For me, i call my old name my birth name as opposed to my dead name. It still is a trigger, but I’ve learned to associate it more with something that used to apply to me, but just doesn’t anymore. When I was born, I was named that name. Now I’m not. When I was born, I was also 8 pounds. Not anymore!
I take the same approach, and that's how I'm still able to have some of the music awards I won a little bit ago hanging on my wall in my birth name, because I recognize that I once identified with it, but that this is the new me.
Ok but like when you said “image a man named Bob” and I imaged my dad, because that’s his name. Then you literally described exactly how my dad looked. So you right thooo
My name is Samuel and cis people who don't know I'm trans love calling me Samantha as a joke because its funny for some reason? And it sucks being offended by it because I feel like I come off as misogynistic and not wanting to be associated with women when I actually really just don't want people to call me Samantha again after so many years.
@@ovh992 I can’t even imagine having the audacity to see a comment from 4 years ago and deciding to say something like this to someone.Sorry you’re so bored that you go through old videos to harass commenters but I think you need a hobby bud. Hope your life gets better.
@@samb8509 i was actually on your channel because i was trying to educate myself on trans issues. It is a shame that an honest response is taken so negatively by you. I thought you were posting to educate and open a discussion but apparently you are just posting for adulation. Not everyone who is trans passes. Aydian Dowling says he is a heterosexual man but his voice comes off as gay. I am sure it was the same with you at the beginning of your transition. That is all i was trying to say. Realize that you as a transman are very lucky. Many transwomen will never pass. Also stop being an AS. Spread love not hate.
@@ovh992 1) you’re the one whose being inappropriate. Your opinion isn’t welcome. 2) you’re lying about innocently trying to educate yourself bc you found the first comment of someone sharing their experience and were rude to them. 3) this literally isn’t my channel lmao I don’t have a channel. So maybe actually look at who you’re talking to before you act like MY responsibility is to be open to educating you 4) Don’t speak to me again. Bye
that's a great idea, I know someone at uni with my birthname and the more time I spend around them the more I just associate it with them, which makes it easier to hear
Ty, have a ? About patreon level $3. How do we get lucky enough to get a doodle drawing if we don't have to enter addy anywhere??....sorry man, just confuzzled😜 no worries, already part of fam and signed up for my monthly donation, love your videos
i muted my middle name ( that's a southern african name ) . I too got a pay raise. I got the memo pretty soon. I also realize quite early that I looked very white , so cashing while knowing full well what's going on..
Four days until my name is legally changed, I hate the name I was given because my rapist gave it to me , I can't wait for my ID to say my new name and for people to finally stop being assholes by denying me what i want to be called , my own family keeps calling me the name my abuser gave me and I've expressed how it makes me feel but they don't care which makes me feel like they don't care about me
Holy shit!! I am so sorry for what you are going through. I personally don't like my name either. mine was given to me by my drug addict "mother" and I feel quite disconnected with it. So don't feel alone because there is people who will always support you.
My parents gave me Linda as a middle name. I have always passionately hated it. I am going to change my first name at some point to something more gender neutral. I am actually ok with my first name, but it is just not quite me. But when I do, I am at the same time going to yeet Linda into the stratosphere!
I'm cisgender but I hate my dead name I was sexually abused and only the abusers and orchestraters call me that and it triggers the hell out of me,it's like my name is Layla either respect it or go get out of my life.
names are so important! When I made my outing in front of my parents I have already choosen a name for me. After a year I finally got to talk to my parents more about my transition and because I'll get T next year, we talked about my name. They both didn't like my new name and because their opinion is very important for me, i listened to them. I have a little brother and my mom always wanted to name him robin. They never named him like this even if both, my mom and my dad loved the name. So my mom asked me to choose this name and I'm so happy and honored of that. I also love this name and the fact that my parents literally 'gave it to me' is such a wonderful feeling! It's a big step in the acceptance of my parents. It is very hard for them but with this step I can really see that they are trying to accept me as their son and not daughter anymore. Thanks for the video ty!
I say and hear my old name at least 20 times or each day. I married a man with the same name as my old name but I never conflate this with myself, ever! Freaked the fuck out of my mother for a couple of years though lol.
I was named after my uncle, and his name is Michael Aaron, but he goes by Aaron. My name was just his name but feminized and switched, so it was Erin Nicole (it would've been Michelle but my sister was already named that). I decided it would be easier to change it to Aaron Michael and go by Michael so I wouldn't have to change it much, and since my nickname was Nikki all they would have to do is call me Mickey instead. Easy peasy. I will say both my name's are super common and I kinda want to choose a cooler name (I'm not out to family, I live in Arkansas and my family is very conservative) but I like the name Michael a lot, and I think it fits me well. I like that you gave other people's perspectives, it was an amazing video!
First, as I watched a more recent video, I could not quite understand some of your references, as a man. A quick search to older posts cleared up my befuddled state. Second, as a gay man I find a familiarity to your point about being triggered...by an old name. It's just that, in my case, the triggers are all that went before my recent coming out. That older 'me' was closeted and traumatized in youth. I have often wondered if changing my name would be of help. In my case, I decided that the help was best applied internally to correct earlier learned dysfunctional dictates. So I am still Steve. Nice to meet you, Ty! Subscribed.
