Miscarriage | We Lost Our Baby to Incompetent Cervix 👼🏽
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- Опубліковано 16 вер 2024
- Today is a different video..I’m telling the story of losing our son. I wanted this for memories so I don’t forget all the details of what happened up until November 7, 2018. Thank you for watching.
We loss our baby girl Kyla on 12/27/19 ❤️ I’ve never known about an incompetent cervix prior to this and I have 3 full term kids. No problems, until this pregnancy! Medical professionals need to look for these issues in every woman when we first find out we are pregnant! It is clear that most woman experience this and I feel it may be something they can care for before it turns into a loss! Just my personal opinion! I miss my baby girl!
I loss her at 20 weeks!
Me too just loss my baby girl at 20 weeks march 17 2020 i have an baby boy 2 years old already i miss my baby😔😇👶🏾
After i got miscarriage at 18 weeks, not incompetent cervix.. but loss baby with no proper reasons.. i went to government hospital and went on entire procedure there, when i returned back to my regular check up doctor he told it may be due to incompetent cervix but after knowing that i went on labor for whole day and had water break latet on.. doctor told it may be chromosomal disorder as per the baby looked. We just showed papers and baby pics that was took time of delivered. I am having current pregnancy and he gave aspirin to reduce preterm labor preclampsia.. and control blood pressure.. i am hoping this sticks as this is my third pregnancy and 2 were miscarriage previous.
You are incredibly strong and i admire your strength. thank you sooo much for sharing this story. This is super healing. God will continue was blessed your beautiful family.
I’m in tears watching this. My story is similar, everything happened so fast. It was hard to process everything. My sweet girl came at 22w + 5 days on July 4, 2020. My sweet girl passed 4 days later, July 8, 2020. Everything is still so surreal to me. I was also diagnosed with IC and I feel like so much could have been done to prevent all this from happening. I pray for the day of healing and for the day that I can move forward to try again 🌈
Thank you for sharing your story and I’m sorry for your loss. Just lost my daughter from IC at 20 weeks a month ago and feel like I’ll never be the same. It’s a whole different level of hurt also when it’s your first child. I see in your videos that you were blessed with another baby. Very happy for you and your husband. Much love. ❤️
I lost my baby girl at 19 weeks I was waiting for so long ,my first child this is so painful losing your baby and there’s nothing you can do to safe your child
Thank you so much for making your video Erika. I lost my son Max 8 weeks ago today at 20weeks and knowing other people have gone through it too is comforting. I miss Max every day and think about him all the time. You are so strong!!
Jennifer Esmé I’m so sorry for your loss of beautiful Max 💙 I still think about my Jett and in November, it will be 2 years. I watched so many videos as well and read so many stories of incompetent cervix and that’s what comforted me as well. Also knowing that there is hope to bring home a baby. Don’t give up. Keep me updated. ❤️
I'm so sorry for your loss I just went thru this 3 weeks ago due to incompetent cervix as well we only got to 23 weeks💔my heart is broken. Pray for me🙏
I just lost my son March 2020 due to IC. I was 20 weeks and 5 days. Ended up with sepsis during labor. What has been helping is watching everyone’s story about their experience. Thank you for sharing. Stay strong!
I just lost my baby April 19, 2020. I was 16 weeks pregnant. I was told the exact same thing. I was having a boy too. I had already started buying baby clothes. I’m going to start trying again once I’m mentally ready but Thank you for sharing your story❤️
I'm so sorry for your loss🙏 I've had 3 cervical surgeries (2 in 2018 and 1 in 2019). Was told by my doctors that I can still get pregnant. I found out I was pregnant Oct 2nd, 2019. Since I had a miscarriage that same year, I made sure to see a doctor right away to prevent from having another miscarriage. The doctor prescribed suppository progesterone which I would insert every night. The first 2 months I did experienced some bleeding which I thought were miscarriages, but thank god it wasn't. My doctor did mention that my cervix is probably swollen and he told the nurse that they would referral me to a specialist. When I was 20 weeks I think on a Wednesday they checked my cervix and it was short that's when i got referral to the specialist. On Monday Jan 20 I saw the specialist and he said I have 2 options, 1 medication and baby survival and full term pregnancy is 75% or cerclage surgery survival and full term is 95%. I chose the cerclage and he did it that same day. During my procedure the doctor poked a hole on my bladder. Right away after my surgery I had to be rush to the hospital and probably have another surgery on my bladder. Such a nightmare. I had a catheter for 2 weeks. My cervix got longer in those 2 weeks( 3.29cm). 1 week later it got shorter to 2.01cm. The specialist said "if you make it to at least 28 weeks then you should be ok". That's the last thing I wanted to hear based on everything I've gone through! I'm currently 24 weeks and praying every day. I put myself on bedrest. I think they should change the "policy" and check women's cervix as early as 12-16 weeks especially if you've had miscarriages or cervical issues. A cerclage can be done as early as 12-14 weeks.
