exactly my daughter and the neighbor got little shovels and started digging in the dirt for gems they found some good “gems” and they were occupied for 3 hrs
We don’t have kids, just cats. But the same principle applies- no matter what we bring into the house, the cats totally enjoy the hell out of each new box and bag. (Snip the handles!)
@@JehanineMelmoth thinking love is enough is immature. There’s also shared values and quality of life. She has bad values and decreases quality of life of whatever partner she’s with.
My sister has a daycare and she shops flea markets and garage sales for toys and books for the daycare. She takes them home, cleans and disinfects them. Parents also give her their used toys when their kids outgrow them. I don't understand parents buying new clothes for little ones. Hand me downs or thrifted is the way to go, they grow too way fast to buy new especially at the baby/toddler age. They can get their new stuff from Birthdays and Christmas from relatives.
That's what we do. Between Halloween and Christmas, I make sure my kids have winter clothes. I hit the thrift stores, and if needed, the consignment shop for kids. I am NOT going to buy new clothes for kids who are going to grown out of them in weeks. They get new clothes from their grandparents! Let them pay that kind of money! 😝
We’ve reduced our spending quite a bit as we’ve gotten older. We both had to help our moms sort through a mountain of stuff when they moved into assisted living. We don’t have kids, and it isn’t too likely our nieces/nephews are gonna want to do it for us either. But we buy everything we can second hand, and have done so over 30 years. We just aren’t flashy people, and have never cared what people thought. It suits us just fine. Cheers!
Exactly. And guess what? No entertainment budget? Go to the library. Rent a movie, take out some books. I used to read all summer with books just from the library. Go Goosebumps!
Help me understand this - they are not even married, he's saddled with her two kids, the baby they had together and she feels that she can shop, shop, shop? Where is the child support from the other baby daddy(ies?) What's wrong with buying good, used baby furnishings and clothing? Why is she buying food and wasting it by throwing it out? If he left her, she'd be up a creek because she'd only have reasonable child support for their joint child, would have to make a real living and also support her two other kids. How about a little gratefulness to the man who stepped up to the plate when he didn't have to?
You know what’s sadder than anything? Her to older kids are made to feel like nobodies. They are simply something he is being “saddled’ with. This is why so many teen end up n drugs - treated like crap in step parent situations. It is horrible for our society.😡
Lots going on here, did she pregnant trap him to help support her other two, asking children to have secrets about her shopping, the older kids seeing little own get so much stuff ! Many levels of problems here ! Real family therapy all around but it's easy to assess another family in 20 mins !
I had 2 Barbie dolls growing up - a Casey & a Barbie. I enjoyed them so much, and I still have them & the case with their clothes. My mother made several outfits for them, and those are beyond precious to me. Those two dolls are in excellent shape too!
I have suffered from shopping addiction and recently paid off all of my credit card debt and my car. Just working on the house. It is possible, but it is a lot of internal work that you have to do.
It is obvious that this woman has some real emotional issues that must be addressed. Those tears made that clear. Maybe she is compensating for feelings of inadequacy, or something. She does not look like a happy person. Once she gets to the root of her need to shop compulsively, her life will be so much better.
@@louelaine6539that's the reason he's still there. He doesn't want to lose the house, his retirement, pay alimony and child support for three. Even if she's bleeding money it's cheaper than all that. He at least gets to see the kids if he's married to her. He doesn't if he leaves.
@@louelaine6539 Not true. Half the debt will be transferred to her. Plus the 2 older kids are her kids from other father(s). They are not his kids. He is the father of the baby onl and he will get 50/50 shared time..
eating out is a BIG expense. I've renewed my effort for us to eat at home - maybe once 1 month will we eat out. Takes some time to make a reasonable menu and AS GAIL SAYS "SHOP ONCE A WEEK"
@@davisholman8149 I don.t drive as l don.t want to pay for a car.I have great transport and have been all over Australia and the world.I have travelled more than a llt of my driver friendd.
@@davisholman8149 - it would be understandable if she still behaved like an adult by using public transportation rather than making him be a chauffeur.✌🏼☘️
My Ex complains about how she has no money, but she has 3 kids with 3 different fathers. She expects me to help her out because she has 3 kids and says she's struggling, when she shops like there's no tomorrow. Complains about money issues, but they are able to go on Disney trips and she just recently got a new car. Ridiculous!
@@legzfalloffgirl5148 he is taking care of the kids, but why should he go bankrupt? She’s the one saying he’s not doing enough for her kids. She’s the problem and she has all the kids.
