Honestly, I really liked Mindy as a character. Sure, she's a bit of a flirt but she immediately backs off once Homer expresses grief about sex with her and doesn't push for what is clear that she does want, which I think is a nice change from how her character would usually be portrayed in most media.
I agree...in most media(and in real life) a floozy like mindy wouldn't care about homers grievances or destroying his family home. It's nice to see a woman with self respect as well as respect for other peoples families. I would never be able to cheat on a spouse nor would i be able to live with myself knowing i wrecked a family all because of my own selfish & immature compulsive actions. 🤢🤢🤢
Ironically despite the context of the show forcing her into the "homewrecker" archetype, Mindy would actually be a better love interest than most animated sitcom wives. She's three dimensional, she has interests and hobbies, she has respect for herself and the people around her. She's a better character than Lois Griffin, both morally and in terms of writing quality.
This has always been my favorite "test Homer & Marge's relationship" episode. On the surface, Mindy is basically Homer's perfect woman. So many monkey wrenches are thrown at Homer, giving him ample opportunity to cheat with Mindy, but in the end, he does the right thing and it's so satisfying.
Thats the best part since irl a guy like homer would have cheated 2 or 3 times. But in here homer has the will power to carry the one ring to mount doom.
@@yucol5661 i like his lovable idiot character. True yes hes an idiot and can be a lazy person or an asshole but he loves his family at the end of the day. I wish family guy would get this message since peter is a selfish jackass who pretends hes cool and constantly hate his family.
no, lust is no different than when you get hungry for ice cream or candy, there is 100% NO nutritional value to those, but you still eat them. Lust is just a mating snack. It's NOT intended to be long term or go anywhere. It is just a useless selfish treat that feels good in the moment! You don't judge people who snack alot huh? Are you fat shaming people who over eat? Would you sex shame someone who just enjoys physical sex with attractive people? There is NO difference! Fat people who eat too much are no different than horny people who fuck too much, if you hate on one you have to hate on another! Not everything you need has to have meaning to it. This video is just some incel never gets laid ass talk. Don't you DARE tell someone else who you live or what is right for them. I am living proof that "love" isn't real and does NOT last, but all those times I've had sex are pure! I dare you to tell me Hue Hefner wasn't happy and his life didn't have meaning! He didn't have "love" he made an empire on LUST and died a GOD amung men!
It would destroy your mind if you try to hide your desires. Loyalty is good but you shouldn't hide your sexual interests with a person that doesn't desire you in a sexual way. Read about dead bedrooms and how it affects the mind of those people over the years for a forced celibacy.
I cried while I watched this. I broke up with my ex, and our relationship was heavily lust driven. She cheated on me with her friend. I'm still devastated. She broke my heart when I knew about it. I knew her because of her sexual drives, that coincidentally matched mines. I broke up with her almost two months ago, and stopped talking to her at all exactly a month ago. My therapist now understood why it is so hard for me. A person can't suffer too much because of a long distance 5 month relationship. Until he knew about the amount of lust we had involved. Lust kills. Love heals.
Love ain’t going to fix anything it’s just a feel good chemical that lasts for a few seconds.Your lying to yourself trying to make your feel good to decrease your serotonin levels get over yourself and quitting giving in to chemicals.
It’s been two weeks, but I wish you the best. You are not your lust or your sex drive. Because not only do you have a body, you have both soul and spirit.
@@GrimReaper-eq9vp agains with this bs, ok mr edge let see pain is just chemical reaction, so if you cut your leg, not big deal its just pain, chemical reactions
@@mebansharaisantasticokhong7312 The devil most certainly exists, but you are certainly correct either way. We must learn to accept that we as humans make mistakes and fall to temptation brought on by ourselves. This is the sinful nature we hold.
This is why I love the season 1 episode "Life on the fast lane" where Marge starts fantasizing about her French bowling teacher. Because like Homer, Marge had to choose between a one time good thing, or a good thing that'll last a long time. I think you should look into that episode too! Thanks for another great video!
I watched that episode as well, and IMO, it doesn't hold. The events that led to Marge's encounter with her lover involved Homer sabotaging her birthday celebration and not feeling sorry about it, which is a jerk move in my opinion. That being said, you can't blame Marge for getting swept off her feet so easily. In Homer's episode, you can kinda understand why he still wants to be with his wife, because as off-putting as she may be with that nasty cold, he can tell she was still making an effort to keep the family and marriage together. In contrast, Marge only stayed with her husband in the end because the site of happy couples was enough to make her feel guilty.
I remember there was one episode where Marge writes a romance novel, inserting herself as an unfulfilled woman married to a lazy, temperamental drunk (Homer) and she falls for a ripped, kind-hearted, handsome man (Flanders). Marge is somewhat put-off by it, even finding herself lusting after Flanders. At the end of the episode, when Homer finally reads the book and puts two and two together, he confronts Flanders and asks for advice to be a better husband.
@@sxatcychan1988 honestly Marge isnt perfect but I think she deserves better than homer. No hate to homer but marge literally takes on like 90 percent of the effort while he drinks. As a woman i always felt bad for her but they love each other and hes loyal. She saw something in him and she stayed so good for them
This was going to be the motivation for the villain in my book. It was going to show the difference between love and lust and two people can have some of the same experiences but the changes between the two different paths.
@THE INFINITIVERSE ™️ SAGA FRANCHISE He's a villain that has no love in his heart but developed lust for Esme... He just doesn't realize it because of evil clouded in his heart.
@@jambothejoyful2966 It was going to be a comic book series called “Scarlett Saber.” I’m working on drawing the characters. The point I brought up is going to be a side story.
I have people who tell me I should sleep around more and that it’s okay to do so. I never listened to them but that temptation was there. Thank you so much for this video. This proves to me that waiting for that special lady will be worth it.
@@demetrioavalos7975 hope I didn't come off to preachy. I just think everyone has a different way of viewing it. Personally, I'd say I agree that I prefer to have a closer connection, rather than many of them.
This really touched me. Lust is decietful...love is careful. Lust is temporary,but love is forever. I'm 26 and never had a girlfriend,I'm a virgin,for 15 years I've been struggling with adult entertainment videos....at one point I wanted companionship and love so bad I nearly ran away from home. No matter how hard I try I still think of sex,women and I wish it would stop,I feel like a freak
Pray. God can heal all fr. Jesus got you. Don’t try to heal alone: seek God. He can literally heal in seconds what you’ve been struggling with for years. I pray you find peace and experience the love God has for you and from the companion He made for you.
@@godiswithyou.5358 2nd this, recommend reading the Bible, so far I have found incredible insight. For example Romans 8:4-5: “in order that the righteous requirement of the law might be fulfilled in us, who walk not according to the flesh but according to the Spirit. For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit set their minds on the things of the Spirit. For to set the mind on the flesh is death, but to set the mind on the Spirit is life and peace.”
That episode was so good fam. It’s not even funny. A lot of people end up married to the one they love most but still end up meeting other people that suite their ideal interest. And it’s so frustrating because you want to stay loyal so bad to your partner but you also want to know what it’s like with the other person. I mean sure there’s polygamy but that doesn’t float so well for most couples or spouses. This episode showed how there’s always a choice and that you don’t have to give in to temptation but that also if you really feel like it’s not working out with your partner for good reasons then you’re not wrong for wanting to be happy. Homer was happy with Marge and loved her dearly, that’s why deep down in his heart he couldn’t be with Mindy romantically or physically. Marge is his one and only.
What if Marge would not have had any sexual interest anymore. how long do you think he'll neglect his desires? Maybe 8-15 years, that's a lot of time hurting yourself if you spouse does not allow you to watch porn or an open relationship. It would be a long forced celibacy
@@javiermendoza5173 If one spouse becomes no longer interested in sex while the other still wants it, it would cause a big rift in the marriage. Although something like that would be rare in a relationship since most people prefer to go with their basic human instinct.
