I've watched 3 of your videos so far and what really stands out to me is her constant touching and looking at you. It's a sign of how much she loves and appreciates you and it's a joy to watch.
I love how she plays with you while you talk, see an american woman would be on her phone or disconnected from the moment. Very attentive and although shes bored sitting there shes still interested in you. Very refreshing and American girls, get off your phone. Missing what life is. You two are beautiful and happy to see a loving couple.
Americans, period, need to get off our phones, not a gendered thing- As an older person, I'm glad that I experienced life without the phones (security blankets). Still, I do enjoy them :)
Can swap Chicago for America and it's still factually accurate in that sentence. Pelosi is the 3rd most powerful person in America and her husband still got assaulted in their house. Anyone that thinks America is "Safe" is delusional.
Depends which part of Chicago, but the winters are brutal especially when your in your late 50s and above. Warmer climate is better once you’re retired.
As an older man it's sweet to see how your wife loves on you and is affectionate. I wish you and your family many years of happiness and blessings together.
Everyone is different. My mom and dad are Filipino and I was born and raised in the United States. My parents fled the Philippines 40 years ago for a better life in the United States. Even though their family is in the Philippines, they never regretted staying. They never wanted their kids to live a life they had and worked their asses off to provide a comfortable life. Needless to say, America does have better everything, other than beaches/islands/weather. New England is kinda hard to make a decent living, but they made it. Thank you mom and dad.
@making the move by darren The only way my parents were able to come to the US was from my dad joining the Navy. I can't imagine where we would be now. Once my dad was able to get here, in the US, he brought my mom over, became a US citizen, then married my mom, and then had kids.
My son in law mother born Manila live America over 54 yrs never went back except to visit until she died half of her ashes went back her husband has other half she did not want to go back to a life of poverty she said so i like my job
My first few years in U.S. was tough too because everything was so unfamiliar and I thought I would never get hired for a white collar job. But once you learn the ropes, you'll appreciate living in U.S. because it offers so much opportunities and the quality of living is also a lot better. I love that I now have the job that I've always wanted and able to assist my family with their financial needs - it took me years of grinding but it's so worth it because I now have that stability in life that I've always dreamed of.
Been married almost 17 years now. My wife came to the US and lived about 8 years there (with me of course).. Got her US citz. ONCE that was done it was all about moving back to the PH. Where we have been now for over 8 years full time. BEST thing we ever did was move to the province.
@@alyonapetrova694 First, we did not hate it, it was just better to live here in the PH. We go back and visit family, and having a US passport allows us to both travel to many more places. She was not as 'happy' there as she is here.
I'm born and raised middle aged Filipino.. I have been in the US once and did serious road trip there.(16 states visited)Its a beautiful country with all it's natural parks and landscapes..It may not be perfect but it's an awesome place..
@@ItsMe_Philippines If you don’t mind,, can you mention the general area of the Fils you’re in? I’ve heard there’s good and bad places in the Filipines, just like anywhere else. It looks serene and beautiful there, I agree. I’d much rather be warm there, then cold here. Thanks for sharing your video with us.
My English husband had always planned to take me to UK, 10 years on and I'm still here, my husband wanted me to get a British passport. Having a British passport definitely opened the world for me. Now that we have a beach house in Aklan and condo in Makati we plan to split our time between in UK and Philippines.
Great , amazing plan I hope we can do the same as my job is in NYC , it’s getting more unsafe in the streets although I drive , I am more guarded than say 10 years ago, it’s time to come home for couple of months in the winter time but keep the condo in the US and buy a place in BGC.
Living in Southern California to a Filipina. We've been here 3 years and we agree with you 100%. Can't wait to return back to the Philippines. You're a beautiful couple. Stay safe and healthy 🙏 God bless
I too live in Southern California in Mission Viejo. Moved from the Philippines since I was 8 and I’m too westernize. All my family live in Orange County and all my friends are here. Can’t see myself living back home. Been here for over 45 years but I do visit my cousins and other relatives in Manila as well as in my old province. My folks go home every year before the pandemic to check on there properties.
My wife was raised in the outskirts of Manila. She came to SoCal 30 years ago to get her Master's Degree and has lived here ever since. Whenever she goes to the PI to visit her parents, she can't wait to get home. The traffic, humidity, and non-stop karaoke are just too much.
"She misses seeing the snow, from INSIDE the house... " so cute. I enjoyed this video Cory and Rachel, and I think it was nice that Rachel was able to experience North American life first-hand, rather than relying on books and movies, etc. to learn about it. You were very good Cory to take Rachel to many varied locations across the U.S. for her see and experience. Glad to see you both unanimously agreed on your final location of residence: The Philippines. I am enjoying your videos. Cheers.
Hi guys, I just found you, this is my second video, you are dispelling tons of preconceptions, you two are both very genuine and very committed to each other, the stereotype is all the girls pretend to like the American guy to get to the United States, you guys were in the United States and decided to go back to the Philippines, plus the way your are with each other is inspiring and you treat each other very well, which is another stereotype, the man lives in the Philippines because he is treated like a King, you can tell you treat each other as equals and are mutually supportive not just her supporting you, really cool videos, thanks for sharing them with us, and I'm from Michigan so this time of year I'm ordering lots of takeout too. :)
Thank you again for the positive and inspirational comment. It’s sad some of the stereotypes regarding people looking for a wife overseas. My wife is my best friend and treated like a princess, because to me, she is one. In the west they wanted to be treated like that for…..no reason.
a great pros and cons video... I think the biggest factor is the friendliness of the people. always having a smile on your face / in your heart keeps you healthy. Although a white Christmas is nice!
That’s what I kept pondering as I watched this great video. America in 1980 was amazing but except for places like Texas, the crime, politics, etc are so divisive and ugly. I don’t even celebrate July 4th anymore because the country is broken in spirit. Enjoy the state parks, consumer efficiency, infrastructure, but then leave for a way of life that is friendly and pure.
I'm so glad she got a chance to experience the snow. All of my Filipino friends want to experience that. I should be back in the Philippines in the next few months. I can hardly wait
@@ItsMe_Philippines I'm a bachelor, single and I'm just not really sure. The last time I came there I visited a little place called Guagua in Pampanga. I'm considering Boracay, Cebu or I might go to Manila to see Picachu. OMG!! That Picachu is something special. Hehehe!!
@@Warf_459 we love Cebu because it has everything you could want in the islands big enough to still explore on. Also, plenty of amazing beautiful locations around the island.
😅 I was a supervisor in a hospital and hired a filipina to work. Cold well Anchorage Alaska gets somewhat brisk in winter …. Love those brisk morning -10° to -20° and walk outside take a breath and the moisture in your nose flash freezes cold. 😊 yep winter in Manila and winter in Alaska are different 😂 Sad she was a great worker and smart. Worked in my cardiovascular lab. She had an artery burst in her brain and died 2 years ago. Miss you Mary Ann… 🌹
My wife came you Atlanta Georgia USA in 2016. 4 kids later we built new house in the Philippines. And we moved back to the Philippines in 2021 for me to retire and raise our kids. She enjoyed the USA but we made a 5 year plan to eventually move back and we accomplished our goal.
Awww I can't wait til I can show my love all the different places in the states. I hope she doesn't feel too uncomfortable with the transition. Thanks for the video 🥰
I was born in the Philippines and lived there (mostly) until age 21. I moved to Central Illinois for school. I was fortunate that there were already other Filipino graduate students here, so along with other Filipino community members, we had a support system. Still, the first winter was hard, and I thought about going back/moving elsewhere. Fast forward four decades later, I’m still here (met my husband just before graduating, so it’s all on him 😂) and now a senior member of the local Filipino community, despite slipping in ice and spraining my elbow, and my car sliding in ice a few times. We enjoy spring, summer and fall here, but I like summers the best since I can work in our garden and go to the city outdoor pool to swim. In less than a week, my husband (originally from NJ) and I will begin our trans-Pacific snowbird experience (I just booked our flights to El Nido today, so excited 😃). We invested in a condo in QC and hope to spend a couple of months there every winter. If you asked me ten years ago, this was not something I thought we would do. When we first met, hubby said he was not fond of traveling, but now he’s the first to suggest going places 😂 We also did not foresee that we would move to China in 2012 where he was offered a foreign expert position. That took a week of discussing the pros and cons. But maybe living in China until just before the pandemic opened his eyes to the possibility of living in the Philippines. We still enjoy living in our house in Illinois, but not so much in the winter, especially now that we are older. We live in a not-so-big university town (about 110K people, two towns combined) and people are generally friendly. It’s usual to run into someone you know when you’re out and about. Eventually, when we’re not able to take care of ourselves, the plan is to move to the Philippines permanently. We don’t have children of our own, so we warned our Philippine niece and nephews that they’ll have to be our guardians, and they’re okay with it. Hubby gets along great with my family, and is probably closer to them than his own family. Staying in QC works for us since it’s where 4/6 of my siblings live, modern conveniences are available, and there’s access to good and affordable healthcare. My husband got off the plane once in Manila, after having spent the week at a conference in India and needed surgery. Luckily, my siblings knew people who directed us to the right doctor, who admitted him to St. Luke’s in BGC and I was able to stay with him in his private room the whole time. So yeah, we have our reasons for liking being in both countries 🇺🇸 🇵🇭
My Wife never planned on coming here to stay either. At 1st she wanted me to just come there but that wasn't realistic. She's been here with me almost 11 years now. She does go there every year for 8 weeks to be with her family. We have bought 2 separate properties in Leyte. One is a 12 acre coconut farm and the other a 2000 square meter plot where we plan to build a house, hopefully start next year. I'm a owner/operator truck driver so we travel a lot and I have the freedom to book loads going where we want to go and spend a week here and there at locations we want to explore. That has made her time here much easier, it's like a non-stop vacation. She had seen all lower 48 states within her 1st 6 months here. My Wife relates to your Wife a lot I think. Thanks for the video you two and keep them coming.