I'm unable to call my birth name my dead name. Because I have not changed my name yet on papers, so everyday at my college I have to write down my birth name and it's a huge trigger but I'm in a part of my life where I'm unable to change my name due to the lack of money. I try hard to not let it effect me or effect my schooling but it does become difficult, along with still hearing my dad call me by my birth name. I am aware that my name is completely different from my birth name but it is a name that I've had people call me by since middle school. Since I've always hated my birth name, it's never felt right to me. Id rather be called my name Aleksander/Aleks than what was given to me.
I chose my kids name based on their perceived personality in the womb and confirmed when they were born and their appearance suited that name. It's also gender neutral.
@@zeno1298 why does a gender neutral name make you think they'd get bullied? What about names like Charlie or Alex? Those are pretty average gender neutral names
I remember Ash Hardell making a video that they thought the name change from Ashley to Ash would be easy because Ash so close to Ashley but it actually made it harder for people because they’d slip up and say Ashley instead of Ash. It’s like a muscle memory people had to break.
My ex wife is MtF and her name is Casey. She still goes by Casey, and my mom got in the habit of "scolding" her by calling her Cassandra to show her support, it just sorta stuck over time.
I'm not trans, but I am in the process of changing my name, so I actually relate to a lot of this. My old name triggers bad memories of an ex-bestfriend who had the same name and kind of ruined my life for 8 years, and other memories of the person I used to be who is completely different from who I am today. I even went from a Hufflepuff to a Ravenclaw.
Yep. You dont even have to be trans to experience this though, I changed my name and when people say stuff like oh what's your "real" name and when people still call me by my birth name I do get anxiety and I totally relate to what you said about it turning into a slur.
i was typing on my phone wanting to write "xD" after a message and autocorrect made it "cass" and my friend's deadname was cassidy and I FELT SO BAD I IMMEDIATELY APOLOGIZED LIKE WOW AUTOCORRECT GREAT SH!T
@darren i lost that battle a long time ago. I was at the dentist the other day. dentist assistant. secretary and then dentist , all 3 read my name entirely differently and because it was such a small space , every person waiting heard it and i could see the smiles. I don't have the energy to correct people.
My mum was great about names when I came out. She was calling me by my new name immediately. But, multiples times pre coming out I had brought up wanting to change my name, I'd never felt comfortable with my birth name, and every time she'd end up crying, horribly distraught 'what's wrong with your name, it's a beautiful name, I *gave* you that name! If you change it you're throwing it in our faces you might as well leave the family if you don't want to even have your own name!' ... I guess she feels terrible about acting like that now that she knows why I had to change it. So, she was right on board with that. But I know she still hurt about it in some way, a sense of loss or grief, as silly as that sounds it obviously meant a lot and was hard for her, though she accepted it and made sure I did what was best for me. I didn't want to feel guilt over pursuing my own happiness, it was something I had to do, god it's tricky sometimes y'know? Anyway, when my name change came through, I was about 4 months on T, and I went to get my license changed over, new photo, name, and gender marker all at once. It'd all be correct now. I was so happy. My mum was happy... For me. But still feeling sad on some level, working it through for herself. So when the clerk grabbed my change of details form and asked me to give her my old license for disposal, I quickly decided that I had 'unfortunately lost it somehow recently', meaning they could issue me a new one without having to destroy the old one. Then I drove across town and gave it to my mum. The very last thing that would ever identify or record the person who looked like that, holding that name. Just a little keepsake for her. I think it's nice, she can have a tangible piece of the past and be a physical part of the present & future, seeing that you never lose the person that was, but rather get to see the person that is, and experience the reality of them being the same person, nothing lost at all. Anyway, that's how I lied to the state government and retained possession of a false document to give my mum a fake ID coz she's sentimental and I thought it was sweet 😂
Bryn Jackson that is honestly really sweet of you to do that and to be so understanding that it can be hard for a parent to just let go of what used to be. its like a child moving out, the old way of life is gone, but that doesn't mean this new way is bad. its just new, and new is good and exciting. and im so glad your mom warmed up so well to a new name once she knew why it was so needed! i wish both of you so much luck! 💞 also i used to talk about changing my name with my mom all the time, and she would get all "why, your name is so beautiful, why would you change it" and i'd be like "yeah its pretty but i want to change it" and i actually used to hate it so much. i do love it now bc its unique and a tie to my family's roots and history (its a french name and my family has a french canadian past AND i can tell people i was named after a duck, who wouldnt want that- my mom knew a duck with my name), but sometimes i do still want to change it for reasons. my mom got so used to me wanting to change my name that she opened up and was like "yknow... honestly i want to change my name. i've never liked that my mom and i share a name" so we started going by different names for a while every week! it was nice, and it was bonding. im still on the fence about changing my name, sometimes i feel it would be healthiest for me, but theres also that huge sentimentality i have (im a crybaby for the past lol). anyway that was more than i wanted to or needed to share sorry x
Loved the video Ty I especially love the bit before the interview people forget how important names are. Love how you drove this point home but it was totally chill. Like I could totally send this to family and friends without them feeling attacked.
