I respect Girl talker , the calmness is enviable! Despite the sensitive nature of the conversation , her rate, tone and volume of voice stays same . Leg remains crossed , facial expression is calm . I am so impressed ! , felt like i am watching a UK talk show . Amazing!
When Ebuka mentioned Admiralty, I screamed! 😂 Lol, I remembered an Incident. But to be fair, Ebuka spoke intelligently. He's got some knowledge up there! Plus his composure, No aggression or offensive words to the ladies! That's top notch.
@@MrZoszosExactly, he looks like a guy that would be committed to his wife and I pray he finds the right woman that will give him peace. Also, I pray he will never be like the men who patronize girl talker or cross the path of the other one that's looking for 1 million. Awon, obirin ole jatijati, ti won ni lo wa ise se afi ki won ma da ile ru
Yes, she's completely broken and needs therapy fast, because she will look back a few years from now only to realize that what she thought will give her happiness is actually destroying her the more
That’s the reality unfortunately, humans don’t want positive things, negativity sells and it’s exciting. The ball is in the court of men. It’s up to men to stick to thier wives . But the question is ..can they?
@@obimc-anthony8140 NO. While we were yet sinners, Christ died for us and even now, he gives a choice to either choose him and live or dont and be damned
The lady talker, by listening to her, is a great communicator. However, the strong personality she is portraying is a tower of Jericho hiding a lot of hurting staff that have somehow hurt her in the past and made her take this new approach of relationships.
Most times I follow these podcasts ...it just reiterates how that there are many hurt people who have adapted to their pain, teach others from that pain and devised mechanisms to protect themselves...in the end we are not our best selves when we walk on egg shells... hence another reason to be intentional and knowledgeable before starting a family...
It is always beautiful when someone who represents God displays a sound mind and clearly shows how different he is. Light. I would have expected love definition to be dissected too by definitions and categorization: Philia, Eros, Storge and ultimately Agape! Many of Us are walking around with VERY DEEP WOUNDS that have not healed and going on to wound others.
As nedu no dey for this episode, I like am oooooo 😂, if you check very well you go see say no distraction every body just dey calm dey answer the question.😊
U go just open mouth waah dey cap gibberish, if u watch this from beginning to end u go know say Ebuka was very theoretical and logically, plus very smart too.@@emexokezie7796
Ebuka made me glue to the screen. Thank you so much Ebuka for your insight and wisdom. Your values should be your standards for relationship not feeling because it's not enough.
How can I like this twice this is my thought exactly you can feel anything for anyone and that’s ebuka’s point as well but that should not be the determining factor of whether you go into a relationship with them because it will not work. Your values should be the determining factor which if they’re faulty will lead you wrong so that’s what people should focus on and seeing who and what aligns with their values. Not the other way round not following feelings for someone and then forcing them to align with your values it won’t work
Honestly, there’s a sense of objectivity and level headedness in listening to Girl Talker’s takes. Most people have these conversations from a place of emotion. But her maturity to easily translate her thoughts and opinions across is refreshing.
I wish I could understand her like u do, all I see is a mean n bitter woman who has been hurt, n then decides that oh yes I should make other people feel the same hurt. She wants to have fun and live her life but it has to be with married men, when there are thousands of single n unserious guys outside she can do that with. Her point for going after single men I just don't get
Honestly Ebuka came to show with an arrogant mindset. He was excessively theoretical and exhibited a lot of inexperience. Though he sounded moral, but he was talking a lot of nonsense.
These ladies don’t know what love is at all. They need therapy. Love is not selfish and doesn’t hurt. They need to heal. Thank you Ebuka for enlightening them. Love is way deeper than feelings
@@franchescaasamoah3046the truth is love is a choice and is Intentional, with this you will Know that you can actually love more than one person equally at the same time. Now the problem most people have is if the resources is available for that
Finally... Someone with the actual definition of love... Away from selfish perspectives. Ebuka. One of the best people to come on this podcast. If I was invited to speak on this topic... I'd say the same thing
Love: 1. Rooted Connection: Love is deeper and more enduring. It’s based on genuine emotional connection. 2. Characteristics: Love involves trust, respect, and mutual understanding. 3. Acceptance: You accept both the good and the challenging aspects of your partner. 4. Friendship: Love often includes a strong friendship component. 5. Stability: It’s stable and consistent over time. 6. Different Lens: When in love, you see life through a calm, knowing lens. Infatuation: 1. Focus: Infatuation centers around intense physical attraction and the rush of emotions that come with it. 2. Duration: It’s often short-lived and intense. 3. Emotions: Infatuation involves euphoria, irrational feelings, and lust. 4. Idealization: You may idealize the person and overlook their flaws. 5. Physical: It’s often linked to sexual desire. 6. State: Infatuation feels like a whirlwind romance and obsession. Remember, both can coexist in a relationship, but love goes beyond the initial infatuation.
Reality, yes... but nonetheless quite dispiriting. But 'the other woman' is very self aware & lovable. I pray she'll find (rather, that God will give her!) a better deal than she's set out to achieve in love and life.
Phew! That was a very interesting episode. The Talker seems to be a master manipulator. She tried to manipulate Ebuka on several occasions and pretended to forget his name twice, which is quite disrespectful. Ebuka is an amazingly patient and brilliant guy who knows his stuff. He never tries to impose or project his personal beliefs on anyone, but rather explains his thoughts rationally. Anyway, I appreciate the sincerity of all the participants, which made the session even more engaging. Kudos to everyone involved!
The materialistic nature of society creeping into modern times can be seen clearly reflected in the way the female guests relate what the meaning of love is
Exactly, she believes that the life she's living is love,when it is completely transactional, as she narrated two such transactional occasions in her relationship with men. There's a deep hurt lying somewhere within her and this is her coping mechanism
Everyone is giving thumbs up to Ebuka. How come it is girls talker perspective that is trending online? To me , Ebuka is analyzing the way it should be. Girl talker is analyzing the way it is. She may sound weird sometimes but I think married women should listen to her more. Facts are facts even when they do not represent the ideal. The fact that only the girl talker perspective is trending shows how debased the society is. I love the way they exchanged ideas respectfully and with all civility even when didn’t agree.
