WHAT'S OUR LOVE LANGUAGE? - Lunch Break!
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- Опубліковано 14 гру 2024
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"This isn't a number 2 pencil" only Taylor laughed.
Taylor is me
Guys love languages are not just how you prefer to receive love; it's also how you express love. So having acts of service as your love language doesn't make you a free-loader. It means you see someone doing something for you as a sign of their love for you and when you do something for someone else, that's how you express your love to someone.
Yep yep that is definitely true! The q's we answered were a little more skewed toward how you prefer to receive love, hence more talk about how we like to receive love. Thanks for sharing though 😊
Jenn Le I'm so glad you all talked about this! I love the love languages :)
Yea this is actually a really cool quiz! thanks for sharing Jenn! its so You too aha! plz notice me! :D
Jenn's so cute! She always has a smile on her face no matter what :D
My love language is acts of service. Back in the early newlywed days, one time my hubby opened the garbage can to throw something out and I commented under my breath "eeek that is smelly". And when I turned around to see what was rustling, it was him tying up the garbage to take it out. It sounds silly, but I felt so loved in that moment. Because acts of service to me, translates to 1) they paid attention and recognized my need(s) 2) they care enough to do something about it. It isn't about freeloading. It's just that actions speak louder than words.
I completely feel this
Hey Wong Fu! If you are taking requests for Lunch Break topics, I'd love for you guys to take the 16 Personalities Type Test and share your results!
Omg yes! Just about to comment
Yeah id love to see that! Im gonna guess that phil is ENFP
yeah.. please do that. lots of us are curious 😃
YES!!! THEY HAVE TO!!
lol my guesses are phil is enfp, wes infj, im not sure about the rest
OMG HAHAHA ASHLEY'S FACE WHEN SHE HEARS THAT SHE AND PHIL HAVE SIMILAR LOVE LANGUAGES
When you low key ship them
I high key ship them
aw~~~ Taylor taking notes so that he can love the rest of Wongfu the way they like to be loved 💜
the avocado was trying to make an escape from Phil's love...
i'm gonna cheat and say i like gifts because i could use an xbox, but i could use a car wash so an act of service would be nice, but my back is kinda sore so i could use that massage, but i really just want someone to say they love me, but lawd jebus there's a fire! ain't nobody got time fo dat!
I love you Benson!
Awww Taylor was taking notes
Phil is basically like their dad here, spending time with the kids.
I love how Jen talks, so soothing and sweet
1. I've know LL for ages and I'm very touched and surprised you guys did this on Lunch Break (I actually had to stop work to watch this all the way through!).
2. I would TOTALLY ship Phil and Ash
3. LL has helped me heaps bc Gifts is my lowest but my cousin's highest. I have to make a conscious effort to let her know how much I care about her and knowing this helps
4. I also find the people I gravitate the most to in terms of friendship are those with the same LL as me. (Quality time).
5. HENCE, I feel some sense of "love" when I get to watch you guys on lunch break bc it feels like QT. :D
Take the quiz with us! tinyurl.com/zhe5gk9
Results
A=5
B=10
C=2
D=9
E=4
So I'm into quality time and service. Given my personality, that makes sense! I predicted words and quality time would be my highest, so I was half-right.
A:1
B:3
C:6
D:8
E:12
I took it! My results are:
A = 9
B = 9
C = 3
D = 7
E = 2
I'm into words of affirmation and quality time, haha. I didn't think words of affirmation would score so high, honestly :P and I'm probably like Phil, I'm pretty touchy with my boyfriend.
2 for Words of Affirmation
7 for Quality Time
3 for Receiving Gifts
7 for Acts of Service
11 for Physical Touch
So basically I'm like "shut up and hold me"
My highest one as quality time which honestly makes sense for me. When I get home I just like to chill out so that makes complete sense.
"I'm just trying to CHAIR-ish this." Cant have a wong fu video without a pun. 😆😉😆
An act of service is not bad or anything. It just means you are a practical person. You feel especially loved when someone helps you in practical ways. Helping you run errands when you are too busy, cook you a meal when you have no time, offer to fetch you from the airport etc
We all have certain things that make us feel loved the most.
How you liked to be loved is also usually how you show love.
We all have certain things that make us feel loved the most.
There are no better or worse love languages. They are all good. The reason to understand this is so you will know better how to show someone you love them by knowing their love language.