Great story and good to hear that she’s seen so much. Many Filipinas that go to the states never get to travel or experience things. We are both lucky men my friend.
Philippine is The most Beautiful island to live and they have one of the most down to earth people very happy always with big smile friendly they are great people in Philippine. You guys make a great couple I wish you a very happy life always
I had planned on bringing my wife to the United States, but Covid put a stop to that. I was wanting her to experience America. Although that never happened, I’m very happy living here in the Philippines.
I've just stumbled on your channel and I have to say the way you two are with each other is so good to see. The way couples should be. I would love to visit the Philippines and would love to retire there. In like 10yrs or less. Btw I'm 47yrs old. Well GOD bless you two and please keep making the videos
Should do a Part Two of this visit to America. Let her talk more about her experiences. We need to hear her more about this because it is different for her. She has more to say And you can see it in her face expressions whenever you’re talking.
@@ItsMe_Philippinesyeah, let the lady talk, you go on and on and on, saying the same crap, interrupting this young lady. Be respectful and let her talk. Geeez
@@DeltaDawg She was nervous doing the video and asked me to ONLY ask her questions and would squeez my hand for me to jump in. Thank you for your input.
I’ve just come across your blogs today and very impressive. Love your respect for her and all the love we see. Thanks for sharing and I look forward to learning much more.
I think for me when it comes to the cost of living from USA to the Philippines is far more different..if given a chance to have a foreign husband i dont mind if he wants to live here in my country or his country..as long as we both agreed to make a decission on were we will permanently live..Seems like its perfect for both of u guys to live here in the Philippines..Thank u guys for sharing,u truly are an inspiration..God bless u Cory and Rachel🙏
I currently live in China while hailing from the US and most of this is true even comparing China with the US. I will move to the Philippines hopefully in a few years with my soon to be Filipina wife i met here in Shanghai. Hopefully i will like it as much as you guys do. 😊
If u like modern conveniences live here in the US. But there's no tight community connection. We have neighbors 30 yrs now that we don't talk to. Here you're living in the fast lane going straight ahead to an oncoming traffic. By the time you retire, you're already handicapped and full of health issues. How I miss my laid back, happy country surrounded by caring friends and families.
Good video. My bride of almost 18 years has lived here in Phoenix the entire time. What made it easier on her was she by luck happened to run into a classmate of hers from the Pinas' early on and it really helped to smooth over the transition. We only have a 6 years age gap 54 / 48 and the plan is to both retire at the same time once our son completes college in the next 6 - 7 years. We will keep our home here and my bride has bought property in Bago City, Neg Occ. . I'd rather live in the province on a farm but happy wife happy life so Bago City it is !
Sounds like a great plan, my friend I’m sure you’ll be truly happy! Let me know when you’re local because you’re on the same island as me. Having a local friend in the states is really helpful for them.
Dude, same mentality here…. My wife had all the same observations!!! We live on Cebu now, but my wife was in the USA for 5 years and despite finding it an adventure, we are both happy to have left there and back in the Philippines. Family is a big part, but as my wife got to understand the politics and day to day of the USA….. she was not so impressed…. Really, I am not impressed anymore either. My wife got to see a huge part of the USA ( 31 states) as we lived in Seattle and the Chicago area. All in all, I am married to a very proud US citizen, but also someone that is happy to be here in the Philippines with me for the rest of our lives. Congrats to you both and hope your adjustment to this life is as easy as mine.
Just my opinion, if you are young and have thick skin you can make it here in the US, and there's a lot of opportunity to have (if you are young) and build financially for the future. But yes, for my parents when we immigrated to the US in the early 1970s, they really missed the Philippines. For me, it was adventure, new world, I was young, nothing bothers me. It is different now compared to back then in late '60s and early '70s US. Our first neighbor, once told us "what are you people coming over here for?". I remember one time, we did not have a vehicle, no one wanted to take us to the store to food shop, so we all walked in the winter cold to the supermarket, it was so different to the Filipinos who are willing to help. On the way, we got hassled by a group in a car, jeering at us. It was sad for my parents. But we pushed on, worked hard, we studied hard, obeyed the law, saved money and found our professional jobs. Those neighbors who were prejudiced at us eventually became our friends and we became good neighbors, they were just not used to seeing different culture, to them it was a threat.
So true when I came here I was treated differently , it did bother me but i decided to better myself and not indulge on such attitude,I came to NYC in 1987 for work I got recruited and had visa ready and an apartment with 1 roomate , quite lucky, the first 2 years was hard but when I got my green card I immediately enrolled to get my masters degree and more certifications to get a better position and more pay, I did not waste anytime on the days I am off I work part time to earn extra money , I learned how to drive and bought my own car, that opened up lots of opportunities as I can get a job that pays more because I can get there without relying on public transportation, we Filipinos are resilient and hard working . I met my husband from a networking events and since he is half French I also enrolled to learn his language , and both our kids are fluent on both languages.
Love your post. I’m married to a Filipina and live in the U.S. in a suburb of Columbus (Dublin). We’ve been married for 18 years. Courted each other for about a year and a half before we married. Though I was living in Charlotte, NC when she immigrated to the US. A year later we moved back to my home State of Ohio. It looks like you two have a similar age gap. I was 41 and she was 23 when we met. So both of us have something in common in being from the Great Lakes Region who had the balls not to accept the U.S. status quo on dating and married a beautiful Filipina. One pro about living together in the U.S. that you didn’t mention, as I’m sure you don’t want to sound arrogant or boast, but is true nevertheless, is that isn’t an awesome feeling and boost to your ego to know you’re married to the prettiest girl (inside and out) in the whole city? Just to give you a smile, that’s my wife’s picture as my icon. I took it last year. So she was 42 when I took the picture and her looks haven’t changed in a year….so just think…20 years from now you’re still going to be married to the prettiest girl (inside and out) in town. 😊 So I’m going to pay attention to your posts and see what I can learn from your experiences as a couple living in the Philippines. Best of luck to you both!
Awsome you were able to experience USA together. The speed of traffic, the ease and convenience of business, the cold weather. There’s a case to be made in splitting time between both places.
I have not lived in the US for 24 years...... The fun playfulness of your wife and the great (natural) sense of humor is adding years to your life Core.
Second vid of yours I have watched, appreciate all the info...just hearing about the costs (on a recent vid), and seeing the ocean waves in the background on this vid while there is SNOW here and it is cold, and you are on the beach...there are no words to explain how much I am thinking of doing what you did, lolrofl
I lived in the Philippines my first 29 years, and in the US the next 30 years. Both countries have their pluses, and of course as many minuses. No place is perfect. But, if you have a lot of family obligations, US is the place. However, if you want to be happy, you should choose the Philippines for as long as you have a source of income to have a comfortable life. The excess you earn in the US means more family you could help. However, you need to take care of yourself, too. My kids are all settled, and I'm just waiting to retire so I don't have to worry about finances. I'll retire as soon as I can and will pack up and move back to the Philippines. I'll be leaving my youngest here, and fortunately, my two older kids chose to go to school in the Philippines and are now also settled there. I don't see me coming back to the US for more than a quick visit after I move back there. I always intended to return, and I wish the Philippines is more industrialized and richer so that no one will ever have to leave it to work abroad. If the Philippines have that, it will be a perfect place. However, as with many industrialized countries, we may lose so many things that makes the Philippines a happy place. Unless, the Philippines becomes a Democratic Socialist country where we have all the benefits most Americans have -- universal Healthcare, paid maternity leave, two months paid vacation, free college education, and other social programs that support the family and the community to remain close-knit, and so that people don't have to work so hard and too materialistic. That's what I pray for the Philippines. A land of happy, kind people who will remain family-oriented and who are invested in their community, and proud of their country and its people. Soon, I hope.
Annabelle you are so right. My retirement income did so much for our extended family in Manila and I was able to petition and assist in bringing (20 family members to the US over (30 years) but after earning thousands of US dollars most of our family return for several months and a few have moved back to PI with there retirement incomes to live very well.
@@jacqueslefave4296 : It's not a dream. It's something we can work towards. I don't see why you feel the need to say something negative. You.must be fat and miserable. 😅
Good story and perspectives. Been thinking about living for a while in Philippines and or Thailand. It Def adds to the mental game hearing from both angles ❤️
Hey man...I ran across one of your videos the other day where you were kind of explaining why you came to the Philippines. I'm in the U.S. right now getting ready to move to PH permanently but I'm just writing to tell you that back in February, I was at the McDonald's in Dumaguete by City Mall just waiting for my food and started talking to you. You introduced yourself and your lovely wife, Raquel and we talked for a few minutes. Until I saw your video the other day, that was just a distant memory but now a fond memory of two very down to earth people and a chance meeting. God bless you both and hopefully I'll see you both again when I'm permanently in Dumaguete! Take care...Dean
Dean, thank you for the compliment and happy to hear that you're in fact making the permit move. Feel free to shoot me an email when you get here or need assistance and I'd be happy to help. We go to Dumaguete every couple weeks so I'm sure we will meet again my friend. philippines.itsme@gmail.com
@@ItsMe_Philippines I'm curious, Corey if you remember that interaction? I remember you told me where you lived and how you're a rare foreigner where you live and that you came to Dumaguete every couple weeks to get things you cannot find where you live. Anyway, do you have a fb or Whatsapp?