Married women should listen more to someone who says she's been hurt in the past ,so now she has decided to assist married men in hurting other women?? She's just selfish n wicked bc whatever she wants to have with these men, she can have that lots of single guys out there, and not be a reason for someone's pain. So she is afraid to be the woman inside, so it's better she becomes the tormentor of those who have chosen to be inside.
Exactly! I think she's a very 'real' person in the sense that she was tackling the question from a practical standpoint however the guy was coming from an ideal standpoint.
Girltalker is the kind of woman most Nigerian men needs at home, she is imperfect and wounded, but she KNOWS the exact role a woman should play in a man's life!
What??? It’s a simp like you will like to marry her and tomorrow you will be all over social media crying and complaining.You see a red flag and you want to enter???
I'm talking from experience.... As a married woman that I am... Nobody says its gonna be easy but try as much as you can to be everything that your husband wants.... I go to work yes I take care of the home too yes my husband helps me out with everything... But I'm still that baby girl and that bad girl in the other room at the same time... Its gonna reduce the amount of side chicks around... I'm not saying its gonna stop men from cheating but trust me it's going to reduce cheating.
This statement isn’t balanced. Both parties in a marriage should be intentional in making it work. It shouldn’t be one person trying so the husband wouldn’t cheat.
What if you have a man that doesn't help you with anything? My dear just live that thing and pray to God, that marriage will not make you lose your purpose on earth
I also saw it on Facebook which I found it interesting. That’s why I came here to watch the full video. I even had to download the full video in case I can’t have the time to watch it now.
This lady with dreads is such an excellent story teller and communicator, she has an amazingly personality, she has been hurt and hasn't fully healed and is putting up a front as the woman outside, but deep inside she is actually a beautiful soul. Forget the acting she is putting up, the man that will eventually be lucky to have her as a wife will enjoy her.
Unfortunately, even after forgiveness, prices will be paid. She's a nice person, she has let herself to b used the the enemy and she obviously don't want to be advised.
@@jennifernnoli8240 only she's not learning. She didn't come out to say it's something she's doing and learning a better way. She's pointing it out as a right way and is justifying it, that's the issue. When a woman says this or says she does this as a job, other women say it's her truth. But if someone came and said they steal or they kill and it's their truth, they enjoy it, will you keep the same energy. In this life, and in almost all religions, there are things are are wrong. Both morally, spiritually and by law. No body is perfect. It's different when someone can admit to a lifestyle theyvare living to be bad, but they are learning to be better, than when that person is justifying it and using other people's problems to tell u why it's ok. Someonday another will come and say they prefer their own kids, and you will be clapping in the name of its their truth. And I know people will ask what about those husbands. It's even worst behavior from the husband, but we are talking about her cuz she's the person online justifying it. Now let's use u as an example, u are a woman, if that girl can justify it as her truth, it means the husbands can also justify it as their truths. If ur husband came out and told you that's his truth, or if your sisters or friends husband, or if your dad came to say that's their truth, or your married son came out to say the same thing. As in they are enjoy the woman outside and that's how they want to live while being married to you, your friend, sister, mother, daughter, will you keep that same energy?
@@ethelyolande now perfectly said. The truth is far different from Her truth and also different from My truth. I am not her and can never be her. She is coming from a place . And I won't judge her because me gan no be Saint. We strive to be better. For your scenario you painted omo My energy Will be far different because I don't share. Mine is mine. And won't want to even have the idea of sharing smth as personal as a spouse with others, but is it the same with others, obviously not hence polygamy exist. But it's great to have an open mind to issues. Knowing that life isn't just black and white but Grey exist.
Girl talker is really intelligent,factual and honest,Ebuka is quite a charmer with lots of wisdom and what love is but the button line is marriage needs lots of open communication,comprehension and honesty
if we cant fine a problem in immorality where do we get the audacity to blame our African presidents. lets stop promoting negativity. at this level our children are finished.
Women, pray for your husbands. Pray for your sex life, pray about everything. Pray that the desires of your husband will be only to you. May your marriages reflect heaven on earth❤ marriages are beautiful and your home will be peaceful
The fact that Toun says “hey Chommies” makes me feel like I’m watching a united African podcast. As a southern African please never stop doing that, love you guys 😂❤❤❤❤
This podcast conversation highlights why many believe love alone isn't enough to sustain a relationship or marriage. It is so clear that many people today, especially in this age, don't fully understand the true nature and complexities of love. We claim to know what we do not know. This generation more than ever needs relationship counselling and therapy. Shalom!
I love how this episode encompasses all the views and perspectives of modern dating and relationships out there. Each person actually represented how a lot of people think out there. It is brilliant and there is a lot to learn from this.
EBUKA I LOVE YOU MAN! Was so put off seeing the snippets. But EBUKA, You were the required balance on this set! Thanks for giving me value for watching this.
@@rngwu69 Really? Try have this same conversation with 4 women whose opinion and views contradict yours. You may not do better. Seems you've not had argument with a woman before. I see how they were drifting around the conversation, making it more shallow but the dude was the only fiber holding the discussion straight. W must give Ebuka his credits.
But all the things she said are simple life decisions when you are flirting without a heart to love. It’s normal, the only thing that makes one change from such life is God and the choice to make heaven. People like this are ashamed of being heart broken and they expect less from who they chose to be with. They have 50/50 trust or no trust. Only those who are like them will know that they are vulnerable in their invulnerability 😅 They seem tough and strong Always leading Just because they believe it’s hard to control the urge of flirting, so they chose to nourish their wants while satisfying others and being the lead in the game at the same time: and not being caught heart broken. So even when she’s married, she can’t trust her husband 100% There must be room for “ I was expecting it” Who she is, isn’t new or strange. The only solution is God and retirement 😅
God bless you for this...hes way ahead....he defines his analogy from origin making it simple to understand....for the ladies...well lemme reserve my opinion
@@your-neighbor Respectfully I’m not listening to people that will justify sleeping with another persons husband for what they will get in return. (Not even to marry oooo) just to open legs for money. Where is the dignity, where is the self respect, where is the shame?. You too you have a mother don’t you? Or if one day you have a daughter/ maybe you do now. So if they now decide to be sleeping with another persons husband because they want money. You will be proud Abi? Is this not what ashewos do? So what is the difference between them and those who stand on the street? Pls tell me.
