12 Things That Ruin a First Impression Immediately
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- Опубліковано 24 кві 2018
- Scientists have proven that we form our first impression about someone within the first 7 seconds of meeting them, and 55% of the first impression is based on appearance. Pay attention to 12 common things you should avoid not to ruin the first impression.
In his research, psychologist William F. Chaplin found that people with a weak handshake are instantly judged as being shy, anxious, uninterested, or even completely incompetent.
If you place your hands on the table, don’t squeeze them too tight or lay them flat with your palms down. This makes people feel like you want to control them. Also, don’t forget about the role that culture plays here.
A 2007 study showed that people who maintain eye contact during a conversation are often seen as more confident, attentive, intelligent, and trustworthy. Try not to focus the conversation only on yourself and your issues. It’s always a good idea to be attentive to your conversation partner.
Tapping can indicate nervousness, irritation, or impatience. People might even think that you’re purposely trying to irritate others or draw attention to yourself. And while cracking your knuckles can help relieve stress, it’s one of the most annoying sounds according to a survey by The New York Times.
A study from the University of Essex showed that even just having one’s phone on the table next to them reduces a conversation’s quality and the participants’ engagement. So leave it in your bag or in your pocket.
Running late to a meeting with people you don’t know or have a formal relationship with will shed a guaranteed negative light on you. You’ll seem like an unreliable and unorganized person that doesn’t respect people enough to value their time.
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TIMESTAMPS
A weak handshake 0:38
Keeping your hands in the wrong position 1:25
Chewing gum 2:15
Avoiding eye-contact 3:01
Playing with your hair 3:41
Picking the wrong conversation topics 4:25
Invading someone’s personal space 5:07
Making distracting noises 5:49
Constantly checking your phone 6:34
Forgetting people’s names 7:23
Being late 8:00
The wrong attire 8:47
SUMMARY
-If you wanna give the right impression of confidence and capability, remember to grip the other person’s hand firmly and for no longer than 2 seconds.
-Put your hands on your lap if you want, but never keep them in your pockets because this gives the impression that you’re hiding something.
-Chewing on gum makes you look immature, self-centered, and somewhat low-brow.
-Don't be afraid to lock eyes with another person from time to time instead of constantly looking around, especially when you meet them for the first time.
-If you tend to play with your hair when you’re nervous, try to kick this habit, you could be sending them the wrong message.
-Play it safe and avoid the general “taboo” topics out there. They include health problems, money, religion, politics, or personal problems and complaints.
-When it comes to meeting someone for the first time, keep a minimum of 4 feet between the two of you.
-It can be nearly impossible to control nervous tapping, but you have to try, especially during important meetings or presentations.
-Even if you’re just checking the time on your screen, it comes off as extremely impolite when you do it during a conversation.
-Immediately repeate someone’s name after you’ve been introduced. In case you forget the name, just play it cool and try to avoid using phrases where you have to name the other person.
-Leave your house in enough time so that you don’t have to run to your meeting. You’ll be all disheveled and unfocused, and that looks bad too.
-If you’re meeting somebody for the very first time, again, especially in more formal situations, try to be conservative in your choice of clothing, be polished, and don’t use heavy perfume or tons of makeup.
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TIMESTAMPS
A weak handshake 0:38
Keeping your hands in the wrong position 1:25
Chewing gum 2:15
Avoiding eye-contact 3:01
Playing with your hair 3:41
Picking the wrong conversation topics 4:25
Invading someone’s personal space 5:07
Making distracting noises 5:49
Constantly checking your phone 6:34
Forgetting people’s names 7:23
Being late 8:00
The wrong attire 8:47
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I didn’t have to watch the full video
BRIGHT SIDE i don't wear expansive clothes or clothes in which i look my best but i do satisfies all other conditions that give my good impression to some1.. so Basically people judge me wrong at first then later they finds me awesome.. sory 4 my bad English
10:00 moneys
You can prove otherwise by actions, if you get to get the chance. . .
As far as I’m concerned, never judge anyone by first impressions
Except it goes against human psychology.
@@crimsonmcknight635 hahaha, nice one.
If you can do this, in which you can. Your going to be an incredibly awesome person.
Well, that wouldn't work in job interviews.
