Dating Younger Men: Expect the Unexpected

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  • @genevievetalavera8414
    @genevievetalavera8414 8 років тому +104

    I love to listen to your videos, I am married to a man who is 21 years younger than me, we met 13 years ago, and yet we feel that our relationship is new and fresh. You present the topic very realistically and respectfully.

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  8 років тому +4

      HI Genevieve. This is a beautiful entry. Thank you for sharing this with all of us. I wish you and your partner many happy years together!

    • @newcastlewest8397
      @newcastlewest8397 7 років тому +1

      +Susan Winter months it's hard find a cougar on cougar dating sites especially when dating sites are scams I like ur video thank u for ur advice

    • @stargateorion1912
      @stargateorion1912 6 років тому +3

      Genevieve Talavera really?
      I am seeing a man 20 years younger than me

    • @michaelobendo5721
      @michaelobendo5721 6 років тому +3

      Stargate Orion you say 20...and am seeing 27...she is nice

    • @emmaalvarez1794
      @emmaalvarez1794 5 років тому

      same lol!

  • @dialmstyle
    @dialmstyle 3 роки тому +13

    A few of the younger men I’ve dated have told me to not take the lead and let them do the things. The men who are my age or slightly older want me to cater to them and tell me what they expect…and are wounded.

  • @ebrimasillah3380
    @ebrimasillah3380 7 років тому +51

    All ages need love. Age barrier doesn't matter. Humanity is most important. Enjoy to the maximum, one needs love

  • @DayaTom
    @DayaTom 7 років тому +76

    I started dating a 22 year old man, and I'm 34! So glad I allowed myself to go for it.
    It's only been date five, but he's amazing so far, treats me so much better than men my age.
    Men in their 30s in my area have this distorted view about love and relationships.. most are Players or jaded as you said.
    Being single is their religion here, in Israel.

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  7 років тому +3

      Thanks for your input!

    • @crystinamarie1
      @crystinamarie1 6 років тому +9

      How is it going? I'm 32 and met a 23 year old man. He's really fun and hot but I'm terrified. I'm still talking to him, but rather carefully. Any advice?

    • @sakuralilith1
      @sakuralilith1 6 років тому +8

      How did it go? I am 35 and I met a 23 one, so far it has been really nice the connection but facing the fact he is much younger is difficult

    • @Los-kq1ik
      @Los-kq1ik 6 років тому +1

      Daya Tom haha. Wait til you start having problems after having dated him before the year is up. Women are such morons thinking younger men are open minded? Lol. They want a mommy figure to spoil them until your patience runs out. What about a year sweetie pie you'll see how much your relationship sucks when he finds a younger woman who knows what's best.

    • @senseijen8963
      @senseijen8963 5 років тому +8

      Oh my god I am in the same exact situation... I thought older men would be more mature but they have failed me one to many times.

  • @nineoneoh
    @nineoneoh 7 років тому +55

    I am 22, i have dated a woman who was 42 when I was 20-21. It was amazing experience, unfortunatly we had to go our separate ways, But I would love to fall in love with another older woman some day

  • @dreamreaderpsychicmediumta6482
    @dreamreaderpsychicmediumta6482 8 років тому +34

    You have confirmed what I am finding out about my relationship with my younger man 19 years difference, he is opening my eyes to his world and I open myself to it, I'm really glad you spoke on this video I'm learning a lot and to embrace the new thank you Susan I have watched all of your videos. So insightful thank you!

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  8 років тому +1

      I love reading this, Enedina. I'm so happy for you!!!!!

    • @vizii8111
      @vizii8111 5 років тому +1

      Thank you for posting your experience. How long have you been together? I'm starting a 17 years apart relationship and it's a bit frightening.

    • @sunflower4418
      @sunflower4418 5 років тому

      How old are both of you?

  • @sachawalton4137
    @sachawalton4137 5 років тому +8

    This is refreshing. I recently met a younger a 22 year difference. I actually like him. I'm pretty much just having fun, but he intrigues me and every time I'm around him I forget about our age difference. He's tender, masculine, chivalrous, and so much more. I can see myself with him long term, but I do get in my head a little about the age gap because of wondering what others may say if things got serious with us.

    • @lancematthews624
      @lancematthews624 6 місяців тому

      Lady take my advice, see yourself as that fertile soil, younger seeds crave for you, therefore, please free yourself from this society of toxicity, lived your life, as if it’s your last breath, gosh of only each of us, will design our own, society within, and by passed others lies, our lives would be much more fulfilled
      Go for yours, leave the rest alone, secure your desires, your wellbeing, your joy and happiness, no one else can for you, but be joyful for he or she that is ready to share wonderful togetherness

  • @sarissamay5166
    @sarissamay5166 8 років тому +15

    Dear Susan; I'm on this wonderful "journey" right now, with my 13 years younger partner. I have just started seeing the world through his eyes; and what the world it is! Everything appears so much brighter, sharper, undiluted... Wow! I feel alive! For the first time in 40 years of my life!
    Thank you for this video; you have just confirmed my own opinions and observations.