Subscribed... This was interesting for me to watch Having my Filipina wife here for over 9 years now. I just started making videos about us and how/why we separated some years ago. I'm thinking about interviewing her like this. We've stayed good friends. I love the Philippines for how the people are there and I just came back from my third trip to the Philippines on a solo trip to see some more places, to scope out where I'd most like to retire to someday.
@@ItsMe_Philippines ha!😅atm literally watching your “why I went looking for a wife overseas” I wasn’t expecting a reply from my comment being that the video is about 4weeks old… and I think it’s awesome of you to reply! 👊🏼
I guess it depends on one's location. In a bigger city people often dont like to talk. Im filipina living in a smaller town in Georgia for 19 years now, I actually loved it here! I find people nice and welcoming. They always say here there and ask how are you. But the south is known of their southern hospitality anyways. Just like yesterday, my daughter and I went to vote, there's this young African American man who was ahead of us and he was holding the door for us. This is still very common where I live and I do the same as well as my daughter.
Believe me there are alot of filipinas who came to America for the green card and left their sponsor. Ive met their ex husbands and or boyfriends. But not all, glad you have a strong relationship. Best of luck.......
10 years ago I never imagined living outside the US. Now I am looking forward to living in asia. I now prioritize warm friendly people over all the fancy malls and materialism.
Many parts of Thailand and Philippines look slummy. Normally that would bother me but now I am ready to leave the toxic attitudes that prevail in many western cities.
@Sam Boni that's anywhere on the planet economies exist, friend. Go drive through LA where I grew up. It's a literal shithole now. Looks worse than anything I've seen in the third world up to this point. Same in many other places like new York, Chicago, Detroit, St Louis, and New Orleans. Those last two made it into the 50 most dangerous cities in the world list. I'm not big on Philippino cuisine, but it looks like a hell of a nice place to work abroad with my business starting out.
We went to the Philippines 2 months ago,it was my husband first time in Ph he loved it so so much,our plan is to move there nextyear when he retire but I thought I am eligible to aplly my naturalization this year or nextyear but not yet need to wait 4 more years 😩😩😩 He don’t have a choice is to work Still 😢feel Bad for him 😢😢. We are Jelous of u Guys!!
Spot on! My wife and I are currently in Westmont, Illinois. Everything your wife said, my wife agrees. America is a great place to experience for a while, but not forever. PS, your wife doesn't say much, but her facial expressions says it all while you're talking. Ha ha ha. God bless you, if you're ever in Palawan, give us a shout.
Really enjoyed the insights from a Filipina's perspective ... my Filipina wants to touch the snow - I said she'd only want to do it once lol ... thanks for sharing!
Very good video👍. I was in Lapu Lapu in October and hope to make it back in Feb or Mar and retire early there in a year or two. I can relate to a Filipina getting cold in less than 70°🤣, I'm actually the same so I fit in over there. I felt at peace there except a few times from miscommunication.
🥶 Hahaha that’s to funny 😂 I hear great things about Lapu Lapu so I’ll have to plan a visit soon. Sounds like you have a great plan my friend and I’m sure you enjoy every moment over here.
@@ItsMe_Philippines I love Siem Reap. It’s very safe, clean and uncongested. It’s a beautiful river town with tree-lined streets on either side of the river that passes through town. Pub Street is the center of attraction after the temples of Angkor Wat 1 mile north of town. I would stay away from Kampot (nothing worth seeing) and Phnom Penh is a huge cith with its share of petty crime and is more expensive than Siem Reap. It’s just a big city which I did not really enjoy. Siem Reap is the clear winner of the 3 cities I’ve been to and explored here in Cambodia. You’ll enjoy it for sure!
My wife came to Canada Vancouver more than 22 years ago and we have been to Philippines for holidays 4-5 x We are looking forward to retiring in the Philippines. My wife’s mother is aiming to retire with her Canadian husband in the next year back in the Philippines too
Thanks We are looking at Antipolo area where we have a lot that we could build on or maybe sell and find a house in a not hyper priced ( more modest ) gated community around there
Antipolo is where my daughter lives and we bought a lot at a golf course there If we build…. Then that’s where we live. We may sell the lot and choose other options. Right now . Building there is the first option of our choosing 😇
Ive been mentioning to my wife of 6 years that I'd like to move to her country but now that she has been here for the length of time she has its difficult to get her to want to go back. We have 3 kids now so that's what makes the decision to move there challenging. They are 5, 3, and 2 months old
That would be tricky to adapt to with the children. Maybe go on vacation and purchase a small piece of land or a condo to vacation in. Then later in life, you have a place that you purchase back when it was cheap.
My Filipina didn't want to go the US.....I think she regrets a little now but she won't admit it (LOL), kudos to your wife for being able to live in Chicago.....my wife cries when I leave the fan on when she comes out of the shower screaming it's so cold.....only Filipinos can say it's cold here in the PH.....and I'm from NYC, so she can't handle the Northeast winters Agree on most of your pros/cons.....at the end of the day if the pros outweigh the cons, then we're good.....enjoy and be safe!
Some good advice I heard from a guy who had lived in Japan for a long time with a Japanese woman. He said, never take the woman out of her home country permanently. Many exceptions of course but not a bad rule of thumb
Any many cases the smiling or out of the blue speaking to a stranger thing is about trust. If you smile or speak to a stranger their thought is, "Ok, what does this person want, what are they up to, why are they trying to get closer to me by being nice?"
A nice testimony of life here and there. Bing was here for two years due to the pandemic. She's home again and we're making big decisions. Will it be here or there? For us, age and health is a big factor. Great vlog..such a nice couple! Just subscribed!😉
It was very cool to hear Raquel's opinions and ideas about the USA. For the most part, very understandable. She seems like a nice lady. Since I lived outside the USA for a lot of years I can identify with her from the opposite direction. HA!
Yes, it’s always fun talking to her about the things that she enjoys. I didn’t like him they’ll be the basics that I wouldn’t even think about a notice.
Hi ..just subscribed...from Arizona...I guess it's all different for everyone...I married my American husband 30 years ago ...it was a dream since I was a kid to marry an American and live in the USA. That does not mean I don't love my Filipino family or my parents but I really wanted to come to America. I came here and I did not know anybody but my husband. I adjusted very well and developed friendship with a lot of women in the church. That is one good thing marrying someone that has same Christian belief that I have, it made it easier to make friends and develop relationships with women in the church. Living in America is not bad...as long as you have a good job and you are willing to work. But now that I am getting to the point of retiring from working I have been talking to my husband that I do want to retire part time in the Philippines. Hopefully in the next 5 years. The Philippines is so much more industrialized now and so developed that I know I can have the same comfort I have here in the USA if I live there. I wish you would have meet more people and more opened to not just Filipino friends. The women in church that welcomed me 30 years ago are not Filipinos, but they are still my friends now even though we are not in the same city or state any more.
I agree about the weather, I live in Schaumburg, (if you are from Chicago, you know where that is) and it can be extremely cold in the morning, hot by noon and rainy at around 3pm. It could also be 70 degrees one day and 40 the next day. I always have to check the forecast before I go out.
I appreciate the video. My wife was born in Mindanao but moved to San Diego CA when she was 3. Half her family is in the PI. We've been married for 29 years. I'm retiring this year and I want to eventually buy a home in the PI close to the beach. My wife thinks I'm crazy lol..
I've been in the US back in 2006 visiting yes but to live Nah! thank you even though San Diego is full of Pinoys but still the feelings are not there still cried so many times at night I feel so homesick I work in homecare as a technician/maintenance and added to my stress level seeing old people there being left by their family only been visited once a month by their family that was new to me. salary is good but money can cope with the homesickness I miss my family so I decided to follow my wife to Spain and that's the best decision of my life... but comparing Europe and North America I still gonna choose the Philippines hands down. Oh! and about the Filipino times we don't really mind the time when just visiting a friend and family it's different at work and it's not a negative side we don't stress about simple things that's why you don't see people just shooting randomly on the street just because of stress... Filipino are very resilient about things that western cant cope too, we don't have life insurance which becomes a red dot on your back...
I am married to a Filipina and she also doesn’t really want to be in the states and we are planning to move to the Philippines as our permanant home in the future . My wife always tells me she is only in the states is to be with me she has been here now 5 yrs and we plan to build a home in the Philippines and move to Philippines as soon as I retire.My wife does also complain she doesn’t feel safe in the states and feels more safe in the Philippines
@@andre1987eph you should really keep your ignorance to yourself. Speaking about something that you have no knowledge and is really making you look bad. She never got her green card and we have a solid prenup in both countries. Appreciate you watching and I hope your attitude in life changes for the better.
What a lovely couple. Really important the lady saw your way of living in the States and you've made a rational decision about staying in the Philippines. Of course there's pros and cons, but, that's life.
