Someone said to me once that you might think you're being polite when you deflect a compliment, but you're actually telling the person who complimented you that they are wrong. It made accepting compliments with a simple thank you a bit easier for me.
I feel like your point on “enjoy being young and hot” actually always applies. A person can be hot at any age; it’s just a matter of confidence, self-understanding and appreciation and care for oneself. Dressing well and living a purposeful life never ages and it really shows! I know so many beautiful women of all ages, from 18 to 80, really.
I like your point on comfy clothes. For me, comfort is the most important thing but it is possible to be comfy AND stylish. With a long flowy dress, or bootcut / flared leg jeans, a cute sweater, nice sneakers or flat shoes... I have found out that having clothes on the right size plays a big role. I never wear super tight clothes anymore and it is a game changer !
Absolutely! This is exactly what I mean by there's somewhere in the middle between sweatpants and like a nice dress and heels - I think just one upping your leggings would make a difference to SO many people
Quality fabric is huge too. A basic tee in polyester feels worse imo than the same exact cut/size in cotton (or other natural fibers). Plus polyester holds onto stink so much more, so you feel less put together even if it looks fine.
For sure, I think it's a balance cause there are people out there that will make the comments about leggings or whatever else and it's like okay but are you never going to wear smart, dressy or even just normal clothing again? It's just leggings until you go to a wedding and have to wear a dress? If you start living like that it'll get even harder when that wedding comes to let GO of the leggings! I won't keep anything that's uncomfortable, if shoes hurt me or a dress or jeans or something really are that hard to get on and too tight then they're going, but I will still wear tight jeans and certain heels or wedges that are like, sure they aren't the epitome of comfort but they are situation and style appropriate and they're not hurting me so they're comfortable enough
Honestly, I think almost anything can feel like a second skin if the sizing is right. I spend a lot of time shopping for items that fit immaculately, I ditch anything that doesn’t feel right, and it’s the best thing that ever happened to my closet.
I have to admit that I wasn't convinced when you said you were gonna leave the lighter blonde behind but now that there's no sign of it I can see how much of a difference it makes. You look beautiful in both hair colors, but the one you have now just gives you such warmth and a gorgeous glow 🌟
Yes! Both are beautiful on her but the brown along with the hairstyle (and maybe the accent lol) are giving me a bit of a Kate Middleton vibe. It’s very elegant!
I really like the tip about not being afraid of standing out. Right now so many women look very similar and for many "stylish" equals "wearing the hottest trends on SM".
Similar to the point about not going blonde, my mom used to dye her hair to cover up her grays. It always looked really unnatural and so not her. She stopped dyeing her hair a couple years ago and I can tell it’s made her so much more confident!
I swear this hair change gave you a whole personality upgrade! You seem so much more grounded, relaxed and self-assured now. You even speak slower and your voice is a bit lower. Nothing was missing or wrong before but now with this new attitude it's like something clicked into place.
I would love to see a video on outfits that can be wear at interviews (professional or work appropriate) for every style root combination. Struggling here with stone, sun, flower 😅
You inspire me to be a better mom. I’m having a little girl and while I’m pregnant right now it’s hard sometimes to feel good and normal when my body is changing and I’m tired. But I think my positivity now will affect her and if I want to be a mom who raises a confident daughter I really need to be confident and grateful now, so I can have even more experience with it myself to someday teach her in a few years when she is a child who starts developing her own self-image. Confidence is generational and part of the legacy of beauty you pass to others, when it’s genuine and comes from the inside out. Thank you for all you do! Love your channel and I feel like we could be friends! Thankful you’re out here and I wish you every good thing. 💖
Girl your hair right now is honestly giving much sexier vibes!!! It’s got this Smokey Bond girl Parisian night club thing for it- I don’t even know what- but it’s awesome!
16:52 fun fact. Asymmetrical features are actually what makes people attractive compared to 100% symmetrical features,🥰 and no body even noticed those details except for you (as a a person). So yep you definitely look gorgeous and absolutely stunning❤. I really love your videos and by far this is my favourite.👏🏾🔥
All of them will! You are probably more beautiful now than you’ve ever been because you’ve lived and learned what’s important along the way. Enjoy being you!
There is so much I love about this video. And your twenties is absolutely not the hottest you will ever be. Hotness comes from self-knowledge, confidence, and experience. While society at large might equate youth with hotness, often true hotness comes with time. ❤
This post resonated with me. I’m 70, and I retired 5 years ago. I still consider fashion and style part of my lifestyle! I’ve learned so much from you, and others… in spite of the age gap! 😎😂. Fashion has more to do with personality, body, and spirit than age! Thanks for all your efforts! Good luck with your new book! 👍🏼👏🏼❤️. BTW..your hair is lovely!
Thank you for the encouragement to embrace the body you have, and thank you for creating the Style Scholars community. It's such a great group of people all lifting each other up in their unique beauty
I’m so amazed as a long time viewer, at how much I’ve witnessed you grow and mature in your confidence in this channel. I believe I’m a bit older than you at 26, however I’m truly blown away about how your advice about donating clothes that you’re mum has gifted/bought you has really hit home. Even the most practical ones of us struggle with this kind of sentimentality I think. Beautiful video, truly inspiring insights! Much love from Berlin, Germany💖
I had a custom color and style analysis in my 20's and it was the best thing I ever did for my style. I would really recommend it. The advice in this video is awesome Ellie-Jean!
I’m having a daughter and I hope to someday give something like that to her as a gift and make it a fun time she and I can enjoy together. I want to be the kind of mom who’s inspires her daughter to love and embrace herself exactly for who she is. Like my mom did, but even better.
