I don't believe in acting beta or alpha. I believe in being yourself. Now after that. There are definitely some dudes that are better at being genuine and others that are not. Which in turn leads to this alpha and beta category. Some guys try incredible too hard at impressing a girl. Be it money or constant compliments or gifts. Which 99% of girls detest after a short period.
It’s as simple as “who the hell cares” It’s draining putting up the alpha front. At some point, you’ll find someone who doesn’t care whether you’re an alpha/beta. They just are there for you
Word about that last part. Extravagant gifts and gestures n shit really stress me out and make me feel guilty for taking their time/money and afraid of their reaction when I don't respond the way they want me to. Hilariously enough, I'm making a small fun animation right now about that topic in specific that'll be posted on the 19th or the 20th for an animation contest. :')
No. I always found "love" to be such a stupid concept which so many pursue because they are afraid to be alone. I for one always embrace being by myself as well as accept myself despite me not liking some aspects like being really skinny cuz metabolism. Not saying being in a relationship is a waste of time but if its all youre trying to do just to get laid/avoid loneliness, you got another thing coming. Tho recently ive been struggling with my sense of self. Idk why but i digress
Which is why its way less toxic to call this shit a crush. putting the burden on a person of making it into an insult is just stupid and its why the term simp as far as I'm concerned is stupid. Its just a word for cooties at this point, that people think is more mature when it really isn't.
@@SirLanRic I agree with you, but I think sometimes it does take a more hard hitting word to get through to some people. Things are case by case, but sometimes people need to see how low they've brought themselves and how little self respect they're displaying. Some people will circle around softer words or conversations, denial is a bitch. If someone knows you very well and cares about you enough to really tell you when you're playing yourself it means more. Yeah it hurts, but it'll hurt no matter how you discover how foolish you've been. Now if some random ass just blurts out simp for whatever reason, you can just ignore them since they don't know anything about what's going on.
SAME.... I worry about being shallow/stupid.... but DON'T want to be in a relationship out of guilt/obligation while yearning for someone else.... felt like I REALLY needed that...
And that's normal. We are humans and humans are social animals. We can't help but experience concern for other people and what they think of us. In another time and place, we needed intimate connections to survive but not anymore. You may find someone very pleasant to be around and want to spend more time with them (or what you percieve as "them") but you don't NEED them (specifically) to find meaning in your life. Our romantic endeavors are just one aspect of our lives.
I like the episode where Mordecai thought some guy proposed to Margaret and was super depressed, and Benson called him out, saying he had no right to feel like that since he never had the nerve to tell her how he felt about her. Although it turns out the guy was her cousin, and he was showing her his new prosthetic leg.
@@goofybutserious4807 in terms of benson, the man has been though a lot in his life, both in the dating world and in his household as a kid ( he was also humiliated on tv once)
The saddest thing about Mordecai in particular is that when he dials it back a bit, he can be actually pretty charming and genuine. It’s shown when he first meets CJ. He becomes so relaxed around her he just starts acting organic, and that is what draws her to him. As Jake The Dog once said, “You’re getting hung up on imaginary problems. You gotta focus on what’s real.” That’s Mordecai. Too in his own head to just let the moment flow and be himself.
I can't even remember what were the older words for that kind of behavior before words such as "beta" and "simp" were used. In fact, the word "simp", alongside with "simpleton", was originally another word for "moron" and the secondary sense was relatively rare prior to the last year.
Finn is a teenager undergoing puberty, it makes sense his hormone development causes him to act strange around girls. Mordecai whoever is a grown ass man but he was redeemed in the later seasons.
@@senorstabbing yeah as Finn grew up in the series he clearly got over Bubblegum and moved onto other things. It was just a 13 year old boy who had a crush, not a simp
Nah king kong is king of simping, he fought dinosaurs, airplanes and literally died for a girl who wanted nothing to do with him besides to get away from him
He got a childhood trauma cause he saw his parents died in front of him when the day he was born, he grew up lonely and definitely became a simp, desperately want attention/friends
I think it’s because he was lonely and wanted a friend. It wouldn’t make sense for a giant ape to be in love with a tiny female human. Also towards the middle/end of the 2005 King Kong movie, Ann the girl appreciates him. She cries as Kong falls off the building....
Honestly it's not the feeling of being single that kills me, it's the idea that there's something about me that's so awful that it prevents others from loving me the way they do each other.
The vast majority of people don't love each other in any meaningful sense. Most of the people you see who seem to love each other now will have nothing to do with each other in a few years (often, their time together will be shorter). There's likely nothing awful about you; most people go into relationships on a whim, trying to see how much they can squeeze out of the other, and try to strategically be the first one to discard the other. Most aren't looking at you to determine your quality as a person -- they don't even care about that. By all means, put yourself out there, but be patient and wait for someone who will look at you for your genuine qualities, and improve yourself in the meantime.
It can be a thousand other things. Age ranges affect it in various ways, the location you live in, your own tastes, the people you happen to have met by chance and what their lives are currently like, and a hundred other things can be the cause. It doesn't have to be some fault in yourself that prevents others from romantically loving you, in fact it likely isn't. It's probably a combination of small, more trivial matters. But take care and look inwards. Because there might be something that prevents you from loving _yourself._ Best of luck, friend.
Meh, that doesn't work for everyone. I was never going out of my house. I was alone and sad about it. One day I thought to myself, "Stop complaining about your own loneliness if you don't do anything to meet new people!" And then I started seeing people, going to parties etc ... In one month, i asked 18 girls. After being rejected eighteen times, I decided to go back to my computer :')
@@JohnSmith-tm5sh Welp, it is maybe for you. But for me it was a lot. The simple fact of asking my friends to invite me when they do parties was a challenge for me. I'm just made to stay lonely ^^
Moral of the story: don't let jealousy and negativity get in the way of your personal happiness. As a female, I'm glad to hear I don't have to change to get my crush's attention. I just wanna be at peace with myself, just the way I am.
Yeah, but in most cases it's easier if you are female. If you are an unpopular male, your dating life gets 10× harder, and even more so if you unnatractive
This video actually helped me. Currently in a relationship where my girlfriend doesn’t love me back. I’m glad I’ve seen this video. I need to realize I don’t need to seek validation from this girl anymore. There are so many more who probably actually care about me. Thank you for this video, albeit it wasn’t really what I expected
The most alpha thing anyone can do is live their life unapologetically genuine to themselves. Be who you are, embrace your insecurities and everything else will fall into place.
@@demon1ckn1ght39 no, I mean it’s true. Work ethic, strength, speed, intelligence (general intelligence, with some exceptions), overall more respectable, and willing to sacrifice many things for right (excellent hat).
Relationships should be a positive addition to your life, not the center of your existence. If you can't operate alone, then you seriously need to find some real purpose for your life and make some meaningful goals for yourself. Chasing after a partner or even getting in a relationship isn't going to fix the emptiness caused by a lack of self purpose.
@Nobody start by talking yourself through what's important to you. From there, you can think about things you've always wanted to do and combine the two to get your "purpose". For example, mine are: - travelling - doing charity work - academic research - owning a business - self-enlightenment / self-actualisation - helping others It might not be your final purpose, as it will likely change as you get older, but it's somewhere to start ! Hope this helps :0)
Idk why people think Mordecai intentionally killed Rigby. Yes, he was angry and frustrated and yelled "I'll kill you!" then pushed Rigby when he and Rigby were riding on the microwave through time dimensions. Right after he pushed him, Rigby disintegrated. Mordecai was so in the moment that he didn't realize that pushing him off would instantly kill him. Just into not even seconds, Mordecai regretted his actions and was sorry for himself cuz he never wanted to kill Rigby.
Nah man I’ve been super pissed at my friends/ex-friends for way better reasons but I never had the thought of killing them. Even if Rigby didn’t die it’d still be bad. How are you gonna threaten the life of your best friend when he’s trying to help you?
Considering they are on a flying microwave in space and he still pushed him off Mordecai still fucked up yes it was was mistake but a mistake that shouldn’t have happened in the first place.
Mordecai is considered a simp, but he grew out of his simpness in season 8, I respect that, Finn was going through puberty so he gets a pass on simpness
@@tantris2876 it kinda is? I have a gay friend who would use straight as a insult to others lmao. There is a community tab where they use straight and gay as insults, which is weird tbh.
Don't quote me but lol I'm pretty sure he's Chronos, Father time....? BUT I don't think Chronos and God are actually the same person in the context of Chronos' origin.
I actually really like that he never got with Margaret or CJ at the end and just married some random woman we never really meet. It shows that he grew out of himself and gave himself time to meet the right person.
I stopped caring about romantic relationships a long time ago. At this point, I actively avoid them because it just seems like a waste of time and money. I'll probably end up alone, but I've found I'm never lonely as long as I have friends and family.
I have friends and family but i still feel lonely. I feel lonely by myself. At night,in my room...alone. I can't hold it and i cry of lonliness. I'm a teen but i should be thinking about it. Please help me. Lonliness is killing me.
“Take some time for yourself.” My dude, it’s been 8 years since my last relationship. At this point if I take more time for myself, I’d be a selfish person.
It depends man, have you spent those 8 years building yourself? If not, then keep going. I don't think you need to be 100% self love but you have to have a certain amount of respect for yourself.
If you truly want a relationship in this day n age technology is gonna be your best bet using dating apps is a way to find everyone since no one goes outside anymore maybe everyone is online in stead now
@@ulissesmendoza8752 No offense, but I trust people a lot more if I meet them in person the first time. Hard for me to trust people whose face I can’t see and only exists as a description and a string of words.
I like the message but I feel like whenever someone tells you to “love yourself” that’s super vague, like what does self love look like in practice and how do u achieve it, people who have always loved themselves don’t know how to explain it because they’ve always had it and people who claim to have learned over time to love themselves tend to also not know because it just sorta happened eventually like a paradigm shift
The word "simp" gets thrown around casually these days. The true simps are the ones who cant differentiate simping from giving out compliments, or really being happy for somebody. Ever notice that one person who'll randomly say "simp" after you compliment a beautiful girl, or guy. Being genuinely happy for somebody and simping are different, and the ones who cant tell those apart are the real simpletons.
My only problem with what was said is that you don't have to be 100% accepting of yourself before you seek out a relationship. I don't think anyone is 100% okay with themselves. Yes, your own health and acceptance comes first but you will never achieve perfection so don't let that rule when you choose to start a relationship. You'll never be entirely ready. At some point you have to go for it despite not feeling ready.
This is exactly how I feel about people nowadays wanting to build relationships just for the sake of having one and I have always stayed true to the fact that you should put your self up front and work on your self before working on a relationship and I haven't even thought about a relationship ever since...
Married here. From my own experience, totally agree on the importance of loving yourself first. If you can't love yourself first, how can you expect someone else to love you genuinely as well? My wife and I had to literally go to the opposite sides of the planet to meet each other, but hey, we found each other eventually. Don't get caught up so much in teen romances or super idealistic relationships. Go on dates, make friends, and find someone who really likes you for you. Changing yourself for the better is a good thing and can improve relationships, but changing yourself not because you want to and just to impress or "keep" a relationship you are afraid of losing is closer to "simping" in my opinion.