@@tytheaniman497 I don’t think it would be so much weird, In a recent survey of BodyLogic from couples betwren 18 to 65, 51% did not have sex over a year. The disparity of the libido can cause even more problems in the couple when porn is seeing as a bad thing and do not even talk about open relationships.
Yeah there’s always a choice even in these tough scenarios. Personally if you aren’t happy in your marriage or relationship and rly considering being with someone else, I’d say divorce/breakup. Like you said, it’s okay to want to be happy and satisfied. Cheating is never right though. The only time I can think it’s justified is if you are in a abusive relationship you literally cannot leave and you have voiced wanting to leave. Other than those unique scenarios I’d say divorce/break up is the true honest way to go about it. Cheating is just selfish and dishonest
The thing that no one tells you about love is that eventually butterflies fade, and at some point it just feels very normal and comfortable to be around that person. That’s why lust and infatuation is such a problem, because it’s the novelty of feelings those strong urges all over again. It’s horribly addicting and you shouldn’t let yourself become obsessed with it. The thing is, so long as you and your spouse still get along very well and still care about each other, have remained loyal to each other, and you have more good times than bad together then that’s all that matters. I’ve been with the man I love for 10 years now, only getting officially married last year. We’ve been through alot together and there’s no one on this planet that I’d ever want more than him. And I know that if I were ever to lose him, especially through some dumb mistake made on my end, I would never be able to live and be happy. Because I’d lose the one person on this planet that genuinely knows every messed up thing I’ve done, every mistake I’ve made, knows every flaw and insecurity I have and knows every messed up part of me, and still looks at me everyday and tells me he loves me. That’s why when I found myself being attracted to a friend of his, it made me feel such horrible guilt. Of course I never acted on that attraction, but brain had intrusive thoughts, telling me I didn’t love my husband and it caused me to have a panic attack over it. That guilt and fear made me believe it was true for a time and it hurt so much. I didn’t ever want to do anything to hurt the love of my life. The guilt is as so bad I couldn’t even look at our wedding picture without feeling guilty. Of course, I told my husband the issues I was having and he listened, and understood. He knows I have problems with anxiety and depression . I had to tell him many times how sorry I was, the horrible thoughts that would run through my mind that I never wanted to think of, etc. They terrified me. It took me a long time to really register his advice to me. That having bad thoughts doesn’t equate to truth, or being a bad person. It’s the actions you choose to commit that make you a bad person. And I also realized that love is not a feeling, it’s a choice you make. I went through so much uncertainty, and I questioned so much that I was sure of in my mind all because of that one panic attack. But even through all that pain and guilt, I never went a single day without making him know that I loved and cared about him greatly and did my best to keep taking care of him. He means the world to me and I never want to lose him. I’ve only recently begun to get over all the paranoia and guilt. Even now I find it hard to even look at men my age without feeling guilt or afraid. I’m not even attracted to them either, I just have a perpetual fear of making that mistake again.
This comment is so insightful, thank you. As a high schooler, I've been having the same thoughts about women my age too, and I feel it is hurting me mentally. I don't want it to be all about what I think about a woman's appearance at first glance, and it has been messing with me for a while. Your comment helped me realize ideas and concepts I couldn't perceive on my own. Thank you, kind and knowledgeable stranger. I hope you and your husband stay together for as long as you both desire, and that you stay strong against the slight disillusion of lust, you have helped me a lot.
okay this… this is what i love about the internet, just being able to share experiences with random people on the internet and being able to resonate and understand something with them is just, wonderful. thank you for sharing this, i will definitely remember this
@@whimsicalaubrey1413 I didn’t until just now 😂 lol but the more I look into the more it sounds like my issue. I’ve had alot of problems with thinking I’m going to do something terrible merely just for baseless reasons or simply because in my brain, it goes “you thought it=its true/you will end up doing it”. Honestly though I think I’ve gotten over it after a good 6 months lol my brain still tries to do it to me but now it’s just not guilt inducing me. Probably because I spent so much time realizing my thoughts don’t equate to truth lol
This really shows how much of a deep character Homer is when the writers care. He really suffered on of the most difficult temptations and could have actually gotten away with it, but he stuck to his guns and did not betray his wife
I loved that part when Marg walked out looking absolutely horrible. My favorite saying I say all the time is “What’s love without the gross parts?” People are gross it’s just a fact. I say just find that person in your life that you don’t mind taking care of when they’re at their worst. People are not all about sex and nudity. One of these days your significant other is gonna be so sick they can’t move and what will you do then? I literally had to carry my Girlfriend to the bathroom so she could relieve herself and after she was done I had to carry her back to bed. I can’t name a single person I would do that for other than her.
I've had a porn addiction before . I can relate to this video . It's no joke . It keeps women from wanting to be around you . Ruins your functionality at work or hobbies . Causes you to simp so hard you lose respect for yourself and harm your self confidence. Sometimes shame saves you . Plus this addiction can cause people not to respect you cause your willing to get dominated by a women you barley know . It does damage . Most of all you lose your sense of identity cause you put a stranger on the pedastal in order to gain special favors.
Porn addiction is actually correlated with anti-simp behaviour (by that I mean, having unrealistic expectations of women bodies, behaviours and s x, as well as commitment issues) I don't want to judge you but porn addiction is not responsible for your selfesteem issues, many zoomers (like me) remain virgin until late ages out of personal choice due to quick relief of s xual desires through porn
I don't disagree with most of this but "dominated by a woman you barely know" doesn't sound like a bad time to me tbh. Er, unless you mean that engaging in watching a video is the actress dominating you? Edit: Reread it, my bad
One of my favorite episodes growing up. Always loved how Homer stayed faithful and now I’m 8 years into my marriage and couldn’t be happier. I grew up with a single mom, this episode really taught me a lot. ❤
In the fist part where like you were describing that homer didn’t even know anything about Mindy and talking about the brain filling in the gaps just really hit me hard and had me thinking about my past relationship is really how it started
Lust is as described by the song Hellfire sung by Judge Claude Frollo (Hunchback of Notre Dame) He doesn't really love her, he just want her for himself. But when you have it... It will never be satisfying. Some say, out of all the 7 Deadly Sins... Lust is the one you don't fight, rather you flee from it.
I’ve definitely been burned by lust’s fire before and in the end I can’t say that it was worth it. Nights I beat myself up for not being “sexy enough” and being mad at myself for falling into traps so easily because I was blinded by my attraction to someone. I’m finally healing from it because I’ve done some stupid and even some things that were harmful to myself all in the name of lust
Being a teen with little to no sexual desire really made me feel like I can make better decisions whenever I decide to get out there and find someone. It makes it so much easier to find the right person when looks aren't a driving factor, Like yeah you look cute and all but you lack the personality or trustworthiness I want in a parter. If given the option I will gladly take the less attractive but more trusting girl over the more attractive but less relatable one. Gives the phrases, "Beauty's in the eye of the beholder," and "Looks can be deceiving," a much deeper and more real meaning.
I think the TV bit also portrays how even small bits of media like that can spark temptations (and how media is oversaturated with *that* kind of thing)
@@bishopbling4115 There is a difference between fiction and reality. Because it is a cartoon, it is so over the top and absurd that it can't be taken seriously in any context. If it were more realistic with physical and mental trauma placed in the story, it wouldn't be funny in the slightest. For example, I was molested as a kid, but I can still laugh at molestation jokes because they are fake, they only have the power over me I allow them to have over me. That doesn't mean I like and or agree with every molestation joke ever made, but I can understand the context and intention, the difference, between a joke, story, and reality.
@@bishopbling4115 that: 1) its exaggerated and taken out of context, wich makes it absurd 2) satirizes the situation itself in an easy to swallow and short manner 3) its not real, wich can make the situation much less visceral and pass it as an attempt at humor rather than an actual abuse scene without punchline
Yes, sex drive is a healthy, natural thing, like hunger or thirst without the requirements. Sex can be a wonderful way to bond with others, both in high and low amounts.