When you look in the mirror and pick out every little thing you consider a flaw, and think negative, mean things about yourself, that's internalized misogyny and toxic beauty standards speaking. They were designed to make you feel unworthy no matter what you look like so that you buy more products that promise to "fix" you (but of course, the system wants you to always feel like you're not good enough for that sweet customer retention). On top of that, society wants you preoccupied with your appearance because otherwise you might start paying more attention to what's really wrong with the world. It's not a coincidence that most of us have a lot of self-hatred to deprogram.
Gosh I needed this video. I was about to go to the shops and just throw on an old hoodie and some leggings. I work a corporate job during the week and I am very much all or nothing. And I feel like on my days off I just look like a slob and I feel terrible. I get so anxious about potentially running into people when I don't look put together, but I also don't put together comfortable and cute outfits. So after this video I put on a cute outfit, some jeans, something in my colour palette and I feel a lot more put together to run errands now. Thanks! Also this hair colour looks amazing on you!
Thanks so much for your reply!! I love how you interact with your fans. Really excited to explore my style journey more. Love this tough love approach!@@elliejeanroyden
Love all this advice. I started getting my eyebrows tidied up every 2 months and it makes me feel so put together. One way I appreciate my youth and beauty is by not wearing makeup the majority of the time. Only for certain events or with certain outfits. My skin looks great right now so I want to let it shine, because I know it will not always look so naturally smooth and youthful.
I feel like in our teens and twenties we are experimenting and our bodies are different before kids/ chocolate catches up with us, so I am grateful to my younger self, style advice was in the Jurassic era back then for me and it was fun figuring it out xx
So true about loving yourself wherever you're at. Looking back at old photos of me I now appreciate how young and pretty I was, but back then I felt so insecure. Now I make a conscious effort to appreciate myself for what and who I am at this point in my life, though it's not always easy. It's a shame to go through life always finding reasons to put yourself down!
Yes!! Especially the hair part. Guys, all (I repeat ALL) hair colors are beautiful!! 💖 If you want to add some color, do it and do your research about how it will look with your skin tone and current wardrobe. If you don’t want to but you feel pressured to, DON’T. Embrace the natural in that case. There is only one you, enjoy and embrace it!
This is such great advice! Love you embracing your natural hair colour, it looks so great and harmonious on you. Bought your book, and I love it so much! Will be my fashion bible from here on out. Also my third style root might actually be earth not stone??? Your style roots section helped me solidify what I was sure of and what might not actually be right for me after all Great video, great advice 😊
I feel like going back to your natural hair colour has been so transformative for you! 😮 You really do look very beautiful in a timeless, seamless way. You seem to be radiating now differently than from before - more at easy, more comfortable and self-assured within yourself ✨🌲☄️🌬️ Kinda remind me a bit of Alexis Bledel as Rory here! 🥰
I am so sorry that I am writing this but after I lost some weight, most of my style problems were gone. I had way too more options without belly fat. I wish I had lost them earlier. Finding your style is very hard that way. Again, sad but true
I think the point she was trying to make is slightly different. I can speak from experience here; I had 3 years where I was 40lbs lighter and by all intents and purposes regular build, and then wound up regaining it all very fast, which did a number on my self esteem. But. When I regained the weight I had thought I was so much happier when I was smaller? I wasn’t. I still disliked how I looked and felt self-conscious and ugly. And to be honest? Weight changes some things, but it doesn’t change the shape of your face that much, or your body that much. If you think your limbs are too short, they’re still gonna be short if you’re thin. If you don’t like how your face looks? It’s still going to look like your face, but thinner. Weight can help with some things, but losing weight won’t magically change you into another person. So if you don’t like yourself, weight might not change that.
@@autumnhobbit I see your points. I think it all depends your body type (yet again) and especially the distribution of weight gained. Your body's tendency. In my case it makes a huge difference, and yes even for my face. Maybe it is also about the way you like to dress. For example I love using belts, tucking in, thin fabrics. In my case it is not easy to dress the way I want if I gain weight. Unfortunately I am not that brave, not at all. I spent lots of time searching for a way to feel stylish. Sometimes I managed. But it took a lot of effort and time. I wish I had used that resources to lose weight. And again I wish with all my heart that I didn't feel that way. But of course, this is only my experience. It might be only about me. But I sense it is not.
I have scoliosis and the “lopsided” thing, too, haha. I felt encouraged by this. Especially the thing about sacrificing *some* comfort. Too many influencers don’t talk about that and all and I appreciated the realness. In fact, it inspired me to put on a nice outfit and get myself out of the funk I was in today. Thanks, Ellie! ❤️
Totally agree with hair. ANd whilst yes, there are some people that can pull off a relaxed, undone hairstyle, it does not work for me. It immediately ruins any effort I might have put into make up and clothes and makes me look messy. But if my hair is nice and shiny I can get away with little make up and even more casual clothes and still look put together. I have straight fine hair, but apparently a lot of it, so it gets tangled and messy very easily and just clashes with the style I want to emulate.
Thank you for your insightful content. Your videos and now your book have been the single most influence on helping me find my way style wise...and that's is saying a lot because I'm 46 and have been at this for quite awhile and haven't really been able to get it together until i found your videos. I wish you all the best in your endeavours and congratulations on the success of your book,you deserve it and more..💞💞💞
17:15 such a beautiful point. “This is your lot.” - so good. Embrace your lot and play around with it. Love it. Can I just say it has been so much fun watching you and your channel grow?
I was thinking “hmm I’m almost 29, I probably don’t need this video” but clicked anyway bc I watch all of your videos and I def still learned more from you here!
Ellie-Jean has an amazing you have so many older followers. I’m in my fifties and you are so wise! These are thoughts I have all the time about young women who stress about their looks. Enjoy your life. Fashion is fun!