David Richards Definitely agree. We all judged on first impression but we can be right or wrong. But we never truly know someone till we develop time with that other individual
12 - a weak handshake
11-keeping hands in wrong position
10-chewing gum
9- avoiding eye contact
8-playing with your hair
7-picking wrong conversation topics
6-invading someone's personal space
5-making distracting noises
4-constantly checking your phone
3- forgetting people's names
2-being late
1- wrong attire
You're welcome 😊
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Thanks bro u said my time
At my first interview
I tried to maintain eye contact for too long and they thought i was cross eyed
*I'm gone*
Mohammed Bhasha 😂
😂 😂
😢😢 so sad u should maintain some time interval
Lol
@@rahulsenofficial
What was that job?
The thing which ruin our whole of the life is:
'fear of impression'
Yep knowing people are judging you is bad enough
I think we should make name of it by phobia at the last of the word
exactly...
I think i have a fear of impression.
LITERALLY
I just ask "what your full name" when I don't know some ones name.😂😂😂😂😂😂
Gr8 Trick I will use it🥀
Tq brooo... I'll use it
😀
Ohh nice one 👍 thanks
I also use this😂😂
Well, the first impression is very important especially when you are applying for a job. It is also important when you communicate with others.
“Picking the wrong conversations” my life LOL
How u doin now ?
I think a bad hygiene can also ruin a first impression
Yes
That's kind of obvious already
@@wayne6931 exactly
When ever I forget someone’s name I ask how do you spell your name?or ask for them to make there own contact in my phone. edit: wow thank you for soo many likes
Abby’s Life it would kind of be funny/awkward if they were like.. B.O.B or A.N.N...😝😂😏😖😱
well , this isn't available in my country because our names are so easy to be pronounced 😅
haha, even I asked him/her, that wre you had been, before meet me this time, place, job etc, it gives you clue about tat person. :-)
Really? Wow
@@bassemshalaby I don't think so😅 I don't know how to pronounce yours!
Having patience and meditation before and after any interview or meeting a new discussion or debate...This makes the person comfortable if it happens again ..😀😀
Whenever I feel nervous infront of others , i try to avoid eye contact with them, focus on what they are saying, which keeps me more strength.
same
Bad habit
First impressions are supposed to be a glimpse into what someone is like, not a final call to who he or she truly is.
Don’t let a first impression be the guiding point to someone's overall demeanor. Everyone deserves more than just an initial judgment call.
Loneranger Yes totally agree. if one can judge one that severely, then that only reflects that one needs to work on themselves. I learned this as a kid.
I was once standing outside of my classroom and this other person said something mean about a new girl. And so I looked at this new girl and thought to myself she doesn’t seem so bad. And from that time on she was my best friend..
People who can pass judgement on first impressions and not like them are closer to bullies, in my opinion
Honestly it’s a strength to be able to not pass those first impression judgement and find the good you like in that person, before.
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I learned from this video that there is a lot of ways that people ruin their first meeting of someone. I found it interesting how little things such as chewing gum and your hand placement has a effect on people where they look at you differently if you do these things. One benefit of the material that is presented is that you learn that normal things you do in your culture such as certain greetings are not normal to do in other cultures, then you know not to do these certain things.
Great tips! Very important to keep in mind what we say and do for sure if this hand shake, eye contact and smile are top 3 for me.
my uncle passed the interview but he got fired after he do slight mistake. after passing interview, all candidate is taken for site visit or something like that, my uncle gave a slight pat to the interviewer shoulder, like a friend do between friend. got kicked right away.
(my dad tell this and the interviewers is my dad friend, sry for bad grammar, i just want to share story)
the tone of voice is crucial, especially in interviews or formal situations.
U forgot the 11th bad breath🤣🤣🤣🤣
Always understand that even you will have this sometimes ans im for sure it has happened
This is true. Bad breath pushes people away
Some people have health problems so I wouldn't judge someone based on this tbh.
Bad breath & / or body odour.
That would be my top 5.
very impressive. the content the back ground music, the situation, the way talking and expressing. Well done and amazing.
When with friends or in a meeting, even keeping hands on your lap that means inside the table indicate that you are hiding something.
Great summary about the basics of conversation, especially in a formal setting! I would be interested in a video about the effect of subconcious bonding in formal conversations with people with the purpse to reach specific goals, e.g in settings like calming down emotions or conflicts, negotiations products or salary etc. What principles from a psychological perspective could help?