The United States has changed a great deal since I was young. People are more fearful, even though crime has been going down for 40 + years. The US used to have more Community Life than it does now. Small towns had small family owned businesses where you knew everyone in Town. There were many more small places to eat, public places to swim and relax for free. Lakes and Creeks that had public access. Now it costs money to leave your home and the money you spend, no longer goes to your neighbors and their businesses. At the end of the day, the Chain Stores deposit their money and it goes to the Corporate Headquarters. As kids, we had the run of the whole town, walked or rode out bicycles everywhere, as long as we were home for dinner.
It’s sad but you are 100% correct. When I grew up, we would go to the river or the lake and jump off the rope Swing and have fun. Now it’s not safe to walk there and there’s signs posted because someone sued them for using it. It is completely different.
That's true at 12:15 Filipina's love music- and karaoke. I remember well the celebratory music in the Philippines around Christmas time. And how early the Christmas season started- in September. ☝️😎👍
My wife was born and raised here in Dumaguete but lived in Amsterdam for many years before moving to the USA. I think she shares many of the same likes and dislikes as your wife when comparing America to here but she did get used to cold weather during her time in the Netherlands. People are generally much different here than the US just in regards to the consistent outgoing and wonderful disposition and the positive outlook on life and certainly the genuine closeness with a wide assortment of family members. I love it here for that reason alone but agree it's also important to consider how much more affordable it is here in comparison. One thing that has happened several times this week that helps illustrate the difference between living here versus the US is there have been groups of young people coming by our house in the evening singing Christmas carols. I think that used to be fairly common multiple decades ago in the US but when I was still living there I don't remember it happening even one time. Did want to mention that Amazon actually does offer service at least here in Dumaguete but instead of one or two days it takes weeks for the item to arrive. Thanks for posting yet another great video and I appreciate the willingness to share the detailed insight and observations.
@@ItsMe_Philippines Excellent point about the fees but for items like dental floss and razor blades, I haven't been able to find anything close to the same quality available locally but maybe I just haven't looked hard enough. The other aspect I wanted to call out is your wife has obviously worked very hard on her English. My wife had to become fluent in Dutch to live in Amsterdam and naturally speaks the local dialect here in the Philippines and also speaks English. I have to constantly remind myself that while her English is actually quite good it wasn't either of her primary languages and I need to remain patient whenever we have conversations. Just curious if your wife had any concerns when she was in the US about having conversations with others in English? I noticed people here in Dumaguete really appreciate any effort I make to use my extremely limited capability with the local dialect. I also notice you are doing a great job with your effort to consistently use the native lingo! Something I have set as a goal is to eventually become much more fluent.
@@boise2Talay7886 thank you for taking the time to leave this comment. She was worried about her English going to the states. I told her she really didn’t need to worry about it and she would learn more as she spoke it every day consistently. She’s asked me multiple times if she should try to improve her accent and English more. I told her there’s no need because I’m attracted to her accent and wouldn’t want her to change anything. Your wife situation is very impressive because Dutch is nothing like English or any of the Filipino languages. I consistently try to learn and improve so I can get better as time goes on. Luckily for us they are very understanding culture and I’ve never been spoken down to or treated negatively for my lack of knowledge of the language. Keep improving one day at a time is my goal!
@@ItsMe_Philippines That's awesome and your reaction to her questions and advice regarding her English doesn't surprise me at all. Early on in my relationship with my wife she would occasionally bust out some Dutch during our conversations and then giggle and say "I speak Dutch to you" and it was adorable so I agree, don't change a thing was certainly the best course of action.
Good evening it's probably morning there but I just wanted to say this is a very refreshing video to watch we all have a lot to learn when it comes to different countries . I am also currently dating a woman in the Philippines that I have not met in person yet but this coming year March 2023 I will be meeting her for the first time and I know I've done a lot of research and regards to the Philippines in the culture and traditions and the laws there so I'm looking forward to meeting her for the first time
I've watched 3 of your videos so far and what really stands out to me is her constant touching and looking at you. It's a sign of how much she loves and appreciates you and it's a joy to watch.
I’m a very lucky man
@@ItsMe_Philippines No doubt!
It also shows how he is a patient and respectful man.
@@alexbakker8785 Thank you!
Never experienced anything like that with all the western women I dated or had a relationship with.. I craved it, but they just can't give it..
I love how she plays with you while you talk, see an american woman would be on her phone or disconnected from the moment. Very attentive and although shes bored sitting there shes still interested in you. Very refreshing and American girls, get off your phone. Missing what life is. You two are beautiful and happy to see a loving couple.
Thank you for leaving this comment! I’m a very lucky man
Crap
My Filipina wife would be on her phone, not listening to me, that's for sure, I am sure she would tell me I am talking way too much
Americans, period, need to get off our phones, not a gendered thing- As an older person, I'm glad that I experienced life without the phones (security blankets). Still, I do enjoy them :)
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I think everyone who has lived in Chicago feels safer when they leave.
More than likely!
Can swap Chicago for America and it's still factually accurate in that sentence. Pelosi is the 3rd most powerful person in America and her husband still got assaulted in their house. Anyone that thinks America is "Safe" is delusional.
@@oldman5564 sad but true
For sure!!
Depends which part of Chicago, but the winters are brutal especially when your in your late 50s and above. Warmer climate is better once you’re retired.
Note the free flow of communication. No picking his words or walking on egg shells. Hearty banter and he looks younger. I’m happy for you brother.
As an older man it's sweet to see how your wife loves on you and is affectionate. I wish you and your family many years of happiness and blessings together.
Thank you and it's nice being with someone that makes you feel loved.
Everyone is different. My mom and dad are Filipino and I was born and raised in the United States. My parents fled the Philippines 40 years ago for a better life in the United States. Even though their family is in the Philippines, they never regretted staying. They never wanted their kids to live a life they had and worked their asses off to provide a comfortable life. Needless to say, America does have better everything, other than beaches/islands/weather. New England is kinda hard to make a decent living, but they made it. Thank you mom and dad.
US is without a doubt the land of opportunity!
@making the move by darren The only way my parents were able to come to the US was from my dad joining the Navy. I can't imagine where we would be now. Once my dad was able to get here, in the US, he brought my mom over, became a US citizen, then married my mom, and then had kids.
@@Kawaii_Life. looks like your parents raised a smart woman!
@@Kawaii_Life. Damn you're cute
My son in law mother born Manila live America over 54 yrs never went back except to visit until she died half of her ashes went back her husband has other half she did not want to go back to a life of poverty she said so i like my job
My first few years in U.S. was tough too because everything was so unfamiliar and I thought I would never get hired for a white collar job. But once you learn the ropes, you'll appreciate living in U.S. because it offers so much opportunities and the quality of living is also a lot better. I love that I now have the job that I've always wanted and able to assist my family with their financial needs - it took me years of grinding but it's so worth it because I now have that stability in life that I've always dreamed of.
That’s great to hear and I agree, it is the land of opportunity!
Proud of you
Been married almost 17 years now. My wife came to the US and lived about 8 years there (with me of course).. Got her US citz. ONCE that was done it was all about moving back to the PH. Where we have been now for over 8 years full time. BEST thing we ever did was move to the province.
Great to hear this and happy you are live it here as we do. Appreciate the positive comment!
WHY get US Citizenship is you hate it there? I’m confused.
@@alyonapetrova694 First, we did not hate it, it was just better to live here in the PH. We go back and visit family, and having a US passport allows us to both travel to many more places. She was not as 'happy' there as she is here.
@@PHExpatPrepper There is a lot of hate on American expats all have same talking points
@@alyonapetrova694you must not be American. Having US citizenship opens many doors and it also makes traveling to the US infinitely more simple.
Great video!! It was nice to hear your wife's perspective on the US and how it really made her like the Philippines even more.
All her points made sense and some were also entertaining.
Your wife is beautiful glad to see you got her out of this place she would have been Americanized before long probably divorced
@@anthonyberry4607 there no promised on successful marriage Philippines ether no divorce but they split all the time
Wife is watching with me and we both agree with you guys! Thanks for the video!
Thank you!
I'm born and raised middle aged Filipino.. I have been in the US once and did serious road trip there.(16 states visited)Its a beautiful country with all it's natural parks and landscapes..It may not be perfect but it's an awesome place..
It is an amazing place to visit and travel. Endless wonderful sites to see!
I agree, stayed a few years and I love the parks.. The trails.. Creeks and whatnot, few of the things not common to us unless you go to tourist areas
@@ItsMe_Philippines If you don’t mind,, can you mention the general area of the Fils you’re in? I’ve heard there’s good and bad places in the Filipines, just like anywhere else. It looks serene and beautiful there, I agree. I’d much rather be warm there, then cold here. Thanks for sharing your video with us.
@@p42uynot59 we live on Negros island about an hour north of dumaguete
I want really miss the US when I move to Cayagan De Oro Philippine's. My fhilippa wife doesn't want to live here long either. Just visit
The background is absolutely beautiful!!!
It is and we walked here!
My English husband had always planned to take me to UK, 10 years on and I'm still here, my husband wanted me to get a British passport. Having a British passport definitely opened the world for me. Now that we have a beach house in Aklan and condo in Makati we plan to split our time between in UK and Philippines.
That’s a great plan!
