Therapist Answers "Do You Cry in Session?" and "Is Crying Good for You?"
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Sometimes I get asked “Do you cry in session? Do you cry with clients?”
And "Is crying good for you?"
The answer is "Yes, of course I do."
I am one of those people where there’s a direct connection from my emotions to my tear ducts.
I think I’m a highly sensitive person.
I cry easily.
I remember one time when I was in elementary school, we watched a movie about a girl and her horse. She loved the horse, and when the horse died, I sobbed so much that the teacher asked me if I was okay.
And that scene in I Am Legend when the dog dies, I ugly cried, snot and all in the theater. I pretty much hate books and movies with animals because they always die and that makes me sob - like whose idea is it to make kids read Where the Red Fern Grows and Old Yeller and all the other books where the dog dies?
I’m so good at crying that I even got an award for it at work once. We were having a special naming ceremony and my boss honored me with the name “Weeping heart seeker.”
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I have worked with many therapists. The first time I saw a therapist cry was a male therapist who I hadn't felt was really even listening or was truly in the same room. it took me aback and I realized that my perceptions of others caring about my stuff were somehow skewed. It was a real growth period for me. So my answer would be yes I would prefer a therapist to respond in that most authentic physical evidence of empathy.
Why would you want advice from such a weak person…someone who has not overcome their own issues?
@ Fresh Living
How's that mentality working for you? That there are perfect people who don't have emotions and then everyone else is weak or broken?
@@TherapyinaNutshell Having a renewed mind is AMAZING!
People hold on to emotions because they have never experienced Love.
To be emotional is to be controlled.
To know Love is to be free.
Overcome your emotions so that you too can be free.
@Beth Marshall You have fear not me.
Understanding who you are is healthy.
@LoneSoldier Gaming Can anyone translate this for me pls?
I remember the first time my current therapist cried while in session with me and I at first didn’t know what to do but once I got over the transference I was starting to experience, I then I felt so understood and not alone. It’s something I now value so much when he not only holds space for authentic emotion for me but he showcases that.
I have never had a therapist cry with me in session. I think there is a perception (wrongly) that it is unprofessional. I admire your authenticity.
I think crying is one way to release the tension we hold onto. The body needs to release stress in some form or fashion. Crying is one of those ways & I always feel better afterwards.
Thank you for sharing your experience.
You feel better after?…and then you cry again right…and again and again and again, etc etc etc etc.
Get the picture, it doesn’t help you to overcome the real issue you have.
You are being deceived if you think you are “releasing stress”.
All you are doing is coping but not overcoming.
Effectively you are simply EXTENDING your suffering instead of understanding it.
@Beth Marshall 🤣🤣😂😂..we are spiritual beings. What has a degree got to do with knowing who you are.
Look around you at all the degree'd folks and the state the world is. Is it getting better or worse having all these "clever" people with degrees.
I like your sense of humour Beth😂😂
@@freshliving4199 Yeah we have to work through our emotions too, Learn from them and talk about them. But crying is important for expressing and releasing and def helpfull in a lot of times, It can also be very refreshing and help to think and feel more clear
Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep. Romans 12:15. My biblical counselor weeps with me and it has always struck deeper into my healing when she connects with my pain on such an intimate level. I feel understood in way I didn't expect. That acknowledgement ,and sharing in my suffering through empathy, has always left me feeling less alone and lighter of heart. I also feel the genuine love of a fellow sister in Christ in those raw moments. That tenderness and care offers so much comfort and an oasis in rough seas. 💛
I was about to post this verse! Thank you for sharing this and thank you, Emma for being real and encouraging 🙏🏽❤️✝️👣🌄
I love this verse and appreciate your sharing it. Some people think that Christians have it all together and that following Jesus means we will never suffer. When a sister in Christ is real with me, I consider it a gift that she trusts me and that I can trust her with my deepest emotions. We all suffer, in big and small ways, and what a relief it is to have someone who isn't judging or trying to manage their own anxiety by saying things like, "Don't worry, it's going to be ok." "Pray about it." While that's all good advice, it causes me to shut down. I love this channel and Emma's authenticity.