She got the nerve to say her husband doesn't pay for anything. Does she not realize he's paying some of the house bills? If he stopped paying, I'll bet she noticed something. But then again with her, she probably won't.
He was paying ALL of the house bills. She thought the money she earned was for her to spend however she wanted. I did not like her. He seemed like a very nice guy.
She's so manipulative! (Telling the older kids not to tell Scott...horrible! 🤬Obviously, he's the Dad to them, financially supporting them, too.) Don't BS Gail, lady! 🤬 May Scott do what he needs to do to have peace. His facial expressions say it all. ❤️
I was laughing at the beginning with the husband upset by her spending but driving her to the shops! She is so addicted. I could see her struggling at the end when she realised she had to continue with the shopping ban for an extra 6 weeks.
3:40 Thirty pairs of pants. 14 pairs of shoes. For a growing baby. Huh? She's talking about shoes for different occasions. What her son doing that needs so much clothes? He walking red carpets, fashion shows?
Babies don’t even need shoes 😂 my twins didn’t get their first ones till about 15 months old. They’re nearly ten now and only have school shoes, sports shoes and waterproof boots. And slippers which they don’t really wear haha.
I clothed my children, and now my grandchildren, through charity shops, car boot sales and jumble sales. A lot of the items were top makes and brand new. I also buy toys and books the same way. It never fails to amaze me what people give away unused.
I agree with not needing that many pairs of shoes, but personally my young children had many changes of clothing. They spat up or exploded or got very dirty by eating and playing, and at one period of time I could only do laundry twice to three times a month. So I HAD to have options for them. Lol
The little Braiden is fine with everything, no matter if the thing (whatever it is) costs 5 or 50 bucks. The clothes will not fit anymore, before the tags are off. Kids grow very fast😄
1:53 Ma'am. If you want to buy something so bad, you better use your money. Sir, what you should've done is just left her at the cashier looking stupid. Once she got that shopping cart all full and expensive, tell her, "I'll see you at car." She wanna make a fuss, she fuss using her wallet.
I am so glad they were able to knock out their debt (well, just months away)! Change is hard, and Darlene looked so unhappy ... BUT SHE DID IT!! She got those extra clients, and it sounds like Scott did a great job helping her get to a better financial understanding and footing, for the sake of their family. I hope they were ultimately able to stick it out and are in a better financial situation now.
I think she is one of the most real participants in this show. We know that addictions are hard to kick and take a long time to overcome. Too many times we see people with habits that span years just look at the numbers and all of the sudden they are cure and that's just not how it works. Am pretty sure she is gout to keep "relapsing" into shopping and the husband needs to be ready to pull her back. We still don't understand what's driving her shopping impulses so the fact that they stuck to the budget six weeks later when they were technically still being watched doesn't fill me with confidence. Really wish we could get updates on these couples.
@@NanaPapa123 considering they live together and share a kid, the only thing not marrying will do is save the legals fees to a lawyer. Well, at least they will if they avoid a custody battle.
I agree whole heartedly, the one part this show lacked was counseling when addiction was present (shopping, gambling etc.) These issues can run deep and need to be addressed to make real change.
And all that shopping is just her brain looking for the dopamine hit to make her feel better, just like any addiction. I really hope she got some help.
Agreed. It frustrates me that he even noted that the addiction started after the baby was born, but they haven't put the pieces together. Everything about her affect screams "depression".
Well, that turned out great! Kudos to Scott and Darlene for pulling through. She definitely overcame her shopping addiction which only took a few months. She is to be commended for sticking to it and to Scott for sticking to it, too!
I’m super happy for them that they were able to get on top of their budget! I think she’ll change her ways. She definitely had an eye opening experience. By the end she was making more and spending less…good for her.
Darlene uses shopping as a coping mechanism. When her husband confronts her she gets defensive. I hope this couple got their act together for the sake of those children.
Shopping addiction is just much of an addiction as drugs or alcohol. It can't be changed in a period of 4 weeks or 10 weeks. It is a lifelong challenge. I'm hoping she was successful and that she will be able to curb her desire to spend but I'm not as confident as most of you. She comes across as spoiled and entitled and those behaviors also don't change overnight if at all.
No bad habits can be changed overnight. Gail is not helping she is showing off. Long-term changes are quiet and long. Her help is like a restrictive diet for obese person. Once done, the person is back to bad habits. What obese person needs is a permanent lifestyle change. The same person with bad spending habits. No one is going to reduce spending by 80% on a daily notice and keep with it permanently.
