You are so beautiful Dannie, if you go through with the gastric sleeve then I hope you heal well and you’ll be forever beautiful throughout the whole journey.
what she said about wanting to change her gender because she felt ugly is so real and brave,,, many don't want to hear it but there are so many people (especially young women and girls) who go through a full transition because of their insecurities and thinking they'd look better as the opposite gender.... and we often can't talk about it because we get accused of being transphobes...
She has a beautiful face and she is strong, that makes her and story even more beautiful. I would be her friend any day. I hope she knows that I and many others accept her as a human being, not a leftover, not someone you crop out pictures, not someone you wouldn’t invite to social gatherings, not someone who is ugly.
This hits home. My metabolism dropped in 7th grade and started gaining. It was then I realized I had an addiction to food. From then it was purging and so on. It was either I got completely ignored or made fun of. I used to think “if they don’t like me, why don’t they just leave me alone?” Pls teach your kids to be kind. Words said to me over 15 yrs ago still repeat in my head as clear as day. I can’t have a healthy relationship bc I don’t believe anyone could ever really love me for just me or not cheat. It’s getting better, but I still have suicidal ideation. I wouldn’t ever take my own life, but I wouldn’t care if I was like…but by a car or anything. Pls stay strong beautiful souls❤️🩹
I hate that she thinks she’s ugly because when I saw her on the channel my eyes immediately went to her because she looked beautiful and she have very unique features. I’m not sure if she’s native or not but I just saw wisdom and beauty in her. So I had no clue this is how she felt just by looking at her image. 😢
But you are beautiful. I see it. And I'm sure a lot of people see it too. I promise you, life is not over for you, you deserve to laugh, smile, love and be loved. You are worthy, as you are. Like, honestly, I am not even exaggerating, I mean it, you are beautiful. I see the faces of strong and powerful women of past generations, I see my roots in your features. Your beautiful skin color, your shiny straight hair, your eyes, all of you. At this point, my comment seems like a love letter lol but I just feel this! I think you were surrounded by the wrong set of people. I just see so much beauty in you. I'm sending you much love, and appreciation for sharing your thoughts and feelings. 🙇♀💜
I WILL BE YOUR FRIEND! You have impeccable style and I bet you have really fantastic hot takes! This interview felt like I was hearing parts of my own story be spoken back to me.
Damn, Dannie. This video resonated with me deeply. From the negative feelings regarding how friends & family perceive me, to the suİcidal ideation, even the part about transitioning. The only words I have for you are, exhaust every resource. I’ve felt like you for a while, but my brain just.. changed one day. I imagine, not saying it will be easy or your thoughts will disappear ESPECIALLY because it’s your surroundings that are influencing your feelings and not completely internal factors, that there’s NEW medication, moving to a new state, reading new books, watching new movies. Distracting yourself is an option. Changing your surroundings is an option. Taking several different medications (with a physician’s advice) is an option. Ultimately, if you choose to end your existence, I love you, Dannie. You mean something to me. You remind me of me. Your thought process, your experience, your way of living. I want you to know you have a kindred spirit out there. You were never alone. You won’t ever be alone. Love you, Dannie. I’m Alyssa.
When I look at people I look beyond "social physical expectations". I see beauty from her. What she she went through is difficult and it molded her into an even more beautiful woman than she is today. I hope she finds whatever her heart truly desires soon❤
Dannie, I was captivated by your every word. You have a phenomenal ability to express yourself in ways that really make your listeners think. And on top of this, you are gorgeous. Seriously, I mean it -- your features are so striking and I can see wisdom in your eyes. I really hope you can find ways to love yourself, because you deserve it. On this topic, please remember that a lot of times, people -- *bad* people, whose opinions are irrelevant anyway due to that fact, or people who are hurting themselves -- will say hurtful things not because they're true, but just because they want to hurt. I hope you can also come to learn how to not do this to yourself. I also want to note, on the topic of your voice... I think it's lovely and feminine. The way voices come across in regards to gender is not just things like pitch, but also inflection and ways of speaking. You speak like a wonderful woman, and I like to think I'm knowledgeable on this because I'm actually a woman who has never taken testosterone, and my voice is naturally pretty much as deep as yours!