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  8 років тому +4

      HI Sarissa. What a thrill to read your letter. I'm so happy for you both. Dating the right type of younger man is a truly rich and rewarding experience. The warmth, openness, and unpolluted wrold-view can be liberating and life-affirming. Sincere wishes for a delightful future together. Susan

    • @alexism.7712
      @alexism.7712 7 років тому +1

      Sarissa May Im dating a guy 13 yrs younger myself and I go back and forth in my head whether or not I should continue, he's very mature for his age and treats me great for the most part but on the downside he likes to play his video games but on the other hand a lot of us like to be on our phones all day.

    • @alexism.7712
      @alexism.7712 4 роки тому

      @Marin Cuculić Thank you!, I feel like he's the one but u never know, sometimes life will throw u a curve ball.

    • @alexism.7712
      @alexism.7712 4 роки тому

      @Marin Cuculić Thanks!

  • @GalacticWoman
    @GalacticWoman 7 років тому +24

    You are spot on as usual. I only ever date much younger guys for the very reasons you mention in your video. Even a 30 plus age gap works well when both partners are in awareness and resonance.

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  7 років тому +4

      Fantastic comment, GalacticWoman. Best wishes for your ongoing happiness!!

    • @GalacticWoman
      @GalacticWoman 7 років тому +2

      Thank you x

    • @serajali5659
      @serajali5659 4 роки тому +1

      @@GalacticWoman hello

    • @GalacticWoman
      @GalacticWoman 2 роки тому

      @Sean Hardman marriage was discussed but I m not interested in getting married

  • @trisha269
    @trisha269 6 років тому +9

    Nice video, you explained it so well, am 33yrs and my husband 23, i love him so much, and he loves me sooo much, some times i feel funny, but then he always show me he loves and respects me , and omyword hes soo jealous of me , like i cant believe of all i dated, he was the one that swept me of my feet, and he is more settled, now am inlove i feel like am 16yrs again.

  • @edytadelfel249
    @edytadelfel249 8 років тому +13

    This is so much BETTER then talking with Girlfriends about relationships!!!! I feel like You, Susan are my girlfriend. Thank you from the bottom of my Heart!!!!!!

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  8 років тому +1

      I'm so happy you like this video, Edyta. Thanks for the warm note.

    • @sarissamay5166
      @sarissamay5166 8 років тому

      Hi Edyta; would you like to share your story, please?

    • @edytadelfel249
      @edytadelfel249 4 роки тому

      Marin Cuculić I do cause my energy is youthful, but probably someone my age with youthful attitude would be much better choice!

    • @edytadelfel249
      @edytadelfel249 4 роки тому

      Marin Cuculić No, I decided to do some serious Self Love first and it’s been the best investment of my life. I am on a spiritual ascension and keeping my vibrations high. When I am ready I will manifest the best partner of my life!!!

  • @fernie4287
    @fernie4287 6 років тому +5

    "Enough commonality so that there's a resonance and a connection. But enough difference so that you're challenged." 💖
    This year I met someone who's way younger than me and I like him so much more than any man my own age.
    We are not in a relationship but he's awakened so many aspects of my personality that I usually hide,just because I think I would come across as an immature person. We're both really serious,formal and profesional in our work life,but we can also be childish,clumsy and funny in our daily life. He's so much classier,creative and talented than most men I've dated (and suffered with) that he just takes my breath away. People think I like him because of his looks. But if it was true, I wouldn't admire him so much.
    And to make him even better he comes from another culture (he's Asian ) so learning is an everyday thing 😊
    Thanks for this video.

    • @vvelvettearss
      @vvelvettearss 4 роки тому

      Are you me ? Hahaha sorry just a lot of similarities there, this guy who I'm forming a close friendship with is also and he already started speaking three different languages with me cuz I know a little, that was an incredible feeling! And same as what you said young man have so much energy and optimistic zeal and enthusiasm for life that it's just infectious! You forget how jaded you become being older from life experiences. I have found either English men or ones my age are a bit meh....pessimistic and straight lined, I have a youthful energy so now so with a younger man he just brings that out of me and I love it!! All the best with your friend masha :)

  • @skabcat242
    @skabcat242 8 років тому +18

    This makes me feel positive about my new relationship. I just recently began dating an older woman and wasn't sure how this would go. Its been a great joy for us both and despite our 10 year age difference, we get along great.

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  8 років тому +3

      Fantastic news! I love reading testimonies such as yours. I wish you great happiness!!! Susan

  • @blazingmotors6898
    @blazingmotors6898 7 років тому +3

    u r the first lady am hearing and seeing speak truth about men feeling and his love !!
    u r doing great job!
    lots of love and prayers from India!

  • @galsigner1
    @galsigner1 6 років тому +3

    I am 69 years old and was widowed 3 years ago.( By the way I don't look my age at all and act younger at heart than most of my counter-parts.) My husband and I were married nearly 34 years. He was almost 9 years younger than me. We got along great! Age was never a factor for us. Now I am seeing a man 8 years my junior. He finds me to be very sexually exciting and attractive. I try to make him feel appreciated and respected. Something his previous relationships did not do for him. In fact, his ego is severely damaged by someone who was brutal with him. I could never think of being that unkind to a man. If you find someone you are attracted to and you get along well, go for it. Don't let that joy and happiness pass you by because of what others might say.