Great , amazing plan I hope we can do the same as my job is in NYC , it’s getting more unsafe in the streets although I drive , I am more guarded than say 10 years ago, it’s time to come home for couple of months in the winter time but keep the condo in the US and buy a place in BGC.
@@lucillegil5306 I like your plan because I don’t feel comfortable in NYC
Wait manny yrs this only ilusion
@@MayorGabriel Well it's been 6+ years of hippieness so how long will it take?
Living in Southern California to a Filipina. We've been here 3 years and we agree with you 100%. Can't wait to return back to the Philippines. You're a beautiful couple. Stay safe and healthy 🙏
God bless
Thank you and enjoy your trip!
I too live in Southern California in Mission Viejo. Moved from the Philippines since I was 8 and I’m too westernize. All my family live in Orange County and all my friends are here. Can’t see myself living back home. Been here for over 45 years but I do visit my cousins and other relatives in Manila as well as in my old province. My folks go home every year before the pandemic to check on there properties.
My wife was raised in the outskirts of Manila. She came to SoCal 30 years ago to get her Master's Degree and has lived here ever since. Whenever she goes to the PI to visit her parents, she can't wait to get home. The traffic, humidity, and non-stop karaoke are just too much.
@@Airraidcd Grew up in Brea up the road from you.
"She misses seeing the snow, from INSIDE the house... " so cute. I enjoyed this video Cory and Rachel, and I think it was nice that Rachel was able to experience North American life first-hand, rather than relying on books and movies, etc. to learn about it. You were very good Cory to take Rachel to many varied locations across the U.S. for her see and experience. Glad to see you both unanimously agreed on your final location of residence: The Philippines. I am enjoying your videos. Cheers.
Thank you
Hi guys, I just found you, this is my second video, you are dispelling tons of preconceptions, you two are both very genuine and very committed to each other, the stereotype is all the girls pretend to like the American guy to get to the United States, you guys were in the United States and decided to go back to the Philippines, plus the way your are with each other is inspiring and you treat each other very well, which is another stereotype, the man lives in the Philippines because he is treated like a King, you can tell you treat each other as equals and are mutually supportive not just her supporting you, really cool videos, thanks for sharing them with us, and I'm from Michigan so this time of year I'm ordering lots of takeout too. :)
Thank you again for the positive and inspirational comment. It’s sad some of the stereotypes regarding people looking for a wife overseas. My wife is my best friend and treated like a princess, because to me, she is one. In the west they wanted to be treated like that for…..no reason.
a great pros and cons video... I think the biggest factor is the friendliness of the people. always having a smile on your face / in your heart keeps you healthy. Although a white Christmas is nice!
White Christmas is nice and really makes the holidays feel real. All the smiles I get is a worthy trade off though.
That’s what I kept pondering as I watched this great video. America in 1980 was amazing but except for places like Texas, the crime, politics, etc are so divisive and ugly. I don’t even celebrate July 4th anymore because the country is broken in spirit.
Enjoy the state parks, consumer efficiency, infrastructure, but then leave for a way of life that is friendly and pure.
I'm so glad she got a chance to experience the snow. All of my Filipino friends want to experience that. I should be back in the Philippines in the next few months. I can hardly wait
Watching her play in it was priceless. What island are you heading to.
@@ItsMe_Philippines I'm a bachelor, single and I'm just not really sure. The last time I came there I visited a little place called Guagua in Pampanga. I'm considering Boracay, Cebu or I might go to Manila to see Picachu. OMG!! That Picachu is something special. Hehehe!!
@@Warf_459 we love Cebu because it has everything you could want in the islands big enough to still explore on. Also, plenty of amazing beautiful locations around the island.
@@Warf_459 do check Siargao Island.
😅 I was a supervisor in a hospital and hired a filipina to work. Cold well Anchorage Alaska gets somewhat brisk in winter …. Love those brisk morning -10° to -20° and walk outside take a breath and the moisture in your nose flash freezes cold. 😊 yep winter in Manila and winter in Alaska are different 😂
Sad she was a great worker and smart. Worked in my cardiovascular lab. She had an artery burst in her brain and died 2 years ago. Miss you Mary Ann… 🌹
Wow, sorry to hear that my friend. Happy you got to know her though
So sorry to hear that! I know what you mean though. I lost my wife to cancer 2 years ago next week, and I mess her very much! Take care!
Cool video. Sounds like you gave her the complete tour. It was nice to hear an outsiders perspective. Can't wait to get there to PH.
I tried to show her as much as I could.
My wife came you Atlanta Georgia USA in 2016. 4 kids later we built new house in the Philippines. And we moved back to the Philippines in 2021 for me to retire and raise our kids. She enjoyed the USA but we made a 5 year plan to eventually move back and we accomplished our goal.
Great to hear that!
Awww I can't wait til I can show my love all the different places in the states. I hope she doesn't feel too uncomfortable with the transition. Thanks for the video 🥰
You did well. You've got your head on straight and a good future ahead. Happy for the both of you. Mabuhay
Thank you
I was born in the Philippines and lived there (mostly) until age 21. I moved to Central Illinois for school. I was fortunate that there were already other Filipino graduate students here, so along with other Filipino community members, we had a support system. Still, the first winter was hard, and I thought about going back/moving elsewhere. Fast forward four decades later, I’m still here (met my husband just before graduating, so it’s all on him 😂) and now a senior member of the local Filipino community, despite slipping in ice and spraining my elbow, and my car sliding in ice a few times. We enjoy spring, summer and fall here, but I like summers the best since I can work in our garden and go to the city outdoor pool to swim.
In less than a week, my husband (originally from NJ) and I will begin our trans-Pacific snowbird experience (I just booked our flights to El Nido today, so excited 😃). We invested in a condo in QC and hope to spend a couple of months there every winter. If you asked me ten years ago, this was not something I thought we would do. When we first met, hubby said he was not fond of traveling, but now he’s the first to suggest going places 😂 We also did not foresee that we would move to China in 2012 where he was offered a foreign expert position. That took a week of discussing the pros and cons. But maybe living in China until just before the pandemic opened his eyes to the possibility of living in the Philippines. We still enjoy living in our house in Illinois, but not so much in the winter, especially now that we are older. We live in a not-so-big university town (about 110K people, two towns combined) and people are generally friendly. It’s usual to run into someone you know when you’re out and about.
Eventually, when we’re not able to take care of ourselves, the plan is to move to the Philippines permanently. We don’t have children of our own, so we warned our Philippine niece and nephews that they’ll have to be our guardians, and they’re okay with it. Hubby gets along great with my family, and is probably closer to them than his own family. Staying in QC works for us since it’s where 4/6 of my siblings live, modern conveniences are available, and there’s access to good and affordable healthcare. My husband got off the plane once in Manila, after having spent the week at a conference in India and needed surgery. Luckily, my siblings knew people who directed us to the right doctor, who admitted him to St. Luke’s in BGC and I was able to stay with him in his private room the whole time.
So yeah, we have our reasons for liking being in both countries 🇺🇸 🇵🇭
My Wife never planned on coming here to stay either. At 1st she wanted me to just come there but that wasn't realistic. She's been here with me almost 11 years now. She does go there every year for 8 weeks to be with her family. We have bought 2 separate properties in Leyte. One is a 12 acre coconut farm and the other a 2000 square meter plot where we plan to build a house, hopefully start next year. I'm a owner/operator truck driver so we travel a lot and I have the freedom to book loads going where we want to go and spend a week here and there at locations we want to explore. That has made her time here much easier, it's like a non-stop vacation. She had seen all lower 48 states within her 1st 6 months here.
My Wife relates to your Wife a lot I think.
Thanks for the video you two and keep them coming.
Great story and good to hear that she’s seen so much. Many Filipinas that go to the states never get to travel or experience things.
We are both lucky men my friend.
hey man you're lucky pnays are romantic and caring they are the best.
@@tonymckay6556 I truly am
Philippine is The most Beautiful island to live and they have one of the most down to earth people very happy always with big smile friendly they are great people in Philippine. You guys make a great couple I wish you a very happy life always
Thank you for that positive comment my friend. Everything you said is spot on, and we love living here!
I saw one of your videos where your wife was playing in the snow while you were waiting for her to get in the car. Too cute.
She loved it! I had to record it…. Then she got cold and said let’s stay inside until spring lol
@@ItsMe_Philippines Hahaha 😆
I’m not a fan of snow, it’s good like if you’re on vacation (skiing) but working, going to groceries and the cold.. yeah not for me
She’s an absolute angel my man. Well done brutha.
Agreed and thank you
Another great video! Thanks Corey and Raquel. Take care.
Thanks! You too!
I had planned on bringing my wife to the United States, but Covid put a stop to that. I was wanting her to experience America.
Although that never happened, I’m very happy living here in the Philippines.
Covid put us in a bad spot as well. Did a video on here getting to the USA last year. Not fun
Imo, if it was me I'd take her.. But probably just to visit
If I was you I would not bring her to America western women will poison her mind
@@youngsavagefury7138 she spent two years with me there and enjoyed it, but wanted to go back to the Philippines. I am going
@@ItsMe_Philippines oh ok.
I've just stumbled on your channel and I have to say the way you two are with each other is so good to see. The way couples should be. I would love to visit the Philippines and would love to retire there. In like 10yrs or less. Btw I'm 47yrs old. Well GOD bless you two and please keep making the videos
Thank you
Oh My...your wife is sooo dam cute...a keeper..!! You are a lucky man...I wish you two the all the best..!!!