I feel similar, Dannie. I don’t know your nationality, but I hope to bring you comfort knowing you aren’t the only Latino/a/x going through these emotions. I too believe sometimes I was born in the wrong body due to my inherit nature that opposes what society deems a man should be. I had thoughts I was trans for quite some time because nothing felt right whenever I tried to force myself in being a stereotypical man in this country (US). But, we create our own identities and definitions of what it means to be certain genders. Confusion is a son of a bitch. Especially growing up in Latino households where not everybody understands these new age problems. That is why we need people like you who are vulnerable enough to put themselves out there. We are all struggling and it brings some comfort knowing we aren’t alone on our journeys. You are beautiful and you are deserving of love. Love is so wide range. I love you platonically and i hope that reaches you.
I'm looking for your email to get in touch about being a part of this project, but I can't find it. It's not in your channel description or in the video description :((
I agree with her on hormone usage. I regret getting on them. My doctor was, like, sure... here ya go. Consent model and everything. I could get chest surgery and get off hormones, and return living life as a bio male. But I'd have to be comfortable with the chest scars and the risks associated with surgery. Thankfully I have a wife who loves and supports me regardless. Whoever you are, I feel you on everything. I am sending you virtual hugs and love. Hang in there 🔴🟠🟡🟢🔵🟣🟤⚫⚪
I regret getting hormones and surgeries too. Even though I was traumatized, malnourished, and underweight, they got me hormones as a teenager without parental consent. There was no safeguarding nor ethics. Several years later, I had awakenings and self-reflection to realize I'm just a man. However, I cannot reverse anything and I'm more dysphoric than ever, ironically. I see so much potential and beauty in Dannie in an intimate level. And she deserves justice from the medical malpractice! It is truly baffling that a doctor would give testosterone to a young woman when the side effects are brutal.
Even if you lose weight, you may not be happy. You have to love yourself no matter what. Your weight doesn’t define you. I know a lot of heavier people who love themselves. Lose the negative people and do something that brings you joy.
All the people in your life sound awful... Please leave that fiancee and get better friends. Why would you crop someone out of pictures!? Those "friends" clearly don't deserve you! When I'm taking my friend somewhere I don't care what they look like when we take a picture together??? The picture is a momento to look back together and remember how much fun it was WITH YOUR FRIEND so why crop them out?!! And cheaters are awful! Don't stay with a cheater, girl! Know your own worth... Those people around you sound so awful -makes me mad on your behalf. Don't let people disrespect you! You might feel ugly (you're not), but EVERYONE no matter what they look like deserves respect. Also I am trans. I'm EU based though and here it took me a year of therapy to even get hormone replacment therapy, hearing stories of people who had 2-3 sessions and got hormons is scary...
This is so sad. I feel so awful for her. I think its super important to point out when she says though "I just wish somebody had talked to me" in regards to the transitioning stuff, that if somebody had, they would have been fired, doxxed, called transphobic, and had their life ruined. There are laws popping up everywhere making it illegal even for parents to have these conversations with their own children. People are being manipulated on a mass level, especially children. It doesnt make someone a right winger, a nazi, a white supremacist, a Trump supporter etc to call this out but thats the driving force between silencing critics and people who are concerned about the life altering effects of transitioning for reasoning outside of being legitimately transgender. Its so fucked. I just want Dannie and anyone whos going through what shes going through to know I support you. I support you if transitioning has made your life better and more manageable, but I also support you if you were pressured, influenced and manipulated into believing transitioning was a quick fix for any and all body images issues you had when thats clearly not the case, and you are living in regret and sorrow due to having been influenced to make those life altering decisions without being properly informed. I love you and I hope some day things change for you and you can embrace yourself, your body, your health and begin a journey of healing and self kindness, and that it reflects back onto you from the people around you. No one deserves to feel ugly.
What’s crazy is her only battle is losing weight .. she’s pretty and has good symmetry and her skin is pretty clean as well , I’d love to just have that problem. I got the holy grail of ugly 😂
THAT THERAPIST IS HORRIBLE. three sessions and ur giving a teen life changing access/waivers to start hormone therapy? R u serious? the malpractice... disgusting..