E.g if your girlfriend's love language is receiving gifts, she likes it when you remember her and gets gifts to surprise her (does not mean she's greedy in any way). And she will tend to show her love for you by buying you gifts as well.
Understanding that there are different love languages really helps in relationships.
Sometimes people think others don't love them (as much) because they do not perceive certain actions as love due to the different love languages we all have.
E.g your gf may show her love in acts of service. Going the extra mile to ensure you are cared for but if you don't understand that that's her love language and act of service is not your love language, you will find her annoying for messing with your things or minding your business. And if your love language is receiving and giving gifts, you would feel loved if she would just surprise you with your favourite things. You will also keep buying things for her when she actually would feel more loved if you would offer to help her do things once in a while.
It's great for any relationship when we can understand each other's love language. So we know we are indeed loved and how we can also show our love in a suitable manner according to other's love language
It's not lunch break unless Phil is scooping an avacado
Understanding the love languages is (imo) a really important tool to have in marriage. You get out of your own comfort zone and learn how to "speak" the other persons language. And now that I have kids, I see it play a big part in my relationship with my kids! We all have different personalities and they may not all mesh very well, but I think it's important to not just understand what your personal love language(s) are, but knowing how to speak in other love languages to your loved ones.
Love languages are two way.
1) There is receiving and giving. Sometimes your giving language and receiving language are different. Aka. you may like to give hugs, but best receive love from other when they spend time with you.
2) You can have more than one love language. They just rank in the order you BEST receive/gift it.
3) Learning love languages is important because you can learn how to better show your friends/significant other how much you love them. i.e. Taylor's main love language is "Quality time", but if Ashley's main love language is Acts of Service (for instance). Even though Ashley likes to do things for Taylor to show she cares, with this new knowledge she can instead, offer to just go out and do an activity together.
Working in inverse, if you know someone else's giving love language, even though yours is different, you can still appreciate the love that they give, even if its not the one you prefer to receive most.
Is phill using Wes's bowl?!?!?
That's the first thing I thought when I saw the bowl! Lol
bromance
bowl-mance
Haha, ikr. Siblings (blood or not) rob each other all of the time lol. Excuse me, 'borrow'.
+Sandy G 323 ikr
my love language is food. because i'm single and all i do is eat =(
I swear I used to follow you on Blogtv like 8 years ago.
***** haha, yah the good old days
BTVFAM!
they have a version of the quiz for single people too! lol #singlelyfe
i highly recommend reading the book "5 love languages" by Gary Chapman that this quiz is based off of. had it gifted to me before I got married and while a lot of it is practical and logical we often don't put aside time to really consider the ways people around us and ourselves express & feel loved. it can def make or break any relationship (not just romantic. I've applied alot of what I learned to my family relationships)
I want Jenn to narrate all my tests. Her voice is so calming.
Jenn, I'm so happy this was a topic! I remember you telling me about it. Also, the editing is so snazzy; I love it.
:D
YAY Pernell!
Also, I have a couple friends who are gifts. They describe it more as mementos of how much that relationship is cherished. They also say that practical, helpful gifts are amazing because it shows an active listener who is willing to put in extra effort into that relationship. So it's not about being greedy at all!
I'm tied, #1 for Quality Time and Physical Touch
#3 Words of Affirmation
#4 Receiving Gifts
#5 Acts of Service
I know I _give_ quality time, so it's important to me, and it means a lot when I can spend time with someone and get to know them. Physical touch is also easy for me, but when I get it, it means a lot.
I didn't get a ton of words of affirmation (as a young Asian child) so it had a lot of weight to it-- I can 1000% cry from nice words alone.
I like gifts, but it's not necessarily about the item, but the sentiment behind it. for example, I keep shirts not because they're fashionable, but they're from a great experience and I wouldn't dare throw it out.
finally, I can take acts of service for granted. I appreciate it, but it doesn't speak to me
Haha, that wait to see what Jenn's was xDD!!!
Same as Phil, #1 Acts of Service and #2 Quality Time.
Honestly, I think an act of service is truly most valuable, because people are usually interested in prioritizing themselves, so even something practical without even being asked is truly heartwarming and shows the goodness of people.
I also took this in consideration of friends, not romantic relationships, lol. As I've never been in love, and the idea of touch immaturely grosses me out, lol, my results could have been skewed QvQ
Quoting the oh-so-pure and sweet Taylor " 'I appreciate you' doesn't mean sh*t!"