Over the past couple of months, I have been dealing with my first breakup and thus succumbed to my urges after a 6-month streak. What sucks about it all was that while it only lasted a few months and you couldn't fall in love in that short of a time, we were highly compatible as we shared the same religion, hobbies, politics, and interests. Looking back, it was mostly infatuation with a hint of lust but we still cared about each other, or at least I hope she did. I still miss her but yet she just pretends like I never existed and it's like did anything that happened between us matter? I'm releasing a video about this topic to vent my thoughts and help people in the same predicament as me. Maybe we'll be back together at some point when we're wiser and older.
The best thing I’ve ever done when something similar happened to me, I gave it all to God. It was hard, but when you find complete satisfaction in your relationship with Him, and you learn to be satisfied with yourself, it a huge relief off your shoulders. I don’t know exactly what your going through, but I really hope this helps in some way. God bless, brother.
Similar situation happened to me this year as well...after the breakup it actually left me reflecting on why I chose to go out with her in the first place, though we shared some similar values and interests, she didn't "really" care what I did do...and so it was better I broke up with her as no matter how much I wanted to help or care for her. It didn't mean anything, on top of her trying to manipulate me into thinking I wasn't worth the time. It gets better though in time, relationships can be a lesson to teach ourselves what to be careful of, how to go about things, and hopefully find someone that truly does love or care about us, as well deserves the time. Meanwhile live your life to the best you can, take up hobbies, workout, eventually someone else will come along into your life and give you the respect and love your after, just takes time.
I was in a relationship for a year and a half. Broke up with her recently. Somewhat long distance, she was an hour away from me but my parents trip alot so that was a no go. It was alright at first. She slowly became manipulative, hating everyone we dealt with. Shit began to happen over the months, arguments, accusations of me cheating. I did everything to make her happy. I even gave her like, 100 dollars. It may not seem like much but, we are both young so I guess it means something. Maybe it didn't, don't know. Long story short I split up with her after multiple bad situations and her not wanting to change. Now she's with another guy. I was loyal. I never cheated or anything. So I don't get why it happened. I am trying to workout to get my mind off of it, fix my self image. It's the best thing I can do for myself.
I dunno...while some ppl may have an addiction to it and have problems with it, I don't think it means we should be going off trying to ban those websites altogether. If grown adults want to watch that stuff, hey its a free country and they should be allowed to. Look I'm not saying lust is necessarily a good thing nor am I trying to diminish the experiences of people who did have addictions to things related to it but I don't think that just banning things that are addictive left and right is the solution to the world's problems. I mean can't ANYTHING that causes pleasure become an addiction under the right circumstances? Like there are some people addicted to food and videogames but that of course doesn't mean we should be banning those. I mean, there are lots of stuff that are addicting and harmful to people that are perfectly legal in our country like cigarettes and alcohol. Those things even take lives every year. Shit, my aunt's boyfriend who used to come to church with us died of alcohol use and my mom has been hospitalized in the past because of seizures and injuries from accidents while under the influence but I don't think that means we should go back to prohibition. I like a few beers here and there and so do my sibs. Some people can handle it some can't and people who can't should definitely get help and they should get therapy to find the roots of it, especially because addiction replacement is also a thing where people give up one addiction for another
In Roman mythology, this was actually a thing explained. Cupid, the guy that's all about love, was actually only one half of it, Lust. Alone, he could make people lust for each other, but not love. He needed to be with his wife, Psyche, to make true love
I thoroughly enjoyed this video. Your take on why lust can cause issues definitely rings true. From my experience lust can arise from miscommunication from your significant other or from being tired of being alone. In both instances love was always kinder. Lusting for money and fame has created a slew of issues from clout chasers to fake gurus. Self love and unconditional love for your partner helps strengthen you from falling into lustful temptations.
Thank you for this video! I’ve been struggling with porn addiction ever since I was 9, and I think I can speak for everybody when I say this video helped open my eyes even more! God bless you! :)
I think that Homer also didn't lean enough into the people around him. I can't tell you how many times I've fallen to pornography because I wasn't surrounded with people who love me, or because I didn't have anybody to weather the temptation with. He might have been afraid to talk to Marge because he didn't want to overburden her while she was sick, or didn't want to introduce conflict, which might have been exacerbated by history. I think that us men are tempted to think that we can do big things alone, because sometimes we've had to, but during the good times, when we approach our problems in healthier, more peaceful ways, our ways of solving problems in the bad times don't work.
Lust is not pernament this has been my suffering for a every long time And i relate to homer's temptation in some way but i decided for love despite being busy
During my first relationship, I realized I loved my boyfriend, but..just couldn't act in a sexual way with him, and despite my telling him his constant touches made me physically sick, he would continue to try to take things in a sexual way. I blame myself for not being what he wanted, because he wanted me to be his wife until old age hit us both. I gave all that I could, tried to change myself for him, but it wasn't enough. I was even looking up ways to "convert" myself into a sexual person for him before we broke up due to my flaws as a human being.
@@AntiKira20 I’m not ace myself but I definitely understand how hard it must be to go through in a world where sex is the norm. And even losing relationships from it, I’m so sorry you went through that. I know there’s a lot of communities online that are just for asexual folks. It may not be the “norm”, but who said normal was a good anyway? I like weird. And I think with time you’ll find your tribe. I’m wishing you the best, internet stranger 🖤 🤍 💜
@@bails888 that’s because mammals are a very sexual species, which is the whole point being a dimorphic species. The entire point of sexual drive is to procreate because we cannot produce asexually. However you don’t necessarily need a sexual drive as all it is is a biological urge which leads to some conclusions: 1) you can be in love but not sexually attracted to them 2) just like you can be sexually attracted and not in love 3) you never really “truly” loved them. Which I know 3 sounds harsh, but us as a species throw “love around” like we have free tickets and we know what we’re doing. Of course there are other possibilities, but I don’t feel like writing a grand essay on a youtube comment. Have a great day.
one of my favorite episodes of the simpson. This episode was ingrained into my mind as a child, to see it broken down philosophically brought some emotions to me. Thank you!
This episode also perfectly demonstrates why lust is one of the seven deadly sins. As a side note I’d also like to expand on this idea about lust because sex and lust are very different things. Sex is about intimacy, closeness and being there for each other whereas lust is all about the body. Now, that being said, if both partners feel lust towards each other and they’re both fine with that then that’s fine but if someone feels lust for someone else and it’s one-sided then that can, and in most cases will, be extremely problematic as this episode and video perfectly explains.
Thank you for this. I’m struggling with this issue, but this video helps me separate love and lust. Our world is full of list, and tries to convince us, that love isn’t its own thing. Have a good day.
Wow well done. I suggest checking out the simpsons episode Pixelated and Afraid" is the 12th episode of the 33rd season. It's a beautiful episode that really displays The deep profound love between Marge and Homer.
honestly this channel is definitely one of the best video essay channels on youtube. Sunnyv2 just covers drama while when you watch this man videos, you come out with some very helpful wisdom. Keep up the great work!
As someone on the Asexual spectrum, specifically Demisexual, having a partner and friends that have the maturity to separate the two forms is an especially gratifying, especially from someone who how had developed a porn addiction because of peer pressure. Thank you for making this video, it will help me better explain the separation of love and lust with anyone new I meet.
"love is a verb" is the most valuable advice I've heard. Don't confuse love with infatuation, love is hard work, but it pays off much more than lust or infatuation could
All along I thought there was something wrong with me. I couldn't figure out love, and I can't seem to figure out lust. I feel like I'm going to be single forever, but the truth is ...I have a lot to learn. Even now, going into my 30's.
The one thing I will complain about this video is that it treats sexual desire and love as two separate things that can never go together. When in reality they are both important and need to work together. Yes, it’s dangerous to get involved with people you only have sexual desire for but can’t rely on or grow with them. At the same time, if you care about someone but have no sexual desire for them, that will make for a marriage doomed to fail because your sexuality still exists. In other words, just one or the other is not good. Both are necessary for romance. Heck, sexual desire with someone who truly knows you and has seen you at your worst yet desires you all the more is the best form of sexuality in my opinion.