@@imade4951 Firstly, that's not the only talk on the podcast, the personal highlight for me is the argument based on loving multiple people at the same time. On the married men matter the lady is just portraying the reality of today and being true to herself except we want to lie and feign ignorance that it's not happening in our present world. No one is right and no one is wrong, it's all based on perception.
Girl Talker is broken and needs to heal .When she finally gets to the point where she wants to marry,she will understand Ebuka made a lot of sense on this episode.
My thing is if she gets to that point why would somebody marry her she is a side chick and she only wants married men so she's not used to getting 100% of a man can she handle that much affection from a man that's the true question
Cheating is not the opposite of love. Society has made it seem like it's the lack of love. Rather, cheating is a lack of discipline and self-control. You can be indiscipline and still love 100%.
Self control is a facet of love buy you know the same self control in not just an entanglement or in Ebuka's words an expression of love. Self control can be about anger management not necessarily just sex or cheating. Cheating is not a negation of love or it's opposite. Philosophical cheating can be argue as a sign of love or in Ebuka's word an expression of love.
@@feliciawilliams4407 like angry that what , lol she sounds lost I feel sorry for her and she has serious esteem issues ohh she is happy that she able to destroy someone home . lol delusional to be honest
Ebuka is making a lot of sense and many people may not agree with him. Worldly views has washed away the true meaning of things and it changes everyday. Ebuka is full of wisdom 👏👏
How you take know?😂😂 Just because they are speaking like this doesn't mean they don't or can't do it. I have seen a lot of people that enjoys what they used to dislike. Most African men and most white married men and women are not faithful even those naija pastors. We know nah... Make you give them two minutes, dem go play corner betting😀
@@Trichmediaare you sure you are not her hiding under another account 😂😂😂 cause I have seen like 3 comments from you 😂😂😂😂. If you think she is the wise one here omoooo……
@@imade4951 Are you stalking me?😂😂, just joking though. Nigerians, una funny sha, I love watching shows from Nigeria, the last time I visited was 14 years ago. I have a lot of life experiences with women, probably more than the girl in blue skirt, this issue with folks out there is just lack of awareness and closed-mindedness. Ebuka is out for a rude awakening. Bragging that he's smart when it comes to women, make he go read history about what happend to most great men that came before us. I don't believe in marriage and no expectations when it comes to meeting women. 😀
The girl talker has really said the truth,any woman wey comot for husband house because of cheating ,will still go dating married men.most things she said is true
A married has built capacity over time and he couldn't have achieved that without his wife,so what the girl talker is seeing in married men,was built in collaboration by the wife of the married man. If the girl talker saw the married man before he got married,will she date him ? In my opinion,spouses need to be intentional in every aspect(sex,love languages,romance,communication etc) of marriage by ensuring no stone is left unturn,so that people like 'the girl talker' will not be a silent pestilence in loving marriage. Thank you Ebuka for shifting her mindset,and trust me she will go home and ponder on your words. Weldone honest bunch team.
I was listening to this on Spotify. It got so intense that I had to see the faces that were speaking (for the first time). People dey sha 😂. And I love the openness and confidence of that lady. Ebuka, you did your best but some people have explored too much to reason like you.
The fact that all the guests could learn perspectives from one another without being judgmental and negatively critical shows the quality of conversation evidenced in this podcast. That is the beauty of civilized discuss I so enjoy on your show. Well done Ezinne, Deity Cole and Chukwudi Husband material. Always an enlightening experience listening to you guys on Mondays.
Girl Talker, thank you for this explosive LECTURE delivered free of charge to the women folk. Ladies, learn from this lecture and take steps to mend your ways and secure your marriages. too many times, promising marriages are broken as a result of lack of knowledge, proper grooming or laziness.
There's no romance without finance no matter how hard you dice it. This is the reality if thr world as we know it. Most of the times I was mad.....No sratch that. All of the times I was mad at finance being an issue in mine when I was in my 20s was because I was broke AF. Attaining a state of financial comfort is a must for any man looking to maximize the joys of a relationship and have the woman always be effortless with how she treats you. I love the authenticity of thegirltalker. That's really how it be y'all. 💯
We are really a country that celebrate mediocrity. Because tell me why it is not this guy on black jacket that’s trending! A whole ass intelligent young man. Full of intellect and wisdom. Nailed every question with standard points! Made proper references! A 10/10 intelligent human. I hope that he meets or is with a woman who is equally intelligent and value his being!
Ebuka is very gbasgious and highly icucuvated! Omo see oyibo na LOL. He is sound, articulate and understand his onions. He presents his points awesomely. I love this guy
She doesn't know jack because she sound as someone far away from love and its true elements! Such opinion of hers shouldn't be air outside but within her own capsule. It is very easy to be irresponsible and unaccountable with takes.
After watching this, my perspective towards some married men and some single men change entirely, may the faithful women and faithful married women live long actively in God's strength, plus i like this guy point of view towards love...... its well sha..
This guy on black… oh my goodness!!!! What great wisdom oozing from One person. His words are soooo powerful that it immediately exposes the level of ignorance in the room. It’s incredibly amazing how some of the ladies who tend to disagree are ultimately silenced when he speaks. Weldon Bro 👍. I’m glad someone who gets it was there in that room. You can imagine how everything would have turned out if he wasn’t in there.
The other woman is actually VERY mature to stand that her stance even though shes not married yet. Many people regret their marriages because they don't have her kind of reality. We are only judging her cos she's realistic. Love is a DECISION. Many intentionally went in and are SORELY in REGRETS
Ebuka trying to make logical sense to illogical human beings 🤣🤣🤣. All the best bro!
rigggghtttt
someone that see can't work a miracle to open the eyes of blind person. talking to a wall
He got tired at some point 🤣🤣🤣.