Today I used one of the outfits that were my "usual" before I started my personal Journey and... Now I don't feel ok in it. I don't like the shape, colors... I've changed and evolved and it feels great that I feel more confident about who I am.
i lost a bunch of trauma weight in my early 20's and somehow came out on the other side less confident. i'm 3 months into my journey and somehow more confused than i started but im determined to stick with it! also a note about 17:00 i also have scoliosis along with some other back issues and there's a very solid chance thats why you feel your face may be "lopsided". long term scoliosis twists the whole skeletal-muscular system. i was fortunate enough to get to undo a lot of the damage from mine going untreated in my youth but i never noticed how significant the effect of it was until it started reverting
I'd like to add a new tip: stop following influencers that make you self-conscious or in need to buy a certain product to feel good, it's perfectly okay to outgrow people you've looked up to in the past but don't relate to anymore! (Obviously Ellie is one that I love and has made me feel more confident and has made me buy more consciously :) )
This is a great post! I stopped wearing leggings a few years ago because they just weren’t flattering on my aging body. My lifestyle is totally casual, I am retired and I rarely leave my home. I invested in well fitting jeans and nicer tee shirts and I feel better about how I look even if no one sees me. Thank you for excellent content. I am in the US, so I am still waiting on your book, it says it won’t arrive until January 7. Feels like an eternity, lol 😂 ❤
Ellie!! Your hair looks absolutely amazing! I love how your eyes are absolutely popping with this darker colour!!!❤ And I love this video!! So very helpful!!!
I’ve found fit and material to be the ultimate things to contribute to my comfort. If something fits well and is made out of a preferred material I feel way more comfortable than in leggings or sweatpants that don’t fit made out of a material that bothers me. Polyester makes me sweat so hard Dx and any fleece stuff always seems to need fluffing
You look great in mountain 💕 and I just wanted to say I love how open you've been about your process of figuring your own style roots out, its been fun following along and seeing you get closer to your true style, and has reflected my own experience with the system. Thanks!
I just wanted to thank you so much, for the big effort you put in all of your videos. Only trough your Channel i learned, that i don't have to change my body, but rather my wardrobe. And that there are clothes which make everyone look good. As a ladydressmaker i soon recognized that kibbe does not include a lot of womens bodies, but thanks to you i learned to change my point of view. thank you so much!
Great video. I was actually typed by you and found out I’m a soft gamine. A lot of people hate on kibbe but I think having some sense of how the world sees me in a more objective way, as well as relating to iconic people who look like me like Reese Witherspoon or Winona Ryder has helped me come to terms with how I look. I now see myself in a much better light, where I used to struggle a lot with my appearance, I now have a better sense of what clothes make me feel good and I accept my face. Thanks girl!!! I get what you do and why you do it. You make a difference.
As a 37 y.o woman i am perhaps not the target audience for this video haha. But no. 4 resonates so much with me! Back in my early 20s in college, before any party/ fancy outing my friends and i would do an hour long telephone session deciding what we would wear 😂 sadly though the typical 2000s "party outfits" were the ABSOLUTE WORST for my Soft Classic body type! And i would end up in some trendy embellished low-rise jeans with a chunky belt and butterfly top or something and then wonder why i looked so weird.... I actually started having my own sense of "style" in my mid/ late 20s. And embracing that has made a world of difference! So who cares if am the only one in a dress sometimes 😁
Omg girl. Never color your hair blonde again. This is YOUR color!!!!!! It looks incredible on you and just makes every part of you glow! I’m so happy you went to your natural color! 😍☺️ Absolutely gorgeous!
I love most of these. I plan all my outfits ahead. I buy very few pieces and only those I really love. And I recently updated my hair and started investing more time/energy/money into it - which has really tied my look together. However, I don't know that style and comfort really have to trade off. It depends on your personal style! I do have my "house only" ultra cozy clothes. And my work clothes are definitely less comfortable than my WFH clothes. But my daily drivers (WFH, errands, farmers markets, museums, etc) are maxi skirts, oversized button downs, combat boots, and boho dresses. They are all so comfy. I've literally hiked in most of them at some point or another (I have a very hard time passing up a good trail when I see one...) And they all mesh perfectly with my style!
Of course! That piece of advice is for people who only wear leggings, sweatpants and hoodies everywhere and want to feel more stylish - people in this mindset would see those items you mention as uncomfortable. This is what I meant by sacrificing the comfort just a tiny bit - even if it's the comfort of not thinking about what you have to wear today that can be a hurdle to get over for some. It sounds like you have a great sense of style!
I want to add to #12 cause I have a mother that will not let me live down any item that shes ever given me!!! She asked me 2 days ago why I never wore the top she got me 15 years ago when I was like 17. I would probably ask someone that too but she asks me a couple times a year. I told her a store I liked at the time and so she got me something there that I honestly could not figure out how to wear cause it just wasnt my style (which mustve been hard to find cause I love almost everything at that store) but I wore it once to make her happy and had to get rid of it when decluttering. Hhhhhhhh. Just wanted to add that sometimes they will care. They will press you. And you should still get rid of it and do what you need to do regardless of their nagging. 🤷♀️
Yes, yes, yes to all of this! Especially that thumbnail: dresses 👏are 👏literally 👏more 👏comfortable 👏than 👏leggings!! Even if you think dresses aren't your style, there are dresses for _literally_ every style root/aesthetic. In summer, they're more breathable and cool, and in winter, they're easier to wear something like fleece leggings under! Just get ones that look like sheer nylons. I used to be a leggings/jeans/hoodies girl, and now I cannot rave enough about dresses and skirts. I know some women "get the ick" from dresses because they feel like they're not feminist enough or something, but you are seriously giving up _the most comfortable thing you could wear_ because you're associating it with a period in time and politics that it is not inherently tied to.