The Mother seems depressed. I imagine the shopping is done to try to fill a void. I think Gail's help PLUS a good therapist is what's needed for real change.
I'm really glad they were successful. I think she knew she was struggling and was embarrassed. It's amazing how this show can really change your thinking.
Sometimes people soothe themselves with addictive behaviour and doing what needs to be done doesn't always bring the outcomes needed. Getting help with underlying issue/s would perhaps be just as important as reducing spending.
I don’t know how she’s able to spend 95% of their combined income. That’s a bit over $70,000/year on an $74,000 income. That’s just so crazy for me. I’ve never ever been in that situation ever in my life. I just don’t get this kind of behavior.
She's super robotic... I thought she was hiding the manipulation, which may be part of it, but there may also be something else going on. And she's very addicted, I hope she was able to knock it for good.
I would leave her immediately. Hell nah, not working my ass off at work, paying for 2 kids that aren’t mine, just for my “partner” to spend all of my money.
She's buying stuff because she's not happy, you can see it in her face. She's unhappy in her situation. He seems to have some resentment towards her other 2 children.
Something else is going on here. I can't put my finger on it, but this couple don't look at each other when they talk and Darlene's effect is very flat. I feel like there's something else going on behind closed doors, or Darlene could have some form of depression.
I totally agree. Something seems totally off about her. I think she may extremely depressed! Also, I was disturbed by the dinner scene. The kids looked as if they were walking on eggshells!
$80.00 for books for “ the upcoming season”. Wowza… I don’t like either of them. I think she was looking for meal ticket and he was flattered someone was interested in him. He does seem to lord it over her, not a nice trait.
Since my children were wild, I bought them used books. And I didn't know you read books in seasons. Did I do it all wrong my whole life? Did I read autum books in january?
Second hand clothes is thevway to go for kids! Friends and family have hand-me-downs! Why buy a baby new clothes when they only wear them for a few weeks?
She is using him as a meal ticket. She has no empathy toward him at all. She will never change. She is going to be a single mother of 3 very soon. And she named her kid Braiden which is a good reason to call CPS.
i had debt in my early 20s from stupid spending paid it off and then got a budget and i still treated myself but just planned it and saved for it…i saw a bag i wanted for $400 saved up and then i was like i don’t really like it and put the money away….i found that a lot of the time what i thought i wanted i didn’t….im 37 no debt, finished school debt free and own my own home and car….gails right it just takes discipline. My daughter and i do mani/pedi nights 1x a month we rent a movie get in robes and paint our nails make popcorn and it costs me next to nothing!! i already have the polish and popcorn so its just the movie and 9 times out of 10 we watch a movie we already own that we enjoy….plus we spend quality time together!! its the best and costs so little
@@matemahe If it's that unfair to him, he needs to leave and call it a day. It's cruel to form a blended family and then make your stepchildren feel inferior.
Tbh, there's something off about her. Always crying with every meeting with Gail, no emotion when she speaks other wise... and she never wiped the tears away. I had a sociopathic (diagnosed) partner, and this is how he would act. Keeping the tears to get me to feel sorry for him, then repeat the same distrustful behaviors.
That was exactly what I thought. She has such dead eyes, odd blinking and flat affect, only showing distress when called out. Her unwillingness to learn to drive, and cold interaction with her hubby....she is imitating human interactions....badly!! Her wooden speech at the end repeating what she had heard regarding child needs was off-putting and creepy.
Kids don't care about stuff like that. For the last 3 days, the kids on my block have been playing with a broom that a contractor left behind.
I’m crying yes😂 I used to play let’s blades of grass. The stuff is for parents.
Totally!! Kids want love affection and time. They don't care about stuff
exactly my daughter and the neighbor got little shovels and started digging in the dirt for gems they found some good “gems” and they were occupied for 3 hrs
We don’t have kids, just cats. But the same principle applies- no matter what we bring into the house, the cats totally enjoy the hell out of each new box and bag. (Snip the handles!)
My kids play with the boxes their stuff comes in 😂
I couldn't be with someone that never changes their facial expression.
Great observation.. No expression at all
Seriously, her face never moved.
She has a flat affect. She needs help.
She just looks so annoyed she’s been held back from spending money they don’t have. Like a child in a huff.
@@louise8219I disagree I think she’s depressed and shopping is her way of coping with stress. That’s why she bought books when she lost a client.
