How to Tell if Your Addicted Loved One is Manipulating or Being Honest

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  • Опубліковано 24 кві 2024
  • In this video, we delve into the complex dynamics of addiction within families and explore the challenging task of distinguishing between manipulation and honesty in our addicted loved ones. With insights and practical tips, we aim to empower viewers to navigate these difficult situations with clarity and compassion. Join us as we uncover the subtle cues and behaviors that can help you discern whether your family member is being genuine or attempting to manipulate, ultimately fostering healthier relationships and boundaries in the journey towards recovery. Watch now to learn how to navigate this delicate balance with empathy and understanding.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 49

  • @AMM3.
    @AMM3. 2 місяці тому +18

    The phrase "You know they're lying because their lips are moving".. was probably penned by someone dealing with an addict.

  • @michellecodispoti3665
    @michellecodispoti3665 2 місяці тому +12

    So tired of the lies. Tired of not living my authentic life! God forbid you ask a question!

  • @IOSARBX
    @IOSARBX 2 місяці тому +8

    Put The Shovel Down, Your videos always make me happy, so I subscribed!

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  2 місяці тому

      That's awesome, IOSARBX. Welcome to our little community. Glad you're here 😀

  • @johnnyjames9705
    @johnnyjames9705 2 місяці тому +5

    Put the shovel down should be the name of your book. That phrase says so very much about your teaching and guide style. First. Put the shovel down. Thank you. That phrase helped me stop in my tracks and first put the shovel down before approaching the situation. I have grown exponentially taking your words to heart and applying good action. Not shovel action. Thank you

  • @BCK869
    @BCK869 2 місяці тому +5

    ?????? How do you combat the negativity and the self deception of the addict????? My friend, who is addicted to alcohol, is very negative about everything and wants to be in crisis mode all the time so that he can have an excuse to drink more. How do you combat his type of thinking and let the addict see a more realistic picture of life and the need to stop drinking to get out of crisis mode?

    • @Tay-fl8ym
      @Tay-fl8ym 2 місяці тому

      I’d love to hear a video about this because I see this daily. It’s exhausting! 😓

  • @IOSARBX
    @IOSARBX 2 місяці тому +5

    Put The Shovel Down, This made me laugh so hard, thanks for sharing!

  • @user-gg4cb6md6t
    @user-gg4cb6md6t 2 місяці тому +2

    Thank you Amber. The message I need to hear - again and again 😂
    Keeps me from losing motivation

  • @ReginaGinamaria79
    @ReginaGinamaria79 2 місяці тому +3

    Your a life saver I really appreciate your page ❤❤❤ everything makes sense now with my partner and his addiction

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  2 місяці тому

      Thank you so much for your words of encouragement, Regina!

  • @angirgie729
    @angirgie729 2 місяці тому +4

    Thank yoy for making these videos!

  • @stephencaudill2422
    @stephencaudill2422 2 місяці тому +3

    There is no such thing as an honest addict. Oh sure, they will sometimes tell the truth, but never the WHOLE truth...

  • @kimlee1416
    @kimlee1416 2 місяці тому +2

    Thank you for sharing, much appreciated.
    God bless you.

  • @JAMN2GD
    @JAMN2GD 2 місяці тому

    Ah man Bonnie. Stick with it. Trust will come again. AWESOME to hear. I envy you . Great job.

  • @LadyBug31705
    @LadyBug31705 2 місяці тому +6

    Is there any hope for a relationship where there has been alot of gaslighting around an addiction?

    • @jenniferandrews8449
      @jenniferandrews8449 2 місяці тому

      That's a great question! I've been dealing with it from my son for 4 years now and I never really thought of that question but you've got me wondering about it now! I hope Amber gives a reply!

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  2 місяці тому +5

      Yes there is hope. I've seen people and relationships come back from the brink, lots of times!

    • @ritannaji492
      @ritannaji492 25 днів тому

      Thank God there is hope .