It always makes me happy to find other people who went through loooooooong distance relationships and got married. High five and your advice is good. ^^
When I was in high school I tried making moves on girls I liked but often turned out unsuccessful. I was disappointed sure, but I wasn’t too bothered because normally I’d often be hanging out with my friends and laughing our heads off together every day, and we were all single guys. We liked girls but dating wasn't much of a priority for any of us. The high school I went to was pretty small so prom date pickings were slim for me. For my Junior year I tried asking out a few girls, got rejected, and didn’t sweat not going. My Senior year I tried getting a date, failed multiple times, but decided to go anyway on my own for the sake of it. My Senior prom was one of the worst wastes of time and money I’ve ever spent in my life thus far. Everyone there was a pompous asshole and it was waaay too expensive for the prison-style cafeteria food they gave us for our dinners. A year later after I had graduated high school I went to college and surprisingly pickings were still slim for me. I couldn’t pick out any girls I wanted to go out with and the few that were attractive, had something about their character I didn’t want to date them. I met a girl in my first year of college who was mildly attractive but we were better off as friends. I didn’t worry about trying to be perfectly presentable for her, I was more laid back and I knew she wasn’t future wife material. I think she grew to like me as more-than-a-friend though because sometimes we’d walk together to our next class and she’d get real close to me. She’d smile and rest her head on my shoulder as we walked, and she’d rub up against me almost like a cat when a cat likes a person. She didn't normally wear that much makeup however one time she came to class wearing extra makeup and a blouse that was quite nice. I saw her smiling at me a few times which I didn't think much about at the time. I later complimented her on how she looked after class because she looked nice and that put a big grin on her face. Throughout college and my summers however I tried online dating for the first time. Online dating was the last place I wanted to look but given my options it was the only valid one I had. I’d look through who was available and get increasingly more pissed off about the types of girls I’d see on the market. It was like every girl I saw was a thot in search up a hookup, a gold digger, some disgusting weirdo, or simply someone I just wasn’t attracted too. I eventually reached that conclusion that you touched up on in your video as well. Instead of racking my brain trying to find somebody who wasn’t there, just forget dating for the time being. Don’t hold your breath, work on yourself until a day comes when you do meet someone. I figure by then I’ll be more desirable and put together for them. Currently I’m still single but from that point to now I’ve greatly improved at socializing with girls. It doesn’t have to be romantic, just learn how to socialize with the opposite sex better and figure out what personalities gel with your own. While girls do appreciate certain qualities in a guy, confidence I think being one of them, there isn't an exact copy & paste formula you need to follow to be successful in getting a girlfriend. Be yourself, improve who you already are where needed, and know who you match with when you meet them.
This is tough, especially in a culture that has always lived based on labels, competition, aggression, superficiality. When somebody steps away from the norm, they get eaten up: even if they're in the right
Mordicai is a lesson about growing up and not being a simp. I seriously felt each episode where mordicai obsesses over Margaret ends in a lesson about respect and boundaries
@@tripelon everyone learns at different stages. As long as we do learn. Mordecai went through character development and actually stopped being a simp. He still had shame for it but was self aware and he actively changed his behavior. This should be celebrated more. We are too quick to mock people for their Sins "Let ye who is Sinless cast the first stone and let that stone be your first Sin for there is no one who is free of Sin."
@@tripelon I believe the show was made for teenagers though. I thought about his behavior and the way he handled things and it seems like they tried to make it relatable for their audience. Because half the shit he does at his age are things people his age don’t really do anymore.
Okay here's my prediction on what this video is going to say: " When it comes to love, things will not always work out the way you want it to. Sometimes love can be messy, brutal and you will end up hurting yourself as well as others. Mordecai is a prime example of that. He's young like all of us and he has high expectations as we all do. What's important is that we do not beat ourselves up about it and learn from our mistakes, unlike Mordecai who keeps repeating mistakes until when he matured later in the series and eventually got married."
The most beautiful and realistic thing about the ending is that Mordecai's desperate search for love didn't work. Instead he just matured, followed his passions and along the way he accidentally stumbled upon his true love. That's often how it works. Sometimes you're better off focusing on yourself and you'll encounter love along the way.
I actually needed to hear that. I’ve been so worried about relationships, seeing other young couples my age, and I’m wondering when I’m going to find that someone, but now that I know it’s not that important now, I can stop worrying about it and focus on myself and what I’m looking to achieve in life.
@@MinecraftMusicMakesMeCry take magic mushrooms and meet the sleeping god of all consuming darkness at the bottom of the universe. this will make you realise that getting anxious over girls is silly as there are bigger things to worry about hope this helps :)
To be really honest, THIS is why people hate other people, they see the flaws in front of their eyes and they cringe from it because they know how it feels.
I don’t really think that pops or anti pops are more powerful than time, but yeah plz stop getting worked up every time “God” is mentioned in a sentence
I've always been told my whole life, that love isn't something you search for it's something that finds you. When you search for it you feed yourself lies hoping maybe they'll be true, instead of just letting it come naturally and being happier for it.
Actually, simp, as far as I've used it, refers to someone who spends a lot of their time, and money, running to the defense of random women. It's like a white knight taken to the extreme. For instance, many people consider guys who throw their money at Twtich Thots to be simps because the content usually isn't good. These guys are essentially just throwing their money at these women because they look beautiful. These guys will also, usually, break their backs trying to defend these women, no matter what they do. Beta is more of a term used to define someone who doesn't fit the typical archetype of masculinity. I'm fairly certain I would be considered a beta simply because I don't do relationships, but that doesn't make me a simp.
And my from my experience an alpha is a male that takes charge naturally. They naturally pursue qualities of strength and have a high capacity for enduring stress and pressure. A beta is male that will make excuses for their shortcomings and perhaps rely on others for assistance too often
Just wanted to say that "just be yourself' can be VERY bad advice if someone is either not neurotypical, not succeeding in life in the typical way or is a genuinely shitty person in some major capacity. "Just be yourself" really just means "choose one of these preset socially accepted archetypes and stick to the associated behavioural patterns". What if you naturally say really awakward and weird things because you can't read subtext or body language? Society is extremely restrictive when it comes to how you should move and talk and dress and groom, but many people don't realize this because they learn to adapt these behaviours intuitively.
@@dolphins6010 again, this message is at odds with society. Being the "best self I can be" is incompatible with the question of "should I conform to some, all, or none of society's expectations?"
@Nobody .....bullshiii i was 20 when i started working at walmart....and the majority of girls my age slept with 30 or 40 year old fat men just for the fun of it in this environment
How to get a date with your crush: 1. Tell them "I like you. Let's go on a date!". 2. If they say yes, congratulations, you did what all people are too afraid to do. 3. If they say no, be aware that they can say "no" for one billion reasons that have absolutely nothing to do with you. Accept the result and move on. Yes, rejection sucks, but it better be an option, because you will eventually and inevitably face rejection whether you're ready for it or not.
It's so weird that this video got recommended to me in a period of confusion for me since I coincidentally went on a date with a girl a few days ago (and I don't do this very often, in fact I haven't been on a date for two years since I broke up with my last ex) and it was amazing, we both had fun and even made out, but she just vanished from my life afterwards, stopped replying to my messages and became colder and colder. This video at least gave me some hope so I can learn to focus on myself while she doesn't come back (if she'll ever do that) and just go with the flow, but I'm still very worried I did something wrong and didn't even realize.
Update: She just apologized via text for the time taken and explained the situation to me. She said she's still longing for her ex and still cares a lot about him, and is not ready to move on with me for at least a while. She also told me not to create expectations in vain since it could go south. I really hope this means she could be open to something with me in the future, but I don't know what to do. I feel sad about the news but also very happy about her honesty, and thanked her for that, but I don't know what to do now.
@@matheuss886 Sounds like it's time you set a firm boundary. Don't date her till she says she's ready. Along the way she might choose to work through her past with you. That's fine as long as she doesn't ping pong between wanting you and pining for her ex. Setting the boundary will let her know that you're not "plan B."
@@Robloxman226 I completely agree with you. We have decided to stay in the "friends with benefits" zone for now but I'm not sure if that's the right decision because, as you said, she could use this as a pretext only to forget about her ex and not because the way she feels about me. At the same time it's the beginning of something so it's supposed to be fun, and more serious conversations such as this aren't very common to build something natural imo. We haven't been in contact for a couple days now but it's mainly because of her work (she's really busy with tons of responsibilities this month). I think I'll let go for a while. If she feels ready to contact me again, I'll let her do it this time. It's also very possible we go out again next month (albeit for mostly shallow stuff and not much of that "romantic" connection for now, but who knows she might develop something in the future) so I'll just stick with that possibility and go forward without thinking too much about it. It's the way I found to carry on calmly, without knowing what might happen in the future, but I'm also afraid of ending up being the "Plan B" as you mentioned.
@@matheuss886 I've been in a similar situation last year. If you do find someone else in the meanwhile, someone "less problematic", do yourself a favour and move away from this situation. I don't know all the details in your case, but generally love triangles involving an ex are going to give you migraines. Always consider all your options!
@@matheuss886 You already are the back up from what she said IMO. She doesn’t have the time out from 24 hours to text you once? That’s a big time plan b move that women do.
In my opinion, it's unhealthy and kind of sociopathic to "unconditionally" love yourself. Everyone has flaws. Not just surface flaws, but deep, unpleasant pieces. I believe in coming to terms with, and accepting what you can't change about yourself, and doing what you can about your worst aspects.
The self-love and accepting yourself is right. But it doesn't really mean it simply like that. Self love can also be improving yourself, for the sake of YOURSELF and not to impress anyone. Get fitter, smarter, read better books. Those improve yourself as a person, which i think is the best version of 'be yourself' advice
@@aeoligarlic4024 it’s not right tho. You can never be a good person under your standards if you are not harsh on yourself. The only way to improve on anything you do is to be critical of yourself and try to correct those criticism. Self love is a scam for insecure people
unconditional love is more like “yeah, i have a lot of room for improvement, but im happy with where im at now”. in it of itself, self acceptance is love, bc if we loved another person fully, we’d accept them, flaws and all. robbing ourselves of self love is not conducive for future healthy relationships, in fact, most likely a liability
The difficult part about taking on this, self centered act is that so many people who are selfless will have to learn to be selfish. Putting time and emotions into someone is often easier than putting up with ourselves. I wish I could just know how to love and better myself. I really am doing it alone. Interesting video.
Of course you’re doing it alone. It’s about YOU. You’re not alone in feeling like shit, but you are pretty much alone when it comes to self improvement. Unless you want to, nothing is going to change for the better
Think about it this way. You can't tend to someone else's garden if yours is withering away. Even in taking care of yourself, you are better equipping yourself to help and serve others than you would if you just neglected yourself. It's mistaking self neglect for humility.
Having a crush isn't a bad thing. I do remember when I was in elementary where I used to have a crush on a high school girl older than I am. Since I was that young, I may emotionally heartbroken when someone else was on her side and became envy about it. Fast forward back in 2019, I saw her for the last time, and had a friend on her side. So I was shy to ask until she found me. After she left the school, I decided to let her go and moved on because she has a different path. I have more important things to do than getting a relationship.
@@bongcloudopening5404 I actually thought the "simp" term is funny until it got repetitive and crossed the line. What I hated is that people keep calling names to a wrong person without any reasons whatsoever. So it can be really unhealthy to call someone a "simp" to a someone who has affections to others. Heck! Even the Cupid and other cherubs could've offended by that "simp" term either.