Single mom with two kids and a spending problem….what a catch
Also she doesn’t drive so you get to be a taxi as well 😂
There’s this thing called love.
@@JehanineMelmoth thinking love is enough is immature. There’s also shared values and quality of life. She has bad values and decreases quality of life of whatever partner she’s with.
@@monal83022 I didn't say that love was enough. You do like to jump to judgy conclusions, don't you?
@@JehanineMelmothok then what was your comment even trying to say?
I'm so glad this man finally stood up for himself and became a leader. She totally treated him like 💩
My sister has a daycare and she shops flea markets and garage sales for toys and books for the daycare. She takes them home, cleans and disinfects them. Parents also give her their used toys when their kids outgrow them. I don't understand parents buying new clothes for little ones. Hand me downs or thrifted is the way to go, they grow too way fast to buy new especially at the baby/toddler age. They can get their new stuff from Birthdays and Christmas from relatives.
That's what we do. Between Halloween and Christmas, I make sure my kids have winter clothes. I hit the thrift stores, and if needed, the consignment shop for kids. I am NOT going to buy new clothes for kids who are going to grown out of them in weeks. They get new clothes from their grandparents! Let them pay that kind of money! 😝
This show has inspired me to be careful with my spending. I can just hear Gail in my head saying “Do you need that???” 😂
Me, too!
We’ve reduced our spending quite a bit as we’ve gotten older. We both had to help our moms sort through a mountain of stuff when they moved into assisted living. We don’t have kids, and it isn’t too likely our nieces/nephews are gonna want to do it for us either. But we buy everything we can second hand, and have done so over 30 years. We just aren’t flashy people, and have never cared what people thought. It suits us just fine. Cheers!
Me too. I am very financially conscious
I always hear her saying Get to the end of the month, before you get to the end of the money. 😂🤣
$80 on books! I have one word for her.... LIBRARY!
I'll give her one more: GOODWILL!
Here's a weird one that worked for me: WHILE WATCHING THE KIDS SHOWS ON TV, TURN THE ENGLISH SUBTITLES ON.
EXACTLY and is online now.
Library has books for sale. Very cheap.
Exactly. And guess what? No entertainment budget? Go to the library. Rent a movie, take out some books. I used to read all summer with books just from the library. Go Goosebumps!
Help me understand this - they are not even married, he's saddled with her two kids, the baby they had together and she feels that she can shop, shop, shop? Where is the child support from the other baby daddy(ies?) What's wrong with buying good, used baby furnishings and clothing? Why is she buying food and wasting it by throwing it out? If he left her, she'd be up a creek because she'd only have reasonable child support for their joint child, would have to make a real living and also support her two other kids. How about a little gratefulness to the man who stepped up to the plate when he didn't have to?
You know what’s sadder than anything? Her to older kids are made to feel like nobodies. They are simply something he is being “saddled’ with. This is why so many teen end up n drugs - treated like crap in step parent situations. It is horrible for our society.😡
@@davisholman8149 It's tragic that this mother has chosen to do that to her kids. :-(
Lots going on here, did she pregnant trap him to help support her other two, asking children to have secrets about her shopping, the older kids seeing little own get so much stuff ! Many levels of problems here ! Real family therapy all around but it's easy to assess another family in 20 mins !
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@@NanaPapa123 He was quite complicit as well.
I don't understand....he has to TAKE HER to the stores to satisfy her shopping addiction because she doesn't drive. STOP TAKING HER TO THE STORES.
He’s a doormat!
Guess you’re single
Hope this data helps him grow a spine. If she is depressed/other, get therapy. He is also supporting too much alone
I had 2 Barbie dolls growing up - a Casey & a Barbie. I enjoyed them so much, and I still have them & the case with their clothes. My mother made several outfits for them, and those are beyond precious to me. Those two dolls are in excellent shape too!
That poor lady never smiles. She could use counseling.
She smiled as she said that she gets from him what she wants.
Yes, she’s very dour and seems very unhappy!
She's evil
And she smiled at the end when she realized kids only need the necessities and love. It really sounds like therapy would be a good choice
Shes not evil just depressed thats mean @eileenwatt8283
I have suffered from shopping addiction and recently paid off all of my credit card debt and my car. Just working on the house. It is possible, but it is a lot of internal work that you have to do.