I love the format and editing in this video! I changed my name completely but only kept the first letter. My birth name is extremely feminine. It has few variations but it’s becoming more popular. I’ll here a mom in the store yell my birth name looking or addressing her daughter and I’ll have a moment of panic. Sometimes it sends me into a spiral that affects me for hours.
The intro is really good. I really liked your editing. I know no one cares, but for my name, I kind of just took it from a UA-camr that used to be kinda big back in the day. I didn't know that it was gender neutral at first. I firmly decided to keep it because it was six characters because my mom wanted it to match the six characters of my brother's name. My 'deadname' (it's only in English, by the way) is rarely said because my parents never speak English at home. I don't feel weird when people call me my Chinese name because it's very gender neutral, so I'm going to keep it. The funny thing is, even though I chose the name Jordan, all my friends mostly call me 'Tobi' because I told them that was my nickname during the first year of secondary school. I rarely got called Jordan back then. Nowadays, since I'm studying in England, I get called Jordan left and right and it's kind of a strange experience.
god, i remember when i was little i didnt know much abt trans people, but i was for some reason convinced that they had to change their name to a variant of their birth name... before i even realized i was trans i was SO PISSED that my birth name didn't have a clear masculine variant and i'd spend hours just trying to figure something out better than Carl and i never could. Thank god that was cleared up at some point, luke is little more me lmao
Ohh shit When my family does that I get wild. I ruined xmas a year ago cs they keep saying "she"and my deadname . So I hope one day They say ur right name
Sorry to hear that, I'm a cis female who changed her name nine years ago. I hate hearing my birth name, it's disgusting and causes me emotional distress
Changed my last name on social media and soon to change it legally, for a whole different reason! Family stuff isn’t so good and having to use that name always hurts. Nobody should be shamed for changing their name, as long as it helps them journey through life. Loved this video, Ty!
My dead name also happens to be the name of the store and just driving by the store gives me anxiety. Hearing my dead name in public even when it’s not directed at me gives me a spike of anxiety. I’m trying to learn to not let my dead name hold power over me but it’s really hard being so used to hearing it.
This video really helped me, because I struggled with finding a name that I thought suited me, until I finally found one. Thank you Tyler for this video because you inspire me😊😊 thanks to your help I’m now Jasper🤘🏻
Just watching your vid; I'm a Cis female but I changed my name when I was 22, I'm 31 now, hearing my birth name, in fact saying it, is the most disgusting horrendous thing ever. Yet people feel they have the right to call me my birth name. I just cut them off if they do
FINALLY VAPE DADDI DID A VIDEO WITH SOURCES. I loved how you read the quoted information, it was so ASMR. Now you made me think about whether to change my name or not... It is slightly dysphoric but not too much. Btw the first scene is so funny and sad at the same time. Love you. Hail Satan.
Good video dude 👍🏻 I’ve always had struggles with my name because I never went by my first name, people constantly mispronounced my middle name and I hate my last name... I hope to get it changed soon! 😊
I find it interesting that most of the people you talked to didn't change their names if they were gender neutral. I am afab and my name was actually traditionally masculine already but I changed it anyway because I always associated it with people thinking I was a girl. I always hated my name and I ended up choosing a name I had used for myself when I was very little because nothing else fit.
Given the fact he hasn’t said “yeah we’re still together” , I think it’s safe to assume that they aren’t together . Probably just doesn’t want to talk about it . Aside from that I wanted to say good work as always , love your videos, Ty ! You’re awesome, keep up the good work , sexy pants ! ❤️
Dayyyym boy! This video was so great! I especially liked the interviews with your friends and the additional research you put into it. That sass during your conclusion was especially appreciated! XD Keep up the amazing work Ty!
Your name can be whatever you want it to be. You don't even need to change it legally to start using it in your personal life, even at work you can tell people to call you something besides your legal name, even though on documents and stuff it would still say your legal name
I named my son Shane because it can go for both men and women and if he ever felt like he was born into the wrong body I wanted him to be able to keep his name if he wanted to.
Kaycee Nunyabiz it’s something I’ve considered as well. I don’t have children yet. I like the name Elinor for a girl, but if they want to transition they could become Elliot.
My name is Teis... I'm from Denmark, and only around 2000 people have that name here. I've never seen someone in media with that name and I've only ever met one person with the name, so I don't have a lot of stereotypes to live up to :"D
My birth name is not that triggering for me. So little so that I mostly kept it, just flipped it to the more masculine alternative. Dominique -> Dominic. Easier for me, familiar for my family. And I don't necessarily hate my name to begin with. Sucks that I'm gonna have to pay $400 in my state just to change a few letters 😂😂 ah well!
Hey Ty completely unrelated to your old name but still had to share... tonight I was trying to catch up on some of your videos as I feel I haven't watched one in forever and this was the first one I had clicked on, the min you came on my daughter started rolling and kicking (I'm 23 weeks pregnant) i think she is going to like your videos as much as I do.