Love this!
Just heard on another channel that the narcissists consider showing love and all emotions as a weakness. And we are not them. So there is nothing to be shame of if you cry. It is a sign of healthy emotional reaction.
My grandfather was my war hero and he cried. That didn't change his "status" in my eyes. But it changed me. I understood that showing openly your emotions requires courage and is nothing to be shame of.
My therapist has teared up a few times and it makes me feel validated
I think you are truly beautiful for being so open and it makes you even more helpful, kind, and healing :) hope this simple sincere comment fills you with a warm feeling and makes you smile :) goodnight starlight
Thanks for saying this. I've definitely cried in sessions with clients. I often tear up when I say something positive and extremely genuine to a client.
There's a lot of human tragedy to cry about.
I needed to hear this so bad! The reason I went to therapy in the first place was because I felt like I cried too much.. and I came out of therapy discovering a whole lot more about myself but I didn't cry any less than before, I just changed how I felt about it!
Laughing out loud with tears of joy here! Tears come to my eyes when I am in session with my clients too :) It's natural and I hope it allows them to feel it's perfectly fine and beneficial to cry. I learned this was okay when my own therapist's eyes would tear up; I felt immensely cared about, like I mattered. And that was an important part of my healing.
I love your videos and refer my client’s to them. I’m a trauma/attachment therapist and cry as well in sessions, and my client tell me that that made a big difference in allowing/modeling for them the ability to connect with self through all data points, including our emotions. Keep making this great content :)
I am an empath so i cry all the time when Pple tell me their stories, it can even be in text and i will be there crying with them (or maybe i am the only one crying how would i know lol). I cry easily even when sharing good news i will cry. My emotions have always made me feel very volatile but i have embraced them, good and uncomfortable. They are mine to process, mine to feel and if i feel other peoples emotions too and help them process their situation i feel great coz at least i have made one person's life better and easier.
yes!
I can so relate to this, Annabel. 🤗
I am the same 💚 and still learning to embrace this side of my self
My therapist never cried in any sessions even when I cried xD so I was really wondering if any therapist cried during sessions. Its so nice to hear your experience 🌿
Yeah, like I said, my friends who are therapists don't generally cry easily but I'm an easy crier so I just let it out.
Mine never cries either and it makes me feel he is hard and doesn't care. It makes it harder to be open.
@@barbarapettinger5687 I can relate :/
@@TherapyinaNutshell me too I also cry very easily
I really appreciate your honesty! I think with emotions it's a very good idea to neither cling too hard nor resist too much, but instead let them flow, that way it's like what you said where you can bounce between them naturally.
I just need to write it :). I think it's amazing what example you show to your clients. And that you tell them that this is how you process and that it is fine. I think it can tremendously help people who have problems with their emotions. For me, seeing therapists etc. embodying what they teach is the most helping and healing thing. And the fact that you accept yourself fully this way is the best example and support you can give. Thank you :)
I used to bury my emotions. Now when I feel the tears I let them flow no matter where I am. Stuffing your emotions only builds the pain.
True, i tend to stuff my emotions....
@@Peanuts76 I learned that it doesn’t help,crying is a release of the pain. Try going into a quiet room and write things down that you feel are bothering you.💞
I LOVE this whole video! It is a pretty rare thing to find someone who is willing to be real. To be an example as well as teach healthy emotional expression in a safe space. I am thankful that I found you on UA-cam! What a blessing you are to all of us. Thank you!!
Wow such great advice!!! Great to know that me being an emotional person is not a sign of weakness but instead a complete opposite. Thank you for all ur informative videos . Thank you for choosing a work field to help ur fellow next man!! ❤️🙏🏼
Shows your strength 🙏✨🇬🇧
Being emotional is a sign of anger and unforgiveness.
Anger is weakness while Love is strength.
To be emotional is to be controlled by anger.
Overcome the anger to experience true freedom.