It would be super interesting to see you guys take the crazy long Myers Briggs test (16 personalities)
Taylor's #2 pencil bit was the funniest joke I've heard in 16 hours omg xD
Acts of Service isn't my most valued but it is what I do to express my love.I don't like expressing how I fell, neither do I enjoy physical touch, and I hardly ever give or receive gifts. Quality time is important to me but I can't always do that, so I do acts of service. It's really the only way to communicate my love towards a person. For example, when my friends wanted to hangout at my place I made sure to do everything for them by waking up a 5:30 making food for hours to make sure everyone had something they'd like.
Ahhh!! I love you guys did this!!
Okay okay. I am words of affirmation and physical touch. I married a guy who is acts of service. Acts of service was my LOWEST score.
Lemme break it down for ya.
For my husband, acts of service means a lot to him because it means there is less pressure on him. It means there is teamwork happening and it's the easiest way for him to feel like our relationship is dependable and effective in teaching our goals. So it's not so much about being served as it is about working together.
For me, I have to really pay close attention to acts of service. I am kind of clueless when it comes to the day-in and day-out details of reaching pur goals together. So I have to make the effort to pay closer attention and be decisive, independent, and productive whenever I can.
What my husband tries to work on is saying out loud the things he appreciates or likes about me and about our relationship. Jenn nailed it-- validation is huuuuge! I over analyze (haha can you tell) and doubt myself often. When he tells me something positive, it means so much to me. It means he was thinking about me, he is receiving whatever I'm trying to communicate or accomplish, and he is cheering me on to success.
Happily, we both kind of share in the physical touch as a close second. And it's not sexual touch in particular, although being married that definitely plays a major part. Physical touch is a way to connect on a vulnerable level. I'm NOT physical touch with casual friends because I don't like the nearness. But I love it with my husband and with a couple other people important to me. Hugging, snuggling, holding hands, a shoulder squeeze, a pat on the back... It all says, to me, that the relationship always matters. Yeah, we're busy and dinner needs made and the yard needs mowed, but that little peck on the cheek reestablishes our relational connection. It centers me. It calms me and helps me maintain perspective.
For my husband, he finds a back rub or a good hug to be like permission to relax. It's like a safe zone. :) He sometimes struggles to really relax, so this has been an important thing for us to figure out! Phil asked if the physical touch can instantly deescalate an argument-- and for me, the answer is HECK YES. I literally cannot argue if we're holding hands. That instantly turns any squabble into a moderate discussion.
Anyway, I know this is sooooo long but I love this stuff and wanted to share. :)
hahaha aw, taylor is so cute for taking notes c:
Nooooo! The classic More Wong Fu profile picture is gone!! 😔
Ikr 😭
A:5 "Words of Affirmation"B:8 "Quality Time"C:4. "Receiving Gifts"D:9. "Acts of Service"E:4 "Physical Touch"
Funny how I though that Receiving Gifts would be high but now that I think about it I don't like people spending too much money on me. I think that I'd much prefer to be the one giving the gifts. The touch thing I can see. I'm not one much for PDA especially if I'm around family/friends/colleagues. Quality Time is always good because that's how you learn about the person's character.
I am so invested in watching Phil make his salad
it seems like Phil and Ashley have a thing for each other
Umm...did you see the face that Ashley made at 9:55??
Love this show you guys! So unique :)
I had a rough day today and this video brightened up my mood. The love language that I like to receive and like to express is quality time!!!
can the whole wong fu team also take this quiz???
I'm actually touch, I took this long ago. If I recall correctly I think I was touch and affirmations. I know you guys didn't relate to touch, but touch is very important for a person like me, I connects me. It calms me down. I'm not just talking sexual either. In fact those types of touches are very separate to me. I think some people often think of touching as leading towards a sexual side but for me it isn't. Touch just connects me to people, or in this case makes me feel loved by them.
Phil's Phlying Aphocado
Phenomenal!
Phil it is three fingers not two in the Hunger Games
tay is so savage "I want quality time phil" XD
Intentional pun? "I want to chair-ish this moment.."
Omg! I was so excited to watch this lunch break!
My love language is Words of Affirmation like Jen!
LOL OMG ASHLEY'S FACE when phil said they have similar love languages 😂😂😂
i feel like this is "FRIENDS" and there's gonna be relationships forming between some of them later on 😏😆 *cough* phil and ashley #PhiShley
or #phaylor 👬
A: 4 woa
B: 10 qt
C: 7 rg
D: 6 aos
E: 3 pt
im confused about myself bc i thought i was a words of affirmation but that was one of my lowest 😂
But what if they break up? Then it will be so weird at work...
