve been through recently. But my big take away from homeschool is routine! My daughter doesn’t succumb to my will for sure. But once she gets into a rhythm, she totally follows it. If there’s a rhythm to her day, we don’t battle during transitions, or clean up or bedtime. It’s all just a part of the rhythm of her life. It is a beautiful thing rhythm! rhythm is a projectors friend. I learned this through Waldorf education. I would highly recommend learning about rhythm through Waldorf for projector moms and dads.
@@jennajennastrongandable5503 Be strong! :)
I clicked off when she said my kid goes to their grandparents. Im alone. No supports. 3 kids.
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yea...there is NOOOO help as a single mom for me!:)
Judge everyone be judgemental
Can I ask if you are single mum? Because I am :)
Hi Anna! I am not. Though I really believe single moms are heroes without capes ❤️
I am.... Projector, spleen inner authority. My daughter is the same type as me. Lol...