It is obvious that this woman has some real emotional issues that must be addressed. Those tears made that clear. Maybe she is compensating for feelings of inadequacy, or something. She does not look like a happy person. Once she gets to the root of her need to shop compulsively, her life will be so much better.
She doesn't sound like a happy person either. I think she needs help.
This show is from the early ,2ks, so I hope she got things worked out.
Agreed. I wonder about postpartum depression.
Those tears are to try and guilt people into giving her what she wants.
"I'll do what I want"
Well ok, you can do that all on your own when he leaves you lol
Yes and he'll get stuck with the debt and no place to live. Plus child support for her older 2 kids and the baby
@@louelaine6539that's the reason he's still there. He doesn't want to lose the house, his retirement, pay alimony and child support for three. Even if she's bleeding money it's cheaper than all that. He at least gets to see the kids if he's married to her. He doesn't if he leaves.
I would leave anyone who talks to me like that...
@@louelaine6539
Not true.
Half the debt will be transferred to her.
Plus the 2 older kids are her kids from other father(s). They are not his kids.
He is the father of the baby onl and he will get 50/50 shared time..
This man is too nice for her
Gail always uncovers the “quiet spending” You don’t realize how fast things add up.
exactly in the store your like oh it’s only 50 bucks but do that 5 times it adds up!!
eating out is a BIG expense. I've renewed my effort for us to eat at home - maybe once 1 month will we eat out. Takes some time to make a reasonable menu and AS GAIL SAYS "SHOP ONCE A WEEK"
She’s annoying how she always says it’s for “our son”. Girl please, it’s for you. She tries to guilt him and it’s so obvious.
Why in the world would an adult not drive? In the 21sr century? That right there is weird as hell.😵💫
@@davisholman8149 Pure fear. I drive but Only locally. No highways.
@@davisholman8149 Disabilities mostly, whether physical or mental, or a combination of the 2
@@davisholman8149 I don.t drive as l don.t want to pay for a car.I have great transport and have been all over Australia and the world.I have travelled more than a llt of my driver friendd.
@@davisholman8149 - it would be understandable if she still behaved like an adult by using public transportation rather than making him be a chauffeur.✌🏼☘️
Can i just say Gails hair is gorgeous
Yes you can! She has amazing hair.
Now if she can just stop eating all day
@@alexlogan202 Aren't you special 😒
They both show almost zero emotion except for her tears. Almost like robots. Wonder if there is any real love here.
Yes, you would be surprised how many families run like that. Money binds them together.
It does feel like they're dead inside and their marriage is dead on the outside
My Ex complains about how she has no money, but she has 3 kids with 3 different fathers. She expects me to help her out because she has 3 kids and says she's struggling, when she shops like there's no tomorrow. Complains about money issues, but they are able to go on Disney trips and she just recently got a new car. Ridiculous!
Are you my step dad
It always hurts me when a blended family comes together and there's "her kids" and "my kids. " you date/marry someone with kids, they're your kids too
Im guessing you're a single mum?
@@Moocow9991703 nope, just a decent human being.
Men have children from previous relationships as well. Parenting isn't just a woman's job
That's why my grandmother married a guy who was infertile. He had no children himself so _her_ children were his favourite children, too.
@@legzfalloffgirl5148 he is taking care of the kids, but why should he go bankrupt? She’s the one saying he’s not doing enough for her kids. She’s the problem and she has all the kids.
@@nancyaguirre2307 it's the concept of "her kids," "my kids" that's so upsetting
She got the nerve to say her husband doesn't pay for anything. Does she not realize he's paying some of the house bills? If he stopped paying, I'll bet she noticed something. But then again with her, she probably won't.
He was paying ALL of the house bills. She thought the money she earned was for her to spend however she wanted. I did not like her. He seemed like a very nice guy.
That was pretty infuriating ngl.
She's trying to gas-light him. Too many mind games here.
"He pays nothing!" Just all the taxes, utilities, mortgage etc.
He pays basically for everything and supports her shopping addiction.
I wouldn't knowingly pay a clinically depressed individual to watch my child.
You can buy used books at a thrift store for less than $80 And they always have a cute books for kids!
She's so manipulative! (Telling the older kids not to tell Scott...horrible! 🤬Obviously, he's the Dad to them, financially supporting them, too.) Don't BS Gail, lady! 🤬 May Scott do what he needs to do to have peace. His facial expressions say it all. ❤️
Those kids deserve better than holding that weight. Secrets and betrayal really mess with kids.