  • @ValorTheFirstOne
    @ValorTheFirstOne 8 років тому +12

    very very right , i got the same feedback given to me , i am un predictive , old young is the next big thing, its even better than dating a person of same age group, in the perspective of younger man, he can be a kid and show to his partner what he truly is and rather than pretending to be someone else, while on woman perspective , its an amazing experience coz it feels like time travelling and they get to live the romantic life again

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  8 років тому

      Now I know why there's such an easy connection here, Valor. Great comment.

    • @ValorTheFirstOne
      @ValorTheFirstOne 8 років тому +1

      +Susan Winter Yeah. Im make smart choices.

  • @xecl1ps3x70
    @xecl1ps3x70 6 років тому +13

    I've always been more attracted to older women.

  • @kimanndoherty6951
    @kimanndoherty6951 7 років тому +16

    such a refreshing view from all that red pill, MGTOW, stuff, youtube is full of. This is my experience, with a pure hearted genius.

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  7 років тому +4

      Excellent, Kim. So lovely to read your comment. Thank you.

    • @elmachete2444
      @elmachete2444 7 років тому

      Kim Ann Doherty u trying to smash?

  • @miamystical
    @miamystical 3 роки тому +2

    My last boyfriend was younger than me and that relationship was very karmic but taught me so much and I honestly prefer dating younger men to older now especially since they aren't so stuck in their ways yet or world views. It very refreshing with the right person.

    • @miamystical
      @miamystical 3 роки тому +1

      @charles paris they definitely do seem to be that way and also can be very controlling/manipulative but my ex was the same way and he was 19. It all depends on how you were bought up, your surroundings and your morals etc. Age doesnt equal maturity at all cause they are some young men who are more mature or responsible than some 30+ year olds I know

    • @miamystical
      @miamystical 3 роки тому

      @charles paris yeah that's definitely in the middle and it's super important cause being stagnant or in one place for your whole life isnt healthy

  • @jjuniper274
    @jjuniper274 6 років тому +4

    Susan I keep coming back to this post, for inspiration. I know you are busy, but what if you are interested in a younger man, and him in you, but his ex is...10-15-20 years younger than you? How do we, as older women, get beyond that feeling of being old when his wife, in our minds, was so much younger and hotter? Ugh such a head battle!
    Bless you and thank you for your work! 😚

  • @widadsyed9865
    @widadsyed9865 6 років тому +2

    You're so positive. Luv u. I was a bit scared to take this step. But your talk really gave me relief.

  • @danam358
    @danam358 5 років тому +3

    I used to date/married to older men and we never connected mentally and emotionally. Now in my mid 30s and as I get older I find my self attracting younger men, younger i mean 7-14 years and we connect much better for some reason. Also, on my 30s most older men are either married or boring for me or divorced with kids, I have my own kids to look after (teenager) so it’s too much work to look after others. I want to be a stable lover not a babysitter 😊

  • @debca8283
    @debca8283 8 років тому +5

    I can't believe I came across your videos...you are teaching me a lot...in a relationship with someone younger and of course we always have our guard up, thinking what if he strays etc...In reality it is what it is if it happens i don't have any control over it but what i do know after watching your videos that i need to relax and trust this relationship and see where it takes us..

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  8 років тому

      Deb, I just saw your comment. I get notifications- but they don't seem to pick up every entry. Yes, try to relax. The added social pressure insists it can't last. But those of us who're living this lifestyle know that it can indeed last. If your partner is devoted and loving, continue forward. It's a burden to release ourselves from the myths we've heard. But this is a valid romantic choice. It can and does work. Thank you for your note. Best wishes!!

  • @kenzoali4295
    @kenzoali4295 7 років тому +11

    Iam here searching for older women,give me like if you feel me,i live in Austria

  • @esterwillis6420
    @esterwillis6420 6 років тому +2

    I AM SURE THERE ARE DOWN SIDES TO DATING A YOUNGER MAN I HAVE ALREADY HAD AN EXPERIENCE THAT TOOK ME BY SURPRISE. BUT I AM STILL WILLING TO TRY IT AGAIN WITH SOMEONE NEW. I WON'T GIVE UP THAT EASILY. THE NEXT TIME AROUND WILL BE MUCH BETTER......I HAVE FAITH IN LOVE AND THE KIND OF MAN I WANT.

    • @yosephgomez6382
      @yosephgomez6382 5 років тому

      Love and attraction are always important along with obtaining what you enjoy.

  • @carpediem4882
    @carpediem4882 6 років тому +8

    Im in a rship with a younger man with an 18yr age difference. You are so right about how younger men have alot of wisdom...and bring a new and fresh perspective to a situation. Hes so wise for his age and we connect on so many levels...we are both very happy but of course my fears and insecurities crop up now and again so im learning to shelve them and jump wholeheartedly into the rship without spreading out my mental baggage...thank you for advice..and yes..he does want to marry me.mm😊😊😊

  • @londongabaldon9894
    @londongabaldon9894 7 років тому +58

    i would love to date a older women, women my age dont intrest me on a intellectual level..

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  7 років тому +4

      BuyMoreBeats DotCom I understand. That's a common sentiment of intellectually oriented younger man. Thanks for sharing.

    • @londongabaldon9894
      @londongabaldon9894 7 років тому +1

      any instight as to why a old woman might want or not want this?

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  7 років тому +1

      Want 'what' exactly?

    • @jessica1661
      @jessica1661 7 років тому +2

      Susan Winter Will marriage last coz when woman is older than man? Can u email me

    • @MyIceShine
      @MyIceShine 7 років тому

      I was left by one younger man!