Yes she is! And I will!
Should do a Part Two of this visit to America. Let her talk more about her experiences. We need to hear her more about this because it is different for her. She has more to say And you can see it in her face expressions whenever you’re talking.
We could do that in the future
@@ItsMe_Philippinesyeah, let the lady talk, you go on and on and on, saying the same crap, interrupting this young lady. Be respectful and let her talk. Geeez
@@DeltaDawg She was nervous doing the video and asked me to ONLY ask her questions and would squeez my hand for me to jump in. Thank you for your input.
I’ve just come across your blogs today and very impressive. Love your respect for her and all the love we see. Thanks for sharing and I look forward to learning much more.
Thank you!
The love you have for each other, though I know you love her so much more really inspires because she is genuinely learning.
We both learn from one another!
You look good together! You can feel the affection between you both!
Thank you!
I think for me when it comes to the cost of living from USA to the Philippines is far more different..if given a chance to have a foreign husband i dont mind if he wants to live here in my country or his country..as long as we both agreed to make a decission on were we will permanently live..Seems like its perfect for both of u guys to live here in the Philippines..Thank u guys for sharing,u truly are an inspiration..God bless u Cory and Rachel🙏
Thank you 😊
Florence tell me PayPal to send you money
I currently live in China while hailing from the US and most of this is true even comparing China with the US. I will move to the Philippines hopefully in a few years with my soon to be Filipina wife i met here in Shanghai. Hopefully i will like it as much as you guys do. 😊
Sounds like a good plan my friend and let me know if you’re ever local! Shanghai has some amazing food!
hey man they are the best romantic and caring. great caregiver when you're already old. you will not regret it. they take a bath everyday.
If u like modern conveniences live here in the US. But there's no tight community connection. We have neighbors 30 yrs now that we don't talk to. Here you're living in the fast lane going straight ahead to an oncoming traffic. By the time you retire, you're already handicapped and full of health issues. How I miss my laid back, happy country surrounded by caring friends and families.
@@ruthellis5043 That's the life my parents had but not available now......
You will definitely filifinos are very welcoming people.
Good video. My bride of almost 18 years has lived here in Phoenix the entire time. What made it easier on her was she by luck happened to run into a classmate of hers from the Pinas' early on and it really helped to smooth over the transition. We only have a 6 years age gap 54 / 48 and the plan is to both retire at the same time once our son completes college in the next 6 - 7 years. We will keep our home here and my bride has bought property in Bago City, Neg Occ. . I'd rather live in the province on a farm but happy wife happy life so Bago City it is !
Sounds like a great plan, my friend I’m sure you’ll be truly happy! Let me know when you’re local because you’re on the same island as me.
Having a local friend in the states is really helpful for them.
@@ItsMe_Philippines .... Will do.
I’m also from Bago City👍🏻
@@tonivillanueva7350 Good to know. We will reside in barangay Pabacion.
@@dickeyspaz3222 That’s where I’m from. Walking distance from Bantayan Park.
Dude, same mentality here…. My wife had all the same observations!!! We live on Cebu now, but my wife was in the USA for 5 years and despite finding it an adventure, we are both happy to have left there and back in the Philippines. Family is a big part, but as my wife got to understand the politics and day to day of the USA….. she was not so impressed…. Really, I am not impressed anymore either. My wife got to see a huge part of the USA ( 31 states) as we lived in Seattle and the Chicago area. All in all, I am married to a very proud US citizen, but also someone that is happy to be here in the Philippines with me for the rest of our lives. Congrats to you both and hope your adjustment to this life is as easy as mine.
Great comment and thank you for taking the time to write it. Happy to hear more stories similar to mine and living the dream as we do.
Just my opinion, if you are young and have thick skin you can make it here in the US, and there's a lot of opportunity to have (if you are young) and build financially for the future. But yes, for my parents when we immigrated to the US in the early 1970s, they really missed the Philippines. For me, it was adventure, new world, I was young, nothing bothers me. It is different now compared to back then in late '60s and early '70s US. Our first neighbor, once told us "what are you people coming over here for?". I remember one time, we did not have a vehicle, no one wanted to take us to the store to food shop, so we all walked in the winter cold to the supermarket, it was so different to the Filipinos who are willing to help. On the way, we got hassled by a group in a car, jeering at us. It was sad for my parents. But we pushed on, worked hard, we studied hard, obeyed the law, saved money and found our professional jobs. Those neighbors who were prejudiced at us eventually became our friends and we became good neighbors, they were just not used to seeing different culture, to them it was a threat.
Life has changed a lot over the years my friend.
So true when I came here I was treated differently , it did bother me but i decided to better myself and not indulge on such attitude,I came to NYC in 1987 for work I got recruited and had visa ready and an apartment with 1 roomate , quite lucky, the first 2 years was hard but when I got my green card I immediately enrolled to get my masters degree and more certifications to get a better position and more pay, I did not waste anytime on the days I am off I work part time to earn extra money , I learned how to drive and bought my own car, that opened up lots of opportunities as I can get a job that pays more because I can get there without relying on public transportation, we Filipinos are resilient and hard working . I met my husband from a networking events and since he is half French I also enrolled to learn his language , and both our kids are fluent on both languages.
In a nut shell !! The sacrifice that the male makes is hopefully appreciated.. To make things work..new to channel !! Great vlogs 🤙🏼
Thank you!
You guys look very happy together! That's great!
We are!
im glad you got to show her the us. you really love her. thats great.
Hello from Chicago! I see how attentive and respectful you are. Had been to Dumaguete 30 years ago, loved the place!
Thank you! And you should come visit then!
Love your post. I’m married to a Filipina and live in the U.S. in a suburb of Columbus (Dublin). We’ve been married for 18 years. Courted each other for about a year and a half before we married. Though I was living in Charlotte, NC when she immigrated to the US. A year later we moved back to my home State of Ohio. It looks like you two have a similar age gap. I was 41 and she was 23 when we met.
So both of us have something in common in being from the Great Lakes Region who had the balls not to accept the U.S. status quo on dating and married a beautiful Filipina.
One pro about living together in the U.S. that you didn’t mention, as I’m sure you don’t want to sound arrogant or boast, but is true nevertheless, is that isn’t an awesome feeling and boost to your ego to know you’re married to the prettiest girl (inside and out) in the whole city?
Just to give you a smile, that’s my wife’s picture as my icon. I took it last year. So she was 42 when I took the picture and her looks haven’t changed in a year….so just think…20 years from now you’re still going to be married to the prettiest girl (inside and out) in town. 😊
So I’m going to pay attention to your posts and see what I can learn from your experiences as a couple living in the Philippines. Best of luck to you both!
They only have like a 7 year age gap. Yours is 17!!
You guys look like such a nice couple. What you guys have is true wealth and a very bountiful life, which I`m sure both of you worked hard to achieve.
Great comment, love the positivity
Awsome you were able to experience USA together. The speed of traffic, the ease and convenience of business, the cold weather. There’s a case to be made in splitting time between both places.
There really is and I can see people doing that to enjoy the summer and fall. I will always miss mountain biking in the fall living in New England.
I have not lived in the US for 24 years...... The fun playfulness of your wife and the great (natural) sense of humor is adding years to your life Core.
Thank you very much and I completely agree!
I can already see the benefits of this vlog. Because that has been a great concern for me!
Thank you my friend. I really do appreciate the positive comments. Feel free to shoot me I want to discuss anything.
Second vid of yours I have watched, appreciate all the info...just hearing about the costs (on a recent vid), and seeing the ocean waves in the background on this vid while there is SNOW here and it is cold, and you are on the beach...there are no words to explain how much I am thinking of doing what you did, lolrofl
lol I hear that a lot!
I lived in the Philippines my first 29 years, and in the US the next 30 years. Both countries have their pluses, and of course as many minuses. No place is perfect. But, if you have a lot of family obligations, US is the place. However, if you want to be happy, you should choose the Philippines for as long as you have a source of income to have a comfortable life. The excess you earn in the US means more family you could help. However, you need to take care of yourself, too. My kids are all settled, and I'm just waiting to retire so I don't have to worry about finances. I'll retire as soon as I can and will pack up and move back to the Philippines. I'll be leaving my youngest here, and fortunately, my two older kids chose to go to school in the Philippines and are now also settled there. I don't see me coming back to the US for more than a quick visit after I move back there. I always intended to return, and I wish the Philippines is more industrialized and richer so that no one will ever have to leave it to work abroad. If the Philippines have that, it will be a perfect place. However, as with many industrialized countries, we may lose so many things that makes the Philippines a happy place. Unless, the Philippines becomes a Democratic Socialist country where we have all the benefits most Americans have -- universal Healthcare, paid maternity leave, two months paid vacation, free college education, and other social programs that support the family and the community to remain close-knit, and so that people don't have to work so hard and too materialistic. That's what I pray for the Philippines. A land of happy, kind people who will remain family-oriented and who are invested in their community, and proud of their country and its people. Soon, I hope.
Pohon
Annabelle you are so right. My retirement income did so much for our extended family in Manila and I was able to petition and assist in bringing (20 family members to the US over (30 years) but after earning thousands of US dollars most of our family return for several months and a few have moved back to PI with there retirement incomes to live very well.