I was laughing at the beginning with the husband upset by her spending but driving her to the shops! She is so addicted. I could see her struggling at the end when she realised she had to continue with the shopping ban for an extra 6 weeks.
1:12 FIVE STROLLERS! For one child! She crazy. 2 at the max or get those strollers that can break down into a smaller one.
I had three over time, first one was a preloved on. An umbrella stroller and a new one when the wheel fell off the first one.
She should sell them and get some extra cash for them!
3:40 Thirty pairs of pants. 14 pairs of shoes. For a growing baby. Huh? She's talking about shoes for different occasions. What her son doing that needs so much clothes? He walking red carpets, fashion shows?
He's not even walking lmao.
Babies don’t even need shoes 😂 my twins didn’t get their first ones till about 15 months old. They’re nearly ten now and only have school shoes, sports shoes and waterproof boots. And slippers which they don’t really wear haha.
I clothed my children, and now my grandchildren, through charity shops, car boot sales and jumble sales. A lot of the items were top makes and brand new. I also buy toys and books the same way. It never fails to amaze me what people give away unused.
I agree with not needing that many pairs of shoes, but personally my young children had many changes of clothing. They spat up or exploded or got very dirty by eating and playing, and at one period of time I could only do laundry twice to three times a month. So I HAD to have options for them. Lol
As a grown adult I have less cloths
The little Braiden is fine with everything, no matter if the thing (whatever it is) costs 5 or 50 bucks. The clothes will not fit anymore, before the tags are off. Kids grow very fast😄
Happy to see the follow up to this story! It would be great if this was added on all the episodes!
Man! I was just about to go to sleep and then I got a notice for this show. Now, I’m sitting so that I don’t fall asleep while watching it. 😩😌
Likewise!
For real this show is awesome! Thank you Gail
This woman is not a good choice for a child care provider.
You don’t know what she’s like in that role
If she's losing money doing it must be pretty cheap
We have a childcare crisis, all the grandparents and aunts and uncles wanna be part time
She seems so sad. I can't see her being a good provider.
She's very "flat" here, and seems joyless. Maybe she's better with the kids; some people really bloom around children.
Darlene better be careful. If Scott files for divorce because she won't get help for shopping addiction, what she gonna do?
Hope he did.
This is an old show. They are most likely divorced by now
I don't think they are married. Even better for him.
Not married
Take the house, child support, alimony... That's what she'd do.
1:53 Ma'am. If you want to buy something so bad, you better use your money. Sir, what you should've done is just left her at the cashier looking stupid. Once she got that shopping cart all full and expensive, tell her, "I'll see you at car." She wanna make a fuss, she fuss using her wallet.
That part
yeah the dynamic between these two is very odd.
We are all learning sO much from these episodes ~ thank you Gail
I can't believe there are still episodes I haven't seen yet. Most of the episodes I have watched at least 4 times 😂
Me too
I am so glad they were able to knock out their debt (well, just months away)! Change is hard, and Darlene looked so unhappy ... BUT SHE DID IT!! She got those extra clients, and it sounds like Scott did a great job helping her get to a better financial understanding and footing, for the sake of their family. I hope they were ultimately able to stick it out and are in a better financial situation now.
She needs therapy, manipulative and depressed. I'm glad Gail wasn't affected by those fake tears
I think she is one of the most real participants in this show. We know that addictions are hard to kick and take a long time to overcome. Too many times we see people with habits that span years just look at the numbers and all of the sudden they are cure and that's just not how it works. Am pretty sure she is gout to keep "relapsing" into shopping and the husband needs to be ready to pull her back. We still don't understand what's driving her shopping impulses so the fact that they stuck to the budget six weeks later when they were technically still being watched doesn't fill me with confidence. Really wish we could get updates on these couples.
The man, perhaps wisely, has not married her. I too, wonder how they are faring.
@@NanaPapa123 considering they live together and share a kid, the only thing not marrying will do is save the legals fees to a lawyer. Well, at least they will if they avoid a custody battle.
I agree whole heartedly, the one part this show lacked was counseling when addiction was present (shopping, gambling etc.) These issues can run deep and need to be addressed to make real change.
She needs serious therapy.
She was definitely depressed. I think aside from the show she really would have benefited from some meds and therapy.
I thought the same, postnatal depression is no joke.
And all that shopping is just her brain looking for the dopamine hit to make her feel better, just like any addiction. I really hope she got some help.
It's call controlling. I don't make excuses for people like her. She's a wear if her behavior
She has a dull affect.