I mean, looks aren’t everything since they can change be it with old age, surgery etc.. It’s the size of ones heart and obviously personality that should matter; gotta keep that in the back of my mind. This was a wonderful video and wish more people would listen to such an important message..
Lust literally ruined my life. I've been thinking about it these past months, I've been dating someone but it just doesn't feel right. I don't feel like loving them but more of just "fantasizing" about them. What's worse is that they truely love me and I only returned them with lust. I left my close friends because of it and I dont want to go into more details because it's embarassing 😔 I'm getting myself back together.
The same thing is happening to me as Homer right now, the truth is, I've always had that bad tendency that when I meet a boy who seems attractive to me out of nowhere I start imagining romantic fantasy scenarios and my brain makes me believe that I'm in love when I only met him for a few minutes and I don't really feel anything, it's just my teenage desperation to have a partner, and now this is happening to me with a boy I see every day and I want to get it out of my head, since I don't even know him
Well in that case…maybe you could try getting to know him better? Not saying you should or anything, just that it might offer some form of closure for those thoughts one way or the other. But then again I’ve never really had much of a crush on anyone before, so I don’t know what that’s like…
That's awesome that you don't want to act based on temporary feelings. I actually suggest volunteering with a church, getting into a certain genre like philosophy or something, or starting a passion project to put some of the teenage energy you have towards something that will last
Amazing video, not enough people talk about pmo and it shows. The world thinks it's ok to give into temptations, but it's the very thing stopping them from being great toward themselves and their relationships
That was really good Bro , Plus remember Marge went through the same thing as well with that bowler Sharq she was literally on her way to his place and just cleanly backed out of it after seeing a bunch of happy couples..
Lust is always known as the least hated sin because it’s only the primal urges in love. The best you can do is to have a loving relationship with someone who also loves you and lust to coincide with your love for each other.
From 13 to 23 I was a h***y teenager who did a lot of stupid things that ended up with some broken bones After I got out of my hormonal period I came to realize I wasn't interested in any of it anymore I am now 30 and openly asexual
I dunno... Maybe ur not asexual but ur brain had gotten a Dopamine Tolerance to a point any for of attraction doesn't faze u anymore. But I won't deny ur testament of experience since there are certain cases of those who are no longer interested in flings or sex but still retain attachments to their significant other (whether Hetero or LGBT). But that's called Platonism (Marriages/Couples without the Lust).
“Love that will last”. Becomes a much more blurry sight when you have a bad habit of wasting time on those who can’t see past their eyelashes. Lust after waiting in vain should be a fair entitlement
having experienced both true love lust and fake lust whenever i engage in such lust (HU or p*n) all i can ever think about is the relationships that mattered and it just destroys you because you just want that lust from your true love. indulging in fake lust was only temporary and for the moment but true love is what sticks with you forever. really relate to this vid
Yeah lust really is bad, I try and tell a lot of my friends the dangers of it but I feel like they don't listen, it used to get me into trouble but nowadays eh not so much because I realized how bad it got
My father said something about this and it’s the truth. People won’t take anything seriously until enough blood is split. He said that in regards to 9/11 in particular, as it was very clear beforehand that something wasn’t right. However nobody bothered to do anything until 2000 people died. The concept is universal frankly. You could warn people about anything and 90% of them won’t even comprehend it. People can’t see two feet in front of their face most of the time.
what a beautiful video. I was too late in my relationship and it ended because of lust. I hope anyone that is reading this please value your relationship don't give in to lust. thank you for your great videos.
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Pretty late for that bro
Honestly, I really liked Mindy as a character. Sure, she's a bit of a flirt but she immediately backs off once Homer expresses grief about sex with her and doesn't push for what is clear that she does want, which I think is a nice change from how her character would usually be portrayed in most media.
Media nowdays, this was the 90's where they still acted close to women
I agree...in most media(and in real life) a floozy like mindy wouldn't care about homers grievances or destroying his family home. It's nice to see a woman with self respect as well as respect for other peoples families.
I would never be able to cheat on a spouse nor would i be able to live with myself knowing i wrecked a family all because of my own selfish & immature compulsive actions. 🤢🤢🤢
Ironically despite the context of the show forcing her into the "homewrecker" archetype, Mindy would actually be a better love interest than most animated sitcom wives.
She's three dimensional, she has interests and hobbies, she has respect for herself and the people around her.
She's a better character than Lois Griffin, both morally and in terms of writing quality.
@@trainknut i mean yeah but you say that like Lois Griffin is hard to top
@@victoriawhitcomb6475 20 years of character development and still somehow the worst wife on TV lmao
This has always been my favorite "test Homer & Marge's relationship" episode. On the surface, Mindy is basically Homer's perfect woman. So many monkey wrenches are thrown at Homer, giving him ample opportunity to cheat with Mindy, but in the end, he does the right thing and it's so satisfying.
Thats the best part since irl a guy like homer would have cheated 2 or 3 times. But in here homer has the will power to carry the one ring to mount doom.
He kissed her tho
Lets not forget that one episode with marge and flanders that has a similar conflict to this one episode
Nah, he has experienced way bigger threats to Marge and his relationship than cheating
@@yucol5661 i like his lovable idiot character. True yes hes an idiot and can be a lazy person or an asshole but he loves his family at the end of the day. I wish family guy would get this message since peter is a selfish jackass who pretends hes cool and constantly hate his family.
Lust is a fake love,
Loyalty is a true love.
no, lust is no different than when you get hungry for ice cream or candy, there is 100% NO nutritional value to those, but you still eat them. Lust is just a mating snack. It's NOT intended to be long term or go anywhere. It is just a useless selfish treat that feels good in the moment! You don't judge people who snack alot huh? Are you fat shaming people who over eat? Would you sex shame someone who just enjoys physical sex with attractive people? There is NO difference! Fat people who eat too much are no different than horny people who fuck too much, if you hate on one you have to hate on another! Not everything you need has to have meaning to it. This video is just some incel never gets laid ass talk. Don't you DARE tell someone else who you live or what is right for them. I am living proof that "love" isn't real and does NOT last, but all those times I've had sex are pure! I dare you to tell me Hue Hefner wasn't happy and his life didn't have meaning! He didn't have "love" he made an empire on LUST and died a GOD amung men!
Love is I wanna be next to you
Lust is I wanna be inside you
It would destroy your mind if you try to hide your desires. Loyalty is good but you shouldn't hide your sexual interests with a person that doesn't desire you in a sexual way.
Read about dead bedrooms and how it affects the mind of those people over the years for a forced celibacy.
@@MrBrandonStar fax cuz
@@devinweathers7520 yup
lust is temporary
doom is eternal
Haha
Heavy Metal intensifies
rip and tear....
@@THEBallsyJohn grogdin freenis
@@THEBallsyJohn Until it's done
I cried while I watched this. I broke up with my ex, and our relationship was heavily lust driven. She cheated on me with her friend. I'm still devastated. She broke my heart when I knew about it. I knew her because of her sexual drives, that coincidentally matched mines. I broke up with her almost two months ago, and stopped talking to her at all exactly a month ago.
My therapist now understood why it is so hard for me. A person can't suffer too much because of a long distance 5 month relationship. Until he knew about the amount of lust we had involved.
Lust kills. Love heals.
Love ain’t going to fix anything it’s just a feel good chemical that lasts for a few seconds.Your lying to yourself trying to make your feel good to decrease your serotonin levels get over yourself and quitting giving in to chemicals.
You cried to a Simpsons reference to your love life? 🤣 Jesus Christ!
@@ManyLegions88 Did you not read the rest of his story?
It’s been two weeks, but I wish you the best. You are not your lust or your sex drive. Because not only do you have a body, you have both soul and spirit.
@@ManyLegions88 weak man
Lust is temporary, but love lasts for a lifetime.