  • @rhysedwards3221
    @rhysedwards3221 3 роки тому +1

    I'm 33 and I used to date a lady who is now 59.. Best thing I ever did. We're not together anymore

  • @riddert4966
    @riddert4966 7 років тому +12

    wow, i'm 18 and i would definitely date you

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  7 років тому +4

      How kind, Bart. Wishing you well in your dating life.

    • @riddert4966
      @riddert4966 7 років тому +2

      thank you :)

  • @nauglefest
    @nauglefest 4 роки тому

    WOW!! I think I'd like to date Susan Winter. It's a breath of fresh air to find someone in the world who is wise, personally secure, mature, and articulate.

  • @jodyhowarth7594
    @jodyhowarth7594 6 років тому +3

    You are so refreshing!Thankyou!

  • @macefedora
    @macefedora 7 років тому +5

    Hi! Im inna relationship with a 42 years women and I am 24, tombe honest I love how we connect as a couple, just there is an issue where I feel a bit freaked out, she has money and I live ok I work normally , and sometimes she is like very generous and I don't feel in equal conditions to give her back some things, without mention the trips etc, I wouldn't like to complain, and is not that I'm making my self the macho, but idk how.to get along with that I consider my self and independent person, and for example when she offers to help me out with some issues I am very stubborn in doing things by my self and i don't know if I should accept that kind of generosity, I know many guys will say that I'm in a dream with a beautiful woman willing to support me, but when you are an independent person it's hard to do it I hope someone over here or you Mrs Susan winter could help me with any advice

    • @senseijen8963
      @senseijen8963 5 років тому +3

      I understand that being able to provide is something a man takes pride it. But sometimes its just your ego that's telling you that. What matters is that you work hard, you have plans in improving you situation and show her that you appreciate her generosity. Its really easy to take care of a woman and if you find a good one like that... Never let her go.

  • @l.a.poet_4841
    @l.a.poet_4841 6 років тому +15

    I would love to date a woman in her 60s and 70s... I'm 50. I think a older woman would interesting

  • @silviaconcas1262
    @silviaconcas1262 5 років тому

    I've dated for one year a Younger man (I'm 36, he's 24)... It's over 2 months ago because I felt I needed a more committed relationship, but he wasn't thinking about a committed relationship in his life at the moment, he needed to keep things light. I would have accepted this, if he needed time, but he "escaped" and shut down. I feel... Devastated... because we started our relationship as a light thing, without thinking about project or commitment at all, but going on I've really fallen in love with him. We had a really good relationship, with passion, trust, a really similar view of life in general... It was becoming serious, It had become a deep relationship, even without a real label... So I felt It was time to speak about us, because I felt It was not just "a game" as I thought It would have been at the beginning... Maybe I made a mistake... I'm trying to move on, because he has never contacted me after the brakeup and trying to find a compromise didn't work, so I think he never felt anything for me and maybe he Is happier now, so I've lost hope and I just want to respect him (if he doesn't reach out, I think it's better for him not to hear me). But it really hurts...

  • @psychologicalsiren5232
    @psychologicalsiren5232 5 років тому +2

    Mine ended up a mother and child relationship dynamic. Not all young men are what this lady is describing. He actually turned out to be an abusive, using and lying manipulative asshole with undiagnosed ADD and personality disorders. We met when I was 33 he was 23 and stayed together until 44 and 34. Over the decade together he flirted around, was irresponsible with finances and paying bills on time. Didn’t hold a job down for more than six months, always broke and life every evening was very boring and vapid with him spending every evening video gaming with ransoms everywhere online.
    You can’t beat a man your own age with life experience that matches your own or slightly older.
    I would never look at another younger guy. My experience actually made me ill with stress related chronic illness.

  • @chaneb8272
    @chaneb8272 7 років тому +2

    You just love someone, you didnt expect but the pressure with the uncertainty that you got a future is really making you wanting to run, is only when I start to work on myself, recover my confidence of who I am that I realise hey there is no certainty in life and we are ok, I can handle this but it does affect your confidence the whole stuffs, even the younger guy I am sure his getting his friends asking him why a older woman as well, i met the friends and they felt intimidated of my success and start call him posh,you really need to feel confident of who you are before taking that one on

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  7 років тому

      OH, you are so correct. This is really a game of inner confidence.

    • @chaneb8272
      @chaneb8272 7 років тому +1

      Good question as it is funny how the same questions is asked by older woman, when they are the one paying the bills because the younger guy still study, when she younger guy is not even good in bed or can financially help or even support one mentally. YES what the older woman get in that period of time and of course it is all fair that the same question is wonder by the younger guy. Well my honest response to this is I simply don't know, if people dated to get the best deal for themselves maybe nobody will date all , even people that got the same age, ,maybe we need to realise that our happiness can only happen in the NOW and if we plan 20 years from now we got no guarantee that we will still alive , like for me I dated a younger guy that guy is 30 now , guess what he look so old and still got no job, I am 39 now and look like I was 25 and got many younger men after me , so hey we simply do not know how life will go but we surely can try our best to be happy now with what we got and feel we want, it is not a jack pot, everyone got some issues in their basket young or old nobody is getting all the deal as perfect