@@ScribeGirl10 - Equality, definitely! What I meant is the modern radical version of feminism that actively hates men, enough that they purposefully wear anything that they think men will dislike. It’s a thing, unfortunately. 🤷🏻♀️ And because it’s well-known that most men love women in dresses, those women wear them.
If you think you are ugly simply because of minor asymmetries its quite the opposite! Do yourself a favor and look at pictures online of celebs you feel are the most beautiful. (I know. This is a vain start) Now inspect their faces for asymmetry. One high eyebrow. One big eye. One sided smile. Gummy smile. Tiny teeth. Big forhead. Things like that. Rihanna has a big forhead. Without it she would literally not be as beautiful to the eye. People with 2 different eyebrows look so beautiful to most people. This is hard to accept. We still want to think "no my flaws are more ugly" but Ellie-Jean here just pointed out so many things she thinks are flaws that are literally the reasons she is fun to look at lol. ❤
I would add one thing - if you want to experiment with hair colour - go red, go black, go pink or whatever - do it now. As you get older, it's harder - you might have a more responsible job, etc, and you have to tone it down, and then once you pass 40-ish, it can look harsh. I'm glad I had my pink hair, purple hair and green hair in my 20s.
You did better than I did at that age! lol. I'm all about comfort but it only takes a minute to throw on some tailored (worth it) jeans and a peplum top or something in a fabric that feels comfortable against your skin. My Gloria Vanderbilts with pockets are a gamechanger.
I would shop in person, but I can never find anything that fits. The difference between my upper hips, waist and chest/shoulders makes it incredibly difficult, if not impossible.
Somehow the acceptance of my appearance and the ability to care less about people's opinion and dress for my taste just switched on once I turned 30. Idk if it's just me 😅 I'm now much more stylish, while still being on a modesty journey and choosing to love my body more and enhance it more while showing it less. It seemed impossible in my 20s...and yet 😊
Ellie, I have a super specific question. I have identified 1 (one!) style of sweater that actually works on me despite weight fluctuations...longish, asymmetrical hem, cinchable waist. Somehow found one ten years ago on Etsy and have never found another like it (the shop went out of business). What do I do???? Shell out for someone to replicate it by hand? Thanks for all your work.
I know you're experimenting with soft summer color, but this soft autumn/summer make-up is not bringing out your eyes as the cool/light summer colors did. I really think some more brightness suits you so well
@@asterinarcheron1566 TR?? She looks like a textbook SG.. 😅 I don't know why she keeps saying she's a SC, when she's a very obvious SG. And to be honest, her style is more SG than SC. Essence wise, she has Ingenue, but also Gamine, not Ethereal.
@@kreator1474agreed.. I don't know why she's so adamant on herself being SC when she's very obviously SG. I hope one day she can reconsider her Kibbe type like how she admits she had blonde blindness.
There are actually so many options other than sweatpants it you want to dress comfy. On the days I work more about 8 hours I usually chose trousers with more flowy or stretchy fabric for wich I don't need a belt. There's a great deal of stretchy suit pants or flowy trousers or more mature and classy cargo style pants. I also like to go with sweaters that are either a bit tighter or otherwise have a more mature or classy shape. Though that's all word clothes of course. My freetime style is sometimes quite edgy
Someone said to me once that you might think you're being polite when you deflect a compliment, but you're actually telling the person who complimented you that they are wrong. It made accepting compliments with a simple thank you a bit easier for me.
it’s also just a matter of habit. i simply trained myself to say thank you with a smile without overthinking it 😅
hahaha that's why i've never done that i know they ain't lying ;D
I feel like your point on “enjoy being young and hot” actually always applies. A person can be hot at any age; it’s just a matter of confidence, self-understanding and appreciation and care for oneself. Dressing well and living a purposeful life never ages and it really shows! I know so many beautiful women of all ages, from 18 to 80, really.
You said it better than I did!
100% agree!! I think that point of this is the youngest you will ever be will always be true so just enjoy where you’re at!
@@elliejeanroyden You hurt my feelings! You hate blondes! 😭😭😢😢
@@quartzidot4202 Darling we all know she didn't say that
@@catetanenbaum2418 She hates us blondes. We are not expensive.
I like your point on comfy clothes. For me, comfort is the most important thing but it is possible to be comfy AND stylish. With a long flowy dress, or bootcut / flared leg jeans, a cute sweater, nice sneakers or flat shoes... I have found out that having clothes on the right size plays a big role. I never wear super tight clothes anymore and it is a game changer !
Absolutely! This is exactly what I mean by there's somewhere in the middle between sweatpants and like a nice dress and heels - I think just one upping your leggings would make a difference to SO many people
@@clairoute2215 💯💯
Quality fabric is huge too. A basic tee in polyester feels worse imo than the same exact cut/size in cotton (or other natural fibers). Plus polyester holds onto stink so much more, so you feel less put together even if it looks fine.
For sure, I think it's a balance cause there are people out there that will make the comments about leggings or whatever else and it's like okay but are you never going to wear smart, dressy or even just normal clothing again? It's just leggings until you go to a wedding and have to wear a dress? If you start living like that it'll get even harder when that wedding comes to let GO of the leggings! I won't keep anything that's uncomfortable, if shoes hurt me or a dress or jeans or something really are that hard to get on and too tight then they're going, but I will still wear tight jeans and certain heels or wedges that are like, sure they aren't the epitome of comfort but they are situation and style appropriate and they're not hurting me so they're comfortable enough
Honestly, I think almost anything can feel like a second skin if the sizing is right. I spend a lot of time shopping for items that fit immaculately, I ditch anything that doesn’t feel right, and it’s the best thing that ever happened to my closet.
I loved the point about not being afraid to best dressed in a room and enjoy the feeling
Your hair color literally makes you glow. So beautiful and just right.