Love can also be temporary
Love is just chemical that only lasts for a few seconds
@@GrimReaper-eq9vp a chemical reaction that releases pheromones 🤔
@@itsDjjayyArt I think the argument here is that if it’s temporary it’s not true love
@@GrimReaper-eq9vp agains with this bs, ok mr edge let see pain is just chemical reaction, so if you cut your leg, not big deal its just pain, chemical reactions
Lust is the devil’s most underrated weapon. Right next to comfort
You’re lame as hell ok 😹😹
Stop blaming the devil for everything humans do, If this imaginary evil entity even exist! Blame ourselves and solve our problems
@@mebansharaisantasticokhong7312 The devil most certainly exists, but you are certainly correct either way. We must learn to accept that we as humans make mistakes and fall to temptation brought on by ourselves. This is the sinful nature we hold.
Yes
@@aholyspaniel9624 the devil only exists in our minds. The name for this specific devil is Slaanesh
This is why I love the season 1 episode "Life on the fast lane" where Marge starts fantasizing about her French bowling teacher. Because like Homer, Marge had to choose between a one time good thing, or a good thing that'll last a long time. I think you should look into that episode too! Thanks for another great video!
I watched that episode as well, and IMO, it doesn't hold. The events that led to Marge's encounter with her lover involved Homer sabotaging her birthday celebration and not feeling sorry about it, which is a jerk move in my opinion. That being said, you can't blame Marge for getting swept off her feet so easily. In Homer's episode, you can kinda understand why he still wants to be with his wife, because as off-putting as she may be with that nasty cold, he can tell she was still making an effort to keep the family and marriage together. In contrast, Marge only stayed with her husband in the end because the site of happy couples was enough to make her feel guilty.
That was an interesting episode because it taps into Marge’s unrealised aspirations; lives she could’ve lived.
I remember there was one episode where Marge writes a romance novel, inserting herself as an unfulfilled woman married to a lazy, temperamental drunk (Homer) and she falls for a ripped, kind-hearted, handsome man (Flanders). Marge is somewhat put-off by it, even finding herself lusting after Flanders. At the end of the episode, when Homer finally reads the book and puts two and two together, he confronts Flanders and asks for advice to be a better husband.
@@sxatcychan1988 honestly Marge isnt perfect but I think she deserves better than homer. No hate to homer but marge literally takes on like 90 percent of the effort while he drinks. As a woman i always felt bad for her but they love each other and hes loyal. She saw something in him and she stayed so good for them
@@SaiyanGamer95 well its nice that he tried for her tho
" Drugs are very, very bad"
"If you do them, its very sad!"
BARS 🔥
Just like criminals,criminals, criminals oh
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It's wrong though
Put that on a T-shirt
This was going to be the motivation for the villain in my book. It was going to show the difference between love and lust and two people can have some of the same experiences but the changes between the two different paths.
Judge Claude Frollo - from Hellfire (Hunchback of Notre Dame).
@THE INFINITIVERSE ™️ SAGA FRANCHISE He's a villain that has no love in his heart but developed lust for Esme... He just doesn't realize it because of evil clouded in his heart.
Is this book available?
Nice tell us what the name of your book will be
@@jambothejoyful2966 It was going to be a comic book series called “Scarlett Saber.” I’m working on drawing the characters. The point I brought up is going to be a side story.
I have people who tell me I should sleep around more and that it’s okay to do so. I never listened to them but that temptation was there. Thank you so much for this video. This proves to me that waiting for that special lady will be worth it.
I can very much relate, you'll have opportunities as well, and you will be tempted but what matters is your actions, don't do it and you'll be fine.
@@CabronazoMotivado great comment, appreciate the advice 💯
There is nothing wrong with it, assuming your not in a closed relationship. Do what's right for you, but don't apply that to everyone.
@@Wyrm3 appreciate your perspective on it 🫡
@@demetrioavalos7975 hope I didn't come off to preachy. I just think everyone has a different way of viewing it. Personally, I'd say I agree that I prefer to have a closer connection, rather than many of them.
This really touched me. Lust is decietful...love is careful. Lust is temporary,but love is forever. I'm 26 and never had a girlfriend,I'm a virgin,for 15 years I've been struggling with adult entertainment videos....at one point I wanted companionship and love so bad I nearly ran away from home. No matter how hard I try I still think of sex,women and I wish it would stop,I feel like a freak
Don't let lust and your desire for women control you. Find a life purpose and a hobby. You find what you want once your focus is elsewhere.
Pray. God can heal all fr. Jesus got you. Don’t try to heal alone: seek God. He can literally heal in seconds what you’ve been struggling with for years. I pray you find peace and experience the love God has for you and from the companion He made for you.
@@godiswithyou.5358 2nd this, recommend reading the Bible, so far I have found incredible insight. For example Romans 8:4-5:
“in order that the righteous requirement
of the law might be fulfilled in us, who
walk not according to the flesh but
according to the Spirit. For those who
live according to the flesh set their
minds on the things of the flesh, but
those who live according to the Spirit
set their minds on the things of the
Spirit. For to set the mind on the flesh
is death, but to set the mind on the
Spirit is life and peace.”
Freaky.
This is sp weird I am almost the same exact way. I'm also 26 and have struggled the same way you have.
That episode was so good fam. It’s not even funny. A lot of people end up married to the one they love most but still end up meeting other people that suite their ideal interest. And it’s so frustrating because you want to stay loyal so bad to your partner but you also want to know what it’s like with the other person. I mean sure there’s polygamy but that doesn’t float so well for most couples or spouses. This episode showed how there’s always a choice and that you don’t have to give in to temptation but that also if you really feel like it’s not working out with your partner for good reasons then you’re not wrong for wanting to be happy. Homer was happy with Marge and loved her dearly, that’s why deep down in his heart he couldn’t be with Mindy romantically or physically. Marge is his one and only.
What if Marge would not have had any sexual interest anymore. how long do you think he'll neglect his desires? Maybe 8-15 years, that's a lot of time hurting yourself if you spouse does not allow you to watch porn or an open relationship. It would be a long forced celibacy
@@javiermendoza5173 If one spouse becomes no longer interested in sex while the other still wants it, it would cause a big rift in the marriage. Although something like that would be rare in a relationship since most people prefer to go with their basic human instinct.
@@tytheaniman497 I don’t think it would be so much weird, In a recent survey of BodyLogic from couples betwren 18 to 65, 51% did not have sex over a year. The disparity of the libido can cause even more problems in the couple when porn is seeing as a bad thing and do not even talk about open relationships.
@@tytheaniman497 very interesting 🤔 so how would you handle that situation
Yeah there’s always a choice even in these tough scenarios. Personally if you aren’t happy in your marriage or relationship and rly considering being with someone else, I’d say divorce/breakup. Like you said, it’s okay to want to be happy and satisfied. Cheating is never right though. The only time I can think it’s justified is if you are in a abusive relationship you literally cannot leave and you have voiced wanting to leave. Other than those unique scenarios I’d say divorce/break up is the true honest way to go about it. Cheating is just selfish and dishonest
The thing that no one tells you about love is that eventually butterflies fade, and at some point it just feels very normal and comfortable to be around that person. That’s why lust and infatuation is such a problem, because it’s the novelty of feelings those strong urges all over again. It’s horribly addicting and you shouldn’t let yourself become obsessed with it. The thing is, so long as you and your spouse still get along very well and still care about each other, have remained loyal to each other, and you have more good times than bad together then that’s all that matters.
I’ve been with the man I love for 10 years now, only getting officially married last year. We’ve been through alot together and there’s no one on this planet that I’d ever want more than him. And I know that if I were ever to lose him, especially through some dumb mistake made on my end, I would never be able to live and be happy. Because I’d lose the one person on this planet that genuinely knows every messed up thing I’ve done, every mistake I’ve made, knows every flaw and insecurity I have and knows every messed up part of me, and still looks at me everyday and tells me he loves me.