This is the first advice that feels real for teenagers. Man, I love this. I’ve been faking my personality for two years now to “network” with people, but in the process I lost who I am. I feel like a dead man simply living, I prayed to God to help me when I was on the floor in pain from temptation. I felt angered, sad, and frustrated. It felt like I was being punished for trying to do the right thing, yet the temptations grow worse and worse.. but then God showed me this channel. It has really helped me bro, you don’t know how many of us teenagers feel soulless every single day. Keep making videos man, I love you 💚💙💛
my issue with the words "simp" is it's treated like anytime a dude is even just * nice * to a girl, he's called a simp and bullied into treating women like shit. simp is a toxic word coined by toxic people. Simply being kind the the opposite sex shouldn't come with demeaning insults. It's called "respect" and I don't know why being kind or respectful is wrong.
@Thalassa Oceanphrite yeah the only problem is these simps arent high schoolers who are supposed to learn. They are grown adults who should have already learned but failed to do so.
As a 21 y/o loner, this honestly felt so validating to watch. I always felt like there was something wrong with me as a person to not generate the same positive social outcomes that I see other people getting with each other. This made me realise that it's just the different people that exist in this world who are different, and that it takes time to meet the right people. Nice video 👍
What a lot of guys don't understand is that they see girls as some sort of creatures or something when in reality they are just humans with emotions. I'm 19 years old, and what guys need to understand is that instead of worrying about getting a gf, they tend to forget to ask themselves if their happy with how they are currently in life if not why not change it focus on the things their not happy with and make a change instead of focusing all of their life and time on another human being that they think is gonna make them happy but in reality is getting a gf is like adding a song to your playlist, nobody is gonna make you happy if you're not happy with yourself. focus on yourself, and eventually, the time will come when you're ready
@@someoneelse4811 and what purpose does reading a comment ive already read serve? And im not asserting anything regarding superiority. If you feel that way thats your own insecurity showing
@@SevenPr1me You need to reread the comment because you've confused being in a monogamous relationship with chasing after women, when they are not the same at all. I say your asserting superiority because this isn't the first comment that you've done this in, and calling names inherently means you think you're better.
Dude outta all the dating and pick up gurus I used to watch back in hs, you give the best and most genuine advice. Literally this is the only video I need. Plus, speaking of expressing yourself, I learned the throughout my teen years that asking out a girl is more of a take-it-or-leave-it type senario than what I thought it was and that's what my mindset should be since I'm expressing my feelings, and if they say no you can always just manifest them back.
Couldn't agree more. Nothing worse than creating a persona only to finally get the girl you think you wanted, only to realize she doesn't know you and you never really had her at all.
@Nobody That's not true at all. Everyone likes honesty in relationships. How can you expect a girl or guy to fall in love with you if you aren't even yourself. You are constantly lying to them about who you are and they will never know the true you.
@Nobody you don't have to be blessed with good looks there are a ton of people who have beautiful girlfriend and a healthy relationship and the guys are far from attractive if your not good looking improve your personality some girls like a guy who can make them laugh or just have a genuinely good energy around themselves so you don't have to be good looking and with your "what girl wants to date a fat guy" alot of girls date big dudes lmao some girls like a guy with a meat on his bone so that comments untrue
@Nobody Because when they say "be yourself", what they really mean is "be a confident, outgoing dude that goes out and socializes". It's a poorly veiled truthism that's designed to sound poignant, but when you read between the lines it just comes back as more hollow advice that amounts to changing who are to suit what someone else wants you to be.
There are two types of simps The ones that refuse to tell their feelings out of fear Marinette Finn Mordecai Mary and Susan test The ones in the friendzone Freddie benson Robbie Shapiro Candice Flynn And the stalkers that know it won’t work out Sierra (Total Drama) Roger (Sister Sister) Timmy Turner
I wouldn't call Freddie a simp he eventually got over Carly. Candace wasn't a simp either. Jermy would do anything for Candace. A simp is when one does everything while the other brings nothing to the table.
@@Remix-pr4xd The reason he broke up with CJ, the girl who went nova when he almost died, was because he wasn't over Margaret, the girl that broke his heart because he wasn't that big of a deal. Idk, but for some reason, you think it doesn't make him a huuuuge SIMP!
@@derekbates4316 I mean breaking up with CJ was probably the best thing he could do because he needed to figure himself out. Although he was definitely a dick for doing it at Muscle Man’s wedding.
@@derekbates4316 I mean I think it was the best thing to do to break up with CJ because he still had feelings for someone else. He was just a huge duck for how he did it.
No they can't, that's why most of these takes people are sharing are... cringy. It's a lot of black and white thinking that has no nuance. I cant be mad at people though, it seems like most of them are pretty young and just need to figure some things out.
@@braniyamcqueen3379 yeah I get that, I guess I'm a bit of a stickler when it comes to how something is phrased because it can lead people away from the original intent. I still disagree in a way though, depending on how its looked at. I don't think we should accept every aspect of ourselves because that would take away growth. It could be self delusion to "fully accept" ones self, while obviously not liking parts of how you act. On the other hand I understand being at peace with where you're at and not beating yourself to a bloody pulp because you're not perfect. From what I understand there's more nuance and depth than the simple answers most are putting out and agreeing with. Sorry for the rant, I enjoy exploring these ideas and whatnot.
I think it's more about letting go of your ego. Narcissists don't love themselves, they love an idealized version of themself, aka their ego. Self-love is about accepting your real self, including its flaws
I got an explicit content warning when the video was auto playing from my feed... and another when I started the video, followed by the suicide prevention phone number being listed front and center. I haven't even watched this yet, and now I'm more intrigued than before on what this video will be Edit: oh, okay. That makes sense now.
im gonna be totally honest you made me feel like a fucking gigachad when you said i only believe in true self love and true self respect because holy fucking shit i needed to be reminded of that. ive heard so many different things from different people id rather just do my thing and figure it out myself if its gonna be that hard. Alot of people are so stuck trying to be another supermodel or influencer to get happiness and love they forget to be people. And while alot of those same people may judge me for not doing the same, im happy that theres someone out there who thinks im doing the right thing.
@@nanaochi I know this. But it’s still facts 🤷🏾♂️ Then she’s gonna whine & cry when the other guy treats her like shit. Or knocks her up and leaves her, expecting me to pick up the pieces. Then she’s gonna be yelling men ain’t shit because one guy treated her like shit and another didn’t want to put up with trifling ass. Seen it go down so many times and the only thing I can say is women do it to themselves. So yeah they don’t have to show the feelings back but they can’t get mad when I reject them because they came back only for convince.
@@djseanyd91 You're speaking out of personal experience, as everyone here can obviously tell. All I'm going to tell you is that one girls actions doesn't, and shouldn't, represent how all females around the world act, so don't be lumping a whole gender to one or two negative experiences you've personally had. Also, most women go back to toxic environments because of men like you who expect to be given everything under the pretext that you genuinely care for their (women's) wellbeing. At least the other guy is honest about his distaste and non-romatic feelings for her, men like you though hide under a facade; a white knight more specifically. Look, If you truly cared for a female and had genuine feelings for her, you wouldn't be throwing a fit about how she left you for some other douche and kissing your ass on the internet while you were at it; making yourself look like some misused and betrayed dude. You'd let her go and wish her the best, letting bygones be bygones. Okay, thanks for reading.
Being yourself works really well when your defining traits are charismatic, funny, and confident. Bonus points if you care less about a potential relationship than the other party. But if you're one of the unfortunate people that don't share these traits, have no fear, because there's a lot of people out there. All you have to do is just take a few months off from your life to scour the world, looking for someone who mistakes your awkwardness for charm, who is culturally compatible, who is within your age range, who speaks your language, figure out who will move where, and who cares about you more than you do for them so that they don't get in the way of your self love. It should be easy, I mean after all, if you have a lifestyle where meeting those 7 billion people in the world is an option rather than just sticking to your town, finding people that want to be around you shouldn't be too hard. Man, giving relationship advice is easy when I only suggest what sounds pleasant and lack the ability to empathize.
I never realized how much life lessons I've learned in cartoons until recently really wished kids rn would watch cartoons like Regular Show and Adventure Time instead of TikToks (wow I sound like a boomer)
I mean let's be real, the current generation just makes no sense, hell I'm part of it and I don't even know what the fuck is going on lol, I wish everything was like it was back in the mid to late 2000's and early to mid 2010's, shit just went downhill by 2018 imo
@@koencagurangan3256 nothing went downhill; things just got more exposure as a result of the internet. people are just as terrible as they were a decade ago.
This video reminds me of my coworker who is in his 50s and told me his life story on how he never found love and if you do it lasts max 2 years lol. He says “love come and go, it doesn’t stay”. The dude has been rejected and hasn’t had a working relationship so he gave up. Now just focuses on money and taking care of his mom.
"She's not yours, it's just...YOUR TURN." Honestly it's best for him to stop dating. If he can't have a long-lasting relationship, he has to stay single to prevent more headaches and heartbreaks from coming to his life. It's best for him to go on a path of self-improvement and taking care of his mom. At least being single could help keep his finances straight and it allows him to pursue his goals and hobbies in life.
When I give people advice like this, they say I'm mature for an almost 14 year old, well, no, I just watch you're videos. Love your content btw man, really helps a lot! ❤️
Well said. Change for nobody. Also, I’d like to add “love with your head,” If you blindly jump into relationships without thinking, get caught up in the idea of a girl, its not gonna be fun. That’s where abusive, pathetic, and shitty relationships come from. Leave instantly at the first sight of a red flag.
I've been trying my best to bring out the best in me but I always want a someone to validate and cheer on for me in doing so which made my progress come to a halt every time my heart sinks into someone who doesn't share the same feelings and sentiment as me. Thank you for at the very least saying that I can leave without having to worry about love I know the right person will come around someday and I'm just too impatient, I try to live s little but maybe now I should just live in the moment and make my life a little more worthwhile haha
With time you will be able to find such a friend to motivate you and sometimes give you reasons to keep going forward. All i can say is to be sure that you don't drive that person away once you meet it, since such people can be found only once or twice in a lifetime. Wish you Good luck, bud. God Bless!
Hey... I just wanted to say thank you your self-love videos. I've been going through a rough time lately. I've realized recently that I have never once loved myself or even liked anything about myself. Like a poison I was born with in my veins. It's passed on into all of my relationships, friends, loved ones, coworkers... I've never found myself worthy of anyone or anything, and because of that I've brought a lot of pain and misfortune on myself and others. But I want to do better. Your videos have helped me internalize that message of self-love I need to practice from now on. I'm so tired of hating myself and comparing myself to others. But anyway, thank you again for helping a miserable guy late into his 20's get on track to figuring that out.
you are saying things I've been trying to say to my friends for ages! If you don't love yourself, you won't ever be able to be functional in a relationship. Put yourself first, the pursue love stuff later. You'll be far more confident, and far happier.
No, it wasn't. You can't call "dibs" on a human being. At the end of the day, the choice is up to Margaret. So often people see partners as prizes to be won, and not people to have relationships with. Granted Rigby was likely just using Margaret to prove a point, but he wasn't "taking Mordecai's girl" because the girl did not belong to Mordecai
@@ellie8272 But it wasn't about calling dibs or claiming a prize. Rigby saw his friend struggling, and my man rubbed it in his face. A good friend would have helped him through it, and a decent one would have at least let him struggle alone. But Rigby saw a moment of weakness and actively made it worse on purpose. He wasn't even actually interested in Margaret. With friends like that, who needs enemies?