I noticed that when i let myself cry at sessions, my client's therapy gives results very fast. When i hold it in, it goes slower.
Tears just roll out of my eyes when I am watching this. There are times we wish someone could understand our emotions and what we are going through in life. We do not want sympathy but compassion, someone who is capable of feeling what we are feeling, someone who genuinely cares for our emotional well being and desires to see us getting well....Thank you, Emma for what you are doing. You are living a purposeful life.
Thank you for sharing your vulnerability and personal experience. I also have been hard wired from my heart to my tear ducts and have struggled with that my whole life. Growing up in the 70’s -80’s and having a father that made me feel weak and showed only disgust when I cried surely didn’t help. Only recently, through therapy, I have learned to not only accept it but to look at it as a strength and as a way to genuinely be myself. This has not been easy as a man in the highly masculine environment I work, but I am committed to honoring myself and creating a space that others may find acceptance if needed. Thank you for your work and for providing this resource.
When i was young i had the same experiences and became a master at becoming numb. Im just learning the beauty of the healing power of crying.
I was punished when I cried when I was a kid.I understand now, we were poor, my parents both worked full time jobs and were not properly equipped to be compassionate and patient with me (they were not bad people they were just over stressed on top of having no spare energy for a child). As a result I learned to replace sadness with anger. I'm a parent of 2 now and I find myself getting irritated when my kids cry, not for the same reasons as my parents though. I feel for me it's more so that I was never taught how to process emotions and therefore I struggle in that area in my own parenting. Luckily for me I have easy access to help, such as your channel, and it really helps me to properly help my kids. I also have been crying a lot more in recent months as I navigate through my own emotional blockages. To my surprise, the adults in my life now are giving me much more compassion and support than I experienced as a child.
You are phenomenal... totally agree with you and suppression comes at a real cost .. been dealing with depression since I was a young boy (had no idea then) and now I'm 60 .. your videos are perfectly on the mark. And now I'm not shy to speak of it and cry about it either. Thanks to a therapist much like you ... a beautiful soul. 🤗🤗🤗
I worked in the icu for many years and since I’m an interpreter I can’t allow myself to cry . So for many bad cases or even end of life I could not cry . But what’s you said happens to me I became numb not just for sad or emotional moments but just completely stopped enjoying life , music , drawing everything was numb . I left my job and now it’s been a year and I’m still trying to process those deaths and honoring those Life’s . It’s been hard
I cry very easily. I taught ladies class at church and became known for my tears. I believe being a therapist who is authentic to herself is great. Love your videos. Thank you.
this was a very helpful video, i am currently in therapy and felt ashamed to cry in front of my therapist but now i am feeling more comfortable.
Thanks to your videos and your How to Process Your Emotions course, I am learning to cry more at age 59. Learning to see crying as a positive thing that will make me feel better, instead of seeing it as a weakness, has really helped me. I have a lot to cry about right now in my life (sick cat, sick mother), so I try to take comfort in my tears, knowing I will come out of this difficult time just fine, instead of with depression and anxiety. Thank you so much for doing these kind of videos to educate the public about emotional health! ❤
Thank you, Emma. I’m so happy I found you, I could cry. To the world you are one person but to one person, you could be the world. You may be saving many lives with your tender caring work. You are truly a diamond in the rough. 💕☀️
I love your videos and I'm very grateful for you ❤️
I felt the amazing benefits of crying once. I cried for almost an hour, really cried hard into a pillow, sobbing, crying like I'd never cried before. My stomach stopped hurting afterwards! I'm 29, this happened last year. I suffer with really bad stomach aches from the anxiety and turmoil I've had all my life. I litteraly don't remember not having pains in my tummy. Yet after this crying session all my stomach pain went away, I was really shocked.
Well, yeah, I wished I would have heard that in my childhood, too.
I used to also cry very easily and was often made fun of for that, so I started to numb myself down.
And here I go, today I am cronically depressed and barely feel anything, so I can defoe confirm this is a very good piece of advice.