😆 🤣 😂 😹
I respect Girl talker , the calmness is enviable! Despite the sensitive nature of the conversation , her rate, tone and volume of voice stays same . Leg remains crossed , facial expression is calm . I am so impressed ! , felt like i am watching a UK talk show . Amazing!
When Ebuka mentioned Admiralty, I screamed! 😂 Lol, I remembered an Incident. But to be fair, Ebuka spoke intelligently. He's got some knowledge up there! Plus his composure, No aggression or offensive words to the ladies! That's top notch.
Who else noticed that the conversation was cool and not aggressive, the way they talk, they way they respond to each other with respect etc
are you trying to say someone is a trouble maker
How is she psychologically intelligent?
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Ebuka is truly a Philosopher ..
The way he is listening reasoning, responding and asking questions beyond this generation's Level ..
You are sure right!!!
I swear only an intelligent person will understand Ebuka
Exactly!
That's what I came to the comment section to type and I saw Uv already typed it!
He's highly filled with Divine intelligence!! 🔥
@@MrZoszosExactly, he looks like a guy that would be committed to his wife and I pray he finds the right woman that will give him peace. Also, I pray he will never be like the men who patronize girl talker or cross the path of the other one that's looking for 1 million. Awon, obirin ole jatijati, ti won ni lo wa ise se afi ki won ma da ile ru
@@adedejibabatunde2181I tell you!
at first, the girl talker definition of love made sense but when she started talking, I sensed the brokenness in her. I hope she heals fully.
Yes, she's completely broken and needs therapy fast, because she will look back a few years from now only to realize that what she thought will give her happiness is actually destroying her the more
Ebuka, you’re so wise.
God bless you for speaking the truth.
Very wise man I give it to him
I will say He is an economist as well.
Just because someone says what you want to hear doesn't make them wise. The others made valid points as well.
Ebuka is really a smart young man and I'm so proud of my gender.
He is indeed
I'm so proud of him too
Not smart... Deep. Circumspective. Wise. Grounded.
He possesses the gravitas of a thinker. Kudos to Ebuka! 👍
@@TadeMakun Very well described..... absolutely! 👍
@@TadeMakunI second you but those qualities make him smart as well
This generation is living carelessly….Thank you Ebuka for standing by the truth
They think e verything should just about them. They don't know the reality about life and they don't want to learn.
That’s the reality unfortunately, humans don’t want positive things, negativity sells and it’s exciting. The ball is in the court of men. It’s up to men to stick to thier wives . But the question is ..can they?
facts
@@Khadija-fc9dr Don't worry dear.
One way or the other, They're soon gonna learn....the hard way. Cos what you sow, you will surely reap!
No it's always being part of us human being just this generation is more open about it
Ebuka is speaking the wisdom of God. Not so many people can comprehend and that’s Okay. Welldone Ebuka. Keep growing in wisdom.
He is making no sense. He should review the video with a vegan eye and make changes with his approach.
@Kupefilms I thought as much. He contradicts himself a lot but wants to sound smart.
❤ hi
You cannot share equal love to two different people…..one must be loved the most
@Kupefilms only a wise person can comprehend what Ebuka was saying ❤
This Ebuka guy God bless you richly for standing with the truth to the end. Your thought process is 💯% legit
This Guy is so blessed
Ebuka speaks so smartly, honestly, I love his choice of words
Do you get??!!
So much wisdom and intelligence
The point Ebuka made about God’s love not being transactional is an EXCELLENT point and shows he really is a Christian.
Ebuka this Ebika that, girl talker is speaking facts.
Is alot of lessons in the things she's saying
But God's love is transactional ....u have to love him and obey his commandments
@@obimc-anthony8140 NO. While we were yet sinners, Christ died for us and even now, he gives a choice to either choose him and live or dont and be damned
@michaelfreesoul5636 how did you know that? Lemme guess because the book told you?
Ebuka was not even speaking as a believer but still made a lot sense! That’s a brilliant and logical man right there! Ignore the lost souls!!
he isnt speaking like someone that has a lot of life experiences.....He doesnt understand Love...u can love multiple ppl at the same time.
@@a.k.omanagement6155 He has read lots of irrelevant books, conflicting everything.
Ok😂😂😂
@@a.k.omanagement6155Of course, just as you can divide your cup of water into 20 leaking cups
@@a.k.omanagement6155Ok you're the smart one. Happy now?
I really loved the way Ebuka spoke so enlightening. Spoke like a true Christian
The lady talker, by listening to her, is a great communicator. However, the strong personality she is portraying is a tower of Jericho hiding a lot of hurting staff that have somehow hurt her in the past and made her take this new approach of relationships.
Deep fact but she states truth about life .. then u get to learn from the both side of life
I don't she really meant all those stuff she said
@@obiezukosisochukwu6436 she does
Most times I follow these podcasts ...it just reiterates how that there are many hurt people who have adapted to their pain, teach others from that pain and devised mechanisms to protect themselves...in the end we are not our best selves when we walk on egg shells... hence another reason to be intentional and knowledgeable before starting a family...
Ebuka, may ALMIGHTY GOD keep blessing you with wisdom. You are wise, smart and eloquent. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Ebuka is so wise. Such wisdom and accuracy. Too knowledgeable
Ebuka is not intelligent, Is the dumbest trying to defend white man culture. This is reality (Africa) everyone is entitled to is opinion.
It is always beautiful when someone who represents God displays a sound mind and clearly shows how different he is. Light.
I would have expected love definition to be dissected too by definitions and categorization: Philia, Eros, Storge and ultimately Agape!
Many of Us are walking around with VERY DEEP WOUNDS that have not healed and going on to wound others.
❤🙏🏿💪
Keep preaching 😂😂you sef u sabi wetin love and relationship means you will just open mouth wa
This Ebuka guy... Is too intelligent... Gosh man giving life examples... Too smart 💯
Who agree with me that husband material is the face of honest punch , man have done this consistently over the years. Take ur flowers 🌹 MATERIAL ❤
True but ezinne is vital too, and nedu is a very necessary evil that the honest bunch needs too
make una no start.