That’s why when I found myself being attracted to a friend of his, it made me feel such horrible guilt. Of course I never acted on that attraction, but brain had intrusive thoughts, telling me I didn’t love my husband and it caused me to have a panic attack over it. That guilt and fear made me believe it was true for a time and it hurt so much. I didn’t ever want to do anything to hurt the love of my life. The guilt is as so bad I couldn’t even look at our wedding picture without feeling guilty. Of course, I told my husband the issues I was having and he listened, and understood. He knows I have problems with anxiety and depression . I had to tell him many times how sorry I was, the horrible thoughts that would run through my mind that I never wanted to think of, etc. They terrified me. It took me a long time to really register his advice to me. That having bad thoughts doesn’t equate to truth, or being a bad person. It’s the actions you choose to commit that make you a bad person. And I also realized that love is not a feeling, it’s a choice you make. I went through so much uncertainty, and I questioned so much that I was sure of in my mind all because of that one panic attack. But even through all that pain and guilt, I never went a single day without making him know that I loved and cared about him greatly and did my best to keep taking care of him. He means the world to me and I never want to lose him.
I’ve only recently begun to get over all the paranoia and guilt. Even now I find it hard to even look at men my age without feeling guilt or afraid. I’m not even attracted to them either, I just have a perpetual fear of making that mistake again.
Very powerful
This comment is so insightful, thank you. As a high schooler, I've been having the same thoughts about women my age too, and I feel it is hurting me mentally. I don't want it to be all about what I think about a woman's appearance at first glance, and it has been messing with me for a while. Your comment helped me realize ideas and concepts I couldn't perceive on my own. Thank you, kind and knowledgeable stranger. I hope you and your husband stay together for as long as you both desire, and that you stay strong against the slight disillusion of lust, you have helped me a lot.
okay this… this is what i love about the internet, just being able to share experiences with random people on the internet and being able to resonate and understand something with them is just, wonderful. thank you for sharing this, i will definitely remember this
This type of struggle can be characteristic of “Pure O OCD,” have you looked into it?
@@whimsicalaubrey1413 I didn’t until just now 😂 lol but the more I look into the more it sounds like my issue. I’ve had alot of problems with thinking I’m going to do something terrible merely just for baseless reasons or simply because in my brain, it goes “you thought it=its true/you will end up doing it”. Honestly though I think I’ve gotten over it after a good 6 months lol my brain still tries to do it to me but now it’s just not guilt inducing me. Probably because I spent so much time realizing my thoughts don’t equate to truth lol
I almost cried watching this, I try to tell people about this kind of topic but they don’t understand. They don’t want to listen.
Love how you incorporate cartoons into life. Great stuff!
Christians are very cartoonish. Well they haven't always been. Cartoons used to be evil!
The simpsons is full of these sorts of lessons
@@seemslegit9078 No wonder it was so popular..
This really shows how much of a deep character Homer is when the writers care.
He really suffered on of the most difficult temptations and could have actually gotten away with it, but he stuck to his guns and did not betray his wife
I loved that part when Marg walked out looking absolutely horrible. My favorite saying I say all the time is “What’s love without the gross parts?” People are gross it’s just a fact. I say just find that person in your life that you don’t mind taking care of when they’re at their worst. People are not all about sex and nudity. One of these days your significant other is gonna be so sick they can’t move and what will you do then? I literally had to carry my Girlfriend to the bathroom so she could relieve herself and after she was done I had to carry her back to bed. I can’t name a single person I would do that for other than her.
exactly.
I've had a porn addiction before . I can relate to this video . It's no joke . It keeps women from wanting to be around you . Ruins your functionality at work or hobbies . Causes you to simp so hard you lose respect for yourself and harm your self confidence. Sometimes shame saves you . Plus this addiction can cause people not to respect you cause your willing to get dominated by a women you barley know . It does damage . Most of all you lose your sense of identity cause you put a stranger on the pedastal in order to gain special favors.
Porn aint no joke. Self acceptance and discipline lead to real happiness.
Porn is also proven to cause brain damage
Self discipline really, it depends where you wanna go
Porn addiction is actually correlated with anti-simp behaviour (by that I mean, having unrealistic expectations of women bodies, behaviours and s x, as well as commitment issues) I don't want to judge you but porn addiction is not responsible for your selfesteem issues, many zoomers (like me) remain virgin until late ages out of personal choice due to quick relief of s xual desires through porn
I don't disagree with most of this but "dominated by a woman you barely know" doesn't sound like a bad time to me tbh. Er, unless you mean that engaging in watching a video is the actress dominating you?
Edit: Reread it, my bad
I always remember this episode since it is proof that Even when tempted,Homer is fully loyal to Marge no matter what
One of my favorite episodes growing up. Always loved how Homer stayed faithful and now I’m 8 years into my marriage and couldn’t be happier. I grew up with a single mom, this episode really taught me a lot. ❤
In the fist part where like you were describing that homer didn’t even know anything about Mindy and talking about the brain filling in the gaps just really hit me hard and had me thinking about my past relationship is really how it started
Mindy was Homer Ajacent. Sometimes you find a person exactly like you and sometimes that person seems like a better partner but not the best match.
Lust is as described by the song Hellfire sung by Judge Claude Frollo (Hunchback of Notre Dame)
He doesn't really love her, he just want her for himself. But when you have it... It will never be satisfying.
Some say, out of all the 7 Deadly Sins... Lust is the one you don't fight, rather you flee from it.
Just when I started rewatching Simpsons I saw this video. The universe really is an amazing place.
I’ve definitely been burned by lust’s fire before and in the end I can’t say that it was worth it. Nights I beat myself up for not being “sexy enough” and being mad at myself for falling into traps so easily because I was blinded by my attraction to someone. I’m finally healing from it because I’ve done some stupid and even some things that were harmful to myself all in the name of lust
Being a teen with little to no sexual desire really made me feel like I can make better decisions whenever I decide to get out there and find someone. It makes it so much easier to find the right person when looks aren't a driving factor, Like yeah you look cute and all but you lack the personality or trustworthiness I want in a parter. If given the option I will gladly take the less attractive but more trusting girl over the more attractive but less relatable one.
Gives the phrases, "Beauty's in the eye of the beholder," and "Looks can be deceiving," a much deeper and more real meaning.
I think the TV bit also portrays how even small bits of media like that can spark temptations (and how media is oversaturated with *that* kind of thing)
this makes me forget that homer still chokes his child out of blind anger and never thinks for a second that this is a bad thing to do to his child
To be fair, that's more of a running joke that's played for laughs.
@@lucasmartinez5703 It's kinda twisted how child abuse is played for laughs.
@@bishopbling4115 There is a difference between fiction and reality. Because it is a cartoon, it is so over the top and absurd that it can't be taken seriously in any context. If it were more realistic with physical and mental trauma placed in the story, it wouldn't be funny in the slightest. For example, I was molested as a kid, but I can still laugh at molestation jokes because they are fake, they only have the power over me I allow them to have over me. That doesn't mean I like and or agree with every molestation joke ever made, but I can understand the context and intention, the difference, between a joke, story, and reality.
@@TheCalmPsycho what's funny about child abuse?
@@bishopbling4115 that:
1) its exaggerated and taken out of context, wich makes it absurd
2) satirizes the situation itself in an easy to swallow and short manner
3) its not real, wich can make the situation much less visceral and pass it as an attempt at humor rather than an actual abuse scene without punchline
"The dark side of lust"
You mean there's a non-dark side?
Yes, sex drive is a healthy, natural thing, like hunger or thirst without the requirements. Sex can be a wonderful way to bond with others, both in high and low amounts.
@@Wyrm3 🤮
@@kommissarrex1193 Unless you’re asexual, obviously…
@@Wyrm3 shouldn’t I bond with someone, BEFORE having with sex someone
@@purpleemerald5299 shouldn’t I bond with someone before getting physical?
Over the past couple of months, I have been dealing with my first breakup and thus succumbed to my urges after a 6-month streak. What sucks about it all was that while it only lasted a few months and you couldn't fall in love in that short of a time, we were highly compatible as we shared the same religion, hobbies, politics, and interests. Looking back, it was mostly infatuation with a hint of lust but we still cared about each other, or at least I hope she did. I still miss her but yet she just pretends like I never existed and it's like did anything that happened between us matter? I'm releasing a video about this topic to vent my thoughts and help people in the same predicament as me.