Wonderful Video.. I am crying with tears of joy after watching your this particular video , never knew that tears had such a huge background to them, I have observed that when I cry, later on I feel a sense of relief and calm & I can actually get over the situation in a much better faster effective way .. Thank You Emma McAdams Madam for educating us
You are a sweet champion of being human 🤍. That’s how I see you. It was healing for me to listen this for so many reasons. Your joy is definitely my favorite part. And every point you make has so much depth, thoughtfulness, and honesty!
I’m currently struggling with fighting my emotions and hearing you describe the efforts involved in suppressing emotions help me see the mechanics of *how* I’m fighting it. Instead of just “trying to feel,” I can notice the fighting part, and just relax it some. It’s easier to think of it that way instead of how i usually do…dreadingly trying to force an anticipated emotional breakdown.
The point you make about mirroring really touched my heart and struck a deep chord with me. I thought that was beautiful. ❤️❤️❤️
You’re an amazing human. I feel like your honesty is glorious. I’m a crier at times, and hold a stiff upper lip in others. My empathic sensory sometimes puts up a wall so I don’t have to take in all the vibrations at the moment, then it pours out later.
I cry. Boy, do I cry. For decades I wish I had more control over it. If my therapist cried during a session I think I would feel heard. Thank you Emma for all that you do.
Your videos are helping me so much at the perfect time in my life when I need this information. Thank you so much for your “tender heart”, it’s helping to heal mine! ☺️
I would feel a deep comfort from the empathy you show in crying. The sweetest and kindest compliment my Mom ever said to me was that I had her empathy in me. To cry, to feel and share those emotions is a tender connection to share with another person. I have always felt very different from people who do not cry, it's such an honest expression in both joy and sadness. Thank you for sharing this, it's empowering.
You are so cool. Thanks for the authenticity.
Today I cried when I looked at myself in the mirror and said "I love you". Never done that before but I'm working on saying that to my wife, my parents and siblings. I have anxiety related to attachment and closeness with people. Maybe because my parents divorced when I was 3. I cried the second and third time I did that in the front of the mirror all within a minute. That was a good sign I'm onto something with this :)
I have never had the experience of having a therapist cry during a session but I think I would really appreciate that. I think it would be surprising at first but it would help me feel more comfortable to feel my feelings.
-Sarah
I am a professional cryer.. haha. I always thought I cried too much and was embarrassed about it, but I was told I don’t cry enough. I have learned that I have a lot of compassion and empathy for others and my tears are good, relieving, and brings a ton of freedom to me and those around me. It is a gift.
I can totally identify with your tears 'story,' because I am the same way, crying easily in response to the tears of others, and so on. Thanks for this!
As a therapist I have cried during sessions. I feel it is acceptable for therapist to cry; as long as they stop before the client does!
Never had a therapist cry. I definitely am sensitive & cry easily. But it feels do much better after agood crying session 💜
It's important to be authentic with clients. I've cried many times with a client we as humans are wired into each others emotions. It shows the client that their experience is validated and you are listening.
Bless you.💛🙏...breathe through the tears. I remember the video about your friend....i was sobbing big time x
Your video where you were talking about your friend was my introduction to you.
Thank you for being You.
I've learned so much!
Thank for this. I'm a newly practicing psych NP and I have almost cried on a few occasions with my patients. I significantly teared up today... couldn't keep those suckers in!
Thanks for sharing this. Sometimes I feel like a cry baby but you make me feel better for understanding.
I loved when you showed emotion in your past video. As a male my wife likes to tell me its ok to show emotion, she comments "Real men Cry". As I get older I cry more and more.
Thank you for adressing this. Also, thank you comment section. I can relate to soooo many comments. It gives me a new perspective of understanding myself.
Yes! The more you fight something, the harder it will rise back up... look it in the eye and know that feeling it all the way through is a sign of your strength!
I LOVE crying and I loved moving my therapist to tears.
Thankyou for your authentic its. I think it is a plus to show your clients you walk the talk and how connected you are to their needs. Bless you heaps.