Not even ugly. Just exercise and calorie control. And it's not about being skinny. It's just about being healthy and happy. Confidence will come with healthy life 😊 different not ugly tho
Jesus is coming back. Believe He died for your sins and rose again then repent to be saved. Jesus saves. Please dont hurt yourself. You are so much more than your body. Weight is temporary! Death is forever! ❤ Suicide is a sin.
You are not beautiful. but dont fucking fucking care. you dont have to be beautiful to be happy. fuck vain people. do what makes you happy.. find people who are not vain and live your life.
I wish the world didn’t put that in her head that shes ugly when she’s not. I know that maybe this isn’t the correct way to go about it, but there are actual ugly people out there. And she’s not one of them.
I understand you just want to feel beautiful. So I’ll tell you what made me start feeling beautiful. I started taking pride in my looks the way I smell my hygiene my health, everything. I started convincing myself that my body is something that’s worth taking care of and treating it, the same way I wish the person I love the most in the world would treat theirs. I started to fake my confidence. I started walking talking and acting confident even if I was cringing inside. Eventually, the people around you just believe confident. If they’re assholes, at first there may be a lot of “why are you confident you have no reason to be confident your ugly “ type of energy. You ignore that. You act as if you didn’t hear it. You know why ? Because their stupid words, come from a place of genuine jealousy for your confidence and the way you took back your life. Trust me, those are not the people who’s words you want to take seriously. Eventually they will believe you’re confident. when they believe you’re confident, they’ll act in a way where you can kind of tell they just accepted that your confident, no matter how many faces they make. And when you get that feeling of “ damn. These people believe I’m confident! “ there’s something in you, that says “ well… if they believe I could actually be this confident, it’s because I maybe have a reason to be confident? “ . And once you’re confident, you start actually caring about yourself more and more. Which pushers you to do more stuff that makes you even more confident and happy with yourself. I hope the best for you Dannie. Edit: Dannie I know all of the things I just said are easier said that done. It’s hard to just wake up one day and decide to start taking care of yourself and take pride in the way you look and carry yourself, when you don’t feel worthy. I guess this is where we have to be “delusional” ( it’s not us being delusional, we are worthy of all of it. But it does feel delusional at first ) let yourself be “ delusional “ i told myself I’m the prettiest girl in the world even when I felt hideous. It was always “ I mean I don’t look my best today but I still look way better that other girls “ good days “ Maybe that’s not the best way to gain self confidence, but it paves the way for you to think good things about yourself. Eventually, you need to ditch the whole “comparing yourself to other people to make yourself feel better “ thing and since you’d already learned how to talk better about yourself, ow you try to talk better about yourself without talking down on anyone else. Things like cleaning your room, taking pride in your space, your car, your house, ironing your clothes, taking care of your skin your hair your nails and treating yourself good and taking care of yourself and your stuff, eventually makes you feel like you do all this for a reason, you take care of yourself and your stuff for a reason, and that reason is because you care about yourself and because you deserve it. In this world you can truly only count on yourself to that you well. In a world full of people who will talk shit to you. You have to be in your corner even when nobody else is. It’s a super hard thing to do for most of us. But the outcome, feeling free of what people think and how you look to some people … it’s just so refreshing and you feel like you can breathe. I hope that you can take something from my comment and hopefully apply it to your life and I truly hope that it helps. Do something nice for yourself everyday Dannie. It’s something that as humans, we don’t wanna admit it but… we can on,y count on ourselves. Show the fuck up for yourself! Fight for yourself. If you can’t find reasons to live, make yourself a reason to live, give yourself reasons to live. When you’re struggling to do things like get ready and feel pretty, be gentle with yourself. You will get no where by continuing to feed yourself negative words. Don’t be a hating ass person to yourself. Let the hating as bitches be hating ass bitches. But never let you be that person to yourself. It’s a journey. A hard one. And in everyone’s journey, there will be times where we slip back into talking nasty to ourselves. Let’s say you have a bad day and you go to bed, then wake up the next day and either you feel way better, way worse, or the same. Make it a goal on that day to treat yourself better that day. Think about it like when you mess up and hurt someone’s feelings. Your reaction is to be more gentle with them for the next few minutes, hours, days, sometimes weeks depending on the severity. Do that for yourself. Don’t take anything that I say lightly. I have been in your shoes. I’m still struggling to crawl out of this pit. But I’m fighting. As long as we are trying to fight for ourselves, we are winning. Good luck Dannie.