    • @chaneb8272
      @chaneb8272 7 років тому

      I have no idea what you are doing a bout, you seem to think the older woman got the whole benefit, No relationship give 1 person the whole benefit, I need to remind you that many older women don't go after younger men, it is the younger men that most the time pursuit the older woman and they pursuit it intensely .I can tell you I got no sweet given or gain in my last relationship, it was taking care off, gain experience and confidence, got dressed up to new and I was left with nothing, no help, no friendship nothing more to hope for, its like been a mother that gave but got nothing, you seem to imply sleeping with someone young is the gain but many young men sucks in bed . many young men think it is a gift for a older woman to sleep with a younger men when it is not, especially when you know what you like I. bed and the guy cannot even kiss you properly

    • @chaneb8272
      @chaneb8272 7 років тому

      If I am a creep than I am the most happy creep of all, happy to stay a creep. I didn't reply as I was out enjoy my life, you should do the same you seem to suffer from some inner conflict inside there. your attack on other only reflect to the world the attack and rejection that you got about yourself, deal with it get help:)

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  7 років тому +1

      Love that line "everyone got some issues in their basket." Thank you for this share.

  • @ladyanne8139
    @ladyanne8139 4 роки тому

    He's perfect .. He has shown me so much about me I never would have known.. You are right. ..

  • @PrinceGBuddha
    @PrinceGBuddha 6 років тому +3

    Please tell me on your website where to find the topic of older woman dating younger men. thank you. i cannot find it..

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  6 років тому +1

      Go to the Navigation bar. Look under Articles. It's all there on the left hand side.

  • @talalina2853
    @talalina2853 6 років тому +1

    This is beautiful speech. I agree on you!

  • @michaelmalcolm2100
    @michaelmalcolm2100 7 років тому +3

    I need to stop watching your videos after several Belgian brews...I feel light as a feather right now. Women were an accessory to a man’s life? HA!!! May I please please please be an accessory to YOUR life Susan??? :-x

  • @charminwinkler9128
    @charminwinkler9128 5 років тому +1

    I have bpd need advice relationship wiseOk im turning 29 in Aug and there is this guy at work who I love to death but he's 17 and will be 18 in sep...it started as finds but now he's told me he loves me and when he turns 18 he wants to go out with me ......what do its do is it worng with the age gap?..it's never dated so young to me befor and I know he's young and it's prob just a phase but should I give him a chance and he's 18 and see were it gos?

  • @DiamondDecoy
    @DiamondDecoy 6 років тому

    This video is awesome and was worded so well. TY!

  • @lucyjones955
    @lucyjones955 8 років тому

    You nailed it, Susan!! You never fail to enlighten me. Have a great Friday.

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  8 років тому +2

      Hi Lucy. Thank you!! And wishing you a happy Friday as well.

    • @marymartin1404
      @marymartin1404 7 років тому

      Susan Winter you could'nt have come at a better Time in my life, I am a widow of three yrs. now ,and the cold world of loneliness has set in, I. so lonely,people tell me I've lived my life so I guess according to them I should just set and wait to die. B ut I hav'nt. lived my life, I'm a woman, I still have needs, so many needs , I'm considering this, except I am so. skeptic, I'm so grateful for these videos you have shared please with hold my name.

    • @marymartin1404
      @marymartin1404 7 років тому

      Susan Winter you could'nt have come at a better Time in my life, I am a widow of three yrs. now ,and the cold world of loneliness has set in, I. so lonely,people tell me I've lived my life so I guess according to them I should just set and wait to die. B ut I hav'nt. lived my life, I'm a woman, I still have needs, so many needs , I'm considering this, except I am so. skeptic, I'm so grateful for these videos you are sharing (withhold my name.)
      remove. my. name!

    • @marymartin1404
      @marymartin1404 7 років тому

      please remove my name

  • @realist7934
    @realist7934 5 років тому

    I am 39. I would love a relationship with an older woman but no one even notices me. Young or old. I help people I am kind and very intelligent. Very loving with children. Please tell me why I am going to be alone for the rest of my life when all I do is give.

  • @victorlaboo4839
    @victorlaboo4839 7 років тому +7

    hi I'm a 40 year old newly-divorced man no children, I've always wanted children but at this point and slowly fading away, I have always been attracted to older women, My question is how do I make myself attractive to older women of any race, and be a part of each other active lifestyle.

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  7 років тому +1

      It's easy. Put it in your mind, and really open up to the idea of noticing and speaking older women. Once you have the vibe, they''ll be advancing toward you.

    • @Mordred254
      @Mordred254 5 років тому

      from your same country or even outside your country

  • @timmybailey4989
    @timmybailey4989 6 років тому +2

    How much is lack of sexual experience a turn off to a older women? I'm 21 years old.

    • @sandiec6063
      @sandiec6063 6 років тому

      most women wouldnt judge you over lack of sexual experience. Some women might find it a turn on and be willing to guide you .

    • @jeffreyburney6161
      @jeffreyburney6161 8 місяців тому

      Actually, you would probably be OK. She would probably train you. I dated an older woman and she’ll basically show you what all she likes what all she responds to and it is great. The best sex I’ve ever had in my life was with older women.