Don't spoil the team o.. Biko😂😂😂
@@mosesnnamah8564Nedu is a necessary evil I swear!!!😂😂😂 I wished he was around for this episode
As nedu no dey for this episode, I like am oooooo 😂, if you check very well you go see say no distraction every body just dey calm dey answer the question.😊
Ebuka is intelligent.....brilliant points.
Nah...he makes some good points but made a lot of blunders which reveals his life inexperiences or lack of knowledge!
@@emexokezie7796Exactly, he's very inexperienced. 😀 😀.
U go just open mouth waah dey cap gibberish, if u watch this from beginning to end u go know say Ebuka was very theoretical and logically, plus very smart too.@@emexokezie7796
Very intelligent...for those that can relate.
Ebuka is intelligent but landing his points was the shaking part but then u can see where he is coming from ❤
Ebuka made me glue to the screen. Thank you so much Ebuka for your insight and wisdom.
Your values should be your standards for relationship not feeling because it's not enough.
How can I like this twice this is my thought exactly you can feel anything for anyone and that’s ebuka’s point as well but that should not be the determining factor of whether you go into a relationship with them because it will not work. Your values should be the determining factor which if they’re faulty will lead you wrong so that’s what people should focus on and seeing who and what aligns with their values. Not the other way round not following feelings for someone and then forcing them to align with your values it won’t work
Honestly, there’s a sense of objectivity and level headedness in listening to Girl Talker’s takes. Most people have these conversations from a place of emotion. But her maturity to easily translate her thoughts and opinions across is refreshing.
I wish I could understand her like u do, all I see is a mean n bitter woman who has been hurt, n then decides that oh yes I should make other people feel the same hurt. She wants to have fun and live her life but it has to be with married men, when there are thousands of single n unserious guys outside she can do that with. Her point for going after single men I just don't get
The way the society has redefined what love is truly is ehnnnn. It is well o!
Ebuka, kudos to you
Society only creates more confusion in terms of love.
Ebuka is a brilliant guy. He is the Nigerian that gives hope for a better tomorrow in Nigeria
Thanks alot Ebuka for proper explanation of love and relationships,the 4 other ladies are just saying what i dont understand
Exactly my thoughts 👍
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Honestly Ebuka came to show with an arrogant mindset. He was excessively theoretical and exhibited a lot of inexperience. Though he sounded moral, but he was talking a lot of nonsense.
Thought I was the only one who observed this
They have zero values
Hand wey touch my comment won't know poverty amen and amen
for ur small mind u dey pray for poverty my brother go hustel
@@juliuskarmacomedyandcreati7699God bless your soul so you will get peace amen
@@juliuskarmacomedyandcreati7699God bless your soul so you will get peace in your life
@@juliuskarmacomedyandcreati7699God bless your soul so you will get peace in your life
AMEN
Ebuka is bigger than this room. His reality is beyond than understanding.
Men don show these ladies pepper 😂😂😂... Zero love in their hearts... Transactional love everywhere. Guys, shine your eyes
I dey tell you 💯
Some of them nobody showed them anything, everybody wants to be woke by force.
I was going to say that @@cynthiaoparah6176
Transactional love everywhere fr 😂
These ladies don’t know what love is at all. They need therapy. Love is not selfish and doesn’t hurt. They need to heal. Thank you Ebuka for enlightening them. Love is way deeper than feelings
Right ✅️
@@franchescaasamoah3046the truth is love is a choice and is Intentional, with this you will
Know that you can actually love more than one person equally at the same time. Now the problem most people have is if the resources is available for that
They do not understand anything about love.
Ikr, cus what are they saying? Is not equivalent to feelings not to talk of love
They just want someone to show them materialistic life
they are lost
It's hard to believe that people like Ebuka exists. He's filled with so much wisdom and thoughts.
Finally... Someone with the actual definition of love... Away from selfish perspectives. Ebuka. One of the best people to come on this podcast. If I was invited to speak on this topic... I'd say the same thing
Ebuka is an embodiment of knowledge, his exposure class is far beyond everyone in that room.
Thumbs up man
The young man is right. You can not love two people equally. You love what each one bring or you love one more than the other
I don’t agree with you. You can live as many people as you want and it is love bro.
This is my best podcast so far. Ebuka you're super intelligent, I admire your ocean of wisdom 🤝
Love:
1. Rooted Connection: Love is deeper and more enduring. It’s based on genuine emotional connection.
2. Characteristics: Love involves trust, respect, and mutual understanding.
3. Acceptance: You accept both the good and the challenging aspects of your partner.
4. Friendship: Love often includes a strong friendship component.
5. Stability: It’s stable and consistent over time.
6. Different Lens: When in love, you see life through a calm, knowing lens.
Infatuation:
1. Focus: Infatuation centers around intense physical attraction and the rush of emotions that come with it.
2. Duration: It’s often short-lived and intense.
3. Emotions: Infatuation involves euphoria, irrational feelings, and lust.
4. Idealization: You may idealize the person and overlook their flaws.
5. Physical: It’s often linked to sexual desire.
6. State: Infatuation feels like a whirlwind romance and obsession.
Remember, both can coexist in a relationship, but love goes beyond the initial infatuation.
Well said
Thank you, God bless you
"And your bike was spoiling everyday" Killed me
This guy is super intelligent.
I love the way he buttresses his idea with clarity and certainty.
The babe explained her points explicitly i have to give it to her. and thats d reality we live in right now.
Exactly 💯 she is talking reality
Reality, yes... but nonetheless quite dispiriting. But 'the other woman' is very self aware & lovable.
I pray she'll find (rather, that God will give her!) a better deal than she's set out to achieve in love and life.
Phew! That was a very interesting episode. The Talker seems to be a master manipulator. She tried to manipulate Ebuka on several occasions and pretended to forget his name twice, which is quite disrespectful. Ebuka is an amazingly patient and brilliant guy who knows his stuff. He never tries to impose or project his personal beliefs on anyone, but rather explains his thoughts rationally. Anyway, I appreciate the sincerity of all the participants, which made the session even more engaging. Kudos to everyone involved!