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You are so beautiful Dannie, if you go through with the gastric sleeve then I hope you heal well and you’ll be forever beautiful throughout the whole journey.
Healed well! Thank you! 🩵
@@vintagedarlingxx lovely to hear!!! take care xxxx
@@vintagedarlingxx Oh my god, I'm so happy for you!!!! 💜🫶
I feel for all the people interviewed on this channel. I feel the same way.
She deserves someone who makes her feel like the most beautiful in the world.
what she said about wanting to change her gender because she felt ugly is so real and brave,,, many don't want to hear it but there are so many people (especially young women and girls) who go through a full transition because of their insecurities and thinking they'd look better as the opposite gender.... and we often can't talk about it because we get accused of being transphobes...
this one has honestly got to be one of the most heartbreaking ones yet 💔 .. i hope she finds a light and heals
@@emmyvandort8347 ❤️❤️❤️
She has a beautiful face and she is strong, that makes her and story even more beautiful. I would be her friend any day. I hope she knows that I and many others accept her as a human being, not a leftover, not someone you crop out pictures, not someone you wouldn’t invite to social gatherings, not someone who is ugly.
Thank you for this channel. Just binged probably every video. Thank you.
thanks for taking time to mention. this project sure does mean a lot to me. glad you feel the same.
I love her lego earrings
Thank you! Got them at Spencer’s! :)
@@vintagedarlingxx AHH THANK YOU
This hits home. My metabolism dropped in 7th grade and started gaining. It was then I realized I had an addiction to food. From then it was purging and so on. It was either I got completely ignored or made fun of. I used to think “if they don’t like me, why don’t they just leave me alone?” Pls teach your kids to be kind. Words said to me over 15 yrs ago still repeat in my head as clear as day. I can’t have a healthy relationship bc I don’t believe anyone could ever really love me for just me or not cheat. It’s getting better, but I still have suicidal ideation. I wouldn’t ever take my own life, but I wouldn’t care if I was like…but by a car or anything. Pls stay strong beautiful souls❤️🩹
I really want to be interviewed by this channel. I have fought with the appearance trauma for all of my life.
Being unbeautiful is beautiful!!❤
I hate that she thinks she’s ugly because when I saw her on the channel my eyes immediately went to her because she looked beautiful and she have very unique features. I’m not sure if she’s native or not but I just saw wisdom and beauty in her. So I had no clue this is how she felt just by looking at her image. 😢
Im native! :) and thank you! 🩵🩵
please stay safe Dannie. we don’t want to see you go. you deserve respect. you are more than enough. sending you strength and well wishes
Thank you so much ❤️
But you are beautiful. I see it. And I'm sure a lot of people see it too. I promise you, life is not over for you, you deserve to laugh, smile, love and be loved. You are worthy, as you are. Like, honestly, I am not even exaggerating, I mean it, you are beautiful. I see the faces of strong and powerful women of past generations, I see my roots in your features. Your beautiful skin color, your shiny straight hair, your eyes, all of you. At this point, my comment seems like a love letter lol but I just feel this! I think you were surrounded by the wrong set of people. I just see so much beauty in you. I'm sending you much love, and appreciation for sharing your thoughts and feelings. 🙇♀💜
Thank you so much! I’ve learned to appreciate my strong face and love the skin my ancestors wove! 🩵🩵🩵
I WILL BE YOUR FRIEND! You have impeccable style and I bet you have really fantastic hot takes! This interview felt like I was hearing parts of my own story be spoken back to me.
Yay! I’m open to new friends! :) 🩵🩵
Damn, Dannie. This video resonated with me deeply. From the negative feelings regarding how friends & family perceive me, to the suİcidal ideation, even the part about transitioning.
The only words I have for you are, exhaust every resource. I’ve felt like you for a while, but my brain just.. changed one day.
I imagine, not saying it will be easy or your thoughts will disappear ESPECIALLY because it’s your surroundings that are influencing your feelings and not completely internal factors, that there’s NEW medication, moving to a new state, reading new books, watching new movies.
Distracting yourself is an option. Changing your surroundings is an option. Taking several different medications (with a physician’s advice) is an option.