@@idealyst8292 naw that’s a best friend right there. Taking it to extreme lengths to Prove a point... if you watch the show, Rigby has told Mordecai countless times to man up and tell her how he feels. Without this , Mordecai would end up never talking to her and live with a life of regret once she is inevitable taken by someone else, which is worse in my opinion. Just a show but excellent lesson lol.
@@gandalfjackson1546 You said it yourself right there. "Taking it to extreme lengths." Unnecessary. And Mordecai didn't need an 'example' if you want to consider it that. He needed emotional support so he could have the courage to talk to her. Think of it like this. You want to get better at basketball so your friend LeBron James plays against you and kicks your ass over and over. You might learn a thing or two, but it'll mostly just be discouraging and miserable. It would be much more productive for him to teach you his technique and how to overcome your apprehensions, and you also wouldn't have to suffer in the process.
I feel like emotional support will only get you so far. Constantly losing is gonna make me work my ass off , so I can beat him eventually. But I understand what you mean though. Honestly depends on the person.
Finally someone who speaks me out of the soul this whole thing has gotten out of hand and is even turning into hate and blame for the other sex in many cases
the way the word simp is used is disgusting we show affection and appreciation to someone we like or are together with and we get called a " simp " for it. And i agree with the video if you're not mentally ready or even feel ready to be in a relationship because you feel like someone's elses words will affect the way you look at yourself and or the relationship you shouldn't be in it
Simp has and always will be my least favourite made up slang. Its distorted so many peoples views on relationships (not just romantic, I just mean all interactions with other people) and how we should treat other people, or how other people should act etc. I truly hate it. Great video man
Being alpha has never been about faking your personality though. It's about becoming truly confident in yourself. It amazes how many people still believe that when people speak about being alpha, they're talking about being some macho jerk. That's not being alpha, but just posturing. People who exhibit posturing have confidence issues that they're trying to compensate for, and therefore are not actually alpha. They're betas in what they perceive to be alpha clothing.
@@sweetsacrifice7998 if your need for intimacy is met then you can’t say “is being really single that bad?” Just because you’re not committed doesn’t mean you’re single. Lmao you just came here to flex on the lonely people 😂.
This is the video I needed to watch. And this guy understands that these titles or labels doesn't change you as a person. And even though I heard about the whole "Be honest with yourself" it comes from toxic couple channels, people and groups that tries to antagonize people who aren't as successful. But, in this video I genuinely believe what he's saying to be true instead of it sounding like a taunt.
They truly were "Simp"ler times back then, but lookin' back at It now there a complete joke to everyone everywhere they good but keep In mind they still had epic and redeemable moments that still made them stood out then being weak nor pathetic bein' pushed around all the time and doesn't always let any villainous rebellious bad boys walk all over them let alone have there way with the girl whenever they attempt to they kidnap them when they don't have there way or treat'em like their personal trophies but too bad I can't say the exact same thing to other charterers nowadays even for 2021, 2022, 2023, and Etc. standards. Who also predicted that Candace's "S.I.M.P." Song made It all happen despite going over kids' heads?
I don't believe in acting beta or alpha. I believe in being yourself. Now after that. There are definitely some dudes that are better at being genuine and others that are not. Which in turn leads to this alpha and beta category. Some guys try incredible too hard at impressing a girl. Be it money or constant compliments or gifts. Which 99% of girls detest after a short period.
Simp
It’s as simple as “who the hell cares” It’s draining putting up the alpha front. At some point, you’ll find someone who doesn’t care whether you’re an alpha/beta. They just are there for you
Word about that last part. Extravagant gifts and gestures n shit really stress me out and make me feel guilty for taking their time/money and afraid of their reaction when I don't respond the way they want me to. Hilariously enough, I'm making a small fun animation right now about that topic in specific that'll be posted on the 19th or the 20th for an animation contest. :')
Alpha is being true to yourself, even if you weigh 90lbs.
but one thing is true: we all at one point in our life simp to corporations for their dough :(
Can we all just admit some of us have been at one point in life obsessed towards someone before we learn to love ourselves?
No. I always found "love" to be such a stupid concept which so many pursue because they are afraid to be alone. I for one always embrace being by myself as well as accept myself despite me not liking some aspects like being really skinny cuz metabolism. Not saying being in a relationship is a waste of time but if its all youre trying to do just to get laid/avoid loneliness, you got another thing coming. Tho recently ive been struggling with my sense of self. Idk why but i digress
Which is why its way less toxic to call this shit a crush. putting the burden on a person of making it into an insult is just stupid and its why the term simp as far as I'm concerned is stupid. Its just a word for cooties at this point, that people think is more mature when it really isn't.
Nah man I don't love anyone else or myself
@@SirLanRic
I agree with you, but I think sometimes it does take a more hard hitting word to get through to some people. Things are case by case, but sometimes people need to see how low they've brought themselves and how little self respect they're displaying. Some people will circle around softer words or conversations, denial is a bitch. If someone knows you very well and cares about you enough to really tell you when you're playing yourself it means more. Yeah it hurts, but it'll hurt no matter how you discover how foolish you've been. Now if some random ass just blurts out simp for whatever reason, you can just ignore them since they don't know anything about what's going on.
Truth
I dont want to worry about relationships, but my brain doesnt stop worrying about it at random times.
*Presses Y*
Same
@Sega Sonic i just get lonely but wouldn't want to worry bout it, tho i wish i could be in a relationship
SAME.... I worry about being shallow/stupid.... but DON'T want to be in a relationship out of guilt/obligation while yearning for someone else.... felt like I REALLY needed that...
And that's normal. We are humans and humans are social animals. We can't help but experience concern for other people and what they think of us. In another time and place, we needed intimate connections to survive but not anymore. You may find someone very pleasant to be around and want to spend more time with them (or what you percieve as "them") but you don't NEED them (specifically) to find meaning in your life. Our romantic endeavors are just one aspect of our lives.
Same
I like the episode where Mordecai thought some guy proposed to Margaret and was super depressed, and Benson called him out, saying he had no right to feel like that since he never had the nerve to tell her how he felt about her. Although it turns out the guy was her cousin, and he was showing her his new prosthetic leg.
yes dude yes. I agree with you.
i like the episode where pops drinks a lot of milk and is sent to the milk dimension and breaks out of it for the boys
Benson is goated
@@generalyahya_ but this was more goated
@@goofybutserious4807 in terms of benson, the man has been though a lot in his life, both in the dating world and in his household as a kid ( he was also humiliated on tv once)
The saddest thing about Mordecai in particular is that when he dials it back a bit, he can be actually pretty charming and genuine. It’s shown when he first meets CJ. He becomes so relaxed around her he just starts acting organic, and that is what draws her to him.
As Jake The Dog once said,
“You’re getting hung up on imaginary problems. You gotta focus on what’s real.”
That’s Mordecai. Too in his own head to just let the moment flow and be himself.
I know, pity that didn't work out. They seemed like a pretty good match
@@foodieyumiko5593 tbf at least it wasn’t his fault this time
Real
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@@foodieyumiko5593 nah bruh CJ was toxic af
"Stop worrying about people that you know deep down, aren't even your type" Dude that shit hit hard
Very hard.
They aren't, at the end of the day, we're just attracted to them and when that fades away, then they're just like everyone else.
@@RiruKrypto_ deep
@@RiruKrypto_ is a colective effect
It really did, very hard
It is kinda sad that Mordecai and Finn the human are seen only as simps now. There IS more to their characters than that.
I can't even remember what were the older words for that kind of behavior before words such as "beta" and "simp" were used. In fact, the word "simp", alongside with "simpleton", was originally another word for "moron" and the secondary sense was relatively rare prior to the last year.
@@1685Violin "White knights" "nice guys" "bitch boys" and so on. History keeps on repeating itself with slight adjustments.
Finn is a teenager undergoing puberty, it makes sense his hormone development causes him to act strange around girls. Mordecai whoever is a grown ass man but he was redeemed in the later seasons.
@@senorstabbing yeah as Finn grew up in the series he clearly got over Bubblegum and moved onto other things. It was just a 13 year old boy who had a crush, not a simp
It could be worse. You could be Steven Universe
Nah king kong is king of simping, he fought dinosaurs, airplanes and literally died for a girl who wanted nothing to do with him besides to get away from him
I mean you are not wrong in fact your extremely correct
this comment made me depressed.
@@rollsreus3862 quite
He got a childhood trauma cause he saw his parents died in front of him when the day he was born, he grew up lonely and definitely became a simp, desperately want attention/friends
I think it’s because he was lonely and wanted a friend. It wouldn’t make sense for a giant ape to be in love with a tiny female human. Also towards the middle/end of the 2005 King Kong movie, Ann the girl appreciates him. She cries as Kong falls off the building....
Honestly it's not the feeling of being single that kills me, it's the idea that there's something about me that's so awful that it prevents others from loving me the way they do each other.
If you can't find what that something is, then there's really nothing holding you back from feeling worthy of love.
The vast majority of people don't love each other in any meaningful sense. Most of the people you see who seem to love each other now will have nothing to do with each other in a few years (often, their time together will be shorter). There's likely nothing awful about you; most people go into relationships on a whim, trying to see how much they can squeeze out of the other, and try to strategically be the first one to discard the other. Most aren't looking at you to determine your quality as a person -- they don't even care about that. By all means, put yourself out there, but be patient and wait for someone who will look at you for your genuine qualities, and improve yourself in the meantime.
That's me. Now I'm 52 and still single. Try seeing hookers just for the fun of it.
@@memeco50 The fun will run out. Your life is yours, but don't tell the young men to stray. There's far more to life than that.
It can be a thousand other things.
Age ranges affect it in various ways, the location you live in, your own tastes, the people you happen to have met by chance and what their lives are currently like, and a hundred other things can be the cause.
It doesn't have to be some fault in yourself that prevents others from romantically loving you, in fact it likely isn't. It's probably a combination of small, more trivial matters.
But take care and look inwards. Because there might be something that prevents you from loving _yourself._
Best of luck, friend.
He really broke up with cj at a wedding in front of everyone.
And not even his. He didn't just ruined CJ's day, she ruined Muscle Man and Starla's.
@@FlancitoConCebolla kind of cringe innit, just shows how little things can drive someone crazy lmao
Who is that?
That scene made me physically and mentally cringe as hell.
@@JudicialBrat right i felt so bad-
I don't believe in acting beta or alpha, I believe in going outside.
This man fucks
Meh, that doesn't work for everyone.
I was never going out of my house. I was alone and sad about it.
One day I thought to myself, "Stop complaining about your own loneliness if you don't do anything to meet new people!"
And then I started seeing people, going to parties etc ...
In one month, i asked 18 girls.
After being rejected eighteen times, I decided to go back to my computer :')
@@loic5142 yeah dude thats the thing, we the “average or the below 80%” are not the type for the rest of the women.
@@loic5142 2 words rookie numbers
@@JohnSmith-tm5sh Welp, it is maybe for you. But for me it was a lot.
The simple fact of asking my friends to invite me when they do parties was a challenge for me.
I'm just made to stay lonely ^^
Moral of the story: don't let jealousy and negativity get in the way of your personal happiness. As a female, I'm glad to hear I don't have to change to get my crush's attention. I just wanna be at peace with myself, just the way I am.