I have to admit that I wasn't convinced when you said you were gonna leave the lighter blonde behind but now that there's no sign of it I can see how much of a difference it makes.
You look beautiful in both hair colors, but the one you have now just gives you such warmth and a gorgeous glow 🌟
Your hair suits you SO well
Yes! And it’s so enriching to her skin tone. 💖
Isn’t it gorgeous? Such a natural, laid back elegance to the shade
Yes yes yes 🎉🎉🎉
Yes! Both are beautiful on her but the brown along with the hairstyle (and maybe the accent lol) are giving me a bit of a Kate Middleton vibe. It’s very elegant!
I thought so too
I really like the tip about not being afraid of standing out. Right now so many women look very similar and for many "stylish" equals "wearing the hottest trends on SM".
I agree. Wear what suits your body shape and your colors. That way you always look great even when trends change.
Similar to the point about not going blonde, my mom used to dye her hair to cover up her grays. It always looked really unnatural and so not her. She stopped dyeing her hair a couple years ago and I can tell it’s made her so much more confident!
I feel like your hair reflects your journey
I swear this hair change gave you a whole personality upgrade! You seem so much more grounded, relaxed and self-assured now. You even speak slower and your voice is a bit lower. Nothing was missing or wrong before but now with this new attitude it's like something clicked into place.
This felt like a heart-to-heart chat with the girlies. Needed to hear this!
Aw I love this feedback, thank you!!
I would love to see a video on outfits that can be wear at interviews (professional or work appropriate) for every style root combination. Struggling here with stone, sun, flower 😅
You inspire me to be a better mom. I’m having a little girl and while I’m pregnant right now it’s hard sometimes to feel good and normal when my body is changing and I’m tired. But I think my positivity now will affect her and if I want to be a mom who raises a confident daughter I really need to be confident and grateful now, so I can have even more experience with it myself to someday teach her in a few years when she is a child who starts developing her own self-image. Confidence is generational and part of the legacy of beauty you pass to others, when it’s genuine and comes from the inside out. Thank you for all you do! Love your channel and I feel like we could be friends! Thankful you’re out here and I wish you every good thing. 💖
Absolutely! I’m also pregnant and I’m refusing to be my child’s first bully experience. I’ll be speaking confidence into my own self and body
Girl your hair right now is honestly giving much sexier vibes!!! It’s got this Smokey Bond girl Parisian night club thing for it- I don’t even know what- but it’s awesome!
Yes! There's something more glamorous, romantic or mature about it.
Your new hair color is so beautiful!
16:52 fun fact. Asymmetrical features are actually what makes people attractive compared to 100% symmetrical features,🥰 and no body even noticed those details except for you (as a a person).
So yep you definitely look gorgeous and absolutely stunning❤.
I really love your videos and by far this is my favourite.👏🏾🔥
What a lovely video by a woman supporting other women. I'm so glad this came up on my feed, for the body-positive vibes.
Fiftysomething mom here. Many of the tips aimed at my daughter's generation will work for me, too. Thank you!
All of them will! You are probably more beautiful now than you’ve ever been because you’ve lived and learned what’s important along the way. Enjoy being you!
@sarahs.9678 thank you for your wonderful words! You are right.
There is so much I love about this video. And your twenties is absolutely not the hottest you will ever be. Hotness comes from self-knowledge, confidence, and experience. While society at large might equate youth with hotness, often true hotness comes with time. ❤
This post resonated with me. I’m 70, and I retired 5 years ago. I still consider fashion and style part of my lifestyle! I’ve learned so much from you, and others… in spite of the age gap! 😎😂. Fashion has more to do with personality, body, and spirit than age! Thanks for all your efforts! Good luck with your new book! 👍🏼👏🏼❤️. BTW..your hair is lovely!
YOUR HAIR LOOKS SO GOOD!!!
Thank you for the encouragement to embrace the body you have, and thank you for creating the Style Scholars community. It's such a great group of people all lifting each other up in their unique beauty
I’m so amazed as a long time viewer, at how much I’ve witnessed you grow and mature in your confidence in this channel. I believe I’m a bit older than you at 26, however I’m truly blown away about how your advice about donating clothes that you’re mum has gifted/bought you has really hit home. Even the most practical ones of us struggle with this kind of sentimentality I think. Beautiful video, truly inspiring insights! Much love from Berlin, Germany💖
I had a custom color and style analysis in my 20's and it was the best thing I ever did for my style. I would really recommend it. The advice in this video is awesome Ellie-Jean!
I’m having a daughter and I hope to someday give something like that to her as a gift and make it a fun time she and I can enjoy together. I want to be the kind of mom who’s inspires her daughter to love and embrace herself exactly for who she is. Like my mom did, but even better.
When you look in the mirror and pick out every little thing you consider a flaw, and think negative, mean things about yourself, that's internalized misogyny and toxic beauty standards speaking. They were designed to make you feel unworthy no matter what you look like so that you buy more products that promise to "fix" you (but of course, the system wants you to always feel like you're not good enough for that sweet customer retention). On top of that, society wants you preoccupied with your appearance because otherwise you might start paying more attention to what's really wrong with the world. It's not a coincidence that most of us have a lot of self-hatred to deprogram.
Gosh I needed this video. I was about to go to the shops and just throw on an old hoodie and some leggings. I work a corporate job during the week and I am very much all or nothing. And I feel like on my days off I just look like a slob and I feel terrible. I get so anxious about potentially running into people when I don't look put together, but I also don't put together comfortable and cute outfits. So after this video I put on a cute outfit, some jeans, something in my colour palette and I feel a lot more put together to run errands now. Thanks! Also this hair colour looks amazing on you!
I love this so much!! So glad that this brought you some motivation and it made you feel better today!!