I changed my name but intentionally picked my new name to start with the same letter and have a similar amount of syllables as it allowed me to change in a way that let me change so that I could still change into who I wanted while keeping something familiar
that dramatization is rly well made, man! great editing and pace, and the framing and cinematography really serve the emotion in the story. it's so cool to see you evolve and push yourself to realize your vision - it's very inspiring! the discussion of names has really got me thinking. i have one of the commonest names in the world. my mother has the same name, as well as a very close friend, and my half-sister's mom. it's kind of a mess. XD i currently go by the supershortened version, but i can't say i love hearing ppl refer to me by it. my full name totally makes me cringe but i usually can't be bothered to correct ppl, i just move on. i'm good at absorbing. i can take a lot. it's not great to let myself take too much, even tho i can, but for now, while i haven't started transitioning medically, i am reserving my energy for later. when i do change my name, i will have to neutralize any traumatic or dysphoric associations with the old one, because i will never be able to avoid hearing it. oh, this video has got me even more excited to change my name! i already picked it, but i still have to decide on the last name (father-related drama gives my last name a bitter taste). i love choosing things, tho, it's a challenging and enjoyable process. ^_^
For me, i call my old name my birth name as opposed to my dead name. It still is a trigger, but I’ve learned to associate it more with something that used to apply to me, but just doesn’t anymore. When I was born, I was named that name. Now I’m not. When I was born, I was also 8 pounds. Not anymore!
I take the same approach, and that's how I'm still able to have some of the music awards I won a little bit ago hanging on my wall in my birth name, because I recognize that I once identified with it, but that this is the new me.
Ashton Daniel confused the shit out of me 😂😂😂
That’s actually a really good way to go about it
I just say it’s my sister when people ask 😂
I call my old name just "old name".
Fun fact: in Polish "TY" means "you". So... you are you ^_^ I bet it's good being yourself all the time.
My old highschool literally had three secretaries named Pam
Ok but like when you said “image a man named Bob” and I imaged my dad, because that’s his name. Then you literally described exactly how my dad looked. So you right thooo
Kim Henderson I thought of Bob the Builder
i thought bob ross. hes not a chubby bald man XD
I pictured the guy from Kika and Bob, and that's the exact same image as well? I was so shocked??
Same, my dad is also Bob. 😋
My uncle... bob bald I can't remember if he's chubby or not though don't see that side often enough lol
My name is Samuel and cis people who don't know I'm trans love calling me Samantha as a joke because its funny for some reason? And it sucks being offended by it because I feel like I come off as misogynistic and not wanting to be associated with women when I actually really just don't want people to call me Samantha again after so many years.
Sam collins has the same name as you.
They call you Samantha cause the know or can tell you are transgender.
@@ovh992 I can’t even imagine having the audacity to see a comment from 4 years ago and deciding to say something like this to someone.Sorry you’re so bored that you go through old videos to harass commenters but I think you need a hobby bud. Hope your life gets better.
@@samb8509 i was actually on your channel because i was trying to educate myself on trans issues. It is a shame that an honest response is taken so negatively by you. I thought you were posting to educate and open a discussion but apparently you are just posting for adulation. Not everyone who is trans passes. Aydian Dowling says he is a heterosexual man but his voice comes off as gay. I am sure it was the same with you at the beginning of your transition. That is all i was trying to say. Realize that you as a transman are very lucky. Many transwomen will never pass. Also stop being an AS. Spread love not hate.
@@ovh992 1) you’re the one whose being inappropriate. Your opinion isn’t welcome. 2) you’re lying about innocently trying to educate yourself bc you found the first comment of someone sharing their experience and were rude to them. 3) this literally isn’t my channel lmao I don’t have a channel. So maybe actually look at who you’re talking to before you act like MY responsibility is to be open to educating you 4) Don’t speak to me again. Bye
Once I get a dog, I'm gonna name them my deadname to remap my connotations of the word.
James Eames Oohh that could be a good way to help not associate it with yourself.
that's a great idea, I know someone at uni with my birthname and the more time I spend around them the more I just associate it with them, which makes it easier to hear
That's actually really clever
@@KP-ns5wg I am exactly in the same situation, my paranoia over my birthname has almost completely stopped since I know that person
Lmaoooo omg
Okay, but that intro was fucking art bro
This is such a great video man great job!
Triggerwarningrat aye it’s noah
Ahhh Hoi NoAh ;00
Ty, have a ? About patreon level $3. How do we get lucky enough to get a doodle drawing if we don't have to enter addy anywhere??....sorry man, just confuzzled😜 no worries, already part of fam and signed up for my monthly donation, love your videos
Why does every trans person know eachother
Oh. Noah's here. AYEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
when Sam said people call him "it" my heart broke :( how can people even possibly think that's ok?
That extra production value. That’s the magic of Patreon and sponsor money.
My “dead” name is lexi too. Now I go by Spencer. Thanks for your awesome videos
you picked a jock boi name . I see what you did there .
Thats my name too! I was very confused for like .5 seconds at the beginning lmao
Hi Spencer
My 'dead' name got paid £7k less than my now name, for the same job
i muted my middle name ( that's a southern african name ) . I too got a pay raise. I got the memo pretty soon. I also realize quite early that I looked very white , so cashing while knowing full well what's going on..
You go dudes :) 👍
interesting.
Dysphoria forest? Dysforest?
Scotty Slade PFFFFFTTT
Watch what you say..... Logan Paul might show up😂😂
Down in dysforest we'll sing a chorus...
@@aaliyahetc.6687 one that everybody knows...