Well said! :)
Same here, even though I’m young, I’m glad I don’t have to change for someone else. Wise words my fellow female. . . :)
Yeah, but in most cases it's easier if you are female. If you are an unpopular male, your dating life gets 10× harder, and even more so if you unnatractive
>female
opinion discarded
Yeah, believe me negativity sometimes feels like its all I got
This video actually helped me. Currently in a relationship where my girlfriend doesn’t love me back. I’m glad I’ve seen this video. I need to realize I don’t need to seek validation from this girl anymore. There are so many more who probably actually care about me. Thank you for this video, albeit it wasn’t really what I expected
How are you doing now?
Yeah how're you doing
Give us a sitrep. You doing good?
Hope you're doing better now man!
How's it going now ?
The most alpha thing anyone can do is live their life unapologetically genuine to themselves. Be who you are, embrace your insecurities and everything else will fall into place.
*this mic drop has put a hole in the floor*
If only others would simply let you embrace your insecurities but they don't.
@@Li8aGun92 No one should be able to stop you from that, it's your choice
@@linus6718 true. I was in a bad mood when I typed that.
Try being a 5'2 balding indian janitor
Me who bottles up every emotion he’s ever felt: I’ve never felt so offended by something I one hundred percent agree with
I've heard that quote before.
@Ayah Awad damn that sums up how i feel rn
@Ayah Awad sayin shii like that is why you have no friends and don’t fit in
@@thehandsoftime289 why did you put a rickroll link?
@@cosmicklampzy1222 he does a little trolling
I like how Mordecai is better than Rigby at everything EXEPT talking to girls.
Edit: I'm scarred to read the replies
wrong
@@demon1ckn1ght39 no, I mean it’s true. Work ethic, strength, speed, intelligence (general intelligence, with some exceptions), overall more respectable, and willing to sacrifice many things for right (excellent hat).
@@marcusvergara6193 wrong
How is he wrong tell us why
@@clarencehemphill3403 wrong
Relationships should be a positive addition to your life, not the center of your existence. If you can't operate alone, then you seriously need to find some real purpose for your life and make some meaningful goals for yourself. Chasing after a partner or even getting in a relationship isn't going to fix the emptiness caused by a lack of self purpose.
Yeah
One word, three letters. You know what it is.
@Nobody start by talking yourself through what's important to you. From there, you can think about things you've always wanted to do and combine the two to get your "purpose". For example, mine are:
- travelling
- doing charity work
- academic research
- owning a business
- self-enlightenment / self-actualisation
- helping others
It might not be your final purpose, as it will likely change as you get older, but it's somewhere to start ! Hope this helps :0)
@@yarlodek5842 cum
Omg.. that is also so very true just at the same time. Ngl
Idk why people think Mordecai intentionally killed Rigby. Yes, he was angry and frustrated and yelled "I'll kill you!" then pushed Rigby when he and Rigby were riding on the microwave through time dimensions. Right after he pushed him, Rigby disintegrated. Mordecai was so in the moment that he didn't realize that pushing him off would instantly kill him. Just into not even seconds, Mordecai regretted his actions and was sorry for himself cuz he never wanted to kill Rigby.
Nah man I’ve been super pissed at my friends/ex-friends for way better reasons but I never had the thought of killing them. Even if Rigby didn’t die it’d still be bad. How are you gonna threaten the life of your best friend when he’s trying to help you?
Considering they are on a flying microwave in space and he still pushed him off Mordecai still fucked up yes it was was mistake but a mistake that shouldn’t have happened in the first place.
Didn't Rigby push him first to begin with?
@Orion343 to add to this, doesnt skips kill rigby by accident over arm wrestling? it was more context for both scenarios people ignore.
I’m sure that a lot of people who kill their friends irl feel instant regret too. Doesn’t change the fact that he killed his best friend
People are mistaking simps with awkward crushes that young people are continuing to learn from. The end
Mordecai is considered a simp, but he grew out of his simpness in season 8, I respect that, Finn was going through puberty so he gets a pass on simpness
At some point people are going to come up with a nasty word for every single thing that humans do.
@@ghostburgers4284 One such word is amogus
@@ghostburgers4284 Imagine if straight becomes an insult
@@tantris2876 it kinda is? I have a gay friend who would use straight as a insult to others lmao. There is a community tab where they use straight and gay as insults, which is weird tbh.
“so mordecai meets GOD.” not what i expected god to look like. i guess god wakes me up everyday
Technically he is called Father Time
I know I'm gonna get wooshed for this.
Don't quote me but lol I'm pretty sure
he's Chronos, Father time....?
BUT I don't think Chronos and God are actually the same person in the context of Chronos' origin.
Just shows that simping will help you meet god
@@ulissesmendoza8752 lmao
@@aestheticjedi1868 he is technically god of time, so both are right
I actually really like that he never got with Margaret or CJ at the end and just married some random woman we never really meet. It shows that he grew out of himself and gave himself time to meet the right person.
True
I stopped caring about romantic relationships a long time ago. At this point, I actively avoid them because it just seems like a waste of time and money. I'll probably end up alone, but I've found I'm never lonely as long as I have friends and family.
Exactly. I just hate how people perceive this as being a loser. Like what? Like we're not allowed to vibe in our own ways
You shouldn't spend money on a partner
I have friends and family but i still feel lonely. I feel lonely by myself. At night,in my room...alone. I can't hold it and i cry of lonliness. I'm a teen but i should be thinking about it. Please help me. Lonliness is killing me.
@@jasperwasper1195 yeah,if she/he really loves you then they don't need your money,they just need you by their side on their life.
@@hwanniggles187 worse than when they call you a virgin, why tf is virgin a insult now????
Mordecai is a great representation of what most people in the teen to young adult range are like, not simp, but more or less, confused.
he is confused and also a simp.
bro literally killed his friend out of jealousy for a girl
Gotta agree with mitrea. You can be confused and a simp. Hes too obsessive
Beta
@@JoeKing837 Betta than you
@@Fermin-hw5pd hes right guys like mordecai are simps
“Take some time for yourself.” My dude, it’s been 8 years since my last relationship. At this point if I take more time for myself, I’d be a selfish person.
Lmao
well, at least you had one
It depends man, have you spent those 8 years building yourself? If not, then keep going. I don't think you need to be 100% self love but you have to have a certain amount of respect for yourself.
If you truly want a relationship in this day n age technology is gonna be your best bet using dating apps is a way to find everyone since no one goes outside anymore maybe everyone is online in stead now
@@ulissesmendoza8752 No offense, but I trust people a lot more if I meet them in person the first time. Hard for me to trust people whose face I can’t see and only exists as a description and a string of words.
I like the message but I feel like whenever someone tells you to “love yourself” that’s super vague, like what does self love look like in practice and how do u achieve it, people who have always loved themselves don’t know how to explain it because they’ve always had it and people who claim to have learned over time to love themselves tend to also not know because it just sorta happened eventually like a paradigm shift
Just go to gym and you will love yourself
I’m just myself. I don’t go out my way to be liked by anyone or chase anyone.
MCB have some cheese my friend
@@cheesuscheese2001 thanks. I love cheese
Right
Same 🤝
Same here!
The word "simp" gets thrown around casually these days.
The true simps are the ones who cant differentiate simping from giving out compliments, or really being happy for somebody.
Ever notice that one person who'll randomly say "simp" after you compliment a beautiful girl, or guy.
Being genuinely happy for somebody and simping are different, and the ones who cant tell those apart are the real simpletons.
but you have to admit some people over compliment to a point it's cring
@@Africanhorror Yeah, I mean you aren't wrong.
Yeah definitely. Showing affection is not “simping”. It’s when validation from someone else is more important than your own.
Lol it gets said as a joke
@@vast6432 That's mostly how they get away with shit like that. Or maybe it's just really a very garbage and unfunny disturbing joke.
My only problem with what was said is that you don't have to be 100% accepting of yourself before you seek out a relationship. I don't think anyone is 100% okay with themselves. Yes, your own health and acceptance comes first but you will never achieve perfection so don't let that rule when you choose to start a relationship. You'll never be entirely ready. At some point you have to go for it despite not feeling ready.
I agree with that.
True but can we agree you should at least know yourself well enough and have a support structure to help you in case that relationship turns toxic?
@@Fafnd oh for sure. I'm not saying otherwise. I just mean if you wait until you're completely, absolutely ready, it's never going to come.
Well said. Putting ourselves out there is part of learning who we are and who we are compatible with.
Wanting to be perfect wont even make u happy
This is exactly how I feel about people nowadays wanting to build relationships just for the sake of having one and I have always stayed true to the fact that you should put your self up front and work on your self before working on a relationship and I haven't even thought about a relationship ever since...
I only ever wanted to get my lips on some lips but ever since I stopped caring I started living.
Man the fact that you said the fact that shows the fact that you didn’t really need to say the fact that
Married here. From my own experience, totally agree on the importance of loving yourself first. If you can't love yourself first, how can you expect someone else to love you genuinely as well? My wife and I had to literally go to the opposite sides of the planet to meet each other, but hey, we found each other eventually. Don't get caught up so much in teen romances or super idealistic relationships. Go on dates, make friends, and find someone who really likes you for you. Changing yourself for the better is a good thing and can improve relationships, but changing yourself not because you want to and just to impress or "keep" a relationship you are afraid of losing is closer to "simping" in my opinion.
Bruh your a legend
It always makes me happy to find other people who went through loooooooong distance relationships and got married. High five and your advice is good. ^^
Being yourself is the most alpha thing you could ever do, love yourself for you, and you will find others that love you.
Exactly
nah that's way too ideal to be real
@@visiblecat48623 yes the real most alpha thing you can do is not eat doritos
@@doritos4956 pretty much yes
Real Chads hate themselves and everyone else
When I was in high school I tried making moves on girls I liked but often turned out unsuccessful. I was disappointed sure, but I wasn’t too bothered because normally I’d often be hanging out with my friends and laughing our heads off together every day, and we were all single guys. We liked girls but dating wasn't much of a priority for any of us. The high school I went to was pretty small so prom date pickings were slim for me. For my Junior year I tried asking out a few girls, got rejected, and didn’t sweat not going. My Senior year I tried getting a date, failed multiple times, but decided to go anyway on my own for the sake of it. My Senior prom was one of the worst wastes of time and money I’ve ever spent in my life thus far. Everyone there was a pompous asshole and it was waaay too expensive for the prison-style cafeteria food they gave us for our dinners.
A year later after I had graduated high school I went to college and surprisingly pickings were still slim for me. I couldn’t pick out any girls I wanted to go out with and the few that were attractive, had something about their character I didn’t want to date them. I met a girl in my first year of college who was mildly attractive but we were better off as friends. I didn’t worry about trying to be perfectly presentable for her, I was more laid back and I knew she wasn’t future wife material. I think she grew to like me as more-than-a-friend though because sometimes we’d walk together to our next class and she’d get real close to me. She’d smile and rest her head on my shoulder as we walked, and she’d rub up against me almost like a cat when a cat likes a person. She didn't normally wear that much makeup however one time she came to class wearing extra makeup and a blouse that was quite nice. I saw her smiling at me a few times which I didn't think much about at the time. I later complimented her on how she looked after class because she looked nice and that put a big grin on her face.
Throughout college and my summers however I tried online dating for the first time. Online dating was the last place I wanted to look but given my options it was the only valid one I had. I’d look through who was available and get increasingly more pissed off about the types of girls I’d see on the market. It was like every girl I saw was a thot in search up a hookup, a gold digger, some disgusting weirdo, or simply someone I just wasn’t attracted too. I eventually reached that conclusion that you touched up on in your video as well.