  • @zionborieyez4133
    @zionborieyez4133 5 років тому

    I was eight years with a sixteen years younger man ,will never do that again

  • @kirstenholmquist7074
    @kirstenholmquist7074 3 роки тому

    This is great advice and so true

  • @LeoTommyGun
    @LeoTommyGun 8 років тому +2

    Wonderful topic Susan. Thank you for opening eyes to older women about us younger guys, cause a lot rule us out of the dating. Could make next video about the topic of dating in a situation at this global economy, when us younger guys have trouble finding a job even tho we have collage education. How can we date older women in such situation? Do we even stand a chance to date older women without us having a job? Thank you in advance Susan, have a wonderful day :).

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  8 років тому +4

      That's a good idea for a topic. I have a number of articles on my site that address economic differences between the older woman and her younger man. She can't hold him to the same financial standards as her former same-aged mate. She'd need to adjust to his situation. More experiencial dates, less fancy dates. It all balances out. He feels on equal footing, and she's enjoying the best of what he has to offer-his love and attention. Thanks for the note.

  • @WhiteravenAngel
    @WhiteravenAngel 7 років тому +2

    omg that is a very good talk. thank you

  • @thomasroylindsley6558
    @thomasroylindsley6558 7 років тому +1

    This is one Susan I do Love.

  • @tonyfrazier9632
    @tonyfrazier9632 7 років тому +7

    to susan winters I enjoy your videos I would like for you to teach me s as a young man how to attract that right older lady

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  7 років тому

      You can read about this: www.susanwinter.net/ Or, you can work with me one-on-one: www.susanwinter.net/consultation/

    • @jessica1661
      @jessica1661 7 років тому

      Tony Frazier why man wants older woman, can u let me know? Email me

  • @divacookn5246
    @divacookn5246 4 роки тому

    Very informative..

  • @alexmaccio8641
    @alexmaccio8641 7 років тому +5

    i hope that i can find a nice old woman to fall in love with.

  • @babydoll6280
    @babydoll6280 3 роки тому

    What if the guy is younger and we have a true but he wants to wait until he is established to be with me. He told me in 5 years or whenever he doesn't ha e to work so much he will propose to me but doesn't want to commit because he works so much and wouldn't be able to give me what a relationship requires. Should I just cut him off or leave the door open for the future.

  • @64Afrika
    @64Afrika 8 років тому

    Very true.Thank you for this video.

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  8 років тому

      Thanks Edith! I appreciate your watching this and writing to me.

  • @fx4147
    @fx4147 2 роки тому

    Awesome! So true

  • @emmaalvarez1794
    @emmaalvarez1794 4 роки тому +4

    I will be going out on a date tommorow with someone 20 years younger. He is so hot. His mother is going to kill me lol!... He is so accomplished he has a Masters. There are other options, Some our my age or older who act more immature, with the peter pan syndrome.

  • @pooshalok502
    @pooshalok502 6 років тому

    my new crush is only 3 years younger than me, I feel okie now after reading comments 😀

  • @oldsongamina6057
    @oldsongamina6057 8 років тому +1

    i really love to listen to you..Maybe some younger guy its thier nature coz his been with a 62yrs old woman but now he loves a 53 years old woman and the guy is 33 LDR but the guy is willing to meet my friend..Susan is it really possible that the guy really loves my friend? he wanna cry tears of happiness coz he is not expecting that my friend likes her too.

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  8 років тому

      HI, and thanks for watching my video. I'd need more specifics on your friend's relationship with her younger guy. But in general, it is indeed possible for younger man to love an older woman. Actually, it's a fact. Not all younger men are attracted to older women, but those who are find themselves in love with her emotional depth and her confidence. This may indeed be the case for your friend.

  • @emmaalvarez1794
    @emmaalvarez1794 5 років тому +1

    I'm twice his age but if he doesn't mind who am I to complain, hes hot... We are our own worse enemy.

  • @Bamgeutcutiepie
    @Bamgeutcutiepie 6 років тому

    hmmm reading these comments, i feel less scared to have a crush on a guy who is 21 and i am 27. this age feels like a lot *at this moment* but in a few years it will make NO difference.
    but i still know that i will be looked at weirdly at the people around me in my life. they'll say he's too young.
    I feel like i don't want to make the first move, because i feel it's scary when he's younger than me. will he think i'm too old and reject me? or is he maybe too shy now to make the first move because he thinks that I will think he is too young? ....
    it's hard!

    • @charmainej4820
      @charmainej4820 5 років тому

      I understand....I'm 24 and the guy who is crazy about me is 18....when we talk everything is normal but at 27 I want to get married and I know my family will not like it if I introduce someone almost 6 years younger....so I'm scared but it feels right

    • @jlpinson6968
      @jlpinson6968 5 років тому

      Ladies only other women will say this bs, we men say the same shit to men that date younger women and men don't gaf about what people think.

    • @jlpinson6968
      @jlpinson6968 5 років тому

      charmaine jangano your not a little girl or in your teens, who cares what others think, I'm a man 20 years old, I'm a really good looking guy from what women have said, just think how unhappy you were without someone caring about you.

  • @virginiacollazo8209
    @virginiacollazo8209 6 років тому

    I like you channel I'm subscribing very interesting.

  • @alexandraasja2505
    @alexandraasja2505 7 років тому +1

    thank you!