Thanks so much for your reply!! I love how you interact with your fans. Really excited to explore my style journey more. Love this tough love approach!@@elliejeanroyden
You look so beautiful with your natural hair colour. Congratulations on your new book❤️
Love all this advice. I started getting my eyebrows tidied up every 2 months and it makes me feel so put together. One way I appreciate my youth and beauty is by not wearing makeup the majority of the time. Only for certain events or with certain outfits. My skin looks great right now so I want to let it shine, because I know it will not always look so naturally smooth and youthful.
I feel like in our teens and twenties we are experimenting and our bodies are different before kids/ chocolate catches up with us, so I am grateful to my younger self, style advice was in the Jurassic era back then for me and it was fun figuring it out xx
So true about loving yourself wherever you're at. Looking back at old photos of me I now appreciate how young and pretty I was, but back then I felt so insecure. Now I make a conscious effort to appreciate myself for what and who I am at this point in my life, though it's not always easy. It's a shame to go through life always finding reasons to put yourself down!
I'm 39 years old and I struggle more now than I did in my 20s. Because my body is changing again.
Same. Starting in my mid thirties I became curvier and curvier. Now in my late fifties I have embraced my figure but I still struggle with style 🤷♀️
Yes!! Especially the hair part. Guys, all (I repeat ALL) hair colors are beautiful!! 💖 If you want to add some color, do it and do your research about how it will look with your skin tone and current wardrobe. If you don’t want to but you feel pressured to, DON’T. Embrace the natural in that case. There is only one you, enjoy and embrace it!
It is so true that people get jealous and try to put you down. This is such a great video ❤
This is such great advice! Love you embracing your natural hair colour, it looks so great and harmonious on you.
Bought your book, and I love it so much! Will be my fashion bible from here on out. Also my third style root might actually be earth not stone??? Your style roots section helped me solidify what I was sure of and what might not actually be right for me after all
Great video, great advice 😊
I feel like going back to your natural hair colour has been so transformative for you! 😮 You really do look very beautiful in a timeless, seamless way. You seem to be radiating now differently than from before - more at easy, more comfortable and self-assured within yourself ✨🌲☄️🌬️ Kinda remind me a bit of Alexis Bledel as Rory here! 🥰
I am so sorry that I am writing this but after I lost some weight, most of my style problems were gone. I had way too more options without belly fat. I wish I had lost them earlier. Finding your style is very hard that way. Again, sad but true
I think the point she was trying to make is slightly different. I can speak from experience here; I had 3 years where I was 40lbs lighter and by all intents and purposes regular build, and then wound up regaining it all very fast, which did a number on my self esteem. But. When I regained the weight I had thought I was so much happier when I was smaller? I wasn’t. I still disliked how I looked and felt self-conscious and ugly. And to be honest? Weight changes some things, but it doesn’t change the shape of your face that much, or your body that much. If you think your limbs are too short, they’re still gonna be short if you’re thin. If you don’t like how your face looks? It’s still going to look like your face, but thinner. Weight can help with some things, but losing weight won’t magically change you into another person. So if you don’t like yourself, weight might not change that.
@@autumnhobbit I see your points. I think it all depends your body type (yet again) and especially the distribution of weight gained. Your body's tendency. In my case it makes a huge difference, and yes even for my face. Maybe it is also about the way you like to dress. For example I love using belts, tucking in, thin fabrics. In my case it is not easy to dress the way I want if I gain weight. Unfortunately I am not that brave, not at all. I spent lots of time searching for a way to feel stylish. Sometimes I managed. But it took a lot of effort and time. I wish I had used that resources to lose weight. And again I wish with all my heart that I didn't feel that way. But of course, this is only my experience. It might be only about me. But I sense it is not.
LOVE how you changed your hair (or let it be your natural colour)
I have scoliosis and the “lopsided” thing, too, haha. I felt encouraged by this. Especially the thing about sacrificing *some* comfort. Too many influencers don’t talk about that and all and I appreciated the realness. In fact, it inspired me to put on a nice outfit and get myself out of the funk I was in today. Thanks, Ellie! ❤️
Also need to say this is the best video you have ever posted for women of all ages. I’m 73 and follow you from Fargo, ND, USA & you are amazing. ❤❤❤
Oh! I much prefer your hair this color!!! Lovely
Totally agree with hair. ANd whilst yes, there are some people that can pull off a relaxed, undone hairstyle, it does not work for me. It immediately ruins any effort I might have put into make up and clothes and makes me look messy. But if my hair is nice and shiny I can get away with little make up and even more casual clothes and still look put together. I have straight fine hair, but apparently a lot of it, so it gets tangled and messy very easily and just clashes with the style I want to emulate.
Thank you for your insightful content. Your videos and now your book have been the single most influence on helping me find my way style wise...and that's is saying a lot because I'm 46 and have been at this for quite awhile and haven't really been able to get it together until i found your videos. I wish you all the best in your endeavours and congratulations on the success of your book,you deserve it and more..💞💞💞
17:15 such a beautiful point. “This is your lot.” - so good. Embrace your lot and play around with it. Love it. Can I just say it has been so much fun watching you and your channel grow?
Ellie you are amazing! Your videos are so uplifting and always answering exactly what I need.
Thank you for speaking up against SHEIN!
I was thinking “hmm I’m almost 29, I probably don’t need this video” but clicked anyway bc I watch all of your videos and I def still learned more from you here!
I turn 28 in about 3 weeks. My style inspiration is coming more from women in their 30s these days, but I can learn a lot from this video.
Ellie-Jean has an amazing you have so many older followers. I’m in my fifties and you are so wise! These are thoughts I have all the time about young women who stress about their looks. Enjoy your life. Fashion is fun!