When we needed Nedu the most he vanished.
Good episode, thumbs up to everyone of you. You all spoke well. Thank you
Nedu will ask "how many married men don wipe you"? Na celebrities 😅?
I miss Nedu on this particular episode
@isuduedokpa7974 I like nedu 😂😂😂
@@isuduedokpa7974😂😂😂😂
This conversation is too mature for nedu
The materialistic nature of society creeping into modern times can be seen clearly reflected in the way the female guests relate what the meaning of love is
Sincerely
Exactly, she believes that the life she's living is love,when it is completely transactional, as she narrated two such transactional occasions in her relationship with men. There's a deep hurt lying somewhere within her and this is her coping mechanism
Husband material: “Our different perspectives of love doesn’t change what it really means.”
Kudos, bro!!!
This girl talker has taken over the show n taken the conversation to other level i appreciate her bluntness that's class
Everyone is giving thumbs up to Ebuka. How come it is girls talker perspective that is trending online?
To me , Ebuka is analyzing the way it should be. Girl talker is analyzing the way it is. She may sound weird sometimes but I think married women should listen to her more. Facts are facts even when they do not represent the ideal.
The fact that only the girl talker perspective is trending shows how debased the society is.
I love the way they exchanged ideas respectfully and with all civility even when didn’t agree.
Married women should listen more to someone who says she's been hurt in the past ,so now she has decided to assist married men in hurting other women?? She's just selfish n wicked bc whatever she wants to have with these men, she can have that lots of single guys out there, and not be a reason for someone's pain.
So she is afraid to be the woman inside, so it's better she becomes the tormentor of those who have chosen to be inside.
Exactly! I think she's a very 'real' person in the sense that she was tackling the question from a practical standpoint however the guy was coming from an ideal standpoint.
Girltalker is the kind of woman most Nigerian men needs at home, she is imperfect and wounded, but she KNOWS the exact role a woman should play in a man's life!
Why has no man married her? They use and dump her😂😂😂😂. She has been disappointed so many times. She is a hurt and broken soul.She has nothing to offer
What??? It’s a simp like you will like to marry her and tomorrow you will be all over social media crying and complaining.You see a red flag and you want to enter???
I swear if women were like her marriage for they last and he for they sweet even the way she dey talk I dey feel am
@@starkjunior yet many of your mothers are like that but what did your fathers repay them with
you can never get her at home
I'm talking from experience.... As a married woman that I am... Nobody says its gonna be easy but try as much as you can to be everything that your husband wants.... I go to work yes I take care of the home too yes my husband helps me out with everything... But I'm still that baby girl and that bad girl in the other room at the same time... Its gonna reduce the amount of side chicks around... I'm not saying its gonna stop men from cheating but trust me it's going to reduce cheating.
😂😂😂😂... so because as a married woman, other men no dey enter your eye??
This statement isn’t balanced. Both parties in a marriage should be intentional in making it work. It shouldn’t be one person trying so the husband wouldn’t cheat.
A cheat will always be a cheat
No matter what you do
A man who is discipline will never cheat
What if you have a man that doesn't help you with anything? My dear just live that thing and pray to God, that marriage will not make you lose your purpose on earth
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
The other woman, hmmm you go cry 😭😂
Who is here after seeing the clip on Facebook?
I also saw it on Facebook which I found it interesting. That’s why I came here to watch the full video. I even had to download the full video in case I can’t have the time to watch it now.
This lady with dreads is such an excellent story teller and communicator, she has an amazingly personality, she has been hurt and hasn't fully healed and is putting up a front as the woman outside, but deep inside she is actually a beautiful soul. Forget the acting she is putting up, the man that will eventually be lucky to have her as a wife will enjoy her.
Unfortunately, even after forgiveness, prices will be paid. She's a nice person, she has let herself to b used the the enemy and she obviously don't want to be advised.
😂😂
But thats her truth and ppl should be allowed to learn from their truth@ethelyolande
@@jennifernnoli8240 only she's not learning. She didn't come out to say it's something she's doing and learning a better way. She's pointing it out as a right way and is justifying it, that's the issue. When a woman says this or says she does this as a job, other women say it's her truth. But if someone came and said they steal or they kill and it's their truth, they enjoy it, will you keep the same energy. In this life, and in almost all religions, there are things are are wrong. Both morally, spiritually and by law. No body is perfect. It's different when someone can admit to a lifestyle theyvare living to be bad, but they are learning to be better, than when that person is justifying it and using other people's problems to tell u why it's ok. Someonday another will come and say they prefer their own kids, and you will be clapping in the name of its their truth.
And I know people will ask what about those husbands. It's even worst behavior from the husband, but we are talking about her cuz she's the person online justifying it.
Now let's use u as an example, u are a woman, if that girl can justify it as her truth, it means the husbands can also justify it as their truths. If ur husband came out and told you that's his truth, or if your sisters or friends husband, or if your dad came to say that's their truth, or your married son came out to say the same thing. As in they are enjoy the woman outside and that's how they want to live while being married to you, your friend, sister, mother, daughter, will you keep that same energy?
@@ethelyolande now perfectly said. The truth is far different from Her truth and also different from My truth. I am not her and can never be her. She is coming from a place . And I won't judge her because me gan no be Saint. We strive to be better. For your scenario you painted omo My energy Will be far different because I don't share. Mine is mine. And won't want to even have the idea of sharing smth as personal as a spouse with others, but is it the same with others, obviously not hence polygamy exist. But it's great to have an open mind to issues. Knowing that life isn't just black and white but Grey exist.
😅 husband material just dae gather experience, he’s shocked and amazed at the same time… his reaction 😂😂
Girl talker is really intelligent,factual and honest,Ebuka is quite a charmer with lots of wisdom and what love is but the button line is marriage needs lots of open communication,comprehension and honesty
if we cant fine a problem in immorality where do we get the audacity to blame our African presidents. lets stop promoting negativity. at this level our children are finished.