Evelyn Escobedo Wow what a journey you have been on! I’m sorry for your loss as well. I 100% agree that cervical checks should be just as routine as checking for gestation diabetes and infections. It shouldn’t take a loss or almost loss to detect short/incompetent cervix. I wish you all the luck with this pregnancy and praying for a full term baby! I’m currently 35 weeks pregnant with a baby boy and a cerclage placed at 13 weeks and prayer is my reason!
@@erika.creech thank you so much Erika. Congratulations on your baby boy, Wishing you all the best🙏💙
OMG congratulations.... How can I reach out to you in confidence???
msbree280 my email , erikasmith2710@gmail.com
That memory box is such an amazing gift! So sorry for your loss. I went through the same thing too. Sending u lots of love, mama.
Xe Yang thank you! The best gift ever ❤️ I’m sorry for your loss as well
I lost my son to IC at 18 weeks. He lived 2hours before he passed away. One of the hardest day of my life.
Beautiful story. You now have your angel baby, Jett and I have my angel baby, Micah. I loss Micah on December 14, 2020. I was 22+3 pregnant. Losing him was one of the saddest days of my life. I understand what you went through when you mentioned going through all of the pain of labor and birth and not having the reward(the baby). I feel the same. I said that I would go through giving birth again. It wasn't so bad, not bad at all. I pushed him out with no problem. It's the point of being home now without him. Seeing all of his diapers and gifts from his gender reveal. It's hard knowing he was just inside of me kicking and moving. I'm home now, it's been 2 weeks and I'm still bleeding and leaking breast milk. It's hard. But your story gives me comfort and hope as well. Congrats on your rainbow baby! May Jett continue to watch over you all. Thanks for sharing your story.
Omg this same exact thing happened to me but i was 21 weeks. On my 20 week checkup they found out that i had an incompetent Cervix and lost my mucus plug and nothing could be done. A week later i my water broke and i lost her. They didn’t even try to save her. So love i know exactly what you went through. It’s like watching me talk on this video
I’m sooo sorry about your baby girl. It’s horrible that we have to meet this way but I’m glad we can connect and lean on each other through the internet!! Thank you for watching!
Erika J yes my love stay strong. Even a whole year later i have my days. So allow yourself to go through the emotions and dint let no one make u feel bad for it. I keep her around my neck so she’s always with me
Same thing happened to me. Found out i had an incompetent cervix the same day i found out i was having a boy smh. I was 20 weeks. Fast forward to 12/16/20 i lost my baby 😢. Im so lost and sad right now
@@Missshantelle14 I’m sorry for ur lost. Trust you are not alone.
@@Missshantelle14 So soory for ur loss sis , but did u get the cerclage??
Bless you 💔I lost my little boy 3 months ago at 18 weeks pregnant due to the same thing...An incompetent cervix..The most heartbreaking thing I’ve ever experienced...
My condolences to you and your family I just went threw the same thing in July same amount of miscarriages as well and my was around COVID-19 where only one person could be in the room so I know your pain trust me
You’re so strong Erika!! Sending prayers your way, I love you❤️
Love you too girl ❤️
I kno this video is old but i just lost my baby boy on 12/16/20 and i was 21 weeks. Im still trying to process this and it hurts so bad. Watching these videos and listening to other women tell their story i hope will help me heal from this. Im so lost right now
@mia monroe I am so sorry for your loss as well. I loss my son on 12/14/2020. He was stillborn. My water broke too soon. I was 22+3. I am very grateful to have been able to see his little face and hold him in my arms. But I'm still questioning why did this have to happen. :(
@@shaquandrataylor2770 hye how are you.. same happened with me on 20 weeks of pregnancy my water break..and i lost my son...plz do rply what you did fr ur nct pregnancy...plz rply
Thank you for your story! Mine was very similar😢
I’m sorry to hear that, but I pray you have or are getting your rainbow baby 💙
I’m praying for you during this difficult time sweetie. I hope things feel a little better for y’all soon 🕊❤️
Life With Eb. Thank you love ❤️
Hello and I am sorry for your loss. On 2nd January 2020 I lost my baby boy at 16 weeks due to incompetent cervix too. Thank you for this video. It helps to get me through the days. I saw that you are expecting and that all is well. Congratulations and I am keeping you in my thoughts.
I am so sorry for your loss. I definitely understand the shock, pain, and grief you are probably feeling. I was there for a long time. Thank you for watching and I’m glad I can provide you with hope for your future. ❤️
Just lost my babygirl 5-25-2020 at 20 weeks. My water broke the day before my 20 week ultrasound. This has been the hardest thing I've ever been through. It was my 4th pregnancy and the furthest i had ever carried.
Antoinette R. I’m so sorry for the loss of your baby girl 😔 you are definitely in my prayers. I understand what you’re going through
@@erika.creech Thank you! I seen the video of your rainbow baby! Congratulations! You give me so much hope! 💗
Antoinette R. Thank you! And trust me, someone before me gave ME hope! It can be helped. Find a specialist and don’t stop until you get your rainbow.