Instead of racking my brain trying to find somebody who wasn’t there, just forget dating for the time being. Don’t hold your breath, work on yourself until a day comes when you do meet someone. I figure by then I’ll be more desirable and put together for them. Currently I’m still single but from that point to now I’ve greatly improved at socializing with girls. It doesn’t have to be romantic, just learn how to socialize with the opposite sex better and figure out what personalities gel with your own. While girls do appreciate certain qualities in a guy, confidence I think being one of them, there isn't an exact copy & paste formula you need to follow to be successful in getting a girlfriend. Be yourself, improve who you already are where needed, and know who you match with when you meet them.
Amen brother
facts
I'm in middle school so this will help me alot. I'll finally just don't care that much and live my live thanks bro
Too much to read and i m bored,so i would not read It
Amen.
This is tough, especially in a culture that has always lived based on labels, competition, aggression, superficiality. When somebody steps away from the norm, they get eaten up: even if they're in the right
Only The weak get eatened up. Strong and independent people are unfazed
@@SevenPr1me i step out of the norm but am strong enough(mentally) to not care does that count?
@@bullettime1116"does that count"? Depends. Are you moving forward or stagnant?
@Nobody comments are not funny you troglodyte nice username bro
@@bullettime1116 the fact you have to ask means you aren't as strong as you think you are
Mordicai is a lesson about growing up and not being a simp. I seriously felt each episode where mordicai obsesses over Margaret ends in a lesson about respect and boundaries
The thing, like finn, simp is natural in your teens, mordecai was like a lot over 20.... That's just wrong
@@tripelon everyone learns at different stages. As long as we do learn. Mordecai went through character development and actually stopped being a simp. He still had shame for it but was self aware and he actively changed his behavior. This should be celebrated more. We are too quick to mock people for their Sins
"Let ye who is Sinless cast the first stone and let that stone be your first Sin for there is no one who is free of Sin."
@@tripelon Well, some people don't have boyfriends/girlfriends in their teens.
@@tripelon I believe the show was made for teenagers though. I thought about his behavior and the way he handled things and it seems like they tried to make it relatable for their audience. Because half the shit he does at his age are things people his age don’t really do anymore.
Okay here's my prediction on what this video is going to say: " When it comes to love, things will not always work out the way you want it to. Sometimes love can be messy, brutal and you will end up hurting yourself as well as others. Mordecai is a prime example of that. He's young like all of us and he has high expectations as we all do. What's important is that we do not beat ourselves up about it and learn from our mistakes, unlike Mordecai who keeps repeating mistakes until when he matured later in the series and eventually got married."
Dariush Asadi thats a great moral lesson
Well said :)
The most beautiful and realistic thing about the ending is that Mordecai's desperate search for love didn't work. Instead he just matured, followed his passions and along the way he accidentally stumbled upon his true love.
That's often how it works. Sometimes you're better off focusing on yourself and you'll encounter love along the way.
@@matti.8465 that ending feels more natural than 95% of romantic movies ever, where the creep/simp gets the girl and the live happily ever after
@Gustavo Tellez Joker teaching more then how to steal hearts
I actually needed to hear that. I’ve been so worried about relationships, seeing other young couples my age, and I’m wondering when I’m going to find that someone, but now that I know it’s not that important now, I can stop worrying about it and focus on myself and what I’m looking to achieve in life.
Honestly I just go up to woman and asks her and if she says no I just say ok😂😂
Simple as that.
alpha asf
Wanna give me that confidence sir 👁 👁
@@MinecraftMusicMakesMeCry take magic mushrooms and meet the sleeping god of all consuming darkness at the bottom of the universe. this will make you realise that getting anxious over girls is silly as there are bigger things to worry about hope this helps :)
That’s a good way to do it. Way too many people become infatuated with one person.
Mordecai is legit everybody at some point. Another reason why folks are mad at him: you were probably mad at YOURSELF after the fact.
This, this is why probably a lot of people see him, they see themselves in him.
I would have been him had I not seen him do this
To be really honest, THIS is why people hate other people, they see the flaws in front of their eyes and they cringe from it because they know how it feels.
So true.
Nope, not everybody. Some people were never brainwashed with Disney and other crap, and were always self-driven and prioritized self-love.
Father time isn't God. He's just the physical embodiment of time. There are more powerful beings in the show like Anti Pops and Pops.
imagine taking it that seriously
I don’t really think that pops or anti pops are more powerful than time, but yeah plz stop getting worked up every time “God” is mentioned in a sentence
@@MiamiYoungBeach Respect the lore nerds. They know and probably love the show more
@@hogma7989 simp
@@dreadreaver55 ...
I've always been told my whole life, that love isn't something you search for it's something that finds you. When you search for it you feed yourself lies hoping maybe they'll be true, instead of just letting it come naturally and being happier for it.
People often use the word “simp” just to troll or for memes/jokes.
Yep, and a lotta people think/pretend to think that it's only used for the original meaning alone. It's used in a trollish way a lot.
@@magik97 exactly
Yet many people still just think that every single meme is good.
I'm glad I found you people, coz this comment chain describes my entire thought process on the matter
@@Snooopy28 I feel the same way man
This went from how an icon from childhood being a simp to being a video about loving yourself, not what I was looking for but what I needed.
Yeah who needs gold diggers or independent woman or men hater...
Actually, simp, as far as I've used it, refers to someone who spends a lot of their time, and money, running to the defense of random women. It's like a white knight taken to the extreme. For instance, many people consider guys who throw their money at Twtich Thots to be simps because the content usually isn't good. These guys are essentially just throwing their money at these women because they look beautiful. These guys will also, usually, break their backs trying to defend these women, no matter what they do. Beta is more of a term used to define someone who doesn't fit the typical archetype of masculinity. I'm fairly certain I would be considered a beta simply because I don't do relationships, but that doesn't make me a simp.
That wouldnt make you a beta. Itd make you a lone wolf. Not the same thing
And my from my experience an alpha is a male that takes charge naturally. They naturally pursue qualities of strength and have a high capacity for enduring stress and pressure. A beta is male that will make excuses for their shortcomings and perhaps rely on others for assistance too often
I like to add “ditching friends when they are in need, to rush to a girls defense”
@@SevenPr1me nailed it on the head
Just wanted to say that "just be yourself' can be VERY bad advice if someone is either not neurotypical, not succeeding in life in the typical way or is a genuinely shitty person in some major capacity. "Just be yourself" really just means "choose one of these preset socially accepted archetypes and stick to the associated behavioural patterns". What if you naturally say really awakward and weird things because you can't read subtext or body language? Society is extremely restrictive when it comes to how you should move and talk and dress and groom, but many people don't realize this because they learn to adapt these behaviours intuitively.
the message should be, be the best version you can make your self and always try to make your best self better
@@dolphins6010 perfect
@Lone Wolf thing is, do you really want a girl that is put just by how you look?
@@dolphins6010 again, this message is at odds with society. Being the "best self I can be" is incompatible with the question of "should I conform to some, all, or none of society's expectations?"
wanna be friends guys? or nah
How does this channel not have more than 100k subs yet?!
Oh hey it's you I used to watch you with my little brother
It does now
@@Frostknight231 yea it made it
Hey! I watched this video bc ive been accused of simping for Bowser. I just love Bowser.
It has more than 100k subs.
Me after 7 billion people reject me: why must you hurt me this way
don’t worry, you just gotta wait until she’s born. (joking)
Well, i have good news! You still have 594 millions chances!
@@sailorquestion3229 and none of them work
@@kingmystery8425 so you're telling me out of 594 million none of them want you?
Bro you got to change your mindset
@Nobody mate most of the people ik in committed relationships are ugly as shit
You'll be fine just out yourself out there
19 years old, still haven't had a relationship. Tried multiple times, never worked out, so just patiently waiting now
you're in the same boat with a lot of people man, ive been with girls just never had a relationship before, im 21
@Nobody some black pill shit lol open your eyes, women want men more as they get older, wiser, more experienced, wealthier.
@Nobody .....bullshiii i was 20 when i started working at walmart....and the majority of girls my age slept with 30 or 40 year old fat men just for the fun of it in this environment
I feel u dude it’ll get better don’t worry
work on yourself and self improve bro, as you improve yourself as a man, your dating life will improve
Great message. Learn to love and respect yourself before you love others. Build character and grow. Great message!
The lie is that your born for someone and someone was born for you, truth is people die everyday without loving someone.
Ok zoomer
"To live is the rarest thing in the world, most people just exists."
- some comment I found back then
That's terrifying but so true
holy fucking shit
I’ve come to accept the fact that I’ll most likely die on a hospital bed, alone, body pillow next to me.
How to get a date with your crush:
1. Tell them "I like you. Let's go on a date!".
2. If they say yes, congratulations, you did what all people are too afraid to do.
3. If they say no, be aware that they can say "no" for one billion reasons that have absolutely nothing to do with you. Accept the result and move on. Yes, rejection sucks, but it better be an option, because you will eventually and inevitably face rejection whether you're ready for it or not.
Sounds like you copied that straight out of wikihow.
@@Cookedfrfrfr Nah. It's just this simple.
You make it sounds too easy cheif
Bold of you to assume they they'll just say no
Nice
It's so weird that this video got recommended to me in a period of confusion for me since I coincidentally went on a date with a girl a few days ago (and I don't do this very often, in fact I haven't been on a date for two years since I broke up with my last ex) and it was amazing, we both had fun and even made out, but she just vanished from my life afterwards, stopped replying to my messages and became colder and colder. This video at least gave me some hope so I can learn to focus on myself while she doesn't come back (if she'll ever do that) and just go with the flow, but I'm still very worried I did something wrong and didn't even realize.
Update: She just apologized via text for the time taken and explained the situation to me. She said she's still longing for her ex and still cares a lot about him, and is not ready to move on with me for at least a while. She also told me not to create expectations in vain since it could go south. I really hope this means she could be open to something with me in the future, but I don't know what to do. I feel sad about the news but also very happy about her honesty, and thanked her for that, but I don't know what to do now.
@@matheuss886 Sounds like it's time you set a firm boundary. Don't date her till she says she's ready. Along the way she might choose to work through her past with you. That's fine as long as she doesn't ping pong between wanting you and pining for her ex.
Setting the boundary will let her know that you're not "plan B."
@@Robloxman226 I completely agree with you. We have decided to stay in the "friends with benefits" zone for now but I'm not sure if that's the right decision because, as you said, she could use this as a pretext only to forget about her ex and not because the way she feels about me. At the same time it's the beginning of something so it's supposed to be fun, and more serious conversations such as this aren't very common to build something natural imo. We haven't been in contact for a couple days now but it's mainly because of her work (she's really busy with tons of responsibilities this month).
I think I'll let go for a while. If she feels ready to contact me again, I'll let her do it this time. It's also very possible we go out again next month (albeit for mostly shallow stuff and not much of that "romantic" connection for now, but who knows she might develop something in the future) so I'll just stick with that possibility and go forward without thinking too much about it. It's the way I found to carry on calmly, without knowing what might happen in the future, but I'm also afraid of ending up being the "Plan B" as you mentioned.