Agreed. It frustrates me that he even noted that the addiction started after the baby was born, but they haven't put the pieces together. Everything about her affect screams "depression".
One word for you Scott... RUN
Well, that turned out great! Kudos to Scott and Darlene for pulling through. She definitely overcame her shopping addiction which only took a few months. She is to be commended for sticking to it and to Scott for sticking to it, too!
I'm obsessed rewatching these... someone help
Wou if I could but I have the same problem, sorry 🤣
me too
This woman has all the signs of depression and is using shopping to self-medicate.
I’m super happy for them that they were able to get on top of their budget! I think she’ll change her ways. She definitely had an eye opening experience. By the end she was making more and spending less…good for her.
She doesn't love you, she puts the money ahead of you and your family
This woman has a deeper rooted issue. She is spending to compensate for something.
Darlene uses shopping as a coping mechanism. When her husband confronts her she gets defensive. I hope this couple got their act together for the sake of those children.
Not married
@@kaycure8629 married or not the children deserve parents that are financially responsible.
Lol @ the husband saying all the dolls look the same 😂 overall I felt bad for the husband but hopefully the way she talks to him improved
Shopping addiction is just much of an addiction as drugs or alcohol. It can't be changed in a period of 4 weeks or 10 weeks. It is a lifelong challenge. I'm hoping she was successful and that she will be able to curb her desire to spend but I'm not as confident as most of you. She comes across as spoiled and entitled and those behaviors also don't change overnight if at all.
She definitely needs therapy
No bad habits can be changed overnight. Gail is not helping she is showing off. Long-term changes are quiet and long. Her help is like a restrictive diet for obese person. Once done, the person is back to bad habits. What obese person needs is a permanent lifestyle change. The same person with bad spending habits. No one is going to reduce spending by 80% on a daily notice and keep with it permanently.
The Mother seems depressed. I imagine the shopping is done to try to fill a void. I think Gail's help PLUS a good therapist is what's needed for real change.
They don't see them selves as a couple. All I hear is my child, her children, my kids, and his child. To me that is worrisome.
I'm really glad they were successful. I think she knew she was struggling and was embarrassed. It's amazing how this show can really change your thinking.
Sometimes people soothe themselves with addictive behaviour and doing what needs to be done doesn't always bring the outcomes needed. Getting help with underlying issue/s would perhaps be just as important as reducing spending.
I don’t know how she’s able to spend 95% of their combined income. That’s a bit over $70,000/year on an $74,000 income. That’s just so crazy for me. I’ve never ever been in that situation ever in my life. I just don’t get this kind of behavior.
I love these. I clicked so fast.
She's super robotic... I thought she was hiding the manipulation, which may be part of it, but there may also be something else going on. And she's very addicted, I hope she was able to knock it for good.
She’s definitely depressed and needs meds and therapy…what a mess 😮 hope they are ok
Many of these people need a hobbies instead of shopping. Fitness/exercise would be good. Cooking would be good. Reading etc
My hobby is insulting people on the internet. The benefits? My native language is German and my English is getting better every day!
I would leave her immediately. Hell nah, not working my ass off at work, paying for 2 kids that aren’t mine, just for my “partner” to spend all of my money.
Does their father of the oldest two kids pay child support?
She not only used their son but her other two children into it all. Wonder if she even gave her kids their money.
She's buying stuff because she's not happy, you can see it in her face. She's unhappy in her situation. He seems to have some resentment towards her other 2 children.
i mean she is separated from the other kids dad too so...
Why isn’t the first 2 kids’ dad paying anything?
Good question
Let me guess, she also made a bad choice(es) there. If it's only on father and not more.
Do we for sure know there is no child support from the other dad or dads
It was good to see the update on the family at the end.
This woman needs to interview every wife on the planet immediately
Buddy boy is just a meal ticket/cash cow for this gal.
I can't believe all the items still with the tags still on them!
If they have tags then just return them. You might not get full price but you’ll get something
@@uninsurable9028 My thought exactly, return them and you'll get much more than you'd get at a yard sale!
She is like a whiny, little, spoiled brat. Gail gave her more than she deserved and she looks annoyed.
Love the plain talk
Save this Man from this Lady. He should be little practical. Otherwise he will put his retirement in a great danger.
He needs to take control of all bills and give her aa cash allowance. Once it’s gone it’s gone until next month.
I would bet anything that she’s also illegally claiming all her kids stuff on her daycare expenses.