Crying right now because we have the same case. Not just that, I lost 2 babies already 💔😭
Just lost my son at 21 weeks so hard to deal with
I'm very sorry for your loss Erika,
same thing happened to me. i'm 27, my first pregnancy . I lost my son Kai at 20 weeks after the dr failed to listen to me when i told her my mums history with IC. I lost my baby 1 month ago. Did u find the courage to try again ?
I’m so sorry for your loss. Your doctors should have 100% listened to you if you let them know your mother had IC! Smh. That’s just awful. Yes I did, my earthside son is now 7 months old. If you look at my more videos on my channel, I posted some pictures of my pregnancy journey and how I was able to carry full term with IC. Thank you for watching ❤️
And I just heard the name I can’t make this up busy that was my son name was baby Jett because my husband and I last name is Jett omg what’s the odds of that I’m literally freaking out this has nothing but got I can not make this up and this was my first time looking at your video this give me goosebumps I swear we need to be friends
I’m so sorry for you loss. I gave birth to my beautiful baby girl at 16 weeks in December, I was told it was due to incompetent cervix. I’m so hurt and angry because I saw my OB a week before this happened and told her I was experiencing a lot of uterine discomfort. She never checked my cervix, just my baby. My OB said my uterus is just getting bigger, and the baby looked great. I think about my daughter every day. A Gyn specialist told me trans abdominal cerclage should be my next step
miriam Jackson 😢 I’m so sorry to hear this. Our stories of loss are unfortunately so similar. There are a ton of Facebook forums about IC. Check out Abbyloopers.
I just lost my 3rd baby this past sunday and i was 16 weeks just like you were, i was also dignosed with incompitent cervix, i feel like we have soo many things in comon and i really would like to talk to you because am still in pains and dont have anybody to talk to about this thanks for sharing you story dear
Nana Ama I’m so sorry for your losses. You can email me anytime you want to talk. I know how it feels to be alone in this.
beingerikaj@gmail.com Xoxoxo 😘
Nana sorry for your loss. I had a 3rd miscarriage a week ago on 11th of October. Very devastated but God is keeping us safe and strong. I lost the baby at 17 weeks and 5 days. Drs think it's incompetent cervix, going for follow up to the clinic this coming week
@@ilovejesus9303 ooo my God, sorry for your lose their, its too painful but we have to stay strong, i feel your pain cos dats exactly how am feeling right now, lots of hugs for you, i would like to talk to u about the follow up, so u can send me an email on priscyman@mail.com
I love you and thanks for your care, we are in this together, so dont ever feel lonely ok😘😘😘
(First miscarriage at 17 weeks 1day) My baby dropped and i went into labor for 2 days which i didn't know, i saw blood in night and knew its over. I was feeling baby moves for daily night but for 3 days no movement which made me realize the bleeding means loss. After few hours i had water broke then went emergency hospital and found no heart beat just like i thought. Then no labor pain or anything, they induced me to deliver it next day morning. As per my doctor he first said its incompetent cervix then after checking papers he told its due to chromosomal disorder. I am currently at my third pregnancy I need to know what I can do now to know whether this pregnancy goes well or not? I am 16 weeks pregnant now and my hospital checkup last went well.
I'm so sorry for your loss mama. I'm going through this right now as well. I'm very curious though, did you seek legal action against the regular doctor for not doing a vaginal exam when you expressed your concerns? Also how did you find the courage to try again?
Violet Young hi! Thank you so much, and I’m sorry you are also going through this. I didn’t seek legal action, although I always wish she would have done more when I told her about my pain. And I always knew I wanted a baby, so I just decided to do my research and find a way to prevent another loss and we tried again.
I’m so sorry this happened to you. Idk if this will make you upset or feel better but there’s no telling if the cerclage would have helped any because I had to have an emergency cerclage placed on the 15th of June and I’m now back in hospital the cerclage failed I’m now 21 weeks exactly on bed rest praying to god he stays in for 2 more weeks to at least make it to viability. I’m so scared, I had 4 loses before him but all were around 5-8 weeks so as you know it’s nothing like this. I was lost as to how it happened to me because I had a totally healthy pregnancy and a healthy baby 5 years ago but apparently DNC’s can cause incompetent cervix and I had 2 back to back
What is your update? Were you able to keep baby until viability? I'm so sorry for all of your previous losses as well.
@@shaquandrataylor2770 sadly no I lost my sweet baby boy at 21+6 weeks on June 30, 2019 and then went on to lose a baby girl at 18+3 weeks May 31, 2020 after already losing 4 baby’s early on before my son. I just had surgery dec 7 to put in a TVCIC pre pregnancy so that maybe the next baby I conceive will have a chance. I plan on doing videos of our journey but dk if anyone would ever even see them. I just want to do it so people know they aren’t alone