I'm a big animal lover. When I worked at a veterinary hospital I had to bring clients in the room with their pets for euthanasia. Cried with them every time. It was mentioned in my employee of the month write up. I would try so hard not to, and then I would tell myself..at least they know I care. Your clients know you care. I agree, I don't watch animal movies because I can't handle when they die. I'm also an HSP and forever been known to cry easily.
An award for crying 😂 Sign me up love, that's what I need 🙋🏼♀️
I'm an empath and HSP so I'm often misunderstood but your video was very validating and relatable (as usual!) and I'm super grateful and appreciative of that 🙏
I feel my therapist doesn't have any sympathy when I cried in my session for something true. She just observed me as an object of psychology. I don't even know if she cares?
With all due respect, some therapists are just not good. I have been to many therapists who passed judgements on my face when I was emotionally vulnerable.
Oh yeah.... I feel you
Would it be possible to talk about it with the therapist?
@@hannahh8119 as a therapist... Probably not a great idea. If the relationship has no trust, being vulnerable is not a good plan.
Yeah, I mean different therapists have different approaches, if you give that therapist a chance and just don't feel the safety/connection you may need to find a different one. I don't always cry with my clients, there are times they are really upset and I'm just not feeling it...but other times I do cry with them, even if they aren't crying.
I cry easily but I also stuff my feelings and emotions- my hubby tells me I'm not a little girl anymore or stop feeling sorry for myself- it's so hard so I try not to cry around him!!! We moved to be with his Mom away from my family friends and home state after losing my mom 2 years ago- and now my tears won't stop😭 I've been stuffing and now I'm so ready to let them out - I feel sad and homesick and that's ok !!!!
Crying helps, but would I like if my therapist cried, idk. Staying calm is for me is also soothing because that usually indicates that the problem is not unorthodox and there are practical steps for healing. That being said, DONT CHANGE Emma, you have a kind soul that wants to help which is a beautiful thing 😄
I think it's wonderful you cry with your clients. I feel like I just recently got in touch with my emotions cuz I was really burnt out from not expressing them not knowing how before I couldn't take it anymore. So I find myself crying and I really feel that it helps me vent and let it out once I did let myself cry.
How liberating! I loved your video.
Thanks I was ashamed when I cry but any more after your impact
You know, looking you, and many good peoples out there kind a calm me down n help me process my anger....
Bad things happened for me for like years, decades, dealing with so many Narcisist and toxic people exhaust me, triggers me, when those toxic negative people is your family, is hard to seeing positive stuff around, thank you for this video Emma
Def you are a highly sensitive person and a very beautiful person. Also feels like you are a great professional. Crying is a great tool our body has
Oh my good, I cried so hard to Where the Red Fern Grows...Old Dan and Little Ann...I'm 54 years old and I still remember their names, and I read that book when I was 10. I still cry today...when I watch someone on TV lose a child (no, I'm not a parent), or when I watch Lion King...or when I watch Inside Out. Even as a young child, there was a hit song called Mr. Bojangles where the dog "up and died" and I would get the biggest lump in my throat.
I knew I could not pursue graduate studies in psychology. I could not listen to people traumas and heartbreaks, I would be exhausted. I'm genuinely confident though, and my locus of control is far more internal than external, so I got lucky there.
There are WAY TOO MANY therapists who are narcissists, and man, that should just be against the law (or malpractice, at the least). The only people a narcissist should be licensed to treat are other narcissists.
I have cried with my clients as well. I used to feel that was not good, but over the past few years I have realized that it make me human. I want to present myself in an honest way to my clients. Truth is important to me.
You are right. Crying is a healthy way to release whatever that is bottled up inside us. We should allowed ourselves of that previlege. A lot of my life has been suppressed of emotion for decades. I do not want others to see that I cannot cope. Thanks Emma.
Love to hear the way you live life. Makes things more able to apply (like feeling emotions)
I’ve been bawling my eyes out all day being passed around different mental health phone numbers and some didn’t even work even the Samaritans who didn’t answer the phone three times when I phoned them.