Trans purgatory
Four days until my name is legally changed, I hate the name I was given because my rapist gave it to me , I can't wait for my ID to say my new name and for people to finally stop being assholes by denying me what i want to be called , my own family keeps calling me the name my abuser gave me and I've expressed how it makes me feel but they don't care which makes me feel like they don't care about me
Holy shit!! I am so sorry for what you are going through. I personally don't like my name either. mine was given to me by my drug addict "mother" and I feel quite disconnected with it. So don't feel alone because there is people who will always support you.
Zac here, with a neck tattoo😂
'I actually changed my name to Linda to get more jobs in HR. It's a real Linda's club'
Like if you get the reference
that's a 50+ chica type of name. you did not want to threaten white status quo with an experimental name.
kimmy schmidt!! i love that show aahh
My parents gave me Linda as a middle name. I have always passionately hated it.
I am going to change my first name at some point to something more gender neutral. I am actually ok with my first name, but it is just not quite me.
But when I do, I am at the same time going to yeet Linda into the stratosphere!
THAT EDITING THO I SEE YOU BOI 👌🏽
I'm cisgender but I hate my dead name I was sexually abused and only the abusers and orchestraters call me that and it triggers the hell out of me,it's like my name is Layla either respect it or go get out of my life.
*burps* that's cuz my name's Ty!
Right when I saw the comment it was in the video
names are so important! When I made my outing in front of my parents I have already choosen a name for me. After a year I finally got to talk to my parents more about my transition and because I'll get T next year, we talked about my name. They both didn't like my new name and because their opinion is very important for me, i listened to them. I have a little brother and my mom always wanted to name him robin. They never named him like this even if both, my mom and my dad loved the name. So my mom asked me to choose this name and I'm so happy and honored of that. I also love this name and the fact that my parents literally 'gave it to me' is such a wonderful feeling! It's a big step in the acceptance of my parents. It is very hard for them but with this step I can really see that they are trying to accept me as their son and not daughter anymore.
Thanks for the video ty!
I say and hear my old name at least 20 times or each day. I married a man with the same name as my old name but I never conflate this with myself, ever! Freaked the fuck out of my mother for a couple of years though lol.
That intro was well done.
But this makes me wonder...what do people assume my name is based off of my looks??
Cat
Cait
Katherine
caitin
catlin*
I was named after my uncle, and his name is Michael Aaron, but he goes by Aaron. My name was just his name but feminized and switched, so it was Erin Nicole (it would've been Michelle but my sister was already named that). I decided it would be easier to change it to Aaron Michael and go by Michael so I wouldn't have to change it much, and since my nickname was Nikki all they would have to do is call me Mickey instead. Easy peasy. I will say both my name's are super common and I kinda want to choose a cooler name (I'm not out to family, I live in Arkansas and my family is very conservative) but I like the name Michael a lot, and I think it fits me well. I like that you gave other people's perspectives, it was an amazing video!
First, as I watched a more recent video, I could not quite understand some of your references, as a man. A quick search to older posts cleared up my befuddled state. Second, as a gay man I find a familiarity to your point about being triggered...by an old name. It's just that, in my case, the triggers are all that went before my recent coming out. That older 'me' was closeted and traumatized in youth. I have often wondered if changing my name would be of help. In my case, I decided that the help was best applied internally to correct earlier learned dysfunctional dictates. So I am still Steve. Nice to meet you, Ty! Subscribed.
Please do more dramatic intro's lol
I liked the way you did this video. The intro, informative, and personal perspective... All in one great video. Thanks Ty.
I'm unable to call my birth name my dead name. Because I have not changed my name yet on papers, so everyday at my college I have to write down my birth name and it's a huge trigger but I'm in a part of my life where I'm unable to change my name due to the lack of money. I try hard to not let it effect me or effect my schooling but it does become difficult, along with still hearing my dad call me by my birth name.
I am aware that my name is completely different from my birth name but it is a name that I've had people call me by since middle school. Since I've always hated my birth name, it's never felt right to me.
Id rather be called my name Aleksander/Aleks than what was given to me.
I chose my kids name based on their perceived personality in the womb and confirmed when they were born and their appearance suited that name. It's also gender neutral.
spyduhgirl great ......
That’s awesome ☺️👏🏻
Good so you can make your chrildren get bullied
@@zeno1298 why does a gender neutral name make you think they'd get bullied? What about names like Charlie or Alex? Those are pretty average gender neutral names
I love this, Ty! It was great to hear some other perspectives on name change. I hope you are well!
THAT INTRO WAS SO WELL SHOT AND EDITED OMFG
Wait so am i a lesbian because my name is ellen
that's a stepford lesbian name. its cute . You must be the type that matches your lipstick with your red smoothie.
that made me laugh rlly hard
LOL
Yes
My name is Ellen and I am a lesbian and I hate my name I have always hated my name. I love me some Ty
Black crop and green pants..somebody got inspired by Kim possible
I had to write my deadname on a cake at work last week and 10/10 you captured the feeling
Dude thank you for including peeps that kept the same name. I feel like we're always forgotten. Im loving the change with these new vids!
Hmmmm are you secretly telling us that a neck tattoo is in the works, Mr Ty-not-Tyler?