Good advisable video.. Thanks for posting!👍🌞
This video is an eye opener! So helpful to learn how to make the best impression possible. Thanks for sharing! 👍
Thank you, I will from here on out actively be doing these
Eye contact is HUGE!!!
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Regarding remembering names, I believe it is important to make certain you hear and understand the name when introduced. Some people say their names quickly or in a noisy room, so it's easy to misunderstand it. I like to make a point of spelling it mentally to help remember it, and if I didn't catch it the first time, I might ask again; I figure this also shows that I care enough to get it right. If it's just someone trying to sell my something in which I have no interest, then I don't really care if I hear it properly.
I got to know more things after watching this video. Really impressed!
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I think the only thing you forgot to mention was to stand up right. Someone who stands confidently upright with their chest up in their hands by their sides are always seem to be like they’re confident and in charge and know what they’re doing even into scenarios when they don’t know what they’re doing. Other than that I really enjoy these tips and I kind a new at all of them already. Thank you bright side
When I forget people's names, which I do all the time, I ask them and apologize for forgetting later, and I try to use their name in a sentence, even if its awkward, it helps remembering a name if you use it. Its extremely common to forget names when you meet so many people in college or a new social community, so I think, for those that are aware of that, can be more forgiving. Or it can be considered honorable or make things easier between people when you are open and admit your accident. Lets other people know they don't have to keep some perfect image cause their acquaintance doesn't seem to hold themselves to that pressure either.
From watching this video, I learned about the many ways that a first impression can be ruined, from hand placement, to the way you dress. it has an impact on people where they look at you differently if you do these things. One of the benefits of the material presented is that you learn that normal things you do in your culture such as certain greetings are not normal in other cultures, then you know not to do those certain things. This video will help draw attention to actions you may not be aware of, so you can prepare for your next interaction with someone. First impressions are very important, especially when you are applying for a job. This is also important when you communicate with other people.
I’ve learned so many things from this video. Thanks to Bright Side! 😊
I get angry when people interrupt me when I'm talking. It's like they don't care what I have to say or they just don't want to hear me speak. It ticks me off
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You also forgot to say excuse me or pardon when trying to move past some one, and you also forgot to mention to say thank you because that is the most important thing for everyone and anything. Thank you bright side!
When you laugh unnecessarily it also shows that you might b lacking self confidence and it can so irritating 😠.
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Not more irritating than a shallow and judgemental person :)
Your voice is so persuading, i am surprised with the things even i knew them))) you know your work!👍
This video was very eye opening for me and probably a lot of other folks as well
Thank you for your kind that information.
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Eye contact really depends on the person and the region.
For instance, people from certain backgrounds may consider it rude for a younger person to stay in constant eye contact with the elder.
Very true ....
Yeah
Yes. Our culture is like that.
Pray for me i am having interview in cadet college
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How is it
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A bad odour could also ruin a first impression, but thank you so much Bright side for this video cause I have an important interview coming up and I will definitely avoid these elements
This gonna be very useful in my job interview.. Thank u😇
Fantastic. i believe all the mentioned points are important because every person's perspective to judge other is subjective.
whoever you are, just get out there and show em how it's done! always be yourself and confident, just don't be fake!
Very knowledgeable lots of thanks God bless u
such an amazing instructive video..Thanks!!
tone of voice, ego, personality, facial expressions. how they treat others
Great video! I really learn a lot from this!
Some people may need to change their bad habits after watching this video. Thank you for sharing the lesson Bright Side.
I've always had trouble remembering people's names the first time I met them. So I would do is repeat their names a few times and let them know why. Great ice breaker plus we all get a laugh.
Ok cool. Good to know 👍Thanks 😀
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Very useful message in all the interview thank you bro
Very well said. Love this information
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From watching this video, I learned about many ways you can ruin a first impression, from the placement of your hands, to the way you dress. I found it interesting that small everyday actions can have a large impact of someone's impression of you. Just shaking someone's hand for a second too long can affect how the other person may view you. This video will help bring attention to actions that you may not even notice yourself, so you can be prepared for your next interaction with someone. Just having a firm handshake, more eye contact, and being on time are all positive actions that will benefit you next time you have a date or even a job interview.
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Nice video. Nice video. Nice video. I met my in Laws for the first time in the Philippines in May 2019. Awesome experience also captured on my GoPro!
When im in the middle eating and someone asks me a question. And then i forgot what they ask me because the food was good.