I am alone (no family AT ALL and no “friends”. Times like today really highlight my real reality that I’m alone and when I need to talk to someone I don’t really have that. Like they said they can only “listen” not really give counselling and give me different numbers to call.
I’ve been discharged from time 2 talk as the counsellors agree that i’ve got a lot of trauma to work on and they don’t have time only 6 sessions allowed and upto 2 years waiting list.
I’m on benefits and living in temporary accommodation from the council and can’t afford proper therapy😭
UK mental health system os awful.
Im training as a therapist and wondered about this. I' m like you and tear ducts wide open!
Came to this video after googling "can you be a counselor if you cry easily?" I'm applying for my masters now and this is the one thing that is making me question if I could do the job. It's reassuring to read that others are in the field and are the same way.
I’m one of those emotions stuffers. I don’t cry easy . I told myself when I was younger that it wasn’t ok to cry anywhere outside my home environment.
Even now… at 27 years old. I’m just now learning in therapy showing uncomfortable emotions like anger and sadness is ok. Just recently before thanksgiving, I cried and cried and cried in front of my therapist. Since I’ve been holding in my tears, everything makes me cry these days . But I still am aware of safe places to do it. And one of those safe places is with my therapist.
My husband died suddenly in January and I am at the point where crying is too tiresome and exhausting. Sometimes while crying I will think “what’s the point, it’s not going to bring him back”. I am numb at this point maybe. Trust me, crying at a movie is not the same as crying for your dead husband. It’s a gut wrenching despair cry that takes everything out of you. It’s physically painful. The first few months I cried whenever I needed to but now I am too tired. I am a solo mom to two young girls now so maybe I am tired because of that too.
I think I would like to cry more.
Oh wow! After watching your video, I feel such relief! There is someone just like me like crying so much! I always cry if I watch sad parts movies. My parents have been always making fun of me, laughing at me, even now I always have to hide whenever I feel crying. Don’t want to feel week and embarrassing. Yes, my therapist cried with me few times, It makes feel compassionated. Once I saw her crying, I cried even harder. Feel like it was hard for me to experience those experience.
I’m definitely the same!! 100%! Very sensitive…. Thanks for the videos! ❤️
Loved that I found your channel. I’m a big advocate of mental health. I appreciate your work . Sharing this video. My name is LaVonne. Tuning in from Ohio
Thank you for everything you do. Your videos are so precious, and beautifully true
I'm like you and I always remind myself to see this as one of my strengths.. Love u Emma!❤
Crying always helps me feel better, especially when I'm unable to express my feelings. Thank you so much for making this video. I'd be more grateful if you could make a video on how we can help others who cry; How we can approach them and start a dialogue with them.
Αn award for crying. I also deserve this award 🤣🤣 And believe its a gift
I want sobbed in an airport. I was there alone with my 2 kids after a 14 hour flight was 2 transits. I was queuing in a line to check in my bags Kennedy‘s airport NY, and I was super exhausted.
All of a sudden this woman and her mother and her husband started yelling at me and pushing my bags out of the way! I didn’t understand at first because I was genuinely frightened and in shock! I froze there I couldn’t say a word I just started crying and COULD NOT stop, and then I realized that they thought I cut the line, and for some reason they did not see me right next the wall next to them the entire time!!! I don’t remember what happened exactly but the man started to calm the other two women down and tried to make them stop yelling at me! The other people in line explained to them that I was queuing in the line, but I don’t remember the exact words I was a very helpless creature and could not explain myself whatsoever, and my two kids with me in shock. It was horrible and up until this day when I remember the incident I feel very bad and I would cry again! Even me writing this comment now, i’m crying!!!! I just want it to stop I don’t want to cry in situations like this. I HATE IT. It was horrible and I could not stop crying, one of the security guys in the airport walked me all the way to the shuttle train. I just can’t forgive what happened, and maybe part of it I can’t forgive myself because I did not stand up for myself especially in front of my kids! And that’s why I still cry when I remember the incident, and that’s why I hate absolutely hate the fact that I can easily cry and I wish I can make it STOP!