THE FUCKING QUALITY AND EFFORT PUT INTO THIS VIDEO 👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼
*picture a guy named Bob*
Imagines a stick figure .-.
I remember Ash Hardell making a video that they thought the name change from Ashley to Ash would be easy because Ash so close to Ashley but it actually made it harder for people because they’d slip up and say Ashley instead of Ash. It’s like a muscle memory people had to break.
My ex wife is MtF and her name is Casey. She still goes by Casey, and my mom got in the habit of "scolding" her by calling her Cassandra to show her support, it just sorta stuck over time.
Wow this was quality and relatable
yes Ty 👏🏾 wow, this is awesome! super excited for your future videos ✨
*Calm the McDonald's.*
Exquisite Buffoon NADIA!! 😊😊😊
Oof I forgot I’m subbed to you. ^^
I'm crying this is way too accurate.
I'm not trans, but I am in the process of changing my name, so I actually relate to a lot of this. My old name triggers bad memories of an ex-bestfriend who had the same name and kind of ruined my life for 8 years, and other memories of the person I used to be who is completely different from who I am today. I even went from a Hufflepuff to a Ravenclaw.
Yep. You dont even have to be trans to experience this though, I changed my name and when people say stuff like oh what's your "real" name and when people still call me by my birth name I do get anxiety and I totally relate to what you said about it turning into a slur.
It's fucking cringey to hear it. Cis people just don't understand how hard it is for us to hear our birth name
Your name is Sebastian. TYLER is your middle name😂
Alexzander Castillo ....what? Seriously? 😂 I've been lied to
A STAR IS BORN OMG DIRECT MOVIES AND ACTOR IN THE MAKINGGGGGG
this video was extremely well done. holy crap. Amazing job, Ty! totally Looking forward to more videos like this
i was typing on my phone wanting to write "xD" after a message and autocorrect made it "cass" and my friend's deadname was cassidy and I FELT SO BAD I IMMEDIATELY APOLOGIZED LIKE WOW AUTOCORRECT GREAT SH!T
So true though. I can’t even handle hearing different versions of my name.
Darren Phernetton I can relate to that
same. i get so uncomfortable even hearing the masculine version of my deadname, like ehh why can't the name just Die Off.
@darren i lost that battle a long time ago. I was at the dentist the other day. dentist assistant. secretary and then dentist , all 3 read my name entirely differently and because it was such a small space , every person waiting heard it and i could see the smiles. I don't have the energy to correct people.
That sketch in the beginning, especially where the camera panned and showed you in 3rd person was DOPE!
My mum was great about names when I came out. She was calling me by my new name immediately. But, multiples times pre coming out I had brought up wanting to change my name, I'd never felt comfortable with my birth name, and every time she'd end up crying, horribly distraught 'what's wrong with your name, it's a beautiful name, I *gave* you that name! If you change it you're throwing it in our faces you might as well leave the family if you don't want to even have your own name!' ... I guess she feels terrible about acting like that now that she knows why I had to change it. So, she was right on board with that. But I know she still hurt about it in some way, a sense of loss or grief, as silly as that sounds it obviously meant a lot and was hard for her, though she accepted it and made sure I did what was best for me. I didn't want to feel guilt over pursuing my own happiness, it was something I had to do, god it's tricky sometimes y'know? Anyway, when my name change came through, I was about 4 months on T, and I went to get my license changed over, new photo, name, and gender marker all at once. It'd all be correct now. I was so happy. My mum was happy... For me. But still feeling sad on some level, working it through for herself. So when the clerk grabbed my change of details form and asked me to give her my old license for disposal, I quickly decided that I had 'unfortunately lost it somehow recently', meaning they could issue me a new one without having to destroy the old one. Then I drove across town and gave it to my mum. The very last thing that would ever identify or record the person who looked like that, holding that name. Just a little keepsake for her. I think it's nice, she can have a tangible piece of the past and be a physical part of the present & future, seeing that you never lose the person that was, but rather get to see the person that is, and experience the reality of them being the same person, nothing lost at all.
Anyway, that's how I lied to the state government and retained possession of a false document to give my mum a fake ID coz she's sentimental and I thought it was sweet 😂
Bryn Jackson that is honestly really sweet of you to do that and to be so understanding that it can be hard for a parent to just let go of what used to be. its like a child moving out, the old way of life is gone, but that doesn't mean this new way is bad. its just new, and new is good and exciting. and im so glad your mom warmed up so well to a new name once she knew why it was so needed! i wish both of you so much luck! 💞
also i used to talk about changing my name with my mom all the time, and she would get all "why, your name is so beautiful, why would you change it" and i'd be like "yeah its pretty but i want to change it" and i actually used to hate it so much. i do love it now bc its unique and a tie to my family's roots and history (its a french name and my family has a french canadian past AND i can tell people i was named after a duck, who wouldnt want that- my mom knew a duck with my name), but sometimes i do still want to change it for reasons. my mom got so used to me wanting to change my name that she opened up and was like "yknow... honestly i want to change my name. i've never liked that my mom and i share a name" so we started going by different names for a while every week! it was nice, and it was bonding. im still on the fence about changing my name, sometimes i feel it would be healthiest for me, but theres also that huge sentimentality i have (im a crybaby for the past lol). anyway that was more than i wanted to or needed to share sorry x
Loved the video Ty I especially love the bit before the interview people forget how important names are. Love how you drove this point home but it was totally chill. Like I could totally send this to family and friends without them feeling attacked.