Phil is just so dreamy. ❤️
Taylor is so funny!!! I love his jokes! XD
Jenn! You did such a great job with this topic and you could really see how engaged everyone was! Def gave us some great insight into how you guys think! I really enjoyed taking the quiz too :)
OMG PHIL AND TAYLOR THOUGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!! UGH GOALS!
I like that Taylor wrote down what everyone's language was. The golden rule is to treat others how you want to be treated, but the platinum rule is treat others how they wish to be treated. Good on you, Taylor!
My results were...
A=6
B=9
C=0
D=8
E=7
Experiences >>> things
I've found that most people who do have Acts of Service as their love language are usually the friends who're there for you in a heartbeat and most willing to help out. For example, if your car got broken into, an "acts of service" friend would be the one who'd show up at the parking lot and help you clean up the broken glass. Or if you had a friend going through a break up, they'd be the first with ice cream and wine at your door. :]
Another thing I've observed: Most immigrant parents appear to lean towards Acts of Service. Sometimes, the responsibility of trying to take care of one's family while adjusting to a new country leaves no room for the parents to have quality time with their children. Also, love languages also change over time. I have had several friends who used to have receiving gifts or words of affirmation as their love languages, but it all changed to quality time or acts of service once they got married or when they had kids.
Anyways, thanks for doing this! I'm actually surprised that you guys at WF haven't taken the quiz yet for yourselves. It's such an interesting concept that I thought you guys would have already used it as a resource for your videos.
2:08 that awkward pause may have been funnier than the actual joke HAHAHAH
I literally just watched Phil prepare his food for like two minutes into the show. And i felt happy when he took his first bite cause it took him so long to do it!
I show love by doing acts of kindness. I think it's because of sayings like "words are cheap" or "actions speak louder than words "but I think touch is what I appreciate or speaks to me because it seems like if things are tough in a relationship, if the other person still reaches out and takes my hand or gives a hug, it means everything will be all right or I want to work things out.
After reading the book and taking the test, I’m definitely Physical Touch. I can be told the nicest thing in the world but I won’t feel as loved if I don’t get a hug right afterwards.
Jenn and Ashley saying Yeah you do! was so cute
interesting, I was actually tied between words of affirmation and physical touch. personally I just feel like I can serve, buy gifts and spend time with anyone in my life. but being physically intimate or expressing love and admiration is something special for those you love.
BAHAHA Ashley's face at Phil saying they have similar love languages 😌😂
If anyone is interested, the book that this is based on is by Gary Chapman, called "The Five Love Languages."
Thanks for doing this! It was fun to watch. :)
Do you guys remember the short where Phil likes giving weird, long, and awkward hugs? Imagine if Phil was actually like that. 😂
Whoa! New logo!
"I'm just trying to CHAIRish this"
- Phil quote of the year, 2016
Quality time and physical touch are mine. Give me a meaningful hug and 4 or more hours of your day and I'm golden.
I had acts of service as my top one too! I think it kind of relates to the how Asian parents express love WF made too - growing up in a Chinese family, I feel like I've just learned that action speaks louder than words
"Not Taylor's physical touch." omg his face. LOL
If my years of saving notes and cards are any indication, I definitely value receiving words of affirmation. On the flip side, I can be disappointed if someone doesn't verbally express their appreciation for something I've done or if they don't greet me on my birthday. When it comes to showing people I care, I tend to do that through acts of service. I generally don't buy gifts for people unless I know that's their love language. If food were a love language, though, that would be at the top for me.
ASHLEY YOU ARE GOALS
Did the quiz some time ago. I was tied like Jen. Words of Affirmation and quality time.
Do more quizzes please! 🤗
Love languages work with any type of relationship, romantic, friendship, even work. I think it would be good if the entire wong fu team took the love language test and applied it to each other, in the work place, I believe that when you love one another everyone is happier and everyone's is on top of their game and work climate will improve. so when you guys have time take time to learn about the rest of the groups love language :) also the love language book by gary chapman is a great read and helped my relationships. btw mine is physical touch.
I actually took this quiz when I was in middle school and back then I got "receiving gifts", but now in college it is "quality time". It's interesting to see that my love language has developed over the years and that my experiences have changed the way I view love.