Ultimately, if you choose to end your existence, I love you, Dannie. You mean something to me. You remind me of me. Your thought process, your experience, your way of living.
I want you to know you have a kindred spirit out there. You were never alone. You won’t ever be alone. Love you, Dannie. I’m Alyssa.
I came here from her tiktok she seems like chill vibes 😢
what's her @?
When I look at people I look beyond "social physical expectations". I see beauty from her. What she she went through is difficult and it molded her into an even more beautiful woman than she is today. I hope she finds whatever her heart truly desires soon❤
are you a dude? if so go date her
that woman is gorgeous!
Thank you 🩵✨
She has a very pretty face
Dannie, I was captivated by your every word. You have a phenomenal ability to express yourself in ways that really make your listeners think. And on top of this, you are gorgeous. Seriously, I mean it -- your features are so striking and I can see wisdom in your eyes. I really hope you can find ways to love yourself, because you deserve it. On this topic, please remember that a lot of times, people -- *bad* people, whose opinions are irrelevant anyway due to that fact, or people who are hurting themselves -- will say hurtful things not because they're true, but just because they want to hurt. I hope you can also come to learn how to not do this to yourself.
I also want to note, on the topic of your voice... I think it's lovely and feminine. The way voices come across in regards to gender is not just things like pitch, but also inflection and ways of speaking. You speak like a wonderful woman, and I like to think I'm knowledgeable on this because I'm actually a woman who has never taken testosterone, and my voice is naturally pretty much as deep as yours!
Thank you tons! 🩵🩵 Us strong voiced women are marvelous!
I feel similar, Dannie. I don’t know your nationality, but I hope to bring you comfort knowing you aren’t the only Latino/a/x going through these emotions. I too believe sometimes I was born in the wrong body due to my inherit nature that opposes what society deems a man should be. I had thoughts I was trans for quite some time because nothing felt right whenever I tried to force myself in being a stereotypical man in this country (US). But, we create our own identities and definitions of what it means to be certain genders.
Confusion is a son of a bitch. Especially growing up in Latino households where not everybody understands these new age problems. That is why we need people like you who are vulnerable enough to put themselves out there. We are all struggling and it brings some comfort knowing we aren’t alone on our journeys. You are beautiful and you are deserving of love. Love is so wide range. I love you platonically and i hope that reaches you.
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
I love you from afar and appreciate the beautiful words you’ve shared! ❤️ thank you!
You are so beautiful. I'm sure a lot of people also think so.
Appreciate it! Thank you! 🩵
I want to hug her
I'm looking for your email to get in touch about being a part of this project, but I can't find it. It's not in your channel description or in the video description :((
Oh, dear... I hope that this interview spurred on an end to that engagement and relationship. And sooner rather than later.
Hi there! We ended up going to a whole bunch of therapy together and took a break for a few months! :)
@vintagedarlingxx ~ Thinking of you with so much love and care. Sincerely. Right. Now. 🤎.
I agree with her on hormone usage. I regret getting on them. My doctor was, like, sure... here ya go. Consent model and everything. I could get chest surgery and get off hormones, and return living life as a bio male. But I'd have to be comfortable with the chest scars and the risks associated with surgery. Thankfully I have a wife who loves and supports me regardless. Whoever you are, I feel you on everything. I am sending you virtual hugs and love. Hang in there 🔴🟠🟡🟢🔵🟣🟤⚫⚪
wow thats wild. i'm so sorry. ;x;;;
I regret getting hormones and surgeries too. Even though I was traumatized, malnourished, and underweight, they got me hormones as a teenager without parental consent. There was no safeguarding nor ethics. Several years later, I had awakenings and self-reflection to realize I'm just a man. However, I cannot reverse anything and I'm more dysphoric than ever, ironically. I see so much potential and beauty in Dannie in an intimate level. And she deserves justice from the medical malpractice! It is truly baffling that a doctor would give testosterone to a young woman when the side effects are brutal.