  • @andrewkeys21
    @andrewkeys21 8 років тому +1

    I have to get used to commenting here. It was easier for me with regards to Diane because she pursued me...not the other way around. However, younger woman might have a 'tighter body' perhaps, but no one in my life turns me on like a maniac like my wife, now matter how old she is. She always will, and it gets me excited just writing about it!!

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  8 років тому

      Hi Andrew. So good to see you on this page. My very best to you both!

  • @Tex200950
    @Tex200950 5 років тому +1

    THE REASON IS OBVIOUS BECAUSE THE OLDER PERSON SHOW'S MORE DESPERATION TO KEEP THE YOUNGER PERSON HAPPY - THEREFORE THE YOUGER PERSON HAS THE POWER AND CONTROL OF THE RELATIONSHIP !!!

  • @personincognito3989
    @personincognito3989 7 років тому +2

    If man can do it so can women just not too young of a man.

  • @chaneb8272
    @chaneb8272 7 років тому +2

    If Susan deleted some of your comment I can see why, you got no much idea ahaha

  • @mattiea7801
    @mattiea7801 3 роки тому +1

    I keep trying to find you.....

  • @jimmywalker2429
    @jimmywalker2429 6 років тому

    Susan, I have a question that i haven't seen. I'm sure that most don't give a second thought but what about older man and younger women? I'm currently seeing a woman 9 yrs my junior. Now I know what a most are thinking. 9 yrs is no big difference. Or maybe she's looking for a "secure" future. Well she is the youngest lady I've ever dated. 3 yrs was the youngest I've dated in the past. I retired early due to medical issues and my earning ability is very limited and no real monetary resources. She on the other hand is a professional in the utility industry and has made a very good name for herself along with a great income and savings. It just seems odd she would be remotely interested in someone like me. Am i just being plain stupid? Oh and BTW is a real beauty and in great physical condition. Sorry if this a bit long winded. Thanks for all your advise.

  • @sabkuch996
    @sabkuch996 4 роки тому +1

    35 but still single

    • @Dwayne-ct4hu
      @Dwayne-ct4hu 4 роки тому +1

      I'm looking for a cougar

    • @sabkuch996
      @sabkuch996 4 роки тому

      @@Dwayne-ct4hu but I am living in Malaysia 😢😢😢

  • @newcastlewest8397
    @newcastlewest8397 7 років тому

    She's very attractive

  • @cheriblackoiupstreem.945
    @cheriblackoiupstreem.945 5 років тому

    Im excited to perfect the challenge...yet, temptation and I have no fear of the older man's habits. Silence is used to manipulate, I refuse to be manipulated to hear rehashed scars given by the older generation. Im not a therapist. Older men and the past are complex. Im fortunate enough to refuse the constant invitation of the front row rant by this old man's life. His poor, throbbing sciatica, shoulda been retired by now and not haunted by his exwifes shadow

  • @denisesiddon7241
    @denisesiddon7241 5 років тому

    Doesn't matter as long as he's an adult

  • @waldingwaldong8736
    @waldingwaldong8736 5 років тому

    Im 31 i love mature woman ....Comment and lets get to know each others

  • @benedictaalfonso5802
    @benedictaalfonso5802 5 років тому

    I wonder why the younger men always need coaching things, isn’t he mature enough to know what he wants and what he don’t want, I don’t believe if a man have a big family that we can think that his expert for life but still need coaching to relay his message, I called that bullish

  • @ndonwilouis4783
    @ndonwilouis4783 6 років тому +1

    Any older woman for me

  • @esterwillis6420
    @esterwillis6420 6 років тому +2

    I AM GOING TO DATE ANOTHER YOUNGER MAN. THERE ARE THINGS THAT I STILL WANT TO EXPERIENCE FROM A DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVE.........

  • @LOWKEYDANGER
    @LOWKEYDANGER 5 місяців тому

    I've been in a bad horror movie of a relationship for ten years, long story, however I'm trying to hang on and be a faithful I don't wanna leave, but I often want out bad. Anyway Got my hair cut today and the female barber was at least ten years or so years older than me, idk maybe more doesn't matter truly, I'm 32 BTW. We get to talking and sparks fly I can tell she isn't trying to flirt, me either, but the tension was real and then she made it more obvious and then I did too. I thought she was gorgeous, absolutely beautiful, she's divorcing has two beautiful girls and I can't stop thinking about her I talk to women all the time this never and I mean never happens I'm super shy I scurry away from social interaction ASAP, but it's like I met my soul mate in a passing by moment. I can't explain it, I can't stop thinking that I could just walk away and find peace, maybe with someone like her or her.... but wow it was special, I did not expect to like her but after we were talking I looked into her eyes... she looked in mine and it's was very real. I actually got erect and felt like I was in high school. I hope when you read this you understand that I am not the kind of man to flirt and pick up women. I love the girl I'm with but we are simply incompatible and I don't believe it will work. And I wrong for this? I'm not going to try and hook up with her I just wanted to share this, maybe my type is older women. I mean my heart races around any milf I just find older women sexy af 🥵

  • @roypowell3455
    @roypowell3455 Рік тому

    What if I think she could be a lil nicer kinder u know mannerism but she seems goodhearted

  • @realclevelandbraids2525
    @realclevelandbraids2525 6 років тому

    So right

  • @jamalluke5799
    @jamalluke5799 Рік тому

    This sounds like...they just want to mould a young mind that will not challenge behaviours...as the younger knows no better....manipulation with no boundaries