I got Quality time:10, Physical touch:8, Receiving gifts:5, Words of affirmation:4, Acts of service:3
I've known mine for quite a while. I value acts of service and quality time!! It's amazing because when I looked back, I realized how it doesn't only apply in romantic relationships, but also with my family. It's true that your love language not only shows how you want to receive love but most likely express it as well 😊
P.S. Hi Phil ❤️ HAHAHA
Ashley and Jen are sooo cute
"I appreciate you... doesn't mean shit. Hey I appreciate you, tell me what you really feel." Taylor had me dying 😂
And remember that the love languages are for ALL relationships, not just romantic ones. That makes it easier to tell which one is yours. Of course most people like holding hands with their SO, but do you still do it with your mom or your friend? I think it can be helpful to know your loved ones' love languages so that you can "speak" their language more. I don't really like physical touch that much, but I try to go out of my way to hug my friends or family members who care about it a lot.
Quality and Physical Touch heree
also hehe on Taylor taking notes about everyone x)
i like the new "more wong fu" icon!!! super cute! it looks like something i think i saw on the snap :D #SNAPFAM
I got words of affirmation. I also enjoy quality time too! I love you Wong Fu because I enjoy the quality time of when I watch your videos
is that wes's bowl? 😂😂
Actually there are love languages people prefer to receive and languages they like to use to express love and they are not necessarily the same for a person. The test only measure the languages you like to receive. And it is both about expecting such language, and feeling loved when someone "speak" the language to you. Sometimes it means feeling disappointed when it is denied from you, despite receiving other languages.
yess, jenn and I share the same love language (had also quality time and words of affirmation in the fronts)
Love the whole wongfu crew
I think it makes sense that things that are harder for someone make it their love language. For example, I am a busy person and quality time is my love language. I like having things to do, like if I'm in school I'll join clubs, or during the summer I'll go volunteer somewhere or find a job, so that makes sense that if I choose to spend time with someone that's how I show my love for them, and vice versa, if someone decides to spend time with me.
I've always shipped Ashley and Phil but Wong fu is like an all around communities type thing so idk but ily Wong fu
u guys r reading way 2 much in2 this. they're co-workers; that's awkward
This is something everyone should be aware of. My husband and I learned about this before we got married and I am so glad we did, it changed the way we treat and understand each other for the better!
Please read the book by the man who spent years researching and developing this, "5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman.
I'm glad you guys did this! And Phil, I knew you would be acts of service based on how you behave. Please read more about it, it'll make everything clear and you'll love it!
I started trying to take the quiz with them, and then it jumped from like 11 to 19 :/
Phil is that bowl from Target??? Lol I have one that looks v similar.
ITS OK PHIL! I heard your chair-ish pun at 6:13!! :'D LOL
Mine was words and quality time. I love how Phil and Ashley feel obligated to explain that they're really not service-grabbing fiends 😂
hi Jennnn!!~
Acts of Service was definitely my highest. At this point in life, that's definitely what I appreciate most. It could definitely change later on in life when priorities change.
For mine, I got:
11 Acts of Service
7 Quality Time
6 Physical Touch
6 Words of Affirmation
0 Receiving Gifts
I"VE GOT YOUR BACK PHIL! :DD
I miss christine and her water bottle. *cries a river
You can give and receive love differently!! I give physical touch all the time but receiving it is so blah to me - I'm right there with ya phil!
Mine and Phil's are pretty much the same. I got 5 on Words of Affirmation, too. My highest one is Acts of Service, because I am a busy person and having someone to voluntarily offer his time to help me is something I really appreciate, though it burdens me sometimes because when someone openly helps me with school work, I feel like I'm disturbing them or something like that. I got 8 and on Quality time but only 2 on Physical Touch. Hahahaha, as much as I love skinship, I guess I don't do it often.
9, 10, 1, 5, 5; in order: affirmation, quality time, gifts, acts of service, physical touch.
I'm very fragile in my personality, so I am the most happy when spending time with someone when I can be sure of them liking me. Gifts are really nice, but I feel like it's more important to be there for someone and help them out when needed than just give them gifts and then disappear. That wouldn't work out. And physical touch feels pretty good, the innocent one because I'm asexual as hell, but I wouldn't want them to touch me all the time. Just a little kiss on the forehead and I'm happy for the next hour, haha.
That was actually an incredibly helpful quiz, I understand myself so much better now.
Phil's TWO fingers up when he talks about volunteering as tribute 😂