There is a girl in some of my classes with the same names as my birthname and the skit at the start of the video is *literally how I feel*
I love the format and editing in this video! I changed my name completely but only kept the first letter. My birth name is extremely feminine. It has few variations but it’s becoming more popular. I’ll here a mom in the store yell my birth name looking or addressing her daughter and I’ll have a moment of panic. Sometimes it sends me into a spiral that affects me for hours.
imagine if you dated a person.With your birth name.
Lyle Mayes I’m best friends with someone with my birth name :/
Oof ouchie XD
Really cool editing at the beginning
The intro is really good. I really liked your editing.
I know no one cares, but for my name, I kind of just took it from a UA-camr that used to be kinda big back in the day. I didn't know that it was gender neutral at first. I firmly decided to keep it because it was six characters because my mom wanted it to match the six characters of my brother's name. My 'deadname' (it's only in English, by the way) is rarely said because my parents never speak English at home. I don't feel weird when people call me my Chinese name because it's very gender neutral, so I'm going to keep it.
The funny thing is, even though I chose the name Jordan, all my friends mostly call me 'Tobi' because I told them that was my nickname during the first year of secondary school. I rarely got called Jordan back then. Nowadays, since I'm studying in England, I get called Jordan left and right and it's kind of a strange experience.
The transitions were amazing
Havent been on youtube in a while and woah dude your videos are so much cleaner and classier now, good job!
god, i remember when i was little i didnt know much abt trans people, but i was for some reason convinced that they had to change their name to a variant of their birth name... before i even realized i was trans i was SO PISSED that my birth name didn't have a clear masculine variant and i'd spend hours just trying to figure something out better than Carl and i never could. Thank god that was cleared up at some point, luke is little more me lmao
Whoa are we the same person, my birth name is similar to Carl and I changed it to Luke.
No one calls me by my preferred name I get called my deadname on a daily basis thx family
Transgirl tori have you tried getting them to call you by a neutral or feminine nickname?
Well Tori, girl, your rock no matter what. Slay forever queen.
I’m sorry that you have to experience that, tori. Hopefully, in the future, they’ll learn to treat you better 💜
Ohh shit When my family does that I get wild. I ruined xmas a year ago cs they keep saying "she"and my deadname . So I hope one day They say ur right name
Sorry to hear that, I'm a cis female who changed her name nine years ago. I hate hearing my birth name, it's disgusting and causes me emotional distress
Changed my last name on social media and soon to change it legally, for a whole different reason! Family stuff isn’t so good and having to use that name always hurts. Nobody should be shamed for changing their name, as long as it helps them journey through life. Loved this video, Ty!
You seem like a Sebastian for sure and a Tyler too
My dead name also happens to be the name of the store and just driving by the store gives me anxiety. Hearing my dead name in public even when it’s not directed at me gives me a spike of anxiety. I’m trying to learn to not let my dead name hold power over me but it’s really hard being so used to hearing it.
ard here's the real question: what yall think when you hear the name kalvin?
ps: great video ty. love you
Kalvin Garrah Kalvin sounds like a white boi who plays lacrosse ( at least to me it does)
Kalvin Garrah cool name ! Someone said my name sounds like a douchebag guy 😂😔😅
Kalvin Garrah dude you're rad. Started T a month ago:)
Not going to lie it gives me anger but that's because I knew a Kalvin and they are mean 😆 It's a nice name though
Kalvin Garrah a skinny legend
This video really helped me, because I struggled with finding a name that I thought suited me, until I finally found one. Thank you Tyler for this video because you inspire me😊😊 thanks to your help I’m now Jasper🤘🏻
Just watching your vid; I'm a Cis female but I changed my name when I was 22, I'm 31 now, hearing my birth name, in fact saying it, is the most disgusting horrendous thing ever. Yet people feel they have the right to call me my birth name. I just cut them off if they do
FINALLY VAPE DADDI DID A VIDEO WITH SOURCES. I loved how you read the quoted information, it was so ASMR. Now you made me think about whether to change my name or not... It is slightly dysphoric but not too much. Btw the first scene is so funny and sad at the same time. Love you. Hail Satan.
Good video dude 👍🏻 I’ve always had struggles with my name because I never went by my first name, people constantly mispronounced my middle name and I hate my last name... I hope to get it changed soon! 😊
this hit me in the feels. resonated quite a bit with me. thanks for posting this video, Ty!
I find it interesting that most of the people you talked to didn't change their names if they were gender neutral. I am afab and my name was actually traditionally masculine already but I changed it anyway because I always associated it with people thinking I was a girl. I always hated my name and I ended up choosing a name I had used for myself when I was very little because nothing else fit.
Ty that's how my PTSD and anxiety feel just like that you are a very handsome man and you make me laugh you should be a comedian
Ty!!! This video was fantastic!! You elaborated really well, and I loved the inclusion of other trans persons!!
I love how you've filmed the beginning sequence!
That was a great intro! Love it, are you & your girl still together? Just curious.. your soo handsome Ty!!!