My hard working neighbors owe me a lot of free stuff from their confiscated earnings
Pipe dream...
@@jacqueslefave4296 : It's not a dream. It's something we can work towards. I don't see why you feel the need to say something negative. You.must be fat and miserable. 😅
Great video. Really great perspective and comparison of the living experience between the two places. Will you do a video of how you two met? 👍
We've been getting asked that a lot so it looks like we will have to soon!
Your wife is absolutely beautiful!! Congratulations dude, great choice.
Great thank you
This couple is so kind ! I am in Philippines right now, I hope to get the same luck as this good man has !)
Thank you!!!
What a lovely couple. And she’s a beautiful, intelligent woman that clearly loves him very much.
Don’t let go of that, both of you-it’s rare.
Good story and perspectives. Been thinking about living for a while in Philippines and or Thailand. It Def adds to the mental game hearing from both angles ❤️
Both countries have a lot to offer in each have their downfalls as well. Just have a visit to use location so you can pick up your mind.
You're spot on with time in the Philippines. No one is on time. That's so funny cus I experienced that a lot
Lol
Hey man...I ran across one of your videos the other day where you were kind of explaining why you came to the Philippines. I'm in the U.S. right now getting ready to move to PH permanently but I'm just writing to tell you that back in February, I was at the McDonald's in Dumaguete by City Mall just waiting for my food and started talking to you. You introduced yourself and your lovely wife, Raquel and we talked for a few minutes. Until I saw your video the other day, that was just a distant memory but now a fond memory of two very down to earth people and a chance meeting. God bless you both and hopefully I'll see you both again when I'm permanently in Dumaguete! Take care...Dean
Dean, thank you for the compliment and happy to hear that you're in fact making the permit move. Feel free to shoot me an email when you get here or need assistance and I'd be happy to help. We go to Dumaguete every couple weeks so I'm sure we will meet again my friend. philippines.itsme@gmail.com
@@ItsMe_Philippines I'm curious, Corey if you remember that interaction? I remember you told me where you lived and how you're a rare foreigner where you live and that you came to Dumaguete every couple weeks to get things you cannot find where you live. Anyway, do you have a fb or Whatsapp?
Subscribed... This was interesting for me to watch Having my Filipina wife here for over 9 years now. I just started making videos about us and how/why we separated some years ago. I'm thinking about interviewing her like this. We've stayed good friends. I love the Philippines for how the people are there and I just came back from my third trip to the Philippines on a solo trip to see some more places, to scope out where I'd most like to retire to someday.
Thanks for the sub
you’re a quirky, funny, cute couple! ☺️😚 enjoy the Philippines mate! I myself can’t wait to go back for good!
You'll smile the second you step off that flight!
@@ItsMe_Philippines ha!😅atm literally watching your “why I went looking for a wife overseas” I wasn’t expecting a reply from my comment being that the video is about 4weeks old… and I think it’s awesome of you to reply! 👊🏼
@@FearTheBRIX I try to respond to everyone. UA-cam doesn't send me most notifications so I go through each video daily.
15:10 is so true. Its very frustrating when people don't want even want to look at you or talk. Big minus here in the US. Bless you two.
Thank you my friend and it was not always like that there….
Always friendly people here though 🇵🇭🏝
I guess it depends on one's location. In a bigger city people often dont like to talk. Im filipina living in a smaller town in Georgia for 19 years now, I actually loved it here! I find people nice and welcoming. They always say here there and ask how are you. But the south is known of their southern hospitality anyways. Just like yesterday, my daughter and I went to vote, there's this young African American man who was ahead of us and he was holding the door for us. This is still very common where I live and I do the same as well as my daughter.
@@jane_7777 That is great to hear and hope we have more areas like that.
Believe me there are alot of filipinas who came to America for the green card and left their sponsor. Ive met their ex husbands and or boyfriends. But not all, glad you have a strong relationship. Best of luck.......
Excellent video. Thank you fir both of your experiences. Of course especially hers :)
Great Video, Greatt Idea to finally hear the prospective from a filipino wife who's been to U.S. and hear the comparison. thanks for posting
No need to thank me. Thank you for watching.
10 years ago I never imagined living outside the US. Now I am looking forward to living in asia. I now prioritize warm friendly people over all the fancy malls and materialism.
Sadly, the material things end up owning us, and we do not own them. It took me years to realize that, and now I’m happier with the little I have.
Many parts of Thailand and Philippines look slummy. Normally that would bother me but now I am ready to leave the toxic attitudes that prevail in many western cities.
We've got better malls. Trust me.
But we're much much friendlier.
@@samboni702 Many places in the US look slummy, and there are tons of depressiungly bland strip mall tracts that stretch for miles
@Sam Boni that's anywhere on the planet economies exist, friend. Go drive through LA where I grew up. It's a literal shithole now. Looks worse than anything I've seen in the third world up to this point. Same in many other places like new York, Chicago, Detroit, St Louis, and New Orleans. Those last two made it into the 50 most dangerous cities in the world list. I'm not big on Philippino cuisine, but it looks like a hell of a nice place to work abroad with my business starting out.
We went to the Philippines 2 months ago,it was my husband first time in Ph he loved it so so much,our plan is to move there nextyear when he retire but I thought I am eligible to aplly my naturalization this year or nextyear but not yet need to wait 4 more years 😩😩😩 He don’t have a choice is to work Still 😢feel Bad for him 😢😢. We are Jelous of u Guys!!
Come back for a visit!
Nice living in the rural Philippines. It’s like you all have the time in the world doing things that
you wanna do.
Very peaceful
Spot on!
My wife and I are currently in Westmont, Illinois. Everything your wife said, my wife agrees. America is a great place to experience for a while, but not forever.
PS, your wife doesn't say much, but her facial expressions says it all while you're talking. Ha ha ha.
God bless you, if you're ever in Palawan, give us a shout.
lol thank you and will do
Really enjoyed the insights from a Filipina's perspective ... my Filipina wants to touch the snow - I said she'd only want to do it once lol ... thanks for sharing!
Only once is right! Lol
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Very good video👍. I was in Lapu Lapu in October and hope to make it back in Feb or Mar and retire early there in a year or two. I can relate to a Filipina getting cold in less than 70°🤣, I'm actually the same so I fit in over there. I felt at peace there except a few times from miscommunication.
🥶 Hahaha that’s to funny 😂 I hear great things about Lapu Lapu so I’ll have to plan a visit soon. Sounds like you have a great plan my friend and I’m sure you enjoy every moment over here.
My step mom is Filipino. She prefers living in NY city, but didn't like the country areas. My Dad loves the Philippines and moved there.
Everyone’s different!
Great comparisons. Appreciate the vid 👍
Thank you and thanks for watching
You're a super symphatic guy. Thank you for all the insights !
I’m with you… I love the friendly, smiling people in the Philippines (and Cambodia where I live) and miss that when I go back to the US.
How do you like Cambodia? Looking at taking a vacation there after our next Bangkok trip.
@@ItsMe_Philippines I love Siem Reap. It’s very safe, clean and uncongested. It’s a beautiful river town with tree-lined streets on either side of the river that passes through town. Pub Street is the center of attraction after the temples of Angkor Wat 1 mile north of town. I would stay away from Kampot (nothing worth seeing) and Phnom Penh is a huge cith with its share of petty crime and is more expensive than Siem Reap. It’s just a big city which I did not really enjoy. Siem Reap is the clear winner of the 3 cities I’ve been to and explored here in Cambodia. You’ll enjoy it for sure!
My wife came to Canada Vancouver more than 22 years ago and we have been to Philippines for holidays 4-5 x We are looking forward to retiring in the Philippines. My wife’s mother is aiming to retire with her Canadian husband in the next year back in the Philippines too
Great to hear! What island are looking to live on?
Thanks
We are looking at Antipolo area where we have a lot that we could build on or maybe sell and find a house in a not hyper priced ( more modest ) gated community around there
@@markeuringer8106 nice area. Reason for wanting to be in a gated community? It’s safer around here than most locations in western countries.
Antipolo is where my daughter lives and we bought a lot at a golf course there If we build…. Then that’s where we live. We may sell the lot and choose other options. Right now . Building there is the first option of our choosing 😇
Ive been mentioning to my wife of 6 years that I'd like to move to her country but now that she has been here for the length of time she has its difficult to get her to want to go back. We have 3 kids now so that's what makes the decision to move there challenging. They are 5, 3, and 2 months old
That would be tricky to adapt to with the children. Maybe go on vacation and purchase a small piece of land or a condo to vacation in. Then later in life, you have a place that you purchase back when it was cheap.
My Filipina didn't want to go the US.....I think she regrets a little now but she won't admit it (LOL), kudos to your wife for being able to live in Chicago.....my wife cries when I leave the fan on when she comes out of the shower screaming it's so cold.....only Filipinos can say it's cold here in the PH.....and I'm from NYC, so she can't handle the Northeast winters
Agree on most of your pros/cons.....at the end of the day if the pros outweigh the cons, then we're good.....enjoy and be safe!
Pro’s and con’s are of course subjective to the person’s giving them. Appreciate the positive comment and my wife does NOT miss the cold lol
Filipina always stands out in all aspects 😊
She is gorgeous! Congratulations brotha!
Thank you and yes she is!
Some good advice I heard from a guy who had lived in Japan for a long time with a Japanese woman. He said, never take the woman out of her home country permanently. Many exceptions of course but not a bad rule of thumb
True!