Today I used one of the outfits that were my "usual" before I started my personal Journey and... Now I don't feel ok in it. I don't like the shape, colors... I've changed and evolved and it feels great that I feel more confident about who I am.
i lost a bunch of trauma weight in my early 20's and somehow came out on the other side less confident. i'm 3 months into my journey and somehow more confused than i started but im determined to stick with it!
also a note about 17:00 i also have scoliosis along with some other back issues and there's a very solid chance thats why you feel your face may be "lopsided". long term scoliosis twists the whole skeletal-muscular system. i was fortunate enough to get to undo a lot of the damage from mine going untreated in my youth but i never noticed how significant the effect of it was until it started reverting
It's refreshing to hear some tough love and brutal honesty these days :)
I'd like to add a new tip: stop following influencers that make you self-conscious or in need to buy a certain product to feel good, it's perfectly okay to outgrow people you've looked up to in the past but don't relate to anymore!
(Obviously Ellie is one that I love and has made me feel more confident and has made me buy more consciously :) )
This is a great post! I stopped wearing leggings a few years ago because they just weren’t flattering on my aging body. My lifestyle is totally casual, I am retired and I rarely leave my home. I invested in well fitting jeans and nicer tee shirts and I feel better about how I look even if no one sees me. Thank you for excellent content. I am in the US, so I am still waiting on your book, it says it won’t arrive until January 7. Feels like an eternity, lol 😂 ❤
Also...didnt feel preachy but sisterly ❤ I enjoyed it
Ellie!! Your hair looks absolutely amazing! I love how your eyes are absolutely popping with this darker colour!!!❤ And I love this video!! So very helpful!!!
I’ve found fit and material to be the ultimate things to contribute to my comfort. If something fits well and is made out of a preferred material I feel way more comfortable than in leggings or sweatpants that don’t fit made out of a material that bothers me.
Polyester makes me sweat so hard Dx and any fleece stuff always seems to need fluffing
You're such a sweet angel and we are beautiful thank you ❤
Congratulations on your book BTW how exciting!!!
Amazing video and so many great points! I love your channel and have learned so much. Thank you for lifting us up and sharing your style journey!
This may be my favorite video you've made, it's just so real and feels like talking to a bestie lol
This is such great feedback, thank you!! ♥️
Such great advice! Also, I LOVE your natural hair color. It makes you shine even more!!
You look great in mountain 💕 and I just wanted to say I love how open you've been about your process of figuring your own style roots out, its been fun following along and seeing you get closer to your true style, and has reflected my own experience with the system. Thanks!
I just wanted to thank you so much, for the big effort you put in all of your videos. Only trough your Channel i learned, that i don't have to change my body, but rather my wardrobe. And that there are clothes which make everyone look good. As a ladydressmaker i soon recognized that kibbe does not include a lot of womens bodies, but thanks to you i learned to change my point of view. thank you so much!
Great video. I was actually typed by you and found out I’m a soft gamine. A lot of people hate on kibbe but I think having some sense of how the world sees me in a more objective way, as well as relating to iconic people who look like me like Reese Witherspoon or Winona Ryder has helped me come to terms with how I look. I now see myself in a much better light, where I used to struggle a lot with my appearance, I now have a better sense of what clothes make me feel good and I accept my face. Thanks girl!!! I get what you do and why you do it. You make a difference.
As a 37 y.o woman i am perhaps not the target audience for this video haha. But no. 4 resonates so much with me! Back in my early 20s in college, before any party/ fancy outing my friends and i would do an hour long telephone session deciding what we would wear 😂 sadly though the typical 2000s "party outfits" were the ABSOLUTE WORST for my Soft Classic body type! And i would end up in some trendy embellished low-rise jeans with a chunky belt and butterfly top or something and then wonder why i looked so weird....
I actually started having my own sense of "style" in my mid/ late 20s. And embracing that has made a world of difference! So who cares if am the only one in a dress sometimes 😁
Your hair makes you look so much more fresh and stylish!
This darker hair color looks amazing on you
Love your preach😊😊. Such great, honest advice. I cant wait for your book to arrive.
Mindset is soooooo important! Great advice ❤!
I honestly have to say I really love your videos. It kinda always feels like I'm catching up with an old friend
Loved this video, especially the last point. Oh and your hair color suits you so well!
Thank you
Omg girl. Never color your hair blonde again. This is YOUR color!!!!!! It looks incredible on you and just makes every part of you glow! I’m so happy you went to your natural color! 😍☺️ Absolutely gorgeous!
I love most of these. I plan all my outfits ahead. I buy very few pieces and only those I really love. And I recently updated my hair and started investing more time/energy/money into it - which has really tied my look together. However, I don't know that style and comfort really have to trade off. It depends on your personal style! I do have my "house only" ultra cozy clothes. And my work clothes are definitely less comfortable than my WFH clothes. But my daily drivers (WFH, errands, farmers markets, museums, etc) are maxi skirts, oversized button downs, combat boots, and boho dresses. They are all so comfy. I've literally hiked in most of them at some point or another (I have a very hard time passing up a good trail when I see one...) And they all mesh perfectly with my style!
Of course! That piece of advice is for people who only wear leggings, sweatpants and hoodies everywhere and want to feel more stylish - people in this mindset would see those items you mention as uncomfortable. This is what I meant by sacrificing the comfort just a tiny bit - even if it's the comfort of not thinking about what you have to wear today that can be a hurdle to get over for some. It sounds like you have a great sense of style!
@@elliejeanroyden Your videos have helped me so much :) Love your content
LOVE THE HAIR!!!!!
Very good advice, thank you for this video! And your hair is gorgeous, you really glow in that hair color!!