2005er answer the question Ty!! 😻
Given the fact he hasn’t said “yeah we’re still together” , I think it’s safe to assume that they aren’t together . Probably just doesn’t want to talk about it . Aside from that I wanted to say good work as always , love your videos, Ty ! You’re awesome, keep up the good work , sexy pants ! ❤️
Pretty sure he’s with Stef currently 🤷🏻♂️🙆🏻♂️
They aren’t together
Cool to see all the perspectives! I love how positive you are.
I haven't heard anything about your cousin (I dont know how she spells her name) but I hope she's doing well. I love you too Ty.
I thought of going with your name, but it didn't quite fit me or Rylan, but its a nice name.
I think they made a video together a while ago, if you're interested. (:
Gosh, you and your friends and family have a lot to negotiate. Guys, you all are amazing. Thanks for sharing these insights.
that intro was so relatable I got whiplash tbh.
Dayyyym boy! This video was so great! I especially liked the interviews with your friends and the additional research you put into it. That sass during your conclusion was especially appreciated! XD Keep up the amazing work Ty!
I'm a trans boy and my name is Chandler and my birth name is Chandler. I feel so lucky. But I wish my name is Scott
Clever The Cat Chandler is a cool name. But you have the freedom to change it to Scott if you want to in the future. :)
Clever The Cat You could also go with “Chandler Scott (Insert Last Name Here)”
Your name can be whatever you want it to be. You don't even need to change it legally to start using it in your personal life, even at work you can tell people to call you something besides your legal name, even though on documents and stuff it would still say your legal name
I named my son Shane because it can go for both men and women and if he ever felt like he was born into the wrong body I wanted him to be able to keep his name if he wanted to.
There needs to be more parents like you.
Kaycee Nunyabiz what girl is named shane ? lol
Shane from the L word
Kaycee Nunyabiz it’s something I’ve considered as well. I don’t have children yet. I like the name Elinor for a girl, but if they want to transition they could become Elliot.
Youre a great person omf
I like the format of this video a lot, keep it up, man!
My name is Teis... I'm from Denmark, and only around 2000 people have that name here. I've never seen someone in media with that name and I've only ever met one person with the name, so I don't have a lot of stereotypes to live up to :"D
skeleteis I'm from DK as well. My bf is called Theis 😂
This explains so much, I've always hated my name and never knew why but now I do.
My birth name is not that triggering for me. So little so that I mostly kept it, just flipped it to the more masculine alternative. Dominique -> Dominic. Easier for me, familiar for my family. And I don't necessarily hate my name to begin with. Sucks that I'm gonna have to pay $400 in my state just to change a few letters 😂😂 ah well!
The intro 😂 out of any story he could’ve told, that was the one he chose. This is why you’re my favorite youtuber lol
Tyyyy!? No vlogmas!?
This was cool dude, and you seem really happy and refreshed :) Thanks for making another killer video!
Ugh when I hear my birth name I feel sick and want to throw up...
The quality of this video is amazing! Keep up the great work, Ty!
My birthname is... Kayleigh.
Now my name is Liam.
It suits me better since I’m FtM And really liked Liam.
Mine is...-
Oh lord mine is "Lily" but I changed it to "Zach". I might even get it legally changed soon...
AHHHHHH "Happy Crisis" XD
Also this video's intro is PERFECT dissociation representation (for my experiences).
I just found out my cousin is trans too! Nice not being the only tran in the fam!
Hey Ty completely unrelated to your old name but still had to share... tonight I was trying to catch up on some of your videos as I feel I haven't watched one in forever and this was the first one I had clicked on, the min you came on my daughter started rolling and kicking (I'm 23 weeks pregnant) i think she is going to like your videos as much as I do.
What do you guys think of the name Debbie? Pretty sure I’ve never met anyone below 25 years of age with this name.
There is a name that is similar I think the name is Debby Ryan I think she is 24 years old 🐓
Debbie sounds cute!
I changed my name but intentionally picked my new name to start with the same letter and have a similar amount of syllables as it allowed me to change in a way that let me change so that I could still change into who I wanted while keeping something familiar
i'll say "it" instead of "he"??? lmao ppl are unbelievable
I know right
Sadly, "it" is less offensive for me to hear than "she" is
My mom calls me it
Okay buddy
that dramatization is rly well made, man! great editing and pace, and the framing and cinematography really serve the emotion in the story. it's so cool to see you evolve and push yourself to realize your vision - it's very inspiring!
the discussion of names has really got me thinking. i have one of the commonest names in the world. my mother has the same name, as well as a very close friend, and my half-sister's mom. it's kind of a mess. XD i currently go by the supershortened version, but i can't say i love hearing ppl refer to me by it. my full name totally makes me cringe but i usually can't be bothered to correct ppl, i just move on. i'm good at absorbing. i can take a lot. it's not great to let myself take too much, even tho i can, but for now, while i haven't started transitioning medically, i am reserving my energy for later.
when i do change my name, i will have to neutralize any traumatic or dysphoric associations with the old one, because i will never be able to avoid hearing it.
oh, this video has got me even more excited to change my name! i already picked it, but i still have to decide on the last name (father-related drama gives my last name a bitter taste).
i love choosing things, tho, it's a challenging and enjoyable process. ^_^