I've never had food that good!
can relate
Wow this help in persnolity development
Thx for sharing those suggestions 😊
Thanks for sharing your knowledge
Putting your hands on the desk or table folded together is a form of high interest.
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No, it reveal that you want to be overwhelmed.
Folded how exactly?
It looks like grammar school.
maybe it varies from culture to culture
*#3 Forgetting people's names*
I'm terrible at remembering names. So, I'm in trouble with this one.
jesus jimenez same here
Same
jesus jimenez same here
Me too. I don't know why, coz I've got a pretty good memory in all other respects, just, for some obscure reason, I'll forget names in seconds. I think the tip about repeating the name is a good one. The only other thing I can suggest is to try and come up with a mnemonic image: eg if you've been introduced to someone called Rob, imagine them robbing someone, or being robbed. We are visual animals, so that technique is quite effective.
jesus jimenez Oh I forgot your name. Jesus! Oh that's your name!🤔😅😂😁😉
Some people need to see this this helpful.
Thanks friend for sharing inspirational ideas and useful tips....
What puts me off a person is when I'm introduced to them and the person says hello to me but within 2 or 3 seconds the person I've just been introduced to talks to someone else like I'm suddenly invisible...I'm not expecting a full blown conversaton but I do find when that happens it comes across as being VERY dismissive!
Do whatever you want and as you want to don't be fake
First impression is the best impression but not the last so remain whatever you are
It is a nice message for my life.Thank you.
It was a precious guide. Thanks a lot
I think another important thing not to forget is personal hygiene, one has to look clean, brush their teeth and basically look put together
13) Bad or unpleasant smell.
14) Smiling too much or never smile
15) Speaking too fast (considered as insecure)
16) stammering too much
17) touching your face for no reason too much
Acting formal is important for me since i am very casual and i tent to forget boundaries while talking
Thank you! This was useful!
Being too personal or Asking personal questions to someone whom you just met ruins first impression as well. If other person is polite, he/she has to answer those questions.
I still think handshakes are weird things we do as humans lol
You are very correct about the handshake a week handshake instantly convey the message about the person as our body has a built in energy detector and the waves transmitted by other hand is detected 100% correctly.
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So I shouldn’t give shoulder rubs to the person interviewing me At job interviews. Avoiding yelling at the ringing in my ear is also probably a good choice
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very important,genuine nd common fact show in this video ....
Everyone should follow ...
This was very helpful. Thanks
I always forget other people's name that is really annoying and makes me confused in front of them
Lưu Phấn Thoáng me too lol
Me too. I often cant remember people's name before we have a rather close relationship
Lưu Phấn Thoáng same here brah lol
Sneeze really sloppy into your right hand, then shake hands immediately afterwards without missing a beat! 😂😂😂
Many of the things share by you people based on common sense but many of us ignore these tips or due to their careless attitude so they loose. However, interesting tips share by you. Thanks
The thin Blue line can learn a thing or two from this informative video. Good job!
The The TBL would never want to learn anything about making people feel comfortable. They want to do the opposite. That's why they call it the TBL. They like separating themselves from everyone else and think they're special. Think narcissist.
Sometimes, joking with a new person can ruin the first impression.
Farting in the first 7 seconds
My dream woman.
Hehehe 😋😉😉😋
Michael Max Funny I farted within the first 7 seconds of reading this comment🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
LOL... how did you come up with that? looks like a joke but it is so true. LOL....
Just make sure its silent and there are several people around to blame it on.
Excellent Informative Video👌
Very informative. Thanks
The main problem for me would have to be shyness. Although I'm an adult it still hasn't gone away.
I included eye contact with my class mate (a cute one) and when we were talking about some issues he started trusting me . It works
Thank you this is really helpful .
This will help me a lot in the future. Thanks
Regarding eye contact...there's a fine line separating attentive eye contact and the unblinking stare of a psychopath
Yes, it's perfectly normal to relax your gaze.
Interruption can ruin first impression especially in work interview
I never used to judge a person from his/her first impression or their physique....
Bcoz I can feel their pain in my heart
😔😞😞
Please answer me
What about Beard at first impression is it good or bad?
Best strategy is always to give the worst first impression and then impressing all with your radical change....no sweat, no stress, no worries this way ))) (works)
Yeah I'm a kind of that
But you may not have a second chance to meet again.
angelsintahoe Then we don’t need to meet em
The problem is you might not get a second chance to amend your first faults.