  • @georgiatina7361
    @georgiatina7361 26 днів тому

    I’m 73 and can’t even bear talking with my 42 year old addict daughter on the phone. I feel sick and don’t know how to get over this feeling.

  • @JayneDryden
    @JayneDryden 2 місяці тому +1

    I'd have to say " that doesn't make sense, why would you do that?"

  • @LadyBug31705
    @LadyBug31705 2 місяці тому +5

    How do you help them see their own deception?

    • @AMM3.
      @AMM3. 2 місяці тому +1

      They know. They're masters of manipulation. Not stupid.

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  2 місяці тому +1

      The most helpful thing is to step out of the way so they have to pay attention to their own behaviors instead of focusing on others.

  • @MichaelAlbrecht-jx5cp
    @MichaelAlbrecht-jx5cp 2 місяці тому +3

    Yep it's a lie

  • @tamarazwinak1447
    @tamarazwinak1447 2 місяці тому

    We have a property manager who is likely an alcoholic. She parties with tenants who have addiction and severe mental health issues. One died. The company does nothing to stop it bc this person is highly manipulative. She is unstable and pounded on my door "like an animal" for two hours. Still nothing is done. The level of corporate enabling is astounding. In fact they gave her employee of the year!

  • @themetalprincess
    @themetalprincess 2 місяці тому +1

    Amber is looking really pretty in this video. ☀️

  • @ungyee18
    @ungyee18 Місяць тому +1

    Thanks

  • @LadyBug31705
    @LadyBug31705 2 місяці тому +4

    When they do that is it wise to call them on it?

    • @PutTheShovelDown
      @PutTheShovelDown  2 місяці тому

      Good question. Here's a video on that topic, LadyBug. 🐞Here's a video on that topic. ua-cam.com/users/liveAKQHIqr5Gl4

  • @christiebailey9941
    @christiebailey9941 Місяць тому

    For sure, leaving out information, on purpose, is deceit.okay...not a lie per se, but definitely deceit

  • @123gp1833
    @123gp1833 Місяць тому

    What about those who use addiction to make themselves comfortable because of diagnosed psychiatric disorder.

  • @akabana5989
    @akabana5989 Місяць тому

    What is the name of the book you mentioned in this video?

  • @michelleradford5956
    @michelleradford5956 2 місяці тому +2

    😮😮😮 Kool

  • @JAMN2GD
    @JAMN2GD 2 місяці тому

    They never line up. So what can you do but wait for them to show up destroyed?

  • @carolrichardson678
    @carolrichardson678 2 місяці тому

    What can I say to my son that is in jail that is positive to begin building trust. He is suffering real life consequences we hope to move him to rehab after this

  • @JasminePeteetArocha-ug5bm
    @JasminePeteetArocha-ug5bm 2 місяці тому

    My hubby cuss me out today and he drinking and yeah 👍🏾 and we marriage but separated!

  • @erinkruse3766
    @erinkruse3766 2 дні тому

    My thoughts are, ‘your son coaxed a female Friend to act as The Social worker and call you with the lie, as he has already eloped from ER

  • @JAMN2GD
    @JAMN2GD 2 місяці тому

    Go Suboxone instead of methadone. However, both tough to get off of. However, should not act like addict as it is way different. You don't feel it at all. or get high unless doing wrong and not following directions. Dont even know on it until its wears off. Then you have a week or so to power through some of the anxiety but much better than sick as heck.

  • @RuthyRabinovitzgroupopps
    @RuthyRabinovitzgroupopps 2 місяці тому

    Do you have an experience with addiction to taking loans from shark lenders with an interest rate of about 10% per month...

  • @JasminePeteetArocha-ug5bm
    @JasminePeteetArocha-ug5bm 2 місяці тому

    My hubby started flight with me

  • @Fiery154
    @Fiery154 Місяць тому +1

    Re: True Crime story, pregnancy is a very dangerous time in a woman’s life because of the risk of homicide.

  • @IOSARBX
    @IOSARBX 2 місяці тому +1

    Put The Shovel Down, You're so cool! Let's be friends and have fun!