Definitely want to learn to be able to cry again. It’s honestly difficult, but I really want to, but even when I’ve going through a lot of difficult things, I know it’ll be good for me to cry, but I just can’t.
Me too 😒
I'm never sorry when I click on you and this was lovely to see a different side to you.
Me and my two brothers don't cry often , while my nephew can cry easier (we are all grown men).
I don't think we were exceptionally conditioned as my mum is loving- but my dad wasn't present in our house 🤔 but I wonder if its some nature vrs nurture is present in us.
Having said that crying freely is important and what you said about expressing emotions rather than holding them was spot on 🔴
I am also very sentimental, I can see someone crying and suffering and I feel there emotions aswell. 😢
Well I don't think there is anything wrong with your therapist crying with you at all and you are right it shows how much you care and that you were listening and being sympathetic and that you understand.
I've had my therapists cry with me sometimes. To me, it feels like they understand more about how I feel, and I have to honestly say, I feel guilty making them cry! I also think that it's their way of release as well, just like the patient needs it as well. Thank you for this video, I never honestly thought about it before! Love your videos and keep them coming, I share links to your videos with my friends and I hope you don't mind that 🤞👍
I've learned that there are times when I do need to manage my emotional expression for a particular purpose. I also easily cry, and find it beneficial for me to process emotion, show empathy, and to connect with others. However, there are times when I've needed to suppress crying. For example, I've been asked at times to sing/perform musical numbers at funerals. At those times, I know I need to process my emotions ahead of time and manage my emotional state more carefully. (It is near impossible for me to sing and cry at the same time.... ) It is important to me that the performance is done well for the benefit of those grieving, and that they get as clear of a comforting message from the music as possible with as little distraction from me.
So...YES to crying, but I also try to be aware of the situation as well and do suppress/manage my expression of those emotions depending on the need.
I cry a lot, but rarely in public anymore. My tears haven't always been accepted in the past, so I too started to hide them. I have build walls around my emotions and only show the joyful me in public places. I'd love to be able to connect more with my feelings again when in company, because that'll make my relationships with others more meaningful to me.
To me it feels discouraging if the therapist feels too "brainy" or detached.
Love the video 🙂🎇.
Thank you for sharing. I cry a lot and easily too.
I cry at the movies. My bff always has a box of tissues in her bag, just in case. LOL! Sending lots of love💖 from sunny🌞 Arizona🌵😷
Hi Emma, thank you so much for all of your videos! I really appreciate you sharing your knowledge and helping others.
I remember crying at the movie Lion King when Mufusa died 😢
Honestly if a therapist cries my first thought is that they actually care about me.
Oh my God!!! Thank you so much for this video!!! I am OT and sometimes, I cried with my patients. And I felt kind of embarrassed. I am a totally crying person. My family and friends know that very well. (I got emotional watching tour video. Hahaha)
I accidentally made my college therapist cry. It was durring the 2020 election and I noticed that she was stressed. I asked her if she was ok. She admitted to me that she was stress and that she appreciated me asking. She tried to keep it short being she didn't want the section to be about her, but I left that section feeling good that I was able to help the person that was putting in so much time and effort to help me.
The other day I remembered a book from my childhood called "The Velveteen Bunny", so I simply looked up the plot on Wikipedia because I wanted to remember the story and I just started crying so hard!!!!! I'm a really sensitive person my go-to reaction whenever I experience most emotions is to cry, and my boyfriend turns around to me sobbing and asks me "what's going on??" and I'm just burst out "The velveteen bunny!!!!!!" and we both started laughing. I had to ask my mom how she could read that to me as a kid!! Like weren't we both just sobbing our eyes out? My mom said she had the lump in her throat every time.
I'm super sensitive and can't control my eyes. I get yelled at a lot because of it. How do you not cry? I am one who cries when other hurt too. Its like I feel their pain. I wish I could control it. Thank you so much