@@AllyDeluxe thanks for sharing your story. I see your obsession with the purple, which is also my fav color. May you have a great weekend 💜
It was such a confusing period and that therapist was no help :( sending you blessings! 🩵
@@vintagedarlingxx God has opened my eyes, showing me all the darkness in today’s world. I’m now walking towards the Light. Lovingly, thank you 💜
Even if you lose weight, you may not be happy. You have to love yourself no matter what. Your weight doesn’t define you. I know a lot of heavier people who love themselves. Lose the negative people and do something that brings you joy.
All the people in your life sound awful... Please leave that fiancee and get better friends. Why would you crop someone out of pictures!? Those "friends" clearly don't deserve you! When I'm taking my friend somewhere I don't care what they look like when we take a picture together??? The picture is a momento to look back together and remember how much fun it was WITH YOUR FRIEND so why crop them out?!! And cheaters are awful! Don't stay with a cheater, girl! Know your own worth... Those people around you sound so awful -makes me mad on your behalf. Don't let people disrespect you!
You might feel ugly (you're not), but EVERYONE no matter what they look like deserves respect.
Also I am trans. I'm EU based though and here it took me a year of therapy to even get hormone replacment therapy, hearing stories of people who had 2-3 sessions and got hormons is scary...
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This is so sad. I feel so awful for her. I think its super important to point out when she says though "I just wish somebody had talked to me" in regards to the transitioning stuff, that if somebody had, they would have been fired, doxxed, called transphobic, and had their life ruined. There are laws popping up everywhere making it illegal even for parents to have these conversations with their own children. People are being manipulated on a mass level, especially children. It doesnt make someone a right winger, a nazi, a white supremacist, a Trump supporter etc to call this out but thats the driving force between silencing critics and people who are concerned about the life altering effects of transitioning for reasoning outside of being legitimately transgender. Its so fucked. I just want Dannie and anyone whos going through what shes going through to know I support you. I support you if transitioning has made your life better and more manageable, but I also support you if you were pressured, influenced and manipulated into believing transitioning was a quick fix for any and all body images issues you had when thats clearly not the case, and you are living in regret and sorrow due to having been influenced to make those life altering decisions without being properly informed. I love you and I hope some day things change for you and you can embrace yourself, your body, your health and begin a journey of healing and self kindness, and that it reflects back onto you from the people around you. No one deserves to feel ugly.
This channel has helped me a lot to deal with my inseurities I would love to share my experience aswell team! Do reach out.
please reach out to me at iamunbeautiful@gmail.com
you are beautiful, hope you are doing better
What’s crazy is her only battle is losing weight .. she’s pretty and has good symmetry and her skin is pretty clean as well , I’d love to just have that problem. I got the holy grail of ugly 😂
even if you become somewhat more attractive, you still feel like the same person as you always were.
THAT THERAPIST IS HORRIBLE. three sessions and ur giving a teen life changing access/waivers to start hormone therapy? R u serious? the malpractice... disgusting..
she’s so cute and fluffy 🥺
Like if you came from tiktok
What’s her TikTok ? ?
@@emmyvandort8347 @dannie_mp4
Fluffy? Commenting on her body? This....doesn't come off the way that you make have intended. 🤎
Not even ugly. Just exercise and calorie control. And it's not about being skinny. It's just about being healthy and happy. Confidence will come with healthy life 😊 different not ugly tho
Its not that simple for some people. Hormones play alot into weightloss and gain. So until that is controlled and fixed, then weight wont come off
You aren't ugly though
Thank you! ❤
Can’t tell if your Mexican Asian or Indian
Why does it matter?
@@Indy-xj7qt
It doesn’t. I was just wondering
Native!
Get rid of that man, lose the weight, try to maintain a healthy lifestyle and have as much fun as possible
Jesus is coming back. Believe He died for your sins and rose again then repent to be saved. Jesus saves. Please dont hurt yourself. You are so much more than your body. Weight is temporary! Death is forever! ❤ Suicide is a sin.
I want him to take me away from these awful people
Thank you! ❤️
just exercise or get a gastric bypass and you'll look normal/above average lol
She literally mentioned that she’s getting the surgery, r u dense?
@haileyluljah nope, just don't care enough to watch the full video
You are not beautiful. but dont fucking fucking care. you dont have to be beautiful to be happy. fuck vain people. do what makes you happy.. find people who are not vain and live your life.
Wtf kinda comment is this??? Stfu
@@Indy-xj7qt the truth
I appreciate the honesty 😂 thank you!