We don't know that. If she was, Gail is sharp and would have caught it
I wonder if her shopping addiction stems from being so miserable with him. Notice how they never touched each other at all?
She never blinks. Or smiles. It’s creepy.
Also she treats her partner like he’s an idiot. It’s hard to watch this unpleasant person
I love having the update at the end.
I would never leave my baby with this lady!! Imagine she wouldn't even cook meals with real food.
Something else is going on here. I can't put my finger on it, but this couple don't look at each other when they talk and Darlene's effect is very flat. I feel like there's something else going on behind closed doors, or Darlene could have some form of depression.
I totally agree. Something seems totally off about her. I think she may extremely depressed! Also, I was disturbed by the dinner scene. The kids looked as if they were walking on eggshells!
I feel so bad for the guy, he seems very nice and thats why she took advantage of him :(
If he didn’t want to be saddled with kids not his he should have kept going. I feel for the kids
What a woman ...she is horrid to that guy...i dont know what he sees in her..i dont think she even likes him
$80.00 for books for “ the upcoming season”. Wowza… I don’t like either of them. I think she was looking for meal ticket and he was flattered someone was interested in him. He does seem to lord it over her, not a nice trait.
Since my children were wild, I bought them used books. And I didn't know you read books in seasons. Did I do it all wrong my whole life? Did I read autum books in january?
She should be thankful, instead she is treatin him like 💩
The woman looked better at the end. I’m hoping she had a breakthrough.
Poor Scott
Second hand clothes is thevway to go for kids! Friends and family have hand-me-downs! Why buy a baby new clothes when they only wear them for a few weeks?
Darlene doesn’t seem happy.
I wonder if they are still married I watched this when it first aired and I felt so bad for him
Watching Darlene crying her eyes out after involuntarily buying $80 worth of garbage, I knew I was watching Diary of a Shopping Addict.
She is using him as a meal ticket. She has no empathy toward him at all. She will never change. She is going to be a single mother of 3 very soon. And she named her kid Braiden which is a good reason to call CPS.
The wife looks miserable
Wonderful results Gail. Seems like such a nice family. Gail you look MARVALOUS Darling. Your hair is gorgeous! 🇺🇸💕 U
i had debt in my early 20s from stupid spending paid it off and then got a budget and i still treated myself but just planned it and saved for it…i saw a bag i wanted for $400 saved up and then i was like i don’t really like it and put the money away….i found that a lot of the time what i thought i wanted i didn’t….im 37 no debt, finished school debt free and own my own home and car….gails right it just takes discipline. My daughter and i do mani/pedi nights 1x a month we rent a movie get in robes and paint our nails make popcorn and it costs me next to nothing!! i already have the polish and popcorn so its just the movie and 9 times out of 10 we watch a movie we already own that we enjoy….plus we spend quality time together!! its the best and costs so little
Yeesh they hate each other, he needs to leave her before her petty passive aggression ruins his future
"If I want something you can bet I'm going to get it". Holy crap!!!! That poor guy!!! She is so demanding!!!
The way she said "suga daddi" 😂
Man, if you’re the only driver, just don’t drive her to the stores. Problem solved!
" I'm supporting not just my child but also darlenes children"
Welp this is the perfect blended family lol
Lol I ran to the comments right after hearing that lol
Sorry its not fair to him
I thought the same thing!!! It hurt me just hearing that. Kids are highly intuitive, does he really think they don't know how he feels?
@@matemahe If it's that unfair to him, he needs to leave and call it a day. It's cruel to form a blended family and then make your stepchildren feel inferior.
Tbh, there's something off about her. Always crying with every meeting with Gail, no emotion when she speaks other wise... and she never wiped the tears away. I had a sociopathic (diagnosed) partner, and this is how he would act. Keeping the tears to get me to feel sorry for him, then repeat the same distrustful behaviors.
That was exactly what I thought. She has such dead eyes, odd blinking and flat affect, only showing distress when called out. Her unwillingness to learn to drive, and cold interaction with her hubby....she is imitating human interactions....badly!! Her wooden speech at the end repeating what she had heard regarding child needs was off-putting and creepy.
Good observation. I’m going to watch for people who keeps tears on their face
@@TheReelLifeOfStacey the natural reaction is to wipe them away. When a person is manipulative, they will keep them as long as possible.
Hearing her say “NO I’m in debt bc YOU don’t help out enough”… disgusting attitude
Well Scott you walked into a ready made family with your eyes wide open. Time to shut down the Bank of Scott