Maybe we'll be back together at some point when we're wiser and older.
The best thing I’ve ever done when something similar happened to me, I gave it all to God. It was hard, but when you find complete satisfaction in your relationship with Him, and you learn to be satisfied with yourself, it a huge relief off your shoulders. I don’t know exactly what your going through, but I really hope this helps in some way. God bless, brother.
I think they broke up with you because of your lousy personality 😹😹
Similar situation happened to me this year as well...after the breakup it actually left me reflecting on why I chose to go out with her in the first place, though we shared some similar values and interests, she didn't "really" care what I did do...and so it was better I broke up with her as no matter how much I wanted to help or care for her. It didn't mean anything, on top of her trying to manipulate me into thinking I wasn't worth the time. It gets better though in time, relationships can be a lesson to teach ourselves what to be careful of, how to go about things, and hopefully find someone that truly does love or care about us, as well deserves the time. Meanwhile live your life to the best you can, take up hobbies, workout, eventually someone else will come along into your life and give you the respect and love your after, just takes time.
Bro, literally same, like what the heck. Much luck to you brotha. Continue to focus on yourself and be yourself 🧡
I was in a relationship for a year and a half. Broke up with her recently. Somewhat long distance, she was an hour away from me but my parents trip alot so that was a no go. It was alright at first. She slowly became manipulative, hating everyone we dealt with. Shit began to happen over the months, arguments, accusations of me cheating. I did everything to make her happy. I even gave her like, 100 dollars. It may not seem like much but, we are both young so I guess it means something. Maybe it didn't, don't know. Long story short I split up with her after multiple bad situations and her not wanting to change. Now she's with another guy. I was loyal. I never cheated or anything. So I don't get why it happened.
I am trying to workout to get my mind off of it, fix my self image. It's the best thing I can do for myself.
This video was executed brilliantly….
I see a big Christ shaped hole in it, but it isnt lacking in truth. As of what was said that is...
Agreed
Great video, those lustful websites shouldn’t even be allowed to watch, it sucks how much those sites has brainwashed a lot of ppl
True 👍
I dunno...while some ppl may have an addiction to it and have problems with it, I don't think it means we should be going off trying to ban those websites altogether. If grown adults want to watch that stuff, hey its a free country and they should be allowed to. Look I'm not saying lust is necessarily a good thing nor am I trying to diminish the experiences of people who did have addictions to things related to it but I don't think that just banning things that are addictive left and right is the solution to the world's problems. I mean can't ANYTHING that causes pleasure become an addiction under the right circumstances? Like there are some people addicted to food and videogames but that of course doesn't mean we should be banning those. I mean, there are lots of stuff that are addicting and harmful to people that are perfectly legal in our country like cigarettes and alcohol. Those things even take lives every year. Shit, my aunt's boyfriend who used to come to church with us died of alcohol use and my mom has been hospitalized in the past because of seizures and injuries from accidents while under the influence but I don't think that means we should go back to prohibition. I like a few beers here and there and so do my sibs. Some people can handle it some can't and people who can't should definitely get help and they should get therapy to find the roots of it, especially because addiction replacement is also a thing where people give up one addiction for another
This channel is possibly one of my favorite just because of all the lessons I have been taught by it
In Roman mythology, this was actually a thing explained. Cupid, the guy that's all about love, was actually only one half of it, Lust. Alone, he could make people lust for each other, but not love. He needed to be with his wife, Psyche, to make true love
Holy moly you got Jordan green in this video madness!
I thoroughly enjoyed this video. Your take on why lust can cause issues definitely rings true. From my experience lust can arise from miscommunication from your significant other or from being tired of being alone. In both instances love was always kinder. Lusting for money and fame has created a slew of issues from clout chasers to fake gurus. Self love and unconditional love for your partner helps strengthen you from falling into lustful temptations.
While I don't judge people who sleep around, those short moments of lust can never compare to the long lasting moment of love with a loyal partner.
Homer might be dumb, but he's a family man. I respect him more than Peter Griffin, Randy Marsh, or any other cartoon dads.
Don't forget Bob from Bob's burgers
@@animelvr99Bob is also a good dad too.
@@breadmaneatslegos5030 sideshow Bob? the one who wants to stalk and kill Bart?
@@animelvr99 no I’m talking about Bob from bobs burger the dad from that show
@@breadmaneatslegos5030 oh yeah. true lol. good dad. great husband. better cook.
Thank you for this video! I’ve been struggling with porn addiction ever since I was 9, and I think I can speak for everybody when I say this video helped open my eyes even more! God bless you! :)
Dude I’ve been struggling with lust for years man. It’s so hard. Gotta keep fighting and hope for true love
This is one of the if not the best video essay on the internet
I think that Homer also didn't lean enough into the people around him. I can't tell you how many times I've fallen to pornography because I wasn't surrounded with people who love me, or because I didn't have anybody to weather the temptation with. He might have been afraid to talk to Marge because he didn't want to overburden her while she was sick, or didn't want to introduce conflict, which might have been exacerbated by history. I think that us men are tempted to think that we can do big things alone, because sometimes we've had to, but during the good times, when we approach our problems in healthier, more peaceful ways, our ways of solving problems in the bad times don't work.
Lust is not pernament this has been my suffering for a every long time
And i relate to homer's temptation in some way but i decided for love despite being busy
This was a very well said and well put together video. I liked the part where you were saying “lust is__, love is __” that was very eye-opening
Can’t wait for the “that time Marge almost cheated on Homer” video to go with this one 😂😂😂
Did she really cheat on homer?
Didn't she almost with Ned flanders
No it was with that bowling dude
During my first relationship, I realized I loved my boyfriend, but..just couldn't act in a sexual way with him, and despite my telling him his constant touches made me physically sick, he would continue to try to take things in a sexual way. I blame myself for not being what he wanted, because he wanted me to be his wife until old age hit us both. I gave all that I could, tried to change myself for him, but it wasn't enough. I was even looking up ways to "convert" myself into a sexual person for him before we broke up due to my flaws as a human being.
You’re not flawed, but asexual maybe?
@@bails888 Yes, I consider myself asexual. I just wish sometimes I was normal like other people.
@@AntiKira20 I’m not ace myself but I definitely understand how hard it must be to go through in a world where sex is the norm. And even losing relationships from it, I’m so sorry you went through that. I know there’s a lot of communities online that are just for asexual folks. It may not be the “norm”, but who said normal was a good anyway? I like weird. And I think with time you’ll find your tribe. I’m wishing you the best, internet stranger 🖤 🤍 💜
@@bails888 Thank you very much.
@@bails888 that’s because mammals are a very sexual species, which is the whole point being a dimorphic species. The entire point of sexual drive is to procreate because we cannot produce asexually. However you don’t necessarily need a sexual drive as all it is is a biological urge which leads to some conclusions:
1) you can be in love but not sexually attracted to them
2) just like you can be sexually attracted and not in love
3) you never really “truly” loved them.
Which I know 3 sounds harsh, but us as a species throw “love around” like we have free tickets and we know what we’re doing.
Of course there are other possibilities, but I don’t feel like writing a grand essay on a youtube comment. Have a great day.
one of my favorite episodes of the simpson. This episode was ingrained into my mind as a child, to see it broken down philosophically brought some emotions to me. Thank you!
Yeah a brand video looking forward to your content makes me so happier and smiling
Holy shit... Well structured video. I had this idea too, but you just pulled them right out my brain and put it in a nice form
very epic
8:47 totally lost the oportunity to say "Lust is temporary, but love is eternal"
thank you, Made2Express and Jordan Green. i dont think you both realize how much i needed this video - just as i didnt realize i needed this video
This episode also perfectly demonstrates why lust is one of the seven deadly sins.
As a side note I’d also like to expand on this idea about lust because sex and lust are very different things. Sex is about intimacy, closeness and being there for each other whereas lust is all about the body.