Women, pray for your husbands. Pray for your sex life, pray about everything. Pray that the desires of your husband will be only to you. May your marriages reflect heaven on earth❤ marriages are beautiful and your home will be peaceful
Only women abi?
Pls it's not prayer oh,
You have to do the work,
Bring out time,do the work and be consistent
What will the man be doing while you putting in all this work and effort?@@chiomamadu7305
Men should pray for who
@chiomamadu7305 a woman who has househelps or the one who foots the man's bill,bear him children,works & does the housechores.
The fact that Toun says “hey Chommies” makes me feel like I’m watching a united African podcast. As a southern African please never stop doing that, love you guys 😂❤❤❤❤
This podcast conversation highlights why many believe love alone isn't enough to sustain a relationship or marriage. It is so clear that many people today, especially in this age, don't fully understand the true nature and complexities of love. We claim to know what we do not know. This generation more than ever needs relationship counselling and therapy. Shalom!
I love how this episode encompasses all the views and perspectives of modern dating and relationships out there. Each person actually represented how a lot of people think out there. It is brilliant and there is a lot to learn from this.
EBUKA I LOVE YOU MAN! Was so put off seeing the snippets. But EBUKA, You were the required balance on this set! Thanks for giving me value for watching this.
This young man Ebuka is so intelligent, I am proud of him.
He sounds so interesting n intelligent
I admire Ebuka's ability to effectively communicate and aptly emphasise his premise in the conversation. That's a great communicator right there.
Exactly
I respectfully disagree. Ebuka was out of his depth on the conversation.
@@rngwu69 Really? Try have this same conversation with 4 women whose opinion and views contradict yours. You may not do better. Seems you've not had argument with a woman before. I see how they were drifting around the conversation, making it more shallow but the dude was the only fiber holding the discussion straight. W must give Ebuka his credits.
Girl Talker is one of the most realistic and psychologically intelligent woman I've seen! 🔥
True
But all the things she said are simple life decisions when you are flirting without a heart to love. It’s normal, the only thing that makes one change from such life is God and the choice to make heaven. People like this are ashamed of being heart broken and they expect less from who they chose to be with. They have 50/50 trust or no trust. Only those who are like them will know that they are vulnerable in their invulnerability 😅
They seem tough and strong
Always leading
Just because they believe it’s hard to control the urge of flirting, so they chose to nourish their wants while satisfying others and being the lead in the game at the same time: and not being caught heart broken. So even when she’s married, she can’t trust her husband 100%
There must be room for “ I was expecting it”
Who she is, isn’t new or strange. The only solution is God and retirement 😅
@@ndianaabasistephen9756Well said!!!!
I totally agree
In my opinion, I believe vulnerability is required for true love to be experienced. I agree with ebuka 💯
Ebuka is tooo wise for this podcast 😂😂😂😂😂😭😭 too much wisdom
God bless you for this...hes way ahead....he defines his analogy from origin making it simple to understand....for the ladies...well lemme reserve my opinion
So true
Just because someone says what you want to hear doesn't make them wise. The others made valid points as well.
@@your-neighbor Respectfully I’m not listening to people that will justify sleeping with another persons husband for what they will get in return. (Not even to marry oooo) just to open legs for money. Where is the dignity, where is the self respect, where is the shame?. You too you have a mother don’t you? Or if one day you have a daughter/ maybe you do now. So if they now decide to be sleeping with another persons husband because they want money. You will be proud Abi?
Is this not what ashewos do? So what is the difference between them and those who stand on the street? Pls tell me.
@@imade4951 Firstly, that's not the only talk on the podcast, the personal highlight for me is the argument based on loving multiple people at the same time. On the married men matter the lady is just portraying the reality of today and being true to herself except we want to lie and feign ignorance that it's not happening in our present world. No one is right and no one is wrong, it's all based on perception.
This guy is the goat here and he sounded intelligent...you can't love two at the same time my dear.
I think you are now the goat, because He said you can (Not) Love two people at the sametime.
Husband material is actually a true husband material!
Thank God men like this still exist!
I love the fact that this lady is controversial😂😂. She makes this conversation interesting
Girl Talker is broken and needs to heal .When she finally gets to the point where she wants to marry,she will understand Ebuka made a lot of sense on this episode.
If she gets to that point
My thing is if she gets to that point why would somebody marry her she is a side chick and she only wants married men so she's not used to getting 100% of a man can she handle that much affection from a man that's the true question
Cheating is not the opposite of love. Society has made it seem like it's the lack of love. Rather, cheating is a lack of discipline and self-control. You can be indiscipline and still love 100%.
If you lack self control/discipline that means you done love yourself
So correct my brother
I thought that self discipline is a facet of love
Self control is a facet of love buy you know the same self control in not just an entanglement or in Ebuka's words an expression of love. Self control can be about anger management not necessarily just sex or cheating. Cheating is not a negation of love or it's opposite. Philosophical cheating can be argue as a sign of love or in Ebuka's word an expression of love.
Cheater don drop quote😂
The lady in green is brutally frank, down to earth, excellent communicator and very intelligent.
She blunt but always contradicting herself which to me makes her dumb just using phonetics to fine tune it
@@kenwilliams9060 my sister people like to deserve themselves,
yes..she is honest and blunt..if u meet her in person..she dont lie..she will be blunt with u..if you like be angry
I concur
@@feliciawilliams4407 like angry that what , lol she sounds lost I feel sorry for her and she has serious esteem issues ohh she is happy that she able to destroy someone home . lol delusional to be honest
Ebuka is making a lot of sense and many people may not agree with him. Worldly views has washed away the true meaning of things and it changes everyday. Ebuka is full of wisdom 👏👏
Ebuka and Husband Material are honorable men with GODLY principles
How you take know?😂😂
Just because they are speaking like this doesn't mean they don't or can't do it.
I have seen a lot of people that enjoys what they used to dislike.
Most African men and most white married men and women are not faithful even those naija pastors. We know nah...
Make you give them two minutes, dem go play corner betting😀
@@Trichmediaare you sure you are not her hiding under another account 😂😂😂 cause I have seen like 3 comments from you 😂😂😂😂. If you think she is the wise one here omoooo……
@@imade4951 Are you stalking me?😂😂, just joking though.