@@matheuss886 I've been in a similar situation last year. If you do find someone else in the meanwhile, someone "less problematic", do yourself a favour and move away from this situation. I don't know all the details in your case, but generally love triangles involving an ex are going to give you migraines. Always consider all your options!
@@matheuss886 You already are the back up from what she said IMO. She doesn’t have the time out from 24 hours to text you once? That’s a big time plan b move that women do.
I loved CJ, man. Freaking Mordecai, he blew it.
In my opinion, it's unhealthy and kind of sociopathic to "unconditionally" love yourself. Everyone has flaws. Not just surface flaws, but deep, unpleasant pieces. I believe in coming to terms with, and accepting what you can't change about yourself, and doing what you can about your worst aspects.
I think that was the point of the video. Maybe I just didn’t get these unconditional self-love vibes
The self-love and accepting yourself is right. But it doesn't really mean it simply like that. Self love can also be improving yourself, for the sake of YOURSELF and not to impress anyone. Get fitter, smarter, read better books. Those improve yourself as a person, which i think is the best version of 'be yourself' advice
@@aeoligarlic4024 it’s not right tho. You can never be a good person under your standards if you are not harsh on yourself. The only way to improve on anything you do is to be critical of yourself and try to correct those criticism. Self love is a scam for insecure people
@@zzodysseuszzwho hurt you man?
unconditional love is more like “yeah, i have a lot of room for improvement, but im happy with where im at now”. in it of itself, self acceptance is love, bc if we loved another person fully, we’d accept them, flaws and all. robbing ourselves of self love is not conducive for future healthy relationships, in fact, most likely a liability
The difficult part about taking on this, self centered act is that so many people who are selfless will have to learn to be selfish. Putting time and emotions into someone is often easier than putting up with ourselves. I wish I could just know how to love and better myself. I really am doing it alone. Interesting video.
i literally ahve to make deals with myself to do anything, it's like negotiating with soviet russia.
Meleeman same
"I really am doing it alone." Same...
Of course you’re doing it alone. It’s about YOU. You’re not alone in feeling like shit, but you are pretty much alone when it comes to self improvement. Unless you want to, nothing is going to change for the better
Think about it this way. You can't tend to someone else's garden if yours is withering away. Even in taking care of yourself, you are better equipping yourself to help and serve others than you would if you just neglected yourself. It's mistaking self neglect for humility.
I have been called a simp before just because I have a celebrity crush.
That doesn't mean tho
Having a crush is not even close to being a simp who ever called you a simp, probably has no idea what a simp means
@@bongcloudopening5404 agreed
Having a crush isn't a bad thing. I do remember when I was in elementary where I used to have a crush on a high school girl older than I am. Since I was that young, I may emotionally heartbroken when someone else was on her side and became envy about it.
Fast forward back in 2019, I saw her for the last time, and had a friend on her side. So I was shy to ask until she found me. After she left the school, I decided to let her go and moved on because she has a different path.
I have more important things to do than getting a relationship.
@@bongcloudopening5404 I actually thought the "simp" term is funny until it got repetitive and crossed the line. What I hated is that people keep calling names to a wrong person without any reasons whatsoever. So it can be really unhealthy to call someone a "simp" to a someone who has affections to others.
Heck! Even the Cupid and other cherubs could've offended by that "simp" term either.
This is the first advice that feels real for teenagers. Man, I love this. I’ve been faking my personality for two years now to “network” with people, but in the process I lost who I am. I feel like a dead man simply living, I prayed to God to help me when I was on the floor in pain from temptation. I felt angered, sad, and frustrated. It felt like I was being punished for trying to do the right thing, yet the temptations grow worse and worse.. but then God showed me this channel. It has really helped me bro, you don’t know how many of us teenagers feel soulless every single day. Keep making videos man, I love you 💚💙💛
You showed me that there’s value in being me.
Matthew 11:28-30
No offense...but what?
@@Fermin-hw5pdshush
@@united1super544 The comment feels kinda odd to me, that's it xd
From the "S" to the "I" to the "M" to the "P"
Squirrel in my pants
@@jamesgreen641 Well said
Square pants
bring back the real definition of the word, everyone b misusing it nowadays 😤😤
This is literally the best relationship advice hidden in a regular show video essay
my issue with the words "simp" is it's treated like anytime a dude is even just * nice * to a girl, he's called a simp and bullied into treating women like shit. simp is a toxic word coined by toxic people. Simply being kind the the opposite sex shouldn't come with demeaning insults. It's called "respect" and I don't know why being kind or respectful is wrong.
@Thalassa Oceanphrite that's because is how they want us to live!. World of worthless pieces of craps who don't know what to do!
Both sides are bad
@Thalassa Oceanphrite yeah the only problem is these simps arent high schoolers who are supposed to learn. They are grown adults who should have already learned but failed to do so.
Many people use the word ''simp'' ironically.
wait people actually use "simp" unironically?
As a 21 y/o loner, this honestly felt so validating to watch. I always felt like there was something wrong with me as a person to not generate the same positive social outcomes that I see other people getting with each other. This made me realise that it's just the different people that exist in this world who are different, and that it takes time to meet the right people. Nice video 👍
What a lot of guys don't understand is that they see girls as some sort of creatures or something when in reality they are just humans with emotions. I'm 19 years old, and what guys need to understand is that instead of worrying about getting a gf, they tend to forget to ask themselves if their happy with how they are currently in life if not why not change it focus on the things their not happy with and make a change instead of focusing all of their life and time on another human being that they think is gonna make them happy but in reality is getting a gf is like adding a song to your playlist, nobody is gonna make you happy if you're not happy with yourself. focus on yourself, and eventually, the time will come when you're ready
I always thought a simp was an unhealthy obsession.
Is it just me or is any guy that shows any affection or interest in a specific woman immediately labeled as a simp nowadays?
Because they are. Real alpha men are chased by women
Only beta men chase a woman
@@SevenPr1me You may need to reread the comment before asserting your superiority.
@@someoneelse4811 and what purpose does reading a comment ive already read serve? And im not asserting anything regarding superiority. If you feel that way thats your own insecurity showing
@@SevenPr1me being attracted to someone and chasing them are two different things
@@SevenPr1me You need to reread the comment because you've confused being in a monogamous relationship with chasing after women, when they are not the same at all. I say your asserting superiority because this isn't the first comment that you've done this in, and calling names inherently means you think you're better.
Dude outta all the dating and pick up gurus I used to watch back in hs, you give the best and most genuine advice. Literally this is the only video I need. Plus, speaking of expressing yourself, I learned the throughout my teen years that asking out a girl is more of a take-it-or-leave-it type senario than what I thought it was and that's what my mindset should be since I'm expressing my feelings, and if they say no you can always just manifest them back.
Agreed. But what do you mean by manifesting them back if they already turned down your offer
Couldn't agree more. Nothing worse than creating a persona only to finally get the girl you think you wanted, only to realize she doesn't know you and you never really had her at all.
People: be yourself and someone will like you
Me: *being myself by always staying inside playing video games with a bunch of guys*
@Nobody That's not true at all. Everyone likes honesty in relationships. How can you expect a girl or guy to fall in love with you if you aren't even yourself. You are constantly lying to them about who you are and they will never know the true you.
@Nobody Everyone has a different definition of desirable tho, we're all individuals after all.
@Nobody you don't have to be blessed with good looks there are a ton of people who have beautiful girlfriend and a healthy relationship and the guys are far from attractive if your not good looking improve your personality some girls like a guy who can make them laugh or just have a genuinely good energy around themselves so you don't have to be good looking and with your "what girl wants to date a fat guy" alot of girls date big dudes lmao some girls like a guy with a meat on his bone so that comments untrue
@Nobody Because when they say "be yourself", what they really mean is "be a confident, outgoing dude that goes out and socializes". It's a poorly veiled truthism that's designed to sound poignant, but when you read between the lines it just comes back as more hollow advice that amounts to changing who are to suit what someone else wants you to be.
Get off the damn video games and get out there where you find real people dude
There is nothing more alpha than fully embracing who you are after all and not being afraid to explore new boundaries
There are two types of simps
The ones that refuse to tell their feelings out of fear Marinette Finn Mordecai Mary and Susan test
The ones in the friendzone Freddie benson Robbie Shapiro Candice Flynn
And the stalkers that know it won’t work out
Sierra (Total Drama) Roger (Sister Sister) Timmy Turner
Edit I meant three don’t get on my case it’s just a typo
I'd put marinette under the stalking category
I’m pretty sure Candice was pretty stalky too.
You forgot Isabella. That girl was a simp for Phineas
I wouldn't call Freddie a simp he eventually got over Carly. Candace wasn't a simp either. Jermy would do anything for Candace. A simp is when one does everything while the other brings nothing to the table.
Can we pretend like airplane in the night sky are like shooting stars
Mordecai winds up dumping a really great girl, who treated him like an equal, to go back to Margaret, who dumped him for college.
Yeah, he's a simp!
He never went back to Margaret. Even when he and CJ broke up.
@@Remix-pr4xd The reason he broke up with CJ, the girl who went nova when he almost died, was because he wasn't over Margaret, the girl that broke his heart because he wasn't that big of a deal. Idk, but for some reason, you think it doesn't make him a huuuuge SIMP!
@@derekbates4316 I mean breaking up with CJ was probably the best thing he could do because he needed to figure himself out. Although he was definitely a dick for doing it at Muscle Man’s wedding.
@@Remix-pr4xd
"Needed to figure himself out?" While Margaret was there, and he was talking to her? Right, and Rigby was voiced by Seth Macfarlane.
@@derekbates4316 I mean I think it was the best thing to do to break up with CJ because he still had feelings for someone else. He was just a huge duck for how he did it.
Can someone actually and truly love every aspect of themselves? Sounds hard.
No they can't, that's why most of these takes people are sharing are... cringy. It's a lot of black and white thinking that has no nuance. I cant be mad at people though, it seems like most of them are pretty young and just need to figure some things out.
@@majanielsen2480 I agree
It's not impossible, but it's more about accepting every aspect of yourself rather then loving everything.
no its stupid don't do it , love every "good" part of yourself
@@braniyamcqueen3379 yeah I get that, I guess I'm a bit of a stickler when it comes to how something is phrased because it can lead people away from the original intent. I still disagree in a way though, depending on how its looked at. I don't think we should accept every aspect of ourselves because that would take away growth. It could be self delusion to "fully accept" ones self, while obviously not liking parts of how you act. On the other hand I understand being at peace with where you're at and not beating yourself to a bloody pulp because you're not perfect. From what I understand there's more nuance and depth than the simple answers most are putting out and agreeing with.
Sorry for the rant, I enjoy exploring these ideas and whatnot.
People think it's narcissistic to love yourself but it's basically compulsory if you want to be happy.
I think it's more about letting go of your ego. Narcissists don't love themselves, they love an idealized version of themself, aka their ego. Self-love is about accepting your real self, including its flaws
I got an explicit content warning when the video was auto playing from my feed... and another when I started the video, followed by the suicide prevention phone number being listed front and center. I haven't even watched this yet, and now I'm more intrigued than before on what this video will be
Edit: oh, okay. That makes sense now.
im gonna be totally honest you made me feel like a fucking gigachad when you said i only believe in true self love and true self respect because holy fucking shit i needed to be reminded of that. ive heard so many different things from different people id rather just do my thing and figure it out myself if its gonna be that hard. Alot of people are so stuck trying to be another supermodel or influencer to get happiness and love they forget to be people. And while alot of those same people may judge me for not doing the same, im happy that theres someone out there who thinks im doing the right thing.