Now, that being said, if both partners feel lust towards each other and they’re both fine with that then that’s fine but if someone feels lust for someone else and it’s one-sided then that can, and in most cases will, be extremely problematic as this episode and video perfectly explains.
Thank you for this. I’m struggling with this issue, but this video helps me separate love and lust. Our world is full of list, and tries to convince us, that love isn’t its own thing. Have a good day.
Damn, society needs to stop romanticising lists.
Wow well done. I suggest checking out the simpsons episode Pixelated and Afraid" is the 12th episode of the 33rd season. It's a beautiful episode that really displays The deep profound love between Marge and Homer.
Lust is not Love ❤
I remember this episode as a kid, and how I felt so bad watching him with this girl. And how I felt so good that Homer didn’t cheat on Marge.
honestly this channel is definitely one of the best video essay channels on youtube. Sunnyv2 just covers drama while when you watch this man videos, you come out with some very helpful wisdom. Keep up the great work!
In the climate of social media right now this video was deffo a must
Ngl, kinda agree tho..
As someone on the Asexual spectrum, specifically Demisexual, having a partner and friends that have the maturity to separate the two forms is an especially gratifying, especially from someone who how had developed a porn addiction because of peer pressure.
Thank you for making this video, it will help me better explain the separation of love and lust with anyone new I meet.
How does it work with your partner? Are you into an open relationship?
I ❤ this channel. My favorite cartoons + addressing emotional/mental health. Keep going!
"love is a verb" is the most valuable advice I've heard. Don't confuse love with infatuation, love is hard work, but it pays off much more than lust or infatuation could
Love makes you better yourself. But people mistake other things for love and become worse people.
Very well put
Lust is not love. Anyone who confuses lust with love is a fool. There is no such thing as "sexual love".
All along I thought there was something wrong with me. I couldn't figure out love, and I can't seem to figure out lust.
I feel like I'm going to be single forever, but the truth is ...I have a lot to learn. Even now, going into my 30's.
Underrated Video
The one thing I will complain about this video is that it treats sexual desire and love as two separate things that can never go together. When in reality they are both important and need to work together.
Yes, it’s dangerous to get involved with people you only have sexual desire for but can’t rely on or grow with them. At the same time, if you care about someone but have no sexual desire for them, that will make for a marriage doomed to fail because your sexuality still exists.
In other words, just one or the other is not good. Both are necessary for romance. Heck, sexual desire with someone who truly knows you and has seen you at your worst yet desires you all the more is the best form of sexuality in my opinion.
One of the best videos I've ever seen in my entire life!
Thank you
I fear not the man who has sex’d 10,000 women once, but the man who has sex’d one woman 10,000 times
-Bruce Lee
I mean, looks aren’t everything since they can change be it with old age, surgery etc.. It’s the size of ones heart and obviously personality that should matter; gotta keep that in the back of my mind. This was a wonderful video and wish more people would listen to such an important message..
Lust literally ruined my life.
I've been thinking about it these past months, I've been dating someone but it just doesn't feel right. I don't feel like loving them but more of just "fantasizing" about them. What's worse is that they truely love me and I only returned them with lust. I left my close friends because of it and I dont want to go into more details because it's embarassing 😔
I'm getting myself back together.
Thank you so much for this awakening.
The same thing is happening to me as Homer right now, the truth is, I've always had that bad tendency that when I meet a boy who seems attractive to me out of nowhere I start imagining romantic fantasy scenarios and my brain makes me believe that I'm in love when I only met him for a few minutes and I don't really feel anything, it's just my teenage desperation to have a partner, and now this is happening to me with a boy I see every day and I want to get it out of my head, since I don't even know him
Well in that case…maybe you could try getting to know him better? Not saying you should or anything, just that it might offer some form of closure for those thoughts one way or the other. But then again I’ve never really had much of a crush on anyone before, so I don’t know what that’s like…
I mean if you're a teenager it's okay. Hormones you know
That's awesome that you don't want to act based on temporary feelings. I actually suggest volunteering with a church, getting into a certain genre like philosophy or something, or starting a passion project to put some of the teenage energy you have towards something that will last
*And the drama in the Simpsons family continues…*
The sonic music in the background tho 👌🏽
3:07 you gotta love the sneaky placement of spyro 3's agent 9 track
Bro at 5:43 he said pause and my power went out 😂😂
I loved this so much. Thank you.
U made my day
Lust is selfish.
Love is selfless.
Having sex with prostitutes is disgusting and egotistical.
The grass is greener.
Love how you included Pom! because you haven’t really mentioned it
Thanks for making this video, society needs more of this kind. Your description inspired me, please keep bringing thoughtful videos
For all his flaws, homer handles this situation better than a majority of people nowadays
you may or may not have just changed my life
Amazing video, not enough people talk about pmo and it shows. The world thinks it's ok to give into temptations, but it's the very thing stopping them from being great toward themselves and their relationships
That was really good Bro , Plus remember Marge went through the same thing as well with that bowler Sharq she was literally on her way to his place and just cleanly backed out of it after seeing a bunch of happy couples..
Homer is a freaking gigachad. No matter how much of an idiot he can be, he will always have my respect.
This world needs this message
Lust is always known as the least hated sin because it’s only the primal urges in love. The best you can do is to have a loving relationship with someone who also loves you and lust to coincide with your love for each other.
00:57 what a bop
From 13 to 23 I was a h***y teenager who did a lot of stupid things that ended up with some broken bones
After I got out of my hormonal period I came to realize I wasn't interested in any of it anymore
I am now 30 and openly asexual
Ayyyy! I’ve never had one of those, but I’m ace too! 🤝🤝🤝
☝ 2 people with Mental illness.
I dunno... Maybe ur not asexual but ur brain had gotten a Dopamine Tolerance to a point any for of attraction doesn't faze u anymore.
But I won't deny ur testament of experience since there are certain cases of those who are no longer interested in flings or sex but still retain attachments to their significant other (whether Hetero or LGBT).
But that's called Platonism (Marriages/Couples without the Lust).
Nothing wrong with being hairy
I wish I was asexual
I work in shoppers and I just see so many women with huge behinds and it just messes up my focus and mental health
Love does not last forever. But love CAN last forever if you choose for it to do so everyday.
“Love that will last”. Becomes a much more blurry sight when you have a bad habit of wasting time on those who can’t see past their eyelashes. Lust after waiting in vain should be a fair entitlement
Thats an awful mentality.
Love is patient. Patience... There is no waiting in vain, there's just waiting.
@@Yipper64 some people be waiting their whole life, easily mistake em wasting their whole life. For real
@@CareerDropout. would you care when youre dead?
@@Yipper64 that’s the thing I’ve always cared, the love ain’t reciprocated until you rich, famous or dead.
@@Yipper64 love can kill you, too you know. You do stupid thing for strong sensations, physical or emotional
Yll bodied this video 10/10 much respect man
having experienced both true love lust and fake lust whenever i engage in such lust (HU or p*n) all i can ever think about is the relationships that mattered and it just destroys you because you just want that lust from your true love. indulging in fake lust was only temporary and for the moment but true love is what sticks with you forever.
really relate to this vid
Oh my gosh!!. Thank you for mentioning that channel!! Didnt know it existed!! I wanna cry..thank you :(
Yeah lust really is bad, I try and tell a lot of my friends the dangers of it but I feel like they don't listen, it used to get me into trouble but nowadays eh not so much because I realized how bad it got
My father said something about this and it’s the truth. People won’t take anything seriously until enough blood is split. He said that in regards to 9/11 in particular, as it was very clear beforehand that something wasn’t right. However nobody bothered to do anything until 2000 people died.
The concept is universal frankly. You could warn people about anything and 90% of them won’t even comprehend it. People can’t see two feet in front of their face most of the time.
what a beautiful video. I was too late in my relationship and it ended because of lust. I hope anyone that is reading this please value your relationship don't give in to lust. thank you for your great videos.
I have a pmo addiction and I approve this message