Nigerians, una funny sha, I love watching shows from Nigeria, the last time I visited was 14 years ago.
I have a lot of life experiences with women, probably more than the girl in blue skirt, this issue with folks out there is just lack of awareness and closed-mindedness.
Ebuka is out for a rude awakening.
Bragging that he's smart when it comes to women, make he go read history about what happend to most great men that came before us.
I don't believe in marriage and no expectations when it comes to meeting women. 😀
THIS IS HIGH LEVEL DISCUSSION. SUPER INTERESTING
😂😂😂Girl talker is very sincere. Kudos to you all
The girl talker has really said the truth,any woman wey comot for husband house because of cheating ,will still go dating married men.most things she said is true
I am surprised. She's realistic. I don't know her background but she sounds like someone who understands sociology
A married has built capacity over time and he couldn't have achieved that without his wife,so what the girl talker is seeing in married men,was built in collaboration by the wife of the married man.
If the girl talker saw the married man before he got married,will she date him ?
In my opinion,spouses need to be intentional in every aspect(sex,love languages,romance,communication etc) of marriage by ensuring no stone is left unturn,so that people like 'the girl talker' will not be a silent pestilence in loving marriage.
Thank you Ebuka for shifting her mindset,and trust me she will go home and ponder on your words.
Weldone honest bunch team.
Exactly. She ‘s just a good digger, looking to reap where she didn’t sow. She spoke from a place of pain and hurt
Fact
I was listening to this on Spotify. It got so intense that I had to see the faces that were speaking (for the first time).
People dey sha 😂. And I love the openness and confidence of that lady.
Ebuka, you did your best but some people have explored too much to reason like you.
I love the lady in blue skirt, her ideology will force you to think😅😅😅A breath of fresh air 😂
Omoh.. You will have a rethink
@adebusayoobasa1119 you need a rethink. That's a breath of toxic air.
Air can not be a fresh air, if your mental is right
She's the one made me subscribe to the podcast.
I'm from Trinidad and Tobago, much love in the house!
I so love the attitude this Girl Talker speaks. And she's so beautiful.....❤❤❤
The Girl talker is open minded,and has her own perspectives of understanding life.
She's broken my dear...
Pesin wey no get her self..
One day she go look back shake her head in regret
The fact that all the guests could learn perspectives from one another without being judgmental and negatively critical shows the quality of conversation evidenced in this podcast. That is the beauty of civilized discuss I so enjoy on your show. Well done Ezinne, Deity Cole and Chukwudi Husband material. Always an enlightening experience listening to you guys on Mondays.
I love this guy definition of feelings and love, not same thing.
Girl Talker, thank you for this explosive LECTURE delivered free of charge to the women folk. Ladies, learn from this lecture and take steps to mend your ways and secure your marriages. too many times, promising marriages are broken as a result of lack of knowledge, proper grooming or laziness.
There's no romance without finance no matter how hard you dice it. This is the reality if thr world as we know it. Most of the times I was mad.....No sratch that. All of the times I was mad at finance being an issue in mine when I was in my 20s was because I was broke AF. Attaining a state of financial comfort is a must for any man looking to maximize the joys of a relationship and have the woman always be effortless with how she treats you. I love the authenticity of thegirltalker. That's really how it be y'all. 💯
This Ebuka is an embodiment of knowledge... He's so calm and full of wisdom, at least as per this podcast
May God increase him in wisdom, understanding and diserment as well. Amen.
We are really a country that celebrate mediocrity. Because tell me why it is not this guy on black jacket that’s trending! A whole ass intelligent young man. Full of intellect and wisdom. Nailed every question with standard points! Made proper references! A 10/10 intelligent human.
I hope that he meets or is with a woman who is equally intelligent and value his being!
Damn! That guy who raised him 😩❤️ I want to marry someone who thinks like him🥰
These ladies🥲
I pray they get the healing they deserve ☹️
This episode is not one that Nedu should miss. This is where we need you most to help ask all those your questions
Nedu would have been screaming when girl talker was telling her stories 😅😅
This girltalker is honestly so mature and understands what life is all about
How, because she likes to date married men?
Nooo
The ability to know what you want and understand your own circle of life
Ebuka is very gbasgious and highly icucuvated! Omo see oyibo na LOL.
He is sound, articulate and understand his onions. He presents his points awesomely. I love this guy
Ebuka! You are awesome. We need more of you to speak the truth to this generation
This guy @Ebuka is wise beyond his years! God bless him.
This girl talker knew more about modern relationship than everyone in the studio
Yes
@jonathanosayi2300 she knows about immorality more than others you meant.
Immorality you mean?
Word @@godspikin8012
She doesn't know jack because she sound as someone far away from love and its true elements! Such opinion of hers shouldn't be air outside but within her own capsule. It is very easy to be irresponsible and unaccountable with takes.
After watching this, my perspective towards some married men and some single men change entirely, may the faithful women and faithful married women live long actively in God's strength, plus i like this guy point of view towards love...... its well sha..
Husband Material head won blow! the material wey the other woman need na husband😂😂😂
This guy on black… oh my goodness!!!! What great wisdom oozing from One person. His words are soooo powerful that it immediately exposes the level of ignorance in the room. It’s incredibly amazing how some of the ladies who tend to disagree are ultimately silenced when he speaks. Weldon Bro 👍. I’m glad someone who gets it was there in that room. You can imagine how everything would have turned out if he wasn’t in there.
The other girl is brutally honest. We like her.
@@ilovemusic1368Why won't you, when you are one of those people who do not understand what love means and cannot commit to a partner
The other woman is actually VERY mature to stand that her stance even though shes not married yet. Many people regret their marriages because they don't have her kind of reality. We are only judging her cos she's realistic. Love is a DECISION. Many intentionally went in and are SORELY in REGRETS
They're in regret bc of people like her who are aiding and indulging their husbands
It's like the participants could see right on the show, visibly what they've never seen before. "The other woman."
This Guy in black speak the real definition of love
Ebuka