Gay 💀
Like you
Grow up kid
I would be so lucky to have Dannie as a friend. I don’t have friends , and I always wish I had a friend like Dannie.
Let’s be friends! I’m always open to it! :) 🩵
I wish the world didn’t put that in her head that shes ugly when she’s not. I know that maybe this isn’t the correct way to go about it, but there are actual ugly people out there. And she’s not one of them.
I understand you just want to feel beautiful. So I’ll tell you what made me start feeling beautiful. I started taking pride in my looks the way I smell my hygiene my health, everything. I started convincing myself that my body is something that’s worth taking care of and treating it, the same way I wish the person I love the most in the world would treat theirs. I started to fake my confidence. I started walking talking and acting confident even if I was cringing inside. Eventually, the people around you just believe confident. If they’re assholes, at first there may be a lot of “why are you confident you have no reason to be confident your ugly “ type of energy. You ignore that. You act as if you didn’t hear it. You know why ? Because their stupid words, come from a place of genuine jealousy for your confidence and the way you took back your life. Trust me, those are not the people who’s words you want to take seriously. Eventually they will believe you’re confident. when they believe you’re confident, they’ll act in a way where you can kind of tell they just accepted that your confident, no matter how many faces they make. And when you get that feeling of “ damn. These people believe I’m confident! “ there’s something in you, that says “ well… if they believe I could actually be this confident, it’s because I maybe have a reason to be confident? “ . And once you’re confident, you start actually caring about yourself more and more. Which pushers you to do more stuff that makes you even more confident and happy with yourself.
I hope the best for you Dannie.
Edit: Dannie I know all of the things I just said are easier said that done. It’s hard to just wake up one day and decide to start taking care of yourself and take pride in the way you look and carry yourself, when you don’t feel worthy. I guess this is where we have to be “delusional” ( it’s not us being delusional, we are worthy of all of it. But it does feel delusional at first ) let yourself be “ delusional “ i told myself I’m the prettiest girl in the world even when I felt hideous. It was always “ I mean I don’t look my best today but I still look way better that other girls “ good days “
Maybe that’s not the best way to gain self confidence, but it paves the way for you to think good things about yourself. Eventually, you need to ditch the whole “comparing yourself to other people to make yourself feel better “ thing and since you’d already learned how to talk better about yourself, ow you try to talk better about yourself without talking down on anyone else.
Things like cleaning your room, taking pride in your space, your car, your house, ironing your clothes, taking care of your skin your hair your nails and treating yourself good and taking care of yourself and your stuff, eventually makes you feel like you do all this for a reason, you take care of yourself and your stuff for a reason, and that reason is because you care about yourself and because you deserve it. In this world you can truly only count on yourself to that you well. In a world full of people who will talk shit to you. You have to be in your corner even when nobody else is. It’s a super hard thing to do for most of us. But the outcome, feeling free of what people think and how you look to some people … it’s just so refreshing and you feel like you can breathe. I hope that you can take something from my comment and hopefully apply it to your life and I truly hope that it helps. Do something nice for yourself everyday Dannie. It’s something that as humans, we don’t wanna admit it but… we can on,y count on ourselves. Show the fuck up for yourself! Fight for yourself. If you can’t find reasons to live, make yourself a reason to live, give yourself reasons to live. When you’re struggling to do things like get ready and feel pretty, be gentle with yourself. You will get no where by continuing to feed yourself negative words. Don’t be a hating ass person to yourself. Let the hating as bitches be hating ass bitches. But never let you be that person to yourself. It’s a journey. A hard one. And in everyone’s journey, there will be times where we slip back into talking nasty to ourselves. Let’s say you have a bad day and you go to bed, then wake up the next day and either you feel way better, way worse, or the same. Make it a goal on that day to treat yourself better that day. Think about it like when you mess up and hurt someone’s feelings. Your reaction is to be more gentle with them for the next few minutes, hours, days, sometimes weeks depending on the severity. Do that for yourself.
Don’t take anything that I say lightly. I have been in your shoes. I’m still struggling to crawl out of this pit. But I’m fighting. As long as we are trying to fight for ourselves, we are winning.
Good luck Dannie.
This!! 🩵🩵🩵 I appreciate you!