Feeling like I'm in a bad style rut right now, definitely needed to watch this video! Thank you
This haircolor is beautiful on you, leveled up
One of my favorite videos, and i agree with everything you’ve said
Thank you :) I really appreciate the reminders in this video
Your hair ❤ I am feeling so inspired to make the same change
"Just say you can't find it" - I do this often when my aunt buys me stuff I dont like😅😂
I want to add to #12 cause I have a mother that will not let me live down any item that shes ever given me!!! She asked me 2 days ago why I never wore the top she got me 15 years ago when I was like 17. I would probably ask someone that too but she asks me a couple times a year. I told her a store I liked at the time and so she got me something there that I honestly could not figure out how to wear cause it just wasnt my style (which mustve been hard to find cause I love almost everything at that store) but I wore it once to make her happy and had to get rid of it when decluttering. Hhhhhhhh.
Just wanted to add that sometimes they will care. They will press you. And you should still get rid of it and do what you need to do regardless of their nagging. 🤷♀️
I think women actually get hotter with age, it’s just society telling them that barely legal is the most attractive 👀
I agree
I love the way you see the world
It's so fun to listen to you
Wish we were friends 😍
You look absolutely beautiful in this video. Your hair, your eyes, totally enhanced by the color in your top with your lipstick & hair.
Yes, yes, yes to all of this! Especially that thumbnail: dresses 👏are 👏literally 👏more 👏comfortable 👏than 👏leggings!! Even if you think dresses aren't your style, there are dresses for _literally_ every style root/aesthetic. In summer, they're more breathable and cool, and in winter, they're easier to wear something like fleece leggings under! Just get ones that look like sheer nylons. I used to be a leggings/jeans/hoodies girl, and now I cannot rave enough about dresses and skirts. I know some women "get the ick" from dresses because they feel like they're not feminist enough or something, but you are seriously giving up _the most comfortable thing you could wear_ because you're associating it with a period in time and politics that it is not inherently tied to.
I'm a feminist and I LOVE dresses! Just 'cuz I want equality doesn't mean I don't also love a flowy dress and a fabulous lippie! LOL
@@ScribeGirl10 - Equality, definitely! What I meant is the modern radical version of feminism that actively hates men, enough that they purposefully wear anything that they think men will dislike.
It’s a thing, unfortunately. 🤷🏻♀️ And because it’s well-known that most men love women in dresses, those women wear them.
If you think you are ugly simply because of minor asymmetries its quite the opposite! Do yourself a favor and look at pictures online of celebs you feel are the most beautiful. (I know. This is a vain start) Now inspect their faces for asymmetry. One high eyebrow. One big eye. One sided smile. Gummy smile. Tiny teeth. Big forhead. Things like that. Rihanna has a big forhead. Without it she would literally not be as beautiful to the eye. People with 2 different eyebrows look so beautiful to most people. This is hard to accept. We still want to think "no my flaws are more ugly" but Ellie-Jean here just pointed out so many things she thinks are flaws that are literally the reasons she is fun to look at lol. ❤
I would add one thing - if you want to experiment with hair colour - go red, go black, go pink or whatever - do it now. As you get older, it's harder - you might have a more responsible job, etc, and you have to tone it down, and then once you pass 40-ish, it can look harsh. I'm glad I had my pink hair, purple hair and green hair in my 20s.
You did better than I did at that age! lol.
I'm all about comfort but it only takes a minute to throw on some tailored (worth it) jeans and a peplum top or something in a fabric that feels comfortable against your skin. My Gloria Vanderbilts with pockets are a gamechanger.
Your new hair 😍😍😍 you’ve inspired me to go darker too!
i am absolutely loving the cool brown on you
As a 31 year old this was still helpful 🥰
I would shop in person, but I can never find anything that fits. The difference between my upper hips, waist and chest/shoulders makes it incredibly difficult, if not impossible.
Somehow the acceptance of my appearance and the ability to care less about people's opinion and dress for my taste just switched on once I turned 30. Idk if it's just me 😅 I'm now much more stylish, while still being on a modesty journey and choosing to love my body more and enhance it more while showing it less. It seemed impossible in my 20s...and yet 😊
Ellie, I have a super specific question. I have identified 1 (one!) style of sweater that actually works on me despite weight fluctuations...longish, asymmetrical hem, cinchable waist. Somehow found one ten years ago on Etsy and have never found another like it (the shop went out of business). What do I do???? Shell out for someone to replicate it by hand? Thanks for all your work.
Wow, this it the video I needed to hear! ❤
Lovely video, Ellie-Jean! At 57, this is also the youngest and prittiest I'll ever be from now on! ;-)
I know you're experimenting with soft summer color, but this soft autumn/summer make-up is not bringing out your eyes as the cool/light summer colors did. I really think some more brightness suits you so well
I think she is light spring and theatrical romantic
@@asterinarcheron1566 TR?? She looks like a textbook SG.. 😅 I don't know why she keeps saying she's a SC, when she's a very obvious SG. And to be honest, her style is more SG than SC. Essence wise, she has Ingenue, but also Gamine, not Ethereal.
the eye shadow instantly and lipstick stood out to me
@@kreator1474agreed.. I don't know why she's so adamant on herself being SC when she's very obviously SG. I hope one day she can reconsider her Kibbe type like how she admits she had blonde blindness.
i love your videos! you would look amazing with short curtain bangs like above the eye length!
There are actually so many options other than sweatpants it you want to dress comfy. On the days I work more about 8 hours I usually chose trousers with more flowy or stretchy fabric for wich I don't need a belt. There's a great deal of stretchy suit pants or flowy trousers or more mature and classy cargo style pants. I also like to go with sweaters that are either a bit tighter or otherwise have a more mature or classy shape. Though that's all word clothes of course. My freetime style is sometimes quite edgy
These tips are amazing for people of all ages 🌟