  • @14kurtismiller
    @14kurtismiller 5 років тому +1

    Just don't get married or move in with your next woman. Most women strategy is to get a man to move in with her, not to move in with you. She has control over her domain and your always a guest not a permanent resident. She will go from treating you nice to resenting you if you can't eventually pay all of the bills. Watch out when you start hearing we are roommates, thats when you know its happening. They also strategically want you to live with them so they can keep more of an eye on you. They learn your habits and short comings of observation, it makes it easier for them to cheat on you if thats the type of woman you get. A woman who so calls loves you so much. As for when a woman agrees to you two having to go your own ways may have found a man younger with more promise, and wants to give you the impression that its a mutual feeling. If she just dumps you without explanation then it weakens her chances of forever swinging back around if things don't work out elsewhere. Women are not smarter then men, they lie more and find pleasure in doing so. They do things behind our backs not to our face which would give us a fair shot at figuring things out. Ladies, when your man not checking up on you as you imvestigate him your not outsmarting him while you cheat on him, he has completely lost all hope, and realize you were never really worth the effort and resources he put into you in the first place. He maybe hurt by your betrayal and departure but he lets it happen because at the time he was not strong enough to leave you so he let you tear up the relationship. You want the ultimate in romance? Try choosing a man for who he is not what he has and sincerely give him a chance fully commiting to him. He will open up his heart in ways you never knew a man could do. Don't half step and by that I mean half ass him. You upset one day so he gets half your effort, and when you feel like it you do better the next day. Life is precious so act like it is and give 100% effort to that man in your life or move on. Don't choose your mate according to what he can do for you financially he will come up short at times and it won't ever last. Sex will be amazing when your man feels respected and cared for by you. He too must put in the same effort. And keep your friends out of your business. Women make the mistake of being more loyal to their female friends than their mate. This breeds discord and your man can sense it. Your females friends who truly want you to be happy won't encourage or support you disreapecting your relationship. Unfortunately women truly hang around with others who they think not doing better then them or at least equally unhappy. Real women support your right and denounce your wrong, so don't adopt that saying, friends are forever but men come and go. Its your choice to keep a man in your life and some of your sorry ass female friends should have been gone a long time ago.

  • @lpdzzlfshzzl
    @lpdzzlfshzzl 6 років тому

    You look so gorgeous

  • @kumar-zh2cf
    @kumar-zh2cf 6 років тому +1

    I looking older women in Bangalore

  • @gloriaifeanyichukwu2645
    @gloriaifeanyichukwu2645 6 років тому +2

    I am 22 and my boyfriend is 21 is it right for me to continue the relationship we both love each other but am so confused on what to do please i need your help

    • @francinesmith8109
      @francinesmith8109 5 років тому +1

      Lol what problem?

    • @annelessick3163
      @annelessick3163 4 роки тому +1

      What happened with the boyfriend? I hope that you have found that as the days and experiences accumulate, one year difference , even five, ten, fifteen really do not matter one whit.

    • @coletteannemaud1340
      @coletteannemaud1340 4 роки тому

      WHY ARE YOU COMMENTING ON HERE your not a older woman are you actually for real?????

  • @thecowboy9698
    @thecowboy9698 7 років тому

    I dated an older woman once, and what I got in return was heartache.

  • @퐁퐁-r8k
    @퐁퐁-r8k 7 років тому

    I dont know what to say.
    I fall in love with my boyfriend is 7 ys younger than me.
    No matter how young i am . I have so many worries about our future.

  • @abdurrahmanmose4111
    @abdurrahmanmose4111 3 роки тому

    I love older women 💘💘💘👍

  • @_mudbox
    @_mudbox 6 років тому

    Im 29 and looking for a woman over 40 x

  • @geobely
    @geobely 7 років тому +3

    😱wow You are absolutely drop dead gorgeous 😍😍😍😍

  • @turemajeed4965
    @turemajeed4965 8 років тому

    Hello Susan,How can I get a girlfriend?
    please help.

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  8 років тому

      Not my specialty. I'd suggest talking to a matchmaker. Best wishes.

  • @bigkahona8444
    @bigkahona8444 4 роки тому

    I'm 41.. dating a 35 year old. I'm already established .. he is still dreaming and trying.

  • @pointuout2020
    @pointuout2020 6 років тому

    This woman is hot!

  • @duxholms7848
    @duxholms7848 3 роки тому

    At some point I loved a Women she was 10 years older than me but I gave up afterwards I thought she is out of my league.

  • @handsomeandgentletv2787
    @handsomeandgentletv2787 4 роки тому

    I wanted to date an older woman but it never works because some older women are too insecure and abusive ....

  • @coolwaters7452
    @coolwaters7452 6 років тому

    You look good but That plastic surgery though

  • @ericdumorgan8162
    @ericdumorgan8162 4 роки тому

    Looking for sugar mom

  • @aboutblank7662
    @aboutblank7662 4 роки тому

    Hi Susan , will you go to prom with me ? 😍🥰

  • @Tex200950
    @Tex200950 5 років тому

    WAIT HOLD IT - I THOUGHT WOMEN MATURE FASTER THAN MEN - THEN HOW ARE YOU LADIE'S GONNA LEARN ANYTHING FROM A IMMATURE YOUNGER MAN LOL LOL !!!!!!!