Exactly what I’m thinking lol
My DUDE!!!! This was refreshing... No 🧢!!
"Treat her like a queen, and be left on seen" - bible of misogyny
It’s facts tho
Oh god, this is saddly true
@@djseanyd91 Just because you treat someone right doesn't mean they have to reciprocate your feelings. Simple.
This goes for everyone and anyone.
@@nanaochi I know this. But it’s still facts 🤷🏾♂️ Then she’s gonna whine & cry when the other guy treats her like shit. Or knocks her up and leaves her, expecting me to pick up the pieces. Then she’s gonna be yelling men ain’t shit because one guy treated her like shit and another didn’t want to put up with trifling ass. Seen it go down so many times and the only thing I can say is women do it to themselves.
So yeah they don’t have to show the feelings back but they can’t get mad when I reject them because they came back only for convince.
@@djseanyd91 You're speaking out of personal experience, as everyone here can obviously tell. All I'm going to tell you is that one girls actions doesn't, and shouldn't, represent how all females around the world act, so don't be lumping a whole gender to one or two negative experiences you've personally had.
Also, most women go back to toxic environments because of men like you who expect to be given everything under the pretext that you genuinely care for their (women's) wellbeing. At least the other guy is honest about his distaste and non-romatic feelings for her, men like you though hide under a facade; a white knight more specifically.
Look, If you truly cared for a female and had genuine feelings for her, you wouldn't be throwing a fit about how she left you for some other douche and kissing your ass on the internet while you were at it; making yourself look like some misused and betrayed dude. You'd let her go and wish her the best, letting bygones be bygones.
Okay, thanks for reading.
Being yourself works really well when your defining traits are charismatic, funny, and confident. Bonus points if you care less about a potential relationship than the other party.
But if you're one of the unfortunate people that don't share these traits, have no fear, because there's a lot of people out there. All you have to do is just take a few months off from your life to scour the world, looking for someone who mistakes your awkwardness for charm, who is culturally compatible, who is within your age range, who speaks your language, figure out who will move where, and who cares about you more than you do for them so that they don't get in the way of your self love. It should be easy, I mean after all, if you have a lifestyle where meeting those 7 billion people in the world is an option rather than just sticking to your town, finding people that want to be around you shouldn't be too hard.
Man, giving relationship advice is easy when I only suggest what sounds pleasant and lack the ability to empathize.
I never realized how much life lessons I've learned in cartoons until recently
really wished kids rn would watch cartoons like Regular Show and Adventure Time instead of TikToks (wow I sound like a boomer)
I mean let's be real, the current generation just makes no sense, hell I'm part of it and I don't even know what the fuck is going on lol, I wish everything was like it was back in the mid to late 2000's and early to mid 2010's, shit just went downhill by 2018 imo
@@koencagurangan3256 nothing went downhill; things just got more exposure as a result of the internet. people are just as terrible as they were a decade ago.
@Nobody comments are not funny you troglodyte touché.
I’m a kid and I watch it!
@@fly1ngseal dang, I've never watched it; in fact, my family prevented my siblings and I from watching such shows.
This video reminds me of my coworker who is in his 50s and told me his life story on how he never found love and if you do it lasts max 2 years lol. He says “love come and go, it doesn’t stay”. The dude has been rejected and hasn’t had a working relationship so he gave up. Now just focuses on money and taking care of his mom.
That's just sad. I hope he deserves better than that.
@@poweroffriendship2.0 whos to say his realization helped him find a new purpose in life that he enjoys. Maybe a little to late but still
"She's not yours, it's just...YOUR TURN."
Honestly it's best for him to stop dating. If he can't have a long-lasting relationship, he has to stay single to prevent more headaches and heartbreaks from coming to his life. It's best for him to go on a path of self-improvement and taking care of his mom. At least being single could help keep his finances straight and it allows him to pursue his goals and hobbies in life.
@@AMG-ko3gt The dude gambles for fun
@Nick Thornberry Valdivia He is a pretty cool and chill dude.
When I give people advice like this, they say I'm mature for an almost 14 year old, well, no, I just watch you're videos. Love your content btw man, really helps a lot! ❤️
Well said. Change for nobody. Also, I’d like to add “love with your head,” If you blindly jump into relationships without thinking, get caught up in the idea of a girl, its not gonna be fun. That’s where abusive, pathetic, and shitty relationships come from. Leave instantly at the first sight of a red flag.
If you look up Simp in the dictionary you'll find a picture of Mordecai.
I've been trying my best to bring out the best in me but I always want a someone to validate and cheer on for me in doing so which made my progress come to a halt every time my heart sinks into someone who doesn't share the same feelings and sentiment as me. Thank you for at the very least saying that I can leave without having to worry about love I know the right person will come around someday and I'm just too impatient, I try to live s little but maybe now I should just live in the moment and make my life a little more worthwhile haha
With time you will be able to find such a friend to motivate you and sometimes give you reasons to keep going forward. All i can say is to be sure that you don't drive that person away once you meet it, since such people can be found only once or twice in a lifetime. Wish you Good luck, bud. God Bless!
Hey... I just wanted to say thank you your self-love videos. I've been going through a rough time lately. I've realized recently that I have never once loved myself or even liked anything about myself. Like a poison I was born with in my veins. It's passed on into all of my relationships, friends, loved ones, coworkers... I've never found myself worthy of anyone or anything, and because of that I've brought a lot of pain and misfortune on myself and others. But I want to do better.
Your videos have helped me internalize that message of self-love I need to practice from now on. I'm so tired of hating myself and comparing myself to others. But anyway, thank you again for helping a miserable guy late into his 20's get on track to figuring that out.
do you know what anime is shown in that clip
Who knew talking about a character from a cartoon would make UA-cam want to put a Suicide Warning before making you watch the video.
I hate how ppl overlook Mordecai’s other traits just cuz he’s a simp. Simping ain’t his only character ya know. Great video
I mean when you kill your life time homie over a crush shits sticking and the funny thing riggby doesn’t remember but we do.
you are saying things I've been trying to say to my friends for ages! If you don't love yourself, you won't ever be able to be functional in a relationship. Put yourself first, the pursue love stuff later. You'll be far more confident, and far happier.
In mordacai’s defense rigby going out of his way to ask Margaret was a dick move
No, it wasn't. You can't call "dibs" on a human being. At the end of the day, the choice is up to Margaret. So often people see partners as prizes to be won, and not people to have relationships with. Granted Rigby was likely just using Margaret to prove a point, but he wasn't "taking Mordecai's girl" because the girl did not belong to Mordecai
@@ellie8272 But it wasn't about calling dibs or claiming a prize. Rigby saw his friend struggling, and my man rubbed it in his face. A good friend would have helped him through it, and a decent one would have at least let him struggle alone. But Rigby saw a moment of weakness and actively made it worse on purpose. He wasn't even actually interested in Margaret. With friends like that, who needs enemies?
@@idealyst8292 naw that’s a best friend right there. Taking it to extreme lengths to
Prove a point... if you watch the show, Rigby has told Mordecai countless times to man up and tell her how he feels. Without this , Mordecai would end up never talking to her and live with a life of regret once she is inevitable taken by someone else, which is worse in my opinion. Just a show but excellent lesson lol.
@@gandalfjackson1546 You said it yourself right there. "Taking it to extreme lengths." Unnecessary. And Mordecai didn't need an 'example' if you want to consider it that. He needed emotional support so he could have the courage to talk to her.
Think of it like this. You want to get better at basketball so your friend LeBron James plays against you and kicks your ass over and over. You might learn a thing or two, but it'll mostly just be discouraging and miserable. It would be much more productive for him to teach you his technique and how to overcome your apprehensions, and you also wouldn't have to suffer in the process.
I feel like emotional support will only get you so far. Constantly losing is gonna make me work my ass off , so I can beat him eventually. But I understand what you mean though. Honestly depends on the person.
Finally someone who speaks me out of the soul this whole thing has gotten out of hand and is even turning into hate and blame for the other sex in many cases
Let’s be honest, we have all simped.
Almost all of us have, pretty true
Depends on what you exactly mean by simp.
@@Aniyah-CHG obsessed over a woman to great lengths
@@donathan2933 Not me then.
Everyone goes through a simp phase at one point
all the homies getting this recommended on valentines day
the way the word simp is used is disgusting
we show affection and appreciation to someone we like or are together with and we get called a " simp " for it. And i agree with the video if you're not mentally ready or even feel ready to be in a relationship because you feel like someone's elses words will affect the way you look at yourself and or the relationship you shouldn't be in it
Bro, this entire video felt like one big mic drop. A+
A simp is the result of no self love or confidence. An alpha is the result of too much self love or confidence.
An alpha is a result of being delusional and out of touch with reality.
@@JoseDorda Does that contradict anything that I've said?
@@MrJr1976 why does it need to contradict it?
Simp has and always will be my least favourite made up slang. Its distorted so many peoples views on relationships (not just romantic, I just mean all interactions with other people) and how we should treat other people, or how other people should act etc. I truly hate it. Great video man
Ngl, those episodes of mordecai and finn getting shattered of their hopes and dreams with being with who they crush? Hits hard.
Glad im not alone
Being alpha has never been about faking your personality though. It's about becoming truly confident in yourself. It amazes how many people still believe that when people speak about being alpha, they're talking about being some macho jerk. That's not being alpha, but just posturing. People who exhibit posturing have confidence issues that they're trying to compensate for, and therefore are not actually alpha. They're betas in what they perceive to be alpha clothing.
I never was and never tried to be an Alpha, I‘m just me, and yes, I‘m still single
I relate
Wait u fuck ur friends I need to figure out this level of friendship
@@sweetsacrifice7998 if your need for intimacy is met then you can’t say “is being really single that bad?” Just because you’re not committed doesn’t mean you’re single. Lmao you just came here to flex on the lonely people 😂.
@@sweetsacrifice7998 well now you know 😂, tbh I think you always did. Even so, god bless you.
@@sweetsacrifice7998 Yeah it’s great right now until you get older and people slowly have families and then you’re just a lonely old person
This is the video I needed to watch. And this guy understands that these titles or labels doesn't change you as a person. And even though I heard about the whole "Be honest with yourself" it comes from toxic couple channels, people and groups that tries to antagonize people who aren't as successful. But, in this video I genuinely believe what he's saying to be true instead of it sounding like a taunt.
They truly were "Simp"ler times back then, but lookin' back at It now there a complete joke to everyone everywhere they good but keep In mind they still had epic and redeemable moments that still made them stood out then being weak nor pathetic bein' pushed around all the time and doesn't always let any villainous rebellious bad boys walk all over them let alone have there way with the girl whenever they attempt to they kidnap them when they don't have there way or treat'em like their personal trophies but too bad I can't say the exact same thing to other charterers nowadays even for 2021, 2022, 2023, and Etc. standards.
Who also predicted that Candace's "S.I.M.P." Song made It all happen despite going over kids' heads?
Good point
(Also good joke with the "simp"ler times)
@@KydLives Thanks for liking my pun.
Simp? You mean squirrel in my pants?
@@poweroffriendship2.0 Yes exactly what I mean and reference to the song Itself.
@@yogibear8683 Yeah.
I love how him talking talking about mordecai meant youtube has to give be 20 warning about it being self harm 💀