Stay safe Both of you...Be happy..for better or for worst...
We are ALWAYS happy here in the Philippines! 🇵🇭
@@ItsMe_Philippines happy to hear that my friend. Unfortunately, I am currently on the opposite of fence right now..Are you staying in Zamboanga Area?
Any many cases the smiling or out of the blue speaking to a stranger thing is about trust. If you smile or speak to a stranger their thought is, "Ok, what does this person want, what are they up to, why are they trying to get closer to me by being nice?"
Sad but true
Love the honesty. Great video. All the best for the future
Thank you
A nice testimony of life here and there.
Bing was here for two years due to the pandemic. She's home again and we're making big decisions. Will it be here or there? For us, age and health is a big factor.
Great vlog..such a nice couple! Just subscribed!😉
Thanks for the sub! All locations have good and bad to them. We prefer it here though.
@@ItsMe_Philippines yes, that's true!
It was very cool to hear Raquel's opinions and ideas about the USA. For the most part, very understandable. She seems like a nice lady. Since I lived outside the USA for a lot of years I can identify with her from the opposite direction. HA!
Yes, it’s always fun talking to her about the things that she enjoys. I didn’t like him they’ll be the basics that I wouldn’t even think about a notice.
Hi ..just subscribed...from Arizona...I guess it's all different for everyone...I married my American husband 30 years ago ...it was a dream since I was a kid to marry an American and live in the USA. That does not mean I don't love my Filipino family or my parents but I really wanted to come to America. I came here and I did not know anybody but my husband. I adjusted very well and developed friendship with a lot of women in the church. That is one good thing marrying someone that has same Christian belief that I have, it made it easier to make friends and develop relationships with women in the church. Living in America is not bad...as long as you have a good job and you are willing to work. But now that I am getting to the point of retiring from working I have been talking to my husband that I do want to retire part time in the Philippines. Hopefully in the next 5 years. The Philippines is so much more industrialized now and so developed that I know I can have the same comfort I have here in the USA if I live there. I wish you would have meet more people and more opened to not just Filipino friends. The women in church that welcomed me 30 years ago are not Filipinos, but they are still my friends now even though we are not in the same city or state any more.
That’s great to hear 😊 most people I speak with want to head back here 🇵🇭
I agree about the weather, I live in Schaumburg, (if you are from Chicago, you know where that is) and it can be extremely cold in the morning, hot by noon and rainy at around 3pm. It could also be 70 degrees one day and 40 the next day. I always have to check the forecast before I go out.
That’s IL alright!
I appreciate the video. My wife was born in Mindanao but moved to San Diego CA when she was 3. Half her family is in the PI. We've been married for 29 years. I'm retiring this year and I want to eventually buy a home in the PI close to the beach. My wife thinks I'm crazy lol..
I've been in the US back in 2006 visiting yes but to live Nah! thank you even though San Diego is full of Pinoys but still the feelings are not there still cried so many times at night I feel so homesick I work in homecare as a technician/maintenance and added to my stress level seeing old people there being left by their family only been visited once a month by their family that was new to me. salary is good but money can cope with the homesickness I miss my family so I decided to follow my wife to Spain and that's the best decision of my life... but comparing Europe and North America I still gonna choose the Philippines hands down. Oh! and about the Filipino times we don't really mind the time when just visiting a friend and family it's different at work and it's not a negative side we don't stress about simple things that's why you don't see people just shooting randomly on the street just because of stress... Filipino are very resilient about things that western cant cope too, we don't have life insurance which becomes a red dot on your back...
Thanks for the comment and I hear Spain is beautiful
I am married to a Filipina and she also doesn’t really want to be in the states and we are planning to move to the Philippines as our permanant home in the future . My wife always tells me she is only in the states is to be with me she has been here now 5 yrs and we plan to build a home in the Philippines and move to Philippines as soon as I retire.My wife does also complain she doesn’t feel safe in the states and feels more safe in the Philippines
Smart man and great plan
She's a keeper
Fact
I disagree. I’m an old dog and have lived a lot of life and have seen a lot. You develop discernment.
@@ItsMe_Philippinesyeah, she’s gonna keep your wealth when she divorced you in American courts. That’s how she’s a keeper.
@@andre1987eph you should really keep your ignorance to yourself. Speaking about something that you have no knowledge and is really making you look bad. She never got her green card and we have a solid prenup in both countries. Appreciate you watching and I hope your attitude in life changes for the better.
@@ItsMe_Philippines i agree!! I have a prenup also. We've never brought ut up!! That guy is talking out of his ass!!
What a lovely couple. Really important the lady saw your way of living in the States and you've made a rational decision about staying in the Philippines. Of course there's pros and cons, but, that's life.
Thank you and well said
The United States has changed a great deal since I was young. People are more fearful, even though crime has been going down for 40 + years. The US used to have more Community Life than it does now. Small towns had small family owned businesses where you knew everyone in Town. There were many more small places to eat, public places to swim and relax for free. Lakes and Creeks that had public access. Now it costs money to leave your home and the money you spend, no longer goes to your neighbors and their businesses. At the end of the day, the Chain Stores deposit their money and it goes to the Corporate Headquarters. As kids, we had the run of the whole town, walked or rode out bicycles everywhere, as long as we were home for dinner.
It’s sad but you are 100% correct. When I grew up, we would go to the river or the lake and jump off the rope Swing and have fun. Now it’s not safe to walk there and there’s signs posted because someone sued them for using it. It is completely different.
That's true at 12:15 Filipina's love music- and karaoke. I remember well the celebratory music in the Philippines around Christmas time. And how early the Christmas season started- in September. ☝️😎👍
All the palm trees have lights lol
@@ItsMe_Philippines
and telephone polls, jeepneys, etc...
My wife was born and raised here in Dumaguete but lived in Amsterdam for many years before moving to the USA. I think she shares many of the same likes and dislikes as your wife when comparing America to here but she did get used to cold weather during her time in the Netherlands. People are generally much different here than the US just in regards to the consistent outgoing and wonderful disposition and the positive outlook on life and certainly the genuine closeness with a wide assortment of family members. I love it here for that reason alone but agree it's also important to consider how much more affordable it is here in comparison. One thing that has happened several times this week that helps illustrate the difference between living here versus the US is there have been groups of young people coming by our house in the evening singing Christmas carols. I think that used to be fairly common multiple decades ago in the US but when I was still living there I don't remember it happening even one time. Did want to mention that Amazon actually does offer service at least here in Dumaguete but instead of one or two days it takes weeks for the item to arrive. Thanks for posting yet another great video and I appreciate the willingness to share the detailed insight and observations.
Thank you for the detailed and positive comment. Amazon is a possibility here but with custom fees not always worth it. Depends on the value I guess.
@@ItsMe_Philippines Excellent point about the fees but for items like dental floss and razor blades, I haven't been able to find anything close to the same quality available locally but maybe I just haven't looked hard enough. The other aspect I wanted to call out is your wife has obviously worked very hard on her English. My wife had to become fluent in Dutch to live in Amsterdam and naturally speaks the local dialect here in the Philippines and also speaks English. I have to constantly remind myself that while her English is actually quite good it wasn't either of her primary languages and I need to remain patient whenever we have conversations. Just curious if your wife had any concerns when she was in the US about having conversations with others in English? I noticed people here in Dumaguete really appreciate any effort I make to use my extremely limited capability with the local dialect. I also notice you are doing a great job with your effort to consistently use the native lingo! Something I have set as a goal is to eventually become much more fluent.
@@boise2Talay7886 thank you for taking the time to leave this comment.
She was worried about her English going to the states. I told her she really didn’t need to worry about it and she would learn more as she spoke it every day consistently. She’s asked me multiple times if she should try to improve her accent and English more. I told her there’s no need because I’m attracted to her accent and wouldn’t want her to change anything.
Your wife situation is very impressive because Dutch is nothing like English or any of the Filipino languages.
I consistently try to learn and improve so I can get better as time goes on. Luckily for us they are very understanding culture and I’ve never been spoken down to or treated negatively for my lack of knowledge of the language. Keep improving one day at a time is my goal!
@@ItsMe_Philippines That's awesome and your reaction to her questions and advice regarding her English doesn't surprise me at all. Early on in my relationship with my wife she would occasionally bust out some Dutch during our conversations and then giggle and say "I speak Dutch to you" and it was adorable so I agree, don't change a thing was certainly the best course of action.
I really enjoyed this video and you've convinced me to look into a trip to the Philippines.
Nice!
Good luck to your journey guys. Enjoy life , very nice hearing from you both. She is very smart and understand well.
Thank you for the compliment and great comment
Good evening it's probably morning there but I just wanted to say this is a very refreshing video to watch we all have a lot to learn when it comes to different countries . I am also currently dating a woman in the Philippines that I have not met in person yet but this coming year March 2023 I will be meeting her for the first time and I know I've done a lot of research and regards to the Philippines in the culture and traditions and the laws there so I'm looking forward to meeting her for the first time
Good to hear my friend. What island are you going to?
@@ItsMe_Philippines leyte
My girlfriend hopefully my future wife and Jennifer he is from the Providence of
She's from the Providence of. Leyte
@@michaelmcneal3793 oh, that’s nice. I heard really good things about that island but I get to visit myself.
Believe it or not most of us are friendly and helpful